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There was actually a study I read that said highly educated women have more casual sex. Thought that was interesting! https://ifstudies.org/blog/promiscuous-america-smart-secular-and-somewhat-less-happy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:23 AM
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In what way have your views changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:03 AM
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That they're a good, kind person who's good fun and company and that they never stop trying to get to know me better because I believe curiosity and laughter are at the heart of most successful relationships. And because without curiosity, you can't hope to fully understand your partners needs let alone meet them - too many relationships fail, directly or indirectly, due to unmet needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 01:07 AM
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I think the question is being posed to try to assess quite how clueless most men are about abuse - do they know and understand more than we think they do? I'd say this thread proves they don't. They're clueless about the realities of abuse other than the most obvious kinds. The kinds that are easy to spot a mile off and that most emotionally healthy women do manage to avoid. Given statistics about abuse weren't really kept until modern times there's probably no way to tell which system worked be…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:58 PM
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This is terrible advice. I know loads of adult men who've had daughters or female relatives experience a long term abusive relationship. In almost every case, they've had no idea about the abuse until very late in the day and in many cases, the male relatives really liked the abusive partner when they first met them and for most of the duration of the relationship. Men are clueless about abuse and what it looks like. They think that the small percentage of men who clearly have antisocial persona…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:43 PM
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Abuse isn't usually violence though. Many men are abusive in non-violent ways. All the abusive men I've known have also been widely perceived as good guys in real life and have been well liked by their partners' families, often for decades. Often the victim is completely unaware that they're being abused or that certain behaviour is deliberate and designed to harm. That's one of the problems. When victims start trying to talk to their family about behaviour that they are finding distressing, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:33 PM
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And why on earth is an equal in terms of social status etc less likely to be abusive? If someone has a controlling personality, they will try to control every partner they have. Your social status and income etc will be irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:41 AM
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Aren't you assuming that each woman that experiences abuse only experiences it once? in my experience, many women experience it many times. I think the figures are far higher (but also think women abuse frequently too, perhaps at the same or similar rates).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:40 AM
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Can I ask what you focused on and what you learnt? Or the most important things of everything you learnt? How has it benefited you so far?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:09 PM
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But is there any evidence to suggest that the men who sleep around have put any more effort into it than the women who do so, just because men have less opportunities for sex as a class? It's not difficult if you're a man born with good looks who's learnt how to engage and flirt with people. Which is the category most men who sleep around fall into. Why do they deserve more respect if it's just as easy for them? And why do you think promiscuous women don't work for the kind of sex they want? Jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 03:11 AM
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You need to read Why We Get Fat by Gary Taubes. There are hundreds of reasons why weight loss is absolutely not within many people's control. There are people with weight loss disorders that can be obese on starvation diets. There are also things like untreated thyroid disorders which can make weight impossible to lose no matter how little you eat and no matter how much exercise you do. Of course that doesn't mean that you have to be sexually attracted to these people but saying it's always with…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:32 AM
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I slept with loads of guys in short term relationships. I ended most of those short term relationships because it was obvious they couldn't make me happy (didn't listen to me when I told them they were doing things that were stressing me out due to my neurological condition and kept doing the things that stressed me out). Most were pretty upset and confused as they thought the relationship was going well. It wasn't. I did eventually find someone who actually listened to me and I'm in a happy rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:22 AM
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I slept with a lot of guys and was open about it with most men I considered having a relationship with. None of them cared (although a few expressed surprise) and they were all very different - in terms of n count and everything else. Some had only had one sexual partner before me and others had had dozens. I was good at dating though. Many men told me our first date was the best they'd ever been on. I think at the end of the day, if you can make a man feel better than anyone else they've ever m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:38 AM
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Having just read the synopsis I don't think I want to watch it. But isn't this just a an example of one fictional person. I doubt most women would make this choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 01:03 AM
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Thanks. I'll watch it or read the synopsis.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 12:59 AM
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Women risk violence every time they sleep with a stranger in a way that men don't though so you're not comparing like with like. If you removed that risk, the results would likely be different. It's not purely driven by sex drive. And most women outside the third world and the USA no longer have any risk associated with unwanted pregnancy. Women no longer need any guarantee of security for sex alone and the fact that behaviour has changed so much as a result would suggest that it isn't an inhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 11:22 PM
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Is this a failing of the system - could protections be put in place that aren't in place? Or are these creators sending this stuff to children specifically? I still don't fully understand the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 11:11 PM
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You say women aren't forced to sign up but also that more and more women sign up every day just to pay the rent. Isn't that a contradiction? I'm disabled and a member of multiple Facebook groups for disabled people. The question of how on earth to make a living as a disabled person (when most jobs are inaccessible and government assistance is also either inaccessible or totally insufficient) comes up frequently. The majority of people responding to these threads (which are usually phrased along …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 12:35 AM
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Where does this come from?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:42 PM
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I'm 40F and I agree with you completely that there's nothing wrong with this. The most damage ever done to me was by another teenager my own age at the time and my happiest relationships (by coincidence probably) were with older men. My life would have been poorer had I not met them. I have huge sympathy for anyone damaged by any relationship but if the person is behaving like a decent human being, they're not to blame, no matter how old they are. If they behave badly then they are, again no mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:41 PM
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I've seen both many times. Why doesn't it compute for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 09:47 PM
