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You could probably use # of friends to approximate social skills I have 294 friends on Facebook; how am I doing? but they'd have to be "real life" friend Whaaat? Why's that? You mean like not online game friends, right? Bonus points if they're normies. Why? Normies seem to be shit in social situations a lot of the time. They also seem less likely to be a good/true friend to someone
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:58 PM
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Alright, alright describe "social skills" for me. What social skills are these dudes lacking that other dudes have, and are apparently key to being successful with women? And don't say "they're part of a circle." That's not a skill
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:11 PM
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Plus it's hot. So very, very hot That's about the only bad thing I actually have to say about it, but I'm stuck here, so yeah.. Whatever it takes to get the property value down!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 12:00 PM
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In Colorado the state has an abortion fund that can cover the cost of an abortion if you're unable to afford one So does Texas, as far as I know. Of course, my info is almost 10 years old now, so I guess that could have changed.. In Texas to get an iud you need to shell out hundreds of dollars I THINK there's options here. And I'm pretty sure Planned Parenthood will work with you on this. If not, there's still the other forms of birth control. Of course, if you have insurance, all is well That b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 11:13 AM
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Women fought long and hard so a man goes to jail if he lays a finger on us. Solve your personal problems without violence maybe. I think I've clarified my personal stance on violence enough times, I'm not going to keep repeating myself Despite what you or I or anyone out there thinks, there's people out there who don't give a shit. There's people out there who won't tolerate shit talking. There's people out there that you either learn to watch your fucking mouth around, or you accept that there'…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:55 AM
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You got it. That's my point exactly. Sure, there's men that think they're invincible or that no one is going to do anything to them, but just based on my experience, I'd say there's far less men like that than there are women I don't know what you'd call "nonsense," you'd probably have to give me an example. Most men say what they say DESPITE the fear of whatever violence may result It's ridiculous to claim that women have more reason to fear violence than men when men are the overwhelming major…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 10:31 AM
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And this is how men live every day of their lives(except the ones that haven't learned just yet). What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 09:55 AM
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as far as I remember he was saying he used corporal punishment to discipline his wife Link?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 07:29 AM
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So when did you first have sex with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 12:01 AM
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This is the same guy as I was dating a guy who wanted a casual relationship but lied and said he wanted something serious spent money time and effort on me for an entire year and then turned around and said he lied just for the cookie ? I dunno, depends what started that conversation I guess. Were you pushing for something more serious? Or did it come out of the blue? Or..? It's definitely not impossible that a guy would do all of those things just to have some reliable pussy on standby though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 11:52 PM
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The reason would be because most guys expect to have to put in a certain amount of money, time and effort in order to get sex I didn't miss it at all Also, I wasn't trying to be mean or anything, I promise. I'm not saying I agree with the stuff, just that it's kinda how men view things It makes sense to a man that women would be after money. It makes less sense that women would want time and effort. What do you even get out of our time and effort?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 11:24 PM
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Okie dokie
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:22 PM
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I don’t understand so many things. Why don’t other men get mad at other men who created the way women and men interact with each other socially? I mean I always see conversations about Beta and Alpha males. Gender roles, traditional relationships etc. When women actually apply and listen to these social rules MEN have established, they hate it. For example why do y’all get mad at women dating the supposed “rich chad” and not “nerdy socially awkward nice guy”, when you specifically outlined what …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:13 PM
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My brother in Christ, I don’t know what to tell you other than that… you are a social retard. Which part did it? The part where I said to be honest about how the girl looks? Or the part where I said I wouldn't let him get away with saying he doesn't have a picture? Enlighten me so I might fair better in social situations, please
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:29 PM
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Word. Now this has me wondering: what the hell do women say about their bfs when talking to their female friends? Oh that's right, women don't have friends, hah! Kidding, only kidding
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:12 PM
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we only say stuff like this for the boys. Nonsense. Talking like this is a good reminder to the females that you're more interested in fucking your gf than them If you show me a picture of your girl, my reaction is always going to be “wow, she’s fucking hot, good for you” Word? That's kind of fucking lame of you.. You should be honest, man because that’s the only reason you’re showing me that picture Uhh, no? What if I am asking the dude what his girlfriend looks like? What's he supposed to do? …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:24 PM
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Although, maybe he doesn't want to sound very romantic in front of other men, and just say something of common interest among men in general. Specially if he is not with men that he knows very much. So, in the end it shows something he like about her gf, but that doesn't mean that's the only thing he cares about, he can have a deeper love for her, but if nobody cares in the context, so why mentioning it? And no, for me, sex and love are not connected in that way for men, so if a guy only talks a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:13 PM
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To me it sounds incredibly superficial and gives me the impression that the guy is only with her for easy sex and doesn’t actually feel anything deeper than that for her It's just how guys talk. Not all of them, but the vast majority, I think. It doesn't necessarily mean anything, though, sorry Is that a correct assumption to make? No. You'd need quite a few more details than just this one thing. I'm a pretty loving guy and I still talk somewhat like that pretty often, though I'm aware of it and…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:08 PM
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If a man talks about his girlfriend being caring and loving, other men lose respect for this man Definitely not true. I often will gain respect for this man, but rarely will I lose respect for him. I've never noticed or experienced men losing respect for other men over this. I admit, sometimes if a guy is going overboard with this kind of shit, I'll start to think "this guy is brainwashed/pussywhipped like a mofo.. boy is he in for a surprise" I don't think it's a matter of losing respect or any…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 05:56 PM
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why would you spend this time, money and energy on someone and not want anything serious with them and then accuse us of being golddiggers What kind of money are we talkin here? Like bought you a car kind of money? Or took you to dinner kind of money? The reason would be because most guys expect to have to put in a certain amount of money, time and effort in order to get sex. As my dad always told me, "that pussy isn't free, it'll always cost ya" Why would he call you a gold digger in the end? W…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 05:44 PM
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why would you spend this time, money and energy on someone and not want anything serious with them and then accuse us of being golddiggers I've never seen this happen, maybe I'm missing something. Examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 05:40 PM
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abortion rights are overturned Note that this hasn't actually happened
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 05:35 PM
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It’s scarcity mentality that is fierce. Believe it or not, in my own personal experience, scarcity mentality had nothing to do with it the fault with your premise is simple: you think that all relationships must succeed and if not you must force them to succeed. This man, in fact, speaks the truth. In my last shitfest of a relationship, when things were looking pretty grim, I had a few girls interested in me, and I'm sure I could have swapped right over to them (and they woulda been much better …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:54 PM
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just curious, but how much of a social life do you have? I bartend, does that count? because there are a couple of social rules that you seem to be ignoring here. Which rules? I ignore all social rules, but I'm curious which ones you're talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:39 PM
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Additionally you said you don’t understand why as a boyfriend you wouldn’t be invited. This is another example of insecure attachment. This is an example of not being a dummy. Look, the girl in this example doesn't deserve his trust. She's not acting trustworthy. If you trust a girl like this, you're in for bad time
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:31 PM
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You old controlling bastard you! Your comment made this post worth it :) ​ I didn't know him then but she JUST came back to me after 25 years when she broke my heart and now she's gonna go run off to see some guy. It was tense but when she was pressing me why... I just said "I don't want you too" and stood my ground. She didn't go. Later I got to explain all my feelings to her. I damn near cried. What would you have done if she had gone instead of stayed? Don't tell me you woulda told her not to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:29 PM
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If your mates talk to some gals does this mean you've lied to your girlfriend? Yes Why would the boyfriend want to go out to a hen party with no other boyfriends or husbands there? Sounds like a good time to me, I dunno. Personally I find the whole "girls' night," "guys' night" thing to be some weird childish sorta thing that would probably make me not date a girl just because of how goofy the idea is. Or if I'm in a real cynical mood, I'll tell you that "girls' nights" are when women go out and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:13 PM
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they were attempting control based on their own insecurities No they fucker were not. I made the god damn story up, I do believe I get the last word on what the fucking guy was doing. He never shows any controlling behavior. He never acts insecure. He's just noticing that his girlfriend is hiding shit from him, ignoring him, acting out of character/suspicious
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:07 PM
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It's not caring about her, if it was, maybe a text asking " how are ye getting on tonight" and maybe one asking how and when she's getting home would suffice. It's being anxious, insecure and looking for reassurance to the determent of her enjoyment of her time out. That's literally what I said. I suppose I said it in a comment and not in the OP, but yeah, that's what I meant. I'm not even sure what an anxious/insecure text would look like. "Hey sweetie, uhh, you're not fucking anyone else are y…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:51 PM
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I don't need the dumbed down version, it can be as complicated as you want Romantic partners are both adults. No controlling behavior should ever take place. Mutually agreed upon boundaries (as in lots of communication happens before an issue arises) are healthy but individual insecurities are not (your example was rampant with lack of communication and individual insecurities). Partners should be securely attached and trusting of each other. All things that should also be true between parents a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:30 PM
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Do you answer them?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:11 PM
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Hahaha you think my mother treats me that way? Nah, my mom loves me. Yes, I want my gf to treat me the way my mom treats me. Hell, my mom is my standard for what a good woman is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:11 PM
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Yes I do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:57 PM
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Your friends don't text you to make sure you made it home alright?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:54 PM
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Alright, what's the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:51 PM
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As other people have pointed out, this girl probably wouldn't be okay if the guy was going out on guys' nights. Yes, the girl in the example is most likely a poor partner for any guy. Yes, the simple answer is to just leave her ass. But that still leaves her as a poor partner for any guy.. It's hard to see someone you care about be like this, because they're hurting themselves more than anyone, and they're delusional about it. Is there no way of getting through to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:46 PM
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So when do you have to turn off your controlling mode? At what age?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:30 PM
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She tells him no men allowed and then he sees her with men in the pictures
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:29 PM
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I'm astounded
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:21 PM
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Because I don't know what that word means, and people just throw it around like it means something. What's a boundary? What happens when someone crosses your boundaries?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:19 PM
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Yeah sure
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:18 PM
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Because normally she answers and this time she's not and it's around closing time so she might or might not have started driving home already, and you're worried about her..
