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100s of first date sex, hard to believe none of these dates turned into anything more serious. Humble brag, but ig that’s just how dating apps are nowadays :/ Good luck in your search
/r/seduction08/08/24 05:40 AM
1

It sounds like you're afraid of failing with someone you would actually be into. Time to get out of your comfort zone of 'pleasant, but not my type' and really go for someone you want. Attain standards and follow them.
/r/seduction15/10/22 04:22 AM
1

You already made out, you're past the friend zone. She probably wasn't ready and it's good that you didn't pressure her. Maybe she just wasn't prepared for how well it went. Respect her pace and let her know how you feel :)
/r/seduction08/08/22 06:39 PM
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If she confronts you or it blows up just say you needed advice because you've never dated a coworker before and you're unsure of her feelings towards you and how to proceed. Surly there is someone older than you and more experienced that you asked, right? Office gossip is inevitable, so just go with it and follow up with her to see if she had a good time.
/r/seduction12/07/22 07:08 PM
1

If it takes you longer than your intended time to reach your mental goals, that’s ok. That’s extra pressure too.
/r/seduction29/06/22 09:51 PM
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Did they help?
/r/seduction29/06/22 09:35 PM
1

Just so many excuses to why you can’t do anything. ‘It would almost certainly end in failure’ sounds like your dating motto. Maybe you should talk with a therapist and work on mental first.
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:41 PM
1

I agree completely except seeing someone romantically can start before that. Even just a kiss can work.
/r/seduction20/06/22 06:12 AM
1

In tv and commercials, ya it's very one sided, but lots of women make and buy special things for their men on vday/bday/etc. If you're partner is expecting gifts on all of the holidays, that's on you. Find someone else that isn't constantly expecting gifts at every single holiday or major life event. Growing up my parents gave me something for every holiday. V day = chocolate, Easter = stuffed bunny/chocolate, bday = gifts/cake, Christmas = gifts/treats. Then you grow up and get wedding annivers…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:30 PM
1

Why celebrate any holiday then? Why go on vacations? Why do married people plan date nights? I understand your point because I used to think that way too. I've gone through phases in my life about it and I think I'm allowed to change my mind on things. I don't need that day to make me feel special, I just think its would be a nice gesture for both men and women. I don't need to be instructed or told to treat my husband in a special way. Maybe we're just both shitty partners. I think putting 100%…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:18 PM
3

I will do this :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 06:47 PM
7

When I was young I thought Valentine’s Day was cute and romantic and for couples. As I got older and while single, I thought celebrating it was kind of dumb because roses, flowers & chocolate increase in price and women constantly feel the need to brag about what they were gifted. Now that I’m married I regret not telling my husband that I want to celebrate v day. It’s not about bragging or how much you get, it’s just about feeling special. So as a kind of compromise I just buy myself flowers & …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 06:16 AM
1

I feel like if you posted a question on here asking specifically/only women in the title, you might get what you are looking for.
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:29 PM
1

Things in your apt (weird pictures, your plants are dead, your bed/sheets/comforter smells, lighting is bad (too bright/too dark), you have sex stuff laying around, too much clutter OR your place is empty and extremely clean/tidy (no personality), they saw a bug/pest, your mattress is hella old and creaks/uncomfortable to even sit on or maybe they spotted your hidden cam 🤨 These are all things maybe not your fault, but something about your apartment is making them feel unsafe. I would recommend …
/r/seduction21/04/22 09:00 AM
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I think fantasies are just that no matter who they’re about. They picked you to date, not the coworker. I don’t think it’s a good idea to want to know what goes on in anyone’s mind at any time. You have to take them for their word & actions and that has to be enough. Peoples opinions change over time too. Yes, I agree that sounds like a controlling red flag.
/r/seduction11/04/22 07:44 AM
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If it was such a big deal that you guys argued about it, maybe it’s best he’s an ex lol sounds like it’s not really a gray zone to you though. Also might be a red flag if future guys are openly telling you this ( unless you asked, then be prepared for honest answers ig)
/r/seduction11/04/22 07:28 AM
6