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I was raised with these things taught to me too and I still had a brief, but very damaging relationship with someone who passed as a genuinely fantastic and kind person in all these ways. He was never abusive in a way that was identifiably so without quite a complex understanding of how abuse works. Which I didn't have at 17 and while I learnt to identify this behaviour and avoid it in all of my future relationships, I still didn't understand it as having been abusive until I was about 30. It wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 04:01 AM
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I found all my partners and many of the FWBs through online dating so I could tell if someone could communicate well from the dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:50 PM
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When I was dating, if I already knew a guy was a poor communicator, I wouldn't have been interested in any sort of relationship but I might have been interested in sex. So long as he wasn't so bad a communicator that it would have made sex risky or not fun. You can't be happy in a relationship without good communication, or at least I can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:47 PM
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I have a long term partner now but no, I wouldn't have developed feelings in this situation. I've been in it multiple times and it's just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:40 PM
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I used the word maybe to point out something that is totally obvious to most decent people (I would hope that the OP is open to changing their mindset). They clearly aren't valuable to him because, by his own account, he's pretending to be their friend while seething with resentment that they haven't chosen to pursue anything more. Which of course isn't valuable to the woman. My point is that friendship should be valued for its own sake - another person is giving you their time, attention and en…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 02:04 AM
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there are different priorities for long term relationships than for fuck buddies though and some women make better decisions re partners than others. I don't think anyone who doesn't prioritise emotional openness and good communication skills is making a good decision and their relationship will be more likely to fail. So even if a man attracts someone without having those skills the relationship will be unlikely to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:19 PM
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I agree that something's missing but I don't think the answer is to be less good at connecting emotionally. I. don't think it's effeminate in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 03:14 PM
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isn't it about what women are looking for in long term partners though? You're obviously not interested in being that but if you ever wanted to, you'd have to change your priorities, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:34 PM
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Asking lots of questions is actually really important - there's a lot of research showing people in successful relationships ask a lot of questions (see Gottman) and they improve likeability too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:33 PM
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I think autism hinders communication abilities in many (but not all) cases and also the ability to read emotions, which for many goes hand in hand with communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:44 AM
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not at all - there's a ton of research on what makes relationships work and a strong emotional connection is up there. Without it, nothing lasts and relationship quality is poor. If you're just looking for a fuck buddy, of course, it doesn't matter. Although my best FWBs have been men I had a fantastic emotional connection with. But of course there needs to be more than an emotional connection. Sexual tension can be built on it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:27 AM
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Here's a radical suggestion. Maybe these female friendships are actually valuable in their own right, as friendships. If OP can find a way to get their other needs met, maybe they might actually benefit from them in the long run? As a woman, I definitely value men who value friendships of all kinds with a wide range of people. Although I do agree that if they're just fake friendships from his side then they're pointless. Such a sad situation if that's the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:23 AM
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For sex, maybe, for relationships, no. Unless the woman doesn't have many choices of course. If she can find someone who's attractive to her and a good communicator she'll always go with that over someone she finds attractive but is bad at communicating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:32 AM
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This is the opposite of what good communication is to me and every other intelligent woman I know. Yes, I want someone who knows how to make conversation enjoyable (one of the most lacking skills in men who mostly just talk about themselves and ask very little which means they don't get to know you and you don't get that steady flow of dopamine release in your brain that comes when someone takes an active interest in who you are as a person). But they also have to be able to navigate all the ups…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:28 AM
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To some women maybe. For many attractive women who have lots of choices but can't find anyone they want to settle down with, this is exactly what's missing. Emotionally intelligent women want a partner who's their best friend and to be someone's best friend you usually have to be a good communicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:23 AM
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Only if you stay with the user. We really need to teach young people how to identify abuse and toxic people before they start dating and having relationships so they don't end up being treated badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:16 AM
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At the same time, I think people often focus on the wrong type of self improvement. I've dated and slept with guys who were not good looking at all but they made me feel good when I spent time in their company. And I know of lots of not particularly attractive people who have stunning partners (of both sexes). They are very skilled socially though and know how to make others feel good. I can't say I think dancing would be that high on anyone's list but I could be wrong! I don't come from a count…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:14 AM
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Also my experience as a woman. The world is a far kinder place when you're good looking. People are just nice to you for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:11 AM
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I've met very few men who made much of an effort during the dating stage at all. For the most part they just absorbed the interest I put great effort into showing in them and didn't return it then said they'd had a great time and wanted to see me again! I dated for over 10 years and most men were hopeless at it! They may have thought they were interesting, charismatic and confident but for the most part they were just talking about themselves and not asking me very much at all. Many asked little…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 05:35 PM
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This is ridiculous. A tiny proportion of women are slim and pretty enough to have half the men in a bar even want to talk to them and in such situations only a small number will ever try. The only time I had interest anywhere near what you're saying is normal was when I was an anorexic teenager. As soon as I started eating enough to have periods, most of the interest disappeared and I only got chatted up once or twice a year (I was still fairly slim). I was a pretty enough teenager but didn't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 05:27 PM
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He was warmer than most men I'd met. Kinder. Better relationship skills. More considerate. And he listened to me and made changes when I asked him to which was the thing I could never find other men willing to do (I have a neurological condition that makes communicating very stressful for me if the other person doesn't do it in a specific way and for the most part, when I've asked men to do this, they just look at me blankly and go on doing what they were doing, then react with surprise and frus…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 12:37 PM
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