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/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 08:29 PM
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Well... user name DOES check out... (to whatever end)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:57 AM
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You must be a truly poor communicator with zero capacity for connection, then ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:34 AM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:25 AM
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Umm... my husband adores them? It's even his preferred porn go-to... but you do you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:25 AM
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And handjobs... oh the options dudes have...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 09:50 PM
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Sure, my husband is ten years older than me... and he still will be when I'm, say, 65 and he's 75... but he will still be with me even then, see. Am actually the 'oldest' woman he has ever been with... while being the one who is also the youngest, in terms of age gaps. It's not bc he needs some 'hot young thing', in our case, it's simply bc 'us'.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:43 PM
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Absolutely, am more interested in the actual person rather than whether he's had sec yet or not
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:18 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:15 AM
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Or... it's only labeled 'nagging' when it's a woman, but 'being assertive', 'taking control', or 'getting shit done' when it's a man... ya, framing matters here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 08:59 PM
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Likely bots
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 05:15 PM
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The word 'promiscuous' is simply self-serving , at best, but, more accurately, simply derogatory for the sake of elevating one's own status (when used to describe another, at least; internalization is a whole boatload of additional crap). People fuck whom it matters to fuck, in the moment, for reasons. The end. You deal with individuals snd their historically shaped perspectives like a mature thinker... or... you don't... but the belittling name-calling is grade 8 level at best; the internet has…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 04:35 AM
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Huh, my husband once asked me to articulate why I love him.... there are lots of 'things', but those don't dictate the underlying EMOTION, the pull, if you will, is impossible to define by 'things', it's just so much deeper and greater than that... and far more nebulous. But it's real. At least to me. Yes, that ticked him off, but at least he knows that I'm not here just for x,y,or,z...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 10:54 PM
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Were you actually 'nice' or were you creepy (whether YOU thought so or not)?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:14 AM
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Boys should be just so much more darned modest!! Every muscle shirt and pair of non-baggy jeans I see just makes me wanna... ya know!!! .../s Yadiyada.. 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:43 AM
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Ooohhh my sweet summer child, no, the concept of being in a mutually beneficial and mutually equitable (as mutually agreed-upon) relationship is certainly not 'dead... what you have chosen to describe (I hope), being that women should be subjugated adoring and happy subservient props within a 'relationship' is... and no, so-called 'trad wives' don't count, they're career women selling an esthetic, as you hopefully could have already surmised
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 01:18 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 04:06 AM
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Well since I'm metric... I guess so?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 03:41 AM
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The one I had last night was pretty damned up there too... husband and I are pretty mutually professional in that department
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 12:28 AM
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Spot on. Freezing is far more common than explicitly saying no (once I managed to... I paid later), it's an s as almost out of body sensation; you're just... stuck, think sleep paralysis but awake in name only. Whatever it is... it's real, and it doesn't matter what sex it happens to (though OP has made some absolutely truthful points), it sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 06:11 AM
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Huh? Does the word 'connection' actually mean as n anything? Oh wait, ya... wrong sub.. all about transactionals here, nevermind, as you were
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:15 AM
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Precisely, but when we assert that we want to cum too... we're suddenly'score-keeping' ya, I want it to make sense too
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:02 AM
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Umm... I'm a woman, like men ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:50 AM
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And when we try, no matter how mutually respectfully, we get called 'too demanding' Geez
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:14 AM
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You win Reddit for the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:12 AM
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Interesting, I 'refused' (read: just had a baby, was all torn up and suffering, didn't need for religious purposes and they told us we needed to make a separate read: not covered, appointment outside the actual hospital... ya, I had other concerns while trying to recover and breastfeed while being chewed up)...and got heck for it to this day from my circumcised ex (not Jewish or Muslim, just a parental belief it was 'better')... funny my sons seem fine...?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:20 PM
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No excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:32 AM
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Umm, I think the difference is that blue pillars just don't give a fuck about judging a woman for liking sex with more than one person. Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 02:48 AM
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Then we feel so sorry for your lady
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 09:06 PM
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So we gladly invite you to spend a few years (ok, scratch that... weeks, hell maybe even a day) as one. Enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:57 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:35 AM
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Right? When the guy (he was 23, I was 20 at the time) found out I was a virgin when he did me (I was not not-ready and it was a very in-the-moment thing... also, no I wasn't 'saving myself' but my parents were pretty damned good at limiting my accessibility lol) he totally freaked... like it was some weird cross to bear or something (ya, me either) Meanwhile, I was just like, 'ya ya whatever, can we move on and just keep being ourselves, see where that goes?') apparently no.... Yuck Also meanwhi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:07 AM
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Sadly, yes, precisely
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 01:58 AM
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Or the women in abbayas or burkas or... well just older and in slacks and fully closed cardigans...etc etc etc...? Hmm?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 01:06 AM
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Being stuck related to someone who treats you like crap in my book is worth far less than a chosen committed relationship where specific efforts are made toward mutual respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 08:59 PM
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Coercive control apparently is considered a form of abuse in many jurisdictions and where a restraining order can be obtained against it...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:23 PM
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Which is rape
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:22 PM
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I've felt obligated to 'let it happen' in the past when in my head I was screaming that I didn't want this; in the moment it actually did feel that not doing so would end up worse for me than getting it over with (conditioning? Complex local social structure? Possibly threatening men?)... definitely no enthusiastic 'yesses' there (well no actual specific yes at all)... I do know that it certainly did not feel like it was much of a choice. That's real.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 03:21 PM
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Umm... I'm Canadian and have had pink and bright red hair in the past, some ink, I wear make up (not the overdone variety, no fake lashes, but have at it if it helps you feel like you), etc etc... also, never had to use a daring app in my life, despite living abroad for the last 11 years (btw, as other posters have pointed out, hot climates certainly do impact clothing lol) please do not generalize Canadians here as being as judgmental as you? Also... have you been to Montreal? I agree that a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 12:18 AM
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You don't get out much, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 10:27 PM
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Ya... but a preference for colors is not quite 'quirk-level'... it's just a preference or an open mind sometimes, like really really
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:37 PM
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Or she's just kinda creative and likes color?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:27 PM
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I have met tons of conservatives with serious ink. Fwiw, I have a high level designation (financial accounting, audit etc), am in a serious, committed relationship with a high-level professional man (and I think he's hot as hell), with what you could say are conservatively progressive values, we have a young child in private school; I have three tattoos (two of which he was with me for and absolutely encouraged... ok, one is our business logo and he got the same one lol), and had flaming red hai…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:25 PM
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You list me at 'slut'... but you got picked, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 01:50 AM
