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Field ReportCoffeeandMJ/r/seduction21/04/24 03:48 PM
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Field ReportCoffeeandMJ/r/seduction22/04/24 05:02 PM
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LifestyleCoffeeandMJ/r/seduction24/04/21 01:13 AM
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Forget how you feel. The only thing that matters is how you make others feel. Which you have no control over. So ultimately, forget that too. Focus on being who you enjoy being, and let the people who enjoy that version of you reveal themselves. The rest will fall away and that’s a good thing.
/r/seduction22/05/24 05:51 PM
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It’s good you made the post, but now you need to decide that this is your lowest point and you will only go up from here. You’re almost 30, so don’t worry about the past. Ask yourself who and what kind of man do you want to be at 35 and get to work. Take control of your life and your story starting from this moment.
/r/seduction19/05/24 08:18 PM
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Based on this post, you really are repellent to women. I mean think about it bro and be honest, what woman wants to be with the current version of you? Sleeping with escorts? Really? Have some self respect man! Accept that you don’t know shit. Embrace it. You don’t know how to act around women. It’s ok and there’s strength in that, many men are not taught for various reasons. But have some dignity first guy. You’re in a sad state and making things worse. Full stop, full reversal right now. The i…
/r/seduction19/05/24 03:12 PM
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L take
/r/seduction08/05/24 11:44 PM
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Assuming your girl doesn’t immediately say “this is my boyfriend”? You should definitely not just sit there and watch. But you should absolutely play along. I mean here’s a guy who is trying to get with the girl you’re currently sleeping with. I mean you guys are fucking. A girl who you have likely seen take a shit at some point. The idea that this random stranger could take her from you should be so incredibly hilarious to you and her. If it’s not, there’s something wrong with YOUR relationship…
/r/seduction03/05/24 12:48 AM
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If she’s asking about your tattoos she’s into you. Tell her you can discuss more about IT over dinner and maybe some drinks. Have fun.
/r/seduction02/05/24 08:16 PM
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This is the comment lol
/r/seduction02/05/24 06:32 PM
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Media plays a large role in that. It’s very dangerous to not know how to talk to a woman these days in America. Your entire life or social reputation could be ruined just because you didn’t know or have someone to teach you the right way to do it, and women in mass aren’t particularly being helpful. Most just expect you to know or die alone if you don’t (“just be yourself”). I myself have two students I’m trying to teach but I’m only one guy, so American girls could stand to ease up and be more …
/r/seduction02/05/24 06:30 PM
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Quiet I love my warrior queens absolute freaks in bed as well
/r/seduction02/05/24 05:39 PM
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You will fail. Yeah, it will probably go bad. But you’ll be brave and confident for doing it. So do it anyways. And down the road, when you’ve done it so many times and you’re an absolute legend for it. You’ll see the love of your life, and you won’t be scared at all to approach her. You gotta do the work now, to get the best results later. So get to it.
/r/seduction28/04/24 03:25 PM
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You have to be realistic is all. Not every girl will or should like you. Not every girl will be available. You have to accept that it’s a number game, the more shots you take the more you’ll be successful but you can’t take it personally. Seduction happens once you find the girl who likes you. But you gotta find her first.
/r/seduction27/04/24 12:36 AM
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It’s ok to accept that luck plays a role. Luck is just preparation + opportunity after all. I’ve been lucky, and unlucky many times. There may be many girls that actually like him as is, but they are very very rare and it will be hard to cross paths with them. That’s why he has to keep going despite the rejection. That one time you didn’t go might have been the time you won.
/r/seduction27/04/24 12:23 AM
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Logically, how many women in your life time do you think you’re supposed to be with? The moral answer as we all know is 1, but let’s say for your self confidence, 5-10. Now if you’ve already hit the number disregard this message because you’re already way luckier than most. If you haven’t yet, you need to look at your age and think about how much time you have to get this part of your life right. I humbly suggest that you take up a hobby OP. That way you can learn, to get good at anything you’re…
/r/seduction26/04/24 01:59 PM
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10 years of communication study, you dable in written communication as well lol
/r/seduction23/04/24 03:10 AM
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Haha wait for part 2 :D
/r/seduction21/04/24 09:20 PM
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Lol social circle game might work better for your situation, which basically means you become “king” of your friend group and attract a partner(s) that way. Maybe I’ll make a guide at some point.
