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| 46 | How The Church Set Us Up For Relationship Dysfunction (FDS PODCAST EP. 78)Even Wicca is kind of dubious...lots of men using "sex positivity/Great Rite" to get young women to sleep with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/22 11:30 PM |
| 23 | All of my commitment-phobic exes…If a guy is planning on being childfree, it's pretty easy to get snipped. Kinda sounds like they're not as childfree as they thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 10:33 PM |
| 48 | epidemic of women buying homes or trying for a baby with no ringNot an option for a lot of women - sometimes they come from parents who were even worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 10:56 PM |
| 12 | He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a childIf he's not willing to help her by getting legally married, she is smart to be covering her ass by asking for that money up front. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Never EVER share financial information with a man. It starts with $20 now but can easily escalate to much more over the years. Come across the wrong one and they will absolutely destroy you financially.For a moment I wondered if we'd gone to the same coffee shop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 05:52 PM |
| 9 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?Some people are just built that way. I had almost identical waist/hip measurements in high school (late 1990's). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:02 AM |
| 17 | The things I had to freaking hear.Did you date my ex? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 06:51 PM |
| 38 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateI took night classes at my local community college and all my classmates were non-traditional students. A couple of them regularly brought their (older) kids with the permission of the instructor, they'd do their own homework or quietly watch the lectures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:37 PM |
| 4 | Looking the same after babiesI knew an anorexic woman who didn't eat enough throughout her pregnancy. Kid spent months in NICU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 11:13 PM |
| 5 | I just waited around to protect my lash technician from a creepy client.Nope, he's not. Huge fucking creep. But the only media sources that were reporting on it were either rabidly right-wing or radfem sources like Feminist Current. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 05:10 PM |
| 3 | NVM Ben Affleck blaming drinking problem on his marriage to Jennifer GarnerYup. See his role in "Mallrats" for example. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:46 PM |
| 32 | Duggar pedo scrote found guiltyThe DuggarsSnark sub has been having a field day with this case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 11:15 PM |
| 36 | Sex work is not a "pure" service job like being a barista or a maid, it is undergirded by the commodification of the female body. Women are viewed and treated like goods.YES you literally have people (both men and women) claiming to be full-blown communists while supporting sex work like what?! The notion that "there is no ethical consumption under capitalism" apparently doesn't apply to women's bodies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 10:54 PM |
| 6 | Famous HMV?Gilbert from the CBC series "Anne of Green Gables". Or, for that matter, from the Netflix adaptation "Anne With an E". Or Matthew Cuthbert. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Famous HMV?Yes - this series is excellent! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:00 PM |
| 16 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.In my experience, this is not uncommon when someone is a HVM but there's no chemistry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:17 AM |
| 8 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.feelings changing into more of a brother/sister type relationship (odd, I know, but it happens lol I don't think this is as odd as you think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:08 AM |
| 117 | Religion is by men, for menBe careful in pagan/occult groups, the men there can be just as toxic as in Christianity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 03:57 AM |
| 8 | Scrotes will be scrotes. NEVER move in with a boyfriend."I don't need to be with you. Yes, I could pack up and leave anytime. I choose and decide to be with you every single day I am here." That's love. Not having to stay in a dead or abusive marriage/relationship because you cannot afford to leave. A HVM will acknowledge this reality and make sure his spouse has what she needs to do that if need be (i.e., supporting her going back to school so she can get a better paying job). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Polyamory and the normalization of dissatisfactionHonestly even a lot of poly people I've met are like "yeah, I still ID as poly but damn if the vast majority of them aren't gross AF". Also, obligatory: https://youtu.be/DTsdKycVZZ4 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:38 PM |
| 16 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.You likely work with at least one poly person. If you're in the PNW, there are probably a few :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:57 PM |
| 11 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.What's your profession? (if it's tech or tech-adjacent, you probably are) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:56 PM |
