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DISCUSSIONContemporaryBelle/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 02:59 PM
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INSIGHTFULContemporaryBelle/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 11:40 PM
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You're right. Name calling isn't okay and neither are cruel verbal beat downs. However, if he isn't open to controlling that and it is a newer problem you may need to entertain the possibility that his resentment has reached uncontrollable levels. Sometimes even if you really want to forgive someone in a relationship there comes a point where something happens so bad that you just can't. The resentment can cause abusive behavior to arise in ways it never has before and it can be extremely diffic…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 10:43 PM
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I am about your age with an 11 year old and 12 year old. Baby making fever kicks in extra hard as we get into our 30s because of our biology. That doesn't mean it makes sense to listen. My fiance has never wanted biological kids and it was clear from our first date that wasn't in the cards for him. At first I was totally on board. We had an unintended pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage and it triggered serious baby fever in me. We are still never planning a kid together because it just doesn'…
/r/RedPillWives10/07/18 09:17 PM
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It can take years to move past the kind of betrayal you offered. You want things to be better already because it makes you uncomfortable that they aren't. Maybe you need to be uncomfortable though because you seem to be minimizing how damaging your past behavior and subsequent dishonesty were. He doesn't need to be okay yet and it is completely normal that he isn't. You need to be okay with him working through his grief process. Anger is a part of the process and he sounds like he is there.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 06:42 PM
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I think you are equating having boundaries with being a dick, which is part of the problem. It's not being a dick to expect respect. Without boundaries though she won't respect you. Shit testing essentially boils down to determining whether or not you have the strength of character to uphold your boundaries. She's upset on the one hand because you don't take enough charge with date planning but she will also likely resist initially if you do step up. Step up anyway. Plan something and follow thr…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 12:12 PM
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It became clear my physical well being was in serious danger if I stayed. Laura Doyle's book was something I read at the tail end of trying to make the marriage work. It convinced me that I wasn't married to someone to whom I could surrender. His frequent critique of me was that I wasn't submissive enough and that if I were more obedient he wouldn't act the way he did. I originally picked up the book with the hope it would help turn me into a better wife and make the marriage better. It did help…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 06:26 PM
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Unfortunately there are men who look at red pill theory as a free pass for abusive behavior. However, people can do that with a lot of different things. My ex husband loved to use the Bible to justify his abusive behavior in the marriage under the guise of it being how God intended for households to be run. (I was 17 and foolish when I walked into that mess.) If someone is a bad person they can latch on to little pieces of a doctrine that line up with the bad behavior they want to justify and ju…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 04:30 PM
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I try to be home before my fiance every day and make the home presentable before he gets home. He likes that and enjoys coming home after a long day to me happily waiting for him. The part that is the red flag for me isn't that he wants you home but rather that if you are even a little behind it ruins his whole night. He is essentially placing you in charge of managing his emotions. An emotionally stable and well adjusted person doesn't respond in this way even if they are legitimately disappoin…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 12:33 PM
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The harsh truth is that infertility will lower your value to a partner who really wants children. If it is something known in advance while dating you should be honest about it and understand it may be a dealbreaker for some people. However, some guys who maybe don't want kids at all or who are open to adopting wouldn't see it as a dealbreaker. If it is something that becomes known over the course of trying for a baby in a relationship it will be painful and difficult no matter what. Even women …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/18 07:40 AM
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It's been my experience that super hot guys think they don't need to try as hard. The best sex I've ever had and the hottest guy I've ever been with aren't the same person. How well you make me orgasm matters a lot more than how hot you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/18 05:14 AM
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Ding ding ding 😂😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/18 06:46 PM
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See the above comment. We were in the middle of a move. Literally everything was boxed up between two cars, moving van, and the inside of the new place. It took me a couple days to figure exactly what all had been taken because we hadn't even started unpacking.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/18 06:44 PM
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He did you a favor by dumping you. Now work on yourself so that next time you can attract a higher quality guy with the appropriate balance of alpha and beta traits. You need to get it together or the best you will ever do is a weak man with weak frame who slaps a crying woman and keeps a potential booty call on the side. Using red pill theory to justify crappy behavior out of your partner makes you one of the stereotypes opponents of the movement hold up as evidence why it is a bad one. I am gl…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 11:06 PM
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Honestly, I don't think he would have done that if the tables were reversed. He would have been all new levels of frustrated with me though. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 01:31 PM
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The car wasn't the worst part for me. Inside was a Waterford crystal glass slipper that was an heirloom from my grandmother and a set of collectible books that my grandfather gave me. When I was a little girl I used to try and put the slipper on my foot when playing make believe. My grandfather taught me to count and to love reading with those books. It was a 60 book leather bound, gold trimmed set containing the works of all the major philosophers and theorists that influenced Western thinking.…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 01:02 PM
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Way to go! We had a similar situation in our dynamic recently. My fiance left his car door unlocked with the spare key to my car inside. We live in a safe suburb and he didn't think locking the door would be that important. Someone stole the spare out of his car and stole my car with it. I could have gotten mad or lectured or any other number of unpleasant things. Instead I tried to focus on being a soft place to land because he already knew he made a mistake. We handled things and the cops arre…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/18 10:51 AM
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Perhaps you have stumbled across a friendly neighborhood psychopath. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 10:46 PM
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Thanks for clarifying that. I guess if that's the case I am H trying to act more L within my relationship. I think traits all run on a spectrum. I can't deal with low dominance men well in a relationship because I can't respect them. However, I can't tolerate or respect men who are overzealous micromanagers. It wouldn't be possible for me to defer to my fiance and respect him if he weren't able to embody some dominant traits within the relationship but his drive for dominance isn't so high that …
/r/RedPillWives05/07/18 10:32 PM
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According to an earlier relationship dynamics post it was stated that some women manifest two archetypes. So a relationship might be labeled HLH with the first two characters referring to the woman.
