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| 1 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDI get that, however if this were the system, there would have to be a way to prove the birth cert father didn’t know, or did know that there was a chance he wasn’t the father. It does happen where men choose to be the father with a child that they know might not be there’s (they weren’t together and she was with others when the pregnancy happened or the cheating was known if they were together). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Arguments against Paternity Test at Birth are WILDI agree with you, but I think because people are so much up their ass about a paternity test being an accusation and being too holier than thou to think that proving that should be done, I have another answer that I think if enacted would result in paternity test becoming the norm. I think paternity fraud should be a major crime. That if a father is taking on parentage of a child they have been notified they may not be the father that there should be a completely different birth certificate for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 01:23 AM |
| 0 | Male vs female income in childless couplesI mean, I don’t know if it’s leeching….but it’s certainly annoying that choosing a career based on “fulfillment or enjoyment” over lucrative, as that same woman’s dating preference is a man who chose lucrative over “fulfillment or enjoyment” is something that’s seen as sexist to even address. Yet, women bring up disparities of work at home often and downplay the stress level and sheer soul crushing nature of the work many more men than women choose purely to be able to find and retain a partner.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 03:52 AM |
| 2 | Fathers work harder overall than mothers on average.So, the methodology of that study (had to boil down two articles to get the core study) and how they chose sample set is a big reason for the differences in working time vs studies on the broader society. Flat out, they specifically chose a sample of men and women (those of higher income and education) who would not cut down their work hours during the transition to parenthood when most mothers have an urge and biological need (her body provide the child nourishment) to spend more time with chil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 08:58 PM |
| 7 | If women used the word "compromise" instead of "settle", things would be better.So both of you have cohabitated with a romantic partner before? As an old divorced dude, the difference between “settling” and “not settling” is often times just “compromising less than I had to before”. Without the other relationship showing you how bad it could be, just being around a sane person who wants you makes it feel like everything is rainbows and champaign….but if you had went to that life from “forever single, never cohabitated, independent you” there would’ve been some major changes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 04:28 AM |
| 2 | Would you date these "overweight" women?1, 2 and 8 I’d throw it in, 1 and 2 I would probably be willing to date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 01:27 AM |
| 14 | This guy basically breaks down how harem works and why 63% of men under 30 are singleDude get off the internet and take an actual look around, make friends and be social and see what’s actually going on. The reason men in their 20’s are single or sexless is a convergence of 4 things: People, both men and women, are having less sex, less sex partners, abstaining from sex till later in life and are in relationships less. Women date slightly older (not extremely older) men. This makes it so the 27+ women are predominantly dating 30+ men. It also means, because people are abstaining… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Reasons why older men date or hook up with younger womenThe issue is that your statement about dirty old men is made by jealous women often that aren’t talking about minors, or even college aged women. I’m especially sensitive to this issue at the moment as I’m living through this right now. Almost every woman in my life (except my ex-wife oddly, who has been genuinely supportive, though she has not yet seen my gf) has made a comment of minor to outright disapproval of my relationship with a 27 year old woman with me being in my early 40’s. I introdu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Weight Preferences in Dating - Most Comprehensive Dating App Study To DateYeah, I’m at 16% bf according to the InBody (a scale that uses electrical pulses to measure your skeletal, muscle, water and fat percentages) I’m on the high end of overweight based on BMI. If you have muscle, BMI is useless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:55 PM |
| 5 | Weight Preferences in Dating - Most Comprehensive Dating App Study To DateObese and morbidly obese are quite different. Obese is like 1/2 the people walking around most of the US and as well as a lot of European countries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 05:49 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Do you find close orbiters to be a huge turn-off? Q4W: Have orbiters impacted your dating results?I deal with this exactly like you do, I also have noted how quickly these things seem to just go away when a woman is really into you. My ex wife and my current GF both had many men sniffing around that were “friends” when we met. We had that uncommon chemistry, they were really into me and amazingly within a month or so of us dating, these “friends” all fall off the map without a me having to say a damn thing. When a woman gets with a guy and says “this one is different” she doesn’t jeopardize … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?You don’t hike do you. 14,000 ft summit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman?I’m a high libido, very sexual 40 something….I can’t think of any activity I enjoy more. I have seen a significant portion of the world, have whitewater kayaked, have multiple 14’ers under my belt, have great friends and nights of laughing and fun….but a night in bed with an enthusiastic woman who I have sexual and conversational chemistry with? That’s the best. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 02:21 PM |
| 9 | The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergyThe last part applies to men and women, it’s the whole attracted most to new and familiarity being a sexual turn off with variety being a sexual turn on. I know it’s anecdotal, but I went through a period after my divorce sleeping predominantly with married women and I was on the surface not much more, if at all, attractive than their husbands. They openly admitted doing things with me that they wanted to in the moment that their husbands wanted them to do with them, but the idea of doing it wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/23 03:31 AM |
| – | Women and girls are reading the manosphere forums and subs, that makes them less likely to date.Except it does still work. My son is a high schooler, Tate isn’t followed by him and his friends who can’t sniff a girl (I love them, their great kids, and are both anti-Tate and “the LGBTQ shit is too much”, which are the 2 main groups in schools today). The guys into Tate are the guys who get girls unfortunately. Flat out, they are so into him because his tactics work for them, and his message rings true to their lived experience. Tate’s popularity says a lot about the experience boys have in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 01:49 PM |
| 6 | The widespread research declaring that women are happier single has long been retracted and refuted by experts as well as the original researcher.It’s also interesting that women who’s men have left the household were especially unhappy. Men didn’t have the same differences between married and “out of the house” (they were less happy, but not as drastically so). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 06:07 PM |
| 16 | It is OBVIOUS why there is not a body positivity movement for both gendersNo they haven’t. Being exclusively male has meant law suit from feminist groups since the 1970’s. From Rotary, to Elks Lodges, to the YMCA, to country clubs, to Boy Scouts, to local sports leagues….male only places were dismantled in the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s and replaced with nothing as no insurance company will give a male only space coverage for “discrimination” (I work in insurance, not even Lloyds will cover that) so just being male only brings a target for lawsuit, which bankrupts even if th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 09:01 PM |
| 5 | Could "baby trapping" be underreported and much more common than we think?I mean I had a class of about 150 in my high school, in my class alone I know of no less than 5 kids that came from relations that were “on the pill” in the last 2 years of high school, that’s statistically impossible. Outside of that I’ve had multiple close friends throughout life have the same experience, some with long time gf’s, some with wives. Some seemed like genuine accidents, other were very questionable. I’ve personally with multiple partners not want me to either wear a condom or pull… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 05:22 PM |
| 6 | Serial monogamists are worse than sexual promiscuityThat’s complete bullshit. Women who sleep around in an attempt to get a relationship are low value, because desperation and neediness is unattractive….but plenty of women fuck just to fuck and that doesn’t really affect their value at all. This is some douchey fantasy that men actually dump the chick who is the best combo of hot and cool they’ve ever met who is also crazy about them….news flash buddy, they don’t dump that girl, even if she’s fucked a lot of guys in her past. They may feel a bit … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:41 AM |
| 3 | It's exhausting to make female friendsIt’s more about how boys interact as to why men interact and bond the way they do over activities. Flat out, boys have a “compete” mindset, they have to have a reason to work together or they’ll just socially compete (fight/argue). I’ve seen this difference while coaching both boys and girls in kids as young as 6 and in my kids friends as young as 4. Girls just get along so much better than boys, it’s also why girls make a bigger deal out of things said, basically the bad shit girls say to each … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 04:12 AM |
| 1 | FWB is the meta! I feel this 1000% and have had good exp what do you folks think?Yeah, but I mean, c’mon, it’s women on social media, complaining is what they do. There is nothing out there as it pertains to men that some women don’t complain about, men leaving them alone, men not leaving them alone, men looking at them, men not looking at them, I mean, pretty much every non-criminal semi-common interaction between men and women and you’ll find some seemingly large group of women on tik tok claiming it’s terrible and damaging to them. Like men are starting to catch up in the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 09:04 PM |
| 1 | FWB is the meta! I feel this 1000% and have had good exp what do you folks think?Letting people do as they want to a certain point isn’t libertarianism, it’s liberalism. Liberalism is specifically allowing people to live as they want with loose guidelines to make their own choices. The answer to “should people be allowed to make there own choices” on any particular subject is “yes until evidence proves it to be damaging”. This thought process is far from a failure, and has accompanied the greatest advancement in human prosperity in the history of the world. It also isn’t lib… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 08:03 PM |
| 3 | FWB is the meta! I feel this 1000% and have had good exp what do you folks think?I mean, many are fine with it, like, plenty of hoes out there, and plenty of women who want sex but not a relationship. What’s the downside? Some hurt feelings? Disappointment? Yeah, of course all the same sexual related downsides as a relationship has (STDs/unplanned pregnancy), but doesn’t have many emotional downsides relationships have either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 07:42 PM |
| 5 | FWB is the meta! I feel this 1000% and have had good exp what do you folks think?Looking out for each other can be great, until it keeps people from doing what is best for them. It’s the basis of most oppression, rules imposed to keep adults from doing what the adults want for their own happiness. I’m sorry, FWB relationships do work for a lot of people, they do add to many peoples lives, many, many women don’t regret them, at all. And what is the risk? What, disappointment? Some hurt feelings? Who the fuck cares about that? Like, if that’s your idea of thing people need to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 07:35 PM |
| 3 | FWB is the meta! I feel this 1000% and have had good exp what do you folks think?Like, yeah, it’s by far the best situation as a guy, honestly, it’s pretty good for both. If you have a really strong connection you get together long term, if you don’t, it stays FWB or fizzles. The only people it doesn’t work for are trad con princesses who have this fairy tail burned into their brain, men who can’t get FWB’s and the women who don’t know how to accept their own decisions and believe themselves to be entitled to romantic relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 06:50 PM |
| 1 | FWB is the meta! I feel this 1000% and have had good exp what do you folks think?But it’s not my responsibility. As long as you aren’t lying, what the fuck is the problem? They are adults, that’s a pretty fantastic thing. Being an adult means other adults take you at your word and trust that the decisions you make are things that are in your best interest. You are allowed to live your life how you want. You are given the freedom to make mistakes (but also make yourself happy). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 06:45 PM |
| 16 | It's exhausting to make female friendsMale friendships are almost all based around a shared activity or interest. The female friends most of us make are around that as well. The men who make friends with a woman that lacks this shared activity or interest means he’s making friends for a different reason, and the friendship is based on something else….often his attraction to that person. Honestly though, even in the case of a friendship not based on attraction, it does go both ways. I can’t think of a female friend I’ve had that didn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Women do not naturally desire older men; they are forced to settle for them; and have a strong preference for men their own age.As an older dude (early 40’s) who has been hooking up for the past 4 years with some degree of regularity with women from 25-50, and has money, but also looks decent and is fun. The reason I like younger women are basically because they are the opposite of what you say and women my age are the opposite as well. Younger women are much less likely to want me to do anything to support them, or pay for anything for them. They expect so, so, so much less from me than women my age. I haven’t met a wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 05:55 AM |
| 2 | You are offered 1 million dollars, untaxed. In exchange, you can never have sex/sexual intimacy ever again. Do you accept the offer?There is no amount of money that would make that deal okay. I can make money, there is nothing I get from money I Ike better than sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Is it better to be hook-up material but not relationship material, or the other way around?Category 1 only exists if a man either just got lucky (right time/place and she was going to fuck someone, and you were the best around) or you were a regret. In either case that means that you aren’t “hookup material” you just caught a woman when she was either weak and you were pushy, or sucked in bed and she didn’t know that before the sexy time happened, or it had nothing to do with you to begin with….either case you aren’t a dude she actually wants to hookup with. The only other way she wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/23 04:49 AM |
| 2 | What do men in age gap relationships have to offer the women besides money?But I think there are more younger women willing/wanting to be with good looking older men than there are good looking older men. I’m one, was a good looking young man as well, and it’s easier to pick up very attractive 20 somethings today than it was 20 years ago. 20 years ago, as a good looking 20 something guy, I had many young women open to dating me, some open to just sleeping with me, but also open to sleeping with/dating a lot of other guys. There was a lot more competition. Now, as an ol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 05:52 PM |
| 1 | QWA: What was the best sex you ever had?I mean, there’s no best after a while. There are a few most compatible (like, the wordless ability to both know exactly what the other needs inherently and it be exactly what you need as well), there’s a few most exciting (the crazy hoes that were so dirty in a way that kept that dick like iron, the girls that when in the zone were such a turn on but after they left made you realize you probably gotta throw away the mattress and leave you with a sense of guilt at how gross the beast inside can g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Is it worst for a married man to get another woman pregnant, or for a married woman to get pregnant by another man?I mean, if I murder everyone you care about, I guess I didn’t really damage you, it was only emotional. It’s not “just emotional” either. Financially it’s a greater burden (a child that lives with you costs more than child support usually), but the biggest (outside of making you want to eat a bullet of course) is time, the most important resource we have. Your decisions are completely centered around a lie, one that in this day and age will likely come out eventually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Is it worst for a married man to get another woman pregnant, or for a married woman to get pregnant by another man?I mean, the big issue is the deceit that often happens when the wife has another man’s child. A man who has a child never makes his wife think that child is her child. She knows what she’s doing by staying with him, she has agency. Many men who’s wife gets pregnant from an affair are not afforded that agency, they are made to believe that baby is theirs. It’s the difference between sex and rape, one you have agency, the other you don’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Is it worst for a married man to get another woman pregnant, or for a married woman to get pregnant by another man?So, they are equal as long as the partner knows it happens. BUT A married woman getting pregnant by another man and then letting her husband believe it is his child and has him raise it is much, much, much worse. Cheating is the least bad thing done there. Flat out, making someone believe a child is biologically theirs when it isn’t, and allowing them to build their life around being a parent to that child is truly evil. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 07:50 PM |
| 0 | Sexual Emancipation EqualityI really hate when people do this. The source of her problems was significant untreated mental health issues. With those issues she leached onto that source of trauma to enable her own actions. No, we always want to say “trauma” is that cause, however why is “trauma” hereditary? Even in adoption studies, trauma, PTSD is tied to genetics….no, it’s often not what happens to us, it’s how we react to what happens. It’s why one person can have a truly horrific upbringing and comes out unscathed emoti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Besides sex, do you even like women?On the internet, no, probably not. IRL, fuck yeah, they people and many of them are good people. Moral of the story, people on the internet kinda suck, and the ones who don’t rarely talk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 04:26 AM |
| 1 | 'You should have total trust in your partner or else you shouldn't be dating' is bad advice and people who recommend this sort of toxic trustworthiness are doing more harm than good.I agree to a point, the biggest one you hit on, when the stakes are high, the bar for complete trust raises. I think this is why most women’s response to a man wanting a paternity test is very off base. The stakes don’t really get much higher than paternity, I’d honestly rather die than find out I raised my partners affair child, so those are some stakes. A paternity test is not an accusation of unfaithfulness, any more than asking a partner to get an STD test before ditching the condom even tho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 02:04 PM |
| 1 | We know women love hot guys. But the average guy doesn't focus on looks-maxxing. Why?Well, looksmaxing as a man is a lot of effort. What’s easier, not eating and putting on makeup or not eating and vigorous workouts? Beyond that “jacked” dudes almost all fall into the overweight category based on the metrics you have, many fall into the obese category. I’m at the high end of overweight, I’m a 28 BMI, yet my bf % is 16%, I’m not weird for a gym guy. All you have to do is look at a muscular guys legs, if they are thick, he’ll be overweight or obese based on BMI, muscular legs are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 05:54 PM |
| 1 | You have to have an unfulfilling life if you go into a relationship NOT prioritising sexEh, my grandparents were knocking boots into their 80’s and if they couldn’t they were still that in love, flirty, sexually charged couple. Sex isn’t just about sex, it’s an energy that is in the relationship when you’re in the bedroom and when your not. It’s the joking around, the playfulness, the flirting. It’s that energy that the most in love passionate couples have forever. Yeah, they have serious moments, they have tender moments, but they also act in a way to show each other desire for ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 01:31 AM |
| 11 | Mainstream Feminism is a female supremacy movementThe current wave of feminism has completely backed patriarchy theory. Go to a feminist and say “I don’t believe the patriarchy exists” and see what happens, you’ll either have to deal with an impassioned argument or scorn. Patriarchy theory is the bedrock of 3rd wave feminism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Whats your thoughts on men dating younger women? 6+ years age differenceAgain, the same applies, some people are into things that are older than their age, some are into things much younger. The 40 year old can be into anime, the 20 year old can be into 90’s culture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 01:52 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Whats your thoughts on men dating younger women? 6+ years age differenceDo you deny the existence of mature freshman or immature 24 year olds? Extrapolating 1 occurrence across a large group is not exactly sensical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 01:20 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Women don’t actually care about moneyDude, I’m in finance, my job is not cool just has an important sounding title. People, in general, treat people they think are important differently. For a lot of people that “important” directly relates to how much money that other person earns (often not has, as a lot of people look down on silver spoon rich kids). Dating when the only thing that comes up on google searches for you is your active LinkedIn and articles that interviewed in industry rags, you get treated differently when that is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 01:45 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Women don’t actually care about moneyLol, I’m a high earner, the second a woman knows my job, title, see’s my house she goes from passive to “everything you say is soooo interesting/funny!” Bullshit women don’t care about money, they tucking care a lot. Yes, some women don’t care, some actually hate it, but many, many women find out you’re a top 10% earner, and they’ll do a lot of shit to make you seem great in their own mind….don’t even think it’s conscious or intentional,cause other men do it too, but in a different way. Having s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/23 05:09 AM |
| 3 | The Problem of WomenThat takes putting pussy on a pedestal to new levels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 04:24 AM |
| 15 | If there is one thing that Purge Week has taught meIt’s troll bait, and you don’t feed the trolls. There are no actual stats, studies, just some screenshot without a source or a meme of an individual incident (guess what almost every single possible relationship situation and belief happens or held by someone on a planet of 8 billion people). So no point to debate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 03:52 PM |
| 8 | New Trend: "Living Apart Together".I agree, but it’s a two way street, as dating isn’t really that great for guys. If a couple keeps dating, that means it can’t be a chase or one party entertaining the other, which is honestly what dating most women is (which is why I don’t think I’ll ever do it again, hookups is the male in power version of dating). If people want to “continue dating” then dating has to be something both people want to do. Be that going or playing sports together, going to the bar together, playing video games t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Andrew Tate & the other RP creators - Where exactly is the misogyny?Let? Like, c’mon, women ain’t children. They get that drunk then they got themself that drunk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | If you're against open relationships, you're pathetic.Look mate, your views on sex are about as big of an example of putting pussy on a pedestal I’ve ever seen. Sex is neither a gift nor a reward. Does your friend “give you the gift” of playing video games with them? No! You both benefit, they play video games with you because they want to play video games with you. Sex should be the same. If you or your partner view sex as something that is for one or the other any more often than a rare occasion, then that is one shitty sex life. If it’s a reward… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 03:17 AM |
| 2 | If you're against open relationships, you're pathetic.Man, go to a local swingers event…most of them have been married longer than the average marriage lasts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Study: Short men have higher sex frequencyBy being attracted to it? By other people also finding his height attractive and seeing him as “a catch” due to it. People like when other people approve in their choice in partner, many/most people aren’t strong enough to be with someone, even someone who is a great match, when a significant public view is “why are you with him/her”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 02:25 PM |
| 5 | Trad Wife TourismWhy? I mean, language is important, however English is known by most of the non-western women in these scenarios. But culture not being shared I do think is a good thing, or at least neutral. Also, the other big thing is, this takes two to tango. Flat out, the women are choosing to be in this arrangement, much like the guy choosing to find someone more trad because the people around him are more liberal than his liking, the women are usually looking for someone more liberal, because the men arou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/22 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Most of the sex people are having is bad for the girl. I think most women know this and expect it to be bad lolYeah, I think it’s the internet honestly. I get around, but I always do what I can to make sure she’s taken care of and I have female friends who say their experience is like yours, and almost all of my male friends love, with a capital L, to eat pussy and have foreplay in general. Yes, I’ve met plenty of women and men who, after many years together stop putting in effort. Hell, I personally experienced that. But, that’s different, and isn’t an indictment on the skill of men and women to please.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/22 12:49 AM |
| 22 | What age do you think a man should legally be able to sever his obligations towards a kid in the case of paternity fraud?Making a man who isn’t biologically the father pay for a child is no different than me saying you have to be financially responsible for the neighbors kid you’re nice to. A man who was victim of paternity fraud should have no legal connection to that child and any money that was fraudulently stolen from him should be repaid as much as is able. At the end of the day, it’s fraud, full stop. It’s one of the more harmful frauds that can happen, as it hurts an individual both financially and emotiona… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 02:56 PM |
| 1 | What age do you think a man should legally be able to sever his obligations towards a kid in the case of paternity fraud?That’s bullshit….flat out, people often have types. It’s pretty normal for a person to cheat with someone that isn’t all that different looking than their partner, every type has an average, below average and above average version of it walking around. Baby’s also don’t look a whole heck of a lot like anyone at birth, maybe at 3-6 months, people just project their own features onto them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Study: Short men have higher sex frequencyI would say that you can actually hypothesize something about why the women who date short men date them, and how those reasons would actually make for more sex in the long term as they are indicative of compatibility/attraction beyond superficial traits. Flat out, for just about anyone who’s dated for any time, superficial attraction dwindles over time. A beautiful woman loses the sheer physical attractiveness of a man the more familiar he gets with her if that is the main reason for the attrac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 02:03 AM |
| 6 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?Yeah, it’s not incidental though. Most women aren’t passive players in the game of life, they just pose as such and try to get their way through more covert means, which often times is more effective than the overt ways most men try to get what they want. Feminine wiles is a thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 09:48 PM |
| 20 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?Every married woman I’ve been the side guy to cheated because they didn’t feel they had their man’s attention and/or effort. Almost every man I’ve known who’s cheated on his wife did so because he didn’t feel like he had his wife’s desire. All the people who cheat on their dating partners just liked to cheat, something in them made it really fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 09:35 PM |
| 13 | What differences have you seen with the way women cheat vs how guys cheat?That’s bullshit, women initiate just as much as men IRL, more I’d say, they just do it with complete plausible deniability. Yes, the man is usually the first one to verbalize everything, to touch, to kiss, etc…. But we do it based on the behavior of women, because most men don’t zero in on one person, women do, and they are good at getting that person to come and talk to them. A man who is moderately attractive (not just physically) and can read body language isn’t really taking many chances, th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Whats with all the buzz around confidenceMost desires are memetic. Confidence is a person giving value to themself. If people’s desires/values are memetic, then a person valuing themself inspires others to value them too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 04:09 AM |
| 2 | Hookups and LTRs have different standards. If you weren’t upfront about just wanting sex, it’s your fault that you were strung along.Who’s to say it’s the same people? Men, just like women, aren’t a monolith with one view. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 11:39 PM |
| 1 | Hookups and LTRs have different standards. If you weren’t upfront about just wanting sex, it’s your fault that you were strung along.Why, do people shame women for not dating a guy because they think he’s a player? I honestly don’t see that outside of some very small pockets and not for many years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Hookups and LTRs have different standards. If you weren’t upfront about just wanting sex, it’s your fault that you were strung along.Well, yeah. But, if she fucked these 10 guys on first dates, and she makes you wait 8 dates, that does say how much that girl is attracted to that guy. Like, if she always has self control, no problem. The issue is if she has self control with one guy and not with others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?Nah, I’m just old, most of the married women I slept with later in life, or saw that they cheated on people I knew, I knew when I was younger (college/hs acquaintances), they were not hoes. Same goes for the dudes I hung out with who cheated, most (not all) were not sluts. The older you get the less correlation you see to how people act in their teens/early 20’s and their late 30’s and beyond. All these small internal changes they made throughout their late 20’s early 30’s come out and their beh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?You’re a rarity, most are looking for the virgin, tradcon wife. Our lifestyle is not a very well respected one within that community. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 06:12 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?I think it’s funny that you think getting with chaste women helps to stop this. Man, I went through a phase after my divorce where I got off on sleeping with married women (they could relate to where I was and why I left my ex)….dude none of them were hoes when they were young, quite the opposite actually. Hoes cheat on their boyfriends. Lonely women cheat on their husbands, doesn’t make a difference if they were a inexperienced or a hoe, and the inexperienced I’d say is more scared to be single… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 06:10 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?Well, first step in honesty is being honest with yourself, who you are and what you want, both the logical ones and the impulsive ones. Never met a judgmental person who could live up to their own expectations through a lifetime. They usually just make excuses for themselves, or don’t count their own transgressions. Judgmental seems to have a pretty high correlation to immoral over time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?I mean, that’s what a vasectomy is commonly referred to…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 04:13 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?Well, every open relationship I’ve been in I’m significantly more likely than her to have sex outside the relationship. Honestly, most women in ethical open relationships I’ve seen have sex with other women more often than not (by ethical I mean when both parties want it, not one pushing it on the other). If a guy is happily in an open relationship he either gets off on his SO fucking other dudes, or he’s like me, has a ridiculous sex drive, sees sex as just a fun activity and has a lot of oppor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 02:10 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?You know what they say, misery loves company, that very much applies to redpillers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?I wear condoms with randoms. I know some people get STD’s, but I’ve got to be damn close to triple digits if not well into them, get tested pretty regularly, and was not good at wearing condoms when young, I’ve never had anything. Also, the biggest thing with the snipped and an open relationship is that I don’t have to worry about thinking a kid that isn’t mine is, she gets pregnant, I just walk cause I know it ain’t mine. I think that is at the heart of why a lot of guys are against being open,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 01:28 PM |
| 10 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?Yeah, pretty much, I’m snipped, don’t have to worry about having kids, and honestly, I do not lack in confidence or have really any insecurity on this topic…..I know I rock, but also know there isn’t really anything like a great party night hookup, so can accept that happening as long as the reverse is always true as well. We only get one chance at life, I’m too old to hold myself or anyone else back from amazing experiences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 04:19 AM |
| 10 | Q4M: Would you wife up a slut who you're REALLY connected to?I’m a slut myself, so, yeah, not a problem…..honestly, if she’s cool enough and communicates well enough, and it’s just sex, I’m fine if she’s still an occasional slut after we’re together a while as long as I can be too. I don’t need that, but if we view sex the same, why not take advantage of it. Have done it before and with the right person, works fine for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/22 03:28 AM |
| 6 | If "women" were right about "men", would you even admit it?I mean we can all play that game all day, e.g. women dump their husbands when he loses his job too. Pure and simple, both genders uphold societal norms and stereotypes on the other pretty fervently, and both don’t want these expectations to apply to them personally if they aren’t meeting them. It’s not one gender enforcing these. The people who embody the many versions of ideal, enforce the gender expectations especially strongly. Unfortunately, those who don’t embody a widely accepted version o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/22 05:02 PM |
| 7 | What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy?So, right after Roe, a lot of idiots came forth with this “solution” for men to get snipped, namely young men, without understanding a vasectomy is a permanent procedure. Can it be reversed? Yes, but is it guaranteed to? Hell no. They also didn’t understand a reversal is often not covered by insurance and is a more invasive, more expensive procedure than the original vasectomy. Once this argument back came, this talking point dwindled quite quickly, and is why you rarely hear this today. It’s be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/22 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Are some women simply "Chadsexual" while most are not?It’s a numbers game. Size queens outnumber men with big penises. Chad chasers outnumber men who are Chads. This inevitably leaves a smaller pool of women who don’t possess these attributes. It goes further than this because you also have more women who want tall men than there are tall men. More that want men with money than men with money exist….so what does that leave a pretty healthy portion of guys who are just average in these characteristics? It leaves a lot fewer women with a preference f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Let's talk about privilege -- share your scores!I did play multiple sports in HS, still do into my 40’s, so I guess I’m an 8….still don’t think I’m a traditional Chad, more of a funny witty bastard that gets a woman to laugh so hard her pants fall off….but outcomes are outcomes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Let's talk about privilege -- share your scores!9 and 36, if my childhood wasn’t fucking shit, Id have that uber privileged social standing….just not good looking enough for a Chad. Though the “high status talents” I don’t really understand. Like, I’m really fucking awesome at my job, and decent at everything athletic or hand eye coordination related, but never someone who’s “amazing” (maybe a couple bar games). I’m just good enough to hold my own and not suck and just be competitive so I’m fun to play with. Neat thought experiment, think it’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Is confidence really tied to dick size?Some men body shame women, and some don’t. If a woman is upset that the some men do, then they shouldn’t put themselves in the group of some women who body shame. If they are fine with body shaming then they should proceed. That’s the thing, many men actually advocate to body shame, don’t have an issue with small/big dick energy, and body shaming of women. I’d say a majority don’t care those terms exist, but they don’t like that most women, especially younger liberal women, are very against body… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 01:48 PM |
| 0 | What’s the reason conservative men have attractions to liberal women but liberal men don’t have attractions to conservative women?What in the heck? You think the porn/OF girls are overwhelmingly liberal? Flat out, guys like hot women, and hot women are mostly conservative. People who grow up with pretty privilege usually grow up to be right of center. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2017/01/10/conservatives-really-are-better-looking-research-says/ There have also been studies that show even liberal women prefer men who act conservative though are not outspoken with their beliefs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/22 01:34 PM |
| 7 | Anyone notice that in a lot of male-oriented space, the general consensus is that they hold themselves accountable for their self improvement, while in female-oriented spaces, they focus on placating their members?That is women’s space on the societal view, but it goes down to the local level as well. It’s changing your world as much as the whole. Problems in relationship, most common advice, change the man, problem with the job, go to management or change job….boils down to find a different surrounding by leaving or ask help from the people in power who can change your surrounding. For men the help usually boils down to changing the way you look at things, or changing your own behavior to get a different… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 09:55 PM |
| 34 | Anyone notice that in a lot of male-oriented space, the general consensus is that they hold themselves accountable for their self improvement, while in female-oriented spaces, they focus on placating their members?Ummmm, look around. This mentality goes way further than dating. Male dominated spaces are mostly focused on stating what the existing world is in their view and how to change themselves to navigate it. Women’s spaces are mostly focused on how the existing world is in their view and how to change the world to navigate it. That world women are telling to change is more often than not men. From telling men to make space (instead of women to be more aggressive), to enforce equity amongst other men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/22 07:35 PM |
| 3 | There are two types of men that women hate the most: men with options and men with self control.I’ve known a lot of those dudes who didn’t act so committed on nights out with trusted friends….most of the hot Christian boys who marry young either had some “never speak of this again” nights in their 20’s or some on the DL “friends” in their 30’s. Very few guys who can pull with ease don’t dip their toe in to see what it’s like, Christian dudes especially. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/22 01:19 AM |
| 2 | why are most feminists so against sex work?Isn’t every service industry selling yourself vs a product? Isn’t almost every product being sold someone else’s labor? The only reason sex is different is because of this mystical value we’ve placed on women’s sexuality. It’s worth more than people’s lives. Murdering someone, beating them to a pulp and permanently injuring them doesn’t have a societal repulsion or judgement like having sex with a woman against her will, why? Because we’ve place women’s sexuality as one of, if not the, most valu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/22 03:58 PM |
| 4 | Your relationship should not depend on sexual attractionBecause certain things a partner does, affect only their partner, and not a friend. For example, I have a friend who is very financially irresponsible. This doesn’t affect me, but if I was with her, this would make my life worse, right? Another example is children. If someone does or doesn’t want to have children, have that be their lifestyle, it’s a dealbreaker right? A person who makes a compromise to live their life as their partner wants and not how they want loses something big, right? Same… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/22 10:21 PM |
| 1 | How old are you, and have you had your first love yet?19, was a shitshow. That is all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 05:14 AM |
| 11 | even if a guy understand a girl's hint towards the girl being attracted to them they may not reciprocate out of fear of misjudging the initial signalSooooo, as a guy who picks up most signals, because I’m experienced….and that experience comes from taking sex and then dumping to get sex from someone else. I don’t think you’re selecting for what you’re looking for. Like, subtlety is noticed by the ones most adept, usually experienced at see it. Those people are significantly more likely to be the type of have sex and leave, right? I’ve seen your responses and just can’t grasp what you’re trying to say on this one, respectfully, what do you me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/22 08:11 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Is there anything you like about women?The same things I enjoy in a man. Bravery, emotional strength, humor and levity, empathy, a moral compass and having lines they won’t cross even at their own detriment, intelligence both traditional and emotional. But all these things are human traits, some women have them, some don’t. Of course I love the female form, and sex and all that. The shape of a woman does something to me, and a woman’s touch when backed with either desire or admiration does something to me that a man’s cannot, I don’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/22 05:38 AM |
