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Going for 18 years olds as a 28 year old is predatory and creepy. “18+ obviously”? Because what? The law says so? If the law said 16 or 14 would that be okay for you?
/r/seduction27/02/26 04:14 PM
1

This is not a sub to find a date. Also you are posting on a sub that’s open for the entire planet, I’m not sure how you expect anyone to know where you are.
/r/seduction19/02/26 11:13 AM
9

Bullying. A lot of men insult women because they think their insults are cute but they are usually not. There is a massive difference between saying “why are you wearing this cheap looking dress, is it from Shein? Lol” or saying “you’re so short it’s really cute”. Even the latter one might not go over well because some women are just tired of those types of jokes. So unless you are 100% sure the joke will be appreciated, don’t do it.
/r/seduction20/01/26 12:35 PM
1

What do you mean too low? Do you think your future will ask you your bodycount and then go “oh ew you’re such a prude”? Because that’s ridiculous.
/r/seduction13/12/25 03:28 PM
5

Personally? Absolutely not. If my boyfriend showed up looking like that I would ask him what the f*ck he is doing
/r/seduction09/12/25 04:14 PM
2

That’s why I specified with the big headphones. Of course you still need to read the room, body language is very telling if someone is just waiting somewhere relaxed or if they might be stressed or uncomfortable. If she is just taking a leasurely stroll through the park with some music on then she will more likely be open to be approached than if she was trying to rush to work. You just need to be able to read some body language
/r/seduction13/11/25 09:25 PM
3

Great job on having the courage to approach and being respectful. For the future I would advise you to not approach people who clearly do not want to be bothered. Headphones in public are a pretty clear “leave me alone” sign, especially if they are the big over ear ones and not just small earbuds. You will end up demoralised by all the rejections if you approach women like that. I would also suggest to not lie or straight up ask for someone’s name. Everyone knows you wanted to ask her out and yo…
/r/seduction13/11/25 07:51 PM
1

Being exclusively into younger people is a red flag. It usually points to you being either extremely insecure or a predator. Either way you aim for more naive people who cannot spot your bullshit until it’s too late
/r/seduction30/10/25 04:40 PM
2

Clearly, stooping down to personal insults makes you very adorable. Can’t imagine why a woman would not want you for life.
/r/seduction29/10/25 12:09 PM
3

Don’t come at a scientist will bullshit made up sexist “facts”. Historically men are absolutely not grounded. How many wars have women started over bullshit reasons? How many bar fights do women start on the regular? Which gender has statistically the most serial killers, rapists, terrorists, etc.? Don’t tell me women are volatile when you all do this shit way more than us. And what you describe as grounded is just most of you being completely emotionally unavailable and inexperienced. No thanks…
/r/seduction29/10/25 08:41 AM
5

No I’m not single and my boyfriend actually knows that women are people, he doesn’t play weird mind games and he doesn’t go bragging around about dating some baddie with 100k insta followers. Because he doesn’t have a small ego and something to prove. And no I don’t agree with OP. Sure you should be confident and not needy and take care of your looks. That’s not rocket science. But pushing the narrative that women just say no as a test? Absolutely awful and dangerous. Pushing the constant domina…
/r/seduction28/10/25 09:58 PM
17

As a woman seeing posts like these where men make seduction into this whole protocol and rule list gives me the ick. It shouldn’t be this hard and a whole science just to be respectful to women and show some basic human interest without being a needy child.
/r/seduction28/10/25 04:16 PM
1

Why is it your business what other men do in bed? If you don’t like it don’t do it, but don’t tell others what they can and cannot do during sex.
/r/seduction25/10/25 08:59 PM
2

I’m good. I know the difference between passion and love. I have both and my boyfriend and I are very happy together. Thanks for your oh so genuine concern though.
/r/seduction12/10/25 03:23 PM
6

And that’s why you will be forever alone while other men are out there getting spoilt by a loving partner.
/r/seduction12/10/25 02:31 PM
-1

Don’t give explanations or background. Just say you just want sex. No extended texting conversations where you get to know each other. No dinner dates. Etc.
/r/seduction16/09/25 07:35 PM
-18

