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Happiness is a garden walled with glass: there's no way in or out. In Paradise there are no stories, because there are no journeys. It's loss and regret and misery and yearning that drive the story forward, along its twisted road.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:15 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:13 AM
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Fact
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:10 AM
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Sorry
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:09 AM
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Agree
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:08 AM
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Absolutely
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:07 AM
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Agree
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:05 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:04 AM
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To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to …
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 08:54 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 08:52 AM
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Do stuff. be clenched, curious. Not waiting for inspiration's shove or society's kiss on your forehead. Pay attention. It's all about paying attention. attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. stay eager. Some feelings sink so deep into the heart that only loneliness can help you find them again. Some truths are so painful that only shame can help you live with them. Some things are so sad that only your soul can do the crying for them.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 08:51 AM
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Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend - or a meaningful day.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 08:48 AM
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Start today creating a vision for yourself, your life, and your career. Bounce back from adversity and create what you want, rebuild and rebrand. Tell yourself it's possible along the way, have patience, and maintain peace with yourself during the process.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 08:45 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 08:43 AM
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Get going. Move forward. Aim High. Plan a takeoff. Don't just sit on the runway and hope someone will come along and push the airplane. It simply won't happen. Change your attitude and gain some altitude. Believe me, you'll love it up here.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 08:42 AM
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Shit
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:25 AM
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Reason is the life of the law; nay, the common law itself is nothing else but reason - the law which is perfection of reason.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:23 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:22 AM
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A really good detective never gets married
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:19 AM
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As the years go by those relationships are tested, and only then do you realize their true nature. Only after they've been tested through weddings, moves, funerals, divorces, births and other stages in life are you able to judge them. Until then, 'best friend', 'good guy', etc are only labels. In the end, it's interesting; often surprising to see the results. The real heroes are those who rebuild their lives using adversity as a stepping stone to greatness in the midst of the chaos life has thro…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:14 AM
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Every true faith is infallible. It performs what the believing person hopes to find in it. But it does not offer the least support for the establishing of an objective truth. Here the ways of men divide. If you want to achieve peace of mind and happiness, have faith. If you want to be a disciple of truth, then search. Life becomes easier and more beautiful when we can see the good in other people. You don't have to wait for someone to treat you bad repeatedly. All it takes is once, and if they g…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:10 AM
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Most people don't grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging. Well, it seems to me that the best relationships the ones that last are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only per…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 10:02 AM
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When people get married because they think it's a long-time love affair, they'll be divorced very soon, because all love affairs end in disappointment. But marriage is a recognition of a spiritual identity. Truthfully, wicked people reveal themselves in words first, to inhibit speech would inhibit us seeing the wicked before they act. The thing about women is that they got liberated too fast. They never learned to be straightforward about life because they had to sneak around for about a thousan…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 09:57 AM
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Art can blow us out of our pigeon hole. In deafness it may shout or scream, in blindness it may arrest our attention, in numbness it may shake up our mind. If we don’t sense anything at all and take everything for granted, art can kick us in the ass, give a conscience and make us aware.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 11:24 PM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 11:19 PM
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Everyone may agree upon the diagnosis, but not everyone may consent to the therapy. Indeed, for healing, things have to be sacrificed at times and separation or loss might always be heartbreak and leave scars of remorse or regret.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 11:12 PM
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I think everybody I've seen has come from some other therapy, and almost invariably, it's very much the same thing: the therapist is too disinterested, a little too aloof, a little too inactive. They're not really interested in the person; he doesn't relate to the person. Perfectionism is the enemy of happiness. Embrace being perfectly imperfect. Learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself, you’ll be happier. We make mistakes because we are imperfect. Learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 11:07 PM
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Two words. Three vowels. Four constenants. Seven letters. It can either cut you open to the core and leave you in ungodly pain or it can free your soul and lift a tremendous weight off you shoulders. The phrase is: It's over. You will either do so convincingly and well, or you won’t. But at least you will be plugged in to the moment in the process. Not flitting just outside of it, trying to keep everything together like one of those little heel-snapping Sheltie dogs. We all have life storms, and…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 11:03 PM
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When you're struggling with something, look at all the people around you and realize that every single person you see is struggling with something, and to them, it's just as hard as what you're going through. Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. I was better after I had cried, than before--more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle. Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into ins…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:57 PM
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Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Even when we feel the sun in our soul has died, and the autumn storms of our life have broken the glow in our eyes, nothing must keep us from swelling the river of our inner longing. We can create a new scenario and colorize the chapters of the story we want to embed and liven up the thinking pattern of the personae we would …
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:52 PM
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Any man can stay sober in a desert, he mused, but only the loyal can sit in an oasis and refuse to part his lips. Keep your best wishes, close to your heart and watch what happens
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:43 PM
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Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down. Today is life-the only life you are sure of. Make the most of today. Get interested in something. Shake yourself awake. Develop a hobby. Let the winds of enthusiasm sweep through you. Live today with gusto. Often our perceptions are incorrect. We get in touch with an object and think that it embodies love, happiness, a self, or purity. We tend to think that love is something sentimental that will f…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:39 PM