| 3 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zYou can lead a horse to water, can’t make them drink. The reality is, for many of us (my younger self included) being social is like going to the gym. It’s something you dread before going, and takes a lot of energy, but once you get in the habit, you begin to love it and look forward to it. When you first start going you don’t know what you’re doing, and put in a lot of wasted effort, but it’s never as bad as you think it would be before going….the toughest part is always drawing up the courage… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/22 05:04 AM |
| 5 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zHahaha, I’ve been doing this a long time kid, have same schtick I had at 22 that I have today, 20 some years later….because it works (and for a lot more than just getting with women, money, friends, connections all come from social skills). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/22 11:02 PM |
| 2 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zBecause it’s completely non-repeatable, uses a small sample size and is counter to every other study done on this subject which are inline with each other….like I said, it’s a fucking advertisement for OLD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/22 09:56 PM |
| 4 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zThat study is completely false, even the 2009 study referenced is bogus. Like, it’s so out of whack with every other study on the subject it’s basically advertising that the grant was paid for by some OLD company….opening it and reading the methodology just ridiculous. Another poster linked another study, there are many others. One reputable one did show that during lockdowns the use of OLD spiked and relationships were coming from that….but not near that level. Meeting through friends is and ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/22 09:33 PM |
| 4 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zI know, how terrible, putting effort into having a vibrant social life, with friends and activities, being well liked, socially adjusted and getting to know people that leads to being desirable to women! What wasted effort, am I right? Doing things that leads humans to being happy, and getting laid. Yeah, I think you should stick to online gaming and Tinder, sure you’ll be happier with that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/22 08:35 PM |
| 6 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zLook, if you don’t understand actual game is getting everyone to like you, then you’re still on the 101 level. Real game, is being generally likable, universally respected, and moderately extroverted. No one has a problem with the guy who everyone knows is talking to women. They have a problem if a guy comes across as targeting women out of interest. Real game doesn’t feel like game at all, not until she gives the go ahead for that through signs she is interested. This also doesn’t mean being lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/22 05:56 PM |
| 3 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zThen you aren’t going to the right ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/22 05:46 PM |
| 4 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zNo, but women don’t say they do anything to meet a man very often….but that’s just how women work. Women don’t like to feel desperate, and they don’t like men who appear to try either. If a guy is trying it feels like game, and most hate obvious game. They want it to feel like a natural connection, even for just a hookup, but that certainly is what they are hoping happens when they go out. Yes, trivia is often female dominated, and no, it’s definitely not the fat neck beard. It’s usually a bunch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/22 05:13 PM |
| 4 | CMV: The dating/relationship market is not a woman’s market, it is actually 50/50zIt’s funny, you named all the places men go to meet “loose” women (the women who don’t care for a spark just the best looking body attached to a dick)….not the places women go to meet good men (men they are attracted to beyond physical, which is what most women are looking for, even for just a casual relationship). Go to these places and you’ll find at worst an equal, often a woman dominant split. Places like: Church groups. Donating time with Charities. Workout classes (CrossFit and boot camp s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/22 04:07 PM |
| 3 | How many of you or your friends would be open to a sugar relationship?I actually disagree, I’ve known some women who did it, and they weren’t poor. They had families just affluent enough to not have to worry about things like food and rent, but were kinda spoiled growing up, and the parents weren’t going to fund the nice lifestyle, only tuition, food and rent. Basically, they were women who would not accept a paycheck to paycheck lifestyle while in college, wanted to take trips drive in a nice car, and that’s what “daddy” provided since the women I’ve known did it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/22 09:48 PM |
| 2 | AF BB is the best dating strategy for men and womenThankfully, their will to have casual sex without some emotional connection/chemistry is also exponentially less then men’s….which is why most don’t actually do it much more than the average man. If an average looking man knows how to create a connection IRL (many do) he will have casual sex. Stop basing dating on OLD, there is no spark there, a picture and some texting is not how you turn a woman on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/22 03:50 PM |
| 6 | AF BB is the best dating strategy for men and womenNo, a few men have a lot of casual sex, and a lot of men have some casual sex, and the bottom 1/3 has none. The distribution isn’t that much different for women. A few sleep around a lot, most sleep around a bit, and about 20% don’t at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/22 02:42 PM |
| 3 | 20 year old's dont want 30 + year old'sSo, I’m not going to disagree with the end result of you’re argument, however I will argue with some aspects and the why. I actually believe that the why there aren’t more age gap relationships is not because younger women don’t want them, I fully believe it’s because older men who can have them don’t want them. I fully believe that many young women would very much want a relationship with an attractive, successful, single older man. These men exist (I am one), and more young women like them tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/22 03:41 AM |
| 2 | Most women are not attracted to honest men. They're attracted to men who are the best at faking their intentionsSo, I think you’re right in many ways, women, for the most part, don’t want honesty, nor is honesty all that important within women’s circles if honestly is controversial or hurtful. Men also don’t like honesty in some ways, but very different ways. For example, women usually think someone is a jerk for being honest about their opinions and feelings on anything negative. If you think someone looks horrible in that, shut the fuck up and tell them they look great. If someone is doing something stu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 07:07 PM |
| 4 | Men which want a relationship should instead look for sexSo, the whole “get rejected for a relationship” as a guy doesn’t happen a lot after you’re sleeping with a woman as long as your life is somewhat put together (have job, don’t be an addict or a prick). The majority of the time, if you want to forward to a relationship, you can, it’s usually the guys call as long as she’s willing to sleep with you a second time (and if you’re just not a prick, and she’s actually single, that will probably happen). On your statements of degrading, who are you to s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 02:32 PM |
| 8 | Men which want a relationship should instead look for sexYou’re coming at this from a very female POV. From a male POV, this is the way to value yourself and avoid being used and degraded. There is no universal definition of things that are degrading, it’s about what people find to be that. Dating is for many if not most men. It involves chasing, paying for someone who gives nothing back or really shows little interest once the date starts and has an expectation you will foot the bill for it. Like, I don’t think most women have sat at a table with a g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Men which want a relationship should instead look for sexI find this comment kind of funny “I have no sexual type of issues” then goes on to explain their sexual type issue. Most women orgasm when having sex (not necessarily from intercourse), most times people have sex women orgasm, only 10-15% don’t ever orgasm with a partner. I’d also be willing to bet women who can’t orgasm with a partner are less likely to do a hookup….because they have less incentive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 12:46 PM |
| 6 | Why do you guys care this much about dating or sex or whatever?Yeah, it might be, but I don’t think therapy is actually that well suited for this particular type of issue, maybe an addiction specialist, but even that has very poor success rates. Flat out, many peoples brain chemistry, often brain pathways are hard wired for intimate, sexual companionship as a necessity for joy. If you aren’t wired like that, you won’t understand how engrained this is for many, especially many men. I mean, I can’t think of any experience that I value more than a weekend long… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/22 03:50 PM |
| 8 | I hear a lot of people say that women "aren't rocket science" When it comes to dating. I disagree wholeheartedly.Bud, they aren’t that tough. As much as people here like to say women are superficial or emotional, it’s all dancing around a few topics. In dating and preference I think one of the simplest things that men seem to miss is how intrinsically linked women’s sexual attraction is to respect. Not how much men respect women, but how much they respect that particular man. This is also something many women have trouble understanding about men, how little our sexual desires and even love is linked to res… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/22 09:38 AM |
| 5 | A high number of past sexual partners is unattractive to both men and women. Women are just more forgiving of it.This subs version of high body count and the real world is pretty different (though most people are virgins at 17, as the average is 17.4 years old)….the real world seems to be about your age minus 10 as being considered high, and the more over that the more people you’re too high of a count to feel comfortable with (and the majority of men it’s because they have a count similar or higher). Comfortable with isn’t too high to date though, people make exceptions. The opposite is also true though i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/22 11:16 PM |
| 6 | Men’s expectation of women to help/pity “socially akward men” is sexist and dangerous.How about just be kind to people….like, is that so bad? Only some weirdos are asking women to put up with the type of shit from OP. I think most are just asking for women to stop being assholes and cruel to awkward dudes. Like don’t pick on him, don’t act disgusted if he’s trying to be nice in general, and don’t put him down. This is mainly a young man thing, but from my son to online, cruelty of strangers for doing nothing more than talking is pretty high right now amongst young people. There i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Woman; do you think the dating market has become better or worse for Woman due to the advent of dating Apps?These guys are already trying the OLD thing and it isn’t working for them. That’s where the “get into the real world” advice comes from. They wouldn’t be complaining if it was working. One of the saddest things about these young dudes I can see is they don’t understand this shit is a craft, not a study. How do you learn a craft? You have to practice and do it to learn it. You can’t learn woodworking sitting around a desk reading a paper on it, yeah, you can pick up snippets, but the real lesson … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 12:52 PM |
| 2 | A vocal minority is not enough to explain the explosion of the manosphere and other dating related content, things are truly different nowLook man, when I was young, a guy like me would’ve had no chance to do what I’ve done with women that age. I’m not some gorgeous dude, nor do the women who go home with me do so for money or some daddy issue stuff. They think I’m early 30’s when we meet (I look very young for my age). I spent last week with a 27 year old I met at a rock show last Saturday, it was fun, she was cute, but she would very much have preferred to spend that time with a guy with my personality her own age who doesn’t ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 04:45 AM |
| 2 | A vocal minority is not enough to explain the explosion of the manosphere and other dating related content, things are truly different nowThese guys aren’t espousing it though. I grew up being taught by watching others and life experience how to pickup, that was the way, because it has to work for you. The issue is we have a generation that doesn’t do that, they go out, get a few no’s, crawl online so they can get rejected by 1,000 women on OLD, but no single one hurts as much as the IRL no, and say “I give up, I’ll find some snake oil salesman who tells me how it is” It’s bullshit, just a bunch of bullshit. Guys need to try, IRL,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 03:32 AM |
| 0 | Woman; do you think the dating market has become better or worse for Woman due to the advent of dating Apps?Those bastards are as weak as the simpering fools who can’t walk up to a girl out of fear. There are other ways, something men always knew until this stupid blue/redpill shit, and all these false messiahs on YouTube. Redpill bullshit succeeds by speaking 50% truth of the way things are wrapped around 50% of bullshit dogma. Blue pill has a false premise with a sugar coating but a mentality that isn’t wrong. There is a place between. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 03:13 AM |
| -1 | Woman; do you think the dating market has become better or worse for Woman due to the advent of dating Apps?The word I’m searching for isn’t liked all that well on Reddit….and people still use that one, and even the ones who don’t use it out loud certainly do in their head. No matter how much logic we want this whole attraction thing to have, there is still little we have a natural reaction of disgust to more than a weak man. Don’t be a frightened, weak man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 02:42 AM |
| 0 | Woman; do you think the dating market has become better or worse for Woman due to the advent of dating Apps?Exactly…..the worries of a pansi. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 02:19 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Myth of Online "dating" ruining the SMV: It was bad in the 1990s alreadyThat’s why you don’t put that shit into writing, get into the real world, have a couple of cocktails and see where the world takes you. Live real life and have fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 01:56 AM |
| 7 | Woman; do you think the dating market has become better or worse for Woman due to the advent of dating Apps?From my vantage point as a guy who’s early 40’s and hit the dating scene again 4 years ago after 15 years off the market, it’s much worse for women than it used to be. I’ve seen/hooked up with women ~25 to ~45, I’m only going to speak to the 10+ year younger women. Honestly, I shouldn’t have a shot with them, they are as good looking, and sane/smart/funny as girls I could get when I was that age. There is no chance at a future with me, and they were told that, but they slept with me because of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 01:52 AM |
| -2 | Woman; do you think the dating market has become better or worse for Woman due to the advent of dating Apps?Didn’t your dad ever teach you not to be a pansi? That sounds crude but honestly, you’re a dude, be a dude. Dudes don’t give a flying fuck what some chick thinks of him once it’s clear she isn’t interested, and women love dudes who don’t give a fuck. If some pearl clutching reactionary girl says you’re a creep, most other women will only care if you come forward with your tail between your legs, not because you’re a creep, but because you’re a pansi. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 01:05 AM |
| 8 | CMV: Myth of Online "dating" ruining the SMV: It was bad in the 1990s alreadyYou live through it….I did, stats back it up too. People had more partners, more sex overall, drank more, got out more, cheated more, etc…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/22 06:23 PM |
| 12 | CMV: Myth of Online "dating" ruining the SMV: It was bad in the 1990s alreadyDude, the 90’s involved women thinking the feminist thing to do was take every guy that caught their attention when both were wasted and fuck his brains out. I lived through it, in high school, if you got invited to parties with any regularity, the “virgin” girls gave out blowjobs like it was a hug. In college I turned down more women than I slept with. My troll looking best mate who was awkward af with women had girls that basically took him home because the rest of us said no, she spent too mu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/22 03:47 PM |
| 0 | Why can't the men that women don't want pay for sex without women hating them for it?Kind of, there is also hypocrisy. Whataboitery is a valid argument if it shows a real hypocrisy. Like openly and vehemently judging a group for exploitation when your just as complicit in exploitation in another way that is just, if not even more egregious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/22 10:48 AM |
| 4 | men who care about a women's body count, how would you even know what it is?Tates a shithead….but like I said, a lifetime is pretty impossible to cover up any past…and most guys who care about that aren’t Andrew Tate people, that douche nozzles main demographic is 13 yo’s. Most who care are either Christian dudes or career focused dorks that girls looking for commitment, some of which who used to run around, go for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 02:19 AM |
| 3 | men who care about a women's body count, how would you even know what it is?If you don’t want people to know you’re past….yeah, that’s not a bad way to deal with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 01:16 AM |
| 6 | men who care about a women's body count, how would you even know what it is?Look, if you move away from where you did your damage and it isn’t where you’re from, and you have no friends who know….yeah, you can get away with it. However, that isn’t most peoples life, your friends will leave crumbs and let him know, just like any ones friends will. They will get comfortable, talk about old times, and who you’re fucking will be part of those convos. Also, dudes talk, we just do, and even without talking, if we see a girl we used to fuck out and about, we say hi, in that wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 12:41 AM |
| 7 | During hoe phases, do most women make hookups wear condoms or AT LEAST pull out?Look, when I was young I had a lot of sex, I can remember 2 women asking for a condom (though many to not finish inside them) and I was sitting at about 70 or so. A lot of women, especially the type of women who like sex enough to fuck some guy they just met, hate condoms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/22 05:44 PM |
| 8 | During hoe phases, do most women make hookups wear condoms or AT LEAST pull out?Not true….at all. As a guy with a vasectomy who lets it be known even to hookups I have one (I’m 42, it’s almost always asked if I have wife and/or kids it’s easy to say I got fixed after the last kid)…..pulling out a condom is not received well. A lot of women see a guy wanting to use a condom as a judgement of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/22 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Who do young people look up to?The old saying is true: Only a fool learns from his own mistakes. The wise man learns from the mistakes of others. This is why you look up to others, you learn from their mistakes, you build off of their ideal and add your own self and goals. Going it without any archetype is just forcing yourself to deal with avoidable consequences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/22 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Is it immoral to sleep with a woman when she's hoping for something serious and you just see her as an easy lay?I agree leading people on is wrong, the thing is though, when it comes to people who have others want them….there is a decent chance they’ve never been on the other end of that. What type of person is most likely to be having sex with someone and that other person is in love with them, and they aren’t in love back? Someone who has high standards, has self worth, who doesn’t need others to love them, and enjoys sex….right? What situation is this type of person never going to be in? Unrequited lov… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/22 03:58 AM |
| 3 | Is it immoral to sleep with a woman when she's hoping for something serious and you just see her as an easy lay?But see, that’s the issue that is at the heart of how a lot of men and women feel about this. Most men only pick up on direct statements, and few women give them. The hints that indicate feels that are covered up by 10 statements of ambivalence is the norm. Yeah, if she clearly states what she wants, okay, he should give an equally clear response, he’s and asshole if he doesn’t. The other factor I think is big is what type of relationship is it. I think most fall into 2 categories, and it’s fair… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 11:19 PM |
| 6 | When women say that they would prefer it guys were more honest about their intentions about sex, they are primarily using that as a trap.Well, if you started as a hookup, never meet up and basically just fuck. As long as nothing but flirting and fucking is happening, you don’t really have to say anything unless she does. Any woman over 20 should know better that something like that doesn’t imply it going anywhere….don’t be all romantic and shower her with compliments, but as long she doesn’t start implying wanting a relationship, you don’t have to say shit. If she does start implying, a simple “I’m just interested in a casual rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 10:57 PM |
| 10 | When women say that they would prefer it guys were more honest about their intentions about sex, they are primarily using that as a trap.By fucking women without dating, or honestly looking for relationships with the women they take on dates. If you can’t fuck without dating, either try for relationships or jerk off and be alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Is it immoral to sleep with a woman when she's hoping for something serious and you just see her as an easy lay?Well, if a woman is sleeping with a man hoping she can seduce him into a relationship he’s being clear enough isn’t in his intended goals….isn’t that kind so shitty too? Like guys want to just fuck women who want to fuck them. If she really is having sex out of a hope for a relationship and not desire, that’s kinda shitty too. It’s two people not being clear on their intent, guys aren’t magically mind readers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 10:06 PM |
| 8 | Is it immoral to sleep with a woman when she's hoping for something serious and you just see her as an easy lay?The issue is a lot of women try to “play it cool” (and a lot of women are actually cool, and act the exact same way as the ones playing)….so the guy usually doesn’t know she has her heart set on more, just that she’d be open to more if that was an option. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 10:04 PM |
| 17 | When women say that they would prefer it guys were more honest about their intentions about sex, they are primarily using that as a trap.If you can’t get sex without going on traditional dates, then you can’t get sex without a relationship, and you’re a dick for leading people on. But conversely, ladies, if you’re thinking the guy who fucks you but you never meet before a few drinks or never leave his house is working up to a relationship, well then get your head out of your ass. Dating is for relationships. Netflix and chilling or drunk meetups is for NSA sex. You only need to declare if your expectations are different then the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 09:59 PM |
| 5 | Can we turn around a rejection with game?That last line is so true, women are absolutely amazing at putting themselves in your eye line so it feels like you see the same girl everywhere you look and just “happening” to be next to you at the right time. I had this happen this past weekend, I was at a local rock show, and this girl who had caught my eye earlier just happened to be right next to me when the crowd was getting a bit wild and moshing so I kinda watched over her….which turned into dancing with and smiling at each other, then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 03:01 PM |
| 16 | Why is porn hated by so many women?I mean, those things are down, significantly. Hell look at what even is considered rape today vs just 40 years ago. You know there was a huge controversy in Baltimore 40 years ago saying a woman who went to a bar alone and was then clearly, and violently gang raped wasn’t seen as raped by many because merely going to the bar alone constituted consent. Like what world are you living in, people had to be taught date rape was rape, it certainly wasn’t viewed that way before the late 80’s. Prior to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 01:14 PM |
| 0 | I think women see male sexuality as inherently predatory especially any situation where a woman wants sex more than the man. This is the true source of a lot of “power dynamics” discourse.As someone who has fucked a lot of randoms, you aren’t having sex or talking to that girl again if you ask to see ID. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/22 01:13 PM |
| 2 | I think women see male sexuality as inherently predatory especially any situation where a woman wants sex more than the man. This is the true source of a lot of “power dynamics” discourse.Shit, some even do have ID’s. My ex-wife and her best friend had fake ID’s throughout high school, they aren’t that hard to get. Her best friend used to reminisce, pretty positively, about the college guys she hooked up with before she was old enough to drive, who thought she was going to the same college as her. She wasn’t going to the cops over it, but had she gotten pregnant, that dude would’ve been fucked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/22 01:12 PM |
| 1 | I think women see male sexuality as inherently predatory especially any situation where a woman wants sex more than the man. This is the true source of a lot of “power dynamics” discourse.I find it funny that a big issue with men today is that men don’t have close male friendships. And then a dude does and he’s said to be “homo-affective”. He has what good male friendships look like. Like what many/most women have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/22 01:08 PM |
| 0 | I think women see male sexuality as inherently predatory especially any situation where a woman wants sex more than the man. This is the true source of a lot of “power dynamics” discourse.How many randoms have you tucked that you’d be an authority on this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/22 12:33 PM |
| 4 | Delight and Camaraderie in HumiliationI’d love to see the crossover of people who view that and general fails (which are almost all men doing stupid shit)….I’d be willing to bet there is a pretty high cross over. Even the commenters…some people just like watching people do stupid shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Older men hitting on younger women is not harassment, nor immoral, nor illegalWell, as a guy who does okay with the mid 20’s women from my early 40’s, some men can….but, for the most part, they were the same men who did well when they were in their early 20’s, and 30’s, but also aged well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/22 06:44 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Regardless of the type of relationship you 100%, always, every single time need to tell someone when you are sleeping with other people point blank periodNah, if I’m just fucking some girl, and she knows we are just fucking, she only gets to know that I’m fucking other girls if she asks….and telling me she’s not fucking other guys is not asking, but me changing the subject should be all the answers she needs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/22 02:46 PM |
| 2 | How can women both be too picky, have too high of numbers, yet you are also not willing to wait?I always find this argument funny. Like, if you’re looking for love and can’t figure out what a good/bad guy looks like by date 3-6 more than a couple times….you’re gullible as hell (aka dumb) which is also a bad trait for long term faithfulness. Being able to say after 3-6 dates “yes, I like this guy and he likes me” is not that tough, it’s not a lack of self control, it’s confidence. Yeah, you’ll probably fall for 1-2 players, but if you can’t pick out the good from bad in that time frame and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 07:09 PM |
| 0 | How can women both be too picky, have too high of numbers, yet you are also not willing to wait?You know, there is a point between that and a virgin, right? The middle ground is where most of us live. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 05:31 PM |
| 1 | How can women both be too picky, have too high of numbers, yet you are also not willing to wait?What do you mean by higher N count? A 22 yo with 30 guys, yeah, that’s high. A 22 yo with 5-6 guys….that’s not to the vast majority of guys. You’ll see some guys rail on that these girls are higher, but most don’t think that at all, that’s what they’re looking for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 05:18 PM |
| 8 | Do you personally know someone who had problems finding a long-term relationship because of past promiscuity?Dude, looks matter more, it’s like privilege. Not every white person has it easier than every black person, at all, but when a black person and white person are equals on all other levels, it’s likely the white person will have had some advantages. Same for this, being a Ho doesn’t disqualify your looks vs someone not as good looking, it just is a factor to make you less desirable than someone who’s only had sex in relationships (and being a virgin actually does hurt your desirability with most … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 05:08 PM |
| 25 | Do you personally know someone who had problems finding a long-term relationship because of past promiscuity?I’m somewhat surprised on the posters here, because I certainly have seen this. A lot of the “attractive but struggling” in dating women I’ve met were that way in part because their personality was perceived as promiscuous. Most guys understand they won’t ever actually know a woman’s past, so they select based around traits they can see and believe are corollary. This isn’t unique to sex or men as everyone does that to an extent, it’s just the underlying traits they screen for differ from person… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 01:29 PM |
| 1 | CMV: it's hypocritical for a woman to criticise men for caring about past sexual history if she herself would not date a man who is a virgin or never had a gf at 30.But the vast majority of women don’t get the ick with experienced men, they can make a decision that they don’t want to risk it (usually after they fuck him for a while), but most make “exceptions” for men they feel good about (I’m one and have had many low body count women say “I’m different”)….but women do get the ick for many things men don’t, I listed some above, but there are many, many more. I’ve had female friends get the ick from men listening to their family, or act differently around t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Men do not have enough birth control optionsI mean, honestly, no one is making mothers do that either…..or being financially responsible. They choose those things, at least they did, and in many places they still do. Pretending most or even many women who get abortions is due to carrying a child and not due to not wanting to be a mother is just a disingenuous argument and why the pro-choice position (one i 100% back btw) runs into so many issues. Women almost always get abortions because they don’t want to have that child, at that time, w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 02:05 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Are you open FWB relationships?With all but my ex wife, yeah. She knows I have sex with others (she likes hearing about it when she gets worked up, which admittedly is rare), and she doesn’t sleep with anyone else since she’s sworn off men, but she doesn’t like condoms and we trust each other. If I or she has sex with others without a condom (which has now been years for her), we get tested before we mess around, but again, she’s not a regular by any means, just a couple times a year when her hormones get her worked up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/22 08:00 PM |
| 17 | CMV: it's hypocritical for a woman to criticise men for caring about past sexual history if she herself would not date a man who is a virgin or never had a gf at 30.I mean, it’s often not judging, it’s just the ick. Many men get the ick with women who’ve slept with a lot of men….even if they’ve slept with a lot of women. The judgement is really just men trying to justify that feeling. Look what happens when guys get pushed on explaining it, they can’t, but they wind up just saying “it’s gross”. That’s the thing with the ick, it’s not logical, it’s just a feeling of disgust. It’s like a lot of women who don’t logically think a guy crying or showing despair i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/22 12:21 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Are you open FWB relationships?I guess the question I have on this, because I’m too scared to ask any of the women I sleep with, does it matter if I have multiple partners? For instance, I have one regular FWB (1-2 nights a week), and a few occasional (like every couple weeks to couple months) fuckbuddies….which I consider different. I don’t bring up exclusivity, and if it’d come up I honestly would just avoid the discussion though I’ve been open that I am not looking for or see a relationship in our future. Like, do women kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/22 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Women who have cheated: Did it feel good?Older long time married men cheat for the same reasons women do, they didn’t feel loved. I’ve heard the story so many damn times, I’ve been the other guy multiple times for women, I’ve had many friends and coworkers have a few too many cocktails and start complaining about their wife/husband and it became obvious to anyone who has lived life long enough that they have or were currently cheating. I think I am seen as a safe place for people to discuss this as I left my wife, and we were a relatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/22 12:45 AM |
| 6 | Do men lie about their physical preferences in women?Yup, usually gotta have muscles to go with the chub, but those burly farm boy types with a gut certainly have a noticeable sub-group of women who are like “yes please”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/22 02:14 AM |
| 11 | Getting Fuckzoned is worse than being FriendzonedIt’s because women can get sex so easily that they find almost no value in it outside of partaking in it with guys they truly want. This right here is a privilege, one with some downsides of course, but a privilege none the less. Think of taking this away, and having the vast majority of men not wanting to talk to you, give you any attention/validation, or date you. For many men, who want a relationship, the best interactions they have with women is purely them being polite to them. Women don’t … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/22 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Most men in relationships don’t have any game which gives the blue pill more credibilityThey have game, at least many of them do, it’s just that game takes a lot of energy. If you’re going to spend that much energy, you aren’t going to do it to fuck the same woman you’ve fucked 100 times. Like, why would you? If you’re going to spend that type of energy, you better be getting a new sex partner every couple months, and get that NRE laden sex that involves women being as enthusiastically kinky as they’ll ever be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 09:25 PM |
| 14 | Unlimited sex partners prior to marriageIt’s a good analogy, and has proved to actually be a very similar to sex in my experience (and are often the same people who have trouble settling down sexually and physically). The people on the extreme end in their youth who backpack and jump around from place to place, not just take a few trips, they either find a partner who will explore with them later in life, or they wind up leaving so they can explore by themselves once the kids are old enough. On the converse, the person who never could… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 03:51 PM |
| 47 | Why do some women want an equal relationship but a dominating man in bed?Bingo. This is my experience as well. Plenty of women love being called a slut in bed, being degraded/dominated, and honestly saying they don’t like being treated like that in general and a man who would call them a slut or degrade them is awful….except when they are in the particular mood. Some can openly talk about it outside the bedroom but seem to exclude that aspect of themself when talking in general, others say they don’t want that even in the bedroom, and then in the heat of the moment a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 05:48 AM |
| 1 | What gender cheats more?Well, yeah, they can do that, and many do, but not as many. Flat out, multiple studies have shown men in relationships are less sexually satisfied than women (over half of men in relationships are not sexually satisfied with the relationship), and women in relationships are less satisfied with the relationship overall than men. This plays out in how men and women cheating differs. Women have more affairs than men that includes emotional pairing with another person, as that is the aspect that the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 02:56 PM |
| 27 | What gender cheats more?They do, I’m a man….the metric fuckton of married men who use prostitutes is just….people don’t understand that is 90% of the market for prostitutes…. Edit: to add, that is where men cheat, and most men who cheat that way literally don’t even consider it cheating. Like, wife who doesn’t do “specific sex act he likes” and he quits asking….he found a prostitute to do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 01:14 AM |
| 0 | Do heterosexual women have good reason to be “hypergamous”?Why do they need to be done? Your anxiety? Like, why? Explain it to me, because I seriously don’t understand how it can affect your life as long as the window is functional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/22 02:42 AM |
| 11 | Women's standards are giving men body dysmorphiaI mean, if that’s how it’s viewed, why did men have to hear it was our fault for so long about setting unrealistic standards for women? Yeah, men buy into the action hero, but women do to, and they and gay men are the ones putting pics of these dudes up on their walls in their rooms. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve met, often middle aged married women, who’s phone background is Chris Hemsworth…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/22 02:31 AM |
| 0 | How do girls not find guys who ask them out just after meeting creepy?It’s only creepy if you’re not confident enough to take rejection like it don’t matter….people like men who don’t really give a fuck about what others think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/22 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Do you feel that being sexually successful with women will make you happy?Being in love with someone passionately (feel love for them, their happiness is your happiness type of love, and desire them immensely) for many years when they only love you back in the sense that they choose to love you, but they don’t feel your happiness and sadness, don’t think about you and how you feel, and desire you beyond as an orgasm provider….it kinda destroys you. Many people deal with this, I do think more men do, some women may have their reason, but most people just don’t have the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/22 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Do you feel that being sexually successful with women will make you happy?Divorce exists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/22 12:24 AM |
| 3 | Do heterosexual women have good reason to be “hypergamous”?I mean, what benefits if we don’t care if things are that clean? Like, if my hobby is painting, and I enjoy displaying these paintings and my wife doesn’t care one way or the other, does my painting now count as housework? Is she leeching off my benefits? Somethings can definitely count for this, like women who schedule things like doctors appointments, and things for the children….but housework that is being done because only one partner believes it should be done is only benefiting the partner… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Do you feel that being sexually successful with women will make you happy?Eh, not really, just like women who sleep around lose faith in the existence of a loving man….men who sleep around do the same thing with women. I can say, as a guy who has spent most of my life being desirable, very few loving women (from a relationship POV) exist, so what’s the point in being in a relationship if you’re a loving man? Most people want to be treated how we treat those during the courting phase of a relationship, we want to be desired, we want to be valued, we want people who are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 11:30 PM |
| 9 | EVEN if you could FORCE monogamy and "redistribute" love and relationships, you can't force a woman to genuinely love you and you FEEL the differenceHaving an opinion people are making bad choices isn’t in the same league of wanting to force them to make the right ones. Believing societal pressure should exist isn’t the same as believing a law should exist. A good example, almost everyone believes cheating is bad right? The vast majority doesn’t believe it should be illegal and punishable outside of social punishment…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 03:44 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Would you be mad if a man you liked a lot made you wait for sex?Exactly…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/22 02:14 AM |
| 10 | What are the reasons groups for males and boys always seem to end up eventually infiltrated by women and girls?Ha, it changed not because there was any want to, they changed because it was the approved track out of bankruptcy after a $2.6bn judgement for a sex abuse scandal. It also followed a gender discrimination suit that cost the Scouts millions in legal fees even though they won in the Supreme Court…..and a belief that allowing girls would remove the target on their back from a legal standpoint was pretty prevalent. Flat out, the move to allow girls was a pragmatic one to avoid further lawsuits and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/22 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you care whether or not a man has been “run through”?You still can’t get over this “use” view…..like, honestly, I’ve gotta be quick with this comment because according to you I’m about to “use” my friend…..dude, sex isn’t a some quid pro quo that only benefits the woman if she gets relationship out the other end. This isn’t using, this is a mutually beneficial relationship, between people who can take care of themselves. Honestly, I don’t need a bangmaid, it’s much cheaper and more satisfying to just have my maid (shout out Sway, you rock) and wil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/22 03:32 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: Do you care whether or not a man has been “run through”?I don’t honestly care if she wants or doesn’t want to date me, or if she judges me even….but if she’s going to do it, I think she should do it based on reality. She doesn’t seem to recognize women like sex and willfully have casual sex of their own volition and due to their own morals. She seems to view women as children, without agency, the victim of some brainwashing at the hands of men, and that, I take issue with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 11:29 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do you care whether or not a man has been “run through”?Yup, and the reaction from most women toward bi men is pretty much identical to the reaction some men have for sexually experienced women….disgust. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 10:15 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do you care whether or not a man has been “run through”?I don’t think you’re gonna get too many honest answers, a man’s value doesn’t diminish with number of women he sleeps with, her anxiety does increase with it though. What does diminish his value as it pertains to prior partners is the same thing that diminishes women’s, it’s the number of men who fucked him. A guy who is bi gets about the same reaction from women about the number of men who have fucked him as men give women. A lot of men fucking a man or woman gives some men and women a feeling … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 09:52 PM |
