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North Eastern college? North East what?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:04 AM
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Wow, you're.... just so wrong? "Hi, I'm a straight guy and I've finally figured out why some women are queer because I can't just accept that gay women can exist even though I recognize gay men exist." Is what that boils down to my dude. Women can be physically attracted too women. Or men. Anyone they are attracted to. It's not that we're narcissists and only care about what's done to us or anything like that. It probably matters that we don't typically get a boner when aroused so maybe you just…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:03 AM
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Maybe I have low standards but physically? I won't date obese guys anymore and I ABSOLUTELY won't even consider someone with bad hygiene. But that's it for physical traits. For personality, it gets much more specific
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 09:47 AM
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Definitely not the case for me. My boyfriend has most of those but I love him to death. Doesn't have. The forehead or chest hair and he's not bald but he has the rest. To each their own of course
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 09:46 AM
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Odds are you're not unattractive. Women, like men, tend to have preferences. And maybe you just haven't met anyone you're interested in that has the same preferences back. I genuinely don't care about appearance outside I'm done dating obese people. Otherwise I don't care and genuinely just look for people with a good personality. There are traits I like but I've happily dated people without any of the traits I liked
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:33 PM
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My grandfather was an inventor and an architect. He got himself out of poverty and helped his family climb the ladder with him. Took shrapnel to the back in Korea and went back to being an architect and a land surveyor. He married the daughter of a rich man, the richest man from their county actually, and moved to Seattle. He was always on the up and up, he had 10 million dollars in 1970. She divorced him, took everything, gambled it away, took the kids, demanded more from him, he was forced to …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:14 PM
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It really is just that now is a terrible time to find a partner. At all. For men. For women. I do think straight women have it easier finding a guy if they're not picky about it than a guy of the same standards, but at the end of the day it's fine for people to have realistic standards and a LOT of people can't work it into their life right now. I wasn't dating 30 years ago so I can't compare. I'm sure it has gotten generally better. But when I have been looking into relationships, I have most c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:10 PM
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Actually yeah, let's hear this please
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 11:39 PM
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Neither invalidates the other. But some people are trying to invalidate one to promote the other and its mostly black pill men
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 01:36 AM
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Without conditions
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 05:32 PM
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I disagree. I don't think looks has much if anything to do with actual unconditional love.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 09:43 AM
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Where the hell did that come from? What are you on about my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 05:09 PM
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Well that was unnecessary, and yes, like I said, I like his appearance. That's not all I like though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 09:44 AM
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I mean, the most turned on he's ever made me was when he answered the door in thigh highs, a skirt, and a space King hoodie so I don't think it's the masculinity that does it for me. Looks matters once you're already attracted to the person but again, someone else doing that wouldn't mean anything to me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 05:50 PM
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I mean I think he's handsome. But super short ginger femboys aren't everyone's cup of tea, more for me I suppose. Didn't feel attracted to him like that until we were getting close even though he is my type. Strangers don't get that reaction from me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 06:47 PM
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Well this was with my boyfriend, but it applies. He was stretching and his shirt came up and I could see the slightest hint of abs (he's been going to the gym lately and lemme tell you, fit femboys are great) and his arms looked fit too. Then we made eye contact and he smiled at me. I smiled back. We both got back to what we were doing but my mind was elsewhere. Not sure which part specifically triggered it or if it was the whole thing. That was last week. I don't do that often though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 07:53 PM
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It doesn't, usually. I am aware that guys are attractive but it doesn't have any affect on me unless I know them. If I know him as a person and I find him attractive, sometimes my mind will wander, particularly if he does something to trigger it. And I do that a lot with my boyfriend now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:56 PM
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I'd like to point out the OPs user name, I feel like nothing else is needed here
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 11:05 PM
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I don't think ANYONE should have to live up to beauty standards. If you do, that's great for you. But trying to force everyone into a box when so much of it is out of their control is just cruel. Aaand this must be bait. There's no way you can see me say that generalizations are bad, agree with me, and then you go and make your own generalizations. Yes the patriarchy is real and it's bad and it shouldn't exist. But there's also shit being thrown the other way and by saying this stuff you are act…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 03:27 PM
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This isn't a dating sub? I'm not looking for a relationship, but I don't do hookups. I'm just fine for now. Why are YOU here? Because it seems like you think this is a dating sub or something
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:37 PM
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Well debatably any body shaming is to the "stupid ones" because it should be obvious that the goals aren't achievable for everyone or sometimes anyone. Men or women. But the pressure, being told you're not enough, being told you'll only have value if you act and look a certain way, it doesn't work off logic. So people who fall for it aren't stupid. And many are actually aware it's unattainable but still will feel hurt by it. Not all men are entitled. The BIGGEST problem in this sub by far is the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:44 PM
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Well you're always going to meet outliers. Some women really do play "hard to get", though not most. And some don't want to interact with men ever, though not most. People are crazy. I'm sorry you've had to deal with that but unless it was a situation that clearly calls for leaving her alone, I don't think it's unreasonable to just... flirt. I'd day my views ARE widespread, many. Women hold them. But also many women are taken, and the ones left are more likely to be crazy (single for a reason) g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 08:33 PM
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No. The problem is when men (not all but some and it's the some that ruin it) will see a girl minding her own business and approach her. Not a bad thing. They hit on her. Not inherently bad. She says no. Still fine. Then they don't drop it, and say she's been obviously trying to get his attention and get very very insistent. That's where the problem comes from. And that insistence usually comes from pick up artists skills they saw from wannabe influencers. Pick up lines? Go for it. Trying little…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 08:12 PM
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Well you knew we'd say this but it's true anyways. Women don't do everything they do with the sollwe goal of attraction the attention of men. I wear shorts and a t shirt every day. Not because I think my pasty thighs will get some random dude to hit in mee, it's because it's hot out. I wear a swimsuit to the beach with the intent of swimming. I wear fancy clothing on a night out with friends because we all are aand it feels good to dress up. I wouldn't say it's demonized but in many contexts it …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 08:06 PM
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Well by that logic you shouldn't specifically say younger woman, you mean 24. Peak age for fertility if that what matters most. If you say it like how it's phrased in the post, people will think you mean teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 07:37 AM
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Dude I'm not OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 11:57 PM
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... those are entirely different? What's your goal here lol. Bisexuality and physical fitness aren't connected my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:09 PM
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I've exclusively met guys like this, but yeah it's dumb and makes no sense
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 09:03 PM
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Yes but to be fair I'm bi so I don't have the holdup some do. Still see them as men tho. And yes to the second too, I genuinely don't get the problem there
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 11:29 PM
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Yeah if that's your thing but from what I've seen, most people aren't happy. Lots of lying, not natural feeling, girls get a million matches and some guys get none. Etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:50 AM
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We'll I actually am a woman and I have responded positively to that. And yeah, it's a low confidence move but you just said you don't have much confidence so it seems like a good starting spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 07:56 PM
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That's understandable. And some women are assholes saying no so I get it. Lower success rates, but you can try the classic here's my number on a piece of paper, I think you're pretty and would love to get to know you tactic, or just really really hope a woman will ask you first. We're out there, just much less common. Its easier for some than others, particularly for those who think they're the greatest thing since sliced bread or people who just don't feel embarrassed. I hope it all works out f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 06:02 PM
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Every once in a while I do. And I definitely don't hold it against any of them. I also have shot my shot. I get it, and kudos to them. Except the few that wouldn't take no for an answer and the one that called me a whore. But they're not the majority, definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 05:57 PM
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No. I definitely say no more than I say yes but it's not based on looks. It's always on of I know him and how he does it. Like a guy I didn't know on a bus asked for my number, no clue who he was and while it wasn't rude, I didn't know anything about him so no. But a guy I kept running into at the library did and we'd talked a bit before and he seemed nice so I did. It didn't work out but he had a much better chance. Shoot your shot and be polite
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:27 AM
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Which one because as far as I know, neither are required
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:57 AM
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The dude literally asked for what our assumptions are. I'm not a guy and while I do date women too, I doubt we're trying to pull the same kind of women. If you want or need advice, you have to say what you're doing wrong or hint at it otherwise general things are the best we can offer
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 11:34 PM
