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Would you mind sharing a bit more the mental approach to a healthier exploration and graceful rejection? I would like to learn more about how to adopt this mindset but struggle on how to start. My trauma has certainly shaped my views, and working on healing that has been incredibly difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/25 01:18 AM
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I feel like there is a kinder (or at least more descriptive) way to say this, especially to someone who is struggling with rejection and made the post for that reason. Though I know you are right, it just hurts because I find myself internalizing the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/25 09:36 PM
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Thank you for this. I guess I don't know what it's like to be with someone who shows up, so the bare minimum of consistency leads me to attribute more to that person than there is. I guess the bar is low in my mind at the moment, and that leads me to struggle to discern or honestly even have expectations of what a good partner should be like, because I'm scared they're unreasonable. On your point about emotional investment, I struggle with this one the most. I see some seemingly good qualities i…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/25 09:34 PM
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^ vet, vet, vet as much as you can. Do a background check, ask around, whatever you have to. Outside of friends and family, see if you guys have mutuals that are familiar with his character or any aspects about him. Unfortunately sometimes friends (and especially family) hide things and enable abusers and by the time you realize the truth, you’ve already suffered a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/24 10:54 PM
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Depending on how long it’s been, I would say proceed very cautiously. It may be that he is genuinely an amazing guy that wants to take care of you, but it might also be that he’s love bombing you upfront to show his true colors later. I (24F) unfortunately experienced the latter so my general approach is to take things very cautiously. Unfortunately, deep down feelings are not necessarily the truth and only time will tell how someone really is. It’s clear that you feel like things are moving fas…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/24 07:01 PM
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Personally I think that if someone is asking to split 50/50 after one date after agreeing to wanting to be a provider it’s a sign that their words and actions don’t really match up. For more context we are very religious and he’s made it clear that he’s getting to know me for marriage and would want to be married within 1 year. I have no issue with low cost dates and would have happily offered to pay. It’s more so that in the courting phase, this person already became very calculative. It made m…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 02:50 PM
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Personally I think that if someone is asking to split 50/50 after one date after agreeing to wanting to be a provider it’s a sign that their words and actions don’t really match up. For more context we are very religious and he’s made it clear that he’s getting to know me for marriage and would want to be married within 1 year. I have no issue with low cost dates and would have happily offered to pay. It’s more so that in the courting phase, this person already became very calculative. It made m…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 02:50 PM
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I agree with this thank you. I remind myself that perhaps he has served his purpose in my life, and there’s no need for me to have negative feelings towards him
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 02:47 PM
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I’ve gotten really into pickleball and it’s been an awesome distraction
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 02:46 PM
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I love the idea of changing the contact picture. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 02:46 PM
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He’s in medical school so I think it’s just a stressful time generally. He might be pursuing other options but honestly idk
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 03:54 PM
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Yes please word vomit! I know a post would help so many other girls and they’d be incredibly grateful to you
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 06:42 PM
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Congratulations! I hope all works out well for you. How did you work on not getting excited about a man early on?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 05:28 PM
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This is what my mom kept saying over and over again. It’s a blessing that I saw the signs early on instead of wasting more time.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 05:28 PM
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Personally I think that if someone is asking to split 50/50 after one date after agreeing to wanting to be a provider it’s a sign that their words and actions don’t really match up. For more context we are very religious and he’s made it clear that he’s getting to know me for marriage and would want to be married within 1-1.5 years. I have no issue with low cost dates and would have happily offered to pay. It’s more so that in the courting phase, this person already became very calculative. It m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 05:26 PM
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Thank you so much. I really struggle to not get emotionally invested in the beginning as I start projecting good traits onto that person and imagining a future with them. How do you recommend one not get invested early on?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 05:22 PM
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How would you describe the vetting process to be?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 05:21 PM
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