TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Crash-Panda Archive

View 2 posts and 133 comments by Crash-Panda on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
–

This is true. The woman in the post is very toxic, what she did is wrong. But most women I've dated would never do something like this. A lot of the toxicity I see online from women, I don't see from women irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:17 PM
23

Humans are complicated. Women and men are all humans and it's hard to learn about humans with scientific studies. That's what the entire field of psychology tries to do. Studies will never encompass the specifics of the women around you. For example, I am in a minority religious community. A majority of the women I'm around, are shown as a minority in the studies because we are only a small part of the US population. For me, anecdotes are more reliable indicators of relationships than studies of…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:02 AM
3

This is the key right here. For a healthy relationship, a man should be capable of violence but also have control over it. With the capability of violence but no control of it, the man turns abusive and a healthy relationship cannot be maintained. With no capability of violence, the man cannot defend the woman. But with both the capability and control, the woman will feel protected by the man because the violence will only be directed outwards when needed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:53 PM
3

OP definitely has not experienced genuine attraction before. I don't blame him, I would be in the same position if I had not experienced genuine attraction in the past. 99% of dating experiences are like pulling teeth. It's the 1% that works out which goes smoothly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 10:27 PM
8

All my successful dating experiences had this sense of "smoothness" to them. I haven't had to think hard about the perfect text messages or dating plan. Things worked because we were both invested in making it work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 06:46 PM
1

Wondering if women actually desire men romantically and sexually does a number on a man's self esteem. Luckily the women I meet irl are nothing like the ones on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:37 AM
6

I saw a Reddit comment on this sub talking positively about men and how it's better than dating women, because men are more grounded and simple while women are more neurotic. I felt quite uplifted by it, and it hit me that years of reading comments of women saying they can't stand modern men, done with men, men are always doing something in relationships, had really harmed my self esteem and made me feel very undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:57 AM
1

It's nice to see a woman say something positive about men on Reddit for once. I appreciate it. It made me realize all the hatred of men in Reddit had affected my self esteem even though I was laughing at it and hate scrolling. I should get off this app...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 03:05 PM
–

I wish more women were serious about dating for a long term relationship. I'm lucky that I am in a religious community where there are plenty of family oriented girls, but I feel for men who want the stability of a good family and not the rush of casual dating and can't find it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 11:09 PM
4

I'll pick the one that's the most wife material. I want to be loved, I want a family and a wife to raise them, not hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 03:06 AM
4

I wouldn't hook up with any. I'd date until I find a girl I'm willing to spend my life with and is focused on marriage like I am. Then I'll get into a relationship and eventually marry her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 02:56 AM
8

The women I met IRL are like this and it's a huge relief. Seeing so many man hating comments on Reddit made me wonder if I'm doing something wrong whenever I interact with women. Now I don't give a shit because being paranoid about accidentally harassing somebody whenever you talk to them is a crappy way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:47 PM
1

What BS is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 06:02 PM
1

Plenty of Muslims already here in America willing to live this lifestyle. Don't tell me to live your degenerate lifestyle of alcohol, premarital sex, and poker.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:03 PM
1

But they are lower for arranged marriages. India is a good example. This is why I only date for marriage within my Muslim community.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:37 PM
2

Men have a wall too, as men age they get wrinkly and fatter unless they really take good care of themselves. And let's be honest if you are on Purple Pill Debate you most likely don't. The TradCon approach is far superior. Find one woman to meet, settle down and have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 12:17 PM
1

And the countries with the highest birth rates have none of these amenities.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:44 PM
5

Red Pill men won't want marriage they want an endless stream of casual sex. What you're thinking of is Traditional Conservative men. They are 2 separate groups that are often conflated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:43 PM
2

I've struggled with this a lot. I got big into self improvement. I followed the red pill telling me to get on the sigma male grindset and the blue pill telling me to improve my personality. I exercised, journalled, meditated, took cold showers, improved my fashion style, started graduate school in the evenings. I even spend time socializing, going on occasional trips, and watching TV. I have my own job, apartment, and car. I still struggle with dating. My most recent rejection was a girl who sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 03:42 PM
3

The men with a "good face" typically have low body fat percentages, while not looking overly skinny or malnourished. In other words, the lean muscular physique. This takes effort in the gym and good dieting to achieve. Gym bros are not all meat monster bodybuilders.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:00 PM
2