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:17 PM
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If you need some spark of inspiration, how about this: half of you who outright condemned the behavior of the guy in the example would probably think that your controlling parenting style is not only a good thing, but absolutely necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:16 PM
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If you need some spark of inspiration, how about this: half of you who outright condemned the behavior of the guy in the example would probably think that your controlling parenting style is not only a good thing, but absolutely necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:16 PM
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First of all, this is just an example, don't think of this as the only situation, apply whatever instance of controlling behavior you want Next, I don't see anywhere in this example where the guy is being insecure. The girl is being deceptive, she's being dismissive, she's lying to the guy, she doesn't take him into consideration at all, she is unappreciative of him caring about her, and she has the nerve to call him insecure on top of it all. Why's he stay instead of leave? He probably loves he…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:15 PM
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Please
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:06 PM
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Again, this is just an example, don't think of this as the only situation, apply whatever instance of controlling behavior you want
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:05 PM
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You act like a phone call somehow causes physical pain or something. I think you're just arguing for fun
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:03 PM
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Status: active = checking her phone
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:57 PM
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My posts haven't described the way I act at all. You realize this is a purely hypothetical situation that doesn't involve me, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:56 PM
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Oh my God, that's why the guy is asking if she wants a ride
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:54 PM
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I just said that I was willing to do that. I never said I wanted to monitor anyone. I just find it funny that it wouldn't bother me but apparently it'd bother most everyone else. What's up with people?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:52 PM
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15+15+30=60 minutes. And again, her status shows active, so apparently she's already checking her phone, just not his messages. Don't act like most people aren't checking their damn phones every 3 minutes anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:50 PM
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You think DWIs and drunk car accidents are rare? The fuck world do you live in? Yes, if someone I love is out getting drunk and I know they plan on driving home, I'm going to be sitting there worried until they finally get home. Yes I'd want them to text and tell me they're alright. And hell yes I'd want them to tell me if they were unsure about driving home
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:46 PM
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Oh I don't give a rat's ass about most. Plus what's wrong with extreme?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:43 PM
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You CAN break up for any reason you want, yeah. I think it'd be better if you had some standard you went off of though Hmm, there's been hard feelings in all of my breakups lol. Maybe not on their side, but sure as shit on my side
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:42 PM
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Right but it would have been one text if she had answered the first one. It's not like she had to answer 4 different texts and 3 different calls. It was one question
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:39 PM
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Nope, just wanted to avoid the word boundaries is all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:50 PM
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Tell me how many guys would be okay with multiple texts and callings interrupting their guys night at the bar over the same thing. Uhh, at least one? It was one text, by the way. Just one, if she had answered it. And it wasn't interrupting anything, just check your phone every time you go to the bathroom or something. Also, note the part where she is probably on her phone and ignoring his messages (active status). I mean, we're talking about something like 15-30 seconds out of her entire night. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:45 PM
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You don't care if people literally never trust you and have to watch your every move because they assume you're always lying? Hmm, no, I do care if they trust me, that's why I'd be willing to do that. If you're not willing that means you don't care Or about your privacy at all? No, I don't care about my privacy at all, why would I?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:36 PM
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Oh I wasn't implying both things were controlling, I was implying neither of them were lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:32 PM
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But if she isn't doing anything wrong out there, she's just been accused of cheating. She's gonna get defensive, because any other response feels like admitting to something she didn't do. And then her response looks exactly like what someone hiding their cheating would say, which makes you feel more insecure... It's funny because when I get accused of something that I didn't do (or that I did do, shit), I don't get defensive/standoffish at all. Usually I can see why they might think what they t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:31 PM
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Hmm, no, I'm pretty sure I could tie her up
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:22 PM
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This is all entirely hypothetical. I'm not looking for advice, nor is this a real situation
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:11 PM
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The situation itself is a reason not to trust her..
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:00 PM
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Alright, I wanna take a damn vote in that case
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:57 AM
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How would you actually control her anyways? Tie her up? Not sure what else would work
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:56 AM
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Sounds like the guy is very needy and insecure You gotta be trippin! What? Do what? Please, walk me through how you reach this conclusion from what I said. I can't even.. needy and insecure? You realize he is just making sure she's okay, right? Like, he's worried about her? Alcohol = all sorts of shit can happen? Please, explain this to me. You're not even the first person I've heard say something like this, but you'd be the first to explain it to me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:52 AM
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And what would you say to the good chunk of commenters who don't even think the guy in this story has any reason to be upset?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:46 AM
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I asked if the girl would even have those thoughts, not what she should do about it. It doesn't even matter what she does about it, it's whether or not she actually cares that matters ​ b) leave by herself - and risk never getting invited to hang out at any other events What a bunch of fucking cunts for friends those would be Also, there's always c.) allow your boyfriend to come along
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:38 AM
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Not talking about you, talking about exactly this given example. Feel free to ask him
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:35 AM
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Missing the point.. this is where if you're in the boyfriend's shoes, you just show up wherever these girls are and then go up and talk to them like you're one of these other strange dudes. Then when she gets mad you say "What? Of course there are going to be men here, it's a bar!"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:33 AM
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Controlling behavior is telling her she can't go out with friends and must ask you. ​ Setting a boundary is saying that if you are exclusive you should not be going out independently with the opportunity to flirt and meet other guys. These are the same thing though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:29 AM
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You're missing the point here. Yes, there will always be guys wherever they go. Yes, they will always hit on the girls. WHY CAN'T HER BOYFRIEND GO?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:23 AM
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I'd say the most common reason is because you love them and you really want to trust them. But yeah, just break up and find someone else right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:22 AM
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obviously because when the arrangements were being made, no one mentioned inviting any guys at all. I ain't ever hosted no gender exclusive events, no So the girl from the story, when these dudes end up joining their girl party; she isn't thinking "aw man this is fucked up, I told my bf no dudes and now these bitches have these dudes sitting with us.. they better not put a damn picture up on social media or something?" She just thinks nothing of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:20 AM
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It's just a hypothetical. But I dunno, let's say he trusted her when they got married then. I was just trying to take away the option of just silently cutting the girl out of your life is all. That's a solid option, but I wanted to hear what this dude would do if it wasn't a situation where he couldn't just smoothly exit the stage
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:14 AM
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If he doesn't trust her not to cheat without extreme measures Well uhh.. she's the one who has caused him not to trust her, sooo? You can only improve how you actually treat your partner, not anything they might suspect without proof. Word? Wouldn't bother me to wear a body cam.. I usually react to someone I care about not trusting me with "really? What can I do to make you trust me?"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:13 AM
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Lemme explain. When I meant "a capacity for violence", I mean a willingness to fight and even kill if need be. Historically, men have always been the fighters, hunters, and killers, and men are usually more aggressive than women (Violent crime statistics will back this up). I've always thought of the people that are quick to get into a fight as childish at best. And if they're fighting just because they feel like they have to prove their manliness or something, that dude starts looking a lot lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 11:08 AM
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Then why are they hanging out with other guys?! Are these guys okay to hang out with because.. they're not one of the girls' boyfriends? Or is it because they're strangers? Or what's going on with this deal? Something's not right
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:53 AM
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"Hey, I'm thinking I might go to bed soon, you alright? You going to want a ride home later? Should I set my alarm?" 5, 10, 15 minutes pass, no answer, text again "Everything alright?" 15 minutes again, no answer.. Facebook status: Active. Messages not seen. Text again, "when you see these, let me know so I don't worry." 20-30 minutes pass, nothin'. Alright, time to call. First two calls, no answer. Finally, on the third call she picks up and immediately starts yelling at him for being controlli…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:42 AM
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And guys are there… yeah if it’s a club/bar/restaurant/any public place there will be men there. 50% of the planet is male. Yeah, so why can't he go with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:33 AM
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I think many people conflate having standards and boundaries as being controlling when it absolutely is not. Your example breaks multiple boundaries I have so that relationship would be over. What boundaries are those?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:30 AM
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Why get into a relationship with someone like that and then try to change their lifestyle? Maybe it didn't start happening until later in the relationship. Maybe she got a new job and made friends with a group of girls at work Or maybe you just thought hey, that's normal single girl behavior, but once she's in a serious relationship, that shit's going to be over with
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:24 AM
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I would demote to the streets. Women I fuck/date have to at least carry my respect. How many men only fuck women they respect? lol I do think you're better off doing exactly that, though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:21 AM
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You ARE supposed to be able to trust your partner, it DOES scream insecurity that he dislikes her going out with her friends. People in healthy relationships do need their own space and do deserve to have time with their friends. Find me a man on the planet that trusts the woman in this example
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:15 AM
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It’s controlling to expect your partner to ditch her friends for you He's not asking this And so what if there are men there?! Half the planet is male! But she told him he couldn't go out with her and her friends because it was supposed to be a girls' night. So what's up with the dudes? If they're there, why can't he be there too?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 10:06 AM
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Even if he doesn't like it, tough. She is doing things that have hurt him, and if he still doesn't like her doing activities she likes after making steps to make sure she isn't doing anything wrong, that's his problem. I wasn't seeing him thinking she was cheating as anything that can be fixed by her stopping going out, it was more actively hurting him by ignoring him. Pssshhh, some texts and shit are nice, but that is totally not going to assure the dude. Maybe if she wore a bodycam all night l…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:47 AM
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It might be a matter of "the damage is already done." If she had been ackin' right when she went out from the start, it might be different, but it's too late now But just for the sake of discussion, let's say you're right, the real issue is going out. What's that guy supposed to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:45 AM
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I'm not sure she'll dismiss what you tell her. I'd say you will get hit with a slew of lines like "don't be insecure," "you're supposed to trust me. We can't have a relationship without trust," "you don't need to know everything that I do" "I need my own space sometimes too" "you're being controlling, you're reminding me of my ex!" on and on and on until even you believe you were just overreacting
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:40 AM
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Ahh okay, so let's make it your wife instead of your girlfriend. What then?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:10 AM
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I'll play devil's advocate here Has she even done anything wrong though? I mean, wrong enough to warrant a breakup? And let's be real here; the dude is thinking she's either cheating on him, or planning on cheating on him, right? So if he hits her with the "I want you to text me back, and I don't want you to act irritated when I text, and I want you to let me know when you'll be home, blahdyblah" stuff, even if she does adjust these things, he still ain't gonna like her going out, is he?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 09:04 AM
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Meh I'd keep them around to fuck until eventually I got myself another plate got enough to take their spot. I only have time for probably 3 women at a time, feel 4 and over is a little overkill. My dad always told me 6 was the perfect number. One for every day of the week except Sunday. God said that's a day of rest