| 11 | Q4W: Do you care whether or not a man has been “run through”?So, in your view, all women who have casual sex really don’t want that, they pine for that man to be serious about them? Look, if a woman fucks a man without dating him, she’s not getting “pumped and dumped”, she’s having casual sex. I’ve been with a lot of women, and have dated about 1 in 15 of those women. They aren’t getting pumped and dumped if they knew me for 3 hours before I was inside them or wound up in my bed knowing me only as a friend of a friend before that night….they were just hor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 09:45 PM |
| 2 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?Well, shit….didn’t see that. Used to the (Q4W) in the title, didn’t notice the flair….live you learn, my bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 02:23 AM |
| 1 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 01:52 AM |
| 3 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?Sales end of finance, early 40’s, I have aged quite well but I’m not gorgeous or anything, a solid 7/10….. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 01:43 AM |
| 1 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?I’m older, it gets easier, being comfortable being me helps a lot….the reality is though, this is how I like my life to be, not just the sex, but always being busy. I think a lot of guys who look at this type of life would love to get laid more, but would hate the rest of my life, and all those other things is why I get laid. I hate being idle, like disdain it. I want to either be working, actively hanging out with my kids, or actively hanging out with my friends at all times. The introvert type… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 12:42 AM |
| 1 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?I’m a guy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 12:26 AM |
| 1 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?I’m an extrovert, they just happened, and I didn’t have any reason to stop them from happening. My lifestyle makes it pretty natural. I’m in bar centric sports leagues (volleyball, pickle ball), have a good mixed sex group of fun friends (my married female friends basically whore me out to any of their female friends when they become single and want to get laid), and I travel a decent amount for work. Nice hotel bars is a place women 30+ looking for NSA that no one will ever know about (read: ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/22 12:10 AM |
| 1 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?Nah, just hookups and booty calls in the wild. Was married for a portion of that time and lockdown had no action, so it’s mostly the past 2 years…..volleyball league is a good place to meet people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | How many sexual partners have you had within the past 5 years?18, I think? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 11:40 PM |
| 4 | How are women finding dates in 2022?You obviously do not know how to eye fuck someone….there is definitely an art to getting men to approach you that is way beyond “hot”. Body language has as much to do with it as looks, if not more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 08:12 PM |
| 3 | Do you consider a red flag if your GF goes on a girls trip to Miami?I’m not married anymore, and since not being married I’ve honestly had my share of married women….but they aren’t really any better/worse than married men the cheaters both do the same shit. Situations to cheat is being around people who are hooking up and being “one of the guys/girls” or being in situations where you allow people to pursue you/beckon you to pursue…..and yes that does include attention seeking online (though physical cheating is less likely) and just flirtatious behavior all aro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Are you <26M?As someone who didn’t think I’d be back in it….never know when your first option doesn’t add to your happiness….always want to be desirable, means you won’t chose unhappiness for fear of loneliness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Are you <26M?They are only hot to a certain age, that’s what I mean, yes feminine men have been hot since Bowie….but you have to be a Bowie to stay hot past your mid 20’s with that look, that’s what I mean. It just doesn’t age very well, better than the athletes that get fat, not as good as the muscular dudes with strong jaws who actually get more angular faces as they get older. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 02:05 AM |
| 3 | Are you <26M?You don’t know how those convos went mate…hot gets you to talk, I’ve known plenty of hot dudes who couldn’t close the deal, and even more who couldn’t keep them happy to be a just a booty call. Getting a hookup every month or two is a decently successful college guy….having a hookup every month who almost always gets added to the group of weekly booty call girls is the truly successful college guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Are you <26M?Also, the Chalamet look would be the example of looks that have a pretty big expiration date. Styles on the other hand, he actually has a skinny athletic look, dudes with his build can sometimes be pretty damn masculine, he’s lanky, not skinny….they are different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 01:41 AM |
| 4 | Are you <26M?Dude, it’s emotional intelligence to be able to do the push pull. Emotional intelligence doesn’t necessarily mean using it for kindness, it’s just reading and reacting to others emotions. Knowing when to push and pull emotionally, recognizing who is open to a hookup, knowing who to stay away from as well, how to make someone else feel understood, this is emotional intelligence. Yeah some rage kings get laid…..they don’t fuck like the good looking dudes who make connections, those dudes basically… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 01:34 AM |
| 5 | Is there a male equivalent to having been “used up”?The artsy/musician dudes have a definite “wall”, so hot to the under 25 (22 really) women, but damn do they become disdained later on in life….unless, of course, they become very successful at it, but the vast majority don’t. I’d also say the same happens to the effeminate Machine Gun Kelly “pretty” types. Strong dominant dudes are much more timeless, pretty boys get labeled as “bad news” by women after the get a bit older….whereas the hot athletic dudes just stay desirable as long as they don’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 01:18 AM |
| 15 | Do you consider a red flag if your GF goes on a girls trip to Miami?That’s bullshit, a single situation, fine, cool, no problem. But I’m old, people who are desirable and put themselves into situations to cheat with any degree of regularity, eventually cheat….ain’t nothing more to it. That means if your boys are always bringing random girls around and you appear on the menu and stay out late….yeah, eventually its gonna happen. Your girls always tagging you along to those random boys table/house, yeah, it’s gonna happen. You may be able to get through a year, may… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 12:55 AM |
| 6 | Are you <26M?Yeah they do. I’m early 40’s, and what I do today is built off what I did in high school/college. Just gotta have a career too….but everything that was attractive in college is attractive now. Athletic….check Masculine….. check Funny/charismatic….check Emotionally intelligent…..check Broad social group….check Dominant….check Just add in successful, which all of the above help you to achieve, and it’s still the same skills. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/22 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Can women be selfish in terms of building up their partners‘ charachters?As a professional man, your understanding of insecure women is…..flawed. Most do everything you stated as well, just in a different way. They isolate you, they make every action that triggers their anxiety, including meeting friends (especially early in the relationship) or being away from them, a fight, a long, drawn out fight. Most people don’t like to sit and have a 5-6 hour discussion around how an innocent activity made their partner feel. To be badgered, and guilted into continuing this di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/22 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman.I mean, considering her doing it to me put me in the hospital, made me suicidal, and myself and all my siblings tried to take our own lives while living under that roof, and all of us have been fine since leaving it…..I don’t think you understand what psychological abuse can bring you to…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman.Who was to step in? It was obvious to anyone in the household. Anyone who was aware however would have understood his abuse was in response to her abuse. Just like the self harm I did was in response to her abuse (which was pretty much identical to the abuse she gave him). Her abuse was not overt or violent though, and she got him and her slew of boyfriends to physically abuse me on more than one occasion, a few even apologizing as they did it. Abuse through prolonged emotional control, guilt, p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman.I mean, my dad put her in the hospital on more than one occasion….sooooo, I don’t know how that isn’t abuse. Each one of those occasions was preceded with a whole lot of “leave me alone” “stop” “don’t do that” “you aren’t understanding what I’m saying” and the likes before he would blow (literally hours, sometimes days of it), but when he did blow, it was overtly violent. Pure and simple, anyone who has violence in them, has a breaking point when violence will be the answer. Fight, flight or fre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever been cheated on? How did you react?Once I know of, you can judge, but didn’t have smoking gun proof, just knew it happened because of how she reacted to my questions (did get confirmation after breakup)…..she knew what I’d do if anyone cheats on me, just like everyone I’ve ever dated knows….I don’t get mad in life, I get even, and so that’s what I did….didn’t hide it either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 01:07 PM |
| 11 | Many men like to talk about how women end up in abusive relationships because they "pick the wrong men". So let's hear it, how would YOU pick the right man if you were a woman.Master manipulators exist, but they really are few and far between. Most abusive people aren’t hard to spot early in a relationship if you know what to look for. Love bombing in reaction to mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes right? Yeah, they do, but if that first argument is followed up with over the top love bombing without calmly taking responsibility for their actions (more than a sorry and I love you), chances are, you’ve found yourself an abusive person. Emotional impulsivity. Pure and simp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/22 12:29 PM |
| 11 | Women need to stop justifying their life choices and have funMost people discuss their pasts while dating, that includes sexual/relationship pasts to an extent. Now, this normally doesn’t play out as “how many people have you had sex with”, but more like “I don’t do the hookup thing” or “I only sleep with people I date” or “I have had my fun”, each says a different thing, and the problem is when someone says “they only have sex with those they date”, and then you find out they actually “have had their fun”. Concealing common dealbreakers is wrong. If some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Let's have a discussion about OnlyFans/webcam girls. What are your thoughts on the matter?For many OF providers, yup, your right, they are fine….some though, usually not you’re large content creators, do go further to what would be considered quite manipulative tactics. Using empty promises, sob stories, fake emotional interest, and just straight up dishonest tactics is immoral and predatory, especially considering who they do it to and how some push when they other person is showing signs of not wanting to do it (or pay that). I think providing porn, or even sexual services in excha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 03:29 AM |
| 1 | What advice do you give to below 6' guys to vote in the Modern dating world?And they’ve been the tallest regions in the world for well before that was the case. The reason isn’t selection, it’s diet…..2/3 of their height is due to diet, and they are already the defendants of traditionally tall people (Vikings were known for their height). They eat more animal protein than just about anyone in the world, this includes calcium dense animal based dairy. We’ve seen this in animals forever, diet is plenty, animals get bigger, times get tough, they get smaller. https://scandi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 02:49 AM |
| 17 | Women tell men to stick to their league, but women are attracted to the type of men - those out of their leagueNot really, there is cute, and hot, who both come in a lot of sizes (not morbidly obese, but fit to a bit chubby), and chances are, you’re gonna have to be an 8/10….but there are butter faces and plane janes that have awesome bodies, that do go outside the 8/10 guys. These girls aren’t the most feminine usually, don’t wear much makeup, (like actually not much, not the perceived not much) or dress in a way that indicates being on the lookout, and the big thing, don’t take a lot of selfies and pos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/22 07:21 PM |
| 22 | Please explain this behavior - meanness after sex3 main possibilities: (I probably did this while young, but don’t think I’d be seen as mean, but was tempted to act mean) Post nut clarity hit and they realized they don’t like her, they thought they liked her, but were wrong. The easiest way to get someone who likes you to not like you is to be mean…..and them not liking him is the goal. (I’ve probably done this myself) The relationship wasn’t defined and was never intentioned to be going towards anything serious, however sex happened and she i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Is having platonic female friends as a man a good or a bad thing for dating?It’s a good thing, definitely, but don’t expect those friendships to survive into a serious relationship with most women. Either it just fades away or they become better friends and the friend stops calling you. In my experience women are really good at getting their man to end friendships they don’t like without ever asking for a friendship to be ended….it’s actually quite impressive (and applies to a lot of things honestly). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 07:53 PM |
| 2 | How common is this? "I have an amazing career, make almost 6 figures, have lots of friends and family, fit and physically active, many hobbies and talented, but I can't get a single date"It’s very simple, do you make the time other people spend with you enjoyable for them? If yes, you’re interesting, if not, your boring at best. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 12:34 PM |
| 7 | How common is this? "I have an amazing career, make almost 6 figures, have lots of friends and family, fit and physically active, many hobbies and talented, but I can't get a single date"If it means a few free trips…I think some women will take him up on that. Maybe not for the long term, but being able to enable people to cross things off their bucket list certainly doesn’t hurt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Why shouldn't men be the catch in relationships?I mean, it does flip a bit, age well and get to your late 30’s with money. 20’s women are just desirable to too many men. I mean the most desirable men, top 3-5% from about 25-30 years of age range (20-50) are all pursuing about 8 years worth of women….it’s just not gonna flip amongst those women with the numbers. Too much demand, not enough supply. But, when you’re an above average dude who ages well, the script flips a bit. There is a reason the “trade her in for a younger model” trope exists,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 02:17 AM |
| 1 | A lot of men in this sub say they have been berated and humiliated by women for making a moveSo, I approach a lot of people, not just women I’m attracted to, just people in general…..most people find me amusing so I talk when things worth talking/commenting on arise. I’m usually pretty good at telling who wants to be left alone, but I’ve errored or misread body language on occasion, and have had some rude responses. Yeah, pretty, early/mid 20’s women are the most likely to give them, and assume sexual intent (which I don’t have, I just like to have a good time, and being social is a goo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/22 03:13 AM |
| 15 | "Men aren't entitled to getting laid!" is a lazy, intellectually dishonest red herring intended to derail discussion. The root of the difficulties young men face in dating is finding fulfilling romantic companionship, not getting laid.To an extent, feminism did knock down some of the infrastructure within male dominated social settings. A good example of this were the community organizations which were commonplace in western life until the 90’s (Elks club, Rotary, Shriners, etc…). There were many of these that were vibrant and housed the majority of married middle to upper middle class men in a community. Many prominent feminists hit the media with stories of these being places full of strippers and prostitutes, which in some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/22 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Most average males should not bother with most women unless they are really willing to lower their standards.Nah, I just think a lot of dudes think they average….when they are bottom 10-30%. A fat dude with a personality and a social life is a lot more desirable than a thin, non-muscular dude, with a potato face who sits at home and doesn’t have many friends. You ain’t “average”, you just aren’t the absolute bottom of the barrel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/22 04:36 AM |
| 3 | The Orbiter PhenomenonSo, I think the “what’s most common” question is hard to answer, and depends on age/experience. For example, I think the vast majority of 25+ year old, attractive women know when they have an orbiter. I think that a below average woman or average to above average man may very well not know. So, above average, post college age women, and very attractive men of the same age, yeah, they probably know. Below average women, and a little above average to below men at the same age, probably don’t. It’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/22 12:17 AM |
| 2 | What are some major changes in the mainstream perception about dating that you think happened in the last 20 years?Yeah, because a “scripted” reality show is really how we should think people actually are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 09:23 PM |
| 7 | Most average males should not bother with most women unless they are really willing to lower their standards.You don’t have to stand out, that’s a myth, you have to be around at the right time. Be around, be amusing, don’t be totally ugly, that’s all it takes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Opinion: Andrew Tate was a net positive overallI will say, some female friends do that and are good, but there are a lot of women out there who ask way too much out of their male friends, especially young women, and this does poison the well for a lot of guys. I’ve been pretty decent at picking out users since I was about half way through college, but some guys aren’t, and there are definitely women who definitely find male friends to try to fix their problems. Some women, for whatever reason, believe that men, even male friends, are solutio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 12:58 PM |
| 28 | Most average males should not bother with most women unless they are really willing to lower their standards.Here is the deal though, if you get a vibrant social life, something that is beneficial with or without a gf, meeting women just happens. The more familiar you get with meeting women, the better you get at showing your personality, and with it, get to know women and they get to know you….which can turn into things as long as you are an emotionally secure person….which again, is a benefit to be with or without a gf. If by average you mean depressed, introverted and bitter, then yeah, your average… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 12:39 PM |
| 9 | Why do women seem to be less bothered by being single than men?That may very well be the case, but one question I’d ask on that, are you sure they are? Pretty much my whole time single I’ve had women that I used to sleep with occasionally sleep with me, and the vast majority would say things like “this didn’t happen” or “please don’t tell anyone” etc…. I’ve also had female friends (like actual friends) years later state they were sporadically hooking up with an ex for years after the relationship ended (one for decades) whenever they decided to go on those … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/22 12:09 PM |
| 68 | Why do women seem to be less bothered by being single than men?I think a pretty large contingent of men would love to be willfully single the way a few men and many women are. My ex wife is willfully single, but what does she do every 3 or so months when she knows I’m single, she calls me and we have sex. What about my other “friend” (ex-FWB) who isn’t looking for a relationship? She calls me about once a month like clockwork and if I’m not dating anyone, we have sex. What would both of these women say if asked if they were seeing/sleeping with anyone….”no,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/22 07:02 PM |
| 1 | CMV Either sex is presumptively inherently degrading to women OR pumping and dumping a woman is just fine/not immoralNah, going with the intent to have a relationship is how you settle. I’m old enough to know what I want, and also be happy on my own. I have an awesome life, I’m not going to bring someone into that who isn’t going to be a pretty large net positive, most of those things I’m picky about aren’t stats, and can only be known by spending time with someone. I’m not going to waste my time and resources dating one person who I don’t know that will take me months to get to know to a point I can say “yeah… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/22 12:52 PM |
| 0 | CMV Either sex is presumptively inherently degrading to women OR pumping and dumping a woman is just fine/not immoralI don’t ghost anyone (at least not in a very long time), but I certainly move people to fwb with no chance of a relationship….to the point I almost always move them there. That happens at 1 month or 4, but once I define roles that’s what they are. I’m not a person who changes their mind easily once it’s made up (which included once I commit to a relationship), so I usually leave things undefined until I know. Would love to find someone with a spark beyond mere limerance, but I’m not going to set… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/22 01:30 AM |
| 1 | CMV Either sex is presumptively inherently degrading to women OR pumping and dumping a woman is just fine/not immoralI’m in my 40’s, I date to find out if a woman is worth dating, it takes me about 6 months to a year to determine this. I can’t know someone till I know them…..I think it’s pretty damn immature to think you’re gonna have a few conversations and understand how you fit with someone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/22 12:30 AM |
| 5 | Bluepillers, you have a friend, he is 21, and he wants to get laid. He wants to have lots of sex with different and hot women. What advice do you give him?Go to clubs and do cocaine, and be willing and bring enough to share. If he wants easy, NSA sex, not much more to it than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/22 05:49 PM |
| 6 | Bluepillers, what do you think the redpill offers young men?People who make you say that are always someone with a preconceived belief and then seek out stats to back it up…..like the red pill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 07:05 PM |
| 11 | Bluepillers, what do you think the redpill offers young men?There are liars, damn liars and statistics. Stats only tell the answer if you’re asking the right questions, sometimes redpill does, sometimes it doesn’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 07:02 PM |
| 0 | How big a deal is it if your partner never initiates sexYes, yes it is. A person can be asexual and enjoy sex once it’s began, many asexual people are. They would never choose to have sex and could go forever without it if not propositioned. However, once they begin, they are fine with having it and can pose as enthusiastic lovers, even though they don’t care to ever have it. This is how a lot of asexual people are, especially asexual men as they don’t hold the same feelings of shame around sex many women do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 03:01 PM |
| 0 | When you are in the talking phase with someone, should you be loyal to them?If N counts matter and a person wants a woman with a high sex drive, this is inevitable. If a woman cares about her N count and wants sex, she will continue to sleep with men who she’s slept with in the past on an NSA basis for long stretches of time, and will value those relationships because they help to keep her N count low, keep her safe, and provide consistently satisfying sex. She will not sleep with men she just meets and will make them wait as she knows every new person she sleeps with h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 02:57 PM |
| 3 | How big a deal is it if your partner never initiates sexYou realize OP is talking about an asexual, and when talking about sex drive to an asexual (who doesn’t realize they are, because honestly, why would they think they are anything but normal) the entire thought process of having a sex drive is foreign to them. Asking an asexual why they don’t initiate sex is like asking a blind person what the color red looks like….they have no clue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/22 12:06 PM |
| 2 | Do you really want to be the guy or gal with a high body count? Unpopular opinion belowNo shit, I’ve done some cool shit in my life, climbed mountains, traveled Europe, multiple National Parks, been to Chile, Peru, Brazil. Seen Dolphins and Whales….none of it holds a candle to a prolonged pillow talk session who is just as sexually adventurous, emotionally connected and just in that amazing bubble that leaves you on a high. It’s truly one of the best things about being human and experiencing another person like that, just the best. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 02:17 AM |
| 6 | Do you really want to be the guy or gal with a high body count? Unpopular opinion belowIntimacy my dude, intimacy is so fucking awesome. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 01:09 AM |
| 5 | Do you really want to be the guy or gal with a high body count? Unpopular opinion belowI am, am happy, don’t regret, will die with fantastic memories knowing I lived life to the fullest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 12:57 AM |
| 8 | Do you really want to be the guy or gal with a high body count? Unpopular opinion belowIf you’ve never experienced one of these fucking amazing prolonged sex, pillow talk, intimacy connections, I just don’t know how you made the most of your one time being human. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Men don't age like wine. Stop being delusional.I’m not talking average, nor celeb level. I’m talking about men and women who are well above average attractiveness and age well. The man who does that will still be able to sleep with the superficial women just as well as when he was 25 (I’m a dude who aged well and can still get with just as hot of 20 somethings in my 40’s as I could in my 20’s) and now has the established financial freedom, confidence and experience in many social situations that age can bring to attract the women who are mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Men should give up on western women and go overseasAnd you want to go for SE Asian women? Ha, hilarious! I’m the dude that beds them behind your back, and they don’t want me either, they just want to upsell and are willing to fuck ahead of time….dude, you wanna find someone else’s wife to fuck, find the one who her husband brought her over. My god, you realize a person who never lets you know them, has no guilt when keeping secrets from you, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 03:08 AM |
| 20 | Men don't age like wine. Stop being delusional.The thing is the peak man is older than the peak woman. Yeah, men who age poorly, age poorly. But the woman who can “have any man she wants” is in their early/mid 20’s. The man who can “have any woman he wants” is in his early/mid-30’s. It’s not complete averages, it’s peak sexually attractive man, peak sexually attractive woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 03:01 AM |
| 25 | Men should give up on western women and go overseasThe go for it, more cock loving Western women for me. Been down the SE Asian path, and I’ll take a woman excited to have my cock in their mouth because they genuinely want my cock in their mouth instead of someone who does it because she thinks that’s how she’ll get me to marry her or so I’ll take care of her….you can tell the difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 01:22 AM |
| 2 | What makes a woman interesting both physically and personality-wise?Engaging, successful, smart, cool, funny, horny/kinky, athletic/fit, nice skin, a booty. Early 40’s for me, last few years have only met a couple of these women who were available while single, and they were both mid-30’s and divorced. Life incompatibilities left us as FWB only. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to turn down sex with a woman and not lose a fanIf you figure it out bud, you let me know. I’ve had it happen once where she was still cool with me, but she propositioned me knowing that may be the case and put no pressure on me….every other woman I denied did not like me after. One broke the back window of my car the next day with a brick, she was a dime piece I flirted with since high school, but a bit of a thug lover, her bf was going to prison for a while as a full on gun toting drug dealer and she wanted consistent dick while he was away… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 11:23 PM |
| 6 | What percentage of people within your dating age range do you find attractive enough to sleep with? What percentage do you find attractive enough to have a relationship with?I don’t try to fuck them, I just try to have fun in the moment. The rest happens naturally as I’ve always been good reading body language (I have always been in sales in one form or another). I’m naturally outgoing, and decently quick witted, so, just going up the any bar to get drinks usually turns into a conversation for me, I don’t start those with any intention other than having fun, and I do it with anyone, man or woman, attractive or not, just whoever is next to me and has the “open for ta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 04:49 PM |
| 2 | What percentage of people within your dating age range do you find attractive enough to sleep with? What percentage do you find attractive enough to have a relationship with?Ha! Insurance actually….but I’m a damn good salesman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 04:23 PM |
| 1 | What percentage of people within your dating age range do you find attractive enough to sleep with? What percentage do you find attractive enough to have a relationship with?Bars/volleyball, and by being fun/funny. Sometimes they are buying what I’m selling and they come home with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 04:16 PM |
| 10 | What percentage of people within your dating age range do you find attractive enough to sleep with? What percentage do you find attractive enough to have a relationship with?So, I’m early 40’s, so the “fuck range” and “dating range” is different. My fuck range is legal, that’s it. I’ve had sex with early/mid-20’s since my divorce, but I’d never date them, it’s purely hookup/booty call. Including this age group probably means from then till 47/48 years old, about 50% meets minimum looks, probably about 75% of women under 30 (just for sex ages) meet it and 30% of women over 30 (dating age range). That is a sliding scale, probably only about 10%-15% of women my own age… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 03:11 PM |
| 7 | "Status" is probably the most overblown and ambiguous RP concept for attracting women.Nope, status exists across large swaths and within small communities. It’s basically respect and adoration. Being the person everyone wants around, a leader, and is very well respected (different than liked). It’s basically being popular amongst the popular people in groups that include women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 02:30 PM |
| 6 | While women are sexually objectified, men are emotionally objectified, they're both wrong.I would say that social programming usually isn’t to blame for that, its usually the home environment they were raised in (same can be said for women who use emotions as a weapon, and it’s usually the same type of toxic home environment). That’s not society, that’s generational cycles of toxic and abusive relationships being seen as passionate love. The things you’re talking about are impulses. Impulses for the most part are not created by the broader society, but locally lived experiences durin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 11:59 AM |
| 5 | What were the qualities of "alpha males" in the evolutionary past?It’s benevolent dominance. That’s who’s the leader(s), the one who is fair, not often selfish, recognizes and vocalizes the groups consensus in most situations but is also strong physically to enforce their will (not necessarily the most strong though). There have always been leaders who enforce norms, and direct others, who’s will carries more weight, but they must still be benevolent to the group and not solely out for themselves. Edit: as a man, based around the thoughts of being “alpha” this… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/22 07:38 PM |
| 2 | QFM: If your GF/Wife said you had to go through a birth pain simulator in order to have kids (for anywhere between 2-30 hours randomly picked) would you do it?I would argue the only type of person that would feel good their partner hurt themselves as a show of solidarity is a narcissist. This isn’t shaving your head because your partner is losing their hair doing chemo….it’s actual, real pain. It would be like thinking your healthy partner was anything but mentally I’ll and in need of help if they started doing chemo with you, and took on all of those fun side effects just to “show solidarity” because you got cancer. I can’t think of anyone seeing som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/22 01:32 AM |
| 5 | Tinder is effectively broken already.I mean, you get what you get and women older than 22 or so know that. The gender gap is there for a reason, it’s because the women who use it are either just using it for validation or entertainment…..because a guy using Tinder and actually trying to get laid with it is already a bit pathetic. What woman wants a pathetic man unless he’s terribly hot. A HVM (your stupid pill ass language, not mine) wouldn’t need Tinder or even waste his time with it because he has a life and self respect. He can … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/22 12:57 AM |
| 16 | QFM: If your GF/Wife said you had to go through a birth pain simulator in order to have kids (for anywhere between 2-30 hours randomly picked) would you do it?I mean, c’mon, her demanding it means, unequivocally, she doesn’t love me. Loving someone inherently involves NOT wanting them to go through unnecessary pain. Men do not want the mother of their children to go through pain (if they love them at least), it’s that both parties want a child and that involves pain. No one who loves someone else would consciously put that other person through pain just to “make it even”. That ain’t love, that’s what a person incapable of love thinks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Everybody needs to relax… we’ve been through a crazy transition in society but I think the metaverse is going to help create new opportunities.Sounds like an Orlando problem my man, that isn’t happening all over, not at all. A few cities are experiencing a large uptick, domestic violence is up, but the randomized stuff is very local dependent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 03:43 AM |
| 0 | Everybody needs to relax… we’ve been through a crazy transition in society but I think the metaverse is going to help create new opportunities.Dude, this is literally the most peaceful time in the history of being human….the fact we are scared of the outside today is more a reason to get the fuck offline, not burrow deeper. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 03:32 AM |
| 2 | So, what's the verdict on Van Life for a man.So, I am concerned you have done some research and aren’t thinking this entirely through. Where are you going to cook? You cannot have an open fire in many, many locations that you’ll be able to park in overnight. You have to acknowledge that if you’re anywhere that allows for free parking, you likely won’t be able to cook. Camp grounds are nice, but they aren’t free and on a per day basis, they are expensive. If you can afford that, there is an ecosystem around that that can make life somewhat … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 01:35 AM |
| 1 | So, what's the verdict on Van Life for a man.Hippy chicks may dig it for a while, but not a long term strategy. Have known couples who tried it, think the most I’ve seen them make is 6 months. There are a lot more Walmart parking lots, getting kicked out of towns by small town cops, weird “happenings” in truck stop showers than you think. It’s not an easy life, it’s a very, very hard life with terrible food, smelliness and a level of inconvenience most can’t handle. The people I know who’ve done it are also the adventure hiker types (I’m o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/22 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Speaking from personal experience, what do never married woman over the age of 34 look like?They are all over the board as to what they look like, but have a few things in common from my experience (and 34 may be a bit young, more like 38 and single). The biggest unifying trait I’ve seen is: What turns them on is almost inherently counter to how they want to live their life. I see this a lot with women who “don’t want to settle”, and women who think “men are all just awful”. Yeah, if your requirements are wanting a single man that is a complete oxymoron, then every man will seem like s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 09:38 PM |
| 50 | Swiss Cheese Masculinity and The Romantic IdealExactly, it’s why the entire concept of “toxic masculinity” is so bogus. Toxic masculinity can be boiled down to “striving for an ideal and failing”. Every commonly held aspect of toxic masculinity is just “missing the mark” of a virtuous trait. Being strong is virtuous. Being a bully is not. Being emotionally stable is virtuous. Doing so by avoiding your emotions only to have them boil over when they get too much is not. Being willing to fight for your convictions is virtuous. Being overly aggr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 04:27 PM |
| 2 | Everybody needs to relax… we’ve been through a crazy transition in society but I think the metaverse is going to help create new opportunities.The same could be said for the beginning stages of social media and sites like Reddit. The worth of a community is no greater than the sum of its parts, be it online or IRL. The beauty of IRL is that there is a violence aspect that keeps people in line, no mediation required, just “fuck around and find out”. That DOES keep people in line…..mediation is a central authority that will enact “check the box” rules to mediate….which means the worst actors will use those rules against anything they don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 02:37 PM |
| 2 | “Tired of taking care of a grown child”If you’re in a suburban setting, which is when these issues usually arise, just like OP is stating…not when you’re renting, it’s the home ownership/child stage that most women begin to really complain about this. 1/2 acre lot, 2 vehicles. Edging =20 minutes, weeding 30 minutes, mowing = 1-1.5 hrs, picking up dog shit any debris that blows into yard = 15 minutes (this is done 1-2 times a week depending on time of year), watering flower beds = 20 minute (multiple times a week), auto maintenance = … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/22 07:33 PM |
| 4 | “Tired of taking care of a grown child”Well, you have a flat. Get a home 3,000+ sq ft with any land and the combo of shoveling/raking/lawn mowing/flower tending is adds up to about 3-6 hours a week + time for special projects. These are also tiring hours that aren’t just folding laundry in front of the TV as you watch your shows. Dinner is the only daily activity that takes work, if you share that, men and women work is more than equal. Cleaning and laundry isn’t shit unless you don’t teach your children to put stuff away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/22 06:48 PM |
| 3 | Do women in relationships go out for attention from other guys?Well no, a hot, outgoing guy is like an average to slightly below average introverted woman at a bar when it comes to attention….but it’s still attention and I’d argue, that when a not hot guy gets that attention from a woman who is as hot or hotter, or more sexually forward than their partner, more guys than women don’t know how to say no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 07:54 PM |
| 5 | Do women in relationships go out for attention from other guys?There are many guys who have that experience, I always see men say “I have to do x, y, z” or women ignore me, that’s not true for extroverts….and you don’t have to be gorgeous, just average to above average….but you do have to fun and very social. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 07:33 PM |
| 6 | Do women in relationships go out for attention from other guys?Not if you’re naturally outgoing. I’m a dude and good looking and I get hit on because I open my mouth without thinking. I have to try not to make it happen. I was married and it happened often where I was just being myself with my friends and women would come up to us (we are fun) and then me, I did not initiate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Guys seem obsessed with getting cheated on or being the ones who women cheat withExactly, women are taught men are shit and many/most’s experience proves it true. Men are taught women are angels, but many/most’s experience proves they really aren’t any more faithful than men: Men and women are different, but neither really treats partners better or worse in the aggregate, both cheat, both take their partner for granted, both use the other….both have shitty people that traumatize the other sex. They are both humans, and many humans are selfish assholes, | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 04:16 AM |
| 2 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingYou see his legs? My upper body is bigger, his thighs/ass are larger. His back seems big, mine is my best feature, but my level of cut is almost identical….and we basically have the same face. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 03:59 AM |
| 0 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingGargantuan isn’t great in general, kinda pigeon holes you….but yes, I have a dad bod, and women tell me I do, men tell me I don’t….that’s kinda the point, the definition is the difference, and mens definition of it doesn’t matter at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/22 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingI’d say he’d cross the edge of “too defined” to have a dad bod, at least when he’s in movie shape. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingRead my other comments, definition of terms change….not what women mean when stating dad bods are hot, muscle + not cut + masculine = dad bod | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 10:47 PM |
| 10 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingSaid this in another post, but applies to your response: I think this harkens back to the “speaking different languages” thing. When a woman says “a dad bod is hot” what she means is “what I consider a dad bod is hot”. I’ve never seen a woman say this is a “hot dad bod” https://time.com/3846828/dad-bod-is-a-sexist-atrocity/ (see pick at start) What they almost always mean by a hot dad bod is this: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/chris-pratt-and-his-dad-bod-are-back-and-better-than-ever (w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 06:56 PM |
