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My husband and I started our relationship like this. I asked him on our first date. I planned it all out. I did most of the work. I take care of the budgeting and finances at home. Anything we do together I plan the logistics. I have recently made an effort to step back and stop just doing things for him and assuming he wants me to do x,y,z because I think I can do it better and easier. His parents didn't teach him a lot of financial things growing up and I'm trying to let him figure things out …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 12:14 PM
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You can be proficient in both? They teach cpr in most highschool health classes lol. It's not like you have to have one or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:55 AM
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It's easy to Monday morning quarterback a violent interaction after its already happened. Yeah of course there is a bigger issue, but you aren't going to always know until it's already happened. You aren't an omnipresent being who knows everything about everyone you meet and interact with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:20 AM
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Lmao ok. A lot of ppl live violent life styles and you won't know it until you become a victim of it. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:25 PM
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You never know what other people are going to do to you just because you aren't doing something to someone else doesn't mean you should just walk around naively and assume you are going to be OK if you just hand over your wallet and phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:13 PM
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Yes the only violent crime that ever happens is mugging. If anything else happens it must be your fault or the person your dating's fault. This logic makes a lot of sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:17 PM
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You're just making wild assumptions here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:14 PM
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No woman wants a guy who isn't going to put his money where is mouth is. It doesn't matter how imposing he looks. If he doesn't stand up for himself and runs from confrontation. I don't want him. There is literally no point in dating a dude that won't physically protect you. If he isn't scrappy when he has to be he is unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:25 PM
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Everything in the post implied that communication was present.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 02:15 AM
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Trauma is relative. You can't say something is not traumatic to one person just because it's not as bad as something that someone else experienced that's ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:58 AM
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I agree. If he isn't going to live by her values and ok with the way she wants to live her life then he should find someone that shares his values. I don't think anyone should compromise in a commitment as big as marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 06:33 PM
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I used to be super religious and sex played a huge role in why I'm not anymore. It tormented me for years that I wasn't a good Christian because I wanted to have sex before I was married and I did. I was taught in my church that when you "repent" from your sins and ask for forgiveness it means that you are promising God that you will not repeat that sin or at least that you will genuinely try not to. If she is truly religious and trying to live her life based on the Bible, she can't just ask for…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 02:55 PM
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I don't feel like respecting a woman's terms for how the relationship should progress is "being passive." You are actively deciding to do that and to be a part of the relationship. It's not a game they are boundaries. Most women who have been through more than one relationship or on multiple dates have been through some pretty traumatic things that involved being fucked and dropped by some asshole. Saying no I'm not going to fall into that pattern anymore is not a game. It's not that she finds h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 02:41 PM
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Most women would fuck a guy that's attractive. That means doing things that make yourself more attractive. You don't have to go around advertising to everyone around that you're wearing foundation to cover your blemish. You don't have to go around telling every woman you meet that you filled in your eye brows or that you put on a small amount of bronzer. How would anyone know? Just like no one would know if you had botox unless you told them. Women don't do around telling men that they wear padd…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 04:31 PM
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It literally is the same thing. It's the same thing as working out. It's the same thing as going to the tanning bed. It's the same thing as getting botox and fillers. Just because you precieve it differently doesn't make it so. If you don't want to take advantage of things to improve your appearance that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 11:08 AM
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Lmao sounds like you know every woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 10:59 AM
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There are masculine ways to do make up. You don't have to do a full feminine glam look to fill in eye brows, contour cheek bones or chin, or to cover a blemish or discoloration on your face. That's like Saying women don't find it attractive when men wear nice clothes or fix their hair. Any effor you put in to make yourself more attractive is going to get you a partner that also puts more effort in theirselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 11:26 AM
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Any woman who knows anything about make up and is half decent at doing makeup knows some of the biggest beauty influencers are men. Some of the best make up brands are owned by men. No woman I know that loves makeup is hating on a man that wants to wear makeup. We literally buy their makeup and wear their looks. Any man that does his hair and make up on social goes viral. If a woman doesn't like a man who does makeup she is probably not that into it and is wearing department store trash. If she …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 01:00 AM
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Honestly I agree with you. It's a nice gesture to offer to pay for someone's dinner, but if I don't like the guy and he insists on paying for my dinner I am afraid he will feel like I owe him something or like I have taken advantage of him when I do not want another date. I feel like most women don't want a man who they don't like to pay for their time out when they can pay for it themselves and it lessens the chance that there will be hurt feelings. Yes you can use your willingness to pay for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:53 PM
