Cool_Series_5469 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoes The kind of women who are deliberately not having sex in their 20s, are generally not going to be interested in dating men in their 40s. At least outside of religious cults.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 11:13 AM
–	The idea that a guy is morally obliged to date an old chick just because he’s old is regarded I don't think peoples "value" comes down to whether or not I would date then	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 08:54 AM
1	What is your strongest Pro Blue Pill Argument? I think it was pretty standard, talking about my hobbies, interests, job etc. What even makes a good bio? My hunch is just that most people prefer to get to know someone by talking to them, rather than reading a bio, and that looks is the main driver of swipes. I also feel writing a super sincere bio puts women off because it comes across as desperate, and men trying to be cute, funny, or self-effacing in bios is a bit cringe. Maybe some guys manage to hit a sweet spot, but unless a guy is a ver…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 08:48 AM
4	What is your strongest Pro Blue Pill Argument? I always hear men's terrible bios being talked about, but personally back when I was single (which is quite a while ago mind, so maybe things have changed) I got more matches and better conversations when I just got rid of my bio completely.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 09:10 PM
1	Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"? Agreed. I feel conversations about these dynamics always end up being strawmanned, because the dynamic being described really isn't that crazy or rare. Most people object to the words "dominant" and "submissive" being used because they bring to mind slavery and conquest rather than relationships. Most men would like their woman to genuinely admire and be in awe of him, to be happy to row in behind him on the aspects of life together that he cares deeply about (which may not be that numerous), an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 04:49 PM
1	Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"? Fair. A lot of this discourse comes down to people not seeing things the same way and to framing things differently. I would say leading, or guiding, doesn't mean bossing someone around. If you want to move, you have a discussion with your partner about wanting to move where you explain why it would be a good idea for the relationship, and your partner decides to go along with it, then I would say that is a pretty healthy form of leadership. Regardless, describing this situation as a compromise …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 12:24 PM
2	Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"? In my experience, women tend to kind of fawn over men who take charge in these kind of "the buck stops here" situations, especially if its otherwise out of character for the man doing it, and often being capable of doing that but knowing when (i.e. very rarely) is seen as a key part of being a good husband/father. On the other hand, a lot of men would see a woman doing something like that as overstepping or being bossy and could hold it against her. Also, most men just accept that being expected…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 04:56 PM
1	Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"? Any relationship dynamic can become toxic/dangerous if both people aren't good people or don't respect each other, including 50/50 setups. In my experience the dynamic being described here already is the norm. Most women seem to prefer and have the utmost respect for men who are largely agreeable and chill, and not micro-managers in terms of home/social life, but are still able to set boundaries or say no unapologetically on the rare occasion they need to. Especially if, throughout the relations…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 02:57 PM
1	Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"? That's literally not a compromise though, that was your wife letting you lead the relationship and your life together in a pretty major way. The reason she saw fit to do this, is probably because she trusts you as a competent leader. If she didn't look up to you to some degree, she would have insisted on staying there or breaking up with you. A compromise would have been something like moving to a city but renting an apartment in the sticks so she could live there during the week.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 12:22 PM
2	Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"? I guess with power or authority, if you want to call it that, comes responsibility and measure. If you're vetoing everything for silly reasons, then thats not going to work. And bear in mind this "veto power" only exists because the other partner allows it to, so if they decide not to listen when you object to something, that's that. I'm in a somewhat similar unspoken dynamic with my partner, and she basically sums it up as "its so rare that you object to things, that I know if you are objecting…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 11:56 AM
0	Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"? I think when people talk about their relationship being egalitarian, they are talking about the aspirational values or principles underpinning it, rather than the de-facto way the relationship functions. I also think a lot of people just don't think that deeply about this stuff, so "egalitarian" is an easy answer. I would say my own relationship is egalitarian in principle, although in practice I do tend to be the one leading most of the bigger things. With joint financial stuff for example, my …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 10:11 AM
1	As a man, Why am I not allowed to argue with women? Arguments rarely end with both parties agreeing with each other though, regardless of genders or context. Generally an argument is an exchange of attrition which goes on until one person gets sick of arguing and lets the other person have their way, or a compromise is reached. But both people still tend to believe they are correct and the other is wrong, even if they're letting them have all or part of what they want. If you want to change a person's mind, arguing with them isn't going to help. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/26 10:19 PM