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As are people who have been given serious 'owies' without marks, eff off, you absolute arrogant victim-blaming ignoramous. This/you is/are why we are 'blamed' for not coming forward. GO TO HELL!!!!! signed, Someone who was nearly murdered by her spouse while pregnant with his baby. No marks A**hat
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:17 AM
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No you can see lights and show no bruising. Same with suffocation. Sit down.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:37 PM
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I'm very aware of all this, thank you. Also... yes, exactly; of course burden of proof is on the accuser... the actual issue being, too many crimes don't bear any actual physical or visual evidence (being slapped hard enough to see lights, 'alas' /s , no black eye, choking, yadiydada). Oh And coercive sex aka RAPE. But ya, 'Law'.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 02:28 AM
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Or they just couldn't prove it... the time I was stabbed by a stranger? Yep, stab wounds (but no witnesses that it was a stranger so I STILL got victim blamed in the weirdest of ways), the time a spouse pulled a gun on me, then made me suck him to 'clam him down' so he wouldn't kill me? Too extreme to be believed by anyone and no documentation/proof of my real experience. But you get paid yo get people off the hook, so... hey
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 10:27 PM
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Right? Our business relies heavily on effective use of social media and my husband takes photos and videos damned near everywhere we go (think: he's surpassed a terabyte in photos on one of his two phones, a drone, 2 gopros, 1 Sony super camera, 1 osmos, etc, being around video and photography is almost literally my life lol (can't wait for our daughter's school performance this evening /s)... I, on the other hand take some pics when I feel it's necessary, but hubby is constantly on my case for …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:42 PM
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Dude, we women can lift weights (many of us actually do... yes, the heavier variety), find zen in that, and STILL (shocker, I know) find mental and emotional room for mutually beneficial relationships that go deeper than superficial 'bro culture' (or 'sis' whatever). Funny thing... many men I've known throughout life (who are also, clearly, not in any need of being on this sub), also pretty capable of same. Shrug
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:18 AM
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It's as if the OP is almost saying being the victim of violent abuse is always somehow the woman's fault, so she should just bow out of trying for a good man altogether. They didn't say precisely that, but slippery slopes and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 02:06 PM
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The more people do it, the less sexualized and creeped-on it becomes though. For reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 09:18 PM
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Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:03 AM
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Please see my link above, I believe you would find that discussion wonderfully balanced, nuanced and, ultimately, conclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:07 AM
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Yes, it's all performative, I'd say even bordering on trying to infringe upon the Onlyfans market.,. But then, I can't blame ANYONE for that, so....
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:06 AM
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Well-balanced discussion for the ages here https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/what-now-with-trevor-noah/id1710609544?i=1000666979786 Trevor Noah and co
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:04 AM
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Yup, it's his unapologetic ENABLING that's the real concern here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 11:53 PM
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Also, there is a massive distinction between actual abuse and the reactive variety... one would simply not have to exist without the other
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:28 PM
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'Player' to men is z total compliment, as is 'man slut/whore' etc etc... the inverse re: women... well you know the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:13 PM
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Also, abuse doesn't precisely show up with blaring red lights and boom-boom beats.... (spolier alert: it's a deliberately manipulative and deliberate thing, meaning, by definition, you don't really know you've 'chosen' that til far too deep down in it... but great victim blame, gold star!)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:11 PM
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...should...we...tell...him?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:08 PM
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You are adorable... (subtle yet perceptible mini coughs and sputters)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:08 PM
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Le sigh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 01:45 PM
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Like I mentioned in my own comment, you made it seem like we're all rational individuals passing through at various points together... confounding variables very much matter, especially when it comes to relationship dynamics of equality... or more tellingly so, lack thereof. It's more prolific than, it seems, you are aware of... physical differences (as well as historically engendered entitlements) being what they are. Not a counter to your excellent point, just an additional dimensional conside…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:54 AM
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Absolutely true... but also is the fact that, where abusive relationships are concerned (and I know you were not specifically speaking to that, apologies), the uncomfortable reality is that men are still, on average, the more intimidating of the sexes (obvs) and, as abuse is defined by control, dominance, and intimidation behaviors... well, men have a very dubious 'advantage' there. But hell, when I tried to scratch my way out of being choked unconscious (read: elevated risk of death for two wee…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:35 AM
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Also, one person's outlier is another's'average'... the metrics are not so well defined in the actual real world as Peterson or TRP logic (and the like... yes, add the extreme Tiktok ladies to that mix... just like the formers, not the most representative sample on Earth) would try to make us believe
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:29 AM
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Geez, I was a Rotary Club treasurer and a woman... weird flex on that point
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:21 AM
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Of what level, though...? Seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:43 AM
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Fully agree (I'm not American but husband is and we both live abroad anyway); we are both very relaxed about nudity in general, but my husband developed this outlook from having gone to Germany at 14 and spending a day at a public pool in Hamburg; he unexpectedly discovered that the locker room was fully co-ed and nobody there gave a shit. People CAN be around each other naked and still be respectful and not give in to sexualizing thinking... bonkers, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 02:30 PM
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Yup, actually people and relationships delve into reality beyond the stereotypes and all-too-easy generalizations of this 'debate' group....
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 02:00 AM
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Right? I live where it's really hot, I wear flimsy dresses bc they're cooler and I feel cute for me in them, full stop. Husband totally gets it, but then, he'd also walk around completely buck naked if he could bc he thinks clothes just suck in general lol 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:52 PM
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I have lost all faith that real life human beings under general bell-curve circumstances post here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 04:52 AM
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Also, talk about a made-up construct
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:47 PM
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From... other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:44 PM
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No actually, among the generalized population (aka hetero unions), women are most at risk from male spouses or partners than any other kind of attacker. It's actually and sadly a thing. Please stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:26 PM
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See also: Lundy Bancroft. He actually is THE abuse expert in the US. And shut up
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:26 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:07 PM
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Abusive behavior in males actually comes from an ingrained sense of entitlement and value system weighted historically in their favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:16 PM
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Abuse literally changes brain pathways and reactions to abuse can be wild... but they are reactions, they are not 'abuse'... that behavior would never have happened if the abuser was not so controlling and entitled in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:45 PM
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Subsequent Consequences have little to do with the actual abuse dynamic during the actual relationship. Obvs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:27 PM
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Lundy Bancroft (probably the most famous and respected expert on abuse dynamics in the US and Canada, at least) came out in support of Amber. With reasons... and Lundy is a straight man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:11 PM
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The imbalance of the power dynamic was always in Depp's favor, what with his intimidating entourage and all. It's neither a feminist or misogynist issue, really, more that most people have absolutely zero clue how abuse is truly defined, what DARVO or reactivity is, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 06:03 PM
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Or cunnilingus ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:34 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 03:17 AM
