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Im asking a direct question comparing the amount of women who would be relationship material. Your posts focuses on men and aren't clear if the increase in "losers" includes women. So I am asking if you notice a quality difference amongst the genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:38 PM
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So you indeed think there are more relationship material women? Because I'm finding a lack of women both willing to commit and who bring a lot of what I bring to the table. Hence my confusion at my friend saying how awesome ever woman at those events were.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 09:40 PM
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We are in our 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:19 PM
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Memes are not real life. The men I know have equally nice places as the women I know. Also I've briefly dated women in my day lacking taste or who turned out to live like slobs. But my anecdotes do not outweigh anyone elses
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 04:46 PM
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Apparently it's made a big comeback in a lot of places because people are sick of the apps. I quit the apps a year ago and really only meet new people through meetup groups or while being out and about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 03:55 PM
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I mean, if someone has to pick up a second job to live comfortably, how fine are they doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 08:45 AM
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Bro, im so jealous. Of course I'll date a woman who makes less than me, but a woman making the same salary I do would mean a good bump in lifestyle. Like you said stuffs expensive. I can already buy a home on my own, but with a second equal income, we could have a huge home. And take all the trips...and constantly eat out lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:43 PM
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Is it because you care about the money? Or that you're concerned the wealthy woman is still wishing she dated up?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:39 PM
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Men have a lower salary floor they will accept in a mate compared to what most women will accept. This is based on what I've seen over the years, and heard from people in couples and in discussion online. Take educated professional men and women who both earn $85,000 USD a year. A man of value will likely be ok with dating a woman who makes $45k a year, so long as she can take care of herself. Most of these men will likely be ok with paying for a higher portion of dates or bills if cohabitating.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 11:32 PM
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I believe that is the case. And it is a shame, and tbh, it could have easily happened to me if one or two earlier relationships in my life had worked out. While I am very good at reading body language and sensing things...that came from a lot of practice out in the dating world. I really wish more men had the benefit of an active period of single life. It just seems like some men haven't had enough dating experiences where they happened to find that amount of mutual attraction. Whether a dude ha…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/11/21 05:18 PM
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I really feel for the husband in the main story, and the other men in the comments of the story. That said, I really wonder how these guys cannot tell their partners aren't into them. I consider myself a very good read of what someone is feeling, especially in bed. And no amount of faking and false effort can replace legitimate passion and enthusiasm. I've experienced dating and sex with someone going through the motions, and also with someone who was highly into me. There's no mistaking when a …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/11/21 05:25 AM
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True...I need to put myself out there more and expand my social network. I'm a pretty outgoing guy, but I allowed myself to get too wrapped in work the last couple years.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 03:47 AM
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What part of Cali? Because for US metro areas, at least in mine...its not out of the ordinary for single people in their 20s and 30s to have the traits I mentioned. Based on the responses I've gotten on this post though...I need to do less online dating, and travel a bit closer to the city some nights.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 03:45 AM
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Really? How old are you and where do you live? Because again, I find these women online...and even see a few at work. But online has dried up lately, and I refuse to shit where I eat. Never would I have imagined that its considered a unicorn for a woman to have no kids, have a decent job or be passionate about something, and take care of her health (decent shape, no smoking). That seems pretty damn basic for a young 20 to 30 something. Least I thought so. The kids part is a little more rare as w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 09:37 PM
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At my age? Early 30s. I date anywhere from mid 20s to mid 30s. Im not understanding why a man has to pay for either kids or pay for a woman who doesnt have her life together. I've never dated women who expected either. It amazes me that the advice now is that men should settle and accept to be used monetarily when hes still got quite a number of years ahead of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 09:34 PM
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You definitely seem invested when you take the time to make incorrect assumptions about someones accomplishments and life path. Middle management? LOL If only you knew what my job entails keeping our company running daily. Or the career path a couple of my executives want me to take, so I can take over the reigns. Thanks for the "good luck" wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 05:31 PM
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I literally just listed where I stand. That said, its not going to be very useful for me having this discussion with an ardent red piller attempting to get me to agree with their view of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 05:22 PM
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I've had a few of the women I've had FWBs situations with want more from me. But we weren't compatible long term. It was usually down to personalities or things going on in their life that meant it wasn't a good fit. And I really didn't wanna force something in the hopes I would eventually feel an emotional spark. That would cause lost time and pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 05:20 PM
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Amazing how you take things out of context and dont include my entire quote. Nice try. Here's what I said [I'm recently realizing I'm purple pill...after being drawn to red pill in my early 20s (despite always being a bit skeptical), but never taking "blue pill" too seriously either. Both "sides" speak some facts and bullshit. That said, I thought this sub would be a decent place to talk after having done some lurking.]