Why would you date a woman 10 years younger or specifically look for younger women? It’s creepy and predatory.
/r/seduction17/08/25 07:22 PM
5

Many people are still stuck on the social norm that the man should be older and that men mature slower than women. So having a small age gap of even just 2 years can seem like a bad idea to many women. Honestly I nearly rejected my now boyfriend too when I realised he was younger than me. It’s only 2,5 years, but still. We met in our early / mid twenties and I got scared at our age the age gap might be too big. Thankfully it all worked out but I would not be surprised if many people share the sa…
/r/seduction17/08/25 01:55 PM
1

If you are honest about your intentions
/r/seduction21/07/25 02:51 PM
5

If you’re not interested in her then stop seeing her? You don’t male yourself interested in people just like you don’t decise whether you fall in love with someone or not
/r/seduction21/07/25 01:00 PM
8

I was pursued by two men once. One of them is my boyfriend now. He told me the other dude would deliberately get in the way of him pursuing me. I didn’t notice this at all in that moment, only now looking back, but yep you’re not the only one. The craziest thing is this other dude didn’t even want a relationship, he just wanted a FWB type thing. I will never understand. Hope it works out for you.
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:04 PM
3

There is not much to tell. Go home and see if you can maintain 4 months of texting and calling. Either one / both of you lose interest in that time or you just end up liking each other more, excited to date in person again when you get back. If you two are a good fit it will work out.
/r/seduction28/05/25 08:54 AM
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You need to calm down. A kiss is not necessary on a first date. Many women, myself included, prefer not to kiss a stranger we have known all of 2-3 hours. Not kissing says absolutely nothing about whether she enjoyed the date and want to see you again. It’s completely normal not to want every single stranger you just met in your personal space. If you knew she went out on new dates with tinder dates once a week and kissed all of them you would probably think she is too loose and easy. So just re…
/r/seduction06/05/25 09:16 AM
73

The only time I would ever be rude is if a man repeatedly did not accept my rejection / disinterest or if he was disrespectful / creepy.
/r/seduction19/04/25 04:02 PM
2

If all you want is to fuck then go ahead, a lot of people deal with relationships ending with hookups and considering she is flirting with you she might be into it. If you want a relationship then figure out the details of her relationship ending and how she feels about it.
/r/seduction14/04/25 02:47 PM
1

Then communicate. Tell her clearly no to a relationship but you would like to be friends. Either she accepts that or she doesn’t and you will have to let her go. Stop leading her on, it’s selfish.
/r/seduction14/04/25 09:26 AM
11

Then tell her no and stop talking to her? What is so difficult here?
/r/seduction13/04/25 07:47 AM
2

She already made it clear she does not want to date. Now after letting some feelings through you have the brilliant idea to tell her how you are seeing someone else. Naturally she is upset and distances herself from you because this just validated it for her that she should not develop feelings for anyone, it clearly only ends in disappointment for her. And now you want to confess your feelings to her? It’s just going to make you come accross unserious and validate her aversion more. Because no …
/r/seduction15/03/25 11:48 AM
1

Then get a dating app. This is not a subreddit to find someone to date.
/r/seduction27/01/25 12:54 PM
5

Why in the world is it so fricking difficult for you to accept that a woman is not attracted to you and to respect her no? Jesus Christ. This girl has told you no numerous time and multiple different ways, do you have any idea how disrespectful you are being to her by completely disregarding her no and constantly sexualising her against her consent. What is wrong with you??
/r/seduction11/12/24 09:40 PM
4

Okay and how many men do you know that actually use filters, have knowledge of things like lighting and posing and edit their pictures? Women do that quite often yes, but i have not seen a single man use photography tricks or editing to their advantage.
/r/seduction16/11/24 03:47 PM
0

Did I say looks don’t matter? No. Stop putting words in people’s mouths. I’m not here for you to take your frustrations with women out. This trend of starting arguments with strangers because you somehow feel personally triggered by a comment that has nothing to do with you needs to stop.
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:10 PM
5