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Also, 'therapy' is a well-known ploy of abusive types to hide behind... abusers have control, entitlement, and values issues.... NOT anger or self-esteem issues (at least, those things are not the 'excuse' or 'reason' for why they abuse... plenty of other ppl deal with that shit daily snd yet do not feel the need to denigrate others to somehow feel 'whole')... actual abusers need intervention, which is fuck tons different... for reasons, obvs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:03 AM
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Ya, like a warm bath that imperceptibly gets hotter.... duh 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 03:45 AM
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Also, the assertion that it's 'less grueling' than Walmart (or whatever) work is highly debatable
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 01:34 PM
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And it's just a job like any other (requiring a honed skill-set to be sure), supply and demand yadiyada, men are free to do it too, never understood why it became so vilified in western modern society... I mean, aside from pimp culture being over-glorified... but that wasn't a thing til P Diddy, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 03:22 AM
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Buzzer, try again. Happily married with preschooler, 5 mutual pets and a wonderful beach life etc. I just have this ability to kinda objective (and so, empathetic toward those who have been subject to the inverse), see. It's actually not hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:46 AM
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Interrreeesssteeennng
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:48 AM
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Nah, you just decided that's what it meant... 'matter of fact' would be the terminology I presented. Go to bed little one
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:47 AM
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But outright disdain is fine, check
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:56 PM
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'Cancer' is not deliberately meant as an insult though... so...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:51 PM
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Nah, that's a terrible term bc it's only ever meant in a derogatory way... 'sexually autonomous" is relevant here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:50 PM
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Women with a sense of personal agency over their own sexuality (oops, were you disappointed you didn't get to 'own her' first?)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:49 PM
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You forgot your /s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:48 PM
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Being caught in an abusive relationship in no way means that one has 'low-self esteem' or 'mental health issues'... but nice victim-blame. You also have to be mentally strong as hell to deal with all that and somehow keep it mostly together. The abuse dynamic is incredibly complex, and victims aren't chosen bc they are necessarily 'broken' types, nor can it always be obvious that will end up abused (abusers can be master manipulators)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:48 PM
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Irrelevant but no. I don't judge others who might, however.... everyone has their reasons and I'm self-secure and mature that way, see
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 07:37 PM
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Right? As if being famous is unto itself something to be ashamed of? I'm no celebrity apologist but good grief.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 02:53 AM
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Not being a virgin is simply not being a 'virgin' (whatever 'that's is actually supposed to mean) let's please leave the derogatory labels out of things and call things as they simply, non-subjectively are (ya, we teach our preschooler terms like vagina and penis too ;) )
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 01:00 AM
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You use the words bc they suit YOU. Full stop. Not because they mean anything outside of your ingrained set of 'values'... also a construct. You know this so quit trying, we're done here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:15 PM
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Either way, but we don't call your example a 'slut' or anything, for that matter (unless you count dubious compliments such as the subjective use of 'pure' etc) Buzzer, try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 09:14 PM
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Well originally I phrased it as 'having sexual agency', which is a different belief system that doesn't rely on judgement of others. Being authentic is not the same as laying out put-downs. Sure, people who call others 'sluts' are being authentic to their own set of values, but they are still applying judgment, whereas exploring one's own sexuality -for whatever reason- is only that. Not sure why you find this so confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:35 PM
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It's in the dictionary as a derogatory term meant as an insult, that doesn't mean a person with belief in sexual freedom is actually anything other than that... just bc others impose/project their constructed (or indoctrinated-in) belief systems and insecurities onto people who are comfortable enough to live their lives so authentically doesn't actually make them the insult as if it were an actual object; I can see and feel an apple, 'imagination' is a neutral concept and a noun.... 'slut' is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:54 PM
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There is no actual such thing as a 'slut'. It's a derogatory construct, full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:46 PM
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Women in burkas also get raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:29 PM
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That's called 'internalized misogyny'
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:27 PM
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To have sexual agency. Fixed it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 03:26 PM
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And the vast majority of public boards have a pitiful female representation on them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:54 PM
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When my (now, post humous) ex mil was days out from dying of esophageal (effing!!) cancer, we were in the hospital with her two older sisters, she was 83 and seemed so fragile... her eldest sister later that evening told us, mattered of factly (that was their family way) "she is still so pretty/beautiful" (we speak another language so the nuance there is hard to capture here exactly). This was 11 years ago... but it struck me then and stayed with me; she was absolutely right beyond right.... eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:43 AM
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your assessment of subjective 'honesty' There, fixed it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:33 AM
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Actually boundaries are your personal limits regarding what you won't allow others to do to you; imposing of limits or rules on others would be the controlling behavior in question. So, if, say, I am offended and hurt by my hypothetical partner preferring porn to actual intimacy with me, I can tell him how that makes feel and why, then we could either jointly try to compromise/resolve, or I could choose to leave or something... that would exercising MY boundaries. On the other hand, if I were to…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:31 PM
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He mentioned 'will make the night go smoother'... implying undersired discord or discomfort. But my point went beyond the example, of course
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 06:30 PM
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Right? The last kind of sex I want from my husband is the he-felt-obligated/needs to humor me (so patronizing) type, yech. I think very fee women would be ever into that... not sure about men, many men yes... but in what proportion to those who don't care as long as they get off?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 06:21 PM
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If it's related to a control imbalance where the non-enthusiastic partner feels obligated due to FEARING some possible negative form of punishment (vs mild annoyance) then, ya, that falls into the coercion category so...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 06:15 PM
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Essentially, yes. Plus the well-worn notion of dark nihilism; we're 'good' until... I admit, that book added some hopeful nuance in the end
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:58 AM
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Lord of the Flies, essentially, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 01:37 AM
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.... I know.... you understand the fun in the reference though.... right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:24 AM
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Freddy Mercury beat him to it... bc... ya know, bicycles N shit 🤓
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 12:05 AM
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Right? And conversely, my dude was a former adonis elite athlete type who now can't keep an ounce on (still muscular, but much more sinewy and he is self conscious about it).... do I care one hair off a rat's proverbial Port-o-potty side? Hell to the no... he's just as beautiful to me as if he was 22 again and ripped and built.... he struggles to believe me... bc societal bs (ironically, the same thing he accuses me). Beauty (the true sense of it) exceeds social media dictates; it evolves, it fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:06 AM
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Plus all those who have been convinced that over population represents a resource-sharing and environmental problem
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:55 PM
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Since when does 'meh' equivocate to actually wanting sex? Ergo, doing so anyway is likely the result of some sort of coercive play. Coercive sex is pretty much considered a form of sexual assault by many. This post is rather skeevy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 09:08 PM
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I wouldn't precisely put Tate in the category of actual 'thought producer' though...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 10:51 PM
2

