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| 2 | Being misogynistic does not have an impact on your dating prospectsBeacuse she will rationalize his bad behaviour and convince herself that he is not a bad guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Being misogynistic does not have an impact on your dating prospectsI don't think that anyone said that misogyny, especially that blatant one, is attractive. But it's irrelevant as long you do have many other attractive traits. Majority of men who are most successful that I know, in fact have some opinions that could be considered misogyny, especially by reddit standards. So, men who struggle with women, do not struggle BEACUSE they are misogynist (those who are indeed misogynist) In majority of cases, misogyny was developed after continuous lack of success | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 05:03 PM |
| – | You're wasting your time chasing party girlsMajority of young normal people goes out every or allmost every weekend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/24 10:59 AM |
| 1 | You're wasting your time chasing party girlsBut what "scene" you talk about? Not everything could and should be put in boxes. There are no "party girls and boys", at least not in my country. There are girls who goes to party or pubs or kafanas (taverns with folk music) But majority of young people goes there on weekends. Sometimes 10 weekends in a row, sometimes not, it's just normal. 99% of people in every club everywhere are not fucking for a line of coke in a bathroom and are nit vomiting on a street every weeknd. Did it happen sometim… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 02:08 PM |
| 2 | You're wasting your time chasing party girlsBeacuse they never been to a party I guess, that is why when they hear a word "party" they imagine this Roman orgy. Since their world view is skewed by Instagram reels and exaggerated extreme examples they see online. For example I know many young people in Serbia who think that in America every 2nd person is blue haired trans feminists, since they watch these videos when someone record these crazy women in some college campus and say "look what's going on in USA we don't want their influence in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 01:31 PM |
| 1 | You're wasting your time chasing party girlsHave you ever been to a party? That guy greatly exaggerated for comedy purpose I guess, 99% of people on a party are just normal men and women, who live normal lives | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 01:24 PM |
| 1 | You're wasting your time chasing party girlsYou also kinda explained how women give dating advices. They talk about what they would LIKE to be attracted to, but it's usually not what they are actually attracted to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 10:35 AM |
| 1 | You're wasting your time chasing party girlsWomen can say they don't like players, but the reason those guys can sleep around is because they have what women want, most women, especially those under 30, don't dig that deep below the surface when they decide to get with a guy. Exactly, I repeat this all the time..when they talk in general yes they will say that they don't like, but when that guy actually approach them, it's different. I had a lot of hookups and my girlfriend never did, she knows about my past and doesn't care. Sometimes sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 10:01 AM |
| 1 | You're wasting your time chasing party girlsIt's not a waste of time if I enjoyed it tho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 09:36 AM |
| 2 | Is it not advisable for men to date when un or underemployedHow is that bare minimum? That doesn't make sense, majority of people in the world don't have A CAREER, they just do some jobs to survive, and maybe 1-2 per year go to some holiday In order for good jobs to exist, there need to be jobs on a lower scale. That's how world works. Do you think factory workers for example don't deserve a relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Is it not advisable for men to date when un or underemployedHe can do both at the same time, stop watching "success bro" podcasts, you don't need and can't possibly hustle 24/7. You can work hard and go out on weekends, hang out with friends, chase girls etc Experience in relationships is more important than money, if you focus only on money, you will just fall for the 1st girl who show you any affection and she will use you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 09:15 AM |
| 1 | If not The Red Pill? What should men follow?That's a misinterpretation. They are not attractive beacuse they are "bad men" it's DESPITE they are bad men. But this is an example used as a counter argument to "just be nice person and you will have girls" which is not true, since many terrible men are in fact successful with women. Most men I know who are successful, including myself, hold some beliefs that many reddit women would consider misogyny. So "it's not cause you are short or ugly, it's your misogyny" is also bullshit and "blue pill… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/24 03:03 PM |
| 1 | If not The Red Pill? What should men follow?Is trying to attract member of opposite sex pathetic lol. I think this is biological purpose of mammals | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/24 10:22 AM |
| 6 | If not The Red Pill? What should men follow?But he shouldn't lose weight just for "women". That's a recipe for disaster. I know 1000s of men who lost weight/gained mass if they were skinny for the sole reason of getting girls, and it paid off 100% This "don't do it for girls" is ridiculous. 90% of people who are working out doing it for the main reason if being the most attractive as possible. Everything else, health, strength.. is secondary. But he can absolutely be himself without being told to "lose weight and start working out/eating … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 12:11 PM |
| – | Boycotting sex with men won't work..Is that an actual thing or some crazy Reddit women rambling shit? I believe it's the latter. Even if they post that rule for virtue signalling purpose, it will be thrown away when guy they are actually attracted to approach them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/24 08:42 AM |
| 3 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenBut again that's different. It's not that you are not attracted to hot guys, it's more like you are aware not on that level and they probably won't be with you, or would but just for short term. Same as when men say they would rather be with a average cute girl rather than some baddie. It's not that they are not attracted to baddie more, but they just expect that they would be higher maintenance, harder to please, would compete for her with more attractive men etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/24 08:17 AM |
| 3 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenI mean, if I don't get anything from a girl, why be in a relationship in a first place. And vice versa, that's logical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 02:31 PM |
| 7 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenI agree to all of this points, especially this one Within a relationship, most confident guys who appear aloof aren't actually jerks. They're extremely kind and attentive to their partners, because their partners have earned that from them. I like to do all of that, and I like to spoil my girl, and do everything for her - beacuse she deserves it. But difference between confident men and "betas", ais that I am not afrraid of losing her, so I will not tolerate any disrespect from any women, no mat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 02:27 PM |
| 8 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenMia Khalifa is famous pornstar, that's extreme example. But average hota women who had few causal hookups and wild summers can still easily get majority of men to commit to her | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenUS college experience is an extreme example. I was in USA one summer during my studies, and hookup culture was extreme. That's why I find Ameircan men who want to go abroad to find girls for sex pathetic. USA is the easiest country in the world to have a hookup, if you struggle there, you will for sure struggle in Serbia or Croatia. Unless they go in some poor country and then girls use them for money or green card. But real, non-transactional hookup is way harder to get anywhere in the world th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenWell during college is definitely different, especially in USA, and being in frat also gives you that social proof which is very important with girls that age. Plus constantly partying of course increases tour chances. I Eh, I think that’s mostly due to his standards. An average man who has realistic standards and chooses to regularly spend time in settings where casual sex is common will likely find casual sex After college that is a bit harder to constantly be in that settings tho. Many men do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenBut that is about your standards, not about that girls don't want to be with tou in a relationship and only want sex. Same as me, I can find easy sex, but I did't want to commit to any of them. Now I found a girl who I like mire then others, and I am in serious relationship. But I choose her, I could be with dozens of others and they would all want to be with me, regardless of my past. But for average man, getting casual sex is very hard | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenI don't see these types getting married or living with lifelong partners very often Yes they do, if they want of course. Like I said in other comment, man is a player BECAUSE women like him, and yes, they might say now "i would never be with a man like that etc", but in the reality, player is the one who choose which girl he wants to be with. Other guy just settle with one who picked him Same thing with super hot girls, they can get most men they want regardless of body counts, "hoe phases" etc … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 12:26 PM |
| 19 | Society encourages Fukbois, especially womenguys who are very successful with women are much less likely to be willing to commit to one, at least for a certain period of time. so it's not necessarily that being a fuckboi is what gets them laid, it's that they get to be a fuckboi because lots of women want to be with them in the first place. obvious reason being that they're very attractive (physically and in terms of personality). Exactly,I don't know what people don't understand about this. Women don't like man because he is a player, ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/24 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: what is an “all men are like that” type of generalization that you’re tired of OTHER MEN saying?It depends, what is "quickly". But it's more like that they find a "near perfect" girl and then decide it's worth it to slow down. Since men who can be man-whores, are men who are desirable, and men who are desirable are more in a position to pick the girl they actualy want, not settle with the best one they can get. They don't mean they don't miss the previous time, it's just that they feel it's time to start a family | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/24 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Women don’t want to be in a relationship or marriageMost women want to be in relationship or married, they are just not desperate to be in one, since there are no social repercussions for being childless and unmarried at 30, and also they don't have to depend on man finances as before. That's a big difference Therefore their standards can be higher and different, which conservative and religious men can't comprehend for some reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/24 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: what is an “all men are like that” type of generalization that you’re tired of OTHER MEN saying?I am from Balkans, same shit. Still anorexic isn't desirable look. But yes, for us, 80kg is fat for woman, in the USA this is "chubby" or "thick" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/24 08:22 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: what is an “all men are like that” type of generalization that you’re tired of OTHER MEN saying?Everyone just saying this about models being to skinny, you guys live in the past. That heroin chick look is thing of the 90s. Even Victoria Secret models now are not close to being anorexic, let alone insta models, who look better to majority of men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/24 07:14 AM |
| 0 | Q4M: what is an “all men are like that” type of generalization that you’re tired of OTHER MEN saying?This one is obviously not true because most wealthy, handsome, famous men eventually get relationships despite being able to easily have a rotation of fwb. Eventually yes, but almost all of them fuck around at least for some period of time, and then they get relationship. Also many of those famous men cheat. There is a reason why majority of athletes or actors fuck bunch of insta models. Bewcuse they can. This is my experience and what I can observe. I never saw attractive men including myself, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/24 07:12 AM |
| 6 | Why do men pursue women with traits or lifestyles they don’t approve of once they are in a relationship?That's just the cherry on top, I love to party for partying's sake. Exactly, again this is one of extreme Reddit opinion not based in reality. It seems like majority of people here are total social outcasts, and when they hear "club", they immediately imagining some Roman orgy. Something their grandmother told them about clubs "don't go there son, bad people go there to drink drugs" In my circle, in my country, literally everyone were clubbing, or going to bars etc.. nerds, athletes... literally… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/24 08:49 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Males aren't hypergamous because of insecurityNo, I know girls who struggled to do basic math in school, but they knew all about how to handle men. It's all about experience in relationship. Since they knew how to recognize all possible behaviours etc. Аlso I know lawyers ans doctors who fall on most basic fuckboy behaviour | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/24 04:31 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Males aren't hypergamous because of insecurityThere is 0 correlation between woman's intelligence and education and ability to be or not be "manipulated". It's all about experience with men PhD 140 IQ shy girl with little to no exp could be more easily manipulated than some man-eater waitress Same as men, I know some well accomplished, rich man who missed out on early relationships got eaten alive by some women way bellow their social status. It doesn't matter | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/24 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Pick 1 - great sex + bad relationship OR no sex + great relationship?The Loneliness epidemic That is caused by lack of true male friendships aka brotherhood, not lack of romantic ones. Men nowadays just fallen to this "my wife is my best friend" trap due to lack of communities we used to have. And that's why they are lost and unhappy. People overall, but men specifically, are tribal In my part of the world male friendships are still major thing in our lives, therefore we don't see that many lonely men here as I see that is situation in the west | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/24 10:22 AM |
| 3 | Q4M: Pick 1 - great sex + bad relationship OR no sex + great relationship?In fact I would argue platonic relationships are better than sexual ones Even 99% of women would disagree with this lol. doesn’t matter how physically attractive you are if you refuse to be loyal, don’t have the same life goals and spending time with you feels like a chore or like I’m being ignored till it’s time for sex. Who said that is the only thing. All other thing matter, but attraction is a foundation. Without it, I repeat, that's not a romantic relationship. Physical touch is EVERY man’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 09:48 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Pick 1 - great sex + bad relationship OR no sex + great relationship?It's not prioritizied, but it's a thing that separates romantic relationship and aromantic one. It's what makes a relationship a relationship. My relationships starts by initial sexual attraction we had towards each other, and physical touch is my love language. And biologically speaking, sex IS a point of pairing between male and female, due to procreation, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 07:50 PM |
| 8 | Q4M: Pick 1 - great sex + bad relationship OR no sex + great relationship?Well as I said, relationship without sex is friendship, not romantic relationship, so we compare apples to oranges. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 03:24 PM |
