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/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/25 07:33 PM
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Masculinity as a descriptor is fine, as a standard is worthless to damaging.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/25 07:17 PM
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If you're at the point of understanding the capitalist war machine you should be able to oppose it in its entirety. They should be saying "the draft shouldn't be expanded to include women, it should be abolished entirely". Further integration into a system that oppresses them is an issue? Again, if you're critical of capitalism in the way they seem to be then you have to recognise it oppresses everyone but the capitalist class so having men in the military is also a further integration with a sy…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/25 05:30 AM
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I really think it depends what you mean what you say need. I've been single for 12 years now, I'm not the happiest I could be for sure but I can manage my life, survive and even enjoy myself quite a lot without a woman. I don't want a woman to need in that functional sense. It should always be a choice two adults make because they truly want to be with someone and that person in particular. I'd welcome a woman in my life but I also sometimes wonder if I really want that because having been alone…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/25 07:03 PM
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I don't know what advice to give here. I'm a straight white man. I've got very tired of how acceptable it is to hate me. The natural impulse is to hate back. I believe hate is wrong, I'm a Christian so forgiveness is also a standard I have to hold myself to. It also motivates me to avoid hypocrisy and I'd be a hypocrite to hate in return. I know that just making an effort to step back from your immediate impulse and asses how fair you're being is a good way to prevent a slide into what your frie…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/25 04:11 PM
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I don't know how much of this is really accurate of course. I don't see any reason to seek to deny that misogyny is on the rise (not to say we shouldn't investigate and get the facts) because I think it's expected in the current zeitgeist. I don't like it, it shouldn't be happening but this is just what happens. If you hate people or behave in a way that makes people think you hate them and do nothing about the hate they receive or the problems they face what do you expect them to do? Isn't this…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/25 04:21 PM
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The world is increasingly online and online interactions and rhetoric affects people in real life. I've lost count of the number of times women I work with have said things generalising men or repeating inaccurate, prejudicial talking points from tik toks. They're basically decent people trying to navigate life just like the rest of us but these views are out there in day to day life. These things that people dismiss as purely online really just aren't, real people are typing them. They're being…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/25 03:15 AM
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I think it depends what you mean by dominated. Where I'm from we have an expression "you wouldn't bring a broken pay packet to her". This is a way of describing a woman as stern and forceful. Why do they say this? Working men handed over their entire earnings to their wife to run the home and were given an allowance out of it. Is this dominance? Or is it partnership? The unjust distribution of legal rights and the legal and/or social barring of women from certain lines of work because they were …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/04/25 01:13 PM
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I have complicated feelings about women. Generally I like women and I see no reason to generalise about women. Having said that, I find that there is an increase in an almost navel gazing enchantment with one's own femininity which seems to go hand in hand with having feminist thinking and talking points woven through one's personality. I've found it concerning just how normal it is to see things about men and women in such a clear and strict "feminist" way. Men's actions, thoughts, feelings, pr…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/04/25 03:47 AM
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"You may form your political views and activism around what will grant you the greatest social capital but I, personally, do not"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/04/25 05:22 PM
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For me I think my focus shifted. When I first met her I saw all the things I didn't like, just certain features that didn't do it for me I guess. After I got to know her, even a little bit I started to see more and more of what I did like. Some of that was features I'd clearly overlooked, some of it was expressions and mannerisms that I really enjoyed. I could still see the things that would have written her off as not my type but they faded into the background while everything I enjoyed about h…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/04/25 08:55 PM
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Are there right wing men and boys? Yes, and right wing is a spectrum. As much as I disagree with right wing politics and economics I'm not going to put them all in one pot and call them undesirables. Are there men who are hateful of women or resentful of women? Yes, much like the right wingers this is a spectrum and we shouldn't lump them all into one pot. Some men are simply tired of low level, chipping away at your soul misandry going entirely unchallenged by anyone. Some men despise women to …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/04/25 07:18 AM
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If you're neurodiverse there is probably a greater than average chance your children are. Having a bit of insight into being a man with an atypical brain I want to caution you to be careful with how you approach talking to your sons about things. When I was growing up my mother made an offhand joke while I was there, to her friend that she would be vetting my future girlfriends. I replied "no you won't" and she insisted she would. I am 35, she's never met anyone I've been involved with and I've …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/04/25 03:58 AM
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The only role we should be trying to give men, and women, to fill is "good person". Be decent, be kind, support one another, value meaningful connections in your society, community and personal lives. Stop gendering encouragement, stop making it more specific than this. I decided military stuff, outdoorsy stuff, lifting weights and martial arts were super cool but no one in my family ever pushed me that way or said that was stuff for men. I had more or less the upbringing I described and the res…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/25 07:49 PM
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Fair enough, I actually somewhat disagree that using recognised language implies endorsement, we can't force people to engage with our preferred language. I do agree that we have to steer the terminology in these discussions towards something more neutral, fair and accurate though. I just think it can't form a part of every discussion on the subject. Thanks for engaging with my reply though and for being considerate in your own reply.
