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mentions "Lucifer" as if it is a single entity tells people to read the bible The irony
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 02:44 AM
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you seem really confused. You don't know what "debates" are. You don't understand what a "fact" is. "Common sense" is a myth. You use so many logical fallacies that I'd be impressed if I wasn't bored. You can dissect on how bad a man was in bed but I can’t for women??? I mean, I haven't personally done that, nor have I weighed in on who can or can't do it. You can do whatever. My questions are: Why bother us with it? If you don't like having sex with women, who is making you? Do you actually hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 01:40 AM
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yeah- so bring up an actually debatable topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 01:30 AM
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why would anyone care to debate an opinion? you're entitled to THINK whatever you want..??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 01:24 AM
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There's nothing to debate here. "I think..." okay, cool. If you prefer men's techniques in bed, then sleep with men. I don't see why that's any of our business or what there is to discuss regarding what you think might be true in theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:29 PM
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I'm not sure why my husband's sexual history would matter this much to you, but since it apparently does: he chose not to sleep with anyone before me. Other women were interested. In fact, he still gets hit on/ flirted with semi-regularly. Were he the type, he could have slept/ could still sleep with other women. Thankfully, he's not. I didn't have to do anything. I had other options, too. He's who I chose to be with because he's who I loved, was compatible with, had shared values with, enjoyed …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 09:23 PM
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I did. 10/10 would recommend (as long as he is caring, compassionate, communicative, and eager to connect).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:01 AM
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why what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 06:24 PM
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Seems like you are conflating "libertarian" with "right wing" and presuming a whole shit ton about me from 3 sentences. That's pretty judgemental and presumptuous of you. You must be a white evangelical republican man. (See how ridiculous that sounds? That's what you sound like. Ridiculous).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:19 AM
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(yeah, same, but you'd have to look at my history and/ or not be ignorant to know that so I guess... right winger it is?) edit typo
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:30 AM
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yeah, good point. I'm very obviously a "right-winger." That's me. Are you psychic because I've never felt so seen! I believe in trickle-down economics, and I own 12 guns, which I keep on a rack in my shed out back. I can't spell my own last name because reading and writing lead to liberalism. I'm a REAL Christian and a REAL American in that I believe Jesus was too woke for Christianity and that it's okay for the president to actively subvert the constitution because when it was written the found…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:26 AM
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is this sarcasm or sincere?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:55 PM
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I'm not paying taxes for some idiot's offspring. They're his responsibility. If I didn't get the orgasm, I'm not paying the bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:00 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 07:04 PM
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what you "have a hard time understanding" is likely immeasurable and certainly not my responsibility to assuage You can pretend my descriptive comment is prescriptive all you like, but that will not make it so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:01 PM
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please quote where I told the "universal 'you'" to "settle."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 07:41 AM
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So? We already had a baby boom and an echo boom. The reason they were "booms" is because they were abnormal. There is no (non-capitslist) reason we need to "replace" people at the same rate. "start" looooooollololololooooooololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololoooollololololooooooolololololololololololololololollllllllz
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:46 AM
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yeah, I'm the problem. The issue isn't the problem. The person pointing out the issue is the problem. /s, obviously. If you, personally have tried multiple avenues to date, for years, have worked on yourself inside (so that your MH is stable and you can relate to women on a person-to-person basis) and out (so that you are presenting in a way that is at least pleasant to be around) and are still individually frequently rejected, then perhaps you truly are in that small category of men and I am so…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:17 AM
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Please quote where I told incels to "settle."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:04 AM
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I'm sure that's true, but I didn't mention "red pill," I mentioned the manosphere, which is to TRP as a rectangle is to a square. I specifically said many men "believe" women have it easier in dating/ sex. I didn't say I agreed. I don't "blame them" but I do think they are ignorant as to the driving force behind their beliefs, and it would behoove them to get educated asap. If and when women reach 100% legal and societal parity with men, we should absolutely address the other concerns you're rai…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:01 AM
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Yes! And after this, let's address the rising trend of arsenic poisoning from green wallpaper. [First, I would give my sympathy to you if you were writing this from the first person perspective, but you are addressing it as a societal issue/ not personal to you, so I'll skip that and do the same]. This is not new. This is marketing. They are marketing sexual scarcity and a specific brand of masculinity to young men, and so many are buying it, just like they did in the 1970s and the 1870s and lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:18 AM
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18-20 year olds? My opinion would be that she is a predator, a creep, and should stay single while rigorously pursuing therapy for whatever unresolved issues make her afraid of a real, equal, connected partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 11:41 PM
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Believing in equal rights for all is literally the definition of feminism so you are agreeing with me. Exactly. I did. I mentioned roads. and you replied to my comment with a totally different subject - "social services" - when I never used that term. I was specifically referring to "public services" and further specified roads and fire depts. Social Services are different. Especially if you are in the US, things like Soc Sec are funded differently from schools, roads, and emergency services: th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 08:20 PM
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"egalitarian anti-feminist" is oxymoronic I never mentioned "social services" or "social security" so either you struggle with reading comprehension or you are moving the goalposts. Either way, that's a YOU problem. I answered the question based upon the subject I brought up and to which you ostensibly replied. If you are confused about the difference between fire departments and social security and/or you want answers to the new topic you are randomly bringing up, I recommend not doing so as a …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:58 PM
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THAT'S what you chose to address? Out of everything I said? Really? Okay, like I said: you seem passionate about this. What SPECIFIC STEPS have YOU taken to get rid of "society's expectations" of conscription, taxes, and capitalism?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:59 PM
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I'm not aware of a statistic indicating that either gender is more likely to experience a house fire and/or to travel on public roads, than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:55 PM
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☝️asking the REAL questions. this men vs women thing is just another distraction the ultra wealthy are selling and OP is the perfect customer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:53 PM
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If society doesn't owe men wives, men don't owe society our labour, taxes and blood I mean, yeah. ...if society doesn't owe him a wife, then he... doesn't owe society his taxes, labour and blood. If you are bleeding that much at work, that may not be an ideal career choice for you. Why should he slave away for 40+ hours a week, pay taxes, contribute to the economy and risk his life in war if society won't, in return, give him a wife so he can have children, raise a family and pass on his bloodli…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:49 PM
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Your statement assumes the following: "high class" is synonymous "upper class" "high class"/ "upper class" men are "high value"/ "high status" "high class"/"high status" men are "conservative" "high class"/"high status" men are not "progressive" "lower class" (economically) men automatically have "low" "class" (socio-interpersonally) "lower class" men are not "conservative" "lower class" men are "progressive" There is such a thing as being objectively "high status" Said status is 100% tied to we…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:22 AM
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If I self-report being miserable because I am bored with my corporate job today and someone who grew up abused, neglected, and malnourished self-reports being happy because they now have food and a cat who loves them- which one of us is objectively "happier?" Neither- because self-reporting is by nature, not an objective metric. there are a myriad of reasons why conservatives are less likely to divorce and more likely to report happiness and none of them are objective.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:32 PM
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don't forget that most of them don't even WANT women to act / be like them. They get furious if women "act like men" or "are too masculine." They try to use it as an insult and wax on endlessly about how they need a woman with "feminine energy."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:00 PM
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the other commenter (and now you) proved that in the 1700s and 1800s, a few women had bank accounts. Susan N Anthony: 1820-1906 (did not have a bank account in the 1960s) Sarah Howe: 1826-1892 (did not have a bank account in the 1960s) Louisa May Alcott: 1832-1888 (did not have a bank account in the 1960s) None of them prove that 50 years ago, single women could open a bank account. There are some rights/ privileges women had and then lost, for example, when territories became states or when pri…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:44 AM
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Unfortunately, no one can prove what you are asking because it isn’t true. https://nationalwomenshistoryalliance.org/resources/womens-rights-movement/detailed-timeline/ https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Timeline_of_women%27s_legal_rights_in_the_United_States_(other_than_voting) https://interactive.unwomen.org/multimedia/timeline/womenunite/en/index.html#/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:53 PM
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the other commenter proved that in the 1700s and 1800s, a few women had bank accounts. He did not prove that 50 years ago, single women could open them. There are some rights/ privileges women had and then lost, for example, when territories became states or when private banks changed policies because there wasn't a law explicitly preventing discriminatory practices. It is fallacious to claim that because a few people could do something in the past, all people have been able to do that same thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:48 PM
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*white women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 04:41 PM
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citation needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 07:46 AM
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I was mostly saying that as a joke but I find it slightly irritating when people pretend their opinions or impressions are facts, so: https://coldplay2025tour.com/the-enigmatic-appeal-understanding-guys-who-listen-to-coldplay/
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:47 PM
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as a woman, i am offended at the implication that I like Coldplay
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:06 PM
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did you not look at both the gender and a calendar? Am i getting trolled?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:23 AM
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you posted something that confirms that more men AND women voted gop in 2022 (which goes against your point and supports mine). Thanks for agreeing!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:14 AM
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more democrat which OP is talking about OP said "socialist" not "democrat." The democratic party in the US (aside from a few standouts) is faaaaarrr from socialist. import more migrants since statistically they highly vote Democrat. "importing migrants" (horrible phrasing btw) does not help unless they have a path to citizenship. Only US citizens can vote in federal (and most state/ local) elections. All in all its a white men thing not really related to woman. Almost half of Latinos and over ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:05 AM
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not only was it never sustainable, but it never existed in the first place. Our nostalgia for that time is actually nostalgia for the propaganda of that time. I took a whole sociology class about this. The 1950s didn't ever look how they portrayed. They were using things like ads, Leave it to Beaver, etc. to propagandize people into thinking things were great at the time while never actually being the way it was shown.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 07:07 PM
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this post has the same energy as
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 08:02 AM
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Hit on how? What do you mean? It's different every time, but women either offer their number or ask if he wants to get coffee or some other version of hitting on a person. I guess I don't get your question. an extreme and memorable example that comes to mind is a woman telling him "you're too young to get in there but you're not to young to get in here" then pointing at herself in a bar parking lot. Is that what you're asking for? You can't possibly imagine why that might be the case? I do not u…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:46 PM
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I think it completely depends upon the man, but for the majority of neurotypical men, it's not as hard as some men say IF they are going out of the house regularly and they are also looking for a "woman in general" My husband is probably pretty average looking to most people (I am biased, so he's not average to me), and he's very introverted. He gets hit on at random places at least once a month. So, even without trying, he would have options were he looking. I think this perpetual online discus…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 02:15 PM
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Actually, there are many businesses who handle one wealthy client at a time AT A TIME not total. luxury guitar that's produced once every 3 years? They still produce and sell more than one guitar in a limited run. the company producing the limited run still makes and sells other guitars throughout the year. Once again, neither of your examples offer a 1:1 comparison or backup OP's comment in any way. You can give a billion of these and still not answer my question. OP said it would be best for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 07:09 PM
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Having a boutique firm that serves only a handful of wealthy companies/ clients, or getting most of your funding from government contracts are both viable business plans but neither rely on solely ONE customer. I don't need you to explain 4th grade econ to me. I noticed you said Some businesses deal with very few rich clients and not ONE rich client which is what we both know OP is advocating for. So I'll assume you know how ridiculous OP sounds and that your comment does not provide anything ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 06:39 PM
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did you mean this as a double negative, or did you misspeak? edit to clarify my question: Are you saying YES you WOULD usually tell another business to only have one client but NOT if they have a contract, then you'd tell them not to? Because in context, that's what your comment means. OR did you mean to say that you typically would NOT give the advice of only having one client UNLESS they have a contract ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:50 PM
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I assume Most women are not offered the option of being a kept woman by a wealthy man Were they to receive such an offer, they'd weigh the pros and cons and feel that things like independence, flexibility, and autonomy are worth more to them than the alternative. Poli Sci is not the only field that faces a constant struggle with the balance between security and liberty.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:48 PM
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would you tell ANY other business not to diversify their customer base?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:42 PM
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Supposing this is true: So what? Do you only do things you are encouraged to do? Do you need someone to follow you around all day encouraging you to brush your teeth, drink water, write reddit posts, play video games, etc.? Or do you do those things on your own/ based upon instinct?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:09 PM
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The "I would never have sex on the first date" or "I would never sleep with X amount of people" etc women, who are you really saying this for? I don't typically say it for anyone (unless asked in a discussion like this). but who do I behave this way for? me You just think it will make you look 'special' and more 'worthy' of male approval. nope. Based upon your writing, it's clear that you think a lot about male attention and being a pick-me (or an anti-pick-me). Not everyone thinks how you think…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:19 PM
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@hecklerof , I have a question re your flair: Andrea?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:21 AM
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Lol according to you any logic or basis that you don't like is just an opinion to be discarded. This has nothing to do with what I "like." All of that WAS an opinion. Period. And given that the person who holds that opinion neither backed it by facts nor was it solicited by the women in question, it is as valueable as every other unsolicited opinion (read: not at all). ...people get to decide if cheating or rape is also okay according to their personal morals and nobody else gets a say in it. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 05:37 AM
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This post smells of sexism and racism. Don't forget the racism. OP "...but many of them are dating...immigrant women..."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 08:55 AM
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gay people exist trans people exist increasing the birth rate of women now will not "fix the current" dating market. Unless you're advocating for something too disgusting to mention if women are more comfortable being alone, there's nothing to stop that 0.5% from also being alone I swear, some men will try to alter birth rates rather than just get therapy. whatever...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:20 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 10:54 PM
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Ok, I think I need to clear some things up. No. This is bad faith. What you "needed" to do was either address the points I made or say nothing. Reiterating your view adds nothing new or substantive. I have already responded to this perspective. We are ultimately only asking for one thing: Only date men you are actually attracted to, and reject the rest. Yeah. We know. No one was confused about what you said before. And we are ultimately telling you: No. people will date whoever they want (out of…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 10:53 PM
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But pick one or the other. The idea that people "pick" how their attraction works is THE problem with every discussion here. Women are not "picking" or choosing being demi with men or being innately sexually drawn to others. those are not mutually exclusive it's not a conscious choice Human sexuality is complex, and this incessant need to create false dichotomies out of these overly-simplified and inaccurate "choices" is never going to get you anywhere irl. While one may find comfort in trying t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 05:54 PM
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☝️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 05:43 PM
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were you attempting to make a point?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:40 AM
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ENTP but mbti is mostly bullshit What are people's HEXACOs? That's the REAL question.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:40 AM
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eye roll
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:49 AM
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yeah, obviously. But they get BIG MAD when you point this out because "muh reason to blame women waaaaah"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 06:28 AM
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How is this homophobic?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:10 AM
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well, based solely on this comment, you're most likely to know both the size and the mouthfeel.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 06:17 AM
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So I mentioned that HIS comment was bad faith and now he's got a little flying monkey here to try to pretend I wasn't being good faith? It would be cute if it wasn't so sad. I also follow Severence and Nancy Drew subs. What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:50 AM
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I agree with everything you've said here. As I stated right after the part you quoted: I'm not placing a value judgment on this imaginary woman or her comments, only telling you that the conclusion you drew about her is not more logical/ plausible than the one I noted. I don't personally find it clever or creative to insult people by commenting on a person's dick size. It's not something I engage in. I also don't know / hang out with any women who do. I get why people do make those comments, tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 05:00 AM
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This is not how people talk about small dicks in real life. "People" do not talk about small dicks irl. Men do. And it does seem to be used by them as a form of insult. But not by women. I literally cannot recall a single instance of a woman mentioning the size of someone's dick (outside of sex-specific conversations) in at least the last 5 years. I can think of maybe 5-8 times a man has done so in that span. I typically only hear/see people talk about it online, too. Here, again, it's upwards o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:48 AM
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?? way to completely miss my point and respond from a place of defensiveness. I'm not personally desperate to have ANY knowledge of his dick. OP is the one who mentioned it and I was responding. I cannot fathom giving a shit or having any personal investment in something so inconsequential. My point was the opposite: that nothing matters less than the size of trumps dick. But that someone saying he has a small dick may simply be stating facts, NOT assigning any meaning to it (i.e. that it is rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:16 AM
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When I see someone who previously I've seen say that "dick size doesn't matter" ...later say that some right-wing chud ...has "small dick energy"...I read that as "dick size does matter..." That's not a logical conclusion to draw given the data available. Another very plausible explanation is that: she truly does not believe dick size matters/ it really doesn't matter to her she knows that men believe size matters, and she is using an insult she knows will land. I'm not claiming this is right or…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:40 PM
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then your comment literally has zero to do with this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 07:26 PM
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then why would you complain about not being able to have it? If you have no interest in having sex or dating a woman, it would be unhinged to whine and complain about not being able to have sex or date a woman. I don't like olives and I have never once spent a second of my life or a modicum of my energy complaining about olives, about not having an olive, and/ or about how offended I am at the bad taste they leave in my mouth. I just...don't eat them and go about my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 06:36 PM
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you're conflating 2 things and then asking a muddled question. is your question: A. Why do women like male best friends but not like being best friends with their male partner? or B. Why do women like being friends with queer presenting men but don't want to fuck them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 10:48 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:41 AM
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OP: what is on YOUR list of requirements? Me: shares my OWN personal list Some wiw baby: downvotes me sharing MY OWN opinion as a direct response to the OP's literal question hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:36 AM
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No. That would show a serious lack of reading comprehension on my part since that's not related to the comment I was replying to. Whataboutism is THE lowest brow, cheapest, most sophomoric logical fallacy of all. Even Trump, with his tertiary syphilis-induced dementia can use that tactic, which shows just how little grey matter it requires.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:32 AM
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compassionate, kind, communicative, thoughtful, loving, physically attractive (required: naturally nice shoulders, good hair, not a body builder, nice smile; preferred but negotiable: not too tall, wavy/ curly hair, ginger), growth-oriented, self-aware, agrees with me on key subjects that will impact our lives together, mindful, funny, kind, sexually compatible with me, loved by animals, secure/ high self-esteem, clever, creative, interesting makes my nervous system feel safe a majority of the t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 11:56 PM
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I'm in a monogamous marriage, and my husband was a virgin when we met. I would venture to guess that women statistically have less casual sex and fewer partners so when they actually do have sex, they are more likely to be in relationships in which they feel safe about unprotected sex (whether they should is another issue entirely)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:14 AM
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almost daily on PPD there are men who seem to not understand how algorithms work. They'll be like "my whole feed is OF models therefore that's all of tiktok," and it's like... no. that's your tictok feed because that's what you've told the algorithm you want in your feed. My feed isn't like that. My husband's isn't like that. That's a you-centric issue that you are applying to everyone else out of either ignorance, need, or desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 08:36 PM
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5'7" is not that short. I know of zero men under 6' who are involuntarily single. This height thing is primarily an issue online, and if you are trying to date the same women as professional athletes. Robert Reich has been married twice ffs! (Once when he was just a law clerk, so, no, it's not about status or money). Peter Dinklage got married back when he was doing unknown indies. Taking care of your physical appearance can, of course, help and make a difference, but if you are funny to be arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:12 AM
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no.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 03:15 PM
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eye contact = flirting ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 03:09 PM
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I agree (and agreed at the time) that it was bananas. For context: He grew up uber religious/ traditional. He wasn’t like that anymore when we got together, but for some reason, he had some lingering trad mentality/ feelings about me taking his name. He would get so emotionally disregulated that he couldn't have a productive conversation about it. He said he wanted to hear my thoughts, but every time we tried to discuss it, he'd get overwhelmed and couldn't be logical/ present. So, we mutually d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 05:59 AM
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I chose not to take my husband's last name (ln) for the following reasons: Ever since I was a child, I wanted to keep my ln. There is a famous actor who has the same ln as me and when I was asking young as 8, I used to say I was going to marry him so I could keep my ln. I had degrees and a career with my ln. I am not chattel, so I don't need to be identified as his property. I wasn't interested in doing a bunch of federal, state, and work paperwork for something unnecessary. I was getting marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:09 PM
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... men who are a lot more attractive than your partner?..."only have eyes for their boyfriend". But is this actually true? Yes, this is true, but not literally. It's not that women lose the ability to recognize that other men are attractive. We can see that a man is good-looking, feel sexually attracted, etc. but that alone doesn't make him "more attractive." It would actually take a lot to be "more attractive" than my partner. My attraction to him is physical/ sexual, yes, but it isn't ONLY th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 03:29 PM
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theoretically, you're right and this is a good point. But also Chris Brown is completely unremarkable and forgettable, he's not the "apex" of anything. He's only remembered for abusing Rhianna and being played in that one cringe viral video from like 15 years ago. Gun to my head I wouldn't be able to name a single Chris Brown song.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 04:54 PM
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Why do these two men have their own rooms, and why are they only responsible for cleaning "their room" and not the rest of the home? And if they have their own rooms in their home and are only 'keeping their own room clean' while their wives have to clean and maintain the entire rest of the home, in what way is that an ongoing egalitarian cleaning arrangement? Why are you describing such a weird marital living arrangement and pretending it applies to most people? Or are you describing single men…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 04:49 PM
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read the rest of my comments here and if you think I haven't answered your question already, please rephrase it/ add some more context and I'll try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:14 PM
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And perhaps if this was labeled as a "Debate" post and not a "Question for Women" post, this would be applicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:12 PM
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you asking a totally unrelated question is proof? you have a really special way of thinking that's unique only to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:10 PM
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what are you even talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:07 PM
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what a mystery. I guess we'll never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:07 PM
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Time Magazine is a blog? okay. Most studies that mention gender, women, etc. have been pulled offline since Trump's exec orders/ changes in funding for acadamic research and I don't have time to/ interest in running home to find and scan various pages of several books from my undergrad for you. I looked up a reference to one of the books I happen to recall as a courtesy, assuming you may have been an ill-informed but good faith commenter. I am not your research assistant, and I'm so bored with p…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 03:02 PM
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Yeah, I'm not implying that cleaning is a magic bandaid for serious sexual dysfunction in a relationship. It also matters that it is an ongoing pattern of egalitarianism, not the thing where a man goes "I put the dishes away once, I expect a blow job."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 02:48 PM
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where did I say that? please show me anywhere in my comment where I haven't allowed for men to be cleanly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 02:44 PM
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<image> I'm not here to do a ton of research for you but this should get you started
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 02:41 PM
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Given the fact that women's cortisol levels spike to a far higher degree than men's, in cluttered/ chaotic/ messy environments, leading women to naturally be more bothered by a lack of cleanliness, than their male counterparts men see fewer color variations, notice fewer details, and tend to be more monotropic women are typically socialized from a young age to focus on being clean/ tidy, and men are not the cleanliness of men's environments tend to be improved by whatever cleaning women do, so a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:35 PM
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wait- were you not having a good faith discussion with me? is that why you quit responding? was this all just a failed attempt at a gotcha? I'm shocked!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:09 AM
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local man believes women's personalities are a myth, tonight at 10
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:01 AM
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How is any of this related to what I said? So the liberal mainstream narrative is that women are sweet saintly individuals and men are violent demons in waiting. I don't know where you're getting this from but it's certainly not from me. Liberal women also say that men are trash and that they dont need men, okay? Again, what does this have to do with the conversation you and I are currently having? Are you a liberal woman or something? you seem to mention them a lot, suddenly. so you would expec…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 07:20 AM
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Leadership retreat. He was the audio engineer and I was sat nearest the audio booth. I offered him gum but accidentally flung all but one piece out of the pack/ at him. Without missing a beat, he silently took the only piece still in the pack and turned back around. also re: your edit: Yes! and I always tell men this but they say "dating apps are the only way," so I guess they want to keep shooting until they have no toes left.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 05:14 AM
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Okay but this will be long... you're right, I don't speak for all feminists and while I'm certainly privileged in many ways, I wouldn't assume I can necissisarily speak for "wealthy women," either. But since you're asking my opinion -- [First, I'd be remiss if I didn't say that I don't agree with your framing. If you do some research, I think you'll find that women are more likely to be philanthropic than men. I believe women are around 40% more likely to donate to charities than men. Wealthy me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 05:03 AM
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But now youre an internalised misogynist pick me. Maybe to people who lack the capacity for nuance or something. ??? irl I'm still a feminist who understands that the way certain conversations are framed tends to preclude any helpful or meaningful dialogue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 12:10 AM
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yes, and it was nonsensical, particularly in context with my comment, which is why I asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:56 PM
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did you actually read what I wrote?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:41 PM
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I know you're being purposely/ comically obtuse but in all seriousness, it's unhelpful and reductive to say "men" in this context. What do you mean by "men"? The men who set up the patriarchy thousands of years ago? The men who actively perpetuate it today? The men who passively benefit from it? The men who fight against it? All men who exist? If some ignorant, unintelligent guy sits in his dorm room and calls some woman a "slut" is HE individually the "cause of societal issues" writ large? Or i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 04:20 PM
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there technically is a valid critique around this subject, but you missed it and went straight to ironic hypocrisy. What's the difference between certain men grouping all women together and blaming them all for societal issues and you grouping all men together and blaming them all for societal issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 08:10 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/mwg98hf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2 I won't be replying again. I already said bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 08:01 AM
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Look, I barely care about this subject in the first place. I'm going to discuss it with the same person in two threads nor am I reading the above wall of text. I don't care who you (or any other men I am never going to meet, much less sleep with) date as long as everyone is a consenting adult. My point about how the human psyche works still stands. I'm bored. bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:43 AM
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If a man is 55 and he dates an 18 year old woman, the only way she could be mature enough for him is if he has a completely arrested development. Let's even pretend a person could be 10 years more mature than is normative for their age bracket (which is unlikely to impossibile due to how time and brain development work) That would, at best make her as mature as a 28 year old. Even being generous with age gaps and their ability to relate to one another, this 55 year old man would have had to stop…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:32 AM
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Perhaps in the alternate universe that those of you who are pretending that your mind is not involved in attraction or decision-making, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:55 AM
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Fyi, implications work best when they don't need to be explained. At this point, it's not implied, it's stated which defeats the whole purpose of an implication. Better luck next time. Not that it's any of your business, but I am also not interested in dating men my own age. I don't have a dog in this fight. I'm simply stating facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:08 AM
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your use of the term "more" would only make sense if you had already refuted something I said, making it inapplicable in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:04 AM
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She really gonna pretend men cant just like women physically like seriously lol. The amount of men responding as though y'all genuinely believe attraction isn't psychologically-based is wild! You guys take "lack or introspection" to a whole new level. what do you guys think makes you physically attracted to women? Do you genuinely believe that happens independent of your minds? Although, based upon these responses, I'm starting to believe many of you found a way to live without using your minds …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 03:02 AM
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ew. I don't want to date older men. What a weird assumption. If you don't understand the psychology of attraction, that's a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 02:52 AM
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k
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:19 AM
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the implication that one's mental and emotional maturity level/ capacity do not play a direct role in who one is attracted to demonstrates such a lack of understanding of the human psyche that I don't see how we could possibly have a productive conversation on this or any related topic. Have a good one!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:04 AM
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As I have said several times before° So many of these posts boil down to: "I want to do what I want, but I also want no consequences/ no one to judge me for it." That's not how things work. Also, this is not true about most men. You are too online if you believe all men are attracted to teenagers. Most men are attracted to women commiserate with their own intellectual and emotional capacty. Emotionally mature men have taste that matures with them. Emotionally stunted men remain mentally immature…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:27 AM