/r/RedPillWives05/07/18 08:41 PM
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Waiting until marriage only works if both parties equally value virginity on a moral or religious level. The average guy in the US won't commit to marry a woman he hasn't slept with because he doesn't want to sign up for a lifetime of dull sex. I have watched girls try in vain for years to both keep their virginity and find a suitably religious guy to marry. My best friend is at a point now where she is almost 30 and the pool of men her age okay with her not putting out is basically vanishing. I…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 11:50 AM
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Thanks for all of the input. We had a talk last night and decided there are reasons a prenup could protect both of us. We are going to start the ball rolling on drafting an agreement that benefits both of us while providing incentive to not prematurely end the marriage. Obviously, lawyers will need to be involved to make it something that is binding. Timing might be an issue in terms of it being close to the wedding but if drafting the document is a joint endeavor initiated together it would be …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 10:58 AM
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The geographic differences really do make a difference. I grew up in an urban area of the East Coast. He grew up in the rural MidWest. My approach to interactions can come off as super abrasive compared to the more laid back, sweet attitude of the folks from where he is from. He lives out here now and dealing with the change in work environment was a big shift too. He still feels like people out here just aren't as nice. I try to tone it down a bit with him but he's also been just trying to adju…
/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 09:14 PM
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So, things inherited after marriage become marital assets subject to division unless there is a prenup? Ouch...
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 09:06 PM
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My fiance struggled with this a lot in the beginning. He struggled to see me as both a person to love and a sexual object. He could do one or the other. We had a lot of talks about it and a lot of deprogramming about what had been taught about how to respect women. In his mind the woman you have raunchy, "degrading", sex with is not the same woman you fall in love with and marry. I've had to teach him that I am both. We have been together 2.5 years and are at a place where he is more comfortable…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 04:50 PM
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It has been my experience that a well adjusted man doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who is bitchy but rather someone who has some kind of backbone without being a shrew. The ones who really want women who have no mind of their own and the personality of a potato aren't guys worth having but no man wants a woman who is constantly going to bust his balls. I have been called bitchy by people because I don't have an issue holding firmly to boundaries or protecting them. My fiance th…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 11:43 AM
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What is a sunset clause?
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 12:57 AM
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The other day he jokingly said, "I'll have my lawyer call your lawyer to set something up." (At least I think he was joking.) He was surprised to learn I already have a rapport with a good lawyer but haven't needed her services in a while. Part of why he is leaning towards not doing it is because the state we live in right now doesn't have awful divorce laws. What happened to his brother couldn't happen here. However, we probably aren't going to live here forever. I am wondering if it would refl…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 09:22 PM
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The wedding is in three months. Do you think he is still doing last minute vetting?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 06:00 PM
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I know asking was part of the vetting process for him. At the beginning he told me that there was no way he would ever marry anyone without a prenup. He is fond of saying, "I won't bet someone half my stuff that I will love them forever." I told him from the outset I thought they were smart and I would sign one. I have my own requests for what goes in it but think the negotiations could be fun. He says now that he is leaning towards not having me sign one to give me the protection of being able …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 05:58 PM
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Her hymen can be broken via gymnastics, horseback riding, gynecological exam, or any other number of things. It's not some magical thing that makes someone forever loyal. Is this a troll post or for real?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 01:25 PM
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When I was young I had an eating disorder that was pretty severe. I had to spend a whole lot of time in classes about nutrition during the treatment process. I still see a dietitian for supervision and my personal limit is not to lose more than 1lb a week so as to not trigger anything bad physically or psychologically. Right now though I know that the amount of strength building I am doing is likely to slow that down with body composition changes happening. I lost a dress size last month while o…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 01:41 AM
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Go horseback riding twice a week. Lift weights twice a week. Work out for at least 10 hours a week total. Paint my nails once a week. Use anti-wrinkle cream at least 3x a week. Complete food logs at least 50% of the days in July.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 12:06 AM
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Almost all nutrition experts discourage losing more than 2lbs a week. Losing more than 10lbs in a month would be considered unhealthy by standard barometers.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 12:02 AM
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There is more to managing a household than cleaning. Appliances make it easier to keep a smaller staff for a nice home and but there can always be something useful to be done for an industrious person. That is why rich people hire household managers and pay them more than nurses. However, the work ethic seen out of a professional household manager is typically far superior quality than the majority of stay at home moms and the requirements to get the job in the first place can be pretty intense.