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With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism, and accusations slowly eat away at the victim’s self-esteem until he or she is incapable of judging a situation realistically. He or she may begin to believe that there is something wrong with them or even fear they are losing their mind. They have become so beaten down emotionally that they blame themselves for the abuse. Silence is the space that we create when all of the noise around us finally realizes that it hasn’t said anything, …
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:32 PM
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A room full of words that are nearly the truth but not quite, each note fluttering off the steam of its rose like a broken butterfly wing. It's up to you today to start making healthy choices. Not choices that are just healthy for your body, but healthy for your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:27 PM
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Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen. Crippled in the mind, some can no longer bring home their soul in the mosaic of their thinking pattern. By changing the logic model of our mindset, becoming an apprentice of new matters, and turning our emotional approach upside down, we can bring dormant energy to life and restore mental balance. We are all dama…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:23 PM
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In balancing each desired goal with the contradiction contained therein, we cause our thought to be re-born at the very point from which all creation manifests.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:16 PM
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Through self-inquiry and meditation, we can discover the nature of our mind and learn to soothe our emotional reactivity. This will leave us less vulnerable to the destructive emotions and thought patterns that cause us so much suffering. This is the process of developing mental immunity. Everyone needs a support system, be it family, friends, coworkers, therapists, or religious leaders. We cannot do life alone and expect to keep mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy. Everyone needs som…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:12 PM
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Some marriages aren't really that great. Some loves aren't all-encompassing. Sometimes you separate because you weren't that good together to begin with. Sometimes divorce isn't an earth shattering loss. Sometimes it's just two people waking up out of a fog. You've got this life and while you've got it, you'd better kiss like you only have one moment, try to hold someone's hand like you will never get another chance to, look into people's eyes like they're the last you'll ever see, watch someone…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:05 PM
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Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them. The mind knows the truth when your heart denies what it feels. When you don't feel safe to let people in it is because you're not ready to deal with the pain of honesty. I believe that a different therapy must be constructed for each patient because each has a unique story.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 10:01 PM
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The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself. Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for. Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 09:55 PM
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If you were born with the ability to change someone’s perspective or emotions, never waste that gift. It is one of the most powerful gifts God can give the ability to influence. Whatever you fear will happen to you, booze will make it happen. You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space. It's in the darkest night…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 09:49 PM
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Sometimes it takes a meltdown to cool down. Champions are not the ones who always win races - champions are the ones who get out there and try. And try harder the next time. And even harder the next time. 'Champion' is a state of mind. They are devoted. They compete to best themselves as much if not more than they compete to best others. Champions are not just athletes. Things don't go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 09:39 PM
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Do the things that interest you and do them with all your heart. Don't be concerned about whether people are watching you or criticizing you. The chances are that they aren't paying any attention to you. It's your attention to yourself that is so stultifying. But you have to disregard yourself as completely as possible. If you fail the first time then you'll just have to try harder the second time. After all, there's no real reason why you should fail. Just stop thinking about yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 11:04 AM
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Nice
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 11:01 AM
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One's life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others, by means of love, friendship, indignation and compassion.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:59 AM
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It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you've known forever don't see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:53 AM
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There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost. Every configuration of people is an entirely new universe unto itself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:51 AM
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The best relationships in our lives are the best not because they have been the happiest ones, they are that way because they have stayed strong through the most tormentful of storms.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:46 AM
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The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:43 AM
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Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Focus on your character, not your reputation. Focus on your blessings, not your misfortunes.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:42 AM
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Perfect saying
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:40 AM
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You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor sweet baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change. Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving. Commitment means that it is possible for a man to yield the nerve center of his consent to a purpose or cause, a movement or an ideal, which may be more important to him than whether he lives …
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:38 AM
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To say of a picture, as is often said in its praise, that it shows great and earnest labour, is to say that it is incomplete and unfit for view.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:32 AM
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There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel that no one else has a right to blame us. It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:30 AM
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A mirage is an illusion of what we need projected onto the landscape of our lives. And if our lives are filled with mirages, they are in fact filled with nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:28 AM
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The best way to engage the fool is to do nothing that would cause them to believe that we are otherwise. For then, the fool becomes the fooled.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:27 AM
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Fully agree
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:25 AM
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The high road is the best path to your destination.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:08 AM
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It's better to have loved and lost than to be nagged about buying a damn anniversary gift every year.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:06 AM
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Great
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:01 AM
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It’s hard enough maintaining the charade of a fake relationship; now I have some mystery trespasser wreaking havoc.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 10:00 AM
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We search for happiness everywhere, but we are like Tolstoy's fabled beggar who spent his life sitting on a pot of gold, under him the whole time. Your treasure your perfection is within you already. But to claim it, you must leave the buy commotion of the mind and abandon the desires of the ego and enter into the silence of the heart.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 09:53 AM
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Agree
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 09:47 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 09:46 AM