It was just an example to show you how harshly you are judged on dating sites, while things like this don’t even matter when you meet someone in real life
/r/seduction15/11/24 10:35 PM
61

No, generally people are more attractive in real life than a picture. In real life you can see people move, start to smile genuinely, look impressive, you can see how to talk to you and others, you can determine if they give off safe or creepy vibes etc. In a picture on a dating app you can get swiped left on by everyone simply because they don’t like your batman poster in the background.
/r/seduction15/11/24 10:00 PM
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The things is though why would we meet up with some random dude? Instagram is not a dating app and you can’t expect to just slide into someone’s DMs, do absolutely nothing to interest them in wanting to get to know you and just expect them to give up their time to meet some random man who most likely doesn’t even have a profile picture. Women don’t owe you a whole date just because you decided to say hi to them. I can also assure you that we all know we are not some special flower and you just c…
/r/seduction10/11/24 01:42 PM
6

Or crazy concept: some people literally are just friends. That must be baffling to you since you somehow cannot imagine why anyone would hang around the opposite sex simply because they enjoy their personality, but funnily enough there are millions of people who do just that on a daily basis. I pity anyone who has ever dated you because you clearly don’t see women as actual human beings and just as some attractive sex object who unfortunately have a very annoying personality. Sucks to be you the…
/r/seduction12/10/24 12:21 PM
1

Same thing. A woman or man who doesn’t want to date an indian because they are just not attracted to them will not change their mind just because you put “black” in your bio. Either you are attractive to someone or you’re not. If you think putting “indian” in your bio leads to negative prejudices, which is possible, then just leave it out but don’t lie. Personally i think it’s very easy to tell indians apart from black people, not because of skin color i know many indians are very dark but simpl…
/r/seduction02/10/24 10:26 PM
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Because it’s a lie? People who would swipe left on you because you put “indian” in your bio do not want to date an indian. You think they will magically change their mind when you show up and they can clearly tell you are indeed indian? You’ll just waste each others time at best. At worst you are ruining any potential relationship because noone wants to date someone who can’t even be honest about their ethnicity. If you lie about something like that, what else are you lying about?
/r/seduction02/10/24 10:17 PM
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Stop telling men on reddit to not accept a woman’s no. No is no and the fact that you still got laid with consent is an exception. Don’t teach the incels on here to rape women because deep down we want it. A no is not a game, it’s a no.
/r/seduction03/07/24 08:22 AM
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If every woman has been harassed, assaulted or raped in her life at least once there are too many predators. If you don’t see an issue with it you are part of the problem. You’re not even affected by women being on guard and cautious and yet you’re acting like you’re the victim. It’s time you get a grip.
/r/seduction20/05/24 07:44 AM
3

Okay and?
/r/seduction20/05/24 07:41 AM
16

Because we are not blind? You don’t need to stare into my eyes for me to see that you’re looking at me. It is rational to be on guard because we don’t know you and your intentions and there are far too many men who are predators. If it bothers you that those men give the rest of you a bad reputation then do something about it. It’s not our fault your gender is acting like this but we bear all the consequences. No it’s not all men; but nearly all women have been assaulted or harassed.
/r/seduction19/05/24 10:03 PM
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I honestly think it was because of the way you did it. I can tell you as a woman myself we are very aware if the people who are with us on public transport and get off with us on the same station and we also notice if you notice us. Even if you don’t make eye contact. She was very likely already on guard because a guy looking at her got off at the same stop and then was walking behind her. And then you approached her. She was scared and stunning you with a fuck off allowed her to get away. So fo…
/r/seduction19/05/24 07:45 PM
24

😂
/r/seduction17/05/24 04:35 PM
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Right cause women have no other purpose or hobbies in life than thinking about how to get a man and how to play with them. Absolutely ridiculous.
/r/seduction29/04/24 04:18 PM
34

You’re an idiot and you have no class. Going after a taken woman? And then expecting her to not cheat on you if she is willing to cheat with you? That’s just stupid.
/r/seduction22/04/23 08:58 PM
4

