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Cool_Marionberry7132/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 06:49 AM
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LawyersCool_Marionberry7132/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 02:44 AM
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In my state things ended up being much better. It’s funny how similar the ratios are. But I was able to show she was capable of working more and earning close to my salary. No alimony for me, split the savings which is fine. I pay less than 1k month CS
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 01:08 PM
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Usually with the initial petition they ask for the moon, just trying to get the most possible/ leverage. Don’t be offended. One lawyer told me to not even look at the initial petition ‘ you will just get pissed off’
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 01:03 PM
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That’s a healthy way to do such. I’m hesitant to end things because I don’t want to hurt her but you gotta rip the band aid off eventually
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 12:57 AM
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How did you personally end it with a women you weren’t really in to? I am currently 3 months involved with someone who is great in many ways but the infatuation has deflated for me. She kind of dropped the “item’’ conversation on me and I just went with it just thinking I should see this out a bit longer.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 03:48 AM
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My ex fucked me once, got off first then went to bed lol
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 01:01 PM
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What the fuck do you do for work lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 03:29 AM
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Textbook depression. You want a quick fix? Go to a psychiatrist that does ketamine therapy (a lot of clinics do now). Go trip your ass off while having your brain reset. Then download Hinge and start fucking chicks. Worked fucking fantastic for me. My ex wife is so pissed off lol.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 05:58 AM
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trying to bang your ex now huh
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 05:09 AM
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https://trailers.getyarn.io/yarn-clip/9dbee1b0-84d8-4857-babb-226d1894a5a7/gif#Mq8sYJKu.reddit
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 12:53 PM
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[Self-esteem dating apps](https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-d&q=dating+apps+and+self+esteem) Its a real thing mate, just playing devils advocate
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 03:31 PM
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That’s awesome you had a good experience. But I’m telling you not everyone has it that way, I had actually been somewhat aware of the trials and tribulations a large portion of men have on the apps before I loaded them up. Just heard about it in media over the years. Tons of articles on it, just search it. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0747563224003832?via%3Dihub I had actually paid for features on the app, you definitely get more activity. Even after paying the app is still…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 03:22 PM
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I understand where OP is coming from, just a bit too much angst. Im tall and handsome, make a decent living. Missed out on the dating app start/fevor 12 years ago, last year gave it a shot and pretty quickly saw how it is pay-to-win, and damaging to the psyche. Men have it rough on those apps. My problem was that I wasn't in the headspace to date, mostly just wanted to hook up. I deleted them after two weeks. Over a year later and just casually hooking up/ dating some people organically I think …
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 04:26 AM
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I am in my 30s, already have kids, had the vasectomy scheduled pre-divorce and went through with the procedure anyway. The no-kids thing has already eliminated a few younger women as partners so I struggle with the 'what if I hadnt done it' thoughts. How does one handle that in your experience? The obvious perk is no more kids, I financially cannot support a second family if I ever want to retire at a decent age. But the thought is still there that I could meet someone and change my mind on kids…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 06:08 PM
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Yes OP shouldn’t be threatened by the big scary talk. Unless she has actual criminal evidence of sorts. Stand your ground for 50/50
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 07:47 AM
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Ive been living with mine for over a year. The first month I knee jerk reacted and got on the dating apps since I missed the start of that trend... its pretty shit for men... kept getting linked up with fellow divorced women still living with their ex or parents lol. Went on a couple dates but it was a waste of time. Deleted them and just focused on my kids and if some pussy fell in my lap so be it. Well I have been fucking a few women I already knew, I just leave the house when everyone is asle…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 07:01 AM
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Wow I would go full scorched earth man
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 07:28 PM
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Judging by your username you like big booty bitches huh?
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 04:13 AM
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I guess I was just the one being accused and in a weak position. She planned the divorce years ago and tried to set me up fail. Made me go to alcohol counseling to 'save the marriage', tried to use that against me. Recordings without my knowledge for years, luckily I had spider senses when she was baiting me, didnt react in those situations.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 12:27 AM
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DM'd you. For the rest of you, I would not recommend Rachel Caldwell in PHX metro area.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 08:51 AM
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I was in your shoes last year except chips stacked against me, ended up 50/50. I think you have a good chance.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 08:36 AM
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That last bit hits home
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 06:22 PM
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Yeah definitely start bangin’ Great for the mood. Except now I have a bunch of fat chicks texting me all the time 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 10:00 AM
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You need to consult with more attorneys, dont just take the word of one person. The first attorney I was ‘referred to by a friend’ ended up being one of the trashy asshole attorneys. Even said so in his schpeel to me. He said it was going to be about 100k, knew a shit ton about my job/industry and was basically feeling me out for how much he could siphon. I consulted a few more and went with the one that Instilled the most confidence. My ex went full silver bullet divorce strategy and by all con…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 09:57 AM
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Ha! My ex had to work all day and i got to post great pictures of my family and the kids having a great day. This is out of spite due to her trying to make me look like a piece of shit dad
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/25 04:30 AM
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You paying cash or financing? If financing it would obviously be bad for her to split debt with you. If you use cash from pre separation saving then she might have a claim. Post separation cash probably ok for you then.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 03:34 PM
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Men lie all the time; " Honey does this dress make me look fat?" "No not at all you look great!"