/r/seduction21/04/24 07:04 PM
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Oh hey dude just recognized your user name Definitely depends on the type of club, and location. I live in a pretty well known city in America, but this is not even the best Latin Club I’ve been to. Latin clubs are definitely the best for dancing though, hands down.
/r/seduction21/04/24 06:28 PM
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Yeah, definitely one of those things you have to do to get better at. Luckily when you go to a club you can just look around at what others are doing and just copy them. Literally no one will notice lol. If you see a guy surrounded by a group of girls, might be worth picking up a few notes haha
/r/seduction21/04/24 06:05 PM
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Yeah that’s true kind of. The problem I’ve always had with peacocking as it was back in the day is it’s way too flashy and try hard imo. Much better to do the inner work to figure out what natural vibe you really want to give off and put it into your style, your walk, tone, etc. I had nothing weird on, just things I liked and also worked well together coordination wise. After that you just walk around normally with your vibe on display and let the law of attraction do its thing. The people that …
/r/seduction21/04/24 06:03 PM
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Thanks, part 2 later tonight.
/r/seduction21/04/24 05:53 PM
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Not really the point but ok
/r/seduction20/04/24 02:38 PM
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Time is ticking bro. Before you know it you’ll be 30 and have much less options to choose from. Don’t waste your early 20s anymore get out there
/r/seduction20/04/24 01:35 PM
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Very good. Keep us Updated.
/r/seduction19/04/24 12:34 AM
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Sure go for it.
/r/seduction16/04/24 04:14 PM
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Grinding? Wdym?
/r/seduction16/04/24 04:05 PM
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You have to actually go and try it out. Yup that’s right. Go out and see how it feels. Think about it scientifically and go do the work. You’ll figure out what works and doesn’t work for you.
/r/seduction16/04/24 02:53 PM
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It’s a hook up thing. You already know what type of girl this is. How many “friends” do you think she has? If you were to date her, would all these friends magically disappear from her phone? Let’s be for real.
/r/seduction16/04/24 01:37 PM
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Mhmm game recognizes game
/r/seduction16/04/24 01:29 PM
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Do the math, how many texts did she send out to try and see who bites
/r/seduction16/04/24 01:15 PM
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Honestly just google pick up, there’s always someone teaching. You have to learn what’s good and what’s not good on your own. You can make guy friends in your city and talk about it(women talk about dating literally all the time) Eventually you’ll get comfortable enough to start dating and experimenting on your own. It’s like learning to ride a bike with training wheels. Just don’t pay out the ass to do it, like some expensive course or some shit. Old RSD was notorious for that. It’s training wh…
/r/seduction16/04/24 09:21 AM
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Learned pick up 10 years ago. Went from virgin to a body count I’ve lost track of. Don’t listen to this dude learn your shit.
/r/seduction16/04/24 04:15 AM
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That’s why I didn’t tell him to try and spit game, which he clearly won’t have. He has to just try and be friendly. You can’t be rejected from being a friendly fun guy lol that’s what you’re supposed to do at clubs. His best chance as a beginner is for a girl to think he’s cute and fun and dance with him or even maybe want to take him home. If you have as much club experience as me then you know it’s possible but he should definitely not try to spit any kind of game or he’s going to be rejected …
/r/seduction15/04/24 07:20 PM
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I mean, you expect to hold eye contact with your girlfriend right? Or wife down the road? I mean I’d say it’s pretty important to start that now.
/r/seduction15/04/24 05:00 PM
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lol believe it or not I’m being incredibly realistic. I have 10 years of club experience. You don’t find the girl, the girl finds you. If you make a “friend” you could have a friend for the night. Keep that in mind.
/r/seduction15/04/24 02:17 PM
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Men are easy lol. Dress cute, not like you’re trying too hard, and be very nice. Maybe invite him over sometime. It’s usually a yes or no from us, and we just need to know it’s ok/won’t be any repercussions. Be aware that a guy that young could be a virgin too, so if you take it from that angle you can hopefully see how you’ll want to approach a potential hook up.