/r/MensRights25/03/25 10:02 PM
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I never got that from the interview. I voiced disagreements with points in the video in TinMen's own sub so I'm not here to just defend it. He didn't explicitly tackle feminism but I thought they both did a good job of talking about the assumptions made about incels and pressures on boys and men and the lack of a positive solution to those pressures. They might have used some of the language that feminists use, terms like the manosphere, but I remember TinMen explicitly saying he dislikes the te…
/r/MensRights25/03/25 05:50 AM
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I'm not sure if you're disagreeing or agreeing with me tbh. The contents of our comments don't seem to be at odds. Did you reply to me after a year just to restate the comment I essentially endorsed in my reply?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/25 06:22 AM
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Is it "bad" or just not your culture? I quite like nudity being relatively rare in public life where I'm from, I think it keeps a sense of excitement about nudity when you're in an intimate relationship. It is something more private and personal that you get to share. If you disagree that's fine but nothing about my feelings on the matter is puritanical imo. For the record my take on the article is that if he felt uncomfortable or insecure then a mature discussion should take place, no chiding. …
/r/MensRights10/10/24 02:27 PM
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I don't find your cow analogy convincing but I also think it's unproductive to nitpick petty details. The duke of wellington weeping openly at dinner after the battle of Waterloo isn't something I ever saw condemned and I wouldn't describe it as stoic. Is it held up as "how to be masculine"? Probably not but no one batted an eye much less saw it as diminishing his masculinity so I fail to see how it wasn't socially acceptable. Perhaps tearfulness without sufficient cause isn't considered masculi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/23 03:06 PM
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I've come across a good number of examples of men being emotional, caring and gentle and having it praised and respected. I've seen this in a wide variety of cultures. I just think we are always wrong when we say "this is what masculinity is" if it's limited to a narrow set of qualities.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/23 01:28 PM
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You just have to read the words of men from the past to see that being kind, compassionate and loving has been part of the masculine ideal for centuries.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/12/23 04:47 PM
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I'm not looking to get into a debate but I do think that's an oversimplification of masculinity. At different times and in different places the ideal of masculinity has changed. I don't think there's any one way to be a man and I'm sceptical of the idea that the relatively recent, western, ideal of masculinity just happens to be the true masculinity. Calm under pressure and stress, forthrightness, courage, kindness, strength, gentleness, wisdom, playfulness, loyalty, determination, patience, sin…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/12/23 04:43 PM
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Thought, past tense, is an important word here. Even if entirely true, why should the thoughts and actions of men in the past have anything to do with all male conscription today? Do these people think the thoughts of women in the 17th, 18th or 19th century line up with those of women today? If most of the powerful women in society supported the current state of affairs for women in the 19th century should people have pointed to that and said "you made your own bed, lie in it" in the 20th centur…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/23 12:15 AM
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Especially when there are politically active groups and academics/intellectuals who aren't in office, composed largely of women/feminists, who have had massive impacts on policy in western nations. There's no need to choose people like Kamala and AOC when those exist. Not being in office ≠ powerless as these people prove.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/10/23 10:12 PM
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I don't have the source to hand but there was an article challenging the idea that men do these things out of a desire for money, power and status but in fact do it out of a desire to be useful and do well for their family and (possibly, not sure if this was included) community. This is obviously nuanced and really only speaks to the source of the motivation of many men. It can't cover all men and doesn't contradict the idea that men also aim high to be attractive.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/10/23 11:27 AM
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I don't entirely disagree. I would add, however, that I don't believe that work life was structured around the needs of men. It was structured to extract the most value from men's work as possible. Men have generally reported, in hospice care, that their greatest regret in life was not having enough time with their families. Somewhat ironically, and mind bogglingly, I found this in an article about how work needed to reform for the sake of women. The article essentially said women are struggling…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/10/23 10:38 AM
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This shouldn't be downvoted. The fact that cultural, social and even legal constraints drove men and women in different directions does not make men villains or even suggest that they aren't also victims of a restrictive and oppressive set of cultural gender norms. The difference in legal rights for men and women does not mean men didn't also suffer, and suffer as much as women. It is simply inaccurate to suggest that men just seized the initiative to gain certain positions. Hard work and person…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/10/23 03:18 PM
