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Don’t you encounter random men everyday and manage to remain safe?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:53 PM
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Yes she dealed specifically with that and often terminal patients.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:49 PM
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That is not what men are told. We are told it is safer for a woman to be alone in the woods with a bear than a random man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:47 PM
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That goes against what most women say. Women love to repeat how awful men are and how almost all say they have been sexually assaulted on some way, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:15 PM
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No, not confusing situations. My wife was on hospital staff and we discussed this topic on more than one occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 01:02 PM
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BS. Wills are invalidated all the time. It is not rare whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:26 AM
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That is BS. My wife was a social worker in the reddest of states and they were not turned away.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 12:21 AM
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Married couples have wills invalidated all the time. Gay marriage was to legitimize homosexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 12:20 AM
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Not being married did not prevent that. In fact there was a proposal for civil unions that afforded all of those benefits if some state refused. That wasn’t accepted. It had to be marriage and it was done to legitimize gay relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 12:19 AM
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Well look it up and get a wee bit more educated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 11:12 PM
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Anytime there is a fist fight it is life threatening. Because you women just run your mouth and not have to deal with the repercussions you fail to understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 11:10 PM
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Haha hardly. Most people have money for necessities and blow money on frivolous expenses. Keeping up with the jones.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 11:07 PM
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didn't read all that crap. Many Women say what they feel which is opposite of that word vomit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 03:15 AM
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Typical stubborn disagreeable woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:43 AM
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I never said it did invalidate the existence of happy women alone with their cats. I have no algorithm. However I push back on you suggesting that women are happy. Some are but I believe more are not based on my observations.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:43 AM
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It applies to you exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:41 AM
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I don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:38 AM
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That is what you come away with LOL? No, it is called being financially smart and making trade offs to get what is best in the long run versus immediate gratification.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:37 AM
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And you already proved mine
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:35 AM
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Yes you are weird. Men in plural means more than one. It does not mean all. You aren’t nearly as smart and clever as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:34 AM
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There is confusion here…but I think only one person is confused….
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:45 AM
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So explain to me my type based on my history: Blonde blue eye girl, fit about 5’4” Brunette, brown eye girl, slim about 5’10” Brunnete, green eyes, petite about 5’2 Blonde, blue eyes, athletic about 5’6” Brunette, Hazel eyes, 5’4”, petite That is a sampling. Everyone of the ladies listed hit on me and pursued me except the last one. So what is my type? Do I like blondes? Brunettes? Tall, short, athletic, curvy, slim? Please do tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:42 AM
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That is the most illogical statement ever. Come on and admit you are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:37 AM
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Dude you are wrong. My “type” has never once changed in my entire life. Who I can attract or date has no influence on my typel
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:35 AM
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you are using a subjective definition of “well” to fit your argument. Define well. I know many people that externally are living “well” but are lonely and miserable. Look how many people (primarily women) get on TikTok and cry about dating. Literally crying. They don’t seem to be living very well to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:32 AM
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or what i said.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:29 AM
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I never said all men everywhere. I just demonstrated how you make irrational edge arguments of how precious you are and the danger you face giving childbirth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:27 AM
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We don’t make sense because you all are insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:26 AM
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Are you really so clueless you don’t see that I responded to YOU
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:24 AM
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No you are just brainwashed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:23 AM
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I’m not jobless… have a damn good job. I just don’t have to work hard and I will push back on the stupid men are evil and to blame for everything mantra feminist push.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:23 AM
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You tell me since I never made that argument…..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:22 AM
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I am very blessed. However, I also find it interesting that the people that can afford doordash and Uber Eats refuse to pay that and will get up and go get their food. Too often I see the people that really cannot afford to have delivery get so much delivered and then complain they don’t have enough money. I’m not saying that most disadvantaged is in their position because of their own decisions. But some people it is so surprising to me. Just a few dollars to their name and they are having Uber…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:21 AM
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No, most people choose not to be a SAHM. I was raised with very little because my parents made the choice that being raised at home with my mother was the best choice. People just don’t want to sacrifice to make it happen. You know, the new iPhone 21 Pro Max Ultra fold is a must along with their $8 latte.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:15 AM
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You are in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:14 AM
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No, I’m in an excellent area. I don’t live downtown where this shit happens more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:13 AM
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Well we are all sharing our experiences here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:12 AM
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I am blessed. Far more than I deserve. Batch cooking would require her to get in the kitchen so that is generally a no go LOL. When she does cook, it is usually some crock pot recipe.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:11 AM
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Not around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:10 AM
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You does not equal everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:09 AM
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More often than you realize. Just because you are unaware of it does not mean it does not happen. Men engage in fights because of smart ass comments a woman says fairly regularly - especially in bars, clubs, etc. I am in a major metro area so we hear about stuff like this on the daily. Obviously some cases aren’t women’s fault, but often they are. In the most recent FBI Uniform Crime Report (UCR) data available (2019), far more people were killed with “hands, fists, feet, etc.” than with rifles.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:23 PM
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It isn’t even women seeking conflict necessarily. Personally, I have encountered it once with my wife and told her that was her one an only warning. She has a little fire in her belly and is not intimidated by anyone but I nipped that real quick. That was 26 years ago. The good side is a woman at school was threatening my son and my wife told her she would beat her ass through the gym floor in front of the other moms. Funny how that woman all of a sudden wanted to be best friends with my wife af…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:20 PM
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You don’t realize how often shit like this happens. Literally men every weekend if not every night are in positions of potential conflict with another man because of a girlfriend running off her mouth. It is much more common than you think. Thankfully, most of those are just fist fights, but even those can be deadly. In the most recent FBI Uniform Crime Report (UCR) data available (2019), far more people were killed with “hands, fists, feet, etc.” than with rifles. Feet / Hands caused 600–712 de…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:15 PM
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Most of the women I know don’t work. The ones that do work is because they choose to do so, not because they need to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:13 PM
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You just responded to his argument as “whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you”. His post was women only valuing the wedding and what the man could do for them. Pathetic and grow up. This isn’t a gendered thing, it is just the description of a selfish person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:11 PM
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Well for many of us it isn’t a fantasy. My wife works because she wants to work, not because we need the money. Her income is a drop in the bucket. Now and before she worked, she rarely ever cooks meals. Maybe legit cooking (not warming up some prepared dish) maybe once a week or two. Most of the time we are hitting up some restaurant. I don’t cook often, but nearly as much as she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:06 PM
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Interestingly enough, this survey shows that women doing more of the household labor is false too. Over half of respondents say it is equally divided. A minority of women do it more and a smaller minority of men do more. The reality is most couples share the burden.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:00 PM
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So. His risking his life to protect yours is extremely more giving than you cooking a meal. Some women love to say how they are shouldering so much risk with childbirth. You only do that twice in a lifetime on average. Yet you remind men of that ad nauseam.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:56 PM
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I certainly think there are some women like that. They have been conditioned by their family or society to romance a wedding and that is their goal instead of finding someone that is truly a life partner for them. The argument could be made that some men just want to have a live in sex doll. I don’t think that is accurate either. My experience is different. I can say I doubt there is anyone in this world that loves me more than my wife… my parents maybe equally, but obviously differently. She ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:48 PM
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When did I say all women are stay at home moms? I didn’t so FAIL on your straw-man. Newsflash not everyone lives like you do. Most people have pools where I live and lawn season is about 8 months out of the year. Futhermore if it is so easy then why don’t you take your ass out there an do it? You afraid you might break a nail? Washing dishes is loading them in the dishwasher and pushing a button unless you are dumb enough to let the pile up. So you know 3 SAHMs… so? Nearly everyone woman in fami…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:20 PM
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So you have nothing but insults. Typical attitude who thinks highly of themselves yet offers little meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 08:14 PM
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Women’s intelligence is similar to men’s. What is unique is men have extremes that aren’t seen as often with women. So you will have more male outliers like a really dumb fucking dudes and super geniuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:45 PM
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Ironic because modern women in my view want the men to do far more than an equal burden of the work. A guy is supposed to go work all day while she is at home watching the kids in between “Days of our Lives” and naps. Then the man after work should be doing laundry, making meals and cleaning the house because she has been at home working all day. Right… The work I see is not 8 hours of non-stop labor while the man was at work doing non-stop labor unless he is an exec or professional. Any blue co…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:43 PM
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If a woman doesn’t want to show up so be it. Plenty of other women out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:26 PM
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People should just come to an agreement beforehand if it is of concern to one of the parties. I paid on dates because of my personality, not because of pussy. I generally like to pay for the guys too when out with my buddies. I just enjoy being generous considering how financially blessed I have been. If I thought my date acted entitled then I would nope the hell out of there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:24 PM
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Did not
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 10:30 PM
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I didn’t rant. Then you put up absurd comment trying to counter. If you don’t want people commenting and calling out your misandry, then get off the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:30 PM
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Everyday and nearly every post or comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:36 PM
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Women are infected with the princess complex and believing they are more virtuous than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:33 PM
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No I am replying to your misandrist comment
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:32 PM
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No, they hate the misandry, manipulation and duplicity while claiming to be the virtuous sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:57 PM
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More feminist bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:51 AM
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Obviously that isn't the motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 03:50 AM
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The man cannot without the mother’s consent. He can give it up for adoption, but u like the mother that does not release him from financial liability unless the mother agrees to give up the child too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:12 PM
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No she isn’t. She can give it up for adoption. The man never has that right unless the woman agrees. His rights are always secondary. The woman could have also baby trapped him too. It isn’t like that is some rare act.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:10 PM
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More bullshit. Men don’t get a free pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:09 PM
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And women lie about taking birth control to baby trap a man (and poke holes in condoms too). Let’s don’t act like men are less virtuous than men in this domain. Men have as much to lose as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:08 PM
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Explain how you or anyone else isn’t allowed to choose their partner. I bet you also say silly stuff that words are violence - actual violence. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 03:53 PM
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oppression 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you stating that guarantees that you have no clue what real oppression is like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:45 AM
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He never made the argument or insinuated there was only a single thing. You are asking him to do the very thing he was criticizing blue pill for doing. That is illogical.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:02 PM
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maybe a smidge of difference. Women, by their own admission, leave men they love but are bored with and then regret it. I don’t think women just leave because of emotional disconnection like is suggested.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:11 AM
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it is the same for men and women. some fall in love and some don’t. I had a long term sexual relationship with a woman. We dated for a while and then broke up but kept meeting up to fuck for a year or so. One night after activities, she told me she was getting married in a couple of days. I felt nothing. I never felt any love or strong attachment. My wife, I was twitterpated with her instantly and didn’t take long to love her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:05 AM
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Husband material is an insult because of the hidden messages behind it. When some women make terms like boyfriend dick, hookup dick, or husband dick classifying men then why wouldn’t they be insulted. Yes women dance around the term all the time but it is a compliment with an asterisks. Men object to the asterisks that come with the statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:01 AM
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Desire… desire to be connected emotionally and a desire to be with me physically. My wife and I are able to identify objectively more attractive people than each other. So what? I’m not threatened by that. However, if we did not demonstrate a desire for one another physically and emotionally then our marriage would be in peril. My best friend loves me and would drop everything and fly across the country the moment I said I needed him and I would do the same. We have a deep connected friendship. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:56 AM