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What you call "nature" is actually socialization. Girls are pressured to display those traits from a younger age. Boys are not expected to be able to sit still, listen, etc. because people like you pretend it's 'natural' that they can't. They don't receive the messaging (or reinforcement of it) that they are expected to or even able to control themselves in the same way girls do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 01:06 PM
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being a physicist does not make one an expert in all other matters. I'd only listen to Einstein's opinions on women/ society if Roman Polanski, Woody Allen, and Andrew Tate were unavailable to weigh in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:03 AM
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This post has the most maga guy who cries in his too-clean Dodge Ram about how the liberal women he desperately wants to fuck ignore him for being "traditional" (which in his case is code for: can't take care of his household or be a successful adult without a wife to manage everything for him) energy I've ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 08:35 AM
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Yes: 1, 2, 9, 10, 12, 15, 19, 21, 24, 27, It depends/ would need more context: 3, 5, 13, 17, 18, 20, 25, 28, 29, 30 No: 4, 6, 7, 8, 11, 14, 16, 22, 23, 26,
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:51 PM
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If you would like my response about "huge" please see above as you have presented no new pertinent information about how adjectives work and my view has not changed. It seems clear that feeling a moral sense of righteousness far outweighs all other factors for you, regardless of the usefulness or accuracy of such a lens. Good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 07:57 PM
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I think you think I’m thinking way deeper about this than I am. I assure you I am not thinking about you enough to form an opinion about your personal thoughts. I’m Simply correcting you because it’s wrong. nothing more, nothing less. it's not "wrong," though. Perhaps it is "wrong" in your opinion but it is not objectively so. If I had made the claim that 8" is or is not x SDs from the mean and you could show that my data or calculations were inaccurate, then my comment would be objectively fals…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 04:52 AM
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I already said "k" I'm not sure what else you're looking for, here
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:38 AM
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personally? I wouldn't call it anything. Thinking about the length of random men's dicks is not a hobby of mine like it seems to be for so many men here. I don't feel any need to perseverate on strange men's cocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:32 AM
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k. why does it matter to you if another guy has a 13" penis? in what way does that impact your life? would another man having a 2" dick matter to you as much as someone having a 13" one? Why or why not? roughly how much of your time would you say you spend thinking about other men's genitals? 2 hours a day? 4? 16?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:27 AM
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If you're going to ignore data to avoid the discomfort of cognitive dissonance, sure. In real life there's a documentary about Matt Barr and his length has been verified by medical professionals (plural). As I already said, size doesn't matter in a vacuum the way men pretend it does but if you're going to focus on length for some reason, your statement is simply untrue. period.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:19 AM
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yeah. that's messed up, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 11:52 AM
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now this is funny
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 11:10 AM
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Who's taking it personally? I was replying to your top comment (which I quoted, but you deleted as I was replying), not the one about the anecdote. Should I assume you can't explain why it was funny, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 08:51 AM
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Fun joke: Get a tape measure, flip it numbers side down. Walk up to any woman, ask her to pull 6 inches. It’s almost never gonna be close. Do the same thing to a man, you will be amused. Usually a gentleman can guess six inches within half an inch. u/mountennui I just asked my partner to do this. I pulled out 6 1/4" on the measuring tape. He went after me, and his estimate was 4 3/4." I think I missed the "joke." Can you explain it to me? edit @
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:07 AM
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she said he was 13 inches. This is literally physically impossible. https://www.thepinknews.com/2024/08/30/biggest-penis-uk-matt-barr/ Quote: "Matt Barr, whose penis – which measures more than 14 inches in length – is believed to be the biggest in the UK." It's more likely that he was around 8 inches, which is still huge. 2-3 inches longer than average is "huge"? oh, honey. 99% of women don't really care about penis size in inches/ centimeters. It's men who insist on measuring using those metric…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:13 AM
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sure, Jan, you wrote this grammatically and factually challenged mini diatribe of absolute nonsense and then defensively replied to comments with the dull wit of a pouting toddler because you "don't care"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:27 PM
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And I suppose you want people to take you seriously after you responded this way??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:12 PM
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The entire manosphere is just men selling things to other men and they need their customers to keep coming back. It's their equivalent to the cosmetics, fashion, and self-help that women have been sold forever. If they remain single, unhappy, and lonely, they can keep them striving and buying. "Don't listen to women. They say they like dad bods but they only fuck chads. Buy a gym membership. All women are gold diggers, to earn 7 figures, buy my course on real estate. Follow my 10 easy tips to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 05:24 AM
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Who in their right mind is attracted to confrontational men? Other men. Once you realize that the only people these men are trying to impress, be considered 'attractive' by, get approval from, etc. are other men, 100% of their comments make sense. edit typo
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 03:43 AM
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what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 03:31 AM
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I knew that women would often seek male plutonic friends like...from Pluto?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 12:08 AM
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I truly have not seen anyone make a comedic comment about prison rape in at least a decade+, and I can't recall ever seeing a woman make that joke. There are outliers for everything, but I'm not sure what content you're consuming and/ or who you're around that you're currently, in 2025, hearing people make light of this subject. We must run in different circles. That said, someone making a joke about a topic does not negate the seriousness, trauma, impact, etc. of said topic, so can you share wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:05 AM
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the conversation around SA and the different societal responses, depending upon the genders of the perpetrator and victim, are incredibly important to have but only in good faith not as some reddit debate topic that you admit you chose because it was controversial. Am I not brave enough? I'm one of the few people who actually responded to your comments instead of only calling you out for your bad faith post (although that is a totally valid response to something this blatant). There are theoreti…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 07:56 AM
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Men protrude and penetrate, in ways that women biologically do not. This makes it far more difficult for a woman to violate in the same manner. If you mean that a woman (who is not using a foreign object) does not cause as much physiological damage, that's possibly true. If you mean to imply physiological damage is the only type of harm that SA causes: You are wrong. Neither the sex nor gender of -the weakass little bitch who SAs someone nor the sex/ gender of their survivor- mitigates or change…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 06:53 AM
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Assault has nothing to do with sex or attraction. It is about power and control.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 06:15 AM
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Nobody: OP:
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:12 PM
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The whole point OP is arguing against is about the "consequences" part... Yes, that is what I said. Not sure why you felt the need to reiterate my point but thanks for agreeing, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:54 PM
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again, (and for the last time) women are not shaming men's standards. Women are complaining about the frequency, location, and manner in which men are sharing said standards; NOT the fact that they have them or what they are. Hope that helps! have a good one. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 12:13 PM
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Most men do not think women have to all collectively agree with their own unique individual standards ,don't know why you said that . I didn't. ??? You were clearly confused as to why some women complain about some men "having standards." I explained that phenomenon for you. I used the term "men" generally (just like you did) and in no way attributed these behaviors to all or even most men. It's only an issue for however many men display those behaviors. While a few men try and prove their stand…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:58 AM
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Nobody gives a shit if men have personal standards. What women are annoyed about is: men thinking everyone needs to band together and agree to their specific/ personal/ individual standards men obsessively trying to "prove" that their standards are/ must be objective/ based upon logic, for some weird reason men assuming we care to hear about their standards ad nauseum and telling women who didn't ask for their input that they don't meet said standards men perpetuating hypocritical societal norms…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:34 AM
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Ok then. Just like how women can refuse to be with men who watch porn ,men can refuse to be with a woman who has a high-body count. Uh, yeah, obviously. No one has to sleep with anyone they don't want to. full stop. Now we can all have our high harsh standards "high" and "harsh" are value judgments that have no place in this discussion. We can all have our standards, yes. that means no-one has to compromise on anything that makes them feel uncomfortable ok? imo this is a bit of an exsufflication…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:21 AM
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Women choose to be prostitutes and they also choose to be in porn. Where did I say anything about whether or not women choose to be in porn? Stop acting like women are dumb drones who don’t have agency. I didn't. You're literally inventing things to argue with me about. It sure seems like you can't discredit my comment on its face, and your ego won't allow you to agree with me so you had to create, not just a strawman but a random/ unrelated one, at that. They willingly put themselves in those s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 11:06 AM
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This is
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 10:42 AM
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yeah, every discussion I've ever seen is: Men: we're going to replace you with bots Women: good luck! it won't be the same as a real woman Men: Yes it will. Seethe! Women: Okay. have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 10:15 AM
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So many of these posts boil down to: "I want to do what I want, but I also want no consequences/ no one to judge me for it." That's not how things work. People can do whatever they want (as long as it doesn't harm others/ everyone involved consents). But no one can remove the consequences of their choices or prevent others from judging them. I wouldn't say I "mind" if men use porn, prostitutes, etc. as long as those men don't also expect me to change my personal morals/ ethics to align with thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 06:34 AM
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Whether or not he was a virgin really wasn’t a primary concern for me. My husband was raised in an extremely religious environment and chose to remain a virgin as a result. When we were dating and he shared that, I felt it was important to respect his decision, so we waited until marriage. I don't regret marrying him or waiting with him. I like that he was a virgin and didn't/ doesn't watch porn. He came to our marriage with no bad habits or weird pornified expectations. 10/10, would recommend!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 02:25 AM
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Counterpoint: this is why you should care: In order for this to be a "Counterpoint," my original point would have had to be "women should not care." Since I never said or even implied that, your counterpoint is N/A Another reason: the rugged individualism that many people in this subreddit seem to have is actually destroying society. And I can tell you for sure, you will care about the destruction of society. It's happening right now. I'm aware but this has nothing to do with my comment. edit ty…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:35 AM
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that's so weird that you're unaware that people can have 1:1 conversations in front of others, in public spaces, and out in the open. How unique to live to (presumably) adulthood and never have or witness 2 people having a conversation outside of isolation. You should write a book. I didn't say it was kidnapping.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:29 AM
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How come women dont realize how hard is it for men to get laid ? Because men "getting laid" is not the primary focus of women's lives. A collective group of random men we dont know are not the main characters in our stories. This is like saying: How come men dont realize how different it feels to use a tampon vs a menstrual cup? Why would you realize that? why would that enter your mind for even one second? It wouldn't have until I asked that and it would be weird af for me to expect otherwise. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:33 PM
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isolate to deepen it. literally what abusers and predators do
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:06 PM
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It's not a secret that marriage benefits men more than women. That's why men have continually set up systems that incentivize, coerce, or even force women to marry. And when that became harder, they tried gaslighting women into thinking women are the ones who want marriage and they are lucky when a man is willing to "settle down."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 11:52 PM
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Let's assume he literally has no clue of when he may stop being busy. His life is so unpredictable or predictably busy that he cannot find any time in the next month or two when he will not be busy. Fair. I can imagine that being true for some people. However, a new relationship takes time, effort, and prioritizing connection in order to lead to anything. Even if he was sincere and this was not a passive rejection, it would make sense for her to move on. She clearly wanted to continue spending t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 03:28 PM
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no longerr contributing is this like- you forgot an 'R' in your username, so you make up for it by adding a random one to a word in the post? if so, hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:34 PM
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unfortunately, this is a normative° psychological response. It's common for people who feel judged and/ or have low self-esteem to try to mitigate their insecurities by judging others in an attempt to feel superior. Of course, it doesn't work for more than a couple of minutes, but without self-awareness and maturity, they'll just keep trying. It's also a product of porn and lack of personification of/ the objectification of women; both of which subconsciously gives some men the idea that any wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:35 PM
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A lot of women invalidate men's emotions and experiences by saying "go to therapy" This is the opposite of invalidating feelings. Women are saying you should see someone who is professionally skilled and uniquely suited to validate and help you better understand the depth of your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:17 PM
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as far as we know from the images, she texted 2 friends. Are you telling me you wouldn't text TWO friends about something you experienced? The only person who potentially "destroyed him socially" was himself when he chose to share it on reddit without the names blocked out. You can make up whatever imaginary stories you'd like about me but there's no subtext to my comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:48 AM
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and you're answering
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 12:30 AM
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uh, yeah. i know. that's the bit. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 12:19 AM
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you should probably make a couple more comments explaining that older people had a different term for holding frame and that it isn't a new concept
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 12:16 AM
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I'd love to hear more about your experience, but first, can you share your favorite recipe in Portuguese?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:19 PM
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If no one says "me, 10 years in the future" I'm gonna be so surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 10:12 PM
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When you masterbate, do you expect to cum?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 01:10 PM
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I'm really not sure why you're not getting this: she said he was sweet. (which is not her saying she feels the same way). 2. then he asked her to meet up. Which she found creepy because they don't have a close relationship, and she wasn't even speaking to him before he came out of nowhere to say this. 3. At this point, her feelings about the situation changed from "that's sweet" to "why is he pushing me to meet up when we don't even talk to each other and have no relationship? now I'm creeped ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:55 AM
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I wonder how fucked up you have to be to believe any of the bs you wrote. Aside from the one thing I missed, everything else I wrote was completely accurate. If it's "fucked up" to believe accurate things, I guess that's just my cross to bear. Now, when you're done behaving like a little drama queen, feel free to respond to literally any of the substantive portions of my previous 2 comments. It would be especially cool if you could do it without using aggressively bad takes and ad hominems. I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 10:49 AM
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How so? I compare lying in a friendship and lying in a relationship. No; what you actually compare is: an adult man breaking trust and lying to his committed, romantic partner in order to manipulate her and attempt to unfairly influence the choices she makes for her future to a teenaged girl finding it creepy that a classmate/ acquaintance she doesn't talk to anymore has harbored an unreciprocated attraction to her for literally 4 years, then telling her apropos of nothing Clearly not even simil…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 07:12 AM
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If men want to distrust women, that's their choice, and a lot of men are already teaching young boys to distrust or be wary of women; this is not an innovative idea. But the two examples you gave are not remotely comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 05:24 AM
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I wouldn't presume to tell other people what they should consider "emotional cheating" in their own relationships. My personal opinion is that it would be cheating anytime my partner or I are building greater intimacy outside the relationship than we have inside of it. So if I always go to my best friend about my concerns about my marriage but never address them directly with my partner, that would be an issue. It would also be cheating anytime one of us is flirting/ interacting with a person we…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:29 PM
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To be clearer: Egalitarianism as a political philosophy dates back centuries and did exist prior to the term "feminism." But egalitarianism by its very nature is feminist. There is also a school of feminist thought that refers to itself as "egalitarian feminism." Anyone who believes men and women deserve equal rights is a feminist whether they like the title or not. That's literally what feminism is. There are some 4th wave radfems whose approach has been off-putting to people, and others have u…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 11:08 PM
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egalitarian feminism is a type of feminism. They are not choosing one or the other. They are specifying which school of feminism they subscribe to. Your question is essentially: "I've heard people say they are catholic but not Christian. So are these catholics still Christians?"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 10:48 PM
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it would, at minimum, be a red flag that they lack the intellectual capacity needed to read the definition of a word and understand its meaning. Also, depending upon what exactly is meant by "they got rights, now they fight for privileges" it may also show that they are ignorant, incapable of research, lack a necessary level of curiosity, and/ or are not actually for equality among the sexes. So, in short, yes. It would be a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 08:56 AM
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oh, got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:13 PM
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terpers? I'm sorry but I don't get what you're alluding to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:08 PM
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This is a disingenuous comment. The reason we hardly talk about the genders reversed is because women so rarely do it. When they do, they get called out, too. Look up stuff about Aaron and Sam Taylor-Johnson. She was called a predator for marrying him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:07 PM
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I agree but isn't it sad that -in order to get love and support- we have to assume he needs female friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:45 PM
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Men's standards being normalized is literally patriarchy. That is not debatable. You may not think a specific country is a patriarchy, but definitionally, that is the answer to why men's standards would be normalized over women's in a society.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:54 PM
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https://youtu.be/AV9My0wGo-Y?si=5ciL04srLI2RFo9a
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 12:28 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:47 PM
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Well you are calling me an asshole . your OP question was presented as a third-party hypothetical. Nowhere in the wording did you indicate that the question was specifically about your personal views. I am not passive aggressive. When I mean to tell someone they are being an asshole, I tell them directly. And why do you assume women not wanting to date me for something as dumb as this would be important to me ? You apparently wrote this post about yourself and you've been highly emotionally-driv…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:33 PM
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Claiming I don't question capitalistic culture is bonkers. I lobby for and vote for changes in these laws. I encourage others to, as well. I also personally only go to restaurants that have 'no tipping' because they pay their employees a living wage. Those are the only restaurants I want to support. But if I were to go to a regular restaurant, I'd tip a minimum of 20% because, i can want and try to change things all I'd like but that doesn't change the fact that the current system requires tips.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:16 AM
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Do Americans just take every cultural norm at face value or something ? Never question it ? Nope. But we do know that, although it sucks, it is currently a fact that US laws often allow servers to be paid less than minimum wage (which is already too low) because it's expected that their wage will be made up of mostly tips. Those of us who aren't self-centered assholes know that being a server is hard, thankless work, so we are certainly not going to let our servers do all that work for a shitty …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:23 AM
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The culture he's from is irrelevant in this instance. If he chooses to live outside of his original culture and hasn't learned to follow the tipping customs, that would show a serious lack of capacity for socialization and a lack of consideration for those around him. This is like when Americans go to Mexico and complain that people speak Spanish or go to Japan and refuse to take their shoes off in someone's house. Don't live within another culture if you're not willing to do the bare minimum to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 12:57 AM
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What you seem to be unwilling to acknowledge is that, while the above statement may be true, generally, it is irrelevant in this particular discussion. Even if media never showed these things, it wouldn't change women's real life experiences. I am not exaggerating when I say that I do not know a single adult woman who has not experienced one or more of the following at the hands of a man: some form of violence, abuse, threat of violence/ intimidation, attempted or completed SA or SH. Literally, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:04 AM
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I'm not afraid of men. Particularly the kind who use violence, force, threats, and SA as a means of attempting to exert their will on others. That type of man is always sad, weak, undisciplined, and immature. Being in touch with your rage and not controlling yourself is so easy that toddlers can do it. Do I think the belief that men will do those things and that women ought to be aware/ ready to defend ourselves against that type of behavior is perpetuated by entertainment? No Perhaps it is echo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:08 PM
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I'm not sure if I agree or disagree. I am curious about a couple of things you said: What do you mean by "wrong"? When you say: Stop hurting people with your personal ads... it sounds like you're saying that the mere fact that a person states their preference and you do not happen to meet it- is them hurting you. Is that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:38 PM
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You're having a lot of fun being reductive and dismissive. Far be it from me to rain on your parade, but your cliché, snide little saying aside- Please share exactly where I indicated that my position was that women are good and men are bad. edit typo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 06:47 PM
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I was rephrasing OP's claims here, not signing onto them. I explicitly said I do not agree with his premises or his conclusions here and in all subsequent replies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 06:46 PM
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He only said that men display a lot of shameless sexual behaviors in public. He didn't only say that. He listed several example behaviors: cat calling, sexual stares, sexual comments to their friends, etc. Oh, the intellectual dishonesty in claiming that "Men lack the maturity, discipline, and respect to control themselves in public" is one of HIS premises. If you had read my follow-up reply, you would have seen that I do not agree that all men do that or that all women don't. That was OP's fram…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 06:44 PM
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Men exhibit these behaviors which is evidence to their sex drive and lack of shame to control it. This is exactly my point. You claim not to have conclusions but you have jumped to conclusions. Not all men do It could just as easily be evidence of several other things. For example, that men: a. are socialized to behave that way b. are trying to impress the other men around them c. lack socialization d. watch too much porn e. have a personality disorder f. are gay and are overcompensating to name…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 09:24 AM
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So, your premises are: a. Men lack the maturity, discipline, and respect to control themselves in public. b. Women do not display the same lack of self-control in public as men. And your conclusion is: Therefore, women lack sex drives. I'll give you this: the way your unrelated conclusion does not follow your completely inaccurate premises makes this an almost impressively illogical position. edit typo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 08:13 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/lQCyDiPy8u
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:31 AM
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I'm not aware of any instances where a person's plastic surgery caused their partner to get an STI or to commit to someone who was not reciprocating. If a person has plastic surgery, they look how they look now. It's not like they will revert back to their old nose in 3 months. You are dating them as they are. There's no lie. This is a bad faith/ disingenuous comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 09:45 PM
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yeah; that would suck. But A. I'm not sure how it really relates to my comment. Can you share some more about that? and B. it is extremely rare that someone "doesn't tell their partner " What is more common is that someone's partner didn't listen, didn't think they were serious, didn't change or improve after receiving feedback, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:21 PM
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you're making this sound like an absurd hypothetical but this happens to everyone from time to time. Sometimes, at a show, party, or even a conference, I'll meet someone who I find interesting/ have a spark or connection with. Someone others may say is more attractive, or who is objectively more wealthy, or even more "my type" than my partner. Someone I suppose I would possibly pursue -were I not married. But I am. If you're not, maybe it's hard to understand this but: you just...don't entertain…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 06:29 AM
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Is it true women are more likely to share sexual fantasies with partners we trust?: Yes Are there fantasies we won't share with other/ random men, friends, family, coworkers? Of course. In fact, it would be weird (and potentially illegal) to share with some of these groups. It is not abnormal not to share your sexual fantasies with your parents and coworkers!! Do women have fantasies we reserve for trustworthy, intimate, safe situations/ won't play out with just anyone? yep. if you couldn't trus…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:55 AM
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If men in general got pregnant, that would be of no consequence to me, personally. Although I do think it would benefit society, even if it only switched to men for a decade. If my partner, specifically, got pregnant: No. I would not ask him for a maternity test. I trust him. If I didn't, I wouldn't be fucking him in the first place, and would especially not do so without 2 forms of birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:32 AM
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The type of man who feels the need to get a paternity test is less likely to be trusting in the first place. Whether because he struggles with trust issues or because he has cheated (or knows he would if given the opportunity to), the result will be the same. He will either not believe the test or think -she probably still cheated- but just happened not to get pregnant. Men looking to find a reason not to support their partner and/ or their child will not be deterred by evidence. Men who trust t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 12:49 AM
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on the part of OP? I wouldn't put it that way but I guess I can see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:28 PM
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100%!! It's so unserious that it would be laughable if they didn't get violent when women laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 10:10 PM
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Makes no sense then downvotes me asking for clarification??? just so you know, that attitude tends to have diminishing returns over time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:22 PM
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what?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 07:25 PM
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Ladies, remember: anything a man does that is positive or good is his own doing anything a man does that is negative or bad is your fault
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 07:22 PM
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OP said "short" and I was saying I'm unlikely to have a "short" son. You're only bolstering my point. If the "short" kid I'd have would be 5'10", they will be average-to-above-average height and not at all short, (like I said).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:36 AM
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Another man discovers the contents of his personal algorithm and assumes they must apply to the whole world. Neat.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:55 AM
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Why the fuck are you pretending physical attractiveness is completely subjective? Can you please share what specific thing I said that 'pretended physical attractiveness is completely subjective?' Was it the part where I said that pretty privilege exists? or how about the part where I said I didn't care if my child was attractive to society (impliying there is at least a loose standard of attractiveness in society), but the child probably would care? or?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:25 PM
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I can't control how you choose to interpret my comments. If you want to imagine I'm "defensive" or anything else, that's your prerogative. Irl, my real feeling was: confused. Because, as you noted, no one was referencing the substantive part of my response. Men get so obsessed about height, and it's a real bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:16 PM
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I have a lot in common with one of my Uncles. My Mum has said I remind her of him. Except, ironically, he's taller than me. ?? cool. I guess it's always nice to have stuff in common with family. And no, I think A is the worse choice. It means you're putting your happiness ahead of your son's. From option B in the op: ...no matter how hard he tries, he will be overlooked and rejected by women...He will spend his entire adult life in loneliness, always seeking female companionship but repeatedly f…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 09:13 AM
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one of 7. and none on my husband's side. We don't really have short people in our immediate or extended families; aside from literally ONE person. He is the exception, not the rule. Either way, I don't care. There would be nothing wrong with me having a short kid. I was answering based upon the parameters of the bad faith question being asked. It's OP who seems to find fault with shorter men. I also really don't get why you guys are obsessed with me potentially having imaginary short children. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:32 AM
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At 5' 10" I am the shortest sibling in my family. At 6' 3", my husband is the shortest in his. I suppose it's possible, (I have one uncle who is only 5' 6") but it's highly unlikely and therefore mostly hypothetical/ theoretical- as I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 02:31 AM
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genetically, I don't know how I'd have a short son and sociologically, i don't see how I'd have a misogynistic one so this is extremely hypothetical only but of these two bad faith examples, I'd choose A. He can always learn and change his perspective on women once he matures as a person. Neuroplasticity allows for people to keep growing and maturing mentally even when our bodies no longer can. Whether anyone likes it or not, pretty privilege exists. I would never actively choose to make life ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:15 PM
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A. Men do not have "values" because they are not commodities B. I would not "share" a man. I dont care how "high" or "low" a "value" he has according to other men's opinions. We are either monogamous or both in an open relationship. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:52 AM
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I mean, yeah, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:36 AM
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upwards of 98% of the men who complain about child support online haven't even had sex, much less impregnated someone, let alone abandoned them. It's just group conformity and posturing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:26 AM
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Not only would I but I did; and I married him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 08:53 PM
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oh my gaaaaaaawwwwwwd. when will you guys shut up about this? if you think of humans this transactionally, we don't want you anyway. You clearly have enough insurmountable shit to deal with. Leave feminism to men who think women are people, not vending machines.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:47 AM
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"Many men aged 30+ desperately want to both a. date women below 25 years old AND b. not receive any criticism/ consequences/ judgment for doing it. Because studies show that the Prefrontal Cortex specifically does not mature until around 25 for most people, many women find this to be concerning. Red Pill men pretending this is a total myth that has no scientific backing shows that red pillars [sic] are the primary ones to promote fake science on this topic." There, I fixed the OP. You're welcome…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:45 AM
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Sounds like the right move for you. Anything to avoid acknowledging men are the actual cause of your issue. Best wishes and warm regards.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:45 PM
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Just so I'm clear, you believe that women body shame men because men are the ones with the problem? I have absolutely no idea where you got that from. Did you mean to be replying to someone else? In what way is this nonsensical. You wouldn't use something as an insult if you didn't think it was an insult. Women seem to believe that having a small dick is a negative that should be insulted. In the way that this sentence: "You wouldn't bring in 'small dick' as an insult if you didn't think having …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:01 PM
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So what I'm hearing is that men with small dicks hear someone refer to "SDE" and feel hurt because they have a small dick and it is being used in a pejorative way in their presence. If I understood you correctly, that is a valid point, and I agree overall. What I don't agree with is: that most of the men who are getting offended even have a truly small dick the idea that women created or even primarily perpetuate this issue the idea that men internalizing and personalizing these comments is the …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:32 AM
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And to answer your question, yes, it is still body shaming You seem confused. You say you're answering my question, but I didn't ask you if it was body shaming. I already know your opinion. Your OP is labeled as a Q4W. I am a W. I answered your Q. Don't ask for people's opinions if you don't want them. If you want to debate, label accordingly. You wouldn't bring in 'small dick' as an insult if you didn't think having a small dick wasn't a negative. And you wouldn't tie the worst personality trai…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:17 AM
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Is it body shaming for many people of all genders to refer to the concept of BDE or SME? Or to say people who drive clean Dodge RAM extended cabs in the city -or even worse, cybertrucks- are overcompensating? At what point, do you believe that men get to decide what is or isnt considered body shaming for women? as I mentioned, it is not only women who make those comments and they are not about anyone's body. They are about concepts that people loosely title with as though they are related to dic…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 02:12 AM
