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| 2 | "Good friend" sent me a dick pic "accidentally". He has a great partner too. Let this be a lesson to me for trying to play it cOoL instead of going nuclear at the first message.Not embarrassing, but I was so tired that I accidentally texted a friend/coworker instead of my then-bf that had nothing to do with my weekend plans that I was able to still take time off rather than get roped into extra work. My friend/coworker texted back: “Good to know!…enjoy your weekend? And get some sleep!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 11:37 PM |
| 20 | Vetting men also means vetting ourselvesI’d definitely say it’s similar. Boys who feel inferior have this way of breaking women down into people they aren’t meant to be. It’s men who embrace the women as they are. And I can definitely relate to your situation - I’ve always been outspoken, and when I started to regain myself, my ex tried desperately to regain control, then just gave up. Every relationship should teach something. It’s important to realize that we have things to learn, whether good or bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 03:53 PM |
| 9 | Advice to do better next time?This. When our anxiety flares, it’s good to understand the difference between what you need and what’s expected. For example, it may be the expectation that women want to be showered with jewelry, but is that what you really want? Or do you feel better when your partner knows what fits your personality and showers you with something you’d rather have? I’ve had to learn to retrain my brain from the abuse of my last relationship, such as not being constantly bombarded with texts and calls. Again, … | /r/askFDS | 01/07/21 02:20 AM |
| 9 | I just left my porn addicted boyfriend, he was my first everything and I feel so stupid because I am struggling so much and I want to go back to him, please give me motivationThat’s almost as good a line as “I watched porn for the plot!” If he’s addicted to porn, nothing external will fix him. He has to want to change. You can’t fix him, you can’t break it for him. Let him go before there’s more damage done to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 11:11 PM |
| 89 | Do not coddle men!Agree, and add that you have to be careful of men you’re not friendly with at work too. I had a supervisor who didn’t like me (he blatantly told me I was weird in front of our whole team) and he would constantly make me do more work than everyone else - even on holidays - and I would also be set up for failure. And I kept trying because I thought that if I just persevered, I would have a wonderful career. I kept thinking that until his actions (there’s a lot I’m leaving out) led me to a mental b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 03:23 AM |
| 7 | Opening up about past disappointmentsI would say you don’t need to dredge up the past when it hasn’t been asked. Think of it like delivering coffee to someone who hasn’t asked for it - they may want it, but you don’t want to give them something before they asked for it. As an example, I told someone I was a virgin and wouldn’t sleep with him. He then decided he “owned” me and tried to pimp me out, but also laid claim to my ability to choose a partner. I shouldn’t have said anything in the first place. Just continue to build the tru… | /r/askFDS | 26/12/20 12:52 AM |
| 10 | This!! Fucking this!! We all have choice but that's not what our battle as women is about. It's not compromise and backtracking and going against our best interests to appease men and the general public. It's gain! It's having everything they have, without the consequences, without judgement.I always thought feminism was about protecting a woman’s choice on how she chooses to live her life (i.e., supporting women who have careers and supporting women who are SAHMs) versus the whole “screw who you want to screw” kind of choice. But maybe I need to reevaluate? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 09:31 AM |
| 45 | What IS it with men and rankings?My ex firmly believed in this. He told me that I was a “solid 7” based on my looks and intelligence, and since he was a “3,” it was okay. 🤨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:17 AM |
| 25 | The BIGGEST fucking RED FLAG!!!I remember this all too well. My ex not only told me that his ex was crazy, but one of his best friends confirmed it. Yet she was the one in his family photos, and I (his fiancé no less) wasn’t invited in. Pretty damn sure his baby mama has been told how “crazy” I am. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:04 PM |
| 6 | Oh Holy HellThis situation may be made up, but I know from personal experience that this type of low value attitude is unfortunately prevalent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 03:53 PM |
| 63 | Be alert...cuffing season is here.I always thought cuffing season had something to do with shirts or sweaters. I miss the G-rated me. Mostly cause now I wish I didn’t know what it really was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:13 AM |
