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| 1 | How And When To Escalate.This is why I hate people, tbh. I've navigated multiple relationships, none of which started or ended with sex, and I've given this exact advice to my friends which has ended both negatively and positively. The negatively was that they got rejected or the relationship didn't work out, because they didn't know each other as well as they thought they did. I mean, follow whatever advice you want and I guess run with it. But don't tell me my ideas aren't grounded in reality, because I'm literally ma… | /r/seduction | 22/10/20 05:50 PM |
| 1 | How And When To Escalate.I appreciate the sentiment, even if it was followed by a diminishing statement. Just because ways to communicate existed before speech doesn't automatically make them superior. And while I can see why you feel the way you do; from my experience, asking will get you a lot farther than just "going for it" as you suggested to OP. And the line about the "upper hand" is... One way to look at it, I suppose. But sex is rarely an equal split. Just because you ask for permission to proceed doesn't mean t… | /r/seduction | 22/10/20 05:55 AM |
| 1 | How And When To Escalate.I can agree to it being a pillar, but that doesn't mean it takes any less time to set up. Maybe, and try to stick with me on this idea, just maybe everyone- that's both men and women- everyone could learn to communicate like intelligent human beings. Why rely on signals when you literally have words for communicating what you're thinking and feeling? And yes, I've met a lot of women who actually voice their wants and needs. It's really easy to say, "Hey, I need a hug right now" or "I'm having a … | /r/seduction | 22/10/20 05:25 AM |
| 1 | How And When To Escalate.The context made it sound like they didn't mean just light innocent touching. Like I said previously, holding hands is one thing. But the comment literally said to get the girl alone and only said touch her. That leaves a lot of room for someone to decide what kind of touching they mean. Also, since they literally said only to stop if she's uncomfortable, again, a lot of room for interpretation. But as someone with sensory issues, the idea of someone I don't know that well touching me at all is … | /r/seduction | 21/10/20 10:27 PM |
| 3 | How And When To Escalate.Well, I don't know if you're aware, but in a healthy relationship, sex isn't the most important thing. Yeah, if that's what floats your boat, then you can totally have sex first thing and get to know each other as you go. I'm not saying that isn't feasible. But just touching a woman because you want to is not okay. Telling a guy "just stop if she gets uncomfortable" is not okay. She should not be forced to feel uncomfortable in the first place. And if you respected her and wanted her to be comfo… | /r/seduction | 21/10/20 07:13 PM |
| 2 | How And When To Escalate.This is the worst relationship starting advice I've ever read with my own two eyes. Sex is not a good way to start a long lasting, decent relationship. How are you supposed to know if you're compatible in other areas of life? Hobbies, interests, careers, major life choices, etc. I mean, sure, some successful relationships have started this way, but not everyone is going to get lucky like that. Sure, you can have a relationship built on sex. And for some people, maybe that's what they want. But i… | /r/seduction | 21/10/20 03:54 PM |
| 2 | How And When To Escalate.Have you tried just talking to her? I mean, she might respond positively if you're just honest and tell her that you want to move the friendship into romance. I don't at all recommend following the advice about physical touch. I mean, if we're talking holding hands, sure. But don't touch her anywhere else unless you talk to her first. Even if she's into you, touching her randomly without her consent might make her uncomfortable and that's counterintuitive to what you want. | /r/seduction | 21/10/20 03:47 PM |
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