| 26 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.There was a really good thread on AskReddit where people were being brutally honest about the downsides. I think it was about people who grew up with poly parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 10:48 PM |
| 3 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:Lost? Nah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:32 PM |
| 11 | Hotels in Turkey are banning men from staying without women because "they're harassing girls to try and hook up with"Apparently a lot of swingers' clubs have this policy too, but I doubt it really helps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 10:55 PM |
| 13 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingCould be a regional thing - there are definitely parts of the U.S. where 50k can buy a life that costs 75k+ elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:03 PM |
| 9 | I can’t stand the older generation of pick-mes that made men so damn entitled.I was thinking "Dolores Claiborne". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 10:48 PM |
| 24 | I can’t stand the older generation of pick-mes that made men so damn entitled.That's almost exactly why it won't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 10:43 PM |
| 37 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyAny guy with a bidet gets bonus points from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:20 PM |
| 6 | OopsDoes the same apply to women in cohabiting relationships, or is there something about marriage that turns men into babies? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 06:12 PM |
| 7 | OopsIsn't that portrayed in "Marvelous Mrs. Maisel"? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Men want traditional women until its time for them to be traditional men and be providers.Been trying over a year now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Men want traditional women until its time for them to be traditional men and be providers.Living this right now :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 08:28 PM |
| 2 | I said what I said. Stay mad.You're not wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.In my case, they're strictly 21+. Not sure why, but liquor laws are kinda weird and it might be because there's no physical barrier between the bar and the seating area. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:58 PM |
| 5 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.I've been to some good, non-chain restaurants in the price range of Cheesecake Factory that don't allow minors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:23 PM |
| 2 | Pick me makes sure to give her credit card to her boyfriend so it can look like he payed. I hate this.I think (and this may vary by region), it would mean entrees in the $30-60 range. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:22 PM |
| 26 | What do you ladies think?Wait - self defense classes are illegal? Does that include martial arts? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 10:14 PM |
| 3 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.Sometimes credit card companies will have a "no interest for the first X months" special. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.How much do you need to get your car back? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:46 PM |
| 33 | What progress and solidarity looks like.I had an ex praise me for being "low maintenance". I didn't realize in those days it was code for "I can take you for granted and still get sex." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 07:27 PM |
| 15 | All it takes is attention to detailAs someone married to a HVM, the congratulations over my wedding were considerably greater than when I finished college. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 26 | The ✨Perfect✨ WomanMore specifically, Ron Swanson. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 05:41 PM |
| 2 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Belle_Delphine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:47 AM |
| 4 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.That's some post-modern bullshit if I ever heard it... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:44 AM |
| 8 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.I encountered this shit in a Pagan community. There was an "elder" there who was notorious for his attraction to young (18-23, he was around 40) women. He had started grooming and pursuing a 16 year old and the rest of the community turned a blind eye to it...because they didn't have sex until she was 18. Never mind that she'd never so much as had a boyfriend before and was extremely sheltered - the fact that she was legal meant there was "nothing wrong with it" and I should "mind my own busines… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:41 AM |
| 3 | “It’s fine if she’s legal.” This is so problematic.Yup. Guys, if you knew a girl before she turned 18 (and you're long past that point) you should probably always think of her as a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Oh really? Hmm.. you don’t say?That's something I love about British television - actors and actresses don't have to be conventionally attractive at all, there are plenty that Hollywood would have never given a second look to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 10:16 PM |
| 10 | Love a good roast.If I had any kind of decent relationship with either of my parents, I probably would. But doing that would be the worst thing I could do for my mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Don't reward the bare minimum.I remember my mom wishing at one point her ex would hit one of us, because it would be easier to justify divorcing him. Because apparently years of verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse weren't enough :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:30 PM |