Not at all the point; no one here is saying not to be careful... you can be as careful as you want and shit can still happen, just like women in abayas etc still get raped. Stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 10:24 PM
12

For what? Being among (what we had every reason to think were) friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 10:23 PM
14

I was out with my now husband (who was right next to me) when my drink got spiked... by someone we knew... it takes a second of distraction (all too easy in social settings, could even happen to YOU), kindly have a seat
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:22 PM
8

Ok, victim-blamer
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:17 PM
13

Right? Relationships (the healthier ones, at least), are about individual people, distinct personalities that may or may not mesh, plus evolutionary sex organs and pituitary gland doing their thing yadiyada... the whole 'them vs us' mentality has nothing to do with actual relating. Geez.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:38 AM
5

Suppressed....? (You know, like, on threat of severe societal punishment... unless wealthy enough or outside of mainstream society enough (courtesans, prostitutes and the like could say things wives clearly could not) I encourage you to read the poetry of Blake as part of your starter kit
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:31 AM
3

😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:28 AM
8

Oh bless your sweet summer child soul...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:28 AM
2

Ok, Maga.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:09 AM
1

Wtf are you smoking? Like.... I don't envy how you must make love to your porcelain god on the regular from that shit... seems the closest you ever get to the concept anyhow... 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:07 AM
8

