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Yeah dude, now how will you seduce your chicken bride? Show up with birdseed?
/r/BlackPillScience24/05/26 02:47 PM
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Hate Watch with Devan Costa.
/r/seduction25/08/25 10:54 PM
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Dude, yeah... The answer you're looking for is comedy podcasts. You can find all these on Spotify, and there are many other good ones too: Matt and Shane's Secret Podcast (Matt McCusker is the #1 best podcaster IMO) Lemon Party (Has the funniest eps I've ever heard; only a few bad ones) Hate Watch Son of a Boy Dad (More calm and preppy than the others) Workforce Titans w/ Ryan Foster
/r/seduction25/08/25 05:46 PM
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Haha, what an optimal set up: In your element, flanked by women at a cultural event, social proof maxxed out. Along with the sexual memories and connections, those moments are the fruits of the "actively single" lifestyle: Memories of holding court, getting into precarious situations, and surprising even yourself.
/r/seduction21/08/25 02:32 PM
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Sex does make you more into each other, chemically. However, high quality girls who were raised well aren't comfortable being easy lays. Much like catching a bigger fish requires more effort, it's the same for a high quality woman. It's perfectly reasonable to date multiple times for sex, because "sex" is still a big deal to her; She hasn't been ran through by the whole neighborhood. That means put in the extra effort because it could lead to a loyal woman who opens herself up to you specificall…
/r/seduction20/08/25 03:38 PM
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Girls play the same games we do, just with different rules and different pieces.
/r/seduction20/08/25 02:41 PM
1

Chandler Bing from Friends being your example of charismatic is hilarious. Anyway, being as fun as possible seems to be your best bet. Even rich girls like fun. Also, because it seems like you might, remember not to overhype the experience.
/r/seduction18/08/25 08:30 PM
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No, I mean, there are millions of examples of average dudes out there who found love and reproduced. I think there's a path, or multiple paths, for everybody. In general, improving your social, esthetic, physical, and emotional skill while building status/skill in meaningful communities/endeavors is your best bet. Ultimately, I think getting deep into an activity, be it work, a kickball league, salsa dancing, Kung fu, Crossfit, or whatever, is the best way to launch into dating somebody.
/r/seduction18/08/25 03:07 AM
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Testing boundaries to see what they can get away with. Kids do this too. I don't think all women do this; intelligent women will understand respect in the first place, and not play games with it. For me personally, I married and would only date career women, period. Reason being, I've seen multiple cases of SAHM types plotting and having time to manipulate and make their husbands miserable. Compared to a legit career woman who has a lot on her plate, and simply wants a compatible partner to come…
/r/seduction17/08/25 05:29 AM
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Remember though, you can handle this well and potentially salvage it. If a high quality girl needs 4+ dates to get comfortable with you, isn't it still worth it? As an analogy, hunting seems quick and simple, but is typically a long process: If you don't land the perfect shot, which is rare, then you may have to read their trail, chase, observe, and make a series of correct decisions before the doe is yours. But, you'll be that much better a hunter in the end.
/r/seduction15/08/25 03:57 AM
11

Excellent tips.
/r/seduction15/08/25 03:51 AM
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I've heard multiple girls at different times of my life say this: We instantly know if a guy is fuckable. Like in the first 10 seconds, they know if they ever want to have sex with you. Here's the truth: It all matters, but you don't know what matters MOST to that particular woman. Could be fun, safety, status, coolness, being real, cute, stable, strong, hot, smart...there are literally women attracted to any combination of these things. Generally though, being able to navigate socially and be f…
/r/seduction14/08/25 03:56 AM
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As someone who's done this many times in various countries including USA, Turkey, Singapore, Malasia, Hong Kong, Thailand and many others, I'd say... Think of something you're comfortable talking about that might actually lead to a conversation. Not a quick, throwaway thing that leads nowhere, but something a smart girl might actually find interesting. A genuine question delivered with real personality and no commitment to the outcome. For example) While walking up to a group of people/girls in …
/r/seduction07/08/25 07:23 PM
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What I envision and have experienced is that you can show fun, cool, or attractive traits while showing kindness. For example, upon meeting a girl and engaging her in conversation, you could tell a brief account of when you helped a younger relative. That conveys that you're kind, selfless, and interact with people, dispelling 3 common red flags within a few minutes.
/r/seduction05/08/25 11:18 AM
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But think about how many scumbags are in worse dirt. It's just such an ignorant perspective.
/r/seduction05/08/25 01:24 AM
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I'm going to be honest with you: That's a shitty mindset and it'll get you nowhere. Plus it's dead wrong. Whether I was at a meeting in a law firm or sitting in CSMC on an AEGIS Destroyer with other sailors, everyone knew who the assholes were, and no one wanted to be around them. Knowing how to navigate socially without everyone hating you is an absolutely VITAL skill. Even in the context of dating, any high-quality girl will leave if they see you talk to someone like an asshole, because it's f…
/r/seduction04/08/25 09:46 PM
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Yes, because better quality women ALSO know their value and love themselves.
/r/seduction04/08/25 07:23 PM
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"You guys remember that weird girl from the bar? Yeah, the one who caressed my arm. Do you think she was talking to ME?"