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so, that is shitty. One doesn’t excuse the other. Weird that I’m on the AskMen and AskMenRelationships and I never see men encouraging others to lie for sex. Certainly not saying it doesn’t happen, but I have never observed it outside of high school personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:56 PM
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I am not surprised they do either. However, I wouldn’t encourage a man to lie to get laid anymore than I would encourage a woman to lie about her past. Both are shitty decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:45 PM
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That women are *encouraging* other women to lie about their history. If a woman thinks it does not matter, then don’t lie or just refuse to answer. Let the man decide if he wants to move forward or cut it off. Seems simple and weeds out people that are incompatible. I am incompatible with liars. Like immediate break up / divorce if I found out the person I’m with lied about their past.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:39 PM
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Agree. All people lie. It is surprising that women are *encouraged* to lie about this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:37 PM
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True. To me the lying in many ways is worse. The whole relationship is built on a foundation of lies at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:36 PM
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On this very sub, and others, women repeat it frequently. I don’t date but nice try lad. Touch grass instead of trying to white knight.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:34 PM
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Actually this is the most childish response in the thread. Everyone that doesn’t think like me is a meany boo boo head summarizes your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:17 PM
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This is exactly why men ask. Many men don’t want to have any involvement, casual or not, with women who choose as you do. You are free to do casual if you want. A man is free to try and learn that about you to exclude you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:14 PM
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Yeah but some learn it did matter when the guy finds out and breaks up or divorces them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:02 PM
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Completely accurate. However, I continually see women encouraging other women to lie about their past or laughing saying a man would never know. I am shocked that many women would lie to be with a guy who might think poorly of them about their past. Why be with someone who doesn’t like your authentic self?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:01 PM
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Sure, spout of shit from your mouth. Just be careful your asshole doesn't get jealous. Obviously wikipedia isn't to be trusted. Anything publicly sourced is ripe for misinformation and lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:18 PM
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That isn’t what i sad. I said in our experience, we encounter women who lie or don’t know what drives their attractions. You don’t even know what observation is apparently. If I observe something, then how it is confirmation bias. I even acknowledge there are many women who tell the truth. However, for men it is a numbers game since we are the pursuers so we will go with the method that has the highest success rate in our experience. Futhermore, why are you invested in proving bad reasoning anyw…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 05:34 PM
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Why would I need self-reflection if my method works for me? How am I avoiding accountability? What am I accountable for other than to myself on what works best for me? I am not accountable to you in any way to just listen to your opinion. I listened to your opinion, considered it, and rejected it. Why should I be accountable when THEY did the lying or THEY said they didn’t know or acted differently than what they said. Talk about no accountability, just typical defending women no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 05:22 PM
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I don’t care. If I strike out with her because I didn’t listen, I still have a higher percentage overall because it is our experience that women either don’t really know what drives their attraction or they lie. That a minority of women I encounter and accurately tell me is irrelevant. Many men would rather play the odds with the greatest chance of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:26 PM
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Never argued it isn’t. However, it is still superior than just listening to what women say in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:55 PM
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So what post or man exclaims they can perfectly predict woman’s attraction? I see some men make generalizations which is reasonable. Let’s say a man can predict with only 65% accuracy and 35% of the time he is wrong. Would not it be best to go with his method or prediction that is right 65% of the time? So what if he is wrong 35% of the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:41 PM
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Yes I did. Men don’t act like it is the perfect method, it is just the best one we have available. Stupid would be listening to women when we know observation is a better predictor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:35 PM
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I did address the point. Men have to rely on something even if it is imperfect. Behavioral observation is more reliable than what women say.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:57 PM
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What women say is vastly more unreliable than what men observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:41 PM
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Companionship is an element to a romantic relationship. I love my wife dearly and companionship and intimacy, including sexual intimacy, is what separates us from friendship. Frankly I have friends with more interests and know me better as a man than she ever will. She has girlfriends that understand her, especially as a female, better than I ever will.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:36 AM
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One cannot be completely sure of internal unspoken motivations. However, based on actions one can be relatively sure. It she happy to be with me in the little things. Does she show me affection (outside of bedroom). It is the sum parts of the little things - acts of kindness, thoughtfulness, etc. Is she enthusiastic when we are intimate. While frequency is an element, it is quality too. Does it feel like it is duty sex. Does she initiate and show spontaneity. Long term marriage encounters ups an…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:29 AM
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How is that relevant? You didn’t answer my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 06:15 PM
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no you see a man getting the boot is normal but because woman it is bigotry. weak critical thinking as there can be many reasons. I actually know people in coast guard leadership. Futhermore, a coast guard commandant is not a combat position. if you don’t understand why pilots are unique from front line then that is your inability, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 06:14 PM
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good imagination you have there
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 06:11 PM
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No, women are often not prosecuted. Studies even revealed women often initiate physical violence more often than men. It is simply men ignore it and they are prosecuted as much because they aren’t as strong and often don’t inflict as much damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 06:11 PM
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No, everyone doesn’t settle. The day I met my wife I told my family I met my future wife. Married 26 years. I don’t settle and she will tell you she didn’t either. The worst thing that happened to dating, and arguably society, is stupid social media and dating apps. Fucked it up for both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:03 PM
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Some men care and others don’t. I am always truthful. Women are fine to have sex as they see fit. My wife wasn’t a virgin when we married, but we were both completely honest and transparent. I just wouldn’t be with any woman who treats sex like a simple kiss and hooks up with strangers. I won’t apologize for having the minimalist of standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 03:57 PM
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You cannot be serious. Ask a woman her history and she often obfuscates at best or outright lies. Of course there are some that are honest. Many women lie and say they never have had hookups and only were sexual in long relationships. Men later find out that was a lie. She didn’t count X, Y, and Z men because they weren’t in love or whatever other reason they come up with. They do that because they are scared the man will judge and reject her so they lie to get the man. Quite common. That is one…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 03:25 PM
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And women lie to get the man they want into relationships. People lie, what is new?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 02:03 PM
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I didn’t know he said it. Is he your role model?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:18 PM
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What combat roles, other than pilots, have women been in and now are being removed? Your rant about conservatism is irrelevant. Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:16 PM
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Bullshit. You are divorced from reality
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:48 AM
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You cannot be serious. We have known for a very long time that male species of many different animals will put on a show and compete for the opportunity to breed with a female. Male pufferfish create intricate designs on the sea floor to attract females. https://youtu.be/1k0MMxhOVpA?si=ZOUkm9AMOCmSNvBg I would say stop while you are ahead, but you are behind. Just not dramatically so but it isn’t looking good. So just stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:01 PM
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Men are no more violent and selfish than women. I bet they are even less selfish. The real difference is in strength so any violence perpetrated is just more effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:01 PM
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I instinctively started to call bullshit on your post, but did some research and you are correct. However, it is ingrained into modern society so the titanic anomaly isn’t really relative to today. Today, men die in war at far greater numbers (like historically), are expected to sacrifice themselves for women and children, always assume the most vulnerable or dangerous position compared to women. Men almost universally work in dangerous jobs too. It is a societal expectation that we men often pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 07:57 PM
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I would say about 2/3 or 3/4 of the women I have been with chased me. My wife is the only one I seriously pursued.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 07:58 PM
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I’m Gen X too and not surprised you experienced that. I have a rather unpopular opinion that if we objectively knew cheating rates, that women cheat more than men today. The average woman has significantly more opportunity and option than men. It is unprovable (as is the current numbers) because it is all self-reported.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 01:45 PM
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I been around a long time and also seen a lot of shit. The point I was making is men and women cheat for the same myriad of reasons. One sex isn’t more virtuous than the other, although that will cause the head to explode for some ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 12:47 PM
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Scientifically, women consistently score higher for neuroticism than men. This finding is one of the most robust and replicated results in modern personality psychology, appearing across various age groups and diverse cultures. In psychological research, neuroticism is often cited as one of the strongest predictors of relationship dissatisfaction. It stands to reason two women in a relationship have a higher odds of being dissatisfied than two men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:17 PM
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and women cheat on the doting husband that does everything for her….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 07:04 PM
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I love and am attracted to more than just my wife’s body. Until you love completely, have children and a life together it is hard to explain. i know my wife has gain a little weight, is older, etc but she is just as attractive to me as ever. objectively she isn’t as attractive as she was in her 20’s, but I guess my tastes changed. if she was wheelchair bound, I would still be with her and attracted to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:42 AM
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How is that relevant? I guarantee there is a significant number of women who would not find him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 10:01 PM
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This sub is collectively dumber for reading this nonsense. Paternity fraud is more damaging as it is enduring and the fraud is continually repeated and the injury compounded through financial and emotional expense from the man. Switch babies at a hospital and convince the mother the babies are nearly identical from a DNA perspective and to shut up and be happy with what they got. That is the only thing that comes close to paternity fraud. Now go ahead and author a dissertation why mothers should…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:14 PM
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When the other person gave you an example and you dismissed it as not being an “ACTUAL EXCEPTION”. So who gets to determine what is a fake exception or an “ACTUAL EXCEPTION“? You dismissed him because it undermined your POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:09 PM
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When did I say that? Stop with straw-man arguments? To address your question, many of them are not that attractive. Certainly some are. Many are attractive based on status or fame. Take Sydney Sweeney for example. I don’t find her attractive at all. She has big boobs - so what? Personally I wouldn’t give her the time of day if I ran into her on the street and she wasn’t famous. However, because big boobs and status/fame dudes flock to her. Maybe my standards are too high. 🤷‍♂️ Same with many men…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 09:00 PM
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Because I won't debate with a misandrist... what is the point
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:36 PM
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so women who post here saying to slept with men they didn't want a relationship with are also untrustworthy and without integrity too?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:35 PM
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In other words, you are the judge what an actual exception is and is not.... so your statement is always accurate 😂😂😂🤣🤣 Why am I not surprised that would be your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:31 PM
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That judgement comes from both women and men. The older a man gets with little to no experience, then the judgement becomes harsher. I am really only considering unmarried people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:27 PM
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You love to defend women with statements "Not every woman is thing that way". The same is for men. You just let misandry guide your statements about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 07:23 PM
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Newsflash - many women act like men, they just have greater optionality. Also go into the dead bedroom sub. plenty of high libido women distressed over low libido husbands. The difference is men are judged based on their ability to pull women while generally women are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 03:39 PM
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Glad you are amused. My experience is seeing women encouraging other women to use manipulation and dishonesty like it is normal expected behavior. Sickening.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:42 PM
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And your mischaracterization is dumb, as I said in my comments and repeat again. How do you know if the vet or do not vet? They do vet women and their assumption of the worst is because of their experience vetting. How about stop with the straw man and actually argue their point. You don’t because you have no logical argument. Just ranting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:26 PM
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No, you mischaracterized their stated intent. Of course that is of no surprise. They stated they view how quickly a woman engages sexually as a measure of their attractiveness to her. Many also say if she is consistent with her standard of waiting, then it isn’t a problem. Inconsistency is a problem. If you are going to argue against them, then argue what they said. You have this habit of arguing against what was never stated. Furthermore, if she doesn’t sleep with them quickly and they dump her…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:08 PM
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what? I don’t have to prove I am talking about what I actually stated. That is some weak ass argument you have there. It is assumed in normal discourse that “women” and “men” are used as a generality and not as a monolith obviously. Not all women act the same way hence why I found a good woman to marry. At this point you are flailing around like you are drowning in a sea grasping at every argument, even ones that are absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:03 PM
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Why are you lying without end. I said “often”. I did not say always. Furthermore this sub is not indicative of all men. Stop erecting straw-men and arguing against something I did not say. Again reading comprehension: Often (adverb) means: many times; on many occasions
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:45 PM
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No, most men don’t want sluts and that is why they are disregarded for long term relationships. If most men want them then why are you whining about men? You are the one that cannot be called out for poor behavior. Here you are defending it. You just think women are angels that do no wrong and everything is a man’s fault. That is nothing more than being a queen of misandry. I on the other hand see wrong in both genders and how the current dating climate is fucked up. One gender is not more noble…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:37 PM