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Well the question is weirdly worded. But I'd say that the majority of men with little to no dating life probably are socially awkward or have poor communication skills, are mean/rude/assholes, are very shy, or have bad hygiene. And in my experience, the guys with the most active dating life are very outgoing, and shoot their shot every time. I have a. Coworker who's honestly obnoxious and not what anyone would realistically call attractive but he asks out like, 10+ girls a week. And it works may…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:01 PM
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So you have strawman fallacies and anecdotal evidence that you still haven't bothered to offer up. Not to mention the unnecessary insults to my intelligence when you cant even use proper spelling and grammar. Get off your high horse. Please stop wasting my time, and I HIGHLY Recommend touching some grass today
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:02 AM
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I mean, in complete fairness, this is not all men. And many women do this too. So really it's a "people use eachother for sex" thing. Guys tend to play the "it makes me feel so much closer to you I love you this is love" card. And girls hit you with the "wow I've never felt this safe with someone else before, this feels special I love you" moves. So the real thing is we should set these people up together. Win win for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:49 PM
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Well this is getting pointless. You can't back up your argument by saying "trust me". You gave no actual examples or reasoning or evidence. Saying something doesn't make it true. I'd actually like to have a debate here but you're doing the equivalent of a child saying "nuh-uh" on repeat. There's a decent chance you're older than me, but even if you aren't, how have you gone your whole life without learning how to actually talk to other human beings?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 04:03 PM
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When's the last time you took a reading comprehension test? I don't think you see what I'm saying or understand it lol. And all you have to do is look around and see that women arent doing this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:29 PM
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I've heard it but exclusively from conservative men, or at least that's how it's been in my life. I always hated it too so I can remember ot from when I was 5 or 6. I do know what you retailing about but I've never heard women say that At best, I've heard them laugh along when men say it but usually we don't like it when we hear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:28 PM
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But women don't say never argue with a woman. You're giving these broad generalizations with literally nothing to back it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:56 PM
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No, I argue with men all the time. Some men are misogynistic and sometimes they're not. Some women are misogynistic too. People have different opinions, that leads to arguments. If you say Im wrong BECAUSE Im a woman, yeah thats you being sexist. Same if I said youre wrong because youre a man. But rational people dont do that. Also I don't think he's being defiant in anything here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:30 PM
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I mean, I think you're asking the wrong people because the only ones I've ever heard this rhetoric from are men
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 10:49 PM
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I'm not this, 5'8 and kinda muscular/toned. Or trying to get there at least. But I am 20 so sure. In a guy, I want someone shorter than me or taller than me, preferably not the same height though. Shorter is better, idk why. I like redheads but not a requirement. Fairly fit. I don't need some gym rat or anything but like, can run a mile in under 14 minutes, works out sometimes, and is not obese. Hygiene IS mandatory. Everything else so far is debatable but I don't care if you're thehottest man o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:54 AM
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You're forgetting that everyone has "icks?" And You're cherry picking too. Like an "ick" for me would not washing your hair, not trying to improve one's self when called out, or people who consistently look at pieces of media that have some depth and SWEAR they actually have all the depth in the world and are each unique and complete masterpieces. That last one especially just always ends up being someone who just will not touch grass for any reason
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:31 PM
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This sub cracks me up sometimes. There's a sliding scale. Some women just aren't interested in men. And some men just aren't interested in women. Some people sleep around and some are shy and/or conservative. Some people have trauma or other reasons to be afraid of other people, of relationships, etc. I'm sure that if we looked, we could find women like you described. But it's definitely not all of them or even most of them. I assure you, straight women are into men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 08:27 PM
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Depends. All ages? Worldwide? I know a lot of older women would never even entertain that idea. My mom, for example. A lot of women, particularly religious ones in my experience, can't even look at other women that way. I feel like in 1st world countries, among millennial and younger, it's probably 50/50. But when you include indoctrination from birth, being raised to believe your whole purpose is to be essentially the property of a man, that your purpose is to haaave children, and religions tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:35 PM
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The qay you pulled these numbers out of your ass is very fascinating to me. Let's pretend they do spend 60k a year, that's including things everyone pays for like rent and their appearance if they want to. Then you said they have to make 75k on top of all that? You know rent and food and your appearance if you care about that comes out of the 75k average, right? Then you said to just double it because they can't do that job forever as if anyone can do their job forever? You then added the 60k ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 02:37 AM
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College Ren Faire Yeah that's it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:17 AM
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Yupppp
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 08:32 PM
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I'm fully white as far as I know, but same. Curvy with big assets and if I'm wearing anything but 2 sweatshirts and baggy sweatpants, I'm dressing provocatively apparently. So I just wear my jeans and T shirt and deal with it anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:10 PM
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I don't think it matters. Again, if someone wants to sexualize you, they will. TW for SA When I was 18 I went to a county fair with college friends. We all carpooled and I ended up being the last one dropped off. but he didn't. He took me out to a dessert where I had no clue where I was and assaulted me. He said I had been asking for it all night, dressed like that. I was wearing a DC comics unisex baggy flash T shirt and Capri pants. It's not about what you wear. And I have a friend who is goth…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:31 PM
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It doesn't matter how we dress, we'll still be treated poorly if that's what someone wants to do. So I dress for myself. 90% of the time I wear something I feel comfortable wearing. And sometimes I feel cute and I want to feel cute so I dress accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:09 PM
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Seems so far to be the case lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:11 PM
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Ah that might explain it then because I only speak English and this is very difficult to understand. I'm asking you what your actual question is
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:10 PM
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Can you rephrase the question in coherent english?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:53 PM
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Dude it's my favorite anime and probably my second favorite piece of media. But I don't think it shpuld be the sole part of your personality is all. But yeah, One piece is peak
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 05:07 PM
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I get that. But as long as the hobby is healthy, I dont really have any I can think of
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:18 AM
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I know some people who are just completely done with any gaming at all. This might be one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:04 AM
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Any hobby thay is not just a hobby, but an unhealthy obsession to the point where it takes all precedence. Ove seen this most commonly with SPECIFICALLY world of warcraft, magic: the gathering, mecha anime, and One piece. But if anything had become so important to you that you don't shower anymore, miss events/dates/meetings to engage in them, and/or is literally the only thing you're capable of talking about, it's a problem. I don't think I've met a healthy WoW enjoyed tnh but I've met plenty o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 01:03 AM
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Looksmaxing is just, caring about your physical appearance right? Famously, isn't that more common among women stereotypically? DC as in detective comics? Definitely not a male spaceman super heros are popular with basically every target audience, kids and adults, men and women. Jjk is an anime. Also popular with basically everyone. I'm not a huge jjk fan so I can't say much about it but I'm sure it's no different from one piece, which I am a fan from, and has tons of people in the fandom from a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 01:59 AM
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I mean name a males only space that women are invading?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 01:41 AM
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I'm well aware, but in the other way. If people could chose their sexuality, I don't think many women would be straight. But regardless, you can be a male stripper with a female intended audience and a lot of times that can lead to being a sex worker. Men like them more, but there is a market aimed for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 07:16 PM
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I have a lot of guy friends. I don't do this but I do know girls who do, they're just treating them how they treat their female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 05:35 PM
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No. Granted I've only dated under 30 so far, but I've dated guys who haven't and guys who have. It doesn't really matter to me. They seem to care about it a whole lot more. If anything, I'd rather not have to worry about being compared to an Ex (which has happened twice and SUCKS, I don't know her, why do this??) So I'd honestly say if anything, I'd prefer a guy with less experience or none if I had to pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 05:28 PM
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Yall know there's male prostitutes too, right? Like that exists. You think about it so much, you could probably go do that if you wanted. We could tall about how people in these positions are often being taken advantage of, are trafficked into it, are underage, etc. But I know a lot of people on this sub will just say "nuh uh" and move on but I'm mentioning it anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:32 PM
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I don't see the problem in the statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:10 PM
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Wow this was almost civil. I'm fairly sure your last claim isn't very accurate though. People. Don't. Have. To. Be. Horny. To. Be. In. Love. Why is that so hard to wrap your head around?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:08 PM
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I think there's a lot of truth to this. Idk if I actually am or not but I've been told by quite a few guys that I'm attractive looking, and then a lot of them will go straight from that to how I must be a pos and/or have some rich white tall successful boyfriend and/or be a lesbian if I tell them I'm not interested or just want to be friends. I've heard the "How could I ever think I'd end up with a girl like you" speech a lot, which is weird since they dont rypically even know me at that point? …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:39 PM