/r/seduction04/08/25 07:22 PM
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I think it all matters. You can improve at: Breaking awkward silences Reacting to criticism/teasing well Escalating the relationship Ironing out your bad habits Communicating well in all moods ...and numerous other things. And thoroughly understand that some women are simply immune to your charms, and others will be drawn to you no matter what you do.
/r/seduction02/08/25 04:10 AM
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Rather than a hierchy of traits, I think each positive can be a path to success. Talent, social prowess, status, looks, humor, and confidence can each attract women on their own. The nuance is in knowing what type of woman you're dealing with, and being able to read her signals. Because a really brainy girl who's a sapiosexual type isn't going to be in to standard meatheads, but the type of girl who plays volleyball at the beach might.
/r/seduction02/08/25 01:03 AM
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Nope, it's a self-defeating mindset. What if Demitrious "Mighty Mouse" Johnson said "I'm only 120 lbs, why even join the UFC?" Meanwhile, he became one of the most accomplished fighters. Plenty of ugly dudes get girls. Girls want to have FUN, that's the bottom line. Now, if you're ugly AND dumb, boring, and quick to give up, well, it's gonna be an uphill battle.
/r/seduction02/08/25 12:45 AM
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Politics rarely comes into my real life as I don't talk about it with most friends or family. However, I've definitely noticed buff, right wing dudes in the Navy who struggled. The reason in my mind is that "social skills" are what's required to meet girls, show them you're an empathetic human, and navigate the landscape to taking it further. Meatheads who want to control women may be good at getting braindead thots, but smart women like to have more assurance that it's a good person that they'r…
/r/seduction28/07/25 06:00 PM
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Reading the situation. That's more important than being ultra alpha, or any of that crap. This applies when approaching girls in a bar for the first time or after being married for 20 years. Men or women aren't always primed up for sex. It's important to understand that. Women KNOW that's a guy's ultimate goal, and the avenue you take to pursue that DOES MATTER. The man who has social wherewithal and experience might recognize, "Ok, this girl is great but tonight isn't the night...we'll keep it …
/r/seduction28/07/25 03:22 PM
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Hold on with this bullshit...lol... As a straight white dude who's been to dozens of countries, probably 90% of the Asian women I've seen are with Asian dudes. Back when I was single, I've literally had the feeling of "Fuck that Asian girl is hot - I've only seen her with Japanese dudes though." The study looked at AMERICAN ASIAN women. That's a very specific demographic. Point being, Asian dudes shouldn't lose hope because as a white guy who's dated many Asian women, there's often a language ba…
/r/BlackPillScience25/07/25 12:27 PM
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Yes. Having those experiences absolutely helps and is completely necessary. Think about basketball; you can read every book ever made on it, but you only get better on the court.
/r/seduction19/07/25 01:02 PM
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Honestly, it's a matter of leveling up your social skills so you can handle the high-quality girl when you meet her.
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:07 AM
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Yes, that can definitely be useful.
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:04 AM
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I did this while in the Navy and was active in approaching, meeting and dating women for several years in various countries. I've been happily married for over a decade. To me, the best way to approach it is that it's simply YOU, learning more skills and better behaviors. Although I was given a nickname at the time as my buddies were who also practiced, the "alter ego" thing isn't necessary... I mean, you don't start a martial art, and be like, "Everyone call me Goku now because I'm competent at…
/r/seduction15/07/25 05:30 PM
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Yeah, you sort of played yourself by revealing the older age. You said yourself you were helping cuz anyway, so no major loss. Next time you can have him wing for you at the brewery where 30 year old hang out. Lol.
/r/seduction14/07/25 03:29 AM
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Men will ABSOLUTRLY KILL you if they think you're a threat to their chances of getting laid. Just saw a vid on Atlantology sub where a guy briefly talked to a woman, she got back in her car, and her bf shot the guy dead. I'd say AVOID the violent dudes, not out of cowardice, but because the baggage is a net negative. Like you said, they're dumb, and would love to use violence.
/r/seduction12/07/25 08:01 PM
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It's fine to not drink. Here's where to start: Get involved in a few things. Whether it's yoga or a weekly beach clean up, you need to become an interesting person. Plus, you can meet people this way. Be the person that TALKS. TRY! You absolutely have to talk to almost everyone you meet. Become curious about people. Start with the new identity you want to have: That of a highly social person; and take the hard steps to become that.
/r/seduction11/07/25 11:22 AM
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I get it, and a lot of guys probably do feel that way. As a non-football watching dude with many interests, I've always gotten along better with women for the most part. Didn't mean to be insulting, but there are many phenomenal reasons for a straight dude to have female friends. The most basic is they can set you up with their friends, invite you to parties you may not know about, and expand your social circle in general. Even more basic than that is that they're humans and can be valuable frie…
/r/seduction10/07/25 10:28 PM
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You sound like a shitty, ignorant person. You really can't think of one reason to be friends with half the planet? Women are often more thoughtful and fun to talk to than men. There are many advantages, but you're decades from understanding any of them.
/r/seduction10/07/25 06:40 PM
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Yes, there often are red flags. But not always! I slept w/ my wife on the second date, and we've been together for 10+. Granted, I could tell she was high quality within that short time. But I like the general distinction you made between "sex value" and "overall value".