Thanks I feel better for not heading any female friends. A I have a lot of friends but they are all male. It's not something I did out of disdain for women, I just don't know where to meet women to befriend. My workplace department is all men, my graduate school course is all men, my tabletop gaming group is all men. These are not exaggerations I do not interact with women I have no clue where the single 20s women went after college.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 12:48 PM
1

It's simple, no watching porn from either person in the relationship. I don't watch it now either even though I'm single right now. It's addictive and harmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 04:05 PM
2

No. If I expect my spouse to not watch porn, I shouldn't either. I'm single but I avoid it anyway because it's degenerate and sets up harmful expectations for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:08 AM
6

The men in this thread are stepping over themselves to act "progressive" by being too timid to have boundaries. I would not feel comfortable with my SO watching porn. I'm willing to stand within the same boundary and avoid porn in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 02:08 PM
1

The situation with your husband is in the same vein as the RP mantra. In fact his behavior is something encouraged by the red pill. Men should have boundaries and not bend to every whim of a woman. Your husband has a healthy form of masculinity which is great. Unfortunately some red pill men take the boundaries too far and become uncompromising assholes, which is why I identify with the purple pill more than the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:11 PM
3

There is a RedPill mantra for this reaction. "If you're willing to stand up to her, you're willing to stand up for her". Women see you stood up to your ex and feel a sense of protection from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:37 PM
2

Most men can't afford to just be themselves and hope they come across someone like minded If you can't afford to be yourself around a particular girl, she's not worth being with. Your attitude is a self defeating one. Any more explanation than this and I'll be repeating my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:35 PM
6

What you're saying only works if yourself is what women want This is a base requirement for dating me. If my genuine self isn't something a particular woman wants, why would I want to be with her? I don't waste time chasing after women who aren't interested in being chased by me. It also gives me more time to find someone who does want to be with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:24 PM
17

The issue is that thinking you can't afford to "be yourself" and walk away from a woman who acts vapid, lowers your value. One of the biggest things that can quickly raise your attractiveness is willingness to walk away from a woman when she does stupid stuff. Even if you don't have other options, you should act like you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:10 PM
–

Who cares? You just need to attract one woman. If she's the right one you're set for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 08:03 AM
1

Plenty of traditional women exist. However they are only accessible through religious circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:58 AM
11

Dating in religious groups is like living in a different dating universe. Nothing on Reddit is remotely relevant. I'm talking, type of dating where you ask for a girl's dad's number, no sex before marriage, or even a boyfriend/girlfriend phase. It's a universe Redditors balk at and will never understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:56 AM
4

The demographic of Reddit women is super skewed towards anti-children, it made me worry I'll never find a woman who wants to raise a family. But dating within my religion, the women are very different from the ones on Reddit and TwoX. They actually want to have a family, some are willing to stay at home and raise the kids, they save themselves for marriage, don't drink or gamble, and embrace their role in the masculine feminine dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:17 AM
–

I should've explained the nofap part better. It's a movement to abstain from porn and masturbation. There are a variety of reasons someone might want to do this, dealing with porn addiction is the most common one. My reference to "feminists opposing nofap" is that Reddit threads, even on this subreddit, tend to have a lot of vitriol towards the idea of a guy deliberately not consuming porn. Most likely, the guys spewing vitriol towards someone abstaining from porn consumption, would also turn ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:07 AM
5

So would you be ok with a man on nofap? I do not consume porn for religious reasons, and I wouldn't want women in my lives doing porn, after all what man wants his daughter to grow up into a pornstar? But I also do not consume porn because I recognize that we live in a market economy, so I can't be upset when I create demand for a product and that demand gets fulfilled. I also want a woman who has not slept around, so I also do not sleep around myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:58 AM
–

This contradiction is real and I agree that men who want to consume porn but get upset when women do porn, are hypocritical. What confuses me though, is why feminists oppose the nofap movement. The men in the nofap movement would get upset if women in their lives did porn, but they put their money where their mouth is, and don't consume porn. I thought women didn't want porn addicted men. Nofap gets a bad rap but it's mostly about men (and women) dealing with porn addiction, not some right wing …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:55 AM
2

I agree on this. For a depressive episode to be an episode, a person's regular mental health should be healthy. Dating a fixer-upper is not the same as sticking by someone's side when things get rough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 01:14 AM
1

The right kind of man will stay by your side and help you get better. A healthy couple sticks with each other through the easy and hard times. The right kind of woman would do the same for her man. My dream woman is one who would stay with me even if I were to lose my job, get sick and grow weak, and help me get back up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:17 PM
–

