| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 21 | it's great to be separated | CoastalSailing | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/25 09:40 PM | |
| 12 | I have screenshots of her admitting to drinking and driving with the kids | Custody | CoastalSailing | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 01:22 AM |
| 6 | How to emotionally detach? | CoastalSailing | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/26 11:53 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 0 | Safe space? PleaseDon't hope for reconciliation. They're trying to build a new life without the pain caused by you. You would do well to grieve, grow, and move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/26 11:14 AM |
| 0 | Safe space? PleaseMaybe try a therapist and move away from "Christian Men" that crowd can be pretty toxic / fundamentally mysogjistic I don't know that other men will really help you take accountability or grow from mistreating your woman | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/26 11:12 AM |
| 2 | What was your ex wife’s career or job?Was she doing prostitution or just a slut? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/26 12:26 PM |
| 5 | Just sharing my 2cents on my separation experience after 10 yrs.Ultimately, and this isn't me judging you, it's normal, it boils down to maintaining your own identity in a relationship and not falling into a codependency. Some might say that all relationships are some degree of codependency, but it sounds like that's what you guys had going on. I get it, I've been there too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/26 12:18 PM |
| 4 | What was your ex wife’s career or job?Bro don't marry a stripper! | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/26 07:24 AM |
| -14 | What was your ex wife’s career or job?People have cheated through out history. Look at the myths of the greeks. It's not just women and it is not just these days. It sucks that you got cheated on but be smarter. It's not women who are terrible, it's just people. People are terrible. Misogyny sucks. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/26 07:23 AM |
| 2 | Well I think I’m doneFile. Short enough to get an annulment. Still don't say anything. Call a lawyer. Do the above immediately. Get out. The phone, the drives, the car. Sorry man. Gotta protect yourself What you have you don't want in 5, 10, 15 years. End it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/26 07:30 AM |
| 2 | Mutual infidelity in a 13-year marriage, trying to figure out where to go from hereI think you and her need to have a conversation where you tell her you know about the emotional affair. Maybe you guys have a chance to be really honest, and see the marriage as a partnership, and give each other permission to get your needs met elsewhere. It's probably your only path towards real happiness. But the lying and sneaking has to stop. That seeking emotional fulfillment is going to blow up and much more serious than a handjob from a stripper. Idk the choice is A) Do I want this marri… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/26 09:16 AM |
| 1 | WANTED: your old ringsFuck off | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/26 09:38 AM |
| 4 | Is obesity and the breakup of our traditional social/familial structures to blame for so many divorces in the US?I would respectfully point out that your follow up question also has a lot of assumptions that you take as given truths, which probably aren't. It's great to ask question, however friend I would kindly push back on some of your narratives. Like that Europe is less religious than the USA. Stuff like that. Best of luck with the Swiss ladies on round 2 | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/26 12:36 AM |
| 5 | Is obesity and the breakup of our traditional social/familial structures to blame for so many divorces in the US?Is your base assumption even correct? You start off assuming that our divorce rate is high increasing higher than the Swiss. Are you even starting with facts before looking to construct a causal narrative? Edit just did some googling, American divorce rate has been steadily declining since the 1980s Average American divorce rate is 35-43 % Average Swiss divorce rate is 40% These are all just quick Google results, I'm on a plane right now, so they may be wrong Point is, doesn't seem like there's … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/26 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Love after marriageYeah someone let me know too. Fucking brutal | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/26 09:32 AM |
| 2 | Almost finalized divorce and find out oldest is not mine. How to handle this mess?Very very well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/07/26 11:11 AM |
| 3 | Hearing is tomorrowIt's ok to not be ok The grief can be heavy 988 is the suicide hotline I still struggle and we split in 2023. It's hard | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/26 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Wife is wanting a divorceThis 100%. File first, control the process, protect yourself | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/26 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Wife is wanting a divorceGreat response | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/26 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Child supportIf you're handing her checks in front of your daughter, that doesn't sound like you're paying it on time. Nor does it sound like you're taking the high road, at all Idk. Your comments read like you're deep in a pity hole instead of just moving on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/26 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Child supportI mean that's cool and performative but are you paying child support on time or not | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/26 10:45 AM |