/r/seduction28/06/25 01:17 PM
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Well, that temporary sexual value is real; a hot girl could potentially seduce someone of a higher station in life, permanently boosting their status. Unless there are blatant red flags, we can't know for sure if she'll be a great wife/gf overtime. Remember, within the vast pool of attractive women, you have VASTLY different types. I've known lawyers and Navy chiefs that are a perfect 10, so it's important not to generalize millions of women.
/r/seduction28/06/25 12:23 PM
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Read "The Game" by Neil Straus. Not to become a pick up artist yourself, but to see how other men dealt with that specific issue. Plus, it's an easy entertaining read.
/r/seduction22/06/25 03:37 AM
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Ahhh, the ol' "learn all the rules so you can break them" routine. It really does work every time.
/r/seduction05/06/25 11:40 PM
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Great insights! Ultimately, there are so many factors, it's never worth taking rejection personally. Plus, in my experience, it's always better to try the approach and get rejected, because you gain that invaluable experience so you get it right next time. But rejection is absolutely a part of being "actively single", meaning you approach women you're interested in without hesitation.
/r/seduction13/05/25 02:04 PM
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Yes, and after enough of those experiences happen, you realize that it's better to give it your best try with the girl, because it's ALWAYS better than the shame of not trying.
/r/BlackPillScience29/09/24 03:25 AM
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That's such a broad and basic take. It really is. I live in California and have numerous neighbors who are absolutely introverts w/ social anxiety and they're married to attractive women. First off, it's ignorant to assume all women think the same way. Plenty of women just want a good dude and peaceful life. Still other women are sapiosexuals, meaning they're attracted to intelligent dudes. Point being, I've seen plenty of buff dudes who can't get girls. Social skill and being a legitimately goo…
/r/BlackPillScience10/09/24 02:42 AM
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Different skills were necessary... For example, ive seen ugly hilarious guys do well with women, but that doesn't translate to dating apps. Also, I've dated girls way over and under my "league" due to dating apps. That's less likely to happen at a bar or social setting.
/r/seduction29/07/24 07:47 PM
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It's like Sisiphus... Sure, you won't be drowning in sex after talking to 100 girls. But YOU will get better from that experience. You'll improve socially, pick up some skills, and the next hundred will be easier.
/r/seduction18/07/24 12:23 AM
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That's 100% fiction. The soul, God, and reincarnation are MAN MADE CONCEPTS. Same with "good and evil". A snake wandering in and devouring a nest of baby birds isn't "evil", but a human doing a similar crime is? Why? Finally, the link of all the religious bullshit is EASY to see. It all stems from humans being terrified of not existing. So, they had to create a fantasy about heaven and souls.
/r/BlackPillScience12/07/24 02:13 PM
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It's like surfing. You may have found the perfect wave, got your knee up on the board, and slipped... That one is gone, no matter how great it was. Onto the next.
/r/seduction28/06/24 05:41 AM
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Looks get you "in the door" so you're even being considered, but your behaviors and actions convey confidence and social skills at that point. If you're even willing to cold approach a girl, that conveys strong social skill and confidence.
/r/seduction13/06/24 09:36 PM
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Girls in general don't prioritize looks the way guys do. For Girls in general, social skill is a higher priority. Charm. The ability to walk into a party w/ her friends and family and she knows you'll fit in. Then, lower income women or "trophy wife" types may prioritize money and assets, or status. Most women just want a good, fun dude - all the other shit's a bonus.
/r/seduction12/06/24 07:42 PM
1

And intelligence.
/r/seduction12/06/24 07:38 PM
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You only feel like you'll miss out if you don't have any experience or you're unhappy in your current situation. Eventually, you realize the path to sex or happiness is the same w/ every woman. Plus, sex actually does get better if you keep having it w/ the same person.
/r/seduction06/06/24 10:18 PM
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When guys stop falling for dumb, hot women, and make it a dealbreaker when a woman doesn't do anything, then we'll start to see that change. The fact is, almost all straight men will upend their own lives and forget everything when a cute 23 year old shows interest in them. If you're immune to this, you at least have to admit that most men aren't, regardless of age, income, and marital status.
/r/BlackPillScience12/01/24 02:25 PM
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Clock's ticking dude... Get after it!
/r/seduction04/11/22 09:35 PM
1

Reading philosophy/Stoicism books Martial arts experience and training Fan of Comedy and Comedy Podcasts Knowledgeable and experienced Podcaster Confident speaker
/r/seduction26/10/22 04:18 PM
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Very true. Pricey though. Veneers for example are typically $2000+ per tooth.
/r/seduction21/04/22 10:20 AM
2

If women are approaching you, that's awesome, but the fact is, a lot of women won't do that due to tradition or shyness. Plus, some dudes who are big or mean looking come across as intimidating to women, so they have to speak first to show that they're fun and friendly. Also, some dudes have other strong suits besides looks. Like I know a guy who's bald and chubby, but 10/10 funny and girls love him. If he didn't speak, he wouldn't be putting his best foot forward. I agree 100% that it's just as…
/r/seduction27/02/22 07:01 PM
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Spend time with her so she's comfortable. Look for reliable signs she's into you. Hold her hand first. Kiss her first. If those go well, then you can gradually move fwd. Make it about her. You're creating an experience she'll never forget, so be present and focus on her.
/r/seduction03/11/20 03:11 AM
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It wasn't necessarily a fail though... Some of the best sex I ever had was with girls I dated more than once. It's far better to only make a move when you know it's right. You know who needs to get laid immediately by girls they're out with? Creeps, that's who. Either way, it was a good advancement in your experience w/ girls - you probably learned a lot. And depending how you play it, it's far from over.
