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Yep. I was the "3/10" girl in high school and was rejected a lot. I had a glow up in college, and I finally felt what it was like to be desired starting at around age 22, but the lead up to that was rough. I kind of just roll my eyes when I hear about men moaning about not having sex or girlfriends in high school and claiming that all women have it easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:26 AM
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Earn money Men don't care otherwise our species would be extinct. Oh, pimps are a myth now? Prostitution isn't the "oldest profession"? Some men do seem to care verymuch when it comes to exploiting women's bodies
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 05:15 AM
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I used to pursue guys when I was in high school, and I was always turned down (except by one, who eventually admitted that he liked my hot friend, but she was way out of his league). In my experience, they want to be the "hunter" and get genuinely weirded out when girls make the first move. And no, I'm not talking about Chads, because I was specifically interested in these guys because they weren't Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 05:12 AM
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Doctors appointments aren’t constant though. Anecdotal, but they are when you have a toddler who needs multiple weekly therapies (born very premature doing great, but is developmentally delayed) and an infant who also needs regular check-ups and vaccines. It's not "Munchausen syndrome", it's actually necessary. Lol ask my husband how he feels about doctor/therapy appointments. He currently takes on the burden of both (used to be me 99% of the time) and he takes them seriously, because they're ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 07:08 AM
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Honest question, what kind of things?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 05:59 AM
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Just for clarity, pumping is an insane undertaking too. 15 minutes of pumping at a time, every three hours all day/night, washing/sanitizing parts afterwards, and the baby still needs to be fed (don't forget the time it takes to heat up the pumped milk). I would have preferred to exclusively breastfeed, but my baby fell asleep long before she drained a breast, so I literally would have just never slept by the time she got hungry and had to feed again. Heaven help you if sleeping during the day i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 05:50 AM
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Cleaning the baby's feeding equipment An underrated task. To properly clean the baby's feeding equipment AND/OR pumping equipment is such a massive add-on when you're already long overdue for sleep
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 05:30 AM
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Yeah. Newborns are "the best" when you're not the one getting only two hours of sleep for about three months straight, and incrementally better sleep in the months after.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 05:26 AM
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So, uh...the male equivalent of alpha fux, beta bux?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 04:06 AM
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I've tried pointing out this same dynamic whenever incels talk about robot girlfriends replacing real women. They might do the trick for some men, but most will simply be unable to get past the fact that the robot didn't choose them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 09:15 PM
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You literally just described the work I've been doing all year, while I am/was also pregnant. A lot of wilderness hiking and carrying around heavy, bulky equipment. It definitely qualifies as dirty, dangerous, and physically demanding
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:37 PM
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I'm right there with you, I find motherhood to be highly fulfilling and my husband is amazing. But I also work in a career that is part of something greater than myself. I work in conservation/ecological observation (which doesn't pay great, BTW) and while some people might hand-wave that away as unnecessary, I'm part of the people on the ground who, as one part of what I do, collect samples of species and their associated pathogens so that people who are a lot smarter than me can use that data …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 09:23 PM
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It bothered me when I was younger (like, as a child and teenager) because I always assumed that "physically stronger" automatically meant "superior" in all aspects. But as I grew to learn that: 1) physical prowess means little in the modern world, outside of self-defense and occupations such as firefighter or military, and that 2) women's bodies evolved towards the priceless function of creating/carrying/birthing/feeding whole new people, and that in and of itself is something to be proud of*. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:10 PM
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I agree that it's obvious rage bait, but rage bait with a purpose for driving discussion. I see it as a response that puts to task the common hyperbolic Redpill stance that all men always find young women the most attractive, as well as the concept of "The Wall at 30" being a universal viewpoint of all men, and that men only settle for older women and single mothers because it's all they can get. When men on here respond with "Hey, that's not my viewpoint, and here's why" then the post has done …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:55 PM
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It must be similar to how women feel when they are objectivized only for their looks It is. When I was in high school and early college I made an effort to approach men and was rejected multiple times. And you know what? I get it. I was not overweight but I was not conventionally attractive at all, and I didn't know or care how to accentuate what little looks I had with flattering clothes/hair/makeup. I was also socially awkward to boot. Then in my mid to early 20's, I had quite the 'glow up' an…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:15 PM
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I also think sometimes people do raise good points I never would have thought of When I first began interacting with this sub I thought that all of the posts about how difficult men have it in the dating world were highly exaggerated. When I was in the dating game in my 20's, I would very often see men who were definitely not the 'Chad' ideal (shorter, chubby, balding, not rich, not highly charismatic, etc.) eventually dating, marrying, and starting families with women who were at least their lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:22 PM
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I think most men as individuals (certainly the ones in my life) are decent men who love their families. I have had only good, decent men in my life too. I'm trying to think of any men in my family---dad, stepdad grandfathers, uncles, cousins---who haven't been good, supportive, loving, normal people, and I can't come up with any. Even my relationships with my ex boyfriends ended amicably. I had some ridiculous male bosses, but nobody who did anything too terrible. Some male classmates in high sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:31 PM