Everything in the post is "man bad woman good". It's as if OP looked at the men on Reddit and projected it onto all men. In real life, plenty of mature and immature men and women exist. I recently was dating a girl who ended things because I was "too busy" with my own work, school, hobbies, friend group, and I wouldn't have any time for her. I consider this immature because she singled out that I "study too much", which put me in a position that a relationship with her meant sacrificing my educa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:15 PM
1

Even that is too much for me. I take being a TradCon seriously. Drinking is a major sin in my religion. I expect anybody I date to share my values. This requirement has not hindered my dating options at all, because I do so mainly within my religious community.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:39 PM
1

Our goals are different. My ultimate goal is a marriage that lasts the rest of my life. I don't care about getting laid and actively avoid premarital sex. I consider myself on the TradCon side of the red pill, not the degenerate side. The Red Pill is good for getting into a relationship, but worthless for maintaining one. Some blue pill advice is useful for maintaining a relationship. For example, women having to work and still be the sole homemaker is a real issue. If a man and women are sharin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 06:18 PM
1

You're right about the old guard not being as prominent, but they are still around. I can't stand the Whatever podcast, Fresh and Fit, MGTOW, so on. I really liked Jordan Peterson and Jocko. Now I'm seeing myself as more TradCon than red Pill. I cringe when I see red pill folks interview women in front of a club then use it to show how bad women are. Of course those women are trashy they are at the club. I consider drinking to be a total deal breaker even if it's a beer a month. I'll never deal …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 06:02 PM
0

The issue with "not discouraging self improvement" is that it gives the space for the Red Pill to encourage it. The red pill has a monopoly on self improvement. They use stupid terms like looksmaxxing but if you really look into it, it's all positive things like dressing better, exercising and eating healthy, going out and having a healthy social life, working hard at work and school. I fell into the red pill rabbit hole myself through self improvement content. I am on the other end of it now, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:56 PM
4

You're still doing it. Why do you assume they are making friendships with misogynistic men? My whole point is that men can be lonely and devoid of hatred for women. I'll use myself as an example. I'm a lonely man. I don't get dates because I do not interact with women. The department at my work is all men, I'm in graduate school part time taking a class that is all men. I have a close group of male friends, no women. I could be the least misogynistic guy on the planet and it won't help my dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 03:28 PM
0

The assumption here is that if a guy is lonely, it's because he has an "incorrect" gender ideology and expects women to serve them. Then people turn around and say men can't handle being single, while actively being shamed for it. A lot of lonely guys aren't bad people. I know adult men who have never gone on a date in their lives. They do not hate women, they have healthy social lives, go to the gym occasionally. However, they've never asked out a girl before. One of them asked a girl out and g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 02:31 PM
6

He's agreeing with you. Reddit-brain can't comprehend someone making a comment that doesn't disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 01:48 PM
1

Same, plus any drinking and owning a dog is a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:52 PM
11

I got a lot more dating success after accepting that no matter how hard I read social cues, pursuing women romantically runs the risk of creeping out a woman. Now, if I'm interested I pursue, but if rejected I back off and respect the rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 05:09 PM
7

At least recognize that the men who obsess over social cues do so because they don't want to creep a woman out. Creepy guys keep pushing without interest from the girl because they don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:58 PM
-1

This guy sounds mildly red pilled and on the sigma male grindset. Abstaining from porn, healthy diet, growing as a person and maintaining good mental health. Being kind without being a pushover. This is why men say women don't know what they want. They want a man with the qualities of a self improvement pilled sigma but not one who identifies as one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:06 PM
4

He would sit at the dinner table with his wife and kid, then put headphones on and watch porn while he ate. Through his phone, so they couldn't see. But his wife was aware and they argued about it a lot. Guys like this would genuinely benefit from nofap. The community gets a bad rap but the reality for those on the ground is people helping each other get past addiction like you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 04:12 PM
–

If a woman has experienced trauma from abuse in the past, I'd understand. I wouldn't be as hurt if my wife had a go bag after a history of abuse. However I would work to help her get past the trauma until she feels safe enough to not need a go bag in case I turn abusive and she has to run off in a moment's notice. The go bag indicates there's a problem that needs to be solved by the couple together.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:26 PM
–

The entire thread called him abusive simply for being hurt over the go-bag. No matter what, the woman wins. Either the husband is not upset and the wife gets her go-bag, or the husband is upset therefore the wife needs her gobag
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:37 PM
–