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I'm willing to sacrifice on money and height. I can make money, he just can't be bad or stupid with money. I really don't have a height preference. I have dated guys shorter than me it doesn't bother me if it doesn't bother them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 12:06 AM
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I agree with you. I feel like most of the people saying you've been groomed would also disagree with most of the other things. I don't really agree with any of it. I think it's all more beneficial to men rather than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:58 PM
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Sounds like he had a first girlfriend and probably another one after that so Not single forever. Craving a relationship isn't the same thing as being alone. Being alone is being totally alone like solitary confinement, torture, stranded on a deserted island, Into the wild type of thing. Anyone who lives in a free society and isn't imprisoned is not alone. Anyone with friends and family is not alone. You are talking to me right now you are not alone. People who are alone go totally insane. If you…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:33 AM
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If it was the missing piece then why did it end? If everything was perfect and both parties were happy then there is no reason to end the relationship. When you rely one sole person for happiness 9/10 you are going to be unhappy because you can't control what other people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:30 PM
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They aren't talking about being their own biggest cheerleader. They are talking about lifting up each other as men. Like friends do for one another. No one is happy alone. But if one are not happy and still feel alone when his entire group of friends is going out of their way to make you feel cared for and appreciated then I find it hard to believe he will be happy and not feel alone in a relationship with a woman. One of the main things I look for in a relationship is for the man to have good l…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:28 PM
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In what aspect? My waist will never be smaller than my ribs allow no matter how much I diet or exercise. I could get surgery to remove my floating ribs or I could temporarily change where they sit using a waist trainer. They work pretty well. Yeah they aren't comfortable, but its worth it to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:52 PM
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This is about what I am. I have a bit of a smaller chest and bigger hips, I got a waist trainer and it says it's supposed to reduce my waist size to 25 inches with regular use.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:23 PM
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Can confirm have never heard of this and I don't think it's possible for me. Probably just depends on the person if this works for you or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 03:41 PM
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If your dating life gets in the way of and makes you look bad at your job, Then it has to do with your job. My ex boyfriend used to come into my job and yell at me, make me late for work, and I keep me up late arguing so I would have to call out. It made me look very unprofessional. My boss eventually asked me what was up and I told him about my boyfriend and that I had left. My boss admitted that he valued me as an employee ,but if I would have insisted on staying with my boyfriend he would hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:53 PM
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He is trying really hard to read something that isn't there
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:10 PM
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This isn't true at all. People are happy and giving you a lot of attention when you first have a child then the new excitement dies off and it becomes isolating and difficult. Everyone wants to hold a new baby and buy it an outfit but no one will be there when it has been screaming every 2 hours in the night for weeks and you still have to work an 8 hour shift. No one will be there when your wife wants to go back to work but daycare costs the same as her pay or day care has such a long wait list…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:51 PM
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This makes me feel much better about my decision. I don't feel ready to have children now. I don't know when or if that time will ever come. I have these weird thoughts sometimes that I might regret it one day and maybe we should just go ahead and do it and let things fall in around it like so many people do, but having children out of some weird FOMO sounds really irresponsible and selfish. I'm glad to see so many people going with their gut and not having regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:35 PM
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It's only a turn off for me If I can tell it's not genuine. Like made the decision to go behind my back, cheat on me for months. Crafted this entire story about how he was unhappy and I was a terrible girlfriend to his friends. They set him up with one of their friends. Meanwhile he is living with me rent free and I'm helping him pay his car payment while he is between jobs. I'm helping pay his debt to the school we both go to so he can re enroll. I think we are going to get married. I find out …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 07:23 PM
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Not just offspring,but living with someone who is poor with money is just a bad decision overall. If it's a roommate or a romance partner or anyone. People have financially abusive parents as well. My friend actually has shit credit because her mom opened a bunch of credit cards in her name. If you are financially vulnerable to anyone you could set yourself up for failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 04:11 PM
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Money definitely doesn't determine attraction, but nothing will dry you up faster than a guy who is terrible with money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 07:50 PM
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I would prefer it if you said woman shaming
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:43 PM
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"The supervision of the project by Icarus Interstellar ended in 2019, after failing to produce a workable, updated starship design. However, many papers were published as elements of the project, and the state of the art of Interstellar travel was advanced. A review of the project was published in 2020. Project Icarus: Designing a Fusion Powered Interstellar Probe (Swinney, R.W. and Freeland II, R.M. and Lamontagne, M.) Acta Futura: 47-59 (2020)" Wow great. Looks like we're ready to go to space …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:10 PM
