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>I would say just look at women outside of the west. I live in Europe and Honest to God most women aren't fat. Which is why I'm asking what fat means to you, because maybe I have a different standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 03:26 PM
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Just curious, not a gotcha, not an anything, but what is fat to you? Can you give a fat% or BMI?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 12:37 PM
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People are saying it's Ramona Flowers, but that's not quite it. It's a fiction trope first of all, but some men fantasise about it irl. The idea of a manic pixie dream girl is a woman who is eccentric, energetic, makes you follow your dreams and fall in love with life and with her. Someone who sits in the kitchen cross-legged and makes paper cranes from pages of hotel bibles because she's quirky like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:43 AM
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Who is "you guys"? You absolutely cannot deny that "virgin" is a shameful thing, in the general public's eye. It signals that something is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:57 PM
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Well, no, the point is that "adult virgins" are losers and have never felt a woman's touch. Virgin is absolutely used as an insult and it's "shameful" to be one. While I agree a decent human wouldn't outwardly make fun of an adult virgin, it's still consider abnormal and embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:25 PM
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Also makeup doesn't have to flashy and flamboyant. News anchors, movie stars, Youtubers, they're all in make-up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:14 PM
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One of the most popular vines and memes was this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D7MMuv6mz8I
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:12 PM
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Not to me, but to my friend - for sure. She kinda just falls on dick. She goes out with friends, one of them isolates her, they share a few drinks and then he asks to kiss her and she just goes "okay". I would definitely say that's not a typical experience. P.S. I want to mention how those relationships last for a few month until she realizes they're incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:08 PM
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Oh no no, it's not a gotcha, I'm just trying to understand your point of view. Like how important is "being the best" for you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:48 AM
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What if you tried it with an ex but hated it? What if it's something she did with an ex, but you won't do with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 08:53 AM
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No, what if she wants something sexually from you that you do not want?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 08:50 AM
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do everything to keep you and do everything she's done with a man previously and then some What if she wants something you do not?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 07:58 AM
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>boring many women are. Many of them cant even really hold a conversation, even if they like you. They generally dont have interesting things to say Then you are chasing the wrong women! This is insane to me how men will get into a relationship with a woman, who's interests he doesn't give a single fuck about and then goes Surprised Pickachu Face when the relationships sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 04:30 PM
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Mostly "weird" women, geeks, who are into art, fanfiction and fandom culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 05:00 PM
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This isn't what I personally observe. My partnered friends picked very different men and honestly none of them are "my type". I don't see myself being into them in another timeline. Also, in my experience, both personal and anecdotal, someone being "my type" aesthetically (cute, handsome, etc.) does NOT mean I am willing to date him or sleep with him. Sometimes your type is someone you want to cover in gold and put up on the mantlepiece.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 03:36 PM
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>just need to be accepted somewhere, as a man. I get it. And I relate. I present rather masculine and it does seem to be a turnoff for a lot of men, especially cishet ones and I remember it really bothering me when I was younger. I felt broken and ugly and at one point even forced myself into dresses and makeup to please a made-up partner. I image it's similar for you, you want to be seen as a man and the easiest path to that is to be what society expects a man to be. >i felt like the men you ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:22 PM
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Well, you got chose what is more important to you - staying true to yourself or getting laid. And you decided that getting laid was more important. That's totally your call!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:07 PM
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Cishet men tend to be overly traditionally masculine around where I live. Being queer gives them a sort of vulnerability I relate to. They tend (in my experience) be more empathetic and more understanding towards social causes and their interests more closely match mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:03 PM
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Will gladly settle for a straight man if he is trans, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 01:18 PM
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I get it, but the way it's worded is so weird, because "having a cake" means eating it. I'm having cake = I am eating cake
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 06:20 PM
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I usually clip a ring on the leg of any man I date, so I can then track his migration patterns.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 06:01 PM
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>If I'm having cake, I'm going to eat it too. That's the whole point, to the eat the cake that I have. Legit could never understand that saying. Eat your cake and have it? Yeah, you eat it when you have it, you can't eat a cake if you don't have it. I know what they saying means, but it never made sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:26 PM
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At this point I would only date a man if he's bi
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:42 AM
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No, that's not what this is about. Decentering women means to stop living your your life trying to attract their attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 10:45 AM
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Decenter women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 01:23 PM
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I am not happy to have my tax money used to raise children that are not my own. Do you think those children deserve to live in poverty and suffer. That's the question you need to answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 11:00 AM
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>tattoos, piercings, and drinks alcohol Those are extremely common to the point where every woman I know has at least one tattoo. And they're pretty normie women, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 12:17 AM
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Yeah, I just want a better life for me and my loved ones. Getting 10 mil would significantly improve our life and in this equation sex to me is a completely hollow act that means nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 08:07 PM
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Oh, I am single. But my theoretical husband would likely hold the same answer, yeah. Like if he came out to me holding bags of cash and went "this is ours to spend and all I had to do was to have sex with some rando" I'd be like "thank god you didn't think I would be mad at you for it or something"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 12:29 AM
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I would feel guilty if I didn't do it. This is 10 mil!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:25 PM
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Because normally nobody would offer me a life changing amount of money for trying non-monogamy. Usually I am jealous and I would be a bit paranoid that my partner might fall in love with someone else if they're just going around having sex with everyone. But for 10 mil? With a stranger who has 0 emotional connection to my partner? Hell yeah. I will take that risk, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:24 PM
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I'd rather my partner since I'm not into having sex with strangers, but if my partner doesn't do it, I will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 09:48 PM
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I don't care. Can we both do it and get 20?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 01:57 PM
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Yes! It's 10 million! My partner can have all the cheating they want for that, and afterwards we're living our best lives. I'll do it, if they don't want to! It's 10 million!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 01:54 PM
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- Must be either an artist or a writer of some kind, or creative field alligned with fiction, either professionally or as a hobby. - Must be passionate about fiction. I need to be able to be acoustic with you over a show or movie. This is very important. - No, you don't understand, you have to be a *freak* about fiction, you have to be able to be immersed for months. - Like fanfiction. Doesn't have to be romanantic, doesn't have to be yaoi or whatever, but be into fanfiction. - Know how to use o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 03:29 PM
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Have these men never met an attractive woman who was just unbelievably boring to them? I have to wonder.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:42 PM
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I've read quite a bit of slash fics and what you're saying is not true. It's easy to believe if you look at yaoi memes and certain discourse, but once you start engaging in this content, you find that it's much more diverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:28 AM
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Sure, but personally, being 195+ is when your proportions start to sorta... break down and you just start looking a bit weird. It's also annoying to exist in a world as a very tall individual - everything is uncomfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 05:16 AM
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But it's not patriarchal!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 07:35 PM
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183cm
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 07:29 PM
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I would be way too tall. Keep my height the same and I'm peak.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:14 PM
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Go to AO3 and witness what women of culture 💅💅💅💅 read
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:59 PM
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My competition are people in the arts field who might be better and drawing and storytelling than me. Not younger women on Instagram. It's how I get validation. By making other people cry from my writing. Am I somehow "better" than the women on Instagram because of it? No, we just have different lifestyles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 02:35 PM
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I care a whole lot. I think revealing clothing should be banned at gyms, because yall keep leaving your dead skin and sweat on the seats! "Just wipe it off bro!" If everyone had tshirts and sweatpants on, we wouldn't need to wipe so damn much 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 05:51 AM
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I care a whole lot. I think revealing clothing should be banned at gyms, because yall keep leaving your dead skin and sweat on the seats! "Just wipe it off bro!" If everyone had tshirts and sweatpants on, we wouldn't need to wipe so damn much 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 09:47 PM
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That's fine. If you were, you'd find out quickly that I go to saunas and we'd have a talk about our boundaries. See how that works?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:33 PM
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Okay, then don't go to saunas :D But don't get offended on behalf of my imaginary husband when I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:29 PM
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Yeah, that's the difference in culture that I mentioned. Do you know how in some African tribes women walk around topless 24/7 and nobody finds it sexual? It's *kinda* the same when you go to a sauna.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:24 PM
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Who the hell gets off on random naked people just sitting there? I'm sorry, have you ever been to a nude beach? I promise you, it's not sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:06 PM
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No, they're not complaining, but dicks usually raise the rating of the movie compared to breasts. And filmmakers are sometimes very eager to put breasts in their films. For the record, I don't think it should depend on the gender, but rather context. Penises in non-sexual contexts are not a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:04 PM
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>And it gets to me that women complain about an imbalance of tits vs dick on tv but we all know women don’t want to see random guys dicks on tv, they just want a gendered issue to complain about. I think they're just annoyed that we apparently tolerate nudity when it's there for the sake of the male gaze, but when it's the man that has to get naked (meaning most men won't care to look at it), suddenly it's too much. I can see it being complain-worthy. >If you went to a nude beach and other men s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:49 PM
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That isn't true, at least not according to most sources
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 07:42 PM
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I told him what drag shows were and he removed the interest and unmatched me :(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:24 PM
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He thought it meant drag races. He legit didn't know what drag queens are 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:20 PM
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Matched with a man on a dating app today because he had "drag shows 👠" listed as his interest. I messaged fist and said how cool it is that he likes drag shows and he goes "yeah" and immediately invites me for a ride in his car. I decline because I don't like jumping into stranger's cars like that so I joke about "going wheel-free due to religious reasons" and he acts confused, like "why did you talk about drag then?" and I'm like wait.. what.. what kind of drag shows did you mean? Oh no.. honey…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:14 PM
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>If you believe not everything is about sex, try removing sexual desire from the equation. Watch how quickly the entire system collapses. People wouldn’t compete for status, wealth, or power. There’d be no point in wars I keep saying how there's sexual tension between Zelensky and Putin
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 11:59 AM
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>Blue pill people often seem to reject the influence that money/fame/power/beauty have to do with dating, instead only focusing on things like love and companionship. Which isn't totally wrong, because love is a huge part of dating and marriage, and I think mainstream advice is mostly accurate that if you want to build a fulfilling relationship you need to have strong communication and respect for your partner. In my opinion, while this is true at it's core (being rich, beautiful and charismatic…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 08:44 PM
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I haven't heard of this. But it could be the stereotype of EE men being poor, uncultured, "gopniks", etc.? There is a mene of an EE couple where the woman is a goddess and the man is shrek. I don't agree with that btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 03:52 PM
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Yeah, that's why we should all rise above it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 07:14 PM
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Women are just as susceptible to societal brainwashing as men
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:48 PM
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>LGBTQ, vegan religions
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:06 PM
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What are you talking about? Even if the man has the choice of only one woman to date, he still has a choice. He won't die if he doesn't date her. If we go by "choosing poorly" logic, whenever a man dates an abusive woman, it was his choice. Because even if the alternative is being single, he decided that being abused is preferable. Hence, choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 09:46 PM
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Picking the mate is saying "yes" to the offered relationship. Woman says "let's get into relationship", man says "yes, let's" = him picking that particular woman as his mate. Woman says "let's get into relationship", man says "no, thank you" = him not picking that particular woman as his mate. I can't believe you, as my boyfriend, do not understand this! Also when are you taking me out?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 09:08 PM
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>A woman leaves her house to a party with a decent number of single people and ask 5 random guys for a relationship. No, that's a still a choice on the man's part to enter that relationship. She doesn't decide for him. If she did, I could say right now that you are in a relationship with me. You are. We are boyfriendgirlfriend. Your father is also my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 08:53 PM
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Well, that's not true, is it. A woman can't just put a man into a relationship with herself if he doesn't want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 07:19 PM
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You're saying you have no agency when it comes to picking a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 07:12 PM
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Scenario B
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 04:17 PM
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Well, women are managing slowly to push the narrative that they don't need to be baby makers if they don't want to and being single and childless doesn't mean they're a failure (yes, women used to be shamed for being unmarried quite a bit). We can definitely do the same for men. It's better than to just flip over and act like all is lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 09:18 PM
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No, of course, I get it. I just think we need to push back on it. I think it hurts men quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 09:06 PM
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They probably don't open up with "I am in therapy for anger issues and it's why I got divorced". Or they're getting mentally damaged women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 06:20 PM
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I have a pretty good body. No big butt or breats, but overall proportions are very desirable for a lot of qomen and I know that. Gotta admit, it's a bit of a brag. But maybe because I've never been looked at like a puece of meat. At least I never felt that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:43 PM
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I wonder though, do you truly crave a girlfriend, or do you rave what that girfriend represents in society? If you could have a great partner, but everybody still thought you were single and sexless, would ypu agree to that? P.S. this isn't a gotcha, I'm just convinced most issues of "lonely men" come from this idea that their losers unless women want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 03:30 PM
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Well you seem to view most marriage as a "bad deal" that ends in the woman taking your stuff. That's not anymore romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:34 AM
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Just get a prenup, brother, if that afraid of her taking "half your stuff".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:15 AM
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Are Americans okay
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:14 AM
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What makes me a "good gf"? I don't know, but I'm not here to cater to most men. If a man likes me for what I am - then I am a "good gf" to him. Stay a good person, respect your partner, be compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 09:38 AM
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I agree with you. I just avoid this because by insulting someone i dislike with an insecurity, i might also be targeting someone I like with that same insecurity. Using small dick, for example, might not mean Ibhate small dicked people, but it will signal to my small dicked friend that it is something to be ashamed of.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 11:58 PM
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Imagine if the US got tax funded prostitution before tax funded healthcare
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 06:26 PM
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Most women aren't having hedonistic lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 08:31 AM
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In my daily life, just existing? 0 attention from men. I mean, I don't really pay any attention if someone is checking me out or not, but nobody approaches. I do have suspicions that some of my male friends might have slight romantic interest in me, but nothing too outward. I attract a lot more women than men. I had a lot more crush confessions from my female friends than male ones. It makes sense, I present rather masculine which might a turnoff for a lot of guys. Dating is fairly easy in a sen…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 02:38 PM
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I suppose that works if you just want to "fuck women" and don't particularly care about the quality of those women. I often hear complaints about women not liking sensitive men or being gold diggers or whatever, but bro. Those are the women you are actively trying to attract.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 07:42 AM
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I mean, no, there's still plenty of cute guys out here. And wouldn't all the women be dating all three of those guys at the same time, if the theory was true?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 10:28 AM
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Maybe I'm just more into women, that's also possible
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 09:44 PM
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They aren't all rich or famous for sure because I know some of them personally
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 09:43 PM
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The reason why I don't believe the 20/80 thing is because I see unfortunate looking men with hotties all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 06:13 PM
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Anyone who is even mildly liked by women for any reason, according to my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 02:54 PM
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I don't know if she thought it's a good or bad thing, it wasn't indicated in the post at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 05:32 PM
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I'm not sure that was meant as a compliment rather than just a statement of fact. And I imagine "softer" as in their erections are just softer in general. Plush dicks or whatever. She didn't exactly elaborate, it was kinda wild :,D
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 08:42 AM
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My personal opinion/experience: I don't believe in it and I don't like big schlongs. P.S. followed a Japanese artist on twitter and she would sometimes post questions about """western men""" because she was in a fandom largely centered around Britain and once she legit asked if it's true that western men are "softer" when they're aroused. When the comments went "????" she claimed that it's something she read in one of her "how to please your western boyfriend" books. I am scared to think what th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 08:34 AM
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If you have an actual friendship with someone, you absolutely know if they're getting laid or not. Nobody does that. In fact, it's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 06:26 AM
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Okay, brother
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:54 PM
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I do a lot, i am a big time liar :D
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:49 PM
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But what is a chad-tier face? Does a kpop idol have a chad-tier face? Is it the same "type" as Henry Cavil?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 06:37 PM
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Idk man, it's tough to argue against a statement that women prefer Chads when Chad can mean anything. It seems that there truly are only two types of men: Chad and ugly. And women don't like ugly men, therefore, they only like one type of man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:59 PM
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I genuinely think that's not how most people understand "different types". Like I'm willing to bet, when an average person, be they male or female, hear "different types", they think of presentation, largely, no attractiveness level. A hairy bodybuilder and a skinny dancer will definitely register as "different types" to most people even if they're both conventionally attractive,.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:46 PM
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Okay, show me what you think is a feminine man and I will show you what I think one is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:42 PM
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>Yes but women argue that they have different "types", so logically different women would find different men attractive. But that's not what actually happens. I've had this conversation with men on here and it boils down to basically "you still want someone who is hot". Which... okay, I guess? Everyone will prefer someone who is hot. But when you say "Chad", a lot of women picture a big buff alpha who is confrontational, never cries, smells like whiskey and gasoline, etc etc. when in reality she…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 01:59 PM
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I think he is fully within his right to cut ties after rejection. Some people need that to properly move on. I don't agree with people who get pissy when a friend does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 04:54 PM
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>Translation: children get the leftovers after single mothers go on a shopping spree Is there any evidence anywhere, that single mothers by a large scale spend welfare money on shopping sprees? Or is it paranoia?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:07 PM
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I think you'll find that leftists are actively trying to make life more fair for others, like redistributing wealth, giving access to physical and mental health to more people, dismantling unhealthy societal roles, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 04:46 AM
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Women care significantly less about "being attractive enough for sex" because men, in their own words, would fuck 99% of women. For a woman being in the fuckzone means you have a pulse and look humanoid. According to men!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 10:39 AM
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Onset of visible puberty. Early teens, 12-14, give or take.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 11:24 AM
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He prob means shorts and a sports bra. And I gotta say, I hate that. Because I want less of their sweaty body touching the machines, not more, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 10:20 AM
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Never. I recognize when a person is objectively attractive. I have eyes. But I have never gone "awooooga" at a someone. My attraction to strangers is more like a fantasy of me and them having amazing chemistry. Lust only comes after.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:08 PM
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I have fallen in love with my friends whom I had no romantic feelings for prior. So I would disagree with your statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:37 PM
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I understand and even relate to your feelings of liking solitude. But I guess this is where our sexualities are very different. I don't want to grab strangers. And I know plenty of people who will relate more to me than to you when it comes to this. So, just saying, we exist :,D
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:36 PM
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You love spending time together, conversations flow easy, you feel like you can shed all masks with that person, you have matching interests, matching senses of humour, matching opinions on a variety of topics, matching habits and quirks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:34 PM
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>My point is, how is that any different than just a close friendship? I mean.. to me it isn't. And as a bisexual I sometimes struggle to understand how you all aren't in love with your besties all the time. But I accept I'm built different. I personally have never experienced instant lust to someone and it took chemistry, friendship and having a lot in common for me to want to get romantic with them. Does that make more sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:20 PM
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Why is it that hard to believe their partner fell in love with them because they have good chemistry and that significantly contributed to attractiveness? Do you think that never happens?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:02 PM
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You can care a lot or can care a normal amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:44 PM
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>They just don't see it anywhere near the same as a man being the one doing it. I'm just curious, but how so? How is it different?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:16 PM
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>Oh some people wouldn't even really count that. They would only really count being with a man. Technically woman on woman is sex so that would still count. I think those some people are homophobic :,D Why wouldn't it count? That's silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:50 PM
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Okay, but I wouldn't
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:11 PM