/r/MensRights30/06/18 04:49 AM
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Upon further reflection I think that I'm likely a combination of Madonna and Courtesan. I have some of the personality traits listed under Amazon but when it comes to positioning myself in relation to men I think I lean more towards courtesan. I've had conversations before with men about confronting their Madonna-whore complexes because of getting frustrated by them not being able to see my ability to be either depending on the context.
/r/RedPillWives30/06/18 01:48 AM
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I suppose if someone sees your husband as one more child to take care of or problem to manage it does make someone look more heroic. I just wonder if on an unconscious level it's like a way to repel other women.
/r/RedPillWives30/06/18 12:05 AM
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I have always been a huge fan of having open discussions about sex. It isn't bitchy to express that you like something. Maybe you guys have a talk about it and you learn it is something he hates doing and its not personal. Then you can weigh how important it is to you but he might just not know you are into it. It makes me feel super awkward to have a guy go down on me no matter how good he is at it. I have always leaned towards telling guys no on that one but my fiance is super into it so when …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/18 10:55 PM
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I already pity her future husband. 😂
/r/MensRights29/06/18 04:54 PM
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When I hear this I tell people that is the wrong motto for marriage. It should state, "Happy husband, happy wife." The commonly used version removes personhood from the man.
/r/MensRights29/06/18 04:51 PM
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That's insane...being a wife and mother is a vocation. Neglecting the responsibilities towards her family in order to help those outside of the family is not good. There should be women who devote their lives to helping the homeless but they shouldn't have husbands and children to distract them. Mother Theresa was a nun. A married woman should also help the homeless but it shouldn't be done while neglecting her primary roles. There is no reason why she can't help the homeless while also embracin…
/r/MensRights29/06/18 03:11 PM
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I was under the impression the pink tax referred specifically to sales tax on tampons and menstrual pads. I've been off social media for a bit though...has the issue evolved? My thought was that where I live food doesn't get taxed because it is necessary for survival so it isn't far fetched to ditch sales tax on things that aren't really luxuries. But that wouldn't be a pink tax because the same could apply to diapers or adult incontinence products (which both genders need).
/r/MensRights29/06/18 12:54 PM
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I'm confused why this is an issue. Can't she do both? My church does things to feed the homeless on the weekend and a lot of people do it with their kids.
/r/MensRights29/06/18 12:46 PM
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If you toss aside a good relationship every time you go some place new and feel like you might be able to do better you will establish a pattern that leaves you undesirable and impossible to please. We have an innate drive to always want to see if we can one up our current standing. Red Pill calls it hypergamy. You will always be able to convince yourself you are missing out no matter how amazing your man is because we are wired that way. Part of maturing is keeping that instinct in check when a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/18 12:33 PM
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It does. I find my biggest challenge comes in remembering that his softness towards me isn't actually reflective of how he interacts with the rest of the world but since I'm not at work with him or hanging out with the boys I don't see as much of that side. I am more likely to see a soft side that the rest don't witness. If I am not careful it is easy to slip into thinking that it means he lacks strength. It really struck me the other day when I had to pick him up from work (we were temporarily …
/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 12:24 PM
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This was a great read and adds more clarification to the theory. I am pretty certain I am HL but manifesting that L takes conscious effort. I am definitely marrying a magician. I think he can lean towards L in the relationship dynamic at times because of his soft spot for me which means I have to check myself. However in most other areas of life he is dominant. He is a leader among his social group, manager in his company, held office running the disciplinary committee for his fraternity all fou…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/18 09:20 PM
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You are creating an excuse to run away. You aren't being reasonable unless he's got some kind of extreme deformity going on but it doesn't sound like he does. Work on your own confidence and everytime you want to focus in on this minor detail start listing off mentally everything about him that's amazing. You will get over it if you keep redirecting like that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/18 01:55 PM
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I love this post. It is all so true!