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Attraction is a combination of everything. I've never felt attraction just from looking at a random person - I need to get to know them to get any chances to feel sexual attraction to them. I just don't function in a way you think all women/all people do. Same!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:52 PM
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this 15 year old graph They'll still be referencing this same graph like 40 years from now 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 06:07 PM
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If it's really all the same, "just work" as you're implying here, then would you (personally) rather: -Choose to work for a minimum wage job flipping burgers all day, or -Would you rather make five times as much in wages, but your job is to give blow jobs/recieve anal sex from multiple strangers all day? Framing the question in this way is relevant, because if sex work is not different than "any other type of work" then logic would suggest that you would choose the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 05:46 AM
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Seriously, the way some men on this sub describe the supposedly ubiquitous alpha fix/beta bux dynamic is so foreign to me. I never had a hoe phase either, only had three long-term relationships before my husband, none of which would be considered "Chads" by redpill standards. Met and married husband in my late 20's, been married for seven years, and I actually look up to him because, you know, I'm attracted to him and love him. I can't speak for other women but yeah, from what I have seen with m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:13 PM
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Nevermind how most men in committed relationships still watch a lot of porn (usually of thin, young, pretty, big-breasted women) but will tell their partner that "it's no big deal, men like variety, men are just visual!" Yep, most women know exactly what it's like to be settled for because their man can't get someone better (at least, appearance-wise, which they so often claim is more important than personality/values/accomplishments)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 07:21 PM
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We still get to travel and have fun, we just take them (or send them to their grandparents house haha). Same! We have one child with another on the way. It was literally the grandparents' idea to for the last two years to watch our son while my husband and I vacationed for ten days in the Carribean
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:39 AM
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There is some truth to this, but I'm only applying it to myself because I can't speak for other women: My mother's, mother-in-law's, and grandmother's generations were very sensitive about the social scrutiny of their home, because of spite of them being career women, they felt that they would be the most judged (versus the husband) for an untidy home. Certainly by other women, but I would say by a fair amount of men, too. I definitely picked up on that as a child, and while I can tolerate a far…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:47 PM
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Well, at least in some instances they definitely are. Infants and children who are denied touch and affection can develop a failure to thrive in spite of getting plenty of nutritious sustenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:53 PM
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Well yeah, and now him and I are happily married for going on seven years. We also still spend time with those same friends. How did you meet your wife/girlfriend/partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 02:16 AM
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This is how I met my husband, through mutual friends at a poker night at someone's house. A big reason I gave him a shot was because I figured if my friends liked him, he must be pretty alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 07:33 PM
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"I consider once a week duty sex to be a deadbedroom." Just curious as to how your perspective in what constitutes a deadbedroom is framed. Work (including housework), children, and busy schedules are exhausting to both married men and women, not to mention lowered libido for both sexes with age. Care to answer the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 04:17 PM
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Just out of curiosity, are you married? If so, for how long? Do you have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 04:05 PM
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I think men externalize their struggles more often than women. I think this in part explains random mass shootings/school shootings, the vast majority of which are perpetrated by men. After a mass shooting occurs people will say things like "If you're going to kill yourself anyway, why take out innocent people? Why kill children? Why not just off yourself?" And I believe the answer is that these men want to spread the suffering outwards onto others as much as possible and will even choose victim…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 10:19 PM
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Sure, but even the Amish are willing to hire outsider taxi drivers to get them around or to ride on trains they didn't build themselves. That one guy is still only there because the women give him permission to be. Given how much agriculture and livestock tending that so many rural African women are responsible for (especially compared to some urban keyboard warrior dude in the West, lol) the women don't need that one man to be there, they allow him to be. It's still a female-only society.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:55 PM
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There's also this female-only village in Kenya that was founded "as a sanctuary for homeless survivors of violence against women, and young girls running from forced marriages or female genital mutilation". Men are allowed to visit, but not live there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:35 PM
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Yeah the original post is obviously in bad faith and is not meant to generate any real discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:27 PM
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Gardening, raising miniature tropical fruit trees, raising chickens, stained glass, making pop-up books, fishing, gaming
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:49 AM
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Moreso for me it when I was dating there were men I could "connect with" (we enjoyed each other's company, our personalities meshed) but there were some things that just weren't compatible between us for an romantic relationship. For example, I turned men down if I found out that they weren't interested in ever, at any point, with anyone, being married or having children, or if other such life goals and values differed significantly from mine. I had great friendships with those men, but a relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 04:04 PM
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I think that I would be willing to sacrifice, but I'm having trouble coming up with examples of what sort of things I would be pouring my time and effort into that I wouldn't want to. I have one child right now with another on the way, and I always wanted to be a parent, so birthing/raising children doesn't count as a sacrifice for me. When I was younger I was ready and willing to join the military, but was talked out of it at the last minute but my parents. I do kind of regret that and wish I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:29 PM