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>Yeah but im talking about dont know where to put it type of bad, lol. A man that has had it before will at least know that but men who are virgins could struggle even with the basic stuff. They probably have internet access, they can look up some basic anatomy charts :,D. Are there really grown men who don't even have an idea where to aim it? >So its not even close to the same way of being looked at. You definitely did him wrong if that's true because he would've probably been happy to know he …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:09 PM
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Yeah, that seem fair to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:42 PM
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Even guys i consider hot i wouldn't hook up with, anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 01:17 PM
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Part of self improvement is loving yourself and being hung up on whether or not other people like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 01:15 PM
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Plenty of people are bad without being virgins. My point was not to lie about being a sex god but just not being 100% honest about all your anxieties and insecurities. When i had sex for the first time, i didn't tell my partner I was a virgin. Partially because i didn't want them to have the honor of "deflowering me", lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:32 AM
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I sometimes struggle to tell if the person is more or less attractive than me. Sure with like.. model-tier people it's obvious, but regular people?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:58 AM
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My personal opinion is that it's fine to lie about things that won't cause any major harm. If admitting you're a virgin will cause distress/embarrassment/whatever, hell dude, just lie about it. Who cares. Nobody's gonna know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:56 AM
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I don't know if I believe that. One friend I have is fat. Not obese, but visibly thick. She's short too, so it's emphasized. She gets so much male attention, it's crazy. More than any of my thin friends. Men love her. And good-looking men, too. She's bubbly and funny and a joy, so I tend to think personality genuinely matters, even for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 04:47 PM
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I don't think many 20-y-olds are trying to get pregnant with old men, lol. But like I said, sperm quality starts to drop as early as 35. And it absolutely impacts pregnancy quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 04:42 PM
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We have research on this. Her pregnancy is likely going to be much more problematic and will increase risks of miscarriage, premature birth and worse baby health at birth and in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 04:38 PM
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>"But she has to be fertile because I want to continue my lineage!" Find it a bit unfair how men who say this completely disregard their own fertility. Sperm quality decreases with age. a 40-y-o woman impregnated by an 20-y-o and that same woman impregnated by a 60-y-o will have quite different pregnancies and health of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:15 PM
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In my experience it usually takes about a year for the person to reveal any red flags or unfortunate personality quarks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:03 AM
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Ooh, you're not allowed to say this here
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 08:20 AM
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Well yeah, the implication is that they're pretty much strangers. That's pretty normal, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 10:31 AM
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It's honestly a weird situation to me. But at least I'm glad OP stood his ground?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 10:11 AM
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He did threaten her when they were nearly at third Base 😭 I'm not saying that the woman had any rights to have sex with him just because he went to her place, but she 100% was under the impression he was reciprocating. I would say the same thing if it was a woman who did absolutely nothing to reject a man coming on to her and then went to his place. It's just very confusing behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 10:01 AM
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So you welcome the behavior but still want to use it as a "gotcha"? Did you ever explicitly reject her, even?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 09:44 AM
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Just show me what you think an average man looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 09:14 AM
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If a man is experiencing deep emotional anguish in that situation there is something wrong with him and she is probably losing zero sleep over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 08:22 AM
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I can't reply to all of that right now, but i stand by a few points. Misogynistic men often pose physical danger to women they hate and that is a more immediate threat than being emotionally abused over years. Emotionally abuse is bad and men should absolutely learn to call it out. Support your friends. I know I do. Men should look out for their mental health. Create movements if you have to. I promise you many women will support you. A mentally healthy man is a less violent man, after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 09:22 PM
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Women are compromising by staying single with cats when they can't get the Chad of their dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 09:15 PM
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Is it though? I don't see women shooting up university campuses nearly as much as men. And when university campuses do get shot up, it's rarely women that rile behind said shooter online. And the majority of men don't make the majority of laws, the majority of men aren't violent attackers I know, I'm not claiming that all men are evil. I don't think that. I actually like men. Funny fact that, it's acruakly mothers, not fathers, who tell their sons that boys don't cry. Women absolutely perpetuate…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 08:47 PM
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Misandry kills way more than misogyny, it's just that misandry kills men and nobody gives a fuck about men, so male victims don't count. While I agree that male victims matter and I absolutely support their support, it's not really misandry perpetuated by women that kills those men. Women don't make the majority of laws, they aren't the majority of violent attackers and they aren't the majority of rapists that assault men. They're not the ones telling boys groomed by teachers to "be proud" and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 07:56 PM
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OP sounds young and impressionable and I'm sorry he feels that way, truly. Feeling genuinely hateful towards 50% of the population is not fun. But I can't help but think back to the phrase "misandry hurts feelings, but misogyny kills women".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 07:31 PM
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It's not a red flag, but it's an ick to me, personally. I don't like people who constantly lust after randos. Men or women. I want you to be picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 06:51 PM
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I know, but people here tend to deman "sources" for every little thing and get pissed when you present personal anecdotes, so
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 06:38 PM
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Thats true, some people have mentioned that in other comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 05:29 PM
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Most women I know wouldn't. I would probably lose all attraction to them if they're shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 04:18 PM
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Yeah, that goes back to someone else's comment about them finding a diamond in the rough and thinking of them as "one of the good ones".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 02:10 PM
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Misandrist women usually insist on being "strong and independent" because that goes against the cultural narrative of women needing to settle with a husband to be fulfilled. They might turn to political lesbianism and start dating other misandrist women. Women don't seem to need men for sex as much, too. They get by. Misogynistic men, on the other hand, still often tie their status and self-worth to their success with women. It seems like a power thing. I recall seeing on one of these pill forum…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 01:55 PM
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Well I know many women who would prefer that 🤷🤷🤷🤷 I feel like you guys have infinite excuses, you want to just be effortlessly beautiful and yeah, we all do, but reality is that most people have to put in effort. Women kinda do by default.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 01:43 PM
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I don't have official statistics, but the women who despise men most likely are not dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 12:55 PM
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>being bald or have hard Hair loss is out of the control for men, getting the head shaved is damage control not solving the problem So is make up, so are push-up bras, so are high heels. Aren't most types of grooming and presenting "damage control"? Who are the lucky few who look absolutely stunning the moment they get out of bed? Women do absolutely crazy shit to look more presentable. They get fillers, lased hair removal, permanent make-up, waxing, false eyelashes, hair extensions, etc etc. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 10:27 AM
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>a mean waering make up could be killed on the streets on some parts of the world.... You can be killed for just being a woman in those same parts of the world. What now? Are you in those parts of the world? Probably not. Do you want *all* women to like you? That's never going to happen. But a bald man definitely gives a better impression than a man with an unfortunate balding pattern. That's a thing you can do to make yourself more attractive and it's within your control. That's what OP is abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 10:13 AM
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Well then why the hell do yall cling to it like it's the only thing that matters? I'd say it's height for either sex is probably the only thing outside of their control. I'm disregarding height surgeries because they're insane. In my eyes so many thing are within your control to be more attractive. Even having a more unique fashion sense goes *a long way*. And that just takes a few hours on pinterest and maybe 100$ for some new outfits.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 10:09 AM
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Women might *prefer* taller men, but men of all heights get married and date. Are you really claiming that all men shorter than 175 are single and sexless? A well-groomed charismatic short king is probably more attractive than a tall shut-in who's boring and doesn't trim his beard. It's not black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 10:02 AM
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Just shave and be bald. Women love that. Looks mature. Just hide your chin with a beard. looks great, especially with the bald look. Don't get muscular, just don't be fat. Most men aren't muscular. Don't eat that cake, you arms won't be skinny because of natural testosterone. Wear make up, you're allowed to. Put a dab of concealer under your eyes, you'll look like you get 8 hrs of sleep.} "waaaaaah, that's not enoughhhh" it's infinitely better than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 09:59 AM
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Who to doesn't work nowadays? How rich should the man have to be to be the "provider"?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 07:59 AM
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Mustache isn't that rare of a flaw. Balding can be fixed easily with shaving. A lot of women have a flat butt independently of her weight. Recessed chin oh a dude can be easily fixed with a beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 07:54 AM
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Btw, literally just came across this. https://www.vanguardngr.com/2025/08/women-now-undergo-extreme-surgery-in-turkey-to-reduce-their-height/ Probably still very niche, but an existing enough issue to warrant this.. existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:54 PM
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She is chubby, she just looks like that. No visible waistline even when she does get slimmer. It's just that I felt the post was disingenuous because you described the women as being attractive on purpose. Even the language you used shows that. "Thunder thighs" instead of "fat". Positive vs. neutral (if not negative coded).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:22 PM
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But you are purposefully describing an attractive short girl. What if instead of "thunder thighs" she has thin legs, no butt and a big stomach? Sure, there will probably be plenty of men willing to fuck her because men, according to their own words, will fuck ugly women. But is that really a good thing for her? What if I describe her brother as having "dark hunter eyes", nice pecks and a face like Dave Franco? I bet his height would be no issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 06:15 PM
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>The same is not true for conventionally unattractive male traits like being short, being non-muscular, having a weak jaw, being bald, having wide hips/narrow shoulders etc. Traits like this are tolerated at best, but exceedingly rarely, if ever, preferred. That's bullshit and you know it. There are niches for men too. You really think there aren't freaky women who are into bald dudes? You think "being non-muscular" is a niche?? And please, show me how big the niche of *men* wanting a woman spec…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 05:50 PM
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"Puddle drinker"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 05:21 PM
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I asked that guy to show me a picture of what he thinks an 'average man" is and he didn't :,) I really want to know what that looks like!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 05:20 PM
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It boils my blood a bit when "virgin" is used as insult. Honestly I think we should call it out more. I certainly try.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 05:06 PM
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I do! God knows a lot of men end up shorter than me anyway :D I come from a country with the tallest women in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 05:04 PM
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Tall girls have their own struggles. They are told by the world that they will never be cute, dainty and feminine and a lot of them grow up insecure. Some of us like a short king though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:50 PM
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Ironically, the ones that are icked by tall women are huge, buff guys. It's the fear of being emasculated by their gals.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:42 PM
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I'm sorry you have to go through this, truly. I hope you're able to find happiness in other outlets.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:37 PM
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The latter. It seems like a lot of people feel that they *need* to be in a relationship. Be it social reasons or financial. Looks up amatonormativity. I genuinely think a lot more people would be happier if we didn't push relationships so much onto them. Men wouldn't measure their worth by how many gfs they've had, for one. But that's my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:36 PM
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>certainly more uniform than men's. I think you can say the same for men's preferences. Things are not preferable, but tolerated in female partners: Taller than them Visible facial hair Masc face Narrow hips Wide shoulders (masc figure, let's just say) Flat butt Apple bodytype Cellulite >next to zero women explicitly prefer them I legit like small penis 😭😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:31 PM
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But doesn't everyone settle to a degree? If you decide to marry someone, you're basically saying "this will do". I kinda doubt most people think that this person is objectively the best ever partner in the world. No, it's just the best ever partner that they think they will find.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:15 PM
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I believe it's very common, unfortunately. And it sucks so much. I think it makes everybody miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:14 PM
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Those Korean pop idols are quite popular and they aren't particularly "traditionally masculine". I know some guys here will fight me trying to prove that as long as a man doesn't have child-bearing hips, he's very masculine, but we all know what we mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 09:49 PM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:56 PM
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It's kinda my only option. I work from home, most of my friends are introverted nerds and I live in a relatively small city so we don't get a lot of conventions and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:37 PM
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Well I'm a nerd and I won't go outside
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:36 PM
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Well, they're not on Tinder :[
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:03 PM
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Clearly not "all" women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 06:00 PM
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Oh, fair enough, lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 05:52 PM
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I don't know why you're bringing femboys into this. You can be effeminate and not be a femboy. Think of a typical twinky bottom. I feel like "femboy" is such a fetish-charged term, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 05:47 PM
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This guy: https://www.tiktok.com/@onlycruelmir/video/7530719696342174984?q=%D1%87%D1%82%D0%BE%20%D1%8F%20%D0%B3%D0%BE%D0%B2%D0%BE%D1%80%D1%8E%2C%20%D1%87%D1%82%D0%BE%20%D1%81%D0%BB%D1%8B%D1%88%D0%B0%D1%82&t=1757526230020
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 05:45 PM
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Where does one find those female-attracted femboys?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 05:43 PM
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Good for you :D I prefer bi men, but will settle with a straight one if he's weirdly into Star Wars fanfiction with me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 05:21 PM
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I don't know how much of an outlier I am, but I genuinely like feminine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 04:13 PM
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I'm not implying you're lying, I'm implying you have a very skewed vision of yourself. Al from ToyStory *looks* like just a man. His character is sleazy and unlikable, but if I saw a man like that on the street I wouldn't really think anything. Listen, I know it's hard when you have a very low self-esteem and when you're neurodivergent. It makes you take even the slightest iota of rejection as a personal failure. But genuinely, *genuinely* I've see funky looking guys get wives and girlfriends. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:32 PM
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Can you show me what you think a "normal guy" is vs. what a "super model but normal according to women" is? I want to learn how others see the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 03:00 PM
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I have seen genuinely unfortunate-looking guys with quite cute girlfriends. I know people here despise anecdotes, but idk what else to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:48 PM
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I don't believe you. To be "sub 0" you have to be like.. disfigured. I remember going through a thread of self-proclaimed repulsively ugly men and... honestly, all of them were just guys. Some were fat guys who couldn't dress well, but still just guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:46 PM
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Yeah, it's kinda the same with crooked teeth. Every time I see someone praise crooked teeth it's always the perfectly symmetrical vampire fangs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:21 PM
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There are enough misogynistic men out there, unfortunately. But also we do live in a society. Men are pressured to appear Big and Strong next to their woman and if she's taller than him, it becomes harder. Ironically it seems like it's the big buff guys that feels the most insecure next to tall women and it's shorties who demand their man to be 6feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:13 PM
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That's because men generally have less attention from women than women do from men, so they're willing to settle. They silently pray she is shorter than them, but it's *fine* if she isn't, as long she isn't too masc because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 12:32 PM
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Okay, but when someone says "I like all sorts of people" they obviously still mean people who are attractive and fun (to them) to be around. Who likes boring ugly people? I mean, someone might for weird control reasons, but the vast majority will gravitate towards those that can entertain them somewhat. "Entertainment" doesn't have to be loud and excessive, but someone who stimulates them in some way, be it mental or physical or whatever. That being said, more quite guys who maybe like to stay h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 11:39 AM
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(in a person) the quality of being appealing or sexually alluring to look at.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 11:29 AM
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They are very introverted, have trouble holding a conversation and mostly rely on OLD where there's little other than your photos (not even your looks, but photos) for people to judge. Again, anecdotal, but I have several male friends who are short and kinda unkempt, but they have no problem getting women because they are so damn funny and pleasant to be around. Would they have even more success if they were male models? Sure, but I genuinely believe that if you're charismatic, you can score dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 11:10 AM
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I don't think anyone has ever disagreed that people are attracted to.. attractive people? How is that news?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 10:12 AM
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Women generally universally want their man to be taller than them. Just like men universally want their woman to be shorter than them. AND YET there are both men and women who prefer the opposite. But we're not talking about outliers. When I say "different men", I mean that some women will prefer a big lumberjack type, while others want a skinny artsy one who paints her portraits, while others want a chiseled well put together daddy in a nice sweater. Yes they are all attractive but in different…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 10:12 AM
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I disagree! They are very different and clearly demonstrate the difference in tastes when it comes to "attractive people". If they're both rich and famous, why do some people prefer one over the other? And what exactly do they have in common?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 10:07 AM
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Women like "differently attractive" men. If you are obese, unkempt, with a crooked nose and balding, way less women will find you instantly attractive. It's not difficult. Are you "different" or just "ugly"?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 09:35 AM
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Why is that silly proof? It clearly illustrates that when men have appeal in the form of being famous, their looks-based attractiveness becomes varied. Timothy Chalamet and Henry Cavill have very different presentation styles, yet both are considered heartthrobs. Turn them into normal people and put both in a room and I would 100% be more into Timothy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:47 AM
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Again, zero proof What proof do you want, exactly? Different-looking men being listed after? That's happening in the celebrity world all the time. That's happening in fiction all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:33 AM
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Do you think there are women wanting to date 5ft tall men? You think there isn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:26 AM
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There's overlap, there's a bell curve, but you can't possibly argue that all women have exactly the same preferences when it comes to male partners. Sure, pretty much everyone prefers their partner to be "hot", but what means will vary.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:25 AM
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I mean friends dont care as someone who loves u do I absolutely care like that about my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:53 PM
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Well, to me my spouse is literally a friend I have sex with and want to kiss.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:50 PM
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Well, it's the default desired outcome for marriage, is it not? Till death do us part?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:25 PM
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Relationships are exclusive. If I could have an exclusive friend forever who wouldn't leave me, I would
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:21 PM
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Being in a happy marriage with easy children > Being single > Being in a bad marriage with children. I think it's more or less like that for most women. But most women won't get the "happy marriage with easy children".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:45 PM
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I'd probably be a volcel. I can't find anyone worthy of Amazing Me now, what would being an Empress change, really?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:15 PM
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"Take a shower and be funny" is good advice if you want to attract "most women" tbh. Luke I'm honestly not sure what else men want. "There are men who are not funny and stink but still get women" they probably look like Henry Cavill. Is "look like Henry Cavill" better advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:10 PM
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Hey I'm one of the "not everybody"! :D I genuinely love feminine men. Long hair, thin, """submissiveness""", i like it when he lets me take charge. I know it's unusual, but it has always made dating men a but difficult for me, since they all believe they have to be Chad with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 08:59 AM
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Okay, but "be hot" is always good advice. A hot needy guy is always more attractive than an ugly needy guy. Is an ugly needy guy preferable to a hot guy with 0 interests in common? To me, personally, yes, but I can't speak for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 11:05 AM
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>I never did. I'm bisexual So am I and I can totally see why someone would want to cut ties with a friend they're in love with. The "friendzone" is just Person A having feelings and confessing to person B, while Person B can't return those feelings, but likes person A enough as a friend. That's literally it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:46 PM
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Different women like different things. You should be dating women that like the same things as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 06:25 PM
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He also wouldn’t be able to change his mind down the line if he suddenly decides he wants to be a part of his child’s life. I feel like that would be depriving the child of a potential connection to their father. We want to encourage men to participate in their children's life, no use those same children as punishment for the father, despite how flaky and dead beat he might be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 12:30 PM
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Unfortunately for everyone, men cannot get pregnant. So the issue of preganacy will never affect them. Aborting a fetus is about the woman's bodily autonomy. It's an entirely separate issue from becoming a parent. Once the child is born, both parents are on the hook. The father can take full custody while the mother pays child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 12:22 PM
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Are you going to be okay raising her without women in her life?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 04:12 PM
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Can we stop measuring real world dynamics by Tinder stats? Meeting people irl is not at all like swiping on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:54 AM
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What if you have a daughter
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 07:13 AM
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Are you implying the "nice guys" who complain about not getting dates for being good are disfigured on the same level as this woman? No, "good people" most people talk about in this thread look perfectly average. You're arguing in bad faith. Also it's not like this woman is a social pariah, people understand that it's rude to openly be hostile to her and she's earned respect in her career and public life. She's bullied by mostly trolls online behind a guise of anonymity
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 09:42 PM
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Okay, if you're genuinely good, there's no chance you never receive any reward for it. Good people are liked, even if not always romantic, they are liked. People want to be around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 08:26 PM
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I have the pick of the bunch on Tinder at 33. It's too bad none of them are as autistic as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:19 AM
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This post is revenge fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:08 AM
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I don't agree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 12:14 PM
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Yeah, but that's not enough to sustain a stable romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 11:56 AM
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Okay, but those rules are so broad they can apply to anything. You're unattractive to person A because of your huge muscles. You're attractive to person B because of your huge muscles. You're unattractive to person C because of your interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:02 AM
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>(Hetero relationship) Why only hetero?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 09:57 PM
1

