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Try this guide to overcoming social anxiety. Good luck!
/r/seduction19/11/12 08:25 PM
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This guide to overcoming anxiety might be exactly what you're looking for :)
/r/seduction05/11/12 10:44 PM
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This blog post is basically exactly what you're looking for. Good luck :)
/r/seduction05/11/12 12:09 AM
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Hey! It sounds to me like right now, you should focus on making friends instead of connecting with girls. The reason is because making friends is much lower stakes, so there is less to be anxious about. Once you have some good friends, then you will feel more confident to go after the ladies. Also, it sounds like you're doing the right thing by talking to your counselor. Social anxiety can be overcome--just keep working on it. One thing that helped me is to realize that some social anxiety comes…
/r/seduction26/10/12 06:32 AM
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Thanks :) That was...quite the traffic explosion!
/r/seduction12/10/12 12:01 AM
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Hey! I'm actually the author of the site. Thanks for the shoutout--I'm glad it helped you :)
/r/seduction11/10/12 09:19 PM
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Thanks :) I actually wrote it, so feel free to drop me a line if you have any questions.
/r/seduction02/10/12 02:25 PM
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This guide to conversation might be exactly what you're looking for :)
/r/seduction01/10/12 07:23 PM
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This is also a worthwhile read on conversation :)
/r/seduction23/08/12 07:38 PM
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It sounds like you have your priorities in order. Keep looking for the relationships that will really fulfill you and don't give up and you will be ok. Good luck :)
/r/seduction26/06/12 11:37 PM
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Glad to be helpful :) Let me know if you have any follow-up questions.
/r/seduction26/06/12 09:31 PM
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Pursue friendships, not dating. 80% of what you think a girlfriend will provide a group of friends will provide better. Dating is nice, but it's supposed to be an addition to an otherwise satisfying life, not the thing that makes you happy. If friendship is tough for you, check out some communities/guides that are based more around general social skills; ie, /r/socialskills or Improve Your Social Skills. Good luck!
/r/seduction26/06/12 08:16 PM
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If it conflicts with your values, listen to your gut. You don't want to find success with women at the cost of losing yourself. Plus, if you want to get better at relationships with females, you don't need to use seduction. There are lots of healthy places to learn how to get along well with girls. Don't settle. And trust me. The satisfaction and enjoyment that comes from a really healthy, intimate relationship, where you don't have to fake anything and where you don't have to be ashamed of the …
/r/seduction22/06/12 08:12 PM
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I'd recommend seeing a counselor, honestly. A woman will not fix your problems; a relationship is a nice addition to a good life, not a solution for a bad life. And while it's certainly possible to pick yourself up by the bootstraps and turn stuff around on your own, the fact is that counselors are really good at helping you deal with depression and anxiety and they're really good at helping you put self-improvement plans into effect and stick to them. Seriously. Call a counseling center near yo…
/r/seduction01/06/12 04:11 AM
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Great! Let me know if you have any follow-up questions :)
/r/seduction31/05/12 01:01 AM
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I wrote an online social skills guide called Improve Your Social Skills for people in exactly your situation. It has practical, easy to follow advice for the foundational stuff of social interaction--conversation, body language, making friends, going on dates, getting over anxiety, etc. It doesn't teach you how to be some kind of social superhero, but that's ok--you just need to basics to be successful. Any relationship really worth having, whether with a friend or a girlfriend, will come becaus…
/r/seduction30/05/12 09:40 PM
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Good question! I don't have any specific people to watch, because it depends on what your goals are. If you're going to study body language, you can really watch any shows where people are emotional (whether scripted or reality TV.) Practice noticing the body language signals the actors give off, and then using the context of the scene to help you understand when people give off those signals. If you have a particular thing that you want to work on, then find characters that are good at that and…
/r/seduction11/03/12 12:40 AM
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Sweet! Let me know if you have any more questions.
/r/seduction11/03/12 12:06 AM
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Glad to help :) Feel free to let me know either on reddit or via email if you have any other questions!
/r/seduction11/03/12 12:05 AM
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Why was what removed?