I don’t think it’s a big deal, but I wouldn’t talk about that with an S.O. Like weird dreams, just keep it to yourself. I think it probably happens to a lot of people. Each person will have their own opinion on this, but I don’t think it’s creepy/awkward. If it makes you uncomfortable, then let them know.
/r/seduction11/04/22 07:14 AM
3

Spontaneity can be really fun, if anything more people can learn from this and just have fun living life. Trying to gatekeep a fun time in the bathroom at a party. Sounds like you're a cock-block too.
/r/seduction19/03/22 10:59 PM
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She could also be shy or nervous around meeting for the first time and feels safe with her friends. I think you should go hang out with the group. More friends never hurt anyone and I don't think you should assume she's only interested in friendship. It's also possible that she's not into you, but another girl in the group is.
/r/seduction08/03/22 07:31 PM
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Seduction tactics. Seeing what guys think is best way to seduce a woman and vice versa. Sometimes they are entertaining, others are kind of braggy and some are gems like this one.
/r/seduction12/02/22 10:53 PM
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Very inspiring and I think this may motivate many people to adjust their life and/or beliefs. I think there are more curious women in here than most guys realize.
/r/seduction12/02/22 12:30 AM
1

OOOoo icic, my b :) but how is it nearly impossible?
/r/seduction01/02/22 07:29 AM
1

I mean if that's how you read it ig, but I take everything I read on reddit with a grain of salt and try not to read too deep into peoples subjective thinking. In the title she said 'can't seduce me' so I assumed it was from her point of view, but in a generalized way.
/r/seduction01/02/22 07:27 AM
1

How is this nearly impossible? She also stated confidence at the top. You can't be insecure if you're confident :) sounds like a cop out
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:17 PM
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Everything about dating is subjective. I think she is trying to say to just put in a little effort. Perfume and cologne should be applied lightly in any case and reapplied later on. Also there are many other products that men wear that can smell just as good as cologne: deodorant, hair styling products, lotion, the soap they used, aftershave, etc... It's not so much that you have to be perfect, it's just having the confidence to have any style at all and try to look your best to impress a future…
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:14 PM
1

You guys are looking at this wrong. She is certainly telling you how she could be seduced as an individual. These are not secrets though, this is common knowledge. Your flirting will get you further and you will be noticed if you can just get basic hygiene down and use your normal speaking voice (doesn't have to be low for either party, just what she likes). Yes, all of these things are basic hygiene standards for adults (men and women). I think this is just a reminder that there are many ways t…
/r/seduction31/01/22 10:03 PM
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If your date had any spine at all she would have at least tried to include you in the conversation and made sure you weren't being walled out. The friend was probably jealous and wanted to separate you guys. If the friend had any social awareness or respect for your date at all she would have known you were on a date, been introduced, briefly chatted and then allow you guys to resume your date. Your date was projecting her weakness. I'm glad you didn't stand for it :)
/r/seduction28/01/22 09:19 PM
3