/r/seduction15/04/24 02:14 PM
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Gtfo
/r/seduction15/04/24 02:03 PM
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Yeah just go, have a drink, and join the crowd of men who just stand there outside the dance floor watching instead of dancing. Focus on making friends, tell everyone it’s your first time in a club(specifically women), keep an open mind, and you’ll see the magic happen. Good luck.
/r/seduction15/04/24 01:56 PM
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Bro lesbians are a fuckin menace lol they’re basically dudes in disguise. Time for you to put your chest out and get your girl. The term “Alpha Male” gets a bad rap these days but in this situation assume the girl you’re talking to wants to be around you and not them. Take charge and put yourself in situations that allow you and the girl do what y’all want to do. Don’t let them get in the way of that and if they do, try to make it like an inside joke between you and the girl know what I’m saying…
/r/seduction13/04/24 09:06 PM
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I mean if I’m honest bro women talk. They probably already know you and her are talking. They might think you’re a “lil bitch” if you’re NOT trying to get close to the girl you’re talking to know what I mean? I don’t mean that offensively btw, it’s just reality. Just don’t be a “lil bitch” and they’ll respect you and what you’re trying to do. As long as they’re not cockblocking or anything you shouldn’t have to worry.
/r/seduction13/04/24 08:54 PM
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Yeah your post was vague to say the least lol A recent go to move of mine is to let your legs touch when sitting next to each other. Then every so often touch her leg during conversation and see how she reacts. The whole point is you’re trying to touch her as if she were your girlfriend. You wouldn’t be scared to put your arm around your girlfriend right? Just work your way up to it, see if she’s ok with it, then progress. That’s the “escalation” part.
/r/seduction13/04/24 08:44 PM
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Think of it this way. Friends touch each other, right? Then touch her in a friendly way. If she touches you back/doesn’t recoil in horror, she’s ok with it. From there you just have to experiment with touches that would go beyond just friends, but note it’s only going to go well if she likes you. If she doesn’t and she says stop, you’ll have your answer.
/r/seduction13/04/24 08:38 PM
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Bro the girl will choose who she likes best so shoot your shot and let the chips fall where they may ain’t that complicated.
/r/seduction09/04/24 08:29 PM
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Why do you care what racists think? Date who is attractive to you regardless of the skin color. Also I’ll tell you from experience the “eyes” phenomenon is location based. Wherever you are might tend to be more racist/segregated but from experience more liberal places (like California in the U.S and probably New York by the same logic) don’t care and actually celebrate it if anything. Not sure where that would be in Canada.
/r/seduction09/04/24 01:18 PM
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You’re wrong, I know the magic place to meet women, but I won’t tell you.
/r/seduction02/04/24 04:41 PM
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Since you already know the simple answer is to stop giving a f**k...let me break it down how you get there You could easily sleep with 100+ women right now. But im guessing you want "attractive" women. Luckily attractive is subjective and different for every person, so we'll generalize. Let's say you're aiming for "girls with options". The obvious answer is to be the best option she has when you meet the her for the first time. This means that you either: A: Work on yourself so that you are cons…
/r/seduction18/10/21 04:05 PM
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Make sure you actually do things of Value and mention them when they come up in conversation. She should be asking these things if she's interested.
/r/seduction13/10/21 07:04 AM
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Just be your best self. Truth is you may be attracted to her, but she may not be interested in you. So by putting your best foot out there and being confident about your life, you'll give her the best chance to find things she likes about you. And if she doesn't? Shes looking for something else, no sweat, plenty of attractive girls out there. Work on your physical looks and find out what you like about yourself, then do the things you love. The women will make the moves on you at that point.
/r/seduction30/06/21 07:08 AM
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Yeah, try to make her smile or laugh. It'll be something personal to her. Honestly with DMing you're just rolling the dice and hoping she likes you when she looks at your Instagram profile so make sure your pictures and stuff look really good.
/r/seduction24/04/21 10:37 PM
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No problem! New to the sub but I've been doing this for about 10 years. Excited to share my experience.
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:04 PM
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It's a pet peeve, and against the rules of the forum for a reason. People can decide who 'themselves' are at literally any moment. Telling someone to "just be yourself" in a world full of marketed personalities is disingenuous at best. Men are offered this poor advice at an alarming rate. I will call it out when I see it.