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Expect? No. But if I ever find someone to spend my life with, I'd hope they care for me as much as I care for them and I'm willing to die for the few people I'm closest with, and presumably they'd be on that list too. If I'd be willing to die for someone, it wpuld hurt if they wouldnt at least think about being willing to do the same. But I certainly wouldn't expect them to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:28 PM
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I think more than half now, right? I remember trans fems jokingly claiming that. And same.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 07:40 PM
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Alright I think I see what you were going for now at least. But again, it's not comparable. I'd agree if you said more men are inclined to being reliant on sex than women are in a relationship but that's not what you said. Again, it's a personal preference thing and I think it's a lot more common than you believe
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 09:53 PM
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You just compared two completely different things though. Following your logic, most men have brown eyes and most women have brown eyes so most men look like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 09:25 PM
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That's not what I said? At all? Wtf? For some reason this is incredibly difficult for many people in this sub to wrap their head around, but people are all people. Some want love, some want to use others, and some don't care. And this applies.to men and women. Guys and straights. Etc. AND sex isn't everything? Or even close? You're black pill, so I'm guessing you're an incel(?), and by definition that would mean (if you are in fact an incel, sorry if you're not. Or if you are, seems like a rough…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:12 PM
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What does that have to do with anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:04 PM
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Oh thank God. This was getting exhausting, I appreciate the expertise! And that you made all the points I was going to make as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:53 AM
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I doubt all men agree to that, so let's not group people together like that. Which is my main point here. You can't make these broad assumptions about ALL men or ALL women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:47 AM
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Call the justice league in next because he still just won't shut up! He just has to get the last word
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:51 AM
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You never answer my questions, I'm getting tired of answering yours
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:50 AM
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Nah, I had watch and can't go to bed until tonight so I'm just killing time. I appreciate the concern though. I'm sure I'll kick myself if I see this later but I'll try to be coherent. Maslow Hierarchy of needs is actually a really good point. I presume you mean the third tier? But it's not explicitly states that sex is a need in the actual hierchy meaning it's left up to interpretation again. But I agree it's not black and white, it's grey and differs from person to person. This is just my expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:49 AM
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Do you ever get tired of putting words in my mouth?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:36 AM
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Holy strawman fallacy, batman! He's at it again! He attacked a point I didn't make and actually actively have disagreed with, then didn't even say anything meaningful with it! And before that, he gave more bogus generalizations and tried to normalize Trad wives! It would appear I have won, but WAIT, what's THIS? Alas! He has already depicted me as the pitiful soyjak! Whatever shall I do? My logic and evidence based reason just keep bouncing off his brain! It's too smooth! Call in reinforcements!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:35 AM
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No, I can read what you're saying. I'm just baffled thay you're serious
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:30 AM
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Do you have a source for that first one? Because les than zero is negative and I don't think there's a situation here where negative makes sense Your grandmother was (hopefully) not your partner. When someone loses their spouse. Their girlfriend or boyfriend. Why do they miss them of the main drove for their love is sex? It's not like they can have sex with an urn. I agree that it's more complicated than the road map I layed out, that's fair. But I also say that in that complication, sex is not …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:30 AM
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But it's not. Trad women are not normal, even in the areas they exist. Which is pretty much exclusively Utah. And yes, I do know many Mormon girls, I lived there for a while. They think their whole purpose is to pop out babies and hope their husband likes them enough to get to be God's of their own planet someday. But. They. Are. Not. Normal. I highly recommend meeting an actual woman someday, maybe it'll cause you to have a tought for once in your life. Who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:15 AM
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I genuinely can't believe you're trying to say they're the problem. Wow. What a pos. And you still are dismissing everything I say. I could have a more intelligent conversation with Pink Floyd's 11th studio album.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:07 AM
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Hey, bringing up fallacies is my thing :( But in all seriousness, this is fun lol. It's nice to debate someone with functional critical thinking skills. That said, it's 04:36 and I'm really tired but have insomnia so please be patient with any spelling and grammar issues because I have a feeling this'll be getting worse as the night/morning continues. If I word something strangely, just ask me to rephrase it. Thank you ♡ So for your first point, I guess this has to be debated because we fundamen…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:04 AM
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Once again, no source, logic, reasoning, or anything. I'll even accept anecdotal 'evidence', I'm not asking for much, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 10:31 AM
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I'd argue that's a whole other debate. I say connection is in both friendship and love bit not exclusive to either and theres differences. Most impothough, Love DEFINITELY is not requiring sexual attraction because I love my little brother. I love my older sister. The rest of my siblings can suck it, but I love my dad. And I love my mom. They're a lot closer than friends to me, but there is ABSOLUTELY NO sexual attraction there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 10:30 AM
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Well the need thing can be debated back and forth, can we agree to disagree? I do think your point about ovaries is very interesting. Do you know what asexual people are? It's people who just don't really feel sexual attraction. It's pretty common and used to be a medical diagnoses and that was actually the theory for some time that their reproductive organs had been harmed, and some thought it was essentially a side effect of autism. But it turns out some people just don't get horny for no real…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 10:25 AM
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Among those that I know? Yeah. That's why a lot are just done dating actually because it gets exhausting to be the person doing EVERYTHING. I knew a girl who paid for both his and her rent, drove him to work, paid for their food, covered their bills, cleaned up after him, paid for their dates, and paid for herself to go to school. She worked 50 hours a week at 18 when he was 26 and paid for his WOW account and bought merch. He worked twice a week, 4 and 6 hour shifts. She's an objectively cute L…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 10:16 AM
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For proof, literally anything except a guy on the internet saying "women are like this, source: Ibsaid so please trust" I even said you could try logic or reasoning. And you just... didn't? That's so so so easy!!!!! You have not said what men say to other men. You've just repeated yourself. And you think you had some big "gotcha" by telling me to go ask guys to prove your point for you or prove you wrong. You won't even do anything to actually advocate for your own argument
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 10:07 AM
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I didn't say Celibate. I said some men are only in a relationship for the sex. Presumably, if they're in a relationship, there's sex. Not every relationship has sex, either. If it's not your thing and your partner is fine with it, then who cares? And if it's a must-have, get a partner who agrees. Obviously, you don't want a sexless relationship, so that's not you. But not every relationship is heavily reliant on sex, or even has it at all. If both are actually fine with it, then no ones dead wei…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 10:02 AM
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No? Every guy I've ever dated has had less money than me. I've paid for nearly every date I've been on. I give better presents and more frequent presents. I'm the one aho had her own car and had it paid off. Eventually I was the one that had her own place. Etc etc. I don't know what else you're referring to but I sure as hell don't know what you're talking about here
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:58 AM
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This feels like that scene from megamind where he tries to start some witty banter but Titan is just screaming and there's no response from there
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:56 AM
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Dude you can't just keep using circular reasoning. You're giving no proof, no logic, and no reasoning. You're just repeating yourself, asking me what I think, then saying "well I don't care, because nuh uh" How do you live with yourself? Do you see what you're doing here even? This isn't even a fun debate, and I love debate. You have to at least try to counter what I'm saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:55 AM
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What is this, settlers of catan?? What resources? I'll trade you my 34DD for a fancy Dinner and some flowers??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:47 AM
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So you mean material gain, men pay for everything and buys them stuff, and that's the main or a main aspect of the relationship? I'd guess less than 10%. By your metric, I've met a singular person who fits that standard. But I haven't met every woman in the world so my sample is inaccurate. So even though I've met hundreds of women in my life and only 1 was like this, I'm sure there's pockets elsewhere because sucky people exist. Now I had originally thought you meant provider in the sense that …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:45 AM
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This may come as news to you, but the goal for most people in a relationship is not to get off to eachother, it's the connection and trust and bond. So yes, they use their free will to stay in relationships where their sexual needs (if you can call sex a need?) are not met because they like that person anyway. Do you lack basic intelligence, or do you just goon?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:38 AM
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Are you asking me what percentage of women specifically are looking for a provider when going into a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:34 AM
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Source? Where's this majority or women?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:23 AM
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Famously not, to the point where there are millions of men who think the female orgasm doesn't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:22 AM
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Women are more likely to use men as providers, I agree with you on that. But that doesn't mean that most women do it? It's that most people who do that are women. It's like how a square is a rectangle, but a rectangle is not a square. You can't just claim all rectangles are squares because all squares are rectangles. Or that most rectangles are squares. That's not how it works, that's a false equivalence fallacy. Some women means some. "an unspecified amount or number of" Many means Many. "A lar…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:20 AM
