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I tried getting away from the RP but it seems like most of women I know whether it’s at work or when I’m out and about are dating men who are good looking or financially successful (six figures). Mathematically speaking, only 20% of women can date the top 20% of men. So either you have a very exclusive and strangely specific network, or your perception is wrong. Shaving your head when you’re balding is a good strategy. Now work on your social skills.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/26 01:45 PM
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For the money.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/26 02:54 PM
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What is “chopped”?
/r/ExRedPill23/06/26 10:56 AM
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I am a woman who married a wonderful man when I was 39, and he was 43. Wouldn’t change a thing. If you don’t like how gender roles are handled in your patriarchal culture, then don’t date men from that culture. Or only date the ones who have distanced themselves from that aspect of the culture.
/r/ExRedPill22/06/26 02:48 PM
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BUT, perhaps she would not have been as manipulative or selfish if I hadn't been that way. OR, if you had had more of a backbone, you would have broken up with her much sooner. Saving yourself from further humiliation and freeing yourself to meet other women, some of whom would not have been so selfish and manipulative. Your passive nature and anxiety to please made you the target of a Taker. Get your Taker and your Giver into balance, and you will attract women whose Takers and Givers are in ba…
/r/ExRedPill05/06/26 05:07 PM
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I was dumped after a 3 years relationship. I feel the biggest reason was that I was too much of a nice guy and she lost respect for me. In the end I wasn't receiving any love from her but she just used me to do favours etc. […] I've come to accept that women are selfish and manipulative, and I'm trying to find a way to like/love them despite that. That is quite a deductive leap, based on an N of 1! What about all the women who get dumped by men? What about the women in relationships where the wo…
/r/ExRedPill05/06/26 02:06 PM
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Listen to the March 10 and 12, 2026 episodes of Behind the Bastards.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/26 04:07 PM
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Well, that’s the thing. OP kind of toggles between talking about casual sex and relationships. It’s confusing. Certainly when he talks about relationships and girlfriends, there’s an expectation of a loving sexual relationship.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/26 09:22 PM
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You don’t mention love. If she loves you, then she’ll consider you a great catch, no matter who she dated before. Also, in my observation, women’s ability to distinguish good men from bad men improves over time as she matures and gains more experience in the dating world. So, if she’s got a dating history, there’s every reason to assume that she’s dating you because you have more to offer than the men she dated before you.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/26 08:09 PM
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I want to become a person like Batman or Red hood or James Bond(a highly competent person in a significant to of areas). Well those characters are essentially cartoons. Not realistic at all. Batman has the emotional intelligence of pebble. James Bond is a sex addict. But I get what you're saying. You want to feel highly competent. Have you chosen a field of endeavor that you want to feel highly competent in? Since you are asking about Red Pill, maybe you would enjoy becoming an acclaimed authori…
/r/ExRedPill16/03/26 02:44 PM
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That was the good parts that i used to remeber. I like to stay in that moment. Why do you need Red Pill for that? Take care of yourself. Have a goal. Can't you just do that without diving headfirst into the manosphere?
/r/ExRedPill16/03/26 02:31 PM
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If they’re getting more attention which isn’t something I’m incapable of but I also don’t handle relationships with ease once im dating someone. It always feels like i cant be myself and even if its just a little bit i feel like need to put on a version of myself thats a little bit more masculine rather than whats actually authentic. This all means i just shouldn’t be dating and have a lot to address before im qualified to start again. Ok. Thats helpful. It sounds like you’re equating maturity w…
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 10:36 PM
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They might be parents or are more muscular, mature and the fact that I’m not that aka not a real man yet truly makes me despise every bit of who I am and makes me want to severely hurt myself. How are you gauging maturity? How do you determine that you are less mature than “your competition”?
/r/ExRedPill12/03/26 08:18 PM
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So, how do I find the proper balance here? Resolve to be polite, cordial, and kind to everyone. If you treat everyone the same, then you’re not putting anyone on a pedestal. The world needs more kindness. Stop varying your attitude according to the gender and relative attractiveness of the person you are dealing with.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/26 08:21 PM
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This would be more "a generalized fear" than an individual case. Then you should let this worry go. Wait until you have a girlfriend. Use the actual facts you learn about her to determine what your greatest risks are. Right now you’re just borrowing trouble for no reason.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 11:13 PM
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I end up assuming that many women have had casual relationships with men who were more attractive in various ways, but also physically/sexually. Many of those men may not have wanted commitment. The way you phrased this is so general. Is this true about the women you have been in real relationships with? Or is this just a generalized fear of yours? How would you even know if the men your girlfriend dated before you were more physically or sexually attractive than you? What does “sexually attract…
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 10:02 PM
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Best response by far btw Thank you. I’m old. I did a lot of stuff I regret when I was younger and wanted someone to love me. I’m not saying I was just like your girlfriend or in the same situation. But young people do a lot of stupid shit in those early years of figuring life out.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 10:02 PM
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What if that's what she's telling me to make me feel more secure, though? Do you mean, what if she described her actions honestly, but was dishonest about her feelings and the circumstances? First, if she was going to lie, why not lie about the whole episode altogether? I mean it’s sad and embarrassing. Why make that up? Second, do you think she is lying? Does she give you reasons to suspect she is lying? I agree it is sad to do that with someone, especially after they disclose they hooked up wi…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 09:10 PM
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She told me she did not enjoy it, was not attracted to him, and did it because she was lonely and knew it would be easy. She says she did not feel good about herself back then. That sounds very sad. Why do you think your first reaction isn’t to feel compassion for her when you consider this obviously difficult time? Those are the actions of a woman in a bad place. I don’t know if it was pain or fear or what. But I think locating your compassion for her and whatever was going on to trigger that s…
/r/ExRedPill25/02/26 08:34 PM
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What do you need to help you do what you need to do?
/r/ExRedPill23/02/26 09:10 PM
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One thing that has always perplexed me about the redpill is the idea that men have their best years after 30. Almost everyone has their best years after 30. Being in your 20s includes a fair amount of anxiety and confusion. You're doing all kinds of adult things for the first time, and you're still figuring out who you really are. So much of life feels awkward. But somehow, you hit 30, and you're just more comfortable in your own skin, and most people start hitting their stride in a lot of ways.…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/26 02:29 PM
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There’s no benefits for most relationships to last a long time. The only relationships that should last a long time are happy, healthy ones. It’s best for all the unhappy and unhealthy relationships to end quickly. Keeping a bad relationship on life support is no virtue.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 08:14 PM
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I am sub 5. No point going to the gym. Its just overcompensating Ok, you’ve decided against overcompensating. But what about just compensating?
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 08:26 PM
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“Women will soften a man and make him weak- then she becomes bored of him” So he’s advocating men limit their relationships to other men?
/r/ExRedPill02/10/25 07:08 AM
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I want to watch continuously. What do you mean?
/r/ExRedPill06/06/25 07:08 PM
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Why YouTube?
/r/ExRedPill06/06/25 06:51 PM
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I don't know a thousand people this closely, so it's kind of weird that I happen to know two guys this happened to. It might not be that weird. Obviously I know nothing about you. But it’s not unusual for someone to have a lot of similar people in their friend group. So maybe your friend group scores higher than average in qualities like leaves birth control up to women, or is easily convinced to put in a baby in her, or has a bad “picker.” If friends were allotted randomly, you might have a poi…
/r/ExRedPill23/03/25 07:16 PM
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Sometimes I get overwhelmed and I don’t respond to texts. Or I get depressed and don’t respond to texts. Or calls. You have no idea what’s going on in this woman’s life at the moment. A bad breakup. Or a terrible boyfriend that she hasn’t broken up with. Or she’s feeling same sex attraction and doesn’t know how to handle that. Or she’s being bullied at work. Or she took a job that she’s severely under qualified for. Or her childhood dog just died. Or her dad is showing early signs of dementia. O…
/r/ExRedPill06/12/24 07:57 PM
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My stepfather and his stepfather I think you are making the mistake of assuming that your step-father and his step-father represent the prevailing attitudes of most men out there. But they don’t. Your step-father and his step-father are weird. Never forget that. They are weird, and if they attended a party with me and my friends, they would be extremely uncomfortable because weird people are always uncomfortable around normal people. Just keep reminding yourself that they are the weird ones, and…
/r/ExRedPill22/11/24 07:33 PM
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I'm sorry you are going through this. Have you considered limiting yourself to temporary relationships? Like, once you and a man determine that you have a mutual desire to be together, agree that you will be an exclusive couple for the next year (or 2 years, or 5 years), then the relationship will expire unless you both agree to renew it. Or you could start with shorter commitment periods and only lengthen them as your confidence and contentment with the relationship grows.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/24 03:09 PM
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Well there you go. It's sounds like you're doing everything right and just need to be patient. Good luck with med school! I hope you become a wonderful, brilliant, compassionate, humble, and helpful doctor.
/r/ExRedPill10/11/24 02:39 PM
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Since you have a female friend, have you engaged her in any conversation about this? It should be helpful to get feedback from a woman who knows you and can give you an idea of how other women perceive you. It seems to me that being in medical school should give you a ton of opportunities to meet women your age who share your interests and are on par with you intellectually. Of course, everyone is putting academics ahead of social life, as you should be doing. But it should be possible to fit in…
/r/ExRedPill10/11/24 02:14 PM
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Certain men come into a relationship with covert or overt attitudes about gender roles. They are happy to let the woman in their lives take care of the majority of household tasks and manage the household calendar. Sometimes it the behavior isn’t as noticeable until the first child is born, and the man takes almost no role in childcare and makes no effort to learn the basics of child development and good parenting. These are men who add no value to their partners’ lives. I’m not saying that is a…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/24 02:25 PM
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I’d expect women to always go with a guy who dated in high school and got the bullshit out of the way when they were 18 and not 25. I can change parts of myself I don’t like but part of what I don’t like is my experience. If I ever want to date again I’d rather not have the experience that I have. I see. I don’t know if this will help, but my husband had little-to-no dating or sexual experience until his early twenties. He was in his thirties when I met him. I definitely did not give a shit abou…
/r/ExRedPill22/06/24 02:26 PM
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Would any of this be happening if you were not socially awkward? What if you put dating on hold temporarily while you focus explicitly on overcoming your social awkwardness? Then you can start gradually adding dating back into the mix as a mean to practice your new and better social skillz.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/24 07:04 PM
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Can you post the extract in the comments?
/r/ExRedPill18/06/24 11:16 PM
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Can you just tell her you don’t think there’s a lot of potential for the two of you to have a romantic relationship, but you’d like to be friends with her? If you don’t already have many female friends, it would be good for you to have some. You can learn a lot more about women in general from female friends, as well as get more accustomed to being around women and get insight into their perceptions about men and dating. Friendzone her in the nicest possible way.
/r/ExRedPill17/06/24 04:16 PM
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I am a woman from an older generation, and I truly don't understand where you are coming from. I was a decent-looking woman when I was younger (and still am decent looking). I hardly got hit on at all. And when I did get hit on, I usually did not like it. I mean, who hooks up with a stranger? That's bonkers. Before I married, these are the men I dated: M: High school boyfriend. Dated him through college. Everyone thought we would get married, but I broke up with him. The relationship had run its…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/23 09:24 PM
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I'm in Florida So the answer to the questions in your original post is: You live in a state where ridiculing gay people has been encouraged as part of a political strategy. It's that simple. The Republican Part in Florida has successfully established white straight people as the in-group, and empowered that in-group to let loose its basest instincts to achieve and display social dominance over the out-groups. The laughter, the ridicule, the shitty behavior -- it's all an expression on dominance.…
/r/ExRedPill14/11/23 03:16 PM
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You forfeited the privilege of having these women in your life. That was a natural and reasonable consequence for your actions. Doing something that costs you friendships is an indicator that you have some things to learn. How to be a better, more genuine friend, principally. Start making new friends. It goes a little more slowly when you’re out of school, but it’s still possible. Join a kickball club or a running club or a photography club or a community advocacy group or whatever. Start making…
/r/ExRedPill17/10/23 04:51 PM
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I think dating apps are ok in moderation, but if it’s your online outlet to meet people that’s a problem. Perhaps for some people. But for OP, who is struggling with Red Pill derangement syndrome, it’s better to avoid them altogether. They are a trigger.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/23 02:59 PM
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Nobody meets with each other in person anymore. Dating apps are the only viable way to date. Extremely incorrect. There are all kinds of activities for young singles, where you get to meet people in person. Sports leagues, trivia nights, festivals, music performances, running clubs, hiking clubs, biking clubs. Get off the dating apps, get off the devices, and go out and DO STUFF.
/r/ExRedPill27/09/23 01:50 PM
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I'm sure it is, but it would be very expensive, and it wouldn't be that helpful. I concede that it might be expensive. I really have no earthly idea. But I’m curious about why you think it wouldn’t be helpful.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 07:00 PM
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I know nearly nothing about sex work. Would it be possible to pay for a “girlfriend experience” where the woman genuinely coaches you and provides helpful feedback for when you’re ready to go on a real date with a woman who is not getting paid?
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 04:05 PM
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Yeah, but I have never met a woman who is into a man who looks like an overgrown child. I have also been described as "not masculine" and that I act "gay. " Elijah Wood has only recently stopped looking like an overgrown child. He's 42. Married twice. I've known married young men IRL who looked like overgrown children.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/23 04:03 PM
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It’s a very long story, but after Trump became president he was getting worse and it was ruining our relationship. And I ended up confronting him about some of this stuff. I’m kind of shocked he didn’t double down.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/23 02:48 PM
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He did finally apologize for saying that stuff in front of me growing up a year ago. Wow. How did that come about?
/r/ExRedPill23/06/23 12:20 PM
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Sure, I've heard the usual response of "she chose to be with YOU, not one of her friends", but that argument kind of drops whenever I hear guys talking about how they also believed this, only for their girl to get together soon after the break-up or even cheat with the "guy who's just a friend/colleague and should not worry about". This phenomenon is to some extent associated with young adulthood. Young adults naturally are still figuring relationship stuff out: what they want, how to recognize …
/r/ExRedPill26/05/23 07:46 PM
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They aren't. My husband is a modern man. He is not at all weak. And no one ever calls him weak.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/23 08:12 PM
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Pete Davidson has BPD, and he hats lots of girlfriends.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 11:45 PM
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So you’ve said.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/23 07:18 AM
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Wanting sex is not bad. It’s just that you have things backward. You’ve stated that you’re not ready for a relationship, and your proposed solution is to have sex with women until you’re ready to have a relationship. That is completely backward and unrealistic. Think about it. You are basically saying you’re not ready to spend time with a woman while you are both dressed. So you want to be naked with women enough times that you can feel comfortable being clothed with them. Dude, if it’s too awkw…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/23 06:27 AM
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People who meet up for sex are cheating??💀 Have you experienced otherwise? Tell us.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/23 01:06 AM
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But if other guys can do it why can’t I? Why would you want to? Seriously, why do you want to sext? What pleasure do you get from it? Why do you want to meet up for sex without dating? Dating is enjoying a meal and/or a drink and/or an entertaining activity with someone you find attractive. Why would you not want to do that? Men who sext and meet up for sex are typically cheating on their current partners. You don't have a partner, so you have no reason to cheat.
/r/ExRedPill14/03/23 01:44 PM
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Never sext. Just don't. Don't ever sext. Take it off the table. And don't try to "meet up for sex." Go on three dates. At the end of the third date, if you like her, ask if she wants to come back to your place. If you don't like her, don't have sex with her.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 01:58 PM
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Culturally women above 25 are seen as "expired" back home. It sounds like you don’t live there anymore. Does that mean it’s your family that ridicules you? If so, are you sure that maintaining contact is healthy for you? Family who ridicule you are not family you can trust. Consider whether anyone from back home needs to be put in timeout. And the rise of red pill content in the online community where there are a lot of lonely single men made me susceptible to bullying. Are you still being bulli…
/r/ExRedPill11/03/23 08:12 PM
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I think you need to look around you and figure out how to change the factors that result in you getting ridiculed. Because it's not normal. I didn't marry until I was 39, and I was never ridiculed for being single in my thirties. Plenty of my female friends were single in their thirties. I assume the problem is either it's the culture of your geographical location or the people you surround yourself with. Figure it out and change it. Ridiculing single people is not normal, so don't let anyone tr…
/r/ExRedPill11/03/23 01:55 PM
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Great. I recommend you buy yourself a fresh notebook and pen and start making lists of all the things you want to do and all the places you want to go as an independent woman. I’m biased because I am a lost person. But it can be great for trying to envision a future you can get excited about.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 09:55 PM
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I don’t actually know what the wall thing is. So are you over that feeling that your worth depends on having a man in your life?
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 08:28 PM
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From your post, it sounds as if you’ve never just tried to enjoy being single. Why do you think that is? You can decide to be single for as long as it suits you. You don’t have to take a lifelong vow.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 06:35 PM
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OK, so you're saying that OP is not struggling to trust women to abide by a commitment to remain monogamous, but that OP struggles to trust that a woman is being honest when she says she hasn't slept with dozens of men. I think the risk that a very sexually experienced woman will want to marry a sexually inexperienced man so much that she's willing to lie about herself very, very low. I really don't think OP should be worrying that much that the women he dates are misrepresenting themselves. Mos…
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 12:46 PM
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Your title is about trust, but your post is about hookup culture vs. having an exclusive monogamous sexual relationship. Can you say more about how those two themes are related? How does trust play into your desire for monogamy? Is it that you don’t trust women to be monogamous even if they have promised to? Why is that? I read posts by so many women on Reddit who appear to be faithful to their boyfriends/husbands. Do you think that all of those women are lying?
/r/ExRedPill04/03/23 08:43 PM
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Saying he wasn’t so great is maybe an overreaction on my part I doubt it. After all: he was always selfish and prioritized himself over everything all the time. He never cared if something he did would hurt me and never could apologize when appropriate. I can totally get how, if you’ve never had a boyfriend before, having a jerk for a boyfriend seems preferable to being alone for a while. Fortunately, you only have to go through the “My First Boyfriend” experience once in your whole life. You wi…
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 07:04 PM
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I’m still in the bargaining/investigating part of the break up where it feels necessary to figure out why we didn’t and probably would never work out. He wasn’t the greatest person before becoming obsessed with MTR, Kevin Samuels, Andrew Tate, or Pearlythings but now he’s just unbearable. Why did you want to be in a relationship with him in the first place if he wasn’t so great? Isn’t being alone better than being with someone who doesn’t bring anything to the table?
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 06:33 PM
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The journal shows "fewer partners." Not "no partners." OP is not complaining about not getting as many dates as he would like. He's complaining about not getting any dates at all. There is no data that suggests that less attractive people will get no dates.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 01:07 PM
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Short women. Is there a gymnastics team at your school? Or some other sport that favors short women? Visually impaired women. Harder to find in the wild, but not impossible. Women from countries with a much lower average height. Latin America (since you’re learning Spanish, that gives you an in). Japan. Your college probably has clubs for people interested in those languages and countries, and those clubs are generally open to anyone who is interested.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/23 07:24 PM
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I see so many very unattractive people with mates. Not being attractive is obviously only a barrier to dating if you let it be.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 06:44 PM
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Why are you not able to seek trauma-informed therapy?
/r/ExRedPill02/02/23 01:28 AM
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I literally fight my overly sensitive traumatized mind every day. What have you done to address your trauma? Have you received any trauma-informed therapy?
/r/ExRedPill01/02/23 08:30 PM
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You may be right about the arrested development, but I cannot imagine leaving my boyfriend for someone else. Of course. That is a paradox that tons of people face when they enter adulthood. I had my boyfriend that I had known since junior high, that I totally intended to marry. Thank God I didn't! Not because there was anything wrong with him. But in hindsight I can see the vast mountains of things I did not know about relationships at that time. And I can also see how much I have grown and chan…
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 11:37 PM
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I'm 20 now and have a wonderful loving boyfriend, but now I am scared he will leave me once I get older. You really shouldn't want the boyfriend you have when you are 20 to be your permanent life partner. You need to experience several different relationships to learn how to be a good partner and how to identify someone who is a good partner for you. When you stick with the same person from a young age (and 20 in young in this context), there is a genuine risk that one or both partners will suff…
/r/ExRedPill28/12/22 10:46 PM
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I think I dislike rejection because of the thought of someone all smug, thinking they have power over me. That’s how I think, so I figure everyone else thinks just like me. Yep. My ex was the same way. He was raised by parents who withheld approval and affection. He coped by learning how to be the one who cares less than the other. He was extremely passive aggressive, and always assumed I was being passive aggressive as well. The main difference I see between you and him is that he withheld sex …
/r/ExRedPill22/12/22 03:13 PM
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My ex-boyfriend was a LOT like you. It was very, very importany to him that I not feel secure in our relationship or like he really cared for me. I spent the bulk of the relationship asking myself if I expected too much. Then I started going out with the man who became my husband. And I low-key seethed for months at my ex. This new guy made it obvious that being a nice person and showing your girlfriend that you care was not the ridiculous expectation my ex had made it seem. My husband and I hav…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/22 05:02 PM
3