| 4 | Am I Overreacting or within Reason?I think you need to set your own reactions here aside and try way, way harder to be supportive. And to seek therapy. Whatever the history is of your relationship, which you haven't shared, your wife is telling you something bad that happened to her. She may have been roofied, it's s business trip,. people drink. I do at least on my trips. Why would she be telling you this? Occam's razor, the simplest explanation is often true. The simplest one is that this happened, and she's traumatized. She ha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/26 11:08 AM |
| 2 | The checklist I couldn't find anywhere when my divorce was finalizedAi slop | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/26 02:57 AM |
| 3 | New woman, parallel relationship,anyone else been here?Did 👏 you 👏 communicate 👏 the 👏 pattern? Your account sounds weirdly indirect in the communication. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/26 10:52 PM |
| 2 | New woman, parallel relationship,anyone else been here?Why didn't you just ask her directly what she was doing. Not "are you with another man" but instead, "hey, I notice your consistently busy at these times on these nights, what are you getting up to? I'm struggling with jealousy" Fucking communicate dude. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/26 08:27 PM |
| 5 | New woman, parallel relationship,anyone else been here?Have you asked her where she is and what's she's doing? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/26 03:58 AM |
| 0 | Everytime my mind starts to wander to dating again, I just remember this simple truth...Boys and girls both like to fuck. Drop the misogyny bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/26 09:48 PM |
| 1 | It wasn’t entirely your fault. Adultery should never be forgiven.Got any valid scientific sources to back up these stats? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/26 11:27 AM |
| 4 | It wasn’t entirely your fault. Adultery should never be forgiven.This isn't true or helpful. Plenty of men cheat. Plenty of women stay in a bad situation for the family. This isn't simple gender lines. It's messier. It's human. Both men and women can be stoic, and both can be selfish. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/26 11:27 AM |
| 1 | M[37] “blindsided” with divorce from F[39]Your comment came across as strident. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/26 12:14 AM |
| 1 | M[37] “blindsided” with divorce from F[39]That is how I presented it. She couldn't help herself or even do that. I'm not attacking you by sharing my shitty experiences with my ex. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/26 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Wife divorced me, we have two children, I wanted to have a Godly family but she didn’t want that with me, now she has a boyfriend whom she is on fire for God with and I feel like this is all a slap in the face. Anyone else go through something like this?a) should people stay in a bad marriage? Regardless of your answer above b) how did you show goodness, charity, and sacrificial love to your wife? I'm going to be honest this reads like buzzwords that all dress up "she has to stay with me because," and potentially a situation where you're super controlling in a fucked up way. No one should stay in a bad marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/26 09:54 AM |
| 0 | Wife divorced me, we have two children, I wanted to have a Godly family but she didn’t want that with me, now she has a boyfriend whom she is on fire for God with and I feel like this is all a slap in the face. Anyone else go through something like this?Lol what are you talking about. Have you actually read the Bible cover to cover on your own? Don't confuse your catholic dogmas with what actual Christianity is. If the Jews can get divorced so can you. You wrote elsewhere that you converted to Catholicism but that your wife didn't. Why would you expect her to live by the rules of your religion if she didn't join it? Seems super controlling and fucked up dude. Also divorce is totally fine with Christianity. Big yikes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/26 09:42 AM |
| 2 | Wife divorced me, we have two children, I wanted to have a Godly family but she didn’t want that with me, now she has a boyfriend whom she is on fire for God with and I feel like this is all a slap in the face. Anyone else go through something like this?What is a "godly family"? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/26 03:23 AM |
| 0 | Wife divorced me, we have two children, I wanted to have a Godly family but she didn’t want that with me, now she has a boyfriend whom she is on fire for God with and I feel like this is all a slap in the face. Anyone else go through something like this?Right? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/26 03:22 AM |
| 0 | Wife divorced me, we have two children, I wanted to have a Godly family but she didn’t want that with me, now she has a boyfriend whom she is on fire for God with and I feel like this is all a slap in the face. Anyone else go through something like this?Why? She can be religious and not want to be with you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/26 03:21 AM |
