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I met him through an older friend who was his step aunty in a way. I nearly had to fight two women who cornered him once and he has been assaulted by other women, it happens rarely but makes him uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 12:52 PM
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This is a good thing, you’re effectively weeding out the sex obsessed fucktards.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 08:46 AM
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Stop winding yourself up, you were groomed by older men. Any man of value will be understanding of this and be willing to support you. This will not stop you from finding love.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 09:30 PM
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Yes, and I blame hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 05:23 PM
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I was done with approaching men because it seemed like they just saw that as an opportunity to bang, and thought if he really does like me for who I am, he will approach me. Then he did. He chose me and I reciprocated.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 08:50 AM
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Some are traumatised and would trade it though. It’s just my personal opinion that I see it as annoyance, and I have several issues that dampen my fear response. I don’t want to judge any women who would make a different decision, I just don’t think it’s fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 09:35 PM
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No I wouldn’t, honestly. It sucks but I’d rather have it along with my boyfriend making the effort for me. The answers surprise me. I’ve always felt it was more annoying than scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 08:10 AM
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Maybe if we stopped treating teenagers like children, they would know all this by 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:11 PM
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(Editing because incorrect info)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:10 PM
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People are always learning. Reaching 18 doesn’t mean you’ve stopped learning, and part of being that age is learning about what is toxic and what isn’t through trial and error. So no, I won’t unfairly judge them for being led on or hurt by deceptive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:54 PM
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How is it a young girls fault??? If she’s in her 30s and still not learned, then maybe she’s partially at fault for allowing that treatment repeatedly and not learning. But how is it a 18-19yos fault when a 25yo is lying about wanting a relationship to sleep with her? That’s a weird take your grandma had.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:21 AM
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I was told not to be promiscuous because men will view me as a sex object instead of relationship material. I’ve always followed that advice. However, I still encountered men who viewed me as a sex object and lied to me to have sex. However, I did also land a good man at 19 who I am still with years later, who has the same values as me and didn’t just try and pursue sex. Many men will view you sexually just by default because it used to be encouraged (and now is discouraged, so I’m hopeful for c…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 10:51 AM
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When you feel that pull on both a mental and emotional level.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 03:29 PM
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Spoken truly like someone who has never experienced soul crushing heartbreak.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:33 PM
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???? What even is this take? You can still cuddle with a guy who just wants sex and watch a movie with him? That’s not the point. Also women do want sex, we just want it with someone who doesn’t just want sex on its own. Most of us want it with a genuine connection, and that can’t work if it’s one sided. What you are describing is more of a FWB situation than a relationship, and those are almost always disasters. This whole post just sounds like you’ve never been in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:41 AM
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I just threw up a bit reading this
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 08:27 AM
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You really encounter women like that? I couldn’t imagine doing that bullshit lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:19 PM
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I actively pursued him which I think massively contributed to the problem, but he got his karma.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 03:43 PM
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You knowingly chose a toxic situation (no judgement, I think we’ve all been there at some point and it’s part of learning), and I think you know it. It’s not that men won’t appreciate you, you just need to learn what qualities good men have and how to spot toxicity.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 11:05 AM
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I’ve not necessarily been ghosted, but I’ve been strung along before. Guy would pretend he wanted a relationship, actually wanted a FWB, continued what he was doing, felt soooo guilty about it (aw boo hoo 😢), and he got his head in a bit of a mess. This has happened twice. I’ve never been ghosted just after sex. I think that guys do this because they are taught early on that it is just acceptable typical male behaviour, and ghosting occurs because they didn’t like someone’s company very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:40 AM
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No one fucking deserves that except maybe you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 09:34 AM
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I would totally go.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 08:14 AM
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This is exactly what I’ve been thinking and what I think works. I’ve done the 180 with him before and it worked. I just hope I maintain the willpower and the balls instead of just snapping and yelling “you’re a twat”
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 10:18 PM
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I did that. A few times. Usually it results in him saying I’ve nothing to worry about and I can’t get rid of him, and that he knows his temper is bad but I shouldn’t take it personally, then repeats the pattern. I think he’s aggro because of my certain repeated behaviours that I struggle with, such as sleeping too much or not hearing him, and the repetitiveness drives me insane. Like his repeated behaviours drive me insane.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 10:15 PM
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Thank you! Oh but he’s fully aware of it, and also completely remorseful at times. He genuinely does go out of his way to be good. But can’t control his temper. I am definitely going to disengage like others suggest.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 10:12 PM
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I’m a pro choice woman and I agree with you. It’s fucking hypocritical to say otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:58 PM
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I hope you’re ok.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 02:28 PM
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He sounds like a bellend.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 05:44 AM
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I have no idea because I always thought being single sucked and prefer being in a long term relationship. The only times I enjoyed being single were a few months after dating low quality men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 08:38 PM
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I really hope so. I really love him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 09:34 AM