From the outright hatred of white people Where is this happening? I am a white person living in a city where whites are a minority. I have never felt hated for my race. I have never witnessed a white person being hated for their race. Has anyone ever told you he/she hated you because you are white? Or is it that you hear stories of white people being hated for their race? Is it possible that whatever it is, it is not very representative of the world at large?
/r/ExRedPill17/12/22 05:44 PM
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Since you hate socializing, are you sure you really even want to be in a relationship? Maintaining a relationship requires a lot of socializing. I think it’s possible you might hate being in a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/22 07:03 PM
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It does. Thanks.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 08:21 PM
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In a perfect world men and women would be chaste until marriage. What makes you say that? Are you religious? If not, please share your thoughts on the matter.
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 12:19 AM
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I was so, so deep into being a parasite This is a very insightful observation. Thank you for saying it. I'm glad you are working on being a better man. Best wishes for becoming a man of integrity.
/r/ExRedPill31/08/22 12:00 PM
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Tell him you need to see him lead a physically and mentally healthy life for a minimum of 9 months before you will consider taking him back. Insist that he attend therapy because it is obvious that his internal gauge of healthy is not functioning properly, so he needs professional assistance.
/r/ExRedPill26/08/22 12:06 PM
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r/relationships r/JUSTNOSO r/AITA r/divorce
/r/ExRedPill20/08/22 11:52 AM
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I believe she said they did discuss it and that her returning to work was always the plan. But his mother and sister got into his head. So I guess you can say that his love for his wife was conditional upon the continued approval of the women in his family of origin. Then there’s the guy who believed someone’s lie that his wife cheated on him. He cut off all contact and divorced her, only to learn later that he had been duped. The man who divorced his wife because she left their religion.
/r/ExRedPill19/08/22 05:38 PM
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It’s bullshit. All you have to do is read on reddit to know. Every day scores of women post about shitty boyfriends and husbands who treat them like crap but the women don’t want to leave because “I looooooooove him!” The examples of men’s conditional love are more diverse, but they are there. Today’s example, off the top of my head, is the husband who walked out on his pregnant wife and cleaned out all their accounts because she wouldn’t agree to be a SAHM.
/r/ExRedPill19/08/22 04:42 PM
1

