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Okay, there are many wrong and toxic ways to look at the world. Whats your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 04:06 AM
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Are we talking about a woman who has rejected you multiple times or are we talking about a woman who had sexual experiences unrelated to you before she even knew you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 03:34 AM
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Lmao, what a wild way to look at a relationship. We know that you are insecure about past relationships, thats the problem. Its not up to women to tip toe around your weird insecurities. If you feel "cucked" because your partner has a past beyond you then you need some therapy or something brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 08:27 PM
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You are so wrong lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 10:29 AM
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So what do you use? Cause I have yet to see any empirical evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:38 AM
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Righttt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:37 AM
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Post proof or stfu
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:36 AM
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If it's so real please don't just give vague examples of what you BELIEVE to be true. Post the study otherwise you are clearly just bullshiting lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:34 AM
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And how have you determined this, was there a survey I was unaware of? Have you personally interviewed my dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:29 AM
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As if your response to me wasn't just a front. Like what is the intellectual argument that you have put forth? You inferred with absolutely no evidence that my partner had a better time than me. Just admit you are bad at sex and move on, like seriously just take the L my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:28 AM
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"can we please stop talking about reality it's really affecting the validity of my point"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 09:11 PM
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But it's not a small amount and you just keep railing against the reality. Your personal experience doesn't equal fact. But you are going to keep arguing because of women can enjoy casual sex your entire premise falls flat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 09:07 PM
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Best comment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 09:03 PM
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I've used so many dudes for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 09:02 PM
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Once again I think you are projecting Hunny. Stop assuming your experience of the world is everyones experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 09:01 PM
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I mean I think that's just a self report lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 08:58 PM
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By the title I thought we were talking like an hour or something but it's hilarious that you are complaining about 20 mins of sex lmao. If you are that impatient I truely think it is your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:56 PM
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The way they talk about virginity and women in general tells me that a lot. A bunch used words like clean to describe virgins and dirty/used to describe people who weren't. That's gross. They speak as if sex devalues a woman which then also suggests that women are objects to possess for male desire. If that is your reasoning for wanting a virgin my fight is not with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 07:38 PM
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Maybe if they just also had low amounts of experience and just wanted someone at their level.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 07:03 PM
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Because you like more laid back types of people, because she is going to college. There are a ton of reasons to love someone but it's kinda weird to be obsessed with purity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 06:55 PM
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Lmao very well thought out points my dude, a real shining example of the typical responses that women get on here. As wonderful as this very useful conversation was I really have no interest in continuing it as I don't need any more clown gifs or grade school level comebacks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 01:48 PM
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Huh?? If that was meant to say one, then yes I stand by my statement that virginity being tied to the value of a woman and purity/puritan culture in general is gross and archaic. Not sure how that relates to your inability to read the countless comments that are objectifying women but yes I do find the concept of sexual purity to be disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 01:41 PM
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Okay.....
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 01:36 PM
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Nope, its gross because of the reasons why they picked the first one (or even the second one in a couple of cases). Neither options are inherently gross, it's just gross when people talk about purity and stuff which are like 70 percent of the responses. It's ultimately because most redpills see women as objects to possess instead of a partner to enjoy life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:18 AM
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Women are not a monolith, your friends experiences aren't everyone's experience, I've known people who have tried casual sex and enjoyed it and I've know people who have also regretted it. Sometimes people need to try these things to know if they like them or not. I think we need to talk about how sex can affect you emotionally more and not just focus on the physical outcomes. But I also think that your perspective borders on slut shaming because it leaves out the women who are very happy with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 02:36 PM
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lol im gay and even if i weren't only psychos determine others value based on how many people they have had sex with but go off and marry a virgin and have the worst sex of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:27 AM
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Lmao why do you care
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:34 PM
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Lmao, he litterally just explained to you what you clearly misunderstood in the post
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 08:25 AM
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This is so unhinged. Omg
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:06 AM
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The worst case scenario is that you have to break up cause the sex is bad, there is no house, kids or finances cause y'all aren't married. Best case scenario you find the love of your life and live happily ever after. Like what do you really have to lose here? I personally don't really think people should get married before having sex but like it's not weird for her to want to be in a committed relationship with you before sex. I personally don't really have too many stipulations on sex but I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:55 AM