I think that goes both ways. I’m currently doing my Master and plan to do a phd later on. When i tell this to the men on dating apps or even on dates some are impressed and really hype me up and then there are some who ghost me as soon as i tell them what i do / plan to do. It sucks but it’s a pretty good way to figure out early who is worth your time since it’s one of the first topics that come up when you meet someone. Not everyone is looking for a well-educated / ambitious / intelligent / etc…
/r/seduction19/09/22 11:29 AM
2

I don’t agree with all the ’fuck her’ on the first date stuff to keep her interested, BUT all your dates were pretty much the same. From date 2 onward you just stagnated. You don’t need to have sex but do something. The fun part of dating is not just getting to know each other but also growing more comfortable and confident in their presence and touching each other more. That doesn’t mean putting your hand straight into her pants but you can cuddle, you can make out, touch her over her clothes o…
/r/seduction07/09/22 03:45 PM
5

She outright told him she wanted to take it slow and was resistant to his advances. He pushed her into it anyway. It’s not the same as a girl kissing you and helping you undress, aka actively showing you she wants this too.
/r/seduction06/09/22 08:03 AM
2

I started dating a guy once and i really started liking him. Didn’t want to jump into anything because i’m not the type to rush but he only told he was absolutely not looking for anything serious right before we were about to have sex. By that time i was already kind of invested in him and i was still a bit naive so i went along with it anyway. Looking back i feel like it was a dick move on his part to meet me so often and not say anything. So if you’re set on being casual tell that person strai…
/r/seduction05/09/22 04:48 PM
42

Maybe not rape exactly but the way she said that she wants things to go slow, sat far away until told otherwise, she was resistant when he touched her boobs, etc. and he didn’t respect it at all but kept pushing and pushing until she gave in just doesn’t sit right with me. He showed her repeatedly that he doesn’t respect her boundaries so i wouldn’t be surprised that she felt uncomfortable/scared to outright say no to sex. Meanwhile he’s proud as hell. I feel sorry for her.
/r/seduction05/09/22 03:59 PM
8

You were way too harsh. It sucks she cancelled but sometimes things come up unexpectedly. It happens. You acted like you were better than here and like she was a terrible person for cancelling 1 (!!) time. What’s the point if you talking to her again? Just let it go.
/r/seduction26/08/22 12:42 PM
3

That could be taken as insulting. I would say don’t do it at all. Many people take pride in their career or are even insecure about it and ‘teasing’ them will not have the desired effect, aka flirting. Showing interest will get you much further.
/r/seduction25/08/22 09:53 PM
1

This whole thing is confusing. Who is she to you? Why do you know she’s planning to have sex with someone else? Why are you okay with it? And why is there even a nudist couchsurfer? I feel like you live in a completely different universe than me.
/r/seduction23/08/22 10:10 PM
2

If someone just facetimed me randomly, assuming it’s not one of my best friends or family, then i will not pick up. I wouldn’t even pick up if it was a normal call. Why in the world would you call a woman you’ve never met with no warning? People are not just ready to chat and ogle you all day, we’re busy and not in the mental space to entertain you when you please.
/r/seduction22/08/22 09:12 AM
3

3 months is nothing. If you really want to see changes you need to eat right and workout for a long time. You can’t be impatient when it comes to things like this.
/r/seduction21/08/22 02:35 PM
107

Tell her exactly this, that you don’t mind her having pubes but you’d like to go down on her. If that is something she wants too you’d prefer if she shaved that day as you don’t want hair in your mouth. Then it’s still her decision if getting oral is important enough for her to shave or not.
/r/seduction21/08/22 10:07 AM
2

Well what do you want? What’s your goal of dating her if you don’t want to text her or tell her anything about yourself?
/r/seduction18/08/22 07:20 PM
1

What do matches help you if they all leave once they see you in person because you are not who you said you are?
/r/seduction29/07/22 12:48 PM
2

Let’s say that’s true even though it isn’t, if you actually were too ugly then your plan wouldn’t work anyway. How do you expect a woman to be super turned on and want to have sex with someone ugly? Because we won’t. And not because you’re actually incredibly ugly but because this massive insecurity you have is incredibly off putting. There is nothing more attractive than a confident well put together man.
/r/seduction28/07/22 10:28 PM
1

