CrochetAndKittens Archive

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2	Q4Women: How much do you think about past partners during sex? How much do you compare current sex-partners to past sex-partners? To what extent does sex lose its magic/pleasure/enjoyment as you have more of it and/or increase your N-count? 1 I don't. When I have sex I'm present in the moment with my partner. 2 I don't. They are all different and have their own charms. The chemistry I have with each person is unique to the pairing. 3 The sex never loses it's magic/pleasure/enjoyment unless there is an issue present that interferes with the bond between myself and my partner. Otherwise, I think sex gets better as I get older, regardless of any n count. source: 44 year bi female divorcee	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/18 05:11 PM
1	He Asked Permission to Touch, but Not to Ghost I am a Gen Xer as well. Grew up in the 70s and 80s, bombarded with messages about good girls/boys, bad girls/boys and how being any of those things affects our value in the world. It's a lot of pressure to put on a young person, especially since they have no control over their biological processes. I wish I had a better understanding and more information when I was younger. I wouldn't have felt so dirty and ashamed for something I had no control over. I'm glad that you mentioned scrupulosity. Th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/18 03:48 PM
1	He Asked Permission to Touch, but Not to Ghost While people are pretty much the same as ever, your examples represent different times. As you said, this theme runs right through the sexual revolution and beyond. It seems to reinforce an ideal of innocent naivete that just isn't realistic. It may sell records but it isn't doing us any favors in the real world. Unfortunately, this theme is rooted in a bit of truth so no one gets a pass here. Lots of people use each other for sex without shame, often lying to their partners in the process. That…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/18 01:48 PM
2	He Asked Permission to Touch, but Not to Ghost It was a hookup. He may have treated her nicer than she expected but it was still a hookup. What did she expect, flowers on her desk by 9am? This whole permission to ghost BS is going nowhere, she sounds entitled and bitter. No sympathy from here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/18 05:36 AM
0	What events pushed you toward the blue pill (or no pill) as an adult? You can thank Cinderella type stories for that. I find them to be damaging and unrealistic for both men and women. Men are put under immense pressure to act a certain way to fit a stereotype and women are often disappointed when they find that their prince isn't perfect and can't complete them. Everyone is acting a role and denying their true natures...and no one is happy. Abandoning that faulty thinking would be a benefit to us all. Historically my straightforward nature and lack of a "damsel i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/18 05:09 PM
16	What are some dating/relationship "traditions" that need to die out? Traditions don't bother me. We don't all share the same ideals and I'm ok with that. Let traditional people find each other and enjoy their traditions. Let non-traditional people find each other and enjoy forging their own pathways. Variety is the spice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/18 02:36 PM
9	CMV: Creep shaming and #metoo will exist for as long as society expects men to be the initiators and make the first move romance and dating-wise. i dont think MeToo happened because men made the first move at the wrong time or in the wrong way. MeToo happened because there is a prevalent history of men sexually assaulting women to no consequence. Thank you for saying this. Rape and assault happen way more than the statistics will ever read. For example: I am one of 4 sisters. Everyone of us has been sexually assaulted. I was assaulted by a family friend. Another sister was raped by her husband. Another was touched by a family member. My o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/18 06:41 PM
4	CMV: Creep shaming and #metoo will exist for as long as society expects men to be the initiators and make the first move romance and dating-wise. When I was a young girl I found that the general attitude by most people was unfavorable when it came to girls approaching guys. Girls were deemed easy/desperate/wild if she approached a guy and many guys would treat a girl as such if she did. Naturally, that discouraged most girls I knew from approaching guys they liked. Instead they would do things to try to get him to notice her, or have a friend act as a go between. Direct approach was a last resort for a girl if she really liked a guy that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/18 06:28 PM
3	Children with Older Fathers at Increased Risk For Mental Illness/Genetic Disease Yep. I am not responsible for my own actions here. They made me do it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/18 11:27 AM
1	[CMV] Sex for Validation is the result of emasculated males Referring to women as garbage and using them as receptacles is not reflective of who they are, but of who you are. I can't help but suspect that this is indicative of a bit of self-loathing. Confident, secure people don't stand on the shoulders of others to elevate themselves. If fat acceptance is such a bother to you then don't engage with it. If your options are few then maybe there is something you can do to make yourself more viable for the type of person you want. One way or another, you ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/18 02:07 PM
13	Children with Older Fathers at Increased Risk For Mental Illness/Genetic Disease Daughter of man that was 51 years old at my conception. Mother? 20 years younger. Diagnosis? PTSD, depression, anxiety. My home life was less than stellar, but mental illness didn't come along until I had a bad reaction to a recreational drug that was laced with some unknown substance. I was traumatized by the experience and that's when the panic attacks and depression started. I was 21. Perhaps there is a genetic predisposition that was like a switch waiting to be flipped. That being said, it's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/18 01:48 PM