This assumes the absolute worst about the husband and conflates men in general to an individual man. A wife with a go-bag is telling her husband "There's a 30% chance you'll abuse me" not "30% of women get abused". These are very different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:16 PM
–

Most men would be hurt irl if their wife had a go bag in case they turned abusive. Same with women if their husband had a go bag. It's a very online take to say it's normal. A man wants to invoke a sense of safety in his loved ones not a sense of fear. The comments in the AITAH thread kept saying "It's not about you it's about men in general" and quotes abuse stats. They conflate societal trends for men and individual men. A woman with a go-bag quoting "40% of men abuse their wife" is really say…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:58 PM
3

Incel logic? I prefer to call it "TradCon logic". Sex is more than pleasure, it's emotional bonding. By giving away sex without emotions behind it, she lost the ability to make love. This applies to men too. I consider a lot of red pill and PUA behavior like sleeping around and "spinning plates" to be problematic. Red Pill guys tend to sleep around but complain about women who sleep around which is hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:08 PM
5

This girl slept around in her youth and is now traumatized, lost the ability to pair bond. OP was getting treated differently than all the other guys she slept with. Men have no problem providing commitment before having sex, as long as she's consistent with that. It's a problem when she wants commitment before sex with one guy but gives it freely to another. With the girl I'm dating now, I'm waiting until marriage to have sex and even kiss. I have no problem with this because she's been consist…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:40 PM
42

This is the dark reality of being a betabuxx. Sorry you had to go through all this. Blue pill white knight Redditors will call you insecure but you have no obligation to commit to a girl who has been traumatized by her past experiences. People naturally want to date others in a similar life stage and similar life experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:25 PM
0

The blue pill friend got a dose of red pill reality. Islam clearly states that men and women cannot be friends because they will try to sleep together.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 12:40 PM
5

Yet social conservatism is on the rise for all demographics except old folks who are already socially conservative. Since 2021, there have been double-digit increases in conservative social ideology among middle-aged adults -- those between the ages of 30 and 64. At the same time, older Americans’ ideology on social issues has been stable, while there has been a modest increase in conservative social ideology among young adults. People are opening their eyes to the failure of feminism. The new c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 11:18 PM
6

The only hope feminists have is recruitment. However the recruitment numbers are dwindling and the TradCons continue to breed. My link proves that the genie is being sucked back in.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 10:08 PM
4

Human capital is a resource and feminists are not making them in enough quantities. However, religious conservatives will continue to breed. There won't be a collapse of society, there will be a collapse of feminism as the TradCons are the only ones who continued having children. I agree on the point of recalibration. We are seeing this recalibration already. https://news.gallup.com/poll/506765/social-conservatism-highest-decade.aspx I think Islam in particular will become the dominant world val…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 09:02 PM
–

I got online community but church would've been a better fit. I redid the test with less emphasis and got that as a result. I met a girl through family/religious community. We are doing it the halal way, no intimacy before marriage. We've begun planning the engagement and wedding after meeting in person a couple times, we're in separate cities and can't see each other without our families present. In the past couple months we have texted and gotten on calls regularly to get to know each other. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:31 PM
1

This is realistically what will happen. No disastrous societal collapse. Instead it'll be a feminism that collapses, women were too busy girl bossing to have kids. Traditional values will thrive because they will keep breeding. Islamic values in particular will explode, which I consider this a positive. We may even see an end to modern dating and see a return to arranged marriages. The West looks down on them but they are the solution to a lot of modern dating woes imo. You skip the difficult pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 06:13 PM
5

Because it's violent. If you can't control your urge to punch, at least get a punching bag or a boxing club membership.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:48 PM
9

The issue is, when you read post after post of women venting about men it starts to paint how they see men. I had the same happen from men venting about shitty women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:23 PM
5

The best way to get out of the red pill isn't becoming blue pilled, it's gaining the ability to differentiate the good and bad parts. I consider looksmaxxing to be a big positive. Go to the gym, dress better, work on your social skills. But being angry at women isn't productive. Podcasts like the Whatever podcast are completely unproductive. Blue pill makes men weak pushovers. The red pill makes them stubborn assholes. A healthy middle ground is being assertive and a leader while still taking in…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:34 PM
1

Because if they change their mind and want to start drinking I will not let them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 01:44 PM
1