Hire a hooker
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:35 PM
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Yeah, it's still gross even if the genders are reversed. Like... it's non of my business but if asked, I would tell that young man to seriously reconsider and would probably say he is making a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:44 PM
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Third is to limit the range to only 100 miles and you aren’t allowed to change your city for 6 months. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:26 PM
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People (mostly men) need to come to terms with the fact that alone ≠ lonely, build better friend networks, stop living an amatonormative life and respect themselves. She didn't swipe on you - her loss. Moving on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:11 PM
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Yep. So read bios, put effort into your own and by god do not swipe right on a woman who's clearly living a completely different lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:44 PM
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As a woman, same tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:45 PM
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Good mindset 🤌
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:37 PM
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I read a theory that human females have perpetually swollen breasts (unlike virtually all other mammals) to make males think they are nursing, hence triggering a protective instinct. Dunno how true that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:25 PM
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As a bisexual woman, yes, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:21 PM
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I'm not sure I understand what you mean. I've gone through periods where I had no friends too. But I cannot imagine being "friends" with someone who does not, at the very least, share my interests? What is even the point then? I would be miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:17 PM
3

Damn, well, women it is, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:11 PM
7

This makes me so depressed, honestly. If I am to date a man I want him to be my best friend. I want him to genuinely care for the things I care about. If he's just there treating my interests and values as background noise while on standby waiting for sex, then... that's terrible. I really hope you do not speak for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:26 AM
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Are you seriously suggesting people live in weird bubbles like this where one's friends have such commonalities? Do you? How does that even come about? Wait, so.. your friends are not similar to you in interests, beliefs and income?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:24 AM
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I tend to disagree with that. Sexuality will fade with time with most people. And if you then find out that you can't even chill together, then you start feeling like you wasted years of life. For women, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:23 AM
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Newborn babies need to eat every two hours or so. Including nighttime. They will demand food in the middle of the night. Just for perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:52 PM
17

Weaponizing???
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 02:09 PM
6

I wholeheartedly disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 09:00 AM
22

I really don't agree in case of dating. Genuinely, I think being alone is better than being with someone "just cause".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 05:36 PM
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I think dating someone you're not attracted to is harmful mentally for both yourself and your partner. Why would you do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 03:38 PM
5

Pedro Pascal is a rom com hero? I thought he's more of action star now. Plus, he makes up not being a hottie by constantly pandering to Liberal women with LGBTQ allyship. People are convinced he's "such a wonderful guy".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 10:23 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:17 PM
1

I got free cocktails at a bar last week
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:28 PM
3

King 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 07:22 PM
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Yeah, I'm with you. Besides, there's scientific evidence for reasons why a surprising number of straight men like dick. But the difference is they like it on a woman. They need it to be a woman. A man doesn't trigger the same feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:30 AM
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I think that most humans are bisexual. To one degree or another. 100% straight and 100% gay people are outliers. I don't have much to back this up. To prove this we would need some inhumane experiments. But I think it's very possible. I id as bisexual, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:42 PM
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I think that either party should be able to opt out of child support if they give up right to custody. Custody means squat, tho. Plenty if actual fathers make 0 decisions about their kid even though they have custody - the mother does. Obviously if you "paper abort", you can no longer make any decisions about the child - the child isn't yours. I heard some people propose an outright ban on even seeing your kid if you don't pay child support, but that's weird and punishing both for the man and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:40 PM
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I think that most humans are bisexual. To one degree or another. 100% straight and 100% gay people are outliers. I don't have much to back this up. To prove this we would need some inhumane experiments. But I think it's very possible. I id as bisexual, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:10 PM
2

Would you be okay with slightly increased taxes to provide for children with absent fathers?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 12:13 PM
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you must be big and very muscular , have a stoic face , be serious , always be ready to fight , drive a sports cars and never let anyone even look at you funnily. Speaking for myself, I simply do not like these types of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 12:33 PM
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I feel like we have to acknowledge the fact that it's a trashy reality show. I'm 99% sure all participants agreed beforehand who would "cheat" and who wouldn't, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:36 PM
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It's this study here: https://openknowledge.worldbank.org/server/api/core/bitstreams/b60c615b-09e7-46e4-84c1-bd5f4ab88903/content I haven't read it, so I'm not claiming anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:33 PM
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So apparently, there are only 14 of such countries. USA is not part of that list. My country is, however. I'm not entirely sure what that means, but if anyone is curious, it's food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:06 AM
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That is such a weird thing to cling to, to me. The 600lb life women are few and far between, they rarely go out, I have never seen a person like ever in my life. Why would you fixate on that even? It would be like me describing "short men", but what I mean is actually men with dwarfism.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:45 PM
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Has happened to me, though my story didn't have as happy of an ending :,D
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:34 PM
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The whole "nobody wants fat chicks" needs to go. I know this is very anecdotal, but I have a friend. She's chubby. Not obese, but noticeably fat. She's also short, so it's pretty obvious. She's very charismatic and fun, to the point where even I developed a crush on her. She is surrounded by male attention. And those are attractive men, too. Tall, athletic, well-groomed, they love her. She has never had an issue attracting men. Men, who I'm sure can get """""better women""""".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:32 PM
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why don’t men fall in love with fat chicks and single moms for their amazing personality? They do? All the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:28 PM
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I don't know what you're talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:15 AM
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Well the main reason I can think of is someone who will be there for you when times are tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:30 PM
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I did not say it's wrong, I just said I would reject them. Because I'm out with friends and I want them to have my full attention, not a stranger. And what place would you deem apropriate? At the very least when I'm alone and not clearly in the middle of something. Obligatory disclaimer: I only speak for myself, blah blah blah
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:35 PM
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I only go to bars with friends to have drinks and have fun. I have never been approached. I don't know if it's a cultural thing or if I'm unapproachable, but I would 100% reject anyone who tried. I'm not there for that. Tbh, I don't understand how bars are so much better than dating apps. In fact, I think they're worse. You still pick based on appearance, without knowing anything about the person. On dating apps at least you can filter based on interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:44 AM
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I won’t know if she’s wearing false eyelashes Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:25 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:22 AM
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You don't want the assurance that it's your child. You want to wash your hands of the consequences of accusing your wife of cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:50 AM
2

bi-boyfiend Bifriend!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:37 PM
1