/r/RedPillWives26/06/18 03:42 PM
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It took me six months to get LTR status and another year beyond that to get engaged. To me, ditching a guy who won't commit after a few months but who is clearly demonstrating interest is playing a really short game. The long game has a higher yield than the guys willing to go all in with a woman they barely know...and yes, after three months of dating you still barely know a person. Red Pill puts a lot of emphasis on weight as preventing commitment but if you can rival a plus size model (gorgeo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 03:29 PM
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We love Myrtle Beach a lot. We've done trips to New York, Lancaster, and Richmond in the last year. Upcoming in the next year and a half we will be doing Disney, Myrtle Beach (again), Indianapolis, and Ohio. We like exploring new places sometimes but also have old favorites. We tend to do things like visit historical sites, mini golf, check out a local church, and try different restaurants. We like to take mini getaways for the weekend between those times when full vacations are viable. If you h…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 03:02 PM
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I have two kids with Asperger's, an ex husband with it and I would bet money my fiance has it. Some of it will never change because they aren't wired the same as neurotypical people. The sooner you can learn to respect the differences and tailor your expectations the happier you will be in the relationship. And if you just can't handle dating an aspie it is probably more fair to just not because he isn't going to wake up one day and highly value social graces and what others think. And it isn't …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 08:30 PM
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I majored in psychology but could never tolerate being a therapist. Using my limited resources of empathy up on others would leave me too depleted to be good support to my kids and partner. It is a demanding role to be a therapist. My partner rarely yells at me because he holds the belief that it will never make a woman listen better but will just trigger fear and a survival instinct. When he does rarely get to the point where he raises his voice my first response is to try and soften my posture…
/r/RedPillWives24/06/18 10:28 PM
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It sounds like you both could benefit from counseling. A good therapist won't force a blue pill relationship but they can help him develop real confidence without the rage and you the tools to deal with your stuff while coping with him dealing with his.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/18 10:15 PM
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This is interesting but I'm not even sure how to classify myself. I am consistently told by just about everyone that I have an extremely assertive personality for a woman. I have been told I have a serious aggressive streak and am easily thrust into leadership positions in activities I do. I have the "warrior gene" in me (seriously) but I also enjoy nurturing positions. I have a low threshold for controlling men but I also have an inability to respect passive men. I exist in this mental state of…
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 10:43 PM
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We are getting married in Disney World in October. It will be a tiny affair with just four guests (two of whom are my children). We are having dinner and going to a fireworks dessert party afterwards in the Magic Kingdom. We are doing a five day "family moon" followed by a short honeymoon in Philly after we return. Neither one of us wanted the drama of a big family wedding. We both love Disney and he is a Star Wars nut so it seemed like a perfect way to "elope". We are having a videographer and …
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 10:11 PM
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I was elated when my fiance proposed a joint Google calendar. It helps us coordinate our lives much more smoothely. Oddly enough I had a guy I know express concern that it was a red flag for a controlling and abusive relationship like my fiance was doing it just to keep tabs on me. Silly people judge what they don't understand. I think this kind of thing has been great for us and it's cool your partner did it too.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 10:05 PM
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I tell my fiance daily I am grateful for everything he does to take care of us. I tell him why I love and respect him. I do what I can to make his life easier and more comfortable because he does the same for me. This could be cooking, cleaning, running errands while he is at work. I also make sure to never speak negatively about him to the people in our lives to help make sure others respect him too. I am also Catholic and he knows I say prayers for him regularly. There aren't any grand gesture…
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 09:58 PM
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I believe she may have the dominance kink too if that is what she says but I have a hard time believing she could respect you much as a leader outside of the bedroom if she gets to put you on a leash inside of it...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/18 06:21 PM
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I refused to move in until after we were engaged because rearranging my entire life for someone wasn't going to happen without long term commitment. I'm not an overly romantic type so our marriage discussions were very logical and straightforward cost benefit analysis type deals. He is very businesslike with these types of things and I am as well. Our discussions on marriage progressed over the course of a year with my response at various points to statements like the one your boyfriend made bei…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 02:13 PM
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We discuss nutrition and fitness goals together almost daily. We also see a dietitian together for further input. I make a weekly meal plan and grocery list based on the type of meal plan we are following and what foods members of the household like. Pursuing health goals is more enjoyable when it is a team effort.
/r/RedPillWives23/06/18 02:04 PM
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Most of these companies are run by women and these "maids" are paid hundreds an hour. Pretty sure the woman is getting the better deal in the arrangement...
/r/MensRights20/06/18 04:43 PM
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Nowadays most men equate coming over with the potential for sex even if you directly say that you don't want to do it. There is always this underlying little hope that you will be convinced otherwise. If you feel strong enough to keep your boundaries in place while walking into that situation then go and be direct about your expectations, but also be aware he will still be hoping you don't actually mean that. If you are truly aiming to keep sex off the table for a while don't do at home dates un…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/18 04:36 PM
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Essentially...or at least it was clearly a big part of the equation. If it was just sex, a hooker would be cheaper. These women had to stay attractive, care for a home with professional tier skill, and be excellent childcare providers on top of putting out on demand and letting their husbands make the major decisions. (I'm not just talking about my grandparents either.) It's like the marriages that worked are feminist's worst nightmare. 😂
/r/MensRights11/05/18 01:25 PM
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I went to a women's college where pretty much everyone identified to some extent as feminist. Making statements like I do on this topic was generally regarded as offensive and misguided. shrug
/r/MensRights11/05/18 01:07 PM
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Maybe I will if Reddit still exists. 😉 The people in my family who never divorced are the ones who approached their marriage in pretty logistical terms; it was the romantics who couldn't make a relationship work. 😂
/r/MensRights11/05/18 12:56 PM
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The way I see it is if you don't see putting out frequently as part of the job description of spouse, why on earth are you getting married? The whole r/deadbedrooms phenomenon blows my mind. I am going to be getting married in the fall and if we are both being frank there is definitely a sense of sexual transactions going on in large scale. (As opposed to specific instances of "I will give you X if you give me a BJ", it is more like "I give you overall security and you make meeting my sexual nee…
/r/MensRights11/05/18 12:46 PM
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I am a big fan of bluntness and honesty about intentions. The thing that drives me batty are the girls who will want to use their sexuality to get favors, feel dirty about having done it, and then play the victim saying they felt coerced. If someone makes a choice they really need to own it and failure to do so probably makes up a solid chunk of the #metoo movement.