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 08:57 AM
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No doubt about that lol. But you're saying it wouldn't work the way it works for the lesbian girls, right? Basically guys can't (or would be better off not) be straight up about want they want to a girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 08:06 AM
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Men with higher IQs want more masculine women, and women with higher IQs want more feminine men. It's not necessarily that they want super masculine women, and super feminine men, it's that they want something more towards the middle. Basically, they're not as attracted to the extremely masculine men, or the extremely feminine women. I don't know exactly why, but if I had to guess, it's because people at those extremes are uhh.. fake I don't know what to tell you on the dominant thing. Dominant …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:21 AM
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They see 'em every other weekend and for a couple hours on Thursdays
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:12 AM
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Indeed, it's become the prevalent attitude among young women, encouraged by institutions who promote that for women, by an educational system that promotes that for women and which is run by women, and by the media that promote the same shit. In the wise words of Eminem: "where were the parents at?" Good parents would negate all of these influences. And of course, bad parents create people who are more susceptible to the same influences I'm not sure if it's the prevalent attitude for sure or not…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:01 AM
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Mostly just the fact that I could have made it worse. I sort of "lucked out" in the sense that I found a steady partner (my fwb). A lot of trauma survivors who do what I did will end up sleeping around with a lot of people, which is not necessarily a bad thing, but it can impact your self esteem, potentially expose you to health risks and safety risks (if they hook up with random strangers), and it can also end up manipulating how you view sex. I'm sure you could easily end up with another shitt…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 03:44 AM
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I don't know what the threshold is for something to be considered "trauma," but from what I can tell by what people online call trauma, I've had quite a bit of my own
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:45 AM
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Note that we're talking about a specific kind of woman here. And that kind of woman has become way way more prevalent like.. over-fucking-night as far as I can tell. I'd say it's just that they're the ones who use social media the most, but I've noticed this shit in real life too. It's crazy, like the damn T virus or something
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:19 AM
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I wasn't insisting anything, I was just asking questions. I suppose what I'm thinking though is that I've known many guys who were in similar situations, or at least the typical sorta bachelor life, and they never changed until they had the reason to change
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:08 AM
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It was not a particularly healthy method, but it's what I did. I should have gone to therapy sooner. What was unhealthy about it? Aside from not going to therapy sooner Currently, I am trying to be more open, with myself and with my spouse. I honestly didn't realize how much I internalized until I had a breakdown earlier this year, and we were both kind of...just surprised, honestly. I was surprised because my dumbass was like, "I've been fine bottling this up for 5 years, idk why I'm breaking n…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:56 AM
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If he's content with his situation, then nothing, I guess. He's just not a good suitor for a woman who wants to build a family. But what if he is? What would a good suitor look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:47 AM
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I checked that out, and it left a lot of questions unanswered so I went over to the ol Wikipedia and I saw this: "Acceptance of asexuality as a sexual orientation and field of scientific research is still relatively new,[2][11] as a growing body of research from both sociological and psychological perspectives has begun to develop.[11] While some researchers assert that asexuality is a sexual orientation, other researchers disagree.[4][5] Asexual individuals may represent about one percent of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:44 AM
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Man you gotta be cumming just air by the 4th+ time in 30 minutes, eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:26 AM
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there's no time stamp that says "this person will be comfortable with sex after X amount of time." That's not how humans work. You're right, there's not I mean... good on you for being honest about not being willing to stick around for long term if it takes too long for you, but do keep in mind if you come across someone who has trauma and you pressure them to overcome it in a short amount of time. It's not that I would leave because it took to long for me, it's that I think if if you make minim…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:09 AM
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Yeah, I pretty much agree with you, but there's something about what you said, or maybe how you said it that turns me completely off lol. I don't think I could ever date a girl who uttered those words. Like, what exactly is this dude supposed to change?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:52 AM
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But the issue is they bs, they don’t say this. At least the lesbians I’ve met are open about why they want. Trust me, I know what you mean, and I'm the guy that is actually open about what I want. No way would I recommend that to a guy who cares about his "results" though. I mean, just imagine if a guy came up to you and asked you if he could eat you out? Or you know.. whatever it may be. I suppose imagine a man saying the same thing those lesbians said to you. How well would that work out for h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:22 AM
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Ehh, I think when guys say this, they're actually just asking the question and want to see what women will say. Granted, a lot of the time, they might be just looking for the dumb answers that some women will give because.. well they prolly want to get angry lol. When I see a girl answer this question with "I cook, I clean, blahblahblah, housewife this, submissive woman that," my head hits the desk. Women, when you hear this question, answer with this one word: "love" I dont believe for a minute…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 10:10 PM
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And they will say “cause that’s how I am. Neither peen nor pussy give me the feels.” I guess I would tell them that they're not being very fun, and that that is a pretty boring/lazy answer
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 09:53 PM
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While we don't know the exact reason for our varying sexual orientations, scientists believe it influenced by a mix of genetic, hormonal and environmental factors. So, that is why they are asexual. Same reason you are your sexual orientation, whatever that may be. Yeah but biologically, we all get pleasure from sex/orgasms right? So there must be an actual reason for someone to.. not want to get that pleasure? If you tell me that asexuals enjoy sex/orgasms, they just don't feel any sort of attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 09:46 PM
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Ehh, to me, food water and air are needs, but I am aware I'm just arguing semantics. I know what you mean, I agree with you, I just always have to roll my eyes a little when someone acts like they would literally die without sex
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 09:05 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong but aren't we biologically programmed to enjoy sex? Or at least orgasms? I would think the only way that wouldn't be the case is if your dopamine receptors were all fucked up or something, right? Something tells me that's not the case with most asexuals, so I'd assume something else is going on
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 08:58 PM
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It's not that it's a joke, it's just that it's funny. Why? Because it sounds awful when you put it that way, but really, that's the exact question just about every guy is going to have in that situation, they would just try and phrase it nicely, or not ask it at all
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 08:48 PM
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You're being insufferable. Nobody chooses their sexual orientation. I never said they chose anything. I just asked "why?"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 08:45 PM
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Who said I was straight? You want me to explain why I like women? I can try and do that, sure. You're gonna explain the asexual thing though, right? I'm not gay either, but I would have sex with a guy. I'm not attracted to men the way I'm attracted to women, though (unless they're very feminine I suppose) I don't really know for sure if women/gay men are even attracted to men the same way straight men are attracted to women, I'd love to have that one explained to me as well So why do I like men?…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:51 PM
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Why are you straight? Who said I was straight? You want me to explain why I like women? I can try and do that, sure. You're gonna explain the asexual thing though, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:21 PM
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It's just being funny, I don't really mean it the way it comes off. But there's not really a good way of asking that question so yeah, I just go with the most blunt option. It's like a joke but also pretty effective at getting the point across. I usually figure if something sounds so extreme no one would ever actually say it, then people will pick up on the humor.. that doesn't always happen
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:15 PM
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Its just really fucking stupid lol. Why are you straight? Uhh.. who said I was straight? Ah you are trolling I see. Yeahh, I'm not trolling, I'm dead serious
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:07 PM
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Because it’s a sexual orientation lol. Yeah, apparently so, but that doesn't really answer the question..
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:05 PM
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1st question - Wouldn’t the answer simply be “I’m not attracted to men or women sexually or feel sexual arousal”. Just like asking a gay guy why he’s gay he’ll probably say “I like to fuck dudes” And then I'd say "why?" How would any potential answer change your mind here? I can't really think of any answer that would change my mind, but I figured maybe someone else could
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:03 PM
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This guy had no idea that was a sexual orientation. I'm the kind of person that would ask a gay guy why he is gay. Is that bad or something? Wow a few weeks? You are all heart. Well, what do you want me to do? Lie? I'm not talking a few weeks from the day I met the girl, I'm talking a few weeks of trying to have sex. Hell, it takes me a few nights of "trying" to have sex before I'm comfortable enough myself, so I can at least sorta understand. I don't think there's any trauma so bad that you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 03:01 PM
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Yeah, I think it makes sense that a lot of them start that way. It's just that I'd bet the girl who isn't at peace with her sexuality doesn't outright say "hey, I'm not really sure if this is going to be my thing or not, but I'm willing to try it out if that's okay with you." Course I'm speaking about shit that's really out of my range of expertise lol. I imagine a lot of lesbians' biggest fear is having their gf leave them for a man. I know it sounds awful to me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:38 PM
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It's not really a NEED but yeah, it's a pretty big fucking WANT
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:24 PM
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Asexuality Okay, but why are they asexual? past trauma If they're willing to work through it together in a reasonable amount of time then yeah, I would be fine with that. A reasonable amount of time is like.. a few weeks maybe? physical reasons I don't know, are all of her holes out of commission or what? I'm assuming this is talking about pussy problems, and in that case, I think we could find something that works
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:20 PM
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Which is why I'd never engage in that kind of thing. Someone was telling me since I started working and have money now (crazy to think, considering ive been in postsecondary education for 7 consecutive years) that I should get a SB, or flash my money to get girls at the bars by wearing a patek or some shit. And I was like... why? I want a girl who likes ME. Not my money The hell is an SB? The hell is a Patek?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:06 PM
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I don't think many people would shun you for not wanting to date a broke unemployed dude who lives with his parents and makes no effort to change his situation. If you would 100% be interested in dating this person, but this is the only thing holding you back.. then I think I would probably shun you, yeah. Particularly if you're in a similar position
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:03 PM
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I really don't see much of a difference between a sex worker and a person who chooses their relationships based on who can financially support them. The first one you're paying for them to leave, the second one you're paying them to stay
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:51 PM
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Correct. That is why I have respect for sex workers and the latter is what I think of as a "whore"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:50 PM
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they have always been more honest with what they want. No games. Men it’s always some game so I can’t tell what they want. Sex. Always sex. How can women still say this? It's always sex. Even if they actually want to get to know you, or they just want to talk, or they are looking for a relationship, or whatever other reason they would have for talking to you.. they also want sex. Always. Now go, use this information wisely
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:41 PM
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What happens when the rich person loses all/most/a lot of their money? Answer that and we'll go from there
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:35 PM
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I guess that would depend on why sex is off the table? What are some reasons why sex would be off the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:30 PM
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and have less chance of having an orgasm with a man than we do by ourselves anyway I never understand this.. Men and women have the same chance of having an orgasm during sex. Why would they be any different? For men the urge to have sex is not so much about the urge to orgasm (although it’s virtually a guaranteed result of sex) it’s the urge to get the validation and submission of fertile females. It fulfils his biological imperative plus boosts his ego and social standing to have sex with wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:13 PM
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The #1 reason anyone even goes to a party is because they want to fuck/"meet someone." I don't even know what #2 is, but it's waaaaay below #1 Plus, where you are makes no difference to a man lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:02 PM
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Anyways, as I originally mentioned, the only reason I’d stop at six is because it got physically sore. I’d assume that it’s easier to go longer with a dick. I dunno, at about #5 my dick would already be getting swollen/sore. By 7+ I'm wincing in pain jacking off with 2 fingers asking myself "why am I even doing this to myself? Well, gotta finish what we started.."