How often do you attempt to steal another man's girlfriend?
/r/ExRedPill13/08/22 12:07 PM
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I met my husband when I was in my early thirties. I was 39 on our wedding day. He was 43. We’ve been quite happily married for 18 years. I was an idiot when I was 20. If I had married the boyfriend I had them, I promise it would have ended in divorce. Same with my next long term boyfriend. I am so incredibly grateful I didn’t meet the man who would become my husband until I was older and wiser (and so was he!).
/r/ExRedPill08/08/22 11:02 PM
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Ive heard this before that some women will have sex with a guy in the hopes that she gains his love and commitment. Why do some women do this? Typically it’s because she really, really likes the guy. So she decides to take what she can get. But the more time they spend together, the more she wants him to reciprocate her feelings. Men do it, too. It’s more about deceiving themselves than deliberately deceiving the other person. The take away for someone like you, who decidedly hopes to avoid a re…
/r/ExRedPill01/08/22 06:14 PM
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Nothing wrong with casual sex as long as you’re open about it. One risk is that the woman agrees to the arrangement because she wants to be “cool.” But in actuality, she really wants you to “pick her.” So you have to watch out for that and be careful not to exploit it. Basically, you just want to date but not go steady. Nothing wrong with that.
/r/ExRedPill01/08/22 05:55 PM
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But I hate the ambiguity and tension of flirting - I'm just not comfortable making overtly sexual comments towards other people or even implying them. Women typically reject men who make overtly sexual comments. That's not what it takes to get a girlfriend. When I met the man who is now my husband, we didn't flirt. We just talked. Then I saw him at a bar in my neighborhood, and we talked and talked and talked. And then he asked me to a movie, and we had dinner and drinks and talked. Eventually, …
/r/ExRedPill31/07/22 07:15 PM
1