/r/MensRights11/05/18 12:31 PM
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From what I've seen it is actually a pretty dividing issue among feminists and leads to some fierce arguments. I would even lean towards most of them take the stance sex work (even stripping) is a form of violence against women and a tragic result of the patriarchy. Many feel so sad for the poor girls forced to degrade themselves. I've gotten some pretty harsh words thrown at me for insisting adult women can make these choices for themselves without feminists telling them they are too childish a…
/r/MensRights11/05/18 12:27 PM
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I guess I just see it like adults can do what they want with their bodies and sexuality as long as they aren't forcing it on someone. I support legalizing prostitution as well on the same premise. However, I know I am probably in the minority...
/r/MensRights11/05/18 12:20 PM
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I think it's okay any time both parties are over the age of consent, want to do it, and are making that choice free from coercion.
/r/MensRights11/05/18 12:06 PM
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A thought about the innocuoating daughters against feminism thing at the end of your post: I didn't do that at all. My daughter actually spent a substantial amount of time watching feminist rants and videos on YouTube in her free time. She would also watch videos of the critiques. She said to me a few weeks ago, "I'm not a feminist and before you say anything remember that I am fully capable of researching things and have probably watched more videos on this than you have. Feminism isn't about e…
/r/RedPillParenting10/05/18 05:48 AM
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Haha okay. I wasn't sure if it was some kind of warning or something. 😂 I look forward to seeing the update!
/r/RedPillParenting10/05/18 04:39 AM
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"Language is very powerful and frames the discussion." I see your point. Using "uncircumcised" can frame circumcised as the normal starting point. Here in the states we are at about a 50% current circumcision rate for newborns (down from like 85% or something in the previous generation). To a lot of people here circumcised really does seem like the normal baseline to the point that there are probably many people who aren't familiar with using the term "intact". I do look forward to the day this …
/r/MensRights10/05/18 04:37 AM
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"Watch this space" What do you mean?
/r/RedPillParenting10/05/18 04:25 AM
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See, now you are a smart one who definitely wants to avoid jail.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 11:42 PM
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News flash: next time your manipulation might not work. No guarantee that it did once she gets some space from you. If you can't control the cave man BS and save it for girls you know like it you will go to jail and a lot of people will celebrate ruining your life. It's yours to throw away I suppose but you will feel like a real idiot or be full of confused victim puke when this catches up to you.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 11:41 PM
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Dear God. I can't roll my eyes hard enough when people make these arguments. Uncircumcised does not mean a guy can't last as long and being circumcised doesn't prevent premature ejaculation. Some people are so dense.
/r/MensRights09/05/18 09:27 PM
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For us the idea was based partially in practicality. He has a high paying job that doesn't need supplementation to keep a family comfortable. He works 50+ hours a week in addition to on-call rotations. If I am home, I can handle all routine household management tasks while he is away that he doesn't want to do or doesn't have time to do. It leaves us with our weekends and evenings both free to be off work and enjoy each other's company more. It keeps stress levels lower. Part of what helped thou…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/18 02:29 AM
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That's some pretty damning evidence but keep in mind that if during the proceedings she is in therapy, taking meds, and compliant with treatment the system may have sympathy for her as a mentally ill woman just doing the best she can for her kids. She may even be able to round up a psychologist willing to vouch for how toxic the marriage was for her (regardless of what the truth is). Not a guarantee, but definitely a possibility. I would say you are off to a great start gathering this stuff. Jus…
/r/MensRights08/05/18 07:59 PM
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I thought about doing this but looks like I'm a bit late to the party. 😂
/r/MensRights08/05/18 07:24 PM
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In addition to all of the advice you've already been given, keep record of every single communication you have with her. Screenshot and save any texts, including ones from the past that implicate her instability. Save every e-mail and private message. Screen shot any social media posts that have the slightest chance of painting her in a bad light. (At the same time start erasing and scrubbing out of existence any social media posts that could be used against you in the same way.) If she blocks y…
/r/MensRights08/05/18 07:14 PM
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After actually taking a little time today to read some of the writings from the founders of the movement, I am inclined to agree with you.