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You are comical. Men are just exhausted and pushing back on the misandrists.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:32 PM
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No one did that. You have to create a fake boogeyman and make it personal because you made a straw man. I said “probably”. Did you even know what probably in the English language means? Probably (adverb) means: very likely to happen or be true, but not certain
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:30 PM
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Men often are up front. How about women being up front? Why can she not say “I used to have a lot of one night stands but I plan on making you wait months” on the first date? How about worrying with fixing your own house as it were before trying to fix men’s? What is telling is you posting this same garbage repeatedly all the time and get the same answers. You have an issue listening and considering the perspective of others, especially men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:25 PM
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They have no issue pumping and dumping women you love to complain about. The focus is on their duplicity and manipulation. The issue here is some women are threatened because they cannot use sex any longer to manipulate men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:21 PM
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Proof? Where are your stats proving men don’t do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:19 PM
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Yeah why are you doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:18 PM
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Women are bitching as much as men. Look who started this post and ones like it repeatedly. Women complain they cannot find a man to marry all the time. Yes and a man doesn’t value a party girl who hooks up left and right and then makes him wait. That is why they are called ho’s, ran through , etc. Some guys have issues dating just like some women. If you think dating issues are a gendered issue then I have some ocean front property in Kansas to sell you. A man gets to define what his morals are …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:18 PM
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She doesn’t love him and no, pussy isn’t as powerful as you think. That is why it is easy for men to pump and dump. You contradict yourself with these rants.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:07 PM
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They shouldn’t FROM THE START. But if they choose that path, then they cannot complain; they created their own problems. She should be grateful that she has any options.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:06 PM
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Hence, why I said probably. Reading comprehension…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:05 PM
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Reading comprehension - I specifically said women encourage others to lie if asked. Your anecdotal experience is irrelevant. I have had women ask me before I even brought it up. Sure not every man or woman asks, but many do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 05:05 AM
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No. You can deny discussing with your partner. That is perfectly fine and then he/she can decide if they accept that. That is not what I said. I said lies and women often encourage other women to explicitly lie about it. You know they like to omit one night stands from “counting” and bullshit like that. This is quite common.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:38 AM
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No, I have not. Certainly not in life. I am not saying it doesn’t exist and has never happened as I am sure it does. But women blalantly encourage other women to lie about their sexual past. It happened again tonight in another post I was in.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:18 AM
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Uh no…. lying is lying. You are building a foundation of a relationship on lies and potentially mismatched values. I say it is equally as horrible as the other. While I’m not in the red pill universe, I have listened to some of it. I never heard them suggest lying to get laid. What I have heard is encouraging them to better themselves and discuss what they believe is female psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:17 AM
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True. But I never see men advocating to other men to lie in order to get laid. Yet I repeatedly see women encouraging other women to lie about their sexual past to get a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 02:09 AM
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I have no problems maintaining interpersonal relationships of all varieties - friends, family, romantic, work, etc. Extensive psychological research consistently finds that women on average score higher than men on the personality trait of neuroticism. This finding is one of the most robust and replicated results in modern personality psychology, appearing across various age groups and diverse cultures. It is one of the strongest predictors of relationship dissatisfaction. This often manifests w…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 01:19 AM
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Mediocre women thinking regular guys should be thankful for the girl fucking Chad and then being made to wait is CRAZY to the MAX.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 11:00 PM
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If she wants him because she loves him, then she shouldn't manipulate and try to control him through her pussy. Sex should be an expression of her love.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:59 PM
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And probably half of that 33% say they are okay splitting the bill, but are lying about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:50 PM
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Waiting is perfectly fine. Someone deciding they don't want to wait on the other person is fine too. The flaw in your examples is making this a man issue. This is an issue of both partners not wanting to wait, having triggers where they don't feel like they are attractive, etc. The issue more often than not is when a woman has a pattern of sleeping with guys quickly and then telling the current guy she wants to wait. That is immediately makes the guy question if she is really attracted to him. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:39 PM
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Projection. You immediately attacked men and now crying foul. Typical. Cry harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:33 PM
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Pot calling the kettle black 😂. Yes women are beating us at being petty, vindictive and bitchy. You win! Supposedly only 20% of men are attractive. Well only 20% of women have a decent personality. Example, you said “Women are into men, we’re just not into being treated like shit, which most men do.“ so you made the first sexist comment saying most men treat others like shit. I said women do too just highlighting women can be as awful as men. Now you cry because you cannot handle the same shit t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:10 PM
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Ah, the real reason we have patriarchy = preventive maintenance against women turning every power structure into a 10x more vicious Mean Girls reboot. Men might treat people like shit sometimes, but at least it’s straightforward. Women would make it personal, petty, and permanent.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:07 PM
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Most women do too so equality!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:41 PM
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It is rare for a woman to be physically strong than a man. Of course there are always some outlier somewhere. However, that has nothing to do with a woman’s ability to harm a man. Weaker men harm stronger men all the time. Same difference.
/r/MensRights01/03/26 02:09 AM
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That is why men should have the standard their gf cannot post anything sexy or revealing on IG. It should be a dealbreaker. She wouldn’t want you flirting with other women or buying drinks at a bar or club. Therefore, she shouldn’t be advertising on IG.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:07 AM
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Ask for numbers and tell them you don’t do the gram. Then you will know if they are interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:05 AM
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He is saying men should stop acting desperate and have standards. Be willing to tell a woman GTFO if she doesn’t meet his standards. He is right and women would actually have more respect for those men who put women on pedestals.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:03 AM
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I am arguing what you said. So you are saying the people in red pill aren’t men? Please enlightenment on what they are. No single group represents all men or all women 😅. Sure seems like red pill represents a lot of men these days. Women complain that it is corrupting men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 11:11 PM
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Yes and I am saying you are acting like a simp. Defending women’s experiences and denying men’s. I repeated the question because it is hard to fathom someone believes such nonsense you espouse. 🤦‍♂️ is spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:27 PM
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One does not need to possess what he or she desires in another. Not saying he doesn’t possess them just the statement is flawed I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 10:00 PM
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So you deny men cannot have firsthand experience? Comical
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 09:13 PM
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Do you also say that about women who complain about misogyny?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:33 PM
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I never said they are bad people. Don’t project that onto me when I don’t say that. However, I do question their decision making and judgement. In regards to lying: it is common for women to lie about their past for all sorts of reasons. They do it because they don’t want to be rejected for something they hold doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 01:49 AM
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Why? We can judge people however we want. Every single person makes judgements about others all day long every single day. The only issue is people that don’t meet that standard, whatever it is, get butt hurt and offended. When I don’t meet someone’s standards is perfectly fine with me. I don’t get twisted, accept it and move on. Lots of options out there and I never lacked for them back when I was dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 01:25 AM
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Well I cannot speak for those guys and your situation. Perhaps because men have been lied to so often that it is hard to believe anyone is being truthful. Yup, men are just damned and blamed for everything when dealing with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:51 PM
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The guy in this scenario didn’t create the pool. Women’s decisions did. Every woman I have ever dated eventually shared their past. Often I knew beforehand based on how they acted and carried themselves. They often lie upon first meeting but then the truth starts coming out. I said bye-bye to several where the truth was later revealed. Had no problem going out and finding a better replacement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:22 PM
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Some people have values that hold sex to have greater significance than meeting for a coffee.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:13 PM
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100%. Then they meet a guy, lie about their past, say they want to wait some length of time before sex, and fake being virtuous. Quite common.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:11 PM
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Men often pay far more doing for their gf than a prostitute. Since you put a value on sexual engagement, the hookup guy basically is getting $300 from her immediately. The Boyfriend is getting maybe a $10 kiss. Sure, boyfriend feels like he is getting a stellar deal 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:05 PM
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It isn’t necessarily. But if it makes the guy feel less valued, undesired, unattractive, then why should he stay? Women are told to leave men if he does something to make her feel undesired, etc. How is this different?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:03 PM
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Agree and the same could be said about those who engage in hookups
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 10:00 PM
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Oh I can promise the wife is getting far more money than the prostitute. She is getting money spent on her everyday even when they aren’t having sex. 99% of husbands absolutely never gets “free” sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 07:01 PM
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We agree! 🤝
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 06:26 PM
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Yes, the man makes that statement based on his experience and feelings. It is not something that can be objectively proved true or false. Desire can be faked. It logically does make sense to have that conclusion, even if in some individual relationships it is made in error. girl behaves a certain way - fast sex - with guys she supposedly cares less about and then behaves opposite with the guy who is supposedly the one, better, etc. the opposite behavior is one of more caution, less free and more…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 06:24 PM
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No at all. A woman might legitimately change her behavior and be sincere. Why does that negate a guy’s bad experiences? He was rejected over and over by women who formerly participated in hookups and now he rejects them all if they aren’t demonstrative of that willingness with him. Why is he suppose to set that aside? Why is her bad experiences valid and his not? Why can he not make the conclusion he wasn’t attractive to women like her who did past hookups so concludes it is unlikely she is attr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 05:47 PM
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Some men have the belief their principles are more important than getting their dick wet. Guys aren’t saying they want virgins. They want women who do suddenly treat them less than and gaslight them saying it is because they are important yada yada yada. Often the women delay sexual contact while dating because the guy is important and special. They don’t want to mess it up. Then they get married, sex drops off considerably, often extremely more vanilla than when they were dating around and hook…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 05:36 PM
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Your first point has been rejected by scientific study. Statistics indicated the more partners, the increased likelihood of divorce. A man having an issue with his partner’s past hooking up behavior objectively makes the quality of the relationship worse. He is unhappy!!!!! Do you read what you write sometimes? Everything you wrote is just poor excuses. You love saying maybe’s and possibilities, smaller dating pool, etc. Do you tell women that anytime they reject a man for whatever reason? Sound…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 05:22 PM
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You experience is anecdotal. Ask women and the majority have a major issue with it. The possibility of someone rejected for any reason whatsoever could be very emotionally and sexually compatible with you. That is a poor reason to accept anyone because of “possibilities” that exist with every single person one meets.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 05:18 PM
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Okay prove the statement is objectively wrong. You cannot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 04:51 PM
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Women only think it is silly when they cannot meet the standard. It is their issue and not the mans.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 04:50 PM
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Right, but most people have non-negotiables. A single thing can absolutely eliminate potential partners and that happens all the time. Awesome is subjective. Their behavior doesn’t sound awesome. Also, you are completely wrong about women caring about men who slept with a prostitute in your past.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 04:47 PM
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Why is it not smart? What isn’t smart is having hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 04:45 PM
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You still haven’t answered why he is compelled to accept her past poor decisions. She can find someone who accepts her better decisions later. Actions have consequences and she is finding out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 04:42 PM
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Where did guys demand that? They didn't. If she wants to change she can anytime she wants to. That doesn't compel men to accept her or want a relationship with her. You just expect any man owes her a relationship and never have an issue with her past decisions. How about some 5 O'clock news - everyone is judged on their past behavior and decisions - everyone. Don't want to be judged on a poor decision, then make better decisions. Is a women compelled to accept a man that book a prostitute every …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:46 PM
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Wow you are the pot calling the kettle black.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:37 PM
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What is wrong with the man drawing that conclusion. Even IF his conclusion is inaccurate, what is wrong with him noping out of there?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:36 PM
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So you cannot add anything to the conversation other than blathering misandrist shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:31 PM
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People absolutely and can change their priorities with time. Man when young - I want to have fun and have hookups with girls. Their behaviors and decisions don't matter. Man after some time - I don't want woman who had hookups in the past and now want to wait some length of time before sex. Again, tell me how this is any different than her changing her priorities. He did exactly the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:29 PM
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Why is she obsessed with what he thinks about her now? What he resents his her prior decision making. She made poor decisions and this is the end result.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:24 PM
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I still haven't heard of a reason why it isn't okay for a man to decide to eliminate her from consideration. All of what you wrote could be 100% true, but how does any of that apply to his standard?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:22 PM