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Some of ya'll are so goddamn broken 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:53 AM
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No, definitely not the same person, not the same region
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:38 AM
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Fair enough, but it did sound like you were being specific "Does he have..."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:41 AM
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It's not 50/50, and it shouldn't be. In my opinion he really shouldn't get any custody at all, because for one he's not paying his child support anyways (can't get a job, because he even when he tests clean for drugs, he doesn't show up for work). This is only a singular case, but I do think that it demonstrates the extreme end of shitty behavior wherein men will still be granted custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:28 AM
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I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth, I really am trying to understand. But with the general atmosphere of this sub, I get why it would sound that way. I do appreciate you're reply because, again, it doesn't make sense from my personal perspective of my sister's situation, which is why I welcome your input
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:21 AM
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Ah ok, so I think that what you're saying is that if the woman is the drugee/useless one, then the courts are more likely to rule in her favor, versus if it's the man who's a POS, then the court is more likely to rule in favor of both parents. Is that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:10 AM
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So, usually the government will rule that it's better for a child to have shared custody amongst both parents, rather than just one? Even if they're not together? That's what I figured, but the way Redpill tells it, the woman always gets the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:05 AM
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I'm not doubting you outright, but from what I've seen in real life, women usually can't get sole custody of their children from even the absolute shittiest of partners. My sister is one example. Yes, she should have picked better, and yes, why did she choose to breed with him, etc., etc., yada yada. It was a terrible decision on her part to procreate with a lazy-ass drug addict, no doubt. All that said, she really should have a slam-dunk case in the U.S., right? He literally can't even hold dow…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:49 AM
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I'm actually weirdly supportive of the oncoming population collapse. Very much so because of the environment/limitation of resources, but also for other reasons, too. I'm a millennial and I don't expect that 'things' in society are going to get any better as I age, anyway. I will already be recieving far less from U.S. SS than I'm contributing. The healthcare system is already shitty. The housing situation is already shitty. The employment situation for a reliable career is shitty. None of this …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 06:29 AM
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What are your thoughts about the oft repeated sentiment by men (maybe not by actual men, but I've heard it referenced more than once in pop culture) that they want a woman who is "a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets". That is, they want someone who acts feminine, demure, proper, classy etc. while out in public but is an adventurous "slut" for her man in bed (and only for him, obviously). Do you feel that that is that a realistic expectation or desire for men to have? I ask because it…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:27 AM
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I thought it was the same? Whatever Jesus Christ 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 02:33 AM
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If sex was so superior to jerking off to porn, then why are so many women buttraging over porn all the time? LOL If jerking off to porn is so comparable to sex, then why are men buttraging about not getting laid all the time? Please stop buttraging. You have your porn and that should be enough, according to you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 01:50 AM
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Oh holy fuck! He found the the one of four women who have committed a mass shooting in the last 40 years! He has so absolutely destroyed your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 01:17 AM
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Men seem to think that the attention women get from being hit on is more validating than it really is. I mean, PPD men are going on every other week about how they'd be happy to fuck a robot. Being hit on doesn't mean that a man finds you attractive; for all you know he thinks "Hey! Live human with a vagina!" and that's his entire motivation to hit on you. It doesn't mean much
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 10:27 PM
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Yep I had this happen to me, he went for the bitchy (but definitely hot) girl and that kind of stung. I wasn't ugly, but she was prettier/sexier. I did feel a tiny bit vindicated, though, when I witnessed her openly flirt with other men in front of him at a bar. I think she did that a few times, actually. They split up shortly after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 09:38 AM
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Plenty of women with no or little experience would prefer the kissless virgin, if he is a good man and compatible with her, or else neither of them. Correct. When I was out and dating (I'm married now) I was specifically seeking a man with a low n-count like mine. My now-husband's count is 12, I think, and even that seemed pretty high for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 07:22 PM
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if he has that view on sex, he cannot be a good husband and father, in my opinion. I agree and it's why men with big n-counts is/was a huge turnoff for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 07:18 PM
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100%. Going by so many of the comments by men on PPD, they're not lonely, they just want a sex dispenser/brood mare/maid and they're pissed that they don't just get one for showing up anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 01:42 AM
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Yep this is true. Specifically, white male babies are the most fragile, and black female babies are the most resilient. There's even an unofficial term for it: "whimpy white boy syndrome"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 09:35 PM
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I should probably reword/clarify some things, as well as explain what I meant about being valued for athleticism. I could have worded it better. -You're right that as a man, I wouldn't necessarily have a fighting chance against another man, especially if he's much stronger. But, all other things being equal, I'd still have a better chance as a man than I would as a woman. -I don't mean that I, personally would be valued for my athleticism. Rather, I meant to point out that the athletic abilities…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:58 PM