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:13 AM
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Lol your in for a reality check mate. I personally let myself get overweight because when I was in shape I had to masturbate close to 18 times a day. My sex drive was through the roof, I noticed when I was fat I would lose desire. Been almost 30 of age and a virgin is miserable specially if your in shape because then you gotta be strangling the goose every few hours. And this is normal because every Men i worked out with I asked them and majority said it was normal, Only a very small minority sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:05 AM
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You’re in for a world of disappointment when you start having sex lmao. Masturbating’s generally better for women Same for men!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:01 AM
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if these men exist, they gotta be mentally ill. why would you refuse to do what you crave and what keeps you sane and manly? Because it doesn't keep me sane, and I suppose I've never felt any desire to be "manly." What does that even mean, by the way?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:01 AM
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I'm thinking this is bullshit.. I was in a 3 year relationship where I had sex at least daily (less towards the end, but I still tried daily lol), then when that ended, I went 6 years without any sex, got in another relationship and went right back to daily sex. Never seemed to bother me, never felt like I had to use any sort of self control I never understood the dudes who would talk like "man I need to get laid soon or I'm going to go crazy." Like.. why? I've been honing the art of beating my …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 10:56 AM
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or you have to stop being their friend They probably never wanted to be just your friend
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 10:38 AM
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Because dating men is more stress than it’s worth How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 10:33 AM
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The women were saying almost the same thing the guys were saying. Only thing added was they were said alot more compliments. And not good ones either. Like nice hair or you are so beautiful. So what was the big deal!? I finally discovered after hanging around these groups long enough that... Women have a very very low threshold for women. Like on EVERYTHING. Like I said. The lesbian women were doing the exact same things the guys were doing. But they got away with it! They would catcall, they wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 10:09 AM
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I never said they were sexy, I just said they meant you wanted to fuck. You're "out on the prowl," or however you want to put it I don't think most men find heels to be sexy. Maybe they're upset that you'd choose to be uncomfortable even though, if anything, you look worse in heels than you would something else. Of course, that leaves the only reason you'd wear them as.. you're trying to say "I want some dick"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 09:41 AM
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I have not made a statement about all men in the world, I have not said that this instinct is present in all men, and I don't care about your curiosity or about whatever scenario or case. And because all living beings have instincts doesn't fucking mean that THIS particular instinct is IN EVERY being there is I was just being a smartass and talking semantics is all, forgive me. "Instinct" by its definition applies to all members of a species, but I understand what you meant. Forgive my smartasse…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:44 AM
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If someone is "friends" with you just because they like the attention they get from you, then that's not much of a friend, is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 06:35 PM
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It's because they want to fuck you but you won't fuck them. So when you show up wearing the "fuck me" high heels, it just pisses them off more, because you're clearly out looking to get some dick, just not their dick. Yet you keep talking to them, so they think "does she want to fuck? She's talking to me, and she's got the high heels on.. she must want to fuck." Aaaand then it turns out you don't want to fuck them. The whole thing is confusing/frustrating as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:55 AM
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Friends are not people you keep around as a source of attention
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 10:02 AM
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So what is the purpose of having your orbiters?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 09:53 AM
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I imagine this has something to do with higher IQ women preferring more feminine men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 09:13 AM
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It might sound weird but that has been my experience so far in life It doesn't sound weird, we have known this since the dawn of time. Where have you been? It's like saying fat girls try harder in bed, or love you more. Duh.. With less attractive, I mean this: https://www.instagram.com/p/BuuVEiDByWQ/ And the more attractive, I mean this: https://www.instagram.com/p/CcToU_oO-dk/ I am physically attracted to both but I guess you get what I mean. You really fucking lost me here though, because both…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 09:00 AM
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I wasn't being a dick when I asked that, I was genuinely curious about the answer, since most of what I see is people saying that men want variety/diversity, and I just don't feel that urge. I'm not taking the high ground, I'm just curious. Pussy is all the same to me, so I'd rather stick with one that's connected to a person I know that I like rather than go out hunting for the sake of variety You are who you are, I don't feel the need to take ownership over the whole world, I never said that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:48 AM
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I'd guess it's because women seem to be slightly more prone to lying to themselves/being delusional. Now, why is that the case? I don't know, maybe because parents shelter girls more than they do boys? (I don't even know if that's true)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 07:57 AM
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Not going to argue pro or against, just adding my own input if useful to the data collection. I cheat because I crave diversity, which is what a lot of men do. It's a biological instinct driving me to plant my seed around and procreate, with beautiful women indicating that they are good candidates for this. But I am obviously modern so I use contraception. I am a male as well yet I do not feel this "biological instinct" or urge you speak of. How do you explain that? I want to have sex every hour…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 12:06 AM
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What would be more interesting to me is to see the difference between men and women cheaters as far as: 1.) Was it a one night thing, or was it an "affair," which I think means an ongoing deal 2.) WHO are they cheating with? Why did they choose this person? I'd love to see women's explanations for why they chose to have an affair with their dude's best friends
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 11:55 PM
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Women typically cited strained relationship. Men typically cited opportunity/hotness. Prolly strained because that bitch was cheating lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 11:44 PM
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I think you're right that most cheaters don't cheat due to a lack of sex. I also think it's pretty obvious that good pussy isn't going to keep a man loyal; if he doesn't care about you, you can have the best pussy on the planet and it'll still have 0 affect on whether he cheats or not. Why would it? Of course, "good pussy" always makes me laugh. It's all the same, there's no good or bad pussy Men were cheating because the opportunity presented itself. Women were cheating because of a strained re…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 11:38 PM
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Again, is that something you actually want to do? Intend to do? Wish you could make happen? Is it influencing your life? How you behave? How you act with the person, assuming you actually know them? Or is the fantasy just something that's guaranteed to make you cum, then you wipe that fantasy right off your stomach and go back to work? Duh, I guess what I'm asking is: are you LUSTING after this person? Or would it just be cool to get to see her naked? (or whatever it is you may be wanting)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 09:40 PM
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Again, is that something you actually want to do? Intend to do? Wish you could make happen? Is it influencing your life? How you behave? How you act with the person, assuming you actually know them? Or is the fantasy just something that's guaranteed to make you cum, then you wipe that fantasy right off your stomach and go back to work? Like I said, I don't really have fantasies like that, so it's hard for me to understand unless someone explained it to me, I guess. The only times I've fantasized…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 09:32 PM
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It’s more than a choice. No, it's not more than a choice. I'm not sure I buy the whole "some people are more attracted to multiple people" story, but it doesn't matter anyway. Who cares what they're more attracted to? You know from the get-go what you're attracted to, but you make an agreement with another person that you both are going to be monogamous. You're monogamous as long as you're only having sex with that one person, right? Your urges have nothing to do with the agreement you made. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 09:22 PM
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Yep.. I really only feel bad if I feel like I did something wrong TO someone, or towards someone, or that affected someone I could allllmost see myself having sex with a married woman as long as I knew absolutely nothing about her husband. I suppose because then he would basically not even exist to me? People who have an affair with their best friend, or any friend's wife, or their fucking brother's wife.. those people are on a whole different level of fucked up that I have yet to wrap my head a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 09:10 PM
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I can definitely do something I consider wrong without feeling ashamed about it. Is "ahh, fuck it" considered a justification? lol If you think your world would collapse and you would be disowned / downward spiral Hmm, I never think like this safety would be jeopardized due to angry spouses I don't understand how no one seems to worry about this part. What the hell? Don't people know this shit is a good way to get themselves killed? Just to be clear, I would never participate in "an affair" or c…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:45 PM
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How is that even possible? Well that's easy to do but maybe hard to explain? I'll have to think on this one You think jacking off is okay but seeing a woman and thinking to yourself "damn she's hot" is wrong? Oh definitely not. I don't see how there could be any harm in thinking "damn she's hot." Maybe because there's no intent involved with that thought? It's the scheming, and the "this is why it would be okay if I did that.. yeah, I would be helping her out. Hell, I might be helping him too!" …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:22 PM
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Is it wrong? Would you feel shame if everyone knew? Then it is probably wrong. Note that if you answer "no" to this question, that doesn't mean that it isn't wrong. I'm pretty sure if I did this, I would feel no shame at all
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:50 PM
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Monogamy is a choice, and an agreement. You are in complete control of whether or not you remain monogamous. There is no "naturally monogamous" or "naturally non-monogamous." That's not how it works..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:57 PM
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Do you think sin starts at the level of fantasizing? (whether you're religious or not, I think the word sin, even though archaic, still applies) "But I say to you, anyone who looks on a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart" "From within people, from their hearts, come evil thoughts, unchastity, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, licentiousness, envy, blasphemy, arrogance, folly. All these evils come from within and they defile." Quotes from no…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:50 PM
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"a woman who feels stifled by the mundane, routine-like family life would feel rejuvenated by stepping out of that restrictive, role-oriented mode for one short, pleasurable moment with a young, exotic lover like me?" Grosssss, dude. Gross.. "I was only the vessel through which the family's already existing problems got to the surface" Aw god, gross! There's definitely an element of "forbidden" involved; I'm doing it despite it being forbidden, and she is doing it because it's forbidden. But is …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:30 PM
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If he thought it was something that needed to be done urgently, he would already be doing it, don't you think? So maybe they just have different definitions of what "filthy" is. I want to enjoy my time at home, and I want peace at home. I do not want to walk around looking for what chore "needs" to be done next Did I make the mess? Is it in your way? Alright, tell me and I'll clean it up. Otherwise, shaddup and go clean it up yourself if it's such a big problem, it wasn't bothering me until you …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 05:50 AM
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And those men probably don't expect you to do any more than they are doing, right? So what's the problem? Either stop doing more than your fair share or stop complaining, it's not complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:52 AM
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You think men would just live in filth? What do you think single men do? Do you think single men are all racing to find a woman to wash their clothes before they get too dirty and they have to buy new ones? Stop doing the chores and your man will inevitably start doing them. Problem solved
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 12:42 AM
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Because you want to. Stop doing the housework and your problem is solved
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 10:02 PM
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Of course we should rethink it. No woman actually believes those videos/pictures are for her man's eyes only. She knows they're going to get spread around from the beginning, and she's fine with it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 09:41 PM
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Hell I'm all for squandering your youth, but when you come out the other side, you can't expect to have waiting for you that person who has been all responsible the whole time trying to build something for themselves. You should expect someone just like you, who has nothing to show for the last ten years except herpes and some good stories. Which is good enough for me, as long as you know that's all you've got and you aren't stuck believing you're God's gift to mankind like all the men who wante…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 09:24 PM
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Surrogate mothers? Hah! I gotcha!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 07:16 AM