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Nah, I’ll judge fuckboys just as harshly, and fuck no, women do not cause more emotional pain than men do. It’s just that they have better support networks while men are expected to deal with it themselves, so less likely to resort to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:07 PM
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I was initially attracted to an ex, but that quickly wore off due to bad breath and increasing weirdness. I mean being pretentious to impress me kind of weirdness. The relationship fell apart after 3 months and I was mentally checked out by 1 month, but this person would just cry when I tried to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 07:25 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 07:59 PM
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It’s not because they’re out of your league, it’s because you’re letting them sleep with you before committing, and for some reason you’re going for guys with an avoidant attachment style.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 05:29 PM
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Even I don’t care about slut shaming as a woman. I would define a slut as anyone who puts their need for sex before people’s well-being on a frequent basis, e.g leading on multiple people while sleeping with others, cheating, homewrecking, multiple partners a week/spreading STIs etc. And men are actually terrible for this as well, and they do get shamed, they get called fuckboys. It is not just someone who has sex. I very rarely see people shamed just because they have sex. I commonly see people…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:37 AM
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We both lead in different things. He leads in practical manners, e.g setting up all the stuff we need to go somewhere and how we’ll get there etc, but I lead spiritually. I’m the one that does some advanced occult practices, he used to be agnostic. He is willing to let me use what I know to help us.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 11:27 AM
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That’s great, there’s definitely no reason to change it then. ☺️
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 12:37 PM
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I know I’m here a little late, I just found this sub and was scrolling, but don’t change your humour to please a hypothetical partner you haven’t met yet. Lots of men love dark humour and sarcasm. Lots of men like women with that edge to their humour, some even prefer it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 10:21 AM
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Yes, men and women can be just friends. It’s not uncommon for there to be orbiters. You don’t avoid making friends with them without cutting yourself off from some potentially good bonds with people. Sounds like your coworker has a thing for you, and I think he’s behaving inappropriately considering you are in a relationship. Sometimes, it helps to just say “I don’t really like that, let’s maybe tone it down.” As a polite way of setting a boundary, and don’t be afraid to be rude if they ignore y…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 09:15 AM
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It would definitely put me on edge.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 09:07 AM
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Start with raising kids right. Be kind and attentive to them, so that they don’t grow up with anxious or avoidant attachment styles. Over sexualising everything in the media needs to be overturned. Stop glamourising hookup culture in the media. Stop normalising dating multiple people at once (I feel like this is more common in some places than others, where I live you’ll get some odd looks and judgement, but in other places where younger generations are more influenced by American media it’s mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 08:10 AM
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Every now and then. Roughly once a month someone will make an inappropriate comment. It’s annoying but it’s not constant, nor is it super traumatising. It was at its worst when I was 15 and used to receive a lot of horrible messages from creepy older dudes online. That was constant, and over time made me sick and anxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 05:35 AM
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No, because I don’t like sharing, and I love being desired so much to the point that he doesn’t ever want to share.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:08 AM
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I think she’s either very busy or just lost interest. I suggest seeing how she is after she’s completed her finals, it’s only three more weeks right? And if she’s still cold then leave. However, I also understand not wanting to put up with coldness at times where you are both super busy. I know I’ve never ever treated my boyfriend that way even when I was working full time and studying. It’s possible to find balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 07:27 AM
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Plenty of people feel disgust towards these celebrities. I’m one of those people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 08:46 AM
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Well I’m happy because of my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 11:01 AM
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Telling PEOPLE that relationships aren’t a source of happiness is awful advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 09:04 AM
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You don’t pay €230 every time you have sex in a relationship. You may pay for the odd gift here and there or a meal. This is just incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:00 AM
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I think it’s a bit sad. That’s all really.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 08:59 AM
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I’m not, because I prioritise love.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:34 PM
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I would find this disrespectful and cut the person off. I’m surprised people actually put up with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 07:33 AM
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Take it from a woman: we don’t want men to treat us like this, so most of us won’t treat men we’re interested in like this. Therefore while OP may be correct, don’t use it to generalise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 07:31 AM
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I mean, I kind of already am.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 09:23 AM
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I see him being pissed off because she randomly started live-streaming him and asking him questions suddenly, and saying things like “I’m dealing with foolishness here.”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 11:04 AM
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I would support this if they didn’t just slap every abused dude who defended himself on the register.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 02:40 PM
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When you know someone and spend a significant amount of time with someone, the signs present themselves in subtle ways. However, many people choose to ignore them because they’re told that anything other than blindly trusting their partner is “toxic”, and also if they’re in love, they’ll try and overlook any odd signs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 10:06 AM
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As a woman, I disagree with you and think it matters. It’s not just women who are criticised. Women may look at a man’s body count and decide he’s a player. Men should be allowed to do the same. I don’t want to just be someone’s next piece of meat because they can’t settle down. Sex negativity? What’s so positive about fucking 50+ people in a hookup culture that damages self-esteem, marriages and relationships? You may say these issues have always occurred and that’s right, but it’s only now tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 08:57 AM