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Thank you for your reply, all good points and definitely some food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:37 PM
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With the torture thing I was moreso referring to how serial rapists/killers (85% of which are male) almost always seem to get some sort of sick pleasure in torturing their female victims before they kill them. That said, serial killers are very rare, so maybe it wasn't a particularly good point on my part, although if you read about shit like Shirley Ledford's death (where she was tortured very horrifically before she was killed, just for being female) it sticks with you. She wasn't in a war sit…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 01:34 PM
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Where I live, men make up 80 percent of the murder victims, Do you know what the circumstances around these murders typically involve? I'm not asking because I'm trying to make some claim that "they don't matter" or "don't count" because they do; I'm trying to understand if all men where you live are more or less equally in danger if being murdered, or if it's more commonly related to riskier activities such as gang violence or drug involvement?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 01:11 PM
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This is an interesting thought question because my answer is yes and no. Yes because: -Much less fear. Sure, men face violence, but if I were a man and I was attacked I would 1) have a fighting chance against my assailant 2) highly likely not be raped 3) Likely not be tortured -I could safely travel in more places throughout the world. No, not everywhere, but many more places than as a woman -Beauty and sexuality wouldn't be the main things that I'm valued for as a human being -In my case, I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:17 PM
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Totally explains all of those women running around shooting up elementary schools/colleges/concerts/ nightclubs /s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 12:59 PM
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Lol what? I've never heard that in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:51 AM
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Not common, but not exactly rare either. For example, the Catholic Knights of Columbus are so guarded and secretive about their male-only meetings and ceremonies that its members are not even allowed to speak about them to their wives or any other women. At least, that's how it was 20 years ago when my then-boyfriend was initiated into it. I think it might have changed now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:16 AM
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I should really make this question its own thread, but: Why is this the only situation in life when men lose their shit over something 'not being an achievement'? For example, we all regularly see other men who were born with a silver spoon in their ass who then go on to become rich, well-connected, educated, and powerful due to the circumstances they were born into. You don't see men coming up with derogatory names for such men who have been handed everything in life; in fact, other men revere …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 04:35 AM
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Yeah, women just tend not to go to the extreme level of exclusivity present in men's spaces, like Greece's Mount Athos where the men are so highly neurotic about women that even female animals are not allowed there
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 04:28 AM
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Correct. You shouldn't just blindly trust 'scarce sources', even if they confirm your doubled-downed views because the opportunity for biases and skewed results is high. Is this not common sense anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:58 AM
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I haven't heard of the atomic black pill experiment, but in regards to "Tinder Experiments" this is an absolutely excellent example of why the scientific method uses strict controls. So they were going off of Tinder data alone? Did they account for age? Socioeconomic class? Regional data? (that is, you can't get Tinder matches in a rural area if there is no one to match with. How selective do people become, in that case?) "Tinder Experiments" are only useful for examining a specific population t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:16 AM
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Yeah wtf? The vast majority of posts on this sub are men complaining about women, not the other way around I think capybara is pissed because he sees men gripe about women, women retort with their lived experiences that don't match up with the gripes, and then he walks away with the conclusion that women think that we're all perfect and men are all wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:03 AM
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...being the most useful and productive members of society/the workforce/the family is feminine? I mean, you're not wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:56 AM
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The "80/20" rule is something that has been spouted about for years on MGTOW, PUA, and Redpill forums. I've never seen anyone present any legitimate data about this figure apart from 'The Journal of My Ass'
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:22 AM
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...but the premise that ladybots are produced to literally just be partners to men sounds more economical?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:47 AM
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The men in here simultaneously having an issue with women 'settling' but at the same time are content with a sexbot that literally can't reject them 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:42 AM
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...and then the less-expensive manbots can start their own reddit forum and complain to each other about how 1000% of the women are clamoring for Chadbot and no one will date them 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:38 AM
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I wonder if it will all turn out as well as it did in that Black Mirror episode, "Be Right Back" 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:35 AM
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I feel like if free access to porn, in every flavor possible, right on the screen in your pocket anywhere, at anytime, hasn't caused men and women to stop seeking each other out, then I really don't think that bots are going to be the end of relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:33 AM
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But herein I think is where the problem would lie. Yes of course men would instantly flock to a sentient sex machine that would never reject him for his shortcomings or for his looks. After a while, though, I think men would become dissatisfied. This isn't some "sour grapes" women-are-just-jealous thing, either. Some men would be content, but these are the type that are happy to have a 'real doll' or something similar as a 'partner,' anyways. Most men, after a while, would have trouble with thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:30 AM
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Women don't write like this 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 10:03 AM