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 09:18 PM
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Right? Such prude judgement.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 02:46 PM
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Hahaha I would argue those arent issues at all. Very prude judgement if you think those are divorceable offenses. His wife is probably emotionally checked out and cheating on him for sure, if not fucking someone already.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 02:45 PM
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You need to get your ass back in the house right now. I was in a similar boat, except she had been plotting the divorce for several years while telling me to do things to make the relationship work. Things like counseling and substance treatment, called cops on me for ' wellness check' even though I was fine. All aimed at making me look poor of character. The whole plan hinged on getting me out of the house and establishing primary parent. I left the house for a week for a fit of emotions, but o…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 02:42 PM
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Yes bad attorney advice but an exact example to file first. If I filed first it would have blocked her from using the 10 year marriage alimony stipulation to her advantage. Also you want to get your narrative first in the decree. In my case I was the one being accused and made to look bad. ' It doesnt matter in the eyes of the court' but in reality there is human psychology and bias even if they say they arent biased. Get your narrative out there first. So moral of story, get an attorney that re…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 07:12 PM
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In my case, I thought I would let her file first as she claimed when we decided to split. I figured it would raise her legal costs a little higher and it gave me time to interview attorneys, and save me money but not actually having one on retainer yet. Every attorney said no advantage to file first, so I waited. Well she waited 2 months as well… to the exact date of 10 year anniversary…. Petty I thought but actually my state carries a heavier alimony at 10 years marriage…. All the attorneys ask…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 10:44 AM
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Uhhh yeah this guy is being assumptive about presumptive lol Lawyer needs to reach out to her not him.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 10:31 AM
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20K, probably going to be closer to 25 because some of it was loans
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 12:24 AM
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Thank you for posting this! I feel sorry for the men that had to die on the cross to get us here.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 10:29 PM
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Uhhhh thats bizzare. But I know in my situation that is somewhat similar she would do aggressive shit occasionally but not everyday. I assume my EX was pissed about getting bad news from the lawyer or just upset that things didnt play out the way she thought. She thought she was going to get full custody and still be able to work part time/full time mom. Instead she has to work FT and split the kids 50/50. Surprise bitch!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 09:56 PM
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Its quite fun to tease married guys with the whipped sound effect. Gets a frown every time
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 12:08 PM
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Had to scroll way too far to see a real response to the question
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 12:01 PM
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The question was, why would anyone get REmarried? This is a sub for bitter and resentful men what are you doing here lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 11:56 AM
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Bummer. Oh I get the vilified thing, I had to put up a good fight to get my fair rights. I know she has slandered me to her friends, they wont even look me in the eye or say hi. But I couldnt give two shits about them. I know any thing she says is out of anger because I won the divorce for the most part.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 12:32 AM
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Why couldnt you and ex co-parent and be roommates?