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Not pumped and dumped as such, but I had a guy pretend to want a relationship with me for 8 months for sex, and the guilt destroyed him. He even ended up crying over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 01:03 PM
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Damn, that’s terrifying and awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:54 PM
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Where would they get the DNA filled egg from? 🤦🏻‍♀️ Also people enter relationships for more than reproduction. He might just be with her because he loves her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:51 PM
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These men will struggle to find relationships that way. They want a woman with a low n count who will sleep with them after 2 dates? Fucking stupid. This sub is becoming a red pill echo chamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 09:08 AM
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Or C. She’s waiting to build trust to know that you don’t ghost her?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 08:30 AM
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Not everyone is American!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 10:14 AM
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Slightly overweight, still live with their parents, plays XBox all day screaming sometimes at 2am, really average in appearance, and commitment issues. According to this sub these people shouldn’t be able to get gfs but they do, so when I see posts like OP it comes across as really pathetic and detached from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 07:38 AM
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Then why do I see so many average dudes, some with shit personalities, pulling so many women?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:38 AM
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Really shows how OP’s whiny ass views women. I see average dudes pulling women ALL THE TIME! Because they have a LIFE, and some SOCIAL SKILLS! I also see decent looking guys failing to attract women because they are rude to them. Not always on purpose either, just because they haven’t developed their social skills. OP is failing to take cost into account too. Women will charge minimum prices for their OF compared with Elon Musk’s $100000 new AI gf on the market. OF also mentioned artificial womb…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 10:25 AM
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Because people here are out of touch with reality and probably are from red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 10:19 AM
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How far removed from reality are you and some people on this sub? Do y’all even go outside? AI will not compete with women because most men who are average or above can get women. I see average men getting women all the time. Next up, a man buying an AI as a substitute for a gf would be few and far between because of the stigma attached to it... yes, there is stigma attached to a man paying for a woman’s OF, but if you use your common sense you will realise that it’s far lass stigma than buying …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 10:18 AM
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Yes, which is pretty much an alien concept on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 04:31 PM
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Probably because they don’t post about “alpha” and “beta” bullshit, can read body language, have a personality, and don’t browse RedPill or Reddit in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 03:47 PM
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With these expectations your username will be your future
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 02:55 PM
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We shouldn’t be reproducing at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 06:21 AM
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I am grumpy. I have jealous tendencies. I have gotten into arguments with chicks who have tried to hit on my bf in front of me. I can get distant. I can be bossy. I sometimes drink too much. I can only think of 5 flaws. Not 10. As for my pros, there are too many to list!! You didn’t ask but I’m going to list them anyway because freedom of speech. Educated. If my bf has any problem with any guy, the guy is immediately out of the picture. Put bf’s needs first. Choose him over anything. Loyal to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 12:40 PM
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This is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 07:42 AM
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I understand this as a woman who sometimes experiences random women trying (and failing) to hit on my boyfriend. Two times were when I was deadass sat right next to him, and another time I wasn’t there but gave a “I’m the reason girls are scared of their boyfriends cheating” speech and my bf basically told her to fuck off. The top comment here states that your partner being attracted to someone else is worse than an orbiter being attracted to your partner with zero interest, which is very true. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 07:40 AM
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The statement about breakups is correct. I have been through a lot of them because I was young, naive, picked the wrong partners, and holy hell did I put myself through some unnecessary bullshit, all because of this agenda that modern media is pushing saying you must always be as sexual as possible and don’t you dare tell someone about the risks because that’s “slut shaming.” However, a smaller handful of breakup experiences can build character, I believe. It’s only when your heart has been crac…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:23 PM
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A mixture of 5 or 10. I’ve only had it when I was at a really low place in life, and I don’t want it. Being in a relationship is 10000x better. Was originally a 4 before then. -Woman in 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 09:23 PM
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Why’d you call it a “mating market”? If you want to be successful dating, don’t call it a “mating market” or talk about any alpha/beta shit 🤣🤣 But to answer your question, no I haven’t really noticed any of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:15 AM
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I don’t feel any sympathy for people who cheat and then complain that their partner snooped on their phone. None whatsoever. However, snooping when you don’t have any evidence to justify it (if you’re married then evidence is useful in court, and again, if you’re 90% certain and snooped for closure, the cheater doesn’t have my sympathy), is a slippery slope into emotional abuse. I would instead advocate transparency with your partner. Share where you’re going and who you’re with, and expect the …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:39 PM
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I man getting lots of women just shows he’s not going to commit and will treat you like his next piece of meat. The same goes for women too. I watched the vid, the guy’s views are too cringey while the woman’s views have some truth to them (that you do deserve love if you have a body count of 5+). A guy who has girls fawning over him but just chooses on is hot af though. That’s how preselection works for me. When my bf gets hit on and he rejects them, that’s attractive in a way. It shows a man i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:25 AM
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Yeah I’ve been with a short man for 3 years. Best relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:28 AM
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It’s a mixture of biology, the media and modern hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 08:10 AM
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I don’t hide shit and I say things like they are, both the good and the bad. I do this so that my boyfriend can understand my needs clearly without having to decipher abstract hints. I don’t ask for much in return, just loyalty, love, respect, and similar values. I am willing to get along with all his friends and we all hang out together. Most importantly, I reflect what he gives me; if he puts in a lot of effort, he will get the same effort in return. If it’s lacking, I subconsciously pull away…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:27 AM