Dude. I LIVED WHERE ITS STILL A THING. THE WOMEN DO NOT LIKE IT. See also: hating being forced to be a 5th bride at 15 to a 55 year old with 12 kids. Gth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:06 AM
7

No
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:04 AM
14

your happiness, you mean, fuck the female partner's actual needs and perspective therein... as long as she shuts up about it to your advantage, you'll 'reward' her, right...?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:03 AM
4

Relationships were always 'strained' except that one sex had a very limited (if any) voice by which to explore or express such (in any safe manner, anyhow); buzzer, try again
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:01 AM
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Oh no sir
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:59 AM
1

Definitely there are... but depending on how threatening he can be, the woman will likely have a harder time standing up to him than the inverse
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 03:04 PM
8

Nah, it gets seen historically by society as 'assertive', 'taking charge of the situation', 'getting things done' etc.... it's never called 'nagging' when it's a guy... though the excessive use of such can definitely be a form of abuse (assuming a control or power imbalance is present in favor of the nagger) by EITHER sex. But usually, see, when a woman is accused of 'nagging', the man will feel entitled to 'put her back in her place' (using force is generally easier to carry out for a man).... …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 03:00 PM
3

Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 03:54 AM
14

Sure... except that men in that situation are generally not genuinely afraid of being 'silenced' in any air-threatening physical way... you understand
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 02:18 AM
2

Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 02:12 AM
21

Dude, have you ever felt like saying 'no' would result in an immediately worse outcome than just 'letting it happen'? (And all the shame and yuck that goes with that) No? Then kindly have a seat regarding the subject of 'consent'
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:54 AM
14

Perfectly put. Interestingly, my husband has relatively little body hair and used to shave it all off... bc he was an athlete; I do not find that 'unmanly' in the slightest!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 09:12 PM
0

Well that point has very little to do with the construct of 'virginity' on its own, but ok, strawman
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:31 AM
0

Well, why wouldn't it be? It's a concept, not anything of objective value to the universe beyond that. If YOU attribute value to that... well that's YOUR Universe... should it be imposed on anyone else's?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 03:38 AM
-1

Were men? It's an ideal (so, absolutely fully subjective). Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:51 AM
12

So much yuck
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:36 AM
0

'Virginity' is a made up ideal. Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 02:35 AM
2

Well articulated and upvoted
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:15 PM
0

You strike me as more of a 'human' than any 'pill' per se ... I'm happily (so-called) spoken for, but I can tell you how attractive that aspect is, regardless of whatever physical attributes It's easy to forget such things on these (somewhat, but yes for reasons) contrived platforms
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:02 AM
3

Yup, never had more men after me than when I hit 39, also felt most attractive from that point on anyhow. Husband certainly thought/thinks so too...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:33 PM
2

He beat her up and that's your take?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:18 PM
-3

Fair Point... as long as they back it up with logical, respectfully stated supporting evidence that can be empirically validly, of course, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:02 AM
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Women are horny. Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:26 PM
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We're not angry because we understand; we love our men and will do all the things, but gagging is a reality, y'all can just get over it and, like, enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:41 AM
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🤣 Hey pot..!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:40 AM
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... 'purity', ok. Thank you for your contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:39 AM
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Ok, older than boomer
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:21 AM
3

And neither are representative of any real 'moral flaw' either way, so....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:33 AM
6

Ya, especially since Louisiana banned iud's too, right? Because.... preventing pregnancy is absolutely the same thing as the A word... but sure, the second she turns 16 you can have a dude from the next levee over knock her up and shot gun the whole affair...bc....'legitimacy' and 'Jesus' n stuffs...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:28 AM
2

And seriously, who defines what 'top 20' is at any given time or culture (or state of mind) is anyway? ... signed a girl who never sought out the former elite athlete (who is still hot as hell) who chased her down but has a slew of his own issues.... we are all just not the same.... why is this concept so hard?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 02:02 AM
-1

Well mine had 6 kids prior to me he wanted (his idea) for me to have our daughter with him... so gonna veer toward a 'yup'... it's just as varied amongst men as for women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:15 PM
0

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:41 AM
3

Yeah, I see your satire and raise you certain inconvenient life truths... isn't that what all stripes of pillers (personally, I think paisley is well underrated these days, though) do?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:11 AM
6

They also have very few safe options for women to report anything coupled with how the society has been indoctrinated to view certain controlling behaviors as 'normal'... despite an unwitting power imbalance being THE. ACTUAL DEFINITION OF ABUSE.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:58 PM
-1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:32 PM
0

I actually was just friends with my husband at first, him too... but then he developed feelings way before I did (which is on him)... he started to feel entitled to me, which was concerning... in the end, I guess his persistence paid off, but no, he didn't befriend me bc he was initially attracted to me. We loved in a small place where running into the same people constantly was unavoidable lol (so you either get along or things are awkward)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:51 PM
0

Rape and murder are definitely aspects of DV too, as is intimidation, lying, manipulation, social intimidation.... "Why Does He Do that?" Lundy Bancroft
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:04 PM
0

And yet you went for that strawman style comparison... wonder how many women is 'enough' for you, hmm...?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:00 PM
1

Also, abusers are highly manipulative... the frog in the slow-heating water analogy definitely applies. Abuse is an incredibly complex dynamic that is in no way served by platitudinous, or otherwise simplistic, statements. But if we want to make any generalized statement at all, you could simply say it's a pure mindfuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:07 PM
0