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I think it's more accurate to say that when men are toxic they are broadly predisposed to particular toxic behaviours more than others but not to the exclusion of others. As such men and women can both display any of these toxic traits. Therefore the absolute best you could hope for in describing toxic masculinity or masculine toxicity is the most statistically common forms of toxicity present in men as a population. This might seem like I'm splitting hairs but I think it's an important distinct…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/06/23 11:05 PM
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Do you really think that criminality just happens because men like to be good at fighting? Have you considered that men commit crimes for the same reasons anyone else does? Do you think that a society which treats men well, gives them access to jobs, housing, a real community, meaningful relationships within said community and makes an effort to be aware of and meet their specific psychological and physical health needs would experience just as many assaults? The split between men and women woul…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/06/23 10:57 PM
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Even if men tend more towards violent crime when they become criminals does that mean men are inherently violent or criminal? I would say of course it doesn't. Unless you believe that being criminal manifests entirely naturally in men without being induced by any other pressures. So why are men committing crime in the first place? If it's money what are the avenues for making money illegally? How many are inherently violent? How many bring people into contact with violence frequently? In cases l…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/23 01:25 PM
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Is overcompensating in favour of women not a source of bias? Perhaps not implicit though arguably when you do it enough it becomes unconscious. I agree though that it's important to be careful about how research is presented.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/04/23 03:55 AM
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As I say it's been a while since I read the books. My recollection was criticism for Harry in the text from the people around him. I don't remember any aimed at Cho but it's true that I don't remember her being specifically painted as "the good guy" either.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/23 06:09 PM
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It's interesting how different the standards are for boys and girls in those books. Cho gets involved with Harry just to be emotionally dependent and needle him for information about one of the most traumatic events of his life and he's roundly considered the asshole for not being able to handle that very well. Hermione has her relationship with Krum and they remain pen pals and friends and I don't remember Ron being violently jealous, he may have been jealous to some degree but it's been a whil…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/23 01:13 AM
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This may be more about the thinking behind the tropes than tropes themselves but I thought I'd add it to the conversation: I was listening to a podcast about the alien franchise, of which I'm a big fan, and there was an interesting discussion about violence towards men and women in horror. The view given in the podcast is that in horror the deaths of women are lingered over for the purpose of titillation. I feel it may be just as valid as to say that the deaths of men are barely shown and the wo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/23 12:43 AM
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I haven't watched the podcast yet but I have always found the entire conversation about what is sexy or attractive rather annoying. There seems to be this notion that there is an established sexy or attractive. It doesn't exist. It's not just that what is attractive varies from one generation to the next, one community to the next and so on. It's that people, demonstrably, do not all find the same things attractive. Just stop trying to define what is or isn't attractive as if it can be packaged.…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/23 01:14 AM
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My takeaway was "the literal inaction and lack of interest on the part of the government, which proves them correct, is bad because it makes the MRAs look plausible". When your advocacy for men is affected, even mildly, by just making your perceived opposition look crazy so you can preserve some kind of feminist hegemony (I assume that's what this guy wants but I could be wrong) you are more a part of the problem than the solution.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/23 09:38 PM
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I think a long break from any form of social media would be a good idea. I spend too much time online because of my circumstances so I understand that it's difficult but a break can be great for your mental health. You mentioned elsewhere that you write stories and poems, maybe keep your journal/notebook on hand and try writing when you'd usually go online. Some form of therapy will probably be beneficial. I would honestly just walk away from spaces like that as soon as they feel toxic to you. T…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/02/23 09:43 PM
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My life circumstances and the fact that single, relatable women in their early thirties are actually harder for me to meet than women in the range 21-26 means that's the age range I spend time talking to. If I like one of them no amount of social stigma is stopping me from attempting to gain what little joy I might be able to find in our decaying hellscape of a society. Not to be bleak or anything.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/02/23 10:44 PM
