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Unfortunately I think this may be true for HVM too. Just a question of timing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 11:25 PM
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My own sister lied about her age repeatedly on OLD profiles. Made herself up to 10! years younger as otherwise 'only old guys' would contact her. Then was deeoly disappointed when the most interesting guy was mad at her and broke off contact when he found out . So don't. You do not want them to lie, do not lie yourself. If those guys only look for younger women, I told her they would be wrong anyway. By the way, she also kept quiet about her alcoholism of 40 years, even AFTER meeting the guys. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:53 PM
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62 here. I do not believe in it. Attraction yes. When I met ny husband he was physically exactly my type. Dark, veeeery tall, veeery broad-shouldered. Strong face. Type lumberjack. Mixture of Tom Selleck and Omar Sharif with more muscles. Yummy. I also saw he was kinda shy, had warm and friendly eyes, good manners, veeery protective and caring as it was icy outside and he took good care of me. I also knew that he was an engineer and no bigmouth. So far I knew from this first evening and all of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:39 PM
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😅🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 11:56 AM
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Yes they don't offer what men did then. My husband was the provider. No dithering, just working for his family. He shouldered responsibility and never wavered. Was my safe haven, my rock in times of crisis until his strokes. I do not see that most young men now, even the 40 years old, offer the same stability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 09:42 PM
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Engineering in general is still very much male, so is computer science. At least in Cologne and Aachen. They are VEEERY grateful for female students. When my husband started mech engineering over 40 years ago in Aachen there were 2 women for over 1000 men. Now about one in 10 is female.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 09:32 PM
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I read it here long ago. There are a lot of seconds on his recording where you CLEARLY see it coming before it struck. Time to get down. Time to shout. Nothing. Idiot kept filming instead of warning her and seeking cover.you hear the tornado coming. You do NOT hear a word from him. No his back is ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:23 PM
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I remember Clem Schultz. Disregarded warnings. Filmed the f***g tornado passing THROUGH his house. Said no time to warn his wife who was killed. But had time to film. Idiot. Murderer. Oh and he is PROUD of his film as it SAVES lives! Said when he realised tornado coming to his house too late to warn wife or go to cellar! But he does not even shout ONCE! Not even TRY to go down and save her. No. FILMING was more important . Veteran. I think she trusted his CALM judgement. ALWAYS trust your OWN in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 11:35 AM
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I am a boomer. 62. Remote keys for cars are normal now. PLUS my husband can't even drive any more after two strokes. STILL opens every f*** ing door for me! I am also doubtful about teaching them. Maybe you get them to behave a little bit better, but it will be a thin layer. A little stress and out comes the real 'him'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 09:44 PM
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I married with the fixed premise of him being the provider, me staying at home and bearing children. We both kept our promise, our pact if you will. It CAN work or it could, as I am 62. Different today. I would NOT have married someone who wasn't willing to provide or capable of providing. Neither would he have chosen a wife who put her career above his, did not want children or housework. Our aims in life were the same, as was the conception of how to reach them. As a team. And yes, money does …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:33 PM
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This. In Titanic he was supposed to be this experienced hot artist. And I told my daughter I thought he looked like mommy made his sandwiches for school in the morning. Totally unsexy to me. And totally not good for the role. Was ok with him drowning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 07:10 PM
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Expressionless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 07:07 PM
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They really asked Killing Kittens what they thought about this/us? A website which is telling us that group sex is fine and we want it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:15 PM
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I would emphasize this! YOU are the most important person here. And even the slightest chance this could hurt you must be avoided. I know everyone will probably see my advice as weakness, letting them win. But I tell you as I would tell it to my daughter and as my mother advised me in a similar problem when I was young, 40 years ago. And yes, it's horrible so little has changed. But do not fight the whole world alone. So, my advice would be, either at once or IF he keeps at it, you write to him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 03:09 PM
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I, 62, was a SAHM, my mom and grandmother were. I finished university as did my mom. I know none of us ever were hit by their husbands. We all spoke our minds There was no porn to speak of. That was good, better than today. What was worse, was that sexual approaches were taken too easily. My mom did not bat an eyelid when her 55 year old lawyer tried to hit on me. I was 22. Or when my HR boss tried to get me to his office in the evening. We looked for a solution and found it, but the men were no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 08:52 PM
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In my 20s men were thrilled with getting ANY sex! Porn was rare and under the counter. Playboy mostly if at all. Oh, and AIDS was not yet going on. I count myself lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 08:22 PM
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I think the spanking was rather rare. Am 62 and know of no wife in my parents generation who was treated like that. Yes alcoholics hit their wives then and do now. Also abusive men. But no normal men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 08:20 PM
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Husband of my childhood friend hit on me while she was in hospital having his baby. I just couldn't believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:58 PM
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My husband worked fulltime. I was a SAHM. We had two children who slept through relatively early, son at 6 weeks, daughter at 9. I had PPD with both, only told him before 2nd pregnancy. Probably already my thyroid, but didn't know at the time. So he knew I was frightened to death of the lack of sleep and could not go to sleep well once wakened. While he just drops off again. so when our daughter was born he took over the complete weekend nights and once he saw HOW grateful I was and that he coul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 05:26 PM
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This. I had long talks with a woman who uses that description and it makes me cringe. It is acontradiction in itsself, just cheating with announcement. Oh wait, they think it is not cheating as was announced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 11:40 AM