Sure... extenuating circumstances be damned, right? Not all 'choices' are equal, or even seemingly preferable. Furthermore, a woman is far far far more likely to be murdered by her former partner upon leaving him, but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:41 PM
5

Interesting point on the make up ; I'll wear light make up even if I don't leave the house lol! Call it a product of conditioning (full disclosure: I worked as a cosmetician for a while when I was a student), but I genuinely love the intricacies of it and the subtle creativity it brings. It's not because I'm considered unattractive either (according to others, yes including a sizable portion of men, ahem), just feel more fully 'expressed' or 'complete' that way. It's not hurting anyone. Also, my…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:52 PM
8

Interesting... I live in the tropics and people here dress in all sorts of ways from traditional conservative (typically tee shirt snd midi-skirts, go swimming with full clothes on etc), to walking into supermarkets in bikinis... LITERALLY NO ONE CARES EITHER WAY. It's nice. But I guess that's life in a beach town for you. I'll going running in a sports top and tight lulullemon shorts any day and no one will bat an eye, and it's definitely only for heat management and mobility.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:43 PM
3

Nailed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:00 PM
5

And very easy to get quite ill... I've lived in Africa
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:43 PM
5

One of his latest gems was saying that kissing a woman was kind of a 'gay act' bc that woman has presumably had previous dicks in her mouth so kissing her is kind of like kissing dick and therefore 'gay'. Ya... me either...👀
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:40 PM
6

Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:37 AM
1

Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:37 AM
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How often are men strangled/choked/suffocated, physically maimed in any serious way, or killed by female abusers? Does this diminish the validity of emotional abuse? Absolutely not... but a shelter's main historical purpose is to protect against physical harm... and that will always be a far less serious threat to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:07 PM
1

if he does leave, even after having not planned on falling in love, then how could he have ever cared about her enough not to hurt her? If he supposedly cared so much as to want to romantically be with her, when he learns that's not going to happen, leaving the friendship may feel to him like it's HIS only choice, but he's not doing it out of empathy for her feelings, certainly... and therefore not as 'real' a friend as she likely thought he was.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:23 PM
1

And that's his own issue and responsibility; being friends with a man (well intentionally so) in no way obligates a woman to reciprocate romantic feelings. If he ends up having them, he has to respect that and respect her. If he can't, ya sure, walk away; now he's hurt himself and she has lost a friend bc he couldn't manage his own feelings. Fwiw, it can happen the other way too (and does), where a woman falls in love with a male friend, I would put that same onus on her as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 03:15 PM
1

My husband was in the vague orbit of our share limited world... and yet, he DEFINITELY weaseled his way into a closer sphere of such (in ways involving our kids, so disentanglement would have been hurtful to them, at best). I guess it wore me down and I let myself unfriendzone (against all logical judgment, as per our circumstances), and now we share a child etc... he is STILL bitter that I didn't accept his 'love' right away.... it hurts me, bc, if it was truly 'love' on his part, why not under…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:14 AM
-1

He doesn't... but if he were a true friend, rather than a targeter, he would act like it. It's really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:07 AM
1

Yup... my spouse STILL verbally assaults me for having found found certain other men (whom HE deemed 'uglier') attractive and sleeping with before him (current wasn't even really on my social radar as much as HE thought HE deserved to be... wait what? Sorry... had no idea I was supposed to drop all my current social connections and desires because YOU decided you liked me and therefore were somehow'entitled' to me 100%... Ya no I insisted on making it happen on both our terms....
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 02:06 AM
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They don't; it becomes an issue when men are allowed inside the same shelters though (Lundy Bancroft actually has quite a bit to say on this). As far as 'false accusations'... (ostensibly, I'm assuming you mean regarding abuse)... are you absolutely certain? That's a pretty broad and unsupported claim.... https://lundybancroft.com/mens-angry-messages-to-me-part-2/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:52 PM
3

Yes, people all too easily misunderstand the nuance between working for EQUITABLE conditions and the concept of 'equality' (in some vacuum, rendering it meaningless). Nothing about the underlying objective of feminism is to take away from anyone, but rather to no longer be taken away FROM (options, voice, compensation-wise, etc) This really shouldn't be so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 02:24 PM
7

Also, there is no real 'fault' in divorce, just serious incompatibility issues (yes even with infidelity... happiness does not usually breed that), unless actual theft of property occurred, anyone who gets into a legal commitment, has to also accept the risk that these things could happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:30 AM
1

Boom
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 12:42 AM
2

Oh Christ that works both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:10 AM
41

But seriously... no.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 06:02 AM
-3

Your admission of sheer reliance on the anecdotal speaks volumes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 01:03 AM
0

Oh bless your sweet clueless soul
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 12:57 AM
2

Staley was a man and the lead singer of Alice in Chains, fwiw (and his thing was being able to pull off off-key notes in a way that actually enhanced the song's meaning... which isn't for everyone's ear but definitely a unique skill imho)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:15 PM
14

Also, anyone who has to announce to the world how 'nice' they believe they are... usually ...aren't... so there's that, ya....
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:03 PM
1

Nevermind the complete dehumanization
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:47 PM
2

I completely agree; incredibly misunderstood reality (particularly in the US) as well... a good resource on this topic would be Lundy Bancroft, he makes a great and sobering case for why leaving is all too often quite disadvantageous to women (though also often necessary, catch-22's r us).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:20 PM
0