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Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 09:44 AM
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When people divorce, it's always such a tragedy. At the same time, if people stay together it can be even worse.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 09:41 AM
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When people thought of mothers, they smelled cookies baking and chocolate melting. But actual mothers got shit for giving their kids too much sugar. When people thought of mothers, they thought soft and warm and cuddly. But actual mothers went to great lengths to eradicate their soft warm cuddly bits. When people thought of mothers, they thought of mama bears and cheerleaders–fierce love and unconditional support–but actual mothers were accused of coddling and helicoptering.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 09:37 AM
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Concern should drive us into action and not into a depression. No man is free who cannot control himself. The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline. To be really happy and really safe, one ought to have at least two or three hobbies, and they must all be real.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 05:23 PM
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When the murmuring of love swells the river of our inner and overflows the boundaries of our emotions, the banks of oblivion start bursting, and its healing power overwhelms the numbness of our mindset.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 12:36 PM
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Authenticity is everything! You have to wake up every day and look in the mirror, and you want to be proud of the person who's looking back at you. And you can only do that if you're being honest with yourself and being a person of high character. You have an opportunity every single day to write that story of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:49 AM
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Divorce is one of the most destructive, emotionally traumatic experiences a human being can go through, no matter if you're the instigator or the recipient. It's hard, and it hurts, and it takes a long time to feel normal again. That mess about judging people by the content of their character and not the color of their skin that's some bullshit. Nobody has the right to judge anybody else. Period. If you ain't been in my skin, you ain't never gonna understand my character. Sometimes, people can b…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:47 AM
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Everyone judges constantly: positively judging one person is the same as negatively judging everyone else; it is to say that that person is superior in some sense.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:41 AM
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The most difficult part of dating as a single parent is deciding how much risk your own child’s heart is worth.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:39 AM
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Stop punishing yourself for being someone with a heart. You cannot protect yourself from suffering. To live is to grieve. You are not protecting yourself by shutting yourself off from the world. You are limiting yourself. The worst curse to befall anyone is stagnation, a banal existence, the quiet desperation that comes out of a need for conformity. Self-discipline is an act of cultivation. It requires you to connect today's actions to tomorrow's results. There's a season for sowing, a season fo…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 12:50 AM
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I am very sorry to hear what you just shared that your Ex did to you and divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce. There comes a time when the world gets quiet and the only thing left is your own heart. So you'd better learn the sound of it. Otherwise you'll never understand what it's saying. You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 12:39 AM
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No man is so foolish but he may sometimes give another good counsel, and no man so wise that he may not easily err if he takes no other counsel than his own. He that is taught only by himself has a fool for a master. You must accept the reality of other people. You think that reality is up for negotiation, that we think it's whatever you say it is. You must accept that we are as real as you are; you must accept that you are not God. A good person can make another person good; it means that goodn…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 12:31 AM
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The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 12:24 AM
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There is an easy way to silence your critics; just try to do what they say you can't do. If they are still not content, do more of it! Keep doing it until you become a master. Then look around, and you will see fewer critics and many compliments!
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 04:04 PM
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Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Let us not subside into a single mandatory way of thinking or feeling, immersed by a spirit of self-gratification. But let’s dig into the fresh energy of new boundaries and at the same time pick the blossoms of poetry welling up along the path of our life, and enjoy the innocence of the little wonders of every day. …
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 10:34 AM
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Ok
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 10:25 AM
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Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You're aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can't be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn't be.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 10:22 AM
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Of course, we can't visit every place or meet every person or do every job, yet most of what we'd feel in any life is still available. We don't have to play every game to know what winning feels like. We don't have to hear every piece of music in the world to understand music. We don't have to have tried every variety of grape from every vineyard to know the pleasure of wine. Love and laughter and fear and pain are universal currencies. We just have to close our eyes and savour the taste of the …
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 10:21 AM
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This life therefore is not righteousness, but growth in righteousness, not health, but healing, not being but becoming, not rest but exercise. We are not yet what we shall be, but we are growing toward it, the process is not yet finished, but it is going on, this is not the end, but it is the road. All does not yet gleam in glory, but all is being purified.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 10:17 AM
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You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 10:15 AM
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Just because something isn't a lie does not mean that it isn't deceptive. A liar knows that he is a liar, but one who speaks mere portions of truth in order to deceive is a craftsman of destruction.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 10:12 AM
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A successful marriage needs much more than, love, care, and feelings. A woman can choose to be totally submissive in a marriage, like in a patriarchal set-up where she will have a happy married life, but not guaranteed if she will be happy or not. Or she can decide on what makes her happy and choose that life. Marriage is not about the happiness of one person at the cost of other. Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t l…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 10:02 AM
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Some people say dying alone is a fate worse than death itself. Well, they should try being alone during the living part sometimes. There's no quicker way to make you wonder why the hell you ever thought you'd want to return. Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 09:59 AM
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Agree
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 09:54 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 09:54 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 02:51 AM
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You are welcome life is a balanced system of learning and evolution. Whether pleasure or pain; every situation in your life serves a purpose. It is up to us to recognize what that purpose could be.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 06:37 PM
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Life is not unlike cinema. Each scene has its own music, and the music is created for the scene, woven to it in ways we do not understand. No matter how much we may love the melody of a bygone day or imagine the song of a future one, we must dance within the music of today, or we will always be out of step, stumbling around in something that doesn’t suit the moment.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 06:19 PM