1	[CMV] Sex for Validation is the result of emasculated males Why choose to have sex with someone you find disgusting anyway? I don't understand why you would choose that. If one sex act with someone you find less than savory is capable of permanent ego destruction then the problem goes way deeper than any RP ideology could repair. You are calling people that you chose to engage with sexually "garbage". You chose it, maybe even initiated it, and they allowed you to enter their body. You have no respect for your partners and even the hottest women are turne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/18 11:46 AM
2	[CMV] Sex for Validation is the result of emasculated males Ok, I have to ask why you seem to be so angry and bothered by males that do not meet your standards of masculinity. If a man validates himself and does not meet your standards of masculinity is he still not indeed validated? I disagree that women are born and men are raised. We all are subject to nature and nurture. I'm not the same woman I was 20 years ago, 5 years ago or even 10 months ago. When I was 20 I would crumble under pressure. Now I draw on adversity and create something useful with i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/18 05:46 AM
1	[CMV] Sex for Validation is the result of emasculated males No, I never remarried and I just don't see it in the cards for me. I encounter far too many married to have much faith in fidelity. My most recent ex boyfriend lied, cheated and manipulated. At 44 years old I have neither the time or energy. I have most of my needs met otherwise without a traditional monogamous relationship and that suits me fine. At least I know what I have now is honest. It's all I've ever asked for yet it's so hard to find. As far as the gender war goes, I see it as a high le…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/18 12:52 AM
1	[CMV] Sex for Validation is the result of emasculated males Thank you. And honestly, this isn't even a gender issue to me. My dad passed away when I was 5 and my mother walked away from us kids when I was 10. I know what it's like to be neglected by a parent. Had my sister not stepped up to the plate and raised me herself I honestly don't know where I'd be today. We were both so young and we just stuck together. She developed mental illness, became a single mother herself and yet continued to raise me. We both went on to become strong mothers that raised…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/18 10:59 PM
10	[CMV] Sex for Validation is the result of emasculated males You say that a man should be his own source of validation, then you give a laundry list of what should validate a man. So essentially a man should be his own source of validation as long as it follows your own personal criteria? I think not. I was forced into being a single mother. His dad decided to opt out of actually having a relationship with his son and teaching him about being a man, so I was left with the task of doing it on my own. My son is far from emasculated and was not "feminized" b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/18 02:45 PM
3	Emotional Affairs I believe they are stereotypes but some of it does still go hand in hand with what people expect from one another to a certain degree, maybe not exactly that, but act of service, flirting, showing genuine interest, taking the time to treat your partner like a partner. I agree. I guess the mentioning of specifics like cooking and cleaning for the man just took me a bit off course from the point. Thanks for pointing that out. This scares me because he's an ex, and ex for one these things being a r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/18 12:48 AM
2	Emotional Affairs I know we are talking about the differences between men and women, but sex is an important part of the relationship dynamic for both parties. Compatibility is important as it's conducive to the intimacy needed as part of a successful union. I know, that's stating the obvious but I think the emphasis on gender pigeon-holing causes us to lose a large part of the conversation. Many men on here believe that if a woman is not keeping up her side of the marriage/relationship in terms of sex, she is de…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/18 11:58 PM
3	Discussion: When you're accustomed to privilege, does equality feels like oppression? The 5 second story didn't tell enough. To elaborate, he did have a job. He got up, went to work, came home, showered, watched tv, went to bed. The problem was that he assumed no more responsibility than that. Had he helped around the house, contributed in any other way, been a supportive/involved dad? No complaints. As it is, he is a shit parent that told his son 6 months ago that he "gave up on him" because they "didn't have the same interests". And to answer your question, if a woman wanted to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/18 05:49 PM
4	Discussion: When you're accustomed to privilege, does equality feels like oppression? I'll answer you as best as I can. Mind you, I'm new to this sub so I don't know all the lingo and such. Please bear with me. I can see that statement being true across certain cultures and demographics but it does seem to be applied with a heavy hand by many. Some might argue that it's my privilege talking but I can assure you I am not privileged, nor do I feel oppressed. I do believe in equal rights and fair treatment but I don't believe that it can be achieved by this battle of the sexes appro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/18 05:29 PM
1	Were age difference relationships (20s women/men over 30) more socially acceptable in prior generations or not? My mom and dad were 20 years apart. They met at work, fell in love, got married. My mom is the younger one but she was always the uptight stick in the mud, where my dad was the bright and open-minded one. They balanced each other out because of it and they were happily married until my dad passed away. Growing up with parents with such a large age gap normalized that for me so I don't see it as a big deal. Edit: My parents were married in 1960.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/18 03:24 PM