It honestly sounds like you have never dated a woman ever. Nothing wrong with being inexperienced, but adjust your expectations. Guys have a much harder time to get matches on tinder than girls. If you look completely different on your pictures and you’re catfishing people you also won’t have any luck. If you have indeed zero experience with women you can’t expect to have one match, sext with that girl successfully, meet her at her place and fuck her into oblivion. I just won’t happen. You won’t…
/r/seduction28/07/22 08:50 PM
42

What is there to tell? You have feelings for a woman. Either act on it or don’t.
/r/seduction24/07/22 10:08 AM
1

I wouldn’t do that to someone i only see as a platonic friend. She was probably testing the waters to see how you react to being touched by her, it was flirty.
/r/seduction21/07/22 10:46 AM
5

Because this isn’t about lying. This is about feeling cornered and pressured. You have no idea what it feels like to have to tell a man you barely know no. Plus she might not be sure yet and need a few minutes at home to think about it.
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:33 PM
3

Ask immediately, if you wait a week it will seem like you are not interested in seeing her again
/r/seduction13/07/22 04:30 PM
6

I wouldn’t like it. Because i would say yes even if i wanted to say no. Saying no would make it incredibly awkward. Just send a text after the date and if you get rejected it’s much easier for everyone involved if it happens over text
/r/seduction13/07/22 02:04 PM
2

You don’t have to say much, you can just say you’ve noticed her and if she would give you her socials to meet up or workout together sometime. It’s pretty obvious why you approached her so no need to beat around the bush for half an hour
/r/seduction12/07/22 10:04 PM
5

Seems like you have to sit down with him and just him him with ‘the sex sucks for me’. Maybe he doesn’t realise how bad it is for you and to him what you’re telling him is ‘just’ things he could do to improve but it’s already okay. Sometimes people need to be told point blank even if it hurts their ego
/r/seduction12/07/22 06:50 PM
1

It’s easiest if you’ve already spoken to her, by for example asking if you can use a plate from her squatrack or how many sets she has left. You can determine if she seems friendly and open to talk by that and then later go up to her and ask for her socials
/r/seduction12/07/22 04:58 PM
3

I’m also not a super touchy person unless I date someone. I don’t hug people unless it’s for their birthday or the expected hello/goodbye. I don’t randomly touch my friends when speaking to them or comforting them. I don’t cuddle with my friends. It’s just not something I crave. When I date someone though I could be touching them 24/7 and it wouldn’t be enough. I guess love languages can differ depending on your relationship with who you’re interacting. And that’s fine. You don’t owe other peopl…
/r/seduction10/07/22 11:37 AM
1

Nothing? She acted normal because it wasn’t a big deal to her
/r/seduction02/07/22 11:03 AM
1

Don’t use instagram as a dating website, so don’t DM random girls you’ve never met. If you know her in real life or you’ve actually seen her around you can contact her but otherwise use an actual dating website.
/r/seduction27/06/22 09:01 AM
3

Because she has no interest in talking to you. You used her birthday as a way to slide into her DMs. She was polite in saying thank you but she doesn’t owe you a conversation if she isn’t interested in you
/r/seduction26/06/22 07:04 PM
1

Monkeypox are not an STD. And true herpes can spread even with a condom though it does offer protection and anybody with some common sense wouldn’t have sex with someone who has obvious sores indicating an active outbreak.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:15 AM
0

Just no. You’re trying to deflect and turn this around on the woman when all it does is make you look stupid. If you were that concerned for your health you wouldn’t do hookups, much less unprotected ones. Because if you used protection her lying about her STD status really wouldn’t matter.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:51 AM
1

You view having sex for 5 minutes as more important than not completely destroying another person. You’re playing with their feelings, mental health and confidence just to get 3 pumps and an orgasm. Not sure i ever heard anything more desperate and pathetic.
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:28 AM
3

If hooking up is all you want to do and you don’t care about being respected sure. Women aren’t stupid. We can also see someone as only worthy of one night and nothing more
/r/seduction23/06/22 10:48 PM
4