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You are welcome
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 06:14 PM
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Sometimes it is better to stay out of confusing situations, because your actions and words can be misrepresented, even with the best intentions in the world. You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination. Watch your manner of speech if you wish to develop a peaceful state of mind. Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes and…
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 01:14 PM
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Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a 'hot mess' or having 'too many issues' are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, …
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 01:09 PM
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It may be expedient to take stock of all the affecting pieces that might shatter in the wake of an emotional earthquake, once red flags come up in a committed relationship and an overarching scene has to be fashioned for a recast life experience.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 01:05 PM
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Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 01:02 PM
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Happy for you
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 12:59 PM
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Nice of you
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 12:57 PM
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Firstly i am very sorry to hear what actually happened to your marriage and i hope you and your kid are doing fine and alright? I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we're all teachers if we're willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 12:57 PM
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It’s a profoundly strange feeling, to stumble across someone whose desires are shaped so closely to your own, like reaching toward your reflection in a mirror and finding warm flesh under your fingertips. If you should ever be lucky enough to find that magical, fearful symmetry, I hope you’re brave enough to grab it with both hands and not let go.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 12:10 PM
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You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 12:06 PM
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Love is a piano dropped from a fourth story window, and you were in the wrong place at the wrong time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 12:01 PM
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When you meet that person. a person. one of your soulmates. let the connection. relationship. be what it is. it may be five mins. five hours. five days. five months. five years. a lifetime. five lifetimes. let it manifest itself the way it is meant to. it has an organic destiny. this way if it stays or if it leaves, you will be softer. from having been loved this authentically. souls come into. return. open. and sweep through your life for a myriad of reasons. let them be who. and what they are …
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 11:59 AM
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People talk about escapism as if it's a bad thing... Once you've escaped, once you come back, the world is not the same as when you left it. You come back to it with skills, weapons, knowledge you didn't have before. Then you are better equipped to deal with your current reality.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 08:42 PM
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Cool
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 08:36 PM
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Cool
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 06:24 PM
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The sign of an intelligent people is their ability to control their emotions by the application of reason.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 06:13 PM
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Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do. Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:21 PM
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Everyone has obstacles, and you're not going to have the right answer or do the right thing every single time.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:17 PM
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Golf is deceptively simple and endlessly complicated; it satisfies the soul and frustrates the intellect. It is at the same time rewarding and maddening - and it is without a doubt the greatest game mankind has ever invented.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:15 PM
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Don't be ashamed to weep; 'tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us. We can't be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is …
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:14 PM
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Knowledge will forever govern ignorance; and a people who mean to be their own governors must arm themselves with the power which knowledge gives. Darkness comes. In the middle of it, the future looks blank. The temptation to quit is huge. Don't. You are in good company... You will argue with yourself that there is no way forward. But with God, nothing is impossible. He has more ropes and ladders and tunnels out of pits than you can conceive. Wait. Pray without ceasing. Hope. Live your truth. Ex…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:09 PM
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For some, life may be a playground to undermine the brainwaves of others or simply a vainglorious game with an armory of theatrics, illustrating only bleak self-deception, haughty narcissism and dim deficiency in empathy. There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. Every great thinker keeps a journal, you know. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointe…
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 02:04 PM
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People organize their brains with conversation. If they don't have anyone to tell their story to, they lose their minds. Like hoarders, they cannot unclutter themselves. Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 01:59 PM
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To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting. Yes, a deep lesson from the postage stamp. It attaches itself to a moveable material, the envelope and gets going. A good relationship keeps you going forward; a bad one keeps you static. Attach yourself to someone who is also going forward and you will also get there.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 01:56 PM
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Stories can conquer fear, you know. They can make the heart bigger.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:53 AM
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Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:51 AM
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We don't get to choose our family, but we can choose our friends. With courage, we can weed out narcissistic people. We can focus on those who do appreciate us, love us, and treat us with respect. Mind control is built on lies and manipulation of attachment needs.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:48 AM
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If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:44 AM
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Your life is like a book you decide what to write on it or erase from it; But you might not be able to erase completely your past mistakes. So the choices you make today will determine how the book (your life)will look like.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:21 AM
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No
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:17 AM
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Facts are like cows. If you look them in the face long enough, they generally run away.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:16 AM
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To hear the phrase "our only hope" always makes one anxious, because it means that if the only hope doesn't work, there is nothing left.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:14 AM
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If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:06 AM
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No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you've come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:01 AM
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We are chained by our own control. Life is nothing more than finding the key that unlocks every part of our soul.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 08:00 AM
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A trap is only a trap if you don't know about it. If you know about it, it's a challenge.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 07:58 AM
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Make the most of the best and the best of the worst, and keep your standards high. Never settle for anything less than you deserve or are capable of achieving.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 07:55 AM