/r/seduction16/10/20 10:03 AM
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Hell yeah! Should always strive to be better, even after you're happily married. In Motivation Manifesto, he talks about how the challenges are GOING to come... You're either a striver who takes on your own challenges, or a struggler who tries to lay back and keep up. Either way, the change will be worth it.
/r/seduction11/09/20 09:26 PM
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True, plus it encourages you to go out and be social with new girls.
/r/seduction29/07/20 03:20 PM
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Girls are often fun and social - give off fun vibes and not creepy ones and you'll probably make a new friend at least.
/r/seduction26/07/20 12:13 PM
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No, switching interests is normal. I'm talking about vapid girls who don't have anything going on upstairs and just wait for others to make all their decisions. It's equally unattractive for men and women, ultimately - maybe moreso for men.
/r/seduction21/07/20 02:11 PM
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100% I've seen average, hard-working dudes get very attractive women. Having purpose is sexy all around. Imagine a wishy-washy girl that never knows what she wants; that's unattractive as well.
/r/seduction21/07/20 05:25 AM
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Support him! Getting tan and fit are a good start - if he does the eye and nose thing too, that could help as well. Nothing wrong w/ trying to optimize yourself!
/r/seduction03/02/20 08:04 PM
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Like a martial art, it's actually a lifelong journey. The skills you learn can be used the rest of your life in many situations. Age doesn't have to be a limitation unless you make it one.
/r/seduction12/01/20 06:07 PM
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It's good because you don't have the crutches of loud music or alcohol.
/r/seduction12/01/20 06:03 PM
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I took Acutane for that when I was 15 and it did the trick. Anyway, the Validictorian and most popular guy in my school was a tall red hair dude w/ freckles and acne. Like being bald, pale, tan, skinny, fat, or anything different, you just have to embrace your positive qualities and ignore your negatives!
/r/seduction12/01/20 06:00 PM
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Girls are different, so there is no right answer. The right answer is to pick a plan, and go for it with full confidence. Then learn from your mistakes.
/r/seduction12/01/20 05:55 PM
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Absolutely it's worth it. Looking at people as numbers is common but very shallow though... Instead, try to become the person that a girl would never forget on a date. The man who knows how to be completely present and treat her like it's just you and her in the world. Get rid of any sense of being disingenuous - that's the optimal mindset.
/r/seduction12/01/20 05:50 PM
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My advice is to build attractive qualities... Get some muscle tone by working out a bit. Be driven and show confidence in your actions. Talk to lots of people and improve your social skills - women love this. Read, travel, and try things so you have interesting things to talk about.
/r/seduction12/01/20 05:43 PM
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This is why: Getting numbers and getting laid are VERY different things.
/r/seduction26/12/19 01:38 AM
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Being out there practicing is the best thing you can do - over a decade later, I still use the lessons I learned doing approaches and meeting women. I was in the Navy and we'd practice every port for 3-5 years.
/r/seduction25/12/19 09:38 PM
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Congrats on the numbers and approaches - here are my thoughts: I'd try to minimize the cursing - it's a sign of nervousness and a turn off to a lot of girls. You did well with your bit, but remember to launch into genuine, unique conversation if possible. You want to be fun and interesting even when you don't have a bit planned too. If you could give the interactions a romantic or sexy tone, it'll help them remember you and that's what they'll expect when you call. Leave no doubt in their mind t…
/r/seduction25/12/19 07:28 PM
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That sounds perfect - study group is an inocuous, easy way to get to know her. The best way to connect with people is to be a big, opinionated personality yourself. Politeness and being too chill won't get you far. Try to find some topics you're both into, like: - The challenges of your class - Certain type of music - Weird show you're both into - Business aspirations - Comedy - Podcasts Once you make some bold opinionated statements, pay attention to what she responds to.
/r/seduction22/11/19 04:03 AM
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Absolutely, I hate when it gets a bad rap. When I practiced consistently for about 5-years in various countries, my goal was to leave everyone I approached better than when I found them. Few people recognize the positives of PUA, but I agree it's there to teach things that are undeniably valuable and natural.
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:59 PM
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Try to show them you're a fun person so she'll hang out again by herself. A lot of girls just take measures like that for safety reasons if she doesn't trust you yet. If the opportunity shows up to make out w/ her and potentially her friend, be prepared for that.
/r/seduction23/10/19 07:06 AM
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Here's my tips: Have an edge that sets you apart. Maybe you're deep into martial arts or yoga, or you can play the guitar, or you write stand up comedy or something. You want to stand out and be memorable. There's only one way to overcome that shyness, and it's to leave your comfort zone. Talk to new girls every chance you get. Hold yourself accountable for it. Expect some awkwardness and rejection, but know that it's worth it for all those times when it works out perfectly.
/r/seduction25/08/19 06:35 AM
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Bottom to top towards the tiny bulbed part at the top. Keep it light and consistent, and you'll be good to go.
/r/seduction21/08/19 04:07 AM
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If anything, it'd just attract people who think you make good money. I'd leave it off. On the other hand, it is good to be honest, because it might attract a well-educated partner.
/r/seduction18/08/19 08:52 AM
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Nice, sounds like you have tons to talk about. Yeah, those hobbies are great and traveling helps a lot. Good luck!