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The same can be said in reverse. Some men don't actually want a girlfriend or partner or relationship, some want sex and/or a maid and/or a mother. Some people are disingenuous. An unfortunate side effect of free will is that some people use it poorly. But it's not fair to lump all of one group in broad statements. If you had said "some women" then there would be no argument because it's true that some are like that. The issue here is that you're trying to start a fight based on an incorrect gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:28 AM
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That's what THAT woman is apparently looking for. And she'll either lower her expectations or be lonely for life. Just because some people suck doesn't mean everyone does. I'm cynical, but I'm not that cynical. Will everyone find a partner? Realistically? No. But it's not because crazy standards or political stances or anything like that, that's why some individuals will be lonely. And some will have bad luck. Anyone who truly wants a relationship can find one. But people like this girl don't wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 12:54 AM
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Aren't we though? I'm literally in the military and everyone just calls us kids. If were under 25 or so, we're just kids. Yeah we can go fight and die for our country but at the end of the day, we're kids and your argument is invalid. 16 year Olds are just kids but they e signed up for war. Drummer boys were only children. Kids go to war, they just don't come back
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 03:34 AM
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I've actually heard explicitly the opposite. Men tell women to get back in the kitchen because we should be making babies and they should be protecting us. If a guy and a girl love eachother and birth agree the guy should be the "protector" then go for it I guess. But forcing one entire gender into a grouping is just dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:36 PM
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Well it's labeled as a question and you didn't ask anything. So I guess I'll ask, where does this even come from. The thought that women could all just be millionaires if they sold feet pics? The idea that women get everything handed to them for free? And what possibly made you think that debilitating mental disabilities don't actually make life hard for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:31 PM
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What are you even trying to say here my dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:36 PM
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Lmaooo ok then
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:36 PM
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Do you have a source for this "most women" statistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:21 PM
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That's been a thing? Always? Like the dawn of humanity levels of always having been a thing? We have ancient texts telling stories of unrequited love, and that just happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:19 PM
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I mean people are more than happy to acknowledge it, it seems
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:18 PM
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But literally every girl has different standards. The real problem is that there so many more men than women on these apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:18 AM
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Also, I don't represent all women. Maybe it does upset some, just not me or any that I know. The girls that I'd suspect to be like that don't have any male friends so that's likely a factor
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:10 AM
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Eh I might be. Ive been told that since middle sxhool based on how I describe romantic attraction but I dont really care enough to explore that part of me right now. I just do as I do. Didn't know that was common on reddit. Ta learn something new every day But I've also dated 2 friends so I'd say the ask to success ratio for asking me out at least is moderately high in comparison to, say, apps. You can't just measure failures if you're trying to get statistics here.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:10 AM
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No? That's actually happened to me before and I just say we should remain friends. Twice it worked out fine, and once he just drifted away from the friend group. And I don't really care about a guys appearance that much so long as he has good hygiene and isn't morbidly obese. It doesn't have to do with how they look, I just didn't like them that way and we moved on
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:59 AM
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I have never run across that, but I have seen the opposite. We can probably chalk it up to the fact that every person is different and you can't put all women in a group, the same way you can't put all men in a group
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:52 AM
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I'm not really sure where you're trying to go with this? Everyone is online, it's the 21st century. So tons of sucky people are also online, men and women. And unless you're only hanging out with 45+ women, there's no way you don't know any women who are actively online. Even the people who are very grounded and outdoorsy have forums they use and like. Reddit is definitely male dominated as a whole but there's MILLIONS of women on here still. And it takes all kinds. In the words of Bo Burnham, "…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:43 AM
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What part is hard to believe? And yeah, anyone can be preyed upon?? Just wait until you hear about old people getting scammed out of their life savings, that's being preyed upon too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:39 AM
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Same with women though. It's just the loud and obnoxious people who end up seeming to represent each group, I'd say most people on both sides are normal
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:37 AM
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Well good for them I guess? What do you qualify as "desirable men"?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:36 AM
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Do they?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:35 AM
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I'm not even arguing? I was saying the comments gave the evidence he was trying to find?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 01:33 AM
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Men too. People do it. And it's sucky and ruins everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:25 AM
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And this is why we feel the need to cover our drinks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:08 AM
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Can you rephrase this? I'm not entire sure what you mean
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:07 AM
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Valid take
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:06 AM
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Or you're just projecting? Is it that bad to care about people close to my age? My best friend is a 19 year old man, and if someone 10+ years was preying on him, I'd hate it too. What's the difference between a 17 year old who's 17 years 11 months old and an 18 year old who turned 18 two days ago? It's a sliding scale. I also don't think it's ok for a 30 year old and an 80 year old eother even though both are DEFINITELY adults. I don't care if it's and older man and a younger woman or the revers…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:05 AM
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True, but.you can still leave the house. Go to a gym, or an event
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:57 AM
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Have you ever read a sentence in the English language? I never said old people are creepy nor did I mention boners? Or hitting in people irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:55 AM
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Actually that's how my best friend met her boyfriend. They met at an art class workshop thing and were both super shy. Then it turns out they had the same bus route. Be asked if she'd want to get coffee. They became friends and I get along with him well enough. I definitely saw where that was going and they started dating after 2 or 3 months and it's been almost 2 years. They want to get married but can't decide if they want star wars or LoTR themed, we'll see. And tons of women approach guys. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:51 AM
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Which is it? Should women love it or not use it? And how is meeting someone irl and befriending them slowly over time until falling in love over the course of a few months or so in a natural way inferior to swipe swipe swipe swipe? You know those comedy shoes where the comedian pulls someone on stage and finds them a date for the night based on initial vibes and appearance alone? I'd rather do that than the apps you're describing and I know I'm not alone in that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:35 AM
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Thanks! That was super interesting but she did seem to be talking on the behalf of the statistics. But I did find some women comments under it. I hope OP sees this because this makes a good point about not being able to treat people like something you're shopping for that he needs to wrap his head around in my humble opinion. Her stats seemed off though, average age 41? I wonder what biases that added
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:32 AM
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I didn't say most men are creeps. But creepy men do tend to pool in areas and one of those areas are online forums. Especially older guys who think younger girls owe them stuff for existing. I know you won't believe it unless you one day are forced to see it but I promise it's there and I run into it all the time. Literally two days ago I had to tell a creepy old guy who's nearly 50 to leave me alone. It sucks but it happens. And it's exhausting to deal with. A lot of those creeps are much less …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:25 AM
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Genuine question, not trying to start an argument here, where are the women complaining and what are they actually saying? I'm not really in that sphere but I see more guys upset (rightfully so from my pov but again, not in that sphere) and when women do complain, its for the same reasons as the men?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:18 AM
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You're forgetting that a lot of them just don't use it too, so there's something to the tune of 7x more men on the apps than women (depends on the app)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:15 AM
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Right but how can you have realistic expectations, make actual connections, and meet people? I asked you first, name something worse
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:15 AM
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I think everyone hates them? Like the guys the gals, the gays and other pals, everyone agrees its a cesspool? For women, they're flooded woth creepy guys who are weird or demanding but typically both. Most guys get a singular match if they're lucky, and then she's either selling OF or something, or she's not what he's looking for. Horny gays only find people who want long term relationships and the people looking for long term tend to only meet the horny, and everyone else seems to only run into…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 03:54 AM
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Men? Sure. But also still teenagers by definition. If you're not old enough to drink in some countries, not old enough to rent a car, not old enough to buy tobacco products, not old enough to gamble in casinos, and not old enoughto purchase a hand gun, then you're clearly still young. Thatsa rough time for everyone and young adults are still vulnerable to being manipulated. Men or women, 18 is still a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:30 AM
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And didn't even bother to be right
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:26 AM
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No like it doesn't matter. At all. I've dated guys taller than me and shorter than me. It's not even a factor. And I'm not the only person like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 05:21 AM
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I've lived on the west coast and in the Midwest. Most guys are 5'6 to 6'2 I'd say. And genuinely no one cares. All of them are fairly equally likely to get girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 05:16 AM