Yes, ask your doctor, but also are you scrubbing everywhere and not just rubbing soap when you shower? Like a washcloth or luffa and/or exfoliating scrubs. Making sure your bedding/clothes/robe are clean too or anything your skin/back comes into contact with could be irritating it. Also could be diet.
/r/seduction28/01/22 09:07 PM
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Please read his replies.
/r/seduction12/01/22 10:43 AM
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lol what's the timeline huh? Ya if your spouse has been depressed for years and they refuse help and won't change anything or even try? How long do you keep trying for? I care greatly about my spouses health and mental health, thanks. AGAIN: he friend zoned himself. HE said she wanted him in the First Place. He wasn't crawling back, She 'slid into his dms.... twice'. ​ needy and clingy and remorseful Where are you seeing this? Did he edit or did I miss comments?
/r/seduction09/01/22 01:24 PM
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Again, he clearly states that he friend zoned himself. From my side I didn’t even talk about anything sexual.
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:17 AM
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Yes, this is why a lot of marriages fail. Mostly it’s when people get depressed & don’t even try to help themselves. He dug himself out of his rut, he can do it again if something happens. He said she liked him at his worst and then slid into dms at his best. She liked both versions. Maybe she would have liked to date his new version, but he wanted to revenge ignore her.
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:10 AM
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Of course she’s not entitled to his time, but in her eyes they were probably friends and now that he got healthy (mind & body) she initiated. She wasn’t acting entitled, she might have been interested in meeting the new version. Honestly kind of rude for him to ignore her. At the very least he could have said he used to like her, but thinks dating coworkers is a bad idea. Probably just felt good for him to leave her on read.
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:01 AM
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So you’re saying she liked you in your unhealthy & new healthy state, but now your excuse is that you work together and you shouldn’t date coworkers. I feel like if you were able to get your physique back, get off meds and gain confidence, there would be no way a bad taste would hang around. You put her on your radar in the first place even though she was a coworker lol
/r/seduction07/01/22 09:53 AM
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-She started using me for attention texting me throught the week and going silent at the weekend - I friendzoned myself - I resented her because I feel she used me for validation and attention in my darkest times Was she leaving you on read all weekend or she just didn't converse with you because she was out living her life? How is she supposed to know that was the darkest time of your life? She might have thought you were just being friendly and wasn't attracted to you in your unhealthy state. …
/r/seduction06/01/22 09:22 AM
3

So she hasn't offered to buy anything for you :/ Well at least you can enjoy yourselves for free :)
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:16 AM
1

Of course the amounts you've spent matter because if you total it up and realize she's using you it will seem like a lot. I think you should ask her why she's not ready. There could be something else going on in her life or past experiences that have made her take things slow. None of us are her, and we cannot decide what is right for you. If the money doesn't bug you, don't even bring it up or make it an issue (like how you brought it into this post). Focus on your goals and timeline with her a…
/r/seduction04/01/22 10:13 AM
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Have you two ever even been on a date/outing where you didn't spend any money? Has she ever offered to pay for anything? If the only thing that makes her happy is you spending money on her, then you might need to rethink things.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:55 AM
0

I don't understand, are you both traveling together and you're paying for everything or you are travelling to her because she can't travel to you? How much money have you spent and on what things? If you're both financially set why do you need to spend so much on her?
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:50 AM
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If you’ve talked before & your both excited to meet, go for the hug!
/r/seduction16/11/21 11:27 PM
2

Very true.
/r/seduction16/11/21 07:27 AM
4

No, she’ll think he has no confidence.
/r/seduction16/11/21 07:26 AM
6

Everyone has their own pace, some guys are like this their whole life. College/after high school is where a lot of people learn who they really are and blossom into better versions of themselves :)
/r/seduction16/11/21 07:25 AM
3

It’s not what you said or even how you said it, it’s the fact that you looked down afterwards. Next time look her in the eye while saying hey and then keep looking ahead/up. You did make it weird, but everyone gets nervous sometimes. Just keep your head up next time :)
/r/seduction16/11/21 07:21 AM
7

GO FOR IT :D ask him!
/r/seduction20/10/21 06:32 AM
2

Honestly sounds like she's using you until something better comes along. I'm sorry :c See how she responds to only doing free things with you that are fun or say you're trying to save up for something big and if she wouldn't mind going halves-ies lol then you'll find out her true motive and if she actually wants to be with you doing fun things or she just wants a walking atm.
/r/seduction21/09/21 04:50 PM
1

If you’re not ‘fat, poor or dirty’, maybe you just need a makeover or something? Enhance your assets etc... get a new look, hair cut or skin care routine. Sounds like you might be a social butterfly, but you have no where to fly to (like why you got a room mate). If you don’t like social media, there are other places to be social in person :)
/r/seduction12/09/21 04:27 PM
3