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is it body shaming if someone specifically makes fun of or shames you for having a small dick? yes, absolutely. Is it body shaming for many people of all genders to refer to the concept of BDE or SME? Or to say people who drive clean Dodge RAM extended cabs in the city -or even worse, cybertrucks- are overcompensating? nope. those are societal concepts and have nothing to do with you, personally, or your own personal dick. It is ironically only men's own obsession with dicks that makes them take…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 09:45 PM
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just in case: the following is a non-exhaustive list of subjects under the umbrella of "social studies:" US HIstory World History European History Ancient History Anthropology Criminology Sociology Social Psychology Psychology Geography Political Science Government/ Civics Macroeconomics Microeconomics If you actually, really don't understand why these areas of study exist that is surprising to say the least. But in case you're being sincere, they exist to help us understand: how people do thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 09:48 PM
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I truly can't tell if this is a joke because it's text. Are you genuinely asking why social sciences/ studies exists?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 08:28 PM
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there are 2 reasons and there is no need for a study because they are both obvious and simple: 1- humans are complex We can hold multiple and even contradictory beliefs simultaneously We can do things we don't want to do/ that are against our best interest or judgment Our actions are based upon more than our thoughts/ beliefs. We are influenced by genetics, life experience, trauma, habit/addiction, social pressure, low self-esteem, hormones, and a whole host of other things 2- goomba fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 08:14 PM
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the idea that women should give a shit about what men are intimidated by is also mostly a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 05:08 AM
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thank you. one would think so, but the downvotes suggest that some people don't like reasonable answers. I always wonder what people found to disagree with so strongly while also being too weak to say something about it. don't you? so interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:44 PM
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• Paying for first dates I guess my partner did technically pay for our first "real/ official" date, but we were friends before that and took turns paying for things, like all friends do. • Buying flowers weekly without asking Literally flowers: Nope. I'm allergic and don't enjoy killing things, bringing them inside, and watching them die slowly so I can throw their wet, rotten carcasses away in a few days. The same concept: Yes. I do like the sentiment behind this type of gesture: him doing som…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 08:03 AM
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as I already said- I have never used fds. I always dated by just...meeting people irl without a strategy?? But I know a lot of women who have used various female-specific dating strategies to find a partner, and all of them are happily partnered. "FDS" isn't "A" guide to anything. there are hundreds of books, trainers, etc. who share female-specific dating strategies. The implication that there is just one, written, published, well-know ideology known as "FDS" shows a huge lack of understanding.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 08:39 PM
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you made this story up in your head. this is not a thing. I never used fds but I had friends who did and they all got married and they are all still married. none of them are 4b. I've never heard of any woman going from fds to 4b, much less enough to constitute a pattern. men do that. many men start in the manosphere, then eventually go blk pill/ mgtow at a significant enough rate to be a pattern. is that what you were thinking of? did you maybe get confused?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 05:11 PM
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wolfloveyes?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 06:33 AM
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um...what? are you going to the discotheque later?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:52 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:36 AM
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I have basically the same experience as you. I've only been legitimately triggered twice in convos on this sub, and both times, over a year ago. But several of the men here read my comments as "triggered" every time I reply. When I point out that they chose to read my written comment in an imaginary "triggered" tone, they'll say "3 of us said this." like, okay? so 3 of you have a problem with understanding tone/ context in writing. congrats? 3 of you all hate women so much that you read every co…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:19 AM
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I mean there is right and wrong to attribute to this comment. So I did. no; there isn't. your choice to infer something does not mean I implied it. Yeah I suppose we do want answers. Just most of them are shite. Yeah, sometimes the honest answer isn't one we like. But what I stated is the actual reason why most women who respond with some push-back in these discussions, do so. like it or no.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 10:51 PM
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"You're honestly way too sensitive in general then if this isn't a sensitive topic for you... both people just pointed out normal average observable perspectives... you didn't even try to disprove or introduce a new perspective." -u/Dull-Cry-3300 You're honestly way too sensitive in general, then no such thing. but thanks for thinking that. I worked hard to be better in touch with my feelings. I'm glad it shows. Me being a direct communicator doesn't mean my comment comes from a place of [fill i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 10:08 PM
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Who said he was a dick about single moms Is this some kind of riddle? I don't know who said OP was a dick. I certainly didn't. just because he expressed his desire not to date them? again, nobody♤ cares if he doesn't want to date them. Women aren’t usually held to this standard of “shhh don’t say it” when it comes to expressing their preferences. a. yes we are. b. No one is telling men they can't say this. it's fine to say whatever you want (within legal bounds), but know that what you say has c…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 10:00 PM
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lol. He asked a question. I answered his question. It's both odd and telling that you attributed "right and wrong" to my comment. I didn’t place value judgements on anything, "clearly a sensitive topic" for you to pretend I did. I am not now, nor have I ever been a single mom, so it's truly not sensitive for me. It almost seems like some of the men here don't actually want answers to questions. They only want to... feel right and have an excuse to get angry...? hmmmm. no, I'm sure that's not it.…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:08 PM
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I stated to the 1 female roommate that I don't date SMs. She went into a tirade trying to bully me into changing my mind. I calmly explained all my logical reasoning. She got angry and stormed off refusing to talk to me for the rest of the night. this sounds very made up but assuming "the" female truly reacted this way and it was 100% related to your opinion on dating (not other issues between you two) that sounds like a unique situation solely with "the" female roommate. how and why do you expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:00 PM
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this is illogical. Just because the women you observe being social are attractive doesn't mean the women you don't observe are not attractive. For all you know, 80% of the most attractive women in the world are introverts who you never see.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 07:56 AM
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Their entire model of behavior is based on pleasing someone in order to please someone, the person must BE or FEEL "pleased" the person who decides that is the pleasee not the pleaser has it occurred to these men that they are not pleasing? and then following the "Golden Rule" to expect reciprocity and "reward". There's nothing wrong with that. What is the reciprocity they are expecting? What is their "reward?" Who determines which reward is reciprocal for while level of "niceness?" If I am nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 02:07 PM
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yep. thanks for facilitating that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:57 PM
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your assurance of my knowledge (or lack thereof) has no impact on my life
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 06:54 PM
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"I don't believe" now debate me. ?? there's nothing to debate. you're entitled to your opinion, no matter how ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:18 PM
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I'll assume this means you acknowledge how bonkers your position was, then. If OP won't even make a single attempt to clarify his meaning/ thought-process, then he has no real interest in communicating. That says a lot about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:20 AM
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I'm not looking for the "textbook" definition. I already understand the denotative definitions of the words. I'm looking for OP to explain what OP meant when OP wrote it. If OP is incapable of understanding concepts and discussing them using language, unless he has personally experienced each concept, then why and how did he write the post? Clearly OP had some definitional concept in mind when he chose words, arranged them into sentences, and used them to attempt to communicate with others. None…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:45 PM
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do you think a person must have had personal experience with something in order to understand the definition of words? are you being serious right now? or is this a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:14 PM
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I'm not the one arguing that guys should want to be boyfriend/husband material. If you're going to argue that position, the onus is on you to prove why that is superior to they guy who gets sex early on. You are, in fact, the only one talking about that subject. What I said was: what exactly is "boyfriend material treatment"? how do you know that your SO used to treat someone else "better"? what does "better" mean? please explain how me asking 3 clarifying questions of the OP - not you - was tan…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:57 PM
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does that mean he can't define what he means by the terms he uses in his posts? I think single people can still define terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:46 PM
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I'll tell you what it should be. I wasn't asking your opinion of what it should be. I was asking for clarification on what OP meant when he said "boyfriend material treatment" because without a definition, that is so subjective and nebulous that it's essentially a useless thing to say in a "debate" post. If boyfriend/husband material is supposed to be some highly sought after position by men, Marriage has always benefited men more than women and I'm tired of this propaganda that women want marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:45 PM
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Women often complain about their exes saying that they didn’t treat them well, Which of my questions for you believe this answers? I'm finding it hard to see the connection. or mention previous hookups who obviously got everything they wanted without putting any effort. "obviously"? How is it obvious? How do you know they "got everything they wanted?" How do you know they "didn't put in any effort?" Do these 'women often' volunteer that "A man told me the only thing he wanted was for me to sit o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:11 PM
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what exactly is "boyfriend material treatment"? how do you know that your SO used to treat someone else "better"? what does "better" mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:46 AM
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I asked chatgpt: what should I assume if I am trying to text an adult and they tell me every answer they send was generated by chatgpt? and ChatGPT said: It depends on the context, but a few possibilities come to mind: They’re being playful or sarcastic – They might just be joking about how their messages sound overly formal or robotic. They’re avoiding personal engagement – If they genuinely rely on AI for every response, they might be distancing themselves from the conversation, whether out of…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:07 AM
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DNA test convoided what does convoided mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 08:57 AM
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Because they want to they are allowed to it works for them it's none of our business Also, your premises that: A man is fat, doesn't workout and wants to date a playboy bunny. The fact is that this scenario does[n't] exist. and None of the above examples apply to women. and [Men are not attracted to fat women unless their "fat is in very specific places, like Kim Kardashian" which you have now apparently edited out of your OP because so many people disagreed, therefore I cannot quote your exact …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 08:48 PM
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Date crying: Confused, overwhelmed, or put-off. I'd try to be supportive but likely wouldn't feel comfortable/ may not want to continue dating, depending entirely on the circumstances that led to him crying "Date" implies we are just getting to know each other and are not in a relationship yet. "Date" sounds like we have been on 1-3 dates with each other, at the most and they are crying on one of them. I assume my date would have the same opinion of me, were I to start crying on our second date.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:42 PM
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again with the fallacy fallacy. even if her argument doesn't conform to the science of logic, proper, it doesn't mean 100% of her statements and her conclusion are false.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 08:06 PM
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Is it normal to have this sort of interest as a woman? Why or why not? I explained why it could be normal. was I expected to use specific verbiage to so so?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:36 AM
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In order to form an opinion on it, it would need to be a normative part of my cultural/ life experience. it is not. But - my question back to you is: do men like watching lesbian porn? why? that's probably the same reason these women are watching gay porn. hope that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 05:22 AM
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lol whatever you need to tell yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:24 PM
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Men who don't like women who travel are the same as men who don't like drag queens reading to kids or trans women using women's bathrooms: they project what they would do in the same situation onto those groups. They are telling on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 08:24 AM
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oh, yeah. that's totally true!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:49 PM
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that's the reason for the popularity of the classic solitaire diamond setting, but de beers did not invent gifting a ring/ jewelry. But capitalism is also patriarchal, so de beers isn't really outside the patriarchy of it all. Jewelry has traditionally been gifted to women ostensibly because it is something with stable-to-appreciating value that women can sell, pawn, etc. if needed. When you can't work for a wage or have a bank account, jewels are your insurance/ savings account in case your hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:45 PM
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hear what from me? and: Why? Your comments might be some of the most angry-toward-women I have ever seen. Top 5, at least. Why would you want to hear anything from a woman? (And don't answer me. I don't have any interest in continuing a conversation with someone so determined to take the least charitable interpretation of every single comment I make solely because of my gender. But it might be useful to answer this for yourself). Enjoy your rage or whatever. bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:12 AM
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Look, I think you misunderstood something. I barely cared enough about your opinion to answer the first time. I'm sure as fuck not going to take time to read all of that. I hope you enjoyed writing whatever you did and that you have a good one. bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:05 AM
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traditionally, it should cost 3 months of your salary. So if you make $80,000/ year, for example, the ring should cost $20,000. But the reason for that tradition is patriarchal. So, if you're marrying someone who is traditional, they can and should be able to expect a traditional ring cost. But most women would not expect or even want you to spend $20,000 on a single ring. The ring should be a representation of your love and should be in a style your partner likes. For example: I hate the look o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:41 AM
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All communication should be logical. That's your opinion. It would be illogical for me to agree that your opinion is an objective universal standard. If not, it is by definition illogical which definitionally can't be optimal. Yes and no. Things can be illogical (not objectively true/ valid, not in accordance with the science of logic) without being Illogical (lacking reason/cogency). A lot of issues in conversation arise from people having different definitions of what is "logical," and your st…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:04 AM
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[attempt #2 because the mods removed my last one. I mention that because I'm tired of several of the men here claiming mods don't address women's posts/ women never get posts removed] your opinion is of no consequence to me. your personal choice to add a non-existent "triggered" tone to my writing is 100% about your perception of women who communicate directly and 0% about me. Good luck with that. If you think it sounds clever for you to have to "guess" something that was directly stated, that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:17 AM
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Bummer to hear that the imaginary version of me that your confirmation bias made up while you read my text-only comments to yourself in your own head was an "enraged feminist." Sucks that you chose to hurt your own feelings like that. Could you probably benefit from looking into what that says about your own psyche? sure. but why do work when you can pretend it was the real-life me, do zero introspection, and convince yourself that this message is confirmation that you were right? killin' it, br…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:11 AM
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your opinion is of no consequence to me. your choice to add a non-existent "triggered" tone to my writing is 100% about your issues with women who communicate directly or use emphasis to make points. I wish you luck if you ever choose to work on that. for the, what, 3rd? (and final) time now: only ignorant people think they need to "guess" my political position as it (despite OP's claim to the contrary) has literally been clearly written in my flair for at least a year. It continues to be there …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:47 AM
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Men ALSO often go to the all or nothing fallacy, as well as several others. This may shock you, but logical fallacies are, in fact, not gendered. I know, i know. People love to needlessly gender everything, but very few people can use regulation debate rules, even fewer wish to. It often makes conversation unnecessarily stilted online, particularly given that most people are simply sharing a personal opinion, and there's truly no way to have a fully logical conversation about opinions/ feelings.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:52 PM
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I agree that your statement, in context, says/ implies that being 'left' and being 'libertarian' are 2 distinct things. and I agree that I asked you if you knew that was incorrect. and I agree that you can't handle being wrong so you are being pedantic to avoid acknowledging your mistake. and I also agree I am bored with this discussion. goodbye.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:07 PM
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stop trying to use ppd as a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:10 PM
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I both didn't want to answer it (again! since it has been in my flair the whole time) and wanted to point out the weirdness of you answering it. That's the option I chose. how is that so difficult?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:08 PM
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yes, as you have just noted, you contextually implied it, rather than saying it outright; but that is a distinction without a difference. The juxtaposition of libertarians v. leftists in your initial comment has essentially the same meaning as you outright saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:07 PM
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lol! if you chose to read my comments in a "triggered" way (whatever you think that means), that says everything about you and nothing about me. Leaving your imagination aside, in the real world, I'm quite calm. In fact, I'm finding it equal parts odd and hilarious that you seem to be too ignorant to know I am one of the few people who actually did put my ideology in my flair and too weak/ passive to be honest about your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:52 PM
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you do realize being left and libertarian are not mutually exclusive, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:41 PM
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What is your point? your flair doesn't show your ideology, either. most people's flairs don't show their ideologies in this sub. this is not a sub primarily about political ideology. your question didn't ask for ideologies, nor did it specify that one could only answer if one also had their ideology in their flair. if you knew anything about political ideologies, you'd understand how ironic your comment is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:35 PM
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Absolutely not. Just thinking of it makes me dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:18 PM
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for me: yes. but everyone is different, and I'm sure there are women who would be fine with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:26 PM
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if anyone needs an example of a trash opinion, see above
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 12:04 AM
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This isn’t an endorsement of betrayal for the sake of it, Yes it is. If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, either be honest and get out of it, or keep your commitment. It was a voluntary choice on your part to be in a relationship. Either open it up/ end it ethically or remain in it, honestly. Evidence: Men's Consumption of Adult Content lol ah, yes, and smoking meth is evidence of man's natural need to ingest acetone and hydrochloric acid. /s Absolutely THE most ignorant take Porn…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 09:22 PM
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She could receive a lot of promo messages/ non-urgent things not clear notifications after reading/ responding be in a lot of group chats be busy and prioritizing for a time have adhd none of these are automatically red flags but if you consider them to be, that's up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:15 PM
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Alimony/ spousal support is so rare that this is a ridiculous thing to discuss, but I suppose we can play violins as the titanic sinks... If one spouse works outside the home/ works for financial compensation and the other spouse provides household/ unpaid labor, as a mutual agreement of both partners, explain why the paid spouse should benefit from the unpaid labor of the other, while building their resume/ remaining in the workforce; but the unpaid spouse should be left with no paid work histo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:24 AM
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It’s not “funny” or “relatable” when a dad falls asleep while he’s supposed to be watching a toddler who is running around the house unsupervised, or throws a tantrum... It's not funny or relatable to YOU clearly, it's relatable to other women who also have childish, incompetent husbands My husband isn't like that and I don't particularly enjoy that content either. But I know a LOT of women who unfortunately relate to it quite a bit. It helps them feel less alone and less confused to know there …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 12:56 AM
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It sounds like you are saying "I totally agree with you regarding the actual subject of the discussion we're all having but I chose you at random to have a random off-topic side conversation with" But okay. technically speaking, on a mid-level zoom out, I believe one can choose better but not simply by actively/ consciously picking someone different from who they feel attracted to. (I mean, one can do that but it won't make them suddenly attractive) If one changes one's neural pathways enough, o…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:19 PM
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I don't really place because blame is much to messy. Some is bound to get on you while you're trying to put it on others. Blame and shame assume moral absolutes that do not exist. I have no way of knowing if people do or do not have free will in any meaningful sense. Sitting around, blaming an entire gender in hopes of shaming one of them into throwing you some pity sex is an exercise in futility. I don't see how it would benefit this OP or any of the 900 other "women need to take accountability…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 09:24 AM
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did you mean to reply to my comment with this random question? and if so, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 08:40 AM
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gurl, you can rank people all you want as long as you understand that your opinion means nothing, no one gives a shit, and no one is obligated to live their lives according to it. Unsolicited input is unsolicited for a reason, sweetheart
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 02:50 AM
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There's a difference between being illiterate because you haven't been given an education/ haven’t yet learned how but are capable of doing so being illiterate because your brain literally does not have the capacity to learn to read, no matter the time, energy, or tools available. My husband was in the first group. He struggled with a learning disability growing up and his teachers didn't give him the tools to help at first. But he pushed past it, figured out alternative strategies, and learned …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 10:34 PM
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love it. I hope it happens sooner than later. It won't be like the real thing, no matter how advanced tech gets. All it will do is further desocialize an already undersocialized population, rendering them incapable of reentering relationships with living women. It will cause a divide between men who can live in society and men who only know how to commune with predictable, programmable, controllable machines. As this second group of men slowly become the Eloi over time, human women will continue…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:55 PM
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Today's obligatory "Don't forget to blame women for everything wrong with the world because I'm sad" post is especially silly. Better luck tomorrow, manosphere pr team.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:16 PM
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I'm sorry, Jen. I wasn't trying to insult you. I'm sure you aren't actively pretending to be a Gen Z man on reddit, so my comment wasn't directed at you. Friends is overrated and cringe, X files is a classic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:25 PM
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you sound like a white gen x lady named Jennifer, who loves FRIENDS and U2, trying but failing to role play as gen z man no one gives a shit if you think some random woman you don't know is "equal" to a random man with a 9" dick, according to some arbitrary system you and your little friends made up during your larps online because you're too overwhelmed by your lack of understanding of how people are
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:45 AM
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In my experience women often fall into only one of two extremes This says more about your experience than it does about the nature of women, writ large. women...exclaim... that any man is attractive so long as he exhibits basic human decency and the capacity to wipe his own ass. BS. You have not heard a woman say this, much less enough women to qualify as representative of a majority. completely outlandish and exaggerated claims. That's just, like, your opinion, man. They will declare that they …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:11 AM
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Literally Just Taboo/ not the cultural norm?: Sure. It wouldn't impact me one way or another. Banned/ not okay to do?: no. consenting adults should get to do whatever they want with other intellectually capable adults who fully understand and consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:12 AM
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Apparently, a numbering system is too advanced for you, so I'll try quotes: This is a week assumption damn. I meant it to be a month assumption, at least That first paragraph made no sense at all The part where she willingly chose to go to a guy's house that she did not even like Again, that's probably a fawn response because of trauma. But regardless of what made her do that, you have no way of knowing if she took personal RESPONSIBILITY (the word I think you are actually looking for) because "…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:52 AM
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google "benevolent sexism" and tell me again about what a good friend you are to her. can you please explain exactly which portion of the situation she should be accountable for? and in what way should she perform or display said accountability to meet the threshold of what you would deem an appropriate amount of such a display? and what makes you the arbiter of her level of accountability, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:10 AM
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well, obviously, she should take accountability for the behavior of the man who assaults her. That's how accountability works. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 10:27 PM
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Your attempt to shoehorn your anectodes into an inaccurate description of the concept of "accountability" didn't work. and most of what you described seems to be a freeze and/ or fawn response, which is common in women and commonly misinterpreted (or even taken advantage of) by men. I hope your female friend finds better male friends in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 09:53 PM
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No problem. I'm glad to see other women calling it out, too, but not surprised because we're being honest. A majority of men are not neanderthals, run solely by an id. They are complex, nuanced human beings. I dont know about OP but I'd assume that's true, even for him. It looks like he is so emotional about his circumstances that pretending to be a savage makes him feel better, somehow. He's role-playing to avoid his hurt feelings. Or- maybe he's really like this??? I suppose some percentage of…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:05 PM
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speak for yourself. I know lots of men who aren't barbaric, knuckle-dragging apes. Read a book and drink some water.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:57 PM
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The only helpful and accurate thing in your entire post was the title. The rest of this ridiculous. How about people of all genders have whatever personal standards they want and fuck whichever consenting adults want to fuck them, for whatever duration of time those consenting adults agree upon, and you worry about the only person you can control: you; sound good? Great. Moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:52 AM
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got it #notliketheothergirls I don't know why I even bothered answering you and I'm going to correct that mistake starting now. Good luck with your human research.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:00 AM
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obviously you don't think that. you're the OP. putting a reminder on your calendar but still having to do the work of going to pick it out and choose which flowers are in it, is more personal than outsourcing it. That just bolsters my point. things don't have to be part of the video to be likely true or even true. Not understanding this could lead one to realize some things and get therapy around black and white thinking; or I suppose it could lead one to post essentially the same tone-deaf shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:40 PM
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the issue here is very clearly not the subscription. it's the fact that he was outsourcing remembering to get her something personal and thoughtful. He tried to use a shortcut, so he'd have to think of her one time annually vs. one time per month but still get praised as though he thought of her once a month. He completely missed the point of flowers as gifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:20 PM
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I know other women who basically dedicated their whole early 20s to getting dick, and their body count is well over 30 (at 23/24 y.o) 5-6 dicks per year? That's not very dedicated! If your whole life is dedicated to something for 4-5 years straight and you only manage 5-6 per year? that's embarrassingly low. That wouldn't even qualify as "dedication" by any sincere definition. Also yea, a woman with 30+ bodies is just bound to make guys feel insecure, let’s be honest. Nobody deserves a partner t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:20 AM
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conservatives are less likely to be empathetic/ make selfless decisions so they're also less likely to care if cheating would hurt their partner conservative women are getting way fewer orgasms at home but may not want to end the marriage because it would reflect poorly on their conservative image. Having an affair could ensure they get their needs met while maintaining their lifestyle. there is more acceptance for women's sexuality and sexual expression in liberal/ leftist spaces and conservati…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 08:41 PM
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Interesting. I have separated this into parts and will give my real time/ gut reactions as a go (maybe cutting your paragraphs down for space): This man is a "libertarian", Did he vote for anyone in the GOP in the last 10 years? If so, he's the opposite of a libertarian. So he's either lying to you or to himself. My money's on the latter. If he doesn't back trump/ elon/ etc. then, okay, fine. I made an unfair assumption. and self proclaims to be a "social darwinist" he goes by the motto "the str…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 07:58 AM
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congratulations on understanding and reiterating my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:55 AM
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was literally typing the same thing when I saw your comment. This!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:19 PM
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Which guy is the more safe choice vs the more risky choice? Safe: Steven, maybe? you didn't really tell us anything about who he is as a human. Risky (an understatement): Ray Which guy has the female gaze? You did not include a picture of Ray so I have no idea if he does or does not receive the female gaze; nor to what extent, nor by what percentage. I googled Steven Pruitt and feel confident saying that, while this is not a reflection on him as a person/ his character, based solely on your "fem…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:16 PM
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are women generally "bad" at it OR have little girls essentially (sometimes: literally) been taught that we are bitchy, bossy, aggressive, hormonal cunts who need to act differently if we want to achieve anything in life, every 👏 single 👏 time 👏 we have taken initiative since we were old enough to talk? and that social/ operant conditioning has worked on most women exactly as intended ? and over time, are most of these little girls rewarded for not taking initiative and punished for taking it so…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 09:50 PM
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ANYONE being very rich is unnatural. Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 08:08 PM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:26 AM
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single and childless and it's not even a tough decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 05:36 PM
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100p this is not a money issue; it's purely about incentive. Men already feel incentivized to go out to bars because there is a higher chance at meeting/ hooking up with a woman than in their basement, office, the post office, stores, etc. women, on the other hand, perceive going out for drinks as a higher risk activity than men do (whether one agrees it is or not is irrelevant here). If men show up to my bar to meet women and there are no women, they won't stay, and they won't spend their money…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:29 PM
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again, I have no dog in this fight. I was simply objectively laying out the possible consequences. [I will note, though, I've only ever known men with ASD to perseverate on the issue of paying for dates and buying drinks. Even my NT male friends who have struggled financially in the past didn't have the level of concern I see on PPD. It is typically and overwhelmingly an ASD-specific focus.] (source: I have worked with adults with ASD/ social groups for the last 15 years, I have friends with HFA…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:34 PM
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this is a/n moral/ethical issue. If you don't think there's anything wrong with devaluing and dehumanizing over half of the population based solely upon uncontrollable genetics, im not sure how a reddit discussion will solve that issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:48 PM
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Ladies' nights are primarily designed for men. By offering women discounts, bars aim to attract a large group of women, hoping men will follow to cover the costs. It is sexist toward all genders but in different ways. While ending ladies' nights might reduce sexism, it could also discourage women from going out, which men will inevitably complain about. It's similar to the dynamics of online dating—women need to be incentivized to participate, or men won't engage either. It's basic capitalism. P…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:44 PM
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less than 1/3 of voters voted for trump his margin of victory over Harris was 1.5% more people voted for not-trump than voted for trump implying this is some sort of mandate or will of the majority is obvious bullshit; and it makes people who argue it appear completely disingenuous, manipulative, and/ or ignorant of the facts. This comment should not be mistaken as me being interested in debating this particular point with you. Despite people's best efforts, one cannot actually argue facts into …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 04:59 PM
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who is offering us this liberty? who is providing the security?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:03 PM
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nerd to nerd, I'm glad it brought you joy. I typically like to talk more relatably (you know, like a regular person) but it seems like these manosphere debate bros only respond to using unnecessarily big words for ridiculously small ideas. I figure: when in rome...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 12:48 AM
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and my point is: no, they aren't. period. it's just different flack, received differently. actually, you're the one who brought up death threats first. look at the timestamps. Cool. done. and since I'm the only woman I can control, I can't make any other women be more fair-minded so this whole discussion is unnecessary. I wasn't aware incel subs didn't contain comments from men. my mistake. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:57 PM
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even screenshots are sus. Anyone can claim to be a woman online.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:43 PM
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I didn't deny it happened. that was someone else. did you mean to reply to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:42 PM
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my whole point is that you and OP are the ones trying to engage in the "oppression Olympics" and you are so self-centered that you can't even see that you keep proving my point. terrible stuff happens to both men and women. you and OP are making this needlessly gendered. What do you expect women to do about it? we are not in control of all of society and the behavior of everyone in it. edit: and men totally defend Elliot Roger but that's not really related to my point so whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:41 PM
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it really does strain credulity but I'm trying to give the benefit of the doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:52 PM
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are you going to make a point that in any way relates to my comment or ??