sturrgle Struggle is not the same as no prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:31 PM
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Literally everybody does. There are people on fucking my 600lb life who have girfriends. There are men in wheelchairs who cannot control their bowels who have wives. There's no way an average man is that reoulsive he cannot find anyone. Anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 07:14 PM
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Im happy single
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:46 PM
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Well yes, of course. I agree with you in that close bonds are very important. People whobhave nobody are miserable and i love my friends to death. I disagree that romantic relationships are the most important thing ever. I think it's amatonormativity in action.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:44 PM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:41 PM
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for any reason Some reasons are homophobic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:31 PM
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I am otherwise attracted to this person, but have genital preference and would feel uncomfortable with sex and sex is important to me = preference. I am attracted to this person and want to date them until the moment I find out they're trans and trans people are kinda ickyyyyy = transphobic. I am attracted to this man and want to date him, but he has been promiscuous in the past with both men and women and I prefer a less experienced partner = preference. I am attracted to this man and want to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 04:31 PM
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Because gay and ace men are fundamentally incompatible sexually with a supposedly straight woman. It's the "you can't give me what I need" thing. A bi man is still attracted to women and still has sex drive to match his woman. What would be the reasoning to not date a bi man if not homophobia?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:52 PM
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What if your straight partner craves to at least once try what's like to cheat? What's like with a hooker? What's it like with a horse? What if? Him being a cheater has no bearing on his sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:52 PM
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But bi man is more likely to be promiscous. What if said bi man has only had 1 female partner? But oops, you excluded him because he's bi. This is why it makes no sense. feelings don't have to be logical. But they can be bigoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:45 PM
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But with bisexual men there is that extra concern. Again, it makes no sense to single out bi men specifically, when their group can be just as diverse as straight men. You wouldn't date a promiscuous man. Him being bi should be irrelevant. I just FEEL bad about it. Hmm
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:39 PM
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But bisexual can cheat even if he loves you for that totaly different experience. That is nonsense. Why aren't you as equally concerned about his potential female partners? Or can you really give him all the sexual experiences? Assuming he will betray your trust even when he loves because dick is just that tempting to him is.. not it, chief.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:35 PM
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Bisexual of both genders feeling pressure to "choose a side" and "not feeling queer enough" is a real thing. And god forbid you sexuality shifts a little or you discover more about yourself later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 03:22 PM
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Homophobia. Most people are quite traditional in their views, even if they're not openly homophobic. Subconsciously, to Most women, a man who's willing to ha e sex with other men is "less masculine", "not man enough", "tainted" even. Some go even as far as to say a bi man is "basically gay" and a woman being left for a man is horribly humiliating. On the contrary, most see bi women as "basically straight", just willing to have threesomes. It's an "All roads lead to dick" scenario. Which sucks, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:30 PM
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I'm sorry, i just disagree. I am very happy single. I cannot see myself entering a relationship unless it's near perfect. Ifbit was truly one of the most important things, then I should be more miserable, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:23 AM
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We want Zigagiz Ah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:16 PM
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Sure, but all these posts seem to have a problem with people just criticizing age gaps. I haven't seen anyone asking for age gaps to be illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:15 PM
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It's absolutely diabolical to lie to your partner about being on birth control, but men also can just say "no, the condom stays on". It's not like they have no choice, lmao. Men should definitely take control over their own safety when it comes to sex. Even if you do trust the pill, condoms are just another level of safety, ya'know. Just in case. I see nothing wrong with insisting on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:23 PM
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Don't know the full statistics, but I'm willing to bet my left ear that most 12-16 y/O kids of all genders are largely molested by men, still. So idk why you're trying tobuse the teacher thing as an argument against what I said. In any case, not that it matters. Molesting a kid is still molesting a kid, whether you're a female teacher or not. And those women should definitely be punished accordingly. On a side note, people (mostly men, may I add) should probably stop calling those boys "lucky" o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:11 PM
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Yes, it's still sus
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:56 AM
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They're more common. I think even the top-tier successful women are less interested in dating young boys than rich top-tier men are in young girls. Doesn't mean it's not problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:42 AM
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You said it hits them harder, but if a 50-y-o woman still has 99+ matches on a dating app within a day without trying much, is it even noticeable, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:29 AM
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No, sus if you're a woman too
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:27 AM
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I don't think age gap relationships should be illegal, but I am within my right to think of them as sus. And potentially label you as kinda weird in my head if you're a 40-y-o man dating an 18-y-o.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:19 AM
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My mother was in her 50ies when she downloaded Tinder for the first time. She's not awful-looking or anything, but she had just finished cancer treatment not too long ago and was still recovering (had good hair tho). She had so many matches. With half-decent men, too. Men are looking for women at all ages, I think. There's never a shortage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:53 AM
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Of course. I'm in my mid 30s, I can't be too young for all those women in their 40s No, you might be. I'm sorry to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:49 AM
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I want to be a female hyena
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:44 AM
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I understand that societaly, we've created a living situation for men where their only real connection comes from a romantic partner. Yeah, I agree with this and it's tragic. I really wish men would stop basing their worth on having sexual partners. I wish they had good support network of friends. It's truly important.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 04:22 PM
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I'm not proving anyone's point, lol. It's just my advice to men who complain that "women don't go for feminine men and demand rigid gender dynamics". Bi women are your answer. They will bridal carry you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:15 PM
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Those are bisexual women you're talking about. For real.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:53 AM
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I would much rather we remove the nonsense stigmas around "small dicks" and stop body-shaming men. Then again, if we lived in a perfect society, nobody would ever feel the need to get cosmetic procedures. So sure, if a safe procedure existed, why not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 03:56 PM
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Not to me. I have a thing for small pp. Genuinely. Side-question: for some reason, based off of what I’ve seen online, the overwhelming majority of women think 8 inches​【20 cm】 is the ideal size. Those women are virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:51 AM
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not be much of a talker You're just going to sit in silence with her then?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 11:45 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn’t custody basically mean medical and educational decisions, for the most part? Like the kid can still have dad on speed dial. The kid can still know dad is there for them. The dad could still take the kid out to the park/ballet/pick them up from school/call every day. The kid can still carry the keys to Dad's house in case they need to. The idea that no custody = cannot interact with child is just... weird to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:18 PM
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They don't normally do. But when the do do comment on your size, they're trying their best to compliment you. Because women know men like to feel big and strong, usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 01:54 PM
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Noooo, we don't wanna help you jerk off 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:36 AM
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No. I've been married 15 years and hahaha absolutely not. That's kinda sad
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:00 PM
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I will never understand this from women. "I feel so safe when I'm with you" - safe from WHAT? Who is after you babe? What the fuck did you do?! When a woman says that, she doesn't mean that she's expecting to be attacked by wolves. She means she feels comfortable around you - she feels like she doesn't have to perform, to hide her ""ugly"" side, her quirks, doesn't feel on edge. She trusts that you like the real her. Have you never been with someone who makes you think "everything will be alrigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 10:28 PM
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Definitely not a requirement, but is nice. Not every month, tho. Feels a bit like cluttering. If we insist on gifts, it can be something virtual, like a piece of digital art or an in-game item.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 07:33 AM
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Paying for first dates No Buying flowers weekly without asking Sure, why not. 'Sidewalk rule' Wouldn't even notice Opening the door for her always Don't care that much Pulling out the chair for her before she gets seated Don't care that much Gifts every month or two What gifts? Useful stuff? Can we afford it? Can I afford to give equal gifts back?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 07:28 AM
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The person who got sex was in the right place at the right time and I was feeling experimental. After I decided I do not like ONS and hookups, nobody gets sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:10 PM
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Idk man, I can only judge for myself, but I would never hook up or enter in fwb relationship. We're either dating or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 02:25 PM
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Yellow flag. Not being in a relationship itself isn't an issue, but if he's older, it's definitely an eyebrow raiser. Is he aromantic? Acoustic? Haven't found the one?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 08:47 PM
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we need to advocate for male outside of feminism's patriarchy ideology Honestly, sure. I think men should. Forget about patriarchy, forget about feminism. Please, focus on men's mental health, focus on male DV victims, focus on male suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 06:31 PM
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Feminists also actively protested against gender neutral rape laws to the point where it had to be cancelled. The article doesn't say that it's cancelled, just that it faced opposition from a few women's groups in India. Here's some feminists fighting for men in India: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-38647822 Feminists had a female rapist, torturer and murderer as a guest speaker in one of their women's rights rallies I googled around for her and it appears that she served 27 years for…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 06:29 PM
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I know your first argument is the army, but plenty of feminists want women in the army and think that if draft is to take place, women should be part of it. Plenty of women condemn female rapists and argue that they should get longer sentences and it's mostly women that are appalled when a female teacher rapes an underage male student. You rarely see organized effort by men for men, usually when it's a male issue, it's still women that are the most vocal demanding change.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 05:13 PM
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You think women don't perpetuate patriarchy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 02:05 PM
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Guys, you feeling like you need to make 6 figures to attract a woman is a result of patriarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 01:08 PM
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I always feel weird about my answers to these questions, because I always feel like a massive pussy when I think about it. Be kind to me, and gentle. As in, like, make me feel like, safe and... I don't know how to put it. Mentally comfortable? It's embarrassing, but just hold me every now and again. Play with my hair. Whatever you call it when a partner does that. Like, they can make your heart rate slow down and your back muscles untense for what feels like the first time in your life. I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:37 PM
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I agree. Being with women feels.. I don't want to say "more genuine" but it feels like more of a holistic experience. I was more eager to believe that the woman likes me for the real me and not just for being a woman. Kinda like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:53 PM
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Nah, dude, I genuinely hope you stop being bitter. I notice a lot of people come on here to vent and snap at people. If it helps it helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 11:38 AM
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I'm sorry, but to me that reads as a compliment. Husband, who I want to spend the rest of my life with is >>>> One night stand where we fuck and I forget.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 11:32 AM
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Alright, I hope you find peace
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 11:31 AM
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Date short and broke girls. I don't know what to tell you, men with your description in my life date and have girfriends. And they're don't walk 10k or fix cars. Being autistic does hurt, but like any mental condition it's something we live with and it's nobody's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 10:40 AM
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One of the hottest things a person can have is a passionate hobby. You sound like a multifaceted person, I don't know why women wouldn't like it. Also, why does it matter? You became a better version of yourself. That also has to feel nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 10:29 AM
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They're just imagining their own miserable scenarios in their head and blaming women for them, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 10:13 AM
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This thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 10:07 AM
2

You can be a virgin and have had dated in the past
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:10 PM
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A lot of men do want to get married. In any case, again, in my experience, "husband material" has always been an exceptional compliment. I believe it can be said in a negative context, but I really believe that for most women it is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:31 PM
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Why is being a virgin specifically matters here? Can a non-virgin meet a man and fantasize about marrying him?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:07 PM
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Yeah, I don't understand this at all. I'd rather be wife material than hookup material. I'd rather be the one the man wants to wine and dine and father children with than a piece of meat. I don't think I will ever understand how "husband material" is an insult. Every time I heard a woman call someone "husband material" it has been because she really, really liked him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 07:56 PM
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I'm sorry, but to me that reads as a compliment. Husband, who I want to spend the rest of my life with is >>>> One night stand where we fuck and I forget.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:52 PM
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Fast Food dates Girl those are the best 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:11 PM
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I think submissive men are hot
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:10 PM
2