| 9 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingJust to copy from another: I think this harkens back to the “speaking different languages” thing. When a woman says “a dad bod is hot” what she means is “what I consider a dad bod is hot”. I’ve never seen a woman say this is a “hot dad bod” https://time.com/3846828/dad-bod-is-a-sexist-atrocity/ (see pick at start) What they almost always mean by a hot dad bod is this: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/chris-pratt-and-his-dad-bod-are-back-and-better-than-ever (which happens to be very simila… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingI think this harkens back to the “speaking different languages” thing. When a woman says “a dad bod is hot” what she means is “what I consider a dad bod is hot”. I’ve never seen a woman say this is a “hot dad bod” https://time.com/3846828/dad-bod-is-a-sexist-atrocity/ (see pick at start) What they almost always mean by a hot dad bod is this: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/chris-pratt-and-his-dad-bod-are-back-and-better-than-ever (which happens to be very similar to how I look, as multipl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingEh, it’s what ripped, again of people past very early dating ages, signifies as much as these other traits help. Women, though superficial are not as superficial with strictly looks as men. A pretty big subset of men will fuck hot, period, no matter if they hate them or think of them as disgusting human beings, no matter if they have absolutely no respect for them….I’ve done and seen it, and seen women who are hot flex this (fuck, or at least tease a guy that they know hates them purely to show … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 05:06 PM |
| 18 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingAs a dude with a dad bod and pulls, matters the dad bod. Some dad bods are power lifters (me) and it shows, women like that. Some dad bods are just lazy fat asses, women don’t like that. If you’re 6’1” 230 and can rep your body weight on bench, and have shoulder boulders, plenty of women say “yes please” and plenty of dudes give you a wide berth when walking down the street. Masculine often ain’t ripped, it damn well is strong though, and honestly, thick and strong pulls as well or better than f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 04:46 PM |
| 12 | Are the expectations of young men today way too unrealistic when it comes to TRP stuff?Goes both ways on this one, younger people are poorly socialized in comparison to their older counterparts. Women who are older were more experienced with cold approaches at a younger age and by the time they were college aged knew the game and played it well. They could tell quickly the guys who were out to fuck and who wanted to date much better than they can today. Guys as well were much better at it, got the numbers game and didn’t emotionally invest ahead of relationships so they didn’t do … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 11:53 AM |
| 4 | Q4M fidelity testingSo, emotional pain is nothing? C’mon, yeah, monetarily speaking, that sucks….that’s not the devastating part of this, neither is the cheating, it’s the parenting a child, loving it, and then finding out down the road it isn’t yours. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 03:05 AM |
| 5 | Q4M fidelity testingWhy does their need to be a database? And child DNA testing isn’t a fidelity test, there is a much bigger consequence and it’s for the child as much as the father. Being the child of paternity fraud is awful, and something we as a society should be against allowing to exist when the price is literally just a medical test. Again, absolutely no database would be required and this even being mentioned is an argument in bad faith, as is calling paternity fraud being equivalent to cheating….the cheat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 02:44 AM |
| 3 | The reason TRP has to be misogynist is because the feminine imperative is so sneakyThe issue is there is a huge price to pay for a test you choose to have, your relationship and often with it the ability to see and bond with your child even half the time. Courts give default custody to mothers when children are breastfeeding, a father is taught by society to “suck it up” on so many things when a woman is pregnant and soon after childbirth. You can say, “make sure any woman you have a child with is okay with the test”, that’s great in theory, in practice it doesn’t work. A woma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 02:34 AM |
| 3 | The reason TRP has to be misogynist is because the feminine imperative is so sneakySo, you think that for a person to have that peace of mind, they should have to go behind their partners back? What about the child in this, a person who had no choice but to be raised by a person they believed was their biological parent, but was not? This victim isn’t really mentioned often, but they are a victim of this, just like children who were adopted and that fact was hidden from them often are traumatized by this realization their entire worldview was built on a lie (this is almost uni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 02:03 AM |
| 1 | The reason TRP has to be misogynist is because the feminine imperative is so sneakyWhy is any of that required? Just make those tests enough evidence to get a father added to a birth certificate with the hospital or county clerk….it doesn’t need to be anymore detailed than that. Like what would a database require? I mean, a marriage certificate is harder, you need witnesses, a clerk and a licensed individual to certify a wedding….I don’t see how getting possession of another human (which is what parenting is from a legal standpoint) should be easier than proving you should pos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 01:57 AM |
| 7 | The reason TRP has to be misogynist is because the feminine imperative is so sneakyDude, take a damn look at my history, I argue for this constantly, it’s something that (you’d have to go back quite a while) /r/askafeminist has downvoted me and argued vehemently against. Women as a whole appear to be pretty against this, at least online and it’s been something I’ve debated IRL because I’m pretty adamant about this, and really feel the medical institutions are the ones I’m most disappointed in as this is a health issue for both the potential father (mental health), child (knowi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/22 01:51 AM |
| 15 | Women's standards in men aren't getting any higher (except for the physical one)Female beauty is status. All a woman has to be to have the doors open for her is beautiful and sane. Doesn’t mean she gets the lucrative job or anything, but social status, yeah, she gets that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/22 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudMaybe since modern science provided a better option? Like, we can now know, so we should. We can have casual sex with significantly reduced risk for unplanned pregnancy, should we just not used contraceptives because “that’s how it always was”. I mean, c’mon, that’s a crazy argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/22 12:00 AM |
| 2 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudDoctors routinely recommend testing HIV, hepatitis B and C, gonorrhea, trichomoniasis, chlamydia, syphilis and herpes type 1 and type 2 during PAP, and always test for ovarian cancer cells including those only caused by HPV. My ex had all of these (except herpes) at each Pap she had done at the recommendation of her gyno throughout our 15 year marriage….I literally just texted her as I remember her bringing this up and then followed up with the good ol’ google machine. People most assuredly do g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudI think it has things to do with things like this being upvoted and agreed with in feminist spaces: “Thank god i ain't gonna date men no more cuz they're all shitty, annoying and insensitive pieces of crap.” It’s not like this sentiment is weird or unique, we see it in op Ed’s with more flowery language and publications claiming feminist stances as well as some academic papers. I mean, yeah, there are toxic male places that say the same type of stuff about women….those places don’t claim to be f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 10:21 PM |
| 1 | How do some guys get laid or dates without having to make much effort or doing anything special?10+ girls a day is a bit much, but approaching is the name of the game my friend….and by approaching that doesn’t mean “to introduce myself and then ask for your socials” it means just flat out starting conversation with as many women as humanly possible, that’s it. The more conversations you have, the more you’ll pick up on social cues to see which girls are interested and it keeps rolling from there. It’s the damn scientific method, have a hypothesis “if I act in this way, I’ll get a better re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 08:31 PM |
| 4 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudI mean aren’t some things too important to trust without verification? What do women get tested when they get a Pap test done? Why are they getting tested for STDs years into relationships? They don’t trust their man if they get the HPV swab, right? What don’t men think when their wife does that? Men don’t see women making sure their health is okay as being an accusation of their fidelity, it’s a proper test to have done to ensure you don’t have terrible outcomes. A paternity test is the same, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 03:52 PM |
| 6 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudLook, it’s not about trust, the majority of men who raise a child that is from an affair trust their wife/gf who cheated. Like, I mean, do you care about women who get infected by their male partner? Are you like, hey their ovarian cancer patient, you didn’t force your husband who had a vasectomy to wear a condom and he gave you HPV, I don’t feel bad for you….you should have made him get tested before trying for kids 10 years into the relationship….stupid woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 03:39 PM |
| 3 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudSo….having a child should mean either get divorced or possibly pay for another man’s kid for life…got it, you are a narcissist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudThere are a few groups who’s input could flip the balance on this and they need to come into the picture because at the end of the day, paternity fraud is a public health and safety issue. Police, doctors and mental health providers need to insert a voice in this. Police answer domestic calls with paternity and cheating being the focal point of the call with regularity, evidence that is beyond deny one way or the other would eliminate this from toxic couples triggers for abuse. Parentage and kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudWhat if I told you that people have types and tend to sleep with people with somewhat similar characteristics? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 02:03 PM |
| 3 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudWhich is also quite wrong to do, so instead of 1 perpetrator and 2 victims, there is one victim and 2 perpetrator. Having your life based around a lie is a shitty thing to do to someone, either a child or a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 02:01 PM |
| 17 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudBecause many/most women will dump/divorce you for getting a test. Getting tested by choice ruins marriages/relationships….that’s why it shouldn’t be a choice, you should have to prove your the father to be listed on the birth certificate….problem solved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 01:58 PM |
| 6 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudIn looking at this and other articles, the 10% number seems high as the methodology in most of these studies is off (it’s not a random sampling). Another poster showed some other studies. So let’s say the 3% number is correct, even that means this is a pretty big problem. Personally, I think there is a significantly better option to this than criminality. We have the technology to ensure this doesn’t happen. Flat out, consider paternity something that legally needs to be proven, and is unknown u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 01:56 PM |
| 16 | Mommy’s Little Secret: a Discussion on Paternity FraudReally? You don’t think you can find some reputable feminists calling men evil? Patriarchy is certainly called evil. Masculinity is toxicity (which it is called that as nothing that is not toxic is acknowledged as masculine as they don’t want there to be gender norms)….yet they won’t use the same language on femininity though they don’t think it should exist as well. Yes, there are sections of feminism that believe men are evil, you don’t get #killallmen trending without that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 01:40 PM |
| 5 | [question for red pill] what strategy would you advise for a woman seeking a relationship to be able to meet your standards and not be either ghosted or placed as “recreational use only”? How could she prove she meets your standards if she really did?Pretty sure that’s black pill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/22 03:26 AM |
| 2 | what do you see as the dividing line between the blue and red pills?No, in the matrix it’s “the truth” and blue is “anything else”…..red pill took its name because it believes that it’s prescriptive world view is “the truth” and labeled people who believe anything else as blue pill and in denial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 10:39 PM |
| 2 | What's so wrong with being good enough for sex and not a relationship?The group I’m referring to is the same group that refer to men as “husband material” and “hookup material”. Women who don’t hook up aren’t really involved in this conversation as all of their sex partners are seen as husband material by them. Look, blowjobs don’t happen less because of age. I am a single middle aged man….most women suck new dudes dick when new dude wants his dick sucked. They don’t suck the dick of a dude they’ve got locked down nearly as often because sucking dick is an activit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 04:41 PM |
| 3 | What's so wrong with being good enough for sex and not a relationship?I think it’s due to experience, either themselves or others. All but one woman who has become my gf started as a FWB for me (8 women total). Now some of them kept the hot and kinky sex up after the romantic relationship started, but others almost cut it off immediately like a light switch and moved to purely love making (which is nice and passionate, but not as fun and I need both to be fulfilled in a relationship), and no one got kinkier or more enthusiastic with a relationship. I’d say it’s ab… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 02:42 PM |
| 2 | When it comes to women choosing men, look is way more important than Personality or Intelligence.It’s very telling that you believe intelligence = good personality. This is so far from true, and is damn near the opposite of truth for the vast majority of people. Good personality = exciting/funny/interesting personality. Most people don’t believe doing school is fun or engaging. Monkey brain likely has things about his personality that is engaging to her….brainiac sounds boring af to most people. He may be a nice guy, and really smart….but is he fun? Can he tell interesting stories in an eng… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 11:49 AM |
| 5 | People need to stop saying men are lonely because of their personality.I no longer trust contractors, Wonder why on this one, in my experience these are a pretty loyal, honest, and romantic bunch of dudes. artists and musicians That’s a big ol’ no shit. As a guy, I know these are some of the scummiest of dudes. I don’t mind assholes, but assholes who hide behind a kind and caring demeanor while they stab you in the back just suck, and every artist and musician I’ve ever knew, and woman I’ve known who’ve dated them treated women like shit with a kind, caring smile o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Bluepill people, do you agree with the redpill views on female attraction?Women shit test men to see if they stand for themselves, they ask questions they subconsciously want you to dismiss rather than answer, and they react positively to playful condescendence Immature women do this, don’t think it’s most at all. Women like dominant men, men that know what they want, dont bend over for others, make physical contact and are rough im bed This is a most women thing, yes. Men have to maintain their frame in order to be attractive Eh, while single, yes. Plenty of chubby d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 06:56 PM |
| 12 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillI don’t think that’s safe to say. The online community of below average men that complain about their lot in life isn’t really representative of men as a whole. That’s the vast majority of men online who talk about this stuff. The guys who can be choosy and date around and fuck around don’t spend time on this stuff. The guys who can go out and get laid and have went out and gotten laid don’t usually care all that much about a woman’s past. The problem comes with the mediocre women who think they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 12:05 PM |
| 10 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillWell, that’s just inherently false. Plenty of attractive, usually highly educated younger women out there liking older dudes….older dudes who can get them actually don’t fall in love with them though because guys also want a connection and to be understood. Source: a 40 something divorced dude who has had sex with many mid 20’s to early 30’s women in the past few years since divorce….they wanted more and I walked because I didn’t feel the connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 11:59 AM |
| 4 | are women allowed to have fun in their youth according to the red pillThat’s not really true. Plenty of men are cool with the experienced woman. They aren’t cool with the experienced woman acting like a prude with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Men are more likely to divorce a sick wife.Womens body breaks down men leave, mens financial support breaks down women leave. We all provide utility to our partners, on a macro level, it plays out. The number one reason for divorce is money….and that sure as shit isn’t having too much of it, and with 2/3 of divorces being by women that money is men not making enough or spending it in the right ways….so men do have there side of this arrangement they leave over, and it’s the body, a woman is valued for her body, a man is valued for his ut… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 04:33 AM |
| 4 | What do men think of the Pink pill?FDS is like redpill. Pink pill is like black pill or straight up hateful incel stuff….way past redpill or FDS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/22 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Isnt this deception? (Fuckboys x bf material)No, she’s talking about projecting her own views onto others. It’s not about feeling like a slut, it’s believing and enjoying that she is a slut to one man, and not wanting to be seen that way to another. Doesn’t mean the woman feels at all dirty or shameful, many if not most women like feeling like a slut (most enjoy being called that or plaything or whore during sex with certain or all men they are with). Being a slut feels good. The only shame in it comes if you yourself judge sluts. No one c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/22 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Isnt this deception? (Fuckboys x bf material)I don’t think that’s true, they are willing to go slow and cautious for a girl they like….they don’t make things slow and cautious. Most men who go slow and cautious with a girl they like are because the woman is going like that. Emotionally, yeah, physically, most men are willing to jump into sex with women they like and women they only want a physical relationship with equally as early. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/22 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Isnt this deception? (Fuckboys x bf material)I do think it applies to the women who enjoy kinky casual sex, but not kinky relationship sex. That they can’t allow themselves to be sexually open with a partner, but can with a stranger: This entire phenomenon being discussed is around the rather large swath of women that fall into this group. You may not, you may be a woman who likes to have casual sex and likes to have sex in relationships and both are equally open and expressive, your willingness to be kinky is the same or even higher with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/22 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Isnt this deception? (Fuckboys x bf material)This is so damn good, you worded this better than I ever could and encapsulated how I view this issue better than anyone else ever had. Kudos to you, seriously, perfect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/22 02:47 AM |
| 12 | I don’t see anything wrong with pumping and dumping a womanWhere are these women that plan and pay half? Can’t say I’ve come across any of them…. The looking good and make conversation is usually part of it, unless they are really shy, but those girls usually just want to get to the sex part in my experience. Look out for the quiet ones is what my mom always said and that’s proven pretty true in my life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/22 03:01 AM |
| 2 | What are common ways men and women shoot themselves in the foot?Coming on too strong too early for women. Hell, we’ve known each other 3 damn weeks, it’s been fun, the sex is a good time, but fuck, our lives aren’t intertwined yet. No quicker way to make me pull back than to pull out the neediness to early. You want to have a talk like adults about where this is going, I’m all for that. You say ILY, or whatever other effusively over the top statement about how meaningful or how you know this is the one way, way, way too early on this situationship is? I’m go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/22 09:26 PM |
| 5 | What’s the best size?Eh, I’m not even quite 6.5” (actual pubic to tip length) and when young got the “it’s small” when they knew the length, and “it’s huge” when they didn’t (young people then said 8” was average, before internet times, and almost every dude added 2” or measured from the bottom (I’m 9” that way”). As an adult who’s gotten around with women who have also now gotten around, I’m big, often too big to fully penetrate. Girth is significantly more important since in that category does add surface area and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/22 02:47 PM |
| 21 | Women really dislike autistic menHe’s implying with the rest it isn’t even what he’s saying that changes, it’s his mannerisms….and he’s not entirely wrong with the body language stuff. I’m in sales (adjacent) and am hyper aware of mine and others body language, was always taught 80% of communication is body language, and I believe that’s correct with in person communication. You can say the same words 100 ways and have 100 different meanings and elicit 100 different emotional responses from people. When I was young and kinda ju… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/22 04:38 AM |
| 6 | the real reason men are concerned with if a woman waits to have sex with them or doesn't perform kinks with us but other dudesI mean, there is like 15 things that basically just go round and round here, this is definitely one of the more common ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/22 04:26 AM |
| 14 | the real reason men are concerned with if a woman waits to have sex with them or doesn't perform kinks with us but other dudesSeems like every few weeks this sub gets on some tangent with one thread and then it breeds 5-10 follow up thread….this one admittedly is more pronounced this weekend/beginning of the week for some reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/22 03:10 AM |
| 10 | The notion that “women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of relationships”, is frankly untrueI went to a nursing, education, business school, with nursing being the biggest portion. Was 3 women to every man, and honestly, was the deciding factor for me going there between another school that was pretty much an equal for my major. Similar experience but from the guy’s POV. It was fun as all hell, and half of the women with the high school sweetheart boyfriend would run around if they go the chance just because they felt like they were missing out on the “college experience” of sleeping a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/22 09:52 PM |
| 4 | People are always talking about men and locker room talk. Is there anything to this that is specific to men?Doesn’t make it right, and can pretty much guarantee, that in large numbers the people who don’t rag on their partners have much healthier relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 11:18 PM |
| 7 | People are always talking about men and locker room talk. Is there anything to this that is specific to men?I mean, you shouldn’t mind you’re partner sharing your very attractive nudes with his friends then. He’s not bashing you, he wants his friends to know how good you look naked. I mean, c’mon, maybe some people don’t want everyone of their gf’s friends to be able to in detail know what it’s like to fuck him? To have his privates be described in detail so that the women he’s around now can conceptualize how he looks naked. Maybe that feels like a major violation to him very similarly to how a pictu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 11:15 PM |
| 2 | People are always talking about men and locker room talk. Is there anything to this that is specific to men?General rule, in any culture or circle, if someone you know wouldn’t disclose that information about themself to the person you’re talking to, then you should divulge only if you don’t care about or like that person. I would hope whoever you’re dating doesn’t fall into that category. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 11:07 PM |
| 15 | “Pick better men” is a cop out to not hold men accountableExactly, it’s not excusing the shit people. The reality is, it’s much, much, much easier and more successful to change yourself to fit the world and accept the world for what it is than to complain and believe by doing so the world will somehow change to what you want it to be. The latter is recipe to repeat bad choices, because you aren’t acknowledging them as bad, so you won’t self reflect and notice the decisions you made that lead to the bad outcome. I mean, look at our last 12 years or so o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/22 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Chasing women is idiotic and unnecessary.Dude, chasing women is smart and something you have to do if you want to get laid with any regularity and likely to meet a single woman to be with you….but don’t ever chase a single woman. There is a major difference between these two things. One is being outgoing in general and not afraid to he forward at the right moment….if you get turned down, respectfully back down and move on to the next without a single care. The other is going after a single person, not taking no for a long term answer, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/22 02:04 AM |
| 1 | If women generally want the best guys, they should be more willing to accept them having multiple wivesThink my direct statement that men weren’t any better would answer this question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 11:34 PM |
| 0 | If women generally want the best guys, they should be more willing to accept them having multiple wivesHa, because I’ve seen zero correlation in my 40 some odd years on this earth to being a good person and women finding a man desirable. A whole lot more kind hearted good men running around without anyone or at least very, very few women considering them as a potential partner than not. Being kind and a “good person” is so far down the list before it matter that is doesn’t actually matter. Charisma, status and then looks are so far and away higher up that it’s pretty obvious the lions share of wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Well the sexual gap between men and women affect dating in the years to comeYeah, some “normal” women have just as sordid of pasts….they don’t fucking post it with their own picture for attention to be shared in places like this. To do that you have to dumb as a box of rocks or so in need of validation/attention that it is almost assuredly associated with a mental illness. Two characteristics that lead to a very high body count at a young age for a woman. This isn’t some representative swath of women, merely by them posting this they are showing traits that correlate to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/22 12:43 PM |
| 4 | Discussion : Women moving on faster than men.Yup, I’ve broken up with every woman I’ve ever dated or long term FWB and I was married for 15 years. When it became public knowledge some ex-gf/FWB’s came out of the woodwork all of a sudden (2 were married) just to “see how I was doing”…..I didn’t have social media so I think they just stalked me through my ex or some of my friends. In any case, they were obviously keeping tabs through the years and still had my cell phone number. I’d also add how hard women try to get back with you directly a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Height statistics from Bumble; Is this your exp in OLDOne of the issues is that so many men lie about height (and dick size) that those of us who don’t get an unrealistic view of our own value. I’m 6’1” every OLD date I’ve had were surprised how tall I was, every. single. one. They believed I was on the shorter side….to the point if I do OLD again I’ll probably just put in 6’3” because that’s what every woman seems to think I am. Same with my thingy when I was younger, I’m over 6” and believed based on what all the dudes said that I was small and 8… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 07:11 PM |
| 7 | The RP/Manosphere is making the Beta Bucks an endangered species and many women are going to be screwed.So….they became beta bux? Like isn’t that what that is? Just like the man who won’t let it be known he’s looksmaxing in his late 20’s/early 30’s won’t come out and say it, neither will the woman who was getting tag teamed at frat parties and cheated on all her men but now wants to find the dude to bankroll her future spawn (and who will get dicked down by a guy like me behind his back once he gets complacent and regresses back to his natural, comfortable state 7-8 years into that relationship). … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 01:07 PM |
| 1 | What hobbies in the opposite gender are attractive?Sports and trivia. Fit and smart, also two places I’ve met a majority of the women I’ve been with in the past few years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/22 02:05 AM |
| 1 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereI think the saying would be more accurate if it was “women were the same back in the old days”…..because as an old guy who still gets a lot of attention from young women, they are. The difference is mostly young men, you aren’t prepared to provide what women want for sex and relationships. Look, when I was young, I could’ve at the drop of a hat made an old guy like me at the bar look like a moron in front of girls my age. My tongue was sharp and I could pull up charm on a dime after that and so … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Single motherhood creates violent criminal men which leads to more single motherhood which leads to more violent criminal men. This downward spiral is going to cause violent men to dominate the sexual marketplace creating a much more dystopian future.No, because young men and young women don’t do things for society (especially not those in lower classes which this stat directly pertains to), they do things for themself. Flat out, young people are not going to act for society at the detriment of themself. Like, a young woman isn’t going to choose to be ugly for the good of society. A young man is not going to act in a way that is going to make him undesirable either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 04:13 AM |
| 1 | Single motherhood creates violent criminal men which leads to more single motherhood which leads to more violent criminal men. This downward spiral is going to cause violent men to dominate the sexual marketplace creating a much more dystopian future.As a man who uses condoms, the number of women who want you to hit it raw is pretty damned high….I’d imagine that correlates pretty high to the women who for the last 40 years while Row was in tact carried a child out of wedlock to term instead of getting an abortion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 04:02 AM |
| -1 | Single motherhood creates violent criminal men which leads to more single motherhood which leads to more violent criminal men. This downward spiral is going to cause violent men to dominate the sexual marketplace creating a much more dystopian future.Bad for child, but not as bad for society. Depressed adults don’t cause as much collateral damage as those with impulse control/anger issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 03:58 AM |
| 1 | What does lack of emotional connection really mean?As a dude who has never heard this about myself, yet rarely share my own emotions or vulnerabilities, it’s not about you showing your own emotions. It’s about empathizing and showing a common background to explain why you understand their position. I had a very tough upbringing, lots of abuse, both physical and emotional. I’ve worked through it to the point that I can talk about it, and the emotions I used to have surrounding it without having an emotional response. I’ve also been through many e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Where do people here live where every woman has impossible standards?I don’t know, for America, I travel for work, don’t really get much touch on the east coast, but from Ohio to CA, extroverted (not even fully, just average to above average on that scale) and not obese means you can get laid. Listening to introverts talk about how things are is really, really skewed for any region. I’m quite convinced that most RP guys just significantly undervalue personality because they think that online dating is the only way to meet people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/22 04:29 AM |
| 25 | No "issues" presented by TRP are solvable without also compromising the idea that women deserve equal rights to men.So, I think you are conflating a personal philosophy and a movement. I may be wrong as I don’t read RP stuff, and honestly have no run ins with them outside of this sub really, but I don’t really see RP’ers advocating for any societal help or “solution”. Everything I’ve seen from RP’ers is accepting reality as they see it, and then modifying themselves to fit into that reality. Basically, I haven’t seen RP’ers ask for anyone else to change. They complain, and they want their complaints acknowled… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | What do y'all think about this list of red flags?1-4 scratch completely. 5 maybe scratch 10 I get rid of 26 I don’t mind, met people from great homes turn out bad and bad homes turn out great. 28 have no problem with 32 is fine for me as well… The rest, yeah those are red flags | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Where is the line between being an assertive confident man who sets boundaries and being a controlling possessive psycho?You’re right on, I will jump in where people who try to do that fall down, usually young people. Liars, either overt or by omission, muck this stuff up. Some of those liars don’t consider themselves liars and see themselves as people who tell “white lies” to save the other person’s feelings. White lies are in the eye of the liar, when someone says they do that, it could mean they are kind, it also could mean they will lie to make sure they don’t upset someone, to avoid consequences. I’ve met man… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:28 PM |
| 1 | Men and women here, how many actual options do you have?Male, early 40’s Interested in “sex and maybe more”, hell I don’t know, 100’s probably. I’ve taken up a lot of them, probably about 100 or so (if you count oral only from my high school/early college days). Didn’t take up about 20 women who showed definite interest while I was married for 15+ years. Didn’t read all the signs when I was a teen/early 20’s so missed some I would have taken. Had 3 monogamous relationships before my ex wife, and women would take interest that I’d deny. When single an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 04:31 PM |
| 1 | How much of a deal breaker would it be for a guy to be living with his parents in his early 20s?1990 Geo Prism for me….during the day when my mom was at work, was skip school time and get it on at home….but party hookups all happened in that tiny god dammed car….no wonder I usually just got a BJ in high school. What girls must’ve thought when I’d make out and invite them back to my car and see that little peanut of a car and compare with 6’2” football player they hooked up with…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 02:57 AM |
| 2 | If you and a girl sleep together on the first date, do you become uninterested in her?Nope, I almost always keep sleeping with them at least, and if there is that romantic spark will keep going until I don’t feel it anymore. Have had long relationships with women we had sex right away and I’ve never seen that as any type of turn off or detriment to a long term relationship. I get how it can be for some, it’s completely understandable to not be into high body count women, but I’d don’t care too much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 03:03 PM |
| 5 | Getting Muscular Is A Terrible Return On Investment When It Comes To DatingNot really, it’s goal setting and wins. It’s seeing results looking in the mirror and having that expectation others see them too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 02:46 PM |
| 1 | For those who hook up/have casual sex often with different partnersI love hookups right now. I got tired of it in my 20’s, maybe now that I’m on about 3 years of doing it in my 40’s I’ll get tired of it again, but admittedly, they are a lot more interesting now, I’ve got a lot more tools in the toolbox and the women I do this with have a lot more “interests” than they had when we were in our 20’s. I think I probably had 20 nights that were carbon copies or other nights just changing out the women in my 20’s. Now, every single woman I’ve hooked up with the past … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 03:45 AM |
| 6 | It's not enough for a man to THINK he is pulling his weight domestically.You know who you have to do what’s best for and initiate conversation about their feelings instead of trust that they will address things if they have a problem? A child. The breakout of duties discussion is one that relationships should have. Having to be the one who addresses something you don’t have a problem with because your genitals are a certain way is ridiculous. Men have just as hard a time discussing serious topics as women. They don’t have some advantage of this. If a person has a pro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/22 12:56 PM |
| 3 | How addictive is the alpha male gaze to women?Not caring will help you be successful. Caring is a deterrent to any woman who doesn’t have the draw to abusive bad boys, doesn’t mean being aloof, just too confident to hurt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 05:49 PM |
| 3 | How addictive is the alpha male gaze to women?Work on yourself to have the confidence not to care. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 05:15 PM |
| 2 | How addictive is the alpha male gaze to women?If you want to be the mid-20’s guy still hitting on high school/just graduated girls, be my guest, but you’re playing a risky game with that one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 05:08 PM |
| 10 | How addictive is the alpha male gaze to women?You may be able to mimic and get a young girl to fall for it, but overall, mimicry doesn’t work, you have to be. If you know you’re faking, so will they. So you can’t fake it, you have to be it, and if someone doesn’t like it, be confident enough to genuinely not care. It’s much better to be the type that doesn’t care and fakes you do than the opposite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 04:06 PM |
| 6 | How addictive is the alpha male gaze to women?I know, the nerve of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 04:00 PM |
| 16 | Well funded audio-based dating apps have all flopped. That's proof that personality isn't as important as people say it isYeah, and they never came close to the popularity of the slot machine, dopamine producing apps like Tinder/POF. These apps aren’t dating sites, they are attention games. Actual dating sites aren’t popular, because that’s not why people use these apps. They use them to get the feeling of being liked, and the achievement, they hide behind “trying to meet people” and that’s probably why they started to use it, but they are video games, nothing more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 01:08 PM |
| 34 | Well funded audio-based dating apps have all flopped. That's proof that personality isn't as important as people say it isBecause videos are intimidating to many people….like, a ton of people can’t even call to order a pizza, and they are going to create a video that represents their personality? Yeah, people would love to see a video that was fun or funny and be more attracted to it….the issue is too many people hate the pressure of feeling like they need to make a video to attract. You’re not looking at this the right way, people choose the apps they choose not because of who they will meet, but what they have to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 11:10 AM |
| 6 | the forsure way you know they desire you is usually during sexTry having money….yeah, that happens on occasion with women who want what I provide, and I’m a good looking, social guy….I need the sex test too (and honestly, why the hell would I want to spend more than a night with someone who isn’t good in bed, we can just be friends, I’m way too old to train someone). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 09:41 PM |
| 8 | I see a lot of "call outs" where women wish men would share their emotions more, and now men are pushing back saying when they do, it's weaponized against them. What's the healthy balance?I would say it’s easier to take the pills knowing you’ve still got an hour to change your mind….the finality of a gun or hanging is different. As a person who has sat there with that gun (got rid of it the next day) I knew slitting my wrists or eating pills wasn’t going to kill me because I’d freak out at the last moment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 08:55 PM |
| 5 | I see a lot of "call outs" where women wish men would share their emotions more, and now men are pushing back saying when they do, it's weaponized against them. What's the healthy balance?At the end of the day, only certain sharing is okay for men. Despair is the opposite of strength, and it does lessen the trust in you to be a strong stable partner. This is the big one that when men show it, attraction and maybe more is lost. Others however are weaponized by shitty people. Women overall have a culture of being emotionally cruel (not all women of course) where as mens cruelty comes most often in the form of physical rage. Not too many women will stomp on a person, many men will. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 08:51 PM |
| 11 | I see a lot of "call outs" where women wish men would share their emotions more, and now men are pushing back saying when they do, it's weaponized against them. What's the healthy balance?How many men sit their struggling to pull the trigger and no body knows. An unsuccessful suicide for a man isn’t captured, either the gun goes off, the hanging is successful or they back out at the last moment and no one is the wiser. There is no need for medical intervention when men’s preferred method of suicide fails. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/22 08:41 PM |
| 0 | Women claim that men in reality do not care about how slutty a girl has been in her past, but then they also go on to defend women lying about their past to not get judged from men, don't these claims contradict each other?Oh my god…..again, you are a huge misogynist. Women can want casual sex, most women like casual sex, have casual sex, make that logical decision to do. They are adults deciding to do something with another adult. Stop infantilizing them, and maybe yourself. You aren’t a child, take responsibility for your decisions. If you feel like someone else should have made decisions in your best interest, then that is what you are doing. You do what’s best for you, I do what’s best for me. I don’t have to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Women claim that men in reality do not care about how slutty a girl has been in her past, but then they also go on to defend women lying about their past to not get judged from men, don't these claims contradict each other?I never said that, never called them sluts, never claimed “good enough”. That’s not how choosing a mate should work, it’s not a good vs bad decision. Anyone who chooses a mate because “it’s the best value I can find” is a fucking moron. I choose a mate on how I feel, if they are sexually promiscuous I’m not going to feel all that much besides horny or friendship, but romantic love just isn’t going to be an emotion I have for them. I said people are allowed their dealbreakers and compatibility, t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Women claim that men in reality do not care about how slutty a girl has been in her past, but then they also go on to defend women lying about their past to not get judged from men, don't these claims contradict each other?No one is saying they are better than others, I don’t think I’m better than everyone I’m incompatible with, and how the fuck don’t you understand women are adult humans. “Create sluts”, do you just believe women are too stupid and incapable to make their own life decisions….you’ve got some hardcore internalized misogyny in you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 01:56 PM |