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 05:14 PM
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Yes they need good jobs or show some kind of ambition. I'm not going to support an adult. Especially in the metro area I live. I mean I could, but its a turn off and I dont want to. I've never been attracted to women long term who couldn't provide for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 05:13 PM
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lolol...dare I even get into this with you? Dude...trust me...my life travels, friends, my career, education, savings account, and credit score say I'm not average. I definitely know I've achieved a lot given where my young adulthood started. Heck, the amount of women I've been with apparently isn't average (compared to the bulk of men). I don't feel its anything to brag about...since I am actually shocked more men haven't dated as much as I have. But I guess I have to be grateful for that...bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 05:07 PM
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Who said I follow red pill? I said both "sides" state some facts as well as bullshit. I dont frequent red pills sites or live by their philosophy. I live by my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 04:58 PM
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I specifically said I've had two relationships. Someone is salty and doesn't read. God forbid a mature successful man admit to reading red pill stuff in his youth. And I even said I didnt buy into much of it. Come off it mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 04:44 PM
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I really liked this post a lot. Thanks for the reply. Very practical and positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 03:19 AM
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Funny you said that. I considered immigrating after my vacation there a couple years back. Partly because I felt Canadian culture jived with me more, but also partly because I thought to plunge myself into a new scene. However upon research, I found that getting approved for immigration and work visa is quite a task. And I worried about being far away from my folks. Lovely city Toronto was though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 03:17 AM
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I prefer to date women anywhere from 26 to 34. Online I find plenty of profiles of childless women, but as my OP said, online dating stinks. But when I go out to meet single people in real life, those same women aren't out and about. That said, I have dated women with kids, but usually older women. This is usually because their kids are a bit only, and thus they have an easier time dating. This all said, the preference for childless women is partly because I may way my own family one day. And wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 03:16 AM
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After a couple of unfaithful partners in my late teens and early 20s, I went through a period of only seeking casual dating. I didn't really seek out relationships as hard as a could have. That change by my late 20s. Pretty par for the course really, as most people grow bored of dating around by then.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 02:54 AM
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Ive been in the same area for 12 years. This was not a recent move.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 01:46 AM
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The thing is...I would consider it if I didn't believe it might be futile or come with negatives. I live close enough to the city to cast my online dating net out that way when I feel like it. But the results arent amazing. Though being physically in the city would be a whole different ball game. Perhaps you're right...but I'm still weighing the pros and cons.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 01:23 AM
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I date as low as 27 though. I see these women online...quite a good amount. The problem is online stinks...and I dont find these women when I go out singles hunting in the bar or lounges.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 01:21 AM
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Honestly, Im looking for a "ride or die" type of chick. If my first impression is that she cant take care of herself, or wants a man to pay her way...it gives me the impression she just wants me as her provider. And it worries me that if things go long term, I couldn't ever trust her to have my back if times are ever rough. I grew up middle class....had a period of poor adulthood...and now live comfortably middle-to-upper middle class. I expect to pay on the first date, and will gladly do so for…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 01:17 AM
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