Do you want to be with them? Instead of looking for a better woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 03:49 PM
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Do you honestly want to be with those women?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 03:37 PM
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no one really cares about the bios. That is untrue. Source: I also talk to people. I have also used dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 03:30 PM
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I read bios too. And I refuse to swipe on people with empty bios, no matter how "hot" they are. Worse than no bio is probably a "just ask :)" bio.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 03:29 PM
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This is exactly the attitude that gives me 0 excitement whenever a match with a guy. Because 9 times out of 10 he didn't even look at my profile, he just swiped on me like he's shuffling a deck of cards. Why should I message him first? Why should I be interested in a conversation with him? Sometimes you want to feel like the person that you matched with genuinely liked you, instead of being just a number for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 03:27 PM
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Second one seems like a comfy life, tbh. I'm willing to bet a lot of men will be apprehensive of the whole "virgin" thing, but dude, compared to option No 1 it seems like a no-brainer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:56 PM
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yeah, we're not ready for that as a society, but I see nothing wrong with a bit of concealer on that pimple you git this morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:02 PM
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If you are actively dating why not see them as a potential partner? A partner to me is a friend I sleep with and share my future with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:01 PM
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They're grieving, looking for a rebound or are the type to be completely dependent on the relationship and demand I be around them 24/7. Which is something I cannot deal with, I'm just not that type of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:28 PM
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Then we don't become partners. Please don't be under the assumption that just because I want to be friends with someone, it somehow lowered my attraction to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:25 PM
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My partner has to be my friend. If he doesn't fit as a friend, he will not fit as a partner. Might not make sense to you, but that's what I prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:04 PM
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Making sure to drop his very recent singleness in the conversation repeatedly. (It's always a recent singleness. He just got dumped and he's so sad and is such a passionate person who is not used to being alone). Red flag to me, personally. Not a fan of people who can't handle being by themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:03 PM
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he may touch your arm or jewelry randomly while you're sat together at the table That's pretty universal flirting and an attempt to "escalate" a little. When a man does this on the first date, you know by the end of the night he's going to want to make out, if not more, so adjust accordingly. not because that's what he necessarily wants to talk about (ironically) but because he has to exert a sexual frame so as to not be friendzoned. See, I would be very turned off by this. I don't know and don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:00 PM
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Fair! In any case the principle is to split the bill, but in a fun way :D
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:32 PM
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(as in the first few months ) Separate everything, including homes. Treat each other when we hang out. (once you both commit ) 50:50 on rent/utilities if we live together. Food is a bit of a gray area, I wouldn't want to be too anal about it and count pennies, so we would generally keep in my mind our expenses? Like you bought groceries this week, I'll do it next week, etc. and after you have kid/s (also answer if you plan on being childfree ) We'd be married, I assume. I'd still want to work an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:24 PM
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I don't think so. I already mentioned in your other thread how women aren't afraid of gay men or strong women. But if those demographics were known for causing women grief, I'm sure they would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:28 AM
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Physical strength alone is not why women are scared of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 10:46 AM
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Plus, men can also do all those things. Maybe not heavy make-up, but they can absolutely get cute outfits, put on a little concealer and style their hair. It elevates their appearance so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:30 AM
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Tbh, I'd prefer if she doesn't squirt. Not my preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:26 AM
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I started going to the gym this year to grow some muscle and TikTok started showing me fitness influences. I was surprised to see how much Americans feel the need to cheat their brain into consuming normal food. A lot of them need to make their food taste sugary and sweet, they don't find dairy tasty when it just tastes like dairy. Cottage cheese has to be buried under a mountain of berries to be edible. Being from Eastern Europe for once is a privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 11:50 AM
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Idk man, I find it pretty gross, but to each their own
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 11:40 AM
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What does attraction have to do with it? The original post described a scam, basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:55 AM
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I have never met a woman who squirt, I think it's... niche :,D
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:04 PM
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Next you're gonna be telling me that walking on sunshine is impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:03 PM
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That's a good point. I am bisexual so that might greatly contribute.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:59 PM
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Even if you're not a picture perfect Instagram twink, it shouldn't be that hard to dress fancy, put on a little concealer and act giddy for a few evenings. Obviously you wouldn't want to have sex with him at the end of the night, so just lie. Then ghost him. Try it, I'm sure it's easier than you imagine. At the very least, getting free drinks at a bar is child's play.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:41 PM
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Probably. I am genuinely sorry for more "mindful and demure" men. I am quite masculine in my mentality too, to the point where I have been told by guys that they couldn't date me because of it. They were the wrong guys for me, so it's fine. But I get the struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:24 PM
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I noticed they're usually more liberal and are into more "traditionally boyish" hobbies. A girly girl who likes make-up, booktok, and is more demure is more likely to want her man to lead and be extroverted. A woman who likes videogames and DnD is more likely to be into, in turn, demure men. Not all of them, obviously, it's a trend I noticed. I have quite a lot of female friends and the more "tomboyish" she is in her interests and character, the more she seems turned off by domineering men. My i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:21 PM
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Yeah, but at the same time not having to ask someone out and getting passed on for a promotion aren't really comparable in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:13 PM
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But do you realise men can do nearly the same thing with old gay men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:07 PM
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Okay, but you can't argue that there are women who want to take on a leadership role, right? Even if they're in a minority. Are you seeking out those women at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:04 PM
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It's my fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:57 PM
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Don't get pegged then, your loss
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:04 PM
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Like I said, there's plenty of women who do find it hot. Those women who think "it's gay" for a man to like butt stuff are kinda homophobic. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:34 PM
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Oh for sure, that definitely can be part of it. I've known women who absolutely refuse to be in any way independent and use men (and other women!) to get services, basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:32 PM
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Yes, exactly, there's the homophobia. Men have a happy spot there, it's not "gay".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:26 PM
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If you ask my opinion, that's potentially some weird homophobia talking in them. That, or they're just averse to any and all butt stuff. Which is fine, I suppose, but it shouldn't be tied to gender dynamics. In any case, rest assured, there's plenty of women who will instantly see you as more attractive in you tell them you want to get pegged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:59 PM
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Dude, that's a turn-on! Like that's hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:51 PM
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Live your best life, king
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:51 PM
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Women should make themselves small, women should only do feminine hobbies, women should not do extreme sports, women should not lift weights, etc. I think toxic femininity and toxic masculinity are two sides of the same coin. It's believing you're not a real man/woman unless you adhere to these borderline extreme embodiment of both
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:42 PM
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Gym bros, womanizers, cheaters, liars, "im a man so do what you're told!", etc.. this not toxic masculinity. Nothing about the "toxic masculinty" has anything to do with masculinity. They are usually just men with the minds of children. I honestly don't think it's that important to classify those traits as "toxic masculinity". Don't, if you don't want to. It's already good that you can recognize them as toxic. That's enough in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:39 PM
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I think it's just charisma coupled with some nice taste in clothes/grooming. Both can be learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:19 AM
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I have met lots of seemingly wonderful guys through dating apps. Unfortunately, I didn't click with any of them. It's definitely a "me" problem and I hope they found someone who isn't me. But yeah, it wasn't easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:54 PM
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Women have always worked. This idea that before feminism women lounged around while their husbands supported them is "rich people problems". Feminism allowed women to legally own the money they earned.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:59 PM
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Maybe you're right, I honestly have no idea. But then again, I don't think celebrities are particularly good as role-models. There's always an elements of performative-ness when it comes to being famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:41 PM
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The Rock, Dave Bautista, Steven Lang, Jason Mamoa My knowledge of famous people is very limited and I'm also trying to name people who are known for being "big manly men".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:23 PM
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To be fair, I can't say I can do the same for women. I just don't know many people in public positions who I can definitely vouch for :,D Plenty of people in people in public positions seem nice, but that's about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 11:17 AM
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Idk, all my male friends? DDFM from Youtube? My dad? I don't really know many celebrities and the good men in my life you wouldn't know, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:36 AM
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They believe the gender binary is fiction. I'm just not sure if those traits are inherent or learned. That's my point. There are definitely traits more unique to the male sex, like facial hair and a deep voice, but I don't see how you can make those positive or negative. They just are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:44 PM
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I tend to think that "feminine" and "masculine" is something we made up. They're mostly social behaviors we typically associate with men and women. I don't know what would happen if you raised a male person in a lab with 0 context of what "a man" typically does in society. Would that person be masculine? Feminine? A secret third thing? To me, "toxic masculinity" are traditionally masculine traits (physical strength, participation in violence, etc.) that are used in a destructive way. I'm stronge…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:13 PM
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I am not very familiar with any of those examples (just not the stuff I am into). What traits would you say they have in virtue of which they are positive masculine figures? They have all the stereotypical "masculine" traits, just channeled in a positive, non-destructive way. First of all, they're all physically fit, big guys. They have been through battles, they defended their loved ones through violence - you can't take that away from them. But at the same time, they all have a good moral comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:50 PM
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Both men and women should just focus on being "good people" i.e. androgynous beings. Good luck be attracted to men devoid of masculine traits! It's so odd to me that you find it so difficult to imagine a masculine man being described as a "good person". And that's considering modern folklore has countless examples of those. Superman. Captain America. Aragorn. John Wick. They're gigachads, but lock a woman in a room with them and she will feel safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:38 PM
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Hard to say. It becomes less sustainable, but I think what matters to me is believing that I am loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:59 AM
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Yeah, I have a pretty good income
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 08:57 AM
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is this relationship sustainable? For me it is. I know that statistically it probably isn't for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 07:25 PM
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I don't trust most of them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 09:44 AM
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Well, sex crimes against women are largely perpetrated by straight men, so it makes sense for a woman to be wary of straight men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 02:04 PM
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A core feminist argument about male-female dynamics is that men are, on average, stronger than women, and this physical difference creates an inherent power imbalance. Women often cite this as a reason they feel unsafe around men, especially in dating and social situations where the potential for male aggression exists. They're not afraid of men because they're stronger. They're afraid of men because they think that testosterone pumped males are more aggressive and are socialised to sometimes no…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:42 AM
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who the hell wants to date an androgynous being Me 🥲 I think androgyny is so beautiful
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 08:10 PM
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I'm acoustic
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:12 PM
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Vibe and Aura are just slang terms used to describe an impression someone might give.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:15 PM
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Genuinely hope that happens. I'll get a robot gf too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:40 AM
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This is why we should try our best to focus on what we like. If you're metrosexual, what good will acting manly and butch do if the only woman that'll attract is one that doesn't like you for the real you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:06 PM
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Just a reminder that you can be attracted to someone and not want to date them or even immediately have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:01 PM
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Women have always worked. Feminism gave them the ability to legally own the money they worked for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 08:06 AM
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really doesn’t help because we still come home alone and go to bed alone. I must be broken beyond repair, because I swear this is the best feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:22 AM
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What are you talking about? What lack of respect? I’m not in a relationship at the moment, and no still means no. Who tf implies otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:43 PM
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Oh please, don't pretend like you're a saint who never had feelings of jealousy or anxiety about your friends. We're all humans and we are not perfect. Not everyone can just go "I'm glad they're happy :)" without that toxic little voice going "bet you wish that could've been you". It's very mature to recognize that your feelings are getting in the way of your happiness and potentially your friend's happiness and deciding to not burden either of you with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:09 PM
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Yes, the sight of your friend choosing someone over you makes people sad. It's not a difficult concept. It's not hateful at all, why is it hateful?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:04 PM
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Because you get depressed and start drinking when you see your get-together time slowly fade because they're spending more of it with their new partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:57 PM
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The flounce-out is punishment for the friend’s failure to reciprocate. No it isn't. It absolutely isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:48 PM
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Unless you just see relationships as “best friends who sleep together” then just being someone’s friend doesn’t come anywhere close to the level of emotional intimacy and validation that a romantic relationship does I low-key do, lol. But still, the issue is that most people put their romantic partner even above their best friend. I wish it wasn't so, but it is. You are elevating your crush, but they are not doing the same and that is precisely what hurts.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:48 PM
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Because I am a very emotional and anxious individual. I can't just "not worry" or "deal", it hits me hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:43 PM
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It's nobody's fault. I never implied it's their fault or that they owe me something.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:35 PM
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I think it's much easier to get over a crush on someone who is already in a relationship than not. You find out they have a partner and get this immediate "ah, okay, nevermind then" feeling. They are unattainable and that smoothes things out a lot. Same with if you're crushing on a straight friend of the same gender. It's a bit different when you both start out single and click so well and everything is great and you develop feelings, but you were simply not it. It's feel more devastating becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:34 PM
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Oh my god, how is everyone missing the point entirely? Exiting said situation is not about "not wanting to see your friend happy" or "being angry that you couldn't win them over" or what not. It is simply about protecting your feelings. It is about giving yourself space to calm down, to get over your crush, to move on and clear you perspective. Not everyone can move on from their crush easily. Some need space.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:31 PM
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And? And they don't want to constantly be reminded of that. They want to move on from their crush. The possibility of me never having a child weighs far more heavily on me than my hot friend not wanting to fuck me. Again, not about fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:29 PM
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I'm bisexual too! I don't fall in love with everyone I meet, but it happened a few times.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:26 PM
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And the person in question may never be together with their crush. Yes, it's hyperbole, because I wanted to illustrate how being in a situation that constantly reminds you of what you can never have is painful and it's valid to sometimes protect your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 01:42 PM