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Where do you even get this idea? I am a girl and I know a LOT of girls. Less than 5 ever have even cared about height and pf those, they were all around 5 foot anyway and just wanted a guy who was taller than them, which is most guys. And they certainly don't think he's not a human if he's short. Where do you get this from?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 05:13 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 12:40 PM
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Exactly. I had a short boyfriend and we got along great but ended up just being best friends after. Don't regret the relationship at all, we just drifted apart. But I also had a different boyfriend who was slightly shorter than me and he kept assuming I'd cheat on him with some other guy (there wasn't even anyone he had in mind) that would be tall and make more money etc. Like, bro. I don't care about any of that, I want someone to watch anime with and who gives good hugs. There's no height limi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 12:39 PM
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It's a self feeding machine though. The incels who think women hate them for height go and spread that around, then perfectly normal guys hear the same thing and assume it's true. Then they turn and treat women they are ACTIVELY DATING differently based on the stuff they read online. And now there's an actual problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 12:37 PM
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See I see it the other way around. The rudest guys I've encountered are short guys but not all short guys are rude. Buy you do you. You're missing some diamonds in the rough though
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 12:35 PM
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True. Typically people can control their weight (with the exception of people with super fast metabolisms that can't put on weight or other health issues making it hard to gain, lose or keep off weight) and people can't help their height (again with an exception of posture but that'd rarely enough to make or break) but people can't help having traditionally masculine or feminine features, you can't help certain body shapes (I dont mean being fat, I mean being curvy or having wide shoulders or wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 12:34 PM
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I don't understand what you mean
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 12:28 PM
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I have literally never in my life seen this happen. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 12:28 PM
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Definitely not most women. I've met maybe 4 girls in my entire life who actually care that much about height. And even of the ones who did care about height, they didn't care about the made up "six foot" thing, they just wanted a guy who was taller than them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 07:16 AM
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Most don't. Same with guys. Some guys clown on the overweight girls or the insecure girls or the less feminine girls. If you don't want to date them then who cares? People just tend to see their own problems and girls get more attention when they do it for some reason when guys just get lumped into the incel pile which sorta downplays it. But not everyone does this on either side. Sometimes people just suck
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 07:14 AM
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Will do. It's not on my list and even if I did I probably wouldn't be dating lol. But sorry it sucks for you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 07:55 AM
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Well my family is from Seattle but we've moved around. Western Washington, northern Oregon, and southeast Idaho. Idaho has the worst I've seen so far but even then I'd say it's 50/50
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 05:08 AM
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I have never felt this old. Could someone Translate this, please?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 09:38 AM
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Less rare than they seem. They just tend to group together so you'll find them in pockets
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 05:34 AM
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Yeah! There's more good out there than we're often told. It's certainly not perfect but there's a lot of good
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:14 AM
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I mean they're objectively a cult. But mainstream Mormons are against polygamy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:12 AM
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Nah that's Mormons 60+ years ago. They're trying to beat the cult allegations now which is certainly debatable. I used to live in Rexburg Idaho where the population is 97% mormon. Also, the law. It's literally illegal. And they all are trying to get in God's good place because the men can get to be God's and have their own planet if they do good, and the women can too if their husband's say so. It's such a weird belief system lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 09:11 PM
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You don't know any Mormons, do you lol. They don't like polygamy anymore. And young men are practically forced to go on missions to spread the gospel or whatever meaning there are more local mormon girls than mormon boys between the ages of 19 and 25. So presuming you're in a first world cou try where there's an amount of Mormons (they are EVERYWHERE) and are under 26 or so, it's pretty easy to find someone. They get married in as little as 2 months because they want to boink
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:31 PM
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Aw you didn't answer me :(
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:54 PM
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You had no problem responding to me elsewhere. You sure Im harassing ya?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:49 PM
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I think all these guys should just become mormon and find mormon girls because they're the exact type of person those girls are looking for and vise versa. Just hope you can hurry, a lot of them get married by 25 and immediately start families
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:40 PM
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You do you then. I'm not letting you get the last word Herr though so we can do this for a while. I'm fairly sure I'll outlive ya and I'm very petty. Lets play this game
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:38 PM
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So you got to the point where I clearly had won pur little debate and you're out of responses, so you're trying to end it but you want the last word. You decided you'll report me for harassment and accuse me 4 times of harassing you when you could very simply just stop responding. You hold literally no space in my mind and I don't care enough to antagonize you, no matter how much you want me to. So if you want this to end, just don't respond. Take the L with any dignity you have left here and st…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:34 PM
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Lmao ok then. Have fun with that. Or you could just stop responding
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:01 PM
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Dude you can just stop responding
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:30 PM
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Oh, also you might want to change you're flair. You're definitely red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:17 AM
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I'm not harassing you lol. But if you're out of comebacks then feel free to stop responding
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:16 AM
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Done you say? What'd they say? Sure CNN could work so long as it's not a blog post but an actual report. AI is absolutely not reliable, the way it works is by randomly picking previous answers to questions. If people started a meme where everyone insisted the sky is yellow, AI would say the sky is yellow too. It spreads misinformation. Urban dictionary is full of both truth and nonsense, but people can vote on how accurate it is, making it reliable for slang and phrases. And Wikipedia is actuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 09:24 PM
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Why do so many guys think girls just get laid if they want but the poor men have to work for it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 06:41 AM
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Well go ask your friends who are girls since you know so much about girls A YouTube video is not a valid source for anything. And dating apps are inherently screwed since there's far more men than women on there. How about actual stats from an actual reliable source? Dude. AI is stupid and not a trustworthy source EITHER. AI is literally ruining the world on several fronts. You can't trust something AI said. Go look at urban dictionary or something. Wow you got touchy there. If you don't actuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 06:15 AM
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Dude I DOD stop asking. What are you on about? I NEVER said all women are like me because ALL people are different. And yes, my sample size is small. But you haven't provided a sample at all. What are you talking about lol. Also you could look it up. It's a common phrase with no negative connotations. Either you're 55+, new to the language, or both because this is genuinely such a common phrase. That's not a fact. That's a poorly structured sentence. You could say "you're overweight" and as long…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:52 PM
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I don't follow any influences and I've never watched porn so I can't speak for that. But yeah, a lot of guys seem to have incredibly unrealistic expectations. So do some girls. But I also know that a lot of people on both sides have reasonable tastes. I can relate to being told stuff when I was young. My biological grandmother literally called me a sult when I was 7 and I didn't even do anything. But a lot of people fall victim to the stigmas. Again, on both sides. Men and women fall for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 11:04 PM
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Alright well I don't care enough about the KS thing if you're going to be this difficult about it. You're literally the one still going on with the flowers. You keep saying women ALWAYS do ____ and when I say I don't, nor do any of the women I know, you say "well not YOU, I mean the OTHER women" but continue to fail to prove your point. And then you double down here by saying not me or the women I know (which inherently proves you wrong) and continue to say it's all OTHER women. This feels like …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 07:12 PM
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Also sorry I thought you might be a guy pretending to be a woman. The fake lashes, fake hair, fake boobs comment in your earlier message reads like how a lot of these guys think all women are
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:21 PM
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You don't have to pick a side. Just believe what you believe and don't let others bother you. I genuinely don't care what my future partner looks like. There's things I find attractive but they could be genuinely the ugliest person alive and I'd still be fine as long as they're a good person and we get along and they have good hygiene. I don't think I'm drop dead gorgeous or anything but I don't think I'm ugly either. I also don't really care about that stuff. I agree that it should be interests…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:20 PM
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You're the one making assumptions that they DO know. The only KS I know are Kill Steal but that doesn't make sense in this context, and Kansas which also doesn't make sense. But it's funny how you say it's funny I'm supposedly making assumptions in the same sentence as where you make the assumption that there's no way they vould possibly know Why are you so adamant that people cmdont give eachother flowers? I literally bought flowers for my sick roommate last week. And flower shops stay open yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:01 PM
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Why does everything have to be based on appearances? Also this reads like a dude wrote it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:29 PM