| 53 | If a man brings this guy up on the first date, run for your f*cking life.Jordan Peterson apparently advised college freshman to not take English literature courses, for fear that it’s one of the fields corrupted by “neo-Marxist ideology.” As an English major, the only thing I remember from classes was learning to love classic literature and new genres. I must have missed neo-Marxism day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Never had any real female friends and now I'm aloneI’ve actually had lots of luck reconnecting with friends from college. I’m the “badass single one” because IDGAF about settling down or letting a man touch me or my money. And like others have said, definitely get into hobbies and find like-minded people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 09:37 PM |
| 3 | 'He only bullies you because he fancies you'Ah yes, the age old “he just LIIIIIKES you” bull. I had a guy bully me from elementary school through high school. At each school it escalated to the point I had to go to the principal. In high school, it reached a breaking point after he made fun of my dog dying. Back then, people told me it was because he liked me. Now, people say he was just an ass. And if he ever came out and told me he liked me then, I would laugh in his face and tell him how much of a shit he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 09:34 PM |
| 4 | Don’t stay in a one-sided relationship, or fight for “love.” You’re worth so much more, I guarantee, and I don’t have to know you to know that.I should have learned this with my ex. He forgot our 1st anniversary, and when I started crying, he FaceTimed me so he could see me cry. He then “kindly” offered to break up with me so he wouldn’t make me cry anymore. I fought for love. And I wasted three more years with someone who never loved me and told me that he never wanted to propose to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 09:10 PM |
| 16 | If he’s still blaming women for his behavior, he is NOT a HVM. A HVM is not “the right man for the right one”, he’s the right man 100% of the time and does not exploit Pickmeishas just because he can.YES. I knew a guy that everyone said “he’s great to his friends, but shit to women.” So that makes him an asshole? “No, because he’s great to his friends.” No, it makes him an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 09:39 PM |
| 12 | 🙄And, ladies and gentlemen, is why you should stay in school, because this is your brain on patriarchal pseudo science. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:25 PM |
| 46 | The fact that she feels the need to ask if she's an asshole...I’m so tired of this idea of “humor” some of these men have. He is getting her physically hurt. She should leave his sorry ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:58 PM |
| 10 | While you’re waiting around for them to ‘come to their senses’ and treat you the way you deserve to be treated :Yup, they can’t stand to be self-reliant and not selfish. So they waste our time and expect us to be okay with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:45 PM |
| 13 | 5 years?! Wholesome my @$$... Way to make her think she's wasting her time. She needs FDS.It does depend on age, as others have said. However, if you’re in your late 20s - early 30s, you should know within a year where you’re going with the relationship. Five years is asking to be strung along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:27 PM |
| 234 | Say it louder for those LVMs in the backWhen I was younger, it used to piss me off when guys would lump girls into the “date” category or “wife” category. No, dude, I’m the queen category, and too good for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:25 PM |
| 6 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?I can relate. For me, it took stepping away from everything to determine what I loved to do, and what I was programmed to think I should do. I love to exercise and eat healthy, but I love to eat sushi. I love playing with makeup. I do what makes me happiest and damn other people if they try to make me feel bad. I always say if someone has a problem with my happiness, then that’s their problem, not mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youI actually encouraged him to go to the gym with me. We went once, and he refused to go with me again because I could lift more than he could. You are very right about his insecurity - he had that in abundance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:29 PM |
| 1 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youI’m sorry - I thought your response was about the other comment regarding my dad supposedly making me “push through the pain.” There are parents who subscribe to that so-called methodology, and that is horrific to say the least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:27 PM |
| 3 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youExcept it’s not like that? My dad isn’t a coach or a runner - he was always the first to stop me if I was injured from doing things I shouldn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 01:33 PM |