| 2 | M[37] “blindsided” with divorce from F[39]She had the best of intentions, but it still sucked. We did couples therapy for years. It was funny to the be the inverse of the gender stereotypes, but not in a haha way. It's not why we split up, but it did make everything harder. When you want to vent, you just want to be heard. To have someone interrupt to tell you their hot take on a solve, which you didn't ask for, it became infuriating. And she couldn't change. In that way, and many many others. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/26 02:37 AM |
| 2 | M[37] “blindsided” with divorce from F[39]Idk. I'm on the flip side of this. My ex wife was the one who always had a solution, instead of just fucking listening. She would literally interrupt me to tell me a solution, when I was in the first sentence of explaining a hard thing that I just wanted her empathy and listening on. Drove me fucking bonkers. People need to be able to vent, and just be listened to. Having the wife who was emotionally unavailable and always defaulted to solutions made me feel so desperately miserably alone. Sucke… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 11:28 PM |
| 4 | Trying to understand why some divorces feel sudden to one spouseThat sounds really awful and like you're better off without that marriage. I'm sorry bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 12:53 PM |
| 3 | Trying to understand why some divorces feel sudden to one spouseExactly, spot on. A lot of posters here are too much in their pain and blame women, when you just wrote it out perfectly. Men and women both, they're just people. People try for awhile, and when nothing changes they stop raising the issue but it doesn't mean that suddenly they're happy Now you have resentment etc enter the relationship. Then when someone files and someone feels blindsided, it's because the blindsided person wasn't actually paying attention to the person who filed. They had taken… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 09:33 AM |
| 12 | Trying to understand why some divorces feel sudden to one spouseHere's some warning signs- if your wife is asking you to go to therapy with her, and you don't go if you become roommates more than lovers if you lose the friendship if scorn enter the relationship. I'd take any of the above as full alert marriage on the rocks warning signs A couple more if you leave the life / home admin to her if you play video games a lot, or even medium amounts if you let marriage become a comfortable thing where she has stuff she just handles and you don't recognize and app… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 09:30 AM |
| 8 | Cheated? Yeaaaa me too.I think the use of Ai is worse than the cheating | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/26 03:24 AM |
| 1 | How does an Arizona judge actually decide custody when both parents are fit?Are there extenuating circumstances? | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/26 01:54 AM |
| 18 | Healthy woman is hard to findYup. Hit the gym bro. Start reading literature. Improve thyself | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/26 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Wife has moved on-big timeFacts | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/26 11:30 AM |
| 3 | Do men need to improve their education levels to remain competitive in the workforce with women and also in the dating world?People aren't going to like it but what's holding men back are video games and online distractions. China clamped down on youth gaming for a reason. The rise of online gaming has correspondended with the fall of male academic achievement and professional achievement. Games are made to be as addictive as possible by the smartest people in the world. Shocker, people develop unhealthy relationships and spend too much time doing that at the expense of everything else. This isn't a male versus female… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/26 11:20 AM |
| 3 | I feel so guilty and spentYou're better off without her | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/26 11:05 AM |
| 6 | Love lost but now expectingWow, no offense but what incredible cowardice. I'm going to go against everyone else's advice and say leave. Get the divorce. The kid will be better off growing up in two houses that love them rather than one miserable loveless home. You have been an absolute pussy and stole a woman's chance at happiness while sacrificing your own. Man up and end it. Also man up to be a dad. Just a divorced one. Unbelievable | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/26 01:44 AM |
| 3 | I’m a lesbian and this sub is a breath of fresh airThis is definitely the hardest part. Even harder when you have to coparent | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/05/26 11:18 AM |
| 10 | Anyone willing to admit they actually regret leaving?I initiated. I don't regret it. However I have some grief over the loss. Of the marriage, of my kids half the time, of some financial security. Of the loss of a friend. When it was good, it was great. But the reality is it was very rarely good. Most often it was awful. Still, lots of grief over the death of the dream. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/26 09:45 AM |
| 1 | My wife today while on a car ride and she handed me her phone and it was one of her exs and he told me thank you for holding his spot he’s getting out of prison I said thank you for telling me this info I’m gonna move accordinglyFake ragebait | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/26 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Men who didn’t maintain friendships/a support system during your marriage - how have you managed the loneliness?What a wingman. Truly man's best friend | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/26 06:41 AM |
