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CowlickCarl/r/Divorce_Men29/07/20 05:39 PM
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“My oldest was in town but spent most of the time with mom” Same. I don’t get it. She cheated, left and tried to get every dime. But they don’t know about any of that. I take the high road. I am always there for them, life guidance, emotional and financial support. But yet they always want to spend time with her. They stay at her place. When they are in town, it’s more pain than happiness. It wasn’t supposed to be this way.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 11:33 AM
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Are you married? (this is a divorce sub) If so, she absolutely has a claim to your assets. To what degree is TBD
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 07:57 PM
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This. They lose respect for you when you beg, and it will just spiral down even faster. BUT, if you go radio silent, and she comes back to you.. the reality of this bat-shit crazy letter still stands: She doesn’t love you (or herself) enough to stay committed, that is the reality that the letter sets. She might be cheating, maybe not. It doesn’t matter. She ain’t committed, and she probably never will be. It may not be her fault, it may not be yours, it’s just reality. I am so sorry brother.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 07:52 PM
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I would agree. When you lose your loving spouse you go out out good terms. You can look back on the fond memories. Your reality is intact. My ex cheated, and hindsight shows that she had a plan for years. Not only did I lose my future, my entire past is questionable. My reality is not intact. That’s the difference.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/25 02:09 PM
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This. It’s hard to hear OP, but for those of us that traveled this road, we know what the road signs look like, and where the road will inevitably lead. So sorry my man.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 10:01 PM
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My man, I saw your past posts, and I get that you have all these strategies around limiting the financial impact in a divorce. But that’s hindsight for most of us. For most of us, we believed in the sanctity of marriage, we trusted and loved our partners. So no, prenups and trusts and squirreling away money wasn’t in our minds. Your advice might be valid tactics, and it’s great information. But for the love of God, get off your high horse and don’t say we aren’t fighters. Bad on you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 05:48 PM
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Just an upvote ain’t enough here. Well said brother.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 06:27 AM
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It’s conservation of emotion (like conservation of energy). The love we had has to transform into another form of emotion. Over time, maybe years, the emotions dissipate, leaving us ambivalent. Ambivalence is when you are truly free
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 06:23 AM
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I’m confused. You asked your kid for months to get a permit. But unknown to him you had stipulations. He happened to get his permit with his Mom ( what you told him you wanted). But then you got pissed because your hidden stipulations weren’t met. I feel really bad for your son my man. You should get humble quick and talk to him.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 03:10 AM
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Yes please. For those of us that made it out, turn around and help those behind us
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 03:52 AM
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That really sucks, I hope she will be okay. You have every right to be upset and angry.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 03:33 AM
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You probably already know all the things you need to do going forward. But tonight you need to know, yeah I feel it too. There are thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of guys feeling this same way right now. We are providers. We focus on that. And then that dedication and commitment is walked away from with a simple “thanks for your service “. You have your kids. Your health. Your job. Friends. Wake up tomorrow and take a moment and a deep breath to be grateful. And then start your new begin…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 03:12 AM
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Kidneys still intact. I’m gonna use that yardstick also, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 02:57 AM
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I lost half my life savings. Retire early? No.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 03:12 AM
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I sure hope your kids see what a fighter you are, at least someday.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 12:53 AM
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“It’s not about courage so much as acceptance” Never have wiser words been spoken!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 12:47 AM
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OMG. That is the most evil shit I have read yet. So sorry dude.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 11:27 PM
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It wasn’t the therapist. They merely gave her an excuse to execute her final act.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 11:26 PM
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Two weeks after my mom died my ex laid into me about how the rocky marriage was my fault. A year later her father died and I was nothing but supportive. Now I see what I didn’t see then.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 11:13 PM
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Plus one on that. Spousal support is based on her potential income, not her current income. Unfortunately that requires getting a vocational assessment, done by a respected person that will appear in court. Yes this can cost thousands, but as said it well worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 11:02 PM
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Just a small point. OP didn’t say that he was with this woman or dependent on her, just that she inspired him. Maybe she inspired his belief in himself. But your point is a great one in general.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/22 03:14 AM
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OP it’s been years for me and I’m just now starting to feel free. Don’t put time pressure on yourself. Other posters here have great habits you should follow. But here is my tip: accept the suck. Don’t get frustrated with it. You are healing. It will take time. Just observe and accept your down days. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 04:02 AM
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If he is under 18 he is a minor and his support is dictated by your divorce agreement. What does that say about paying his expenses?
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 03:56 AM
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She might not be purposely punishing you. I know it sucks but that doesn’t mean she’s doing it to hurt you. I pray she is doing it because she believes this will be best for the kids long term.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 02:29 AM
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How is she punishing you with the kids? I thought it was a mutual decision?
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 02:14 AM
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I agree but true narcissism is a tough one to have sympathy for. Their entire MO is to control, manipulate and hurt you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/22 04:17 AM
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This wasn’t a counterweight, it was a completely different weight 😁
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/22 03:25 AM
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Have you considered DivorceCare? It’s Christian based, and a fantastic chance to bond with others in the same boat.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 05:10 AM
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There is nothing more lonely than being with someone that makes you feel alone. Sadly that came from Robin Williams I believe RIP
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 03:25 AM
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If you don’t respond she will realize that if she wants to have a conversation with you, she will need to be civil and respectful. Until then, your silence will bug the hell out of her! LOL
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 03:13 AM
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Don’t date too quickly. Take time to develop that confidence in yourself, by yourself. Become whole and complete. Get to the point of not being lonely even though you might be alone. It’s a critically important strength to have, that way no woman will be able to mess you up again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/21 02:59 AM
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It’s not fair for anyone to throw out a timeline. I am years down the road, and looking back there were gradual milestones. But when was the day I started sleeping? I don’t remember, it happened somewhere along the way. When did I stop crying. Don’t remember but I realize it’s been months. When did my anxiety subside enough that I stopped taking meds? There was no discreet date, I just realize that I don’t take them anymore. Will I have more sleepless nights? Yep. More sadness and anxiety? Yep. …
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 06:14 PM
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This was me. Up at 1:00am. But still exercising and was in great shape. But high anxiety, I needed medication. But now I sleep though the night and am off meds. What you are going through is normal for the trauma you’re suffering. Embrace the suck and be patient. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/21 02:23 AM
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Perjury.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/21 03:20 AM
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I understand and I am in a similar boat. My lawyer cautioned me about buyouts. It’s attractive because you can cut all ties. But remember that alimony payments can be adjusted in the future. Imagine watching her tax returns and in 5 years she gets a new high paying job. You could petition for lower spousal payments. Or imagine that she gets married in 3 years. In that case spousal support would stop all together. In these scenarios you would be bummed if you had paid her out. My plan is to take …
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/21 02:18 AM
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Thank you. Very similar situation, however my healing was slower. But, like you, I now see that yes..... it’s time ultimately that heals.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 03:47 AM
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“....can look forward to getting myself back”. I get the anger, been there. But focus on those 7 words. Look ahead with hope and be the best person and father you can.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/21 03:31 AM
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Thank you. I was so glad you mentioned 2 years. Some posts are like “it’s been 6 weeks and things get better”. Come on.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/21 04:46 AM
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You’re not talking too much. Your hurtin and alone. Hang tough brother. The only way out is through.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/20 04:40 AM
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