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We try so hard to hide everything we're really feeling from those who probably need to know our true feelings the most. People try to bottle up their emotions, as if it's somehow wrong to have natural reactions to life. Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but of playing a poor hand well. The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask…
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 07:53 AM
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You don't love someone because they're perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they're not.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 04:51 AM
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Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn't have the power to say yes.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 07:45 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 07:38 PM
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We find an abundance of anger and the desire to destroy the opposition in any competitive human environment. Hate sparks contest, and in the modern world, attorneys are the paid gladiators of warring parties. Attorneys are for hire to the highest bidder. Attorneys ply their trade by dealing in the commerce of anger and hatred.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:16 AM
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Avoid those who seek friends in order to maintain a certain social status or to open doors they would not otherwise be able to approach.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:14 AM
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To go wrong in one's own way is better than to go right in someone else's.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:11 AM
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Character the willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is the source from which self-respect springs. Accept everything about yourself I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end no apologies, no regrets.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:09 AM
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If you truly want to be respected by people you love, you must prove to them that you can survive without them.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:03 AM
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The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 05:01 AM
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Be Brave and Take Risks: You need to have faith in yourself. Be brave and take risks. You don't have to have it all figured out to move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 04:59 AM
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The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery each day. What it's like to be a parent: It's one of the hardest things you'll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love. Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy's staying in an u…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 04:57 AM
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If you pretend that you know what you are doing, a large group of people will blindly follow you. When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret. Marriage isn't a love affair. It isn't even a honeymoon. It's a job. A long hard job, at which both partners have to work, harder than they've worked at anything in the…
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 04:42 AM
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Sometimes words just don't get you there... don't let you say all the stuff from deep in your heart, stuff that no dictionary has a name for.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 05:37 PM
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Exactly!!! Everybody talks about wanting to change things and help and fix, but ultimately all you can do is fix yourself. And that's a lot. Because if you can fix yourself, it has a ripple effect.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 07:46 AM
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No evil dooms us hopelessly except the evil we love, and desire to continue in, and make no effort to escape from.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 07:39 AM
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Agree
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 07:36 AM
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We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 07:33 AM
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If we are not willing to let go knotty and prickly issues in time, our mental frame can be wrecked before long. One must be prepared to get the monkey off the back, eventually
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 07:31 AM
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Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten. Get going. Move forward. Aim High. Plan a takeoff. Don't just sit on the runway and hope someone will come along and push the airplane. It simply won't happen. Change your attitude and gain some altitude. Believe me, you'll love it up here.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 02:21 PM
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Absolutely there's an awful lot of future out there, and what you got to do, is you go to out and grab it, wrestle it to the ground, accept the challenges, and then decide. You've got the skills. You've got the knowledge. You've got the love, and you're capable of moving forward and making a great life yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 02:16 PM
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Let's be honest with one another: almost everything is too long except life, and I know people who wouldn't even concur with that exception. Live your life. Be happy as you can be, let go of the things that don't matter, and fight. Every warrior on the path of knowledge thinks, at one time or another, that he's learning sorcery, but all he's doing is allowing himself to be convinced of the power hidden in his being, and that he can reach it. So much of what is best in us is bound up in our love …
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 02:14 PM
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Every single person is a fool, insane, a failure, or a bad person to at least ten people.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 02:04 PM
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The same myths are told in every culture, and they might swap out details, but it's still the same story. It's the same story, but with a different face. When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 02:02 PM
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We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 01:49 PM
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The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 01:47 PM
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Life is only meaningless if we fail to make a resolute effort at achieving bliss, attaining the active state of oneness that comes to a person whom is attentively alive and mindful of all the beauty and moral sublimity of existence.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 11:35 PM
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The point is valid: the difference between survival and wipe-out in a physical crisis is nearly always a matter of conditioned reflexes.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 11:32 PM
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Never stop fighting until you arrive at your destined place that is, the unique you. Have an aim in life, continuously acquire knowledge, work hard, and have perseverance to realise the great life. Negotiate in their world. Persuasion is not about how bright or smooth or forceful you are. It’s about the other party convincing themselves that the solution you want is their own idea. So don’t beat them with logic or brute force. Ask them questions that open paths to your goals. It’s not about you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 11:28 PM
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We accept the love we think we deserve
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 10:13 PM
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Alright
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 10:04 PM
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Loyalty to petrified opinion never yet broke a chain or freed a human soul. Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. Look at the sky. We are not alone. The whole universe is friendly to us and conspires only to give the best to those who dream and work.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 07:46 PM
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Just be patient. Let the game come to you. Don't rush. Be quick, but don't hurry. I think it's good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone. When we allow ourselves to show some patience and take time to listen to the others, we may learn a lot about ourselves. Patience does not endure instant gratification, though, and self-knowledge may take a lifetime. The best thing a man can do on a first date is be …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 07:35 PM