| 1 | if you're oing Pro Se in Family Court this is what Worked for MeAi nonsense slop | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/26 11:14 AM |
| 1 | if you're oing Pro Se in Family Court this is what Worked for MeAi slop post | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/26 11:11 AM |
| 1 | How to emotionally detach?Thanks I'll try this. This sounds helpful for where I'm at. To help remind me of how things actually are. To let go of the hopes and dreams | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/26 10:30 AM |
| 6 | Can anyone else here relate to this?This was what my gf when I was 14 was like. I learned to be wary of it and avoided it the rest of my life. People like this, who live for infatuation, come from both genders. It's obviously super unhealthy though | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/26 06:10 AM |
| -17 | Why do we allow women into our community?I disagree | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.Sure, send some screenshots. I'll give you some feedback | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/26 04:25 PM |
| 9 | Being single after divorce has made...questionJust be single. Get some hobbies, focus on them. Also avoid churches. See women casually. Do not get into any serious relationships. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/26 12:54 PM |
| 1 | All that effort I spent protecting the family from external threats and the biggest one I was sleeping next to the whole time.Dumb take. The ability to get out of a bad marriage is good. Guess what dropped.when they became available? Spousal death rates. Life is much better outside of a shitty marriage than in it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/03/26 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Finally the "love" I had for her died. Just filled with angerSounds like your ex has some serious problems. From completely outside the situation I feel bad for her. And for you too. Tough | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/26 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Maybe Divorce Made Me a ChauvinistYeah so what you're weighing is statistical evidence vs anecdotal. It's a classic fallacy of the human brain / species. I don't have any advice to you, but what you're wrestling with is kind of a deeper profound question about how you interpret the world and build a worldview and the intersection of facts and emotion. It's why news shows show scary stories, it grabs peoples attention. It's why we remember every negative interaction much more than positive ones. Anyway, good luck | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Honestly, unsure what the best move forward isUsed to be you'd see plenty of marriages with political differences. Feels like it's a much more polarized time now. On both sides. I question why you're conservative. Current conservative policies boil down to an us versus them mentality, with causing pain to the "other" and hatred of the other at the core. Current liberal policies boil down to a basic humanitarian perspective. All people deserve basic respect and help. So what I mean is either deep down you have some bigotry that you need to o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 12:28 PM |
| 3 | Honestly, unsure what the best move forward is"she is not submissive" That is a fucked up thing to want. How about you be submissive. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 12:24 PM |
| 3 | Honestly, unsure what the best move forward isIt's nice that you fundamentally disrespect the person that you're dating. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/26 12:22 PM |
| 6 | Maybe Divorce Made Me a ChauvinistGeneralizing like this is not healthy. Just because some people from any group are some way doesn't mean all are. Also don't believe what you see online. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 10:46 AM |
| 1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.This is an incredibly immature and irresponsible take. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/26 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.Not dating now but when I was on tinder last year it was nuts. In several days, less than a week, hundred+ matches, and many hundreds more that had liked me. As long as you have a job, some hair, and you're active, you will crush. Oh and be charismatic too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/26 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.Wrap it up | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/03/26 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/16kehzx/no_more_mr_nice_guy_is_constantly_recommended/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.I don't know anything about the book but it sounds like it plays on sexist tropes and misogyny. IDK. Men and Women are the same. They're not different. You want sex. Women want sex. I don't know why you feel guilty but I don't think misogyny will help you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 02:56 PM |
| -1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.I'm not insulting your friend's religion. I'm saying religion isn't real and it won't help you in your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.Reading all your other responses here's my 2 cents. you're putting women on a pedestal you have issues with sex you have self esteem issues. Idk man, get a new therapist. Just from your reddit post I can see a pattern here | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.What is wrong with sleeping around? As long as you're not being emotionally deceptive and tell the women that it's not exclusive or are 100% transparent about where you're at, it's fine. Women want sex too. Again, what is wrong with having consensual sex with another person? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 10:23 AM |