I do the bins. I don’t know what that means. Would your friend in a relationship throw a party for his friends and his girlfriend’s friends so you can widen your social network somewhat? Then you could use that to start a monthly social event. The point isn’t to bring you lots of women you can ask out on dates. The point is to expand your network, which will help you practice your interpersonal skills and also get introduced to more women — a few of whom you might want to invite on a date.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/22 04:38 PM
2

What kind of work do you do? If your friends are male, do they date?
/r/ExRedPill10/06/22 02:04 PM
4

Are you in college? If so, what are you studying? What clubs do you belong to? If you are not in college, what do you do? What is your IRL friend network like?
/r/ExRedPill09/06/22 09:43 PM
1

Well, there's also the whole implication that women in their thirties don't really count.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/22 01:08 PM
15

when she lived in nature What does that mean? I feel like there is a poem or a movie title in there somewhere. Coming soon, to a theater near you, We Lived in Nature!
/r/ExRedPill19/03/22 03:45 PM
1

This is why I’m paranoid about letting my guard down. I don’t like false hope. Try to set your hope aside and just enjoy yourself. Whatever happens, the relationship is a learning experience. If/when it ends, you will take with it lessons that will make you a better life partner (if you choose to enter into a lifetime partnership) and make you better at identifying a good life partner for you. Enjoy being with her. Be a good boyfriend. Maybe it won't last, but that's ok. Don't be afraid of being…
/r/ExRedPill11/03/22 01:28 PM
1

I would rather sleep around if a breakup is high likely So how did this particular woman become more than just a girl to sleep with and move on? What do you like most about her?
/r/ExRedPill11/03/22 01:08 AM
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I don’t like things ending although that might be a possibility. Yeah, break ups suck. But they are a part of life. Don't let the fear of the discomfort of a break up distort your perspective so much that you can't enjoy yourself. It’s why I tend to prefer sleeping around to relationships So why did you decide to enter into a relationship with this girlfriend if you prefer sleeping around? What was different this time?
/r/ExRedPill10/03/22 07:35 PM
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Whether or not she stays interested in and attracted to you is not a matter of trust. You cannot ask someone you’ve been dating for a few weeks to promise to like you indefinitely. So, please, stop talking about trusting her, and don’t classify a hypothetical situation of losing interest in you a betrayal. If she loses interest, it might be sad, but it happens. Likewise, you could lose interest in her (for real — not just pretending to lose interest in order to make her feel bad). Not every two …
/r/ExRedPill10/03/22 04:39 PM
5

Relocate to a more diverse area. Enjoy the exotic beauty of non-white women. Or, stay where you are and complain that no one will date you. It’s up to you, bud.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/22 02:50 PM
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I understand that is what you believe. I don’t understand why you don’t apply the same logic to yourself and date non-white women.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/22 02:38 PM
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it's my own race, why wouldn't I prefer white women lol. For the same reason white women don’t prefer white men.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/22 02:27 PM
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I'm a blonde white dude, and I see a lot of blonde white women go for black dudes like Addelle who is dating Rich Paul. Yes, you’ve made it abundantly clear that you believe white women prefer black men. No need to further repeat yourself. But you didn’t answer my question: Why don’t you try dating non-white women?
/r/ExRedPill08/03/22 02:10 PM
3

I’m sorry. What does that mean?
/r/ExRedPill08/03/22 01:23 PM
3

Why are you so focused on white women? There are colors of women.
/r/ExRedPill08/03/22 12:47 PM
10

Yeah, it sounds like you could really benefit from relocating somewhere with a more diverse population.
/r/ExRedPill07/03/22 07:34 PM
4

Have you considered dating non-white women? Have you considered moving to a different region where there are more varieties of people and less expectation to conform? Did you have black friends in school?
/r/ExRedPill07/03/22 07:25 PM
3

I guess “hey how’s your day” is pretty desperate. I didn’t know that lol. Not a good look.
/r/ExRedPill18/02/22 10:02 PM
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I don't even know what that means. I mean, I know what each of the words mean . . .
/r/ExRedPill08/02/22 09:18 PM
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Is Robert Kiyoaski someone that people have heard of?
/r/ExRedPill08/02/22 07:15 PM
10

It’s so strange to me that someone can spend time on Reddit and NOT appreciate that women are human just like them. All the broken hearted women who are struggling to leave their deadbeat boyfriends, or struggling to get along with their MIL, or navigating the challenges of being a step-parent, or figuring out how to be an adult when they were raised by overbearing parents.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 06:08 PM
3

Through affinity organizations and websites. Or by filtering their potential matches for "autistic" on a dating app.
/r/ExRedPill11/12/21 07:29 PM
1