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That's 100% not true. The way I understand it, most prostitutes build up a regular clientele and stick with them as much as possible. Everything can be done online now, there's no more need for pimps and hitting the streets and all that nonsense. Naturally, this makes it a lot less appealing for a serial killer, since all you'd have to do is get on her phone/computer and look at the last guy she met up with. The legal part is a thing, yeah, but who is going to call the cops? Not him, and not her…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:25 PM
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Because a person gets more mature, their life more stable, their hobbies, interests, activities in order? Hi there. Actually, I've been doing the whole mature thing this whole time. I find it laughable that people think they can just suddenly decide "alright now it's time to be mature, let me find some mature person to settle down with!" despite having just spent the last 5-15 years being flagrantly immature. Their resumes are really lacking in the "experience" department, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:20 PM
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borderline sociopathic And speaking of which, these girls can fake it for months or even years, no problemo. How to spot on of these creatures deserves a thread of its own One crucial thing to remember, "if it doesn't make sense, it's not true." Never forget it, and apply it to everything
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:10 PM
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It’s up to the guy to decide whether he’s fine not lighting her fire on primal attraction alone or if he wants his mate to be that hot for him and into him. If this is how it worked, then I guess I wouldn't see any problem. But that's not how it works. You're forgetting the part where she lies to him and pretends to be totally into him for as long as it takes to get him hooked in for the long run He's unaware of the whole "she's not very attracted to him" thing until maybe somewhere down the roa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:56 PM
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What I'm saying is: why would the sugar daddy blow so much money on one of these sugar baby girls when he could get the same thing and more from a prostitute? Prostitutes are usually poor and they are afraid of the police( prostitution is illegal). I'ma thinkin' things have shifted a good bit away from this. Not to mention these sugar babies would probably be just as poor if not for their generous benefactors
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 09:13 PM
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Can't be, can it? Why wouldn't they just get a prostitute then? I don't think these dudes are getting a real dating experience, nor are they expecting it, are they? The ones that are getting played are, yeah, but not the ones on the sugar daddy websites and shit, right? I could totally be wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:53 PM
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It should be but for whatever reason mental abuse isnt taken very seriously Sure seems to be taken seriously when it's male on female abuse, right? Really, I think the reason it isn't taken very seriously most of the time is that it's kind of a hard thing to understand unless you've gone through it yourself. And I'd say most men who are going through this kind of shit would never even think for a second that they're being "abused." Sure, she may be a little crazy, or bitchy, or easily angered, o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 05:41 PM
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The obvious answer is that women can get the same thing without having to pay I don't completely understand the appeal of being a sugar daddy, but I think part of it it is that they actually get off on spoiling a girl though, and they just like to spend their money on them for that reason alone, not because they're looking for something in return. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong Now, why don't we see more of that in older, wealthier women? Hmm.. 1.) How do you even spoil a guy like this? Ke…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 05:31 PM
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Oh I don't think I'm ready to accept that just yet.. If movies aren't your thing, feel free to research more leaders throughout history, I'm sure there's plenty of examples. Martin Luther King, J Robert Oppenheimer, Julius Caesar.. I dunno! I figured I coulda stopped at Washington! Someone who prided himself on never crying, though: Hitler!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 04:38 PM
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I guess it depends what list we're going off of? If it's just the basics then it'd be happiness, I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 04:13 PM
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Shit, to me WANTING marriage is always a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 03:43 PM
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From what I've seen in my own life and in the media, I wouldn't be surprised if the real numbers came out to something crazy like 10+:1, female abusers:male abusers. To go along with that, 2-5:1 female narcissists:male narcissists. I may be shooting a little high, and feel free to call me crazy, but I'm callin it now, you heard it here first, just wait and see..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 12:43 PM
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So in other words, you don't actually have any idea how much "revenge porn" exists of men, because men aren't as effected by it. Why would I care if a woman put out a recording of us having sex? Now since it doesn't work, smart women won't bother with it. Bit the stupid women, who fell for the feminists nonsense about there being no mental differences between men and women, surely might. The truth is women don't really care about the revenge porn as much as they would like you to believe they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 12:19 PM
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If it sucks to talk to women, talk to someone else. I have experiences I’d never share with a man, no matter how close we are. I definitely do not have these. I want to ask what those experiences are, but of course you couldn't tell me, so I'm screwed. Damn it! Alright tell me, pretty please
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:52 AM
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Yeah, I've been there.. the more you care about the person, the more it hurts too. It's sick. But I suspect you're better off putting it out there and finding out how they'll handle it, because this person was almost certain to hurt you even worse later down the line I think this sort of thing ought to be a crime or something though. At least put them in public stockades or something, right? But since that seems like it'll never happen, I'm a big fan of telling everyone about the shit like this …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:46 AM
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That would amaze me if it were true. What would an example of this look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:37 AM
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If in order to obtain sex men must become pillars of the community, or lie, or amass riches by fair means or foul, or be romantic or funny, then many men will do precisely that. Who is this news to? Everyone knows this.. The only thing this really means is that it's pointless for women to hold out on sex until they get (whatever it is they demand before they'll open their legs), because there are plenty of men out there that will do literally anything to get sex, then they're outta there. I can'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:34 AM
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virtue signal So there's a name for that, huh? I'm going to have to write that down. What an annoying thing, why do people even bother?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:11 AM
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a man is supposed to be the leader of the relationship and house.would a general cry in front of his soldiers? Would a father tell his kids that he cant pay the bills? Hell no.. you open up with other generals, with other fathers, and with god. Maybe not the best example? Yes, of course they would cry if the situation called for it. This is part of what made them great leaders, what makes us feel "connected" to them and inspired by them. George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, John F Kennedy, Winsto…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 11:02 AM
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What does it mean to understand my own emotions?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:28 AM
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Is this the type of dude they're talking about? No one likes this kind of person..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:05 AM
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Oh these are just narcissists. Don't mind them, they're not real people
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:49 PM
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I'm familiar with what you're talking about. It's just strange that I've seen the unhealthy behavior you talk about here almost exclusively in females ​ Examples of this healthy behavior in normal context would look like "Hey, I've been feeling XYZ and I'd like to talk about it with someone, do you have have time today?" A healthy person identifies their feelings, makes an ask for emotional support, and respects the possible boundary that a person may place by saying no, or rescheduling for a ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:47 PM
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It's actually possible the words are true though. Also they wanted to have sex with you, all male friends do, all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:16 PM
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Just curious, what's an example of a woman using something like that against you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:13 PM
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I was always disappointed in the women who fell for it. It just seemed so obvious that I didn't know how they could fall for it. I kinda assumed they knew and just went along with it anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:08 PM
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Did he ever say why he couldn't/wouldn't talk about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:52 PM
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Emotions, feelings, thoughts and pain are intimacy; how is this confusing? I guess I thought you could share that stuff with someone who was just a platonic friend? I mean, you have to remember that literally every one of you "platonic" males friends wants to have sex with you, but that wouldn't necessarily mean they were opening up to you BECAUSE they wanted to have sex with you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:47 PM
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With women, I try to keep them talking about themselves. They don't really care what a man is feeling outside of how it relates to her, so it's best not to volunteer emotions, or inner dialogue except to occasionally show empathy. This works pretty well if you're just trying to get some pussy. If you're trying to have a serious relationship, though, fuck that shit
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:35 PM
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In my experience, men will be the ones who trash talk the people they sleep with behind their back. Not in the way of "oh we broke up, here's a brief description of what happened" but in the way of "lol I hate her but I'm just denying that and we are still fucking or living together." That's some double life toxic shit. Well you know, when you hate someone it doesn't make you feel bad to use them for sex lol I will admit women can get frustrated and take on too much, but even if we do we don't p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:29 PM
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You seem to know the answer, why not save me a trip?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:10 PM
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platonic male friend Aaaand you lost me. How can women not know how this works? There's a whole damn movie about it, you know? Talking intimately about traumas, fears and inner lives totally worked as a hook on me and many of my friends when we were young and stupid I wouldn't expect them to go about it like this though, I'm kinda surprised that works
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:06 PM
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Its basically just like women “opening up”, including crying, except they ask for sex at the end and then get even more upset that you don’t give it to them. Do not recommend Hilarious. I had a friend who actually used this as a tactic, yep, crying and all. AND IT WORKED!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:51 PM
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The conclusion I've come to is if I clearly state how I feel to someone, and why I feel that way, then I've given them everything they need to understand me. Anything from there on is either them choosing not to understand, or just not caring. I hate when people yell, I was just coming at you from the angle of someone who likes to yell at people :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:33 PM
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Yeah, no shit, because when someone is double your size and strength expresses anger, it’s fucking scary. This is going to sound like a stupid question but.. what exactly are they scared of? I guess I can't picture the scene in my head Emotional women can be dangerous to some men, but for many, not really. Most women would need a weapon to even hurt some men. Not to be insulting, but most angry women I’ve dealt with, even some that have tried to get violent, it was like dealing with an enraged c…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:31 PM
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I'm not saying to punch the wall, I'm saying how do you express to someone that you were that angry in a way other than punching the wall? I'm not a fan of anger, and it takes quite a bit to actually make me angry, but I always talk calmly/casually no matter what. Sometimes I wonder "would they take what I'm saying more seriously if I yelled at them instead?" The same idea goes for any emotion.. like, I could tell someone I'm sad about something, but if I were to cry while telling them, would th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:17 PM
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Funny because to me, this whole thing basically translates into "don't act like a woman." It's just that I've rarely seen men act this way, and see women act this way Actually breaking up in a polite way with a woman who doesn't satisfy you instead of all the mental gymnastics that go into partner-hating. Hah! Men break up? Does that even happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:10 PM
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Anger and frustration are like close if not the strongest male emotions. People like to say this, but in my experience, women are far, far more likely to express anger. Angry women don't seem to suffer the same consequences as an angry man might, either Of course, it's not just me, even the studies show that women express anger more than men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:51 PM
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Probably a dude not resorting to punching walls for starters. I'm assuming this is during an argument or something. So if a man is angry enough to punch a wall, what might he do instead to properly express just how angry he is? If he walks away to "cool down" before coming back and calmly talking things out, doesn't something get lost in there?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 01:21 PM
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Why would I feel differently about him? I was just asking so all the men here saying not to open up to a woman could see your answer Most working adults have had interviews that didn’t go as well as they had planned But just to play devil's advocate.. Since most working adults have had interviews that didn't go as well as they wanted, is it not a little troubling that his confidence was shaken by this? Shouldn't it take a little more than that to get to him? It happens to everyone, right, what's…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:08 PM
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And that's something you appreciated? Feel any different about him afterwards? I'm not gonna lie, that's something I would never do in a million years (not saying it's a bad thing, I'm fully aware I'm crazy). I don't even know why I wouldn't..