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:24 PM
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that should not have happened to you. period. It also doesn't negate or counteract my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:24 PM
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it's also quite silly to hold reasonable people accountable for the behavior of 14 unreasonable ones. As though I can just seek out the 14 women who thought it was appropriate to threaten someone with death in DMs (an absolutely insane thing to do) and - what - change them? undo it? control their inner thoughts? I wouldn't threaten to murder someone on reddit so what am I supposed to do to solve the problem of people who are? support social services and mental health services? I do that. Encoura…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:23 PM
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the exact same thing happens to women, but instead of "incel" we get called other things. We sometimes get threats of grape and murder, etc. Just because you don't see or experience what happens for women doesn't mean it doesn't happen. This is a myopic and omphaloskeptic take. You have no way of knowing that there are more judgments/ consequences for men than for women and the way many young, conservative men (in particular) claim to have the corner on misery and victimhood is frankly equal par…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:16 PM
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It seems like you think a "free pass" means "free from the judgment of others" and/ or "free from any consequences" rather than "the freedom to DO something" Men are free to have their standards just like women. And just like women men may receive judgment/ social consequences for having said standards. If you are this disturbed by the judgment of/ consequences for your standards, get therapy. This is not something "society" needs to solve for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:14 PM
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what is a "feminine man" ? who decided that? using what criteria?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:17 PM
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as soon as you explain why it is our responsibility to generate solutions to this "issue" I'd be happy to present your question at the next UCW (Underground Council of Women) meeting. thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:52 PM
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I dont think you understand what proof is, but alright, keep your secrets
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:21 AM
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if I magically woke up a billionaire, I would still be married to my current partner, and I would also make sure I wasn't a billionaire for long because I'm not a degenerate morally bankrupt piece of shit. No one needs a billion+ dollars when people are homeless and starving.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:20 AM
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proof
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:27 AM
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is atheism the best proof God exists?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:03 AM
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...why women feel that being asked to DNA test the child is a insult... I understand it is suggesting infidelity Sounds like you answered your own question right at the top. ...how many of you have absolutely 0 shame looking through your husbands/boyfriends phone and look through his private messages with his friends etc etc to see if he is seeing someone else or talking about it? I don't do that. I don't need to do that. 95% of my friends don't do that. the 5% that have- have always been right …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:27 PM
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I'm not going to share my proprietary method or standards with you. What if you're one of the thousands of men submitting formal applications for my friendship and you're looking for an edge in the process. Nice try but it won't work. /s, obviously because your description of how people make friends is so fucking goofy that it doesn't warrant a serious response
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 09:58 PM
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Imagine that your friend or partner There is such a huge chasm of difference between these two scenarios that it is bananas to say them as though they are comparable/ in the same realm. is just a normal guy What is a "normal guy"? Who decides that? These would be just fairly standard beliefs (none of the extreme stuff), such as: ...proceeds to list absolutely not-at-all "standard" beliefs for anyone who regularly interacts with people offline/ outside the manosphere/ redpill bubble. Trojan horsi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:00 PM
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worthy of neither time nor attention ✓ You've already given your time, and attention = Low IQ You're too easy. What's "too easy" (and cheap) is to pretend you're right if you take someone's comment out of its original context. In this case, for example, the actual CONTEXT of my comment was: ..."arguments" like OP's...are worthy of neither the time nor attention necessary to "debate" them. And I absolutely did not spend time/ attention on that. Nor did I say it was low IQ to do so. Are you bother…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:42 AM
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I have called my husband each of these things many times and when he displays these characteristics it makes me want to fuck him more, not less.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:50 PM
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WTF?! you should check this out: https://np.reddit.com/r/nw00/s/tWxTFmqr5p it appears that this guy set up a sub, then a couple of bots to spam that sub with posts about himself. absolutely bonkers
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:21 AM
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Does feminine and masculine exist in your mind? In my mind, meaning what? Is it my opinion that the concepts of feminine and masculine exist? OR does my personal mind contain within it both the feminine and the masculine? Instead of preemptively focusing on the possible ways we could respond incorrectly, perhaps you may want to use that energy to word your questions in such a way that we could answer conclusively without needing clarification.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:23 AM
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"If you are defining women as 'high and low value' and buying into the false idea that you can define dynamic, living humans with economic market terminology and it will actually map onto real world experience, you are consuming waaaaay too much manosphere content. Please go outside and experience life in person with real people and maybe get therapy or begin a centering practice like meditation or jujutsu. I am sad to hear this coming from you and I hope you get better soon."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 04:59 PM
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Sure. OR Truly nothing says "LoW iQ" like someone who attributes any seriousness or objectivity to IQ in 2024. Taking IQ seriously, "Solipsism/ Solipsistic," calling women "Western/ Modern," claiming to be "Stoic," unironically mentioning "Chads," and claiming to be "objective" when discussing something so overtly subjective and emotionally-fraught are THE HALLMARKS of "I get all my 'data' from the manosphere circle jerk." As such, I will assume you are roughly 14?? years of age and let you know…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 01:31 AM
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freedom for me but not for thee
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:27 PM
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it's giving "Look what you made me do. You know I wouldn't have to hit you if you'd just have dinner ready on time"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:14 PM
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"angelic"? the term "angelic"? You hear adult women call THEMSELVES "ANGELIC" "all the time"? just "Oh, look at me drinking my chai, I'm so angelic" "hi, Madison, good to see you. I was just thinking of how angelic my ass looks in these pants" be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:18 AM
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yeah, if it's one thing all women universally do in 2024, it's call ourselves "angelic." I never stop hearing that. I never stop saying that. This is so accurate about women. It really shows how many women you personally spend time with and listen to. Great job. nothing else even needs to be said on this topic, really. Not now and not ever for the rest of time. Because you nailed it. /s obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 10:21 AM
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Two of my closest, longest-lasting friendships are with men who I have never been with romantically. I like nearly everything about them or I wouldn't have been friends with them for 1-2 decades. I have a close male cousin who i like and respect a great deal. I have two teenage nephews I think are great. I have several coworker friends who are men and are awesome. I like my husband's best friends. Are you wanting me to list the specific personal characteristics i like about these specific boys/ …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:34 PM
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and here again, I will repeat: no; I also didn't say that. YOU inferred something again. In the future, if you plan to reply, please take a second to re-read my original comment - not as you imagine or would like it to be - but as it is actually written. If you plan to use another strawman/ claim I said anything other than what I actually said, please go ahead and re-read my follow-up replies, imagine I said them again, then delete your comment. That will save both my time and your embarrassment…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 09:22 AM
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I will ask again, what does this have to do with my original comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 08:50 AM
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no; I'm not. you're inferring something I neither stated nor implied. your choice to falsely attribute a belief to me does not magically make me responsible to defend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 08:41 AM
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what does this have to do with my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:02 AM
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can you please quote where I said that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 05:21 AM
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But I have a feeling you wouldn't prefer we enforce that legally? What exactly are you proposing we enforce legally and what does it have to do with my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 05:19 AM
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what is the name of this weird kink where men think women need to be shamed into social conformity all the time? It's not as simple as a classic shame fetish or daddy/daughter kink ?? I'm not sure what to call it but whatever it is, it's getting really boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:34 AM
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citation needed
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:35 AM
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my husband was a virgin when we got together. I'm not aware of anyone i know ever rejecting/ being rejected for that reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 12:08 PM
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my current gf is 19 years for 2 years. how is she 19 for 2 years? is she immortal? Then had a few month relationships of 14-17 years. I’m in my mid 40s now. were you in your 40s when you dated these underage children?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 10:23 AM
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On reddit it is encouraged to coerce men into unwanted vasectomies by their wives and if a man doesnt want to do it, he is insulted and crucified. Can you share some examples of this? I've only ever seen women say their husbands offered to get vasectomies but dragged their feet and that they don't feel safe having sex because they can't handle a/ another pregnancy. I've never seen what you're claiming.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:08 AM
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perhaps you have always said that, but you're moving goal posts a bit if you're trying to claim that's what most or all of these men are upset about. You are the only person I've heard claim "selecting for charm is the problem." Typically and overwhelmingly, the argument is that women select for tall, attractive, wealthy, "bad," "promiscuous," and/ or abusive men, and then complain when they are treated poorly when had they chosen a nice guy they would have been treated right. The issues most me…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:51 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:42 PM
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Lots of gay men are "masculine and dominant." Sex, gender/ gender norms, and orientation are each distinct categories. They are innately attracted to men the way straight men are innately attracted to women. The media doesn't impact them the same way straight women see sexualization of women and are still attracted to men. it's really that simple. Mystery solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:22 PM
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Why do you think men cater to women? some do it because they think they have to, some because they want to, some because it's how they show love, some to cover up/ make up for bad behavior, and others don't do it at all. Why are women more in demand? Are Women more in demand? I'm not sure I agree with the conclusion and I certainly dont agree with the framing. Why are men over-supplied? See above Do you think the latter two are social or biological? social and inaccurately simplified. Why haven'…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:49 AM
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what made it funny was that dynamic tho
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:36 AM
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my husband and I were JUST talking about that!! He showed me a story about a man who pretended to be deaf to ignore his wife, then when she learned ASL, he pretended to go blind. And we were laughing about how "men would still be mad she divorced him because they would rather stay married and never speak to their spouse- than initiate divorce." edit: note i don't feel like explaining this every time so - to be clear - I am not saying the story itself was true/ real. I'm saying his showing me tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 11:10 AM
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exactly. even though they consistently misunderstand what hypergamy actually is. Hypergamy (as a term/ theory in sociology) only refers to marriage, not dating. And throughout most of marriage history, it was men being hypergamous on behalf of women (i.e. their daughters), not women being hypergamous of their own volition. Current relational behavior clearly shows that -when women get the option to make their own choices in society- they prefer to be single and earn for themselvesn rather than n…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 07:51 AM
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and many of these same men will then turn around and blame women for "choosing poorly," without acknowledging that what the women were told they were choosing was nothing but a "charming facade" covering the real personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 07:05 AM
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I didn't read all of that because it was a yes or no question. If you'd like to answer my question, I'd be happy to go back, after that part of the discussion is done, and read this other information you'd like to add. if you choose not to respond to my question, I'll assume that's because: you agree that, yes, it is a fair summary of his overall post. In which case, you also know that I absolutely did not miss the point. You simply don't like how I took the point because i was supposed to feel …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:19 PM
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Could a quick but fair summary of what OP said be that he is bothered that men, even left-leaning men like himself, are getting unfairly blamed for the Dobbs decision? And that as a result of this "misblame" they're 'unfairly saddled with guilt' they shouldn't have to carry?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:48 AM
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Genuinely sorry to tell you I have no idea how your reply relates to my comment. unless you didn't get that it was a metaphor, in which case, yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:23 PM
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nope. My point is that this entire idea that OP needs attention and validation for being pro choice is the problem. Not just shutting up but learning to not make women's issues about him and to deal with his own emotions rather than expect women to process them for him. That's what I mean by decentering. Everything else I have already explained so please feel free to reread above as needed. Have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:17 PM
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OPs post was specifically about men getting blamed, and I was responding in context When slavery was legal (outside of prisons) in the US, some slaves who were light skinned, obedient, helpful, and/or "civilized" enough were able to work in the house and gain privileges the field slaves didn't have. They could often dress like, act like, and perhaps even convince themselves, to a certain extent, that they were "equal" to white employees. But in the end, they were still slaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:10 PM
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What do you think they should be doing about it if they already vote democrat? Generally speaking, I don't have an opinion about what most men who are pro choice should do besides support and vote for pro choice candidates and support the women in their lives around the subject. It would be even cooler if they were outspoken about it to pro life people in their lives, on social media, and by contacting their congress people; but I certainly don't think a majority of pro choice men have to do the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:02 PM
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I mean, I agree that the extreme, minority religious right are to blame, but I don't see an overwhelming number of leftist/ liberal men doing anything about it. Anyone can espouse theoretical views about something from the comfort of their living room. Some clarifying questions- what's your point? What are you looking for here? Do you want us to give you an "Abortion Ally" participation trophy? Why are you more concerned about being blamed than about the impact of Dobbs? Do you understand how se…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:16 PM
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In what ways are the ideas of the political left openly anti-men?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:39 PM
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The simple fact is that male births outnumber female births. they don't have to
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 05:30 AM
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nope. and i will note that I'm married to a man and both of my best friends are men, so it's not like I don't hang out with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 05:33 AM
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"overly emotional"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 03:50 AM
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I have never known any man who has been falsely accused of anything I would need to help out with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:24 PM
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are we counting his lifts as part of his actual height now? DeSantis will be so pleased.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 08:16 AM
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Cool. another thing a Trump voter thinks women shouldn't be allowed to do! Add it to the ever-growing list.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:47 AM
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again with the Esther Vilar
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:50 PM
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"legitimacy" is a subjective standard (<-- the actual point you seem to have missed) Having a legit reason for something doesn't make that reason or the person "wonderful." (also a subjective value judgment, btw). i believe the same about men. my beliefs and resulting comments are consistent in this regard. your attempt to pretend my comment is related to this weird paradigm you need to be true, doesn't make it so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:42 AM
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it absolutely fucking annoys me when women/girls on that app unadd me/block me for no legitimate reason. They have a legitimate reason or they wouldn't do it. If you mean that you, personally don't like or don't agree with the reason, that's just like your opinion, man. You are not the Legitimacy Police for humanity and your opinion of whether or not another person feels justified in their actions is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:07 AM
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I was being cheeky, but truly, practically no one in academe takes Maslow seriously anymore. It's not only the native American connection that is at issue. Eugenics, selection bias, cultural bias, lack of scientific rigor, lack of clarity. Even he said his theory wasn't as set in stone as depicted/ was more of a concept than an clearly defined set of data. Everyone agrees that humans have basic needs and must have those met before moving on to others. He didn't originate that. he didn't solidify…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 07:46 PM
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I was trying to be polite before. to be more direct: no, I wouldn't. There are more options than the two you are able to come up with. You are clearly entering into this discussion with a cemented, narrow-minded view that doesn't allow for dialectic, which is why I am not interested in continuing to have one with you. I hope that's clearer and have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 07:15 PM
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you supposing a thing is suggested or implied is not what I would call a "major hole." we'll have to agree to disagree on whether a. that study shows causation or correlation, and b. it's specific to sex in and of itself vs. regular affection + touch + sexual release + physical activity either way- sex is not a biological need.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:59 AM
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there's no way to say it's the sex, specifically. We already know humans lead longer, more (self-reportedly) fulfilled, healthier lives if they have the things I listed above. And, as I noted, all 3 of those things can be achieved via sex (ideally/ in theory) but aren't exclusive to it. Thus, one can just as easily argue that the reason an active sex life shows a positive correlation is due to it combining the 3 things I listed, plus a 4th key health factor: exercise/ physical movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:36 AM
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You mean Maslow's hierarchy of ideas that he stole from Native Americans but literally inverted/ reversed because he couldn't even plagiarize competently, then passed the inaccurate one off as his own? Yeah- maybe not the definitive source for determining biological needs
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 10:15 AM
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True, you raise a valid point. although, in that case wouldn't it be the stress that shortened your life, not the lack of sex? it's tough because psychological needs do factor into physical needs but are complex/ multifaceted. Whether it technically is a physical need (as OP framed it) or not, it's certainly a strong motivator and desire of most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:56 AM
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Forgot to ask and didn't want to add as an edit in case you didn't see it: Do you think it makes one's lifespan shorter?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:07 AM
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No. An argument can be made that: Not having any physical contact with others (hugs, etc.) Not having sexual release (never orgasming) Not feeling love or connection with even one person (which can be platonic) can, may, or does contribute to a shorter life span, depending upon which sources one references. An argument can also be made that a sexual relationship is an efficient way to get 1-3 of these things (depending upon various factors). But there are ways -other than sex- to get each of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 01:40 AM
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I define a "Biological Need" as something that is required in order for a living organism to maintain the basic level of physical health necessary to survive. Each individual living organism can survive their entire life cycle without sexual contact with others. Therefore, it is not a "Biological Need."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 12:53 AM
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first of all, it's 100% fine for anyone to choose to be celibate for any reason. but it sounds like you want our opinions on his reasoning, so to answer that: Is it understandable? Sure. To your point, women do not always want the roles society tells us we should or must have. We want the freedom to choose. Men should have the same freedom. That's what feminism is actually about (regardless of how the term has been bastardised). Is it delusional? I mean, if by "rejecting your gender role" you me…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:58 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 08:29 PM
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I hope I'm never in a Completely Missing the Fucking Point competition with you smh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:38 AM
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they abandoned the male birth control testing because test subjects got acne and said they wouldn't use it but men expect us to pump synthetic hormones into our bodies for decades so they "don't have to worry about coming."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:50 PM
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the pill is not "casual" and "regular" for women's bodies. It does more harm than a vasectomy does. You shouldn't falsely equate pumping hormones into your system on a daily basis for decades with a simple outpatient, one day, non invasive proceedure that does not impact men's hormones at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:48 PM
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that is not a "women's only sub" it is as much the opposite of a "women's only sub" as a sub can get I went back a full week in the posts and found 0 examples of women saying "men will fuck anything" or an equivalent sentiment my statement stands. if men don't want that narrative out there, they should encourage each other not to perpetuate it, not look to women to solve their problems for them. have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:32 PM
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people living in a society expect each other to use their prefrontal cortices instead of their amygdalas to make a majority of their decisions. That is a reasonable expectation, not an erasure of the existence of their "lizard brain." Have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:21 PM
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that's fine. It's your time. I've never seen that and don't know what you're talking about. With no possible way to research it myself, unless or until I see otherwise, I will assume you were confused or misremembering the origin of the statements you attributed to women. Have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:31 PM
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it's not what I think it's what is true. I googled to double-check, and it is still easy to find lots of sources that will explain this to anyone willing to research it for even 5 minutes. Consequently, I no longer take it seriously when someone claims there is both de facto and de jure equity, nor will I engage with sealioning on this topic. edit typo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:10 PM
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the examples are inaccurate. Thus, they give an incorrect perspective. that is not my "opinion" if your goal was to put things in an actual 'timeline and perspective,' it would follow that you'd use facts, not your imagination. is it your position that it would be best to use our "lizard brain" to make decisions?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:44 PM
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can you share 5 instances of women independently saying "men will fuck anything" on said subs? I frequent several women's subs and don't recall one, much less a significant number of times this is the case. I've seen women say "men say they will fuck anything" or "men tell us they will sleep with anyone" but once again, that's men originating this narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 10:39 AM
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Im not really into conspiracy stuff but this account is 100% a Russian/ Trump plant. *
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:31 AM
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I have been trying to communicate past the obvious language barrier and this last comment was the most confusing yet. I am not worried about my friends. I can't imagine what type of "problems" I could have with them "in the future" when I've known both of them for over 15 years. Who they do and don't choose to sleep with has nothing to do with me. Have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:07 AM
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okay; I'm trying to be polite but to be more frank: your opinion doesn't matter here. that said, I'll play for fun: what makes you say that? how would you imagine my friendship would be impacted by my friends' choices not to settle down? what gave you the idea that I wanted your opinion on who my friends are? What makes your particular opinion about my friends meaningful or useful to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:37 AM
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unrelated to my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:20 AM
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luckily for me, you don't decide who my friends are nor do you know what they think about women. unsolicited feedback is always criticism and, you, a person who does not know me at all, are not in a position to criticize me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:19 AM
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men should take care of themselves FOR Themselves not for women and the sooner they figure that out, the better off we'll all be
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:11 AM
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trad wife does directly challenge the feminist way of living. Women then will be able to decide which path they want to choose. They will see the results of women before them. So that women get to decide for themselves what is the life they would rather have. You are ironically espouseing a feminist view here. The feminist movement (up through at least the 3rd wave) was all about giving women the option to choose which path to take. I'll also note that this is an extremely sheltered, classist, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:08 AM
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I am surprised to hear the majority were women. I am sure it happens, but I truly have only seen men saying that. And I'm not seeing it irl; only in online spaces where a lot of the men are involuntarily celibate porn addicts who project their own mindset onto all men because they lack the ability to understand that not everyone thinks the way they do. I have a couple of male friends who hook up a lot and even they don't say that they'll fuck anyone. Even famously admitted and convicted SAers li…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:41 AM
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let's not forget this recent post, also from a man about men <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:30 AM
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I agree with you but it's overwhelmingly men who are saying it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 04:09 AM
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Anyone purporting to have expertise and then claiming 'women have the same rights as men on paper' is showing bad faith, bias, and/or ignorance. It's not worth giving further energy/ attention to someone who starts discussions that way. Good luck with whatever you're looking to get from this!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:29 AM
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did you accidentally reply to my comment or do you think this is related in some special way only you understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:37 AM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_equivalence
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:40 PM
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16%? What are lovely imaginary version of the world that would be
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:24 AM
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grapefruit is both oddly specific and extremely acidic for such a sensitive body part
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:37 AM
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did you have those answers yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 05:27 PM
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not from me it's not
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:50 PM
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my honest answer is: it depends
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:49 PM
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are you being willfully obtuse/ just wanting to argue or do you genuinely not understand what I meant when I gave you the list of questions and asked you to answer each of them? I truly cannot tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:08 PM
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if you're not going to answer all of the questions, this isn't enough info. for ex: If he's cried once in front of me but we've known each other for 2 days, that might be weird. If he's cried ONLY once in front of me and we've been dating for 2 years that would be weird in a totally opposite way. I'd expect him to have cried more than ONCE in that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:57 PM
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plays video games: What type? How frequently? Alone or with others? Isn't very experienced with women: What has caused his inexperience? What qualifies as "inexperienced" here? Virgin at 25: Why? By choice? For religious reasons? Tried to get laid but couldn't? Has a kid with another woman but still pays his way: Pays his way in the relationship with me? Or pays for his kid? Does he pay child support or extra? Does he also have a relationship with the kid? What type of relationship? Has a dark s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:39 PM
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this is a fairly defensive response to me simply clarifying your intent. Are you able to give clarification/ specifics on the ones I requested or nah?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:27 PM
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I dont think you're using "red flag" correctly in this context. But it seems like you're essentially looking for what our preferences and deal breakers are. In which case: Deal Breaker Has a 5 inch or less size penis Earns minimum wage. Is currently unemployed. Extremely extroverted Is someone who gets into fights Neutral Under 6ft tall Doesn't like to go out drinking Goes out every weekend Introverted Likes soccer / Football Doesn't have a dark sense of humour Not fond of having kids Wants kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:15 PM
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It differs from person to person but boiled down to its essence it means: Occasionally☆ by your own volition take an action that demonstrates to her that you: are thinking of her pay attention to her likes, wants, needs, and preferences have initiated, planned, and executed something without needing her help or input It should not be cliche and performative. If you genuinely care for her, it should be based upon her, specifically, and your real, actual feelings for her. ☆if you need something mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 09:04 PM
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Not at all concerning: *reads a lot *uses Reddit - casually *is shy and/or quiet *eats a specific diet (e.g. keto, vegan) *single father and raising the kid from least concerning to most concerning: *virgin over the age of 25 (by choice) *has depression or some other kind of mental illness (and it's well managed with meds and therapy, etc.) *no sense of dress *is often late *no college degree *does legal and socially acceptable drugs *is into crypto currencies virgin over the age of 25 (not* by …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:23 PM
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I guess I've come to assume that here :) I didn't mean to attribute that thought process to you unnecessarily he did. He eventually moved on to another full-time career but kept his recording studio open part-time/ for select clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:24 PM
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I literally numbered one set of points and lettered a second set to add more clarity than a typical narrative format but okay? Sounds good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:22 PM
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I already explained why the behavior of women who are not me is not relevant to my ethic for myself that only applies to me because it is my personal belief that I choose to hold for myself and have followed for myself in the past (and would, therefore, continue to apply to this hypothetical situation were I to be in it myself - as OP asked). If you would like to tell yourself that your inability to understand that is clever and I am dumb, it is of no consequence to me. And how am I simultaneous…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:30 PM
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I'm not ignoring it it's not related to my comment I am not responsible for the behavior of other women or for the societal expectations of the communities in which they live The behavior of other people is not germane to my response of my opinion about how I would react if I was in this circumstance- which is what OP asked. Your attempt to take my comment out of its intended context does not magically make it apply more broadly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:07 PM
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wait, are you saying an adult wrote this? That's not possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:57 PM
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incorrect in that I specifically did not include gender for a substantive reason, and my comment was, therefore a. not about men paying and b. not inane https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/2IgOMqRLaw
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:34 PM
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incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:24 PM
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a couple of thoughts in response: I asked my now husband out the first time, and I paid. He asked me out for a follow-up, and he paid. We never discussed who paid because the person who asked being the one who pays is a fairly normative/ typical expectation. When you're in a relationship, this all comes out in the wash and I fully cannot understand why so many people think this is such a big deal as to warrant weekly discussions ad infinitum. After the 2nd date, I couldn't possibly tell you who …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:21 PM
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I tend to believe whoever asked for the date should pay, regardless of gender but for OLD, it's kind of a mutual asking so I wouldn't think anything of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:25 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/dkeZ8vXK0I
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:00 PM
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"Mature" as in: having reached full growth/ development Not as in: being a well-balanced and emotionally developed adult
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:59 PM
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a cool thing about your male friend's opinion is that it doesn't bear any weight or have any authority when it comes to why or how abortions happen. There is no reason any of us should feel the need to change the inconsequential view of some random guy. He can either do actual research for himself and learn that his position is obviously incorrect or he can keep eating crayons. (At least for now) America is a free(ish) country and he is welcome to believe whatever nonsense he'd like as long as i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 09:37 AM
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What the actual fuck?! I went like a day without checking alerts and came back to you replying to the same message THREE TIMES in ONE DAY?!? What perfectly ironic behavior. bro- I gotta tell you- this is weird, off-putting, and does not make me want to continue engaging with you. Have a good one. [and you can spare us both the "my behavior didn't impact this interaction and you were never going to respond anyway" reply because whether you want to admit it to yourself or not- your bonkers unhinge…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:23 AM
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how hot? No how safe, caring, good of a listener? definitely, yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 10:54 PM
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i recognize this is difficult to hear, but flirting is abstract and personal, so even if we could give concrete examples, they would not necessarily apply to other women with whom you want to flirt. Something I've suggested to some men I know who have ASD and they've found it somewhat helpful is ask her favorite characters and movies and watch them. THIS IS IMPORTANT: DON'T copy them exactly/ treat this like a script; but get a feel for how the characters flirt and try a similar approach. More g…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 09:01 AM
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Are men emotionally stunted babies or do men and women exhibit similar degrees of emotional regulation? Please show me where I called men "emotionally stunted babies." There is is a difference between emotional regulation and emotional processing. Are you actually interested in clarifying what you misunderstood about my comment? If so, you can ask some good faith questions and I will do my best to respond. if you're only here to confirm you existing bias, let's leave our interaction as is and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:03 AM
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I have said this several times but- The question was "If a man left you" not "if a man left any woman ever." I answered with my personal answer based upon me being the "you" in the question. My answer is not intended to be extrapolated more broadly than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:59 AM
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there is a lot of nuance you are glossing over and I don't mean this in the offensive way you may be excited to take it but- I doubt I can really explain the complexities to you on reddit. However I dont know you or where you are in your journey so I'll make one quick attempt. I am assuming you have a base level understanding of mental health and wellness, trauma, relationship dynamics, hormonal impacts, gendered socialization, etc. the capacity to extrapolate accurately from a set of generalize…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:56 AM
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I mean, I'm sure there are some emotionally immature or disregulated people of all genders who do it, but to your point- it's certainly not common enough to warrant multiple broad discussions. And since the question asked "if a man left you" I answered from my own perspective/ experience. It irritates me to no end the amount of people on this sub who take comments out of context, apply them to a different, unintended, inapplicable context, then get big mad at the commenter as though it was their…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:29 AM
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again, I am answering for myself, not more broadly. Sex is important to me. Passion and excitement are necessities for a relationship. If my ex had provided not only everything I needed but was "the best" in my whole life, I'd still be with them. If those scenarios are applicable to someone else's life, that someone else can answer from their own experience accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:13 AM
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I feel confident saying that never ever in the history of humanity has a woman said the sentence "But that's my feminine emotionality!" Nope. Also- men are just as emotional as women. it's been my experience that men are more likely to say emotionally charged, purposely hurtful things in arguments because they often haven't developed the tools necessary to be in touch with their emotions and manage them maturely. This is particularly true if they feel defensive because something is triggering sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:42 AM
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I said plausible that is not plausible. At least not in my life. but if person A tells person B that their ex was better in bed in the middle of an argument, I wouldn't blame person B for leaving. That would be an immature and purposely hurtful way to handle conflict and being in relationship with people who can't handle conflict maturely is typically not a good idea in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:54 AM
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Women, imagine that the man you are in a relationship with found out HOW? I want to play along but I literally cannot imagine such a scenario being plausible. that your ex was better in bed, and your relationship with your ex was far more passionate and exciting than with your current SO. In what way was he "better?" what metric is being used? Who was more passionate and excited? according to whose definition? / must not have found the relationship more passionate and exciting or I'd still be wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:43 AM
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And those men are entitled to their opinion. who actually gives a fuck? If you're a non-virgin with tattoos you can just...not be with one of the men who thinks that way. it's really that simple. Why do so many people think they are required to live their lives according to what some other random group of people prefer?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:54 PM
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As I said above- I definitely have my own standards, opinions, morals, and ethics, which I can and will apply if I'm asked to weigh in on a matter. Since you're asking my opinion on seeing sex workers is: an overwhelming majority of sex workers are trafficked, abused, and / or involuntarily in that line of work Seeing sex workers instead of having the emotional maturity necessary to cultivate a long term relationship and going through the work to do so- demonstrates a worldview that doesn't alig…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:45 PM
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I'm genuinely not that interested in judging people I don't know for choices they made when those choices don't impact me or people I care about. If someone asks my opinion, I can share it but if not, they aren't my concern. If everyone else had to live by my morals and ethics, they wouldn't be sluts. But I don't feel any need for everyone to believe the exact same thing as me or behave only in ways of which I approve. As long as they are slutting it up with other consenting adults who aren't my…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:22 AM
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did you just try to hold me accountable for a complete stranger's argument? Who is "y'all" in that sentence? Women? Are you seriously asking that ALL WOMEN "decide on one argument" together?!? Do you hear how ridiculous that sounds? and since it seems like you are serious: No, I don't know why a different person, i have never met nor spoken to in my entire life said a thing I didn't say. No, all women can not all get together before responding to questions on reddit and agree on one singular app…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:53 PM
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Basically, same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:47 PM
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never seen casual hookups in a really long time working in offices. if anything people usually start dating, if that. usually people stay away from it. one time a group of guys had a bet going who could hook up with this one new girl. they guy that won ended up dating her long term. I'm sorry, do you operate under the assumption that the people around you are going to invite you to their casual hookups? Most people are not going to know who is or is not hooking up in their office at any given ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:37 PM
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Meanwhile, in the offline real world, one study on a non-representative sample size of OLD user preferences does not "scientific proof" make.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:18 PM
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please see my several preexisting responses to this for more info. thx
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:49 AM
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Sure, if you cherry-pick only certain parts of the definition and apply them more broadly, they aren't inherently bad. if you include the entire definition, both connotative and denotative, and apply it specifically to choosing a life partner, it's bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:23 AM
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this is a false equivalency. these are not mutually exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:08 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:20 PM