There is a difference between confidence which is very attractive and arrogance which is a complete turn off
/r/seduction23/06/22 10:37 PM
10

Being humble is also very attractive
/r/seduction23/06/22 10:08 PM
1

I think the best thing to do is build a community elsewhere, such as here on reddit or even on instagram and tiktok and then get those followers to support your OF. Otherwise you will have a really hard time getting an audience and getting paid will be even harder.
/r/seduction23/06/22 01:02 PM
26

As a girl I can just tell you that I appreciate every single guy that ever had the courage to approach me, even when i said no. I still remember every single one of them. You need to be aware that you might not be the girls type or maybe she’s already dating someone or maybe there is another reason and you won’t get told why it’s a no. But it’s still great that you try. I recently got approached by someone in my gym and now we’re texting and working out together sometimes. No idea where it will …
/r/seduction22/06/22 09:03 PM
5

It’s not about being oblivious it’s about preference. Some women prefer keeping the first date very distanced and others want to hook up after 5 minutes. The thing is you need to know which your date prefers, so learn to read body language and social cues. If there is zero chemistry to begin with touching her is not going to improve that. If there is sure you can build on it with a touch, but it’s also something that can wait until the second date. If you ask her out again it’s pretty clear you’…
/r/seduction22/06/22 05:20 PM
1

Okay so yes the face matters. BUT, not having the strongest jawline because you’re not super skinny is not the biggest factor. You go to the gym so you know a lot of men there do cutting and bulking. When bulking they all also gain some fat in their face, it’s inevitable. Are they suddenly considered unattractive because their jaw isn’t as sharp as a knife? No. What matters is the whole package. Maybe your jaw isn’t your best feature at the moment, but i’m sure you have other attributed that mak…
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:10 PM
2

If you are confident in yourself and not desperate/clingy/insecure/… then yes you will be more attractive. It’s not a guarantee that you will ‘score’ though. Women still have their own preferences and if they aren’t interested they just aren’t. But at least you’re not ruining your own chances.
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:08 AM
1

How are you so sure she’s not interested because you haven’t had sex. She has a boyfriend. Maybe you interpreted the ‘flirting’ wrong.
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:04 AM
6

If she asked she could probably tell. The fact that you’re a virgin is not really an issue, but a lot of men who don’t have much experience let that inexperience take over their personality. I get it because there is a lot of pressure. However, the impact it has on your character is usually what’s off putting. It creates very visible insecurities as well as sometimes desperate and clingy behaviour. Possibly your jokes are affected by it as well. Someone who is confident in themselves and their s…
/r/seduction13/06/22 06:37 PM
9

Weird how? To us it doesn’t matter how good you look, if you creep us out and we feel uncomfortable with you we don’t want to date you. Something about your behaviour must be off putting but you’ll havw to be more descriptive if you want help in improving
/r/seduction13/06/22 05:29 PM
171

‘She never does this’ right. I probably also wouldn’t tell the guy i’m about to hook up with that i do this every day with somebody else. How else would you get someone to use no protection unless you tell them you never hook up and that’s why you can only be clean? If you ask me you dodged a bullet
/r/seduction10/06/22 06:49 PM
1

Kind of i guess. When i was younger i was kind of needy, got upset easily when i wouldn’t get enough attention from a guy, such as when he wouldn’t reply fast enough and then i would get insecure, i would bring up my issues to make him pity me, etc. Kind of pick me girl behaviour all because i was not confident in myself. Worked on my confidence and now i’m not like that at all anymore.
/r/seduction02/06/22 09:58 AM
2

Didficult to answer without context. If it’s a random dude of course i would not appreciate it. If we’re dating and comfortable with each other then i don’t feel like he needs to ask to touch my thigh no.
/r/seduction20/05/22 01:14 PM
4

Personally I would only be shy if I like the guy and care what he thinks of me
/r/seduction30/04/22 03:53 PM
3

While it’s childish behaviour making your partner jealous can stem from being uncertain of how they feel about you and wanting a reaction. Seeing your partner jealous will be proof they care, so maybe try to talk to her about that? Find out if she doesn’t feel loved enough and what she needs
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:45 PM
2

