CranialActivity Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Breakup led to redpill - but having second thoughts Okay, more practical. Are you looking to avoid relationships completely right now, or do you want advice about them in a more general sense, such as how to avoid the dreaded "clinginess"? Weird question, but when you say attached, what kinds of behaviors are we talking about? What do you say and do that says "attachment"?	/r/ExRedPill	02/05/18 03:55 AM
19	F18. M36 Redpill ex ruined my life. I feel worthless. I'm glad that you are out of that mindset. As a guy, it always distresses me to hear about how other men have abused their relationships in service of this flawed dynamic. This is the kind of experience that is going to really enrich your ability as a Social Worker, I'm just sorry it has to hurt so much right now. I'd give you a nice big platonic hug were I able to. PS. my SO has short hair and she is mad cute. The idea that hair length is necessary to be a beautiful female is a personal pet pee…	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/18 06:18 PM
3	Masculinity? I guess part of it is locking the gendering and the gendered roles to the genitals. That's a big part of Toxic maculinity to me, the very narrow physical and behavioral standards put together. Another element is the assumption of superiority. Those that do not meet the standards you set forth, or react in the manner proscribed by your machismo are not worth addressing, they are your social lessers. In defense of your confusion, both of these things are present in toxic masculinity and toxic femi…	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/17 02:09 PM
5	The Alternative? Or do you, after all, still hold onto some Red Pills? Well, naturally men will still see women who are attracted to men with resources or looks, even when not looking for that type of woman. But certainly not all women. I would not be with my girl right now if that is what she wanted. Seeking wealth, status, and looks are societal pressures, not biological ones. I am engaged to a woman that works full time, she wants to be the family provider, not be provided for. That is not to say there are no biological pressures, but those are generally limited…	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/17 03:34 PM
4	XRP, I have a dilemma. Holding Frame is not really a good way to go, but it's understandable that people may have been pushed away by your being too open. It can seem like a person is bringing a lot of baggage of they are too open too early. Early on people generally just want to enjoy their time with their partner. If you bring up deep stuff, that can be intimidating. I think it's more important to be friendly and supportive. If you can demonstrate that you are willing to hear their deep shit, they will definitely be…	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/17 02:42 PM
3	Stopped following RP, but realized I'm actually abusive It sounds like you do little to express these controlling desires (yet), but that you are bothered by the impetus you feel to do so. This is a discrepancy between what you KNOW you should do and what you FEEL you should do. This happens a lot, especially in a relationship, because we all have selfish desires that clash with our desire to give affection/space to grow/time/etc to our SOs. My SO got past that by talking with me about it. She was in a similar position to you (very controlling and pa…	/r/ExRedPill	06/05/17 11:04 PM
4	Can't seem to think women are equal Hey there bud, if you are still reading thru the many comments here, please hear me out. I am male, late 20's, been with the same girl for 8 years. We met at college. It was seriously pure luck, it started raining and I had an umbrella, she didn't. The only expectations we have for the relationship are communication and communication. We both dated other people before and after we met. The main thing I realized was that without putting forward a lot of effort to broaden my pool of potential mate…	/r/ExRedPill	06/05/17 03:50 AM
2	Lost a lot of confidence and self esteem through TheRedPill My advice is to find stuff you like to do and get good at doing it. Much of our self worth is in our capabilities. This is why RP wants you to lift and work out, so your worth can be defined by your fitness. The assumption is that women think fitness is the most attractive trait. Not true, but lacking that means you don't have much else to identify as self worth. You can definitely figure something out. It took me years, but it'll happen :)	/r/ExRedPill	16/04/17 05:00 PM
20	Are most men a little Red Pilled? Men aren't misogynistic by nature, but by nurture. Our culture for younger males encourages that kind of perspective. Young males have more to prove, so they are louder and more extreme. Also the idea that men wouldn't talk to women except for wanting sex is silly. I think that attitude stems from the Hormonal Cocktail we are on in our teens. Coupled with the soft segregation small children often have with regards to gender, we think of boys and girls as fundamentally different, so socializing b…	/r/ExRedPill	04/04/17 08:00 PM
15	Why arent you red pilled? It nearly torpedoed the entire thing. That's the result of it most of the time from my experience, mostly hearing about it from friends. It either kills the relationship, or if it does work out it's very dysfunctional and unsatisfying. The big issue is that it tends to poison the well for a lot of friendships, due to bad separations. You can sleep around and be Alpha, but even Alphas should be considerate. It shows self awareness, and the confidence that derives from knowing oneself. I think tha…	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/17 05:31 AM
30	Why arent you red pilled? Good on you for coming by the sub. I'm not RedPilled for two major reasons: I think enforcing a single archetype of relationship dynamic as the one true gospel of relating to a group of people is really silly, and I couldn't get emotionally aggressive enough to do the enforcing anyway. I am a man with a girlfriend of 8 years, we met in college. I do consider myself the dominant decision-maker, but I am not the breadwinner, she is. We tried it with me working, it was horrible. She likes to work h…	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/17 03:34 AM
4	Confession - Help me get to the bottom of this A lot of the stuff you mention them talking about is stuff girls are encouraged to be interested in as teenagers. When they transition to college, a lot of these behaviors are maintained, at least for a while. Most of my female (and male) friends in college were unrecognizable by year 3, as they reprioritize or get rid of society's Default Interests. Example, turns out the meathead Quarterback I met orientation day was waaaaaay into no budget indie movies and mumblecore. Introverts don't put muc…	/r/ExRedPill	18/03/17 12:40 AM