ConnectYogurtcloset1 Archive

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90	How do you handle the "I'm a virgin" talk with guys? Don’t tell him a got damn thing. It’s not “news”—It’s none of his business (until you die, ideally, or like 50 years into marriage lol). Even if you are a virgin, it’s better to let him wonder rather than remove the mystery for him. If you aren’t comfortable with doing X you can say so, but you don’t have to give him an excuse why. “No” is enough for a guy who is really into you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/04/22 07:19 PM
8	Religion is by men, for men Unpopular opinion, but religion, specifically Catholicism, saved my life. No burden is placed on me that isn’t also placed on my husband. I have to deny myself things I am inclined to do out of selfishness/laziness/insecurity etc. for the love of God, but it doesn’t feel “controlling” at all unless you mean the exercise of self control is controlling. I’ve had nothing but wonderful priests (and religious sisters) who have been gentle and loving in caring for my soul. I’m 10000 times happier know…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/11/21 12:15 PM
120	“Never tell men about your trauma” This might sound wild, but I agree with this because I never, ever told my HV now husband about any of my traumas while dating and I couldn’t be happier with our life together and he treats me wonderfully. That trauma that happened before we knew each other wasn’t who I am, and most importantly, it wasn’t his business.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/11/21 02:27 AM
40	How does FDS feel about women in the military? The Air Force, and Air National Guard, was great. I chose to enlist first rather than go the officer route. I joined when I was a bit older (mid-twenties) so it was an entirely positive experience for me. There’s a constant drip of low-level BS but every job has it. I never felt treated worse because I was a woman, but at the same time, I worked in a shop full of all men where there was definitely a locker room culture. It was fun tbh. I was treated differently in the sense that due to my sex I …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/10/21 07:52 PM
7	Together with the loser I don’t know if this counts as an exception, but my marriage is exactly as happy as I allude to on social media, on the rare occasions I do. That’s not to say that I’m perfect or he is but I really find marriage to be quite easy—it’s life that is hard. When I was single I too took great comfort in thinking these people’s lives were secretly miserable, but in reality sometimes it’s just not that deep. (It was actually I who was miserable single because I was wasting my life with low value losers …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/01/21 07:19 PM
34	"Do you have any ideas?" Yes: LEAVE HIM! She doesn’t have to leave him it’s a simple fix really. Stop talking and explaining things to men. Explanations just invite “””man logic””” and arguments, as evidenced by this guy’s behavior. Don’t engage! Just stop doing it. Get up, put your pants on, say NO and leave. Leave the house if you have to and wander the mall, get a pedi, see a movie alone, go to your mom/sister/colleague’s house but be gone for hours. Every single time. He needs you more than you need him and he will get the message.…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 01:40 PM
2	Marriage is designed for your failure/unhappiness. Let's discuss how to game it for your success/happiness. I read many different things but The Rules and Why Men Love/Marry Bitches were my Bible. I owe all of my success to only those two, seriously!! Also, a blog called What Women Never Hear (WWNH) on wordpress, it was SO eye opening. I followed them all to a T—except I did not have sex until the wedding night—and out of the parade of men who took me on dates, I met my husband at 29 and was married after 13 months. Also, it’s hard to believe I wrote my above comment, because as time passes by (there …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/06/20 01:12 AM
29	This book I’m reading has an interesting part on classic pick me behaviour. Written by a clinical psychologist. What’s the book?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/02/20 12:40 AM
-3	The trauma that religion, Catholicism, causes women in terms of reproductive rights. I won’t speak for other denominations, but Catholics don’t go anywhere to tell women, adulterers, or anybody, that they are going to hell. You’re arguing a figment of your own imagination. Abortion is singled out more than adultery because of 1) its victims are the most innocent, weakest among us and 2) the entire culture at large believes perpetuating actual physical violence against those weak and innocents is not only okay, but something to celebrate. God does answer prayers. God also answers…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/20 08:15 PM
-8	The trauma that religion, Catholicism, causes women in terms of reproductive rights. Legislation already exists to make murder illegal, which is what abortion is—the intentional, premeditated taking of a human life. The Catholic Church extends the greatest grace one can receive to the women who procure abortion. It is the sole institution with the courage to stand against the evil in the act of abortion.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/20 07:06 PM
39	Marriage is designed for your failure/unhappiness. Let's discuss how to game it for your success/happiness. I used The Rules etc. and got married to a pretty damn good man. Still, I would be very, VERY hesitant to recommend marriage to other already established, independent women. Even to a loving, doting man who treats you like a queen and does everything for you. The sacrifices women must make to make the marriage and family work are enormous. Men literally won’t even see them or empathize with you so you better be okay with doing everything for God’s eyes only. Once you get married, even to a HVM, …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/20 02:52 PM
6	If you saw an “ex” in public, what would you do? Act like my normal self, but high value! If, and only if, he approaches me I’d be polite, but distant, laugh together or whatever, and keep it moving ASAP before anything gets too deep. Light and breezy! Any behavior like cussing him out, pretending I didn’t know him (duh, we slept together!) just strokes their ego and lets them know they still hold power over you. I’m married now, but my 10 year long ex-FWB never took me on so many dates without sex and with paying for it until after I dropped …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/20 03:42 PM
11	How do you break things off? Don’t go. Wait until your emotions have cooled down, then break it off with him. A week or two if that’s what you need. Right before work or whatever obligation so it’s impossible to have some long drawn out scene. Your feelings are not invalid, but absolutely do not waste them on him. At best he doesn’t care, at worst he will use them to manipulate you back to where he wants you. Option B will happen about a zillion times unless you stop it right here and right now. In the future, avoid being s…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/02/20 04:19 AM