| 0 | Women claim that men in reality do not care about how slutty a girl has been in her past, but then they also go on to defend women lying about their past to not get judged from men, don't these claims contradict each other?I’m in my 40’s, been with a few in my life, married one, and left her after 15 years because she either couldn’t or was unwilling to put effort into making me feel loved. Can’t say I will ever be with anyone hotter, but certainly many have been sexier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 12:48 PM |
| 0 | Women claim that men in reality do not care about how slutty a girl has been in her past, but then they also go on to defend women lying about their past to not get judged from men, don't these claims contradict each other?Man, hot enough (7-9) high libido, no boundaries, enthusiastic, passionate sex kitten so much more intriguing than a one way to cum, boundary filled dime piece….it’s the old saying, “show me a hot chick, and I’ll show you a guy who’s sick of fucking her”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/22 12:26 AM |
| 5 | Women claim that men in reality do not care about how slutty a girl has been in her past, but then they also go on to defend women lying about their past to not get judged from men, don't these claims contradict each other?For one, men don’t “put her in that situation” unless there isn’t consent. She’s an adult, she made her choices. He put himself there, she put herself there, anything less is looking at a woman as a child. She ain’t, no respect without responsibility that’s a double edged sword. Also, not wanting to marry someone due to the way they live their life isn’t judging them, even if you do the same things. I don’t want to marry someone just like me in many ways, it’s incompatible. I don’t really see ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Women claim that men in reality do not care about how slutty a girl has been in her past, but then they also go on to defend women lying about their past to not get judged from men, don't these claims contradict each other?Regarding sex skills, you learn what your partner likes through sex. Women way overestimate the importance of “skills” it’s not a sport lol being hotter is way more important That reads very much like a guy who’s never been in a long term relationship with a girl he finds very attractive….the novelty of “hot” wears off pretty damn quick, sexy, as to how they flirt and fuck is much more important long term. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 09:15 PM |
| 5 | Women claim that men in reality do not care about how slutty a girl has been in her past, but then they also go on to defend women lying about their past to not get judged from men, don't these claims contradict each other?Speak for yourself, the experienced women I’ve been with fuck pretty damn well. Yeah they expect you to be able to both handle it and show them some things, but sport fucking is fun and only happens with confident and experienced women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 09:11 PM |
| 4 | Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing?If a woman is marrying someone she doesn’t have satisfying sex with, then either satisfying sex isn’t important to her or she is making a huge mistake. You aren’t going to find many men who are okay with marrying a woman they don’t get satisfying sex with, it is usually a big factor in determining who they spend their life with. It’s like if guys had a widespread issue of listening intently to their girlfriends and empathizing with them, and then once they get married they just stop doing that a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing?That’s just narrative making stuff after the fact. Why do those hormones exist when dating? Because she wants the man to commit to her, to want her. Why do those hormones and the enjoyment to give head go away once marriage happens? Because she is stable and no longer feels a need to impress. Truth is action, peoples actions explain who they are, our explanations of why are based on a failed assumption that humans are some logical actors, or slaves to our brain chemistry, with some groups gettin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 02:08 PM |
| 17 | Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing?I think the biggest problem with this oral sex thing is the bait and switch aspect many if not most men complain about. Flat out, get any group of married men together and mention your wife no longer giving blow jobs or it only being a birthday present once a year when they went down on them regularly up until marriage….what response does the group of men give? That’s normal. There is the old joke: Why was the bride smiling as she walked down the isle? Because she knows she’s given the last blow… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/22 05:19 AM |
| -1 | You read a lot, online especially, about these so called ''Damaged'' women who chase ''bad'' guys or whatever. I'm curious if there's a term for the opposite of this kind of woman. For example, is there a term describing a self-sufficient woman with no time for BS/a career, etc?Eh, I think that outlook holds people back from positive change. It’s not their fault they became like that, it is their fault they stay like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 10:33 PM |
| 3 | You read a lot, online especially, about these so called ''Damaged'' women who chase ''bad'' guys or whatever. I'm curious if there's a term for the opposite of this kind of woman. For example, is there a term describing a self-sufficient woman with no time for BS/a career, etc?I mean, c’mon, there are things wrong with being insecure….not a fatal flaw, but a flaw none the less. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 10:04 PM |
| 13 | Why is the physical act of cheating so devastating to men?That’s not just a man thing. My ex wife would have been completely fine if I cheated and no one knew about it, like, 100% no problem. I couldn’t lie about it though. Emotional cheating would’ve killed her….a drunken night of whatever, not so much (and no, she wasn’t the type to do that, but knew I was, so she kinda made peace that was who I was before we even got together) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/22 01:22 AM |
| 9 | Women who go for hot men and get pumped dumped and average men who get rejected by most women are the sameLike, isn’t being good for something better than good for nothing? Seriously, I’ve known enough women that are happy to be “pumped and dumped” even if they get the tingles and want more at the time, they are happy that at least got the rush than getting that stable, boring relationship. A lot of women would prefer a fun, exciting fling that they are left wanting more than to do some average dudes laundry and have to think about the exciting guy when they fuck just so she can cum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/22 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Sleeping with another man's girlWell, get into your 40’s with a dick that still works and muscles trolling bars and you’ll get to know that soon enough….more married women looking for fun than single at my age | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 04:01 AM |
| 0 | Sleeping with another man's girlNo shit. Being the good dick she craves while he is the domestic doofus is a pretty big turn on. At the end of the day, I personally wouldn’t do it for people who are dating without kids, my conscience wins out there, even though that’s still a turn on. Married with kids is different. I know what that means, I was there. I get that sometimes love dies, and your partner doesn’t care, that they actually are comfortable like that, prefer it even. Hell, I’d say 25%-50% like marriage to be like that.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 03:52 AM |
| 2 | who is this 'Chad' bogeyman guys have invented?Those would fall into the “non-traditional careers don’t get you much past your early 20’s unless you’re rich”….women past the age of 23 who are attracted to guys like that are seen as the same as the sad ass women who date criminals by other women their age….it’s supposed to be something you grow out of with the least bit of intelligence. Basically women who think those guys are sexy are seen as just as big of losers as those guys are by other women….it’s shamed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/22 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Do you consider yourself easy to attract? How easy is it for someone to pull you?For sex, I’m an easy pull, if the situation is right at least as long as you are the very low end of overweight to healthy weight. Underweight and obese is just not my thing. Also, don’t have crazy eyes and a really anxious personality, I’ve got no time for a girl who thinks I’m her future husband because I made you cum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/22 10:55 PM |
| 6 | who is this 'Chad' bogeyman guys have invented?So, I’m saying I don’t think passion is sexy. It’s attractive for a relationship, but not really for sex. Pro gamers and poker pros aren’t some sought after trait that gets people to invite you to their bed. Being really into anything and passionate doesn’t really help that. Sexy is sexy. To be the type of guy who women just want to have sex with, you have to be one of just a few things, the main ones are: Someone who acts/looks like having sex with them would be a really good time (attractive, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/22 05:01 PM |
| 9 | who is this 'Chad' bogeyman guys have invented?Dude, pro gamers ain’t pulling and I know some pro poker players, like actual names, the only reason they get any is if they’re rich. Playing poker all the time is actually a turn off, not on for most women. Athletes and actors are a different breed. Finance bros are probably not that far down the list after them (I’m one). Non-traditional careers don’t really get you much past your early 20’s unless you’re rich. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/22 04:19 PM |
| 5 | Have you seen any relationship that defies all reason?Definitely, many actually. I’d say the starkest one though was a high school relationship between a friend and his girl. He’s waste product. He went into the marines but I swear it was because he was a pansi, he was still a pansi after (a big pansi, but I slapped him out one night at a party because he always ran his mouth, as his friend). He was loud and obnoxious….I don’t mind that if someone is actually funny, no one finds him funny. He was big, but chubby in HS, got fit in the Marines, then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/22 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Is youth faking or fertility faking deception and unfair to men?Completely absurd, everyone can try to look as good or bad as they can….it ain’t their fault you want to fuck them, that’s on you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 10:23 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?Think what you think, don’t really give a shit….but you may want to read my words, instead of what you’re feeling I’m saying. None of this even discussed what I think about women or why they do it….these are studies that have produced data (hell, I don’t even really say why anything)…..I don’t like double standards though, and women are damn good at just defending other women online and being harsh on men (men are too, and if you look through my comment history, you will likely find some of thos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 10:12 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?Who said “all” please point out where I even inferred a “most”. 10% is a pretty significant chunk of people for anything. Flat out, women don’t care that I’ve tag teamed a girl, they don’t care that I’ve slept with a lot of women, if they like me, they will ignore that fact that I don’t hide about myself. Many men do care about it. The entire point of this conversation is in response to: It's so funny because his reason so obviously is that he wants to fuck people who'd never say yes if they kne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 09:41 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?I know maths is hard. Going from 20% sexless men to 30% is a 50% increase in sexless men. 30 is 50% higher than 20…. Like, seriously, do you need this spelled out this much. Young women are experiencing considerably less widespread sexlessness than men. They are not going long periods of time without a sexual partner at near the rate men are. This infers that they are having at least more stable sex than the median of young men. This could be for a lot of reasons, but it stands to reason women a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 09:33 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?Dude, never said it’s most but 10% of women and 18% of men have had a threesome or more….notice how that’s more men than women? It’s because most of these involve multiple men, and not multiple women. https://www.forbes.com/sites/zhanavrangalova/2017/09/20/one-in-seven-americans-has-had-a-threesome-one-in-five-finds-them-appealing-new-study-finds/amp/ I’d also call out….that study was a pretty even swath of ages 18+, so many have not had a threesome yet and if you just took people my age and lat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 09:21 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?I mean, if you don’t care about a peer reviewed study with near 1,000 participants that comes from the General Social Survey (the basis for most large scale sociological studies conducted). Especially when meta analysis has been talking about the reduction of sex overall for millennials and beyond for years now, then okay, but that means you think your preconceived beliefs are more accurate than the best data available….doesn’t seem very sensical to me. It especially seems nonsensical when there… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?Average, no, but have quite a few women had a MFM threesome, especially if they were the partying type? Yeah, I don’t think it’s nearly as uncommon as you think (I’ve done it multiple times). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 08:58 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?More women have a good amount of sex than young men. https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767066 30% of men vs 15% of women have no sex within a year between 18-24. Pure and simple, the men who are getting laid are getting laid from more women, and/or women are having sex with older men. Both young men and young women are having less sex and sexual partners than their counterparts 20 year ago, but this is affecting men more, as there has been a 50% increase in sexless me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 08:56 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?Actually, I don’t personally care, but every time that issue comes up, there are people who say “they don’t need to disclose that info”/“the past is the past” and I agree that you shouldn’t hide dealbreakers in a relationship. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to get into specifics, but letting it be known you had a “wild past” and “got around” is enough. I do think that when you’re sleeping around you should say something to the effect of “I’m not looking for anything serious”, but again, I don’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 08:44 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?Um, you realize the anti sex 30 something woman was often getting railed on the regular in her college days. Yeah, a lot of young women who are sexually adventurous teens/early 20’s become the I wait to have sex conservative “I hate fuckboys” woman in their late 20’s. This is so common it’s a trope. The pickme girl becomes matronly. It’s not that she’s into group sex, she was into partying and letting the night play out and one of those nights played out with her getting passed around. That’s ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 05:26 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?I would say the norm very much isn’t exclusivity being assumed, quite the opposite actually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 05:10 PM |
| 1 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?I mean, do you think a woman who makes a guy wait for sex has to disclose she used to give it up pretty easily? What about if a woman has been tag teamed/gang banged, she have to tell the sexually conservative guy she’s dating? I mean, he’d never say yes to a relationship if he knew. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 05:08 PM |
| 3 | If a man isn't interested in exclusivity/monogamy, how is he supposed to not get labelled a "jerk"?So, I guess, like, who the fuck cares what she or anyone else thinks? Why does everyone think someone disliking you, thinking you’re a jerk or an asshole matters? You know what someone who everyone thinks is a really nice person is? They are a loser. Getting what you want out of life means you’re going to piss some people off, because there isn’t enough of everything to go around. Now, that also doesn’t mean you should be a malicious, devious prick, it just means live up to your morals. You get … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Men need to stop expecting women to teach them to be good lovers.Then you haven’t slept with many women (or used toys, those work pretty well). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 01:24 PM |
| 9 | Men need to stop expecting women to teach them to be good lovers.You do understand how vastly different one woman to the other is, right? Look, I’ve been with a lot of women, and there is a basic playbook that works on about half the women I’ve been with….if they don’t fall into that they are unique. I’d say about 30-40 or so of the women I’ve been with were completely one of a kind with what needed to be don’t you get them to cum, from unique mood, to how to be touched/fucked. From needing to be choked to needing to only be softly caressed, from pile driver … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/22 01:05 PM |
| 13 | Is Billy Beta happy?It’s because as long as he keeps the money coming in, everything is kosher. The “money being the #1 reason for divorce” stat is bullshit, because if you’re in love with someone you don’t leave them over money. You have to not love them as a human and only love the life they provide to leave someone over that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/22 01:34 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Men that are tender and loving in the bedroom instead of rough and dominant are doomed to be mediocre, forgettable loversExactly, you have to be tender to gain the trust to unleash the beast….it’s both, soft touches that lead up to a hand around the throat, it skirts that edge of too rough and see that first flash of fear in her eyes, time to get sensual and caressing….only rough is a cruel asshole, only sensual and soft lacks passion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 11:54 PM |
| 34 | How to spot good women?So, the biggest indicator of someone being a good partner or not is admitting fault. If someone talks about their life, and every bad thing that’s happened just happened to them, instead of them including their own poor decision making as a part of that. If they talk about those small shitty things that happen in their day without acknowledging the part they played in making that happen. Well you’re probably dealing with someone who will blame you for situations that both of you played a part in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/22 01:50 PM |
| 7 | It’s a numbers game for men, but women don’t want to be treated like numbers?What the fuck are you on about, yes, desirable men still play the numbers game. The athlete who fucks a lot still casts a wide net, he’s just in much more attractive waters. He can’t tell the difference between the girl who wants to be at the cool party and the girl who is the cleat chaser and wants to fuck the big man on campus….so he pursues both. The highly desirable man still gets rejected and moves on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/22 11:36 PM |
| 3 | The dating market is so skewed against men these days because 18-35 women are in such high demand and 45+ women have mostly lost their interest in sex and datingDude, I sleep with a new woman about every month or two on average, I’m in my 40’s. Yeah, you gotta be social, but if you don’t realize these groups are their social circle, then I don’t know what to tell you. Yeah, they bang in their social circle, so get into that. Most women, unlike men are open to, and enjoy expanding their social circle their entire life. It’s why these types of groups usually have more women than men, and the women are usually the more social members of the group. Just be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 08:49 PM |
| 7 | Statistics put aside, based on anecdotal experience, which gender is more likely to commit infidelity all else being equal?All you have to do is look at lesbian, straight and gay male couple norms to see the differing effects of men and women on relationships. Gay men - 30% in open relationship, have the most sex in and out of relationship, have the largest lifetime variety of sexual encounters/partners. Lesbian - 4% open relationship, has least sexual partner lifetime, has lowest rate of sex while in relationship….over half of lesbian relationships over 10 years have sex less than once a month. Straight - 5% open r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Statistics put aside, based on anecdotal experience, which gender is more likely to commit infidelity all else being equal?I don’t think most men would cheat unless they are unhappy with the relationship. They don’t need an emotional connection with who they cheat with, but sexually unsatisfied is most certainly a valid issue with a relationship….I don’t think most sexually satisfied men would cheat even given the opportunity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 08:28 PM |
| 9 | Statistics put aside, based on anecdotal experience, which gender is more likely to commit infidelity all else being equal?In marriages, I think men cheat when there is an emotional problem as well, they just lack the skills and experience in articulating it. Men don’t speak the emotional language nearly as well as women, but feel the emotions just as much. They say things like “she (wife) shouldn’t care, it’s just sex she doesn’t have to have”….the married cheating dude usually says something like this….if any partner feels like your SO not sleeping with you is what they want, then there is and emotional issue in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 08:25 PM |
| 9 | The dating market is so skewed against men these days because 18-35 women are in such high demand and 45+ women have mostly lost their interest in sex and datingThis is why you opt out of this online world like so, so, so many women that are actually out living life. Online is fine for killing time debating in meaningless shit or seeing some funny shit…it’s absolute shit, like worst places in the world, for meeting humans that you want to physically interact with. Lots of women are out and about and not online dating, that’s why there are multiple men to every woman on dating sites. Where are all these women? Sports leagues, bars, hiking, social/athleti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/22 05:45 PM |
| 5 | Is it common for women to have been "Alpha widowed"? Do women have trouble "falling for" new men that havent met the standards of better looking or higher status men of thier past. Do these men have to "work harder" to make up for the failed comparison?Agree completely, dudes and ladies both do this. If the person you’re with isn’t as good overall, or in some areas you personally consider really important, that relationship is gonna have a bad time….nothing more to it. People can’t tie their life to close but not the best they’ve had. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Guys repress it when they hear about girls getting cheated onWhy the hell do you think guys cheat? Cheater guys and girls exist, like fuckboys and thots exist….but that’s early 20’s cheating. In the LTR world, the “most people their age are settling down” cheating, both the men and the women are cheating because of something lacking in the relationship and someone else coming into the picture to give that something if even for a night. For women that is often a more romantic something (guys do that too though), and men it’s more about not feeling desired … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/22 10:00 AM |
| 4 | Men and women, have you ever been the "Chad/Stacy" who she/he was cheating with? What are your feelings on it now?So, for me it matters. When I was young I wouldn’t do it, because the people I’d do it with had a better choice. However, since my divorce I’ve been the other (quite) a few times. The reality is marriage with kids can and often does make cheating the best option for the kids. You can scoff at that with you’re black and white thinking all you want, but the fact remains that a stable, kind, friendly 2 parent home is usually better than even a stable coparenting relationship. I personally wish I co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/22 03:39 PM |
| 9 | Is there truth in this - If a woman doesn't give you her body, she isn't interested in you?Look, all I can say is what I’ve seen, I don’t really trust people to be accurate narrators or their life, or honest (even with themselves) about their intentions….man or woman. In my experience, it matters, but the statement of: “I wasn’t interested in the guy I had sex with.” Is pretty much a load of bullshit most of the time. Yeah, they were interested in more, he wasn’t, so they took just sex because they were taking whatever they could get from him. It’s like a guy (not a “nice guy”) is fri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 02:59 PM |
| 16 | Social media has become too sexualizedExactly, young people were actually having sex back in the day, now they watch porn and contemplate acceptable behaviors, spending more time on their 2nd life (social media image) than their first. All this “connectivity” has isolated us. We have a portion of the younger generation that are flat out not properly socialized for IRL interactions, which includes sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Dating NormsIf anything hookup culture is on a major downswing amongst the younger generations from the late 00’s on. Don’t confuse the internet talking about it with it not existing. Mid-millennials and gen z have noticeably less sex and sexual partners than generations before them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 12:12 AM |
| 7 | The word incel has become meaningless, and is used as a knee-jerk response any time a woman doesn’t like something a man saysWhy don’t you add people to that, we men aren’t much better. Half the “no sex without relationship” just flat out can’t get an attractive woman to fuck them without a relationship and have backed into that belief structure, not chose it. Most people live then craft a narrative and belief structure to fit their lot in live and impulses, not the other way around. That isn’t unique to women, you just don’t want to fuck men, so you don’t see the other side. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/22 12:02 AM |
| 4 | Dating Market for the 40 and up crowd?It’s been good, especially if you keep your weight right and aged well. I have a more defined face now than I had in my 20’s (last time I was single) due to just natural aging pulling in the cheeks on my baby face, so I think I look as good if not better in the face, kept my hair as well, think my style is actually better now. I don’t have the body I had, but I think I’m further ahead of the competition as I have 25 years of weightlifting under my belt and am the strongest I’ve ever been. I miss… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 11:18 PM |
| 2 | What percent of women do you believe are willing to financially support their husbands permanently? and also how many of them are beautiful womenMan, I don’t disagree with you, but I’d almost pay to see you say this to the next friend you have that makes the decision to be a SAHM…..that is not what that community believes, not one bit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 10:09 PM |
| 1 | What are your favorite/top vets?Hilarious!! If you only knew. The cool kids run the show everywhere but tech (and they do pretty damn well there too). The prudes don’t get very far past individual contributor in this world, you want to run stuff, people gotta trust you to get the job done no matter what….that ain’t the rule followers. It’s people who take risk, and those people usually don’t mind a drink or other things…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 07:10 PM |
| 1 | What are your favorite/top vets?In comparison to moderate drinkers yes, but not as detrimental to being the type of person that would not drink at all. Fact remains, heavy drinkers live longer than non drinkers, why that is doesn’t change that. Honestly this interaction kinda shows why to an extent. Getting all nice and frothy over some dude on the internet saying they don’t trust non-drinkers kinda plays into my point. Antisocial tendencies for a social person are to be avoided like the plague, and not being willing to have a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 07:02 PM |
| 1 | What are your favorite/top vets?At the end of the day, those who make the choice to drink, live longer than those who don’t, that’s the fact. Doesn’t make alcohol less dangerous, it is dangerous, however there are both benefits and negatives. For the cancer risk, you get the heart benefits, from the brain damage you get increased cognitive abilities later in life and reduced risk of dementia. Scientists and medical professionals can’t figure out if overall, moderate drinking is a good or bad thing for overall health. Binge dri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 05:39 PM |
| 1 | What are your favorite/top vets?Here you go: https://nationalpost.com/news/heavy-drinkers-live-longer-than-non-drinkers-study-finds And blind drunk is from homemade alcohol that contains other contaminants: https://slate.com/technology/2012/12/blindness-treated-with-whiskey-can-you-really-lose-your-sight-from-drinking.html Flat out, alcohol isn’t what makes people live longer, it’s corollary, people who choose not to drink in a society that so much of the social fabric surrounds alcohol consumption usually have other issues, u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 04:59 PM |
| 0 | What are your favorite/top vets?I think I kind of explained why, but the stats play out on this one, people who don’t drink live shorter than even heavy drinkers and are less happy. Flat out, it’s tough to completely abstain from alcohol in this society, if you do there is a reason for it, the vast majority of those reasons I don’t want to deal with at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Beauty OverstimulationI mean, that’s not how most people view a ratings scale though. When a person says an 8 they don’t mean and 8 of 10 people, they mean it like how you score a gymnastics routine. An 8 is very good, rarely good, the olympians get them, but you’re standard gymnasts, not so much. My view and my friends have talked about this goes something like this: A 10 would likely be the most attractive woman of 1,000+ random adult women, you don’t see 10’s much IRL and a natural 10 is absolutely a rare find out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 01:51 AM |
| -1 | Do you feel like sex is a need? If not then why?I do fine man….definitely not my scene, nor would I be into a girl who did that. Sex without dating is my goal and I manage pretty well. Edit: also, just FYI, heavy petting means to finger bang or stroke a dick….know what you meant, but don’t want to see you use that in the wild under the wrong context. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel like sex is a need? If not then why?I like drugs, they just make me want to have good sex on drugs and make it even better. I’ve got no issue “toiling” away, I enjoy it actually, I like women, I’m extroverted, I love working out and partying, sex happens pretty naturally for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Do you feel like sex is a need? If not then why?First off, sexual frustration (aka aggression) isn’t a medical issue, I’m just not porn sick like so many that have been raised in this internet age. I like the real, and the fake just doesn’t do it for me. I need oxytocin not just dopamine to feel bliss because I had actual sex when discovering myself, not a screen, toy or my hand, you need a partner for the biggest benefits of that (both men and women). I don’t feel entitled, I can get sex as much as I need from willful people. Need is subject… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 04:44 PM |
| 5 | Would long term relationships flourish more if each person in the long term relationship deleted all their social media?You do realize that mid-millennial women and beyond have a lot less sex, and sex partners right? That’s just an established fact. If anything young women are prudes compared to women who came of age late 60’s to early 00’s. The bar concert hookup scene was lit….a lot more impulsive hookups happened back in the day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 03:53 PM |
| 6 | Do you feel like sex is a need? If not then why?What if you just don’t get those from masturbation? I don’t, I get very temporary relief of aggression and intrusive thoughts, not the feel good hormones. However, sex, or at least good sex, I actually feel good and get that bliss. Can’t get that alone, and that is flat out, by far, my favorite experience in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 01:40 PM |
| 1 | What are your favorite/top vets?I mean, a pretty significant number of women have pics with guys…..I guess I should assume they are doing the same thing….or they just like how they look in that picture (you realize a lot of guys have 0 selfies so the only pics they have are with their friends, right?) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe the saying “if I hit it once I can hit it twice statement?In a relationship the cheaters will still sleep with you, the non-cheaters won’t usually, at least if you ended on decent terms (and sometimes even if you didn’t). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 04:08 AM |
| 0 | What are your favorite/top vets?There are plenty, less than a third of American women identify as feminist. In my life off line, I run into way less than that in a pretty liberal city. Even amongst those who do, few who aren’t in college or recently out buy into the whole patriarchy theory, toxic masculinity, intersectionality and the complete abolishing of gender roles. And plenty of women are full on fuck the police, hell, there is definitely a strain of conservatives that are just as, if not more staunchly anti-cop than har… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 04:05 AM |
| 4 | Do you believe the saying “if I hit it once I can hit it twice statement?I mean, it’s of course not an every girl or every guy thing, but for me it’s proven true. I was broken up with one time in my life, and she came back two weeks later and I wound up marrying her. I had many hookups and FWB’s and all of those arrangements ended on my terms (some seemed mutual as they weren’t chasing me or anything). When I went through my divorce I slept with the only 2 women I still had some contact with that I had slept with in the past that were single….I was married for 15+ ye… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/22 12:13 AM |
| 1 | What are your favorite/top vets?For sex: the crazy eyes, drug addict, talks about her kids, likes super corpo pop music (I have a theory about these types being really boring in bed, as that has very much played out in my life). For relationships: All the above plus into Astrology, pro-cop, feminist or even talks about men/women in a “they are like x” type of way, complains a lot, doesn’t drink (I don’t trust anyone who doesn’t drink, and have had the worst relationship experiences with them, most I’ve run into who don’t are c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 09:49 PM |
| 2 | What are your favorite/top vets?What’s that last one about? Like a female friend in the photo? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 09:39 PM |
| -1 | Women CONSTANTLY reiterate the axiom that “the standards for men are at an all time low” and that “the bar is on the floor. ” This is not only total bullshit, but an enormous slap in the face to the vast majority of males who are good people, many of whom are attractive and successful.I’m a dude, and fuck yeah, the bar is on the floor with many of todays young men. Maybe not in the ways a lot of women complain about it, but it’s a sad state. Todays men are weak willed, whiny, entitled, crybabies who are more than happy to yell insults at each other over a head set, but would bend over and present their backside if faced with an actual physical threat. Most young men have lost their spine and believe their fear of conflict being masked as politeness is some fucking virtue. Men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/22 04:57 PM |
| 1 | The Dark Truth about the GameMatters on the age, I’m early 40’s, the women I hook up with 30+ are almost always married, the 20 somethings are usually single. 35+ I think all but 1 of them have been married. At a certain age the amount of married women open to a casual fling/FWB type relationship is much higher than single women. Single women that age are usually looking for a relationship and are scouring the dating apps. A guy they are attracted to chats them up but mentions he doesn’t live around there (my situation as I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 11:06 PM |
| 2 | men who believe that woman are "after their money" actually know deep down that they have nothing to bring to the table besides moneyI mean, that ain’t true, I actually think it just matters the culture you’re in. Like, most poor women who just need to marry a military career man are doing it because compared to the men around them, this one actually can have a career with a pension and some financial stability. Gold Diggers are women who are trying to ensure they date up financially, but that only matters for a few groups. These usually aren’t women going for the guys in the middle, it’s lower class to lower middle class (pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 10:58 PM |
| 6 | men who believe that woman are "after their money" actually know deep down that they have nothing to bring to the table besides moneyYou know, a lot of women tell poop jokes too right….honestly the raunchiest people I’ve ever met are mostly women. Look at the raunchiest comedians, like, many are women. They aren’t pick me girls either, they just have no damn scruples or filter because they can get away with a lot more than guys can. Sad to say, but they don’t like your type of personality, I imagine that your sensitivity is a lot of work for a partner, and that your friends are allowed breaks from it much more, as well as you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 10:29 PM |
| 1 | men who believe that woman are "after their money" actually know deep down that they have nothing to bring to the table besides moneyYeah, but if a good looking person is as smart or smarter than they are good looking, they get moved. If the people who know you still think your defining trait is being good looking, then aren’t as smart as you are good looking and visa versa. Plenty of brilliant and good looking women I’ve met I’d call one or the other, because one or the other is more striking after knowing them….very few are equal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/22 10:06 PM |
| 0 | This is a narrow minded place with people projecting their world experience on everyone elseI think you’re missing his point, the guys in this sub put “pussy on a pedestal”….as in, these guys just want to play with a pussy more than anything else. They think getting a pussy is the end all be all to life and are so very upset they can’t. Pussy is just a hole. It is. The person it’s attached to doesn’t have any intrinsic value to you until they prove that, just like any other human. Most men understand this, but the guys here give these people “special” value because of their pussy. The … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/22 11:38 PM |
| 5 | Do hormone levels determine if someone is dominant or not?Tomboy, athletic girls as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/22 02:49 PM |
| 2 | So... with Rowe vs Wade about to be over turned, will men with vasectomies be more desirable to women? Half joking... but kind of not.The procedure was easy, my scar sites though hurt when I had an erection for about a year or so. It wasn’t terrible but did make it hard to orgasm for a while. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/22 12:14 PM |
| 8 | So... with Rowe vs Wade about to be over turned, will men with vasectomies be more desirable to women? Half joking... but kind of not.I always drop I’m snipped when chatting with potentials (I have kids so saying “Doc made sure I can’t have any more” is a pretty easy thing to state) and for casuals, it’s a plus. If you’re a childfree, or done having kids dude, snip that shit. It can suck (I had pulling and pain around the incision points) but it’s worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/22 03:53 AM |
| 9 | Have any of you ever read about an instance of “forced to penetrate” female on male rape?I’ve gotten the “get me off or I’ll tell everyone you have a small dick” on one occasion. One of the worst sexual experiences of my life, she had me take her to my home, talking up how the sex would be. Then she admitted to being on her period and not wanting to have period sex. Then how she needed to get off, but I didn’t want to play with period pussy. Then how she’d blow me and then I’d get her off, but only did for like a minute and her jaw hurt so then she went with this blackmail stunt….wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/22 02:49 AM |
| 12 | When discussing dating, men are only thinking of a small subset of women, which is why they think that women have it easier in datingThose issues aren’t in comparison to men though, they are in comparison to white women. This is, as another poster discussed the biggest issue when related to marriage. This is a complex one as well, as black women and Asian men have the lowest views on interracial marriage and dating, as in, they don’t support it. Black women also have a pretty low will to get married when compared to other demographics of women….why? Well if you combine the two (against interracial marriage and not wanting to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 03:35 PM |
| 1 | How will the increasingly large education between the sexes affect dating in the future?I mean, cut teachers and nurses, two groups who pretty much already date blue collar, and the disparity between men and women with degrees drops significantly. Women are catching up on business degrees, still lag in tech, and have a lot more liberal arts (though there are a lot of men who couldn’t get into STEM or business school that have these degrees too, with no clue what to do with them). Honestly, if you’re a dude and aren’t getting a STEM of Business degree you should be heading to trade … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/22 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Q4M On a Scale of 1-10, how attractive does a woman have to be for you to approach?I’ll approach anyone who seems like they’d be interesting to talk to no matter if I’m attracted or not, this includes men as well. My personality is naturally somewhat flirty, so they can draw conclusions as they wish. Fuck OLD for the most part, have done the Tinder premium for cities I travel to, have had 2 almost hookups (what a load of decade old, 40+ lbs heavier than pics, bullshit those were), refuse to do again. 7 or 8 overall, but that’s on the 1 out of 100 is a 10, 4-5 is a 9, type of b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 11:46 PM |
| 20 | Alpha F*cks/Beta Bucks SituationsAbout half the women I’ve slept with in the 3 years since my divorce were married, most say “I’ve never cheated before”, I have major doubts on how truthful that was for most, but a couple I think it was true (situation and their behavior did not seem experienced at that). Some things I learned: Pure and simple married dudes, you need to have a hard dick. Not a squishy hard, but a hard hard dick, at least for more than the first minute or so. Your wife is gonna get sick of fucking a semi eventua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 05:18 PM |
| 1 | What are some popular opinions commonly held by people of your own gender here that you not share?You have to apply to the hot people swingers clubs, and they are picky (at least in my neck of the woods), ex and I gave a naked body shot along with filling out a whole application around kinks, consent, and basically signing an NDA to get in, there were zero fatties in there (we still didn’t play with others, but it was overall a pretty fun experience, though not really for us). There are plenty in that scene. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?Ha, many, many women like it. I’ve been with 4 women in the past 2 months that all began with a cold approach from late 20’s-40’s (airport, hotel bar, in line waiting for a table at lunch, sports league). I don’t “stalk” anyone, I talk to people and am friendly, I talk to people I’m attracted to and not attracted to, but by going through the trial and error as a young man, I know how to do this properly. How to understand the signs and know when someone actually is open to talk. Those young buck… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?Well aren’t you the dramatic one….”oh my god, someone…spoke to me!!! The horror, the horror!!” If you can’t deal with humans speaking to you, you are just too soft for this world…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?That’s why you don’t ever leave a documented trail of trying to smash till you have the go ahead to smash….my god, being the initiator isn’t meant for the age of documentation….it’s one of the many reasons why you young bastards who stay inside ain’t getting much good dick or pussy, that shit is much hotter if left for just the two of you, under the means of communication that are just for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?Me not having interest has done me well, their friends wanting to smash or giving the thumbs up on how the sex was hasn’t hurt either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 12:48 AM |