| 25 | Q4M: Pick 1 - great sex + bad relationship OR no sex + great relationship?Relationship without sex isn't even a relationship, so it's a bad comparison | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 02:48 PM |
| 5 | Attractive men don't have better skills when talking to women, they often never had to develop themYes, beacuse attraction is subconscious...and many men check all the boxes (apart from looks) but still struggle. Then they get this infamous "why can't I get a guy like you (but not you)" That is why "don't ask fish ask the fisherman" is actually good advice, although poorly worded. Woman will list you 100 things what she likes, but those are the thing she likes - if ahe is already attracted. Women rarely give good advices on how to actually attract and create the spark, beacuse spark is subcon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/24 11:52 AM |
| 4 | Attractive men don't have better skills when talking to women, they often never had to develop themOh I absolutely agree, and hate when unnatractive guys are gaslighted with "it's not your looks it's your personality, stop complaining incel". And my favourite " I know 5'6 chubby guys who date gorgeous women by being charming and funny, so it's not about looks" etc. I really feel for those men. It's not only about looks but there ARE indeed many guys who are very good men, sold jobs, normal etc...but just don't have "it". But sometimes that "it", it's just a bit more muscle and less fat, and b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/24 11:38 AM |
| -1 | Attractive men don't have better skills when talking to women, they often never had to develop themYou're literally saying you got attention from women even when having mediocre social skills. You collapsed your own argument midway Not quite, my success with women skyrocketed after I stopped being shy and got more confident, and sharpened social skills,so it's not only about looks. Although I do agree that looks is no.1 thing in dating, and without it I most likely would not be as confident as I am now But I was saying that good looking men actually HAVE skills with women, but those "skills" … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/24 10:55 AM |
| 12 | Attractive men don't have better skills when talking to women, they often never had to develop them"Skills" in talking to women is just being normal, relaxed and easy going...only difference is knowing when to "push" it a bit, be more flirty to create tension ...but it doesn't require some magic wordsmithing or even worse, "pua techniques" But that comes with experience, experience you get by being attractive. I know a lot of guys who got fatter now and went a bit out of shape, but they used to be handsome players - they are still good with women, since they have that experience and confidenc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/24 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Approaching women in a limited pool of your social circle poisons this pool for youAny relationship can go very bad.. I don't live a life focusing on negatives. Limiting yourself out of people you meet and spend 40% of your daily adult life is not so smart. Especially if you give that advice to someone that is already struggling. Usually those men don't have big social circles, and you are telling them to limit their potential dating pool even more, beacuse "there is a slight chance that it will turn bad" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Approaching women in a limited pool of your social circle poisons this pool for youNo woman I know irl is saying " don't approach a work colleague" etc. I only hear that from reddit women who talks about patriarchy and who don't shave legs, why would you care about them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 05:47 PM |
| 14 | Approaching women in a limited pool of your social circle poisons this pool for youI have never worked in a company where there weren't at least 1 official couple that met there, and always at least few hookups. I have been with a few as well. I also never witnessed "workplace drama" or someone reporting someone to HR etc "Don't shit where you eat" is one of common Reddit advices that is most out of touch with reality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men Who Say "Women are Shallow/Boring/Uninteresting" ... What Would You DO With A Girlfriend?Beacuse as I said it's not only about "have sex and go each other ways".There is more to it, and dynamic is not the same in relationship and hookup. We also support each other etc etc. I satisfy different desires and needs in a relationship with a woman, that are not purely sexual. But it is romantic, that's the main reason of relationship. But I also need company of my male best friends And also - "every once in a while" isn't enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 10:13 AM |
| 1 | Would you date an absolutely mediocre person?I actually prefer "basic" girls, "live laugh love" types...but not mediocre looks and sex life tho. Basically I like girls with mainstream interests...I find them more feminine and easy going. Alternative girls are unappealing to me, they were even when I was circling in alternative groups...there is always something off with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/24 03:38 PM |
| – | Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive?Who set that rule? I responded to a girl below, I've been to the USA and partied there, people were hooking up left and right, mo matter with whom you been with I would even say that it's easier if they are in a bigger group. Then one if them can easily go with some guy and they not gonna get affected. Imagine if you want to approach a girl who are with only 1 friend. Then you have to have a wingman or you need to entertain both of them, so the other one don't get bored. And she is less likely d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/24 04:29 PM |
| – | Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive?I have been to USA for 1 summer, girls went to parties in groups, and many of them were hooking up with guys, me included. I just wait for a "signal". Wait for "the look" from a girl then approach - club game101, same thing everywhere in the world. This "we only go to dance and are absolutely opposed to being approached" is something I never heard in real life, and I have a lot of girls in my friend group. Sometimes they go in girls-only group, sometimes we all go as a mixed group etc. Solo club… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/24 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive?What country is it? I have been to few, it's always the same. Guys approach, majority get rejected, some have sucess. You don't want unnatractive guys poking around, women brake rules for guys they like anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 04:01 PM |
| 3 | Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive?In my country no one goes alone, even if girls are in bigger groups, they are usually open to be approached. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive?That's the point of OP's subject, that some women are complaining about being approached etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 10:00 AM |
| 3 | Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive?. Am I supposed to just shut myself in my home unless I’m open to fucking any guy I may meet in a club? Weird take. Of course not, but don't have to pretend you are flabbergasted and offended if someone approached you. I mean, I never heard a girl complaining about being aproached irl, that's one of "reddit is parallel universe" moment to me. I actually hear many women complain that "men don't approach anymore, men became pussies who don't approach etc" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 09:07 AM |
| 3 | Why do girls make the biggest deal about getting approached/hit on, even when done respectfully by a guy they find attractive?Yes, you don't go for a reason to be approached, but would you be absolutely opossed to it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/24 09:03 AM |
| 1 | Is sex a product of a good relationship or is it a pre-requisite to one?I find it scary to be with people who live life for that adrenaline rush (through novelty, adventure, or strong feelings) because, on the negative side, it means they may get bored and restless more easily. I like stability and calmness more than I do passion in relationships Yes, that is the problem I have. There is always something new, something challenging.. I do get bored easily, and dislike "putting the roots" as we say it in Serbia, dislike settling down, being "stable" Not only with wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 12:42 PM |
| 2 | Is sex a product of a good relationship or is it a pre-requisite to one?As for passion (in a physical sense), I don't really feel the need for that but that might be my bias since I don't struggle to connect with people that way. I'm assuming that if someone has never had it or rarely has access, I never had problems with it, and always had access to it. But the more I have it the more I want it. I can't never have "enough sex and passion" It's just who I am as a person, I am very passionate, in both love, sex but in life as well. For me, being passionate means bein… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 12:25 PM |
| 4 | Is sex a product of a good relationship or is it a pre-requisite to one?Is sex really more valuable than any of the other things you get in a relationship It's not sex itself, it's romance. Since for me, if we are in a relationship, we are not "best friends", since my best friend is a man. We are "lovers". And basis of being lovers, in "making love" - passion, sex, kissing , cuddling... It's absolutely pre-requsite and a foundation of every relationship I had, including current one So I don't need a woman to be my best friend, but I need her to be my lover. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 12:10 PM |
| 2 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI am fit na lean but not jacked, never had any issue. I do have a good skull shapre tho, but majority of people don't have hideous skull shape, that's ridiculous. Otherwise it's doomed. Whereas a skinny/feminine guy with hair can still be considered as attractive. Not in my country...feminine guy can be attractive, but only for one specific niche of alternative women. That are usually not hot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 08:09 AM |
| -1 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI don't understand this weird obsession with baldness, and how men think about that is some kid of handicap. I WANTED to be bald, I started cutting my hair to "military" hairstyle, 1mm, since high school. That was cool hairstyle in the Balkans. Having fancy hairstyles is frowned upon here, and many women dislike men who put "too much effort" in hair, and actually likes bald men (not balding) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 06:34 PM |
| 2 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD...with that particular person. But it might be with someone else. It happens all the time, I also rejected an encounter with many girls that I didn't like, but then pursued one that I like. You are basically saying that you don't reject anyone if you are willing to have an "romantic enounter" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 04:43 PM |
| 19 | Harmless Joke or Disrespect?large number of people find these things funny. Women find it funny, those men from the photos are dying inside, and pretending not to care since they don't want to be labeled "insecure", beacuse they arr afraid of losing the girl. You never see actual handsome man to be in those photos | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 08:24 AM |
| 2 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everA party is a party, is it going to be 10 or 55 people, it doesn't matter. As long as music is in background Going at to the bar, sitting at the table with a few friends and drinking 3 beers is a "night out", it's not necessarily has to be some American Pie type of party. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everPeople here are always complaining how "it's over for average men" "average men this average men that".. average man have friends, that is why I give advice for average man. If you have 0 friends, I am sorry, but you are not average man, and your problems are way bigger than that you don't have a girlfriend. This is what should be your major focus | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 07:50 AM |
| 2 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everYeah, I see this only on internet. Many couples I know actually met in night out...I mean duh? What is a night out - people who are going out and socializing with other people who are there with the same intention, plus you drink a bit so you are more relaxed, so possibilities to meet someone are amplified compared to some daily activities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 07:47 AM |
| 2 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everSorry, but that's insane to me, I can't even comprehend that. No one from your HS partied? Reddit is literally parallel universe lol. Not even a birthday? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everLike literally never? How old are you? I am 30, while many of my peers maybe don't go clubbing until 4 am anymore, majority of people I know at least going for a few drinks in a bar or cafe on weekends. Maybe not every weekend, but never? Working days as well, in Belgrade, bars and cafes are full from morning to night | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 04:41 PM |
| 6 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everA bar/club/party is the absolute last place I'd ever expect to meet my future girlfriend or wife. I never understood this extreme opinions on internet. Some people also saying things like " you don't look for a girlfriend in a club, you look for her in a library" or some shit. But thing is, most girls who go to libraries, go to the clubs as well, it's not mutually exclusive. At all. When I was in HS and college, EVERYONE went to parties. Best students, who are now PhDs, also partied and drinking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 01:36 PM |
| 1 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everWell, as far as I know, online dating was a thing even in 00s, and then it was mostly for "losers who can't find anyone irl". Internet overall was for them as well lol. Then everyone started using myspace and FB and everything changed. FB was my first touch with anything social on internet | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 01:24 PM |
| 6 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everExceptions might be bars where you can sit at the counter, but still it might look weird if you start approaching random people. Only if other people are also alone. Although I saw that only in James Bond movies and I worked as a bartender haha. I never saw a lone guy have success and I worked in various bars for few years, unless they knew me and other bartender, but that's still social proof | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everI didn't see this comment, so I wrote my own exactly the same. Many people on Reddit will virtue signal and say that it's completely fine, but going alone to social events will led people to think you are there only to approach and that you have no one. As you said, social proof is extremely important | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 12:29 PM |
| 9 | Telling struggling guys to go to bars/clubs/parties is literally the worst and most hilarious advice everDon't believe me? Just try going to a club or rave alone as a nerdy, unattractive guy. It Well of course, going there ALONE is bad, even if you are above average guy. You would literally look like the needy guy who is there only and only to approach girls. Point of clubs ans bars is to go there to have fun, and if you find some girl you can approach to do it, if not, nevermind had your fun with friends. In my country specifically, solo clubbing is very very rare. Raves might be different since m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 12:25 PM |
| 2 | Most Women are too trendy to trust their dating advice, so asking them is pointlessIt's why "shirtless pics showing muscles is icky" is a common thing said on reddit, but any man will tell you how many more matches he gets once he starts showing abs. It's because the women on reddit aren't the young women you're trying to fuck lol. Exactly lol, reddit is such an extreme echo chamber out of touch with reality I live in, that is why I am so hooked, beacuse it's interesting. I mean even me giving advices can be pointless. I like to help guys who struggle with women, but most of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/24 10:51 AM |