Anybody I date, I will not allow to drink. That's my boundary. It's never been a problem because I only date people who don't drink. The one date I went on with someone who drinks, I asked her if she was willing to stop on the first date. She said no. No more dates after that. It's not controlling to have different values than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:43 PM
2

Gym and good diet help immensely in life overall. Being more attractive is just one aspect of improvement. Let's say two men have identical dating lives and meet a great woman, have a couple kids. One man is obese and the other healthy, eating well and exercising regularly. The healthy man will live longer and is a lot more likely to see his grandkids. In person socialization is still important but you can still do that while exercising. Exercise builds discipline so a man can attract women who …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 07:15 AM
16

If artificial wombs become a thing, the majority of it's use won't be single men who want a child. It will be couples who want kids but the woman is infertile. It's no different than vasectomies - based on Reddit you'd think it's for men who get snipped so they can't have any kids, but the most common use case is men who already have children and don't want more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:54 PM
4

This is true but commonly misunderstood. Don't be a total yes-man to your wife, and have boundaries. Don't be a total pushover. Letting your girl sleep with other men like Destiny did, makes you a push over, not "progressive". But going too far in the other direction and you're abusive and controlling. A good rule of thumb is, you can restrict your wife from doing things if you don't do themselves. For example, do not drink alcohol and would be upset if my spouse was drinking. However it wouldn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 04:39 AM
3

Luckily South Asian culture has arranged marriage so less need for dating skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:58 AM
8

Being a deadbeat is still a loss though. You either don't attract women or you attract women with self esteem issues. It's better for a man to increase his attractiveness and attract women of higher quality and quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:56 AM
9

She must be blind to all the AITA posts where the woman always is NTA and the man is always YTA
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 02:53 AM
1

What is an example of a man lacking emotional literacy in your relationship? I see it talked about so much but I've never understood it. Is it something like both of you coming home tired from work, he vents and you encourage him, but when you vent he doesn't give the same encouragement back?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:12 AM
2

This is the way to go. Talk with your partner and establish financial goals together. So many financial issues can be avoided by marrying people with similar financial goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:03 PM
1

What about powerlifters? They have big bellies and lots of fat but still take lots of protein and are strong. Their bodies are very different than bodybuilders.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 03:39 PM
1

You assume they do it for women. Some do, yes. Others might be doing it because their family died in a fire and they were too physically weak to help carry them out. I go to the gym to look good. I'm already in a relationship so attracting women isn't a concern. I enjoy looking bigger and more dominant for my fellow men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:50 PM
–

Ah yes the sound of men who has to treat women like a human and not an object you buy at Walmart
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:39 PM
0

Men who advocate for sex work are skeevy. They clearly want to partake in it. Feminists may think "sex work empowers women" but it just turns them into sex objects for skeevy men to purchase. Notice how many sex workers complain about being treated like shit by their clients. The men who treat women right are in happy stable relationships and don't go anywhere near sex workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 04:25 PM
3

Feminists will find a way to blame men even in lesbian relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 10:50 PM
7

This is why the Red Pill pushes looksmaxxing. Feminists underplay how much physical attractiveness matters. They claim they care more about personality so their sexuality seems more "enlightened". Ironically it ends up hurting them because the biggest red pilling moment a lot of men have is realizing women care about physical attractiveness. It's such a basic thing but I genuinely believed nonsense like "women don't care about muscles" and "I just need to have a good personality". Personality do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 03:47 PM
10

Money also helps with better skincare, healthcare, getting a job that doesn't leave you out in the sun, better living spaces, ability to afford a gym membership or workout equipment, and so on. You're looking at money in a direct manner but it has an indirect effect on SMV too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:03 PM
2

This is because the blue pill and red pill have different purposes and you're mixing them up. Learning to cook and clean doesn't help in getting a relationship, it helps with maintaining one. To get a relationship you need to follow the red pill advice of looking good, and not falling for the "personality" and "chores" BS. But once you're in a stable relationship, helping with chores will help keep it stable. Blue pill advice will help in this stage and being too red pilled can harm the relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:32 PM
2

Any drugs, alcohol, or gambling, and I'm out.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:52 PM
1

TwoX women will go on and on about "choreplay" and deny reality. If the man truly lives in filth that's a problem but most men I know maintain their living spaces regularly. The TwoX women may be overly neurotic and add unnecessary chores. I used to have this problem myself where I was constantly doing chores while living alone because my standards were too high. I got overwhelmed and separated out daily chores like dishes and weekly like cleaning the bathroom and changing bedsheets. https://www…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 01:48 PM
5

