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| 2167 | An interesting read! Haven’t read the whole book but it certainly sounds intriguing, and will be next on my audible wish list! | CULTURAL MISOGYNY | Crap___bag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 05:41 PM |
| 1018 | Saw this posted on Facebook. Roasting the lvm and the pickmeishas all in one! | MALE DEPRAVITY | Crap___bag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 01:59 PM |
| 15 | If he wanted to… | FDS SUCCESS! | Crap___bag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:17 PM |
| 1 | If he wanted to… he would! | GREEN FLAG 🟢 | Crap___bag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Oh dear! | RED FLAG 🚨 | Crap___bag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 09:09 PM |
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| 2 | If he wanted to…This is why he does it for me- I moved in with my mom and stepdad last year and they did the same, so he is continuing the tradition for me. It’s been 7 months so I feel confident it’s not love bombing, he’s just a very good egg :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | If he wanted to…I just commented this on the other reply, too. Can totally see why it would be a red flag, but it was minor things like ‘her favourite drink is Dr Pepper Zero’ and then he would buy me some lol. Sorry that this happened to you! Men can be shit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:47 PM |
| 2 | If he wanted to…I can totally see why this would come across as strange in an actual relationship though, as it would suggest he has more than one person to remember things about to me! I appreciate you flagging :) gotta look out for one another! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:45 PM |
| 5 | If he wanted to…Not particularly but I think he just wanted to make a good impression and commit things to memory :) I found it very endearing. He doesn’t do it now, he just did for our early dates :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:39 PM |
| 3 | If he wanted to…Lol which bit? He’s not weird, he is very kind and caring and is putting in max effort :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Do you guys think that sex can be good even if you don’t orgasm?I completely agree with this. A lifetime of no orgasms is a solid no-go, but I will sometimes not be able to due to other factors. Missing one every so often isn’t the end of the world, but missing every single one is just depressing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 08:22 AM |
| 23 | Pickmes (And one logical person) found in the wild. (Comments under a proposal-my gf wants to marry but I don't boohoo meme)These jokes always hit a nerve with me now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Imagine trying to find a gynecologist in network and these are the only options 😭😭🥺My friend’s husband is a OBGYN and a very hvm. He chose it for this exact reason- On a weekly basis he gets completely different challenges, from advice clinics to surgery to delivering babies. He is kind and caring and is doing incredibly well in his career- I’m certainly not saying that this is the case for all of them, but there are clearly some who go into it for genuine reasons :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:51 PM |
| 28 | That’s her 2nd one??She needs FDS ASAPEven at the height of my pick-me days, I would NEVER have accepted someone who didn’t love my (currently non-existent) children. Why would anyone accept bringing their child up in an environment full of awkwardness? If they have another child (which they shouldn’t because of this entire list of reasons), how will kid number one feel when kid number two gets treated differently? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:28 PM |
| 17 | How come they can never tie their ties on TV?My ex didn’t have to and I had to tie his tie for many years of our relationship, but had to do it on myself and then put it over his head. Still took me loads of attempts as my school tie was always ‘fashionable’ (eg very short and fat lol) rather than a formal tie! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 07:19 PM |
| 15 | I always faked my orgasmsExact same thing. Genuinely thought I was a bit broken before that (lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 04:04 PM |
| 2 | It's not a ring, but I just got my aligners in the mail for my new smileAmazing! I am also treating myself to aligners in 2021, treat yo’self! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 02:48 PM |
| 13 | Protect yourself from "Time Vampires".Oh I certainly didn’t think you were negating my experiences at all, just sharing my perspective of a ‘time vampire’, although I don’t believe that was his intention the whole time. I certainly didn’t have FDS, but I wish I had as I feel so many of the problems that occurred in our relationship would not have been an issue if I had found it sooner. Of course, when I’d been gone for a while he offered the marriage and children and security id always craved but it was just too late. We live and le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 07:57 PM |
| 82 | Protect yourself from "Time Vampires".I spent 9 years waiting for marriage. 9. Fucking. Years. Sometimes I would bring it up and it would be a ‘someday’. Sometimes it would be a ‘we are happy as we are’. On occasion, when at a family or friend’s wedding it would be an ‘I want this for us’ or ‘ours wouldn’t have blah blah blah ’. On the day to day I was happy enough, he was my best friend and we had a grand old time (we had been together since late teens so a part of me realised that waiting until we were a bit older was more sensibl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Boundaries are not just about peopleI also only got a nurse holding my hand. Worst pain I’ve felt in my entire life, lasted for 24 hours and no trouble since. We do need better pain management for this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 07:45 PM |
| 17 | Together with the loserI’ve been struggling with this. Spent 9 years with my ex and can’t shake my old pick-me mentality that ‘if I keep working’ it will work out. I am very driven and I hate the thought of having ‘failed’, so I have spent a lot of counselling learning how to stop blaming myself and move forwards! I hope your friends realise the same x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 06:29 PM |