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oh, I didn't know that. Thanks for taking time to share that context. I didn't mean to put you on the spot. I'm not sure either but it's always been a bit sus to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:03 PM
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well, it's true. but do display more of the status and behavior triggers that arouse women. Can you share more of what you mean by this? I'm not sure I understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:02 PM
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sigh your opinion is noted, is still inaccurate, and has already been thoroughly addressed. I don't have anything to acknowledge I didn't make any excuses I didn't defend the position you attributed to me- in fact- I made it quite clear I felt no responsibility to do so I didn't attack you. a woman disagreeing with you is NOT an attack a woman staying firm in her position is NOT an attack a woman not bending over backward to be understood by you is NOT AN ATTACK I don't know to what stereotype y…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:00 PM
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luckily, I didn't. So that's not applicable but if I ever do, I will make sure to take responsibility
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:41 AM
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again- the post did not ask whether men are not attracted to their wives. I have already explained this ad nauseum and if you don't want to see my perspective that's fine. I have no need to do the work necessary to help you understand nor do I think it's possible in this forum given the opinions you've shared thus far
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:40 AM
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actually, yes. you chose to add a bunch of presuppositions on top of my actual words and take them out of their intended context so you'd have an excuse to be big mad instead of acknowledging that there is truth in what I said because it may feel too close to home, challenging of your worldview, cognitively dissonant, or any number of other things lots of people do that. it's normal. but it has nothing to do me and it's not my job to fix it for you believe whatever you like. if you don't want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:33 AM
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I am neither responsible for the lens through which you choose to view my comment nor the conclusions you draw based upon your choices
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:24 AM
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the post didn't ask if I knew men who admit they don't find their wives attractive. answering the specific question asked - which was about whether women find their husbands unattractive- is not sexist if people want a more broad, generalized, or neutral reaponse, they should ask a question in keeping with said desired outcome
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:22 AM
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my comment was an answer to the question posed by OP, not a description of all potential, theoretical intricacies, and nuances of all human relationship interactions taking my comment out of its original context and applying it more broadly/ generally than intended was your decision and I am not responsible for your choices
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:19 AM
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This is classy, and I appreciate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:41 AM
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that's so obviously not what I said that you must be joking
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:38 AM
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From what I've heard it's more a percentage than an absolute. yeah, it's reddit. I'm speaking in generalities and averages- as most all of us do in these types of discussions. If you think that women do not have spontaneous desire do you think all the women who swoon over good looking boys and men (e.g. Jeremy Meeks) are pretending? I don't know what the fuck is going on with those women. I do know that generally speaking- women are finding him attractive but not getting aroused by simply seeing…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:37 AM
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I have read that many women don't find there husbands particulary attractive. Where? I'm not suggesting that they are physically repulsed by them but they are not strongly attracted to them, just somewhat attractive. What does that even mean? I've read women admit they often love their husbands as a best friend but theirs no true passion due to a lack of physical attraction. *there's Is there any truth to this? Ciswomen have what's called "responsive desire" meaning that we are not spontaneously…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:04 AM
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I know she says she is Jewish but a lot of Germans who ended up in Argentina to escape their war crimes covered for their nazism by saying they were jews. I'm still unconvinced this wasn't the case for her parents. As a german, what is your take on that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:46 AM
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Studies show that: The brains of people with ADHD mature closer to 35, not 25. less than 20% of adults with ADHD know they have it women have lower dopamine levels than men People with ADHD have lower dopamine levels than their NT counterparts Estrogen impacts dopamine production Dopamine is necessary for proper executive functioning So, by your logic: A. It should be statutory to have sex with any person who has ADHD, before the age of 35 B. Furthermore, using your line of thinking, it should b…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:52 AM
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I have done a lot of work to unlearn purity culture stuff. If I did hear it at one time (which is possible) it's not readily available in my head now. I don't understand a desire for authoritarianism because I have a fully developed prefrontal cortex and don't make all of my decisions solely from my amygdala like your average fear-driven conservative. I also don't get trash suggestions like registries and tracking. In addition to the obvious, having experience in operations and leadership, I kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:57 AM
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what are you not getting? There's no chess game to have won or lost I didn't argue with you because you trying to make your addiction logical rather than neurological doesn't have anything to do with me or anyone else on reddit. jerk off to porn or don't. but intellectualizing behavior doesn't make it intelligent
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 10:29 PM
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that would explain it. how do you know? not familiar with that analogy...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 05:14 AM
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In this specific example what I'm hearing is: "I tried a thing because I wasn't sure if I'd like it. When I tried it, I felt harmed, debased, dehumanized, unloved, etc. I, like 95%+ of humans, do not like feeling that way, particularly in vulnerable and intimate situations like sex. Now that I know for certain that I do not like that thing, I do not wish to do it again." And how I "feel about" it is: That is totally normative behavior for all humans. If you try black licorice once and don't like…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 07:28 AM
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what argument? I've never heard this argument before so I can't respond until I know what it is. which specific kinks are degrading? a. how are they degrading? b. to whom are the degrading? does this woman have a degradation kink? a. if so, why wouldn't she get married to someone who can't/ won't participate in her kink? b. if not, why would she be expected to want to do degrading things with anyone, husband or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 07:17 AM
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this is either incredibly brilliant satire or terrifying fascist rhetoric; and there's no in between
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:30 AM
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absolutely not. I feel much more freedom to explore sexuality in my marriage than I ever had or would have prior. Sexual exploration requirements comfort, security, and safety. That's why consent, safewords, and aftercare are key tenets of all bdsm/ kink communities, regardless of how much they differ in other aspects.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 07:42 PM
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wearing clothes that violate modesty; Woman X is obviously wrong, women who have actually been harassed. should stop supporting obviously wrong demands, stop defending wrong women just because of group ideology. A question that makes it very clear whether the opinion is honest or whether it is a group bias There's nothing to debate here. You think your opinions are obvious facts and that an opinion is dishonest if a group of people happen to share it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:34 PM
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That's not the definition, though. that's part of a larger definition. That's not how words work. Again- why would someone want to date a person who isn't remarkable to them? Why would someone look at a person, think "Wow, what a moderate quality, middling, so-so individual, can't wait to have unsatisfying sex with them. I look forward to completely uninteresting conversations with this person" ??? that makes no sense to me. Are you going to answer my question?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:43 AM
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I don't "feel" it is. It is. * Edit: Apparently my screenshot won't attach but here's the definition of moderate or low quality, value, ability, or performance : ordinary, so-so From the Latin word mediocris, meaning "of medium size, moderate, middling, commonplace,"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:29 AM
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even if I hadn't, I don't believe I'd date someone I personally think is "mediocre." Mediocre is an inherently insulting term. That's like asking "would you date someone ugly?" I'd rather be single than date someone "mediocre" to me/ in my opinion. Because that means I have assessed this person to be not special, not particularly interesting, not of high quality to me and since I'm the one who needs to want to be with them- it literally makes no sense whatsoever for me to choose someone I think …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 02:11 AM
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Why WOULD I date someone I think is mediocre?!?! I don't even understand the question. Why would I have wanted to date someone / thought was mediocre when I had several options who I felt were greater-than-mediocre-levels of interesting, clever, funny, attractive, etc.? My opinion is the only one matters when it comes to who I date.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 01:42 AM
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If other people think they are, that wouldn't factor into my decision but if / personally find them mediocre, no, I wouldn't date them. edit: and I would agree the characteristics you have listed are a fairly good representation of "mediocre".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 09:47 PM
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okay. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. It sounds like you feel strongly about your philosophy and approach, and I respect that/ you. I wish you well in finding a partner with whom to walk that path.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:38 AM
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Im curious about the procreation sex only thing, if you’re open: How do you picture that working, logistically? i.e. your partner is always pregnant for 20 years? or you only have sex to have 2 children and are otherwise celibate? or?? Is it a religious thing? if yes, how so? if no, why else would you choose this path? Are you ace but just want kids? If it's your belief that sex is only for procreation, why does the clitoris exist? If your partner has a stronger sex drive/ wants sex without havi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:41 AM
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I wish when people downvoted they would explain why/ try to actually engage in a discussion wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:16 AM
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I don't need a test. He doesn't cheat. If he did, I honestly think I'd kind of react like he was Baxter with the cheese wheel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:45 PM
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https://youtu.be/Ea2UKFmRIaY?si=RMIZHYpuwScPL2xB
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:41 PM
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This has to win an award for least logical post of the year, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:47 AM
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your explanation of both responsive desire and the "whole point" of marriage reveal a narrowminded, ignorant, and immature understanding of relationship, sex, and women. that's a bummer for you and I wish you.the wisdom, understanding, and selflessness needed to grow in those areas so.you can experience real connection and a deep fulfilling sex life someday.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 10:20 PM
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my vows didn't mention sex at all none of the vows at any of the weddings I've ever been to mentioned sex why is it always "you're denying me something I am entitled to" and never "I'm not making you aroused, interested, or in the mood" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 05:20 PM
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Ideally yes- because partnerships without trust are fake and pointless but if he does, she'll be offended so- if a man is at the point of needing a paternity test, he may as well just end the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:53 AM
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Even the most stringent pro-lifer would not say the life of the mother is outweighed by the life of the child. No one in this debate is arguing that. The abortion debate is about elective abortion, while some of the new strain of pro-life policy will make it more difficult to act quickly in medical situations that has happened because there is no long good faith on either side You said this. It is false. Starting from this inaccurate (or dishonest?) position/ premise results in at best ignorant …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 09:10 AM
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From what I read, your central thesis is built on the inaccurate premise that anti-abortion advocates are not against medical abortion and that "no one" is arguing for a 100% abortion ban. After seeing that fallacious premise, I quit reading. Perhaps you should learn more about the actual issue before attempting a debate. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 10:10 PM
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If you are working back from the conclusion, then inherently, there is no reason for anyone else to believe your conclusion. see previous response Also, the vast majority of relationships have these rules. Look at your friends. What would any of them say if their bf's wanted to go on a trip alone with a woman, or to like her bikini pic, or even gym pic? My friends are not likely to be friendly with a lot of people who post obvious thirst traps so that's an unrealistic situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 09:34 PM
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I am friends with people of the opposite sex and literally have none of the problems you are inventing. If you want to say I'm "working backwards from the conclusion" then- sure- but that's only an applicable criticism if there's a problem to solve using the scientific method and/ or logic. Since that's not the case, it's an irrelevant criticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 08:54 PM
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In English, it goes "both/and" not "both/or." it's not my fault you typed the wrong word/ don't understand that. I made no insinuation. Your choice to infer something I neither implied nor stated is not my responsibility. I don't have to defend a position you falsely attributed to me because you were triggered. Have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:18 AM
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if OP is talking about how to attact "both girls and women" that makes the post take on a much more sinister tone than I initially thought. In defending the use of "females" this way, you're making it sound even creepier. Not sure that helps your case. Could you point me to where I said "using female is sexjst," btw? I don't recall saying that but I'm open to being mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 03:48 AM
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Cool. Another fact: Words have both denotative and connotative meanings and it is obtuse to imply otherwise. I'll leave it to you to decide which of our facts is more or less applicable to this conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 02:56 AM
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Um, no. When I refer to meeting, knowing, or talking to people, I am only ever referring to offline/ irl discussion. In fact, until your comment, it never occurred to me that someone would say they've 'met and observed' people and be referring to anything other than irl/ in person interaction. The "females" issue is absolutely something my friends and I notice and talk about irl your experience is not everyone's experience
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 11:18 PM
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Your apeaking abilities clearly don't translate to your writing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 08:43 AM
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I've never met or observed a man who calls women "females" have any significant success with or wisdom about women. But- there's a first time for everything, so I'll humor you: I haven’t exactly figured out yet So let’s focus on the concept. More so than the specifics. Okay, Mr. "I hAvE CoNcEpTs oF A pLaN," please share what your concept is so we can focus on it. Because your post seems to be an unnecessarily long way of saying "In order to attract a high percentage of women, be a significantly …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 07:43 AM
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Again, what does "[my] rite" mean? You say you're not religious, then you mention "rites"?? I didn't mention buying anything. It is very challenging to understand you. Do you perhaps mean: "you're right" and "what do you mean by 'relational'?" respectively? If so: you can disregard my question re: rites I don't understand your question about what I mean when I say it's "relational." can you clarify what you don't understand? Is English perhaps a second language for you? I am doing my best but it…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 07:31 AM
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Maybe your rite I don't know amy one that's tried it my rite? What? What about Chuck and Larry? Maybe it would be less challenging with to men who aren't caught up on emotional BS with to men? what? The emotional part is what makes it work. The reason people hair dead bedrooms and unsatisfying marriages is primarily because of Sentiments like this. They can still bring overcomes for sex. What does bring overcomes mean? Marriage is both a legal contract and a relational (and/or religious) agreeme…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 06:11 AM
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Marriage is both a legal contract and a relational (and/or religious) agreement (depending upon beliefs). If two adults with the mental capacity to enter into a legal contract and relational understanding want to do so -regardless of sex, gender, or sexual orientation- they should. That said, I doubt a straight man will find being married to another man any easier than women have found it to be. At least in a romantic/ sexual/ love-based marriage there is-- romance, sex, love, pair-bonding, supp…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 05:45 AM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/tucsLh8pgj
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 08:11 AM
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This is legit bonkers! Imagine being so defensive of your addiction that you write a multipart treatise -to a bunch of strangers- when you are actually trying to justify it to yourself. "Needing to smoke glass to get through my day is good for me part 12, subsection 2: Teeth are an unnecessary luxury perpetuated by big toothpaste"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 09:30 AM
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I was giving general examples, not what I personally think is a "perfect" partner. I never said "perfect" because I don't think such a person objectively exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 06:23 PM
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Thanks for clarifying. It's not about "better than" or "perfect." or "good enough for;" it's about the best match for me. We all meet several people who have the qualities needed to be a good partner to someone over the course of our lives. They have morals and ethics such that they will be whatever "good" means to whoever their partner ends up being. they'll be kind, honest, hard working, stable, whatever no matter who they are with because it's in their character to do so. But finding the one …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 06:11 AM
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Yes, it's a myth that that's always the case but it's not a myth that women have naturally different anatomy and if she has smaller hands (as he said in his joke) and / or happens to be on the smaller side, vaginally, then her impression
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:13 PM
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What do you mean? I was going to reply but I don't want to misinterpret what you are asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:07 PM
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Adverse Childhood Experiences https://www.cdc.gov/vitalsigns/aces/index.html https://www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 11:48 AM
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Citation needed for multiple partners (not just Ariana Grande). As far as I know, it's only her. He has a bit about that in his stand up and it makes perfect sense. Essentially, she's tiny and what better way to get revenge/ make all future lovers disappointed? Despite it being a joke, that's more in line with how size works: big is relative, and most women want big enough to feel good but not huge. But it doesn't matter because it would appear you're only here to confirm your bias and ignore an…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 10:49 AM
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Does one guy prove a thing? No. that's not how proof works. Does he actually have a big dick? According to him- no. Is his dick size why women date him? According to him, them, and my own observations, also no. He is funny, quirky, open about his mental health, has gotten therapy, knows how to discuss his emotions, is charming, is fun, apparently treats women "like a princess," is laid back, loves and takes care of his mom, has a sense of style, likes to go out, learns new things, and probably a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 09:50 AM
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To answer your specific question: I can. Why can't some women? ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences)/ toxicity in their formative years, mental illness, socialization, societal reinforcement, naivete, the men are good manipulators, the men are good at lying, the men know how to hide their more toxic traits until the woman is already in for a penny, and probably other factors but that's what I came up with off the top of my dome, basically. edit clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:02 AM
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A good partner? The job is harder. THE specific good partner I want to bother living with for the the rest of my life? The partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:57 AM
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Answer to your questions: Lots of women do (both one-on-one, and more globally) share the opinion that they do not approve of sex work. Especially those nasty feminists who seem to draw such ire from you. There is a long history of anti-porn feminism, going back to the 2nd wave (Catharine MacKinnon, Andrea Dworkin, Catherine Itzin, Diana Russell, etc.) There's also a (centuries old??) history of women critiquing, judging, socially ostracising, and otherwise socially shaming women who dress provo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 06:53 AM
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They are doing that because it comports with their religious belief, not because it objectively benefits them to financially provide for a shared husband. Religion is one of the things I listed, so your claim I was "wrong" doesn't track. But I am also not interested in relitigating something from 2 months ago, nor do i typically find it beneficial to have a debate that includes personal religious beliefs as those are deeply held and important to people, not logic-based, and rarely open to change…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:09 PM
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so, women going to college is to benefit their dad and their children women being sexually active is to benefit their dad women getting married to older dudes is to benefit their dad and children At what point do these women get to make decisions for themselves and do things that are solely for their own benefit? Women do not exist as extensions of the men in their lives. Women are actually humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 05:24 AM
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yes, you have proven that all of the high n count men in the world can absolutely expect this one singular woman, on the entire planet, to choose to have sex with one of them, one time. Not the W you think it is edit format confusion
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:01 PM
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it very obviously isn't????
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 07:15 PM
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Your Question: How exactly is a person that constantly indulges in junk food, watches tiktok, porn and in general always chooses the path of least resistance supposed to pick a partner based on anything but what their primal instincts tell them? The Answer: Socialization, morals, ethics, life experience, personality I thought you understood the connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 06:29 PM
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nature is not necessarily a virtue or ethic one should base their decision-making on, unless one wants to live outside society. You'll get there eventually...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:58 PM
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And even if you could somehow prove it is natural, (which you can't) nature is not necessarily a virtue or ethic one should base their decision-making on, unless one wants to live outside society.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 04:34 PM
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Women are also naturally polygamous which is evident in the fact that in tribal societies pre-DNA, women would have sex with multiple men in the tribe to ensure more men felt they had a stake in the health of the pregnancy and baby, yet society somehow thinks they are voluntarily choosing to be monogamous rather than it being the only way for an average woman to attain sexual access. Women are also naturally polygamous which is evident in the fact that the vast majority of women fantasize about …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 01:37 PM
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Is that surprising to you? I'm curious what you thought when you realized this. I would assume they are what most moderately healthy people want in a partner regardless of gender
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 10:09 PM
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Personally, I trust a man if: He has morals/ ethics that are aligned with mine re: things like trust, responsibility, respect, accountability, honesty, boundaries, and safety He has integrity in those morals/ ethics He keeps his word He sees women as people, not objects He is well liked by and good at interacting with children and animals He treats service workers respectfully He feels safe to be around
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 06:39 AM
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This says nothing about intelligence... used more in certain areas in women, doesn’t mean...in a better way. Maybe learn more about those specific areas of the brain before you say that. Your much lower use of the prefrontal cortex is showing. women... don’t understand...males dating experience...women are...extremely solipsistic when it comes to the dating market [Not my main point because I'm not a big fan of whataboutism but]- Men also don't know women's experiences, so if your theory was log…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:18 AM
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in fact, women are always using their brains more than men and your conclusion that not thinking about how a thing works necessarily leads to solipsism is both ironic and unsupported by... reality. https://content.iospress.com/articles/journal-of-alzheimers-disease/jad170432
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 10:31 PM
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If a woman tells you you didn't read the room then the best thing to say is 'I read it, but it turns out the woman was an unreliable narrator', or something along those lines of a response. You really thought you did something here, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:16 PM
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but if I may, have you considered that women are rubber and men are glue?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:07 AM
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0/5 would not recommend this was the most depressing short fiction I have read in years.needs a likable main character and more believable characters all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:26 AM
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excellent job following your own advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 09:32 PM
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see my answer to your question, above.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:44 AM
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Given that they are both generally defined as "prejudice against women" you'd have to do a lot of mental gymnastics to make that possible. It would require using a narrow and inaccurate description of each word that excludes their existing denotative and connotative overlap solely to prevent it from being a circle. Supposing you define misogyny as only hatred/ discrimination with no prejudice and sexism as only prejudice I suppose you could say they don't overlap but realistically: that's not ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:28 PM
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I don't buy the idea that you need to find someone who's into the exact same things as you because you need to have "common interests" These are not requirements for a best friend either, so they're really not related to your premise. or that your spouse absolutely has to be your best friend. they don't "absolutely have to it's just better for longevity if they are. Those are nice during the dating phase but your priorities will fundamentally change after kids. As they should. Still not related …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:12 PM
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For some reason women don't like men knowing the paternity of their kids. No. Women don't like knowing their partners don't trust them and are more concerned about money than the integrity of the relationship. Only real reason they have given is that their feelings are hurt so they don't like it and if men dare to hurt their feelings they are worse than Nazis. Wow. Dramatic! And if a woman feels so hurt that she wants a divorce or break up because of it, it means either she was not interested in…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:40 PM
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you made the claim. you provide the proof. It's not my job to prove anything in this discussion. You do not know a significant number of American men who were court ordered to pay child support until their kids were 25, without an external contractual agreement. Period. And if you're hearing that from these "other paternity sites" I would strongly suggest you be more discerning in how you get your data. The government does not turn a profit from child support. They do collect money from father's…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:02 PM
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yeah- where is your citation? I want you to provide the data in its original context, not a "trust me bro" from you. I'm curious if this money was used to reimburse the state for social programs used to provide for the offspring of these men aka: If the state was collecting the money that was the fathers' responsibility to pay in the first place vs. a profit, apropos of nothing, as you seem to imply. edit: otherwise, I don't know what questions I would have. You have said nothing I'd have questi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:27 AM
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Question: Do you think it should be mandatory for a paternity test... I assume by "mandatory" you mean "government mandated," and if so, no. Reason: It doesn't benefit the majority of impacted people for the government to be more involved in making decisions about family planning than they already are. Rebuttal: To what? Should men be forced to father a child they did not intend to have?.. In cases where the man was assaulted, no. If they consented to sexual intercourse with a woman of childbear…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 10:05 AM
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To whatever extent this actually happens, the answer is likely: they are drunk no stakes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 11:47 PM
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Just as we do live in an oligarchy, we also do not live in a meritocracy you make some interesting points and are welcome to feel however you like about the presence or absence of privilege I have no interest in arguing with people re: patriarchy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 06:12 AM
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arguably misunderstanding, misstating, and misapplying Evo psych ideas is red pill; but yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 04:03 AM
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and OP is handling it with such maturity /s
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:08 AM
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Thanks for the confirmation that I made the right call. Sorry you wasted your time and good faith. It's literally neuroscience; he won't let himself hear it, and he's not open to changing his mind. Conservatives are more likely to blindly follow a leader who gives them the impression of order, protection, or safety. They are group-centric thinkers who don't process dissonance well and don't feel safe thinking independently. Their amygdalas are typically more developed, making them much more moti…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:59 AM
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I already said you're entitled to your opinion Leaving aside the disingenuousness inherent in your question, (given that you've already listed several more benefits in your own OP), your post and comments make it clear you are a conservative thinker. That's fine, but it also makes you statistically less likely to be genuinely open to having your mind changed by any data I present on this subject. If you are truly interested in learning the ways men benefit from the current system, there are a my…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:35 AM
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and I believe you are entitled to your opinion in the USA
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:23 AM
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Most people who see or point out systemic issues are not jealous or envious of those at the top of the hierarchy. This is an inaccurate representation of the situation and a common misunderstanding among conservative and hierarchical thinkers (see "The Authoritarian Personality" by Adorno, et. al.) Those who want equity instead of subjugation truly only want equity. But authoritarian personalities prefer a hierarchy and therefore assume that, once those they/ the system oppresses get "power" the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:12 AM
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can you please share a few examples of current feminist theory that makes the claim that “in the state of nature, male lions have to fight each other in order to breed. So it’s natural that dating for men today is hard and some can’t compete.” I have never seen one feminist writer/ scolar/ theorist claim this, much less enough for anyone to call it a "feminist idea."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:58 PM
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Windmill's flair clearly says "woman" and even if she is a guy, why would that be applicable here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:29 PM
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Read my already existing responses above. Your conclusions are nonsensical and unsupported. this inapplicable study does nothing to help your case. And your lack of interest in discussing anything substantive is boring af. I didn't ask for your advice, and my research skills are not remotely the point. this is one of the most transparent attempts at sidestepping an issue I have ever witnessed. Why don't you learn how to discuss topics in good faith, since we're telling each other what to learn? …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 01:57 AM
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how so?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:04 PM
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It's not 100% inclusive of all women's opinions on the matter but it's a general enough response to hopefully bridge the gap in OP's mind. If you're suggesting #4 is applicable, I'd question that a bit. I specifically said, "That is interesting to talk about" for a reason. While discussing games to a minor extent can be fun or interesting for those who play them, it's not really a deep well of discussion topics for anyone, particularly those who don't play.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:03 PM
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I'd argue that neither golf nor fishing are particularly interesting to talk about, even for most participants. But that's neither here nor there. You're correct, the time-suck/ sunk cost issue is often the primary one. That's why the body of my comment addressed that exact thing. Context is key. No one is claiming fishing or golf aren't hobbies My criteria comment was a specific explanation of what what women "typically" mean when they say they want men to have a hobby, present day, particularl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:57 PM
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it's so interesting how you somehow avoided addressing the substantive point of my comment by focusing on whether or not I will Google your citation for you You made the claim, you are responsible to back it up you can't back it up because that one single study doesn't support your conclusion. Instead of acknowledging that, you say I failed to do your research? I went the extra mile by even checking for you. bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:30 PM
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I absolutely was NOT speaking from an anti-games perspective. I am a gamer. So is my husband. So are most of my friends. I was giving a clear, direct, and honest answer to the OP. Those answers are true whether anyone likes it or not and attributing an anti-game sentiment to me or them shows you completely missed the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:22 PM
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That was not the first article when I googled it. Quote from the article you linked: "This opinion piece was first published in the Conversation" Know what's not in that opinion piece? A citation to the study. But it's fine. I'll assume there is no applicable citation because the fertilization of eggs in insects/ non-mammalian species is not remotely similar to the process for humans. I located the study and it's behind a paywall but its summary doesn't say what you are implying. I'm already fam…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 04:24 PM
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Research on flies shows that contact with sperm in juvenile flies passes on those traits even after conception by the genetic father. This was tested by mating not yet fertile females with larger flies, then mating them with smaller flies. The offspring were larger. This is unsettling, and hopefully doesn’t apply to humans. But it might. Citation needed and no, it definitely does not apply to humans. It's not even clear it applies to flies. I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt and search…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:18 AM
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But that would be a cheap, inapplicable mischaracterization/ tu quoque/ false equivalency; and I don't want to attribute such a childish argument to them without their confirmation. I can't imagine someone over the age of 12 would make such a ridiculous argument with any sincerity. I'll give them the benefit of the doubt and wait for them to respond, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 07:27 AM
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Can men and women be "just" friends" yes How do you feel about your SO having friends of the opposite sex? fine. He's only had one friend I wasn't thrilled about. He kept putting up boundaries, and she didn't respect them, so he blocked her without me having to say anything. Friends with ex's? fine with me. Friends with former FWBs? N/A but would possibly be bothered by this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 06:33 AM
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Can you share what this has to do with my comment or the post?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 03:35 AM
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So why is this a big deal for women ? It is a big deal for some women. for others, it's only an issue when it interferes with connecting/ the relationship. For yet others, it's not an issue at all. Women say they want a man who has hobbies, why is playing video games not a legitimate hobby ? Typically when women say they want men to "have hobbies" they mean they want men to do 4 things in having said hobby: be social Get offline/ go outside learn a skill Be passionate about something that's inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 12:51 AM
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Is this a joke? Yes, women are already as "interesting, decent, and capable as men are." I don't advocate for a world with no men but were it to happen, women would be more than capable of moving forward. I think men like you know that, and that's what bothers you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 04:41 PM
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we'd have to hear about their libidoes less
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 04:21 AM
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so, your point is exactly what I thought but as I mentioned, Option 1 being an introvert is not much of a negative. What you think are "negative" aspects aren't and your two options are weirdly skewed in an attempt to get us to confirm your existing bias. You can tell yourself that "women hate introverted men, so they obviously chose Option 1 for his looks!" But you are starting with an inaccurate/ unconfirmed bias so your "findings" are meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:13 AM
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I am married to 'Option 1,' and I love him/ it. We don't need two of basically the same personality in one relationship. I like that we complement each other. I don't even get the point of your question. It seems like you are presenting these two Options as 50% great 50% terrible/settling??? Option 1 is 90- 100% great. Option 2 is 10-30% great.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:20 AM
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u/EulenWatcher basically addressed what I would have said. I'd add to the above that sex is also different from shopping, etc. in that is an intimate activity. It requires great vulnerability for the woman/bottom/ recipient (if not for both partners). Whether liked or not, acknowledged, or not, this includes both physical and emotional vulnerability. No one has ever gotten pregnant from buying a shirt or drinking hot cocoa. If more men would take the time to understand the difference between rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 08:50 PM
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I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I also wonder if these men who think "insertion into vagina = not virgin, but everything else is okay" would apply that same logic to their daughters in the same way. i.e. if my daughter has anal with her partner, she's still a virgin. I'm going to bet that's a nope. (to be clear- I'm assuming you are talking about a foster child in your particular example and I am not meaning to imply that specific girl is having sex, only wondering about the broader concept…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:46 PM
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None of this explains how it would "look bad" and to whom it looks bad if you can't get your wife to "submit" to anal. Leaving aside how fucking weak a person has to be to care about "power moves" or other people's opinions on whether or not their wife feels obligated to perform unwanted sex acts because- wow that is fraught!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:31 PM
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Obsessed with a fantasy about it. None of them seem to be obsessed with learning the science behind hymens/ virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:24 PM
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It looks bad if you can’t get your wife to submit to you. to whom? Do you fuck your wife in front of the president?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 04:59 PM
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yeah, I thought that was just something boys tell catholic girls in high school. I didn't know people actually believed it as adults!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 04:55 PM
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okay, I'll bite- how is that an eye for an eye
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 11:17 AM
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It's hard to imagine this because it would completely change him as a person. he had the morals of a serial killer or a violent criminal No he was a compulsive liar, cheater, otherwise untrustworthy he treated everyone around him with distrain and cruelty, cruel to waitstaff, angry and mean, etc No was severely lacking in charisma and basic social skills, such as being extremely awkward and cringy all the time, saying embarassing things whenever you're together, unable to express his thoughts or…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 07:48 AM
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heres a great video about that: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8qPs0WPPb1/?igsh=MWgxOHhhZGsxZ2txcg== bonus- it's a man explaining it, so maybe they'll listen Side note: My husband and I will sometimes lay in bed and scroll together, and his algorithm never has OF or similar stuff in it. But men online will have everyone believe it's automatic. I also guarantee their cognitive dissonance is so great that they'll make up that my husband 1. doesn't exist or 2. has a second account or something equ…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 06:40 AM
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actually traditional women? no "trad wives?" yes There's nothing actually traditional about most "trad wife" tiktok/ youtubers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 09:11 AM
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Guess we found Wolfloveyes' alt account
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 09:09 AM
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if you are living a life wherein multiple women are holding you personally responsible for other men spiking their drinks, it's time to reexamine your situation. or is your life on such easy mode that you have to invent things to get upset about? That is not a common experience. Period
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 10:03 PM
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even if this data were a representative sample size of all women who drink beverages around other people (which it is not; so it essentially means nothing): how does it impact you? Since people do spike drinks, it's normal for women to be cautious. How does our caution have anything to do with you or any other man, as long as none of you are drugging us?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:03 PM
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tell that to the lady M&Ms with the sexy boots
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:57 PM
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it would depend entirely upon his specific character and circumstances. If he was an avid porn consumer or porn addict, then it would be an absolute no. If he has no healthy, close, emotionally vulnerable long-term friendships, it would also be a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:54 PM
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Hot Take: most book covers are specifically designed to help us quickly judge whether or not we will like the book. But what OP describes is not what I would call "judging a book by its cover." It's not so much based upon outer appearance (cover) but more of a gut instinct. Both (book cover and gut instinct) are legitimate ways to judge someone. It's when you let your judgement lead to treating them in ways that are dehumanizing or harmful that it becomes a problem edit typo
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:04 AM
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While I don't buy everything in your post, wholesale, I would much prefer my tax dollars go to supporting the health and wellness of citizens (including boys and men) than to the military industrial complex. So, depending upon how the funds will be used, I would be in favor (which is exactly my position on funding for girls and women, too).