Shit that’s true :/ I’m sorry
/r/seduction03/09/21 07:24 AM
8

Lots of us have a million thoughts going through our heads including trying not to look interested so WE don’t seem interested & get rejected XD also some of us make bored faces or have resting bitch face while thinking/spacing out etc... At least flash a smile, see if they smile back.
/r/seduction03/09/21 07:18 AM
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Those are part of it, but it’s not going to hurt you to say ‘hey’ to a stranger. People do it all the time. You might have body dysmorphia, maybe get a mental check or something? You’re a good looking guy. Are you good with small talk or introduction talk if they seem interested?
/r/seduction03/09/21 06:49 AM
18

This is a really great strat. " Just go with the flow, lower the expectation, keep it engaging and relaxing at the same."
/r/seduction21/08/21 09:23 PM
2

You don’t care for friends which means you don’t want to be friends with a girl, so you’re looking for a prostitute? If you don’t know how to make friends and prefer not to have any, that’s a red flag to women that you’re not in a good head space for any kind of relationship at all. Why do you refuse the friendship of others? Along with working on your looks & finances, you should check your mental health & find a solid therapist. You don’t have to drink alcohol at a bar/club, tip the bartender …
/r/seduction11/08/21 08:51 PM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction30/06/21 05:15 PM
1

It’s a tough decision, but I think you mentioned you don’t love or can’t see yourself loving the younger one. To me this sounds like if you force it, you know it’s not going to work & you’d just be using her to feel like you’re in a ‘healthy relationship’ for once? After reading all of this, I think the best choice would be to test out first obsession girl. Might not last long, but you wouldn’t have any regrets & younger girl would most likely still be there for you after ( or not, idk). Then sh…
/r/seduction31/05/21 11:37 PM
1

She ‘sparks joy’ more than the younger one... who do you feel has more confidence? Maybe you can’t get yourself to love the younger one because you’re so similar & there’s nothing new?
/r/seduction31/05/21 11:22 PM
2

So the more attractive one that checks more boxes, you don’t even love because she gets annoying or talks too much or what? No mental stimulation meaning she’s uneducated and why do you feel you need space from here (frequently)? Is she boring, does she have any passion for hobbies or a future career? Is she going to school for anything?
/r/seduction31/05/21 11:17 PM
1

Honestly I feel like you’d be settling if you chose either of them for a long term relationship. If your heart can handle picking one now & keeping it string-free, until you meet someone that checks all of your boxes. Or you drop them both in search of the next one while continuing to improve your mental health etc... Although settling is a strong word, you have to realize that no one is going to check every box. You just have to find out what boxes/flaws you can live with/out :)
/r/seduction31/05/21 11:11 PM
2

Being tough and 'secure' is manly, I wouldn't say bad boy behavior. What do you think you have in common with a 'bad boy'? Just curious :)
/r/seduction08/05/21 09:20 PM
1

Doing all of that for a casual 1 time hookup is a lot just to get turned down, but doing all of that for a person you’re in love with & are nurturing a relationship with is different & you should probably have a serious talk with them. Also I don’t recommend dating women/people who don’t want to actively participate in the bedroom & just ‘ lay there’. Both of you should put in effort to make the other happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 04:05 PM
1

Glad you said ex.
/r/seduction19/04/21 05:30 PM
2

Sounds like a playful punch though
/r/seduction18/04/21 09:35 PM
2

Relating to things/people you think are good for you, yes :)
/r/seduction10/04/21 10:45 PM
7

I don’t think it has to be conflict, just having your own opinions is enough (conflict is a very strong word). Be able to disagree & back up your opinions without getting mad. Disagreeing for the purpose of being edgy is also a bad path. We like to know that you have a backbone and won’t melt all over us with apologies if it isn’t smooth sailing. On the flip, women should stand up for themselves too & not just be agreeable. And if there’s a disagreement & there’s a clear right/wrong, saying you …
/r/seduction09/04/21 03:39 PM
1

I don't understand why you feel bitter. Are there things you aren't explaining here? Not sure I get what's ironic. Help me help you
/r/seduction21/03/21 08:01 AM
4