| 2 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youWhoa, my dad didn’t encourage that. I called him when the back of my knee gave out between miles 4 and 5 of my half marathon. He told me firmly to stop. I told him I couldn’t do that. He was very angry that I didn’t stop. I finished the half (mostly walking), and went straight to the medical station, then taped up my knee when I got home. He’s not happy that I put myself in danger. But I’ve been running for a loooong time now, and I know when it’s an injury that needs me to stop, or an injury th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 01:31 PM |
| 11 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youAnd that’s okay. The best thing to do is become your own HVW. HVM are hard to find. But they’re out there...somewhere...supposedly. Either way, if you’re a HVW, you’ll know when you find a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:04 AM |
| 12 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youMy ex was similar too - cheap with food, yet spent whatever he could on himself. I naturally don’t eat much when I do eat, and he said he couldn’t justify spending money on me if I wasn’t going to finish a meal. Okay then... And my dad’s cucumbers and tomatoes are the best! I always enjoy the summer when they grow because he always packs up a ton to give me. And thank you, fellow queen. 👑😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:02 AM |
| 12 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youI’m proud of you - you dumped 30 pounds plus however much he weighed! Honestly though, it’s so difficult to maintain healthy choices if your partner doesn’t support you. I’m lucky to have a family that, while they don’t always understand my choices, they accept and support me. And know that you’ve got all of us FDS queens to support you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 01:59 AM |
| 81 | r/MGTOW gleefully plotting to replace women with machines.As a futurist, I’m shaking my head. This is insane, and lacking in any kind of theory and analytics in general. Basically, they’re calling for genocide of women. Plus, China is trying to reverse engineer the damage they’ve done with the lack of women they’ve created in the country. So, I wouldn’t call that a success story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:08 AM |
| 3 | My parents had a traditional marriage. Everything was in her name. My uncles give their salary to their wives who do the family finances. I feel like most ‘traditional men’ nowadays don’t intent to stay with their SAH wives ‘till death do us part’ considering how they react to such a proposal.My parents agreed (before my brother and I were born) that my mom would stay home. They’ve always had a partnership, with equal everything, including finances. Even now, when my mom needs to spend money on things for the organization she’s a part of, my dad doesn’t fuss. He even supports her in every element of what she wants to do, and spends his extra time helping spruce up whatever project she’s working on (he did graphics for a living). My dad is a total HVM...which makes me wonder why I fou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:31 AM |
| 13 | Woman buys her husband an Apple Watch for their five year anniversary. He gets her...Reddit gold. 🤡My NVM ex started out strong, but then delved into gifts that were to mold me into his dream girl. By our last Christmas together, he got me a GameStop gift card, and socks that didn’t fit. Ladies, it’s not just the thought that counts, but be wary if there’s no thought at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:04 PM |
| 3 | Feeling Tired, Very TiredI know I definitely have imposter syndrome. Any time I have these anxiety moments and try to remind myself what I’m good at, it almost feels like I’m lying to myself. Thank you for your suggestion - I’ll mention it to my therapist. And thank you for the stranger hugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Feeling Tired, Very TiredI’m just a happy person overall - I’m generally enthusiastic, I smile a lot, and I try to take a genuine interest in other people. I get enthusiastic about things with very little prompting, so if I find out someone likes something that I do, I want to engage them in conversation. I also make puns and jokes and pop culture references - I find people engage better when I do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:03 PM |
| 19 | Actual r/wholesomememesI had something similar - I was told that I couldn’t wear stripes because it “accentuated my feminine attributes.” And that the men were staring at me - all three men that I didn’t work with or see. And the woman telling me this continued to demean me in front of the client every day. Anyone who says anything about your wardrobe like that is going to build a toxic workplace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 07:57 PM |
| 6 | Women aren't "making men feel special" anymore because we're tired of so many men not meeting our standards for even being a basic decent human being. I'd much rather make myself feel special than a man who thinks I owe him anything for existing and wants me to inflate his ego even bigger than it isYou know, when I was with my ex fiancé, I did everything I could to make him feel special. I spent time and money to get his friends together for his birthday, and he didn’t even say thank you. For Christmas, I spent time and money to get him things he’d enjoy, like a book on whiskey. He gave me socks that didn’t fit. Men aren’t owed anything if they can’t even put the basic effort in for their partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:32 PM |
| 11 | What is your opinion on freemasonry?My ex was a mason. Supposedly they do a lot of good. But they let horrible behavior amongst the members slide because of “brotherhood.” It’s just like a fraternity, but worse. There’s a sister society, but apparently they just talk shit about it, like they shouldn’t exist. I’ll happily eat my words if there are decent masons out there. But in my experience, I don’t think there are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 01:00 AM |
| 18 | She asks them to hold each other responsible. They retaliate with garbage comments as expected, thread gets locked.I used to run outside at a trail near my condo. I had to pass by a certain restaurant that had a reputation for being a meat market, and would HATE going there because of comments about my legs and butt in my tights. Someone said I should just be flattered. It was not flattering - it’s why I bought a treadmill to run from home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Am I TA for leaving my wife because she can’t be my incubator? 🤨I’ve actually known women in this very situation. Fortunately, their husbands stood by them. Either way, this guy was eviscerated by the commenters, meaning that no one was going to stand on his side. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 10:47 PM |
| 3 | Am I TA for leaving my wife because she can’t be my incubator? 🤨I wouldn’t call you a hypocrite - you know what you want, and you didn’t entertain any illusions that the person you were with would magically get their act together. Which is what this POS didn’t do. And so, he basically ruined the last few years of her life thanks to his pathetic actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 05:25 PM |
| 57 | I used to give men the benefit of the doubt when they’d say this, thinking they were just insecure or ‘didn’t know.’ But I know. And this is not what I want. Byee 👋THIS. I was visiting my then BF and he had stopped by his apartment after work to tell me that he was going out for drinks to celebrate his birthday (which was the reason I was there). His friend, who hadn’t met me at that point, basically pulled me out of the apartment with enthusiasm because he wanted me to go more than my BF did. I now know that if they have no enthusiasm, then I have no reason to go with them anywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 05:14 PM |
| 310 | Am I TA for leaving my wife because she can’t be my incubator? 🤨TL;DR: guy’s wife has ovarian cancer and may have to have a hysterectomy. He LEAVES her hospital room because he’s distraught that he won’t be able to have a “real” family with bio kids. He even begged her to have kids when they got married in their 20s, but she wanted to wait because of her career, and he thinks she was selfish. Thank god the commenters took him to task. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 10:42 AM |
| 8 | I don’t know how FDS, a 10 month old subreddit, is allegedly responsible for so many men’s inceldom and MRA activism when the manosphere has been waging a full on war on women for a decade now. 🤔Why would we be fighting for equal pay if we just want to take our money from men? If anything, I’ve had men try to use me for my money, if anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 06:30 PM |
| 32 | Height is a flaw “in the eyes of women.” Nah, being a scrote who speaks for all of us does that. 🙄😓Basically, the OP suggested that maybe his boss’ height was why he never dated. And this is the type of response I get. But hey, I was just blessed with women parts, what do I know about women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 06:28 PM |
| 18 | At least the comments were telling him how big of an asshole he is.Screw that guy. Honestly, I love a good salad. There’s a place near me called Sweetgreen and I would swim in their spicy cashew dressing if I could. And sometimes, a salad really hits the spot. But if anyone tries to control what I eat, they get the chop. I had an ex yell at me at a restaurant because I “always order the crab cake.” I like crab cakes. So now, when I’m out and want the crab cake, I order the damn crab cake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:45 PM |
| 20 | Must read for all women especially childfreeMy NVM ex told me repeatedly that he never wanted kids. I didn’t either, but he was way more vocal about it. I even had a text saved where he was grateful we were on the same page about kids because he hated his friend’s baby crying all night. He then cheated on me and knocked up the other girl because he was tired of me “forcing him” to go childfree. Honestly, seeing how he was with our dogs, there was a reason I didn’t want kids with him. For women on the fence, I think it’s about “will this m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 05:51 PM |
| 299 | "Friends with Benefits" will NEVER turn into "something more"I did a FWB back in the day (not proud of it), but I wasn’t waiting for him to suddenly realize I am “THE ONE.” The only thing I realized is that when you have a FWB situation, the men will make it about their needs on their timeline, not yours. So the best thing to do is not engage them, and not fall under their indentured sextitude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 02:54 PM |
| 27 | Why do men always think it’s “their” money only? And that being a SAHM involves no work? 🙄🙄🙄TL;DR: Woman saved up money for a needed tummy tuck, almost $15k. The money is gone, and the husband says he was so stressed out from work that he used it to buy himself a computer. In the edit, he says he only moved the money because he was afraid of having to take care of the kids while she’d be in recovery. For a week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:14 PM |
| 14 | Anything > married to a LVM gamerI think you may be missing the point. A bunch of us here play games too (I’m an avid Pokémon fan), but we also know how to balance gaming with other things, like basic hygiene and going outside. There are some LVM who take gaming to an extreme where they ignore their SO and basically place it at a level above everything. I’ve been there - I went to visit my then-boyfriend (now ex and a total NVM), and all he wanted to do was play his game, ignoring me for my whole visit. Gaming isn’t the problem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 11:57 AM |
| 3 | And this, ladies, is why education is fundamental, and porn is not educational.He dumped her, apparently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 05:49 PM |
| 167 | And this, ladies, is why education is fundamental, and porn is not educational.Basically, incel scrote thought that if she was horny, she would lactate, and got super pissed at her and broke up with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 11:28 AM |
| 112 | Thought this was a joke at first, but there are legitimately lvm in the comments complaining about having to propose? It's a privilege! I'm just at a loss for words.LVM complaining about proposing have such a sense of entitlement. I mean, if you expect your wife to carry your child for nine months and bear them, clean up after your immature ass, and basically be a pseudo single mom, the least you can do is buy a damn ring. FFS, this is just normalizing how much some women want to be taken advantage of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:52 PM |
| 26 | Male socialization means earnestly expecting women to act as charities that do everything for themI don’t have enough time to mould myself into a better individual in all the ways I want to - why would you assume I have the time to mould someone else into the ideal man? Plus, most men I’ve met would rather have a million root canals before implementing advice from a woman. Also, “men that are happily married prosper” - research has shown that they prosper at the expense of their spouse. Most men want a maid, not a true partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:51 PM |
| 13 | A tactic LVM use to get you to chase themI got that yesterday! Some guy messaged me saying “Get drinks with me tonight.” Big fat nope from me. That’s not attractive, and I’m not some animal you can order around like “sit, stay.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:21 PM |
| 3 | "It wasn't my intention"Block him. In business, it doesn’t matter what the intention is, it’s the execution that matters. And if your execution sucks, your business can be crippled, or worse, fold. This guy’s business has folded. Let it go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 06:59 PM |
| 5 | Taking the trash out is never a lossJust think of it as the Marie Kondo method. Does it spark joy? No? Then not a loss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Not directly related to dating, but ladies clean up your aura. We gain absolutely nothing from hating and being negative.Yes to this! I could be hateful about my ex. I could trash him constantly. But what do I have to gain other than the sinking down to his level? No, I have better things to do with my time. My life took such a positive step when he left, and other than stating facts when people ask (usually “I don’t know what he’s up to, please don’t tell me because I honestly couldn’t care less”), I talk up other things. I talk up my life, my job, my pups, my successful friends, my family, all the good things th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:54 PM |
| 18 | How do you ladies deal with insecurities regarding how you look?Look, my ex came right out and rated me as a “solid 7” on a scale from 1 to 10. That and my struggles with my body screwed me up for a while, which was the point. He wanted me to feel horrible about myself and rely solely on him. You know what I did to regain my confidence after our engagement ended? I did things I enjoyed that made me feel powerful (weightlifting, marathon training), beautiful (trying new makeup styles), and amazing (started my grad school program). Dear, you are an amazing ind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 12:52 AM |
| 16 | LVM PUA Tactics on OLD.“Don’t match with me, I’ll ruin your life.” I’d just silently thank them for the clear cut signal and not match with them. But then again, I may not be their type. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 09:38 PM |
| 6 | Let’s talk about future fakingOh, my ex did this hard core. In fact, he was the one that brought up every milestone, and said he never wanted kids and hated babies. We move in together, get engaged, big milestones...and then he says that he never wanted to propose and he only felt pressure to do so, and that he hated that I didn’t want kids. And then he knocked up a coworker of his, claiming that his “seed is strong” when he found out he was having a boy. Ladies - WATCH THE ACTIONS. And if the LVM pushes for things quickly, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:56 PM |
| 24 | PSA: Stop engaging with LVMs—the block button is there for a reason.My LVM ex fiancé wanted to stay friends after he broke things off (and told me he should never have proposed and never wanted to) because he wanted to still be the good guy. Spoiler alert - he was not a good guy. I blocked him and I never looked back. I consider myself a nice person, but for my mental health, he needed to be blocked. Ladies - protect YOU first and foremost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 07:38 PM |
| 21 | He clearly thinks he can convince her to let him “hit it and quit it” 🙄He ended up deleting this post, so here’s hoping he got the message. I’m still not sure why he would ask this and what he was hoping to gain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 05:54 PM |
| 81 | He clearly thinks he can convince her to let him “hit it and quit it” 🙄Most people told him to tell her the truth. I would have told him to walk away - she’s made it clear what she wants, you’ve made it clear you don’t plan to respect that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:09 PM |
| 81 | He clearly thinks he can convince her to let him “hit it and quit it” 🙄It actually reminds me of an SVU episode where a porn star was raped, and they found the guys not guilty simply because she’s a porn star. Pissed me off to no end, because you’re right - they’re seen as their work, and men can’t be held accountable for their actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:37 PM |
| 188 | He clearly thinks he can convince her to let him “hit it and quit it” 🙄Oh, but she’s a porn star! So she’s bound to just say yes to whatever comes her way, right? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:35 PM |
| 3 | LVM be like "who's gonna do your yard work, who's gonna clean your gutters, who's gonna open jars for you?"Absolutely. And then he ranted that my dad “damaged” me by making me do chores. I mean, wtf? I’m sorry that this “damage” made me self-reliant and independent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:21 PM |
| 3 | LVM be like "who's gonna do your yard work, who's gonna clean your gutters, who's gonna open jars for you?"My ex, when we lived together, hated the fact that I could mow the lawn (I did it all the time as a kid). When we split, he wanted to keep coming over to mow the lawn. I initially agreed - I was trying to be nice and let him see our dog (and was still in denial about his toxic behavior) - but the first weekend he was supposed to show up, he didn’t. So I did it myself, and all the other outside chores that he was supposed to have done and never did. When he finally made his way over, he asked if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?I mean, I’m not bound by where someone went to school, I’m more attracted to a mindset. If someone didn’t go to college but was still curious about the world and wanted to talk about things like art and music (and was a HVM), then I wouldn’t mind. Just because someone went to Harvard doesn’t mean that they’re an HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?Do you ever come across the problem that, once you think you’ve reached the point of deeper conversation, someone nopes out of there? I was talking with this guy, and things, I thought, were going very well. And then he wanted a hook up and I didn’t, so it felt like all the deeper talk was a ruse to get in my pants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:31 PM |
| 4 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?I chose Bumble because a friend was showing me a folder of dick pics she got from being on Tinder, and wanted to avoid that. I don’t think it’s better, though. By the way, thank you for the compliment earlier. Sometimes I worry that my enthusiasm turns people away in general, but I think I’m just weeding out people to engage with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:44 PM |
| 7 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?That is the worst of the worst case scenarios. I feel sorry for your friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:13 PM |
| 4 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?I guess this just confirms that I should probably move - most places I go and groups I join are filled with married people. But my goal is less about dating these days and just meeting interesting people who like to have good conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:12 PM |
| 5 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?Eh, on Bumble you have to message them first, which I thought I’d appreciate but I don’t, so I put a kibosh on that. I honestly don’t know where to go anymore for OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:11 PM |
| 10 | Jumping too fast and too passionately into intelligent conversations?I don’t push for the long texts, but I try to respond appropriately, if that makes sense. For example, this guy stated that he loved the writing of C.S. Lewis. I studied Lewis in school and knew his work well, so I asked if he’d read The Screwtape Letters. He said no, so I said that I highly recommend it if he likes satire and social commentary. Never heard from him again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:09 PM |
| 180 | TruthI was just talking to someone about this. I’ve been feeling a bit crummy because I’m not a hook-up type of girl, which seems to mean my dating pool is limited. One of my guy friends told me that I need to have hook-ups in order to have a relationship. I felt awful for a bit, but realize that I’m not going to change my stance to keep the wrong kind of guy interested. No woman should have to have sex to keep a guy’s interest, or to land a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:48 PM |
| 23 | Gaslighting us to believe sex starts early for us by choice. This is in regards to Jenna Jameson coming forward about her abuse. Clearly hes a rapist.“Plus sex for girls start early” bitch please. It only starts early for some because girls are told that’s how you get a guy to like you, and that if you don’t have sex before college, you’ll never get it and you’ll die a lonely woman. Which is all perpetrated so guys can get some and then shame women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 12:18 AM |
| 10 | Nothing will change his mind if he’s decided he doesn’t want you.Let’s face it - the love of this kind of LVM is himself, end of story. He’s not dumping you for the love of his life, he’s dumping you to feed his ego. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 08:19 PM |
| 5 | The ghost of my LV ex keeps haunting meI only mentioned my ex in the sense that I was engaged and that it didn’t work out, but not the emotional manipulation. But I definitely agree with you about being cautious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 03:59 PM |
| 8 | The ghost of my LV ex keeps haunting meThe one guy I’ve gone on a date with has been HV - we have amazing, intelligent conversations, we’re on the same wavelength with politics to culture to even women’s rights, and when I told him I wanted to go slow, he agreed and didn’t just find an excuse to leave. He’s the absolute opposite of my ex. And I let him know about my ex, and he understands and doesn’t use it against me or anything. But you’re right - I shouldn’t be dating until I’ve unpacked things. I’m actually a lot better than I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:33 PM |
| 3 | The ghost of my LV ex keeps haunting meCan you clarify what you mean by removing relationship cords? I’ve eliminated all contact with my ex, if that’s what you mean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:18 PM |
| 4 | The ghost of my LV ex keeps haunting meI’m taking dating veeeeery slow, and am taking my time - the silver lining for me of COVID is that I don’t feel pressure to meet someone. And I’m not super active in dating either. However, I do agree with you that I’m still somewhat vulnerable, but I would say that makes me less open to bad behavior because I don’t care to put up with BS. But I’m having a hard time trusting a good guy because my ex was a “good guy” until he wasn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 02:16 PM |
| 5 | “Bob-the Builder” Never Wins 🚧 🔨 👷♀️THIS. My LV ex basically noped out of our relationship and was too cowardly to tell me so (but was okay with me planning an elaborate birthday for him to see his friends), and immediately knocked up another girl. He told me at the end that I wasn’t a great partner. This among a lot of other things has given me great pause to try again. Meanwhile, he’s stuck with another relationship and a kid, and still trying to contact me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:13 PM |
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