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The way this is discussed is quite interesting. If you suggest it's just kind of funny and weird and something to be laughed off for men and something painful and damaging for women it homogenises both groups and treats these as inherently true. Most people who take a generally feminist stance are also at least somewhat on the progressive left and feminism, as I understand, is opposed to that kind of reductive and essentialist thinking. If, however, these behaviours and responses aren't inherent…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/02/23 04:42 PM
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This isn't my field but I would think it's a good idea to present your work and findings within the wider context. That's how we do things in my field anyway. I dislike the words prove and disprove. Evidence either supports the hypothesis or doesn't. That doesn't necessarily mean it's proven. Those are just nitpicks though. I actually find the idea that personal feelings of deprivation is linked to hostility, including sexist hostility, utterly unsurprising and uncontroversial.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/02/23 08:25 PM
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A reasonable position to take. I have more reading to do before I determine if I consider there to be a baby in the bathwater, to stretch the metaphor haha. In other words, I'm not sure I know enough about feminism as a whole or it's various waves and subdivisions to lend it any support or to condemn it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/23 01:13 AM
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Would it be fair, then, to say that you don't see feminism as the issue per se because feminism is a broad church? I.e. since there is no "one true feminism" then it doesn't particularly make sense to lay the blame at the feet of this, non-existent, entity.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/02/23 10:42 PM
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Are you separating feminism as ideology from feminism as movement? And, by implication, separating the feminist from the ideology? If so, what definition of feminism (as ideology) are you using and why do you consider it to be correct? I know that people who profess a particular belief can do things contrary to that belief while claiming it is in the name of their belief, so I'm not trying to be confrontational. I'm trying to understand your position. I do think there is resentment here, I have …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/02/23 04:40 PM
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I've experienced unwanted and overly aggressive come-ons before. I purposely avoid groups of women on public transport or at night because I know they can say anything to me or potentially touch me and there's nothing I can do about it. I haven't been touched in those circumstances but I have had women say things to me, sometimes sexual and sometimes just nasty. Throughout school I had girls just randomly asking if I'd kiss their friend, this was to embarrass their friend cause I was unattractiv…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/02/23 11:53 AM
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I think a thorough debunking of the idea that men made the rules is important. Both that men as a class did and that our social structures, from which we get damaging gender roles and expectations, are some kind of top down construction. It's my belief that much of what we have and have had arose much more "organically" than that but I'll put that aside for now. I think we need to establish with solid evidence that, within these social structures, men and women both play a role in enforcing gend…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/01/23 03:21 AM
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I guess I feel the same way about it as I do toxic masculinity. I feel like it misses the point. Most of the things people label as toxic are either not really toxic or aren't particular to men. Stoicism isn't being repressed and the same people probably admire self control and calm in many men. Repression isn't an exclusively male trait either, not by a long shot. Aragorn is listed in another comment as an example of positive masculinity. Aragorn is very self controlled and generally fairly sto…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/01/23 05:48 PM
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I honestly think this is a really complex issue. I've typed and retyped this comment a few times. I'm not sure I can really lay out my thoughts on this very clearly without a lot of time investment so perhaps I'll do my own post later. I think alienation and atomisation are a core part of this issue. I also think that a lot of women are trying to find a decent partner and going through a relatively "normal" pattern of meeting someone, dating and moving on if it doesn't work out. One of the issue…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/23 12:45 AM
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Add the qualifier "of men" or "of women". If you prefer you can say "placed on men/women". This is approximately the furthest thing from complicated.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/23 01:00 AM
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I would say to write a paper which incorporates issues of gender equality as requested but to write only what you believe to be reasonable and true with evidence to support it. You can leave a lot unsaid, you don't need to frame it as male advocacy or even as male issues. For example maternity based career breaks are part of the reason why women earn less, it's one of the things that isn't controlled for in the poorer gender pay disparity figures. One could make the argument that if men had the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/23 03:01 AM
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The joke was probably more good natured than it felt, at least in intention. I think part of what I'm bothered by is that there's so much genuine undercutting of men that it's making it harder to take a joke and I don't want to be like that. I also think the uncertainty leaves me open to being called overly sensitive and told that I'm just imagining the actual misandry out there.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/01/23 12:42 PM