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:46 PM
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Honestly, remember it! Girls aren't dense, they know when you're checking them out(And it sounds like you were being pretty obvious haha). This was her telling you if you had approached her, it probably would have gone well! Don't beat yourself up too much. You'll get to the point where you'll be able to talk to the girls you are interested in. When you get compliments like this, you'll eventually be confident enough to respond, and maybe even carry a conversation. Can you imagine that? Just kee…
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:27 PM
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People are not always raised in perfect communities allowing them to practice socially? I'm shocked, not as shocked as you, but somewhere around there. People are genuinely looking for help, pipe down.
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:23 PM
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Women are just flipping the script now days. They'll get the same backlash eventually.
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:49 PM
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It's actually bad. Women aren't even themselves a majority of the time. So why tell guys that?
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:41 PM
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Don't worry, this is just bad advice. I'll break down what happened though. OP neglects to say that he eventually found two girls who found him and his friend attractive and wanted to get to know them. At that point, you can just have a normal conversation since girls want to meet cool guys. 'Flirting' would be just making them laugh by teasing them, and works best if you see girls giving you indications that they're interested in you. It'll take some time to get the hang of it, you just gotta p…
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:36 PM
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Dude had a neck tattoo. He's not anyone on this forum LMAO. I've never seen someone post just to talk to themselves.
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:27 PM
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Since you stated earlier that you're looking for a long-haul partner, I'll answer from that perspective. Low self-esteem can be a huge turn-off to confident guys. For guys looking for a quick bang, they won't care, but there are high-status men who will expect a woman he's dating to be able to converse with his friends and family quite well, attend events, etc. It really all depends on who you're trying to attract.
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:21 PM
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Ah yes, "Be Normal". Tell me this, a man is born into a family of abusive drug addicts. His father beats on him and his mother. His mother often does not come home at night, leaving the boy alone for most of his childhood in his room. How does that boy who now wants to talk to a girl, erhm, be "Normal"? People come from all different backgrounds and upbringings, what's normal to you isn't normal to everyone. You're not giving good or helpful advice at all.
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:08 PM
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Haha very true, different generations different game and all that.
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:03 PM
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Edit: for clarity ​ With the information you've given, I can only say If she's a friend, she should be a friend and that's it. If you know she wants something more from you, you really shouldn't keep her around until you can commit some time to that. Or you can just offer to be fuck buddies and see how that goes, maybe she'll say yes(It'll be complicated and messy and someone will catch feelings, FYI). You have to pick one though.
/r/seduction24/04/21 08:21 AM
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Been doing social circle game for like 2 years now, read a couple of lines and I believe the advice to be mostly solid. Going to print it out and read it and I'll edit my comment.
/r/seduction24/04/21 08:04 AM
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You may be trolling I honestly can't tell at this point haha
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:46 AM
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haha I bet you don't even realize it, but if you've ever gotten any results, I can tell it's because you're an asshole lmao. Clearly, you're not nice to people, at least on the internet.
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:46 AM
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I'm pretty sure we all agreed that keeping someone hanging around JUST INCASE you MAYBE want a relationship with them AT SOME POINT IN THE FUTURE is fucked up whether you are a man or a woman. You're asking how to manipulate a woman to keep her waiting in the wings for 6 months, even though you probably will find someone that you're actually interested in by that time. Just cut her loose and let her live her life so she can find someone who makes her happy right now. Life is short. Don't keep he…
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:37 AM
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Well, that's a take.
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:28 AM
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Read books on likeability. Think of it this way, the human brain is logical, almost robotic. Certain stimuli get certain reactions. Talking in a slow, low voice is going to put people to sleep. It's not that they don't like you, they just don't want to fall asleep talking to you. You're honestly just going to have to keep practicing putting in more energy. That or just find people that really like your voice, (stoners perhaps, who will also talk back to you like they just smoked a couple). (Mayb…
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:25 AM
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Hook up culture is dead rn but its starting to pick back up. But it'll be slow for sure.
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:02 AM
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In the same boat, but let's be honest. You could approach the women, you just don't want to like you said. You may be missing out sure, but that's literally called FOMO for a reason. Just keep living and finding yourself. Feel free to talk to some women along the way while you do it. Maybe you'll really click with someone you like. Just let whatever happens, happen.