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In the stillness of your presence, you can feel your own formless and timeless reality as the unmanifested life that animates your physical form. You can then feel the same life deep within every other human and every other creature. You look beyond the veil of form and separation. This is the realization of oneness. This is love. Among men and women, those in love do not always announce themselves with declarations and vows. But they are the ones who weep when you're gone. Who miss you every si…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 07:27 PM
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There are times as a parent when you realize that your job is not to be the parent you always imagined you'd be, the parent you always wished you had. Your job is to be the parent your child needs, given the particulars of his or her own life and nature.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 07:09 PM
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Empathy begins with understanding life from another person's perspective. Nobody has an objective experience of reality. It's all through our own individual prisms. Respect goes a long way when you carry yourself a certain way and show manners when you first meet someone. If you do that, then it's hard for somebody not to like you. Life is a canvas of many strokes where shades from different palettes meet into a picture so concrete that some forget it is their own, so become framed themselves. T…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 06:46 PM
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The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the interdependence of all these living beings, which are all part of one another, and all involved in one another. To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to per…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 06:28 PM
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You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life. You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space. A virtuos woman is not moved by big names and flamboyance, but only men of profound wisdom and integrity move her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 06:18 PM
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You are here to decide if your life, relationships and world are true and beautiful enough for you. And if they are not and you dare to admit they are not, you must decide if you have the guts, the right perhaps even the duty to burn to the ground that which is not true and beautiful enough and get started building what is.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 06:13 PM
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If you are prepared to make a fool of yourself for them then you usually get that back. I think that there are points where you become so close to an actor, you know them so well, almost as well or better than their spouse. You have to know them, warts and all. The kind of people that all teams need are people who are humble, hungry, and smart: humble being little ego, focusing more on their teammates than on themselves. Hungry, meaning they have a strong work ethic, are determined to get things…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 06:07 PM
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The way I see it, you mostly stop loving a person the same way you stop respecting them. It can happen all at once if something enormous and terrible falls over the two of you. But for the most part, it happens in inches. In a thousand tiny moments of contempt that unravel the image you had of the person you thought you knew. Peace demands the most heroic labor and the most difficult sacrifice. It demands greater heroism than war. It demands greater fidelity to the truth and a much more perfect …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 05:59 PM
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You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one. Each day is a different one, each day brings a miracle of its own. It's just a matter of paying attention to this miracle. I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we're all teachers if we're willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 02:15 PM
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Experience has shown, and a true philosophy will always show, that a vast, perhaps the larger portion of the truth arises from the seemingly irrelevant. Long-term, we must begin to build our internal strengths. It isn't just skills like computer technology. It's the old-fashioned basics of self-reliance, self-motivation, self-reinforcement, self-discipline, self-command. The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you ent…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 02:08 PM
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Character is the result of two things: mental attitude and the way we spend our time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 02:03 PM
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To put meaning in one's life may end in madness, But life without meaning is the torture Of restlessness and vague desire It is a boat longing for the sea and yet afraid. Humans aren't as good as we should be in our capacity to empathize with feelings and thoughts of others, be they humans or other animals on Earth. So maybe part of our formal education should be training in empathy. Imagine how different the world would be if, in fact, that were 'reading, writing, arithmetic, empathy.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 01:59 PM
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I hope that most of us believe that we actually would all benefit from living in a more equitable society. If that's not happening, we're squandering human potential.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 01:49 PM
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I hope that most of us believe that we actually would all benefit from living in a more equitable society. If that's not happening, we're squandering human potential.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 01:49 PM
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The criminalization of a non-custodial in not uncommon; such extreme measures of the divorce and post-divorce process can be described as common practice. Stephen Baskerville describes this consequence of no-fault in the article, “Divorced from Reality.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:17 PM
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I think as a child you know when it's time for your parents to split. You realise they love each other, but they're not in love with each other. And I think as a child it's much better for your parents to split than for them to stay and have dysfunction within the family.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:15 PM
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When divorce or separation involves mutual children, it's often the father who suffers the most as a parent and the children who suffer in regards to their relationship with their dad. During my separation, my daughters mom used our daughter as a weapon in an effort to hurt me. She knew that I love my daughter immensely and so she would do all kinds of manipulative tricks to get in the way of our daddy daughter relationship in an effort to cause me emotional pain. She was willing to cause our da…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:12 PM
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I've done a lot of shows that didn't do well. You have to go in with a 50-50 take on it. If it goes well, fantastic. Hope for the best and plan for the worst.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:08 PM
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Right now, you hear about teamwork, and it's defined as 50-50, and that is a falsehood. There's no such thing as 50-50. You know, you do whatever you have to do as part of the team.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:06 PM
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No family gets rich from earning the minimum wage. In fact, the current minimum wage does not even lift a family out of poverty.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:04 PM
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I think when you talk about a relationship between a striker and a defender it's all about the margins. Some guys it can be 50-50, but other times it can be 60-40, 70-30. Erling is probably one of the few where you have to be 100/0 against him, if it's 99 he will score.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 12:02 PM
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The institution of marriage works better when there's a spiritual connection. If you're marrying just for the sake of the woman, then you may lose interest in each other very soon. When we marry in the interest of the Holy Spirit with the intention of serving God and humanity, then it gives a much larger perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:59 AM
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Sometimes the bad things we experience in life can teach us the greatest and most valuable lessons. The bad things we experience and the bad people we meet teaches us how to be stronger, how to learn to forgive how to have patience, how to keep a good attitude when things are difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:54 AM