/r/MensRights08/05/18 06:30 PM
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Truth. Last night I asked my fiancé the definition of toxic masculinity. It's an easy question with an easily parroted answer that he knew off the top of his head. Then I asked him what are some positive traits that are masculine (as opposed to gender neutral). He couldn't answer the question. The look on his face was one of concerned confusion as he realized there was no answer readily available to that question in his mind because the truth is that the SJW and/or feminist narrative isn't about…
/r/MensRights08/05/18 01:26 PM
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We can't even guarantee fathers fair visitation and parental rights but grandma wants the courts to award visitation with her? We can't possibly entertain this as a sane idea when there are so many fathers who aren't allowed to be active in their kids lives. These people are basically trying to fight to have the same legal rights as most fathers are given in U.S.: visitation with no real legal authority over the child. We don't need to shift laws to further reinforce the notion that fathers are …
/r/MensRights08/05/18 12:35 PM
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Given how family courts almost always award custody to mothers it seems the issue of abusive mothers doesn't get taken as a serious concern. It is also noteworthy how multiple comments referenced feminist or otherwise man-hating mothers messed up their self concept. I don't think feminism takes into account the psychological damage caused to boys when the underlying theme of the rhetoric is that men are pigs by nature. If we raise entire generations of men trained to hate themselves for being ma…
/r/MensRights08/05/18 12:19 PM
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I might just take you up on this challenge. 😂
/r/MensRights07/05/18 09:29 PM
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I know it seems like a logical thing for this to be satire but I am pretty sure it isn't. Feminists have tried to reclaim "bitch" (among other words) as a positive word when used between women or towards themselves. I would certainly buy the notion a feminist blogger might try to use bitch in their URL to be "empowered". I have seen multiple articles like this circulating on FB. There really are people who believe it is wrong and discriminatory to have a gender reveal party because they don't th…
/r/MensRights07/05/18 08:07 PM
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I meant that her complaint was asinine. The backlash that he will face because of it is obviously a serious problem.
/r/MensRights07/05/18 07:53 PM
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My fiance's family wanted us to have a big wedding. His brother's wedding cost $75k and had hundreds of guests!!! I begged for a small wedding because of not wanting to deal with the nonsense of planning a huge affair. Our October wedding will be a glorified elopement with four guests. It is true though how often women talk about being so depressed and deflated after the wedding is over...like the wedding was the climax and now it's all down hill. It's tragic to watch because it begs the questio…
/r/MensRights07/05/18 06:40 PM
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I did not want my son circumcised because I am well aware of the lack of benefits and also hold the belief it's not okay to mutilate anyone's genitals. I wanted my son to have the right to make the choice for himself. His father was so deeply offended about his son not having a penis that looks like his that he regularly fought me and berated me, saying things like I wanted to doom our son to a life without blowjobs and that he'd be physically disgusting. How do we deal with circumcised men who …
/r/MensRights07/05/18 06:20 PM
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Where's the "sounds like a good time!" option? 😂
/r/MensRights07/05/18 04:23 PM
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When I saw this article my first thought was it sounds like a light hearted reference to the old Britcom Are You Being Served?
/r/MensRights07/05/18 01:02 PM
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Wow...just wow. This is the most asinine news article I've seen in the last week. The woman filing the complaint seems to be acting a bit dramatic. The comment wasn't even about her or anyone in particular. If she didn't like it maybe she should do what most normal people would do: roll their eyes and move on with their life.
/r/MensRights07/05/18 12:17 PM
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If someone can't handle the harshness of basic training they aren't cut out for combat. It's a security issue to share videos from training but otherwise this is just par for the course. That recruit needs to toughen up or get out and any person crying out about how mean the drill instructor was doesn't understand what kind of pressure you need to be trained to handle in combat zones.