/r/seduction04/08/19 09:46 AM
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Leading an interesting life is the most important thing. Time is limited, and the guy who spent his time getting into crazy adventures is going to be more interesting than the guy who plays World of Warcraft 4 hours a day. The other key is to care about things and people. People who think they're above everyone else typically aren't interesting so they pretend to be arrogant.
/r/seduction04/08/19 05:48 AM
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Well, our lives are determined by what we value, so if safety and money are your main values, then it would make sense to not take the risk of being with women. In my case, love is a far greater value - high quality women give life a flavor that can't be matched. So if I lived 100 lifetimes, odds are, sex and women would be a part of all of them. You can be a slave to anything: Religion Ego Fear Money Drugs Love, sex, and women are things I'll gladly be a slave for - I haven't turned bitter yet.
/r/MGTOW21/07/19 09:18 AM
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I'm honestly not being arrogant, but its like telling Lyoto Machida that "Karate doesn't work in MMA" after he just knocked out Randy Couture with a front kick to the face. Action is everything. You or anyone will get better at the things you put genuine time and action into.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 08:10 AM
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Wow, that's intense. You have a lot of dark feelings about women. Having grown up with a mother who did "Divorce Rape" my father, I made sure to choose a working, independent woman for a wife, instead of one that needs provided for. I couldn't imagine her doing sny of those things you said, but a lot of that is because she was well-raised and doesn't have a victim mentality. One thing that I have to disagree with is letting ourselves go because we're in a relationship - although I admit that's c…
/r/MGTOW21/07/19 08:01 AM
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There is truth to just getting that first lay out of your system so others get easier, but he should still at least try to hook up w/ someone who's not gross, right? I've seen situations where guys do that w/ hookers in foreign ports in the Navy, and they would be more confident afterwards.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 07:27 AM
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I think that's the honest difference dude - it's the difference between theories on Reddit vs putting in the work. I actually lived the lifestyle for about 3 years... I mean going out with friends who would hold e/o accountable for approaching women in bars, cafes, and wherever, always with the mindset of leaving them better than we found them. There's obviously controversies over PUA, "The Game", and that culture - but I've actually lived it. I've seen guys go from shy, to making out w/ girls e…
/r/askTRP21/07/19 07:21 AM
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By far, the guys I knew who were best at getting girls were NOT hyper masculine. In the Navy, my 120 lbs Filipino friend got laid constantly, while muscle-bound dudes w/ less social skill were rarely with girls. Ultimately, it boils down to social skill. When hooking up, women want the comfort and confidence of a guy who's social - in marriage, they want a guy who's social enough to hang w/ their friends and family. Build social skills, especially w/ women, and you'll never be alone again.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 07:04 AM
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"Ignore doing cold approaches and bang a fatty"? That's literally the worst advice I've ever seen on here - how's he suppose to keep it up for a fatty? How is it "gay" to get good at approaching women? That's absolutely insane dude.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 06:41 AM
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That's a really interesting perspective. I'm still under the spell of sexy women and hook up w/ my wife 2-3x per week, but it's fascinating to see people post as if they've evolved beyond the need for sex. I keep my libido pretty high, and honestly, I feel that maintaining a high interest in sex helps me look and feel younger as I'm in my 30's. Granted, I work with beautiful women and have female friends, so just being around that feminine energy is something I appreciate. I suppose I can see th…
/r/MGTOW21/07/19 06:25 AM
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Here's some: Force yourself to approach and talk to more women. Everyday talk to 3 new girls. Open with something neutral like, "Hey can I get your opinion real quick? Does this shirt make me look like a 10 year old - like 3 of my friends say it does." Just keep a playful attitude. Learn to not be dependent on the outcome - just approach with the intent of being fun and connecting. Try to lead an interesting life. Get deep into hobbies, listen to podcasts, and read to set yourself apart.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 02:37 AM
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Just be 100% genuine at all times and everything you say will be spicy enough. Otherwise, I'd say have a lot of life experience, get deep into things, talk to new people everyday, and leave your comfort zone and you'll become a more interesting person who can converse with anyone.
/r/seduction02/07/19 02:29 AM
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Ha true. But ultimately, snyone hotter and less trashy would suffice. There's no girl hot enough to put up with getting cheated on. That's brutal.
/r/MGTOW23/06/19 12:24 AM
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He needs to show up at her work w/ a new girlfriend.
/r/MGTOW22/06/19 09:16 AM
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A few things matter when it comes to sex performance: Hydration Fatigue Being too drunk or high A light mindset - not overly stressed Being comfortable w/ yourself Time since last orgasm My best tip is to focus on pleasing the other person and you'll get turned on naturally. That said, these things happen to me too on occasion. If you have lots of sex, you'll see every scenario I guess.
/r/seduction16/06/19 07:46 PM
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Depends on how rough or fragile she is. Came on pretty strong in the end, but whether that's gonna work or not depends on her. The important thing is that you went for it. Even if you freaked her out, just reestablish playful, light-hearted energy with her and you'll be good to go.
/r/seduction22/05/19 01:04 PM
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It's fun to have different kinds of friends at work though, especially women. You spend so much of your life there, why does sex have to be the barometer for whether you can get to know somebody? Plus, the friend zone never has to be permanent.