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I didn't say they told me everything? And I don't care enough to go bother people I actually care about with something they also might not know. Tons of people give eachother flowers, why's that so hard to believe? Again, if you can believe I can be a good person, why can't that be true for others? Well I'd talk about other people too but I don't know other people. And if the majority of people act how you think they do, how come nearly ever person I know is an exception? I haven't been shaming …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:04 PM
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Well some of these guys are making me wonder about that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:23 AM
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Dude will spontaneously combust when he finds out that AroAce people exist and that Isaac Newton died a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:22 AM
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Education is not a need. Employment is debatable Safe drinking water is a need. Need means you'll die without it. Education is a want. Sex is a want. And entitlement is why you're going to be single until you fix your mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:21 AM
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Eh it's the internet. He started it, she finished it. Swearing and name-calling is the LEAST of your problems on this app lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:16 AM
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How'd you get that from his comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:14 AM
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I think all the incels would be better off of dating apps never existed. They don't exactly have a high success rate, have been linked to depression and insecurities, and are full of liars and cheats and cheaters. Just log off and go touch grass. Even if you are the ugliest guy by societal standards or something, there are girls that like very specific things and don't care about the rest. And theres girls who genuinely don't care about looks at all and want a boyfriend who's also her beat frien…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:13 AM
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I didn't say perverts can't be in a relationship. But I would put those people all in the same group so it's not the gotcha you thought it was. For the third time can you please just tell me what KS means? Nothing I can think of makes sense in this context. If I can be a decent person, then can't other people? Other women? Men too? Because it's not just me. I know plenty of others who do it too. What's wrong with getting a guy flowers if he's OK with it? Once I was dating a guy and asked if he'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:00 AM
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Look, I'm a fairly pessimistic gal. But even I have more hope in humanity than that. My dad's not like that. Or my brother. I have several guy friends who I know aren't like that. One of my roommates is a guy, and while he doesn't get out of his recliner and off of WoW, he's not like THAT.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:22 AM
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Yes. That's perverse. How is it not? Sure anyone can have a long-term happy relationship if that's what both they and their partner are looking for and want with eachother but typically that's not OF models. Though it's debatable, to be fair. But I still stand by what I said. Ok seriously, what does KS mean? Dating apps are not a reliable source for anything. It's not a reliable source for who's single, or what makes a healthy relationship, or who's in a relationship. There's WAY more men than w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:19 AM
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Who said I'm judging what is and isn't attractive? You literally said you'd sleep with girls yous be embarrassed to let see the light of day. That's what I'm referencing. That literally is perverse behavior. I don't think most people do consider OF models as long term relationship material and if they do thats not my business and that's not related to this conversation. It's also perverse to put your bare ass all over the place and try to shove it in people's face, even if you're trying to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 07:41 PM
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Being horny and down to fuck anything even if it's not attractive, proudly masturbating 3 times a day, and wanting people you're not attracted to to watch porn with you is perverted behavior. Thinking all guys are like that means you think they're all perverted. What is that second paragraph even trying to say? Or the third for that matter. " but when I do it its one thing you do it and it's a FACT LOL" Is that even English? Are you having a stroke? No women actually could give a single flying f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:37 PM
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Well you know what I meant by it. They all are in the same category in my books
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:12 AM
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I get what You're saying but we are all the same species. And I know plenty of guys that both publicly and privately detest this mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:11 AM
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All people are people and have similar thought processes. Theyre incredibly horny girls but thats not all women and the same can be said about men. You also have no clue what people think behind closed doors so why do you assume they're all perverted? I didn't say you said every woman. But you did imply it's very common and I was pointing out that that's flawed logic and baseless. Yeah. Those girls are typically the leader of their respective relationships. What's wrong with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 05:03 PM
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Nah I'm serious. This sounds like it sucked
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:35 PM
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Well we're still human and I don't think my friends are that because I dont think theyre that shallow with duch a one-trsck mind. And with your example, I have plenty of friends who are girls and being rich is literally not a requirement fir a single one of them. In fact Im pretty sure they're the provider in all of their relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:19 AM
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I'm not talking about being a man. I'm saying they're people and theres no way all of them think like that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:01 AM
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I know tons of men. But in my experience the ones that actually touch grass and have a life are much more normal, have realistic standards/expectations, and think there's more to life than goofing. Do you think Bi men just want to fuck everything that moves
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:32 AM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:29 AM
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Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:53 AM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:52 AM
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OLD?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:44 AM
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Yeah? How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:44 AM
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It's not just opinions though. It's based on real life experiences. And the stats literally do not add up. You can choose it, can you go find some stats for this and take a screenshot? And it's fair to say the two dozen couples I regularly interact with aren't large enough of a sample size but Im also not creating stats. It's an observation. Perhaps I'm just interacting with people who are outliers but it seems strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:25 PM
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So the numbers would be even lower rigjt?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:22 PM
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Idk. I've seen a few people say cheating is fine or that they couldn't help it or it's in their nature or whatever but those people are all cheaters
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:21 PM
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Lmao. I'd call myself a lot of things but privileged isn't one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:19 PM
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I don't have to know what happens when a parent abandons their child. It happened with my biological mom, them my biological dad, and then my first adopted father. Biological mom had to pay 20 bucks a month for almost a year but other than that, none of them faced consequences. By your logic it's inherently selfish to have a child then. They're reliant on you for at leat 18 years. Maybe even more. And I'd argue that a two decade commitment is more than an inconvenience but again, not a topic I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:19 PM
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See this is why I hate debates on the internet. I can make an actual point with logical reasoning and why I believe that and the response is essentially "nuh uh" If you have stats that say 60% of women are in a relationship and 20% of men are in a relationship, then either 40%+ of women are lesbians or there's errors in the stats. And every single study I've seen has very different numbers. Care to explain that? Because even if you say "oh women are dating older men" then older women should be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:10 PM
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And I think those stats are inaccurate. I have seen red pill guys quote articles and stuff but there's never a sample size and anything that doesn't involve everyone has margins or error
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:04 PM
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I do think that it still speaks to how many people are single. I presume we can agree there's more people in a relationship than there are married?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:03 PM
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As in it's not a thing. This is blown way out of proportion when it's actually a non-issue
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:02 PM
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Yeah I don't interact with columns or blogs because its a waste of time in my opinion. Its usually just garbage. But this still is the point I said earlier where only cheaters defend cheaters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:01 PM
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Nah. Parents completely abandon their kids ALL the time. And you don't have to have children anyways so that's all on you. And why do you keep saying you'd rather kill your kids than pay child support or something? You seriously need some mental help, man. Cancer cells come from asexual reproduction, true, but the person they come from came from sexual reproduction. Also you don't have to be from sexual reproduction to be human. Cloned tissue is still human tissue. How does this speak to your po…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:59 PM
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Well even if it's just by marriage, that means there even more people in relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:53 PM
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Yikes. Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:44 PM
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I think it's all made up OR the sample size is not big enough since it clearly can't include everyone and they're missing huge chucks of the population
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:44 PM
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I wouldn't exactly call that a reliable source but even if it was, the first sentence is about how bad adultery is and how this is not socially acceptable. Also it doesn't change the fact that I have never heard of this. It cant be all that mainstream. And I'm sure you can find more. You can find articles about how trump is secretly gay and essays on Elon musks fictional 40 year old son in Kenya. And your description doesn't make sense either. No one thinks it's virtuous to manipulate your partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:43 PM
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Here's the same article saying that singleness is decreasing https://preview.redd.it/ksg0e45mk8jf1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6102286fc155acf533cba652f10e14b62b6c02e1
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:38 PM
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I don't though. What could you possibly need the photographer for? And who cares if other people think you're not trying enough or whatever. Once you're in a relationship you absolutely need to put in effort but until then, just live your life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:37 PM