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That's a great analogy. With my closest male friend, we realized early on that we really enjoyed each other's company, but that we had different visions about relationships/dating/beyond and we know it would never work.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 09:59 AM
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I agree with you entirely, but I did want to at least bring up the women that men reject so that we can collectively debunk the myth that some men don't have options. Just like women, most men have at least one option, but it doesn't mean that it's with a woman that they're attracted to/have chemistry with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:21 AM
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There are also men who have difficulty finding relationships with women, but once they finally have the chance with one, they blow it off entirely and reject the woman that shows him interest. Maybe it's not common, but it absolutely does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 12:39 AM
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Lol men think they want virgin women, but they actually don't. Virgin men want the the type of woman that they sniff out to be the "hot slut". They want to lose their V-card to a reasonably hot woman who clearly has had some experience, before they are willing to pursuit a virgin woman. They have to prove that they're hot shit by fucking the hottie, before they feel worthy of taking on the virgin. If a man actually gets the virgin on the first try, it fully destroys their confidence. "My self-es…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:56 AM
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Meanwhile, what do most women do when they're upset? Cry? It's a joke, and pretty tasteless at that, but I've heard it described this way: "When women get emotional, they scream, cry, and they might throw something. When men get emotional, they shoot up an elementary school."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 05:21 AM
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It's just how it goes. I'm a neurodivergent female but I've been working my ass off to appear "normal" my entire life, even to my family. I was rejected left and right by guys and girls (as friends) all through my high school and early college years and it was absolutely shitty. One day I finally decided that I did not give a fuck, and that really did make all the difference (at least, as a woman). I no longer cared if either men or other women liked me, I was just tired. I did, however, go ahea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 08:04 AM
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Because there is a stigma to it, if a man tell his friend who’s about to start lifting to go to a only men gym, his friend might think he’s gay - and thought would cross at any man with healthy testosterone levels Sure, and this stigma is a very male issue that should be dealt with by men, and not blamed on women or feminism
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 05:00 AM
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TIL that out of approximately 189,000,000 men in North America only 9,450,000-18,900,000 are getting women. Totally believable /s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:46 PM
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I agree and I've always been of the mind that you don't have to follow some iron-clad script of how you live your life once you have children. My husband and I have a toddler and we still do so many things that we've always enjoyed. Things that we've done in the past year with the baby in tow include: going bowling, going to museums, trying new restaurants, going to friends' barbeques, having game nights with friends, pursuing our hobbies, taking road trips, flying to see family, taking crafting…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:59 AM
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It has nothing to do with sex. It’s in the framing of the question that makes it apparent that people will be dishonest about it. It lends itself to people hiding the truth, even from themselves So is OP a troll? If it's apparent that people will be dishonest and hide the truth, then why ask? Why is it even allowed on this sub? This is a debate sub, and (ostensibly) women will lie in response to the question, then why bother? The implication that you're presenting is that OP was not asking in go…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 09:17 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 08:04 AM
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If men cannot be trusted to control themselves "because hormones" then they should not be trusted to control themselves in any other situation, especially in positions of power. "I couldn't help myself" is piss- poor reasoning for any major desicion-making
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 08:04 AM
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Oh I see. So because your a woman, you believe you know what other women will lie and won’t lie about. No, but you and u /jmoincali apparently sure think you do. That's literally the entire point of his comment. Also: HOW DARE YOU CALL ME MALE but WOMEN WOMEN, sexist!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you ok? Edit: no, really? Are you ok? The only time I used the word "male" was in the context where it is appropriate. You're probably referring to the very common phenomenon wherein men use the terms "men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:46 AM
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By the fact that he's saying that "women won't be honest" implies that he knows and understands women's intentions better than women do. It's not that women don't lie, it's that he (and you) are assuming right out of the gate that women are lying when they say something that doesn't align with your own personal (male) beliefs Edit: Also, it's a "question for women." If you're only going to assume that the women who respond are lying (unless they corroborate your Redpill philosophy, of course) th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:25 AM
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OP's question is flawed because men know so much more about women than actual, live human women do, so there's no point in asking 😂🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 06:16 AM
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I stumbled across Redpill content way back in 2010. More accurately, I first came across MGTOW. I even remember how it happened: I was in my early twenties and dreaming about travelling the world. I had heard about the concept of "Ugly Americans" and I wanted to avoid that stereotype as much as possible. So I Googled "Ugly Americans" and one of the results that popped up was "Ugly American Women". Intrigued, I clicked on the link and ended up in my a MGTOW forum. From there, I found a link to RO…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 05:15 AM
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Yeah this just sounds like an excellent incentive to forego men, marriages, and children entirely
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 08:41 AM
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The dudes on here defending it don't care because deep down they don't think it will ever happen to them, only women and famous people. The fastest way to get this shit regulated ASAP is if some anonymous person started making compromising deepfakes of many, many everyday, random men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:54 AM