| – | Is red pill about getting the hottest girl for the lowest price? TLDR belowDepends what you call red pill. Today's red pill guys who are conservative, "I want woman who is like my grandmothers "women should be housewifes with 5 kids at 30", or guys like in OP's example - yes, they are majorly unsuccessful. But overall in my exp, at least in my part of the world, men who are most successful with women, including myself, holds some or many beliefs from OG red pill. They don't know about the term "red pill" tho. I didn't until I saw it 7,8 years ago, and I was like - this… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/24 09:05 AM |
| 5 | Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behaveEffortless during the initial phase ofc, not throught the whole relationship. If I have to pull teeth to secure relationship, and if in the beginning I have to be the one who is initiating everything all the time, to "prove" myself, that relationship is already doomed. I did it a few times while I was younger and those were the worst relationships. While the best relationships I had , including current one, started with causal sex, 1-2 dates into meeting each other, where attraction was through … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 03:44 PM |
| – | Debate : Without legal intervention or social shaming, older men would usually choose very, very young women; older women would be largely ignored.22,3,4 y old maybe, but 18y old are not hotter. Some of them are hot, yes, but majority of them still have childlike faces.. it's just not attractive. Only attractive 18y olds, are the one for whom you think that they are 25 when you see them. So, that means that average 18y old is not attractive to 30y old man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 03:01 PM |
| 3 | Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behaveHe didn't say JUST beacuse of his body, again you are intentionally cheryy picking and going into extremes. He even said that the rest is good, but a good bonus. Physical attraction is the foundation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 02:31 PM |
| 5 | Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behaveWomen like intelligence and humour, but improve your looks, and notice how women find your jokes funnier and funnier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behaveBut then you go on to just describe regular flirting and flattery. ...that happen instantly after they meet you, without taking a time for attraction to grow. That's the difference between "visceral" attraction, how you call it, and attraction that needs to grow over time, by you having some other qualities. Now, with a lot of experience, I notice when some girl us attracted to me like that. And after that point, it's literally "whatever I say". I mean, I can not start to talk shit about her dea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behaveIf you want the type of woman who acts like an overly expressive childish anime character, You are thinking in extremes, that is why you imagine some animalistic "let's fuck right her right now situation no mather what" situation. But if she acts like a regular adult woman— It's literally how grown women behave when they are instantly attracted. You were never the hot guy in female collective (either some bigger hang out, college, work etc) and it shows. They act overly and openly and obviously … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 12:45 PM |
| 4 | Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behaveIt's being so physically attractive to her, that the rest don't matter, or don't matter much. Whatever you say, whatever you do, it would be perceived as funny, sexy, cute...that much. And that happens, but not to the majority of men. When I see whatever, I don't mean literally whatever, so don't come at time with "but what if he is abusive, or what if he shits on the floor instead of a toilet", or anything extreme. Extremes don't count | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 12:25 PM |
| – | Debate : Without legal intervention or social shaming, older men would usually choose very, very young women; older women would be largely ignored.No, but I also mean that I find girls around 30s objectively hotter than 20y old. I could be with 20y old both sexualy and even in a relationship mentally. But I prefer 30y old physically. Mentaly as well, but that's not the pont. That why I find talk about "the wall" funny. Women in 30s are not lacking in options, not at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 11:12 AM |
| – | Debate : Without legal intervention or social shaming, older men would usually choose very, very young women; older women would be largely ignored.Yeah, it also depends whose perspective we are considering. Many people who talk about "the wall" or whatever are mostly young guys, like 20-23, so for them 30+ may seem old, but for me as a 30y old man who is attractive enough to choose, 30y old women are more PHYSICALLY attractive than 20y old girls. I don't even care about those "what you have in common with 21y old etc" things, I can handle an hang out with college party girls as well easily.. however I find girs 30-35 the most attractive - … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 10:28 AM |
| 6 | Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behaveExactly. Difference is huge, but most men don't experience that visceral attraction on the 1st sight ever in life, hence the blue pill "women are less shallow, they need emotions to have sex" opinion | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 09:28 AM |
| 9 | Obsession with “visceral attraction” is self-sabotage and not consistent with how people really behaveAgain, people have hyperbolic opinion.. visceral attraction don't necessarily have to be "let's fuck right her right now on the dancefloor" They’ll flirt, they’ll dance, they’ll do whatever’s appropriate for the environment they’re in. They may even have sex on the first date It's exactly this, when girl see you, or you talk a bit, and she is instantly attracted, and start to give you "signals", she treat you differently than other guys, is instantly more interested in what you have to say etc (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 09:27 AM |
| 6 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?Like yes, every man would love a quiet, nerdy, introverted gf that just sits at home and reads books No, not at all.. me and all my friends prefer social girls, who have their own friends, but who are also capable and eager to hang out within our friend group. One friend is currently in LTR with introverted shy girl, and it's a struggle, since he would like to hang out with us way more often, and when we all bring our girs for example, she doesn't want to go, or nagging him to go home after 1h..… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 01:44 PM |
| 9 | Only telling men to self improve is bad adviceChanging a behaviour and approach to interaction with women are not "faking that you are something you are not", especially if the change comes with understanding of reason why they have to change. MBA techbro if you’re a laid back stoner musician Most of guys are not techbros neither stoner musicians. Most of the guys, are just that - "some guys", nothing special..and that's fine, since most girls are just that, some basic girls. And majority of guys who struggle with women, are just normal guy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 08:25 AM |
| 3 | Women consider a woman’s company to be more valuable than a man’sWe are in middle ground, which is more healthier, USA has a lot of extremes. For example you have this drunken hookup culture where girls fuck 30 guys in college,but you also have extreme religious communities where people wait for marriage etc. We don't have either of those groups, for example I don't know literally anyone who waits for marriage, both men or women, it's not even a topic, it's considered ridiculous | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 07:23 PM |
| 2 | Women consider a woman’s company to be more valuable than a man’sNo, Serbia. Only women on Reddit and girls who study sociology or something similar talk about it often | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 07:13 PM |
| 11 | Women consider a woman’s company to be more valuable than a man’sYeah, but that makes it interesting for me, since both girls and men around are way different. Reddit is a parallel univers to me lol. For example, for 30 y of my life, I never met a woman who used a word "patriarchy" or "feminism" irl... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 07:01 AM |
| 7 | Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue?I always emphasize maximizing looks as the best ROI thing you can do in the dating world. However, it's not only looks that matters, although it's no.1, therefore knowing how to behave, or what red pillers calls "game" it's important as well Do you think women give better advice than men and on catching male “fish?” Yes. However not at the same extent, since in 99% of situation, men are the one who chase and approach. So women don't need an advice on how to get a quality man, but they need an ad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 08:42 AM |
| 4 | Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue?Exactly. And also what I mentioned, when women give advice how to get a girl, they give advice on how to behave - if she is already attracted to you, or how to behave if you are already in the relationship. But this is not what GETS you a girl. Attraction is subconscious and illogical, therefore what women say and even think they like, its often not the same on what you react positively to. Therefore, "don't ask the fish ash the fisherman" is actually good advice, although hated by women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/24 08:17 AM |
| 3 | What Do You Think Of Chris Williamson?Brother, nothing "red pill" you the most than the actual success with women. I don't mean this "conservative, woman should be obedient virgin housewifes" red pill, I mean "look good, hold your frame, women break rules for alphas and set them for betas" red pill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 10:13 AM |
| 2 | No one, not even women, can actually read the room properlyYeah, these bad situations that arrises are absolutely uncommon. Most likely what would happen - man shoots his shot, girls flirt back then flirting continue, or she rejects a guy, and man back off, work life continues as nothing ever happened | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/24 11:27 AM |
| 26 | What advice would you give to a young guy who formed the belief that women find bad men exciting to prevent him from swallowing the redpill?They don't understand that apparently, they still think that "you are a guy girls choose after they mature" is a compliment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 07:40 PM |
| 1 | No one, not even women, can actually read the room properlyThing is, you can say 2nd thing as well, but ONLY if you built a rapport already and feel that it will work. I flirted in that way with many girls, and it never backclashed. But I didn't APPROACH her like that ofc. Problem with advices like that, is that will not work for you if you are socially inept, and if you don't know to "feel the situation". But you can't feel the situation if you aren't experienced. This is more like a spinning hook kick. But guys who are reading that still don't know ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 11:37 AM |
| 8 | No one, not even women, can actually read the room properlyAnd millions other couples as well. Reddit has a weird obsession eith hating on anything work-related, either friendships, casual flirting or relationships..I see it happens all the time. I am still great friend with couple of guys from my previous company, and also had a several casual hookups. People are hooking up on team building all the time as well. This so called work drama is too overblown and it rarely happens. I never saw drama at work due to hookups and relationships, but I went to 2 … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 11:31 AM |
| 8 | The Myth Of ConfidenceI do saw it, one if my best friends is objectively ugly guy, a bit hunched.. but also extremely confident with DGaf attitude. And he constantly had girlfriends who are solid looking. However, he is one of those guys who truly dgaf, and he would regularly approach 10 girls in 1 night. If he gets one, he is happy, he doesn't care about 9 that rejected him. So his success rate is still extremely low, way way lower than in a good looking guys. But he is aware that he is not handsome, and he doesn't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 11:10 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?It's not exhausting if you are interesting man, then you just are, don't need to push yourself. And that was my point. Mundane staff are ok and necessary, but if you ONLY do mundane stuff, go to work, grocery store, sit at home, watch netflix, that's the problem...But many men are now ok with only that - "having a girlfriend and doing nothing". But there are way less women who are interested in that lifestyle. Homebody reddit gamer women are extreme minority | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Men of reddit would you have a problem if your girlfriend was a Cuckquean?No, as I said, I am not into humiliation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Men of reddit would you have a problem if your girlfriend was a Cuckquean?Humiliating no, but if she is really into it and adores me so much that enjoys watching me with other girl, then probably yes. If she likes girls and want to participate a bit, even better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 08:50 AM |
| 1 | What advice would you give to your struggling son?Not that girls necessarily, but it will definitely help with learning about them, to look at girls as normal beings, not someone "strange", and most importantly ,to act spontaneously around them etc.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/24 08:03 AM |
| 2 | What advice would you give to your struggling son?Depends how old they are, dating to marry and build life together is ridiculous in young age. They should date for fun, as majority of healthy young people do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 12:13 PM |
| 2 | What advice would you give to your struggling son?Many times it is...men who were not socializing with girls as boys usually struggle, and become either "white knights" and put women on a pedestal, or they become so distant, that they imagine girls are from some other planet. Either one extreme or another. Unless extremely ugly or short, but even then, they would be better as socially active then as shut ins | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 12:08 PM |
| 4 | What advice would you give to your struggling son?But overall, I feel like a lot of parents, especially parents of young boys, are fine with their sons doing nothing proactive for their romantic lives and don't see any problem with them becoming late bloomers until they themselves bring it up Yeah, I consider it a problem. And it also depends what kind of man your father is. Mine was very outgoing guy, with a lot of friends and all of them were successful with women in their young age. Therefore I grew up listening to their stories, and questio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 11:16 AM |
| 2 | Do you ever see couples on opposite ends of gender expression and wonder… what on earth do they even have in common?They did love each other, in their way. It’s just not a way many people aspire to now. Some people now especially in the western world, have that "my partner is my best friend" and I think that reason is that people there are too lonely, due to lack of communities, and real friendships. That why people seek everything in 1 person. My best friend is a man, that I know for 25 years and he can't be replaced. My girlfriend also has best female friend she is meeting often and talk almost daily. I can… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 09:39 AM |
| 5 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThat we have different standards of what is muscular. For me, swimmers are muscular I mean normal, attractive build to disgusting muscle overload in 6-12 months. They are lying to you, they are doing steroids 99%. Have you ever stepped foot in a gym? Since I hear that opinion only from guys that never lifted "I want to workout but I don't want to overdo it abd become to muscular" etc etc.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/24 12:59 PM |
| 5 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThey are all on roids bro, you can't gain that much of muscles that easily. You answer to someone else 6 months, that's ridiculous. I gain like 1 kg of muscle in 6 months, with constant training and progressive overload, that's barely visible change in a t-shirt And you skipped other part if my comment. Do you think swimmers are too muscular for majority of women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/24 12:52 PM |
| 7 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADSuper muscular bodybuilders built yes, but this is not an achievable built for 99% of men anyway. When I say muscular, I mean swimmers or sprinters...and that build is absolutely attractive to 99% of women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/24 12:29 PM |