There's nothing malicious about masculinity. When I was blue pilled I tried to be more feminine and emotional when dating so I wouldn't be a "toxic male", turns out that doesn't work very well. Disregarding women's comfort sounds bad on the surface but in practice it meant accepting that no matter what I do, I risk creeping out a woman. What's ok to one girl may be creepy to another. The result was I made more moves on women because I wasn't chained down by fear of being a creep. It worked and I…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:05 PM
2

This is what happened to me. I found the red pill helped me become more confident and assertive in dating. The hating women part of the red pill was a drain but once I got past that and ended up in the purple pill range, I was way better off compared to when I was trying to be "emotionally intelligent" and keep up with my chores because I heard that's what women are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:00 PM
5

The implication here is that men struggle with dating because they are expecting women to fit traditional gender roles and lack emotional intelligence. Yet I know totally normal guys who fit your criteria and struggle. A lot of men who can handle their emotions or can do their fair share of the chores never get a chance to show that. I've gotten more dating success by leaning into more masculine behavior and disregarding women's comfort. Of course this is only in the dating stages. The girl I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:34 PM
14

I am going out with a girl tomorrow. It's been a couple weeks since we exchanged numbers. I told her I was busy with finals. The day my finals started, she messaged me a sweet good luck message. This isn't the first time I couldn't meet up with a girl for a couple weeks due to school keeping me busy. Yet she's the only one that sent me an encouraging message. It made me realize none of the other girls really cared for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:19 PM
3

There are also Redpillers promoting marriage and religion and traditional family values. Fresh and Fit are bottom tier red pill. They don't promote self improvement and traditional values like the better red pill creators do. Here's a good example: https://youtu.be/OCii-hV_SW0?si=Bcmyx1mIpl8bboZY
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:43 AM
3

I have a similar experience with dating women. Recently I have been talking to a girl from the same religious community as me, and I haven't been talking much due to my final exams. She sent me encouraging messages a couple times and showed that she actually cared about what was going on in my life. Previously when I was trying to use dating apps, I had a couple instances where I had to tell the girl I can't go on a date for a couple weeks due to midterms. Usually they would say they wouldn't mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:43 PM
18

Dating apps have ruined the "grows on you" effect. At one point, getting to know somebody and liking them romantically down the road was common. Now you have to make a flash decision and a lot of men never get the opportunity to grow on somebody.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 03:30 PM
–

This is where the Blue Pill disconnect comes in. In the real world, I've had totally normal interactions with women, turns out women have no problem if you speak to them in public and don't try to get anything out of them. ​ I've had my work materials on my table in a coffee shop and asked the girl next to me to watch over my stuff while I used the bathroom. Or waiting in a line that isn't moving, and asking the girl in front of me how long she's been waiting. At the gym I have had no problem as…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 01:21 AM
–

This shit is why I went from blue to purple pilled. I was so scared of creeping out women I avoided interacting with women in public as much as possible. Turns out that also makes it difficult to build a relationship and created mental barriers when I was trying to be romantic with a woman, I always came off as "friendly". ​ To get past the mental barrier I had to take the red pilled approach and absolve myself of any care for how a woman feels. I had to tell myself "I don't care if she is creep…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 12:19 AM
2

Redditors lean non-religious and progressive so conservative women are non-existent on this website. I don't think I've ever seen a religious conservative woman on this sub before. Even the red pilled men here tend to be non-religious, and usually a tradwife type of woman will expect her husband to be religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 01:26 AM
5

Reddit is such a weird place. I know TONS of religious single girls who fit OPs categories, except the debt-free part because of student loans. I'm talking to a girl who fits OPs categories right now in fact. Difference is, you don't find these girls a lot on social media and dating apps so the average Redditor doesn't get access to them or even knows they exist. For me, our parents talked to each other and gave us each other's phone numbers to talk, and now we've been texting and getting on cal…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 01:02 PM
0

I'm so glad I got off Reddit and got involved in my religious community again. After being super blue-pilled thinking "traditional women are slaves for their husbands" I was surprised at first to find women who wanted to fulfill the traditional female role. Have a simple job then find a husband, maintain the home and raise the kids once they enter the picture. The difference is, the men they wanted had to be traditional men too, and not just lazy men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 06:18 PM
3

usually “traditional roles” in practice means women earning a wage and also doing all the domestic labor at home. What made you think this is the case, women on r_TwoXChromosomes complaining about their lazy husbands? In my real life experience, traditional women are with a traditional men who both put effort to maintain things. The women stay at home and do all the cooking and cleaning and housework and the man provides the money. But the traditional men still do the "masculine" housework, like…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 05:58 PM
3