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/25 10:42 PM
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Time to cut the anchor
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 07:00 AM
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I won mine as well. In terms of getting what is fair… 50/50 finances and custody. I was the one under the microscope and all the claims against. Stood my ground and defended with logic. Honestly sometimes by the seat of my pants but somehow kept my shit together. I wont stop being under the microscope but just gotta keep doing well and it will workout.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 02:23 AM
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Yeah my ex wife called me a ‘horrible provider’ in an argument once during the separation. This is a woman with a masters degree that after we started having kids she dropped on me ‘ I always wanted to be a stay at home mom’
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 08:29 PM
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They want you to fail. Dont show weakness and overcome the obstacles. Better times are ahead
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 01:47 AM
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In my case, she had already consulted attorneys for YEARS prior to the final straw. She had been trying to build a case against me by recording, documenting, baiting me into situations and trying to get me to leave the house. Thankfully I never took the bait, saw through the guise. But when the divorce decision happened between us I started consulting attorneys ( all consults were same day or the very next), they all asked same questions. Like how long have you been married, how many kids, has s…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 01:21 PM
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Yeah there are instances im sure, but especially context of this sub, swinging is a nail in the coffin. Wasnt clinton just cheating? I wasnt aware they had an open agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 11:35 PM
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Has anyone ever heard of a relationship that survives bring other people in to fuck? Just wild
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 08:42 PM
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Yes, none of the dumbass attorneys I consulted with saw this move coming. We had verbally agreed to divorce and our 10 year anniversary was 2 months away. I talked to 4 attorneys and after giving the whole marriage story I asked questions like, ‘is there was any benefit to filing first?’ Several weeks had gone by and I was wondering why she hadnt filed yet. ‘Oh no there is no difference’ Well I had decided and retained a firm, just waited and started getting all my affairs in order. Got served r…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 12:53 PM
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Why She Divorced You That video might help you, and that channel as a whole is really good.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 01:50 PM
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Those snakes can put on a fake front for years and then pull the plug when they feel safe enough to branch out.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 01:44 PM
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Im a bit further in almost your situation except there is no monkey branching or dating going on either side. So its really insulting at first, they ask for the damn moon in the petition, thats a standard play. But the supervised visitation is a joke, thats for criminals coming out of prison haha. It will never fly so just absolutely stand your ground at accept nothing less than 50/50 if you want it. Like you are already watching the kids, same in my situation except im being accused of being un…
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 12:29 AM
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Sometimes its helpful to analyze ‘It could be worse’ scenarios. There are men here who lose their entire family, the purpose of raising their kids. Or they still have to remain in contact with ex. Sounds like depression mate. See a counselor, psychiatrist, im looking into ketamine treatment to reshape my outlook. Lift some heavy weights.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 03:20 PM
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Maybe try and view things from her perspective. Was keeping the divorced guy at a distance looking for red flags
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 04:06 AM
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For me the decision was something I weighed many times for about 5 years. Fear and hope were the biggest reasons I didnt pull the trigger sooner. Eventually I had so much distaste, resentment, and apathy for her. I truly didnt love her at all anymore. I didnt want to hear her speak, every word was annoying. I found myself thinking after every mistake she made that she wan an idiot. Then one petty argument turned into ‘ the fight’ that ended it
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/25 05:47 AM
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Tough love here. Do you want permission to kill yourself? No one will give that to you either. Cliche but if you arent pumping iron then you need to start. Not ‘exercising’ or ‘working out’, but getting diesel and pumping iron. Its literally the greatest prescription known to man. Upperbody/ lower body splits progressive overload. You can lift yourself out of depression pun intended. Depression sucks, been there. But you need to be lifting pyramid sets, negatives, one rep max different muscle gr…
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 11:44 PM
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Got any tips for meeting these hot childless women in their 30s? Im about your demographics, maybe a little taller but my receding hair line is my only aging feature, no gray. Im not really actively dating because still sharing a home with stbxw and kids. But the potential women I have encounter/interact/ dates are not really first or second choice material really. A older single mom with two boys and baby daddy drama won't take my not interested cues. Old friend with benefits wont leave me alon…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 09:01 PM
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I've recently heard the term ' bonus kids'. Funny if you have a certain sense of humor.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 08:45 PM
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Yeah I'm currently in it, faced several allegations myself
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 02:58 PM
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That sucks, but I read alot of these posts and think ‘ there is no way these guys are getting fucked this hard by accusations alone’. There has to be something concrete for a judge to lay the book that hard.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 02:10 PM
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Golf. Gets you outside doing physical activity, can meet people and it’s addicting getting better
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 02:43 PM
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wow with out kids is so much easier
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/25 01:37 AM
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If you didnt break any laws, tell her to fuck off. Its not the movies, where some screaming wife kicks the husband out after an argument. There is literally a playbook for divorcing women so they can get what they want. That was my stbxw’s plan, didnt work like she thought. It does get better because I am assuming you got the initial divorce decree, and have some shock from it. They ask for the moon in that, most of it wont be half true if you get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 04:53 AM
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What if all your kids friend’s dads are needle dicks with nothing in common?
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 11:15 AM
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‘Start fuckin’ in other words, agreed
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 11:11 AM
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Me too brother!