/r/askTRP16/05/19 05:48 AM
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Unless they love you. Also, don't be with a do nothing chic who expects to stay home.
/r/MGTOW12/04/19 01:08 PM
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It's an art. Learn from your mistakes and improve. See it exactly like a martial art, only for meeting girls. Here are some ideas: You should've started with a neutral, fun, opener - never go for the close directly: "So what do you girls think - they really the best burgers in (your city)?" Puff cigarette "Mine was alright, but (this place) is a little better..." Also, you should have disqualified yourself - showing interest immediately conveys desperation: "I got to get back to my boys/pool gam…
/r/seduction24/03/19 09:53 PM
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I think part of going from single to committed is just knowing that you're always going to be tempted by other girls. For me, I like to have female friends, but also put time into my relationship.
/r/seduction06/01/19 01:29 AM
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Go in with a fun mindset. If they see you as fun, they'll want to hang out later.
/r/seduction05/01/19 08:48 PM
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Well, I'd say looks can get you the audition. If there's no personality or humor there, high quality people will get bored w/ a himbo or bimbo. Think about it: Sex is really a small percentage of time spent in a relationship. If the rest isn't fun too, it won't last.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 01:19 AM
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Practice is crucial. You'll never go from zero to great at it without a bunch of risks and practice in between. As a dude, being funny, selfless, and asking them about their lives is a good start. Read The Game by Neil Strauss. Don't mention their looks - try to connect on a real level as much as possible.
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:43 PM
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Good to hear! Reading that book permenantly changed the way I view time and presence - it's one of the most powerful books I've read. After that, Motivation Manifesto by Brendan Burchard would be my next pick - such a powerful book.
/r/seduction07/11/18 12:35 PM
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Clothes are part of your style, and they can make a huge difference. It's worth it to wear a nice, slim-fit button down instead of a t-shirt because it sets you apart. Every detail shows that you take care of yourself and have a sense of style.
/r/seduction05/11/18 10:28 AM
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You're like a martial artist who got their second belt then freaked out and ran. You fought one battle, but there are many more ahead! It gets easier everytime too, because you get better.
/r/seduction04/11/18 11:19 PM
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Nice. I think the biggest issue with controlling anxiety is managing expectations. Have reasonable or no expectations, and there's nothing to fail in the first place.
/r/seduction04/11/18 09:53 PM
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Depends what your strengths are. For me, being able to talk to a girl in a cafe or divebar setting was preferable to wowing her with my dance moves in a loud bar. In a loud setting, it's pretty straitforward. Wear clothes that optimize your look and just practice approaching girls and dancing. Not a lot of room for nuance when there's chaos everywhere anyway, but it will still be fun. Lol.
/r/seduction04/11/18 06:52 PM
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I feel you. Have you read The Power of Now? I pretty much guarantee it will help your perspective.
/r/seduction04/11/18 06:47 PM
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Epic post!
/r/seduction04/11/18 06:45 PM
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Very true. Plus, she might be thinking "Is this dude gonna make a move or not?" so it's important to recognize when you're at that stage. She might be 100% into you, but just not into, or afraid of, making the first move.
/r/seduction22/09/18 05:56 PM
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It really is more about how old you act. I've known 50 year olds who are fit, vibrant, genuinely fun people, and some who may as well have been on Golden Girls. Same age, vastly different people. Lots of girls like older dudes. They typically own a house, have their shit together, and are experienced in knowing how to treat women.
/r/seduction22/09/18 01:33 PM
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Ever step into a pool and it's freezing until you dive all the way in? Same with approaching girls, talking to them, and getting rejected. If you want to be better bad enough, you'll be willing to go for it and take as many rejections as it takes. Set a goal of talking to new people every chance you get and just become someone who can talk to anyone. Think of it like improving a valuable skill. Get involved in clubs, sports, etc. It's always easier to meet people when you have a lot going on.
/r/seduction21/09/18 02:48 AM
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Read The Game by Neil Strauss - prepare to practice those things. Get a good workout habit going to boost testosterone. This will maximize your desire to talk to girls. Don't see yourself as behind the curve - people will sense negativity on you, and it's a turn off. Read some PUA material. This knowledge will help you make SMARTER approaches. Only action and practice will make you better. And you're not alone - tons of guys are clueless around girls.
/r/seduction19/09/18 12:13 PM
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Don't forget to keep living an interesting life yourself. Take Jujitsu, become a Yoga Instructor, write a book, and do things that make you worth knowing in general. Then it'll seem natural to talk to high-quality women. A good thing to work on when doing approaches is trying to be genuine and vulnerable at all times. You want her to like you for you or reject you for real reasons. Remember that even when you consider yourself a master of PUA, you can still have your heart ripped out - just like…
/r/seduction17/09/18 04:03 AM
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Don't carry all those failures with you - they'll affect your confidence. I'd say get to know yourself through and through - forget girls for a week, go on hikes, learn a martial art. Then you'll come across as genuine and you'll be more confident in your approach. Stay positive and motivated - those failures are valuable lessons.
/r/seduction15/09/18 08:29 AM
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One reason I don't like it - by telling them to take it as a compliment, you're trying to command them how to feel, and that's A) condescending, and B) pointless because they are going to feel however they want. I wouldn't worry about having a clever escape. Just the fact that you went for it is all that matters. Just be real in the moment and get better with each approach.