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Divorce is a 50-50 thing, and it can be a number of petty things that finally drive you out of your mind. Custody and guardianship by the parent of his child does not arise under the Constitution, laws or treaties of the United States and is not dependent on them.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:51 AM
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Relationships have their ups and downs. Within the 60/40 rule of good vs. bad, it also means your relationship is going well 60 percent of the time. The other 40 percent is not so good, but completely worth fighting for. Of course, all relationships differ; they aren’t always going to sail as smoothly as planned. Sometimes a relationship will be 60/40, sometimes 70/30 or 90/10. Keep both heart and hand in your own possession, till you see good reason to part with them; and if such an occasion sh…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:43 AM
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Focusing your life solely on making a buck shows a certain poverty of ambition. It asks too little of yourself. Because it's only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you realize your true potential.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:37 AM
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What we wish, we readily believe, and what we ourselves think, we imagine others think also.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:34 AM
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Morality which depends upon the helplessness of a man or woman has not much to recommend it. Morality is rooted in the purity of our hearts.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:32 AM
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Being broke is a temporary situation. Being poor is a state of mind.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:28 AM
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Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:26 AM
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Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but sometimes, playing a poor hand well.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:25 AM
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Our errors are surely not such awfully solemn things. In a world where we are so certain to incur them in spite of all our caution, a certain lightness of heart seems healthier than this excessive nervousness on their behalf.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:22 AM
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The 50-50-90 rule: Anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there's a 90% probability you'll get it wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:17 AM
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Someone asked me recently if marriage is 50-50 - it averages out to be 50-50, but sometimes it's 75-25, sometimes it's 90-10. In the end, it has to average out to be 50-50; that's how you support each other.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 11:15 AM
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The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 06:39 PM
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Take care of the sense and the sounds will take care of themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:55 PM
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Sorry i am not BOT!!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:53 PM
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Dont judge the book by its cover
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:51 PM
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Cool
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:49 PM
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Ok
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:47 PM
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In my own life, I think legends of supernatural, mythic things are really just a manifestation of the collective unconscious. So I don't really get freaked out. I mean certainly, you read about things people did to each other in the pursuit of some mystical or occult goal, and it's horrifying. But that's just human nature. In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 10:16 PM
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When you look at a photo or realistic drawing of a face, you see it as the face of another . But when you enter the world of the cartoon , you see yourself. There's a fine line between what would characterize you as a troglodyte and what would characterize you as a brilliant, avant-garde, forward-thinking genius. There's some middle ground.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 10:07 PM
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The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that ev…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 10:03 PM
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A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 09:59 PM
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Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too. The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them Love is about your person…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 09:57 PM
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The reason that success boosts confidence is that it changes your brain’s production and receptiveness to testosterone and dopamine two chemicals that increase the impulse to try it again
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:58 PM
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Pieces and parts were always easier to process. The full picture, the entire story, was another thing entirely. But you just never knew. Sometimes, people could surprise you. Instead of assembling the shattered pieces of my outer existence and inner reality into an incomprehensible structure, I learned to consciously create a new life. A woman’s appeal deteriorates if she gives herself to a man before there is an emotional bond. However, once a true and deep bond is formed, a man’s affection for…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:52 PM
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No story lives unless someone wants to listen. The stories we love best do live in us forever. So whether you come back by page or by the big screen, Hogwarts will always be there to welcome you home. There is no more profitable investment than investing in yourself. It is the best investment you can make; you can never go wrong with it. It is the true way to improve yourself to be the best version of you and lets you be able to best serve those around you. We do not believe in ourselves until s…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:37 PM
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You are enough to drive a saint to madness or a king to his knees.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:29 PM
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The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of the mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:25 PM
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Ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge: it is those who know little, not those who know much, who so positively assert that this or that problem will never be solved by science.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:22 PM
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:20 PM
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No one knows for certain how much impact they have on the lives of other people. Oftentimes, we have no clue. Yet we push it just the same. One thing: you have to walk, and create the way by your walking; you will not find a ready-made path. It is not so cheap, to reach to the ultimate realization of truth. You will have to create the path by walking yourself; the path is not ready-made, lying there and waiting for you. It is just like the sky: the birds fly, but they don't leave any footprints.…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:17 PM
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You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but your own. And when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise and selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything. . . affects everything. In every friendship hearts grow and entwine themselves together, so that the two hearts seem to make only one heart with only a common thought. That is why separation is …
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 05:59 PM
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Tell the truth. If you tell the truth all the time you don't have to worry three months down the line about what you said three months earlier. Truth is always the truth. You won't have to complicate your life by trying to cover up. There's nothing like deep breaths after laughing that hard. Nothing in the world like a sore stomach for the right reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 05:45 PM
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Karma comes after everyone eventually. You can't get away with screwing people over your whole life, I don't care who you are. What goes around comes around. That's how it works. Sooner or later the universe will serve you the revenge that you deserve.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 09:17 AM