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62 here. Yes, but in defense of a much beloved series-they were so crazy about it BECAUSE it was rare. Because they had no access to it otherwise. The utmost porn anyone had was a few magazines hidden away, used over and over again. That did not have any effect on mens libido or erection capability. Many did not even have that, just their fantasies. Time of innocence practically.... I can still enjoy Friends, though I notice things I did not even see when watching it in the 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:51 PM
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This. Am 62 and Cosmo was a great and positive change to all the other magazines for women. It was more than just fashion and cosmetics. I read it in the 80s sometimes and enjoyed. Much later I bought some to read when on holiday and shared with my teenage daughter. I thought it was ME who had changed so much but I think it was the magazine. Now just how to pretty yourself up and how to get a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:56 PM
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Put a second toothbrush there. My mom kept my dad's hat on the wardrobe long after he died for security.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 09:38 PM
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This. As OP says. The times doctor married nurse, manager secretary are over. It MIGHT rarely happen, but most times I see TWO docs married, two lawyers etc. Same level, similar income. And I say this as a STAHM, with university degree, who never worked in her job. Things have changed. My children know it's different today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 09:01 PM
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Who would even want to spend tine with him? I doubt he has a girlfriend. Nasty piece of work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:33 PM
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My husband could do everything about the house. Took him one hour to perfectly iron two of his shirts but he could and did pre marriage. Only cooking he could not do, except for eggs😄 when we married, I was a SAHM and we were a team. Each with their jobs. Garden his, house mine. I have a cleaning lady once a week. Car and computers/technical things his, clothes mine. Plus he kept building and repairing things around the house as he is an engineer. He never sat while I worked. He did breakfast as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 10:32 AM
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Don't tell me! It took me until I discovered FDS last year to rethink a lot of things.....61 here. Too late to change my life, but I can change how I feel about things. Not to late for my daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:24 PM
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Why stay five years? Was the rest perfect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 08:49 PM
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Couldn't you move your body so the touching was increased?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 08:32 PM
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This. He wasn't good enough. My husband always made me come, most times I need to come twice to be satisfied. But you also have to know your own body and be receptive and relaxed. It took me ten years of sex to really be able to let go and come by PIV. My husband was the best of my lovers and the last. Edit: he was also the lover with the least experience, had only slept with two women before me. So it is not a question of that. Caring for your partners pleasure is more important. Aaaand I was a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:57 PM
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My husband cleaned our kids with endless patience 5 times a night when they were sick. And got them to giggle in the shower. As I react badly to being woken several times my job was just to change bedclothes. We were a team. They are there, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:00 PM
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What she sees as normal with kids inheriting after last spouse is normal for parents. Not for step-parents!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:08 PM
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Last one for me. We have been flooded 10 days ago, Cologne Germany. Since then non stop work. My knee gave. Was prescribed a bandage. Could not even get that as fully occupied caring for husband who had strokes plus all the new trouble plus proof reading two master thesis of my kids at the same time. So I come last. As usual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:20 PM
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I did this. With cleaning lady. But I was STAHM. so of course I did some things and he different things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:07 AM
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This. I suppose you are not 16, so totally inappropriate to invite you. Tell police, maybe you are not the only one. Plus if it gets worse , they have a file already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:28 PM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:47 AM
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Same for me. I feel bad if I watch TV during daytime. So I only did it while folding or ironing ( thanks Ally McBeal🤗). 20 yrs later, three times cancer, chemo, radiation twice , heart is bad etc and I still do not give myself a break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:18 PM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:25 PM
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This. 61 here, SAHM and do not understand how you could even think about doing 50/50. NO MAN will really do 50 percent of housework. Even the best of them simply do not see dirt the way we do and most do not cook really good. When I had small jobs for a short time, my husband always insisted I keep this money for myself. BESIDES getting all of his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:51 PM
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He is rather small, isn't he? I always feel this often makes men meaner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:47 PM
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But not pure cotton? They have 21 per cent polyamid which means plastic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:08 PM
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Yes, I agree, but in moderation. My DH managed on his own before marriage, but he was not and still is not great at housework. He can clean, he can iron, though it took him 1 hr for two shirts, he cannot cook, just eggs in any form. He can sew with a machine. He managed to turn a wholeload of washing pink by putting his dark red pyjamas in with the whites.but he manfully wore the slightly pink underwear for quite some time after that😅. BUT: we had a deal marrying, strict roles for both. I have n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:57 PM
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Well, most are pretty smart😉. You have to be to get through engineering studies. Source: my husband and both our children did it. And my husband is definitely a HVM and I hope my son is too. Yes, my husband is VERY male, as in does not talk much, withdraws often to a quiet room and deals with his own problems on his own. But he is very generous, caring, helps all around, a gentleman who in most aspects pampered me all his healthy life (has now had two strokes, so things pretty much turned around…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:21 PM
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Me too. Thought it was my age that made me not get the joke. When I got it, I was sorry for the minute of my life lost....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:32 AM