Are you saying this because he mentioned low libido?
/r/seduction22/02/21 08:19 PM
1

Teasing back and forth on the same level of humor is always fun. When someone takes it further then the other expects, it can get into a weird zone. Also if you can't take being teased back, don't start. Had an online friend that would joke around/tease me sometimes, but when I joked back he would get louder and more defensive in his tone and try to tease harder. It would shut everyone down. I would msg him, 'you good bro?' and he would fake laugh really hard and say 'DUH of course I'm joking'. …
/r/seduction15/01/21 08:51 PM
1

lol yw You are worth it to make sure you actually like them too ;)
/r/seduction11/01/21 02:16 AM
2

Love this response!
/r/seduction11/01/21 01:19 AM
2

Dude, you are comparing drug use/dealing to sex, that's fucked up
/r/seduction11/01/21 01:14 AM
3

Sorry you got down-voted for this, I think modidlee might think that sex is for after marriage only.... I completely agree with you though. Men and women should be able to have casual & consensual sex whenever they want. That's part of the fun of being an adult. It also lets you figure out what kind of person you're compatible with and helps you identify what you are looking for in a future mate/spouse/relationship.
/r/seduction11/01/21 01:10 AM
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I think that's a little harsh and I can hear your anger from a mile away ( perhaps this has happened to you?). He's just a dude trying to get some and find a nicer way to break it off so that he can move on to the next one. He may or may not find a ltr, but by this point in his life if he's never had a single ltr, there may be an internal struggle or mental stability issue going on. It's also ok for people to just play the game their whole life. Not everyone is/wants to be relationship material.…
/r/seduction11/01/21 12:53 AM
1

What kind of effort do put in to get higher quality girls and what do you consider higher quality? Like hotter, smarter and more independent?
/r/seduction11/01/21 12:40 AM
6

Are you saying that you are only interested in sex with them the first time you meet them, but because you don't want to offend them, you continue going on dates? This doesn't really align with your previous point about eventually wanting a ltr. If every encounter you start up, you treat as a 'this could eventually be a ltr' situation, you wouldn't want to push for sex on the first or even second date. Maybe you aren't giving enough time to get to know each other first? Maybe you are rushing thi…
/r/seduction11/01/21 12:36 AM
4

If you're being upfront about traveling for work and that you don't want anything serious, then it's on them for getting upset when you leave. You're just young and having a good time. Just try to be more aware of red flags from crazy ones that want to trap you and possibly avoid leading them on. I don't think you need to be more of an asshole, just maybe choose more wisely?
/r/seduction11/01/21 12:10 AM
1

Of course my response isn't 100% accurate XD I don't know you and I'm just giving my opinion as well as asking a bunch of questions because I'm trying to figure it out. There's just no way to improve on making it better. There's really no nice way to dump someone. It's about timing though. I would recommend ending it as soon as you feel you're not interested anymore. Dragging it on for longer (if it's not for sex or for not being alone, I'm not sure why you are dragging them on) will make it mor…
/r/seduction11/01/21 12:03 AM
2

Now that you realize what you are doing you can find ways to change and improve. Good luck!
/r/seduction10/01/21 11:30 PM
1

Eventually I do want a long term relationship Eventually you do, but you don't now? Or you just haven't found the right woman yet and it's hard for you to initiate break ups? Sounds like you're leading them on from the start by not being upfront about wanting to keep it casual (no ltr). If you're not talking about it then women are going to assume you actually want a ltr. Of course they are going to get attached after sex, it's an intimate thing for most people. Looks like you lead them on for w…
/r/seduction10/01/21 09:48 PM
2

I think so many people do this to fit in. Many people don't even find out who they really are as a person until later on in life.
/r/seduction22/12/20 07:20 PM
15

People like to be prioritized that way. It feels nice :) I think most would appreciate this though.
/r/seduction22/12/20 07:16 PM
4