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Once again I don't want to debate this and would like a subject change but I'll still respond. You're not legally required to provide for families you may or may not have so don't fling BS around. Yes you have to sign up for the draft but that probably hasn't even been called in your lifetime so you can't say shit about it. You can't die in childbirth though. Killing your wife is different from expelling a clump of cells the size of a penny. Killing your 12 year old is different from expelling c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:36 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:24 PM
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Well if women are dating older men then won't that show in the stats where the youngest are all taken but then it's equal until the oldest group? Most people are not ok with an open relationship so I highly doubt it's common enough to throw off stats. And in my experience, men are much faster to sticking a label on something than women are. But here's the data from January of this year *
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:24 PM
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Oh cool, I actually have stats for this. But first let me ask you, how does that work? If the women are all taken and the guys are all single, are the majority of women lesbians?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:18 PM
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Wow that's quite a leap, did you hurt your knees with that one? Understanding why some women wouldn't want to give birth is equal to being a slaver justifying slavery I guess. Again that's not even my views I just think they should be allowed to choose. And I don't think that's them being selfish. Some people should not be parents and if they recognize it, that's a good thing. I think the easier thing here is just getting your tubes tied but that's not the conversation we're having. A big part o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:17 PM
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I have never seen someone who isn't a cheater defend ANYONE for cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:11 PM
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I mean, that sounds exhausting, but also, none of that was necessary. You don't need new clothes constantly but if you want to buy them for you, then of course you can. But no one is forcing you. At most, you could argue needing one nice outfit for dates. But even then, you don't need to have something crazy for a simple date. If you were paying for boosters in a dating app, then I regret to inform you that it's a scam. Dating apps don't really work too well, and you'd have better luck just aski…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:08 PM
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Yeah. I have a dew ongoing conversations with some guys across different posts in here and there's so many who just genuinely can't wrap their heads around the fact that it's not possible for every straight girl to be in a relationship but less than a quarter of straight men to be in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:30 PM
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If you're talking about abortion, that's a whole other subject. First of all, the most anti abortion people I have met have been women so your argument dthere doesn't really stand. And I also think it makes sense to a certain extent. I don't really want to get into the abortion topic but here's my 2 cents anyways. If the only think keeping someone from aborting their child is the law, then that kid will have a shitty life. And people will do it anyways. What if she was raped? Or the father is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:59 PM
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It's definitely not a genetics thing. Start by being fun about things you like, it comes from practice. For example, have jokes and references ready to go in case they come up. If you're willing to sink money into this, you could also take improv classes which will teach you a lot of what you'd need to be able to do. Otherwise just try your best to be confident
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:48 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/bscshy0rh7jf1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e3daaa59d7ea238d5fed1cbc2b20242fff66d971 Here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:00 PM
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When is this one from? Because mine was from January 2025. I never assumed the same was with older generations. But people break up or get divorced so it's not forever. Also here's a screenshow from the Pew Research center in 2025 talking about the decrease in singleness from previous years, suggesting more people are getting together than before.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:00 PM
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No I read that when you said it but I see no proof or reason to believe it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:46 PM
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This is just on singleness. But these numbers are far lower than what you had been saying. Yes there's an interesting thing going on with ages there but it implies thay basically everyone finds someone at some point when they're looking for it, doesn't it? Even if it's not in the first 11 years of adult dating
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:02 AM
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Well I certainly disagree with you there but as long as she does agree there's no harm in it. I do agree that men and women are fundamentally different and that realistically can't be compared equally. Men retain muscle mass more easily, women mature faster, men are typically more athletic naturally and women have better intuition in general, etc. We're different since men have nearly half as much DNA as women do and that exists at a cellular level as you pointed out. But I heavily disagree on y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:55 AM
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Thank you very much for having a real reliable source but I'm not so sure this pertains to the argument. Partner violence is definitely something to consider but I was more referring to women being afraid to leave their homes because people they pass on the street. That said I can't articulate enough how much I appreciate you having actual research for this. Thank you. And that does make an interesting point on potentially some cultures being more prone to accepting domestic abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:45 AM
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I disagree. I just think the ones that do are very loud about it. I have a lot of friends across a lot of spectrums. Guys and gals or both and neither, guys straights and aroace, left leaning, red leaning, etc. And I've known two guys who actually act like this irl. And one had a girlfriend. So I think there's not actually that many incels in the world, they just don't get off their devices and are really really loud about it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:42 AM
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https://preview.redd.it/rphn9dm544jf1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=69bd8f0aaabed633ea09b862ce31256e70a334ca This one? Because it's 31 for both
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:39 AM
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Well then I'm fine with that. I still don't think it's true
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:46 PM
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Not really? I asked for signs not whenever this shit is
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:21 PM
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Do you have a source for these "numbers" then? Because it doesn't make any sense at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 10:20 PM
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I just can't understand how most women could have a partner if they're all going after a small group of men. Even if those men are really getting around or something, they still can only date one woman at a time so the amount of women with male partners will be equal to the amount of men with female partners, right? And by your own logic, the "options" argument doesn't make sense either because all those men will typically be taken and there would be a lot of competition. Unless I'm missing some…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:20 PM
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Then who are the women partnering with? Who's the 20 year old women with? The 25? The 29? If they all have partners then what are the men doing? And what do you mean by "Lesbian women are less likely to numerous than gay men, so jn the end the results must be either"? I don't understand the sentence. And if there's more women choosing to not date then why would you day that most women under 30 have a partner? If they're dating a smaller group of men then shouldn't only a small amount of women ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:47 PM
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Not sure what you mean by DS. I'm not a woman who would rather face a bear than a man but if I was in the woods I wouldn't care either way evince that's a perfectly normal place for either to be and odds are they won't even come across me. But I do know a few people who would choose bear and I sorta can understand their perspective even if I don't agree with it. But the bear in the woods thing is an exaggerated thing where people only talked about those who said bear and is not a true reflection…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:43 PM
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They do, though. It's every day. I'm not fearmongering. Some areas don't have this and I'm glad they don't but then there's places like where I live where it's not really treated like a big deal and it just keeps happening. It's not a high chance, you're right. But the chance is never zero
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:41 PM
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That can not be a healthy relationship if you think you're supposed to essentially raise her. It's not my business so long as you're both happy but that does seem like a terrible mind set to have
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:38 PM
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Nah I'm seeing it. Read through everything that was there at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:37 PM
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Why would I want to ruin my friendship like that??? I genuinely don't think any but one would even say yes and the one in mind is just dtf always but has never hit on me. So I assume not a single one would actually agree and then none of them would want to hang out anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:35 PM
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That's the sign? What is that even supposed to mean
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:34 PM
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Right but forget traveling. What if you just live there?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:33 PM
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In guessing you were cursed with the repel maidens curse at birth?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:45 AM
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Valid crashout
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:44 AM
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It's actually failt common if you look in the right places
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:44 AM
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You're very angry at a lot of things, aren't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:43 AM
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Honestly if I ever were to go on a date with a guy abd he said he was ____ pill the date is over. I'm just here because I like debate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:42 AM
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I presume you want to date or maybe even marry a woman one day? So why do you hate women so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:39 AM
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Well there's a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:38 AM
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Who hurt you?? Sorry you've had a rough go at it but I promise this isn't every woman or even most women. Sounds like you unfortunately had to deal with shallow bitches. Hope you have better luck
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:36 AM
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I don't believe the notion that all my guy friends think I'm actually a dumbass and want to sleep with me. Do you have any signs to look for or are you just horny and assume everyone else is too?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:34 AM
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Yeah I've never understood that. They didn't let women drive cars for a bit because surely they'd be terrible and then they blew up every accident involving women when it happened but men have ALWAYS been the worst drivers
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:32 AM
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I kinda refuse to believe my guy friends are like that, or at least not all of them. Are there any signs to look for?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:29 AM