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That is all perfectly fine. However, a person doesn't have to change their standards because the woman decided she no longer does hookups. The fact is she did them at one time which may eliminate her from consideration from some men. They are completely reasonable in making that decision. Should women look at men who paid for a prostitutes but then decided they won't do that anymore? It is essentially the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:20 PM
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Have your standards, but find someone selfless and be selfless. My wife prioritizes me and I prioritize her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:51 AM
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trolling. everyone knows
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:01 AM
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Stop trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 12:38 PM
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Yes it is when you start the relationship under false pretenses. Probably standard operating procedure for some, especially those that defend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 12:40 PM
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no one said you did, but many lie simply for the comforts of having a provider and their money just like some lie about relationships to get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 02:01 AM
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Or lying about wanting sex and a relationship when all you want is a ATM card.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 12:10 AM
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This is absurd. Women say insensitive shit to their partners every bit as much as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 12:06 AM
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And women sell their bodies cheaply to trollish men. no different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 01:05 AM
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I wouldn’t put a lot of stock in these statements. sure some women are misandrist and believe this garbage. often this is confirmation bias of bitter women whose toxicity prevents them from relationships. current dating culture dysfunction have a percentage of women and men stop dating and blaming the other sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 01:04 AM
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ultimately my recommendation is be consistent and be transparent/honest. don’t fuck 20+ people through random hookups and FWB and then say “oh I want to take it slow because it is special” bullshit. if you move with sex fast in a relationship, then be who you are. that doesn’t mean you owe anyone sex but don’t be a lying hypocrite and pretend you are sexually virtuous when you aren’t. likewise, if you like going slow historically, then go slow. just be authentic. there is simply too much manipul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 12:40 AM
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I hope you never have sons. They will be raised to believe they are the evil sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:16 AM
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Again what about the woman lying to get a relationship. You seem to imply it is men lying all the time. Women lie and deceive just as much as men. Futhermore, statistics show it is men who end up staying in unhappy marriages / relationships more than women. Just look at the divorce rate - 70% women initiated.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:14 AM
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And women lie to the men they want for long term relationships too. Equally as pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:12 AM
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Just like women lie to men all the time for relationships. She is down to hookup with random guys, no problem. She meets a guy she wants a relationship with and all of a sudden “she isn’t that type of girl”. She will lie about number of partners, lie about how quickly she engages in sex, etc. Quite common.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:11 AM
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I would dump them and if they asked why, I would tell them to go see their FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 01:23 AM
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Oh for sure. It could be a result of anxious attachment too. She uses sex quickly to try and secure a relationship before a real connection happens. These are often intense sexual relationships characterized by chaos and instability. This trains her nervous system to associate sex with those type of relationships. When she connects with a secure attachment man/woman, then her libido plummets because she is in a non-chaotic and stable relationship. She may genuinely love that person the most and …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:50 PM
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She probably has purity based internalized shame toward sex which is unfortunate. Ultimately it is punishing to both her and her husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:45 PM
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100%. He might not treat her like a prude, but it is internalized with the woman. She may value her potential husband more and expect he would not find her sexually free side worthy. Therefore, she changes her behavior to match what she thinks she wants versus what he actually wants. It is kind of fucked up and leaves the husband wondering what he is doing resulting in his wife not wanting sex or wild sex. Social pressures also condition women to behave this way. Think about how the term “wife m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:55 PM
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The Madonna-Whore complex can also apply to women. They have lots of hookups and sleep around. When they meet their husband, they try to manage their image to appear virtuous to him. They disassociate sex with a stable and non-chaotic marriage. One of the many reasons dead bedrooms occur after marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:47 PM
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Please provide evidence that Christian doctrine views oral sex and sinful….
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:45 PM
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I did give you an argument. You are just too stubborn to understand it. Correlation does not equal causation IS the argument. The burden on you is to prove your point which you failed at masterfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:44 PM
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Stop being obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:43 PM
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She can ask him out and do all the stuff you demand of him. Simply put nearly all relationships at their core in transactional. You expect a man to do all the song and dance routine and have immense gratitude for the women being there and offering nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:39 PM
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Your hypothesis is full of shit. Wisdom transferred; you are welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:37 PM
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Correlation does not equal causation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:34 PM
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This is no difference than saying a woman should not expect dates, him buying coffee, or presents during valentines, etc. His presence should be enough. This is just closeted misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:33 PM
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It is just a numbers game and don’t take rejection personally. You buy lottery tickets and don’t win every time. Just engage with confidence and if the answer is no, so what? You only invested a little bit of time talking to them. The cost to you is minimal - like that $1 scratch off ticket. Just use those approach/rejections as training to refine your strategy and improve your confidence and communication. You can also practice engaging strangers in conversation. I see people that aren’t like m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:16 PM
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I understand and that is reasonable. Everyone has unmet expectations and needs. The key is being able to *calmly* discuss it after emotions and tensions calm down. Ultimately I think the most successful marriages are ones where both partners are selfless. Each is concerned about the other's happiness and wellbeing. That doesn't mean ignoring boundaries though. What has helped my wife and I is emailing or writing each other letters. Then coming together and discussing face to face. Letters tend t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:32 PM
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In my experience, women are just as deficient in emotional intelligence as men and in some cases, even more so. To your broader question, I was the sole provider once my wife I wanted kids. She quit and stayed home. After the youngest was 10, she returned to the workforce. Her income isn’t needed in the least, but she enjoys working and socializing. This was a mutual decision as I have always had a high paying career. We felt it was best for the kids and she liked being with them. She often did …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 09:58 PM
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i don’t watch porn and you didn’t answer the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 07:08 PM
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Yeah I would opt out. I don’t know if I would feel submissive because I wouldn’t engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:40 PM
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How do you know which men are and are not jerking off to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:38 PM
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All the above. I cannot imagine being a woman so I cannot say. Presumably if I was a woman I would have all the other biological and psychological differences and be okay with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:35 PM
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For me personally, I never think in terms of dominant or submissive when I am engaged in sex. I’m just enjoying the act with my partner. Sometimes I am more aggressive and sometimes she is more aggressive. I only think of submissive or dominant in as far as this discussion and what I feel. I could never put myself in a position of being penetrated like pegging. I’d be celibate for the rest of my life before I would be okay with that…. I’m not saying that I am right or even consistent. I am just …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:57 PM
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The terms above aren’t synonymous with violence in a woman being harmed. Like I mentioned, i think it comes from an internalized disgust factor some men have toward promiscuous women. Generally, I think the one being penetrated is often viewed as submissive because of how traditional sex is performed. The man is on top of the woman. Of course there are other sexual position variations, but missionary is the most classical and customary position. Being “on top” is generally viewed as dominant. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:54 PM
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No, but some acts are degrading (like being pissed on). Yes. But that doesn’t make the submissive one inferior or anything. No, I think my partner is enjoying it and often initiates and wants more. 🤷‍♂️ I don’t think it has anything to do with conservatism. Probably porn more than anything. That and people love to invent all sorts of slang terms generally. Probably the disgust factor some men have when they see women as promiscuous so they have terms to describe behavior they are repulsed by. Me…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:48 PM
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It is false. Or are you saying you hitching your wagon to misandrists? So women fake not being able to hang a picture the same? It is bullshit and I have never run across men faking the inability to do household chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:37 PM
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You did not do it directly to me but another guy who was responding in good faith with a valid point. So next time argue in good faith. Oh and I did respond with my sources, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:35 PM
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Researchers Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young have documented what they call the "teaching of contempt for men" in mainstream media. They argue that misandry has become a cultural norm through specific tropes: • The "Bumbling Idiot" Dad: Men are frequently portrayed in sitcoms and commercials as incompetent, child-like, or intellectually inferior to their wives. • The Disposable Male: Violence against men in film and television is often played for laughs (e.g., genital injury) or dismissed as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:33 PM
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You did the same thing prior to me doing it to you. Glad you finally recognized how dumb it is once it was turned on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 03:28 PM
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Both exists. Only one is accepted by the culture and sometimes even celebrated or promoted. Could you imaging Hollywood producing TV shows where the main star is an idiot woman and her husband always having to fix issues she creates? There might be an example like that I am unaware of, but it is classic that men are the idiots in the family for most sitcoms. The definition of misogyny has expanded tremendously. Often now anyone that disagrees with a woman in good faith is called a misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:36 PM
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Where is your proof or source?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:09 PM
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Where is your source?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:06 PM
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Women on this very sub stating so for one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:47 PM
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Pushing for sex does not mean he doesn’t want a relationship. Women on this very sub met and had sex with their husbands the first date. I agree men and women should be honest and up front from the beginning. If you are up front with the guy and say you have casual sex but want to take it slow with him, then that is reasonable. You give him agency to decide if that is right for him. Most women are not that transparent. The obfuscate and hide they did past hookups and casual sex. The guy believes…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 12:01 AM
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You can do what you want, obviously. So again you just prove you would rather withhold sex and pretend to be virtuous than be honest. You are free to do that, but your relationship is starting out on dishonesty and presenting yourself as someone you are not. The guy should run.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:49 PM
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No, he is expected to be treated the same as other guys. If you engage sex quickly with guys before him and not with him, then he will assume you aren’t physically attracted to him as much. It is that simple. The mental gymnastics explaining it isn’t like that won’t mean crap. Actions speak louder than words.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:47 PM
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No, I wasn’t. If I were in that situation with them any sexiness would turn to revulsion.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:44 PM
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I cannot think of any regrets, honestly. If they are not transparent and revise their history then they are being deceitful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:21 PM
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Then break up with him. How is having sex with him a risk versus the other guys that you had sex with quickly? Women are at no more at risk than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:19 PM
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While most people focus on hookups, this dynamic happens in relationships too. Past boyfriends got quick sex and for some reason the husband did not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:17 PM
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Agree…both parties should be transparent and honest. That is seemingly rare these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:14 PM
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Then be honest about it and not deceitful. No, I don’t have any big regrets during those ages either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:13 PM
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No one is whining to their wife. And while I agree with your first statement, somehow shit changes for some dudes after they walk down the aisle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:12 PM
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So you don’t experience it then it must be made up 😅. typical denial at its finest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:11 PM
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And THAT is the way it should happen. People should be transparent. I would have no issue if a woman said hey I got out of a bad relationship and started sleeping around rather quickly. I realized that is not who I am or what I want. I want to build a foundation with you before jumping into having sex. At least then he has agency to decide how he wants to proceed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:04 PM
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Oh but we do know often. Women will ultimately reveal it or one find out through friends etc. I do agree when this is revealed, he should dump her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:02 PM
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True and I say men should dump those women. The problem is this is all usually revealed after they waked down the aisle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:01 PM
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Yes and those women are deeply unsexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:00 PM
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Excuses. Young and foolish until she met that guy… and then if they break up, she is suddenly you and foolish again. It is a BS answer that applies to a minority. The derangement is women fucking dudes at the drop of a hat and then meets “the one” and expecting him to be thrilled that you want to make him wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:50 PM
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Well we have established the women aren’t nice to the men they make wait. They trample on their self-worth and ask why they aren’t happy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:45 PM
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Actually I think many women try to portray themselves more virtuous to the guy they care about and want a long term relationship. They manage their image and what he learns about them. Ultimately they are fake about their past because they don’t want him to think bad of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:43 PM
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And that is fine, but a man isn’t going to feel great about it just like if a “wife material” woman gets less emotional connection and support than past girlfriends. You know, cuddling and all that no longer produces dopamine in marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:41 PM
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Regardless of what it means to the woman, it feels completely devaluing to men and makes them feel like shit. But ultimately that doesn’t matter to women does it???