If you're not kissing/making out with your spouse/SO anymore, you should just initiate it. I'm pretty sure most people of any age would get excited. Don't let it fade and open up those dang teeth :}
/r/seduction05/12/20 07:42 PM
1

oh ok
/r/seduction04/12/20 11:27 PM
1

I don't understand why you treat sex like a very shallow and trivial thing... doesn't matter who they are it's going to be like that or just one night stands?
/r/seduction04/12/20 06:51 PM
40

Yes felt fake
/r/seduction06/11/20 07:26 AM
1

If you think you have Asberger's syndrome or are on the spectrum at all, there are lots of people that can help (possibly start with your doctor and getting properly diagnosed). You should watch 'Love on the Spectrum' on Netflix ( I cried on like every episode, it's such a great show!!!). There's no reason you can't find love too :) You might just need to adjust your expectations and start getting some practice in with women of any age/size/attractiveness -- it doesn't mean you have to stay with…
/r/seduction05/11/20 09:14 PM
5

Well then you have your answer. Don't change a thing. ... so now that makes me wonder why you even posted this if not just to brag :) Clearly you don't need help and you don't intend to change anyways
/r/seduction05/10/20 11:49 PM
3

You might have unique foreplay methods and maybe that's the divide between the ones that stop and the ones where you get laid. Sounds like you're good with the act though if they come back for more :) It is known lol To decrease your rate of stops, maybe try out some new methods?
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:02 PM
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This just validates what women already know and that's why we make you wait and chase us sometimes. For both sexes, waiting a little before sleeping together can mean that you respect them more and want to put more effort into it. Sometimes it can mean that you're more serious and there's a possibility of connecting on more than just a surface level. But yes, people are not reading your situation/question correctly XD You should see if there's a pattern in your foreplay methods. Maybe you do som…
/r/seduction05/10/20 09:56 PM
1

All you have to do is say the classic movie line: Hey, I get off work at ______....... It'll let him know you're not just being nice because you work there and give him a chance to converse not in the coffee shop (where his friend/owner/coworkers will see). But ya drop your phone number to him too. Most people in the service industry don't do that on the regular XD he should get the hint!
/r/seduction22/07/20 09:14 PM
2

YEEEEESSS!
/r/seduction17/07/20 08:47 PM
2

I have heard rumors that they are a little more closed off, yes, but that doesn't mean you have to be :) This might also be something you can google too - tons of advice out there and Many people like giving advice. Also give a little background info on yourself might help your cause. People will empathize and see where you're coming from. Or give an example of what you do and people can give advice on how to improve the next interaction.
/r/seduction17/07/20 08:46 PM
1

Agree. 100%. Do this.
/r/seduction16/07/20 08:43 PM
5

You should try pushing yourself more. If it's hard for you to say hi to strangers, start there. Practice at a store or something. Look your cashier in the eye and say hey hows it going. Just start anywhere really. You have to build from the ground up. The more people you interact with and converse with, the easier it will be. Even smaller starting point is just smiling directly at people or just making eye contact (not sure how confident you are). Once you can easily make small talk with random …
/r/seduction16/07/20 08:41 PM
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Am a woman. THIS is the best comment I've seen yet! Also want to add body language can say a LOT! Smiling, winking, making her laugh (bonus if you can do it without saying anything) and having a common sense of humor will make things effortless.
/r/seduction16/07/20 08:30 PM
2

;D
/r/seduction15/05/20 06:07 PM
5

Sounds a little like you are bored of talking to her. Like you aren't connecting on a personal level, just attracted to each other. If you don't feel compelled to converse, maybe you are not as interested in her as you thought?
/r/seduction15/05/20 05:35 PM
2

That's a great method, really intuitive :) How do the video chats go? Do you find it's easier or harder than going on a real date?
/r/seduction29/04/20 11:47 PM
1

Well said.
/r/seduction16/04/20 01:49 AM
1

What's your success rate for the men you coach and what do you define as success?
/r/seduction25/03/20 03:10 AM
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