| -2 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.Bro. No. Christianity isn't real. Not even remotely, at all. What are you feeling guilty about. The answer isn't in sky zombie jew. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 10:21 AM |
| 7 | Affair confirmed3rd marriage????? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/26 01:45 AM |
| 6 | Ex is saying I violated MSACompletely disagree. Vaccines are safe and routine medical care. Mom is being bonkers | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/26 02:10 AM |
| 0 | Sexless Marriage and Feeling Manipulated: Is Divorce Inevitable?Have you talked to her? Gotten a marriage counselor? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/25 08:31 PM |
| 3 | How to cope with the loss?Dude your lawyer is terrible I don't even understand what I'm reading, for how the assets were divided. Maybe there's something I'm missing but it seems unjust | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/25 06:28 AM |
| 4 | Financial shockWhy not split it differently. Why sell the house? I don't follow. Buy her out? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/25 03:01 PM |
| -1 | How I came to understand men vs men maybe the root causeIf I was married to a guy who couldn't write grammatically correct sentences and used the word simp as much as you I'd cheat too. I hope you take a look in the mirror someday to hopefully find some accountability instead of blaming everyone else. I'm not excusing her actions, however bro I have to tell you you come across as an insecure dude obsessing over his masculine status. Plus you seem borderline on your literacy | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/25 01:09 PM |
| -1 | My Wife Joined an Ultraconservative, speaking in tongues, Evangelical Cult.Who said that it was? Maybe you forgot to add more context to your first comment? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/25 11:48 PM |
| -2 | My Wife Joined an Ultraconservative, speaking in tongues, Evangelical Cult.Tbf they're killing kids. It's pretty indefensible. Either you value human life or you don't. Two wrongs don't make a right, etc | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/25 10:56 PM |
| 6 | Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on meGood people do bad things. She can love you and cheat on you. The species is not inherently monogamous. Your pain and anger is valid. I think what we're coming up against in the tension between our social-cultural programming and some basic truths about the human animal. Try working with a therapist | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/25 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal for STBEx to start changing her tune as move out date nears?"don't tell people" She's manipulating you, isolating you, and continuing to think of herself. Just move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/25 11:46 AM |
| 4 | Husband wants a divorce, I'm 32 F with three kids, am I dateable after this?Whether you're datable or not has very little to do with your situation and much more to do with your personality | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/25 09:02 AM |
| 4 | "Women's Empowerment" movement has destroyed 10x the lives that [not allowed to say] movement.Yeah seems like you're just shouting at the clouds man with these wild ass generalizations. I've never seen what you're referring to irl, and I live in a purple major metro area, and I've dated a ton since the end of my marriage. "Crippled an entire generation" makes you sound like some terminally online loser. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/25 04:42 AM |
| 3 | "Women's Empowerment" movement has destroyed 10x the lives that [not allowed to say] movement.I honestly can't relate to this at all. Since my separation I'm seeing a bunch of gals and it's great. We hang out, we go on dates, it's a good time. I don't understand this ranting against women. Who cares. How does this affect you? Get off the Internet and man up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/25 11:43 PM |
| 6 | She keeps surprising meHow old are your kids. Move on. Stop obsessing. See a therapist | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageThis isn't really a disagree not disagree thing. I'm telling you facts and suggesting that you reflect on them. It's like you're trying to disagree that gravity exists. You may not like the facts around you, such as the reality of human sexuality, but it remains the reality, whether you like it or not. And it speaks to your wild insecurity that you boil down the complexity of human sexuality to you hearing that as me suggesting you should be a cuck. Crazy shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 03:24 PM |
| 1 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageLol, if that's your takeaway of what I'm writing you're clearly too stupid to get what I'm saying. Adios | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 11:31 AM |
| 1 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageYou're really missing my point. Not every culture has this emphasis on monogamy. You are still caught in the programming of your culture with your perspective. The deeper truth is that it is not human nature nor has it ever been to be monogamous. Understanding that truth and working to let go of baggage from your cultural programming will help you. You're still welcome to try and have monagmous relationships, but you need to realize it's an unnatural endeavor. At the end of the day we are just a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 09:25 AM |