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A little "off my chest" to start the year. Where I'm from there was a program about the comedy here and then a comedy program taking a funny look at the last year. Perhaps I've become overly sensitive to these things or perhaps I'm simply seeing the kind of low level digs at men that pervade western society totally unchallenged but there were two moments, one in each show, which just annoyed me a little. In the first show when discussing the female comedians here (quite right imo, there have bee…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/01/23 02:26 AM
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Wanted to address two of the quotes: No one is more arrogant toward women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious about his virility. - Simone de Beauvoir "The Second Sex" This is interesting to me. I don't think I am arrogant, aggressive or scornful towards women. I think I am generally respectful and kind and yet I certainly am anxious and uncertain of myself. While I can, often, present as confident (and even genuinely feel at ease) I can also be deeply afraid that I'm not g…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/12/22 04:23 AM
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Fair enough, personally I've known women who are for equality when you actually talk about what they'd like to see happen in the world but still broadly define themselves as feminist.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 10:37 PM
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I agree with you. I was suggesting that people on both sides try to find rules and moves and tricks but that the best way to go about it is just get to know people and if you like someone tell them. I do, however, agree that this often ends up in frustration and pain. I have 100% just joked around with women and it ended up with both of us saying we liked eachother pretty rapidly. I've also spent months hanging out with a woman, everyone who knew us both was saying we seemed like we were already…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 09:54 PM
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Of course, we disagree on how useful or effective this is but I should have clarified earlier that I don't think it advocates for eugenics or forced vasectomies. It's clearly hypothetical.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 07:34 PM
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As I say I do understand where they are coming from. This doesn't change my view that it is an exceptionally poor attempt at role reversal. Good intentions don't make a difference to the quality of the outcome. Interestingly whole alien reproductive cycle was apparently designed to make men squirm at the idea of physical/sexual helplessness. It was effective because while it is very, well, alien it is fundamentally the same thing. Someone is forcibly penetrated and impregnated and they can do no…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 07:21 PM
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I understand where they are coming from. It's just a terrible attempt at role reversal. Removing the capacity to reproduce until some external agency decides you may do so is significantly different from having one of several ways of avoiding unwanted pregnancies removed. I sincerely have great sympathy for people who feel the need to pursue an abortion and I think that it shouldn't be up to the state or anyone else to make that decision but it's absolutely not the same thing. There are many for…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 06:13 PM
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If you want my input here I would suggest establishing, through the relevant psychological literature, if fear of contamination is a particularly or typically feminine fear. It would also be worth seeing if there is any evidence on where that fear comes from exactly. I'd imagine it's socialised but that's just a guess. Then you'd have to connect the fear of contamination and racism/fascism though I feel like I've heard of this being established already. If you can establish, convincingly, that t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 05:57 PM
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100%, unfortunately "get to know them" isn't the kind of dating and relationship advice that sells magazines or gets clicks. It's also more complicated than "10 things his shoes can tell you about him" or whatever crap is going around right now.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 05:42 PM
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I don't want to put words in your mouth so call me out if I do. Are you trying to get at the idea that far right groups generally blame their woes/whatever is wrong with the world on some racial group and that this is often backed by some kind of pet conspiracy theory about how and why this group is out to get them? The reaction seems to be to view oneself as superior and then comes the obsession with racial purity It could be argued that the most extreme forms of anti male feminism with their v…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 05:17 PM
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I agree with this but I do think people try too hard to come up with some kind of easy, superficial way to evaluate potential partners. This is far from restricted to women or feminists or whatever. The issue there is that it presents everything outside of that standard as negative and if it catches on society wide then there are a lot of people who are left out in the cold.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 05:10 PM