| 2 | What are some shortcuts guys can use to get better results with women?Then you didn’t learn very well from your mistakes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?I’d personally advise anyone who gets rejected by someone to stop wanting them, they are now an androgynous figure, move on to the next, the ball is in their court and you should never, ever make a move on that person again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?Nah, a woman doesn’t want to get with me and I friend zone her in my mind, she’s a dude now. Her friends are now who I want to get to know better in that way, and usually she becomes someone I tell my “who I’m fucking now” stories to since dudes aren’t really good to talk to with that. If she makes a move in the future is the only way we do anything and in my case, it’s always been just sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/22 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Do guys who have success with women really not give a fuck about attractive women they date?Man, I dumped, said no to sex, and on a couple of occasions I’m not proud of, ghosted very attractive women. Why? Because as attractive as they were they were not good enough in bed to put up with their personality or it got to the point I had to either date them or let them go. I get it, if you haven’t been with many or don’t get attention from women you find attractive, how doing this seems crazy. But I’m telling you, being with a 10 with a boring personality and is selfish in the sack gets ol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Are men really bad at over/underestimating a woman's interest?It’s also amazing how many women take your “hey, no problem, I misread the situation, how embarrassing” with a chuckle and then move on in stride without any pushiness or loss of confidence and begin to think. I’ve probably slept with half the women I got shot down by later on, with them being the initiator. Taking rejection in stride is flat out attractive. Edit: you can’t sit around and wait for them though, gotta get out there and pursue other women, and just be their friend, not their emotio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 07:20 PM |
| 2 | What other socially acceptable ways to pickup women?As someone who cold approaches and has a decent amount of success doing so, anyone who is at all decent at it will not throw lines or compliments at someone, they are just like anyone else who sees something and makes an amusing quip or starts a conversation. I’ll do it to men, and women I’m not attracted to, and I do have a social circle (but admittedly, I’m older and work a lot, my friends have their own lives as well). This is all cold approaching should look like, it looks like a friendly, a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Where is the bar?!I disagree with it being useless…I honestly think trying to make things logical and treating humans as logical actors who act and feel things purposefully is such a flawed thought it’s almost comical. People feel and do things due mostly to habit. Things outside of their pattern that give them a negative response is given a negative emotion and an aversion in behavior, we then assign these negative feelings words such as guilt or discomfort…when really they are the same thing, just interpreted a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 04:45 PM |
| 6 | Where is the bar?!Brain chemistry. Do you make her feel good when she’s with you? That’s pretty much it for everyone. Make someone feel good to be around you, they will want to be around you. Different people have different things that make the feel good, but it’s pretty easy to tell if you’re doing it right because they smile. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/22 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone actually jumped on a guys dick after he just pulls it out, a la Elon? One wonders why they think it has a chance in the first place. I can’t believe anyone is that stupid.Whenever I hear of a guy doing this type of stuff, especially a guy with a few coins. I always think he’s spent so much time with hookers, he’s convinced himself the hookers aren’t actual hookers, just normal everyday women in the wild. Because that type of behavior works with hookers, and pretty much hookers alone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/22 03:49 AM |
| 1 | How do guys pick which girls to go for if most girls kind of look the same?Look, I’m a good looking guy, I have a baseline for attractiveness that I’ll sleep with. If you cross this, I’ll have casual relations with you if your aren’t psycho vibes, or annoying af, if you are giving me the body language that you are digging me. There is little more attractive in a woman I’m moderately, or more attracted to than lusting after me. So that’s why I choose who I choose, if she’s giving me the signs that me, just being me, is turning her on, then I’m in. For dating, much, much… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/22 03:37 AM |
| 8 | Why are single women more likely to be happy being single then single men?Cross cultural meta analysis do exist. Regional a analysises with questions around religious upbringing do exist. Again, none show anything close to eAchother. Sexual practices of our closest primate relatives exist. Flat out, all male primates are significantly hornier than female primates. This includes humans. I don’t have an hour to dig this up, but a “cross cultural study on sex drives of men vs women” into google will give you the answers you seek. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/22 08:40 PM |
| 20 | Why are single women more likely to be happy being single then single men?How much evidence do you people fucking need? Every study shows by every metric men want more sex, think about sex more, are kinkier, masturbate more…. This is a fact, like yeah, not every man, but in the agro, this isn’t even a debate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/22 08:30 PM |
| 3 | women and men with obvious red flagsSo, what if I told you that TRP men’s view of what a red flag is, and what a bad guy is, isn’t what a woman, or at least many women think it is? A guy who dumps a girl or won’t commit is not a terrible guy for most women if he’s interesting, attractive, safe, and good in bed…. They would rather be with a man they are interested by for a short time than a man they are bored with for a long time….you know, because they are people, and on this one are not much different than men, and that’s how men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/22 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Men care about n-count:The MoratoriumI mean, yeah, it can totally be hidden. But if you are attractive and give off the vibes that you’ll fuck and won’t tell….well, you pick up certain things. Hoe girls are also the ones who know a girl is with a dog….but they don’t always say either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/22 02:47 AM |
| 2 | Men care about n-count:The MoratoriumOf course I miss some, but damn have I met many wives of friends/coworkers and went “that one is trouble”…..make comments to more square bear friends and then being like “nah, she’s a sweet heart” and that one is often trouble in the long run. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/22 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Men care about n-count:The MoratoriumYeah, dude above has got it wrong, a hoe can spot a hoe….the LTR dudes can’t pick them out, but dudes who get around can usually (not always of course) tell. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/22 12:50 AM |
| 4 | NY Post - Millennial men want 1950s housewives after they have kidsI’ll say this, and this isn’t everything, but this certainly is a common experience amongst men. The idea of shared parenting is usually the case in dual working relationships, until the child comes. You’d be hard pressed to find a man that hasn’t been criticized and occasionally outright shut down in how to raise a child, especially baby and toddlers. The division of labor is established early in a child’s life and women establish themselves as the one in charge in this arena more often then no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.Yeah, pretty much, just keeps you from being arrogant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.Whatever floats your boat, for me thinking everyone else is shit means no matter what, I’m pretty great in comparison and don’t have to lie to myself to get there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.It does, I think it would work for a lot of people who their current shit isn’t working for them….lots of unhappy “I’m great, everyone else is shit” and “I’m shit, everyone else is great” people running around and the “we’re all amazing people” just seem to be walking around with their head in the sand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 02:32 PM |
| 3 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.If you don’t understand there is confidence in “we all are equally worthless pieces of shit” then I just don’t know what to tell you. Understanding everyone fucks up, makes mistakes, so stop judging yourself so harshly or lying to yourself to craft some bullshit narrative to make yourself blameless in your mistakes, or judging others for things you do because you haven’t crafted that narrative for them is a freeing, confident thing that also keeps you from arrogance….and you know, it’s the truth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 02:04 PM |
| 5 | Why women talks about their previous experience ?No shit, who counts past 20 or so? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 09:20 AM |
| 5 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.That’s rich. You know why people choose to throw their life away on drugs right? To numb themselves to their own disappointing lives. They give a fuck, they give a fuck very much, but just about the drugs. In response to people doing this, you’re gonna spend your one time alive doing something that emotionally destroys most who do it. Have some social worker friends, and not a one of them gets to their 40’s without being so pumped full of drugs or so jaded they don’t feel feelings anymore, as th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 09:15 AM |
| 8 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.Who the fuck cares! What a useless question or thought….who cares about ideal. This is the fucking world we live in. I live here, you live here too, no matter how much you wish things were different, they aren’t. Im not a god, I don’t get to decide what this world is, best I can do is make good decisions…and even then, it may not work out, and that’s okay…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 04:43 AM |
| 8 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.Maybe if people understood, and reveled, in how little we all matter, instead of being disappointed they aren’t special (and realizing no one is)…..so many wouldn’t need help crafting the narrative of their life to fit their level of “acceptable”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.They kinda do. I mean, they notice the weight gain, and don’t like it….but men love to complain, especially older men, and they still want to fuck their fat wife enough to reach the base line of satisfied. It’s decently rare men leave without some big ass reason….usually they find someone else they fall in love with after getting treated poorly…which means it’s usually a more desirable man in some way. Men are definitely the more complacent gender. They love to complain (so do women) but they do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 02:46 AM |
| 3 | Men trying to self improve solely to increase their chances with dating is not a inherently bad thing.Why? Honestly? I ain’t special, you ain’t special…nobody is special. We are all equally worthless pieces of shit, some of us just better equipped to exist within this world we built, and it’s glorious and freeing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 02:36 AM |
| -2 | Women here constantly respond to every complaint by men with some variation of “women don’t owe you sex” or “sorry you can’t get your dick wet” and basically imply that sex is all that men want from women. This is obviously false and used to once again diminish our struggles.Lol….tell yourself whatever you need to. Most people are boring af. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Women here constantly respond to every complaint by men with some variation of “women don’t owe you sex” or “sorry you can’t get your dick wet” and basically imply that sex is all that men want from women. This is obviously false and used to once again diminish our struggles.You aren’t getting the point. When men are having trouble getting women, they are told it’s because they are boring, don’t have hobbies, don’t have exciting enough lives, exciting enough careers, don’t work out enough. They need to go out, do those things, hit the gym, make the money, be extroverted and then women will want them. And they are right, that is what men need to do to be wanted, and most men fall short of that. But men say that women don’t do any of those things, and they are still w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/22 12:21 AM |
| -5 | Women here constantly respond to every complaint by men with some variation of “women don’t owe you sex” or “sorry you can’t get your dick wet” and basically imply that sex is all that men want from women. This is obviously false and used to once again diminish our struggles.That’s the thing that I think is the issue. Most “Modern women” (I find that statement funny for some reason) don’t actually have much personality, or bring anything all that interesting to the table. They gossip about their friends, vent about what happened today at work, repeat the same ol’ tired ass shit they read on “enter social media site here”. They don’t have hobbies, or interests, or passions….they expect me to bring the entertaining life style and interests to them and listen to them v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 10:04 PM |
| 52 | Are men with high body counts more attractive?Exactly. I’m a high body count dude. My body count hurts me honestly, it’s unattractive…..but not unattractive enough to counter the things that are attractive, which got me the high body count, for most women. High body count doesn’t help, at all, other than the experience to act properly in situations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/22 05:06 AM |
| 2 | How many of you have actually dated/hooked up with someone that you don't find attractive?Yes, I have been wasted and horny and have taken what was throwing themself at me on a few occasions. Not proud of it, but was terribly horny and got the sex I needed at the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/22 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Most of the time when men react with frustration when women reject them it is because the woman is less attractive than them and has an inflated image, not because they are “entitled to sex.” Women react the same way when they don’t get what they feel they “deserve,” yet only one is shamed for it.Look, douche bags of both genders act entitled when rejected. I had a brick thrown through the back window of my car by a girl because I didn’t have sex with her (long story, she was a 10 and threw herself at me after years of me throwing myself at her when her long term thug, like fucking kill you type of thug, bf went to jail, I didn’t want to get into that mess, and she was very offended by my denial). Pure and simple, shitty people act shitty. No one should be a dick or mean or upset because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/22 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Is the gym obsession/fad making it difficult for average men and influencing women's opinions on how the average man should look?As we’ve become more sedentary in our work, we need to be more active in our free time. You have the office worker vs blue collar turned around. We are humans, we have a need to maintain our body’s to be healthy, and lifting weights for a man especially is a great way to do that. It balances out hormone levels out considerably better than cardio alone. We need muscle and blood flow and hormones to have both a healthy mind and body. Lifting also gives us victories, small achievable goals that inc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 04:48 PM |
| 4 | How many of you have seen the Madonna Whore Complex in action?I don’t know, if anything I’d say the opposite, it’s just framed completely differently for women as the whole “Madona and Whore” complex has been a trope since before women’s sexuality was seen as acceptable. I think most husbands are willing to fuck their wife like a little slut, he’ll want to….I think a lot of women aren’t. I haven’t heard too many women complaining their husband isn’t kinky enough in bed, but he was with those girls in college. However, the “she did all these sex acts with o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 04:35 PM |
| 3 | How many of you have seen the Madonna Whore Complex in action?Dude, this isn’t a guy thing, it’s a both sexes thing, just as big of a play for women as men. Most people can have different sex with casual sex partners than they can with long term committed partners. Why? Because a lot of people cannot compartmentalize. They cannot say “that was just sex” when someone they love calls them a “worthless whore”, even though being called a “worthless whore” turns them on. They can’t aggressively and without hesitation grab the woman they love around the neck or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 03:40 PM |
| 3 | Cold Approaches/online dating vs Dating women/men within existing social Networks, and why?Wtf, cold approaches have been around since being gay would get you killed. “Free love” and even the old sock hop days of Elvis involved cold approaching and even before that to the 20’s. Alcohol fueled pickup culture has been around a very long time, if not forever | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/22 12:42 PM |
| 0 | Men who “defend” women in comments on social media and virtue signal by shaming men are only doing it seeking validation and women’s favor, and women do not find this attractive at all despite what they sayEh, you can act feminine all you want….and those things do help some people, but don’t appear so publicly. Most women do give a shit with what others think, so even if they don’t agree with the social stigma on something, they usually aren’t willing to accept any. They also don’t mind a guy who only give them a side of themself to their partner, basically a private side for these types of things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 07:06 PM |
| 0 | Men who “defend” women in comments on social media and virtue signal by shaming men are only doing it seeking validation and women’s favor, and women do not find this attractive at all despite what they saySo, it’s the participation part that’s feminine. I agree you can have those things, but you can’t be very active. Social media is only for a few things: Attention seeking/showing off Complaining Support Arguing/expressing your views Connecting with friends Following current events (very poorly) Men can only use it for the last two and not lower their attractiveness, and both will appear as nearly inactive publicly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Men who “defend” women in comments on social media and virtue signal by shaming men are only doing it seeking validation and women’s favor, and women do not find this attractive at all despite what they sayStoic, strong, doesn’t give a fuck what anyone else thinks….so, when those people are arguing with people online, yeah they are being feminine (something I haven’t honestly seen Rogan do, mainly keeps that to his show)….I would also say Ben and Jordan are on the feminine side overall as well. They’re kinda pussy ass bitches who don’t really practice what they preach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 04:44 PM |
| 0 | Men who “defend” women in comments on social media and virtue signal by shaming men are only doing it seeking validation and women’s favor, and women do not find this attractive at all despite what they saySo, first off, participation in social media outright is feminine in nature, so mere participation in that is inherently unattractive to begin with. I would personally never let a woman know I even do this site, because talking to internet strangers is seen as “for the weak” to neutral, it’s never a positive unless you’re internet “famous” among a group that woman is a member to. I’ve had many women explain this to me after I tell them I have no FB, IG, Twitter or any of it. I have literally nev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 04:17 PM |
| 2 | What would a below average man/woman be?Add in social psych disorders, especially for men, those will put you down even if you have the other stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 02:24 PM |
| 3 | How do you filter f$$k boys, vet guys better for a LTR? Do you actively try to keep a relatively low body count? how?“Is some shit” as in, or it is very meaningful. May be different slang than you’re used to, but it’s only bad if referred to just plainly as “is shit” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 04:36 AM |
| 7 | How do you filter f$$k boys, vet guys better for a LTR? Do you actively try to keep a relatively low body count? how?6 is some shit ladies. Even the biggest fuckboy in the world will stay loyal for awesome. Seriously, these RP guys all complain about how much work it is to attract a woman. Well it’s all the same to keep a highly desirable man. Looks alone don’t do it, it’s the style, the interesting personality (have hobbies, skills, things to talk about a guy would like, and be funny), willingness to work. Yeah, a dude who is just happy to get with any woman who isn’t crazy and looks decent, fine, don’t put i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/22 02:31 AM |
| 2 | The dating scene is designed for the benefit of ambicious smart menBut look who those guys are screwing past the age of 20…..every guy i grew up with like that would fuck a warm sandwich. Yeah they bang 200+ women in their life, and a couple looked okay, most are just as gross as them though and are about as selective for who they fuck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 08:51 PM |
| 3 | The dating scene is designed for the benefit of ambicious smart menThe fun rich guys have hot ass wives. Guys who are in finance, sales/brokers, c-suite guys and win on personality…they also make a shitload more than most doctors and lawyers, my bosses bonus was 7 figures last year, and he isn’t even a c-suite guy. Can’t say I’ve seen to many men at my position or above that aren’t with 8+ women they haven’t been with since high school. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 08:46 PM |
| 2 | If you're fat, there's no point in complaining about not finding any thin girls to date.“Healthy” There is a lot of unhealthy body types being put on billboards lately. These aren’t the booty girls who are technically overweight with a big ass they went to the gym to get and eat with a purpose. They are putting the never been to a gym, “my workout is some cold yoga once a week”, and lunch is Burger King twice a week girls, with a pretty face up. That ain’t healthy. Moobs and beer guts aren’t healthy, and we don’t pretend that they are. Yeah, heroin thin isn’t healthy either, but it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 01:49 PM |
| 6 | If you're fat, there's no point in complaining about not finding any thin girls to date.Overweight bmi + muscle can usually pull. Skinny needs the jawline and artsy demeanor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 01:41 PM |
| 3 | If you're fat, there's no point in complaining about not finding any thin girls to date.Can confirm the overweight thing, I get bf% measured and am mid-teens….I’m just under obese BMI, my shape isn’t terribly rare in gym/physical job circles and a lot of women like my body type. I’d also say most flat stomach with a phat ass girl who works on that shit at the gym is going to be in the overweight category as well….and we love those women (my favorite body type personally). Obese is much, much tougher though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 01:38 PM |
| -2 | If you're fat, there's no point in complaining about not finding any thin girls to date.Not fat guys without drugs or super social personalities….and very rarely thin girls with nice faces. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 01:34 PM |
| 4 | Most men who don't have "success" with women are a-social. Lack of social skills is a far bigger hindrance than the aspect of looks.Online is not where you make friends and still not where most people getting laid find the people they have sex with. 2020 and early 2021 was a snapshot in time, things on the social front is back to in person being king for the vast majority of people. For that, looks somewhat matter, but it’s mostly the looks you can control, hygiene and style being the most important. From there it’s about being fun/interesting to be Around and a welcoming demeanor that abides by social norms, if you are, you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Scenerio: One of your close friends "My Husband is leaving! How could he do this?"They’ve done studies on this actually, ridicule is the most effective method of engendering change in someone….that’s not why we do it, as it’s just funny, and most of my friends will do or put up with anything for a laugh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Scenerio: One of your close friends "My Husband is leaving! How could he do this?"So for guys, it’s usually before they lose the wife. Many of us are pretty open when a friend is gaining weight to let them know, yeah, it’s noticeable….now if the friend does something about it or not, that’s up to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 04:41 AM |
| 5 | Scenerio: One of your close friends "My Husband is leaving! How could he do this?"Not really with my friends. Usually if one of us puts on a few lbs since last time we saw each other it’s “dude you fat as fuck” mixed with pinching his titties. Ex athletes, especially teammates are pretty brutal about that for life, we in our 40’s now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Is there ever a point when finding a sexual partner is easier for the average man than for the average woman?Thank you ≠ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Having "ulterior motives" isn't a bad thingI think the issue often is though that the two look and feel exactly the same, and many that are said to have had ulterior motives didn’t. The common, “once he got sex, he became uninterested” is often what I described, but is almost never described by women as anything but being used and lied to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Having "ulterior motives" isn't a bad thingI know this happens, but I do think a lot of times when this happens it’s a dude changing his mind, not having anterior motives, especially young dudes. I’ve had it happen so many damn times where I talk to a girl, she’s great, I’m really, really digging her, I’m thinking “yeah, relationship is gonna happen”, and then another side of her personality shows that is so counter to who I thought she was that I go, “oh shit, this isn’t going to work”. Guys don’t call it the “icks”, but it’s totally th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 07:57 PM |
| 3 | Is there ever a point when finding a sexual partner is easier for the average man than for the average woman?I’m early 40’s and that reality is still there. I’d actually say it’s a little better at my age since there are so many women who will just not sleep with a younger man and the big wave of divorces happen from early 30’s to early 40’s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 07:02 PM |
| 5 | Is there ever a point when finding a sexual partner is easier for the average man than for the average woman?OLD matches =|= sex. Like even women who want just sex need more than “looks good”, they do want to have a conversation usually. I’m early 40’s and feel like I have an easier time getting laid than my equivalent woman. I mean, if I want a woman to come over and just spread her legs without any mental foreplay, then I can always pay for it, so that’s pretty easy, but maybe not as easy as a woman who can literally walk into a bar and just dance up on a dude and go into the bathroom with him….but d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 06:56 PM |
| 5 | Is it fair to assume a lot of women are just like this?So, I don’t think all women are the same, but I do believe, in general, most women have a much harder time empathizing with a man than a woman or child. It’s odd as women see themselves as the caregivers of society and the more empathetic gender, but most adult men have seen very little empathy from any woman that wasn’t their mother. Even kind hearted wives and girlfriends who believe themselves to be empathetic don’t see the men in their lives as “needing” empathy (I was going to say deserving… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 06:35 PM |
| 0 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI always wonder what about just fucking? Like, I’m in my 40’s and right when I got divorced I hooked up with a couple early 20’s girls. It was just sex, end of the night bar hookups and then a few booty calls. I was against age gap and always had 25 as the youngest I’d go for, I couldn’t have ever seen myself dating either of these girls (they were ridiculously immature), but it was just sex, like, literally just sex (probably a combined hour of conversation before making out). A part of me stil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/22 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Do men understand how much pregnant women risk and sacrifice?I think there is a reason men and women are about the same pro-life/pro-choice, because if their wife/LTR is one, they switch their belief to that. Most men I know don’t really care all that much and pretty much concede to any woman they like on the issue. If they don’t like them, they disagree, if they like them, they agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Why cuckold porn is so popular among conservativesNah, that ain’t my jam, really any commercial porn honestly kinda sucks. Even amongst amateur, it’s a genre that actually has true self produced, unedited, often actual good sex with two people who want to fuck each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Why cuckold porn is so popular among conservativesI mean, a lot of it isn’t racial, like, most that I’ve seen. “Fuck friends wife” is my usual search. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Why cuckold porn is so popular among conservativesI mean, husband is usually the camera man, which is also the nice part of it, as a lot of that stuff is homemade with a cameraman, I’m not really in on the dude jerking off side of things. I mean, I do watch standard porn and think of that sometimes, it’s easier when she’s saying shit to her husband though, just kinda hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Why cuckold porn is so popular among conservativesSo, as a dude who has watched some cuckold porn….I don’t know about most, but my fantasy isn’t someone else fucking my girl, it’s I get off on fucking your wife better than you ever could. It’s hot to think about, it’s hot to do the couple of times I’ve done it….yeah, not everyone who watches that imagines themselves the husband, some of us see ourselves as the dude who’s fucking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 06:57 PM |
| 1 | single guys, do you spend time with girls you're not attracted to?When I was married no, but now, I have many women that I am physically and not attracted to that I consider platonic friends. Multiple colleagues whom I respect. The wives of my male friends who’ve grown into friends in their own rights. Hell, my ex’s best friend and I are individually friends. My physical attraction to these women don’t matter to the friendship, just because I would gladly have sex with some of these women under the right circumstances, doesn’t mean that the current circumstanc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 02:28 PM |
| 0 | Do men understand how much pregnant women risk and sacrifice?You realize that men and women are about, and always have been the same amount pro-life and pro-choice right? https://news.gallup.com/poll/245618/abortion-trends-gender.aspx And flat out, the issue of abortion isn’t that important to men in how they vote, but is very important to women: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2012/10/17/wide-gender-gap-on-importance-of-abortion-as-election-issue/ The big thing to take from this is that it is pro-life women that are being pandered to by these law c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Now that abortion rights are overturned, will you be more wary of casual sex?I’ve got a vasectomy….sucks for my kids, but my state hopefully won’t outlaw them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 03:14 AM |
| 6 | Women, what do you don't understand about men.I mean, I don’t honestly think this one is really any different than women. Men in groups are even the same as women, where we say we like the more consensus as it pertains to attraction, but then in action, we show our true colors….women do the same. Who knows why certain people are so attracted to certain body/face types. Some women are into effeminate male features, some strong….some men are into the big ass curvy, some the straight up chubby, some the skinny as a rail, some me are attracted … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 02:44 AM |
| 7 | Women, how do you like being approached/hit onIt may sound silly, but I’ve had multiple women literally use that word. You have no idea how much an “oh my god, me too” moment with a stranger makes people have a “this is meant to be” response. Literally everyone wants that feeling, everyone wants to have a conversation with someone they feel understands them, and that they understand you, even with just a hookup. You can only have that by putting yourself out there, stating things about yourself they may hate, things about you they may find … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 06:47 PM |
| 11 | Women, how do you like being approached/hit onSo, hearing this thread, people do not know how to cold approach. A cold approach should never feel anything more than someone who organically started a conversation. The woman should not be sure the guy is trying to hit on them, and should not know (they should think he likely is, but not know for certain) he is even interested in more than platonic conversation unless in an overtly hookup oriented location (1 am at the club, which is a whole different thing). Not until she gives signs (which c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/22 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Are men just not as attractive as women? Every time I see an “attractive man” I just see an average dude.A lot of women’s too, but I’m not saying they are all on the same guy, I’m saying some women are into some of those traits, just like there are dudes into the skinny athletic types and others want the big booty. We are all just trying to showcase what we have with how we dress to attract the people who are attracted to what we got. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 01:09 PM |
| 2 | Are men just not as attractive as women? Every time I see an “attractive man” I just see an average dude.It’s different for different girls tastes and guys bodies, just like women. Some with with a skinny butt are beloved by certain men, big ass by others, big boobs by others, we are all just trying to accentuate what we have to attract those who are attracted by that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 01:07 PM |
| 4 | Are men just not as attractive as women? Every time I see an “attractive man” I just see an average dude.Are you kidding me, I get fucking groped on a regular basis by women I haven’t even said a word to. Women most assuredly see nice arms as a shiny thing they want to touch | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 01:05 PM |
| 1 | The 80/20 doesn’t mean only 20% of men are having sex and relationships…it means 20% are having the interactions and relationships THEY WANT with womenIf you’re idea of women is they stop existing at 22 years old maybe, but once they get out of college and start doing things they want instead of to be socially accepted by the broader group….it changes, a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 01:03 PM |
| 16 | Most men nowadays are afraid of approach and ask women out because they fear that women will think men are stalking and sexually harassing themThe issue is, they guys who harass will still harass, it don’t matter to them, they don’t care what other dudes or you think….at all. Because 1 person taking them up on their offer is worth 1,000 turning them down and thinking they are a creep. Why? Because if 1 takes them up, they got 1 instead of 0. But, other men being in fear of being seen that way means they guys who don’t want to harass don’t even talk to you, have fear of you, and what do people that fear another group of people usually b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 02:28 AM |
| 15 | Most men nowadays are afraid of approach and ask women out because they fear that women will think men are stalking and sexually harassing themMost men who spend a lot of time on Reddit or any online source that is just fun fucking around. A lot of guys still don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks, and those guys are happier. Edit: by most men who spend a lot of time on Reddit I mean redditors aren’t really, as a group, the type to walk up to girls. Being ignorant to the online zeitgeist helps to be more willing to go up to women, since online you get pounded with the message women don’t like that and find men who even look at them in pu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 02:21 AM |
| 37 | Are men just not as attractive as women? Every time I see an “attractive man” I just see an average dude.Muscles, abs, the V shape, a big hog swinging around In sweatpants | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/22 01:22 AM |
| 4 | The 80/20 doesn’t mean only 20% of men are having sex and relationships…it means 20% are having the interactions and relationships THEY WANT with womenDude, I don’t think you know what women want if you think most women just want to get fucked. They want to be loved, and most women fall for dudes super damn easy once they get past that initial phase of deciding if they like someone or not (and guys become more fickle as they are quick to decide they want to sleep with someone, not as easy for them to commit). Women’s work/effort isn’t to attract a man, it’s to keep him around during the courting process, and faithful in the long run. This does… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 09:32 PM |
| 3 | The 80/20 doesn’t mean only 20% of men are having sex and relationships…it means 20% are having the interactions and relationships THEY WANT with womenI would say only 20% of people are having the sex and relationships they want, it’s not really limited to men. Most people aren’t all that great of partners, sexual or otherwise. The number of men and women who are flat out lazy lovers, lazy partners, and lazy in taking care of themselves is just very high especially the older we get (think we always are, just becomes more visible as we age). A whole lot of people want to have this life that we think we deserve without doing all these things to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 07:58 PM |
| 3 | The 80/20 doesn’t mean only 20% of men are having sex and relationships…it means 20% are having the interactions and relationships THEY WANT with womenLook, that’s pretty off in my experience of just watching people, because what constitutes top 5% is so vastly different from one woman to the next outside of the top .01% (rich, famous and gorgeous). Preference among women, even beautiful women is quite vast, with one woman thinking a particular guy is the most attractive man ever created and another of the same value thinking of him as completely unattractive. From superficial things such as race, jawline, muscle mass to prioritizing non-super… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/22 07:25 PM |
| 7 | What do small penis guys do?Like, it sucks, but sadly, them’s the breaks. I can almost guarantee that dude wasn’t packing average if she said it was 3” and she couldn’t feel anything when she’s the type to only get off from PIV. If you got a micro, it’s a disability, and that’s how it needs to be looked at. It’s something that needs to be overcome and takes a partner that is understanding, patient and willing to do things differently to accommodate without any feelings of their partner being less than. Basically, it takes … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | What do small penis guys do?Eh, I’m slightly above average and had a girl deny me PIV sex last year because I was too big (first time ever, in my 40’s, and I actually left with more of an ego boost than being disappointed about the sex). Girls who are shallow, don’t want guys who are going to be punching that cervix. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 08:51 PM |
| 3 | Women say most men are “awful,” toxic or undateable, or that “the bar is so low” which is such a joke. Most men worship the ground women walk on, even attractive ones, and women are ridiculously selective.Nah, abusive people find weak people, or they find each other. Many/most women see a hint of abuse and call it abuse, a flash of anger or emotional comment on their late teens/early 20’s. But many men and women go from one truly controlling POS to the next, rinse and repeat, and then they say men/women are scum, and throw in their chips. Sometimes they could have changed the thing about themselves that drew in these douchebags, sometimes they become abusers themselves, and often they just quit a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Dating in 30s as a woman?Stay off Tinder or POF, if you really want to find someone, anyone now go to the paid sites. But you’re good, matters if you want love of a good housemate/coparent….the whole love thing can be tough under a time crunch….that’s not your ages fault, that’s just a general problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 03:41 AM |
| 3 | Multiple American Surveys show common factors leading to divorce: Lack Of Commitment, Adultery, and Constant ArguingOh god, it’s because women usually care more about having a clean house, and men are more willing for it to be left dirtier. Her cleaning doesn’t make me feel good, she’s the one who wants it that clean. Yes, this is not an “every relationship” thing….but fuck, some people don’t like to receive oral sex either, doesn’t mean it’s not directionally accurate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Multiple American Surveys show common factors leading to divorce: Lack Of Commitment, Adultery, and Constant ArguingLook, I had surety, and we both grew apart. Had 8 years of bliss, another 5 of stability, but shit just changed. She changed, I changed and because we didn’t share our inner most thoughts often enough, that love just faded. Flat out, this love stuff is important, but it doesn’t just magically happen for most. Kids change things, I was the bad motherfucker when we met and I turned into the business dude with money, she was the free spirited hippy chick with dreds and loved weed who turned into th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 09:23 PM |
| 15 | Multiple American Surveys show common factors leading to divorce: Lack Of Commitment, Adultery, and Constant ArguingSex is just usually the first sign of these other issues, your husband/wife stops going down on you or doesn’t want to fuck you anymore…..there is a problem, and it isn’t sex, it’s a lack of the feeling of love. Sometimes that’s just because the other partner gets too familiar and excitement is what turns them on….often though it’s because couples stop sharing who they are, or never really knew how to fully open up to someone to begin with, so they grow apart without even realizing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 06:15 PM |