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How do you know that? Have you watched every second of my life?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 07:13 PM
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Lol triggered.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:40 PM
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You’re awfully triggered just because I said I made someone do a slightly more difficult job.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:25 PM
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Ohhhhh we have an oh so tough Redditor on our hands. r/thathappened
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:17 PM
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You think that is an abuse of power?? Lmao you should see the way I was treated by the managers. Me making an annoying dude do a slightly more difficult task that everyone else has to do in general is not power abuse. Clearly you’ve never had your manager shove you and swear at you in front of customers and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:58 PM
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That’s still not gaslighting, it’s misinformation. Gaslighting is intentional.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 08:14 AM
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Do you know what gaslighting is? It’s making someone doubt their own sanity, and giving shit dating advice isn’t gaslighting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:51 AM
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That also depends on what kind of environment you’re in. In many environments, men are more than capable of being respectful. Men aren’t these disrespectful douche bags the internet paints them to be. However, the environment I was in was a little more toxic than most, and this commonly happens to women in toxic work environments...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:51 PM
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I along with another male staff member was put in a slightly senior position where he had to help and direct other employees, the manager decided this for us. He talked over me a lot, and the female employees listened, but the males would put up more of an argument and be dicky. So... I made them do all the tougher jobs. Mwahahaha!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:48 PM
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People listen to you in the workplace. If you’re a woman and you’re the boss, obviously they’ll be listened to, but if you have male and female employees not working at a high level in the company, the men will be listened to more. I’m a woman. I worked under a female boss who was basically a female Gordon Ramsey, she was listened to. Because I worked there longer than most people, I was then responsible for helping the other employees and was told that they should listen to me, but there was al…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:45 PM
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Neither. A man who can just think for himself and have his own views, and doesn’t subscribe to dumb ideologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:08 PM
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As a woman, I care because it’s a strong predictor for if he is a fuckboy or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:54 PM
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You’d think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:43 AM
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It seems to go downhill for couples when they have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:54 AM
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Congratulations! You don’t need to microwave or water them. You just need to sometimes feed them, but most of the time they feed themselves. They eat pot noodles and biscuits.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 09:25 AM
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Incestuous? You mean the only friends you make are your family? Also that doesn’t mean dating everyone in your group wtf. Where’d you even get that reach from?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 09:52 AM
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Yes they really do sound like lawyers 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 08:38 AM
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That’s interesting, I guess it depends on your location like you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 06:49 AM
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Yeah, that’s my problem with dating apps. Because it’s an app to meet people to date, it places the expectation on people to just start dating who they meet there, without taking the time to get to know them, so it’s common for people to date the wrong people, and you end up with weirdos, people who already have partners and are hiding it, people who hide their true intentions, etc. A bit toxic if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:20 PM
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Why would you date someone you don’t know?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:50 PM
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Get to know them before you go on a date with them so you know they’re not crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:49 PM
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Huh? A “this isn’t working” is too much effort?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 04:25 PM
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Thank you for your common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 03:44 PM
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No one says you have to stay with that person forever and ever until the day you die, just have the decency to not string along multiple people at once, without their knowledge 90% of the time. If you want to keep dating others, be open with your dates about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 03:42 PM
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I think it’s crazy. I see posts from Americans getting upset because their bf/gf of six months slept with someone else and it’s somehow ok because “well, we didn’t specifically agree to be exclusive...” I think that’s bullshit, and it’s not a normal thing here. It happens, but it’s extremely looked down upon. If you go on 1-2 successful dates with someone, you’re considered an item and shouldn’t be sleeping around. If you want to date other people, you tell your date and you both should agree to…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 12:57 PM
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One woman went as far as to kiss my SO when he was asleep. He wasn’t happy about it and I definitely wasn’t either. I have a friend who I keep at arms length because I know she’s slept with married men and says overly sexual things to both of us, but she’s still good company so I hang out with her but with boundaries in place. I don’t trust the vast majority of my gender tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:10 AM
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Then pre-plan your insults! What don’t you like about them? What responses can you think of beforehand to something they may say?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 05:13 PM
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If they’re being this disrespectful, point out why you wouldn’t date them every time they get pushy. “No John, I couldn’t kiss you with that beard, I wonder how much bacteria is in it? Are there any cornflakes in it from last year?” Or “when you getting that unibrow sorted out?” If they won’t accept a no, maybe they’ll accept truly being unwanted from a verbal sense. They’ll stop because it will chip away at their ego and they won’t enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:48 AM
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Make it passionate, that’s what women want. If the passion dies down the woman will lose interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:44 AM
1