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:55 AM
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I've seen no correlation of that type, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 03:42 AM
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I don't buy it. There are plenty of people who make much more mature, intimacy-fostering, relatable, caring, and rational content about sharing the mental load, not being a parent or manager for your partner, etc. Not only is she not the best representative for this, but she is an arguably unnecessarily divisive "representative." It appears that either you are looking for a married person who agrees with her specific, childish approach: in which case, Do NOT include me or you selected a terrible…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:34 PM
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so: Polygyny is natural Capitalism is natural k. Can you explain why it is the most recurring model for human societies across cultures and times stretching back tens of thousands of years? Perhaps I could explain it, but I don't have to. I'm not the one who made the post, and I'm not responsible for explaining why your statement is or is not correct you have shared no hard proof of your assertions for me to "explain" them to you we'd have to agree on what "natural" means it would require an ack…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 07:42 AM
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exactly. It brings up questions of what even constitutes a "marriage" or "partnership." Are they just roommates who fuck and raise kids together?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 07:05 AM
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Polygyny is basically biology. No, it isn't. Liberalism and individual choice always leads to a small group of corporations, in this case the very desirable men, dominating the market. You misspelled "capitalism." The question should now be, can we construct a society where the low-tier men, which is the majority, are inculcated from a young age to not want relationships with women? That they can derive as much satisfaction from male friendships and their kin, while also satisfying their sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 07:02 AM
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but do you acknowledge that that woman in your example is behaving in a childish manner that will not foster a meaningful partnership? because I noticed you only quoted half of my first sentence and completely ignored the context wherein I indicated I disagree with everything else I also looked through the comments and I am not seeing many people who think the general premise is ridiculous. I see a lot of people saying this approach or implementation of the premise is ridiculous and that's becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:50 AM
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While I agree with the general premise that: People should not provide parenting for their partners, and People should already be capable of "adulting" before entering into a marriage/ becoming a parent The ideas in this post are unreasonable. Expecting a fully complete adult for a partner is not 100% plausible. A lot of the things we need to learn about being a partner or parent- we learn "on the job" -so to speak. This woman's specific approach (unclear if you are also advocating for it) shows…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:57 AM
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I would never narrow the definition of abuse down to only include physical abuse. That would be incredibly ignorant and manipulative of me. Is that what you were doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:21 PM
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You're really doubling down on your provably wrong statement? This. This right here is 95% of the problem. Men of PPD: take note. I am embarrassed for you and I hope you re-read this in a couple of days, with fresh eyes, and make some more reasonable decisions moving forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:19 PM
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Is it your position that no shy tech guys are abusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:12 PM
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This is the most obtuse, sad attempt at definitional manipulation I think I've ever seen I'm not a fan of the lazy "here's a dictionary definition" argument in most cases, but here it's relevant You said Relationships = each man who stuck their dick in your pussy; men you've sucked off; then repeated things like The literal definition of relations: sexual intercourse And BOTH are incorrect definitions for those words What you are referring to is specifically "Sexual Relations" and there's a reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:46 PM
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I mean you're one of the people this sub attracts Also- being interested in gender dynamics wanting to learn how those who think differently than oneself interest in debate or dialectic are not diagnostic criteria for ASD in any version of the DSM, nor would they be included in any of the supplemental dx materials because they are not, on their own, indicators of anything neurodivergent That said, there does seem to be a larger subset of redditors who struggle with abstract or metaphorical think…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:02 AM
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yep
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:52 AM
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are you restating what I said for emphasis or am I missing something?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:33 PM
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LOL when you are incapable of logical discourse and only know one "insult" so every time someone calls you out, you futilely try to make that insult apply to them <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:30 PM
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Some men are so focused on power in their relationship that they don't do the relating part. If you think "your" woman would leave you for another offer, you are either dating women with values that don't align with your own, or you are not fostering a loving connection with her. Do other men still hit on me since I found my partner? Absolutely Have I cheated or left him? Nope. And I won't. because he doesn't see our relationship as a jockeying for power or as an ownership of me. There is nothin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 07:56 PM
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Ask the woman who said it. We all have different anatomy; different sizes feel different depending upon the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 08:40 AM
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Men also label women they don't find attractive "creeps" when they say "hi" Probably true Women get told this fantasy that ALL WOMEN will call the police on a mid or medium ugly guy who approaches them. True, some men do believe that, and some say it to women Not true. First of all, the police wouldnt respond to that. There wouldn have to be actual harassment. Women don't have time for false complaints. At least the vast majority don't. True in at least 99% of cases, although there are times men…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 12:48 AM
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men are lenient penalize women for their fashion choices. outright defiant There isn't actually much conscious thought about it, they simply flow with the majority. The wording choices above say SO MUCH about you, not about women. Of course women wear what we want and don't dress for men but your explanation for why/ how that is the case is based upon a clear bias; not facts. Also- men and women LOVE women with nose rings- I think you are confusing your own personal taste for that of everyone in…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 09:19 PM
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you--an alleged non red piller-- can't understand the question. What does that even mean? That I'm secretly a red piller? That's fucking hilarious I understand that the question is incredibly vague and it appears purposely so- given your repeated replies to others telling them they are vague Caping is slang. Cap/Capping is slang, I've never heard of "Cape/Caping" Am I meant to be throwing a fashionable cape onto them or something? You aren't answering any of my questions so I'm bored. Bye and en…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 01:47 AM
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You're being wilfully obtuse. So, you still can't answer the question and I'm the problem? k I'm not sure if you think one of the men on here will Pick You For what? if you cape for them. What is "caping for" someone? Never heard of that They won't. Won't what?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 01:06 AM
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you haven't clarified if you are saying you, as the poster, are okay with my non RP answer, i would be happy to- as soon as you explain what "average" you are looking for. If you are incapable of doing so, then, yes- bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:58 AM
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so this alt account, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:55 AM
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I can't comment, it's for RP only. And I'm not fronting on anything. You can also clarify what you mean when you ask questions if you're going to tell others they aren't being specific enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:52 AM
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he likes to let women walk all over him. Stop kinkshaming. /s Where is this supposed alt account? edit: clarified sarcasm for the literals in the group
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:48 AM
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lol I can't
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:45 AM
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What do you mean by "Average?" "this is so non specific and that's the problem" with your question. Average for which country? For which region? For which generation? For which ethnic/ racial background? With or without makeup? From which cultural and/ or socioeconomic background? Average face, body, or both?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:43 AM
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It was a white, cisgender, straight, ex-military man who first called Trump and JD Vance "weird." Some other men and women in the democratic party have agreed since then. So, can you explain how your post would still apply to the Trump/ Vance weirdness? And if it's not about them, can you share any data on how women use "weird" in ways that are either denotatively or connotatively incorrect? It is not necessarily a moral failing to be "weird" but if you want to assign that judgment to weirdness,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:36 AM
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I get that people like to use "dating market" as a (somewhat appropriate) metaphore but thinking metaphores are literal causes fucked up thinking like this. It's not actually a market. human being are choosing which other human beings they want to allow inside their inner worlds, homes, thoughts, literal bodies, etc. Not choosing between Android and iPhone. There is no "bargaining chip" because there's no market. That's a metaphore, not literal. And some of you seem to be confused about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 09:05 PM
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I had a similar situation with my husband. He was younger than me, less educated, introverted, and taller than I am. Because he is younger, he was still unestablished in his career/ made less money than I did. I have typically found taller men unattractive and, before him, would never have imagined being with anyone taller than me (at the very most). But when you know, you know. And for me, there was no one else after he came into the picture. I canceled other dates (with people closer to my age…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 09:42 PM
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I don't know the gender of everyone I agree or disagree with why would that be relevant to my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:04 PM
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What contradiction? All you have presented so far is your inability to understand what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:01 PM
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answer my question, and then I will consider answering yours that is how dialogues work
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:56 PM
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I already answered this and who, pray tell, is "my opposition" exactly? you aren't even kind of pretending to try to understand what I actually said. You've made your mind up about my position and are only interested in confirming your unsubstantiated bias
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:55 PM
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again, can any one of you multiple people responding to my comment please share a quote where I said this was "my idea"? projecting statements onto me as though I said them does not magically make it true, and it certainly doesn't obligate me to defend your imaginary version of my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:53 PM
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I just answered this
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:22 PM
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that is true, your previous statement is not
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:12 PM
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I can't speak to how you read that or any other part My point is that we don't think about men we aren't close with/ who aren't significant to us 95% of the time. So this idea that we are going around thinking these strangers are "losers" is silly. They would have to be consequential (an important part of my comment that you seem to have excluded from your understanding) for us to bother thinking about their sex lives and/ or what their sex lives say about them, if anything I fail to see how tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:12 PM
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That's not what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:56 PM
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ick
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:51 PM
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I think a lot of us give truthful answers but they don't like to hear them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:46 PM
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Because a lot of them are VERY concerned with the choices we are making or with convincing us to make the decisions they want us to make, they assume that is reciprocated. There was a discussion today about how women think unpartnered men are losers and I said "actually, we dont think about them at all." but since they are obsessed with what we think about them, they assume we are just as obsessed. It's bananas.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:44 PM
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Yes, and then they go "See, you can't respond because I'm right" No. I choose not to respond because we are having two different conversations, and there's no point
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:36 PM
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OR- here's a novel concept- they could have engaged with me like mature adults, by actually discussing what I said, instead of superimposing beliefs onto me, then expecting me to defend said imagined comments but whatever, I could not talk to them either but that's what gets so annoying, imo. I genuinely want to have discussions with people who have a different view but so many people here appear to use the discussion as a jumping off point to attack an avatar of what angers them, not to have an…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:10 PM
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I see. Thanks for the explanation :) that's not entirely on them, then. They don't have the capacity to control a conversation with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:56 PM
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hold frame?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:45 PM
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Hitler said he was a socialist, too. People saying they are a thing doesn't make it so and this is not NTS but thanks for thinking i needed that explained If you read the Communist Manifesto and look at what Russia did, you will see they do not align Sometimes, the person really isn't a true scotsman
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:44 PM
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Sure. I mean, it happens a lot (as you are seeing from other responses) two recent examples that happened in my conversations were: https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/aJYsovQ0gk (and subsequent thread) https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/hgeXQb0qnb I don't recall others at this time, but these will give you the idea edit: the irony of me posting these links is that they seem to have invited several other people to project things onto me -that I didn't say. This is why I usually do…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:32 PM
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I literally could not have less interest in hearing about your cock if I actively tried
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:19 PM
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neat and I like honesty and good faith discussions, neither of which are fostered when tu quoque is the first response
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:15 PM
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Again, the discussion we were having was about how someone said two non-socialist/ non-communist countries were communist The discussion we were NOT having was me saying there were successful socialist/ communist countries You were wrong in your statement about my beliefs about China/ USSR You are also wrong in your assumption that I should be expected to defend a position I DID NOT TAKE I have already explained this to you. If you need a refresher, scroll up. edit: grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:13 PM
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Whataboutism cool
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:06 PM
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Why is there such a large group of -particularly men- in this sub who take the position that women are required to answer any unrelated question they ask, defend any position they superimpose on us (despite us not taking it), and generally be in the position of being interrogated? How is that supposed to foster actual debate? In what way is that even adjacent to the concept of good faith? This isn't a "women get put on the defensive and must assuage my anger toward their whole gender" sub. It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:57 PM
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Ah- inability to acknowledge that you were wrong and attempting to change the subject, then trying to make me defend a position I didn't take to shift focus off of your ignorance. Even MORE predictable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:50 PM
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making assumptions =/= paranoia projecting =/= paranoia You keep answering random words that aren't related to paranoia You clearly aren't going to answer my very direct, repeated question so- never mind
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:48 PM
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again, how is that "paranoia"? you have not even kind of answered my question
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:43 PM
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how is that paranoia?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:42 PM
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me pointing out the inaccuracy of your statement does not mean I am required to answer follow-up questions supporting a point I didn't make In order to do that, we would have to agree on what constitutes a "successful implementation," and I guarantee we do not Likewise, can you point to a "successful implementation" of free market capitalism? Is it your premise that capitalism has NOT resulted in at least millions of deaths?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:41 PM
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can you explain how that was paranoia? I don't see it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:25 PM
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Neither China nor the USSR were actually socialist/ communist They were/ are both totalitarian fascist societies that still fully participated in capitalism
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:23 PM
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That may be somewhat accurate if forced to share an opinion, but the truth is, unfortunately, going to upset you even more: Women don't think men who can't attract women are losers. 95%+ of the time, we don't have an opinion about them because we aren't thinking about them at all Most people, of any gender, only think about the lives of people who are consequential to us; and random people (including those who can't get dates) are the very definition of inconsequential
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:20 PM
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I wouldn't say I feel threatened by men. I'm not afraid of men. In terms of finding the "less innocent" boys/ men to be "threatening" -no. That's quite a leap. it doesn't mean you have the life experience, skills, or abilities to become "A Threat" to me. You would be okay alone in a room with a high school or college male but not risk that with a adult male? That's quite an interesting leap. Could you share what about my comments said "I would not risk being alone in a room with an adult male" ?…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:21 AM
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I wouldn't say I feel threatened by men. Sure, men do creepy to terrible things, and I need to be alert/ protect myself, but I'm not afraid of men. But boys/ men did start to seem less innocent around 12-15 on average (when I was a child). Even when I was 9, 10, etc. older boys and men behaved in some really awful, objectionable ways toward me, starting around that age. It got much worse when I developed As an adult, I would say boys start to seem less innocent (or behave less innocently) as soo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:04 AM
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Something like his but lots of body types can be attractive to me, as long as they have nice shoulders <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:54 AM
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time travel, probably apocalypse adjacent
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:15 AM
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I already answered this failure of logic. I am not going to repeat myself because you chose to ignore it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:42 AM
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I'm sorry you were raped. Without more context, I will assume they truly said that to you in sincerity and malice. I'm sorry a couple of disgusting and inhuman "feminists" told you that you deserved it. You didn't. no one does. Those "feminists" do not represent even a large minority, much less the majority of feminists; and feminists don't necessarily represent all women. So, attributing these terrible people's opinions to all women is truly a leap that is unsupported by logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:49 AM
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Nope. I DO think the world would be better if some men stopped misrepresenting what women say we want and what feminism actually is. And I suppose if that specific minority of men are incapable or unwilling to do that, and they wanted to move to Antarctica instead, I wouldn't stop them. But given that OP has stated almost nothing accurate, their conclusion is also inaccurate. No surprise there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:09 AM
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lol yeah, because absolutely NO emotion factored into the choice to post this /s, obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:18 AM
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Why do you completely avoid acknowledging what I say to you but then expect me to answer to you like you are interrogating me? Typically when people have a dialogue, one person doesn't ignore a majority of what the other says All I see in this thread are the comments I referenced, which do not support your point. Where is this majority of women from ppd making comments that they "got married without discussing dating history?" What do you have to say about confirmation bias or your assumptions? …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:03 AM
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...and then... what?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:30 AM
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Scene? Further proof you are making assumptions: I said "Neither of us had anything to worry about" and you assumed that meant low body count. For all you know, I fucked my way through the premier league Can you show any evidence of these many many women on ppd who have said they lied to their husbands about how many people they slept with? I'm not seeing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 10:39 PM
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Nope. A good friend of mine slept with 50+ people, and I was personally present when she told her boyfriend (now husband). They have been married for years. You appear to have no interest in any facts that don't confirm your existing bias. Women are not overtly lying to their husbands about how many people they have slept with (with such frequency that it merits this level of concern). What I see more frequently in ppd is not women saying "I lied about who I slept with" but women saying "your SO…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:51 PM
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No; I'm not. I don't live a life where I go around saying "bodycount" so it's not immediately part of my repertoire. Your bias is making you think 'zebras.' To be clear about what I meant, then: My husband and I had conversations about who we had dated, any sexual history, and any boundaries we each had around sex, commitment, etc. before we even picked a wedding date. Granted, neither of us had anything to worry about. But regardless of history, if one can't have that conversation and be honest…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:35 PM
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That's not introversion, that's depression Introverts who are not depressed are still social but in smaller groups, smaller spurts, and it doesn't give them energy like it would an extrovert I'd get rid of # 1 I'd be happy with an actual introvert but you didn't make that an option
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 09:28 AM
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this is such bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:50 AM
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Who gets married without talking about dating history beforehand? This comment suggests a lack of understanding of how truly intimate and safe relationships work. What a bummer for you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:42 AM
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It would depend upon what it covered and how it was phrased, but I'm not fully opposed to it. What do you mean when you say "dead bedroom clause?" then I can better answer
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:00 PM
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Sure. And i would demand half of everything if he cheated, abused me, or left me after age 35 (without proof of me doing the same). He would get the same in reverse. 1/2 of each book, 1/2 of each of his guitars, amps, pedals, etc. 1/2 of each pair of shoes, 1/2 of each computer, 1/2 of his iPhone. Precisely 1/2 of every single thing. I would never cheat or abuse him, I want to be with him, and I belive the same of him. Since it would be noting but theoretical, the prenup may as well be ad comica…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:42 AM
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If one pays attention to your actual message, it isn't. if one pretends your post was literally about swapping two prepositions, I suppose one could technically call it "semantic" but they would have to totally miss the point of both the quote they said and your OP
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 04:14 AM
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I had my husband pick for me, and he chose James. His reasoning: 'If James is intelligent, has the same interests as you, and is passionate about you- he will probably talk through things and communicate with you.' [I was not 100% sold on James] His thoughts of why not the others?: Michael: 'I don't know how you'd work on not being boring.' [I agree] Daniel: 'reminds me of Dave [a guy we know] and you couldn't live with that.' [I was not 100% opposed to Daniel] edit: but I do want to add- thank …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:44 PM
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Given that none of them have a personality or values of any kind, I would choose not to date any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 05:57 PM
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How often do you: -vacuum: 1-2 times per week (If we didn't have pets, would probably be 2x/mo) -mop: weekly (unless needed more due to a spill) -dust: weekly (but both my husband and I have dust allergies or else it would probably be 2x/ mo) -wash the windows: quarterly -clean the toilet: 2-4 times/ mo -clean the mirrors: As needed -clean the bathroom sink: as needed (probably weekly) -clean the shower/bathtub: weekly quick spray, monthly deep clean -clean the fridge (throwing out bad food and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 06:38 AM
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if he simply wants to give me his number and is courteous about it: 5. completely neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 06:28 AM
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So, because I made sure my comment grammatically made sense/ removed typos you're not going to respond to my question? I don't understand that. I didn't change my position/ opinion and didn't alter or remove any of my points. nothing pertaining to the actual discussion changed whatever- glad you could use that as an excuse to avoid- have a good day
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:19 PM
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yeah, I reread it and noticed the first paragraph had several typos. I didn't change anything substantive thought I noted. Will note now, thanks for the heads up but, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:13 PM
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what is your point? People make bad choices for themselves and make decisions that negatively impact society- all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:00 PM
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no- Judging others based upon who they have or have not slept with is silly as we would be applying our own ethics/ morals/ beliefs to others Expecting other people to make choices based on our beliefs is sophomoric, but we can be slightly more objective if we look at when n count impacts others, not solely ourselves. Men with a higher n count are more likely to give women hpv, causing all sorts of problems, including cervical cancer and infertility. They are also more likely to experience- and …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:19 AM
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This transactional thinking is deeply concerning but using your own set up for this, what you are essentially discussing is a contract. Your implication is that you have a non-verbal, implied contract where you pay for dinner and she gives you sex in return. there are some issues with that: A contract is only valid if it has all 3 essential elements- Offer, Consideration, and Acceptance. In your case You did not make an offer, you made a silent assumption There is not equal consideration because…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:13 PM
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that is technically true and ALSO - you are using "were" wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:00 PM
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you might want to watch this documentary: https://nypost.com/2013/11/26/this-man-made-a-documentary-about-his-small-penis/ The logical issue with your thinking is the same one a lot of people struggle with here: both are true just like penises, vaginas also come in different sizes/ shapes and each woman will orgasm from what works for her specific anatomy some women can really tell if you are small and it's not satisfying when having piv intercourse some women's clitoral system works in such a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 06:34 PM
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not a need even if it was a need, it wouldn't be women's responsibility to meet it Women have empathy for the loneliness and even selflessness of men what do you think "empathy" would look like in this circumstance? Women pity fucking lonely men? That's not what empathy is. And should women continue to empathize with men even in cases where they blame, shift responsibility, attack, etc. women because their sympathy doesn't lead to sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:23 AM
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not hot and the people who write to killers have serious mental illnesses they are not indicative of the general population's attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:25 AM
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Equity and Equality =/= Sameness or Homogeny And I'm guessing you are smart enough to know that so this thinly veiled attempt to pretend otherwise is embarrassing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 04:50 AM
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I'm really not OP claims it is a biological imperative that all men's (not only straight men) self esteem must be based upon whether women "want their semen" that is not true and is an excuse to blame women for something that is completely under his own control
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:16 PM
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no I didn't but also- DUH! Would you not prefer to get attention from women you find attractive more than women you don't? That's a normal, non-gendered thing. People prefer to experience things they like more than they enjoy things they don't like. Implying that there is some morally negative component or that you are really owning womankind by pointing out that women are humans- is silly af bro
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:29 AM
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These are different women different women have different preferences some women enjoy being approached some (like me) politely tolerate it as long as the person is respectful some hate ever being approached still others only like it in certain situations some women never see friends in any other way others prefer or even need to be friends first learn to better understand women- generally- by being actual friends with some women. NOT "friendzoned" friends, not "I hope we get drink and hookup som…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:42 AM
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Okay, well- For casual, ltr, or both? All. I don't think women should even bother with casual unless it's a fuckbuddy. It's soooo unlikely it will be enjoyable and a vibrator is lower risk. But if they must, some experience would be better, yes. For LTR, I disagree. Sometimes, a less experienced person has fewer bad habits to unlearn/ is more trainable. At what age does being a virgin as an adult become a red flag? 21 How did you make that determination? Why this arbitrary age? What if someone h…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:18 AM
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For casual, ltr, or both? At what age does being a virgin as an adult become a red flag? What if someone has chosen to wait for religious or moral reasons? Still a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:48 AM
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there is a difference between "impacted" and "based on." As you see (the above commen you are replying to) I agree that rejection can make people feel bad; particularly repeated rejection. That is likely to 'impact' self worth, sure. However, having your self worth impacted to a degree is not what OP said. OP claims it is a biological imperative that men's self esteem must be "based on" the opinions of women. That's not how scientifically accurate and him couching it in those terms is ridiculous…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:45 AM
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Given that most of your post is inaccurate, are we having an imaginary debate? They would only date guys who are also interested... Women who are interested in marriage Already do this But the caveat is that they date men who TELL THEM they want the same thing. Not all people are honest when dating, sex, and companionship are involved. Sometimes people think they want something they don't, are not thinking clearly because of hormones/ neurotransmitters, or are outright dishonest and manipulative…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:55 AM
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Julian is great. Aside from the taxidermy (Norman bates vibes) he's essentially ideal. Emil sounds decent, too, although he is a foot too tall for my taste. Theo and James would be a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:55 AM
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we need to create a safe space for vulnerability and we need allies in that pursuit. Correct. YOU (men) need to create a culture/ space that allows men to feel safe being vulnerable then, once you have done that, we can ally with you It has clearly not worked for women to lead the charge for men, so it's time for men to lead themselves into this change My husband has several friendships with other men that are vulnerable and emotionally open. He got therapy, did the work, and began being vulnera…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:49 PM
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yes. It is dehumanizing. it's also an inaccurate/ unhelpful metaphor, causing those who believe it IS accurate to constantly be confused by why the "market" and "commodities" therein do not behave predictably enough for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:52 AM
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is it the majority of the left-leaning women saying we are attracted to that type? or is it Right-wing women attracted to those who share their values? or Men saying that about women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:43 AM
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Okay, thanks for clarifying. then I understood you correctly people here seem to associate the alpha male with right wing politics Agreed and I think that's a fair association. i know zero left wing men who buy into the alpha/beta conversation because most of them know that the studies on which the idea was based have been debunked, that there is no one uniform way to "be masculine," and that the majority of men who are concerned with the idea are the male version of a try-hard (or to put it in …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:35 AM
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the concept of "alpha males" is complete and utter horseshit Men who pride themselves on having whatever TRP men like to call "alpha traits" are absolutely repulsive to me 99.9% of the time. I do not typically like them as people and I certainly don't find them attractive. You seem to be saying being an alpha supercedes Politics but also implying being an alpha matches up to a certain political affiliation so there's no point in pretending it doesn't? Which is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:40 AM
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This abstract really doesn't give enough information but taken on its face, it shows that some studies found women (and men) tend to display an in-group (or pro-woman) bias in preference. It does not show that women respect women more than men or children it does not show that there are specific values women respect in other women but not in men or children interesting findings but this is not directly related to OP's question or my answer
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:48 PM
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There you go! sounds like it's a great conversation starter. Plus, if you like your aesthetic, you want to attract the attention of others who like it too
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:13 AM
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lol- I tend not to be into an unkempt 'I wish I lived off the land in the 10th century, my band plays at the ren faire for free mead' look; so I personally find those really unattractive. But my opinion should truly have no bearing on how you wear your facial hair :) I really did mean no offense. Plenty of my friends have that vibe
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:50 AM
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I do not respect people based upon gender perhaps other women do?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:14 AM
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it depends on the face as to whether a man looks better clean shaven or with a nicely maintained beard. Both can look great. But I have never seen anyone ever look good with this type of beard: https://gasstationwithoutpumps.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/18-months-aftershave.jpg. (no offense to this particular guy or anyone in ppd who has one. I haven't seen you. maybe you're the exception)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:12 AM
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regional only
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:59 AM
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*who says "midget" anymore? Are you 80? Most of what would be important in building a "Dream Man" is not even on the list. This is less a "dream man" and more a "meh guy" Where are his personality traits (aside from intelligence and humor)? Even a basic Sim gets more personality than this "dream man" What makes this person interesting or unique enough to spend any time with? A lot of good options or even average options are missing/ these options are weird. For example: Funny is a must but why i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:36 AM
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and as expected you ignored my point you are not operating in good faith so I am not interested in continuing this discussion bye
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:03 PM
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to survive. it's obvious you want me to say "to reproduce" and then to further say "and humans are just animals" but That answer assumes biology is the only thing that determines purpose, which is inaccurately reductive. Cats do not become angry, depressed, accusatory, or have low self-worth. Clearly, there is more to life than biological imperative for both animals and humans, and it is disingenuous to have a conversation about self worth (a topic decidedly better covered by several other field…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:00 PM
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The feelings of embarrassment, shame, discouragement, and/ or defeat all humans are prone to experiencing after significant rejection are not the same as "biology says my self worth is mandated to solely be determined by whether or not women will be a receptical for my jizz." Your attempt to equate your comment with OP's is, at best, misguided
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:15 AM
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Your personal experience does not constitute a scientific fact and did it ever occur to you that your unwillingness to work on your self esteem is ironically the very thing keeping your semen out of all the wombs? I'd also love to hear the biological reason gay men need women's attention for their self worth. Are they also obsessed with thoughts of creampies with all the straight ladies? With biological imperatives this strong, it's no wonder women have been in control of all major governments f…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 10:09 AM
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that may have been what I was getting at, yes It was interesting that no one in the crowd reacted as though they were under threat, that he was exposed enough afterward to pose for the cameras, that the highly trained SS didn't cover him, the way this aligns so nicely with his narrative, and many other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:41 AM
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yeah. it was almost convenient for him, huh? I don't wish death on anyone but particularly not him. The backlash to his actual death would be catastrophic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:17 AM
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that sucks but is also not a double standard of women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:13 AM
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Recap of my comment: not my job see provided links or to put it in terms you'll understand: get your own dnr, bitc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:51 AM
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To me, someone being a hypocrite... You are welcome to interpret hypocracy however you like. Given the term's etymology and most common denotative and connotative definitions, I would argue there needs to be pretense, which implies (if not outright requires) a conscious act. Either way, hypocrisy =/= double standard, which is what OP said. There is no way to talk about this topic with the exact proof you desire because the proof doesn't exist. No one has researched this specific thing. There abs…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:50 AM
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All things being equal (comparable personality, morals, ethics, etc.) with the only difference being height, I would typically choose the shorter one. The men here never believe me; so I usually don't answer height questions anymore. But (in addition to my romantic history over the course of most of my life) there is actually a way to test this, during which I selected the facial cues for shorter height without knowing what it was testing. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 02:34 AM
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It is common for all humans to experience cognitive dissonance. If we are not self-aware and self-examinatory, we can easily rationalize our opposing viewpoints rather than addressing them. While that could maybe be called "hypocritical," it's dishonest to define it that way. Very few people ARE "hypocrites" because they are not typically consciously putting on a fake sense of morality, or purposely acting in a way that goes against their stated morals, to such a degree that it defines their ent…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:13 PM
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This goes for this and every other post like it: Until you can show proof a statistically significant sample of THE SAME WOMEN saying BOTH things, this is NOT a "double standard." This is DIFFERENT people having DIFFERENT standards! Double standard =/= different standards expressed by totally different people Double standard = one person/entity applying the same rule to different people or groups in different ways "Women" is too diverse a group to consider them one single entity This is such ele…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:58 AM
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There is a presumption inherent in your question that is inaccurate. People with ASD typically do not "act however they want" and have their behavior "perceived as positive." Most people with ASD display comorbidity with GAD and depression precisely because their efforts to mask and understand a world that is backwards for them lead to stress, overwhelm, low self-esteem, miscommunication, misunderstandings, judgement, mockery, abuse, etc. So this idea of a "hot quirky weirdo" is inaccurately red…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 07:06 AM
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why are men here constantly talking about women from the 1700s? What application could that possibly have in 2024?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:30 AM
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Clarifying Question: Are these meant to work as a repellant? If so, yes, they would work.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 06:22 AM
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we've all mixed up people like that before I did not mock you but whatever- I wish you well but cannot possibly summon a desire to continue this discussion Have a great weekend
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 02:39 AM
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well, I was joking around since your comment seemed silly but 1 I am a woman, so that's how much you misread this interaction, 2 Whoops! it looks like you misattributed the belief that "the ability to be taller than a baby proves [one is] superior to either a baby or a woman" to me. I never said or implied that, and 3 Apparently you seriously believed women, who we can all agree are objectively taller than babies, need a stepstool to "be tall at" ( better get that exactly right or you'll accuse …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:52 PM
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it would often be in the best interest of most women not to date the men who currently identify as "conservative" in the US but if someone has a little house on the prairie fetish or whatever; that's between them and their made up, whitewashed, reaganized version of Jesus or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:30 PM
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...who tend not to do computer-based work all day, allowing them to be on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:26 PM
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never thought about this once while single never seen anyone say this in ppd never heard this irl
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 10:09 PM
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not in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:55 PM
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I don't know your personal experience, but I've actually been taller than 100% of the babies I've ever met, even without a stepstool
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 09:54 PM
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after backing himself into a corner with his bad faith, illogical argument, man called out on his bullshit uses age old "I'm rubber, you're glue" defense
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 07:02 PM
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I didn't make the claim. you did. I was replying to your comment. Desipte it NOT being my responsibility, I chose to provide several things to get you started, as noted above. you clearly did not read the data I provided. Willful ignorance is not a replacement for accuracy. You asking for data, then not reading or acknowledging it is precisely why women should not take on the responsibility of providing it to you in the first place. This is exactly why these "I made an unsubstantiated claim and …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:55 PM
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There is no more disingenuous argument than "women already have the same legal rights as men." Even a cursory search would show you many ways this is not true in the US. So- either you don't care if your position is accurate or you know it's not factual and are outright lying. It is not women's responsibility to do your research for you, nor is it our job to argue against such an overtly inaccurate statement. Heres a few things to get you started on your own research and education, but moving fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:18 PM
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Bruh, unless you join a fucking cult like FLDS, I assure you, you can get a divorce in whatever religion, denomination, etc. By the very action of allowing it, the church makes it okay. Again, you are arguing against a strawman you have made up. The FLDS exists, proving my point Just because someone is technically allowed to do a thing, it does not mean they personally believe it is right or good to do nor does it mean they will have a practice of actually doing it You are pretending there is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:52 PM
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I am not joking. Choosing to read my comment as "religions don't allow divorce" or "religions have lawyers present" is a choice to sidestep my point entirely- in favor of your own made-up strawman. while every major religion now allows divorce, I am sure you're not implying that all religious texts, subsects, and denominations allow it, right? We both know that's not true. Even if a church institution may allow divorce, it does not prevent two married people from having the belief that their god…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:17 PM
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either you do understand and you are willfully presenting an inaccurate picture of it in an ineffective attempt at a strawman or you actually don't understand it and seem incapable of ever doing so let me know if you want to admit it's the first one and have an honest and productive conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:53 AM
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being snarky will not detract from your repeated, overt side-stepping of my actual point
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:44 AM
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there is - in practice- no actual difference whatsoever. Whatever authority a couple voluntarily sees as enforcing their inability to divorce is irrelevant if they believe some authority is not allowing it and therefore do not do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 08:33 AM
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People already have that right. They call it "religious belief" and they both agree to waive their legal right to divorce because they believe they have no right to divorce in the eyes of God; who they believe to be a higher authority than the state. Not only is this idea unnecessary, it isn't even new.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:45 AM
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I understand that this feels very important to many men and I agree that it should. Women should definitely support men in their fight for this at some point. The argument that women should -lead the charge on this and do it now- is like a woman saying, "Why don't men fight for women to get more alimony in divorces?" We don't fight for it because it's more of an issue for men than it is for women and We have a lot of other priorities that are more relevant to us as a gender I know plenty of wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:48 PM
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OP is right, but I agree it's not a debate. There's no middle option. you have a specific opinion: it's a debate you don't take a position: it's a discussion Unless or until we get a "dialectic" or similar option, that's the framework.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 10:19 PM
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in what way is that a double standard?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:46 PM
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because you work with women you think that qualifies you to know how women interact with our closest friends wrt our personal lives, when men are not around? You realize how ridiculous that sounds, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:35 PM
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I agree and it is irritating every time. I wish we had a "dialectic" flair so everything that is an opinion wasn't immediately called a "debate." this is not how debating works.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 08:33 PM
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What is the debate topic here? This is your ill-informed, inaccurate opinion. There is nothing to debate. You are entitled to believe whatever you like, even if it is untrue.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 08:24 PM
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that is the expectation, glad we're finally meeting it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 08:23 PM
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the "price of vagina" is a lot higher for people who use that phrase. I believe at the last Women’s Domination meeting, we decided to charge a 500% markup for anyone who referred to purchasing our genitals as though they are available independently from ourselves. I'd have to check the minutes to make sure, tho
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 06:24 AM
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Well, given your specific definition (which is a welcome reprieve on ppd; so thank you) you can actually add me to the people saying it is easy. I'm sure that will make OP feel validated. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 12:07 AM
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too vague to be a response to my question
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:50 PM
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who is saying it's easy? I haven't seen anyone of any gender say it is easy in great enough numbers to constitute a larger minority, much less a majority
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:24 PM
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"let" his wife
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:11 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 07:02 PM
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And American/ UK cultures don't have strict rules about fucking around. If you don't like that you can go to a country that does. Problem solved
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:41 PM
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I don't see an automod to comment under but pretend this is the automod: completely agree and would add something I note often -that is along the same lines: even if they somehow "prove" their "science" is statistically correct, it has no real-world application if their goal is to be in relationship with a woman. Any individual woman they end up dating will have her own wants, needs, type, etc. While women -as a group- may have averages and patterns that emerge, each individual woman is not an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:17 PM
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you would know because you are in my head
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:39 AM
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there's a difference between missing a point and not engaging with a point because I am tired of its unsubstantiated, ad nauseum repetition but your opinion of me is of no consequence so believe whatever you like
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:26 AM
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that's not fair to the rest of reddit When you saw Joker, did you get the metacommentary, or did you see yourself in him unironically? This whole "I'm the only one who gets it, I'm forced to live in society but I'll never fully be a part of it and I pretend it's because I'm above it all but it's actually because I never feel understood" edgelord shtick is so unoriginal and boring Whatever an edgelord's real personality is, it has to be more interesting than that shit nobody is that much of an np…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 08:13 AM
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So, which is it? My money's on a combo, even though C is the most obvious
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 07:29 AM
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ah, the old "throw sex at an incel for the greater good" argument; classic!! and classically illogical The ONLY people who say things like: Sexual liberation liberated woman take full advantage of...dating...opportunities the west natural tendency for women to sexually reward a small percentage of men men get crumbs Men derive fulfillment from working their own wife Sedated by video games and porn fair to men Seem to be A. 55+ year olds who haven't learned or grown since the 1980s B. Neither fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:41 AM
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Oh, well if it's just psychological then you can and should still have sex with men. Apparently "Psychological/Emotional needs are all the things people add onto sex, claiming it makes sex better, but it doesn't unless you've mentally conditioned yourself to need those requirements met to enjoy sex...even physical attraction, etc. are all separate..." and "Another thing about this is, you see that more women than men need psychological/ emotional needs met to even move onto the point where they …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:49 PM
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that has everything to do with them having a pension and nothing to do with general divorce cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:23 AM
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dying never experiencing what? an orgasm [no] or PIV orgasm? [yes. all orgasms are clitoral one way or another unless someone has a nerve mutation or something. Why would I care that my clit was specifically stimulated from PIV vs any other way?]