I've also been stewing on doing some sort of rejection therapy. I have also wanted to do it exclusively with women to work on my anxiety talking to them. A lot of that is sourced from anxiety of creeping them out. OP giving out complements to women without expecting anything in return is a great way to go about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:00 AM
1

Where do you find men who willingly live with roaches and ants? I am irl friends with a ton of single guys and none of us would live in that level of filth. I know a group of male friends living together and they have a chart with chores rotating between each person. By "roaches and ants", do you mean a hypothetical, or is this a specific experience you had, where you were in a relationship with a man who did no chores until roaches and ants invaded your home?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 04:36 AM
3

There was a thread on here a while back about "what was your red pilling moment" and all the answers were shit like "I realized a hot guy got laid a lot" and "a woman cheated." If women having normal human desires and flaws changes your whole worldview -- then what the fuck was wrong with your worldview in the first place? I'll give some perspective on this. In the blue pill there is a strong idea pushed that women care more about personality than looks, that women don't like gym bros, that wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 12:31 AM
0

And the red pill is basically pretty much the only thing on the internet that offered any detailed or step by step advice on how to get at least a little more success. This is what pulled me into the red pill. All the online content giving step by step explanations of how to make myself more successful in dating were part of that realm. And I don't mean "treat women like shit" kind of advice. I mean super basic, I watched a Hamza video about how he styled his hair. He said he tried watching vide…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 09:20 PM
6

This is the seed of truth within the advice. If applied properly, it can do a great job with getting desperate people to hold back. Issue is people take it too far and interpret it as "sit on your couch and a girlfriend will magically show up".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 01:28 AM
2

This is a very succinct comment. When I was blue pilled I didn't work on myself at all. No exercise, no focus on grooming or dressing nice. I used excuses like "women will like me for my personality", "women aren't as visual as men", and "women don't like roided up body builders". The Blue Pill pushed this idea that women aren't shallow, there's more to it than looks. I felt like working on myself to attract more women would be an admission that women are shallow, and that would be wrong. After …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 12:40 AM
46

This is what confuses me about "where have all the good been gone?" The article mentioned a woman whose boyfriend got her pregnant but was jobless and floating between jobs constantly. Other issues are absenteeism during fatherhood, alcoholism, committing crimes, cheating, and so on. I have none of these problems and I know many guys who don't, yet struggle with dating. Instead, mothers point to far more serious offenses, Dr. Edin and Dr. Kefalas, write. “It is the drug and alcohol abuse, the cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 06:01 PM
–

Makes you feel like you were misled to run in the opposite direction for a race. Sure, you can turn around and run back, but you are now really far behind and you are not where you should be. I feel this a lot with the Blue Pill. I read a ton of reddit comments about how women want a man to be more emotional, women not finding bodybuilders attractive (my excuse for not exercising), women don't want a controlling man. In the end I just ended up as a limp noodle man with no confidence. I had a gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:16 AM
3

Most of these apps are trash. EliteSingles, SilverSingles, OurTime, BlackPeopleMeet, Christian Mingle?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 01:14 AM
1

Women will go through 60,000 profiles and like 3000 of them. Men will go through 60,000 profiles and like 20000 etc. The Match isn’t a date. Men still filter out women, they just do it after the match occurs. Women do the filtering before the swiping.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 01:10 AM
2

Self improvement increases quality of life even if it doesn't result in a relationship. Going to the gym benefits your health. Getting a better outfit and haircut get you more Pretty Privilege (it exists for men too).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:45 PM
1

Of course it makes a difference in my life. Nearly all the things that make a person more attractive has benefits throughout life. I love coming home to a clean living space, and I've been happy with my gains at the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:08 PM
4

A lot of Red Pill self improvement encourages men to prioritize their mental health and social skills. However, they don't just say "go to therapy" which most people can't afford or get access to. Personally I have no clue where I'd start with finding therapy, navigating how health insurance would cover it, and so on. RP encourages men to seek out brotherhood, make new social connections, don't be a shut in. ​ BP fails to be specific with guys and just treats therapy like a magical wand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:46 AM
1