It’s less organic and more strategic and business like, because of dating apps and the rise of this “no one owes you anything so I can use people and still be TeChNiCaLlY in the right” crap. Men are taught that they’re a “Chad” if they play lots of women, and women become hurt, then they start joining groups like FDS and having a negative view on men. I’ll admit, if it weren’t for my boyfriend, who is an angel, I would also be in this category by now because of how many dumbass, hurtful men I’ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 10:19 AM
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Oh well, probably better for the planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:31 PM
1

Surprisingly, a couple of the average guys were fuckboys!! For me it’s always been average is ok if your personality is good and you’re not uggo. But attractive is preferable. That’s just the way it’s been with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:44 PM
3

He can do what he wants with his own hair and I’d support him fully. 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:21 PM
1

Depends on the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:19 PM
1

A good personality, a good composition of that is humour, is sexy. An attractive person with a bland personality is just bland. An average person with a good personality and sense of humour is better. Luckily, I managed to find a 10/10 who has great humour! That combo is the best. But I was attracted to average dudes in the past because their personality stood out and I became attracted to them over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 05:03 PM
6

With infertility on the rise and humans slowly evolving to have more narrow pelvis, making it more difficult to give birth than mammals, along with the complications you mentioned, just makes me think nope. The planet doesn’t need even more of us. But it’s aggravating how men will try and pick apart everything; if she chooses to have kids (we still need some births, just less), she’s wrecking her body. If she’s childfree, she must be some dumb liberal who sleeps around. Ok Kevin, you’re hardly a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 09:21 AM
1

That’s actually always been my preference! I’m no longer in the dating game because I’ve been in a healthy relationship for years, but back in the dating days I hated it with a passion when dudes would just try to fuck. Women aren’t walking fleshlights, and I preferred men who just wanted to actually get to know me. Also if someone gives you shit for not wanting sex, that’s entitlement, a red flag, and you can walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 07:27 AM
1

Woman here, and make sure you have a great sense of humour.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 07:21 AM
1

That’s an empty way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:58 AM
46

When people go on about alpha and beta and whatnot I fucking roll my eyes. Women definitely don’t want blokes who post “I’m an alpha” on Reddit, and the reason they’re getting women in the first place is because they’re attractive on the surface, but then the woman realises he’s actually a bit brain dead and emotionally immature, moves on, then the next woman comes along because he’s attractive and outgoing on the surface, rinse and repeat, giving him the false illusion that he’s an “alpha”. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 12:55 PM
2

I’ve never really cared. I have dated and am currently in a relationship with someone a couple of inches shorter than me, and I really don’t care. He’s well built and that’s more important than being tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:56 AM
1

The point is that people, not just men to women, will use other people for sex and lie about their intentions to get laid. Sometimes they’ll say they want a relationship when they want a FWB, and keep the person around longer than a pump and dump. It’s the lying and the using.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 01:08 PM
3

Some of them act douchey which puts women off them, and others are ok but don’t reach out to women because they’re too busy with their own hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 09:05 PM
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I’m a bit confused by this sentence and it’s phrasing. Could you rephrase what you mean, please?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 04:06 PM
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Because a lot of them are pushed down and look for an outlet to shout at someone else because of built up rage over time. Been there, but for more personal reasons that weren’t related to gender, but I still understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 03:48 PM
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It does last if you treat the relationship well. Always plan stuff together, have regular good sex where you actually listen to what your partner wants, be open, but don’t bend to their every whim or you’ll be taken for granted eventually. Don’t get in a rut. People get into ruts where it’s come home from work, do house jobs, then watch football while wifey cooks dinner while growing more and more resentful while Breighdonne and Keighdonne are running around and you don’t get quality couple time…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 03:46 PM
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They do that because of their attachment style. If they had an upbringing where the parents were on and off with their affection and general attitude, this can create an anxious attachment style and women may go for men like that as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 03:43 PM
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Most of us find that disgusting. Sorry you had to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 03:41 PM
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Once it was because I was emotionally neglected, I thought it was normal, but then through my own way I learned it wasn’t normal and that I deserved better, and lost attraction shortly after. Another time it was because I was so scarred from a breakup, my mind blanked my feelings because I was scared I’d never get over it, and I thought my basic attraction was a bond when it wasn’t. So the attraction faded, and I left. I then briefly experienced attraction for someone else, but that faded within…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 03:34 PM
2

No, I find that attitude to dating disgusting. It should be the other way around: tell others if you’re not exclusive, don’t wait on them to just assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 09:59 AM
1

So you can either sleep around or be a virgin till marriage? There’s no in between?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 07:30 AM
3

Problem is, most people aren’t ethical about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:59 AM
3

What’s wrong with it? You end up with a lot of emotionally abused people who end up used by others. I’m a woman who cringes at red pill dudes before you say anything about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:58 AM
0