| 4 | Is Japan blue pill paradise? Is South Korea red pill paradise?Both countries are dystopian...this is why obsessive following the rules and traditions lead the society to. Suicides, a lot of unpacked traumas, mental problems... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 02:12 PM |
| 7 | Does Pete Davidson prove that size actually does matter?Having Dgaf attitude does not necessarily mean being an asshole. It just means you do and say what you want regardless of what people say about you. But if you are actually good guy, saying what you want don't mean saying nasty things, since this is not what you actually want | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 02:00 PM |
| 3 | Does Pete Davidson prove that size actually does matter?A man who is an example of the most beautiful man of the planet for years, Brad Pitt, has both big eyes and full lips. He still looks pretty masculine as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Does Pete Davidson prove that size actually does matter?Is it attractive to most women? As a man with full lips, I can tell you - yes. I have been told that my lips are beautiful 100s of times. I think eyes and lips are what women look at it most, facewise. My best friend has very big blue eyes and girls literally approach him in the club or even on the street to tell him how much his eyes are beautiful. And you have guys in red pill community overfocusing on jawline or some other shit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 01:52 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?You are literally first person in a world that I ever heard that she prefers fluff. Fluff on a big strong tall guy yes, like a rugby player off season, but actualy soft and fluff, never ever. You are in an extreme majority, like men who prefer 300lbs women. If this is not true, we would see way more fluff overweight players and womanizers then we see it now (me personally never met that type, the men who are most successful with women, are actualy very fit. Either lean or jacked, but always athl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 12:53 PM |
| -1 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?I don't get this comment tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 12:42 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?Is it a hoeflation or inflation of interesting men? Who is stopping you to become adventurous and ambitious? That's the point of other part of my comment, man just want to be lazy and relax and wonder why girlfriend isn't attracted to him anymore. We are not living in conservative time where women were happy just to have a man who doesn't beat them and provide, adapt to it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 12:39 PM |
| 6 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?Neither do I apparently lol, that's why I don't have flair. To me, red pill is defined by your example no.1 in original comment. Girls do disregard any shortcomings and convince themselves that hot guy is also smart, nice etc...giving benefit of a doubt where you wouldn't give it to average guy. And also overblowing hot man virtues. My girlfriend still insists that she fell for me beacuse of my intelligence. But we kissed 2h since we met and spoke 4 sentences before that, so...and she didn't do … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 10:11 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?Exactly, which is weird to hear from someone with blue pill flair lol. At the end, it comes down to "I don't want to feel pressured by guy who is in shape", not "I am not attracted to fit guys". 2nd part is also true, they say dad bod, but they imagine guys who is in great shape just without visible abs. Like a professional athlete after 20 days of binge drinking and fast food holiday | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:52 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?Men do it faster, like I saw men changing lifestyle instantly after they get a girl. Women do it as well that's why I prefer girls who are into sports genuinely, not just training to look good. I never experienced it with my ex-es but I saw it too many times with other guys. And then "shaming" starts, "you have to like me no matter how fat I get, you are not a real man" etc etc Also some women prefer their men get chubby since they have an excuse to get chubby as well and stop trying. And vice v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:38 AM |
| 6 | Does Pete Davidson prove that size actually does matter?And they are also celebrities, they don't operate as normal people. Who knows if many of those relationship are genuine, or PR stunts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:31 AM |
| 15 | Does Pete Davidson prove that size actually does matter?They find some photos of him where he is drunk and drugged out of his mind and made some weird face.. even Monnica Bellucci would look ugly in those situations. He is not Brad Pitt in Legends if the Fall level handsome, but he is good looking guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:21 AM |
| 8 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?I actually hope men don’t change in relationships, but all men I’ve lived with got fat once we moved in together. I didn’t. Two of the three also suddenly only wanted to play video games in their free time. They didn’t want to go out to events or concerts anymore once they’d gotten me on a lease with them. Turns out they played the part of the active and fun boyfriend but really they just wanted to smoke pot, eat too much and play video games. Yeah, the trope "women gets fat in relationship" is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 09:12 AM |
| 0 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.USA is literally the easiest place in the world to have easy sex. If you are not getting any in USA, you will struggle hard anywhere else, unless you want to attract poor women who are looking for green card | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 05:37 PM |
| 3 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.Like I live in a country ( Georgia ) where most guys tend to be short, hairy, and on the ugly side. Yet most men here also very outgoing, charismatic, and with great social skills. As a result, in social contests for women's attention ( bars / clubs / dating / relationships ), Georgian men consistantly win over "hotter" ( taller, better looking ) men from other European nations who are socially awkward and lack charisma / game Yes, of course Georgian men will have advantage over meek and introve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 05:34 PM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADNumber it irrelevant. Girl who married high school sweetheart but cheated him twice during 30 years of marriage - slut Girl who never cheated, but had few relationships and several hookups/ons - girl with healthy view on sex and not a slut | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 02:42 PM |
| 4 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADUnless religious, girls don't care about men body count. Yes, they will SAY here that they care, but if she is actually pursued by some, she will act differently, since attraction isn't logical. There is a reason why a man has a high body count, and the reason is that big number of women are attracted to him, simple as that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 02:39 PM |
| 6 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.Nobody denies that, we just say that better you look the less you have to work for it, you need less time etc...saying "average" men have girlfriends is not a good counter arguments, cause no one, except total weirdos are denying that. But we who are above average on looks don't need to wait for "attraction to grow", we get it instantly and organically. Improving looks increases your chances if getting more and better girls in your life - drastically,that's a simple fact. Your jokes are funnier,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 01:46 PM |
| 7 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.It's not ONLY thing, why does people on reddit always think in extremes? Looks are extremely important part of it tho, however people, and especially women, don't want to/like to admit that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 01:28 PM |
| 6 | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant.I never ever shared a hobby with a girlfriend. It never caused any issue, and it's not significant to me at all. In fact, I prefer to have things I do without her, and that she has her own thing, I am not "non stop with a girlfriend" type if man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 01:16 PM |
| – | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant. Why?His confidence improved since he started to notice women checking him out, react more positively to him, laugh at his jokes way more than before, although his jokes are the same etc.. You can't just "become" confident ex nihilo, some external positive validation is needed. And yes that improve his social skills as well, but it's a direct correlation with improved looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 11:49 AM |
| – | To be successful at a SOCIAL interaction with another human (a.k.a. dating / relationship), SOCIAL skills are the most important thing. This is as obvious as the sky is blue, yet some people on this sub keep doubling / tripling down on the desperate lie that social skills are irrelevant. Why?Same thing as with sucess if you have a rich parents who owns a company. You need only not to be a complete idiot and you will be successful. While working class kid needs to spill blood, sweat and tears only to reach starting point of a rich kid. Same thing with looks. If you are not a total idiot, it's enough. And I know from my experience, when ypu are good looking women react positively to you before you even say a word, and everything is easier from that point. And since more girls are open… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 11:45 AM |
| – | You Can’t Argue your Way to Success in Dating"you can't negotiate an attraction" is basically one of the biggest tenants of red pill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 10:56 AM |
| – | You Can’t Argue your Way to Success in DatingWhat do you consider puting the muscle? There is no need to look like a bodybuilder, people on reddit often correlates "putting on muscle" with becoming C-Bum Everyone can look lean with some muscles. Like soccer players for examples. Fit and lean. Nobody, except some weirdos, ever said that you have to be roided gim bro to get a girl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/24 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL :- Non-Americans, how much of the TRP advice would work in your own country ?I never saw that claim tbh, maybe some extreme people. I never ever read any claim that you need 666 to have any girlfriend. Especially in the OG red pill subreddit. even they do not disregard looks Wrll this is not what I saw. They absolutely disregard it or minimizing the importance of it. And this is why these discussions are pointless unless is defined what is "red pill" and "blue pill". Some guy wrote that red pill is being dominareing frat bro douche, which is absolute charicature of every… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Q4ALL :- Non-Americans, how much of the TRP advice would work in your own country ?Yet, this is not a requirement to have a relationship or sex. It opens up more desirable partners and makes it easier to get casual sex interest from women. Nobody think that you need to be all that to have ANY girlfriend, I don't know why anyone use this as an argument, execpt to ridicule the person they ar arguing with. 2nd part of your sentence is actually real red pill, and a part of that that I agree with. Women are as shallow as men in terms of looks, and are readu to disregard many bad th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Both men and women entertain people they have no intention of marrying while ignoring the ones they would.Haha, i like your joke, please cum again | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Both men and women entertain people they have no intention of marrying while ignoring the ones they would.Lol. It's's just things in my experience girls love to do for men who they are extremely attracted to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Q4ALL :- Non-Americans, how much of the TRP advice would work in your own country ?I don't know know, it used to be. Now red pill is more connected with some conservative shit, i don't know why. Blue pill is more like looks don't matter to women, just be yourself etc... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 01:07 PM |
| – | Do you believe positive physical characteristics can offset negative ones in males?What about balding but cute face? I never understood balding thing, I am shaving my head since college days, many women, at least in my country, actually prefers it, since girls like more "manly look". But even abroad I had a lot of success, I think even more, since competition is lesser. Literally was never rejected beacuse of being bald | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 11:02 AM |
| 1 | Both men and women entertain people they have no intention of marrying while ignoring the ones they would.I don't understand this "asshole" thing, why you need to be an asshole? You shouldn't be a pussy bitch and you need to have balls and "be a man". Which menas being direct in your intentions, not hiding your sexuality, and don't be a doormat Maybe some men can't differentiate playfull teasing and banter from being rude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 09:55 AM |
| 1 | Q4ALL :- Non-Americans, how much of the TRP advice would work in your own country ?I am from Balkans, some beliefs that can be considered "red pill" are actually common sense to us. Some of them are ridiculous but yeah, looks+being social+being a smooth talker trumps everything else everywhere in the world | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 09:47 AM |
| 3 | Both men and women entertain people they have no intention of marrying while ignoring the ones they would.Most womenizers aren't rich like Big from Sex and the City. I never did any of this ridiculous courting neither the guys who are even more successful. It's literally the opposite, the more attractive you are, less you have to try and work for it. That's the actual point, majority of womanizers aren't rich at all Women need to be emotionally invested to have sex with a guy, Lol, do people still believe in this lie? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Both men and women entertain people they have no intention of marrying while ignoring the ones they would.Well yeah, most of girls I hooked up with (long term hookups) were actually eager to really go above and beyond for me. Cooking for me, paying a taxi for me to come (when I was student), buying me drinks and presents, like clothes...canceling plans just so we can meet etc.. I did not have to pay for shit, just to make them cum lol. I got that treatment in the relationship as well, but only from girls where we started casualy then developed a relationship out of it. In 2 relationships that didn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 09:37 AM |
| 1 | women have an aundance of BOTH casual and romantic optionsIt's very hard to sort out the "good ones" when the whole trick in dating is lying to appear better. The more options you have the more likely it is that they flock to you because you're physically attractive, hence the more likely they are to want casual only. When you're ugly you're almost certain that your admirer is into it for more than that. As a man yes, since women are raising standards (physical) for casual, but we actually lower our standards for casual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/24 10:07 AM |
| 7 | Blue pillers just don't want "unworthy" people to date or have relationships.If they consider him that much weird that they don't want to introduced him to anyone, why would they be even friends with him in the first place, I am not friends with people I consider creepy. It's more likely that his friends just sucked as friends. I know some friend groups that are like that, nobody cares for each other, everyone minding their own business and using each other when convenient etc.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 01:40 PM |
| 11 | Blue pillers just don't want "unworthy" people to date or have relationships.I wouldn't call it weird. Bitter and resentful, yes, and he should definitely just let it go. But his resentment is absolutely justified. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 10:36 AM |