| 29 | Multiple American Surveys show common factors leading to divorce: Lack Of Commitment, Adultery, and Constant ArguingLook, reasons for divorce is the same as it’s always been, lifestyle incompatibility (alcohol/money issues), loss of feelings by one or both parties (adultery/lack of commitment/irreconcilable differences). Flat out, you want to stay married, don’t be a fuck up, get your money game going good and don’t do too many drugs. And keep your romance game tight, that means ladies blow your man, compliment him, give him a back rub every now and again…..men, help around the house, eat your wife out, take … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Do people genuinely think only women “hit the wall?”Most men want kids, full stop: https://amp.usatoday.com/amp/2427123 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2405661819300176 It’s down from where it was (90+%), but 70-80% of men want kids or wanted kids prior to having them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Men have almost zero opportunity to meet women unless it is organic or through mutual friends, coworkers or in the short window of time they are in college if they go. You can be the hottest guy in the room, but rarely is it fruitful if you approach. This shows men have it far worse than women.Then go to bars and clubs. Talk regardless, you’re going to suck at it, but practice helps…. I mean honestly, for a lot of people who look at things like this, this just basic social skills stuff, and you actually want to improve your chances with women, that’s what you have to work on, not PUA stuff, but, how to talk to people and make friends. They have literally countless books and classes on this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 02:32 PM |
| 3 | It's perfectly reasonable that women are horrified by men not wanting to raise children sired by another man, because cheating is an equal offense, but women are assigned disproportionately severe consequences compared to men.Kid is being punished by their father, not the guy who has no connection to them. Your point is like saying “hey, random dude over there, your a bad person for not being a father to this bun in the oven I got right here”…..like, there is no link the guy who got cheated on has to that child, not a single connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 03:10 AM |
| 5 | It's perfectly reasonable that women are horrified by men not wanting to raise children sired by another man, because cheating is an equal offense, but women are assigned disproportionately severe consequences compared to men.She should have chosen who she fucks better….too bad, so sad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Men have almost zero opportunity to meet women unless it is organic or through mutual friends, coworkers or in the short window of time they are in college if they go. You can be the hottest guy in the room, but rarely is it fruitful if you approach. This shows men have it far worse than women.You dudes who think like this just make me shake my head at how you’re throwing away years of your life thinking like this, and even worse go out, spread your defeatist attitude for other poor saps to latch onto and waste years of their life. Whatever, leaves more women for me I guess….but it’s just sad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 02:41 AM |
| 10 | Men have almost zero opportunity to meet women unless it is organic or through mutual friends, coworkers or in the short window of time they are in college if they go. You can be the hottest guy in the room, but rarely is it fruitful if you approach. This shows men have it far worse than women.Dude, if a woman has only fucked 30 guys by 25 she has denied most men offering only a hookup. That type of number comes to a moderately attractive woman who is looking for a relationship and is okay having sex with guys early on or is gullible and needy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 01:25 AM |
| 2 | Men have almost zero opportunity to meet women unless it is organic or through mutual friends, coworkers or in the short window of time they are in college if they go. You can be the hottest guy in the room, but rarely is it fruitful if you approach. This shows men have it far worse than women.Like what do you think happens? You walk up to a girl like it’s Middle School and just ask them out? That’s not how it works, you go up and talk to them, be quick and opportunistic, not predatory like your hunting this particular girl. Either put that energy out there in a situation that is designed to talk (bar/club) and wait for someone to be looking and strike up a conversation. Or take opportunities as they arise. The last girl I got a number from at a store literally dropped a pen out of he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 01:00 AM |
| 0 | Men have almost zero opportunity to meet women unless it is organic or through mutual friends, coworkers or in the short window of time they are in college if they go. You can be the hottest guy in the room, but rarely is it fruitful if you approach. This shows men have it far worse than women.You’re just flat out wrong man. Like, this isn’t something you bat 1.000 at, percentages are low, but yeah, you can get laid and meet women. Probably not going to happen when your life consists of going to a grocery store and work. But if you build a life that puts you in contact with women in social settings, guess what? If you’re outgoing, friendly, interesting and moderately attractive, you get laid. How do I know, because I get laid and I’m not some model looking dude. I meet these women at … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/22 11:14 PM |
| 2 | What are some dating hills that you will die on?If you suck in bed as a woman (in the eyes of the guy), you’re literally just a backup plan to a guy with options….at any point in the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 10:01 PM |
| 0 | Men are basically treated as an employee in relation to women, most of the time.Look, the issue from what I see is usually that men expect so little from themselves. Like I’m a dude, but we want pussy more than pussy wants us, so guess what? You gotta earn it. Now, for the rest, if you feel you have work to get women to want to be around you and be affectionate outside of sex? Well that’s a you problem….there isn’t a lot more men than women who want to be in a relationship. Yeah, a lot more dudes want to fuck, not be in a relationship. Women do bring things pretty routinely… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 06:01 PM |
| 6 | Our current culture undervalues "intellectual exchange" and I would argue friendships/relationships would last not only 100x longer, but everyone's social cues would improve dramaticallyPerfect. The most brilliant epiphany I ever had was realizing I’m not as smart as my ego believes I am. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 04:23 PM |
| 0 | People who say men aren't vulnerable/don't open up emotionally/aren't as good at expressing/processing their emotions: what are examples of what this would actually look like?Yeah, no shit, because when someone is double your size and strength expresses anger, it’s fucking scary. When someone half of your size and strength express anger, it’s not. Flat out, emotional men are dangerous to women. Emotional women can be dangerous to some men, but for many, not really. Most women would need a weapon to even hurt some men. Not to be insulting, but most angry women I’ve dealt with, even some that have tried to get violent, it was like dealing with an enraged child. Not exa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 02:11 PM |
| 0 | People who say men aren't vulnerable/don't open up emotionally/aren't as good at expressing/processing their emotions: what are examples of what this would actually look like?I don’t think most women want to see the expression of most mens emotions. Anger and frustration are like close if not the strongest male emotions. The guys who express these have a name, abusers. I almost never feel sadness, I feel frustration and anger. Someone does something I don’t like, I don’t feel sad, I feel pissed, at that person. I’m forced to be in a situation I don’t like, I feel frustration and anger at the situation. I can’t express this with another person unless it’s an MMA class… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 01:06 PM |
| 1 | paying for the first dateSo, I typed this and realized it’s long, it’s 4/20, plus bourbon….if ya want to read, cool, if not, that’s fine too. Don’t confuse not giving a shit about someone (my base feeling about anyone I don’t know) and their views, as anger towards them. I’m just stating my reality. I wouldn’t date someone who thinks like that. Just because I wouldn’t date her doesn’t mean I’m angry or think she’s a garbage person or something (at least no more worthless than any of the rest of us, and we are, this worl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 04:46 AM |
| 2 | Men and women’s looks decline at the same rate, men just idolize parts of mens appearance while also hyper-fixating on parts of woman’s appearanceI mean, the aging factors are different for men and women. Women do have more wrinkles due to their slightly thinner skin at younger age, especially women who don’t do a lot of skincare. Mens grey hair shows more because they dye it less. Men gain muscle mass and get stronger through their late twenties and thirties and hold it for the most part till their 50’s if they are active (and make no mistake, overall, being strong is an attractive trait for men) Men in the past however lived lives that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 03:40 AM |
| 1 | paying for the first dateWhatever, I’m gonna be me, you do you, that’s fine. For me, I want people who are a bit risk takers who live life, jump in feet first and see the good outcome and know they are plenty strong, smart, and/or resourceful to deal with the bad. Chances are I wouldn’t have had the connection IRL with someone who would think like you, and that’s just a difference of who we are, and is fine, because they way you’re laying out your thought process just isn’t the way people I date think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 02:46 AM |
| 1 | paying for the first dateYou must be the safer type than women I date, or I just meet women out and about so they feel like they’ve sized me up enough to feel comfortable….but I’ve never had any type of hesitation from a girl around going for a hike. If it was a first meeting I get that, but I don’t get why guys put any effort into OLD, it’s such a soul killer even if you’re more successful than average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 01:17 AM |
| 1 | paying for the first datePlenty of hiking trails are public…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 12:55 AM |
| 23 | What age do you think Men and Woman are at their most sexually attractive?25-35 year old women have always been the most physically attractive to me as a group. Was when I was 15 and still is now that I’m in my 40’s. Women outside of that can of course be gorgeous, and some women peak outside of that, but I think for most that’s when they look the most “like themselves” and it’s probably not just a woman thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 07:02 PM |
| 3 | paying for the first dateWhy the fuck are all you guys dating like this? Like, stop dating like that. Dinner and a movie is not a “get a girlfriend” activity, it’s a “with a girlfriend” activity. Getting a girlfriend shouldn’t involve many, if any activities that cost you money directly on someone else. We have texting now to have conversations around what we like, don’t like, and are looking for. The face to face meetings are all about chemistry, that’s it. Invite her for a hike, invite her out with your friends, maybe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 04:57 PM |
| 3 | What are the signs of attraction actually?“I’m a worthless piece of shit” isn’t the same as “we’re all worthless pieces of shit”….to both put others in a place that makes their opinion meaningless to you, and not put yourself as so much better than others (which stops being attractive to many women over a certain age)….it’s the view of both not giving a fuck, and not being arrogant, which is a fine line, but one that is very successful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 06:54 PM |
| 7 | What are the signs of attraction actually?Which is why guys who don’t give a fuck what others think of them will always do better in life. Not giving a fuck what people outside of your little circle of friends think of you is such an important thing for men especially, but for everyone really. I honestly think the current “we’re all equally important” mindset fucks with people, makes them think other people matter….the proper equitable mindset is “we are all equally worthless pieces of shit”, it will leave you much happier and ready to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 06:12 PM |
| 13 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.This is even off….at least if you put looks as the metric (unless you mean have casual sex like daily as a single guy but even hot women can only do that for a while as supply issues exist). You have to have charisma, that is more important. If you’re an unshakably confident and likable dude, you can have casual sex with women than look better than you, maybe only a couple FWB’s a year like that, but it happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 04:57 PM |
| 10 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.Dude, you don’t get it, physical attractiveness in men is pretty low down the list of factors for women to even have casual sex with a man. They say things like “big dick energy” which is not related to hotness or your dick size, it’s your personality, and that is immensely more important than the difference between a 5 and a 9. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 04:48 PM |
| 5 | Is "stealth wealth" a bad idea for someone who wants love?Disagree on the finance bros part, they are bros in nature, act like any other bro down, usually sports/competition obsessed dude….women like those dudes with or without money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 01:52 PM |
| 4 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?Not at all, hell, for me, those weren’t even necessarily great lovers I’ve had that with, as they didn’t always relate to the woman I was with, just durable enough to handle that much sex and I was just that horny that I went into seek and destroy mode. For me, the best sex is the most erotic/passionate/lustful. The lovers that made the mood of sex just so hot and we moved together without a hint of awkwardness or hesitation, especially those lovers you just both seem to know what the other need… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 01:44 AM |
| 2 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?Yup, brain dead lady is pretty damn fantastic….the tap out where she can’t even talk, that’s like the best as a dude. I will say, we dudes can have that too, at least some of us. For me it can’t be my first orgasm, don’t think it’s even been on my second, but if I go like three plus times and just stay on that edge for what feels like forever and cum, yeah, I’m a pile of absolute mush that is dead to the world for like 20 minutes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 01:31 AM |
| 3 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?I am not terribly concerned with being best, and wouldn’t want to be the biggest. I’m packing a slightly above average tool and the amount of women who I can either tell, or they overtly state they are very happy when they first see/feel it is a very high percentage. Any guy that is in the 5”-6.9” range with decent girth should feel the same way, it’s the sizes that work for the most women. I used to be self conscious about this and want to slap my younger self for my own stupidity. Yes, there a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 01:23 AM |
| 2 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?As a dude, that’s how I’ve always viewed sex and assumed it was the same for most women, maybe a few other tiers, like terrible, fine, good, amazing. I used to have this ex that became a close friend who we would just say “he/she’s got socks” when we’d get with someone new who was really good in bed (we got weird at first when talking about sex with others so it was a way to get around that yet still express we really liked this other person as that was very important to both of us on a relation… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 01:07 AM |
| 1 | For people who have partaken in threesomes/foursomes; would you date someone who has also had that experience in their past?Cool with it, but I’m cool with a lot of relationship types and don’t know if I’m ever going to want anything serious again, so it’s hard for me to say if it was someone I saw as permanent, I’m just too far away from thinking of anyone as permanent at my stage of life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 01:02 AM |
| 6 | For people who have partaken in threesomes/foursomes; would you date someone who has also had that experience in their past?This is the normies? God, I’d hate to see those places, this place often feels full of judgmental stick in the muds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 01:00 AM |
| 4 | For people who have partaken in threesomes/foursomes; would you date someone who has also had that experience in their past?I mean, the sub does have 100k members and a lot of active ones, and asked a question specifically about this, I’m sure there are some lies, but threesomes are really common, especially the older you get….I remember my ex and I having drinks with a group of friends, all married, and the topic came up, most of us had done it in the marriage….we originally met each other through our kid dance class (moved past that and were just friends by this time) and were mostly upper middle class professional… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 12:59 AM |
| 2 | What constitutes a 'bad boy'? A lot of posts have been about bad boys recently.That’s bullshit, I literally slept with a girl last Thursday and Friday I met in an airport bar Thursday. Slept with a girl multiple times last month I met in a bar. Still sleep with a girl I met in a bar in November. Met multiple women last summer in bars for my volleyball league….Christ man, I get why occasionally 20 something women are open to going home with 40 something me if your mentality is that there are no women going home with guys there, they are, and they want to have the “connectio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 06:36 PM |
| 2 | If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship.Oh go bugger off, I’m sure you’ve said or thought some shit you don’t actually think when you’ve been frustrated/angry….we’re human, we do that. We get into heightened emotional states, and think things we don’t normally think, and that subreddit is specifically for expressing yourself in those moments so you can calm the fuck down. Good lord, don’t judge others at their worst and excuse yourself for the same behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 04:48 PM |
| 3 | If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship.He sounds like a frustrated person who is venting on a subreddit that is for frustrated people to vent to a bunch of strangers instead of unleash that onto the person who is frustrating you. That’s literally what the subreddit is intended to provide to posters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 03:48 PM |
| 14 | If a husband claims “Ever since we had a kid, my wife cares less about me”, he’s automatically the problem in the relationship.People aren’t saying the kids existence is the problem….the problem is her reaction to a child. The kids are blameless. She is not. Explanations are not excuses, why do people think they are. The fault of any individuals actions is their own, it’s not the situations fault. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 01:03 PM |
| 3 | What constitutes a 'bad boy'? A lot of posts have been about bad boys recently.Same, grew up like that. I got married and divorced after 15+ years, grew up, got successful during that marriage, but still like to have fun, just more controlled, and amazingly (it was surprising to me at least), I still do what I did from a sleeping around perspective now. It doesn’t have shit to do with getting successful (in dating it matters, not hooking up) and it’s like I don’t really try that hard. No idea why, but that lifestyle teaches you how to hookup and just find women. I’m not te… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/22 03:37 AM |
| 3 | Do women realize how little maintenance men need to be statistically faithful?That’s bullshit man, like complete bullshit. Yeah, if your just trying to fuck, but many if not most men are pretty damn romantic, want love, and to love the person they are with. They may be more focused on solving issues instead of discussing how they feel about them, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t listening, or don’t care, just a difference in communication styles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:04 PM |
| 12 | Do women realize how little maintenance men need to be statistically faithful?Matters the cheater. If someone is faithful for 10 years and begins cheating (pretty much the only cheating I’ve seen at my stage of life) they aren’t doing it due to an impulsive pull towards it, they aren’t a habitual cheater that will cheat under any circumstance. It’s almost always a problem with the relationship (or at least a problem to them, their partner doesn’t always see it as an issue) and usually it’s a problem you can’t predict until you get 7-15 years into the relationship. If ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/22 01:00 PM |
| 7 | women (and guys) are you currently leading someone on that you don't have feelings for? if so, why? be honest this is reddit.I don’t think I’ve ever done that, but I know there are women from my younger days that felt I did. I don’t understand how people believe you led them on when you say you don’t want a relationship….like sex doesn’t mean it’s leading to a relationship, intimacy doesn’t mean it’s leading to a relationship, especially when someone says, right off the bat, they don’t want a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/22 01:37 PM |
| 17 | Having options as a man makes you more attractive to woman.Well, yes. Most of human wants get boiled down to a few buckets, addictions/impulses, internal drivers/needs (food/shelter), logical (long thought out decisions), and memetic…..and the last one is a big one. Memetic desire/wants. People want what other people have/want. They see someone happy, so they want what that person they think is happy has and wants. All primates and most mammals in general do this. And in dating, and even sex, it’s big. I’m not married anymore (and sex isn’t the reason i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/22 08:26 PM |
| 3 | will there ever come a time again where the dating world will favor men again?The issue is many men don’t expect the women they marry to be a functioning adult today, hell, many prefer they aren’t. They want them to have little social life, keep the house in order….basically be a nanny, maid and whore….all jobs a robot can handle. Leader, provider, decider are not roles a robot is going to fill….and many women want that in a man…..pretty much every woman I’ve dated was looking for that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/22 01:21 AM |
| 1 | will there ever come a time again where the dating world will favor men again?They don’t bring home money and provide assets to raise children though…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/22 01:11 AM |
| 1 | The average young man is boring, easily manipulated, and desperate, and this is why they can't get a ladyHow are these men deemed average….. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/22 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Women absolutely are not attracted to nice guys, and men expressing their understandable frustration with the dishonesty of them saying they do is met with shaming and attempts to silence them. This is the foundation of TRP.Did men respect or fear him? Was his voice listened to? If yes, he’s a winner | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 06:14 PM |
| 80 | Women absolutely are not attracted to nice guys, and men expressing their understandable frustration with the dishonesty of them saying they do is met with shaming and attempts to silence them. This is the foundation of TRP.Look, to the loser the winner always looks like an asshole…. Women like guys to be nice, but you’ve got to be a winner first and foremost. If you win, if you are the type other men acquiesce to, that other men respect and acknowledge, who other men quiet down when you talk, you’ll do fine as a nice guy or an asshole. Women see that shit, big time. They do not want to be with a man that other men don’t respect or at the very least fear. And being with a winner is immensely more important/attracti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 04:33 PM |
| 2 | The three date rule exists for a reason.Yes, I definitely cover all of the easy to see dealbreakers in the first 3 dates, hell, it’s often covered before the first date. Religion, politics, marriage history, kids, what they do for fun, high level dating history, etc….that’s known ahead, why go out with someone with low hanging fruit dealbreakers. You also will have a good idea on chemistry and sense of humor by then. So what’s left? How they live their life on a day to day basis. How they treat those they love. What are their internal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 04:09 PM |
| 2 | The three date rule exists for a reason.I mean, for me, 3 dates is enough to get to the point I’m not going to learn more of the important stuff without sex. I’m going to know their sense of humor, goals, political beliefs, important hobbies/interests, and main moral basis by then. The missing view is situations as partners which only comes with a long term view and all that stuff that is only seen when vulnerable and naked together. That isn’t just sex either, a lot of it happens right after or before sex, that pillow talk is importa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 01:12 PM |
| 6 | The three date rule exists for a reason.I mean what do you mean by recently? Yeah, when women were married by 18 to some older dude that their family pushed her towards, yeah, they were virgins. If you mean over the past 60 years, no, women had a lot more premarital sex than they do today (and both men and women cheated a whole lot more). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 01:03 PM |
| 2 | How would you describe a guy who will not want to settle down with a woman who has "had her fun"?Well, I was admittedly intoxicated…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 12:12 PM |
| 1 | How would you describe a guy who will not want to settle down with a woman who has "had her fun"?Not at all, just don’t reject me when I want a relationship and then think you can come back and get my original offer. Yeah, I’ll probably give you some attention, and all, but relationship is gonna be off the table, at least unless the chemistry and spark are something I’m willing to knowingly be stupid about. Which by my age, I haven’t come across that in a very, very long time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 03:58 AM |
| 1 | How would you describe a guy who will not want to settle down with a woman who has "had her fun"?Not really mate…..I may get more harsh in the evenings when I’m drinking and alone…..but this is my life, and experiences. Just waiting for the weather to turn in the north to live my life out and about instead of so much online. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 03:55 AM |
| 1 | How would you describe a guy who will not want to settle down with a woman who has "had her fun"?Who tf cares about systemic injustices? We are talking about how individuals should deal with situations so that they can be happy in life….we all out for ourselves when it comes to these type of situations. You want to do broad good, go volunteer for some shit….don’t light yourself on fire to warm someone else up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 03:51 AM |
| 3 | How would you describe a guy who will not want to settle down with a woman who has "had her fun"?Wtf? Like, anyone rejects you then comes sniffing around, they are just fodder to be used and discarded, or ignored. Like, do people not respect themself? If you get rejected by someone, fuck them. Move on, if they come back, don’t get mad, get even. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 03:13 AM |
| 2 | Alpha-Bux, the male unicorn, myth or rare?What the fuck are you thinking…..people have different things they are attracted to, and find unattractive. Like, do you honestly think people don’t have preferences? Look, there are entire genres of porn out there and people who flat out only are attracted to certain body types,…and yes, women fall into this as well, and those body types are across the board. In the case of Chris Pratt, there is an entire section of the internet dedicated to his former dad bod, because he’s seen as being the ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Be honest, would you date the equivalent to yourself?Yup….not sure I’d want to marry me, but I’m definitely worth spending some time on and keeping in touch with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/22 04:52 AM |
| 6 | Are women lying about body count (Post to end all Count topics)No they don’t! What do you think the average body count a Miami fuckboy would tell a camera? What, 50, 75-100? Like, dude, I’m in my 40’s in the upper Midwest, and in my 20’s, my “godly” friends had body counts in the 20’s. My players had body counts in the triple digits and I believed us to be normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/22 04:58 AM |
| 9 | Approximately 75% of college aged women who've hooked up have regrets about itI’m a dude, I’d fall under the “some regret” category, and I fucking love casual sex….this is pretty meaningless. The only question to ask is “Do you regret having casual sex overall?” The answer will likely be no for most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 08:18 PM |
| 3 | Alpha-Bux, the male unicorn, myth or rare?I mean, didn’t seem like Anna thought “physical ideal” was actually ideal for her (she was pretty vocal prior to their divorce that she didn’t like his body like that, and was much more attracted to him chunky). I mean we don’t know what happened behind closed doors, but that shit seemed a lot more about religion and diverging belief structures than anything about losing weight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 07:29 PM |
| 5 | Alpha-Bux, the male unicorn, myth or rare?Eh, where you start still matters, those things certainly help, but met many tall good looking white guys who were so fucked by their upbringing that they didn’t have a chance. Got a lot of sex from 15 - 23 or so, then pushed by the wayside as that screwed up beginning made itself immensely apparent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 07:23 PM |
| 30 | Women, how often have you run into micro vs bigger dicks?I’ve always been 7-8 inches when a girl is dating me, and then magically 4” when I break up with them….it’s amazing how dumping someone take 3” off your dick size. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Women, how often have you run into micro vs bigger dicks?My father and grandfather both got circumcised as adults….it happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 04:14 PM |
| 1 | In what situation is it ok/ not ok for your partner to have friends of the opposite sex (or whatever they’re attracted to)So for me, I trust my instincts. The only time I was cheated on, I had no proof, but I knew it right when I saw her the next time. I also knew the guy was no friend of our relationship. When I was married, there were guys I didn’t care about and others I did….so it mattered. I was/am good at reading people. So for me, it isn’t too easy to define. Basically, im cool with opposite sex friends when I feel confident about that friends intentions and my partners attraction to them being non-existent.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/22 01:48 AM |
| 1 | If women find you funny, it usually DOESN'T mean they're attractedI mean, I guess speak for yourself…..does matter if they laugh at unfunny stuff. Like, if it ain’t funny and she’s laughing, in my experience, she is digging me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/22 01:43 AM |
| 2 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.We can discuss our history and acknowledge the realities of the past. We can discuss the way those histories have affected the reality of today. Time is the only response to this. There is no quick answer, there is only allowing existing cultures based around these histories to gradually, and slowly erode. Anything that holds these histories linked to the cultures of today, to identify ourselves as part of these is the enemy. Liberalism. I am a proud liberal, based on the tenants liberalism laid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 04:18 AM |
| 2 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.Dude, I’m a fucking history major (quite a few years since…) No, we are looking at things in a way today that is either going to destroy us, or will be panned going forward. There is no solve in the way we view things today….that’s the issue. There is no monumental legislation, there is no solve for these issues, nothing around what we are talking about has a solve. Screaming patriarchy and white supremacy isn’t a solve, they are issues, yes, but a diagnosis doesn’t mean shit if you don’t have a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:38 AM |
| 2 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.Look, I don’t watch Fox, I hate Fox, but 10 years ago as a member of the left (I mean, I fucking still, to this day love Obama, like, immensely love him, I’ve read his books, and they are so, so the way I think)….I could’ve told you everything that has happened on the right. And told you how fucking stupid, and idiotic the left was, my side. We are slightly better, we aren’t good though, being less smelly than shit doesn’t mean we smell good, or even okay. If my side wants to make race and sex a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:13 AM |
| 2 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.Nah, I just don’t date bigots. I don’t want to be around people who extrapolate their own poor experiences with a group to be emblematic of that group. I’ve had shitty experiences, violent experiences that left me in the hospital, and I don’t blame the groups who perpetrated those events (and yeah, I’m mad that not a single person was arrested for these events). I do think those are terrible things you mentioned, they suck, I don’t think they are things that should get extrapolated across groups… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 03:00 AM |
| -3 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.I mean, are you actually arguing that you’ll only date a man that is cool with you hating men? Like, is that actually what you’re saying….that not hating men is a moderate stance, and that’s why you won’t date one….I don’t think any moderates are sad about that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 12:57 AM |
| 5 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.Are you actually telling me that there aren’t lefties who spend a pretty good amount of their time talking about how terrible white men, or men in general are? Like, are you blind that’s a contingency? If you talk about and think a certain group of people are worse than other groups of people, you’re a bigot. If you need someone of a particular group to prove to not fit the stereotypes of their group to be proven to be “one of the good ones”….you’re a bigot. There are bigots all over the place, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 12:54 AM |
| 3 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.You know there are plenty of people out there (vast majority are white actually) who just have a whole lotta hate for white men, or just men in general….and it’s pretty damn socially acceptable in certain circles. I mean, I don’t want to be with a bigoted person, especially not someone bigoted to me….I’d tell anyone to do the same. I mean, you want to be with someone who spends their time talking about how bad women, or women of your specific identity is? Of course not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 12:27 AM |
| 1 | How big of a deal is it, dating someone who has different political beliefs than you do? Are relationships better when both people are on the same page, politically? Or do political differences make for more interesting interactions? Just curious what people think.You can be those things and be moderate of either side, yeah, a staunch conservative would be a problem, but moderate would be tough unless you’re the “I think white males are the worst thing to ever happen to the world, so the only white males I’ll date are the ones who self flagellate” type of left winger….moderates can usually be fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 12:04 AM |
| 8 | Men are way hornier than women, and this is the root cause of almost all dating/gender relations problems and everything being discussed hereYou’re basically arguing against your own side. The fact they need to be properly turned on and that isn’t their base state in life, is evidence of how much hornier men are. Men with low libidos can be horny and turned on under the right circumstances, they are low libido because they need those circumstances to be turned on. High libido is merely needing less external stimuli to be horny and aroused, it’s needing almost none for those very high libido. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/22 06:01 PM |
| 5 | It’s simp behavior for both men and women to take back a cheating spouseI didn’t cheat, I knew I couldn’t live with the secrets….I’m saying I wish I could have, it would have been better for my kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/22 02:50 AM |
| 2 | It’s simp behavior for both men and women to take back a cheating spouseBut, you are totally making assumptions that people who stay after cheating will almost always tell you isn’t the case. There are a ton of “failed marriages” (marriages that cheating occurred) that have more love and are healthier than a ton of “successful marriages” that have 2 calm stable, loveless people who are both deeply unfulfilled and dissatisfied with their relationship, but just stay and waste their one chance at life. Pure and simple, a lot of people have infidelity and are fine, hell… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/22 01:55 AM |
| 0 | It’s simp behavior for both men and women to take back a cheating spouseI think that’s easier to say when that leaving doesn’t hurt your kids. I’m divorced, pretty much for this reason, she couldn’t even comprehend my needs as she just didn’t have the energy to keep romance as a part of her life (almost 3 years out, and she still doesn’t comprehend it, she did before kids, but not anymore). I tried for years to change my needs so I didn’t either cheat or put my kids through a divorce. Personally, I can’t live a lie, and coming to the realization I couldn’t cheat and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/22 12:36 AM |
| 6 | It’s simp behavior for both men and women to take back a cheating spouseExactly, it also feels a whole lot different to be cheated on by a partner who’s been declaring their needs/displeasure, often for years, without change of the other partner. When you know you didn’t hold up your end of the donkey, you don’t feel as “cheated” as you know you had the power to stop it. As an old guy, almost all of the cheating I’ve witnessed in my friend group was this (some colleagues are just habitual cheaters though). The cheating partner was unhappy enough so that even us in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/22 10:24 PM |
| 4 | Sex life of a high value man?Looks and status help but above all else I hear more often than not how pleasant and a pleasure I am to be around and a connect with as a person As a guy who is creeping close to triple digit territory (I’m in my 40’s, but have about 18 years with one woman which ended a few years ago). I’m not overtly great looking, I do well financially now, but when I racked up most I was poor. Being fun is everything, it’s literally everything. If time spent with you is especially enjoyable, you’ll get laid,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/22 03:52 AM |
| 3 | A high "N count" woman is probably going to appreciate a man who is a good lover, more than a low N count woman will.....This is hilarious! Do you listen to what men want in how to get what you want? Like seriously, please, tell me how often you or women as a whole give credence to men who tell women how to be a woman. I’ll say that men should listen to what women say they want from them when you believe women should listen to what men say they want from women…. Neither side is being honest with themselves. Men and women both excuse themselves, and won’t admit their own actual desires in how to be in a relationshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/22 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Standards and dating strategy is dependent on the person's libido.Well then, I got news for you, I don’t think you ever had all that high of a libido. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/22 11:23 PM |
| 1 | pumping and dumping male vs femaleWell then you got yourself an answer and you know the score | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/22 05:47 PM |
| 5 | pumping and dumping male vs femaleI mean, I don’t even think that, I think that it happens, but why does a man have to bring a relationship up? Like, that’s not his sole responsibility, that’s on both people. If you want to know where a guy stands and he isn’t being forthcoming, well, if you don’t ask directly, then your assumptions are your fault. If a guy lies, well that’s on him. But in this case, where you aren’t in a relationship, and don’t bring it up, well, that’s on you for not requiring the information. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/22 05:30 PM |
| 17 | “Lower you standard”, is the worst possible advice a person can get, when it comes to datingExactly, hearing some peoples “standards” it’s like “ain’t none of that shit going to make you happy, agreeing on how to spend a Wednesday evening and having good conversational chemistry is 100 times more important than any of that stuff”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/22 03:24 PM |
| 1 | How much can young people having less sex be attributed to porn?Men are statically more horny (by literally every metric), they have a higher need to fuck than women. More women can hold out for what they want and not be hampered with a drive to “fuck at all costs” due to frustration that many men get to when faced with a sexless month/year. Many women go years without sex and will consider them good years, not nearly as many men will do that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/22 03:57 AM |
| 2 | Have any men here been a beta bux and if so how did it go?I mean, what if you still fuck a lot on work trips behind her back……like half the dudes I work with do that (about 15% of the guys in my job are ex notable college athlete or washed out pro). They are paying the wife, perfect angel at home, but they seriously cheat like crazy…..is that a “beta bux” in the weird way you see the world? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/22 10:46 PM |
| 21 | How much can young people having less sex be attributed to porn?It’s kinda true, but not in how most people say it. Young people, especially young men are fatter, less active, more tied to dopamine response engines (video games, social media, porn), and are flat out less socialized with IRL interactions. The general term “lifestyle changes” is the main reason for this drop in sex (which also correlates to drops in testosterone and increases in depression). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/22 06:00 PM |
| 14 | Women do care about about male body count.Look, the analogue to slut shaming is fuckboy shaming, but dudes don’t don’t shame fuckboys, so they don’t care. Women who are themselves categorized as “sluts” like fuckboys, but the rest of women don’t, at all. They consider them either skeevy or predators, so no, they aren’t liked by women. The only reason slut shaming matters and is such a sensitive subject is because it’s a low hanging fruit insult in adolescence that people of both sexes hurl when trying to hurt in high school and college.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Study shows needy girlfriends really area turn-off, but the same can't be said for clingy boyfriendsThe study he referenced is talking about your definition of “needy”, however I’d actually say, I find them to be the same thing. Your clingy is them when you are able to give them the attention they want, your needy is when you aren’t, basically, clingy becomes needy if you don’t give enough attention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/22 07:11 PM |
| 19 | How common is it for women to stop having sex with their husbands after marriage?Yup, them kids add a whole bunch of different issues to women’s sex drive (both, but especially women) from hormone changes that can literally be permanent, to a view of themselves due to both confidence over body changes and as a mother over a sexual woman, and then add additional work which often, but not always falls primarily on the mother. Getting married today, with everyone living together first rarely has any change when you get married….kids are the big change….without kids the diminish… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/22 02:45 AM |
| 0 | Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally okThere was no way for my mom to know and his ass got reported the moment word got to my mom. He was a well respected nice upstanding “Christian” business owner in the community. Thankfully it hadn’t gotten to a terrible stage but I’m sure the two incidents were leading that way (exposed himself “accidentally” and pulled her on his lap and groped her while she fought to get away from him the very next day, all within the first week of a move in, dude was a controlling psycho who seemed kind and no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 08:42 PM |