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Your views are so anthropocentric. Human species survival doesn't really matter on a Geological or universal time scale. My life time time and decisions I make are a non event in that aspect. So it really doesn't matter who one chooses to attach themselves to romantically. If we are all going to die then it shouldn't matter. The chances of developing the technology for long dist. space travel before the next mass extinction event are small. Your point makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:33 PM
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Humanity is not doomed if you don't get into a relationship with someone who is ugly? I think less relationships would actually be good for humanity. Less of a population would be good for everyone overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:44 PM
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The human Brian can interpolate and extrapolate based on prior experience yes. You still look at things based on your own world view and perspective. Even if I forced myself to experience the same thing as someone else I wouldn't feel the same as them. I wouldn't react the same. I wouldn't make the same decisions. Your environment isn't totally responsible for your personality and your choices. One could do everything they hate and just enter a relationship with someone they hate for the sake of…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 06:01 PM
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That's not empathy then that's literally experiencing it yourself. Empathy is imagining it by definition You don't have to experience something to be empathic by definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:39 PM
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The definition of empathy: "the ability to share someone else's feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in that person's situation" Really doesn't require that you force yourself to like or be with that person. Just to imagine what their going through. I can imagine being homeless or alone. That doesn't mean I have to force myself to be homeless or alone to empathize with someone who is. Being empathetic has nothing to do with forcing yourself to like people you don't li…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:29 PM
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Sticking to a potentially suicidal/homicidal person for the sake of empathy isn't good for either party. I have been drained from relationships. I don't rely on anyone but myself. The moment a relationship becomes toxic for me I will leave. Relationships with other people aren't a charity. Everyone is responsible for themselves and their own actions up to a certain point unless you're cynically insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:09 PM
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I'm really having trouble following your comment, but essentially yes when someone tells you to love yourself they are telling you that because it's not anyone else's job to care about you and give you a fulfilling life. You are completely dancing around the point of what I'm saying. Self love isn't possible because it's impossible to have a fulfilling relationship? I'm trying to say that if you rely on relationships with other people to be your driving force and to give you happiness then you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 03:52 PM
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I actually have an avoidant attachment style. I'm very aware of why I am the way I am and it comes with its own challenges. Self esteem issues will potentially cause problems in a relationship but not always. I understand not everyone is like me, but you can find a happy existence without being totally dependent on other people. Have a relationship sure but depending on other people for happiness is just setting yourself up for disappointment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 01:37 PM
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Learning to be happy by yourself is essential before you can be happy with someone else. If you aren't happy with your own pursuits, spending time by yourself, and just occupying space in the world as an individual you will never have a healthy relationship with another person. You can't control what other people do and how other people treat you. You have to fortify yourself from within and find happiness that way. I am completely fine with being alone for the rest of my life. I would rather be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 12:07 PM
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not only was I naive, but I was completely insufferable. I think I broke up with my first boyfriend because he got drunk one time with his friends in high school. He would go to church with me but he wouldn't devote himself to God so I felt like a bad Christian by being with him 😂. I broke his 16 year old heart for Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 11:37 AM
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School and Virginity were some of the worst times in my life as a woman. When I was a Virgin I was inexperienced, controlling in my relationships, religious and self depreciating. I actually tortured and beat myself up for having sexual thoughts and urges. When I decided to stop doing that in school I was "riding the cock carousel" as some on here might say. Maybe I chose to rebel because I was held under lock and key by my super religious upbringing. I also knew so little about sexual health an…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 07:59 PM
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Its possible to fuck people you aren't attracted to. I have done it plenty of times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 11:19 AM
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I have still been screwed over by "normal" guys. Some men always want more. I have given guys I wasn't that attracted to a shot and still had my heart broken by them and been cheated on. People are just shitty sometimes. I feel like it all comes down to whether or not you have empathy and respect for the other person or not. Because even if you don't like them or want to date them long term you can be upfront about what you want. If you are dating them and you begin to have feelings for someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 11:16 AM
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Or the guys really aren't attracted to you and just want to fuck you and leave and aren't interested in any type of relationship past that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:25 AM
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I also do yoga. It's not the same somehow 😕
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:47 PM