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:55 AM
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Hmm, good conversation? I mean, what kind of conversations are people having that allow them to remain totally closed off? I'm not being a dick, either, I'm actually curious
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:40 AM
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The issue is that being vulnerable reveals most men to be sad low self esteem sacks who misrepresented themselves to women Im the first place I thought that we were all supposed to sorta know that there's probably something beneath those sort of "tough" outer appearances some guys have. But if someone really pulled out all the stops to misrepresent themselves to a woman, then I suppose maybe they were asking for trouble As I have said before it is no different than a woman confining to you that …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:33 AM
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“confidence” (for want of another word) Understood, yep. I don't know the right word either Men and women stay in relationships that are bad for them for love. We really need to encourage each other to demand better. Both sexes. I think it's hard for people who haven't gone through it themselves to see what's actually going on. Makes it a lot harder to even know you ought to leave when everyone else seems to think everything that's going on is normal Plus, TRP likes to promote this idea that all…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:18 AM
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I mean. The women and men on these forums aren’t my loved ones or even acquaintances. You can’t expect them to be nice to you. It’s like those celebrities that go on about online abuse. This is the internet. People are gonna be mean. If you can’t handle it, heavily restrict your presence. Eh, sorry, I guess I meant the stories you hear about women here. Though there does seem to be a pretty clear lack of empathy from the women towards men I wish a lot of the guys in this sub had the confidence t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:57 AM
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It's not subconscious
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:43 AM
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I'm guessing they believe that all women will react the same way. If you've had it happen enough times to you, you kinda start to get that feeling. And most the women on this board don't help much with that at all
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:39 AM
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They also mighta fucked up and fell in love with the girl. Or they may not know any better aka "all women must be like this.."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:27 AM
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No man, it does not go both ways. That's just you. Most men deal with and tolerate their woman crying over trivialities. Megan didn't wish you happy birthday on Snapchat? Aww come here baby. You look fat in that white dress? Awh come here babe it'll be ok They'll tolerate it, yes, but what are they thinking in their heads at the time? Do women even have a clue what their nice comforting man is thinking when they are crying over nothing? And just to be clear, I mean crying like actual tears cryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:27 AM
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I think crying is something that is reserved for deaths, watching your children grow up, and maybe when you watch Lion King or the ending of Terminator 2 Which, again, goes both ways. I'm going to be a little put off by a woman who cries because whatever she was cooking didn't turn out the way she wanted it to. I'm not going to be mean to her, but no doubt it would get old fast. I think that's a reasonable expectation They will SAY that they wouldn't mind him crying ​ Or rather, they think they …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:00 AM
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being comfortable to be upset in front of them if something was bothering you. I can't see myself ever being this way. In fact, I think it's kind of inappropriate.. I can just tell you that something upset me without burdening you with all the emotion. That goes for partners and friends both, of course With friends: being open about your feelings and using them as support - eg if you’d had a terrible day, would you say to a mate, could you come over and chat about it, or would you just bottle it…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:41 AM
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Invariably a bunch of women reading this will be like "well I don't do that" and try to play the Not All Women card because then they can effectiey deny this ever happening and never address how common it is. It's so common that I sometimes wonder if women pull this "I want a man who opens up to me" stuff just so that they can have the opportunity to hurt men.. but that would be crazy The general consensus of young men is increasingly to never be emotionally open with your partner, because at be…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:16 AM
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My oldest best friend is a guy, and we have never had feelings for each other, and we hang out and talk to each other on the phone You mean you've never had feelings for him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:19 AM
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I wonder if hot girls can ever have guy friends who wouldn't date them but love their company... Wouldn't date them? Absolutely. Wouldn't have sex with them? Absolutely not. You can leave the "hot" part out too
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 08:11 AM
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The solution? Never marry, always strive to look good for your age, and remain sociable throughout the relationship. That way when your partner looks at you, they get the feeling that you could find someone new tomorrow, and easily leave in the blink of an eye. That incentivizes them to keep putting in a good amount of effort to keep you around Yeahhh, when I see this kind of behavior, I immediately reduce my effort to the minimum. Why would I put extra effort into someone like this? You act lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 08:48 PM
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Ehh, "sexual compatibility" is a thing said by people who don't realize that we're actually capable of learning to like something that we might not think we'd enjoy, or that we didn't enjoy at first It hurts my brain to think that people are in relationships where they know their partner is totally into something, but they just sit there with their arms crossed saying "nuh-uh! Nope! I don't like that! Nuh-uh!" People need to have an open mind, it would make them much happier
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 08:52 AM
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Why would you or any guy want to be in a relationship with a woman in the first place? If I thought a group of individuals were shallow, unfairly critical, and only wanted me because I could benefit them in some way and that if a better deal came along they’d leave without a second thought, I would make it a point to avoid them as much as possible. What is the reasoning for wanting to be with a member of a group you have so much disdain for-is it the probability of sex? Because even if I thought…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 05:58 AM
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Actually I agree with you as far as this board and the other redpill/mgtow sort of crowd goes. They do exactly what you said, accuse the men of being not good enough for a relationship. She cheated? You weren't pleasing her. She's abusive? You're not alpha/dominant enough. They're full of terrible advice, and they're just spouting the nonsense because it gets them pussy from these nutcase women and makes them feel better about how they would rather use women than have an actual meaningful relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 03:48 AM
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Shouldn't it get easier as a couple? Lol. I trust women just as much as I trust men, I just know that a woman who demands marriage from you is not a trustworthy woman. That doesn't come from "trauma," that comes from common sense Are you really trying to shame me for being single and having been cheated on? You're pitiful. Or you're trying to flirt with me, I guess. Say, sugartits, how about you tell your boyfriend you're going out with the girls tonight, then you can swing by my house for a whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 02:23 AM
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I'm a single man. Am I answering this on behalf of single women? Okay then: What percentage of single men do you think are losers? 100%. Clearly since they are single, they don't have what it takes to have a successful relationship What makes them losers. They aren't giving me all the things I deserve in the world and expecting nothing in return They are content with where they are in life and not in a constant state of needing more more more They can be happy alone They don't feel the need to l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 01:39 AM
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Oh please, as if those posts show damage and/or inexperience in any way. You just wanted to judge, and poke around for something I'm sensitive about, but you're not going to find it. You're nothing but a bully now, I hope your boyfriend doesn't have to deal with this same attitude. At least he's smart enough not to marry you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 01:29 AM
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Well I'd say that you should be confident that you can and will become her best lover. If this girl had a past relationship that lasted 5 years, you can't expect yourself to know her better than he did after only the first few months of being with her. Practice makes perfect The second question is trickier I think.. I know where you're coming from, sort of like "she was really into that dude, but she's just choosing to settle for me because I have money (or whatever other reason)" right? Ahh, le…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 07:38 AM
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It's actually based on a child's best interest, to grow up in the highest probability of a stable home as possible. Which is: emotionally and financially stable adults who have entered into the legal contract know as marriage. Statistically speaking. Okay, explain to me WHY being married increases the stability of a home? Because I think those statistics just show that accidental pregnancies aren't a great way to start a relationship. I bet if you take people that are married for 5 years before …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:27 AM
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Why? I know what you mean, but really.. why is that weird? If you've never met the guy and you decide to Facebook message him "HOW WAS SEX WITH MY GIRLFRIEND?" yeah that's full-blown crazy. But if you know the dude and are semi-friendly with him, meh, might come up, especially if you talk about sex as much as I do But yeah, I think it would be ideal if she would just tell you herself, it's just that so many women feel the need to hide information like that. I guess they're trying to protect you …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:16 AM
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​ I have explained why. You just choose to ignore it. You don't actually have any clue all of the legal and financial things you have to do just to manage a long-term partnership even without kids when you choose to be committed, but unmarried. You have a vague idea of what it might be like but you in reality have no idea everything it entails. You have limited experience in relationships, especially successful long term ones and living successfully with a romantic partner. Yeah, I mean, if you …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 03:31 AM
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That's not why, but it doesn't matter either way, because that's not what I was asking. You keep saying "if you don't want to get married, then don't have kids. If you want to have kids, you need to get married." This is what you believe. You can state it a million times if you want, but that doesn't mean you've explained WHY. You haven't, and I'm starting to think that is because you CAN'T
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:26 AM
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Alright.. I was hoping for some explanation why you so strongly believe women shouldn't have children with a man until they're married other than "because I said so," but that's looking like a lost cause
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:03 AM
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Let me ask you something: did you believe in marriage before your current boyfriend? Did you want to have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 01:11 AM
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I don't know how many times I can say it: I don't want kids. I don't want to get married. Is this just breaking your brain? What about this concept do you not grasp? The part where this is a rhetorical question? You're of the opinion that you must get married before having children. I'm asking you "why?" This does not require that you want to have children or that you want to get married. Why do two people need to get married before they have children? If a man and woman both want a committed re…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 12:59 AM
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Marriage is just creating a joint legal entity to care for a child. With two legal entities they get to fight over who pays for what, what's really "equal" and then they split up because, they're single legal entities and you still have a nightmare fuel custody battle and division of personal property which will be disputed. Uhh.. marriage doesn't mean you don't fight over who pays for what.. I can go create a joint bank account with anyone I want right now, married or not. And if I am married, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 11:39 PM
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Men. How much does it matter to you? Why does it matter to you? I don't care if I'm not automatically the best lover they've ever had, I could be with a woman for years and still not tried everything sexually that I want to with her, so this is kind of a strange question. I do want to try to become the best lover they've ever had. So if they had someone better than me, it'd be nice if they told me how he was better, or what I could do better/differently, or whatever it is going to take for me to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 11:20 PM
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It's okay for you to just say "actually, now that I've thought about it, I think I agree with you," you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 11:02 PM
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Oh oh, yeah, okay, now I understand. I guess I'll have em put a stitch or two in my ass like y'all women have them do to your pussies after you have a baby Seriously though, don't be hatin :(
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 10:58 PM
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You can tell a woman you don't believe in legal marriage. You just have to explain why and there's the rub. It's not even that you don't believe in marriage, you think it leaves you vulnerable, gives a woman power over you and you and you don't want that. That's the problem. Trust me, I always explain why. I'm inviting them to tell me what they think, and why/if they disagree. It's not that I THINK it leaves me vulnerable, it's that I KNOW it does. Which would be perfectly fine with me, if there…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 10:49 PM
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So many women today are BROKEN, at least partly because of this. Empty, soulless, loveless creatures roaming around destroying the lives of anyone who dares care about them. A man that acts like this will be told he has a personality disorder (narcissism). Meanwhile it's normalized or even encouraged for women Give it time, though, things will change. A good start would be if people would STOP ENABLING this behavior (in women and men both). It is NOT human nature. It is NOT female nature
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 09:08 AM
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But people should marry if they are having children WHY?! Or for insurance purposes if you're in the US and desperate Fair enough, but if a woman is going to leave me because I won't marry her for insurance purposes then uhh.. I guess that's fine As I said in the event you are ever honest with a woman she will likely not want to be in a relationship with you and certainly not have children with you. So you'd have to lie and make it seem as though you're willing to marry, then "change your mind".…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:52 AM
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No, it's not that I'm concerned that you'll fuck me over, it's that the only reason I even see for getting married is so that you will have the opportunity to fuck me over, which is all sorts of crazy But let's forget that bit for a second. Why should we get married? What can we have in a marriage that we can't have in the type of relationship I described? Why do you even want to get married?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 12:28 AM
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Well, upon further thought, I do admit that you don't need to be married for a woman to ruin your life, take your children away from you and get child support from you. But she would find taking half of everything far more difficult :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 08:21 PM