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And, conversely, this is why men are defending it so hard. It's not like there's any shortage of porn---you can very easily find it, for free, on the little screen in your pocket, of every flavor and any kink you can think of, all day, every day. Yet, this alone supposedly hasn't reduced women's sexual power. The reason men are so hopeful for deepfakes is because of the personal nature of it. They want some woman's life to be ruined by it, they want a specific woman to be humiliated by it. "Oh y…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:40 AM
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Honest question: is this a new thing? I've heard of "white flight" but "male flight" is an entirely new concept to me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:23 AM
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Ah...what? I accidentally stumbled across a major MGTOW forum back in 2010. I kept reading because I was genuinely interested in what men think about sex, relationships, and dating. The vast majority of the posts had nothing to do "Going Their Own Way" at all. The entire forum was way more Bitching About Women than it was Let's Forego Relationships And Live By Our Own Principles.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 03:20 AM
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Minor point but I accidentally stumbled upon MGTOW waaay back in 2010 (not Reddit). And no, the sentiments weren't any different then, either. The main dude they looked up to on that particular forum literally had "Womanhater" as his username.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 01:23 AM
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I hear you and lately I've been thinking to myself, (in jest, mostly) that I want a tradwife! Seriously, I'd be working full time anyways, but this way I'd come home to a clean house, cooked meals, cared-for children (that all have my last name, obviously) and all my social engagements pre-arranged. I'd get the societal accolades and recognition that come with career achievements and being a provider, and I'd also be in charge of the ALL the major decisions in my life. After all, where we live a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 12:21 AM
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Fair enough, it's true that you didn't mention arranged marriages in your comment, so that was a reach on my part.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 05:59 AM
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Just a reminder of the true horror show a woman can experience when her father "vets her suitors" or arranges her marriage: My great-aunt, the only one who's marriage was arranged and the only one who was physically abused (out of nine daughters in the family) A Saudi woman who was arranged to marry her first cousin, and was beaten from day one while the husband screamed at her "this is why I married you!" - Princess Saultana's Daughters by Jean Sasson Waris Diri, model and author, who was sold …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 04:11 AM
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sounds like projection Sounds like the exact same thing that PPD men say when a woman ends up with an abusive man or ends up a single mother
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:41 AM
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This probably isn't going to fit with a Redpill idea of what a HVM is, but he's a HVM to me and this is why: -He's considerate. He's big on being polite, treating people kindly, giving people the benefit of the doubt, and considering the needs of those around him. With me, he often checks in if I need anything ("can I grab you some juice while I'm in the kitchen?" or "I'm at the grocery store and your favorite candy is on sale. Do you want me to get some?") -He's generous. He's always offering p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 10:56 PM
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Sure, but a mixed-sex debate sub seems like a strange place to do it. Almost as if men who announce it here are fishing for a reaction from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:17 AM
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Thank you! I've thought this for a long time. Men bitch about female hypergamy as if it's both something natural and ingrained in us, but at the same time is somehow a "bad" choice and immoral. What I've taken away from a lot of debates on this sub: Male nature: Aggression, violence, and an intense need for frequent sex. That's just how men are. It's just their nature and society needs to figure out a way to fulfill men's needs or they'll unleash havoc for the rest of us. Female nature: Submissi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 12:55 AM
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Yeah I don't think that's a game men want to get into. The recent DENNIS system post (and those who believe in it unironically) is a great demonstration of men's willingness to engage in deceit just to get laid. Not to mention alllllllll the countless examples of violent, murderous, torturous, horrific shit in our world that are by and large male dominated spheres
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:14 AM
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Right? Like what, did this guy have a magical golden vibrating dick with a clit stimulating extension? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:28 AM
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Nevermind how often they claim that having sex with a lifelike silicone doll is just as good, if not better, than having sex with a live woman 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 03:52 AM
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Reddit: you have children, and that makes you selfish because there are too many people in the world already, the environment is dying, and why would anyone want to bring an innocent life into this hellscape? Also Reddit: women who remain childless should be taxed for not performing their duty to the rest of us. Now obviously there's not a lot of crossover between these two groups, but it goes to show that women can't win
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 03:21 AM
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I will admit to that, but with the caveat (as I mentioned) that some women do have very high sex drives. The reason that I point that out is because some men will try to use the excuse that women with high sex drives are just sluts and that it's unnatural for then to be so horny. That's not at all what I meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:34 AM
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I think this is it. Women can have very high sex drives, but plenty of us don't have a sex drive as high as the average man. Not only do I not think that this is controversial, but it's honestly a relief in a way. One of the reasons that I'm grateful that I wasn't born male is that sex doesn't take up so much of my waking time and energy. It sounds so exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:04 AM
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One thing I want to mention about the "friend zone" is that men aren't always "put in it" maliciously. A lot of women have male friends who have fun and interesting personalities, but who would not be a good fit for the woman as a partner in a relationship. Before someone comes along and claims that what I mean by "fun and interesting" is "does favors for her" or that "wouldn't be a good fit as a partner" means "too short/ugly/virgin", that is not at all what I mean. What I mean is that a woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:50 AM
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If I recall correctly, this is what Roosh V was all about, to the point that he was finally accused of rape by a woman in Iceland. I remember reading about his account of it (I think it was on ROK in the early 2010's) and being horrified. Who'd have thought that "pushing past Last Minute Resistance" could end so badly /s