This is why I work on improving myself, so when I get into a relationship I won't be a hindrance on their life. For example, I see tons of complaints about men not keeping up with chores, so while living alone I make sure to stay on top of maintaining a clean living space. Doing all dishes every night, cleaning the bathroom and changing my bedsheets weekly. I'm not perfect but at least when living with an SO I can do my fair share easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:45 AM
2

I still need to work on myself more for the women who still want a relationship with a man, especially as some women check out so the women willing to date long term become scarcer. Both pills agree that men need to work on themselves more. Blue pill says men are wet asswipes and red pill says men have no inherent value and need to build it up. I need to be an optimal version of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:01 PM
1

Sorry if I came off that way. I recognize that women aren't a prize to be won after building my life. But I always see that women are happier single because the men they try to date, all suck. So I try to be better and not suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:50 AM
4

I just want to be in love. It's depressing seeing women say they have so much disdain for men that they prefer to be single. How much do I have to grind to be a worthy husband for a woman with an attitude like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:30 AM
1

There is no one "love". The love you get from a mother, a friend, a dog, and a spouse, are all different. A hand won't fulfill a lack of intimacy and touch. Men are not monkeys that only want to cum all the time, despite how average men on the internet act. In real life, men want to be loved too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:49 PM
2

I confide feelings with my friends, but it's just not the same emotional intimacy as a romantic relationship. I have an active male friend group and we talk about feelings and emotions and support each other in life yet I still do not feel like they fulfill the loneliness from lack of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 03:09 PM
19

You seem bitter. Shitting on people who choose to have children, is no different than shitting on people for not wanting children. Everyone can make their own choice. ​ There doesn't need to be an external benefit to having a kid anyway. The kid IS the benefit for the parent. Biologically, people want to have kids. If you have 100 people and 50 have an urge to create children and 50 don't, which group will be around in 200 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:12 AM
2

What if the man is pursuing the woman for a relationship and not just a hookup? That implies a man wants more than sex. In this situation, the man makes his intentions for a relationship clear. When the intentions are not mutual he respectfully moves on. This also flies in the face of the advice to build friendships before a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 06:52 AM
4

So many women in this thread claiming they feel hurt because they think the man just wanted sex. But a lot of the times, what a man wants is a relationship not just sex. I've seen feminists take a man's desire for a relationship and call it "wanting to fuck them". If a man pursues a woman romantically and not just for a hookup, he wants more than sex. Wanting to be in a relationship with a woman is a high value to give her. Feminists always say to make your intentions clear and don't be a "nice …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 06:50 AM
-2

It's better to die of drowning than dehydration.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 12:20 PM
6

It's literally impossible for the 95% of men to just magically be in the top 5%. Are you seriously suggesting that more men enter the top 5%? That's not how statistics work at all. If all men improve themselves, the top 5% will btill dominate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 11:53 AM
1

Media consumption is not a hobby. That's just cope for people who have no hobbies because they'd rather watch TikTok's.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:00 PM
4

Yet she chose to breed with him anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 11:10 PM
3

Yet countless women end up with shitty boyfriends and go on feminist subreddits and complain about how shitty men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:52 AM
2

Your parents' and grandparents' tax dollars went towards creating public parks, libraries, and recreational facilities to create third spaces to foster socialization and community. Here is another comment in this very thread: Women don't want to get picked up in public. Simple as. Not the gym, store, coffee shops, no nothing. Bars, Clubs, and Music Festivals are too loud and it's a money pit for men. These "third spaces" have had their purpose dismantled by feminism. I might offend a woman becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:33 PM
3

Women don't want to get picked up in public. Simple as. Not the gym, store, coffee shops, no nothing. Bars, Clubs, and Music Festivals are too loud and it's a money pit for men. This attitude is part of the problem. This has turned into "Don't talk to women anywhere, ever". Then women wonder why men never approach them. You also don't speak for all women, they are not a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:14 PM
–

Because OP isn't a Top 5% male. Women are capable of loving Adonis but not Jeffrey.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 04:05 PM
1

There will always be exceptions to general rules. Some women like fat men, some women are hobosexuals. However it is undeniable that most women are attracted to specific qualities. Just because you aren't as attracted to those qualities doesn't mean all women are like that. It is up to us men to step back from the dating game and improve ourselves then return once ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:13 PM
6

Chad are exciting, that's why they are Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 03:33 PM
15

Only if you were a white non-LGBTQ male. You think gay people were getting married in the 70s or black people and women affording to buy houses?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:06 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter