CroslandHill Archive

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3	Why do only 30% of young women have a favorable view of men (80% of young men have a favorable view of women) Raw data: https://www.merlinstrategy.com/s/NSTables.xlsx The frustrating thing is that the gist of the New Statesman article and studio debate - that we are seeing a pattern of radicalisation and alienation among young college-educated women - is not wholly reflected in the actual data. The data shows that college-educated women have a more positive perception of communism, but in other respects there isn't a lot of difference between graduates and non-graduates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/26 07:38 AM
–	Women are far more shallow than men are I’m 6’4”, slim, with a full head of hair, and have been called handsome many times (and not just by family members). Nonetheless I’ve been single and dateless for 99% of my adult life. I wish women really were as shallow as men, then I might stand a chance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 07:00 PM
0	CMV: "I thought y'all chose the bear" is an immature response to women's frustration with dating It depends which species of bear. The grizzly (I’m told) is responsible for far more attacks than the black bear, and isn’t as easily intimidated. But you still have a point, in that a human being intent on doing me harm might be better at disguising his intentions than a hungry bear.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 06:55 PM
1	Male-Only Ukrainian Draft is the Ultimate Proof of Selective Gender Equality (i.e., Equality in Rights, but Not in Lethal Obligation). Why single out Ukraine, when almost throughout the world the armed forces, and certainly combat roles (whether voluntary or conscript) are dominated by men? It’s not about “selective equality” - it’s about realism. The way I see it, men, on average, are likely to make better soldiers because they are physically stronger than women, have better spatial awareness, and are more hierarchical. Israel is a notable exception of course, but ONE country with a 50-50 draft doesn’t prove me wrong, after al…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 12:29 PM
–	Women aren't going to drastically change their lifestyle so that someday you might want to marry them. Maybe their reasoning is that if a woman likes to travel a lot it’s because she easily gets bored and needs constant change, stimulation and novelty, so is more likely to get bored with him. But that’s just guesswork on my part and I don’t know if there really is a connection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 01:05 PM
–	Women aren't going to drastically change their lifestyle so that someday you might want to marry them. If enjoying travel is seen as a red flag, that would mean that around 60% of the women I meet on Hinge would be eliminated. As for the other stuff, I’m okay with that within reason. I mean, if drinking and clubbing are her main interests we’re not likely to be compatible, but I’m fine with those things in moderation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 09:13 AM
2	Most Marriages Need Systematic Cultural, Societal and Economic Constraints to Survive I agree that economics are at the root of it all. I imagine that 100-75 years ago it would also have been hard for a solo man to live a comfortable life, unless he was at least upper middle class. The daily grind of running a house, on top of working a paid job, would have been so much harder before things like central heating, gas and electric cookers, washing machines. Women needed a provider, men needed a household manager.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 11:56 AM
2	If you were a woman alone in the woods, would you rather encounter a man or a bear? Please explain your reasoning. If I were a woman - or if I lived in a country in which male-on-male sexual assault were as common as male-on-female sexual assault - and assuming I was unarmed- I would choose the bear. Why? Because everyone knows that bears are dangerous and a lone hiker, if she has any common sense, will act accordingly. If I saw a bear in the woods, I would take evasive action when the bear was still a long way off. The standard advice, so I’ve heard, is to back off very slowly avoiding eye contact, or if yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 03:55 AM
–	Men have no options. I don’t think it’s social stigma that inhibits men from cold approach, it’s just that they lack the necessary charisma or just don’t know the best way to start an interaction. In many if not most cases such skills can be learned. But I have tried OLD, speed dating and hobby groups, studied cold approach but realised that I have serious internal issues which will prevent it working. For now, have put everything on hold because my experiences of the last 3-4 years (or lack of) have taught me that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/25 03:05 PM
1	I dont care what anyone says. The red pill is saving lives Where does the OP says that he blames women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 09:58 AM
3	I dont care what anyone says. The red pill is saving lives So you’re saying, in effect, that incel ideology is redpill theory by another name? And if so, what do you base that on?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 06:53 AM
2	I dont care what anyone says. The red pill is saving lives You seem to be conflating red pill and incel.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 05:21 AM
2	I dont care what anyone says. The red pill is saving lives When have redpillers ever done a mass murder?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/25 09:08 PM
1	Being neurodivergent you will peak/bloom later in life than neurotypicals and that's ok. My last girlfriend was ADHD with some signs of mild autism. There are, I believe, neurodivergent dating sites, but I suspect they will be male-dominated. I may explore them later in the year.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/25 06:30 PM
5	One of the main reasons why single men disdain single women They may not all be pieces of shit. They may be objectively decent men. But then what if she finds she is not emotionally compatible with them or they have incompatible values, goals or lifestyles? As a man I am not going to marry, or make a long term commitment to, a woman who is objectively “decent” and on my level in terms of looks, income or education if we have incompatible life goals, no interests in common or clashing personalities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 10:37 PM
1	Being neurodivergent you will peak/bloom later in life than neurotypicals and that's ok. As an autistic 51 year old, I can relate to this up to a point. I was a late bloomer career-wise; I was in a graduate white-collar job from my late 20s and experienced a lot of anxiety and insecurity in this role owing to my fears that my communication and organisational skills were not up to standard. I responded by making more of an effort to be well-organised, on the ball and a good communicator, and by my 40s I was getting a lot of positive feedback from clients and middle managers. My insec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:37 PM
7	Would you be willing to g to forgo all casual sex if it meant dating went back to how it was before? For men of the pre-Tinder generation - often only once or twice in their lives, awkwardly, possibly when drunk or stoned, with a partner they didn’t find very attractive. Giving that up wouldn’t be such a big sacrifice. If you mean younger millennials and Gen Z’s, definitions are in limbo because the dating app scene has hopelessly blurred the distinction between dating and casual sex. For instance, if I were to have sex on a first meeting, in my apartment, but in the hope that it’s going to lea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/25 03:15 PM
15	There’s a relationship drought for dating age people but half of us are in denial about it and don’t think there’s a problem I am seeing fewer younger dating-age couples around town than I used to - that is, teens and early- to mid- 20s. It seems to be affecting Gen Zs more than Millennials. But the mismatch between men and women, men dating women below their SMV, that I haven’t noticed. Almost all couples I meet seem to have parity in looks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/24 12:07 PM
1	One thing that makes suspicious of some people’s experiences here is the fact that everyone in their stories always neatly fits into every stereotype. I know a guy who can get any woman he wants, his lifetime partner count is about 100. That phase of his life is now over as he’s in a committed relationship for the last three years. But he certainly doesn’t look like a stereotypical chad, he’s not strikingly handsome, he’s chubby, and has never put a lot of effort into his clothes or hairstyle. I think he just has the sort of personality type that women are instinctively attracted to, not the jock/jerk, aggressively alpha-male type, but generou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 01:40 PM
2	What according to you is the real issue why so many men can't get dates/sex in this modern era Recent immigrants may be disproportionately male but some of them are already married and will end up bringing their wives over when they decide they want to settle permanently. Or accepting an arranged marriage with someone from their home country, if they come from a culture where that is normal. So i think there’s a danger of overestimating how much of a contribution they will make to the pool of “surplus” men. (Edited for possible breach of sub rules)	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 10:02 AM
1	What are your thoughts on why men aren’t attending singles events? Maybe this is an American thing. My experience (UK cities) is that formal speed dating events (like where woman sits at a table, the men rotate, all have a card to write notes and give potential partners a yes / no) usually have equal numbers of slots for men and women. I went to one where men outnumbered women, about 12 to 7 I think. I went to one in Manchester that was sold as more of a singles’ party (but with speed dating and other organised events) and that was about 55-45 tilted towards me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/24 09:54 PM
0	Men shouldn't expect to have positive relationships with women if they can't express basic empathy for them There’s a tendency in men’s and women’s online spaces to demand empathy from the opposite gender whilst not giving any, but I think men are the worst offenders. For instance, I’ve come across the argument that women are privileged because at least they get some positive and friendly attention from desirable men, whereas if you’re a man, your dominant life experience is you’re either invisible or a threat. What doesn’t occur to these people is that “invisibility” is only really an issue for men w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/24 11:30 AM
–	The 4B movement won't work because most of us already don't get laid It means “four noes” in Korean. Something like, no sex, no dating, no marriage, no children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/24 09:34 PM
1	CMV: Ran-through girls make better partners It depends partly on the reasons and on how long ago it was. If caused by unresolved trauma or attachment issues, that’s likely to be a big problem unless she has fully acknowledged them and is well advanced on her journey of healing. Otherwise these unresolved issues may cause further self-sabotaging or self-destructive behaviour in her future partnership or marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/24 03:01 PM
4	PPD Survey Results I still think that the rule against blackpill, "woe-is-me content" is over-enforced, or is enforced capriciously. I had a post disallowed under that rule that was focusing on the dating lives of successful men and was not complaining about my own lack of prospects. It even explicitly said that there are serious flaws in blackpill ideology. I can only surmise that the mods must have concluded I was an incel based on my post and comment history on other subs, and banned my post for that reason. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 09:26 AM
1	Men need to stop believing and spreading the idea that having sex with a lot of women is more ideal than just having sex with women you can find through your passions I don’t understand that mindset. To me, if a woman isn’t attractive enough to date and settle down with, she isn’t attractive enough to fuck either. I don’t want to have lots of casual sex with women below my looks match - it’s demeaning. If anything I’m more likely to accept a woman being below me in looks if we have compatible personalities, interests and life goals.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 03:47 PM
2	The fact that the majority of blue pillers not only downplay but outright deny that women have become delusional in their standards or that there is a serious issue in dating is a huge red flag and tells you they are not interested in an honest debate The only evidence I’ve seen for young women having “delusional standards” comes from vox-pop video street interviews. These are not scientific studies. One thing that should be factored in is that these women think that setting ridiculously high standards is a way of announcing their own value to the world (and to their friends). In written or online surveys they wouldn’t have this urge and could be more modest and realistic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/24 05:15 PM
2	Women complaining from not getting approached anymore It always puzzles me when people say that men aren’t approaching women in public places “any more”. Like there was some kind of golden age when approaching women in bars and clubs was something the average man did all the time. I’m M50, throughout my adult life the main ways of getting a date or finding a partner have always been through school, work, hobby groups, evening classes, on vacation or through friendship groups, and since around 2010, online. Guys who did cold approach in bars or nigh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 09:30 PM
2	What's your take on the Burned Haystack dating method? It’ll either attract masochistic men or unhealthily dominant ones who see it as their mission to “tame the shrew”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/24 11:51 AM
4	Would you trade your gender’s dating struggles? I would not trade. I would find it emotionally exhausting to turn women down, or worry about them see me as a potential sexual partner when I just want to be friends. Even being in the same room as.a needy or desperate person of either gender is energy-draining.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/24 08:13 PM
1	International dating is generally good for men and a life changing positive event for the women they marry. Scholarly research - mostly by feminists -has repeatedly proved this. Lonely guys should consider it - particularly otherwise successful guys who are a bit socially awkward or shy with women. A marriage should be based on mutual respect. I don’t want to marry a woman who will be kind, respectful and agreeable on the surface but will secretly despise me and see me as a loser. That’s the problem I have with international brokered marriages (aka “mail order brides”) - if I choose this option it’s tantamount to admitting either that my sexual market value is low, that I have no tolerable options in my own country…or even worse, that I only want to marry someone who I can control and domi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/23 06:31 AM
2	SURVEY RESULTS, NEW MODS, AND OTHER JANNYISMS It’s difficult to reconcile with the fact that only 13% say they struggle “a lot” (category 1 of 5) in dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/23 02:15 PM
1	PPD 2023 DEMOGRAPHICS SURVEY Putting “Islam” and “degeneracy” at opposite ends of the spectrum is a bit questionable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/23 05:01 PM
2	When Gen Z men get into their 30s will it even be worth it to date 30s women? Maybe there’s hope for me then! I’ve just hit 50, I’m tall with a full head of hair and low BMI and am mainly attracted to younger women. But what’s the issue with premenopausal sexuality? I mean, is it that they have too high a sex drive or too low, or something else?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/23 09:50 AM
1	Why is it that autistic women have much more attractive traits than autistic men? I feel that male dating coaches understand male psychology better and therefore are better at telling me what I need to improve on, and they can give me advice based on their own lived experiences. I don't spurn women who create similar content, however - I sometimes watch Anna Jurgenson's (aka Your Wingmam) channel. But of course there are plenty grifters and click-seekers out there, and I especially don't trust the ones who think they can reduce everything to a set of hacks or shortcuts. Wheth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/23 02:18 PM
3	Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days? At least 99% of the couples I see are well-matched in terms of looks. With the exceptions, sometimes it’s the woman dating down, sometimes the man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 07:22 AM
3	Why is it that autistic women have much more attractive traits than autistic men? My life experience is similar. I no longer feel I "present" as autistic - even my body language is more fluid and naturalistic than it was 10 or 15 years ago. But whilst I've become more successful at entering into friendships (most of my friends are people I've met since turning 30), women I meet socially still seem indifferent to me. I am seriously considering trying cold approach - I've spend enough time watching content by male dating coaches to convince myself it's at least possible, and I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/23 07:02 PM
7	At what point is 'improve yourself' no longer good advice? I can relate to the OP’s predicament and to some of the replies. Since the summer of 2022, I have developed equanimity about being single. But I have carried on improving myself - taking on new projects, resuming old hobbies, decluttering my apartment. And there’s the internal stuff - learning not to care what other people think, becoming less of an overthinker and less “in my own head” all the time. Has it gained me any results? In the last 12 months I’ve made new friends and reconnected with a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 08:20 AM
1	Are a lot of women ableist when it comes to autistic guys? I think the bigger reason is that if a man is perceived to have weak social skills and low emotional intelligence, this is a far bigger turn-off to a woman, than the other way round.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/23 06:58 AM
1	Q4M - an average looking girl is DESPERATE to date you. How do you feel about it? It would depend on the circumstances. If we were friends, or part of the same friend group, I wouldn't reject her just because she seemed desperate. But if I only knew her through work, an evening class, or a Meetup group, or because we lived in the same neighbourhood, then I would find her behavior weird and inappropriate and I wouldn't feel comfortable dating her. The above would apply if she was my looksmatch, or tolerably close to it. But if she was only a 5/10 physically...well, I think I c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/23 06:39 PM