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Maybe she doesn't wanna have sex cause she can smell the fear of commitment. But like ultimately you just need to communicate all of this with her and figure it out with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 11:41 AM
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A lot of the numbers we see is due to hundreds of years of culture telling us what is and isn't attractive, if you were to actually be able to see what people actually like uncoupled from culture and media we would see a varied set of data. The fact that not everyone agrees does show that it's objective. Also beauty standards change over time because culture changes over time. If it were so baked into us 50 years wouldn't make a difference. Not too long ago there was a shift from physical protec…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 09:47 PM
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Just because there are general trends doesn't mean that beauty isn't subjective. People still have their individual ideas of beauty, there are always outliers. That's the point!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 02:10 AM
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Okay well i guess I'll just report you, you don't seem very interested in actual discussion so why are you even here?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:00 AM
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Great guess but it's wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:40 PM
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What are you even talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:39 PM
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Conventional beauty is a thing but that is fueled by patriarchal and misogynistic tropes. Part of the reason why people don't like admitting that they like things outside of the norm is because they are ostracized when they do. But personally everyone likes different things. I really like awkward people, I like people with glasses, height doesn't really matter at all for either gender for me, I'm a sucker for redheads. Many of those things go against the status quo. My best friend really likes m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:37 PM
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Exactly my point
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:22 PM
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Your question never specified "western" society. And western society is also a vast network of different cultures and ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:21 PM
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Nope we were egalitarian for most of our history, that's just the facts I am zoomed in on really the last couple hundred years because those are what affect us an society the most The patricarchy is real and has no bearing on how "the average man" is treated. It's not a male conspiracy it's just how it is. When there are laws written to make it easier to subjugate and oppress women that's part of the patriarchy, you can't argue that it's right there in our history books. Once again it was legal …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:18 PM
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No I just hang out with people who have varied opinions about beauty. I'll just keep repeating the truth that beauty and attraction is subjective. There are women who like short men, fat men, ginger men, blonde men, funny men, upright men, the list goes on and on and on. People love to make neat little boxes but that's not how humans or nature works, it's messy and unpredictable and doesn't fit into a box. Like it or not that's how it is. Edited cause I was unnecessarily mean
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 01:01 PM
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Absolutely false! I knew a body builder who loved bigger women. Also how fucking rude to suggest that overweight women are just an after thought because men "couldn't get any better". Jesus Christ misogyny rots brains I stg
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 12:31 PM
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You would find a varied set of data with some similar trends but ultimately you would find any and all variables. There are like 8 billion of us across 100s of cultures it's all gonna be pretty different.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 12:20 PM
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I know tons of women who like shorter men, it's the same with girls who are overweight there are still many many many men who love overweight women. Just cause it's not the norm doesn't mean it's super rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 12:16 PM
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Nope I'm very sure of my position on this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:39 AM
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No sex and dating is not hegemonic that's a dangerous myth, I will once again repeat that beauty and attraction is objective and personal to everyone and that is dating cannot be hegemonic, there is no perfect man or perfect woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:21 AM
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Jesus Christ where do I start with this, I guess least importantly you should really proofread cause damn you made a bunch of formating mistakes, but that really isn't important. I mentioned that Marie Curie is an outlier not because she won 2 Nobel prizes, but because she is by far not a good representation of the average female at that time. This next point is so very dumb. Yes you are correct that for 95 percent of human history we were hunter gatherers and we were largely egalitarian during …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:18 AM
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If it means that women have more choice to be in or to leave a relationship then sure I welcome sex robots. But I just don't think that's going to happen. Dating is not hegemonic like you clearly believe it is, people like people that's all there is to it, there is somebody out there for everyone because beauty and attraction is completely subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:14 AM
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I've never suggested it as a substitute, I suggest it as a pre requisite to a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:34 PM
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This just seems like you are mad that women have choice. Believe it or not you are not entitled to women, a relationship is a privilege and if you aren't getting it it's because you are doing something wrong. Beauty and attraction is subjective and is different for everyone. Personally I would never date a rich man because our values wouldn't be aligned. Some women exclusively date rich men because that's what they like and and that's okay too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:19 PM
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Marie Curie is an outlier, an amazing woman but still an outlier. If you think that proves that women weren't financially dependant on men you are just wrong. No we have had money since human civilization, it has changed over time and there have been civilizations where women haven't been dependant on men but I imagine we are taking about "Western"(North American and European) history which has been extremely patriarchal and women have been forced through laws and society to be financially depen…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 10:02 PM
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Although it may be hyperbolic their point is still correct in that women have much more choice now. Obviously romantic love existed before but if you go back 100 years women were almost entirely financially dependent on men which had a significant effect on the choices they made when it came to relationships with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 12:58 PM