/r/seduction24/04/21 07:00 AM
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Yes, go ahead and try that very boring, tired line. Girls love unoriginal men lol
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:50 AM
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I mean you're entitled to your opinion.
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:48 AM
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Sorry, replied to the wrong guy. You're fine you're correcting lol.
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:47 AM
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" And I’m very much an advocate of the “just focus on expressing yourself not engineering a particular outcome” advice. It naturally makes you come across as having less of an agenda and being more spontaneous." I'm sorry this was just funny, but in a good way, haha. Anyways, here's my advice. You are spot-on; What you say doesn't really matter—vibe, delivery, and how you look all go into consideration. I mean, you're asking her to judge whether she would potentially date you or at least hook up…
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:44 AM
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You don't have to be condescending when giving advice.
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:04 AM
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*Uncited Internet percentages on reddit
/r/seduction24/04/21 06:02 AM
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Edit for reclarification: I think this works for some girls, but not all. There are definitely different cultures right now. Some like the chill, stoner vibe. Some like the advice that this forum is giving.
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:59 AM
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That is, actually quite profound. I had the revelation the other day that women are just acting confident like the rest of us. What is often perceived as confidence in my opinion is some combination of aggression and lack of empathy(Think the jock who bullies people and does what he wants). I feel that true confidence comes from living your truth. It's realizing that you get to choose and build the life you want. Failure doesn't matter to you because you know you get knocked down but you'll get …
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:56 AM
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This. 1. The introverts are staying home away from people(all the people that hated being approached anyways) and 2. The Extroverts all have boyfriends/girlfriends because the Pandemic was one big cuffing season. Can't be lonely on the 'Gram ya know. They'll be breaking up shortly after the pandemic is over once they are back at work and have options again.
/r/seduction24/04/21 05:37 AM
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On to the next one. Seriously the only way you get tired of being needy/falling for girls is by getting burned so many times you wise up. That's how everyone else does it, take your licks like everyone else. Look at it this way, you were with one super hot chick, so what's one more? :)
/r/seduction24/04/21 02:17 AM
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Go to the bar/club and make friends with the guys there. Going out to drink/dance/whatever is actually considered a hobby, so the people you are looking for are there.
/r/seduction24/04/21 02:13 AM
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What are your intentions? If she's a friend, speak to her as a friend. Ask her what's up between the two of you. But is she just your friend or your crush? She may be trying to distance herself from you if she's not interested in you that way. Be honest with yourself.
/r/seduction24/04/21 02:10 AM
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Honestly, they're just jelaous. They wish they had your confidence, to go after what you want in life. Most guys are horrible talking to women because they never actually do it/wait for opportunities to be handed to them like work(horrible idea) & school. If you met your soulmate randomly approaching women would you regret it? No? Ok then :)
/r/seduction24/04/21 02:05 AM
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Dude wants his dick sucked. Let him live his life.
/r/seduction24/04/21 02:02 AM
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Ask yourself this question. What do you like about her? What don't you like about her? From your post, it seems like you're aware she's not all that excited to talk to you. Is that a red flag for you? If so, it's ok to treat it like one. How about her not being upfront with how she's feeling about the two of you. Is that something you enjoy? If not, treat it that way. There are things you do not find attractive about this girl, this is your cue to move on. If she comes back and explains herself,…
/r/seduction24/04/21 01:56 AM
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I'll keep my opinion/advice short & simple. I don't think you're ready to talk to/focus on girls yet. When I was your age I was on a forum like this. I got a lot of the advice people are probably going to give you. Here's mine: Build mini-habits to be who you want to be. Instead of focusing on just 'one' girl, can you talk to any girl? Ones you're not attracted to, the ones you are? If not, thinking that there's any way to have a perfect* conversation with a girl you like with no experience is k…
/r/seduction24/04/21 01:45 AM
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I agree with this because you know, you BOTH actually want to fuck each other.
/r/seduction24/04/21 01:28 AM
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Classic case of "Just because you can, doesn't mean you should" imo. Sure you could chase. She may even relent and decide that you deserve a 'chance' to date her. Is her being the prize really the way you want to start a relationship? If it's your thing to be secondary and always trying to impress more power to you of course.
/r/seduction24/04/21 01:28 AM
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