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Any explanation you'll have won't sit well with a woman. Why not? Kinda sounds unfair, doesn't it? I should add that if she were to explain to me why we should get married, and I find her explanation reasonable/convincing, then I would happily change my stance. I've just been unable to come up with an argument on my own that could sway me Naturally, one of my top reasons for not marrying is just "because we don't need to." That's a boring one, plus it leads to an argument of "why would we get ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 07:43 PM
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If a man doesn't want kids: it's his. Sorry. Otherwise he's at the mercy of whatever the woman decides and it could be an outcome he doesn't like. Child support for example. Have your wages garnished for 18 years. Enjoy. All because men couldn't sack up and get a snip snip. Or he cries a woman "killed his child". Zero sympathy. Legally it is, sure. Go ahead, take that free money from a man who wanted nothing to do with that child you could have chosen not to give birth to. Doesn't mean he has to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 06:15 PM
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Birth control is a woman's responsibility, hate to say it What does being married have to do with having kids? Why would an unmarried man father children by multiple women? Personally, I hope to have a lifelong monogamous relationship with a woman, and to have children with her. I will never get married though, plain and simple No, I don't know how many don't try for custody. What would some of their reasons be? For example, I wouldn't try for custody if I didn't want to have the child in the fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 05:44 PM
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I don't see that as any worse than the wife(or husband, to be fair) decided to divorce and split the family apart, limiting the father's access to his children down to what, 10% of the amount of time he had before? In fact, I see this as the far worse out of the two. Don't have kids until you're ready, yes. Men, never fucking get married Everyone, if you have kids and you don't want them, abandon them. I'm serious, these kids don't need parents in their lives who do not want them, and who resent…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 01:25 PM
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Heh, other than my own parents, I don't think I know of a single married couple who didn't end up splitting up. Overwhelmingly, the mom's dipped and they ended up with half siblings and a stepdad who.. actually he's probably a good guy most the time, but the mom will end up leaving him too so she can go on one last hoo-rah before her snatch dries up for good I'm not saying you're wrong about unmarried couples who have children tending to end up a total mess. But I don't think it's the fact that …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 08:03 AM
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I tend to specifically view attention-seeking behavior as something people do when they feel neglected in some way though. This may be a ridiculous question, but could someone explain what it's like to "feel neglected?" Or give an example of when someone may feel that way. As an adult, preferably, but whatever works
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:29 AM
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You can procreate without getting married, so.. no? The future of relationships will remain basically the same, because a monogamous relationship is the most viable option for the majority of people. The institution of marriage will see some changes in the semi-near-future, since in its current state its only purpose is to give an unfair advantage to the woman/mother
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 06:54 AM
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What do you mean "need" makeup? For what? To not look 30+? But if you're 30+, then you're 30+, the hell do you expect? Unless you mean those 20 years of wearing makeup everyday got her looking like she's 60 when she's 30, then alright, keep caking it on, baby
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 05:39 PM
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I've never seen a woman who looked more sexy/attractive WITH makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 09:33 AM
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How do men react to you telling them you're wearing a push-up bra? I mean, I always appreciate honesty and being straight up, but gah damn, I prolly wouldn't have even known unless you told me that! Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 09:29 AM
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Who says that's often what leads up to SA and/or abduction? Out in public for everyone to see doesn't sound like the best place for me to conduct my kidnappings
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:20 PM
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Such a gesture is supposed to be for one's husband only, imho. I can respect this, but if I had a wife, I wouldn't mind if she flashed people. You underestimate the effect seeing a pair of tits can have on the average (single) guy's day! Or week, or month.. They do when the catcaller follows you in his car like a stalker. Try flashing him, hah. Seriously, I don't even see who is getting harmed here. You're scared because the guy is following you? Tell him to scram or just ignore him or call the …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:52 PM
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I can't fathom that, actually, care to explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:40 PM
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Wearing something that is not a large hoodie is not highlighting If you're wearing a push-up bra, or a shirt that shows your cleavage, or something along those lines, then you are highlighting your tits, yes. What is the purpose of those things if not to show off your tits?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:34 PM
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How is that harmful? Like in a threatening sense or?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:25 PM
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I'm a guy but I have some guesses 1.) That big ass titties are awesome 2.) The attention is actually kind of nice 3.) The comments/cat calls don't actually hurt anyone 4.) That you can make a man's day by just popping out one titty for him to see 5.) That all your shirts fit fine because you bought them knowing you had bigass titties 6.) That bras get uncomfortable by the end of the day, but the feeling when you finally get to take it off almost makes it worth it 7.) That you don't always have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 08:30 PM
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What are you getting out of sex with a prostitute that makes it worth $200 an hour?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 07:21 PM
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Oh lord.. well ask your husband what he thinks about OP then
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:30 PM
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Nothing makes me happier than being called a misogynist :) ​ Completely and entirely agree with you. It sucks because women do tend to be better at that kind of stuff. When men want to be aggressive it tends to be open and overt, for women it's often covert, with stuff like manipulation, reputation destruction, and twisting words. Not all women of course but that's how it seems to be generally. They're not even BETTER at it, it's just that people don't even think to question what a woman says, o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:30 PM
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Alright, I see what you're doing. Just remember, as long as you're insecure about these things, you will always view your partner as being the insecure one. You spin it as not wanting to tell him details because you don't want to make him insecure, but what you mean to say is that telling him details will make you feel insecure. You say him asking questions makes him seem insecure, but in reality it makes you feel insecure, and then you refuse to answer any questions, which also makes you seem i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:18 PM
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Ah but see it'S not that she was just getting plowed by some douchebag boyfriend. She chose to perform those acts with douchebag boyfriend, but now doesn't want to with her husband. You're painting it kind of as though those risqué sexual acts were something that happened to her, rather than something she actively consented to and actively participated in. That's the difference. Definitely didn't intend to paint it this way. Trust me, I don't buy for a second the goofy "she was probably pressure…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 09:11 PM
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Right but you're insecure about asking and/or answering specific questions. Are you not weeding yourself out, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 08:31 PM
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That's exactly what I'm saying. Him asking for details isn't necessarily a sign of insecurity, him not being able to handle it when you give him the details is a sign of insecurity. You're weeding out the wrong guys lol. Just because he doesn't ask doesn't mean he's not insecure, he could be thinking about that shit 24/7 and never say a word to you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 08:05 PM
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If a guy asks about your past only to get insecure when he hears the answers, then that's mission accomplished. You've just weeded out a guy that will most likely be a disaster to be in a relationship with. You can't shelter him completely forever, eventually something will get back to him, or you'll let something slip, etc.. Just get it out of the way early, or else you'll run into this OP situation ​ Secure people don't have a need to pry into intimate details. It's not prying.. it's just a go…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:33 PM
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Thank you <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:06 PM
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You don't want to make him feel insecure? But he's the one asking! lol. The positive is that you actually get to know the person that you're in a relationship with, not just this idea that you've built in your head. It has nothing to do with insecurity, or keeping score, or comparing, I don't even know where those ideas come from, I've never thought like that in my entire life Why do you assume these things are going to make your partner feel insecure? They wouldn't make me feel insecure. Is it …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:39 PM
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So clasic for this subredfit. Pressure her into anal after she says no by guilt tripping her about her past. Who cares if she's miserable and leaves you got some anal. Party party! Almost as classic as not taking a joke..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:30 PM
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I get being curious about your partners past but what good does knowing such things bring? There is nothing good that can come of it in most cases. In this case, it's going to lead to some satisfying anal sex btw. Money back guarantee
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:33 PM
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Well see, I too want to find a reasonable, secure, supportive partner. How can you be certain that I'm not the insecure scorekeeping type if you don't get me the opportunity to prove otherwise? Plus, when you're unwilling to talk about things with me, it makes me think that YOU are insecure, and that's no fun ​ Im all for discussing past relationships and their overall dynamics but i don't think getting into gory sex details is a good idea for most people, not if you want something serious. Oh m…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:24 PM
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I'm curious what you think these red flags are signalling? I would never stay in a relationship with someone who was unwilling to talk about their past/personal stuff (sexual or otherwise). For me, this would be a giant red flag I just don't understand it. Are you afraid of something? What could I possibly do with this information? I'm trying to get to know you/understand you and you're intentionally walling yourself off. I've ran into this way too many times, and I've yet to figure it out, so I…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:50 PM
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Nah, you've got it right. I was just saying in your original example, you said the husband was being a gentleman/romantic/etc in a previous MARRIAGE. It'd be more accurate to say he was doing that was some hos he was just messing with, kinda the way the other dude's fiance was getting plowed by some douchebag boyfriend. Totally unimportant detail, carry on! Yes, there's a blatant double standard, and the women commenters know it too. That is why you see the typical "well that just sounds insecur…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:30 PM
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Now I'm all for people having agency over their own bodies and whatnot, but women would be pissed if their current husband said how in his previous marriage he was a gentleman, opened doors, paid for stuff, was romantic, etc, but in his current marriage he doesn't feel like doing any of that stuff with her. No no no, it wasn't in his previous marriage, it was with some trashy girl(s) that he either dated for a short time or just had "flings" with
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:04 PM
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Why would she not be okay with that? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:51 PM
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She literally knows what she's talking about. Literally
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:03 PM
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And I think she's just playing games by not answering the question, so what are we going to do now? I'll make her a deal, no anal sex. I won't ask her for it, pressure her for it, none of that. But I want her to answer my questions. Deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 02:51 PM
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What do you mean it doesn't matter why? Asking why is pressuring her? It's not like I'm going to force her to do it, I just want to know why she doesn't want to. Why can't she just answer the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 02:07 PM
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You're welcome to join us whenever you decide to turn in your prude badge
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:43 PM
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I think a lot of guys would just accept "I've tried it but I don't want to anymore." Me? I'd say "Why not?" "It just wasn't my thing" "Why not? Did you have a bad experience or something? Guy just cram it in dry? What was it like?" And we'd go from there. Feel free to carry on, I'm curious how this story could end without me getting anal
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:38 PM
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I wouldn't say "have you given it to others," that does sound really weird.. You give anal to someone? Anyway, yeah, my conversation might go like Me: "You wanna try anal?" Her: "No" Me: "Why not?" Her: "I'm not interested" Me: "Have you ever tried it before?" Her: "I would never!" Me: "Then how would you know if you like it or not?" And so on and so on
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:20 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:13 PM
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If you make a post, are you happy when you're partner lies to you will you get any debate? People would respond and say "what'd they lie about?" What's the point in them asking that? Fuckin hell, I don't know, you tell me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:01 PM
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Does it seriously never once occur to you that women sometimes do things they don't want to because they're pressured or coerced into them? Oh it occured to me alright. That's why after I discover this little secret of hers, I pressure and coerce her into doing whatever I want :) ​ It's never crossed your mind that women do things because they are afraid of saying no to a man? Either because that man doesn't take kindly to being told no, or because women are taught that they are morally obligate…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:32 PM
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The op said it didn't happen, it was just a made up story. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thought_experiment#Uses ... It's a hypothetical situation... The "made up drama" is there because it gives people something to relate to, something to empathize with, which gives people a better perspective and understanding, among other things (see: link). Please God, let this be the last time I explain this, please
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:23 PM
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Oh my god, just imagine that when the husband proposed experimenting with new things, the wife didn't say "no, I would never!" she said "I don't know, I will think about it" or "I've never done that before, but maybe one day" or anything that gave the guy the idea that she might be willing to experiment in the future. Are you really so incapable of imagining this situation from the man's shoes?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:15 PM
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what word would you prefer we all use to describe the type of man he’s talking about Victim?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:02 PM