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Put simply, perhaps over-simply, two solids (graphite and cobalt oxide) are the two electrodes of a lithium ion battery. On discharge the lithium ion migrates through an electrolyte from the graphite end to the cobalt oxide end. These materials are used because their crystal lattices allow for the lithium to enter and exit. When ions enter and exist a lattice it expands or contracts respectively. What this means is that you have a couple of basic requirements for an anode or cathode material. It…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 01:14 PM
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Nazi paranoia? I mean I agree that at the very least the way marriage was practiced in the past isn't as simple as women were forced into it and men had an entirely beneficial relationship with it. I'm just not sure what this has to do with Nazis or paranoia. I'd describe it as a willful ignorance/distortion on the part of those spreading the narrative and simple ignorance on the part of those accepting it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 12:24 PM
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It also has the benefit of stating explicitly that it's the expectations and pressures on people which are toxic. Some people argue that that's what toxic masculinity refers to but they won't amend the name for clarity. I wonder if maybe they like the vagueness so they can use it in hateful and discriminating ways (spoiler alert: they do).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/22 02:14 PM
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Oh for sure. I've had a handful of conversations with mothers to young boys who just had the worst views of men and every time I'm just like "that poor kid has no chance" and it's because I know there just won't be any significant social pressure to make her stop spewing her vitriol. And that's just personal experience. Some of what I've read on here about the treatment of Erin Pizzey, the suppression of the uncomfortable parts of Warren Farrell's research etc has been genuinely alarming. I've b…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/22 10:28 AM
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Yeah, turning against the group your abusers or oppressors belong to is very natural. It's the responsibility of movements who claim to want a better future to, kindly and gently, turn people away from that. The anger should be directed at the systems and structures. If any people deserve one's anger it should be limited to the people who are actually doing bad things. That's what I respect about this place, I think you all do a good job trying to do that. Identity politics and the alt right are…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/12/22 09:52 AM
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I want to share something personal here because I don't think it fits as a post. It's so good to find a place that seems to be about ending the gender divide and targeting gendered problems without turning it into us Vs them. I'm white, I'm straight and I'm a cis-man. The truth is all those things get a lot of hate. Oh I understand that people who have shared my immutable characteristics have done awful things to many people. Small but incredibly visible minority though they may be I do understa…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/12/22 11:45 PM
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The only objection I had was when you said the thing about male CEOs naturally making work environments which are beneficial to men (this was how I heard it, if I am mistaken please correct me). I don't believe this is remotely true. CEOs class interests align with the capitalist class and therefore what they do is make the business as profitable as possible at the expense of the worker. They've overworked, under paid and under appreciated male employees for generations just as they do with fema…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/12/22 12:50 PM
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My basic formula is essentially have a hobby at home and a hobby out of the house, take care of yourself physically (healthy weight, reasonable level of fitness and good hygiene) and do something social at least once a week. So for your hobby at home it could be taking 20 minutes a day to work at a language or on an instrument or getting into chess. Out of the house you could go to the gym, a sports club, a wine club, do pub quizzes/trivia nights etc literally anything that takes you out of the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/12/22 11:54 AM
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I'm neither asexual nor demisexual but I would say that I experience primary sexual attraction and secondary sexual attraction as two very distinct things. Because I don't find sexual contact based on primary sexual attraction very fulfilling I choose not to engage in hook-ups or other forms of casual sex. When my desire for sex comes as an extension of the desire for physical and emotional intimacy that develops from really connecting to someone then I don't feel any conflict, discomfort or lac…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/12/22 02:03 PM
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The poems "A man's a man" by Robert Burns and "Your life is your life" by Charles Bukowski. I'm not sure either is exactly about masculinity as such but both resonate with me strongly. A particular quote by Benjamin Disraeli also comes to mind "Man is never so manly as when he feels deeply, acts boldly, and expresses himself with frankness and with fervor."
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/22 06:36 PM
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There are trends in society such as valuing men on financial status and there are online spaces that encourage truly vile ways of viewing, speaking about and interacting with men. These factors, among many others, lead to a kind of received wisdom that shapes how many (but far from all) young women view men. The behaviours which manifest as a result are unpleasant and harmful. It is understandable that this happens. Women, like men, are products of their environment. Think about young men that a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/12/22 05:03 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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