/r/MensRights06/05/18 11:54 PM
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I think most people don't fully understand the implications of a BPD partner and so the majority would attempt to stay after finding out about the diagnosis. I say attempt because odds are the relationship won't be long. Now...whether or not they should stay is a different issue...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/18 07:16 PM
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Keep working on yourself and challenging all of the BPD cognitive distortions. Meds are not clinically proven to help BPD much but dialectical behavioral therapy can. So can time. Most people with BPD no longer meet the diagnostic criteria by age 40. It's one of the personality disorders that people can grow out of to an extent. If you make your present incredible there will be a guy who can tolerate your past. However, you do also need to be realistic about your standards in a partner and accep…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/18 04:11 PM
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I teach both kids to cook and clean. The girl is 12 and the boy is 10. Both know how to cook and are responsible for selecting and preparing (with help if necessary) dinner one night a week. They also have chores they need to do each week. They've been taught that statistically their marriage stands the best chance of working if they don't marry until their late twenties and so they wont be spending their early adult years living with someone else to pick up the slack. Plus, nobody will want to …
/r/RedPillWives05/05/18 12:19 PM
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A lot of stuff from the RP theories are just assigning different names and terms to philosophies I had been raised with. Reading the forums though has prompted an intense desire to make sure I never make my partner feel so emasculated and bitter that coming to the RP forums would feel like sweet freedom. I am apply some of the philosophies more consciously in my relationship to make sure we don't get to a place where he ends up in the forums as one of the guys disenfranchised and hateful because…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 01:31 PM
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I met my fiancé on a dating app. There is no way our paths would have ever crossed in day to day life. I often encourage people to use OKCupid because you have a lot of space to screen out people based on compatibility...it's not like Tindr where you just swipe if someone looks cute. I haven't ever used the typical hook-up apps but have had good experiences with OKC. When my single friends complain about how they can't find a good guy like I have but insist dating apps are beneath them I scoff a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 12:50 PM
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Go to college and get an interesting career but do not go into a bunch of debt for it. You can always opt for a traditionally feminine degree and job like nursing or early childhood development. Still master cooking and home making. Don't hold yourself back on the hope that you will get the perfect guy to take care of you within the next three years. In fact, you may chase away your better prospects by doing so. My fiancé makes a lot of money in a white collar field that allows us to have a very…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 11:54 PM
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"what did you do to level yourselves out?" I found a man who is amazing enough for me to respect and admire. I bettered myself and then found someone awesome enough to still feel humble before. I am educated and intelligent with a lot of impressive life experiences. It is effortless to end up in positions where I am asked to take over leadership because of my blend of skills and personality. Most men don't inspire me enough to follow them and I think that's how it should be. It makes sure I can …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 11:45 PM
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"Often times, solving one problem is an easy way to slip in an agenda but that's really a topic for another day when we'll cover gynocentrism. " I look forward to reading it. 😊
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 11:13 PM
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I'm trying to be optimistic. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 07:17 PM
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This is truth. A plus size woman with near ideal waist to hip ratio and beautiful face will do quite well in the US dating market especially with the cultural shift towards accepting curvier appearances (heck, a plus size model was recently in Sports Illustrated). However, most plus size women are not blessed with those kind of proportions and don't look like that so they may not find the single market quite as forgiving of their size.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 07:08 PM
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I had not thought of it in terms of the government stepping to take the place of the husband but it's so true...there is not much risk anymore to being a single mother. It's a sticky situation though because not all men are good men so if a woman needs to escape a truly life threatening situation if she were treated as a social pariah for now being single it wouldn't be right. But, what's ended up happening is that what could be life saving for a few has been liberally applied to all women. Now …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 06:05 PM
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I think is one of the more commonly used excuses for divorce. People never seem to realize how stupid they sound when they say it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/18 12:25 PM
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Um...she's holding a baby and wearing a belly shirt in one of these pics...there is no evidence she looks dramatically different now than before baby. I didn't get a single stretch mark during either of my pregnancies; some people are lucky like that. I bet some guy is gonna snatch her up really quick because she's hot and some people want that ready made family thing. But, probably won't last because someone this vain is probably lacking in the personality department.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/18 11:57 AM
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It sounds like this guy didn't just pay for himself and leave. If you listen the manager intervened because he repeatedly left without even paying his part of the bill or making it known he was just leaving and sticking the bill on his date. Anyone should know that's in poor taste and a violation of dating conventions. Defending that behavior demonstrates a general lack of social awareness.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/18 11:51 AM
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My fiancé and I talked about both of these things within the first two dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/18 09:53 PM
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I focus on a natural beauty routine so that I don't need much make-up. I have an excellent complexion as a baseline but I make sure to drink 12 cups of water a day, regularly use face masks, moisturize my eye brows and eye lashes with coconut oil, and using a high end moisturizer/anti-wrinkle cream on my face, neck and cleavage. (Waiting until you already have wrinkles is too late...I've been using anti-wrinkle cream for years and I am 31.) Unless it is a special occasion any make-up I wear is v…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/18 11:32 AM
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I have generally avoided dating people who were younger than me. My fiancé is an exception; he is three years younger than me. He's way more mature in a lot of ways. He also has more grey hair than me so I don't feel or look older. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/18 02:59 AM
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Coming home to a beautiful space can make a huge impact on a man and make him over the moon happy to have you especially since so many women these days look down their nose at doing these servile things in a relationship. Keep it up!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 01:35 PM