/r/seduction15/09/18 08:23 AM
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Easy answer dude: Your testosterone is rock bottom. I've felt it before, and it affects everything about you. Things that build it up include tough sports like CrossFit, Martial Arts, Boxing, Skateboarding, Weight Lifting, etc. Also, make sure you're eating enough protein for your weight. Consider some Amino Energy Supplements. Most important is the right mindset. Remember that all of the civil BS, chatting, flirting, rules, challenges, all only exists because you're meant to have sex with women…
/r/seduction14/09/18 11:11 PM
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Don't wear all those issues on your sleeve - they'll sense doubt and you'll self sabotage. Instead, focus on cultivating the most fun possible life. It's exponentially easier to meet cool people when you have fun interests and hobbies. Learn to be completely present because it comes across as extremely genuine and powerful - Especially if you're owning your intentions. A good mindset is, "This girl is so all-around awesome that I'd risk going through rejection 1000 times to try and make this hap…
/r/seduction14/09/18 11:03 PM
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Nice job dude. Here's some notes: Any and all experience successfully dating and hooking up will change you and improve your mindset. Don't rule out cold approaches - it takes more balls, but it's worth it. Just have reasonable goals when doing it, like a number close rather than a hookup. Bookstores and cafes are great for cold approaches. I was married when Tinder came out, but it's worth noting that real life approaches will help your dating game and vice versa. Eventually, it'll be so easy y…
/r/seduction14/09/18 10:52 PM
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Focus purely on being present and making a solid connection. Otherwise you're just another forgettable guy who's saying all the right words. If you can be 100% genuine, talk about her and some things you're passionate about, and find out what she's interested in, you're doing all the right thing. And don't feel forced, thirsty, or desperate - that will make her disappear.
/r/seduction14/09/18 11:02 AM
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Absolutely man, you seem to have a good idea of what's going on here. Anyway you can chat with her? You said she's quiet, so she might respond well if you send her a funny email and invite her to an event, or chat w/ her on FB or something. I've had several quiet/smart girlfriends and being able to make a connection is key. Like maybe she goes to CrossFit or loves horror movies or is way into hip hop - if you're able to connect on some level, that'd be an ideal place to start. Once she's used to…
/r/seduction14/09/18 10:54 AM
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Very true. I've known plenty of men and women who were low-tier physically but could own the room w/ their charisma, presence, or other attributes.
/r/seduction14/09/18 01:35 AM
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Oh no, amigo - it 500% boosts your success. I have an MBA and am a proud athiest, so I respect that things need proof. But you're throwing out something that definitely boost your effectiveness by some margin, just because that margin isn't 100%. That's like saying it's not worth it to learn a martial art because you won't be guaranteed a UFC contract - But it is worth it, because it WILL improve your fighting skills by x-amount. Whether that's 10% or 300% depends on how much time and effort you…
/r/seduction12/09/18 11:19 PM
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Ha, nice man. I've mainly followed UFC over the years, even from when Royce Gracie won the first ones. But boxing is fun - at least the training part - and there's definitely alot of strategy involved - I'll probably watch that one.
/r/seduction12/09/18 02:05 AM
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Switch to self-improvement mode, and focus on hitting the gym and getting in excellent shape. If you're going out there w/ strong feelings of desperation, they will sense it a mile away. Instead, it's better to switch gears, forget about girls for a week or two, then come back w/ renewed, positive energy. Good luck!
/r/seduction11/09/18 09:16 AM
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I'd take a break and put in time towards improving your body and life, I mean in terms of making it as fun as possible. Take a couple weeks where you're boxing alot, hitting the gym, eating clean, and destressing - then come back with a new level of confidence. I lived in Yokosuka for 3 years and did alot of apprroaching snd dating girls while I was there. I had awkward dates where I was completely outclassed, and major successes and some long-term girlfriends as well. Having been to 22 countrie…
/r/seduction11/09/18 01:49 AM
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Haha, you're on to something here. Maybe the most valuable part of "game" is that it gives you the confidence to actually break the ice and talk to girls. Cool thought, but I know from my PUA days that it also instills valuable principles in you that boost success in the field.
/r/seduction10/09/18 11:30 PM
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Attractiveness is like going to battle with a reliable, well-made sword, when most guys have only a small knife. However, the guy with the advantage will still lose if he doesn't know how to use it, in this case, his looks. Similarly, a guy can become an expert with his average weapon (mediocre looks) and learn to be a great seductionist.
/r/seduction09/09/18 09:22 PM
1

"Never counted - for me it's more about quality than quantity."
/r/seduction09/09/18 09:18 PM
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Just like an RPG dude - you gotta grind and get experience to advance. Some situations may require a higher level of seduction skills, but mindful practice is the only way to learn.
/r/seduction09/09/18 09:17 PM
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Alternative: Try going self-efacing mode. This girl is an ally it sounds like so why not? Next time ahe says that's why you're single... "Dammit, I know - Why am I made like this?" There's no need to respond w/ an insult if she's already helping you get dates like you said.
/r/seduction06/09/18 12:09 PM
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Well, it's not an act - it really is the best mindset to know you have tons of other things going on in your life than this date. Otherwise, it's easy to focus too much on the date, leading to awkward moments and feelings. There's nothing disingenuous about it - simply be someone who has a lot going on and the date will just be another small part of your awesome life.