| 2 | Q4Men Who Say "Women are Shallow/Boring/Uninteresting" ... What Would You DO With A Girlfriend?Cuddle, have sex, go somewhere and do something etc...I am not saying she is boring and that women are boring, I can have fun with women without sex, I have girl friends etc...But yes, if there isn't sexual/physical component of a relationship, I for sure would not spend that much time with her. For pure hang outs, I do prefer my male friends. That is why I don't live this "my partner is my best friend" thing. I often joke that I am one of rare men who actually encourage his girlfriend to have a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 10:26 AM |
| 9 | Q4Men Who Say "Women are Shallow/Boring/Uninteresting" ... What Would You DO With A Girlfriend?what do they imagine a man does with the other 23.5 hours of the day with his partner? I am not with my girlfriend 24h per day, simple | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 08:36 AM |
| 10 | Blue pillers just don't want "unworthy" people to date or have relationships.nobody will introduce their weird friend to their friends. How do you know he is/was weird? You are exactly proving his point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 08:10 AM |
| 4 | Blue pillers just don't want "unworthy" people to date or have relationships.would be foolish to ignore it. For example being kind. Or genuine. Nobody ever said that being kind and genuine is a bad thing, we just say that this is not what GETS you a girl, which is a big difference. And yes, it's better to be kind, but you don't have to be, since millions of unkind men don't have problem with dating and millions of actual kind(not "nice guy" kind) men are struggling. I don't know why is this hard to comprehend. We talk about dating here, since all this "pill" bullshit is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 08:00 AM |
| 19 | Blue pillers just don't want "unworthy" people to date or have relationships.But he is not an exception, this is the point. Women hating school shooter incels are the exception, and this is why advices like "just be nice person" suck beacuse they don't work and they don't serve purpose to help anyone, they serve purpose that commenter feel good and virtuous about himself. And this is what make guys like OP even more pissed or depressed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/24 07:46 AM |
| 3 | Why are girls misleading on what tinder profiles are attractiveWell yeah, but women on reddit are small minority, usually on very introverted side, and most likely on a lower end of attractivness, no offence. Therefore opinion and advices from women here are not so applicable in a day to day outside life. Yes, you may prefer nerdier shy guy, but on every girl like you, goes 30 of them who don't like them and prefer athleitc, outgoing men who are not homebodies Men as well, but since there are more men here, there are way more "normie" men, including myself,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 11:16 AM |
| – | Why aren't males attending singles events anymore?Anyone that graduated at one of the top 10 universities in the world* | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:24 AM |
| – | Why aren't males attending singles events anymore?It’s not going to be a beautiful woman they’re married to That's the part that is usually silent, and not only that, they actually say that this "short fat dude they know" is actually so charismatic that EVERY woman like him, and he picks up way more girls that athletic fit guys, and that he is dating actualy gorgeous women. You can see at least 1-2 comments like this on every thread about looks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 08:18 AM |
| 11 | Why are girls misleading on what tinder profiles are attractiveAlways some girl will come with these type of response...yes, not all women are same, but there are things that not all, but majority of women like or don't like Since I had greater success with shirtless beach photos then without them, my advice is always to have them, if you have a nice body. Yes, maybe some introverted reddit girl would swipe left, but on every girl that will think he is douche, there will be 10 that will think "this guy is hot" and swipe right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 05:24 PM |
| 23 | Why are girls misleading on what tinder profiles are attractiveSame thing, my matches and dates absolutely skyrocketed after I added shirtless pics that showed my body (not selfie, more spontaneous one, beach photos etc)...also the number of girls messaging me first increased. So you do what you want with that info. And yes, even "introverted feminist" with "I want a gentle guy in touch with emotions, no douchebags please" profiles one swiped right | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?1st one was way better cause it encouraged people to actually go out, get in shape, learn to talk to women etc...these new guys just claim to be red pill but are in fact just unsuccessful guys who can't cope that in today's world women don't depend on men anymore so you actually need to have something with substance | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/24 06:56 PM |
| 4 | Banning "low effort dates" are just another way that women hurt themselves.It's not about can you AFFORD, many men can afford but still don't want to do it. It's not about dinner itself, it's about her entitlement and insisting on it. Beacuse if a woman insists on a fancy dinner date and would not go to some "low effort" one, she is just not attracted enough, or she thinks on relationships as something transactional. I had girls by ME a drink or meal many times.. when she really likes you she will accept anything anytime, and she will cancel her plans to meet you. If a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/24 07:28 AM |
| – | The normalization of having your first kid at 35+ is going to decimate birth rates even more, lead to increase autism rates and make things worse for the following generationsYeah in the past few years...those countries are still overpopulated and they are overpopulating Europe and NA, like Arabs and Africans...so people having less kids and getting kids in later period of life is not a bad thing. But it would be perfect if that applied to everyone, not just Europeans and Americans | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?So all the conquerors did it beacuse of virtue and higher purpose? And no Roman senator was ego-driven ambitious person? And they were all "rejecting individuality and materialism"? While being filthy rich at the same time You have totally romanticized view of ancient times | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 03:12 PM |
| 1 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?It works better for people individually, we literally live in the best 50 years in history of the humanity. We never had that many options as individuals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 03:08 PM |
| – | The normalization of having your first kid at 35+ is going to decimate birth rates even more, lead to increase autism rates and make things worse for the following generationsMedicine is improving and having less people on Earth is a good thing. The problem is, that this doesn't apply to Indians, Bangladeshi and similar, they are the one overpopulating Earth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?fundamentally rejects individualism and the idea of self-ownership. You mean they were taking about this while being rich slave owners themselves. Like those senators were really virtuous. They were classic politicians with ambition to get as much gold and pussy to fuck, while preaching about morals and virtue. You romanticize ancient times too much. Did Alexander the Great conquer the world for some higher purposes? No, he considered the world beacuse of his thirst for power and domination. Was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 01:47 PM |
| 2 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?is the desire to at least try to get a wife that lusts for him sexually. Isn't this like the main pinnacle od red pill? So called Chad gets all the girls to lust for him and they settle for beta they don't find that attractive but he is a solid provider? And red pill shamed and ridiculed beta providers. If she isn't lusting for you then you are not the one, but you should strive to be one? This was red pill stuff I was reading 7,8 years ago. It seems that all men who claimed to be red pill now a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?Works for me tho, and I am not alone. Doesn't work for all tho, you can't just exist, reach a certain age and your father gets you a wife from nearest village to marry, so you need to actually be of a certain quality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 11:50 AM |
| 3 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?Chasing happiness not necessarily mean chasing some childish butterflies or indulgence in midnless hedonism and was absolutely absent in the ancient world. Of course, but not because they were virtuous, it's beacuse 99.99% of people were living just to survive on a day to day basis, which occasional leisure Self actualization might mean professional ambition, which definitely Roman senators or Greek philosophers had, or any conquerer or general...Or if we move it forward, why did all poet or pai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 11:18 AM |
| – | Why do you think we like people that come off as a-holes/sluts?That's 100% correct. Contrary to what reddit women say, most men who are successful with women, including myself, holds at least some beliefs that could be perceived as misogynistic (especially for western standards). Some of them even extremely. "White knights" are mosty unsuccessful with women. That is why saying to "incels" that they are unsuccessful BECAUSE they are misogynists not going to help. Beacuse then they see other men with the same beliefs that slay pussy all around, so they know i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 07:58 AM |
| – | Why do you think we like people that come off as a-holes/sluts?He’s the All American quarterback / valedictorian/ class president. Hyper successful Mr perfect Like Tom Brady, whose wife cheated on him with BJJ coach lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 07:47 AM |
| 4 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?There's also that premodern societies didn't have this obsession with individual self actualization Which means that those societies weren't developed enough for that, according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. When you fight every day to survive you don't think about higher purposes. Now we have a privilege to think about those things, which is good. Foe example ancient Greeks and Romans did think about self actualization. Rich and educated phylosophers ofc, not mine workers | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 07:22 AM |
| 9 | Do you really believe men were happier in their romantic relationships in the past, according to current standards?Yeah, this is exactly what I thought. Did those guys were happier beacuse if their marriages, or they were happier beacuse more overall human connections, third spaces, communities, friendships? Men are less happy now (especially in West) but not because of women themselves, it's beacuse today's men want a woman to be their everything and abandon all other sources of socializing. Men are tribal and need company and brotherhood of other men, in addition to women/sex/family | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/24 07:06 AM |
| 2 | If you found a study saying that men who cheated on their wives had on average 230% more previous sexual partners than men who did not. Would that make you more concerned about body count than you currently are?Beacuse those researches are one dimensional, and relationships are way more complex. It's like a stat that arrange marriages has the least amount of divorces, and somebody use that stat to show that arrange marriages are happiest. But they don't count the culture where arranged marriages are a thing, the stigma of divorces in those cultures, social conditionings etc... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/24 11:11 AM |
| 3 | If you found a study saying that men who cheated on their wives had on average 230% more previous sexual partners than men who did not. Would that make you more concerned about body count than you currently are?Yeah, I agree, classic correlation and causation thing. For example is have a way higher body count than average, but I never cheated. I just had a lot of casual relationships...but when I am i a relationship I don't cheat Also, my best friend has a 100+ count, but he was recently in a 2 year relationship where he didn't cheat. Beacuse when we are in love, we are really in love. Inexperienced men THINK that they are in love, beacuse they fall for 1st girl who give them a chance. But they are jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 12:55 PM |
| 13 | If you found a study saying that men who cheated on their wives had on average 230% more previous sexual partners than men who did not. Would that make you more concerned about body count than you currently are?I do agree, and this is aligned to what I wrote above Opportunity makes a thief, and I disagree with famous saying that people on Reddit often say: "those who cheat will cheat anyway anyplace etc..." While yes, there are certain men and women who are like that, for majority of people cheating is very situational. That is why on average, extroverts cheat more then introvert homebodies, but not beacuse introverts have higher morals. It's because people who are around more people have way way more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 12:42 PM |
| 18 | If you found a study saying that men who cheated on their wives had on average 230% more previous sexual partners than men who did not. Would that make you more concerned about body count than you currently are?I think that correlation exists, but in a opposite direction. Men who have high body count have it beacuse women like them. And the higher number women like you, you are more likely to have sex with some of them, logically. So they have more opportunities to cheat. Men who were virgins, or had 1 sexual partner at 25 were virgins for a reason, and they could hardly become womanizers. Not beacuse thet don't want it, it's beacuse they aren't capable. I would paraphrase a Serban saying "It's easy to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 11:44 AM |
| – | Question for “traditional” men: Do you recognize that traditional gender roles put women at a disadvantage? If so, does this bother you? Or conversely, do you like the power imbalance?My sister and I are of the opinion that Mom should have stayed married. Divorce wasn't a problem there, problem started way before, divorce was a consequence. She shouldn't have gotten pregnant and marry young in the 1st place. Her life was basically ruined then, probably didn't went to college, didn't have a career and time to develop social circle. Basically she only had your father and kids. Ofc that her life was ruined after your father left her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 04:16 PM |
| 12 | If a lady is not being intimate with you, it means you are not attractive enough or not trust worthy enoughThe first date??? If she kisses on the first date, how many other guys is she doing this with? She did that with guys who she found very attractive and went on a date with, and who escalated. So not necessarily a huge number. As I mentioned on another comment, women break rules for guys they are attracted to a lot. If you dated a month without even kissing, she didn't find you attractive enough, simple as that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 04:07 PM |
| – | Question for “traditional” men: Do you recognize that traditional gender roles put women at a disadvantage? If so, does this bother you? Or conversely, do you like the power imbalance?I never understood that thing with conservatives either...They will give some reason like "keep family together" etc but it still sucks. Unhappy spouse can't hide unhappiness, and children feel it. My parents are divorced, no cheating, no abuse, nothing...just because they did not feel happy together. And guess what, they both flourished after divorce, and both my and my sister were glad that they divorced. They were both great at co-parenting, but together they could not function | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Men don't need to settle - they choose toI don't see the point of this comment, my advice is for men, not for women, since whole this thread is about men. For A MAN, bad experience (unless extreme, and extreme cases are extreme, beacuse they are very rare) beats no experience in 999/1000 cases | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Men don't need to settle - they choose toEven if they are, to get back to initial point, unless something really extreme, no matter how bad is the relationship, it's better to have it than don't have any at all. Especially as a man, since being inexperienced or even a virgin as a woman is not nearly frowned upon then as a man. Men's self worth is majorly correlated with romantic/sexual sucess, and men who are unsuccessful feel like a failure and not man enough. As a woman you will hardly understand that, which is fine. But that is why … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 02:10 PM |