/r/seduction10/03/12 11:21 PM
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Hey! I'll take your questions one at a time. I started my social skills study my freshman year of high school, so during high school I was in a hybrid place of starting to emerge socially but still having a lot of awkwardness to overcome. Prior to high school, I was super awkward and a complete social train wreck. Conversation through text messages is a good way to touch base with people and maintain some low-key contact during the day, but it's not ideal for anything serious. Any kind of intima…
/r/seduction10/03/12 11:19 PM
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Well, I address this explicitly in my sections on meeting people and making friends. But those sections are in the advanced guide which is behind the paywall and I know what it's like to be a broke college student, so I'll give you a summary for free :) Basically, you want to be strategic in what hangouts you go to. Think of it as a sniper approach rather than a shotgun approach, except instead of killing people you're starting wonderful relationships. Ideally, you want to go to hangouts populat…
/r/seduction10/03/12 11:05 PM
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Thanks! Glad to hear you enjoyed the conversational section :) I think that probably you're being too hard on yourself. Chances are, if the people you are with enjoy being with you and you are having decent success in making new friendships, then you are doing just fine at making new friends and connecting with people. Probably what's happening is that you are more aware of your own flaws and less aware of the flaws of the "solid" guys that you are observing. Generally, we are always more aware …
/r/seduction10/03/12 10:30 PM
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Culture definitely plays a big role in social interaction, and you make a good point--there's probably parts of my guide that would not be as applicable to people from other countries. I think however, a lot of the principles still apply, but are played out in different ways. So for instance, in some cultures it might be more acceptable to strike up conversations with people that you meet randomly on the street. In other cultures, you would never do that with strangers, but if someone is a frien…
/r/seduction10/03/12 10:25 PM
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I cover this in depth in my section on conversation, specifically the sections on inspiration So your best bet is to go read that :) But in a nutshell, what you want to do is say things that inspire the other person to share something. So for instance, if you share a story about your weekend, the other person might share a story about their weekend. Or if you share your opinion about a new movie, the other person might share their opinion too. In order for the other person to feel comfortable sh…
/r/seduction10/03/12 07:48 PM
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Grammar-tality!
/r/seduction10/03/12 07:31 PM
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Proper grammar is to italicize titles of full-length works. If I had wanted to pander to the Google bots, I would have made all of those titles to be links :)
/r/seduction10/03/12 06:40 PM
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Improve Your Social Skills is a resource to help you have better social interactions and relationships. It's not the only resource out there, and I don't claim to have a monopoly on good social skills advice. I also don't force anyone to agree with me that long-lasting relationships are the only source of deep intimacy--it's my opinion. But it's one that's based in a lot of experience; I find that people want to be known and understood and accepted anyway, and if you're building a relationship a…
/r/seduction10/03/12 06:38 PM
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Honestly, people forget to ask themselves ""What does this situation look like to the other person?" Oftentimes people know how they feel in a situation or what they think about a situation and they just assume that their conversation partner is perceiving the situation in the same way. Unfortunately, that's often not the case, and a lot of conflict happens when people don't take the time to stop and think "How is my partner perceiving this?" When you stop to ask yourself that question, it helps…
/r/seduction10/03/12 06:29 PM
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Although I should mention that the majority of my knowledge has come from personal experience and research, as well as asking for advice from family, friends, etc.
/r/seduction10/03/12 06:26 PM
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Awesome, glad you're enjoying it :) To answer your question, the two "formal" practices that I've done that have really improved my social skills are Toastmasters and improv theater. Toastmasters is primarily useful for group situations; if you're talking to the person next to you and you suddenly notice that everyone at the table is listening to your story, that might cause you to get nervous or self-conscious. If you're used to talking to large groups of people, you can switch into "speech mod…
/r/seduction10/03/12 06:25 PM
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AMA posted!
/r/seduction10/03/12 06:00 PM
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AMA posted!
/r/seduction10/03/12 05:59 PM
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Good advice :)
/r/seduction09/03/12 02:26 PM
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Ok :) I think I'll post the AMA in a day or two. Do you think it would be better received on the weekend or on a weekday? And I don't mind sharing the traffic info. A normal day for me is 100-150 unique visitors. Yesterday when this link was posted, I got 2000 unique visitors. Today, 1700. So Reddit (and r/seduction) is basically a FIRE HOSE of traffic. Once this link drops off the front page of r/seduction the traffic will probably return to normal levels, but I'm going to enjoy it while it las…
/r/seduction09/03/12 05:52 AM
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Which parts did you find hazy?
/r/seduction08/03/12 06:30 PM
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Hey guys! I'm the author of the site and I found out about this post when I saw a huge surge in traffic. Thanks for visiting and for the positive feedback :) Please let me know if you have any questions about the guide or about conversation/social skills/etc. Also, would you guys have any interest in me doing an AMA on this subreddit?
/r/seduction08/03/12 05:04 AM
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