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:22 AM
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Women's opinions do not have agency over anyone or anything. they are opinions Men choosing to give women's opinions power over them locks those same men in a prison entirely of their own making
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:09 AM
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Why is "Good Men" a proper noun all of a sudden? weird
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:05 AM
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Most of this made no sense, and I don't know what "sand people" means but go off, sis https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/t1INRsONhG
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 02:03 AM
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"Anyone who mentions having something I don't have is automatically gloating or bragging. I will try to knock them down a peg so I feel better about myself for 2 minutes." Thoughts and prayers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:54 AM
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HOW DOES THIS BENEFIT WOMEN? restating an unsubstantiated opinion as fact and calling it "obvious" is not evidence. I don't need my husband's "genetics" on a daily basis. His "genentics" do not take the garbage out. His "genetics" do not comfort me if I am having a hard day. If anything, what you and others are saying women writ large- want (which is incorrect, by the way) - would lead us to an Amazonian or polyandrous society just as easily, if not more, than a polygynous one. The only people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:45 PM
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How does this BENEFIT WOMEN ??? Wearing raincoats as shirts could "very well become more normalized in the future" too, but there's no evidence it will be nor that it would benefit women if it did.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:36 PM
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Please share the specific ways that what you've noted is a benefit to women, much less such a benefit to women on a large enough scale that it would become "the future." [and if ppd "debate" pattern holds, I'll never get my answer from OP. So the real answer to both is that it is not, and OP shows a serious lack of understanding of what is important to women].
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:16 PM
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no. there is no benefit for women in this scenario. That's why all societies and groups that practice polygyny have to use things like religious and financial coercion, abuse, and withholding education in order to keep women "in line."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:04 PM
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I think you overestimate how much wiser people including yourself get as you age. There are plenty of young people with sense and intelligence, and plenty of older people without either. That's just like your opinion, man Ironically, you would probably agree with this argument, as long as it was being used to cast an older man negatively, as a dottering old fool already in decline, who has no business being around the young, sharp and vigorous. There's sort of a Schrödinger thing going on here: …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:58 AM
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I thought it was disgusting when 25-40 year old men hit on me when I was 15-20. I still think it's disgusting when men that much older than me hit on me, now. It's not because I'm some bitter old hag, jealous that I am being passed over by these men. I was not then, nor am I now, ignored by older men. I was not and am not interested in their attention. I always felt that men who were old enough to babysit, drive, graduate, or even be my parent when I was born were/ are, yes, creepy or at best in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:56 AM
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Exactly. Just like women don't owe you praise!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 11:22 PM
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Please share 5+ examples of the same woman saying both of these things in ways that contradict each other. I am tired of some of the men on here thinking all women agree on all things. One woman may think you should find fulfillment alone. A different woman may think being alone is a red flag in specific circumstances. A third woman may believe that it is important to find self-fulfillment whether you are or are not in a relationship. A fourth woman may think being single is always a red flag an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:10 PM
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you said a lot while managing to answer neither of my questions. Are you going to answer them? if not, please don't bother responding again, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:00 PM
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What should they be praised for? Is this request not exactly what OP is talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 05:24 PM
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Counterpoint: Women should do what they want and not listen to your unsolicited opinions on the choices they make
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 09:51 AM
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I said I dont care about sex because my medication killed my sex drive (and that its a good thing) and was called creepy. Link to context of full discussion, please? But then its also creepy to want sex, and to seek sex out with women. Says who? Being called creepy is a huge fear for guys, because womens scorn is all most men care about. Why? So im just asking what is "creepy" whats a creepy guy? https://gprivate.com/64igz And please avoid doing the "women arent a hivemind!" thing? And please av…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 06:33 AM
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exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:50 AM
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Can you share the feminist sources you are using to determine that feminism blames men of today for the actions of men in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:05 AM
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I would instantly lose respect for any man who does not do oral (not necessarily on me, but in general). I have an even lower opinion of men who don't perform oral but expect head themselves. My husband gets excited by going down on me, and that's not why I respect him per se, but it sure doesn't hurt how I feel about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:08 AM
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Where in my comment did I blame men of today for the behavior of men in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 12:27 AM
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I have witnessed, firsthand, a man in clown makeup, making balloon animals Therefore, all men are liars when they say they are not clowns OP, this is how illogical you sound
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 09:51 PM
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As far as I can tell, your position in this debate is: Premises: Some men want to be single Some men do not want to be single The men who do not want to be single will be with whatever woman they can get, even if they don't like her These men would appreciate it if they didn't have to work to get this girl they don't like Conclusions: Therefore, the women who he would like should put in more effort to find him Therefore, this man making the personal choice (to be with someone he doesn't like) is…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 09:44 PM
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Either they truly don't find them attractive because they have different taste or they are negging out of habit because they are steeped in PUA/ manosphere culture and bitter that they can't be with her. https://www.merriam-webster.com/wordplay/negging-pick-up-artist-meaning
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:50 PM
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And see, that old school RP philosophy seems fine. Not the more manipulative PUA subculture parts, but self care/ self-improvement as a means and an end is a good philosophy and will end up making a man more appealing. It seems like when RP and other ideologies combined is when (what is now called "red pill") went off the rails. Bitter, angry "incel" types began infiltrating spaces like Men's Rights (originally just about advocating for the rights of fathers in the courts), etc. What's sad is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:37 PM
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I am not sure why that came across as pity to you, I am genuinely sympathic to how demoralizing that must feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:15 PM
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that may be true for a significant number of adult, NT, straight-up TRP men. The problem occurs when you get 11-15 year old boys, ND boys, etc, hearing about TRP and then having an algorithm pull them deeper into manosphere spaces at such a key time in adolescent development. Almost everyone feels ugly and insecure in middle school, even the pretty, popular kids. Often, we are so up our own asses as preteens/ teens that we only realize people were attracted to us until after the fact. It takes t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:13 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that some people are genuinely unattractive and maybe you are one of them or maybe you compare yourself to what you think a "chad" is and it makes you feel hopeless. I don't know. but either way, it sucks that you are feeling that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 09:58 PM
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I have never once assumed the physical attractiveness (which I assume is the only type of attractiveness to which you are referring) of a single person on here. If other women are doing that I'm not seeing a pattern of it I can't speak for them or their thought process, specifically On the contrary, I have seen several of the men here freely state that they are unattractive, and I don't tend to believe they are as "ugly" as they say they are. Ideologies like Red and Blk pill can give men a false…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 08:56 PM
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I don't larp; I only occasionally wear costumes while playing ttrpgs :D And trying to distract from your failure to have a coherent debate by making sad, weak attempts at - I guess insulting?? me - is straight up embarrassing for you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:08 PM
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And what is this shit? Are you so incapable of addressing my points directly that you have resorted to DMing me unrelated, inane questions? wow. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 01:57 PM
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bad faith =/= anytime you can't logically counter someone's argument You still have yet to directly address a single thing I said
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 01:23 PM
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if some women say they are allergic to peanuts, why have I seen other women eating peanut butter?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:45 PM
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I believe the issue is not simply that the man HAS preferences, it's that he does one of the below WITH those preferences: assumes we all want to hear about them constantly shames others for not meeting them blames all women for one or a few specific women not meeting them is hypocritical about them has preferences that are illegal/ unethical/ immoral if a man isn't doing one of those 5 things with said preferences, I don't believe anyone will give a single fuck about what he does with his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:42 PM
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How does this not address your point? My point: If you behave like a child and not an adult, you get treated like a child and not an adult Your "counterpoint": a lot of women's EX partners are "assholes and mamma's boys" While I don't see assholes and mamma's boys as being directly correlated with behaving like a toddler, if anything, you bolstered my point by acknowledging these women have broken up with these men. You are attempting to gaslight men into believing that women are the ultimate ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:54 AM
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Even if that is true, it does not address my point, much less counter it. Why make a random comment that is so unrelated to mine?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:53 AM
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Oh, according to women here, men don't care about bodycount. I keep getting contradictory messages here from women. I guess what makes me unique is that I can and will do it, most men want to do this and can't. It's almost like women, just like ALL people, don't all agree solely based upon our gender. Weird. /s Because bluepill and redpill pertain really only to dating No, they don't. It's only the rise of the Andrew Tate/ Fresh and Fit grifter culture that narrowed the focus down to only dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 11:05 PM
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You don't see other men doing this, though. offering an AMA usually implies that a person has something unique or special to add to a conversation, like a famous person or someone who escaped a cult or something. You're a guy who wants to sleep with lots of women while expecting a comparably chaste partner. That's not exotic at all. That's 70%+ of men. I dont get why a bunch of the men here say it is a "dating" sub. The sub's description says it is a place to discuss sex and gender issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 10:50 PM
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Things will never be equal. Logics will never change her mind. Acting sad and unhappy or throwing tantrums because she isn't doing as much as you are doing for her will only push her away. Well, yeah, obviously. That is the behavior of a toddler whose brain hasn't developed. Acting like a toddler to a woman will illicit certain types of care but not the romantic kind. Women are wired to NOT want to fvck chiIdren. I assume we all agree this is a good thing, for obvious reasons! It also means that…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 08:45 PM
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I'm sure it is and you probably have many intelligent things to contribute to a conversation. But the fact that you have a high body count and expect a partner with a low one is not interesting or unique at all. Why present that as your only/ main character trait and then expect people to want to follow up?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 07:47 PM
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"Selfish" and "coward" are moral judgements If your morals say this act is selfish or cowardly, that's fine But lets suppose we all agree with you: So what? Are they not entitled to be selfish and/ or cowardly? if not, why not? According to whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:59 AM
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I'm really not trying to make fun of this guy. I think he may not have taken the time to introspect about what is causing his aversion to being 'in a relationship.'
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:14 AM
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okay, here's my question: What makes you think we'd want to ask you anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:12 AM
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ever heard of an open relationship/ polyamory? You have literally described an open relationship but won't call it that Is the mere concept of commitment scary to you? This is not meant to be shade but a frank observation: given that you can't find one woman who is looking for casual, I'm curious what makes you think exclusivity will suddenly become an issue once you do? It's not as though you have 15 women all vying for the top spot as it is. If you can find one woman who you are attracted to, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:01 AM
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genuinely curious: why not a relationship? If you are going or be genuine friends who care about each other and prioritize each other's needs, what is the main difference for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:45 AM
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"good" is such a fraught term; but given that you are asking our personal opinions, a man I think is good to have in my life/ be close to would be: honest intelligent thoughtful clever funny empathetic emotionally mature self- aware compassionate a learner integrous supportive interesting accepting if you specifically mean what type of man would I personally consider morally good, it would be all of the above except for: intelligent clever funny interesting I don't believe those are technically …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:00 AM
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I'm not the one operating in bad faith here. It's clear you came to argue and have no interest in an honest discussion. I said nothing about what you deserve. I don't know you and am certainly not in the position to determine such a grand ethical/ philosophical question as what one "deserves." Your attitude toward women, the concept of being linked/ obligated to one is what led me to my conclusion, nothing more or less. My commitment is sound but thanks for the sincere concern. I am not a "you g…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:42 AM
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Interesting. I wonder what made you ascribe a "bitter" tone to my comment in your head, rather than reading it matter-of-factly, calmly, or pleasantly. That's very telling Well, for the record, I'm not angry. I am indifferent. The only man I care about being married is my husband, and he's already convinced, so I'm good The rest of you can make whatever choice aligns with your morals, ethics, needs, and wants. Based upon what you shared about yourself; that's not being partnered/ connected with …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:12 AM
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Based upon your specific, personal position it would be best for you (and most certainly for any potential spouse you may have had in an AU) that you 100% avoid getting married. I'd also suggest you neither get into any form of LTR nor parent any children unless or until your position changes. Partnership -and the risks and rewards inherent therein- are not for everyone and you are a clear example of: not for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:03 AM
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If it doesn't make you happy why are you like this? No one is making you be a troll. If you don't like feminists, don't be one and don't hang out with them I don't like nazis so I don't hang out with nazis it's really that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:07 PM
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Does this make you feel happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:02 PM
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Am I allowed to bring my husband and my two best friends? How about one of their husbands? My nephews? If not I don't want to live there and I have literally never met a woman who would irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 04:53 PM
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I wouldn't have married my husband if he didn't have the qualities necessary to be a good dad, in case he ended up being one. But I never looked at him or any other men as livestock, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:51 PM
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yes. people pretend the discussions on here (which are arguably not debates, but that's a whole different issue) are about red pill vs blue pill or men vs women or traditional vs progressive but they are always actually about People who understand context and nuance vs people who don't welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:45 PM
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But in no way is any of it objectively "good" Nor is it objectively bad because whether or not we should have high or low birth rates is a moral question and morality cannot be objective
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:32 PM
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I did and it was fine Just because some of my friends have been interested in me in the past doesn't change the connection we have now
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:28 PM
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right? Me: reading the first sentence: "hmmm, pretty reasonable for ppd" reading the second sentence: "and THERE it is!"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:35 AM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:58 AM
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Heres some options: these are different people who you are making into an amalgam cognitive dissonance nuance/ context (i.e. what they are saying is actually true for the specific context but you and/or others are extrapolating and applying it more broadly than intended by the speaker) Incidentally, these are the same reasons I'd give for why all people do this, regardless of gender. Not everything is gendered. A more interesting question, imo, is why do you care? Suppose everything you said is …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:51 AM
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Vilanovax, yes. Same post titles in their histories.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:22 AM
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I'll give OP this, he hasn't posted this as frequently as he used to and the relentlessness is admirable, if woefully misplaced.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:09 PM
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...who has his woman... even the word usage in this embarrassing attempt at an insult is telling men don't control what their partners say
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 09:06 PM
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This is your personal opinion based upon no objective facts whatsoever. What are we supposed to "debate" here? OP: This is my unsubstantiated subjective opinion The rest of us: nah un. Wow, what a thought-provoking, enlightening dialectic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:54 AM
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Guess what all these men have in common: Divorce. Yeah- it's almost like LOOKS, WEALTH, AND "STATUS" AREN'T AS IMPORTANT AS MOST MEN THINK If you were trying to prove a point with your list, I think you missed the mark. Many of them cheated, had anger issues, etc. See below. Channing Tatum: Unhealthy marriage dynamic Usher: consistent, open cheater, knowingly spread STIs Brad Pitt: doesn't wear deodorant, supposed drinking problem, anger problem Johnny Depp: drug addict, abusive unhealthy dynami…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 10:32 AM
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People were upset about anti maskers during covid but this is far worse since it is basically the equivalent of spitting in someone’s face as opposed to an accidental spread. Bad comparison. Consentually spitting in the face of someone who said you could, knowing they could get sick is not the same as strangers on a train sneezing in your face without your permission/ ability to abstain from being sneezed upon. an actual 1:1 comparison would be that SA is the equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:54 AM
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What, specifically, is a "high status man"? Who defines that? Why do they get to define it/ what makes them the authority? Do an overwhelming majority of people agree with that definition? How do you know that overwhelming majority agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 09:26 AM
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Radia Perlman, Laila Ohlgren, Stacy Horn, Hedy Lamarr, Ada Lovelace, Florence Parpart, Josephine Cochrane, Kate Gleason, Grace Hopper, Mary Engle Pennington, Lillian Moller Gilbreth, Ida R Forbes, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:13 AM
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oh! you're just a troll. :( You don't actually believe women's vaginas stretch out and they need to remain pure while also believing men should not marry and only see prostitutes while also believing men should marry younger women. You're bored and you want to fight about the most controversial things you can think of. how dull.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 10:16 AM
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lol okay. you missed the point and I am not looking for advice on sex worker vaginal canals but thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 09:19 AM
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but... won't sex workers have the most stretched out vaginas, according to you and your made up chatgpt "research?" https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/bX98S80KoC
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 08:28 AM
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Men like this love to think their dicks are so powerful that they can literally change the anatomy of women, despite it being completely untrue. They are so scared they are irrelevant, especially to women who don't want a repeat performance, that they make up shit like this to feel better about themselves. Whatever they need to tell themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 08:20 AM
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lol. k, whatever bro. I'm bored with what you think passes for conversation, bye
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:09 AM
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nope. try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 07:49 AM
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I'm not triggered. You'd do well to stop assigning imaginary tones or emotions to written communication from people you don't know. I didn't imply that you looked at my page. I don't care if you do. This is reddit in 2024, not Facebook in 2014. I didn't say that women would date hideous ogres with stellar personalities. In addition to projecting a fake emotional state onto me, you have, again, missed the context and point of what I said. But sure, I'm the one who's triggered. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:19 AM
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So, let me get this straight: you found a post I made a month ago in which I reference my own opinion and those of people I know, personally, and felt the need to correct me about...MY OWN opinion and those of people I KNOW?! Never mind the nuance and context you completely missed. What, exactly, gave you the audacity? The anonymity of the internet? A complete lack of understanding of how things work? or...what? I'm genuinely curious why you felt the need to comment and/or what you think you acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 12:44 AM
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I don't quite get your, let's call it a "writing style" but I think you're saying that: currently women do not care about looks women not caring about looks means we don't actively pursue partners Men do care about looks Men tend to be more engaged in the pursuit of others; gay or straight therefore, if women cared about looks, we would begin pursuing men with the same level of activity/ passion/ desperation? as men display when seeking a partner Is that what you are getting at?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:47 PM
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Again, in a harem, the men have the power. It's interesting you assume that would be the situation vs. something akin to Amazons. I'm curious why you seem so certain of your conclusion. Both are equally viable outcomes, particularly since harems could neither be less empowering for women nor less of a *partnership. *
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 09:03 AM
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being a part of a harem =/= having a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 08:49 AM
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I'm not hearing that women would choose to be in a harem which is a very specific term with a clear meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:36 AM
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I had a different take. It seems to me, anyone willing to put up with that in hopes of getting a commitment would not want the commitment to be in danger of ending.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:29 AM
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I don't think men now are any less interested in marriage than they were at any other time in history. In the past, there was more social, familial, economic, religious, etc. pressure on them to marry, so they may have chosen to do so more frequently, but that speaks neither to desire nor capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:08 AM
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and more likely to divorce again, though
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:06 AM
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that is an opinion you are welcome to have but my opinion is that some vaguely slight increase in potential height is not worth making oneself sick. We'll have to agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 03:49 AM
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interesting. You assume that, even if women were 90% of the pop, men would still hold the power to have harems...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 09:26 PM
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For those not from Mongolia, that being a permanent solution would require a microbiome transplant which is risky, time consuming, expensive, and kinda gross. It's also questionable whether they are actually asymptomatic or simply accustomed to the discomfort. Either way, you still haven't explained your point or why this was a reply to my comment. have a good day!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 12:02 PM
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lol okay, I'm not clicking a random link on reddit, and if I was going to, it wouldn't be for popsci.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 11:51 AM
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cool. That doesn't change anything I said. It also seems silly to imply that acne, severe digestive issues, irritability, inflammation, bloating, etc. are all worth being vaguely "taller" so I'll assume you were trying to make some other point..?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 11:19 AM
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Somewhere between 60 and 70% of the world population is lactose intolerant or deficient in the enzymes to properly process dairy, but boys should drink hydrant levels of milk? K.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 08:04 AM
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our preferences change with maturity/ wisdom, not age. And that's not gender specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 06:41 AM
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Choosing to not do something to save people when you know that is the solution, We absolutely do not "know that is the solution." You have offered NO proof that having a child will "save people." Your opinion is not proof. The solution to what exactly? What if my child would be a serial killer or genocidal dictator? a. Will they still "save people?" b. Would that still be the "solution?" c. How so? simply doing that thing might be difficult and because you'd rather pursue your own pleasure, is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 10:03 PM
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...men are far easier and require less to be happy in a relationship, Easier by what metric? what, specifically, do all men, universally, require to be happy? If it is so few things, surely you can provide a detailed list. yet for some reason women still don't seem to get it right often... Again, by what metric? What, specifically, are women getting wrong? this is about a woman IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN....not just sex...to clarify i'm not talking ONLY about pleasing sexually.... But is it ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:49 AM
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your flair!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:25 AM
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So, women of the west, would you be willing to make a sacrifice like having a kid to save humanity / civilization / your country, or would you rather pursue hedonistic pleasure while the world burns? This is a false dichotomy. If I was sure my child would singlehandedly save civilization and I knew I could give them the upbringing needed to do so, I'd "make the sacrifice" and have them. But choosing not to doesn't not mean I am hedonistic or causing "the world [to] burn." What an unfounded and b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:35 PM
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I don't think the list is different for different genders. Each individual has expectations and needs, specific to them. The "bare minimum" for them is what they need in their specific partner. Were I pressed to make a list, I suppose the bare minimum for all partners seems like it ought to be fidelity (in whatever way is agreed upon in the particular relationship) respect (however that looks to the specific person) honesty openness (to input and growth/ change) integrity but beyond that, it is …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 02:49 PM
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what is a "masculine man?" who makes that determination? how have you determined they are typically conservative?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 09:38 AM
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"Women talked" wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 09:21 AM
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"Enjoy your discussions with others" was a polite invitation to cease this one; but I hope getting this off your chest accomplished whatever you felt it needed to. Please do feel very free not to reply and have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 08:25 AM
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so when you do something, it is a "guess" but when I do, it is "mind-reading" and "psychoanalysis" ?? Got it. Enjoy your discussions with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:12 PM
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again, PLENTY of people object to those things but you conveniently left that out so it follows that you must only be referring to the legality for the second set of examples. Had you intended a good faith discussion, you would have compared morality to morality or legality to legality. And had you done so, your position would be illogical.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 07:10 PM
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you DID imply that. "Wrong" is a value/ moral term. You asked about something people find immoral but don't want to make illegal. You then asked why other things are legal. It's a false equivalency. Lots of people think it's just as immoral for young people to enlist, smoke, etc. as it is for mature adults to date them but by framing one in moral terms and the other in legal, you are attempting to side-step this issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 06:56 PM
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there have been a great deal of micropenis-related posts this week suggesting therapy to deal with self-esteem issues is not immature, thinking reddit can solve them is
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:26 PM
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Is it International Micropenis Awareness Week or something? He can avoid it by getting therapy instead of expecting reddit to resolve it for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:56 PM
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Other people do not determine if you are sexualized Just because a specific woman -or even many women- are not sexually attracted to a person's dick, does not mean their actual penis suddenly lacks any sexual traits/ is no longer sexual in nature. If the opinions of others, particularly strangers/ non-significant people, are the determining factor in whether or not you ARE SEXUAL that is a self-esteem issue. You are being purposely reductive/ strawmanning the other side A majority of people don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 09:24 AM
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There have been some studies that show that more psychopathic men have more intimate partners. People with those traits Self REPORT having a higher number of sexual partners; and people with dark triad traits are not renowned for their honesty. (and basically go back to pre-sexual revolution sexual norms). They still had some individual sexual freedom in the 1950s. Not enough, but some. It's really unclear what you are trying to get at with this question. It sounds like you are asking if we woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 08:15 AM
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sexy? no attractive? sure
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 07:27 AM
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no. Men keep trying to threaten us with them and I've never seen one woman, let alone a majority, say anything other than "okay, bye. enjoy the robot" or "here's why that won't work/ be the same."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:03 AM
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everyone already knows hoe math women are aware of what turns us on because we are in our bodies when it happens human behavior and cognition is too multifaceted to break down into 3 simple steps or a list of things, no matter how hard people try even if the average woman or the statistical woman would do a thing, it doesn't translate to the dating world where you are dating a specific, individual woman, not an amalgam of statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:18 PM
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glad to hear it. again, that is not true of all men. Perhaps you are getting hung up on the term "capable" but I'm saying that I know lots of men who do that and enjoy doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:57 PM
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Genetically, I likely be 5'11" to 6'+ as a man, but even at 5'10", I'd do just fine. I literally don't know a man, regardless of height, who can't find a partner they like. I don't have one singular man in my entire life who is alone, not of their own volition. The internet is not indicative of real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:47 PM
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I know plenty of men who are capable of empathy, connection, and vulnerability but if that's your opinion, cool. enjoy the loneliness then, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:43 PM
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so- you meant that we heard porn, not that we heard our partner masturbate? that's not how I took that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:38 PM
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I tried but I straight up do not understand what you're trying to say. it looks like you are taking the quote from OP and attributing it to me? I didn't say men should say things to women, I said men should talk to other men. But honestly, I'm not even sure that's what you are getting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:03 PM
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You should focus your snide comments towards the person who asked a stupid question instead of the person who tried to answer it. yeah, I didn't ask Also, masturbate. not when / do it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:13 AM
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Well men do but there are hinderances. Such as being more emotionally repressed by society and such. I agree. It's tough when we have to go against the repression and conditioning we receive from society wrt gender norms and expectations. But if we don't start, who will? Moreover the post is asking frustration towards women or around women. You didn't answer the question. This is the question in the title- Whats an acceptable way for men to express their frustration and difficulties in life arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:57 AM
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talk to each other. The only thing stopping you is you Man 1: I have no one to talk to. Man 2: me neither Man 1: I feel so alone Man 2: me too Man 1: Well, we obviously can't talk to each other about it so I'll just keep complaining that it's unfair Man 2: yeah, time to go make it women's problem to solve. We certainly can't do it ourselves
