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| 12 | I'm terrible at openers. (entj). What's your best in a bar/social scene? | Cooolllll | /r/seduction | 22/06/12 07:53 AM |
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| 1 | Still a noobie after over half a year of constant approachingyou shouldnt be trying to impress anyone. You like to have fun so be a magnet of fun and charismatic is the best way of doing so. Who doesn't like a high five? This also helps you work on eye contact as well. Give them a couple of seconds as you approach them with your hand already in the high five position. Then walk up (without looking at your hand, you know its there) switch from eye contact to elbow (best way to make perfect high five), execute. Then just come back with some witty banter abo… | /r/seduction | 07/06/14 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Still a noobie after over half a year of constant approachingNo one has any real preconcieved notions of social/cultural interactions. Yes there is small talk but in those instances you had the expectation of making small talk so you felt relaxed, calm and cool. When you are going out of your element (Ie the club), you feel anxious because of a preconcieved fear of rejection (what if this person doesnt like me, ill come off creepy, etc). This is why I suggest getting your grove on. It will help you relax, feel a part of the environment and change your men… | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Still a noobie after over half a year of constant approachingyou're not having conversations? I would work on that. Walk up and say some cheesy jokes to work up to it. Reducing approach anxiety any way you can. Try friendly conversations during the day, hey hows it going, something about weather, local events, friendly, hell even simple compliments about articles of clothing saying so and so looks good today. For stringing along conversations I would read up on active listening. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 04:16 AM |
| 2 | Still a noobie after over half a year of constant approachingwhat are you constituting as a failure? You have realized a problem area in your personal self and have made an effort to improve yourself. Why not flip the situation backwards? You are also thinking in an Us vs them mentality. they want to chat and have fun just as much as you do. Why do you think you are not worthy of these women? You have awesome qualities man. That passion you can talk hours about day and night. Do so. Try extremely hard to be rejected and I bet you find its so much easier t… | /r/seduction | 21/05/14 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Still a noobie after over half a year of constant approachingwho cares what their thoughts are. there are plenty more people to talk to. Don't let others opinions and supposed thoughts dictate your mental state. Just go in with the intent of having fun. I feel you are trying to break it down step by step. Just relax, have fun, make physical contact, high five, escalate. | /r/seduction | 16/05/14 04:46 AM |
| 24 | How does one get over shyness and uncertainty ?What I always tell myself. "hey you sexy bad ass motherfucker, you know this moment? This exact goddamn moment as the earth orbits the sun rotating so fast I cannot even comprehend? Yeah, this place in time? It will never exist again. Not now not ever. These people and where I'm standing cannot be duplicated. It may be similar but never identical. Stop being so goddamn selfish and go talk to women. Also you're awesome." | /r/seduction | 09/12/12 05:49 AM |
| 8 | Do you still sometimes feel that a particular girl is clearly "out of your league"?Yes but then I think about how she's probably taken a bigger shit than I have in my life. How she probably worries about how everyone else perceives her. Even self conscious thoughts as to why fitnessproject is looking at me looking sexy but doesn't want to come talk to me. Why is he being so selfish in not talking to me. I could literally blow his mind with all the awesome things we could do together and adventures I've explored. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Three second rule, shoulders back… | /r/seduction | 23/11/12 04:02 PM |
| 2 | For the (relatively) older men of Seddit: if you could do college over again, what would you do differently (regarding women)?Me too man. Thanks for the advice | /r/seduction | 12/07/12 11:12 PM |
| 22 | Post Masculine's Guide to Attract WomenGreat read. My favorite If you want to be with amazing women who are open, loving, independent, supportive and nurturing, then you need to become the male equivalent. You need to become an honest, open, and strong man who believes in himself, takes care of himself, and is proud of the amazing life he’s made for himself. Attracting women is not about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive. | /r/seduction | 07/07/12 10:43 PM |
| 1 | I'm terrible at openers. (entj). What's your best in a bar/social scene?Really liked #2. Thank you for posting this. I appreciate it. | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 05:38 AM |
| 1 | I'm terrible at openers. (entj). What's your best in a bar/social scene?If only. Thanks for the response though. | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 05:33 AM |
| 1 | I'm terrible at openers. (entj). What's your best in a bar/social scene?Thanks for responding. I have to say my eye contact has been pretty strong lately. Just read about triangle something. Looking forward to trying it tonight. | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 05:32 AM |
| 1 | I'm terrible at openers. (entj). What's your best in a bar/social scene?Thanks for the response. I'll work on it. | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 05:32 AM |
| 2 | I'm terrible at openers. (entj). What's your best in a bar/social scene?I've noticed more when I have AA and honestly its with women of higher attractiveness. I can definitely relate it to self image issues but I've been working on that; I work out 5x a week. The tips listed in the article were interesting and I bookmarked it for future readings. I will have to take up your advice on salsa dancing (awkward two step). Thank you for your reply. | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 05:31 AM |
| 1 | I'm terrible at openers. (entj). What's your best in a bar/social scene?Thank you for the advice, I've tried to maintain a fun attitude these past few days and it's helped relax a lot. | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 05:27 AM |
| 1 | I'm terrible at openers. (entj). What's your best in a bar/social scene?Thanks for the response, sorry about the late response. I like this. Helps get out of character. | /r/seduction | 01/07/12 05:25 AM |
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