| 3 | YupThis is why I took the animals when my ex and I split. He was really bad about keeping litter boxes clean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:05 PM |
| 3 | YupYeah, my guy friends keep their houses pretty clean also. Some have things like lots of plants or bookshelves, or clutter along the lines of stacks of paper - but nothing that constitutes outright filth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:03 PM |
| 9 | Say it louder for these predatory men! 👏🏼 👏🏼I'm surprised your school allowed that - mine wouldn't allow any guests who were 21+. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 09:59 PM |
| 10 | She really predicted the future ...Makes sense. If you're in a situation where you need a 2nd income just to be able to afford some shitty-ass apartment in a bad neighborhood, you'll put up with more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 11:40 PM |
| 8 | She really predicted the future ...Also, less fear (supposedly) of going to the police when assaulted by a john, since you don't run the risk of being arrested for prostitution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 11:36 PM |
| 1 | I am losing faith in this society. I can't believe we are in 2020 and people still think like this.As someone who was sexually harassed at 15 by a family member (and had my own stepfather use that same excuse, that I should have been 'flattered' because who else would be interested in my 'fat' 120lb self), I really want to hit this judge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 06:18 PM |
| 3 | I got you, babe.Thank you - I have no objection to people drinking, but when you get to a point where other people have to make sure you're not going to hurt yourself or others it's gone too far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 06:41 AM |
| 1 | I got you, babe.Yeah, same in my city. I think it's pretty common? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 03:45 AM |
| 2 | If a man tells you that you can do better - BELIEVE HIM.Ugh, my ex would pull all sorts of self-pitying crap. I thought that if I left I'd be the bad guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:48 PM |
| 3 | I can't imagine how this will go down 😂I'm not in NE but can you PM me if there's anything similar in the PNW? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:52 PM |
| 15 | No one wants your used up Cheeto chodeIn my experience it tends to be in the 17-20 age range though I've known some that were a bit older because they wanted to wait until they were in established relationships. The ones that lost it earlier in life were more likely to have seen it as a badge of shame and were more prone to wanting casual sex instead of healthy relationships. And no, not having someone interested in you by 16 is not a badge of shame. Children have no business dating, middle school and high school should be about lea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:25 PM |
| 2 | This is too realMe too. Family annihilators are the worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 4 | The term “gold digger” is men projecting their own scavenging ways onto womenAlso - I discovered if you offer a HVM a pre-nup before marriage, he'll refuse and say he doesn't think it's necessary (I did this because my spouse had way more money and earning potential than I did). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:46 PM |
| 7 | The term “gold digger” is men projecting their own scavenging ways onto womenIt's funny how the term "gold digger" is gendered, I've literally had LVM dump me for women who came from better-off families when they learned that I actually didn't come from money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:40 PM |
| 1 | An LVM date wet dreamYeah - I mean, the idea of dressing up in formalwear to go somewhere fancy is just super stressful to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:30 AM |
| 6 | Men know men are trash and that’s why they’re so overprotective of their hypothetical daughters.He'd basically cut her off/kick her out if she didn't give permission now that she's an adult. It's really sad how that kind of abuse/control can warp a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 05:11 AM |
| 4 | Fun fact really sad factIt also depends on what kind of relationship you have with whoever would be your legal next of kin (if unmarried, it would be your parents unless they're deceased, then siblings). If you trust that your family would act in your best interests if you were incapacitated, there's not much need to marry (spouse becomes NoK automatically). If you trust your partner more than your family, marriage would ensure he's the one with legal authority to act on your behalf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 06:54 PM |
| 2 | “I pReFeR gIrLs WiThOuT mAkEUp”I don't necessarily read it as a male pick-me as much as a different level of shaming. Chances are, the "not wearing makeup" girl they're admiring is wearing at least some makeup. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 05:11 AM |
| 2 | Leave 👏 those 👏 girls 👏 alone 👏Same here, no one above 20 was allowed at any school dances, on or off campus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:12 AM |
| 1 | Leave 👏 those 👏 girls 👏 alone 👏...did we go to the same HS? I know a couple years before I started there was a choir teacher that started dating a student when she was 18 (and hadn't graduated yet). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:12 AM |
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