Me and my bf just dated each other and no one else, some girl before me tried to pull similar shit to this and he ended it with her. It is shameful behaviour and I’m glad it’s less common where I live, and I feel like the foundation of our relationship is stronger because we were just focused on each other from the very beginning. Don’t juggle and fuck around with multiple people who don’t consent to it!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:56 AM
3

Because it involves lying to them 90% of the time, and don’t forget STDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:52 AM
1

Well one ended up being my boyfriend of nearly three years and counting. He wasn’t timid, but he generally disliked most people and felt awkward starting conversations. As long as he’s open with me that’s all what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:23 PM
5

I’m group A and in a happy relationship from it now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 06:33 AM
8

Option C seems so common in America, glad I never had to deal with it where I’m from. I really feel for Americans who want to take dating seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 06:32 AM
1

I was friends with mine for a while before we dated. 10/10 definitely better than a Tinder date; more trust, you already feel a sense of closeness, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 06:59 AM
0

The fuckboys on this sub out themselves terribly by saying that. It’s honestly just awful and I roll my eyes every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:55 PM
2

That’s true, but the non-religious ones usually fall into category B, like myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:47 AM
1

He’s not dated stacies, but he’s had some attractive exes with some very questionable personality traits. I don’t care. As long as he willingly doesn’t go near them I’m chill, because the past is the past. I don’t feel insecure about it because I’m his type anyway, but I still strongly dislike the exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 07:16 AM
1

It’s basically just pushed on everyone through the media.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 06:40 AM
12

This sub at single mothers: lol she’s used up goods and made terrible life choices. Now I’m going to write a whole paragraph on purple pill about why she’s undateable. This sub with single fathers: oh no you poor soul! You were obviously fucked over by the system you poor little victim. You’re the reincarnation of Jesus Christ and your baby mama Stacy is inherently bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:34 AM
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But someone might have a high n count from failed relationships they had as a teenager or early twenties, while they learned, because young people aren’t exactly known for choosing the right person the first few times around. If they’re in their 40s and have a stretch of failed one month relationships 7 times a year, then yeah avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 01:02 PM
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N count is irrelevant, it’s how the n count came to be. If a man has a high n count from numerous different hookups, it’s a turn off because you don’t know how many of those women he manipulated into thinking he wanted something more, it shows he likely won’t commit and you’re his next piece of meat. Even if the man’s n count is low, if it’s from hookups be aware. I’ve known men with n counts of just 2 or 4 who manipulated women. However, some men have higher n counts but they were from numerous…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 12:39 PM
2

Compared with committed, loving sex, casual sex is a strong no from me. Had a couple of experiences and they were ok at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 08:43 AM
1

No? It just made me like their personality. Why’s everything gotta be sexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:03 AM
1

And no I didn’t just date them for “entertainment”, they just had good personalities at the time but changed. These were my dating choices as a literal teenager. So why you so caught up about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:45 PM
1

Oh they were definitely clowns alright. Don’t feel bad for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 07:39 PM
0

I was, because they were funny. Jeez.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 06:35 AM
1

Just be funny. It gets you a long way. Some of my exes were questionable, but I liked them because they were funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 10:18 PM
2

How would you do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:13 PM
3

UK, 25F. It can vary wherever you go. One thing I’ve learned is that unlike the US, if two people are dating, it’s considered unacceptable to sleep around before you commit to them. If you’re dating, it’s assumed you’re an item. Due to Tinder and American media, some Brits too take up an Americanised version of dating where they’ll date numerous people at once, but this is more common in city areas and most people still look down on it (thankfully, it’s nothing but an absolute mess when people d…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:09 PM
1

Many of my friends have either been single but uninterested in hookups or they’ve been in a relationship for years, I’m in the category of being in a relationship for years and I’m adverse to casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:10 PM
6

As a woman, the second option. I don’t wanna be corrected every time I’m not “woke” enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 06:48 AM
0

Don’t have sex unless there is commitment from a HVM. I already achieved a healthy, long lasting relationship before I joined FDS, but about half the techniques were ones I used.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 07:37 AM
22

Lol there’s gonna be no uprising, people are too scared to ask for ketchup.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 02:52 PM
1

I don’t check out guys the way guys check out women. I’m in a relationship, but it took me a long time to find a decent guy that I was attracted to, and although men here say that we have so much choice, finding the one was a lonely and difficult process at the time (worth it though). At times I was single I hated dating because I found it cringeworthy and uncomfortable, I was always more of a “let it happen naturally” person. I don’t feel attracted to anyone unless there’s an established connec…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:20 AM
1

I’m a few inches taller than my man. I’ve never really cared about height. Men here complain that it’s their height that’s the issue, when really it’s their attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:22 AM
4

Geez, someone didn’t get laid...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:06 PM
2