And understanding each other better? https://www.spectrumnews.org/news/people-with-autism-prefer-partners-on-the-spectrum/
/r/ExRedPill11/12/21 07:23 PM
3

Unfortunately my best match would probably be an extroverted, open, passionate woman who would enjoy the counter balance But how can you possibly know that if your experience is as limited as your post indicates? I think you should try to hold off on saying what your best match is, at least for now. So. Autistic girl?
/r/ExRedPill11/12/21 07:04 PM
2

I have no idea if this is a useful suggestion or not. But have you tried going out with autistic girls?
/r/ExRedPill11/12/21 06:09 PM
9

He says he’s about ME as a person, So what? Seriously. He’s a jerk. Who cares what his preferences are? What he likes or is about is irrelevant. All that matters is that he’s a jerk that you should ditch as soon as you can manage it. It’s time for you to abandon him.
/r/ExRedPill06/12/21 10:28 PM
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He doesn’t treat you well. He’s disrespectful. He doesn’t seem to actually like you. He’s a jerk. And he sounds like he’s pretty committed to being a jerk. Relationships are voluntary. Why are you choosing to remain in this one?
/r/ExRedPill06/12/21 09:44 PM
5

Insecurity that if you're not the best sex she's ever had, she's only with you for your money/status/etc. And yet, do red pillers really put much effort into the woman's pleasure during sex?
/r/ExRedPill30/11/21 01:33 PM
1

Keep looking. Sometimes you can luck onto good deals. Especially with rentals in old houses, as opposed to apartment buildings. You might also look into whether you can afford to buy a small condo that you'd be able to flip for a profit a few years later. What I'm trying to say is, don't reject the city option out of hand. Educate yourself about the real estate market and rental market in your city. Maybe introduce yourself to a real estate agent or two who might be able to make some helpful ref…
/r/ExRedPill28/11/21 01:12 PM
1

Do you have to live in the suburbs? There are so many more fun things to do in the city. Even as a single person.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/21 10:59 PM
1

But the “broad strokes” make absolutely no sense.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/21 05:30 PM
1

So why do the Eastern European women qualify as European, but the Western European women do not?
/r/ExRedPill27/11/21 05:23 PM
1

But European women are western women? This question makes no sense.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/21 02:55 PM
9

Sometimes you just never considered that particular girl a target of your affections until you realize she’s looking at you that way.
/r/ExRedPill22/11/21 08:20 PM
1

What are your thoughts about the observation that betrayal during the Just Dating phase is not possible? When you’re just dating, and not yet in an exclusive relationship, dating other people as well is entirely acceptable. You’re trying to meet a lot of women so you can figure out what you like and what kind of women you get along with best. As long as you’re not pretending to be exclusive while you’re playing the field, it’s all good. I guess what I’m asking is whether you are trying to rush t…
/r/ExRedPill19/11/21 05:00 PM
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It’s hard to meet people when you work two jobs to survive. I don’t understand how can people go to bars and clubs every Friday and Saturday and not be broke. What’s funny is that bars and clubs never even crossed my mind. In my original comment, I had started to mention that most sources for events around town will tell you which ones are free. But I left it out. So my suggestion is that you seek out events and attractions that are specifically NOT the usual bar and club scene. Stuff you’ve nev…
/r/ExRedPill14/11/21 05:44 PM
11

You moved to a new city. Let's work with that. Locate whatever serves as your city's alternative newspaper. It may well be online now. But use that and any other resources you can to learn about interesting or even just weird events in your city. And then go to as many as you can. Invite your roommates to go, or go alone. Just go. Go to events you ordinarily wouldn't dream of attending. Poetry slam. Lumberjack competition. Senegalese festival. Focus on having new experiences and new adventures a…
/r/ExRedPill14/11/21 02:33 PM
12

I'd actually argue that a guy's peak is more their early 20s (or even the 19-22 age bracket). Looks can decline after that and overall physical appeal declines as well. First of all, it varies from person to person. I can definitely recall men who looked like geeky boys in their early 20s but hot men in their early 30s. Boys are only attractive to girls. Women prefer men. But more importantly, you are thinking only about physical appearance and not about anything else. Young men in their early 2…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/21 04:48 PM
2

It’s entirely subjective. Some women want to date men in the professions. But some women will only date blue collar men. And some women don’t care either way.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/21 10:42 PM
12

You say you put time into intellectual activities, but your spelling and grammar are terrible. As a happily married woman with a PhD, I suspect you're not quite as smart as you think you are.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 12:48 PM
3

Great. You are a good conversationalist with a range of interests, leaning toward the intellectual. You might give a bit more thought to what makes you pleasant and what might make you unpleasant to be around. May I ask your age and how you spend the bulk of your time (school, occupation)?
/r/ExRedPill22/09/21 04:56 PM
3

Are you fun? Are you interesting? Is spending time with you pleasant?
/r/ExRedPill22/09/21 03:49 PM
2

Would you consider switching to different content? Audiobooks of Tom Clancy novels, history documentaries, true crime podcasts, Nigerian rock & roll, animal rescue videos, etc.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/21 04:00 PM
4

Electronic keyboards can be played with headphones. They are a good learning tool.
/r/ExRedPill05/09/21 08:42 PM
2

This is going to sound random. How would you feel about learning to play a musical instrument? It would give you something interesting to focus on, and an opportunity to meet people who aren’t so focused on looks. I have heard that the guitar is one of the easiest instruments to learn the basics.
/r/ExRedPill05/09/21 08:36 PM
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If someone dropped an LTR in my lap with all the expectations and dynamics associated with it, I believe I'd do just fine. My problem is starting from zero. What leads you to think that? Based on your description of yourself (which I realize might not be reliable), you don’t sound like much fun. It’s not the looks part. Since we’re talking hypothetically, we can just put the looks on the shelf. But you don’t seem to have real interests, and it doesn’t sound as if you like to do anything. Also, I…
/r/ExRedPill05/09/21 05:26 PM
2

Dating apps and the cold approach are not the only ways to get a date.
/r/ExRedPill30/08/21 01:53 PM
1

I did not say they are a bad way to date. I said they aren’t the only way. You’re getting defensive for no good reason.
/r/ExRedPill30/08/21 01:53 PM
8

Your answer is to make more friends? I kinda agree but you know. Easier said than done. Yeah, it requires effort. And the occasional discomfort. But it’s worth it.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 08:16 PM
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It worked out great for me. Worked my ass off, have some great friends, living happily ever after. In 15 years I will be over 70.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 06:27 PM
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If one doesn’t have a good group of friends, that should be the first order of business. The larger your friend network, the more opportunities you’ll have for introductions to single women. Also, a wider friend network opens you up to more activities that will make you a more interesting person.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 04:11 PM
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Dating apps are not the only way to get a date.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 02:22 PM
4

There was a post on r/relationships today about how a shaky marriage was starting to mend once the wife figured out her husband is a submissive. Finally they are having mutually satisfied sex. I’ve never visited FDS and probably never will. I plan on being a productive member of society, just not a rich one. So, you’ll be like the vast majority of adults in the western world. Most of them find mates, regardless of their status as not-rich.
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 01:25 AM
2

I shouldn't be held to societal expectations that I should be dominant, rich, hot, and have lots of sex. You’re not. I see shit-tons passive, poor, and schlubby with girlfriends and wives. Just read Reddit. Women who are supporting their unemployed partners. Women coping with mommy’s boys. Women struggling with dead bedrooms. There are obviously millions of men who don’t feel held to the societal expectations you are complaining about. What is the difference between you and them?
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 12:21 AM
3