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 08:25 PM
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Right? I don't outright disagree entirely with leadership/submission roles, if that's what actually makes the couple happy (in fact, my husband has more of the leadership role in our relationship, and I don't mind it) but the form of submission being outlined in this particular scenario sounds fucking miserable. Essentially, the man says "no" to something that he knows would be enjoyable for you/make you happy. He doesn't have to give you a reason; maybe he just had a shitty day at work and he w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:50 AM
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You forgot the almost exclusively male impulse to mass murder innocent people (particularly children in schools and daycares) for no other reason than their "woe is me, everyone will pay!" narcissism. Not very conducive to building a civilized society.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 10:09 AM
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They want it to be a 'thing' so badly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:46 PM
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Seriously. All they have left to do is get a better style of glasses, a haircut and a facial hair style that fits their face and they'd be very eligible for many women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:00 PM
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My comment wasn't so much meant to be relevant to your argument as it was to point out the hypocrisy I often see on this sub. Men thinking about themselves and what they want = framed as "good" Women thinking about themselves and what they want = framed as "bad" The juxtaposition of what you said vs. what men complain about women doing is interesting to observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:12 PM
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Mid-30's woman, 4 long term relationships, 1 short term. 1st: 9 months. We were in high school, can't remember why it ended 2nd: 5.5 years. Things were pretty serious and we probably would have gotten married. As we entered into the wider world after leaving a small town for college, our politics and desires for the future diverged. I did regret that break up for a long time (but it's cool now, we made the right decision). 3rd: 5 years. Broke up because we should have never been together in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:10 PM
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"When you are looking for a potential partner you think about yourself and what you want. Only after you have a partner you think about them and their needs" Yet men bitch endlessly about hypergamy, or women having too high of standards, or women not giving short/fat/bald men a chance. What's the problem? They're just thinking about themselves and what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:36 PM
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Redpill forums are the first places that I recall seeing "high value" "low value" and "sexual marketplace" language used. I don't think I've ever seen a man use these terms offline, and I think FDS is the only female space that I've ever seen them used by women outside of PPD on occasion. By and large on PPD it seems to be men who discuss women in terms of "high" and "low" value and women are more likely to describe men in terms of values they want in a partner. Just sayin'
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:55 AM
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Emotional stability, but I would also say dignity. Like sure your husband is rich and/or famous but that means that he's not expected to have some level of self control and loyalty?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:09 AM
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C., no matter who he is or what he looks like
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:00 AM
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You're right about factoring in women's ages. In my own reply to this thread, I essentially said that personality is more important than physical traits. But, if both men had good personalities, that I'd pick the 40 year old. ...I'm in my mid 30's, and settled, so my mindset is probably more similar to that of a 40 year old. But when I was in my early to mid 20's, dating or sleeping with 40 year old would have felt bizarre and unappealing, based on age alone. I would have definitely gone for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:43 AM
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I know you want us to base our decision on physical attributes alone, but that doesn't work for my sexuality. If I'm not attracted to the man's personality, I'm not having sex with him. Many women feel differently, though, so maybe this question doesn't apply to me. That said, if the younger, average, chubby guy is considerate, kind, funny, and has a healthy level of self-confidence, but the older, fit, handsome man is a douche, I'd pick the younger man. If the personalities of both men are exac…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:16 AM
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You have somehow fully misinterpreted my reply. I honestly cannot tell at this point if you are confused, are a troll, or are being deliberately obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 09:44 AM
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I read your entire reply, but I want to comment specifically on this statement: "The world you describe already exist for women" I do understand what you're trying to get across, but do you genuinely believe that our current world for women is in any way comparable to the one that you and OP are suggesting? Women are not spending millions/billions of dollars and untold amounts of time and resources with the goal in mind of creating android bots that are virtually indistinguishable from, and full…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 09:11 AM
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And I was simply challenging you to actually think about the broader implications of this future where women "become obsolete" (your words) because technology has replaced them in sex and reproduction. The tone of your posts imply that this will some great thing for men. I'm pointing out that the people who cheer on these drastic technological revolutions never seem to fully consider the ways in which they can rearrange society as we know it. I don't think that asking "who is going to care for/e…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 08:04 AM
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This actually sounds really interesting. Did the study attempt to draw any conclusions about why this would be? My first assumption was that social media has a major hand in this, but social media was nowhere near as ubiquitous even in 2006 as it is today, nor were smartphones, tablets, video calls, influencers, YouTube, podcasts, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 04:52 AM
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As someone in my mid-30's with a happy marriage and a baby, I have no skin in the game and I'd absolutely love to see the end result of men's hubris. "Checkmate, bitches! If you don't fall into line, we'll replace your only real uses: reproduction and a warm hole for sexual pleasure. Your move!" I have at least one question for this male dreamland scenario you've put forth: As someone else has asked, "who's going to raise these children?" You (paraphrasing): "Why, the men who have commissioned t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 02:27 AM