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:39 PM
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Women admitting to hooking up is what is rare. Once you get a woman to open up, one learns the truth. “I have slept with X number of guys but they were all relationships.“ Then one later discovers some of those guys were ones she fucked on the first or second date and dated for a month or so. That is a hookup. She redefines it as relationship sex which is a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:38 PM
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And when a guy runs across a woman as you described and he is husband-material and she makes him wait, he should dump her. She has already demonstrated bad decision making and poor self-control.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:35 PM
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That is my recommendation. When a dude sees a woman is treating him differently - making him wait when she didn’t others, he should dump that woman immediately and fucking ghost her. Don’t be her provider, emotional support and all that while she treats him like he is less than everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:32 PM
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Your take is a straw man. No one said a woman should do what she dislikes. No one is asking her to do things she genuinely does not like. But it is hard to say she didn’t like oral as an example, when she blew 10 guys in the past and then tells her husband she does not like it. The reality is she does not like it with him, but she will not say that because she wants to keep all the benefits he provides.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:28 PM
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No, it drove home the point. You turned the point around. It has nothing to do with getting sex at the speed he desires. It is about double-standards that devalue him while simultaneously the woman tells him he matters more. The actions betray the words. If you always took it slow, then nothing wrong with that. If you always go fast, nothing wrong with that. But when your pattern is to mostly engage in sex quickly and then tell some guy that is supposedly most important to you that they have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:26 PM
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Yes to drive the point home so maybe you would get it. However, it is as I expected, no attempt to understand or empathize.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:42 PM
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they say that with their actions
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:38 PM
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Finally a truth teller
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:35 PM
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They why do women marry them? Lots of women hookup and end up in LTR or marriage with their hookup guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:35 PM
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facts are most men do not have casual sex like you suggest. the study does not support your claim. When it says all adult Americans experience sexual activity, including beyond the context of marital union DOES NOT imply casual. Sure I agree most men have sex inside and outside of marriage. However, the majority of those are inside a relationship and not casual encounters. Facts don’t care about feelings is true, but you must know how to interpret facts. making shit up is not facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 03:22 PM
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There’s a huge double standard in how some women approach dating. They usually split men into two categories. Group A are the guys they don't see a future with, so they’ll hook up with them almost immediately just for fun. Group B are the good guys they actually want a relationship with. For the Group B men, women intentionally hold back. They claim they want to build an emotional connection first or not mess it up. But from a man’s perspective, this logic is completely backwards and devalues hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:48 PM
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No, it is because men feel devalued when you will have casual sex with any rando and then BY YOUR ACTIONS imply he isn’t good enough for that. No amount of mental gymnastics is going to convince a man “I was more into you, so I made you wait“. You on one hand treat sex like it is no big deal. You will hookup with whoever. Then on the other hand, you treat it as something special in a relationship to be taken slow so emotional connection is built first. It is either special or it isn’t. I cannot …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:31 PM
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And the guy is suppose to feel good about that? complimented? She liked me so much she treated me like the plague compared to other guys she was ambivalent to?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:24 PM
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women do the Madonna -whore complex to themselves as well. They can get wild and freaky and then settle down and say that part of them is gone. Then their husband gets drops of vanilla here and there. Of course this is not every woman, but it isn’t rare either. They want to appear virtuous to their husband so it is all about managing their image and relationship. You are delusional if you think most men have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 01:21 PM
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That is really state dependent, like you mentioned. In my state, shooting someone for theft in the night is justified by statute. Now that does not mean some DA couldn’t press the issue, but it is listed as one of the justifications. Additional ones for night are: burglary, arson, and criminal mischief.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:57 AM
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For me, it wasn’t an immediate conversation. certainly not the first date. I have been married 26 years so recalling the timeline for far ago is a bit tough. With one ex for example, she told me she slept with 3 men, but they were relationships and she thought she was in love with them. That was at the beginning. Then as time goes, one guy she only dated a month. Okay that wasn’t a relationship, but a hookup that was on repeat all month. Then I learned one was a former boyfriend who came back in…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:40 AM
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Well there is always an element of trust and usually based on our interactions and their character. But it is also fairly easy for most to detect when a woman is managing her image and how I might perceive her. Little white lies and things don’t line up. I am pretty good at detecting lies. I also have a habit (some may say bad) of asking minor questions that I already know the answer to. I catch people in lies and how far they will lie using that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 11:29 PM
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Women in my past shared their sexual history pretty openly. My wife did too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:56 PM
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I don’t watch / read red pill content, but listening to many of the women on this sub will also lead men to: “ to double down on all the angriest, most unhinged, least charitable things you think about women in your worst moment.“ The misandrist rhetoric is another element that is wild. Few call it out and most women deny it or justify it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:18 PM
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It doesn’t need to be “sides”. Ask the question and get the answers. You are doing to get opposing viewpoints regardless of flairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:15 PM
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Maybe Sydney Sweeney with a bag over her head. That face is so unattractive to me. Her body is average other than having big ole boobs. Those are overrated too. If she wasn’t famous and I saw her on the street she wouldn’t even get a second look from me. Men’s preferences vary just as widely as women. I would much rather have a more athletic and fit woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:33 PM
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This is related to attachment styles and matches behavior for anxious attachment people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 01:01 PM
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Sure. And just like the woman above, he can opt out. But if that is important to you then you can certainly ask. Details are probably a bit much just like i wouldn’t ask a girl “ok reveal every position you were in during each sexual encounter”. But it is helpful for you to know if the guy you are pursuing a long term relationship has filed for bankruptcy, has engaged in gambling, etc. that could influence your financial future.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 11:57 AM
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I would not argue that point. I think there is perhaps a difference in how quickly that happens with men and how it affects one sex versus the other could be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 11:54 AM
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It can happen to men too. I don’t think promiscuity is great for either sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 11:53 AM
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No, I am not the same person. However, my values have largely unchanged. I am also accountable for my decisions at 19 like I am today. Therefore, my spouse or girlfriend should know what my decision making has been like and my values so they have agency to decide if I am a good fit for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 11:52 AM
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He is entitled to that information to see if their values match for a relationship. It is also taking away his agency is misrepresenting who she is and is starting a relationship built on lies and deceit. If she doesn’t want to share, she can say talking about the past is a dealbreaker and end it with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:48 AM
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Observation is a good albeit imperfect indicator. Women often reveal their history at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:46 AM
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Simply put, the past influences the present. The past always matter, it is simply a decision if you want to share details about your past. And it is a decision if the man/woman has boundaries that do not align with the potential LTR partner due to their past.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:44 AM
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Yup…. and then years later he finds out that you can control yourself, just elected not too with some guys before him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:47 PM
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Exactly how I wrote it plays out often. I never said every time or implied it. Doesn’t matter if you deny it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 12:38 AM
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Obviously it is not exactly specific and this was used as one of many examples where this pattern follows. It is related to anxious attachment and also purity culture shame. Now if you cannot imagine it, so be it. But this scenario is not that uncommon. The specifics might vary someone, but the pattern emerges. Go look it up if you want or deny it. Reality isn’t concerned about your opinion or mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 07:58 PM
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Because it isn’t a hyper specific hypothetical scenario 🙄. Your whole comment is extraordinarily wrong. Just because you haven’t heard of something doesn’t mean anything other than you never heard of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 11:46 AM
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Honestly, it does not matter that you think the scenario is unrealistic. I’m not saying it to be rude - I would not have considered it either a year ago. Research has enlightened me. It is an extremely well documented issue and therapies tailored specifically for it. It is related to anxious attachment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 04:09 PM
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I used that as one example. It certainly isn’t contained to just Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 01:49 AM
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Seems pretty common, especially in Reddit relationship subs. Often the man doesn’t know about the past until later in the relationship. She fakes virtue to get the guy she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 12:16 AM
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my point is the past matters and partners should know to have agency. behavior can be an indicator of internalized shame. If a woman lies and said I never did random hookups to a guy she is really into and delays sex with him then that is a red flag. It happens quite frequently - posted on relationship forums by men and women who discovered her inconsistency later. If she was transparent and honest then this likely would not have blown up. It gives him agency to decide if he wants to enter into …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:58 PM
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This does not have to manifest from purity culture, it is just more easily recognized in that environment. Certainly your social circle will influence how often you run across it. Men and women post about these behaviors all the time in the relationship subs. They don’t name or describe it in detail. It is usually very simplistic. ”my girlfriend had a bunch of hookups, lied and told me she didn’t do that and made me wait”. “I lied about my past and My boyfriend found out about it and is upset an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:43 PM
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it was a single example that leads to this phenomenon. It isn’t the only example. Rebellion is the conduit that leads to internalized sexual shame often in purity cultures. There are other conditions that lead to the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:28 PM
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For sure but it just isn’t that. It is internalized shame for past actions. Purity culture is one of several things that can lead to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:10 PM
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it is a very common scenario and not obscure. All of a sudden with someone she has a potential long term relationship with, sex becomes more heavy and meaningful. They don’t want to be judged so they present more virtuous. This is extremely common.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:09 PM
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It literally makes perfect sense…well at least to me, psychologists, and psychiatrists……And untold number of therapists helping women overcome this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:44 PM
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This happening isn’t 100% a given every time in any scenario. But certain behaviors are indicative of this being high risk as mentioned in my post. The same outcome is less likely absent rebellion. Rebellion is a component because in the rebellion she associates or sexual identity with shameful rebellious behavior. In a virgin + virgin marriage for example, she would have never developed her sexual identity through rebellion and fast hookups. The identity would have been developed in the marriag…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:34 PM
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Yeah he could have left and it happens often. This isn’t just about purity culture. I am talking about why it matters. I am not proclaiming it matters for a variety of internet people with a million different reasons. I am showing how it does matter with scientifically backed studies. Knowledge is power and knowing more helps one make a better decision. The past matters because it influences the present. I never said her wild years are at fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:09 PM
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You really cannot understand how internalized shame doomed the relationship? Sex might even start off wildly at first but in a committed stable relationship, it dies. If past did not matter, this situation would not have materialized. This has nothing to do with values whatsoever. If she married one of the wild flings in her rebellious stage, it would have played out the same way… just took a little longer. Go research how purity based shame impacts relationships and how it plays out for women. …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:03 PM