| 3 | I have screenshots of her admitting to drinking and driving with the kidsJust happened an hour ago. (Her admitting in text) | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Did anyone find love after being divorced in late 30s?I've dated a lot, no love yet though some nice gals that I care about. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 01:33 AM |
| 1 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageAll these DNA test services have shown a significant percentage of families have different parent child relationships than previously thought. People that study human sexuality find that monogamy is not the inherent nature of the species. Different cultures handle this differently, but we are not monogamous animals. The heavy emphasis of marriage is about controlling men and women's sexual behavior, but it is not at all natural for homo sapiens to be monogamous. Hence all the cultural fixation o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 07:46 PM |
| 1 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageKama sutra, Genghis khan, harems, etc... | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 07:18 PM |
| 1 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageThe species has never been monogamous. Read up on Kinsey's work | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 04:40 PM |
| 1 | I (30M) got cheated by wife (27F) just after 10 days of marriageIf it's an arranged marriage why don't you talk to her and work out an open arrangement where you can sleep with other people too. I don't understand why you're emotionally invested in this. You have a chance to form a partnership based on openness and mutual respect, instead of expecting her to be chaste and yours. It's not about love, so stop trying to make it a monogamous love based relationship. Make it a partnership. Idk. Easy for me to say, but it's clear that your pain is coming from your… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 04:38 PM |
| 5 | Dating scene complaintAdults have always behaved this way. You've just aged into what mature adults do when they date. Watch Seinfeld, for example. Easy dates, easy sex | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 04:24 PM |
| 1 | How did you rebuild a network of male friends?Surrrrre | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/25 06:19 PM |
| 3 | How did you rebuild a network of male friends?There's apps for it. Grindr, sniffies. Easy way to meet dudes to hang out with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/25 11:45 AM |
| 8 | Red Pill helped explain the breakup...but it had nothing for what came nextRed Pill has a lot of misogyny wrapped up in it. While you might have a terrible experience with a woman, generalizing out to all women is a trap of bias that limits and hurts you. Sounds like you've had a hard time, glad that you've found some tools to help you, but keep your head on straight and your eyes open. Divorce is hard. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/25 08:15 PM |
| 0 | Seriously? An email?I strongly recommend working with a therapist to let go and process. This is the new reality and when you can not just accept but lean in to it you'll be better off | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/25 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Seriously? An email?Super solid advice. Read this OP | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/25 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Still visiting marital home to see the kids…?You should move back in. If it goes to court your physical absence is a huge liability | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/25 11:50 AM |
| 4 | New GF asking for too much?Ding ding ding | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/25 01:29 PM |
| 3 | Stock market Loss, she filed for DivorceAin't his when they're married unless he had a prenup and legal safeguards in place. Regardless of who earns it's the family pot, that's the legal truth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/25 01:58 PM |
| 4 | Stock market Loss, she filed for Divorce"Last year I lost my life savings on the stock market." | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/25 01:57 PM |
| 4 | Stock market Loss, she filed for DivorceCouldn't agree more. This guy is swimming in denial and confirmation bias and incredibly, incredibly dumb and reckless. She should absolutely divorce him | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/25 12:49 PM |
| 8 | Stock market Loss, she filed for DivorceYou call your wife "feckless" but you went all in on a single stock / start-up? Pot, meet kettle. You absolutely did gamble away your life savings. You seem massively in denial about your actions and your responsibility. It isn't about money, it's about stability. You risked the security of the family on an incredibly stupid decision, that despite your subsequent good fortune, remains an incredibly stupid and reckless decision that you never should have made. If my ex had ever done something lik… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/25 12:46 PM |
| 2 | I’m messing up big time. Need some adviceFind a therapist that you feel rapport with and make a plan to see them for only 12 weeks. Endless therapy isn't productive. I would also consider avoiding cognitive behavioral therapy, it's popular but not that great imo. Acceptance and Commitment therapy, (ACT) is much better imo Tell your therapist this is what you want to work on. Show them this reddit post. Tackle it and see what happens. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/25 05:03 PM |