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I am torn on this. I get crushes very rarely. Only even had 2 in more than 30 years. When they happen, they're intense and I get this rush of emotions that I'm not sure sometimes what to do with. It feels like I caught a Firebird with my bare hands, especially if I can see that this friend enjoys my company equally. Being rejected and seeing that friend choose someone else is devastating. I legit get depressed, I cannot deal with the cascade of emotions. They only way forward I see is cutting my…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 01:34 PM
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And it's not because I suddenly stop valuing women outside of their bodies but because being around someone you like that way while they would never be able to feel the same would be torture for me Baffling how so many people don't understand that? I'm not leaving because I can't get the sex, I'm leaving because it's only way for me to move on. Imagine a woman who wanted children but couldn't have any was put to work with pregnant mothers. Do you think there is a possibility she would hate that …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 01:14 PM
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Yes. Cried it off, got over it, stayed friends Many people aren't as strong. Many people have to resort to distancing themselves to deal with feelings. I think it’s because people get so deep within their feelings, they act like they just lost a soulmate Yes! That's exactly what it feels like! Especially when it's rare for you to develop a crush. You feel like you came close to something special and missed. If you guys haven’t even dated, why are you imagining sex, marriage, and a family with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:28 PM
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I'm honestly surprised so many women don't relate to the frustration with the friend zone and think it's fake or whatever. Have you never fallen in love with a friend? And then watched them reject you, however politely, and slowly fall into a romantic relationship with someone else? And you still care for them, mind you, you want them in your life. That's why you maybe even stay. But it hurts so much. You keep thinking "why isn't it me". You can't fault them for it, it just isn't you, you unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:00 PM
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I am baffled at some people seriously trying to shift blame from the man being a terrible father onto the mother. Like what the hell. What kinda of mental gymnastics...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 04:50 PM
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Parents can be divorced, but the dad can still remain a very active participant in the child's life. Even if the parents don't live together anymore. Call you kid. Take them out for ice cream. Help with birthday planning. Go to parent-teacher meetings. Give your kid the keys to your house even if they don't live with you. A child of divorced parents should still have both mum and dad on speed-dial. They should still know that both mum and dad are there for them. Even if they don't live together …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:55 PM
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I don't think it's manipulative or deceitful. Just unfortunate. If you're saying it's not sexual for him and he just wishes he could be a cis man wearing feminine clothing, then I think the woman here should perhaps do some introspection on why she has such a visceral reaction to a man she supposedly loves wanting to dress in an unorthodox way. I think if he suspected she would be so averse tonight to the point of hiding it, it was possible a mistake to getting together.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:17 AM
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So societal norms is the only thing preventing a man and a woman from being friends, yet they aren't preventing that same thing between, say, a bisexual man and his straight friend? I don't disagree with anything you're saying, but if it all boils down to society, it's the same argument as "gay people can't marry because society won't accept it". We should push society to change for the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 11:55 AM
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100% effective measurement But OP... what if the lab workers lie to you? What if they give the wrong result??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:59 PM
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This is just me, but I could never date a person that doesn't have a passion for something. The few people I have fallen in love with had one in common: they lived and breathed their hobby. There's nothing more attractive to me than seeing the light in a person's eyes when they get to ramble about their thing. Be as autistic as you want about you hyperfixation, be nerdy, be weird. But be passionate. Again, that's just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 08:32 PM
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It depends on the woman. I, personally, will become irritated if my partner treats my period as an illness. Others, on the contrary, seem to want that. Just don’t get grossed out at bloody sheets, laugh it off with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 12:53 PM
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Besides straight up illegal stuff. Probably something very violent that involves scenes of murder and blood. And yes, yes, I know it doesn't mean they're violent themselves, but if they're hyperfixating on that stuff and it's the only thing that arouses him, then.. yeah. Not into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:09 AM
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I think that's fundamentally important in all relationships. Friendships, too. It's not easy to find, though, especially for people who are neurodivergent.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:53 PM
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Once again I witness how making a woman feel safe in your presence is one of the most important aspects of a potential relationship. And please understand that by "safe" I don't mean "being able to protect her from a tiger attack". I mean making her feel like she can completely relax around you. Like she doesn't have to perform. She isn't scared to verbalize her thoughts in fear of sounding cringe/weird/stupid/unattractive. She isn't scared to look or act "ugly", to tell you about her insecuriti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:09 PM
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Is there some truth to that or is it just bs online dating guru advice? Not to my preferences, no. Of course it's great if your partner earns a lot and you can both enjoy a comfortable lifestyle. I doubt men wouldn't love their wife to have a lot of expendable income so their family doesn't struggle one bit. I genuenly think men, who are insulted by that, are delulu in some way. Like come on. But it's not a requirement. I'd like my partner to be somewhat smart with money. I have a good career, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:04 PM
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What if it's drawn?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 11:59 PM
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In an ideal world all parenting is voluntary and if the man for some reason wants nothing to do with his child, then I think it's fair he doesn't. Tax funded childcare would subsidize the absence of the second parent in the child's life. Pretty sure that is already the case in a number of European countries. and would be no contact with the child. I actually think this is unnecessary. We're treating the child as some kind of product here. Not to mention that the child themselves might want to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:06 PM
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Women say they want nice, kind guys, but then they turn around and date the asshole that treats them like garbage because he gives them an emotional high that they can't find elsewhere. Or they'll date the nice guy for a while, and after some time they'll get bored and eventually go back to their toxic ex. I just want to talk about this one specifically. Do you think women chose the asshole because they wanted to date an asshole, or do you think they thought he was a nice man, only for the dynam…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 04:28 PM
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It's a meme that lesbians escalate the relationship too quickly. They want to move in with you after one date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 01:52 AM
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My role model is that young woman from Kiki's Delivery Service who lived in the woods and just made art.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 10:59 PM
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I've noticed lesbian sex be put on a pedestal mostly by women who have never had lesbian sex. Maybe I'm just unlucky, but.. no, lack of communication, clumsiness and selfish partners, all of that is still there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 09:35 PM
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Huh. I'm not a gay guy, but I've heard the opposite, coming from my gay friends. At least when it comes to penetration, but that's the only area where size would matter, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 09:33 PM
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An important detail, I think, is "does it bother him?". Does he feel like something has changed and feels wrong? Does he want to fix his low libido? If he otherwise feels okay and the only one having a big issue is his wife, then yeah, I think it might be worth to rethink the relationship dynamic, be it an open marriage or something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:04 PM
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It does apply to both genders. Nobody is owed sex. can't recall how many times I've seen on reddit where things like Open Marriages , testereone level checks are suggested . I cant say as I don't know, how accurate this is in real lif. maybe we go to different subreddits, I have never heard of testosterone checks. What are they supposed to accomplish?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 06:01 PM
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Depends on his reasons. By itself it isn't a red flag. Multigenerational homes are still a thing where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:42 PM
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I do prefer a skinny guy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:14 PM
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How would "siding with the random woman" look like in this scenario? My gut instinct is to side with my loved ones anyway. I'd probably be in denial for a long while even if I was told my son killed someone :/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:40 PM
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I also think context matters - like is it a part of a political thing? Or is it about an alt subculture kinda thing? Genuinely, is colored hair ever a political thing? Even amongst ""feminazis"" it's never a political statement, I don't think. It's a cultural thing. A lot of queer/feminist people like to experiment with appearance, this makes people around them want to do it, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:38 PM
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If you find a consensual relationship between a 35-year-old man and an 18-year-old woman “creepy,” yet support women’s right to autonomy, then you are infantilizing adult women. If your 18-y-o daughter started dating a 35-y-o man, would you, for at least a second, stop and think about it? Why or why not? For the record, I would never actively protest such a relationship. That woman is an adult, she should be able to make her own decisions. At the same time, it that were my daughter, you bet I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:26 PM
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And as for the tall stuff. Well, how many do you see that like flat chested women? Or women who are consistently taller than most guys. Would you go for a woman who's 195cm?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:59 PM
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What Lily Phillips did is literally Jackass. To me it doesn't "cross the line" anymore than eating 76 hotdogs in one sitting does. Yeah, it's kinda gross and why would anyone do that, but it's not like anyone wants to emulate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 02:55 PM
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What do you get out of boring women? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 09:39 AM
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Who? Because no, women do not. Men are telling you this in the comments. I know you wouldn't believe women, but your fellow men?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:45 PM
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What kind of women are you trying to date? Like seriously, it does not compute to me. I can see women being more likely to turn down a construction worker, because the job is considered "not prestigious", but a teacher? A man who is good with children? That's attractive. A nurse? That's a professional. Especially if he has good money coming in? I don't understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:32 PM
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I am convinced guys on here who struggle to date are just trying to date completely incompatible people. As a guy being a teacher/nurse etc. completely screws you, since no girl will ever take you seriously if they find out you do something like that- a girls job. But can what they don't know actually hurt them? A lot of these female fields actually pay a lot more than blue collar work does. That's just not true. And not even in a "not all women" type of way. It's simply isn't a thing that women…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:28 PM
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I have seen veterans get turned down for section 8 despite qualifying. Should a woman apply no problem whatsoever. WIC is specifically for women, there’s all kinds of scholarships and grants for women especially women who are “ disadvantaged “ and vulnerable. I don't know what any of this is. I am from a poor post-soviet country. One of the 16 in the world with 100% equal gender rights, though, apparently, which, slay for us, I guess. Men rarely get custody . The woman can be active drug addict …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:41 PM
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Like..? I'm genuinely curious. I struggle to think of tax-funded welfare that only benefits women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:19 PM
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Ah, so not everyone has a price
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:01 PM
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Government assistance for being a slut?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:00 PM
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I somewhat agree, I suppose. Do you know what would your price be for sleeping with 100 men in 24 hours?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:48 PM
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woman sleeping with 20 dudes over a few years would be considered disgusting in the past. Now? Quaint. If everyone enjoyed the experience, why is that bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:39 PM
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Sleeping with 100 men isn't popular. Nobody, not even her, thinks this would be enjoyable. This is a stunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:28 PM
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Nah, it was mostly benign shit like her getting up early, brushing her teeth and getting to the hotel. There was also a little "interlude" where she mentions how she's already tired, but how a lot of the guys are nice and some even brought her flowers. In my eyes this is like Jackass for porn models.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:26 PM
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Yeah, I'm convinced that she did that as a stunt to advertise her OF or whatever she has. I've never heard of her before this, but now I am compelled to go read about it. I even watched a few clips of her preparing for her "big day". Pretty sure she knew it would be incredibly emotionally and physically taxing. I still think women should be legally free to pull shit like this, though. Why shouldn't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:12 PM
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Huh, genuinely surprised to see my country amongst those 14.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:03 AM
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Nah, dude, depending on group dynamics, women do sometimes banter with each other, poking fun. Women also give honest opinions on style choices. Men aren't usually let in on these talks, though. Think of it as the N Word pass. You don't get to comment on women's looks. Unless you are really close with them. Or gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 07:00 PM
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“you look stunning in that dress, Suzy!” “I can’t believe how much Suzy let herself go! She used to be so pretty!” But those things can be true at the same time! Suzy can look stunning in her new dress while also having looked better when she was young/thin. What is the point in reminding her that she is aging and her figure isn't what it used to be, when she is showing off a dress she feels makes her look beautiful? LOL. Funny how these women never have an issue when it’s the guy’s friend she’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:42 PM
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why aren't their boyfriends obese or look bad for their age or anything along the same issues that her friend is experiencing? I've never seen them follow what they "genuinely" believe in their personal life. I mean.. thinking someone is beautiful doesn't necessarily mean that you're only willing to date that and nothing else. I think quite a few of my friends are very beautiful, but I never think that they are my one and only cookie-cutter mold for a potential partner. (And I am bi, so you coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 06:22 PM
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Well, firstly, you are assuming those women are lying about thinking their friend is beautiful. You think someone is "objectively ugly", but maybe it isn't that objective? Secondly, women don't usually like men(especially men) judging their friends. Women know they are judged harshly for imperfections, so when a guy admits he thinks one of their friends is ugly because she's fat/hairy/masculine or whatever, you can't help but want to be on her side. Thirdly, yeah, at least for me personally, I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:58 PM
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either gender can expect like emotional support, affirmations, compliments or other feel good stuff. More so tangible acts and monetary items. Women can expect consistent dates, flowers and gifts, just all around courting. That's the "feel good stuff" though, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 02:43 PM
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Okay, if I kept bringing friends and pepper spray to dates with my husband, whom I have children with, then the comparison would be more accurate. The argument still stands - just do the test if it bothers you so much! Or at the very least admit that it has nothing to do with convenience or necessity, you just want Big Daddy Government to hold your hand and Talk To Your Wife for you, because you're a bit of a coward.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:46 AM
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Surely you couldn't have put women so high on a pedestal to believe they were innocent borderline sexless fairy tale creatures?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:19 AM
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For real, I talked with my female friends about this, they all say they prefer to split on the first couple of dates. There are ways to go about it, too. I usually say something like "Oh, what if you treat me and I treat you?" and we both choose a cocktail and pay for each other. I think it's graceful and puts both parties on equal footing, much better than just "splitting".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 09:21 PM
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So imagine my surprise when I stumbled into the world of female erotica. I went in expecting something romantic, maybe even poetic. I thought I’d find stories that mirrored the cultural narrative I’d been fed: respectful courtship leading to passionate but tender intimacy. Instead, I found tales of choking, slapping, being "ravished," and dominant-submissive dynamics that walked the fine line between consensual and outright alarming. I honestly thought sex for women was all about feelings, a slo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 08:52 PM
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Stuff like this makes me question how OP is like with male friends. Do they know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 01:52 PM
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Hey, why not! Hell, I'd get an AI girlfriend myself, if they're good.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:37 PM
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I know quite a few asexuals. All of them are in an open relationship. They understand the incompatibility and they find solutions. There's no need to resort to cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 10:14 PM
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Oh for sure. I wish we didn't have this culture of equating penis with masculinity. I don't really care for penetration, so maybe I'm biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:34 PM
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I genuinely feel bad for men who are forced to deal with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:16 PM
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Nah, don't like it. Don't like to insult someone's appearance. It feels so lazy and superficial. Just pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:10 PM
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I'm usually uncomfortable with anyone who shames people for the shape of their body parts. It just feels gross. Kinda tells me that if we weren't friends (assuming we are), they'd easily insult my appearance and any compliment they pay me is fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:16 PM
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You are once again equating abortion with parental rights. Abortion is about bodily autonomy, not parental rights. It is unfortunate that a willing father will lose a potential child if the woman aborts, and it is unfair, but until we have artificial wombs where a fetus can be deposited, it will have to stay unfair. On a side note, is there really a big outcry from men who desperately want children but those children are getting aborted?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:58 PM
5