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This isn’t really a n count post, but the mods seem to think so. N count adjacent maybe. Why the past matters… We often hear the repeated refrain that the past is the past and does not matter. In an ideal world where the past does not influence the present and future, that might be true. However, we do not live in an ideal world. Let me explain a scenario that is well documented, studied, and occurs frequently. A woman is raised in a very strict home. The parents are controlling, maybe religious…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 06:39 PM
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selfishness, I am convinced, is the reason why most relationships fail. often that selfishness gets projected as something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 10:54 PM
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Yes men self-regulate their mouths by far
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 12:59 PM
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Well, men are more careful with insults they throw around because they will get punched in the mouth. Men are taught to stand your ground and face social penalties for backing down. Therefore, men have a risk-aware form of communication. There has to be a quick mental calculation is he stronger than me, will I get hurt, is her boyfriend here who will assault me if I insult her, will a gang of white knights fuck me up, etc. This is not the case with most women. They learned from an early age to u…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 12:21 PM
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Depends on the guy, his morals, and also how emotionally invested he is with her. More often than not, a woman isn’t going to reveal she was promiscuous. There can be outright lying, obfuscating, and building a different narrative. Rarely is someone straightforward about it. Usually he will find out later. Then it is harder to leave a relationship where attachment and love has developed. However, some men will see it as a betrayal and readily leave. He might also overlook it so he can hit and qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 12:27 AM
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and most women. women are often excused for assaulting men. have two groups of 100 people. group A the guy walks over and gropes a woman’s vagina. group B have a woman walk over and grab the guys dick. reactions by the majority would be dramatically different.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:46 AM
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and they certainly are not defined to a particular gender either. women assault men quite frequently and get away with it. while women often don’t report for a myriad of reasons, it is nearly socially unacceptable for men to report.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 11:43 AM
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my wife cooks more…slightly. we mostly eat out. I clean more and we evenly split the laundry. Any and everything outdoors I do solely. lawn, pool, flowers, hedges, etc. same with kids. we split bathing them, feeding them, etc. while they are now grown, it was I that dropped them off at school each morning and picked them up from school until they started driving. I did the teachers meetings and the doctors visits. she did doc visits too so call that a split. I make quadruple her salary. Again we…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 12:59 AM
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I literally never run into married couples where the wife is like you described. I am married and we have a fairly active social life and hang out with married people. Women love to hold on to the idea from 75 years ago where women did these things. That isn’t the case now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 06:16 PM
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Dude did you not read what I wrote. Women often ADMIT it and it is manipulation. They manipulate with fake virtue because they want that particular man. Instead of being honest about who they are, they put on a performance and then the truth later comes out. They don’t want to be rejected so that is their motivation. Their behavior isn’t reasonable. If withholding sex is how she consistently moves in relationships then it isn’t a problem. Somehow, sleeping around quickly is a pattern of behavior…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 03:40 PM
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I am not mad about it. I am happily married. I am not moving the goalposts whatsoever. I am talking about fake virtue. many women even admit they find someone they really want to have a long term relationship with and it feels important so they purposefully withhold sex with him. they feign fake virtue so they get what they want. they start the relationship on a lie that completely devalues a man. they keep doing it because simps excuse their behavior and allow themselves to be manipulated. the …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:34 AM
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you can justify it all you want. it is warped and any guy should dump a girl that pulls that shit. no one like being lied to and saying they are special and then treated less than. it is not just NSA sex. they do this with past boyfriends and then change the script.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 11:36 PM
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yes. she is crazy about him so much, she withholds months what she gave others of a cocktail or dinner and he is supposed to to feel great about it. however true it is for her, a guy should dump any woman that does that twisted shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 11:06 PM
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I am not spewing hate. I am calling out bad behavior by modern women and disputing the narrative that man bad, woman good that is oft repeated here and elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 11:04 PM
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I agree. The problem is that’s a majority. Fortunately I never have to worry about it (married a sane woman).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:41 PM
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And a significant number of women who lie to hook a man. They have prior one night stands, quick sex with prior boyfriends and then the husband is waiting months. She tells him she doesn’t do those sorts of things faking virtue. After marriage some years later he discovers she lied to him and was completely different before him and he gets vanilla / duty sex without passion once a month. Every dude that encounters that should break up or divorce a woman that runs that scam. No man is owed sex an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:38 PM
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Funny how a woman is trying to tell a men how to be a man. I don’t put in any effort thankfully and would never for the modern female.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:17 PM
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Bullshit. Most women think they are priceless and actually offer very little. Their behavior is equal and often worse than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:15 PM
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Haha it has never been cheap to have a good woman. Yes, certain kinds of women exist that are cheap but are not good. Those women today think they are priceless 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:20 PM
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Men don’t reduce effort anymore than women. The women of today are not like the women of 20 yrs ago and the changes were not for the better. If a product goes down in quality and value, why would a customer still pay a high price for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:03 PM
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I agree. Men need to stop letting women (bitter and misandrist women) influence their feelings and self perceptions. I have seen men asking if it is okay to be angry at the partner that is essentially cheating. She calls him toxic, insecure, and controlling. Actually, that language itself is used as a manipulation tactic. My opinion is when someone says that, the guy should just not give a fuck. Chalk it up to incompatibility and move on if needed. Now there are legit instances where some Men ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:01 PM
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Look, there are shitty women and men everywhere that are just self-centered. People just need to be more careful picking better partners. This is why their past matters because it highlights their judgement and values beyond what they say. This is for both genders. The past is an imperfect predictor of future behavior, but it is the best we got. As a side note, I do think since women file 70%+ divorces, one of two things are true: women either give up easily and more readily abandon a relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:11 PM
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Women initiate slightly more physical aggression in relationships than men based on studies. Because of biological differences, they don’t cause as serious injuries. Women are just as prone to violence as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:27 PM
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You debate in bad faith implying i said something I did not. It isn’t an insult to be a feminist. It is simply a thing you are or are not. Was I wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:59 PM
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Strawman. I never said or implied what you wrote. I said the advice given here is often worse than those “losers with mics” that was referenced. you argue in bad faith because you want men to be subservient to women and put up with bad behavior, having no standards. typical militant feminist POV you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:49 PM
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26 years! I call things as I see them. there is bad advice going around from all corners.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:22 PM
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nope. often worse. typically instructing guys to be simps and have no boundaries. anything less is “controlling” and “abusive”. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:11 PM
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I never had a problem dating and I am married. I will simply say the majority of the dating advice shared here by women are no better than the “losers with microphones”. often it is much worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 07:59 PM
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Yup. In every relationship, there will always be one person who loves, desires, and adores the other more intensely than the other person reciprocates. Not gender specific so there is never a perfect power balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 01:17 AM
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That is fine if that is what you want. But just like you love to say a woman doesn’t owe a man anything, he doesn’t owe you a meal, a date, or a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:58 PM
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No more like trading to milk funds from another poor sucker
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 12:31 PM
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often it does so they “can go find themselves” LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 10:27 AM
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You like it when women abandon their children?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 02:03 AM
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Men create no more single moms than women choose to be single moms. Typical feminism with the perpetual victim mindset. You say you have agency when something is good then shift to blaming men when you don’t like something. Feminism 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:04 AM
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Or men give up their happiness for their families and women easily give up their families for their happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 12:56 AM
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Woman initiative 70+% of divorces. Men are not creating single moms. Both are creating a child and women are the ones initiating separations more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:43 PM
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Sorry to inform you, but women often use kids to punish their ex-husbands. Studies also prove that courts are biased toward mothers in custody disputes / arrangements *even when* she is objectively the worse parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:40 PM
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again another ignorant comment. many people get high karma for having just a few intelligent comments with high upvotes. unsurprising it eludes you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 12:13 AM
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you are the one melting down and acting like a petulant child. you probably have never had a successful relationship so you do not have a clue what it takes to have one. I have been married 26 years so I know what it takes; go back into your borrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 10:59 PM
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you have no fucking clue you are so ignorant. yes I have lots of pills because of an autoimmune disorder - it was a tongue in cheek flair. I also don’t adhere to a dogma other than logic and intelligence. you should try it sometime. again you said my comment is childish so don’t avoid the question. How long have you been married?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:37 PM
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you are ignorant. tell me how long you have been married?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:02 PM
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1,000,000% spot on. People like that don’t want a marriage. They want a living arrangement where they are extracting the most and giving the least in a cohabitation agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:20 PM
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If this is her mindset, she wouldn’t have earned the privilege of being with me. Too many people think of marriage as how much they can extract from the other party. Successful marriages have spouses who think how can they out give, out do, out sacrifice etc for their spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 07:18 PM
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men mock, women punish. touch grass and encounter reality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 05:00 PM
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society does not punish them, women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 09:06 AM
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The top and bottom salary of a class is very broad too that it effectively makes it meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:45 PM
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The problem with these studies is they are generally self-reported. Anytime someone reveals information about their sexual history and preferences then the results are less reliable.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 12:10 AM
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Never encountered one that I am aware of, but I surround myself with quality people. Side note I think you have to define an abuser more specifically. I often see the term abuser used loosely. A guy or girl says something mean and the receiving party labels them abusive. Like so many things today, people exaggerate reality so words lose their meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 10:19 PM
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Well, my perspective is men should just go for it. If she declines politely, just say thanks, wish her well and forget it. If she chastises or calls you a creep, apologize and tell her it was a mistake. Say you always try to avoid bitches. Don’t sweat it. If she says yes, then congrats. The thing with men and women is that you will always encounter assholes. If they are rude then you learned immediately you don’t want to be with them. Call their ass out on it too and don’t let it slide or they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:18 PM
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I have never seen this scenario where the woman does all the housework. When I was a kid my dad now in 70’s was doing laundry and hanging clothes to dry outside on clothes line. He still cooks dinner more than my mom today. All my friends contribute equally if not more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 01:38 AM
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yeah but women (and men) often assume debt for the benefit of their family. So you would have to delineate between single women and single men somehow to show the difference based on gender. It makes perfect sense men would contribute to the GDP more. Some women leave the workforce to start families and gravitate to non-STEM jobs that pay lower. That does not mean invaluable or unnecessary jobs. They are just different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 04:57 PM