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True. I have been pondering if part of the problem is that by the time a lot of men find red pill it's been after years of a bad relationship or when they have been entrenched in bitterness. There does seem to be a bit of difference in outlook though between RPW and the other red pill groups. Posts I have read in this group emphasize that a woman needs a man with a healthy blend of alpha and beta traits to be a good husband and father whereas in the other groups it seems like a lot of one-upping…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 11:04 AM
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It is not an unrealistic thing to want and value as long as you have enough value as a partner to realistically attract a man who earns in the upper middle class range. I don't think in this instance it is about gold digging as much as making sure you have a partner who values the same things you do when it comes to raising children. His paycheck is only part of the problem. If he is rich but thinks homeschooling is hippy nonsense it won't matter that he can afford for you to stay home to teach.…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 03:22 AM
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I have noticed that even in married red pill it seems like a lot of the success stories boil down to getting a divorce and more women. It seems a lot of the red pill mentality is in direct opposition to keeping a long term relationship and it is reflected by how many marriages of red pill men are ending. There may be some truth in some of the theories but I personally would not want a partner who was deeply entrenched in the red pill community.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/18 09:06 PM
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I'm 30 and getting married in the fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 07:50 PM
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Wow...it appears I am in the minority here which greatly surprises me. I would take a fat rich man over an average earner with washboard abs. Money and power turn me on way more than a low body fat percentage ever could. Neither one has chance though if they have garbage for a personality and limited interpersonal skills. A fat bank account or a six pack will never be enough for me to love someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/18 07:19 PM
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My fiancé is a high earner in a white collar field and wants me to do that traditional housewife role. However, he would have never entertained marrying someone who had not been to college. And the reason he knows he wants me to manage his home is because I was a nanny and household manager to millionaires for years before getting together with him (translating those home skills into a solid dollar amount he could reference for my value in the role). Being pretty, sweet, and feminine just isn't …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 05:01 PM
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I am opinionated and a critical thinker. I have he capacity to shred someone in a debate if I want to and applying this tenacious attitude to my relationship would be far too easy (and destructive). I will be marrying my captain in the fall and I will tell you this...he never had to ask me to submit because I knew at my core he was a man to whom I wanted to defer. I am submissive to him now because that is the kind of wife I want to be; it does no good to suddenly change relationship approaches …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 02:14 PM
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Personally, I would tell my husband something along the lines of I am honored his friends would want me to come along on the guys trip and I would love to share in his outdoor hobbies with him but I don't want to be a distraction from time with the guys. That time away is important but maybe we could plan a camping trip for another time that's just us? I don't know if there is a right or wrong answer but this is the direction I'd go. I get invites to hang out with the guys sometimes but typicall…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 07:51 PM
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We intended to wait until marriage but at a point it logistically made more sense to move in together before the wedding date. We signed a lease together after being engaged for nine or so months. I would not have done it if we weren't already planning to get married. It is good to know about compatibility but there is also some research supporting the notion that cohabiting before marriage is linked with higher divorce rates (see the Science of Marriage issue of Time Magazine).
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 07:34 PM
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I expect sexual exclusivity after we have had a direct discussion about it. Before that point I expect a respectful "don't ask, don't tell" policy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 07:18 PM
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My fiancé says I remind him of a puppy when he gets home from work because I drop what I'm doing and am so excited to see him. Modern society has gotten me to internalize this as being bad or something to be embarrassed about but I really am that happy to see him. This thread has opened my eyes. 😂
/r/MGTOW23/04/18 01:43 PM
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My DD 12 and DS 10 both have high functioning autism. We have a weekly chore chart hanging in the kitchen. Completing their chores is their job and payday comes on Friday (a $5 allowance) only if they have shown up to work. As an adult you can't expect to work two out of five days at a job and get paid or keep your job. I emphasize the importance of cleaning up after yourself being a positive show of personal responsibility. My son has been taught that even if he wants a housewife one day (which…
/r/RedPillParenting22/04/18 01:50 PM
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This is all painfully true but I didn't quite think of it in these terms. I have an IQ in the upper range and it really does limit the dating pool. Even if a man with an average IQ is attracted to me or admires me I am not capable of being able to follow the lead of a man who can not at least match my intellectual capacity (although exceeding is the preference). When dating someone with an IQ under 130 feels like a bore you can't really afford to be overly critical about physical appearance unle…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 01:16 PM
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I often feel that modern feminism embodies misogyny because it equates your worth as a woman with how well you can be traditionally masculine. It often derides the traditionally feminine as badly as any misogyny they claim they are fighting. The movement tries to present as being about equality and choice but only certain choices are seen as valid. For example, I decided not to go to law school despite high LSAT scores and scholarship opportunities because it wasn't what would have been best for…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 12:27 PM
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I have a severe and complex trauma history that can impact me at times despite all of the therapy. I did not disclose that trauma was part of my history until it became relevant to our interactions. I felt it was honest and fair to inform him before things got serious that I have diagnosed PTSD and what that realistically looks like. He was able to make a calculated and careful decision about how much risk he was willing to take and he appreciated that I respected him enough to be honest as oppo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/18 03:23 AM
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I agree that this statement is nonsense. I am considered by most who meet me to be intelligent. I've got the accolades to prove it too. However, I don't think I have ever met a man intimidated by my intelligence even if it exceeded his own. Contrary to the popular myth, I think intelligence is a turn on for a lot of men. The self-absorption and combative nature that can accompany it in some people, however, is a big turn off for almost anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 04:41 PM
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