| 7 | How do you get over the unfairness of a 50/50 financial split when you spent your entire marriage supporting her medical career?Get a better lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/05/25 12:24 PM |
| 5 | Lack of intimacy divorce?Have you said this in therapy? That sex is an essential part of the relationship for you? Also is she open to mutual masturbation or oral or something? Would she kiss your neck and rub your chest while you jacked off? Are there ways to connect beyond penis in vagina fucking that could work that she would be open to? | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/25 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Married to a doctor isn’t all good.This can't be real. This has to be some sort of fiction / rage bait. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/25 11:56 AM |
| -17 | Sleeping with the enemyCome on dude. Let's not go the misogyny route. Every one on this sub has had sex with multiple people. Men and women. Trying to act like someone is dirty for having fucked someone else is just... Immature and sexist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 05:36 PM |
| 0 | She moved on in an instant, while my world is falling apart.Huh. But you cut her off from communication for a week because it was difficult for you. Did I read that right? That's extremely manipulative and emotionally abusive man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 09:05 AM |
| 0 | She moved on in an instant, while my world is falling apart.Sounds like you cheated eh bud | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 08:58 AM |
| 1 | It's so easy to sleep with divorce women.Hello Oedipus | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/25 12:55 PM |
| 9 | It's so easy to sleep with divorce women.It has always been this way. Read a book. Older people want sex too, and they have less hang ups. If it's not your scene don't participate, but get a fucking grip. Ever watched Seinfeld? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 03:05 PM |
| 3 | For average looking guys out there who successfully started dating again after divorce was finalized, what strategies worked for you?Mgtow? What? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 11:41 PM |
| 2 | For average looking guys out there who successfully started dating again after divorce was finalized, what strategies worked for you?Mgtow? What? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/01/25 11:40 PM |
| 2 | If Tom Brady and Bill Gates got divorced then what chance do mere mortals have?What | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/25 11:50 AM |
| 7 | How should I act with my lawyer who doesn’t do anything?use paragraphs and bullet points to organize your thoughts Get a new lawyer | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/25 12:19 PM |
| 1 | What’s your thoughts from the start?Go talk to a lawyer. She can't take the kids. She's committed crimes to get you to stay. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/25 08:57 AM |
| 3 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?What does stbx stand for? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/12/24 09:20 PM |
| 7 | Idk i honestly don't like my soon ex wifeDude, the way you talk about your wife, you maybe should get a divorce. It doesn't sound healthy or respectful and you don't seem happy. Just something to think about, maybe a divorce is something that you should consider. Edit my text is supposed to be a joke. Because hey, look at the sub OP posted in | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/24 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Trapped into fatherhood…Press f for doubt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Going into those post divorce wilds1 on the don't be pushy. Will pay off dividends later | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/24 01:42 PM |
| -2 | Why is it always the same story?*they all do x. No man, they don't. You may be hurting but cut the misogyny | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/24 12:34 PM |
| 8 | Why is it always the same story?Sorry, you were her 4th marriage? My brother in Christ, may I suggest you keep more of a weather eye out for red flags | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/24 12:32 PM |
| 2 | How do you get over your ex when she is the mother of your children and you still love her?*people | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/24 12:24 PM |
| 1 | How do you get over your ex when she is the mother of your children and you still love her?That sounds really hard. I'm sorry | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/24 12:23 PM |
| 1 | For the menHey I know you're hurting but just want to say that this isn't a men vs women issue. People are just people. Some make shitty choices | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/24 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Ex Is Asking for a Key to My House (Eq. Distribution Isn't Finalized). I'm Not Sure What Boundary I Can Legally Set.Direct communication. "I didn't change the locks" Done | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/24 11:29 AM |
| 2 | There’s Pros & Cons to both sides.I want to see that butthole tho | /r/PussyPassDenied | 23/09/20 10:22 PM |
| 0 | Houston Officer Who Drowned 'Laid Down His Life' For Harvey VictimsTruth | /r/MensRights | 03/09/17 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Victimized Fat Acceptance Warriors vs LogicWho gives a shit. | /r/MensRights | 15/02/17 06:29 PM |
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