| 4 | What was the last straw?All of these stories have genuinely shocked me! My last straw in my most recent relationship was my ex telling me, after 9 years, that he still ‘didn’t know’ if he wanted to marry me. We got together super young (18) and I had been really patient for a long time because I knew he wasn’t totally ready. We had a great life together for like 90% of the time, but I just knew I needed more than what was on offer. A real shame as nothing bad happened, just an unfortunate growth in different directions… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:06 PM |
| 7 | What was the last straw?This broke my heart. I’m so sorry that this happened to you! Xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:03 PM |
| 35 | Yet another reason to avoid gamer guys.I’m a Brit and it’s definitely used more as ‘dickhead’ than as misogyny, but it is incredibly offensive and most people avoid it (unless you’re a London gangster in a film, obvs) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Just typical OLD LVM - when you have a pleasant conversation and then they show you their true colours 🤡 Thanks to this sub I know now how to handle these clowns instead entertaining them as I would in my old pickmeisha daysI hate hummus- it always looks good, and is well presented, but always disappoints me. I’ve learnt to stop ‘trying again’ and officially moved on from hummus- I just need to learn this skill in other parts of my life now :’) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 10:26 AM |
| 2 | Got the proposal just shy of our 1 year anniversary! Cheers to never settling 🥂This is a beautiful ring, and your nails are also beautiful, but I’m so distracted by how much I love the shade of your jumper haha! Congrats!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:54 PM |
| 7 | My now fiancé took me to the nail salon just a few days before proposing to make sure my nails were done for the photos. It only took him nine months to propose! He always knew I was the one for him. Your HVM is out there ladies!Congratulations! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:58 PM |
| 36 | Black woman’s white boyfriend wants to do “race play” where she plays the slave and he the master, wants to know ifs she’s wrong for being uncomfortable with it, comments try to gaslight her that this is totally normally because mUh kInKNever heard this quote before and totally stealing it for my day to day life, thanks! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 09:43 AM |
| 78 | Some of these men are absolutely repulsive.I was thinking this! Surely nobody would think this would be a good advertisement?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:03 PM |
| 6 | Daily reminder for you queens. Block & delete. 💅🏼Needed this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:54 PM |
| 32 | As he neglects her making her wait for his “hobby” she assumes the position of an object, for his convenience only, instead of a human with their own wants and needs. Gaslights herself that this is so great, rest of the subreddit full of video game/porn addicts chime in with approvalBeen there, done that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 07:46 PM |
| 16 | Saw this posted on Facebook. Roasting the lvm and the pickmeishas all in one!Go on... how do you know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 04:32 PM |
| 46 | Saw this posted on Facebook. Roasting the lvm and the pickmeishas all in one!It breaks my heart how common it is for this to be a well-shared ‘meme’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 02:57 PM |
| 12 | Teachers: Pornification and pedophiliaI completely agree. As a teacher, reading this made me feel physically sick. It is NOT appropriate at all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 06:36 PM |
| 2 | My dad = OG HVMThis put such a smile on my face. I want my future husband to be this-dad potential!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:06 PM |
| 2 | An interesting read! Haven’t read the whole book but it certainly sounds intriguing, and will be next on my audible wish list!Listened on my way to work this morning, thoroughly recommend on Audible! Super interesting but also very engaging to listen to :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:11 AM |
| 13 | An interesting read! Haven’t read the whole book but it certainly sounds intriguing, and will be next on my audible wish list!I’m sorry that this happened to you, and that you have first hand experience of the damaging language used. We must be the change we want to see in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 05:57 AM |
| 23 | An interesting read! Haven’t read the whole book but it certainly sounds intriguing, and will be next on my audible wish list!It is the name :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 07:07 PM |
| 30 | An interesting read! Haven’t read the whole book but it certainly sounds intriguing, and will be next on my audible wish list!I’ve already got it planned as my ‘drive to work’ listen tomorrow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Couples on YouTube/ in the media who are actually good couples?Tom and Giovanna Fletcher are goals! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 10:15 PM |
| 3 | What are some the embarassing things you’ve done as a pickmeisha that you promise you won’t ever do it again, now that FDS has taught you better?I could probably add loads, but the two that stand out for me are- -when we first started ‘dating’ I was only 18, and I was so desperate to see him that when he called me in the middle of the night I went running to him. This snowballed into me picking him (and his friends) up from nights out when they were too tight to pay for taxis. I let it happen for about 8 years before I levelled up and realised I was being ridiculous! -with my first ever boyfriend, he would complain if I ate with my famil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 10:00 AM |
| 2 | This group has made me realize how HV my husband is.This got me all emotional. It sounds like a beautiful and rewarding relationship! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:35 AM |
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