So you're just against taxes? Or against tax-funded benefits?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:37 PM
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No, but when a pregnancy is aborted, there's no one who need benefits?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:35 PM
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It can be asked to women as well why they keep fucking deadbeats. Well she did. And now a brand new human is around. Should we punish that human for their mum choosing poorly? As a group only men pay more taxes then they get so yeah, those are men taxes. What taxes are men required to pay that women are not? I'm genuinely wondering.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:35 PM
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For example, men cannot opt out of being responsible for their child, they have to pay child support. But so do women! And yes, they can abort the baby, but then neither is responsible to pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:32 PM
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Why is this relevant? You are taking taxes out of men at gunpoint to benefit others while not giving them what they want. Whether they need it or not is irrelevant. Well, it's relevant because taxes aren't generally used for stuff people want. They're used for stuff people need. Women want good skincare products, but they aren't tax-funded. We can't even get sanitary products to be tax-funded and they are something women actually need. Yes. I am all for taxpayers getting what they want (need it …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:28 PM
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Why should women biology be covered at the cost of male taxes? Don't abandon your children and those women wouldn't need male taxes? Also, they're not male taxes, they're everyone's taxes. I'm a woman and I give up 20% of my income so a single mother can help get her kids to school, all because their deadbeat dad decided not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:58 PM
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Women don't want help, they need it. Same as men. You think there are no men benefiting from government welfare? No unemployed disabled men? Who support themselves thanks to taxes women pay? Why are you making it a gendered issue? and that does not give men what they want (sex) If there was a strong case for sex being crucial to live, I would support tax funded prostitutes (or a nurse that jerks you off, idk how it would work), but you understand that this service has to be available to women to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:54 PM
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But it's not a gendered issue. There isn't a "man tax". We all chip in to help those in need?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:19 PM
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A struggling young single father on the verge of poverty gets the same benefits as a woman would. A frustrated single femcel that wants a robot husband should get one too, then. Don't you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:44 PM
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I'm not talking about looks. I'm talking about people behaving cringey. Sure there are exceptions, but generally I notice when someone is young.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 12:32 PM
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The only weirdness comes from people questioning what you, a 40yo man, even see in a 20yo to have a relationship with them. I'm in my early 30ies and to me it's very noticeable when people are younger than 25. Like you can tell. But, when your partner is over 30, I think age gaps begin to blur. At that point you're both adults with enough life experience to be on the same page for a lot of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 11:39 AM
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like 25% of the male population is just completely undesirable in that department, at least. I think when women say "it doesn't matter" they mean that a small penis isn't going to be an instant deal breaker if the man otherwise is wonderful. Women do not chose permanent partners based on dick size. I'll be honest, I don't think they chose short-term partners based on dick size. why aren't women just honest about it?? Because when a woman likes you, and you have a smaller than expected dick, she'…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:54 PM
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I think you being a queer man gives you a uniquely different perspective that a lot of Red Pill guys here simply will unable to relate to. You are right that societal expectations have a massive impact on the way we feel and see ourselves. It's especially difficult if you don't fit into the expected cishet box that everyone assumes you belong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:48 PM
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Ah, friend, you should get friends that let you grope their ass and tits. It's very bonding!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 01:49 PM
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Yes, there are areas of life where being a woman will get you priority treatment. Usually a lot of it has to do with chivalry. Imo, it's pretty minor, it doesn't usually affect a woman's life in a major way, it's just little "conveniences" here and there. In your specific example, her privileged treatment is due to her, a woman alone at night on motorway, puts her in more danger than a man in a similar situation. Or at least that's what we're supposed to think. They didn't move her up because sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:57 PM
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I really think it's about the "concept" of being with a man/woman. I think (based on entirely personal experience, not a scientist) that most people are not genital-sexual. Which is why most straight men will be quickly turned off by femboys, even though they express a lot of traditionally feminine qualities, but at the same time quite a bit of straight men will give it a shot with a transwoman. It "feels" different. My theory, though (again, pulled out of my ass, pretty much), if that most peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:49 PM
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I find it hard to imagine how some people can claim they've never even considered the same sex. Like aren't you even curious? How can you claim with 100% certainty you are straight/gay? Cause what if? Can you really not imagine dating the same sex? Like at all? How? Why does it even matter? Yeah, people are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:44 PM
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I mean, I'm not sure anything is a good metric to measure the strength of a feeling? Feelings are entirely personal. They can be extremely intense but the person can school themselves enough to show it. Feelings aren't really quantifiable, imo. Which is why anyone trying to prove that any gender loves "more intensely" is a silly goose, I think. For the record, I don't think women love "more intensely". I don't even think "love" is a metric you can measure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 05:56 PM
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" Expressing feelings can demonstrate love's intensity because it requires vulnerability, effort, and an active desire to connect. When women express their emotions, they aren't just feeling love—they're translating it into a tangible action that strengthens relationships. This openness fosters emotional intimacy, demonstrates commitment, and reinforces the bond, all of which can be seen as markers of love's depth and intensity. For example, communicating love through words, gestures, or discuss…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:49 PM
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https://imgur.com/a/JOljHoY
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:24 PM
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uh.. https://imgur.com/a/dqzLaPu
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:16 PM
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Do you enjoy it? This is an honest question, not a jab or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:09 PM
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My neighbor is not entitled to my support but of they get cancer and ask for help, I will do it. It's human empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:31 AM
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Then why didn't he divorce her if is he was so miserable without sex? Why use cancer as an excuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:23 AM
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Yes? But I would still think he is vile if he completely cuts contact with her as soon as she gets diagnosed. I've met people in these exact scenarios. My friend wasn't happy in her relationship, but the boyfriend got into a serious accident. She waited for two months helping him and his family to make him better and only broke up after he was back on his feet. I would have judged her pretty harshly had she abandoned him the moment he was in hospital.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:21 AM
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You're shifting the goalpost. We weren't talking about abuse, we were talking about a wife who supposedly "got fat, nagged and had low libido" .
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:17 AM
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But do you not feel an ounce of guilt for abandoning someone who you shared a life with? When they need support the most? That's vile. I would go back to help an ex if I found out they have cancer and need help.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:06 AM
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Nobody is asking him to stay as her husband. But I would judge someone who abandons another person when they're most in need.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:02 AM
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I don't think its "supporting a neglectful wife", it's "supporting a fellow human who isn't a stranger when they most need it".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:30 AM
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There is basically nothing more valuable a woman can bring to compensate for all of those years Oh, big yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:48 PM
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It could be also the culture behind Tinder usage. I heard many Americans say that Tinder is a hookup app. But that's definitely not my experience with Tinder in Europe. Yes, some use it to hook up, but the people I've talked to on there mostly wanted to hang out/date/find a partner. Two of my friends met their partners through Tinder and they did not use the app for hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:06 PM
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See, I think this is part of the problem. American fathers insist on getting their sons cut because there's a psychological need for them to not feel "mutilated" themselves. If they leave their boy intact, what does that mean for their own modified genitals? That he's broken and defective? I think a lot of American men are so defensive about circumcision is because being strongly against it would mean accepting that they are missing something. That they are worse off. It's very understandable, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 06:24 PM
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Okay, I will try to approach this in a more of an unorthodox way. I would have him look like a popular male fandom character. Not only that, but I would have him participate in said fandom. And not in a way men usually do, but in a way women do. I will have him draw fanart, I would have him read fanfiction and I would have him discuss headcanons in their discord groups. His interest needs to be genuine. Or at least appear genuine. Women at first might think he is queer, but once they find out he…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 10:03 AM
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AO3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:46 AM
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I agree! I just noticed two distinct way different men go about this. On one hand I have witnessed guys who genuinely mean well be uncomfortable when, for example, they're escorting their drunken female friend to her room or something, so they ask to be accompanied, because yeah, there are situations where it just looks dodgy and they don't want to look dodgy. On the other, I've seen guys put up a whole show of not staying in the same room with a female colleague because "oooh what if she tells …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:20 PM
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I'm guessing (cause I haven't really thought about it) is that when men pull stuff like not staying in the same room with a woman alone "because of metoo", the implication is that this woman might falsely accuse the man, painting him as a victim and her as an evil life ruining witch.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 02:29 PM
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Nah, your body, your choice, my man
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 06:04 PM
4