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:19 AM
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People can masturbate without porn. Why do you assume porn is involved?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:02 AM
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as though you know if these women masterbate
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:00 AM
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either this is a LARP or I'm concerned about OP's pre-frontal cortex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:54 AM
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If I was an AI programmed to gather info on humans to bring back to the future I would act just like you and I wouldn't tell anyone either, but alright, keep your secrets.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:05 AM
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typically I would think moans/ moaning are you AI?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:56 AM
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no, it's not unusual for him to make noise, it's unusual to phrase it this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:41 AM
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"pleasure noises"?? It would be fine. He wanted something I couldn't provide, he respected boundaries and took care of it himself. That's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:24 AM
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I think there are no long-term benefits to a polygamous society, and I would find any woman -arguing that there are- immediately suspect. When men argue for this, it is even more ridiculous, though. There has never been a polygamous society that benefits anyone but the few men in power. It doesn't benefit women, children or -most of all- young men. It's a bit like working class union members voting for Republicans in hopes they may, someday also be rich, when the reality is only the top 1%-10% (…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:48 AM
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OP asked, wistfully no. Handmaid's Tale is far more likely. Project 2025, for example. Men will always have to maintain the appearance of family in some way. Even the leaders of sexually-based cults do that as long as they can maintain it; and when they stop, it's usually the beginning of the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:18 AM
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lol. I mean / didn't ignore him, thankfully. But bassists (as I'm sure you know) tend to be more cerebral and introverted. It's less common for them to be the front man. Mine is also an Audio Engineer so that cerebral thing is magnified.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:36 AM
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I feel like women hate on the too. Do they not? Take yourself for example. I didn't hate on those qualities; you did. I like who I am. I was answering the OP question, not making a value statement about me or anyone else with those qualities. That call is coming from inside the house. This isn't according to TRP. This is according to women based on what they say. Not the majority of my experience as a woman, being around women, observing women, or knowing women. But...okay. Surely, there's more …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:34 AM
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waaaaaaay easier, even if they were my exact height. They'd have it easier in most areas, actually, except getting out of tickets or ordering drinks. As a woman I am "bossy, bitchy, and don't know my place." As a man with the exact same personality, I'd be a "dominant, authoritative, confident go-getter." I know 5'10" (178cm) is, according to TRP, not tall enough for a man but it's not diminutive by any stretch. Plus, without boobs, I'd be at least an inch taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:51 AM
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I am currently in a monogamous relationship and I very much DO see my partner as a person. I'm not into objectophilia, necrophilia, or whatever else one must be into when they don't see sexual partners as humans. I'm not here to kink shame you but don't pretend it's normative to see women as concepts/ objects instead of humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:38 AM
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I know you're looking for a certain stock response, but no. I don't. I view men as people (since all of the ones I know, are). It doesn't pay to treat human beings as mutual funds. That approach makes it hard to form a deep bond. Although if you view women as such, it may explain why you think maturity should end the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:51 AM
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"product" "advertising" "sell" "investing" ah, yes, all the words we commonly use to describe finding a meaningful and loving connection with... a stock market portfolio! ick
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:19 AM
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oh here we go again with using language in the way it's intended by expecting people to have shared meanings of words and communicate in context?!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:15 AM
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Oh, I don't know, Kaye ran through quite a few dudes in her time, and she wasn't a singer. :) In all seriousness, thought, my husband sings but he's so painfully shy when he's not on stage, I don't think he'd even know if other women tried to fuck him. Most of the guys you listed are also showy/ extroverted. I'm not sure it's the singing vs. the rizz. McCartney is also not really a bassist per se. I took my mom to see him, and he legit played 8-10 different instruments over the course of a coupl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 10:09 AM
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Obviously not all members of a generation are the same. In general, though, zoomers are the new boomers. And as much as that is tough for X and Y, it's not uncommon for the pendulum to swing every few generations. Z is 2 generations removed from boomers- just far enough to romanticize the world the way it "was back then" and to not have witnessed the negative impacts up close. There is a large group of boomers that seems to be much more interested in gender binary, gender roles, simplifying thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 09:58 AM
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I would agree that many interactions on ppd are frustrating but sometimes they can surprise you and I believe a lot more of those surprises would happen if we each went into discussions assuming more positive intent and less animus on the part of others. People tend to get defensive when we come at that from a starting point of "I already know you suck!" it's also silly and ignorant to state that over half of the world population is unintelligent based solely upon their sex. That leaves one with…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:58 AM
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If we're talking live sound, it completely depends on where your engineer is on the sober-to-drunk scale. If they are thoroughly inebriated, they won't be able to hear the bass well enough to mix it. if it's a studio recording... that's just a bad mix. I am curious what "exception" you believe is in effect for vocalists who play bass. edit clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 07:49 AM
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Depends on style, which guitar, age group, etc. My husband, for example, is a bass player and most people literally ignore bassists.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 06:19 AM
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What would be the short and long term effects? Only people who either a. can be monogamous or b. have enough privilege and resources to believe they can get away with a crime, would get married. What would be the pros and cons for men? For women? Pros for all genders: a greater feeling of trust that someone who bothers to marry you is less likely to cheat (whether true or not) and a sense of justice if they were to fail in their commitment. Cons for all genders: Goverment involvement/ interferen…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 11:11 PM
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No; it isn't. It's more likely that you are: conditioned to think it is and suffering from confirmation bias, using too narrow a definition of "intelligence" to make your determination (rather than, say, Gardner's approach), not spending much time with a variety of women, or some combination of the above. And I believe that leads you to miss out on interesting interactions; but, you're welcome to see people however you like. Have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 11:02 PM
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Cool. Here's a fun idea: why not respect ALL women as though we are intelligent, instead of making us "prove" it to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:44 PM
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so do you mean to ask if we are more "responsible," then? If we are each only accountable to our own selves, most of your questions don't make much sense, at least to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:25 PM
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I'm curious why you felt the need to add this part to your comment: Or do you think you exist in a video game and we're all just side characters for your amusement? Did it bother you that I asked a clarifying question and gave context for it? Do you assume anyone who seeks clarity and context has "main character syndrome?" If so, why? I'm not seeing a clear link between my question to OP and your response here. I have thoughts on Hobbes, Rousseau, etc. but they are unrelated to this discussion. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:24 PM
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accountable to whom? accountability doesn't exist in a vacuum. It requires authority and a set of expectations. Who is the authority, and what are the expectations in this case?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:39 PM
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why? Why do that if it's not going to amount to anything, (or worse yet, harm the reputation/ relationships of the victim)? If you were sexually assaulted while out drinking, would you report it? What about if you're out in the park, running in shorts/ shirtless, with headphones on, would you still report it? How about if you were at a party with your really close friends and, after everyone else fell asleep, your best friend raped you? Would you report that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:27 AM
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yes, because it is well known that all members of society get their concerns heard equitably by the police, who then have the time, money, resources, and training to fully investigate 100% of these crimes. Once they have given the same level of care and attention to each report, the truth comes out, the perpetrator gets caught and is deterred from committing any future offenses, the victim and society get justice, and everyone feels safe. OR - none of that, and your comments are unrealistic and …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:15 AM
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It sounds like you are saying that literally one author, ever, has written the truth and 100% of all other authors are liars, is that correct? Do you read her in the original German? Does it concern you that she is a German Argentinian? Or do you like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:04 AM
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Why do 100% of your posts seem like an advert for "Esther Vilar?" Have you thought of reading the works of even one or two other people?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 07:06 AM
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why does it matter? We all know it's the daily thread. Roses by other names and whatnot. If it's a good reminder, who gaf?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 06:56 AM
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it's weird af but if you think it's a good idea, I don't want to be around you, much less alone with you; and personally, I'm more than happy for you to self select not being around me, so I don't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:12 AM
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options? all men in the world, under 30? 60%, minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:52 PM
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oh, no! not THERAPY!! the shock. the horror.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:04 PM
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Is this actually true? No. I am of the belief that in actual life, women see men as just 'mosaics' and only deciding later when they interact with men in a deeper level. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:02 AM
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OR...do anti-social people look for anything to blame their anti-social tendencies on because ASPD has high comorbidity with NPD, and they aren't mature enough to take responsibility for their own actions? I guess we'll never know which is more likely...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:58 AM
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anything is a valid reason. relationships are currently still voluntary, much to the chagrin of many in this sub. Ant-man is not representative of cultural views as a whole. Anyone, of any gender, who chooses to cheat rather than be honest, is weak and cowardly. There is no double-standard about that, writ large.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:53 AM
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if "every woman in this thread" is using that red herring, why did you choose my comment- where I did NOT use that as a red herring- to mention it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 10:43 AM
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I literally could not care any less about passport bros. I neither "have a problem with" nor support them. I am indifferent and absolutely never think about them unless it gets brought up as a topic (like this). As long as they are not using passporting to target girls/ children who would be underage at home and/ or abuse and exploit people, I don't care what they do. So, yeah, whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:39 PM
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cool. bye, then. Every time this (or artificial wombs, or ai/ robot gfs) come(s) up, it's phrased as though it's a threat/ warning to women but we don't care. If women you don't know, saying they'd prefer a theoretical bear to a theoretical man, was so emotionally disregulating and morally abhorrent to you that you simply must move, do it. But I've got news for you, lots of women would prefer osos to caballeros and pares, even if you wouldn't understand when they told you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:31 PM
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luckily for virgin women, no one asked you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 09:54 AM
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this reminds me of that man who was a "lesbian" in the first season of original TLW. It felt like half of those guys were repeats of the same person and it's unclear if they think that will actually work or if they are doing it to "make a point. Either way, that sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 11:39 AM
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this has such "you can't fire me, I quit" energy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:31 PM
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nope. I'm a figment of your imagination. you hallucinated me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 11:18 PM
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males don't have as many opportunities to open up emotionally compared to women. Yes they do. They choose not to. They choose not to be open with partners, friends, family, etc. Nothing is stopping them. I don't think it's the end of the world or that 'women are done' or anything lol. I do think it will create a noticeable change. Hopefully for the better. People will hopefully focus on building more genuine connections as humans will come to question their place in the world. Has that been the …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 04:59 AM
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because I am an adult human woman and I know quite a few of them and I literally cannot imagine any one of us saying that. You friend sounds like she is either an AI programmed by MRAs or has the absolute lowest self esteem of any human in history. She doesn't believe she has a personality? She doesn't believe her own self is anything but a walking vagina. I can't tell if you are lying or your friends are depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:14 AM
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so, to be clear, an adult human woman said this to you: "nothing but looks and sex we have the resource that men want so the ball is in our court we have all of the options while men barely have any so there's no room for pickiness" word for word?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:08 AM
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you don't speak for all men. Most (IRL) men don't constantly worry about being falsely accused of rape. Why? Because they don't live lives where this is possible. They don't have sexual contact with people when consent is not clear, they don't post weird shit like "I helped a woman and didn't even think she should repay me with sex" like some of the men on this sub choose to do. It's rare for someone to lie about assault and even rarer for it to happen to you if you're clear about consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:01 PM
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I'm not sure why you are telling me or what you are looking for here, but neither your takeaway as a nonparticipatory nonmember of the conversation, nor your opinion of me, are my concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 04:49 PM
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I'll admit I'm wrong when you can provide evidence of me being wrong. So...YOU can say whatever you want and cite absolutely zero evidence but / point out the inaccuracy of your statement and I have the responsibility of giving evidence?! What a unique approach to data science. /s Did you know that men have higher fertility rates after going to prison? Also, incarcerated men have higher than average fertility rates. There rates of getting women to have their kids is higher than men who have neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 08:03 PM
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that's your takeaway. mine is that you can't admit when you are wrong and you will do all kinds of mental gymnastics to force your preferred conclusion, regardless of the information. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 07:04 PM
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none of my deal-breakers are arbitrary. They are all things that would be overwhelming or unbearable for me. Therefore, they are specific and highly relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:11 PM
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outing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:06 PM
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To the extent we can even discuss psychopathy, since it's not a recognized diagnosis, psychopaths irl (not in the movies) tend to have below average IQs and be incarcerated. Sociopaths care about mimicking pro-social behaviors and are more likely to have friends, appear likeable, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:05 PM
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no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:51 AM
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not even a little bit, no. https://gprivate.com/6b61i
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:00 PM
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no. We'd never get to the point of engagement/ marriage because we'd never date in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:00 AM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:52 AM
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thoughts and prayers to anyone who actually read this whole post. I'm a woman, and I love sex. I don't know any women who do not like sex, only women who don't like sex in certain ways or with certain people. Good luck with whatever the fuck you have going on that made you write a diatribe admitting that you not only don't understand how to please a woman but actually believe it to be impossible. That's rough, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 07:50 AM
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k
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:24 PM
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Clarifying Questions: a. What, specifically and precisely, is a "Traditional woman?" b. According to whose tradition? You say the vague term "religious" but a. which religion? b. Which version of that religion? c. From which time period? d. who says? a. Is it your supposition that a woman cannot both have a religious belief and have a job outside the home/ be a business person? b. If so, what is your source for that belief? a. What is a "modern woman" exactly? Someone who lived in the 1700s? b. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:55 PM
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I wish I could upvote this 27 more times.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:49 PM
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me? thanks, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:57 PM
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okay, well since you're a fan on unsolicited "correction:" Nobody likes this. Women hate when men do it to us; that's where the term "mansplaining" comes from. Capitalists hate when we explain the inherent flaws in the system because they already know about them and are either benefitting from exploiting them or are powerless to change the entire economic system of most of the world leftists/ Marxists hate it because your take is, at best, baby socialism. You ignored several key factors in your …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:52 PM
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in an actual partnership- where two people mutually care for, consider, desire, and love each other- this isn't the mindset. Both my partner and I have improved for ourselves and to benefit each other. Both of us have had other offers. Neither of us are interested in going outside our relationship because our current partnership is fulfilling enough to maintain, even when we go through rough patches. If I was "partnered" (and I'm not even sure this word applies in your scenario) with someone who…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:40 PM
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my partner is his own person and I do not control his decisions and more than he does mine. An all girls' trip is not an any more likely time/ place for a cheater to cheat than anywhere or anytime else is. Unless you're implying that a person should literally control their partner and never allow them out of their sight, there is no way to ensure fidelity. That's where trust comes in.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:08 AM
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This is so interesting. Not from an economic perspective but a psychoanalytical one. I made a cynical, snarky, off-hand comment, and you took that as an invitation to give me (whose flair shows I am a leftist) a long, incomplete, and shallow analysis of capitalism as though you were...what? educating me? saying something unique or revolutionary? I'm curious; what about my comment felt like an invitation to respond in this way. Did I come off as a capitalist? Do you sincerely believe leisure time…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 09:31 PM
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but how else can the government start molding the next generation into people who DO want kids? edit: snark, obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:15 PM
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I don't think this is a gender thing. Women do it too, but in different settings/ ways. I also don't believe a majority or men or women do it, it's a minority of people who are always looking for their next person, even when in a relationship, so they assume the rest of us are, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:07 PM
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Assuming the aforementioned infertility also stops my menstrual cycle, about 10-15 times per week. I couldn't say a daily number because some days I may want it 4x but other days, none. It would depend upon the type of sex we are having, etc. If I still get my period in your scenario (and absolutely insane that you didn't even think to mention such a key factor in your post, btw) it would vary a great deal, depending upon the above as well as the day/ week in my cycle. At times, I may want to sk…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:39 AM
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Problem solved: Don't live in society. Go live in the Amazon rainforest, away from human civilization.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:39 AM
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I literally never think about passport bros unless someone asks about them on here. They could not be less inconsequential to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:01 PM
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OP: asks for our opinions in a non-debate post You: give your opinion OP: argues with the opinion they just asked for cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:00 PM
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To be clear, personality and behavior factor heavily into attraction for me (and for 100% of women I know) but if we are only discussing physical traits- yes, I'd say that's a good explanation. The trouble with understanding that basic premise is usually when movements, groups, influencers, etc. try to quantify what that means and boil it down into a fixed set of data. What I personally consider a "nice frame and face" may not be what my sister or my coworker does. Do you think that's why you ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:23 PM
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wow
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:48 PM
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Please dont hate on this im just trying to think of solutions. Much love to all! Says the obvious troll.... but I have a minute so: Should we put virgins into a national registry so everyone then knows who they are and to avoid them? No. In addition to being a fascisistic and creepy thing to do, it's not important, at all. Virginity is mostly a made-up social concept designed to value women as chattel. This is 2024. It's an unnecessary "trait" to track. We could take anyone male who hasn't lost …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:08 PM
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I've never heard of any of those things. Can you share links for each of these? And not just one location or story because exceptions don't prove rules. Can you share data on these spaces existing for most women, most of the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:33 PM
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ah, yes, the "feminist spaces" that are everywhere...gestures vaguely at nothing because that's not a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:27 PM
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Depends on their goal. In general: Goal: relationship Q: What qualities do you see in me that make you unsure about a future together, and what qualities do I have that make you feel confident about partnering with me? Goal: Sex Q: Wanna fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:21 PM
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Men don't dislike the look of makeup. Men who say they dislike it either A. are afraid they are being tricked into finding someone attractive that they otherwise wouldn't or B. don't understand makeup and think when women do a natural/ no makeup look with our cosmetics, that we aren't still wearing makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:17 PM
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it depends on what you mean by "better." No one is claiming that women are more emotionally equipped or more intellectually comfortable with rejection. I don't believe this happens enough to warrant this post, but in the spirit of debate: If you are hearing the message that "men are bad at handling rejection, women are better" it is solely about the actions each group takes after feeling rejected. When women are rejected, the majority tend to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed, then move on. They…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:06 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:56 AM
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40.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:41 PM
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No. We wouldn't be married. He and I had/ have lots of friends in common and have been in the same circles for years. I had seen his picture and thought he seemed like a douche/ jock type, which I am not into at all. He's also younger than I am and we may not have been in each other's age range for OLD (depending upon the app parameters).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:39 PM
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Personally, I think they are. If we're leaving personality out of it/ speaking purely physically, the whole gym thing is a turn on for some women but is usually more appreciated by other men. The only types of bodies I find completely sexually unattractive on men are: Guys who have big, defined muscles (like competitive weight lifters, MMA guys, people who work on muscle definition/ size constantly, etc.). Men who are severely obese. The only "muscle-related" traits I find attractive -across the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:59 PM
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Like OOP, I seriously question the motivations of a man in his 30s who wants to live with college-aged young women, and there's no indication he would be homeless if he didn't live there. He likely had other options. Everyone has a right to feel safe at home and her concerns are valid. Based on the context, OOP has it - in writing - that her housing will be gender-specific. She also has a legitimate reason to feel uncomfortable about living with him. She should be able to use these 2 things to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 11:07 PM
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but the "other stuff" is what is causing women to (not 100% literally) choose the bear. This is not a literal argument about literal bears in the literal woods. I am not sure why so many people are missing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:06 AM
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Girl, look again. I'm the same woman who posed the "all caps emotional response" and I wasn't emotional at all. but thanks so much for your concern. If you think these women are so paranoid and neurotic then why do you care if they are "wrong" about bears? You are the one being emotional about this, not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:31 PM
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So it's ignorance. Got it. Look, women are not typically attacked by men on hiking trails. I think we can all stipulate to that fact. Women are also not typically attacked by bears on hiking trails. Agreed. However, women are attacked by men more frequently than by bears. 1/4 women have not been graped by a bear. There is no recorded case of a bear kidnapping women and keeping them in a basement for decades. Women are not rountinely harrassed or stalked by bears. The whole point is that, general…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:28 PM
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anyone this easy to wind up about something so inconsequential has no business being chosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:19 PM
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be honest, you knew what you were doing when you wore that bacon grease dress again. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:16 PM
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OMG GET OVER IT enough with the Bear thing. It's not literal. It's not about science. Staaaaaaaaap, already. edit also these stats miss the whole point. This data is presented with either bad faith or ignorance
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:12 PM
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You can feel however you like. We are not borg. "We" don't have to all agree to feel the same way about a thing. In the case of cheating: it is my personal feeling that it is one of the weakest, most cowardly things a person can do. It has nothing to do with the spouse and 100% to do with the cheater being an emotionally stunted, noncomminicative pussy. Whether I feel bad for the spouse who was cheated on would be entirely related to their behavior and character.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:11 PM
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I'd prefer cismen don't use the same restroom if they have the option not to. But a lot more places are offering nongendered restrooms and that's not a problem for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 08:06 PM
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I truly do not understand why this is such an obsession for the men on this sub! I don't always choose the bear (in the umpteen iterations) but in this case, given your exact specifications, I choose the bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:34 PM
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everything you said is also neutral. That's my point and it's exactly why everyone is responding back with neutrality. These 4 facts say nothing of this man's (your) character, thoughts or feelings, behaviors, etc. The man I asked you to consider could describe any wholesome family man, but it also describes BTK. Does that clarify things for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:38 AM
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nothing you said makes him either harmless or harmful. Consider this man: Married father church leader works for a security firm making sure people are safe is that guy harmless or harmful, in your estimation? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:30 AM
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these are just facts about a guy. They say nothing about who he is as a person. What is there to consider about him? consider a woman Lives in Manchester Eats food sleeps in a bed ...okay? and...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:26 AM
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Leave me to do my dark bidding on the internet!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:32 AM
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I guarantee every woman you know was sexualized as a child you can't grab any part of another person, sexual or not, without consent
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:35 AM
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If I had actually bothered to thoroughly read 100% of your comments I would hate myself for wasting that much of my time and mental energy. I'll take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:12 PM
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OP This entire~ post: Can you provide proof? No, not THAT proof. I don't accept that proof for some tenuous reason I just made up. Guess I was right, there's no proof. ~edit: OP says it's not ALL of his comments
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:07 PM
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okay, seriously u/wolfloveyes, what is your deal? You talk like the guy from The Room. Are you an alien who is trying to understand humans? Are you from an Eastern block country and learned English from American movies? Perhaps you were literally raised by wolves, mowgly-style. A vampire who shares a flat with 3 other vampires? I genuinely need some context to be able to even kind of understand or engage with your content. What is: a "backbencher" a "restriction order" "getting chewed" And what …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:06 PM
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This is so funny. I mean, thank you. But likely the same men complaining about not finding love would also not want a woman "like me." Our marriage works because we complement and support each other well; and don't expect "traditional gender role" behavior from one another. He is incredibly introverted, thoughtful, quiet, and typically reserved. I'm loud, dominant, passionate, and opinionated. When we buy a car, I negotiate. He's too terrified. He does the laundry every week. We match up well an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:50 PM
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I am asking for clarification in good faith because I don't want to make any assumptions but it does seem like both of you are implying that only some women are able to "love selflessly" and that the rest are incapable. Given that - I have to disagree. Unless someone has experienced some higher degrees of trauma they haven't dealt with or has a mix of several cluster b diagnoses they aren't managing, there shouldn't be any reason a person of any gender can't love fairly selflessly. The other key…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:36 PM
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You don't know what you're talking about. I have read 3. You are projecting your emotional state onto me. I'm quite calm, thanks. If you don't care to know the answer to the question you asked, don't watch the video for the context. It's of no consequence to me, either way. I have no interest in continuing to talk to you for obvious reasons. good afternoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:49 AM
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? edit, to be clear about my question: what are you saying? Some women are incapable of being "good wives" or "loving selflessly"? And that those women don't get married?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:24 AM
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WTF is this? I beg of you, please interact with other humans, personally/ irl. Your ideas about women appear to be solely from fresh n fit -type videos. I don't even know what "examples" to give. I care for my husband so frequently I couldn't possibly list everything. Off the top of my head: My husband has lost his job once and switched careers twice since we got married and I've supported him. When he needed to take a test for licensure, I got the thick book for his field and learned enough to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:13 AM
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I am referencing a quote he specifically says in this yt video and not in any of the books I've read? If an author says a thing outside of his books (in an interview or video), you can't get that information from re-reading his books. That's not how books work. You get that, right? You are making unfounded assumptions based upon your own misunderstanding of the way an author's oeuvre works and calling me "unwilling to learn." ???
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:03 AM
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Not sure what a republican or business people have to do with it?? watch the video/ read about how his work has been used. I'm not in the mood to recap it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:38 AM
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you mean this Frans de Waal https://youtu.be/inx2dMobzYs?si=NAe5-1kibrx0s3ts ..who wrote that book in the early 80s, continued to do more work afterward/ update his findings, disagrees with the way his theories have been applied by republicans and in business (the way most trp men would use the terms, too), and who also says the term came from wolves?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:18 AM
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I don't know...women tend to complement men we feel really sad for when they are trying their best, just as much (if not more than) we complement men we find attractive. like, sad loner guy in the office who finally got a haircut: "your hair looks great! I love it like that." conventionally attractive all-american tall guy: [say nothing because he probably doesn't need any encouragement]
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:56 AM
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who are the 2nd two leaching off of?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 04:52 AM
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