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 04:18 AM
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The phrase gaslighting is the worst. She gaslights me by calling me a gaslighter every opportunity she can for things that the term doesnt apply to. She starts losing an objective argument? Gaslighter!! Stop gaslighting me! What? I was literally right, i told you there was a deadline for that.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/25 01:01 PM
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Dude I'm feeling the exact same. Just went multi months no drinking, just feeling an existential crisis of purpose and identity. I need to get a good lift in at the gym and reset. Its been two weeks, I think weights are my cure, just need to stay consistent. Even a few days off and I get in a funk. Mid divorce and life is hard.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 07:51 PM
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I can't speak from vast experience, still going through it. I make about the same as you, my ex wife makes about the same, although when we were together she was working way less. We are in a higher cost of living area, not nearly the equity though because this idiot wife didnt want to buy a house in 2019. Child care costs a shit ton and with our combined income it is still very difficult to get ahead. We were loveless for 3 years trying to make it work for the kids. You will reach a break point…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 01:07 PM
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Same boat too. I’ve really come to the realization that nobody cares. My friends… were there at the onset of divorce, probably for the juicy deets. Its supposed to be one of the hardest life events, now nobody reaches out. They are all too involved in their own lives. It makes me so cynical, no-one cares, nothing you do matters. Even your day to day interactions, you will never interact with these people again. Embarrassing or good moments. Ive tried to get out and engage people, make friends. J…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 04:20 AM
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My brother… time to fuck her one last time. She says shit like ‘ take me to court cheese dick’ because its exactly what she doesnt want you to do. Record her saying that bs, note all the receipts, make a log of you handling responsibilities. Get a side job, get a new main job. I dont believe how hard you think it is for you. Absolutely dont move your son. Take out loan for attorney retainer if you have to. Make that bitch look bad in court. 4 years is all.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 12:15 PM
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To help heal, there has to be more you arent admitting to us or yourself. I find it hard to fathom the sole reason for kicking you out was because you couldnt balance time with your kid and rehearsals. Did you and your ex go 50:50? So Your kid time was off limits for social activities? Then hopefully the band works with your other 50% of free time. I had way less free time when married even if my spouse was available to watch the kids. You quoted they ‘were burdened with your problems’ Thats plu…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 02:15 PM
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Hopefully you are living the good life now
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/25 06:03 AM
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Yeah thats great for you. Alot of our issue was finances. Mainly JUST missing covid interest rates. We got in, just late. While we gained a little equity, we didnt end up with a supreme rate. If we had kept our downpayment money in 2019 like I wanted, we would have been golden. Instead she wanted to put it all into studentnloans. By my calculations this was about a +$500k mistake. If you factor in equity missed, loan life interest paid. Hindsight 20/20 but she was so risk averse. How is buying a…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 02:22 PM
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This is hopefully me in the future, in the early stages still but I have been improving myself and bonding with the kids. Serious question though, how did you end up financially after? I am going to be starting from 0.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 04:59 AM
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Sorry man, Canada court then. Next step/goal is to pull yourself back up and move to the same town.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 05:13 AM
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My heart goes out for you truly, this shit sucks. But there has to be more to this? To play devils advocate, we all sugar coat our side of the story. Human nature, just like she has sugar coated her side of things. What aren't you admitting/ telling us mate? What are her other counter arguments? The sooner you come to terms with the situation the faster you will heal. For me it is alcohol accusations, I definitely used to ride too hard, not any more. Just keep on your A game, maybe she will slip…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 12:32 PM
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Lmao I did the same exact thing except mine was cheap.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 03:57 AM
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Thats kind of fucked up by the friends and family. Wonder what her side of the story is.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/25 04:01 PM
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Yup. Other than when she wanted to get pregnant. Literally got used for my man juice. Also I remember the day I told her I wouldn't be making buckoo bucks in the job I took, you could see the disappointment in her face. Also she wanted to be a stay at home mom so bad after I put the ring on… such grifters women are. Just want a free fuckin ride and to not have any actual work outside kids.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 03:25 AM
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Thats good advice thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 06:47 AM
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Im still in the divorce process and everything you said is already coming true except we still live together and take care of the kids. No more nagging, bought shit I wanted, got some ass. But taking down the decorations and deciding who gets what still really hit hard.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 02:19 PM
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My mental anguish wasnt your level but I understand. I developed a kind of ‘ fuck her attitude’ a long time ago, like she can go kick rocks etc. You love her but try to do a reversal and start thinking of reasons you dont like her. Then go exercise as others suggested, like intensly though. You need endorphins. Then do ice baths or cryo chamber sessions a few times a week. I always get a huge endorphin rush after those. That will get your brain feeling better. Start doing deep breathing and medi…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 01:31 PM
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