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Maybe there's something wrong with me then cuz I get those too lol. But even over little things like someone cutting me off and I calmly think about how I could end their whole bloodline. Wouldn't actually do it and I rarely get mad enough to even consider it but its there
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:26 AM
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The biology thing is BS. If you like younger women just say that but the whole fertility thing is false and that's between 26 and 29 or 28 and 33 depending on the research.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:22 AM
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.... that's not how that works though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:17 AM
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Don't worry it's not NEARLY that bad
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:16 AM
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Wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:14 AM
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Well there's a lot to break down here. First and foremost, don't have kids if you don't want kids. And if you want kids but your partner doesn't, don't have kids or find a different partner. If you want kids and your partner wants kids but you can afford i, don't have kids. If you both want kids and can afford it but the relationship is still young or is a bit rocky DO NOT HAVE KIDS. Cool. Now that that's out of the way, here's a few things. For the morning sickness comment, its actually been su…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:05 AM
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Yikes. I thought it was 1/3 experience sexual assault. That's even worse
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:54 AM
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Which would suck but woman can get jumped too? Like it sucks regardless but most fights I've seen in person are catfights and they can get brutal if fake nails or jewelry gets involved
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:53 AM
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This. Straight guys often get aggressive when you tell them no. It's obviously not all of them, but a lot of men don't seem to know this is a thing. Bad people can be threats to anyone but men vs men is equal, woman vs woman is equal, woman vs man is a joke, and man vs woman is dangerous in general
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:52 AM
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I mean I've never been to the east but if this is safe then humanity is screwed. In the past year, between my roommate and I there's been 2 stalkers, 1 groper, dozens of cat callers, a rape attempt, a break in attempt from a stalker, and a guy who tried to take a picture up her skirt. I know it could be worse but if this is the bar for safety, I'd just rather be a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:49 AM
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Could you throw out a hypothetical place they should feel safe in?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:47 AM
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First of all, not everyone said that. Secondly, bears belong in the woods so that's not that big a deal anyway. And finally, many have their reasons. It's not every man but there's enough where it can be hard to feel safe in some situations
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:45 AM
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What about being groped? Or followed? Mugged? Stalked? Threatened? It doesn't have to be rape or murder for it to be bad. Everyone has a right to be sacred but saying women exaggerate it is an extreme of its own. I'm guessing you're lucky enough to live somewhere this isn't a common occurrence but where I live is considered fairly rural but it's every day when my roomate and I go out. It's not every man either but one man can harm dozens of people and on average, we're not able to fight back. Ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:44 AM
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Not what they're saying. If you were raped, for centuries in some cultures, it would be considered your fault for letting it happen. In the Bible it says to stobe women to death if she was raped but didn't scream loud enough for someone to save her and this mentality carried over into the 20th century. If you were raped, you were expecting to handle that 'shame' on your own and would be chastised for speaking out. Reporting it was what had to be normalized
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:40 AM
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Oh men are absolutely justified to be scared too. But in our defense, we're literally raised being told that if we're alone or with people we don't know well, we'll be raped and murdered. I'm not naive per say but I'm less likely to assume every person I see will kill me than other members if my family but I still feel uncomfortable alone in public spaces sometimes. I always have some form of self defense on me but even though I work out daily and am fairly muscular for a chick, I also know that…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:35 AM
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Oh well that's my bad. But my point still stands that if most women get into a relationship, shouldn't most guys as well? Or are most women lesbian?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:20 AM
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Oh sorry, we were talking about you and you said women 50+. I might be wrong but I've heard there's 100 girls born for every 99 men which is what I was referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 03:26 AM
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Ah I didn't realize you were looking for older women. In my experience though, old ladies seem to lower their standards because they don't want to be alone. But I do see where you're coming from and I don't interact with enough older people regularly to have much of an opinion on this
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:30 AM
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Well if most women get a partner and most men don't, and theres more women on earth than men, then there's a lot more lesbians than I had thought. If you're capable of having the standard of "someone who likes me" than why is it so hard to think there's women like that too? Also I'm fairly sure a homeless person could easily fill an island if they had the money. People love to dream and the harder your life, the more you dream. If you don't have a type that's fine, I can relate. But saying you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 07:32 PM
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The point is most of those traits can't apply to you. Blue eyes green eyes brown eyes. You have to have one of those but you can't have them all. Taller than her, shorter than her, same height as her. You have to be one but you can't be all. And these aren't unrealistically inclusive because it's from a ton of different people. I knew a girl who liked tall guys with a round nose, preferred a snatched waist, liked long straight hair and liked green and blue eyes. I also knew a girl who liked musc…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 07:02 PM
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Why are you putting yourself down? I haven't met you so I can't confirm or deny but honestly the only negative thing I've seen is that you seem to have the incel mindset that women will never ever find you appealing in any way unless you're physically attracted, charismatic, and/or rich. And I'm sorry you have that mindset. Buf I promise that's not what it's actually like in the real world. And if anything, you probably shouldn't want to date those girls either if they're shallow. If you're with…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:35 AM
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See I think this is an example of how black and white your stance on this is. My roommate exclusively likes guys that are chubby with an actual dad bod. I knew a girl in high school that only would date guys shorter than her and she was about my height at the time so 5'7ish. People have different standards. So there's no way you can make that appearance point in all seriousness. Yes, it's common for western straight women to prefer taller guys, or richer guys, or guys with certain features. But …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:22 PM
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I presume you're not a woman since you put man in your title. So why do you assume what woman can or can't feel based off of? I mean I do have standards but none of those are a part of them. Also it's funny you say they're inherent and unchangeable. People can make or win more money. Physical appearance is a matter of opinion but if you think you're lacking you can get cosmetics or even surgeries to help. And charisma comes from practice and you can take classes to help if you're that desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:34 PM
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Oh. Well that definitely wasn't it lol. I've been the money one in every relationship I've had, guys or otherwise. What I'm trying to say with the examples is that they were dorks. And I didn't have a problem with that. But I don't get why you are so sure I couldn't have liked guys like this? You don't know me so why are you so certain? I definitely know girls who only carry about looks or who have money as a high factor, or want them to have a certain personality type or need them to be smooth …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:28 PM
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Again with the circular reasoning. The only two I didn't regret dating were honestly really awkward. One genuinely wore a fedora and always referred to me as m'lady lol. Both were huge nerds. We just got along because of shared interests and friendship grew over time. And what do you mean by no money is an option?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:45 AM
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Right. But it's not like the two things that make someone desirable is charisma and physical appearance. The biggest deal to me is their personality. I doubt your only standards are based on appearance and confidence (which is what charisma comes down to in the end) so why would I be yhe same? And if you are then go for it but we're different and that's fine. People don't have to have the same thought processes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 01:48 AM
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That's just circular reasoning. All I'm saying is that I didn't care
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:32 PM
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I know you won't believe me, but I've genuinely never dated a guy that was attractive. I've never cared so long as he kept clean. And that's also not the funny I'm referring to. I'm talking about nerds that can make references at good time, but were socially awkward. At least in my mind, charisma has to come with a certain level of confidence and they definitely didn't have much of any
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 12:44 PM
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.... that's not what I read. We ARE talking about the same post here, aren't we?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 12:38 PM
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I'd argue very much against that. I think only one guy I've dated has any real 'charisma' and once I saw past that he turned out to be a manipulative jerk so I ended it. But the guys I've dated that I didn't regret didn't really have any 'charisma' and were just fun
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 05:54 PM
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In women. Like OP and I. I can't speak for her but in my experience I've Honestly only dated traditionally unattractive guys and I don't care about that part. At first we would bond over shared interests/hobbies and have fun. Most guys I've dated were funny and I like that. We'd go do stuff and then so far it's always fallen apart but thats just how it goes. One dumped me because he didn't feel attracted to me anymore, I broke up with one because he kept lying about stuff and made it hard to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 05:51 PM
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To be fair, I don't think it ever wasn't. It just became less popular for a few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:03 AM
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I mean, to me, physical aspects have literally nothing to do with it. It's genuinely based on personality and beliefs. If they're fun and we get along then it's worth a shot. And basic hygiene lol. That's important too. I kinda tick a lot of boxes for being physically attractive and would probably be considered pretty if I actually put effort into my appearance in day to day interactions. But I don't care about my appearance either. I want my soulmate, if there is one, to love me for me abd for …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 07:02 AM
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