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I love chest hair too. The smell after sex in there is great. If the guy is clean and you like his basic smell. Never had a waxed guy as too old for that shit at 61. Thank God. Shaved arms or legs on a guy would make me think he must be gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:00 PM
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Well....my husband had only just moved out. Over 30. But he had helped his dad build the house they were living in over several years plus helped taking care of his sick mother with kidney failure. So he was grown up.and had finished university.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:30 PM
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Me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:14 AM
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Thanks for the award! My first one😊 makes me go to bed now smiling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:19 AM
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I married in 1989. I would not have looked at a guy who would not have been able to easily support a whole family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:51 PM
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This. I am a SAHM and always intended to be one. Am 61. And boy, did I choose carefully. I looked at his income, as I knew it would have to be for the whole family. I looked at his brains, as I knew they would have to last me a lifetime, preferably without boredom. As I have a university degree of course I only dated equals. I looked at their heart, their generosity, as I knew I would have to spend their money and be dependant. I looked at how they were with kids. And of course I looked at their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:44 PM
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Yeah well, I would not rely on that too much. Hitler had a dog which adored him. Jeffrey Dahmer too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:56 AM
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This. I always admitted to being able of jealousy if given cause. Thank God my DH never gave me cause but I was a happy camper all the same about his being an engineer among only male other engineers😉 While my best friend always denied any bad feelings about her husband going shoppping with the young female visitor while my friend took care of three young kids. I told her I would be so mad. She told me 20 years later that she was unhappy at the time! Still married to him. Why do women deny quite…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:27 PM
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This. I was never a model, attractive yes. And when young there was no OLD. I was always VERY successful when going out dancing with the approaches mentioned above. Men were so grateful for being given the chance to get contact harmlessly. I was smoking then and just asking for a light was enough to get talking. And those were mostly nice men. Think, this way YOU choose, at least partly. You do not leave it all to them. I would only talk to guys I found attractive. I do not remember lighting man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:51 PM
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My best friends husband VOLUNTARILY pushed his working hours back to later in the day, so he could sleep longer in the morning AND come home later so did less with kids. When I talked to her about this she found excuses for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:58 PM
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A year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:23 PM
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I do not know what school that is but the basic engineering universities-men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:52 PM
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Not in Germany, physics still actually have 15 to 20 per cent female students.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:48 PM
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At German universities in electrical engineering 10 per cent female at the utmost. Where is she doing this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:47 PM
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I went dancing after that and was still excited and laughing all evening about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:34 AM
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I did this 40 years ago. A date was getting too sex obsessed in a McDonalds restaurant and I just went to restroom and then ran. I still remember being exhilarated about my own daring😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:24 PM
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They do not call me names to my face, but I really enjoy the power and strength age and life have given me. After three rounds of cancer and caring for a husband who had two strokes I am not taking any shit any more. I have lost all sense of shame I had when younger. I just tell people what I want and I am getting it! Sometimes even surprised myself. I do not think they all love me but they sure do respect me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:48 PM
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Where did you get that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:04 AM
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Yeah no chance. My husband had two strokes and has been mentally impaired for ten years now. So no moving on.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:04 PM
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He says in one of his comments that he already talked to SEVERAL attorneys. And they told him she would be forced to work after divorce. So it is this he is after. AND I BET they also told him it will be much easier to divorce her and much shorter alimony if she ALREADY is working. If not, you legally have to give her time to get a job, she might get a doc to say she cannot work and so on. He thinks he is so clever but she is beating him at his own game😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:24 AM
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I believe in my case this was it. My DH was never taught to take criticism at home and had a horrible father. That he turned out rather well is surprising. Has a good character. But some immature helpless ways of behaving, like this one mentioned in the post, were there. And I did not have the good advice here, so explained myself every time for a long time. Should have lost patience much earlier than I did. Still a good husband though. I have a girlfriend who pulls this stuff on me. She just ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:32 PM
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Me too. I think my DH is mostly fine (or was, had two strokes ) but this is one of the truly horrible things. He WILL say that when criticized, fine, I'll just never eat bread again, or I'll never hang up the laundry again. I HATE that and always did. HOW I wish there had been FDS 30 yrs ago. Too late for me, but not too late for you out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:52 PM
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Yes....we know now, but when she met him over two years ago none of us knew about FDS or age gap. I thought 9 years quite normal. It was in my generation. NOW I think maybe he had searched for younger intentionally.
/r/askFDS12/04/21 06:24 PM
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She reads here. And is very grateful for all the things she has learned here, as I am too. I am a STAHM boomer. And I THINK my DH is more HVM than LVM, but there are a lot of things I read here which rang a bell😉
/r/askFDS06/04/21 06:29 PM
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There are actually a lot of men over here in Germany who value Angela Merkel very highly. Apart from that you are absolutely right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:15 PM
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