I’m a woman in a long term relationship. Here’s my strategy: •Only show interest if I’m actually attracted. •Wait for him to show interest before I show interest back. •Wait until I properly knew him to establish trust •Allowed him to plan dates, to show he was really interested. •Don’t chase, but don’t play hard to get either. Simply reciprocate the effort he puts in. If he plans something nice first, showing his interest, I’d plan something nice and initiate once I was sure I wasn’t gonna get …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 01:50 PM
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My life would literally be the same
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 09:57 AM
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I’d be annoyed because I use social media to contact my friends and bf, but I’d be glad online dating is banned. It’s ruining people’s relationships, people are pressured to either date the person they’re talking to or move on and stop talking to them so they can date someone else, and as a result people are rushing into things with the wrong people, people are lying about their intentions just to get sex out of people, i mean it’s not my problem at all but I’d still be glad if it stopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 10:29 AM
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So I think you understand where OP is coming from then and you’re not who she is talking about in her post. Unfortunately not all men are willing to be respectful of a woman’s decision to just wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 10:26 AM
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Point out where OP is wrong. She’s basically just saying it’s dumb af for a man to expect a woman with a low N count to sleep with him on the second date, and some of them are pushy and annoying as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 08:49 AM
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You took the words out of my mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 08:19 AM
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Hi, I’m a woman who was in the same boat as you. Show him you’re interested, but do not sleep with him until you both agree on what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:36 PM
1

Maybe they do. It’s a human desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 07:57 AM
6

That’s because they also likely don’t smoke and also drink low/moderately.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 07:49 AM
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Sex is great but cuddling is what’s good for mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 07:48 AM
1

I have zero problems with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 07:40 AM
2

I believe it. I believe it because I have experienced it, the relationships where I’ve been the one doing the approaching, I’ve ended up being used and left. When I let the guy do the approaching, they seem more interested and attached. Sometimes a few of them got too attached lol. Anyway, my long term relationship of years was because I waited for him to approach me. Men will approach you if they’re interested, but if they’re not interested and you approach them, they most likely will still sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 06:00 PM
1

Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:37 PM
2

I found that it helps weed out the dudes who are just in it for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 10:15 AM
3

I think this helps weed out the dudes that are in it just for sex, so I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 10:14 AM
1

Organic love is best, idc what anyone says. The best relationship I have that is still going strong today was because I met them through a friend, dating apps place too much expectation on you to either begin dating them or stop talking to them so they can date someone else, and this causes people to rush into things with the wrong people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 10:10 AM
1

That is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 05:49 PM
2

It’s not exclusive to age gaps, you’re right about that, but it’s what typically happens between an older man and a younger women. OP asked for an example of manipulation techniques that occur so I gave one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:34 PM
2

This seems about right. I may not fully understand the perspective of men as a young women, but I know my own perspective and it’s nothing like what redpills say. I think it’s also more to do with attachment style and media oversexualising everything, call me a boomer idc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:12 PM
3

They’ll pretend to be into her for sex and then they’ll leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 03:54 PM
5

I’ve never seen what they describe happen in real life though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:50 PM
6

Lol you’d think you’d get some neutral perspective but it’s the land of the two arguing with each other 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:45 PM
11

I can’t take this alpha/beta shit seriously. It’s so cringe. Also, I’m still young, just not a teenager picking douchey guys (a lot of which were betas but still mistreated me). What I meant is I now know how to spot fuckboys from a mile away, and I have someone who is committed to me but still a bit the unpredictable type redpill people say younger women want. Been with him for years. This is why half these redpill discussions about women and dating just don’t make any sense to me and it just s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:15 PM
1

What’s AF/BB?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 12:00 PM
9

I don’t want a baby but became more selective because I learned how to spot douche bags. Why does everything have to be about having a baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 11:46 AM
1

They can if they want to, if they know what they’re doing and do it safely, but people ignore the damaging aspects of this and glamourise it too much and encourage young girls to do it as soon as they turn 18, which is fucking wrong (e.g this sticks around forever, there are certain jobs that won’t hire you not for misogynistic purposes, but to avoid their company being blackmailed, making yourself have sex with questionable men to further yourself may have an impact on the woman’s mental health…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:34 AM
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Men are great when it comes to banter, having guy friends I can playfully insult them and they’ll playfully insult me back, no one takes offence, and it’s just a laugh. Women friends are wonderful in their own way, but banter seems to go best with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 09:39 AM
1

Because as much as society denies it and wants to push an individualistic agenda, people need love. Even women can become depressed (but less so because some women find themselves happier because they’re taught by society to be the responsible ones and end up taking care of men, but this doesn’t mean they can’t feel sad for not being in a relationship). Humans need love. Oxytocin, the love hormone, has an anti-inflammatory effect on your body and boosts your immune response. People, not just men…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 01:10 PM
4

That’s reassuring.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:55 PM
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I’m in the West of Europe too and I’ve noticed this pattern. I know Reddit is very American centric, which has given me insight to American views and values, and many of them actually shock me. You’re either a gun shooting, Trump voting redneck bigot in a trailer or a blue haired college girl who cries because their professor pronounces their classmate’s ethnic name incorrectly. There’s no normal. Here no one gives a fuck. I’m gonna state AITA as an example. Almost every post about making someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:40 AM
2