By learning to have some respect
/r/seduction20/12/21 10:09 AM
8

She probably realised during the arcade games that she didn’t feel anything romantic for you so she wanted to head home after or maybe she was actually tired. You pushing to come over after she mentioned she was too tired to continue the date must have already put her off and then you kept pushing more. She pretty much ghosted you for nearly 3 weeks after because she’s not into seeing you anymore, because noone is that busy that they can’t reply for 3 weeks. Then you bombarded her which makes yo…
/r/seduction26/11/21 08:37 AM
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Is this on a date or in a random every day setting? Because on first dates I’ve definitely said things like that. Not outright ‘we’re not having sex’, but i’ve made it clear he’s not coming home with me or vice versa.
/r/seduction01/11/21 10:15 AM
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No? Why would it be hot or a turn on knowing that someone else struggles with their confidence? Being confident both with your personality and your body is hot.
/r/seduction20/10/21 12:17 PM
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A lot of women also take the pill for health reasons. That could be acne or to control the period in cases of very heavy flow or very painful cramps. Maybe she still takes it from her last relationship and doesn’t want to stop and start again since that can be difficult for the body. There are a number of reasons why she might be taking the pill. You should still use a condom though, the pill doesn’t protect against STDs.
/r/seduction10/10/21 07:20 AM
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Honestly it just sounds like she’s a bit awkward and shy. I’ve been in her position before. Meeting a guy for movies at my place. Him initiating cuddling and me going along with it. After the movie ended i just felt kind of awkward because i didn’t know what to do so i just got up from the cuddling position and was sitting a bit further away from him. I wasn’t against kissing him I just didn’t know what to do or how to act. He eventually came closer again and kissed me, which I realised not ever…
/r/seduction05/10/21 01:08 PM
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I didn’t say looks don’t matter. I said presentation matters. Someone who doesn’t naturally look like a model can achieve a lot simply by taking care of themselves, dressing well and being confident.
/r/seduction03/10/21 08:28 AM
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‘The game’ some men have is how they carry themselves and not so much their genetics. Men like that often care about their physical appearance, so they have a sense of fashion, their hair is styled, maybe the even work out. They are confident, not in an arrogant ‘i’m better than everyone’-way, but they know they don’t have to hide themselves or be embarassed about themselves. For them talking to a woman seems natural and casual and that energy they give off is picked up unconsciously. So while t…
/r/seduction03/10/21 08:11 AM
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Childish much? How about you stop playing games and actually act like a 25 year old?
/r/seduction14/07/21 09:04 PM
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You don’t need to have sex with someone the first time you meet them if you’re not comfortable with them. It’s perfectly fine to wait for someone you feel attracted to and comfortable with and to wait a couple dates or even longer until turning things sexual
/r/seduction20/06/21 09:40 PM
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If i was her i would like to know, because if you indeed can’t get hard or lose your erection it’s very likely she will take it personally and think you’re not attracted to her and then both of you are embarassed and awkward.
/r/seduction14/06/21 12:03 PM
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You don’t want to so no. Why would you force yourself to have sex? Just go on a couple dates with other guys and if you feel like having sex with them do it and if not don’t. There is nothing wrong with not having sex.
/r/seduction06/06/21 03:40 PM
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Doesn’t seem like she’s into you at all, noone is on their phone that little and replies that slow
/r/seduction27/03/21 12:01 PM
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I don’t think this is the right subreddit and it can be easily googles what happens if you smoke. The most common issues of smoking are lung issues, like cancer, bronchitis, shortness of breath,... and cardiovascular problems, which can lead to strokes, heart attacks,... It can also lead to fertility problems, a higher risk for diabetes, a weak immune system, problems with your vision, dental problems, etc. Those problems don’t appear after only a couple weeks or months of smoking but over a lon…
/r/seduction25/03/21 01:19 PM
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You are way too fixated on something insignificant. I’m dating a guy that’s thin at the moment and I’m not gonna reject him because his legs are ‘too thin’. Noone is dating anyone for their legs. And i’ve never seen someone’s legs and thought they were repulsive or disgusting.