| 2 | Men don't need to settle - they choose toSometimes yes, but most likely that it wouldn't. Most people irl are not abusers, narcissistic manipulators etc, reddit has just a weird obsession with them and overblow their numbers...So I would always advise men to get in any relationship, rather then to "wait for the right one" , especially when they are young | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 01:42 PM |
| 10 | If a lady is not being intimate with you, it means you are not attractive enough or not trust worthy enoughYes, but men want to be her "best ever" and the man who she is attracted the most. Basically I do agree with red pillers here, women do break rules for alphas(although I don't like that term, let's say guy who she is extremely attracted to). And men want to be the one who she break rules for, not for whom she set rules, but broke it before for someone else. I've been that guy so I know. Where a conservative raised girl with strong father figure, who waited for 6 months to have sex with a guy who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 10:37 AM |
| 2 | Do you guys actually have female friends?Yes. It's pretty normal in my country, majority of people have mix gender friend groups. So, I don't have a female friend that I share my deepest secrets with and I meet 1on 1 every day or talk on a phone often, but I do have few women in my friend group that we hang out, party with, go o a trips...we usually do it as a group. And no, nobody is trying to fuck them. I actually had been in fwb arrangement with one of them, but that was years ago.. now we are just friends. That doesn't mean that we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 10:10 AM |
| 4 | Men don't need to settle - they choose toI disagree that bad relationship is worse than being single for people who are perpetually single. STAYING in a bad relationship is worse, but having an experience of having a bad relationship beating 0 experience 10 put of 10 times. And reasons for that are various. First of all, confidence boost of having someone attracted to you at least a bit, overall relationship experience, the more exp you have, less needy you will be etc..so it will greatly help this guy chances for getting a better rela… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/24 10:02 AM |
| – | Would you want to be a man?The fact that my boyfriend's N count is literally twice as big as mine and yet people are more likely to negatively react to mine. But if his N count was low, especially 0, he would be criticized more than if your bc is low. There are always double standards that hurt women, and double standard that hurt men And also, we do have more room for "crazy stuff", but again, not all men did them, and the one who lacked, are considered boring and inexperienced, while woman who lacked in that isn't criti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/24 10:13 AM |
| 3 | Fairness/equality if the dating landscape could only exist if the vast majority of women’s life’s were worse if single.If you're 40+ years old, this behavior is fucking pathetic. Imagine doing this at 55 or 60... Your "bros" have families and have moved on from that That is the sentiment I see from Americans most if the time...that married men completely ditch their friends and see each othwr like once a year. And this is exactly why you are lonely, not beacuse you don't have a girl. Men are tribal creatures and we need other men, we need bros, brotherhood etc... You don't have to go to strip clubs ofc, but you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 09:44 AM |
| 66 | There are two ways of talking to women: 1) treating them as people and 2) treating them as people you want to have sex withThe biggest success you will have if you treat them both ways at the same time. This is the main problem with many men, they don't know how to do that. Is it subtle madonna whore complex, I don't know. And this is main problem with guys that thinks that women "gives" sex to a man, and that man having sex with woman means that he is "using" her. So, some men wants to "be respectful", but they doing it too much, and basically castrate themselves and they appear too timid, even asexual. And ofc, wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/24 10:46 AM |
| 1 | How come introverted men seem less attractive to women than extroverted men?Aren't neediness associated more with introverts? Since they don't have many people they talk to or rely to, many introverts actually expect their partner to be their only source of socialization, which can be exhausting for another person. While extroverts like me are never doing that, since I have various people to satisfy my various needs. That is why I don't date very introverted girls and my girlfriend has to have a group of close friends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/24 08:27 AM |
| – | Could you be happy in a marriage where your spouse isn't your best friend?Yes of course. Being friends, especially best friends, and being in a relationship are totally different things. Also, my best friend is and always will be - a man. Actualy THE man, since we are best friends since age 7. No woman can replace him, and it shouldn't have to. The dynamic between 2 best male friends and man and woman is totally different and fills different spots. I couldn't live without my nale friends. That doesn't mean that I can't love a woman, but I need both. It's like saying "… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/24 09:58 AM |
| – | Why do women often prefer dad bods over six-packs?To achieve this looks you have to "sleep in the gym", he is literally 1 month of cut in looking ripped. And this is why is important to define a meaning of "dad bod", "muscular", "fit".. at thr beginning of every conversation about looks, since women alway imagine extreme examples when they say "muscular", like pro bodybuilders or similar. While this guy is "very muscular" as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/24 09:28 AM |
| 1 | How would the world change if men only had medium to low libidos?Well it's not that we think "oh I have to work hard so I can fuck" or similar, it's more an indirect motivation. Low libido men are most often that not also low in energy and low in overall drive. Most men that "gave up on women", also gave up in majority of other things, and don't have any ambition at all | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/24 09:14 AM |
| 3 | How would the world change if men only had medium to low libidos?Sexual energy is a life energy. Libido is connected with high testosterone, and high testosterone men are more productive, more energetic, more competitive, more assertive, more direct, more eager to risk.. which are all things that affect overall sucess, not only with women, but in life So it's not only about being driven with desire for sex directly, but indirectly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/24 08:45 AM |
| 1 | How would the world change if men only had medium to low libidos?You know that memes with almost empty flats, just a mattress, tv and sony playstation is enough for men to be happy? I find it almost true, for 90% of men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/24 08:34 AM |
| – | Why do women often prefer dad bods over six-packs?Ripped is also vague term. For me, sprinters, gymnasts or swimmers are "ripped" and muscular. Lebron James is ripped, George Saint Pierre is ripped... You don't have to be extreme bodybuilder with 5% fat to be considered ripped or jacked | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 06:50 PM |
| – | Why do women often prefer dad bods over six-packs?I have visible abs and eat candies every day, and drink alcohol every weekend.. it's not that hard. I don't have that extreme fitness model 6-pack with veins over them tho, more like a slightly visible 4 pack on a flat stomach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 06:04 PM |
| – | Why do women often prefer dad bods over six-packs?Haha yes, when women say "they don't like muscles", they mean extreme muscles, like The Rock. Few days ago one girl said that she doesn't like muscular guys, she prefers "average, a bit fit body, like SWIMMERS for example". Swimmers bodies are "a bit fit" for her... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 06:00 PM |
| – | Why do women often prefer dad bods over six-packs?Exactly, that might be the real reason. From pure attractiveness standpoint, very few of them actually prefer dad bod. Same thing with men, many would prefer a cute normal girl then some supermodel, but not beacuse cute nornal girl is hotter, it's beacuse they think supermodels are high maintenance and couldn't keep up with their expectations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 05:53 PM |
| – | Why do women often prefer dad bods over six-packs?Replying here due to flair: They all SAY that bro... but all of them can't put their hands off my abs when we are cuddling, or can't hide exitment and sparks in their eyes when they first see me shirtless.. pure virtue signaling. Also, some of them may prefer someone less in shape, but not beacuse she is more attracted to their bodies, but because they are afraid that they will have to keep themselves fit, since fit men have higher standards that unfit men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 05:48 PM |
| 1 | You have heard about "Not like other Girls". Can we talk about "Not Like other boys"?"I am 28 and I would never even look at a woman who is more than 2 years younger than me, they're children to me" (we get it you like virtue-signaling) Other things in the list might be real, in a way that those men actually believe this (i don't care about body count for example, unless something extreme), but this, this is so ridiculous that I can't even comprehend. Only I ever see this, is on reddit. I can't believe that anyone thinks like this, it's so insane | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/24 01:05 PM |
| 10 | An average guy who is a good conversationalist has a greater chance of women treating him as "one of the girls" rather than it being an influence on their attraction toward him.Relationships aren't what happens at parties. They start at the parties, or social gatherings, dates...you don't sit at couch ordering takeout with someone out of the blue | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 11:45 AM |
| -2 | Why men today struggle in datingI already left a comment covering this question yesterday: https:/np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/g6yZIwLHCF A part for "not being attractive" which is often the reason, but it's not only reason because there are many unnatractive men who are dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 06:48 AM |
| 5 | What are single men doing wrong?I already left a comment covering this question yesterday: https:/np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/g6yZIwLHCF A part for "not being attractive" which is often the reason, but it's not only reason because there are many unnatractive men who are dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 06:33 AM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.I don't buy this "my partner is my best friend" western bulsihit. I have a best friend and he is a male, and we know eachother for 20 years, and he is a brother I never had. Even if we disregard that - it's not creepy to want to be friend with a girl you like, it's creepy to pretend to ONLY want to be a friend, without expressing further intentions. Beacuse friendship dynamic isn't the same as relationship dynamic, and if a girl knows you look at her in a "potential relationship" way, she will b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 09:12 PM |
| 7 | quick poll: would you date and/or have sex with a virgin man that is middle aged?Are there more men that don't have sex today then 30 y ago, probably. But I think "most" is an exaggeration tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 03:53 PM |
| 13 | quick poll: would you date and/or have sex with a virgin man that is middle aged?Normal average man isn't a virgin at 35 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 02:11 PM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.Well then we have different definitions..for me, cold approach is when you approach someone out of the blue, like on the streets, in the park. If I am with my friends at the table, and then my other friends come to the table with some girl I don't know, and I start hitting on her, to me that is not "cold approach" I do sales, so I can make a parallel. Cold call is when you find a number on the internet and just call some company to offer them a service. If I get their number from a current busin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 01:09 PM |
| 2 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADYeah, that is definitely not average in Serbia. Maybe it's average for someine un their 40s.. by our standards these girls would be chubby and these guys definitely fat | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 11:26 AM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.Not to get THAT ONE SPECIFIC girl bro, it's an overall good advice. "Expand social circle and meet nore people" type of advice, so you know more people, more people invite you to hang outs, parties etc.. where you meet friends of your friends, and then if you meet A girl (not THE girl) you like, and you then start to flirt, and if she likes you, she will flirt back etc etc It's way easier to approach in that setting, then to do fucking cold approach in the street | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 10:28 AM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.Becoming friends with that one girl to be able to get that girl IS creepy. Becoming friends with women and men who have other girl friends you can then meet, in more relaxed setting, since you are not a complete stranger, that's what you should be doing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 08:56 AM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.I mean, that's a ridiculous statement. They don't go for SOLE purpose of getting a man, but they are absolutely open to it for the right person. Hooking up in clubs and parties is still very much happening, also people don't go to work "to find a partner", but it still happens, a lot if times etc etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 08:42 AM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.I'm not op but I can tell. People don't want boring negative people in their circles, so don't be boring. Be eager to try new things, go anywhere anytime, don't be "i prefer to stay at home then go out" guy. Accept invitations, even if you "don't feel like going". Usually that's just anxiety and comfort zone talking in your behalf. Just go. Don't seek negative traits in people on purpose, focus on what is good. Don't break friendships over petty things, political opinions etc.. frendships requir… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 08:28 AM |
| – | Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women.because people in that generation are living their lives online. That's the main reason. Young people don't hang out outside as much as we did (I'm 30). Bigger groups, all of the time, hang outs with 7-15 people... then as a bug group you go to a bar or club or anywhere, you meet another big group, someone knows someone, then you mix...and then girls and boys start to talks and flirt naturally, no need to cold approach or something similar | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 08:13 AM |
| – | Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing UsDo we want a world where women hold all the cards and men hold none? They don't hold all cards. Some of them do, but same as some men. Attractive men can pick and choose, and there are less attractive men that attractive women. So there going to be some for the rest. Not all of course, not all men will get to pass their genes and create a family. But this is not a "modern" thing. There was a study that showed that (i am not exactly sure, I'm giving approx numbers) throughout the history, 90% of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 08:01 AM |
| 0 | Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing UsI am not dismissive, I just think (i might even say know) that men who are complaining on today's women and values and that minority of men get majority of women or whatever, aren't complaining for altruistic reason and caring about society, they complain because they are not the one who gets girls | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/24 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing UsWhat compassion do you want? I am helping men that I know who are unsuccessful by giving them advices, inviting them to hang outs when women are around etc...But I won't force girls to be with them or guilt trip them on why they reject them. And also don't want to reduce my sucess with women so you can feel better. Are you equally dismissive and hostile toward women that want families but can’t find husbands Yes I am. Not hostile, but if a girl is so unnatractive she can't make any guys dick har… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/24 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing UsЕxactly lol, I never heard a men who is desirable by many women to complain about "today's women", that's always unsuccessful guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/24 10:01 AM |