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I’m a guy and pro-male. I also agree that it is popular to blame men for every ill in society and often judge them more harshly than women. With that said, some of your conclusions are wrong. #2. I don’t even understand what you are trying to prove. Women are roughly half the population, half the debt, and half of the GDP. I’m shocked I tell ya, shocked! #1. So? So are you trying to say women attending college and getting degrees made the price increase and quality decrease? What is your point h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:57 PM
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And I warn my sons to be careful of women too. I warn both sons and daughters to be careful of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:58 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 02:53 PM
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simply put, people judge everything. we are judging machines. you judge men in all sorts of ways. From the moment you look at him you are making many judgements about him based on appearance, height, socioeconomic status, etc. every decision you make starts with some sort of judgement. we are wired for judgements and it is impossible not to judge. Now we don’t have to devalue someone and remove their humanity. what you are really saying to not judge is saying everyone should have a judgement tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:36 AM
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You really need to get some counseling on your hatred toward men. A man might have did you wrong, but men did not. You have an irrational hatred toward men. it is no different than if a minority robbed you and then you turned racist toward everyone of the same race. you have major issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:23 AM
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no it is quite common in men circles. what happens is their false accusations are rooted out by police. they are never charged, let alone prosecuted, so the statistics don’t pick these up. it is quite common for men to be falsely accused.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:57 AM
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Right but false allegations being charged and prosecuted are *extremely* rare. It almost never happens. So the system fails men (or women) who are falsely accused and women (and men) are are victims of assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:22 AM
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no they don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 12:19 AM
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Yes they are
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:32 PM
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The problem with those studies is often the definition of SA, etc. Often times those studies include things like unwanted staring. You have to dig deep to see what is classified as SA.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:18 PM
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You can care about both simultaneously.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:16 PM
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That is a false comment. False accusations are quite common.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:16 PM
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Not worse, equal. Shit happened to me at work. I was accused of sexual harassment during peak believe all women. I was at risk of losing my job, my kids losing ability to pay for college. The only way I was “saved” was I recorded her admitting to me she fabricated it because she was mad at me. She should have suffered the same penalty that would have been given to me. However, nothing happened to her whatsoever. Both SA and false accusations should not happen. Frankly, women should be more angry…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:10 PM
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It is only disingenuous because you disagree and want to just make the guy the bad guy. Women in OF for example prey on lonely men and act like they have relationships with them through messaging, etc. They exploit men every bit as much as men exploit women. I take great issue with people who lack the inability to have an open mindset and see things from different perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 12:43 PM
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So the buyers of fentanyl should be shamed more than the sellers? Woman are flocking to OF in droves. Many do prostitution outside of OF too. I have seen countless interviews where women embrace sex work and there is no exploitation. An argument could be made that women are exploiting men for their money by using sex. Exploiting their basic biological imperative to reproduce for financial gain. The only innocent people are those that are abducted and forced into it and that is a small percent co…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 11:08 AM
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source? More pulling stuff out of your ass I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 02:27 AM
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That does not prove what you think it does. OF subscribers usually have multiple accounts. Also, do they delineate active, free, vs paid. Some guys might sign up for 20 Accounts but only pay for 3 or 4. I am not moving the goalposts at all. I am pointing out that your conclusion is wrong by saying 263 million men have subscriptions. It would be accurate to say 263 million subscriptions are from men. Words have meaning and your were flat out wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:51 AM
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You should go to counseling. You should try and understand what is triggering you. Loneliness, boredom, etc. replace it with something healthier. If you tend to do it when bored and you are tempted, go organize the garage. 😊.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:29 AM
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Oh so people who respond and deconstruct your flawed argument is triggered. A weak response because you have nothing else so you attack the person because your argument is hollow and empty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:26 AM
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Yes I showed you women do the exact same thing. This is a human condition and not a man condition. You are just too closed minded and full of misandry that you cannot appreciate the obvious. Furthermore, you don’t even have a source for your supposed point. You cannot even demonstrate men do this at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:25 AM
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Then you better go get some Narcotics because you must be in misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:23 AM
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That is the most absurd thing I have read in a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:22 AM
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Ok so what is her credentials? How long has she been an OF creator. What is her subscriber count and income? Even after all that, she could simply lie as she has a bias against RP men as stated. She is not a reliable source. Amazing that you cannot logically understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:22 AM
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Great Karen response. I deconstructed your point rather easily and you whine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:20 AM
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I don’t have deep rooted animosity toward women like you do men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:20 AM
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Sure. No one is promised their next breath. More obvious news at 10, Karen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:18 AM
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A single person of millions. I could get a single red pill dude to refute her point. That is not any less reliable than your girl. Kind of generous calling her a professional ya think? Nearly every human on the planet can do what she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:04 AM
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I pointed out the flaws in your comment to shame men when women do the same thing. The only nerve struck was yours for not seeing what any easy layup it was to refute your bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 12:01 AM
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And an Onlyfans girl is a reliable source? 😂😂😂😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:59 PM
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That is you rationalizing. You are the one that is allergic to accountability when I called out women do the same shit. But no surprises here with your defense of but it’s different. Yeah the only difference is many women deflect and are allergic to being held accountable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:57 PM
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Studies indicate you are incorrect. Now younger men have a hard time compared to younger women. As their age increases then men start getting laid more.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:53 PM
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Source? Also there are probably many of those men that have like 8 subs. Subscriptions don't equal number of men. Then of course there are many women who subscribe too and those who generate content. Shit a counselor near a college town told me she has slightly more girls seeking treatment with porn issues than men. There are equal numbers of men and women doing what some would label as degenerate behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:52 PM
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Your comments are the only illogical one and you are doing mental gymnastics because I showed you the hypocrisy of some women who do the same thing that some men do. Furthermore, some men use sex workers not because they cannot get a women, but they simply have time constraints and don’t want to have to put up with the accompanying bullshit that is present in many relationships. Pussy isn’t worth all that to them and a sex worker is a hell of a lot cheaper and less effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:25 PM
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Why do women defend sex workers and say sex work is real work and legitimize it while simultaneously shaming men who use those women’s services?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:48 PM
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Not my responsibility to adhere to your definition. Common is 10-50% based on some definitions. The key is there is not a universally accepted definition. But even using your definition, 40% of age gap relationships are based in love seems reasonable. At the end of the day, we will agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 11:22 PM
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I understand nuance and as I mentioned, it is common but not the majority. Age gap relationships are common and not a fantasy. You are the typical woman who will vilify it at all costs because it represents a threat to you either consciously or subconsciously.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:48 PM
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No, I live in reality. Do you? Obviously it is not the majority but it is not uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:39 PM
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Not really
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:33 PM
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then how do you explain younger women with older men who are not well off financially. See it all the time. Some women are just attracted to older men. What two people have in common are not always determined by age, but my maturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:28 PM
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The TLDR version: Any disadvantages of men are men’s fault and they deserve it. Any disadvantages of women are men’s fault and example of rampant misogyny. Conclusion - a bunch of BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 12:47 PM
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The men pursuing them are likely the ones that have a hard time getting laid so they will put up with shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 05:33 PM
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and you truly don’t know a damned thing what men go through. you seriously need to do more research. at some point women are going to have to listen too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:38 PM
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yeah 7% is more than 0% even though I doubt that number. men are assaulted primarily by women. I have been groped etc. men just don’t report it because of stigmatism by society. also you cannot prove women are assaulted more - it is assumed. it is just women report it more. the same exact behavior by men and women are defined different (pinching someone’s ass as an example: he is committing SA and she is flirting. also, the numbers on SA is suspect anyway. you have to dive into each study on wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:36 PM
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And men are SA’d by women and it is almost never prosecuted. if he shares it happens he is ridiculed for not enjoying it. i dispute women are largely discriminated in the workforce. example : believe all women campaign was bullshit. i was a victim of it firsthand. gave a woman a bad review and all of a sudden massive investigation because I was supposedly having affairs with other subordinates and sexually harassed her. I was almost out the door when I recorded a conversation with her (one party…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:10 PM
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yes that is what we are all doing. making a generalization on what the average person in a cohort is doing. obviously there are exceptions. in general, the average feminist will never seek equality if said equality would lower their station and raise a man’s to achieve it. in time past men were awarded custody typically because women did not have the means to support them. regardless I am not talking about history. I am talking about what happens today. misandry is widespread and accepted by soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 12:00 PM
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oh there are shitty men and women on the internet. duh. people saying stupid shit on the internet is not reality or public policy. just as many hateful man hating women as there are women hating men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:45 AM
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No need to get all angry. Misandry is rampant and the feminist goal of seeking equality is a lie. it is the goal of advancing women at any and all costs regardless if it is a detriment to men. example, feminist do not advocate for fathers rights in family court cases. clearly women have an advantage there and they are happy for it to remain that way. women don’t face oppression today beyond what is mostly imagined in their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:43 AM
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Misandry…. misandry is what has grown rapidly and is essentially normalized by society now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:16 AM
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If we flipped the script and women were primarily the consumers of porn and men the consumers of smut, we would hear from women endless shaming smut and defending porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 03:16 PM
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It is common just because you don’t think it is so is irrelevant. Far too many instances where men say it happened and where women use the exact excuse of “this was special and I didn’t want to ruin it”. Obviously I cannot prove it nor you disprove it. I don’t know what the percentage is but it is common. We don’t have the means to Identify those scenarios among couples and survey them. Then there is also the issue of people being honest. You believe whatever you want Rico Suave. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 07:18 PM
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Quite common. Woman is out fucking freely and quickly with guys she is dating or hooking up with. Gets married and later in the marriage, the husband finds out she did that while he had to wait 3 to 6 months to have sex with her. Her response is always “I wanted this one to mean something”, “you were special”, etc. AKA, I’m not as attracted to you but you are husband material. Also, I’m not into those sexual things I did with all my ex’s now. You just get starfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:21 PM
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That is just but one example of women using sex to manipulate men for what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 03:33 PM
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Bullshit. Just like saying a lot women don’t think outside of their wallets.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:10 PM
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And women use sex to manipulate men all sorts of ways…. More obvious news at 6, Bill….