| 1 | How many of you who think women should settle more often, have actually expereinced a relationship without attraction or low attraction?Look, I don’t think RPers think women do what they do consciously. They believe women make pragmatic decisions and choose to look at things a different way that leaves themselves blameless, and that we’ve even made this socially acceptable because good intent in women is societally assumed, where as for men bad intent is assumed. RP also assumes bad intent in men, again subconsciously, but this doesn’t really get noticed because everyone assumes bad intent with men. Basically the outcome equals … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 07:27 PM |
| 1 | How many of you who think women should settle more often, have actually expereinced a relationship without attraction or low attraction?I mean, I think TRP is batty in a lot of ways, but guys most assuredly should be on the lookout for women who do this, especially if they have a few coins rolling around and are getting the “baby brain” age in women. Shit like her saying “he’s not the most attractive, but….”, pushing forward the relationship towards marriage/kids at a fast pace, having a history of dating “abusive/losers” who were more attractive, saying sex or attraction isn’t that important in a relationship (newsflash, it’s o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally okWhat the hell are you talking about…..unless you believe asking for divorce is a moral failing, or being unwilling to stay married to someone who wants completely different things in life (and the important things, like how you live your daily life). You are flat out wrong unless your morals are really skewed. A lot of marriages just involve two people who grew apart in one way or another, that isn’t a moral failing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/22 12:11 PM |
| 1 | Controversial results about unconventional vs. conventional 'cuteness'I mean, this doesn’t really surprise me….people have preference. I’m a divisive looking dude I guess (I don’t think I look all that unique, look a lot like Chris Pratt). Some girls think I’m not attractive, but some girls will comment how I’m the most attractive guy in the room. To some I’m ideal, to others I’m too bulky or my face doesn’t have a definitive enough jawline to be seen as handsome….hell, I’d say most women think I’m a 6-7, but 1 in 20 think I’m a 10 for them….and their own looks do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/22 04:30 PM |
| 11 | Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally okLook dude, I’ve got my kids 50/50, I’m a 40 something high earning dude, with a 40 something high earning ex…..when my kids ain’t around, I’m fucking (when I can of course)….hell, sometimes my in laws have the kids and the ex comes over, and we still fucking. My kids are insulated, they haven’t met either of our “others” maybe they will someday, but we can be as promiscuous as we want as long as our priorities are straight. I get it, a lot of peoples aren’t. Shit, my little sister, like a lot of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/22 04:54 AM |
| 7 | How many of you who think women should settle more often, have actually expereinced a relationship without attraction or low attraction?I think you are somewhat missing the point of what TRPer’s are saying (and this is one of their blind squirrel finds a nut points). The issue isn’t wanting women to settle, it’s the expectations and how immoral it is for them to settle. You can adjust expectations, and with that attraction. Many women can do this and women and men who do actually experience happier marriages. The reality, many women have been told they can have everything, and have been fucked by the 9/10 guy, but that cannot ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 07:57 PM |
| 0 | Is having a "hoe phase" important for maturing ?Maturity isn’t doing all the things society says makes you happy, it’s knowing yourself and what makes you, the individual happy. If settling down and being monogamous before you’ve had enough life experience and variation to move forward confident that it’s the right choice, that isn’t maturity, it’s very immature. For some who settle down, it proves to be the wrong choice, for some who do the hoe phase, it’s shouldn’t be just a phase but a lifestyle. Making the right choice, that will lead to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/22 02:47 PM |
| 0 | Would you hookup with your past partners, today?I’m a guy and I’m in the same boat except for the FWB’s that got Uber clingy and a little psycho….think a good amount of the FWB’s I had feel the same, as I reached out to a couple when I got divorced if I saw they were also single. The one that was still in decent shape (my god, people let themselves go in their 30’s)…..we had a nice time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/22 01:48 AM |
| 5 | Would you hookup with your past partners, today?A romantic spark that makes you feel understood in a profound way by another human. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/22 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Music/Art is the only acceptable method for men to express emotion without sacrificing masculinitySo, I actually disagree. Showing emotion can be a negative to attraction/desire, as strength is desirable. If your status as “strong” is not in any way questioned by showing emotion….then there is no downside. There is some upside outside of attraction by showing emotion though. You being vulnerable and being empathized with makes you have stronger feelings for them, it also humanizes you to them which can certainly make their feelings grow stronger for you. Showing emotion to women for me is us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 09:25 PM |
| 9 | Music/Art is the only acceptable method for men to express emotion without sacrificing masculinityI disagree, showing emotion is one aspect of being seen as weak, which is directly related to most women’s attraction overall. The overall view matters. Stronger than most is attractive, weaker than most, unattractive. For example, I’m a large, muscular, successful and domineering man. In interactions with others I can get my way through a multitude of ways from physical intimidation, to persuasion, to status. Its rare for me not to inherently be treated with respect in almost any social situati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Are women just more queer than men?I mean, yeah, it just some women and not a majority, the majority of women are not gay/bi, this applies to why there are more bi women than men. There are just more women that don’t masturbate than men, or do it only when they are going through their experimentation phase (teens/early 20). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 02:16 PM |
| 7 | Are women just more queer than men?These “evolutionary” answers of concubines and such….not really meaningful as tribal culture is the majority of female ancestors. Flat out, it’s about female sex drive and how many women are “reactive” in nature. Many, many women do not, or rarely masturbate. They don’t have prolonged internal drivers to desire. Their minds are never flooded with intrusive thoughts around sex like most mens are (not all women, but many)…..if you don’t have a long history of fantasizing about sex, what are you at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 07:13 AM |
| 1 | Are there any women that feel like they struggle getting sex?I mean, you don’t have to accept it, I’m more than happy to pull out shoot that shit all over you, hell, I kinda prefer to do that anyways…..but most women I’ve been with prefer it to be left in…. Also, what about a vasectomy? I got one of those, what would your view be on that? Since him putting it in without a condom is an equal risk to you “accepting male ejaculate” so he should get his nut for that risk, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/22 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Are men actually the initiators?So, your friend, and 4 am girl are just boring ass people, no more, no less. If you just want to smash, proceed and chase….if you actually want to date, leave her boring ass be, no one who acts like that is worth any more than an orgasm for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Are there any women that feel like they struggle getting sex?My god, you know how many times I’ve eaten a woman out and she was spent to pay me back later…..I can’t even count the times. I mean honestly….your view of sex is not what I’d consider to be a healthy one….he used your body to get an orgasm, but he needs to give you one? Is that how you view sex? Do you ever give him an orgasm, or just let him use your body to give himself one? Do you ever use his body to give yourself an orgasm? Just seems really transactional. Like “orgasm for orgasm”. What if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 05:55 PM |
| 3 | If a man asks you to dinner, is it wrong to accept if you have no intention of having a relationship with said man but instead to get free food?I mean, honestly, I shouldn’t limit this to women, but in this situation it’s a statement about women. The reality is men and women do things all the time that they morally disagree with, but because it benefits them, they say the rules don’t apply to themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 03:11 PM |
| 8 | If a man asks you to dinner, is it wrong to accept if you have no intention of having a relationship with said man but instead to get free food?Most women don’t think it’s morally acceptable, but this thread exists because there is a paper showing that between a quarter and a third of women do it. These numbers are high enough to put a major question into the premise that most women don’t think it’s morally acceptable, or they make you question is there just a lot of women who will do whatever benefits them, even if they don’t think it’s morally acceptable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/22 11:45 AM |
| 8 | Question for men and woman: what careers do you view as a redflag or dealbreaker in the opposite gender when it comes to datingEvery cop who ever cared about be growing up (2 uncles and a family friend) always told me to never trust or talk to any cop if it can be avoided, and all stated to my sister never to date one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 10:29 PM |
| 0 | How many of you would be pleased or displeased if your son or daughter married or seriously dated someone like you?I mean, this question kinda disturbs me, I’m a guy who if I had married a woman who kept her 20’s level affection, and ability to love, I was/would’ve been, for life, an amazing husband. I stayed in shape (until she denied me a bunch and made me realize it didn’t matter to her), I loved my wife passionately, I made great money, did the chores, am an active parent, was social, but I needed a wife who had my energy. I love my daughter, she’s absolutely amazing, light of my life, when I made the de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 05:40 AM |
| 1 | What sports or hobbies that a potential relationship partner might have attract you the most?Hiking, she’s gotta be cool with real hiking and sees the awe and beauty in nature. And I mean bring your own toilet paper type hiking/backpacking. That’s THE need, others that are attractive: Cycling, canoing/paddle boarding, football, volleyball, crafts (I’m not crafty but always enjoy a crafty lady), fine cuisine (I am a good cook, and have a tendency to jump on a plane mainly for an amazing meal sometimes, and want someone who can enjoy it), water sports, but also at home partying on a sandb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 12:49 AM |
| 1 | What sports or hobbies that a potential relationship partner might have attract you the most?I have to ask, how old are you…..some of those tastes…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/22 12:41 AM |
| 1 | (Rating Female Attractiveness) Anecdotal look at Men vs. Women rating WomenI mean, I think 9 is the only one better than a 6, maybe 7….. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/22 07:22 PM |
| 1 | TRP, Late Stage Capitalism, and The monetization of sex & relationshipsThe only way you’ll see people be happy with only a full stomach is when you make them hungry…..or make it so no one has more than that….I also don’t think you get how we all have so much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/22 02:36 AM |
| 4 | Huge dating gap in college vs. non college educated poolsThey’ve always been required, I mean, there are plenty of definitions of social skills (god damn do the confident and stupid have a different definition than I do), but you have to have it based on one group or another. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/22 01:08 AM |
| 1 | TRP, Late Stage Capitalism, and The monetization of sex & relationshipsIf all humans wanted was food, if all humans were willing to fight for was food, then maybe you’d have a point (though logistics does matter, and does mean we have scarcity, as all it takes is an area to have scarcity)…..but you and I know that isn’t humans….and never will be humans. We want more than just to eat. We want our children to not die from sickness. We want partners and sex. We want to prosper, for our children to have more than us, we want labor to make all of this (and throughout hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/22 12:29 AM |
| 25 | Huge dating gap in college vs. non college educated poolsGo to business school or liberal arts/law school, any field that is female dominated…..basically anything that results in a job that is social in nature, so it attracts men who enjoy talking….men who like to talk for the most part so pretty well, in college or otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/22 11:09 PM |
| 3 | TRP, Late Stage Capitalism, and The monetization of sex & relationshipsDo you watch enough Star Trek? Why is Star Trek Utopian? 2 technologies make this a reality. Replicators- no More scarcity of resources. You do not need land or labor to create food or commodities. Holopads - no more scarcity in human interaction, have any experience you want, anything you want to do, go do it. Star Trek exists because everyone can have anything they want, all needs are accounted for, all goods are available….scarcity is why we can’t do better than the structure we are in. The o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/22 12:55 PM |
| 3 | most women like having sex with their beta husbands too.Exactly….I’m old, deadbedrooms existed forever. Good pussy doesn’t all of a sudden become unappealing because of porn and good dick doesn’t suddenly become inadequate because you fucked some stud a decade ago. This shit has happened forever and you know what people used to do about it….they cheated, a whole fucking lot. People don’t cheat like they used to, there were studies showing 2/3’s of married men cheated, today that’s been cut in half as they are just whacking off to porn. The porn and t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 06:20 PM |
| 1 | What do you realistically bring to "the table"?Well, it means I’m demanding and require attention. For people who have depressive tendencies, or always has health/work issues that cause them to be self focused….I will run (can certainly handle periods of this, but months not years, I’ve been there). Also means I’ll bolt if you take me for granted or stop being very attracted to me, I live my life sexually charged….in other words, for a guy, I’m quite needy, and I’m fine with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 05:48 PM |
| 1 | What do you realistically bring to "the table"?Pros: - extroverted - funny - money - high sex drive - good cook - been told I have a very nice cock quite a few times, am also generous lover with pretty much no boundaries - very affectionate (have all the love languages and show them) - quite muscular - outdoorsy Negative - work too much and have to travel - have kids, though they are getting older, and I will always choose them - high standards, want to be treated great by my partner and will leave if not - have a bit of a belly (not fat but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Contrary to what some in here think, it doesn’t matter how attractive, wealthy or charismatic a man is. It only takes one minor misstep or sometimes nothing at all for a woman to completely lose interest.Look dude, I’m not some Adonis, and my life is enough of a sample size to say what you’re saying is absolutely batshit crazy to the point you’ve gotta have some social/mental health issues or something for this to have been your experience. I’ve been single 9 total years since graduating high school. I’ve spent about maybe 1- 1.5 combined years of that time without at least one FWB or having a fling. The rest of the time I was casually having sex. I’ve had 4 serious girlfriends, 1 ex wife, and a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 11:28 PM |
| 5 | I think the vast majority of frustration and anger comes from.high expectations. We need to work on lowering that for general happinessI mean, you can like hot guys all you want, but if you can’t get a hot guy that also has the other characteristics that you need to be able to live your life with someone….who is being unrealistic with their expectations? Either be with a “hot guy” you can get, addicts, abusive, boring, allergic to work, etc… or be open with the not hot guys you get with that you aren’t attracted to them and won’t desire them long term so they can make an informed decision on if they want to be with you (can pre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 04:32 PM |
| 8 | I think the vast majority of frustration and anger comes from.high expectations. We need to work on lowering that for general happinessI’ll say, that to waste your ability to be in love for a lifetime on some flings in your 20’s is a pretty fucking sad statement. Those dudes who were pump and dumping you in your 20’s will still get with someone who they love most likely. This whole being in love for a lifetime isn’t some crazy instance and isn’t something a lot of people traditionally did. Romantic love for a lifetime, with a partner you desire for a lifetime isn’t weird, or crazy and has almost never been linked to the attract… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Don’t worry about the old friends, worry about the new people in their lifeI mean, I’m not proud of it, but the point is, we all do things in life, in the moment that isn’t our ideal path. We all react in ways we didn’t expect, be that what we say to someone, what we don’t say, buying something impulsively, etc… and having opposite sex friends that can make that impulsive thing sex or a kiss, or whatever, is a risk taken as we can’t know how every night will play out, it’s a risk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 02:29 PM |
| 0 | Don’t worry about the old friends, worry about the new people in their lifeI mean, kinda, it matters. There’s a the thing with life, it changes, people change, their attractions change and how they act changes. Opposite sex friends for straight people is a variable that adds risk as life progresses. I’ll tell a story that happened very soon after leaving my wife as we were finally at the stage to walk away. I went out with my friends, and most of their spouses. Group is mostly guys but a couple of women. One of my female friends hosted an after party and her and I got … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Why in humans there is more patriarchy rather than matriarchy accross multiple different cultures or societies?Flat out, the way humans are wired with one sex being significantly more aggressive and stronger, it makes sense to make sure that group stays “in group”. How does this play out? Well, the needs of that group is prioritized. Why? “Out group” aggressive individuals are dangerous, especially when they join forces. This applies to any species like ours, it’s why Lions kill a rivals children, it’s why killing male chimps instead of exile is common. Male dominated society is a pragmatic, sensical dec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 01:28 PM |
| 14 | Quantity for men, quality for womenMatters, mediocre women can get fucked by quality men on occasion, they usually can’t date them….a high libido guy who can slay still will take what he gets easy sometimes because easy, is often what’s best in the moment. Especially when I was young, easy, enthusiastic sex from usually less attractive women was sometimes more appealing than having to do the whole song and dance of trying to hookup with a more attractive woman. Being charming and on point with message, getting dressed up, posing,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/22 02:32 AM |
| 2 | A lot of guys here mistake chubby women for being unattractive and being in the same league as chubby men.The hookup thing is easy, the chubby girls chase me, and most of the time they’ll beg me to do the shit to them the hot girls won’t even let me do….don’t mistake being attracted to someone’s enthusiasm or the ego boost they give with being attracted to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 11:53 PM |
| 9 | most women like having sex with their beta husbands too.I don’t know, I’ve had a few FWB’s with women who were in dead bedrooms (met them all by writing erotica, that shit is a great way to meet women who want sex) and they were attractive, their husbands just didn’t want to fuck them more than a once a month maintenance session. For some of both sexes (it’s more for women, but not a crazy amount more) familiarity can be a turn off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 06:25 PM |
| 16 | One thing I admit, social media and dating apps have changed my perspective on how attractive I find some menI mean, honestly, that’s really fucking sad, for you to be clear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/22 03:19 AM |
| 0 | Average American vs Average European seduction skills, who wins ? Street fight ?Our south is soft (except for west TX), miners and factory workers (especially anywhere that has “slicing or drying rooms”….those fuckers are hard as steel. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 05:40 AM |
| 3 | Average American vs Average European seduction skills, who wins ? Street fight ?Rust belt/Midwest inner city….beats ass in Europe til it gets to the Slavs. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Do most guys have to change who they are to be attractive to women?“Most” is a question, maybe, maybe not. But, I’d say a similar amount of women change as well. They do it differently, they change to keep a man, not to get a man. It’s mind blowing how many women allow their media preferences, viewpoints, sports team preference, hobbies, body language, who they are to be dictated by the man in their life. It’s not by any means nefarious always (sometimes it is), usually they do it without any threat, or push, or even intentionally as it’s so gradual. Like serio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 04:14 AM |
| 1 | A rich man might fuck broke hot young women but he'd never wife them upWell, I’m pretty well preserved, but not some gorgeous, flawless body dude, have been single going on 3 years, have casually been with 4 women mid/late 20’s in that time (most since my divorce have been 30’s-40’s), all 4 wanted to continue after I did not (though admittedly only 1 openly stated they wanted a relationship), and all were at or above the level of women I could have gotten when I was that age. Do most women in their 20’s want to date a guy in their 30’s/40’s? No, not at all, of cour… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 01:45 AM |
| 3 | The Sexual Marketplace is GREAT if you're a skilled pickup artist. Do you agree?I actually strongly disagree with the premise. I’m in my 40’s, became single again a few years ago, and this day and age is good for me, but I’ve aged very well, have a lot of money, am tall. When I was young, late 90’s/00’s, I was broke, drank way too much, and I was very high numbers. Honestly, be a 7/8, funny, and like to party and you get laid without strategy. If you try hard, god damn, you’re triple digits by 23. The lifestyles of todays young women are just not designed for PUA’s as much … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 04:55 AM |
| 5 | Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?You realize I’ve haven’t had a single lick of porn hit my search history since the advent of incognito mode right? And I was never even hiding it from anyone, just don’t want to start typing a website and have some porn auto fill. It takes zero effort to hide porn use so no one would ever see it….there is literally no way to catch him, and he has no reason to tell the truth. These threads come up, over and over, and men have had this discussion for 15 years….very, very few men are telling the tr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 01:52 AM |
| 2 | Where do you draw the line in this new era of pornography?You’ve had one issue where he got caught…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 01:31 AM |
| 5 | Have women become more sexist over time?Well, yes, undoubtedly. I think both young men and women overall have become more sexist….it’s both ways amongst women as well. One of the more interesting ways though, In my experience, the most overtly sexist group of people I’ve ever been around is older (40+), professionally successful, usually attractive women…..those women fucking think most women are stupid, weak, and the most entitled people ever and I’ve heard some crazy shit from these women around things from rape, to wages, to abuse.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Nobody in real life cares about body countI think IRL people care about body count to an extent, but not virginity the way the RP’ers say at least. Like, there is a point where a lot of guys go “well that is too many, or too few”. Like, at that point in my life I don’t think I’d have dated a virgin, for the reason you state…..but triple digits? Yeah, that woulda bothered me too and I was pretty high count. In my 40’s, I’m not sure what reaction triple digits would get from me…..I’m not that far from that myself, but I don’t know, thinki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/22 11:46 PM |
| 12 | TRP is wrong about 35+ being a man’s primeSo, it’s contingent. I’m no RPer at all, but a blind squirrel does find a nut and on this one, they are right….but only right if the loser is willing to spend their 20’s growing, and improving (which also means you will probably leave most of RP ideology behind you). The loser in his 20’s, who spends that time chasing financial success, physical fitness, and conquering fear (the source of your awkwardness and introversion) will “glow up”, the loser who fails at this and sinks deeper into lonelin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/22 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Why would you expect women to be attracted to guys who do the easiest thing, live the path of least resistance?Well, then whoever the fuck told you that sure filled your head with some stupid shit. But we all heard that, and we heard be the best you can be. We were all given both messages, we got to choose who we listened to….I listened to the be the best you and messages around hard work paying off, plenty who were raised similarly listened to the just be yourself….don’t blame anyone else, you heard both messages just like everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 11:23 PM |
| 0 | (speculation) The sexual marketplace will organically reach balance through cultural evolutionDumb as fuck…. So, first off, hypergamy is not some new thing, weirdos and awkward dudes have always had trouble getting laid. Doesn’t matter how you look, you can’t talk, you can’t fuck unless you a 10 (and the 1 in 100 type of 10). Women today have less sex then they did 20 years ago, both sexual partners and frequency. So do men, almost alarmingly so, they masturbate a whole lot more too (not looking to get into a porn debate). You can say the OLD thing changed things, and it did, because now… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 11:16 PM |
| 3 | If you’re new to cold approaching read this.Look, if you’re average in looks, you can pull still….but you can’t be an average man and pull. There is much more to this than looks, confidence, like, real confidence….that shit is noticeable. Plenty of guys who don’t have the angular face, aren’t tall, are seen as attractive, especially In person, why? They have an air about them, what is that air? Straight up, unflappable, belief in themselves. You don’t get that without earning it. So if you believe you’re average, don’t do this shit. You h… | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 04:04 PM |
| 8 | If you’re new to cold approaching read this.Look, you don’t get it, at all. This isn’t about batting 100%, if you look at something like “well it won’t work sometimes, so it doesn’t work” then you don’t get laid as a guy. Almost 100% of the women you’re interested in, if you don’t approach, you wont have sex with. But, if you approach them, you will have sex with some of them. So it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t work one time, or even most of the time, it only matters that it works some of the time, because some of the time is much better … | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Which would you want: The virgin who only gives you missionary for the rest of your life, or the non-virgin who does all the kinky stuff you like for the rest of your life?Cuckqueening | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 08:57 AM |
| 1 | The whole “nice guy” narrative that women bitch about completely ignores the large number of men who simply react out of frustration with women less attractive than them acting stuck up and rudeWow, dude, just wow. This looks match bullshit….guess what. I’m a dude, a horny af dude, and I’ve said no to douchey women who were above my number….you know why? Their personality was ugly, so very ugly. Dude, your personality is ugly, so very, very, very ugly. Even more drastic than the way confidence, a great sense of humor, a way they move can move someone from a 6 to an 8……entitlement, arrogance, and patronization can move a 10 to a 1. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Whenever you bring up TRP talking points in other subs or on social media everyone acts as though it’s some conspiracy theory or a myth, I’m convinced it is pure deflectionI do at a high level, it’s the intersectionality of privilege/oppression around usually gender/race, it’s where patriarchy theory meets racial hierarchy and to a lesser extent critical race theory. Basically claiming that hierarchies of power exist around these social aspects….some intersectionalists care about class as well, some don’t really seem to. My contention is that without addressing scarcity, it’s a moot point. The collectivists among them are doomed to failure, as that doesn’t address… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Which would you want: The virgin who only gives you missionary for the rest of your life, or the non-virgin who does all the kinky stuff you like for the rest of your life?Hotwives exist, so do hothusbands, it’s a guy who goes out and has casual sex with others while letting his wife know about it, sometimes doing it in front of her, and her being very turned on by it. Usually involving her reclaiming him once he returns. It’s basically a one sided open relationship where the closed partner derives as much, if not more pleasure from the open partners indiscretions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Is there any evidence for or against a wide-spread dual mating strategy?Ever refer to a guy as an asshole, or a group of guys for that matter as assholes? Ain’t no different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Which would you want: The virgin who only gives you missionary for the rest of your life, or the non-virgin who does all the kinky stuff you like for the rest of your life?I mean, I’d personally hate the virgin….I’m not a trainer, I want someone bringing something to show me too. And a woman willing to satisfy my every kink, forever? My god, I’d cross some pretty big deal breakers for that if she’s mostly sane….that’s a pretty insane ask for a guy like me, I’m kinky af and would dig that “hot husband” lifestyle (you said every kink). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 05:17 AM |
| 0 | Whenever you bring up TRP talking points in other subs or on social media everyone acts as though it’s some conspiracy theory or a myth, I’m convinced it is pure deflectionDoes it really have results though if you can’t be truly open and honest when you find that partner? Being able to share all of yourself with a partner is what makes having one special, more than them being good enough looking to fuck. Just seems like a way to be very lonely while being in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Whenever you bring up TRP talking points in other subs or on social media everyone acts as though it’s some conspiracy theory or a myth, I’m convinced it is pure deflectionIntersectionality doesn’t address scarcity or even make it part of the equation. It also ignores personal choice and how that affects outcomes. Scarcity is always the true enemy of equality, it ignores why haves and have nots exist and pretends that because loads of money exists that loads of goods exist….we are seeing that more money doesn’t mean more things….even though money is supposed to represent things….it doesn’t actually. Not amount of spreading money creates more things and at a certai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 05:02 AM |
| 0 | Whenever you bring up TRP talking points in other subs or on social media everyone acts as though it’s some conspiracy theory or a myth, I’m convinced it is pure deflectionWhat if I told you, you can improve yourself without the bitterness and jealousy, improve your chances purely by saying “I’m going to go about this in a way that works better for me” without the categorization bullshit and black and white thinking…..it’s not like RP has some monopoly on self improvement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 04:53 AM |
| 4 | Is there any evidence for or against a wide-spread dual mating strategy?This the way friend….and it ain’t wrong as long as you aren’t dishonest. Ever heard of memetic desire? Google it….it’s real, and it happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Men shouldn't have the right to criticize prositution and sex workersI mean, personally, I just think feel how you want about stuff, but be consistent. I personally think there are people who can use sex workers and be sex workers without being sad or skeevy, just like there are people who drink and serve drinks who are neither, but I think there are bars and bar patrons that are sad and skeevy. Bars who make their money off of alcoholics they serve daily till they’re fall down drunk are skeevy. Sex workers who push things on SM to people who don’t want to see it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/22 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Men shouldn't have the right to criticize prositution and sex workersWell, in the same sense, don’t you see the heroin dealer as a trashy human for profiting off of it? I don’t get this, if you see the customers as sad and pathetic, isn’t the supplier even worse for profiting from that? I don’t know, I’ve always seen drug pushers as worse than the addicts. The one who is choosing that path for profiting is more immoral than the one with an addiction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Freud never excluded women from a Madonna-Whore complexI mean, Frued was full of shit on just about everything so…..who the fuck cares. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Whenever you bring up TRP talking points in other subs or on social media everyone acts as though it’s some conspiracy theory or a myth, I’m convinced it is pure deflectionI mean, TRP is taking something real (economics) and like many other theories extrapolating an entire dogma around them. I see it how I see modern intersectionality, CRT, patriarchy theory, etc…. The real part of it is a straight supply and demand issue. There is not enough female sex partners/encounters to satisfy mens demands for it. The flip side of this that is ignored is there is not enough desirable men for women’s relationship demands (men who add to their life). Scarcity exists, and winn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 11:03 PM |
| 7 | Whenever you bring up TRP talking points in other subs or on social media everyone acts as though it’s some conspiracy theory or a myth, I’m convinced it is pure deflectionOP is overstating as it’s “benevolently sexist” (study linked in story): https://theconversation.com/amp/why-women-including-feminists-are-still-attracted-to-benevolently-sexist-men-101067 It’s men who display chivalry and put women into a protected class. But does extend to things like being more active and decisive in decision making. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 10:18 PM |
| 6 | You have to actually be genuinely sexy to be lusted after in your LTR, its not common in average relationships and that isnt a bad thingWell, that’s a you problem. I left my ex wife because she had the same problem. If she would’ve reciprocated, I would’ve lusted after her till she was in the ground…..but instead I’m single and may take the chance again, but only if I’m pretty sure that person doesn’t have this trait….some don’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Men are a lot hornier than women, and this is the root cause of all of the issues in dating and gender relationsYou think men don’t face social inhibitions? Like men risk prison to rape women all the fucking time. You think that isn’t a social inhibition? They still do it, they are willing to take the risk of prison, ruining their life due to their urge to fuck. Pure and simple, show me a culture in the world that men aren’t by a noticeable margin hornier than women? There isn’t one, because our biologies affect culture, these cultures were built due to biological realities. Men are shamed for their sex d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Men are a lot hornier than women, and this is the root cause of all of the issues in dating and gender relationsI think it’s funny that you think a few stories from a few women counters literally ever single study that’s been done on the subject, across many different cultures. Social sciences and psychology have an issue of not being able to repeat results….not on this subject. If you want to talk about personal experience, fine, a few months ago I met up with a friend who recently separated from her dead bedroom partner, we went to a hotel and literally had sex for a day, about 12 hours of me being insi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/22 10:30 AM |
| 2 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?I mean, she said it while laying in bed, so it obviously wasn’t that big of an issue. I think it was as a reference to her history, but I didn’t ask any questions. She is very into the OLD thing though, and I meet up with her occasionally when I’m in her city. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingDivorced….no longer married, never cheated, | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 03:07 PM |
| 0 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingWho were the women in their early 20’s fucking? The most attractive among their age, yes, but also older men. Look, the older you get as a guy and hang on to your health (don’t be fat), the more the supply and demand curve shifts. I’m in my early 40’s and am desirable for women from 25-50. I’m ideal for women 32-45….again, I’m ideal for women with about a 13 year age range, 13 years worth of women find about 5 years worth of men ideal. I’ve seen it, my early 20’s I had to hustle to get laid, I d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Realistic relationships that you see day to day is often confused for settlingI mean, I think the big thing is, did the woman want all those things with a bunch of guys, failed and then lowered her standards to get the guy she wound up with? If so, she settled. Not wanting a relationship and going out and having fun is fine, but that isn’t what a lot of women who wind up with the “late bloomer” was doing, they were going after who they are most attracted to and flat out failed to lock any of those options down. They inherently chose an option later that was not who they w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Men are a lot hornier than women, and this is the root cause of all of the issues in dating and gender relationsI mean, I love seeing the comments from higher libido women….but there isn’t a debate on this in the macro, there just isn’t. It isn’t entirely some social pressure thing either, biology is huge. The vast majority of men throughout history hit puberty, they have a wet dream, and they begin jerking off. They become aroused at the sight of a female (or male) body from that age on. Yes, there are exceptions, and there are women who have similar experiences…..but the numbers aren’t really close in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 03:25 AM |
| 2 | The myth of "settling"This sub is a trip, I’ve trolled red pill a few times, but reading this stuff is bonkers. So, after reading all this shit, I definitely am a “Chad” from your guy’s POV (not top 5% in looks either, but do very well with 7’s, 8’s, occasional 9’s, while taking 5’s and 6’s when lonely)….and yeah, I’m sure these girls are settling for the stable guys in some ways. I mean, I’ve been dumped all of 1 time in my life, and that extends to ghosting and even just not wanting to continue an FWB relationship.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: why do you want children knowing that science says that having kids makes women less happy?I’d love to see what the stats are for happiness between the two groups that really matter for this question: Women who want kids and had them Women who wanted kids and didn’t These are the only two groups that matter. It doesn’t matter if a woman who didn’t want kids and didn’t have them is happier than a woman who wanted kids and had them. It also doesn’t matter what women who were on the fence or didn’t want kids and had them anyways because of whatever reason (social pressure or beliefs arou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 02:29 AM |
| 11 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?No shit, I’m just below 6’1” and was called “a bit shorter” by a woman who is all of 5’3”, if that, a couple months ago. Was weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Men are a lot hornier than women, and this is the root cause of all of the issues in dating and gender relationsI mean, I love seeing the comments from higher libido women….but there isn’t a debate on this in the macro, there just isn’t. It isn’t entirely some social pressure thing either, biology is huge. The vast majority of men throughout history hit puberty, they have a wet dream, and they begin jerking off. They become aroused at the sight of a female (or male) body from that age on. Yes, there are exceptions, and there are women who have similar experiences…..but the numbers aren’t really close in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 01:12 AM |
| 0 | If women don’t want to be approached at the gym, the grocery, the bar or in the dms - where are guys supposed to meet women?Again, luckily most of us aren’t currently in college (and it’s not the law then, just make sure you’re also drunk….the horror stories are more a rarity than people want to accept, pure and simple, I’m not changing my life out of a fear of getting struck by lightning, risk is part of life). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 12:43 AM |
| 1 | A rich man might fuck broke hot young women but he'd never wife them upI think you may be putting your preferences onto other people. I’m telling you as a guy who hit my 40’s single for the first time in a long time, there are a good amount of young women who don’t really care about age differences…..but they do care about success, even for just sex. Even for sex, it’s attractive to some women, like literally attractive….it is to a lot of men as well. For some men, they want the 25 yo dime piece, but for a lot, the strong successful woman is their sexual preference… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 12:40 AM |
| 1 | A rich man might fuck broke hot young women but he'd never wife them upWhat if, and hear me out, there are a bunch of women (and men actually) who are genuinely attracted to people who win, and win, and win, and win, even if they are older (often with them being older is found attractive), people who dominate interactions, are often charismatic, and present themselves professionally and in control are attractive. Like, I’ve been around enough seriously wealthy people and their “trophy wives” are rarely some gold digger, they are genuinely affectionate and really ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 11:56 PM |
| 3 | If women don’t want to be approached at the gym, the grocery, the bar or in the dms - where are guys supposed to meet women?I mean, kinda, you don’t expect to meet someone when going out to a bar, especially when you’re older, but it’s a great place to meet women (especially the right bars for you). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 11:18 PM |
| 0 | If women don’t want to be approached at the gym, the grocery, the bar or in the dms - where are guys supposed to meet women?Well lucky most of us don’t live in CA….that law isn’t the law of the land in most places. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 11:16 PM |
| 3 | How to get a cute girl in 2022 (quick and easy)Well, you don’t have to date a desirable woman. There are plenty of obese women with social anxiety, who don’t have a million options. It’s not tough, there is enough supply of guys with those characteristics (or many of them) for the women who can get those characteristics. | /r/seduction | 01/03/22 08:23 PM |
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