Personally I LOVE skinny+lean muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 05:43 PM
1

What’s a “side”?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 09:07 PM
0

No. It’s almost as if not everyone on Reddit is American. Who would’ve known?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 09:06 PM
2

When I’ve said this it’s usually about men with huge egos.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 03:08 PM
5

I can’t handle obnoxiously woke people who think I’m oppressed and I also can’t handle far right people who wanna debate me about whether or not I’m living my life as a woman correctly. I ignore politics because I see no point in destroying relationships with people based on billionaires who don’t give a shit about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 08:04 AM
1

Make friends with women. My bf spent a while being friends with me first so we already had that established level of trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 08:45 AM
2

No, I meant “I’m fighting the bear.” “No, I’M fighting the bear!”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 06:00 PM
1

Lol me and my partner would both be arguing over which one of us fights the bear for the other 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 05:47 PM
3

That’s a good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 04:58 PM
2

Women have done that too. In fact, I think cheating is at a low nowadays because people can leave their marriages and relationships without stigma. My point was not so much the increased popularity of polyamory because they’re by far in the minority that it doesn’t really impact the dating world that much, and if they all consent then whatever (but that’s the problem, there’s almost always someone pressured into it). My point was more along the lines of this new attitude that’s uprising, the who…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 04:56 PM
10

Monogamy, not flirting with other people. Men should protect women because they’re physically stronger and I think if you love someone you’d fight a bear for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 04:33 PM
1

A partner who isn’t a doormat is great. Being on the same page and being submissive aren’t the same. It’s ok to debate, disagree, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:01 PM
1

This is ridiculous because you can’t predict life. Marriages can fall apart after 15 years and your kids get caught up in it, is that more stable than just having your parents living separately in the first place? If a woman is knocked up by accident, should she be forced to get an abortion if she doesn’t want one? Shit happens, life is unpredictable. All these rules and norms people come up with for how to do things properly are ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:40 AM
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They have a right to express their views but they’re not owed a platform if their views are shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 05:10 PM
4

He lied, he will lie about other significant things too. Bullet dodged.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 03:00 PM
9

Depends on the personality of the individual guy, along with attachment style. Some seek relationships, some have an avoidant attachment style and don’t want relationships. Also, I learned this the hard way, but a little common sense in women goes a looong way. At times I chased guys and was too easy, I got kicked to the curb. When I sat back and let the guy make an effort to get to know me, plan dates for me and held back a bit, it led to a serious, fulfilling, long-term relationship. However, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 07:42 AM
1

I can’t take any dude seriously when he goes around calling people betas and himself an alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:41 AM
2

I personally have not seen this, but if you say you’ve seen it a lot on this sub I won’t doubt you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 02:29 PM
1

I’m put off by lots of money because a lot of the time, lots of money=lots of women=big ego, so I generally avoided. My SO isn’t even working right now and I don’t give a damn as long as no financial burden is put on me, which there isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 02:26 PM
1

That’s also true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 05:18 AM
5

I think about how lucky I am that I managed to get one of the good ones, because they are rare. Not saying men who are good people are rare at all, I’m just saying that men who are relationship material are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 08:51 PM
1

What’s woman A and woman B?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 08:52 AM
2

Basically the relationship I have now. Partner in crime, go for lots of hikes together, movie nights, smoke together, absolutely no kids ever, more adventure/building each other up focused.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 07:08 AM
3

Form friendships first to establish that trust, I’ve learned that dating people you don’t know from a dating app and expecting a good outcome is just stupid. Also when you do date someone, pay attention to how they want to spend time with you; my partner suggested fire poi at 6pm, not “come to my place” at 3am. Ditch if they immediately try to sleep with you without knowing you properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 06:25 AM
1

I don’t want to be alone. Nothing beats having that one person you can share everything with. Being alone is superior to being in bad company, and I think people are finding solitude preferable to being with shit people around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 10:01 AM
5

I’m in a great relationship now, but in the past, men were so shitty about lying about having feelings to get sex. Fucking sleazebags.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 03:29 PM
1

Same. Me and my partner never had the “exclusivity” conversation, we just were exclusive pretty much very quickly. That’s normal for me but Reddit is an odd place with odd ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 03:03 PM
1

What kind of idiots are y’all marrying to get these results?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 01:22 PM
1

People who view relationships that way are gonna end up alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:48 AM
2

Maybe leave? Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:03 AM
2

If you’re dating someone for months, it’s implied you’re a thing by then. They should tell you if they’re still seeing other people. It’s cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:02 AM
3

There are different types of cheaters and cheating. There are ones who deliberately start and continue affairs, ones who do it to escape abuse (I can forgive those ones), cowards, selfish people, and people who try to make a relationship work because they were brought up to never quit easily and then they just happen to fall in love with someone else. Each case is different. Some cheaters are nasty af, some aren’t so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 08:58 AM
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