/r/seduction10/02/21 02:45 PM
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It doesn’t really matter what we think. Some people get into relationships quickly, others take longer. What’s important is that you figure out what the girl you’re dating thinks. If she is the type to take longer it could seriously freak her out if you asked her now, speakkng from experience here. Oftentimes guys develop feelings quicker than girls, so just make sure your enthusiasm doesn’t blind you to the fact that she might be uncomfortable with the pace. If you’re sure she feels the same wa…
/r/seduction05/02/21 04:36 PM
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Of course, think of Vin Diesel, Jason Statham, The Rock,... Honestly I think it’s better to just shave it off than trying to hold on to the fine hair that’s left.
/r/seduction08/01/21 11:44 PM
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Yeah that’s completely normal. A lot of people don’t have any desire to kiss someone they just met. I usually see a first date not as anything romantic or sexual but just as an opportunity to see how we get along and if i want to meet them again. For me that has nothing to do with being shy, i just don’t want to be kissed at that point.
/r/seduction31/12/20 10:34 AM
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Doesn’t matter. What matters is if she’s interested in you, you don’t know what she’s attracted to so just go for it.
/r/seduction25/12/20 11:14 AM
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What kind of question is that? Of course there are single women out there but just because they are single doesn’t mean they are interested in dating you and no matter how nice you are we girls have learned that the easiest way to let someone down is saying we have a boyfriend. A lot of guys don’t respect a no otherwise and it keeps us from hurting a guy’s ego. I’m pretty sure not all 7 of those girls actually had a boyfriend and expecting someone to be in a relationship just because they are pr…
/r/seduction18/12/20 04:05 PM
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It helps if you start the date off with a hug, that way you broke the barrier already. You can also practice touching the other person briefly when making a point or when you’re laughing. The rest kind of depends on which situation you’re in (are you in public or at home for example) and how well you know each other (i wouldn’t go straight for hand holding on a first date).
/r/seduction11/11/20 10:04 PM
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I’m not gonna give a no as an answer but from my experience people like this often become clingy once they start dating a girl because they have nothing else jn their life that’s exciting or taking their focus and clinginess is extremely off putting. At the risk of sounfing harsh it’s also not very interesting when you have nothing to offer, if you have no hobbies or interests and just stay home all day every day you’re not going to attract anyone, looks only get you so far..
/r/seduction27/09/20 09:18 PM
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Yes we cuddled on the first date already and on the second we kissed
/r/seduction24/09/20 07:14 AM
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I’m at the same stage with a guy, seen him twice (for nearly 24 hours each time) and been texting for weeks and while I do enjoy when he shows me affection or support that is unusual for someone you haven’t known that long, I would not appreciate him showing up unannounced or buying me something as a surprise. It’s just too much in my opinion, because I do not develop feelings that quickly and it would just make me feel pressured. I of course can’t speak for the girl you’re seeing, maybe she’s d…
/r/seduction23/09/20 10:28 PM
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A little nervousness is cute. I take it as a huge compliment when I make a guy a little nervous. If you're a complete wreck however and it's just awkward then I'm uncomfortable and I wish I could get out of the situation.
/r/seduction18/09/20 10:00 PM
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Wow, getting kinda obvious why you’re not getting laid. Seriously, no girl will jump you if you refer to us as ‘hoes’. We are not there for your pleasure or self gratification we are actual human being with feelings and standards. I think the other commenter is right and you could benefit from therapy, to just for your screwed up view but also for your own self image.
/r/seduction08/09/20 01:07 PM
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With that attitude you won’t. Too many people are linking their self-worth to whether they are a virgin of how often they get laid, that thinking needs to stop, there is so much more to life than sex. Now as for your picture, that beard quite frankly looks terrible, it looks like you don’t care. It doesn’t matter whether you have no beard, some stubble of a full beard, but you really need to look like you are taking care of your hygiene and at least to some degree care about what you look like.
/r/seduction08/09/20 12:00 PM
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