Do you like getting pegged?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 05:54 PM
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I highly doubt you find it "attractive" when a guy is OK being the fuckee. Oh I do, you should see the porn I read
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 05:49 PM
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How is that virtue-signalling?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 05:36 PM
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I don't know about other women, but I speak my truth
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 05:30 PM
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I don't really consume "femdom content" so I can't really judge, but I will admit, men who love getting pegged are instantly more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:05 PM
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>We are probably the only place that is free for women and where they don’t have to respect tradition or gender roles and or follow a path of “living as a woman” You guys can barely handle a female president while Europe has had multiple ones and they are not seen as weird or "revolutionary". >Women can be literal whores here Prostitution is illegal in the US while it is legal and regulated in 10 European countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:12 AM
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What is freedom to you? Because everything you mentioned in your OP women can do across Europe and quite a few other places around the world. Maybe even more so than in the US considering the abortion and child support thing. I would also argue that financial freedom is a *big* part of overall freedom. If you don't have to worry about breast cancer bankrupting you, you're way more free.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:54 AM
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But what other country/state has freer women then the u.s? Most European countries. Even the shitty ones. With available abortion, 13+ months of paid maternity leave, free annual checkups for cancers, free/affordable birthing clinics, no extra charges for touching your baby after it is born (this one is crazy to me, America), unlimited PTO in case you get sick, free hygiene products in public bathrooms (though this one is far from universal unfortunately) and, curiously enough, no US-style child…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:16 AM
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What if she had said "men are awful" to her friends once after a breakup huh what then
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 12:20 AM
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Skinny twink = 10/10 Muscleman = eh maybe like 6
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:54 PM
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I'm not American, but I assume that's like... a Liberal position to take? I wouldn’t be a fan of a man being overly involved in politics (going to rallies, campaigning, etc.) but I would prefer him to have liber views and support the right to abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 02:51 PM
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>In addition, if the populations were equal, you would see an explosion that far outpaces a mere 1:1 ratio, on account of the fact that these individuals would seek therapy, but there no evidence of that. It's been steadily increasing, it won't happen overnight. I can't find the source right now, but I remember seeing in some studies that in younger demographics FtM is actually more common. >No, it doesn't, it suggests that in the current year, more people visiting a specific clinic in Upstate N…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:54 PM
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Not sure what you mean. The study suggests that populations of FtM and MtF are probably equal, it's just before transmen did not seek therapy before. Why would any population surpass the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:42 PM
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It is, actually. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7906237/ "Since 1990, there has been a steady increase in the percentage of FTM such that it is now equivalent to MTF."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:34 PM
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>The point OP was actually making; of the people transitioning, why are most of them aspiring women as opposed to aspiring men? I am willing to bet it has a lot to do with "transness" being associated 9 times out of 10 with mtf transitioners. To the point where just 10 years ago, a lot of trans men didn't even know being trans "for a woman" was possible. They thought it's something only a biological male can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:41 PM
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Not being assaulted is so easy! You just have to... take all these extra precautions that men don't have to take!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:47 AM
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Lmao, this dude thinks being a transwoman is easier than being a man
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:43 AM
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I once had a guy admit to me that he read through my profile for the first time on his way to the date with me. It was kinda insulting, ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:38 PM
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Who said they are?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:10 PM
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Conta Points has a good video about stuff like this, you should check it out, could be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 09:53 PM
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All of those are friend duties. I've done shit like that for friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 07:58 AM
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I meant single.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 07:53 AM
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I'm assuming girlfriend duties is sex. What are boyfriend duties?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 09:53 PM
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A lot of these have significant grey areas. What is "eccentric"? What is "shy and queit"? I would prefer someone fun and artistic over a sociophobe, but if he insists on keeping a tiger as a pet and living in a bungalo, then I'd go with a shy guy who struggles to make phone calls sometimes, you know what I mean? Some of these are even preferable. I like video games and reading, too. Id like a partner that does those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 12:37 PM
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Why not keep looking, though? The chance is not zero, it's unlikely, but what if, you know? I see nothing delusional about him going out with someone, seeing for the 100th time that the potential partner us not it, going "Oh well, maybe next time" and going back to his video games. Where is the delusion? He is not blaming anyone for his high standards, he admits his pool is very small and he accepts the possibility of never satisfying those standards. A delusion implies believing something that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 09:35 AM
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I wouldn't say my standards are superficial. But I'm pretty acoustic, so I have to be 100% compatible with my partner, which might never happen. That's ok, though, it's nobody's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:08 PM
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My standards are really high, but I'm not delusional. I'm just okay with being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:39 PM
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I don't know about other women, but for me the man being "the best at sex" just wouldn't be important. Maybe I did have partners who were amazing lovers in my past. But why does it matter? I'm choosing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:23 PM
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Rich and faithful. Easy. Comfortable life and we love each other. Who needs looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:52 AM
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How is it not? It's literally saying "I think this child you just birthed might not be mine". What other possible reasons there might be for the child to not be his if not his wife cheating? She got pregnant from a toilet seat?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 08:14 AM
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Do you know know what "visually impaired" means
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 11:37 AM
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Gay jokes aside, I'm actually in full favor of normalising "platonic marriages" for everyone. Civil partnerships are reserved for romantic partners only, but if someone is genuinely ready to commit to a platonic life partner - they should have that option. Bug bonus points for asexual people who are k own for their very strong friendship feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 08:56 AM
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You type like a visually Impaired person
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 08:50 AM
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