Outdated wording?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:37 PM
4

In all cases even, divorce should be about recognizing how to each let go equitably, never about revenge or vindictiveness... doesn't matter what they did (severe criminal acts of abuse aside... that's a criminal case anyway, not family or civil court), unhappiness manifests as it does
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:36 PM
1

Or the husband lacks any ability to give on an emotional level
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:33 PM
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Or, we just genuinely enjoy being friends..?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:27 AM
1

Testosterone being one helluva drug...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 03:16 PM
0

whydoeshedothat? By Lundy Bancroft (a man) should clear up, starter-package style, what you clearly have zero clue about when it comes to abuse dynamics
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 04:46 AM
3

Yup, not afraid of 'all men' but definitely on alert for certain vibes since having experienced choking abuse from someone close and a knifing attack from a random stranger (in my own bedroom at 4am, ya probably would have had better luck w the bear than a rabid poorly armed stranger intentionally there to steal and stab me into 'sublission'... so... there's that... ya...)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 04:43 AM
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Actually I've lived in a true 3rd World country where almost everyone is 'poor' by your standards... these people had the biggest hearts and took joy in all the little things you likely take for granted. They were also so much more resourceful in general than people from wealthier nations. Now of course they could be opportunistic (not necessarily in any malign way though), but wouldn't anyone when dangled w an obvious opportunity in front of their nose? Please don't generalize what you haven't …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:19 PM
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And then men complain when some women (far from all... ) dare to naturally internalize that mentality and limiting message?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:14 PM
1

Maybe? That doesn't necessarily define what certain others find 'attractive' or not though... sometimes it's precisely that 'neurodivergent' approach that garners the 'right' kind of notice... for reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:31 AM
-1

Actually, having a unique mindset can be uber attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:42 AM
1

'Promiscuity' is a made up construct word meant to be used in some derogatory fashion... taking charge of one's own sexual agency (and learning all the lessons and joys that go with that) is a far more objective descriptor; both for men as much as women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:59 PM
1

Or superficial stereotypes that you made a whole post about 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:56 PM
1

Ya think?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:54 PM
1

I dunno... You find finally someone who clicks on all the major levels then it abruptly ends the otherwise valid search prior for that level of intimacy?? This works equitably for both sexes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:53 PM
1

Ok, now replace 'women' with 'men' in your statement... including the apparent 'sleeping around' part
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:51 PM
-1

If I (hypothetically, soooo not looking) met a virgin who was a cool dude in general and I felt whatever I needed to feel (and that's no static formula) then why on earth should that phase me?? Just another beautiful path of mutual growth and discovery
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:50 PM
0

In the famous irreverent words of Dennis Miller (keep in mind this was shortly after 9-11 and I'm paraphrasing a bit) "the idea of getting 72 virgins upon suicide bombing sounds great on the surface... til you get to virgin 11 or 12... then you're like, 'damn can't I get someone with more experience??!!'''
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:31 PM
0

A man is never the (checks notes) 'town bike' then? Ya age-old hypocrisy but sadly, apparently, still prevalent. Yuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:21 PM
1

Or a hard worker at her own career...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:18 PM
1

And yet actual dollars earned often don't match up to the efforts (or not) behind them; if either she OR HE is a hard working contributor (in WHATEVER WAY) then that counts for a ton to most reasonable people... see
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:17 PM
1

I pretty much doubt that ANYONE (regardless of gender) would be allowed to too put off by ending up in a mutually beneficial relationship with someone who has, say, millions, or status... just sayin
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:13 PM
2

And marriages in no way have to follow any traditional patriarchal style or moraes...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:30 PM
0

Sarcasm yes related to behavior and the lack of validation for his statement , direct insult to his being or personality, no
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 05:28 PM
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Ok, omniscient all knowing empirical one 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:01 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 No
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 02:04 PM
6

Bullcrap... every relationship and person is unique, these sweeping generalizations are strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:53 PM
5

Yup, my husband was a friend and hounded me... I valued that friendship and was not ready to mess with it and possibly ruin what made that work, and while I thought he was good looking enough (I don't have a 'type' or any 'list' of criteria, and no, am/was not considered unattractive by the standards of others, far from in fact... so never a case of thinking anyone was out of anyone's 'league' here), but I.Just.Didn't.Feel.Attracted romantically or physically until time passed and we got much cl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:52 PM
1

Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:42 PM
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Men weaponize all sorts of shit against women, not the least of which would be vulnerability
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 02:15 PM
2

At best...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:54 AM
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And it would nice if that could one day change. Just like how too much porn (made by men for men) would stop, as a rule, glorifying (and using lighting, camera tricks and outliers) massive dicks over other options. Our collective perception (not mine personally) of what features are 'socially acceptable' can in fact change over time (if the mass media influences are also adjusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:03 PM
2

It's pretty marginalized as a rich leisure-girl flex though so... (ya we're smart enough to sometimes figure done shit out 🙄)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 11:55 PM
5

Or if you don't let him make all major decisions for the family, you aren't a good enough little subordinate... I saw Estee say something along those lines once (and she IS a heavy earner, ironically, not that income is any pure indicator of hard work necessarily anyhow)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:16 PM
1

You clearly do not get out much....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:57 PM
6

Fitness, pysanky (Ukrainian egg art), art in general, writing, cooking (no not a baker, I do dinner shit), reading EVERYTHING, financial stuff (bc high level professional background) language learning (we live abroad), digital marketing and writing... etc etc... my interests will never have a boundary, should they? ...ya please don't
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 05:34 AM
1