/r/seduction06/09/18 12:01 PM
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New experiences are what will change you and build character & personality. Successes build your confidence, and even the art of "trying new things" gets easier and more natural. When I was 20, I couldn't hold an interesting convo, felt little worth, and had little going on. After traveling the world in the Navy, living in Japan 3 years, and getting my MBA, I can talk endlessly about many things - it's all about having experiences and being open to new ones.
/r/seduction06/09/18 07:12 AM
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Here are some excellent ones for confidence: 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferris Rules for Renegades You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero Hagakure by Yamamoto Tsunetomo Book of 5 Rings by Miyamoto Musashi Got Fight by Forrest Griffin Meditations by Marcus Aurelius ...and the absolute best: Motivation Manifesto by Brenden Burchard
/r/seduction06/09/18 07:02 AM
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As someone who delved deep into that culture before getting married, I think I can clear this up: Everyone has a natural default mode, which is how they are when not trying to change themselves. For a very low percentage of people including Russel Brand, their default way of being is good enough to consistently get high quality girls - these are the "naturals". Pick up artists are enlightened too, because they're the ones who realize that their default mode isn't enough to get them the kind of g…
/r/seduction06/09/18 06:51 AM
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Simply treat them as intelligent human beings. Open with something related to class and get a feel for their level of interest. Odds are, they want to talk to someone who's just normal and chill. Example: *In genuine, playful tone... "Is it just me, or was that calculus homework an absolute nightmare - like even more than usual? It took me AWHILE this time..." ...Plus, that shows vulnerability and can easily lead to a study-session invite. The most important thing is to be 100% genuine and vulne…
/r/seduction06/09/18 06:38 AM
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Here's one thing that takes the pressure off: Just think of all of it as living a fun life - hooking up with girls is a natural part of that. Whatever happens happens, and you're going to put yourself out there and own the experience. Keep a broad, fun mindset - not a tight, analytical one. People just want someone who's comfortable, fun, and easy to be with.
/r/seduction06/09/18 06:21 AM
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Spread your energy around to create an interesting life. Take a martial art, join some outdoor club, and become someone with multiple options. Think, "Why would a fun, high-quality person want to be with you?" Note that none of this means to be disingenuous, just to take steps towards being a fun, social version of yourself. Hold yourself and friends accountable for having the balls to approach the girls you like in public, bookstores, cafes, ect. Odds are, it will be something they always remem…
/r/seduction05/09/18 03:00 AM
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I can tell you haven't read The Game by Neil Strauss - highly recommend buying it and reading it to completion - you'll understand alot more about how to view dating. No BS - I've seen it change men's lives. You shouldn't feel bad/annoying, because you are providing Value for her. For you to take time out of your busy schedule and talk to her means something. That's also why it's better to have alot going on, and the approach should just be spontaneous, but not the most important thing you're do…
/r/seduction26/08/18 10:04 AM
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Maybe start w/ a few warm ups to get in a talkative mood first. Go and joke around w/ the cute girl in the nutrition store or The Buckle first, then move on to cold approaches. Expect some awkward encounters - learning to handle those is a wall you just have to get past. Awkwardness is the wave you have to surf as a single dude. Once you stop expecting perfection, alot of the anxiety goes away. Remember, you genuinely approaching a girl and making an effort to connect with them will probably be …
/r/seduction26/08/18 04:39 AM
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Sounds like you did everything right that time; no need to intrude if she has a bf IMO. It's worth it just to have the convo w/ no expectations. The more you put yourself out there and try, the better you get. No BS: Read The Game by Neil Strauss - it'll change your whole perspective. Ultimately, by leaving your comfort zone and forcing yourself to act on opportunities you see, you'll essentially level up your ability to talk to girls. There's no magic words, although I would NOT compliment look…
/r/seduction26/08/18 04:27 AM
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Makes sense. There's definitely a completely different vibe people have when things are going well in life. Working a sales job is a good way to experience this: when you're getting sales, you feel like you have a silver tongue and can talk anyone into anything - but when you're not, you start questioning everything about yourself. And it's definitely harder to sound confident around girls when things are going shitty and you know it. If I were ever single again, I'd roll with the "Be genuine to…
/r/seduction23/08/18 05:20 AM
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I guarantee this advice will help you: Read "The Game" by Neil Strauss. It will flip your entire perspective on dating. Live a fun life - girls will come after that. People are more likely to respond to your invite to a fun event you know about than an invite back to your dorm room. I've learned to find confidence in being real as possible, owning the experience, and getting used to taking risk regularly. The more you force yourself to talk to pretty girls, the better you'll get at it - 100%. Ex…
/r/seduction23/08/18 05:09 AM
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Honestly, I've known multiple short guys who were popular and dominated whatever room they were in. I think a genuine connection will overcome any flaws or weaknesses, so try to be real and connect with her on a common interest or something.
/r/seduction23/08/18 05:00 AM
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Look...ignore these naysayers. Alot of people meet the love of their life at work - how is it different from people who meet in high school or as neighbors? Are some bar or online really the only acceptable places? Tons of people meet at work - you spend lots of time there! Here's some tips for your original question: Find mutual interests Put yourself out there - participate Don't do what everyone else does Live a fun life so you have things to talk about Genuinely consider their interest Make …
/r/seduction22/08/18 03:20 AM
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