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If we can just let go and trust that things will work out they way they're supposed to, without trying to control the outcome, then we can begin to enjoy the moment more fully. The joy of the freedom it brings becomes more pleasurable than the experience itself. The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers of persistence, concentration, and insight to do work you love and work that matters. S…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 09:14 AM
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Sure it could get rough sometimes, but life wasn't a Hollywood movie. Shit happened. You fought, you screamed, and somehow you worked like hell to get out the other side still intact. Let us not get scooped up by gaslighting manipulators stealing our emotions and taking possession of our inner child to carry out their dark agenda. Let the light of our intuition guide us subtly and wisely along the path of trust and suspicion. Move forward with no second-guessing, no guilt trips, no hesitation. Y…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 09:05 AM
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Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:59 AM
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You'll be loved even if you're a fucking train-wreck, you just have to find the junk dealer who knows your worth. You might consider how to escape from a cage must surely require, foremost, awareness of the fact of the cage. It's so hard to forget pain, but it's even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace. Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more st…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:57 AM
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Stop punishing yourself for being someone with a heart. You cannot protect yourself from suffering. To live is to grieve. You are not protecting yourself by shutting yourself off from the world. You are limiting yourself. You don't have to burn books to destroy a culture. Just get people to stop reading them.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:51 AM
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Stop wasting your time looking for the key to happiness… the door is open and unlocked… just walk through it. People come, people go they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in a favorite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focusing on the new ones, not the ones from the past.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:34 AM
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If you’re prepared, and you know what it takes, it’s not a risk. You just have to figure out how to get there. There is always a way to get there.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:29 AM
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Finding a life partner is like choosing a bed. You need one as a friend either in times of health or sickness. Freshness or weariness. Happiness or sadness. And we can be certain that we've picked the right one without having to sleep with it first.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:27 AM
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When people are ready to, they change. They never do it before then, and sometimes they die before they get around to it. You can't make them change if they don't want to, just like when they do want to, you can't stop them.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:26 AM
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We must also realize that nothing happens without a purpose. Nothing. Not even broken hearts. Not even pain. That broken heart and that pain are lessons and signs for us. They are warnings that something is wrong. They are warnings that we need to make a change. Just like the pain of being burned is what warns us to remove our hand from the fire, emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change. We need to detach. Pain is a form of forced detachment. Like the loved one who hurts y…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:24 AM
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There comes a point when you either embrace who and what you are, or condemn yourself to be miserable all your days. Other people will try to make you miserable; don't help them by doing the job yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:19 AM
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If you dread tomorrow it's because you don't know how to build the present, and when you don't know how to build the present, you tell yourself you can deal with it tomorrow, and it's a lost cause anyway because tomorrow always ends up being today don't you see ... We have to live with the certainty that we'll get old and that it won't look nice or be good or feel happy. And tell ourselves that it's now that matters: to build something now at any price using all our strength. Always remember tha…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:17 AM
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Have an exit strategy. Just in case your current plan doesn’t work, always know what your endgame is and where you’re going next. You have to look at what you have right in front of you, at what it could be, and stop measuring it against what you've lost. I know this to be wise and true, just as I know that pretty much no one can do it. You get lonely, is what it is. A person's not supposed to go through life with absolutely nobody. It's not normal. The longer you go by yourself the weirder you …
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:11 AM
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Achievement of your happiness is the only moral purpose of your life, and that happiness, not pain or mindless self-indulgence, is the proof of your moral integrity, since it is the proof and the result of your loyalty to the achievement of your values. The best men tell you the truth because they think you can take it; the worst men either try to preserve you in some innocent state with their false protection, or are ‘brutally honest.’ When someone tells, lets you think for yourself, experience…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:59 AM
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Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:53 AM
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Some day you will look back on these days as the happiest of your life. You will forget your financial struggles. You will forget the unfair division of duties. You will forget feeling trapped and smothered, imagining that you are in a loveless marriage. You will only remember the joy of a young family, working together making your way through an unfamiliar world. Appreciate what you have now.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:51 AM
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Main characters never die in books. If they did, the story would be ruined, or over. Everybody is a main character to someone. There are no minor characters. I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:45 AM
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You don’t propose marriage after one date. You don’t decide on a career after one article or class session. You don’t cast your vote based on one opinion of the candidate in question. Stories, essays, novels, and memoirs all deserve to be, indeed have to be read multiple times. Every writer worth his or her salt knows that writing is rewriting. Every reader should know the same thing about understanding text: that is, real reading is rereading
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:39 AM
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Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:37 AM
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Some people standby you in your darkest hour while others walk away; only a select few march towards you and become even closer friends. At the bottom of the mountain you have your scoffers and doubters, by midpoint you have your envious and haters, and when you reach to the top you have new friends and family you never met or thought existed.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:31 AM
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One life is all we have and we live it as we believe in living it. But to sacrifice what you are and to live without belief, that is a fate more terrible than dying.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:23 AM
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No single decision you ever made has led in a straight line to where you find yourself now. You peeked down some roads and took a few steps before turning back. You followed some roads that came to a dead end and others that got lost at too many intersections. Ultimately, all roads are connected to all other roads. Confronting the worst-case scenario saps it of much of its anxiety-inducing power. Happiness reached via positive thinking can be fleeting and brittle, negative visualization generate…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:20 AM
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I'd learned enough from life's experiences to understand that destiny's interventions can sometimes be read as invitation for us to address and even surmount our biggest fears. It doesn't take a great genius to recognize that when you are pushed by circumstance to do the one thing you have always most specifically loathed and feared, this can be, at the very least, an interesting growth opportunity.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 07:16 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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