Good message, and I'm glad you are getting help and becoming more healthy. Just out of curiosity, would you care to share one of the coping strategies you've learned?
/r/ExRedPill29/07/21 01:33 PM
14

That's disgusting. Why such a strong negative reaction? I mean, ok, you want to be a warrior. But what about being a caretaker is "disgusting" to you?
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 05:13 PM
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According to your post, your whole perspective on women is driven by whether or not they would be willing to sleep with you. What about all the women who you would not want to sleep with? Kamala Harris? Liz Cheney? Sandra Bullock? A female professor whose work you admire? Tig Notaro? Debby Harry? Greta Thunberg? Overcome your misogyny by recognizing that women have so much to offer the world, and very little of it is sex.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 10:15 PM
3

9 inch cock Ow! Why would I want anyone to impale my cervix?
/r/ExRedPill10/12/20 01:04 PM
1

I should have 4 cars by now but for outside reasons they were wrecked Why would you want four cars?
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 06:54 PM
2

Say more. Egalitarian or patriarchal? How is your relationship with your siblings? What is your father like? I’m trying to get a read on how gender roles are modeled in your home. What you’ve grown up seeing as normal. That sort of thing.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 06:32 PM
3

May I ask: What was your family situation growing up? Was your dad around? Did your parents have a loving relationship? Do you have sisters? That sort of thing.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 06:27 PM
5

there are good men, bad men and everything in-between. Why do you think you're not inclined to feel the same way about women? Disgusting - taking advantage of those people. And yet, in your OP, you seem angry with the women who are being taken advantage of in just this way. If that's what they want to do, and as long as the sex worker has agency, I couldn't care less. And yet, in your OP, you seem to disapprove of sex workers who have agency. What do you think is going on with you that when you …
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 02:56 PM
10

How do you feel about men? How do you feel about men who only hire people who will provide sexual gratification to get the job? How do you feel about men who choose to spend their time with a temporary employee (prostitute) rather than someone who wants to be with them without being paid for it?
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 02:21 PM
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Everywhere I go, I see short dudes with women, ugly dudes with women, toothless dudes with women, fat dudes with women. Clearly not all women have high standards for physical attractiveness.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/20 08:08 PM
5

Thank you for bringing up the maturity issue. It’s so frustrating when an 18-year-old complains that every relationship he’s ever had ended badly.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/20 03:59 PM
1

What I mean is, how do you square this story with your assumptions about women: that they cheat, that they marry men for their money, that they use contraceptives to facilitate their promiscuity?
/r/ExRedPill05/06/20 05:32 PM
1

Hi! I would be interested in hearing your thoughts on this: https://rr.reddit.com/r/JustNoSO/comments/gx2ypc/what_now/?ref=share&ref_source=link
/r/ExRedPill05/06/20 05:06 PM
1

Yeah, I don’t know much about on-night stands. Maybe try joining a sex club or a swingers club?
/r/ExRedPill04/06/20 07:47 PM
7

The questions you've asked are framed specifically on how to get someone to have sex with you. Can you clarify: Are you hoping to have sex without having a relationship? That is, do you want to just meet girls for sex? Or do you want to go on dates that end with one-night-stands, or do you want to have a girlfriend or a succession of girlfriends who have sex with you but with whom you also do lots of fun things and some less fun things because people in a relationship do nice things for each oth…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/20 05:43 PM
1

Move to the city, where cars are a hassle and no one wants to bother with them.
/r/ExRedPill19/05/20 06:02 PM
2

Hi! In light of your long list, I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts about this: https://nr.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gda74l/aita_for_saying_what_did_she_expect_when_my/ Here the man was the cheater and wanted an abortion. The woman (while no angel) was not cheating on anyone and refused to abort.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/20 06:00 PM
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He changed after his sister died of lung cancer. In his own words, he said he realized he should have been spending time with her because she was family, instead of fucking every girl he could fast talk. I understand how the death of his sister might sour him on TRP. But how did he get to devout Christian?
/r/ExRedPill30/04/20 01:22 PM
7

I met the man who is now my husband when I was 32-33. I was 39 when we got married. By that time, we had already owned a home for 5 years. I was reluctant to get married because I am aware that many relationships don't work out in the long term. So I waited until things had been pretty much perfect for years to finally agree that we could make it official. No regrets. No kids, by choice.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/20 11:55 AM
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They claim a woman's value sharply declines after age 25. Oh hell to the no. I am 55. I can honestly say that my thirties RULED. I felt so much more confident and comfortable in my own skin.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/20 11:39 AM
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Lucky you! Reddit is free.
/r/ExRedPill17/04/20 04:54 PM
9

Because you will get the inside scoop on all kinds of relationships and all kinds of women. You’ll get to observe how much diversity there is among women. You’ll read about women who opt not to abort even though their partner has threatened to leave if they go through with the pregnancy. You’ll read about women who are the only source of financial support, but who can’t bear to split from their depressed, addicted husband. You’ll also read the accounts of teenagers who are still struggling to fi…
/r/ExRedPill16/04/20 04:54 PM
2

Read r/relationships and r/JUSTNOSO.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/20 02:39 PM
2

I think a good rehab would be really helpful. You are self-medicating. Rehab should help you build a robust toolkit of alternatives to weed and alcohol when you need them. It can also help you come to terms with the failures of those who were supposed to love and care for you most, as well as your own failures and shame. I wish you all the best.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/20 08:50 PM
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I just realized you and I were misunderstanding each other. You thought I was suggesting to post to r/relationships and r/justnoso to find out how women feel. But I was suggesting to read all the other posts. Learn about real women and their real problems.
/r/ExRedPill11/03/20 01:24 PM
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I think the women who post on those subs are less likely to be intentionally deceitful because they are seeking advice. As for the unacknowledged biases, they often come out in the comments. These subs are not going to spell out a pat answer about “what will make a woman drop her panties.” Rather, they will give you a better idea of the range of their fears, their frustrations with the men in their lives, and their relational priorities. Because there is no secret panty-drop formula. Women (and …
/r/ExRedPill11/03/20 01:18 PM
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Do you ever read r/relationships? or r/justnoso? The advantage of those posts over the ones you're currently reading is that a good portion of the posts are made by women who are doing their best to figure out what they want and how that differs from what they've got. Why bother listening to a man pontificate on what women care about when you can get that directly from the women themselves?
/r/ExRedPill11/03/20 12:34 PM
1

So what about your IRL friends? What about the women you interact with when you are out and about?
/r/ExRedPill10/03/20 02:17 AM
1

Nothing more unattractive than a guy who is completely inexperienced and who doesn't get adoration from multiple women. You are so wrong about that. But it appears that you’re not open to different perspectives, so I’ll back off. I’m not sure why you’re clinging so tenaciously to your extreme views. Fear of the discomfort that would arise from taking a new approach, I suppose. If that’s it, I’m sorry about your fear. I hope you grow out of it while you’re still relatively young. Maybe if you get…
/r/ExRedPill09/02/20 04:07 PM
1

You realize you are exchanging comments with a woman, don’t you? Women love to help. And the point is less about introductions (although they would be nice) than about getting honest feedback about what you need to work on. Also, I don’t see how the “admitting weakness” rule applies here. Your friends know you’re not dating because they see you never go on dates. What’s to admit? That you’d rather date women than not? Duh! That’s not weakness. That’s just acknowledging that you are heterosexual …
/r/ExRedPill09/02/20 03:56 PM
1

I’ll bet you’re asking the wrong question. You’re asking something like “Why am I so ugly?” Or “How can an ugly guy like me get a date?” Instead, you need to say, “I’ve never in my life had success with women. I’d like to go on some dates, but women always turn down my invitations. Can you help me identify the things about myself that I can work on so that women will be comfortable accepting an invitation for a date?”
/r/ExRedPill09/02/20 03:42 PM
1

And have you asked your female friends to help you find a date? What feedback have they given you regarding things you could work on?
/r/ExRedPill09/02/20 03:30 PM
1

they will reject me if I don't immediately ask them out, which they will do anyway, so it really is a lose-lose situation. Yes. But if you have women in your social network, you will eventually be friendly enough with one to ask for help in getting dates. That includes advice about specific things you can do (that we on the internet cannot observe) to improve your chances.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/20 03:23 PM
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Women don't, they only like tall men. The taller, the better. Infact, being short is pretty much the worst thing you can be as a man. Plenty of short men enjoy loving and rewarding relationships. Here's a nice sample of men who are shorter than their wives: https://www.boredpanda.com/shorter-husbands-lizz-adams/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic Men need to be loud, confident to the degree of arrogance I hate loud, arrogant men. My husband is the opposite of a loud, arrog…
/r/ExRedPill06/02/20 12:27 PM
1

What is getting to me is 1) why did she fuck that guy on the first night while we spent all this time being lovey-dovey without any sex? and 2) why did she lie to me about having no casual sex as an excuse not to have sex with me? My trust for her went in the trashcan. Maybe she was drunk and regrets it. Maybe she was coerced. Maybe she was ashamed.
/r/ExRedPill18/01/20 01:48 PM
2

No, but i can say anxiety with my school tuitions fees started to take a toll on my mental health. So it sounds like your physical attractiveness was not the problem. Rather, you became hard to live with/unpleasant to be around. Meanwhile, as I said before, if you are young and this is your first relationship, it is normal for the relationship to run its course eventually. Losing your first love is an experience that nearly every human endured, survives, and is wiser for it. I know it feels shit…
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 01:48 PM
1

As you concede, OP never complained of a dead bedroom. But in similar long term relationships, dead bedrooms occur mostly in two different scenarios: The woman enjoys sex and enjoys sex with OP, until, for some reason, she stops enjoying it. That reason may be that the man has changed in some way, making him less unattractive to her. That change could be physical (gained a bunch of weight, stopped bathing regularly) or behavioral (became abusive or just being an asshole all of the time). The wom…
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 01:18 PM
4

When my GF of 6 years left me (and i learned she went and had sex with another man from her work only 2 weeks right after). I felt devastated and emasculated. Since, I only think it is because i was not sexualy attractive to her from the start So she was never attracted to you, but dated you for six years? Whatever for? That’s quite a long con! A likelier scenario. She dated you for six years, and it was great for five years, then the relationship has run its course, but breaking up felt too sca…
/r/ExRedPill16/01/20 03:14 AM
3

Maybe I feel sad for them because the only (3) times I was approached for casual sex at a bar or party it was always some insecure girl. Every time they told me a sob story. The first was a girl who just talked to me about how much she hated her dad etc. We made out, and then she tried to take things further and I was uncomfortable with it. It felt wrong like I was "taking advantage" of her, since I knew she was just trying to fill some hole created by depression that I could not fill. The secon…
/r/ExRedPill26/12/19 01:38 PM
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I am a woman who has been happily married for 15 years. My husband and I are about equal in terms of wealth. When we got together, he was making more than I, but then I outpaced him. Is he high status? I don’t know. How does my experience align with your research?
/r/ExRedPill15/12/19 07:05 PM
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it’s just an all risk no reward thing. There’s definitely risk. But risk can be managed. And there is reward. You just haven’t experienced that yet. I have been married for 15 years. I find it very rewarding. My husband reports that he finds it rewarding as well. Not to go full black pill here. But I’d rather play video games or draw than: Have my stuff taken away via divorce or breakup. This risk is probably lower than you think. Spouses of equal wealth and income can easily split assets evenly…
/r/ExRedPill20/11/19 05:54 PM
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Gotcha. You can take comfort in the fact that it’s common for young adults to struggle with honesty in situations like this. But the fact that you recognize it is already an important step. Learning how to let someone down honestly, with both dignity and integrity is a huge adult skill. Keep trying. You will be so grateful once you can manage it. I dated a guy for YEARS who never really “liked me liked me.” I so wish he had had the balls to be honest.
/r/ExRedPill11/11/19 05:48 PM
4

Could you explain what you mean by this: I felt a connection with her but knew I didn't have romantic feelings. What is the “connection” you are referring to, if not romantic feelings? I'm glad that it's over and that I don't have to keep being uncomfortable hiding my feelings from her. What feelings were you hiding from her?
/r/ExRedPill11/11/19 12:16 PM
1

I think you should find a way to get to know women without the complications of romance. Like in a club or something, where all the guys and all the girls work together toward some goal. Over time, you’ll get to know who these women truly are and which ones are good candidates for dating.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/19 02:44 PM
7

I see unattractive men with girlfriends or wives every single day. And they are not all rich. So it is entirely possible for unattractive men to get a girlfriend. There’s something about you in addition to your unattractiveness that is getting in your way.
/r/ExRedPill25/08/19 11:19 PM
1

You should probably focus on marrying someone who makes more money than you.
/r/ExRedPill16/08/19 08:34 PM
5

Yes but I’ve heard pre nips are quite useless because they frequently get overruled? That’s generally when the court feels the pre-nup was not negotiated fairly in the first place. Which usually means that the less affluent partner was not represented by his/her own legal counsel. But if both parties are represented by separate, competent lawyers, the pre-nup should stick.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 01:05 PM
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My mother’s first husband was a bank executive. When they divorced, she had to transition from being a SAHM to working a low paying clerical position. She received no alimony. She received child support that helped cover the expense of housing and feeding two children but in no way was enough to live on. Her, and her children’s, standard of living definitely went down. Her XH continued to prosper in his career, and his standard of living went steadily up. Next, she married a carpet layer. They h…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 01:00 PM
6

I’m not getting your logic. A date is a date. It’s not a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/19 01:30 PM
5

But I’ve got a suspicion that I ruined it for myself because I kept telling her myself that it’s okay if she didn’t want me to come to her place and that I would’ve taken her on a proper first date some other day? I said that out of courtesy but I actually really wanted to go to her place and have casual sex? Why would you prefer to have casual, practically anonymous sex over taking her out and getting to know her before having sex?
/r/ExRedPill10/08/19 12:46 PM
2

It is so dependent on your skin type. Drop by the Clinique counter at a department store and talk with one of the folks there. They can help you figure out what products and what maintenance routine are best for you b
/r/ExRedPill07/08/19 12:31 AM
4

Gotcha! With regard to looks, make the best of what you’ve got. Good haircut. Take care of your skin. Wear clothes that fit and are not too boring (plaid shirts are usually boring). With regard to demeanor, be polite and fun. Ask her about herself, then really listen to her answers. Make her laugh. Say something nice, but don’t go over the top. Above all, keep in mind: This isn’t just about whether she likes you. It’s also about whether you like her.
/r/ExRedPill07/08/19 12:20 AM
4

Hard to respond without knowing what you’re looking for. Where to go on dates? How to invite someone on a date? How to find someone to invite on a date? Whether to kiss on the first date? What do you feel most uncomfortable about? And what do you feel most comfortable about?
/r/ExRedPill06/08/19 10:15 PM
3

I'm confused. Do you want to ask her to be in a long distance relationship with you? Or do you want to tell her you're not ready for a long distance relationship? Your phrasing is ambiguous. In general, long distance relationships are not worth the trouble. It may be better to tell her you like her and want to stay in touch. Three weeks is too soon to commit to exclusivity.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/19 12:15 PM
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Don't get married. You're not in the right headspace to be a good husband at the moment. If she chooses to have the baby, you will have to pay child support. You have no choice in that. However, you do have a choice about whether or not you fill the role of father and take part in the child's life. Do you want to stay in a relationship with your girlfriend? That's an important thing to decide. Once you've decided, talk to her and tell her your decisions: not marrying her (ever? not yet?), stayin…
/r/ExRedPill31/07/19 11:58 AM
2

Spider-Man Death of Stalin Catch-22 Jobs Yesterday Aladdin Rocketman John Wick 3 Godzilla Shaft The Last Black Man in San Francisco Pavarotti The Dead Don’t Die Dumbo Shazam! The Whit Crow Apollo 11 Stuber Walking on Water
/r/ExRedPill05/07/19 05:29 PM
3

I wish you the best in your journey. Please remember that everyone’s early 20s are rough and uncomfortable. Most of us don’t start feeling more comfortable in our own skin until 30.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/19 10:00 PM
1

So, have you given up your fundamentals belief that women have no sex drive at all?
/r/ExRedPill04/07/19 08:16 PM
1

This turns me away from even wanting to approach women, tbh. I'd be coming in already being influenced by my drive and she'd be free of this burden. Which puts me at a perpetual disadvantage. Not perpetual. Once the relationship is established, you’re on equal footing.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/19 11:54 AM
5

Lesbians have sex. Sometimes, lesbian couples break up because one partner has lost interest in sex — just like straight couples. I truly cannot fathom what led you to assume that lesbians do not have sex.
/r/ExRedPill03/07/19 04:19 PM
6

Last time my parents had sex was sixteen years ago, for the sole purpose of conceiving my younger sibling. I have never sen them display any affection, kiss or even hold hands. That alone could lead me down the path of sexuality being a hoax altogether, but for male sex drive I have direct, first hand evidence. Ok. Neither of your parents want sex anymore. That happens, for all kinds of reasons. You know and accept that this is about your dad and not men in general. Yet for some reason, you assu…
/r/ExRedPill03/07/19 04:16 PM
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My beliefs: The most contentious, fundamental belief of mine is that women have no sex drive at all. They are just thoroughly uninterested in engaging in sexual intercourse. Would you mind providing the background on how you arrived at this belief? How does the female orgasm fit into your perspective. If a woman seeks an orgasm, is that not evidence of her sex drive? Personally, as a woman, I find I am quite enthusiastic about sex.
/r/ExRedPill02/07/19 11:41 PM
1

Start reading r/JUSTNOSO every day to get the perspectives of women who put up with abusive men because "he's my first love." And women who's husbands/boyfriends don't work AND don't carry any of the load at home. And so on. Start reading the real experiences of people in relationships to see the vast spectrum.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/19 12:04 PM
3

I live in the city and getting a car isn't really worth it. I still feel a little embarrassed for not having a car. Not owning a car is one of my fondest fantasies!
/r/ExRedPill26/06/19 06:19 PM
5

I am a high schooler my experiences are limited that why I learn from the experience of others. I get that. But, by your account, you are limiting your learning to one category of person. That’s a bad idea, obviously, because it gives you a very limited understanding of how the world works. I hope you will broaden your information sources as you try to learn more. There are bad women, good women, and so-so women. There are indeed women who take advantage of men. There are women who get taken adv…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/19 08:54 PM
6

Women are looking for a certain type of guy when their young and beautiful and a rich man to divorce when 30+. I don’t understand how someone can be on Reddit and believe this. How many bazillion posts are written by women who are tired of carrying the full financial load for herself and her significant other? And what about the jillions of women who complain about their abusive or just neglectful husbands but then can’t leave because they are financially dependent? The squillions of women who g…
/r/ExRedPill25/06/19 08:15 PM
1

Co-workers should not date. People in committed relationships should not date outside their relationship. Both of these women had extremely good reasons that had nothing to do with your looks to turn you down. Try dating women who aren’t “off limits.”
/r/ExRedPill22/06/19 12:44 PM
5

What do you think the word “slut” means? Why do you even use that word?
/r/ExRedPill26/05/19 12:48 PM
5

Is the difference between hot and cute really relevant if all that you’re doing is banging?
/r/ExRedPill25/05/19 01:59 PM
4

Your friends — the ones who are starting to get into serious relationships — what are they like? Are your friends introducing you to women in their network? Are you an interesting person who does interesting things? Do you have female friends whom you just like for who they are (and not what they look like)? In my observation, guys of all types manage to get girlfriends. So someone like you is not doomed to being single in your youth. But there’s something you’re doing that is standing in your w…
/r/ExRedPill18/05/19 11:13 AM
4

She was 14? 15? Teenagers are manipulative. It is a normal part of human development. Concentrate on whether the women you encounter are showing age-appropriate behavior.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/19 02:32 PM
4

It is nice to know that I can look around and see that I have options and select the one I like best - as opposed to the one that just happens to be there. But the idea that a girlfriend would look at me and go "he calls too often; there are someone better out there for me" makes me a little queasy. So, you’re glad that you have options, but worried that any woman you date has options as well. Would it help if you start out with the premise that you want what’s best for BOTH of you? When you wan…
/r/ExRedPill28/04/19 08:59 PM
4

How to save my relationship from this Do not save this relationship. I have become completely anxious and emotionally depleted for enduring this for a sustained and substantial amount of time. I sought professional help still blaming myself. Why would you want to remain in a relationship that hurts you? Just on a whim, I discovered his profile and multiple posts and comments glorifying his selfish and abusive behavior. I read about my own abuse. And with that, in my opinion, he has forfeited the…
/r/ExRedPill13/04/19 12:19 PM
1

It conveys a lot of nuance that the speaker doesn't need to specify anymore and even give a context as to what to expect from the caheecter defined as alpha. The fact that you started this thread at all suggests that the label “alpha” does NOT effectively convey what you think it means.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/19 11:05 PM
1

Why use the label “alpha” when you can just refer to confidence?
/r/ExRedPill03/04/19 05:16 PM
2

You’re falling for the sunk cost fallacy. We all fall for it at sometime or another. But learn a bit more about it and why it’s a fallacy so you can keep an eye out for it going forward.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/19 02:07 PM
2

But if you’re ok with losing her, then the “why” shouldn’t matter. Look at it from a different angle: People post to reddit asking if XYZ is a good enough reason to break up with someone. The only good answer is that there’s no such thing as “a good enough reason to break up.” If you want to break up, then break up. If you want to break up, don’t wait until you feel you’ve earned the right. You always have the right to break up. So, if she breaks up with you because she prefers douchier guys, so…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/19 01:51 PM
3

I’m scared being too affectionate and lovey with my girl will fuck me over in the long run with her. So you’re afraid of losing her? Why? I mean, yeah, you might lose her, and you might not. Some day, you might even want to break up with her yourself. Most romantic relationships end. Ideally, all your romantic relationships end except for the one you solidify through marriage. Don’t be afraid of the relationship ending. If it does (and I’m not saying that it will), it will be for the best.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/19 01:33 PM
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