Really? How many places in the world have you been, precisely? How many different cultures? Even within your own country? And how many individuals have you actually encountered on that level? I'll wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 12:26 AM
1

When was the last time you actually went outside?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:25 PM
1

Except that absolutely no one has a universal objective stamp on what's considered 'hot', see...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:15 PM
1

Yes, blended families are definitely a thing...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:54 PM
16

It's interesting to me how on this sub ppl keep referring to 'quality women' (or men)... everyone to me is of 'quality' of some sort of another, but attraction and compatibility will also vary from person to person... it's not about who is 'better' than their peers, just individual chemistry, familiarity, or even convenience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:30 PM
-1

Not sure (could depend on the jurisdiction) but I'd wager that if waiting on the police for a distance would further immediately endanger the life of the victim, that could end up on you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:23 PM
-2

What if you lived in a place with a good samaritan law though....would you not be legally obligated then, regardless of the gender of the attackee?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:12 PM
4

I dunno, I have always found myself more attracted to more subtle cues; a certain look in the eye, intensity, the way he moves, GENUINE CONNECTION, inflection etc. I short, energy. Typical 'good looks' (whatever that may mean at any given time to any given individual) are just one aspect in a much more nuanced and complex mix... no we aren't so superficial
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 03:17 PM
4

I was not even referring to myself, darling.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:31 AM
-8

Ahh the classic 'victim blaming/ad hominem' approach... you go, person...you... go...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:21 AM
-11

No. You have just shown how little you understand about that whole insane, nuanced, and complex dynamic. Kindly have a seat until you are even remotely up to speed with the grown ups
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:10 AM
2

And by that, I hope you mean basic common decency, as in, treat others as you would wish to be so treated
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:04 AM
-3

Or... I dunno, Andrew Tate influenced mentality comes to mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:01 AM
1

I deeply appreciate your balanced perspective ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:35 AM
2

Abuse dynamics are clearly complex beyond your heretofore exposure to such. Your starter package includes the freely available pdf version of 'Why Does He Do That?' By Lundy Bancroft (a straight dude, fwiw)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:23 AM
-4

They usually disguise themselves as either Tatesters, Trumpsters, or 'alphas'
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:20 AM
4

'Truly, you have a dizzying intellect'
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:19 AM
3

Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:03 AM
7

Who died and made you king on the matter, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 01:02 AM
2

I will ALWAYS take vulnerability with my spouse (or anyone) than abuse, as long as we know a feeling comes from a sincere place
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 12:42 AM
1

Right? My husband is a serious manscaper.... is he being deceptive?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:24 PM
3

Has anyone seen these guys? <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:23 PM
6

With a massive 'le sigh', yes, precisely (strawmen-style-R-us, ooch)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:51 AM
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As if dudes don't? 🤣🤣🤣 Hey there, hey now... don't dream... we're all just kinda human, so stop with the self-serving dream
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:08 AM
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Right? My initial (admittedly visceral) reaction to this post was a shameless 🤣🤣🤣🤣 ...and I don't actually do that, like on principle, so.... that's kind of a (refreshingly cheap 🤷‍♀️ yet meaningful) statement... n stuff....
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 04:05 AM
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What about if you were platonic (at least on one side... friends first though?)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:45 AM
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Do they really though is the million dollar question
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:38 AM
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True, come from a specific professional background and there was not a heckload of variation there... all spouses of either sex were of some sort of equivalent level professional background. Then I lived abroad, and all that mattered was the person/their aura themselves... which was kinda neat (challenging, humbling even, loss-creating...but ultimately growth-producing, so)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:38 AM
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'Your 'ugly' is a highly subjective take, though, darling...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 05:29 AM
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Only if you actually act like a predator
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:37 PM
2

Debatable.... but certainly male 'promiscuity' is actually never even called that, now is it...?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:18 PM
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I know. I wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 05:04 AM
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If I am 'out of order' he expects satisfaction at my hands. Is that not a form if entitlement? He does not care if I feel denied during that time (I have severe pain the first night/day or two but somehow an intact libido, go figure)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:52 AM
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He expects me to wait for him so I figure that should work both ways...?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:06 AM
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Totally thiis
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:31 PM
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So if we do, shouldn't men do the same, then? Experience has apparent advantages on your side, does it not? Further, I was not stating it as a rule, but as an unfortunate and misguided tendency, kindly get it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:40 PM
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The fact that you even classify such unofficial, made up, contrived stuff as 'rules' is actually quite telling.... 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:29 PM
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'Promiscuity' is a made-up construct that is meaningless on its own... the world comes down to a conglomerate of individuals each with far more complex merits and challenges than such denigrating and, ultimately, self-serving (if the other is more 'awful' than ne, then I'm golden no matter what I say or do'), generalizations depict.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:21 PM
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But when men do it, it makes them 'desirable studs to win over', right? Screw your double standards
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:18 PM
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So lemme guess... you bill yourself as a 'nice guy', amirite?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:08 PM
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Or if lesbians simply feel more comfortable reporting it... (for various reasons... or the inverse, why hetero women do not....)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 04:38 AM
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I dunno.. am currently financing my spouse's career, where he gets all the glory and all I get is yelled at that I haven't been able to mind-read his next ever-shifting needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 02:14 AM
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Yet yours would be ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:48 PM
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