| 6 | Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing UsSo good that they are swimming the sea and would rather risk drowning then live in that shithole. Or like Iran for example where majority of both young men and women protesting religious government. They were not successful yet, beacuse, you know, they are repressed since they don't have power. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/24 07:12 AM |
| 4 | if women date up, men do tooDepends where are you from I guess, in Balkans they we even have a phrase "stupid footballer", also yes, they marry young, but many times they actualy marry those gold diggers. Since football is highest paying sport in Europe they attract most gold diggers, similar to NBA players and NFL players in Usa. And are also the most uneducated athletes and mostly come from rural areas, just listen to few interviews and you will know | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/24 09:59 AM |
| 4 | if women date up, men do tooSoccer players are usually considered dumb as bricks, and they do mostly date classic gold diggers and stereotypical bimbos, so they are not a good example, since they are so easily manipulated by those gold diggers. There is one famous quote in Balkan from a former president of Dinamo Zagreb, best football club in Croatia "I brought them hookers to fuck and have fun, but they started marrying them" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/24 09:45 AM |
| 1 | Why "Marriage Material" isn't a compliment to men and being the "hookup guy" is often superiorI don't believe in that "levels" shit. And even if levels exists, it not so strict, since dating and sexual attraction and social interactions overall aren't exact science. It's all about insinct, feelings and arousal. So maybe that girl that I met last night doesn't check "all my boxes" (although I don't have a checklist of things a girl needs to have, I find it robotic and ridiculous, since dating isn't science,), I still might find her attractive to spend a night or few nights or weeks or mon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/24 09:37 AM |
| 2 | Why "Marriage Material" isn't a compliment to men and being the "hookup guy" is often superiorSimple stats.. being pursued by 100 women for example: at least 30 I found find hot enough to fuck, out of those 30, at least 5 I would want for smth more. And since i don't actively seek for a gf, I then have 30 that I could have sex with, and sex with different women is fun. And if something more is developed from that, cool, if not, still cool. When you are pursued by 1 or 2 only, you have to either be with them or with no one. So you are basically settling. And I don't even have to fuck all … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/24 09:01 AM |
| 2 | At what point is the lack of experience becomes a red flag and what to do about it?I recently start to chat in this community, but isn't blue pill classic "looks doesn't matter, just be yourself and right girl will come" and that shit, and what you said is a red pill thinking... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/24 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Women saying that men would be more attractive if they were more confident is a double-bind.Lol, but then why they did it? Beacuse they realized I am so smart and charismatic after 5 sentences? And why with me, why not with anyone else? And those were not girls who hook up with just anyone, I do not live in a country with a prevalent hook up culture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Women saying that men would be more attractive if they were more confident is a double-bind.It's not everything, but it's a first thing. A person who lacks in personality has to rely on looks It's actually opposite, since looks is a first barrier, that person who lacks it, has to overcome by being charismatic etc.. but point is, with looks, barrier is almost non existent. You don't have to overcome anything, you just exist and you have chances. When you look good, you need to be an absolute fool to mess up your chances. When you are not good looking, you can still do it, but you need t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Women saying that men would be more attractive if they were more confident is a double-bind.Bluepill, normal people know this. Yet another girl replied to me how she knows a lot of broke chubby guys in 40s dating good looking successful women in 20s lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 05:25 PM |
| 4 | Women saying that men would be more attractive if they were more confident is a double-bind.All you've told me is you have to rely on looks, while I've know broke charming bald 40 year Olds dating attractive, accomplished late 20s Olds. That's classic Reddit moment lol, everybody here knows "some 5'6 chubby guy who dates supermodels because he is funny" While I am not saying that those situations are completely non existent, it is a total outlier and definitely not a relevant examples. I personally never saw it, because if they are chubby and 40+ y old, they are at least very successfu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 05:15 PM |
| 4 | Women saying that men would be more attractive if they were more confident is a double-bind.I don't know why you ask this, maybe you didn't understand what I said there? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 05:07 PM |
| 4 | Women saying that men would be more attractive if they were more confident is a double-bind.Ohh, how many times I heard from women, especially online, how looks don't matter at all, how they don't like fit guys and prefer dad bod and chubby guys, and that they need to be "intellectual stimulated" to even consider it ...and then the exact same girl hook up with me 2 hours after we met I benefited from looks and looks only more times than I can count. Women just treat us differently that average guys, in a way that we live in a different world totaly. And it's not "not all women". It's l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 04:00 PM |
| 2 | If sex is the universal "carrot on a stick" for women, what would the male equivalent be?Which helps with getting more options by the way. Well this is usually the way. It's rare to create confidence "ex nihilo", you need some actual validation and actual results. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 08:02 AM |
| 8 | If sex is the universal "carrot on a stick" for women, what would the male equivalent be?But that doesn't happen very often. Since many men don't have the options and are more willing to settle then women, at least those are the thing I observed. Men are way more afraid of losing a relationship then women, on average. This not necessarily has to be direct "i don't get sex if I don't behave", it's more like "i don't want to piss her off, so I comply" thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 04:35 PM |
| 3 | The paradox of male friendship and it's link to desirabilityI guess...I always find it weird when I read about men who don't hang out, this "we don't know anything about each other" type of friendships.. I literally know everything what is going on in my best friends lives.. Also in Balkans where I am form, men hanging out just to hang out and talk, over a coffee or a beer is totally normal, and not only a women thing Here, cafes and bars are full every day, not only on weekends. And this "men would rather work in a garage then socialize just to socializ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 04:03 PM |
| 3 | The paradox of male friendship and it's link to desirabilityAnd now the paradox, men don't know how to be friends or make friends with other men Who said that? I guess it's cultural, but in my part of the world men are very social and close to each other. Having a friend group since childhood or at least college while in your 40s are completely normal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 03:49 PM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADand we started our relationship with casual sex That proves a point tho.. he knows he is not in that "safe, boring but less desired" category with you. Only when women wants you for casual as well you know she is actually attracted and you are not settled for. All of my relationships started as casual relationships first | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 11:20 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADDepending what they mean...many times that means that they are stable, good guys, but attraction was not instant, and primal, so relationship still has some transactional part of. And many men wants to be desired in that way that is pure sex for sex exchange. That doesn't mean that women don't find husband attractive if course, but that specific term usualy means what I wrote. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 11:15 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADIs this a troll? I shouldn't get my dick sucked unless I try to suck dick myself? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 11:08 AM |
| 4 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADShe is extremely cute, even in this photo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 06:24 PM |
| 6 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADMy point was, that I didn't get that many matches before I added those shirtless photos...I am obviously lean and fit with visible abs etc.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 05:09 PM |
| 4 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADWell my profile was 4/6 shirtless beach photos, playing beach volleyball, swimming and some classic beach posing. Still got matches, dates and hookups with all types of girls. Phd in biology, waitress, corporate girls, software engineer, even red hair "feminist" who study sociology lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 05:03 PM |
| 5 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI would say that looks doesn't matter that much as some men with extreme beliefs think, but it matters way way more then majority of women are ready to admit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 04:52 PM |
| 8 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADNobody, apart form terminaly online people, think that you have to be shredded to get any relationship, but hotter you are, more and hotter girls you are going to attract, and also you can get them easier. And even if you are interested in serious rl only, you will get it easier and you can actually choose who you want to be with, since your dating pool is higher. I don't know why is this so controversial | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 04:50 PM |
| 14 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADYes. Girls always say, especially for dating apps, that shirtless pics are red flag and that you should send a message that is original, something related to her bio etc.. but I tripled my matches and dates after I added some beach photos that clearly showed my body and starting texting girls with just "Hi Name" and winking emoji I look on that topic in this way, when you see got girl with a bikini photo, you don't think "slut", you think "hot girl". This is also what they think when they see ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 04:41 PM |
| – | "Pickmes never prosper" has a pointWell I saw women get called pick me by other women just beacuse they acknowledge men struggles and don't blame "patriarchy" on all of her problems. Although only online of course, I never heard any girl use that word irl. Never heard a woman use a word patriarchy as well tho lol , that is why Reddit is so interesting to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/24 12:31 PM |
| – | Have you noticed that financial status and career status has very little importance now compared to the past?Well of course, "back in the day" women were way more dependant on men finances, so doctors and lawyers were the main catch. They still are now, but it's not important THAT MUCH. Attractivness and being social is still factor no 1 in dating By being social i mean being around women. In college, you were probably way more social, surrounded by way more girls then now, you had more energy to hang out, party, whatever.. as a doctor, you probably work a lot and are way more tired. The most common th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/24 12:17 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemMajority of women are neither whores or virgins, those are 2 extremes, and neither are good for me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/24 09:55 AM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemExactly, this is what I told her as well. However men like me are a majority so this is why she has exp that she has | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/24 07:45 AM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemI don’t think women who want to wait for marriage are a minority We are living on a different planet I guess.. I think in today's world, excluding Middle East and those type of countries, percentage of those women is way less than 1% | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 06:08 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemIt depends, but majority would not wait. I literally never met a person who waited for marriage, it's an extreme minority of people. Why does people on Reddit always picking up some extreme examples in every conversation: Sex is extremely important in a relationship - "but what about asEXuaLs". It is normal to have friends, being without a single one is probably a red flag - " but what about people with autism" etc etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 04:05 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemSome women want to wait for marriage And that is another reason why they might ghost her. That doesn't mean that they are only interested in sex, but waiting for sex is too much for majority both men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 03:29 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemWell the looks are probably not the issue, unless you are fat, but you said you don't and I believe you. Same thing as I advise men who are too shy - you have to put yourself out there even by force. It is the way it is, no one will fall from the sky in fron of you with a bucket of roses and a ring. Do you have men in your friend group? Maybe ask them, since women might virtue signal and tell you "oh you are good as you are, men don't deserve you, right man will come" etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 03:26 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemHonestly I find it extremely hard to believe, since you said you are not bad looking. Maybe it is the vibe and energy you spread. Too quiet, too reserved.. energy of a blanket as we say in Serbia. I don't know you, I can just assume | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 03:04 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemSomething is not right - in my perspective. For some other people it might be different So what I would think, you either : have an unhealthy opinions on sex (sex is something dirty, sinful...something you have to "give" to a man if he "deserves" it), you are too religious, you have very low libido, you have some trauma, or you are just too reserved and uptight. And the other point would be, why you have never been in a relationship at 25? There must be something that is off, from an average per… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 02:57 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemI was not talking about you, I was talking about men who are purposely searching only virgins, and those are the ones who says that "high value men" whoever that might be are looking for virgins, which is obviously not true. Point of your post was that being a virgin at 25 isn't so good as these men are saying, and I agree with you. And being a virgin at your age actually points that something is not right and I would rather avoid that. For example, being too introverted and too reserved, which … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 02:20 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemAgain not necessarily... We don't want ONLY sex in relationship, but don't want 0 sex either, since this is not a relationship then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 01:48 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemNot necessarily, they might want a relationship, but don't want to wait too long for sex. Since only one 25+ who will be eager to wait for sex for months or who knows how long are the ones with no other options Especially since they meet on dating app. If they know her in person already and some attraction is already there, that it might be different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 01:09 PM |
| – | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemNobody PREFERS someone who had a lot of dudes, like no woman prefer her man to be short, or prefer someone who has less money than someone who has more. But it is not only thing that matters, and for many men is not that big of a dealbreaker, me personally I don't care that much. Unless some extremes, like she fucked in club bathrooms for a line of coke. But being a virgin at 25 is also an extreme and a dealbreaker | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 12:01 PM |
| 20 | Virgin women are not as desirable as social media makes it seemLol exactly, only men I ever saw pursuing specifically virgins are undesirable weirdos themselves, especially if we talk about 25+ years old. I mentioning it all the time, Sofia Vergara was single mom who certainly has a huge body count and still that Joe Mangagelo who was considered one of the hottest man married her. And that is only of thr examples, but even if you count regular men and not celebrities, us who are able to pick and choose, we choose hot ones, not obedient virgins who never lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/24 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Redditors really live in a bubble, that's why I would take people's takes here with a grain of saltYou see, I find it ridiculous that politics has such impact on friendships.. at least in my age and in my country, 99 % of young people don't care about it, THAT MUCH. I am a friend with hard core Serbian nationalists and also totally liberal people. But even those people are not talking about it all the time, it's just something they believe or not, but it's not a part of our everyday lives... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 11:34 AM |
| 1 | Redditors really live in a bubble, that's why I would take people's takes here with a grain of saltMeanwhile I personally know many respectable married couples who are 8-10 years apart and nobody even notices it after a certain point. Yeah, but if you mentioned that, hivemind will still come at you to explain you how you never know what is happening behind close doors, and that still something insidious is happening there. Even tho woman is happy, she is probably manipulated without even noticing etc etc.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 09:41 AM |
| 3 | Redditors really live in a bubble, that's why I would take people's takes here with a grain of saltYeah, one guy here told me that college boys now have to pretend to be extremely liberal if they want to have female friends etc.. although I do believe that in USA this might be true in some niches, and that gen z are different than millennials, I still thank that this is a huge exaggeration | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/24 09:37 AM |
| 2 | “Just build a social circle bruh” isn’t a viable solution for average looking non neurotypical introverted menWell if someone is really mentally ill, I wouldn't give dating advice, that people need medical advice from a doctor, psychiatrist etc.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/24 08:10 AM |
| 0 | “Just build a social circle bruh” isn’t a viable solution for average looking non neurotypical introverted menTelling an introverted mentally ill That is an extreme minority of men rho.. those advices are good for "normal" men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/24 11:48 AM |
| 4 | “Just build a social circle bruh” isn’t a viable solution for average looking non neurotypical introverted menI can't even imagine that shit haha, even with current college kids...not happening here in Balkans | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/24 09:32 AM |
| 2 | “Just build a social circle bruh” isn’t a viable solution for average looking non neurotypical introverted menLuckily I am not gen z and don't live in USA. Where I am from nobody cares aboud politics that much, except loud minority. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/24 09:28 AM |
| 1 | “Just build a social circle bruh” isn’t a viable solution for average looking non neurotypical introverted menDo you need to be liberal to have friend group? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/24 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Settling is not what you think it isThere is a reason - virtue signaling | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/24 09:08 AM |
| – | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?I just want to stay home with my one person and be quiet together lol. And that makes you 1 in 1000, which means your experience isn't relevant for majority. I even think that all loners, hermits, extremely introverted people are either on the spectrum or became like that due to some traumatic experience. Therefore you are one of those "outcasts" and your opinion on relationship and sex is not relevant. As for example, opinion of asexual person. Of course that for asexual woman looks will not be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/24 01:45 PM |
| – | Many RP men it seems, have a dilemma. They don’t want a marriage/LTR with ‘the whore’, but at the same time resent women who are making them wait. Also, many passport bros who are going to Asian/African countries to meet ‘trad wife/gf’ are simply not equipped to handle a genuinely traditional 0-5n cI mean, that is the test if true love, if a woman leave a man after he lose a high payng job and can't afford the same lifestyle, without giving him support, at least to try to get back. Those things happen, and if you leave me immediately, then yes, in fact this is not a true love. But there are other extremes in men who don't even want to try but still expect extreme devotion from a woman. There is a middle ground between those 2 situations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/24 01:24 PM |
| – | Many RP men it seems, have a dilemma. They don’t want a marriage/LTR with ‘the whore’, but at the same time resent women who are making them wait. Also, many passport bros who are going to Asian/African countries to meet ‘trad wife/gf’ are simply not equipped to handle a genuinely traditional 0-5n cGuess how many times I have been called a freeloader after these words. Yeah, for conservative men, real woman is a woman who will be fine with poverty,so they don't have ti try hard. Many of them, at least in my country, romanticize the suffering of our grandmothers. "My mother worked soo hard and never complained, that is real woman" , or "our grand grand mothers were having a birth and went to work in a corn field the same day, that were real women".. ridiculous have met many men who were ecs… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/24 12:23 PM |
| – | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?You were having dorky boyfriends beacuse you were forced to, in a way, beacuse "normal" ones weren't an option to you, since, as you told, you weren't invited. When people discuss male-female dinamyc, we discuss behaviour in "normies" how you people like ti call us. Since this is a majority of people. Weirdos, autists, outcasts.. are that for a reason, therefore their experience might be different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/24 08:55 AM |
| – | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?The amount of men who cheat on their wives because they aren't getting the sexual variety from other women that they crave would also have me believe that monogamy is not encouraged enough. Contrarky to popular beleifs (men are uga booga cheaters, women are delicate flowers who cares about emotion), that's a small amount irl, many married men barely pulled that one woman and immediately wifed her up, let alone to find another woman. That is why men rarely initiate a divorce ir break up. They are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/24 08:48 AM |
| 8 | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?When we say "women like muscles" that doesn't mean "pro bodybuilder" muscles, I don't know why everyone always think of that. More like pro athlete muscles, track & field, swimmers, soccer players.. Not The Rock looks, that's overkill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 01:29 PM |
| 12 | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?Because they haven't experienced being genuinely desired. That is why they think that they have to convince women to "give" them sex, that relationships are "hard work" etc etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 09:28 AM |
| 5 | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?I do believe you, since I experienced similar things. And have best friend who is literally 10/10 in the face, which is most important for attractivness. He has experienced it even more. Point is, when you are on that level, dating isn't hard, girls make it easy FOR YOU. If you have to "work hard" you are not on that level and you live in a different world. That us why many people would not beleive us, and still think that "women are less shallow and need emotions to have sex" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 09:25 AM |
| 1 | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?I'm 30, still works for girls my age. Only thing is that yeah, they will break it up way earlier if they don't see future, happened to me a few times, but still we went to sex pretty fast. Also many of them decided to stay in causal arrangement with me, while still actively looking for something serious with someone else. But I haven't seen that much of a desperation in them, since pressure to have family and get married by any means if not that high as it used to be. At least in big city where … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 08:36 AM |
| 11 | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?The problem is the sex they're getting is low quality (missionary only, no blowjobs, etc.) and the LTRs they get into degrade into starfish sex or dead bedrooms very fast. I don't think this is entirely true, cause there are many exceptions of course. But for dead beadroms yeah, and also, what js the main indicator if you are hot enough - if a woman use sex as a bargainign tool (if you do x, then you will get sex), or often avoids it, "headaches" etc.. you are not hot enough and you are "settled… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 08:21 AM |
| 8 | Have you witnessed the 80/20 thing for women IRL?I just know for a fact that with most of the girls I've met sex is off the table before we're dating "seriously". In my experience women are very rarely looking for casual sex. Sorry,but usually that mean you are not actually 8.5/10 tbh.. many of them maybe don't want strict casual, but witholding sex in a relationship as a reward, or "waiting to feel comfortable" is actually what is done to average guys, and hot guys get easier. I never had to wait for months since high school. At least kiss on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/24 08:10 AM |
| 1 | Men here who are worried their LTR/wife had a 'wild past' or had hot, uninhibited, monkey sex or hardcore BDSM with her hookups but starfish, lights off, socks on, missionary sex with you.... I have a questionIf a woman sleeps around = hoe I never said that, actually I don't have that opinion. Unless extreme, like fucking 10 guys in 1 month or fucking for a line of coke.. which is like 0.00001% of women anyway. But few relationships and hookups, thats fine Waiting for marriage for religious reason is "being a freak" in my opinion, as not so religious guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 06:37 PM |
| 0 | The best move a single man can make is work on being happy alone.Is being "white knight redditor" the only option? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 06:27 PM |
| – | I'm tired of people telling men that they shouldn't care about relationship/sex/intimacy and just focus on "being happy singe"Of course.. that is why they need to improve themselves and learn the way of inspiring that. That is why they are asking for help, and saying "you should be happy without it" isn't helping | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 02:52 PM |
| 2 | The best move a single man can make is work on being happy alone.Well yeah, but it is still kinda forced. Either by trauma, autism or whatever. It's not an actual choice. I really think all those self proclaimed "hermits", loners, misanthropes.. are forced to become one. Very rarely is a person born that way, since humans are naturally social | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 01:57 PM |
| -2 | Men here who are worried their LTR/wife had a 'wild past' or had hot, uninhibited, monkey sex or hardcore BDSM with her hookups but starfish, lights off, socks on, missionary sex with you.... I have a questionor only doing it in an LTR I haven't said that. For marriage tho, it probably does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 01:56 PM |
| -2 | Men here who are worried their LTR/wife had a 'wild past' or had hot, uninhibited, monkey sex or hardcore BDSM with her hookups but starfish, lights off, socks on, missionary sex with you.... I have a questionAnd that makes you a part of an extreme minority. When gender relations are discussed, people usualy talk about relations between regular, "normal" people. No religious freaks, no asexuals, gender fluid ones etc etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 01:29 PM |
| 4 | Men here who are worried their LTR/wife had a 'wild past' or had hot, uninhibited, monkey sex or hardcore BDSM with her hookups but starfish, lights off, socks on, missionary sex with you.... I have a questionYes, there are. Even them will be way more open to many things if bf/husband is hotter, and will be less naggig, less demanding etc...this girl from my example broke up with me after 1-2 months after she realised that I wasn't boyfriend material, but she still did things she never thought she will do with other guys, that is the point. And extremely religios one who waits for marriage are extreme minority, unless is pressured by society, like Mormons or Saudis | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 01:08 PM |
| 5 | Men here who are worried their LTR/wife had a 'wild past' or had hot, uninhibited, monkey sex or hardcore BDSM with her hookups but starfish, lights off, socks on, missionary sex with you.... I have a questionUsually (exceptions always exist), the woman who would be down for BDSM and other kinks with you will be someone with a high n count too. Not necessarily...I mean BDSM and other extreme fetishes yes, but even then, if she is extremely attracted to you, she will do anything, or at least would be eager to try. Even shy nice ones who waited for sex for 6 months with previous boyfriend...I had one like that, had sex after 2nd date. Then I saw photos of previous boyfriend, and I looked twice as bette… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 12:59 PM |
| 1 | The best move a single man can make is work on being happy alone.part of the reason it has surged in popularity in the recent years is because it aides with being at peace being alone. It's a pure coping mechanism tho...since today's men a re afraid of "going out and putting themselves out there" so they would rather convince themselves that thay are just fine as they are | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 11:31 AM |
| – | I'm tired of people telling men that they shouldn't care about relationship/sex/intimacy and just focus on "being happy singe"Or - they can find advice and help on how to actualy get what they want, not being gashlighted with "why do you want that, you should be happy without it", as if having a partner isn't one of the main goal in life for 99.99% of people in history of humankind I would be unhappy if I didn't have sex and experienced love and passion and being genuinely desired.. nothing compares to that. They SHOULD be unhappy and dissatisfied with their situation, beacuse that will make them improve and try harder… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 11:12 AM |
| – | I'm tired of people telling men that they shouldn't care about relationship/sex/intimacy and just focus on "being happy singe"It's not 'just' sex, they want to feel genuinely desired. I think this is completely normal desire to have, and extremely important nonetheless. So going to prostitutes won't do a thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/24 11:06 AM |
| 2 | Friendships are inadequate substitutes for romantic inclinationsFriendships do not help toward getting into a romantic relationship Well in fact they do definitely, without them it would be even harder. At least by expanding your social circle you increase chances. But it is not ENOUGH, if you are just not attractive, that it's still going to be hard. And I saw unattractive social guys with girlfriends (usually unattractive as well of course, but still.. ). But unattractive loners die alone in 99% of cases | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/24 01:57 PM |
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