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Abortions are not equally accessible in all states, and they have consequences. Birth control can fail, and because women are not requiring commitment before having sex in the modern era, now we have a lot of women that have kids with multiple men. Still, it is not worth it to risk having sex without commitment. Yeahhh but if you're using a non-hormonal IUD like Paragard, the chance of getting pregnant is LESS THAN .1%. It's basically impossible, though I'm sure there's some freak stories out th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:12 AM
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Between birth control and abortion, the possibility of becoming a mother can be as good as eliminated So we're left with social shame.. Now here is the next question: why is society shaming you for casual sex? The chance of you becoming a single mother has been eliminated, so what else is there? Is "society" shaming you for no reason, then? If so, why should you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 02:19 AM
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Care to explain why it is not okay for women to have sex with men without commitment? Also, what sort of commitment should women require before they have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 01:31 AM
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I don't blame you, though I think it'd be fair to let them explain themselves lol. Maybe they were upfront with all the women they had sex with. I can see how it wouldn't be worth the risk to some people though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:35 AM
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I respectfully disagree. I DO FAULT WOMEN FOR USING MEN FOR MONEY. I think it is worthless to acknowledge it happens if we are not going to hold women accountable for their bad actions Correct. It's fine to hold a someone accountable, but it's similar to "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." The first time a woman gets used, strung along and heartbroken by a man that really just wanted sex, how can you blame her? How was she supposed to know? But if a woman is crying after he…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 11:58 PM
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Alright, I have two definitions for an emotional affair: 1.) an emotional affair is where they haven't had sex yet, but they intend to when they get the chance The more serious version is 2.) an emotional affair is where your partner is being more open emotionally with and investing more emotionally into another person that is not you. They're giving this other person a part of themselves that they either no longer give to you, or never have given to you. It's also done without your knowledge, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 10:21 PM
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I don't see the point of ANY man getting married. Everything that marriage provides a couple can be achieved outside of marriage just as easily, except for one thing: DIVORCE I want a monogamous relationship, I want a lifetime of partnership with a woman, but any woman who demands marriage from me is not that woman. Just the fact that she would NEED to put herself in that position of power over me automatically disqualifies her as a true partner ​ In fact, one of the main reasons I filed for div…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:40 PM
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Will like willpower? The hell does that have to do with manipulation? People that are easily manipulated are generally people who are naive, or assume the best about people, or are just generally good people. I don't understand what part willpower would play here
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:18 PM
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Do you really believe men are thinking "Once I get rich, a woman will love me"? Or, do you think men are thinking "Once I get rich, women will be like a commodity?" I don't know, actually. You tell me lol I've definitely seen it being sold as something closer to "once I get rich, a woman will love me," though. If the point is for women to be a commodity, then why get married? Why the traditional values and the "being a leader for your woman" and blah blah blah, you know what I mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 05:01 PM
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I figured a bum was someone who didn't work, mooched off of people, that sort of thing. Making it til next season and having a good time is plenty ambitious for me, I dunno, especially at that age I mean, what if he's living at home with his mom, saving every dollar he makes other than what he blows on weed? He's actually going to be in better shape than these fools that are "ambitious" at that age and go out and get their own place, a new car, a gym membership, yada yada yada. Amusingly, all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:21 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:15 PM
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and ski bum is just that, a bum. He has no long term plans and is taking immediate gratification as it comes. He is bitter and sexist because because he is a bum. He’s not a bum because he’s bitter and sexist. He's no more of a bum than the other guy, or OP, or anyone else that works at that place. What, because he smokes pot and plays video games he's a bum?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:50 PM
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What does them being easily manipulated have to do with them not getting a lady? I mean, if they're being manipulated, then this is not a woman that any man would want anyway, so..?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:24 PM
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Unlike older women who are more in a hurry to have kids and get married, young women don't settle. If they are with you it's because they like you. If they have sex with you is not to get something from you, but to get off on you. If they say they love you is not because you pay the bills or are a good father, they love the man they see in you. They don't have any ulterior motives. Well, my man, I do believe you've officially sold me. Alright alright alright https://youtu.be/wknywxfcE5M?t=65
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 03:07 PM
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What about the "relationship" outside of sex? Assuming it's not purely sexual. It's been a long time since I had sex with someone who still had homework lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:47 PM
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I'm sure, but I was talking about the ones who find out that no matter how "high value" you are, that girl can still cheat on you, or decide to divorce you, or stop having sex with you, or stop loving you. And their whole belief system comes crumbling down..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:14 PM
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Key word you mention is rich. Middle class/ making 50k with a dad bods are not knocking down 18 year old hot freshman. Maybe not 18 but they seem to be doing pretty well in the 22-30something range
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:02 PM
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Yep, biologically it makes sense for males and females both to be more attracted to younger people. However, biology has no control over how much a dumb bimbo wants to have a nice new designer purse, or ride in a lambo, or party on a yacht, or whatever it may be. And these alphas are more than happy to work away the early years of their life just to "become the man" these bimbos are "attracted" to. The kind of man these girls will "submit" to And they even say "I'm not afraid of her cheating on …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:21 AM
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And I think that’s complicated because I don’t think arousal is necessarily voluntary, although certainly women that know their bodies better will have an easier time getting into that state You don't think arousal is voluntary? Do you masturbate?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:07 AM
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Put more pressure on her. Tell her it's lame if she just waits for you to do everything. Tell her sex is better if she actually knows what she likes and is able to tell/show you. Tell her you're not going to stay with some chick who says she likes sex but acts like she isn't even interested. Seriously, tell her she's shit in bed, and more importantly, tell her how to fix it. Alright, I guess you could leave out the part where you tell her she's shit in bed if you wanna be nice Personally, I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:01 AM
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only way I can combat it is acting like I'm not that interested in taking things past sex, I wanna be able to compete and be able to do things for myself and women instead of worrying about all the things the guys she cheating on me with has that I don't. You can't combat it, and you shouldn't try to If women were honest (both to themselves and to everyone else), then when she got into a relationship with you, she would tell you "I like you, but if I see a man that's better off than you/more int…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:27 AM
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However, I know women who are 33-35 who exclusively date like 48-53. I find it weird. Your partner is going to be suffering the effects of old age issues when you are still relatively youthful. "Your partner is going to be suffering the effects of old age issues when you are still relatively youthful." Exactly! :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PTEqZURh4o
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 08:17 AM
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Well said. Then they spin it as "they're not attracted to your money, they're attracted to the type of man that can make that kind of money" or "they're not interested in the money, they're interested in the kind of lifestyle an alpha male has, and can provide them" or one of the many goofy lines they like to throw around
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:59 AM
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This is where I'm at right now, exploring again my single life. I just hooked up with a woman 11 years younger an hour ago after chatting some in a FB group page and posting a pick of me shirtless (see my post history) so I'm not suggar coating this, yes, older men are at an advantage when it comes to getting women, and this is for ALL women in ALL age brackets. Question for you: does sex with a woman that much younger feel strange to you at all? I've never had sex with a girl >1 year younger th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 07:21 AM
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If she made every guy she ever had sex with wait a whole year, then yeah, that's totally different. I'd still like her to explain WHY she insisted on that, but I'd have to respect her decision regardless I trust the virgin more for essentially the same reason: because it's not like she was having sex with some dudes on the first night but with me she's gotta wait a year. She's a virgin! I would assume this rule was true for anyone, not just me. Plus there's all the stress/pressure/anxiety that g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 01:25 PM
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I think it would be more appropriate if the man were to just flat out tell the woman that he is going to have sex with other people until she is ready. In the specific example you gave, it seems like the girl is just using the guy for whatever she can get from him, so I think it would be fitting if he cheated on her the whole time until she finally gave it up to him, yeah. But in general, lying is bad Interesting spins: Does your view on this change depending on if the woman: is a virgin: I trus…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 11:23 AM
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A few reasons: 1.) They're awkward themselves/couldn't work up the courage/don't even know how to "make a move" 2.) They're worried about how you may respond (don't want to creep you out) 3.) They didn't feel like you were interested in them (didn't feel like they had a chance with you) Likely some combination of all three. Very unlikely that they're just plain not sexually attracted to you. Note that I wouldn't say that every guy that talks to you is doing so BECAUSE they're attracted to you. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 11:56 PM
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I appreciate your humility, it's a great trait to have and sorely lacking in many women today But, I am here to tell you that it's safe for you to assume that every guy who spoke to you was sexually interested in you. And those are just the ones who actually spoke to you..
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 07:18 AM
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Men do not say to you "Oh, don't worry about her. She's just a friend...". Never happens. Sadly, my ex-best friend was this man. He pulled stunts like inviting his girlfriend to his birthday party that another girl who was "just his friend" had planned for him (of course he was cheating on his gf with this girl). He got chlamydia when he cheated on his girlfriend while he was on vacation in another state, then told his gf that he got chlamydia from a toilet seat. And of course, this is the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:01 AM
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And then completely deny that she chose that person intentionally because she knew it would hurt you more. Even online, where they are completely anonymous, women will say "I didn't do it to hurt him, I'm not that kind of person!" Horse shit. I have a theory that this IS women cheating out of boredom. It's just that fucking a random in a club isn't exciting to them, why would it be? They can do that anytime they want. Seducing his best friend, leaving traces and watching as he slowly picks up on…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 10:05 PM
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I understand, but you said "9/10 men who I know have cheated have done do because they've been bored of fucking the same woman." If you found out your wife cheated on you just because she got bored of fucking you and wanted someone new (no romantic feelings involved), wouldn't you still be hurt? Couldn't she have talked to you about it? Don't you still feel betrayed? Don't get me wrong, I'm not disagreeing with your point. Women seem to pull the most soul-shattering acts of infidelity while men …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:46 PM
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See, it's the BS that goes along with it whilst it's happening. You get told you're the love of her life, the only man for her etc yet she's telling some other man this too. That's a kick in the teeth, my friend. To be fair, it's kind of sad to think that the man (or woman) you love, adore, and have given up your time for has gotten bored of having sex with you. So bored that they will go so far as to betray you just so they can have sex with someone "new and exciting." Especially if they do it …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:06 PM
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Women shouldn't lower their standards , men should be better. More men should be encouraged to be fit and look after themselves physically just as women do. Look after themselves physically "just as women do?" Give me a break, the average woman is no better physically than the average man, it's just that most men are content with an average or even below average woman physically, and it's not just because they're lonely or don't have any other options. There's more important things than how some…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:41 PM
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There is no unacceptable number. No matter the number, I do think it's worth talking about though. And as the number gets larger (say.. >25-50?), the more it's going to require some conversation/explanation. I'm 28, if I was talking to a 28 year old girl who told me she's had sex with >100 guys, I'd mostly be curious WHY? I mean, one guess is because they just love casual sex, right? So then why are they now looking for a monogamous relationship with me? Is it even possible for them to give up c…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 05:22 PM
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Well, maybe I'm wrong but I think most men would say they respect the woman who came and told them straight up way more than the one that kept it a secret until he found out, or 5 years down the line she "just couldn't live with the guilt anymore." And I think the world would be a better place if women were taught that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:16 PM
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True, but aren't they a worse liar and cheater than someone who says "alright, I'm pregnant, now I have to tell him the truth, I can't do THAT to him?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:36 PM
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I'm not sure if that's a "probably." At the very least, they know there's a chance that it isn't yours. I'd figure they ought to feel compelled to come clean about the cheating at this point, but how often is that what happens?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:25 PM
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What makes it worse is that you probably/usually don't find out about the cheating until well after you find out about the pregnancy. How long do you go thinking she's pregnant with your kid? A few months? Or even well after the kid is born? Now how attached have you already become? It's one of the worst kinds of betrayal I can imagine, and plain ol cheating doesn't come close. But yes, I do agree with you that betrayal is the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:14 PM
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Don't worry, she'll just as easily leave you for somebody worse than you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 01:59 PM
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What changed about you and/or him that made you start liking him?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 10:04 AM
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