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I too am here for the drama. Also my friends, coworkers and husband are probably tired of hearing my sometimes aggressive opinions on gender related topics . So I can blow off some steam by arguing with random people on here. Also I'm pretty much always banned on Facebook.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:23 PM
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24-25
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 11:08 AM
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He claimed it was for a trip we were going to take together. I didn't get to plan the trip at all and it was all about his hobby. I had to pay for pretty much all of it. There were plenty of red flags, I was just infatuated with him. I eventually wised up and left after a little less than a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 01:38 AM
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I always make sure I can pay for the entire bill. I find it nice when a guy offers to do so and will be more likely to go out with them again. I am a pretty generous person. I like to get gifts and do nice things for people I love. It's one of the ways I show affection. If a man offers to pay and is very generous with me on a date I know we will get along. Also just not having enough money or being on a budget Is not the same thing as not being generous. If a guy Is upfront with me and tells me …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:28 PM
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Both is good. Stay in a long term relationship with guy 1 for stability and emotional comfort, but cheat on him with guy 2 because he is attractive and he might buy you a 40$ meal once every 2 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:28 PM
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What do you mean by don't preform? That's a very broad statement. If you're being tossed it's obviously for a reason. If you're not making your partner happy most people would leave. No one wants to be miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 10:52 PM
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Good. Hoe don't care about you either 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 12:26 PM
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People's experiences make them who they are. If you don't care about people then why would you try to be in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 09:13 PM
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Maybe they don't want to have sex with some guy they barely know because it hasn't been such a great experience in the past. You don't know someone's reason for making you wait. Maybe they were sexually assaulted. A LOT of women have been and a lot of women are jaded because of their past experiences with asshole partners that took advantage of them. I'm not saying these are the only reasons, but regardless of the reason it's not fair to assume you are entitled to be intimate with someone before…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 05:50 PM
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I really like how you put it, but I also think there are women who take advantage of the middle ground and give women in the two camps a bad rap. I really don't think it's a male/female thing though. There are always going to be opportunistic people who take advantage where they can.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/03/21 07:23 PM
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Somethings about my past experiences have changed me for the better, but also some for the worst. After leaving a very abusive relationship with a trash dude, One of the things I really struggle with is being paranoid and having that affect my anxiety. My ex liked to "test" me. He would isolate me from my family and friends and then when I would ask him if I could go do something with my family or my classmates he would say yes and I would go. He would always end up getting so mad and breaking u…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/21 06:20 PM
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Maybe they didn't know they were an asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:59 PM
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Yeah it's possible. Maybe they are still hung up on an ex who wasn't an asshole when they met and is one now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:54 AM
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There are plenty of reasons that a man could get rejected. It could have nothing to do with him being nice or whatever. People liked you believe that you're entitled to a relationship with someone just because you are so nice and a great guy. Well maybe the women aren't nice or they are not emotionally ready for a long-term relationship. I have rejected perfectly nice guys that I was attracted to because of personal reasons that have nothing to do with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 09:17 PM
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My ex used to ask me why he could never get laid after we broke up, and it was definitely because he wasn't as nice in as he thinks he is. Yeah generally he is nice in an everyday platonic kind of way, but when you get to know him he is extremely sexist (huge turn off for most women) and objectifies women. When we dated I would be drinking and chatting with his friends and he would interrupt the conversation to say something like "let's go to bone town." That shit is embarrassing. Even if you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 05:30 PM
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I don't agree with this. I sometimes laugh when I'm uncomfortable. Once I was getting hit on at a gas station by this creepy dude at the counter. There was a small line of people behind me and I was in a hurry. He made some inappropriate comments. I smiled and laughed (because I didn't know what else to do). He took that as I was attracted to him and continued to ask me more intrusive questions. He specifically said why are you all giggly? I'm not bro. This is awkward AF and there are people wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 02:14 PM
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I don't think I have a complex, but once I was in a relationship with a guy who initially I didn't like that much. He wanted to keep fucking me, but he did not want to be in a relationship. I stuck around and enticed him until he gave up and entered into an exclusive relationship with me. I don't think I would have dated him if it hadn't been for the challenge. He was (obviously) a complete asshole and he cheated on me multiple times. I had no problems walking away from the relationship in the e…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 01:18 AM
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If you are only allowed to vote based on whether or not you pay taxes that creates a society that caters only to the elite who have generational equitity(the white majority). This will not be a be taking away the rights of women ,but of minorities that the white majority have suppressed for generations while they were allowed to generate wealth and assets to pass down to their children.
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