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 12:58 PM
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Because they often admit later in the relationship. Of course not all admit and not all do this, but it is common. Women and men post about this particular issue all the time on Reddit. Discussed on other forums and offline too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:26 PM
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Experience. We aren't talking anything about acceptance or not. It is simply a fact that many, if not most, lie about their past. Their motivation is usually they want to appear more virtuous and wife-like than reality. It has nothing to do about the mans acceptance or not. It is their perceived worry he might reject them. I agree with you, the man isn't for her if he cannot accept her past. The issue is women often are not truthful removing the man's agency to decide. Many separations and divor…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:12 AM
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Your first point is not relevant. We are talking about genders in general and not specific individuals. Women lie about this commonly. It usually before marriage was discussed and never discovered until after marriage. Then he learns she was never completely honest about her past. See it all the time. Again not all women, but many if not most.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 05:52 PM
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AS THE SEARCH ENGINE USED. OPEN THE LINK AND USE YOUR BRAIN. Source in this case does not mean what you think it does. It means the NIH article was referred to my by the source ChatGPT. It does not mean the data is from ChatGPT. ie I was in ChatGPT and clicked the link and it opened the page. The call to the website article was sourced by ChatGPT. utm_source is a mandatory part of a UTM parameter that identifies the platform or website sending the traffic, such as google, facebook, or a specific…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:29 PM
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No, I linked my source. Butt hurt much? Chat GPT found the source for me like a good search engine does. Did you open the NIH article or you just mad because the narrative OP posted is proven wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:27 PM
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yes, men estimate higher and women lower than reality. hence the average women is more sexually active than the average man. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7293001/?utm_source=chatgpt.com
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:49 PM
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Statistically, young women are having more sex than men in the same age group. 30% of men and 19% of women under age 24 report no sexual activity in the last year. Women often lie about their past to their marriage partner to appear virtuous and ”wife material”. They often make them wait longer than past partners too. Of course, not every women has this behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:41 PM
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That is not what i said. reading comprehension is important. She said she was in a relationship, not that she wanted one with them. It was an excuse for fucking on the first date to make them appear virtuous and deny they made a decision purely on sexual attraction without even really knowing the person. There was no relationship whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 10:21 AM
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Yes but people routinely compromise their values depending on the context. Morals and values are very context dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 10:22 PM
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Women repeatedly admitting it and demonstrating it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:26 PM
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happens all the time. Women will say “I was in a relationship“ when they fucked him on the first or second date - that ain’t a relationship. They use all sorts of justifications to obfuscate the fact they found him attractive and fucked him immediately. Morals are contextual for most people. An attractive guys she likes, she makes him wait. A guy she finds highly desirable, she will fuck immediately if he has any emotional intelligence at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:24 PM
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Gen X here. What you wrote is nonsense. I have never seen the dynamics play out like you wrote. Men are doing as much housework and child raising as women. For example, I certainly did much more. The traditional men jobs around the house: I got near zero help. I think she had mowed a few times in her life. I am the only one who vacuums, sweeps and mops other than the housekeeper. I cook as much as she does. I took kids to school and picked them up everyday for the 12 years my boys attended. I to…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 12:10 PM
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What about the 20 years of our lives you willingly screwed over?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:11 AM
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I think they are starting to figure out their optionality isn't as nearly as good as they assumed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:21 AM
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100% yes unless she is into the guy. Then it is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:08 PM
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It is basically anything a man does that a woman does not like. Then it is toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 08:23 PM
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Any women are free to choose younger men, as some are already doing, if that is what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 03:42 PM
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Older women can be just as fucking annoying so that is an empty comparison. I figure most people just date or pursue who they are attracted to and it isn’t an age that is targeted. I mean it is getting more common to see 40+ women Hooking up with 20 yr old dudes. Age ultimately becomes irrelevant in adulthood and honestly, who gives a fuck what society at large thinks. The herd has been proved moronic more than once.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 03:41 PM
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because it isn’t humor
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:58 AM
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Oh deer…what has the world come to??? A man wants to feel special to his wife/girlfriend. Sometimes the posts on here are a bit ridiculous. Why is it okay for a woman to want to feel special, but not a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:22 PM
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No it isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 04:47 PM
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not sure if I am buying this.... women don't approach because they are shy or don't have to... my anecdotal experience suggests some women do approach if they are interested. I have been approached 3 times that I can recall so clearly some women do approach if they are motivated to do so. Every time I was approached, she was with a group of friends encouraging her to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 10:42 PM
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Kind of a misandrist view you have thinking it could be dangerous for women. Your statement implies violence and danger is common which is absolutely absurd and not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 10:38 PM
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These are women who admit to false accusations...documented recanting of their false accusations. One dispatcher (female btw) said that 60+% were false in her experience. Your comment is absurd. No data other than "I don't believe them". Well back at ya. Women have strong motivations to report false accusations, to name a few: - found cheating on a spouse or bf - regret sleeping with a person - retaliation against boyfriends or sexual partners Furthermore, do a study of men who report being subj…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 02:40 PM
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Oh I agree. I do think men compromise standards often and so do women. I never did; perhaps that is why I have experienced a long and successful marriage (not without challenges at times). But even my wife's behavior in dating after learning about it gives me pause. Honestly if I knew everything I know now back then, I likely would have moved on and passed her over. I bet 90% of men would not though...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:05 PM
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I completely agree, but this is no different than men. An experience that is almost uniquely a mans is being falsely accused of SA. Although some women like to say this rarely happens, it is untrue. Talk to law enforcement and false accusations are quite common. Even if legal penalties were never pursued, social consequences can be immense for a man. This is not to minimize the horrific experiences of women, but I think men's experiences are minimized often.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 01:01 PM
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Your anecdotes are irrelevant. Sure there are lots of simps out there given the raw numbers of men out there. If one actually look at statistics and studies, they show a large increase in men existing the dating marketplace. I trust studies than anecdotes of small size of men that are simps flooding DMs of IG / Onlyfans women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 12:37 PM
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What is that, $48k?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 12:23 PM
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Men don’t want them as is, clearly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 12:09 PM
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I think men and women have it difficult in different ways. Both sexes have difficulties dating where finding a compatible long-term partner is the goal. Generally, both have to date some pretty awful people and at best mediocre people to find someone that want to be with long term. Just look at relationship and marriage subs and even people, male and female, partner with awful mates. Practically men have it awful because of how much resources they typically have to spend to get noticed and have …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 11:57 AM
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Like the majority of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 11:40 AM
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That is hilarious like it is a common everyday occurrence and most men are out stalking and attacking women. It just is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 11:39 AM
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Flirt and make it obvious you are interested in them sexually. I mean don’t come up and just say “hey down to fuck”. But you can make it known you find her attractive, flirt with her, push the envelope a little more and escalate. Will some women complain? Sure. But if you let some women completely discourage you and prevent you from doing anything then you have already lost. The best home run hitters have lots of strike outs. They did not stop swinging.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 11:40 AM
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yes, it has exponentially grown. And there are just as many women who low key prostitute themselves by marrying a wealthy guy. They settle for the guy with money which is essentially the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:53 PM
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Not the women I want. No accountability needed for rampant prostitution - legal and illegal. I mean this is exactly why women are flocking to OF. All they see is dollar signs in their eyes. How about you take some accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:42 PM
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Exactly because the gold digger no longer has access to their mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:31 PM
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I see very average dudes with very average income with some women several steps above them. So it seems to me there is more to it than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:28 PM
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OK, so men want to buy women and women are all prostitutes with varying prices. That is your argument in a nutshell?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:25 PM
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Not doing the manual labor hard jobs like a roustabout. I am sure there is some female safety bosses, secretaries or such. They are not oil rigs deck hands operating the machinery. show me a video of a woman roughneck. There are a few, but those are exceptions. 99.5% could never do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:06 PM
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Inaccurate. While automation has helped in some factories and construction jobs, men operate and build those machines. There are other manual labor jobs that are not automated and unlikely to be automated anytime soon. No women are working on oil rigs Or could do those jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:00 PM
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Yes, rarely. The bigger question is have we seen women who enter sewage systems for repair? What about building skyscraper, bridges, iron work, masonry / concrete work, scaling high electrical lines for repairs, etc. Rare exceptional woman could do those roles. Women could learn them. The problem is the physical aspect and could you actually get any significant number to do them. If men disappeared tomorrow, society would collapse rather quickly. it would take much longer without women essential…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:39 AM
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but Men do participate in those jobs and do them well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 10:21 AM
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Hardly
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 08:07 AM
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That is hardly a measure of equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 02:47 AM
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Ha…. I know women who lost that feeling, divorced, and then regretted it because they took for granted what their husband did for them. Certainly men in that category too. Some absolutely deserve 50% of the marital assets, but there are many who do not and they are certainly rewarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 02:46 AM
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No, not have unreasonable standards that 99.996% of the male population cannot meet and then cry on tiktok about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:45 AM
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She is the exception, not the rule
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 12:38 AM
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The average woman isn't a better partner than the average man. Men have decided the same thing - they contribute an awful lot to a relationship and get zero gratitude and a partner who is often times self-centered (thanks to social media and the attention economy) so they stopped looking. If you get right down to it, what is a woman bringing other than being a mother to my children and an intimate relationship? Often times they don't even bring intimacy and have resentment being a mother. I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 09:48 PM
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BS. They are rewarded. exhibit #1 - initiating 70 to 80% of divorces.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 09:37 PM
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Hardly equality when they initiated 70+% of divorces and are rewarded for doing so. Guys should not get married today at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:07 PM
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i have only advocating for consenting ADULTS. You are didling kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 09:45 AM
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You are just a teacher pedo projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 08:14 PM
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But I have known many 18 year old who were more mature and on a higher level than some 28 year old people. One example is my son who is 20 and is far more mature and wise than others that are older. In fact, he often has maturity that exceeds his 52 yr old mom. You are a great example too.... you label someone dating a younger, legal adult a predator which is absurd and nothing but emotional drivel. Women love to argue that they are more mature than men at a given age so therefore it stands to r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 01:15 PM
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Yeah well you disgust me. No maturity isn't defined by age as I said. However, as a society we deemed the plurality of the population to reach a level of maturity and personal responsibility for one's actions and decisions at 18. Just because you get your panties in a twist because a younger ADULT female can score a guy you cannot isn't a valid reason. You are a great example of age doesn't equal maturity. I wouldn't want my son to date you even if he was 40. I am not dating at all - I am marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 01:07 PM
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hate to break it to you, people of all ages are widely known to make bad decisions for themselves. Ever dropped by a prison? Maturity is not defined by age.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:49 AM
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So kind of like guys who stick their dick in crazy?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:52 PM
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Obviously there is a bit of exaggeration in my comment. But yes, rando girls around me have similar expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:51 PM
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That ogre is very much likely to be a multi-millionaire.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:37 PM
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Nope, never said any of that. Such an ignorant assumption.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:21 PM
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By and large I do believe men go lower very often.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:18 PM
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Sure, there are unreasonable standards held by both sexes. However, when looking generally at both genders I believe the evidence points to women more often having unrealistic standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:15 PM
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This is a crazy level of projection. Women are the ones wanting a dude that looks like Brad Pitt, that is 6’4” height, and making $250k a year minimum straight out of high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:04 PM
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You are an anomaly. You don’t ask women, you ask men their experience. All women think they are like you. Men’s experience say otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 06:54 PM
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You nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 06:15 PM
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I have been very selective who I asked out and honestly I cannot recall ever getting rejected. Several times I was asked out by the girl (or a friend of the girl she sent on her behalf). That was a different time - late 90’s. I have been married ever since. There were some girls I was interested in and never asked out only to later learn they were into me too. I was just clueless.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 08:24 PM
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I say just approach anyone you are interested in anywhere. You miss every shot you don’t take. Grocery store, Coffee shop, Gym, church, gas station, etc. Fuck etiquette on when and where (skip funerals though). Just don’t be weird, act normal with some confidence and don’t be arrogant. Even she shames you or acts annoyed who gives shit? She isn’t for you and you probably would be better off without someone so pissy in your life. I would have no desire to retreat into video games, etc. I am marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 01:03 PM
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Absolutely not. I would rather be alone than rejected by my partner or my partner just having duty sex with no enjoyment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 06:09 PM
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Bullshit. Where are the women in these roles today? They are not excluded. They don’t want those roles and the vast majority couldn’t do many of those roles. Show me women roofers. Show me women working on building skyscrapers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:39 AM
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Apparently you haven’t either
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:37 AM
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So you are saying you need to alter the biological makeup of men…..sure 🙄.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:05 AM
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“My point here is that society demonize men” …. nothing more needed to be said.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 04:23 AM
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No it is not
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:54 PM
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Generally agree. Some people are actually rewarded for it. Wife cheats, divorces husband and takes him to cleaners and rides off with her affair partner. I would not get married now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 12:22 PM
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That is laughable. Paternity fraud is not rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 12:14 PM
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Makes complete sense. Chad gets most of the girls but only represents say 20% of the single men. Since the girls are sharing the same guys, the overall average of single men is low. Married wives doing duty sex once a month is still going to have married men averaging more sex than single men. congrats on you and your husband having a healthy sex life. That frequency isnt the norm For married couples
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 10:34 AM
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