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Healthy relationships have nothing to do with monetary value, healthy relationships are centered around intimacy and emotional connection. Every time someone posts something like this it's an immediate sign of why you can't find a relationship, this is a fundamentally flawed way to view relationships. Women are now independent so they don't have to RELY on men to live, they now get to CHOOSE their partners because they love them and not because they need them to financially survive. If you don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 12:52 PM
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Ooof okay well, have fun being lonely ig
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 08:36 PM
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Jesus Christ, this is actually unhinged, I don't know any women who go after misogynistic men or use it as an excuse to not date someone. Hate to burst your bubble but if women are telling you that they don't want to date you because you are misogynistic, you probably just have some misogynistic ideas. It's not some big conspiracy lmao. None of this is based in reality in any way shape or form. Some women end up attracting abusive men but that is because abusive men can sniff out women who are v…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 01:19 PM
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Well first off I want to say that I support financial abortions with certain restrictions. Yes you are correct but I think I said that in my response anyways and it should be that way because it's her body. She should have unilateral access and choice in what happens to her own body. And if she chooses to keep the baby and the other person doesn't want the baby they should be able to opt out for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 02:46 PM
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My bad I thought you were saying that it was all up to the man. For the record I also commented on the same post that you did and essentially said the same thing cause that person seems to think that only women get the choice. Didn't mean to be snarky, sorry for the misunderstanding :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:49 PM
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Nope it's both parties that are equally at fault for that pregnancy. When it comes to sex and pregnancy the only time there is a unilateral decision made is if the baby is conceived via IVF or rape. When two consenting adults chose to make a baby or choose to have unsafe sex and accidently make a baby that decision and act is equally made. After that the one with the womb gets to make the physical decisions because all the work is now on her. But the fertilization when done "naturally" for lack …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:46 PM
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Nah that's usually a two person job, sometimes with tech it can be a one person job but like those are the options. Both parties are needed to make that baby. And obviously I'm talking about consenting people, rape is a different story. Both parties (if consenting) are equally responsible for conceiving that baby, the woman then has to carry it which is undeniably only her doing the work but the actual fertilisation is clearly a joint effort. To say otherwise would be the actual absurd opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:39 PM
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100 percent correct
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:33 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 11:26 AM
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I'm a transwoman and I have experienced this both pre transition and post transition. And pre transition I wasnt some Chad I was a weird awkward teen who struggled with hygiene. Really the time has never been better for men, most of my straight women friends all have boyfriends that prove the bar is so low. I'm not saying that men don't have a difficult time in the dating world, they very much do. Men within heterosexuality are expected to pursue and women get to receive requests. Women often co…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 04:23 PM
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Tons and tons of women love men for exactly who they are. Some women will forever want to change their partner but a lot of women love their partner for who they are. What you are talking about is a very unhealthy relationship but it's not every hetero relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:57 AM
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I think that's part of the point tho, the only time I've ever found a healthy relationship is when I have become happy with being alone, when I see the positives of being single is exactly when I find a partner. I think when your main focus is to get a partner people can read that as desperate. It's always easier said than done but that's my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:55 AM
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Thank god I'm gay
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:50 AM
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I think most of the shit that is defended by biology is most times learned social behaviour but we all have very important genetic differences that account for a lot of things as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:27 AM
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It really depends on what you are looking for, if it's just sex and some paid intimacy then sure but if you are looking for a life partner I don't think you are gonna get that with a sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 12:32 PM
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The grouping you have at the end of this post are alarming at best. Women have issues too we arent dating gods who come out the womb knowing exactly what to do. We learn like anyone else does. I think one of the top comments had a really good point, you can't make anyone do anything all you can control is yourself. That is why most advice is focused around self improvement. Our patriarchal society has caused an asymmetrical dating balance where men are the seekers and women are the prey. Which i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 07:03 PM
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Because it's not a race or competition, there is no second place or first place, there is interested sexually or not. It's only to be sad that they aren't interested and it's okay if you can't be friends but if you see it as a competition you are just gonna have a bad time in relationships. I am a lesbian so I have had many situations where friends just aren't interested in me the same way I am in them and that's okay cause if I was attracted to them sexually I probably like them personally as w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 03:58 PM
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I mean society has been making women believe that their most important value is beauty for a long time. It's just another way to build the patriarchy, get women out if the way doing something strictly aesthetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 06:35 AM
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We need more healthy masculinity not toxic masculity they are two different things
/r/MensRights10/03/18 07:08 PM
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I agree that she is a terrible person but her Weight has nothing to do with that and honestly there are a lot more creative ways to insult her and commenting " who would want to rape that fat person" is just dumb to say because most times rape has nothing to do with attraction and everything to do with power and it suggests that only pretty people get raped which is also completely incorrect. This is the kind of stuff that gives mens rights activists a bad name, the comments on this thread alone…
/r/PussyPassDenied31/08/17 06:57 AM
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