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I apologize in advance for being that nerd, but what he should have said was "spent hours making their own candles" because this was something that I know that at least American pioneer women would do. It's actually kind of a nifty process, I've tried it before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 01:39 AM
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I'd argue that men want emotions from the other party during sex, too, but not in the same way women do. The usual **** Not All Men **** disclaimer. Probably not even most men. But definitely a certain subset. Some men need sex to occur with a sentient human being, but not because they actually care about the woman having pleasurable experience. Rather, they want to know that they're having some sort impact on the woman's psyche. It's validation, it's a power move. It's the same reason men haras…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 11:28 PM
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I'm late to this thread but I agree, a lot of it has to do with the language they use. I'm a woman but have been reading Redpill/MGTOW/PUA/Incel/Manosohere literature for about ten years now, mostly out of morbid curiosity. When men use language that you otherwise don't really hear outside of Internet forums, like "hypergamy" "cock carousel" "branch swinging" "the wall" etc., It's a pretty good bet that the guy is Redpill or Manosohere of some type
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 03:52 AM
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My husband did get me a diamond ring, but I would have been happy with any gem (I think the diamond industry is a scam). Nevertheless, it is a very pretty ring and I didn't care what it cost, only that he picked it out. I love it. He is a geologist, so I got him a band that contains stripes of crushed asteroid and dinosaur fossil matter. Neither of us regularly wear our rings, and only put them on for special social occasions. We're afraid of losing/damaging them, since both our jobs include a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 02:55 AM
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It seems like so many men on this sub get pissed when they make a broad, sweeping generalization about women, but then a woman chimes in with her own lived, personal experience that does not line up at all with what the man is claiming. It's like they want to fit us all in a neat little box so badly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:53 AM
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I don't agree that children are necessarily better off with their mothers. This is my personal experience: my parents divorced when I was a teenager and they lived in such close proximity to each other that I could spend a few days with one parent, and the next few with the other. My mother was psychologically abusive my entire childhood and I was much happier, less anxious, and more relaxed at my father's house.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 11:34 AM
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I was a virgin until 22, largely because of a Catholic upbring and because I didn't want to have sex with just anyone. As I've mentioned before in this sub, I can't find a man sexually appealing until I get to know him. I discovered over time that men say they want one thing, but actually pursuit another. I've had men that were interested in me, knowing I was a virgin, but we're ultimately enamoured by more experienced girls. And it makes sense; experienced girls are successful for a reason. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:22 AM
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THANK YOU, you described my experience with attraction perfectly. In literally every single relationship I've ever had (including with my husband) I first thought of the man's physical attraction to be neutral if not slightly unnatractive (in the case of one ex boyfriend). It was only after getting to know them and experiencing the flirtation, chemistry, spark, whatever, that I found them very physically and sexually attractive. But I will say, I don't think that all women feel this way. Funny t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:52 PM
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...but heaven help you if you say something like this as a woman in a Redpill sub. Or even on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 10:22 PM
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I have seen this play out in real life (guy ditches "nice girl" for the "bad girl"). Things went well for him for several weeks until they were together at the bar I worked at and I got to see the fruits of that relationship play out. The girl had apparently lost interest in the dude (who was not a so-called alpha by any means) and she was openly flirting with other men at the bar while the dude looked on. I guess they broke up very shortly thereafter. I felt so vindicated for the "nice girl" he…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 03:47 AM
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I agree, I feel lucky and grateful because I have been surrounded by loving, present, capable, all-around good men in my life. I have never been abused by them, except for some not-so-great ex boyfriends, but even they haven't been THAT bad. Just to name a few of the good men in my life: My dad My husband My grandpa My step-dad My great uncle, who lived with us when I was a child My uncles My male cousins My teachers Various male friends Parish priests Probably the worst men in my life have been…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:30 PM
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Thank you! I'm actually kind of surprised that more men don't at least use foundation makeup. If done right, no one can tell that you're wearing makeup at all, and it does wonders for evening out any person's skin tone, covering acne or scars, covering dark circles, etc. It's true that I've never used dating apps, I was lucky to have met my husband through our mutual friends group
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:02 AM
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I was really unattractive as a teenager through age 20. Probably a 3-4 on the "hotness" scale. I was tomboyish and I had no skill in doing my hair and makeup well, and had no fashion sense. In some ways, I was almost a little proud of it. I have masculine features (strong jaw and brow, broad shoulders) as well as a prominent, slightly crooked nose. I was extremely awkward , personality-wise, to boot. I was not asked out on dates. I would ask my crushes out but was turned down with a resounding '…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 11:07 PM
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Yep I agree that media really, really pushes the idea that most women are sex obsessed and are more than willing to just jump in the sack immediately after meeting someone. It's in movies, it's in television, it's in the Cosmo magazines that I read as a teenager that I snuck from my older sister. In fact for a very long time I just assumed that there was something wrong with me....or, paradoxically, that I was special and 'not like the other girls!' because I don't see a really attractive man an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 06:49 PM
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If the most important thing you need from women is for her to be a warm sentient hole, and any emotional/bonding needs are secondary, then #4 'sexual exclusivity' should be left off your list. Wanting exclusivity implies that there is something more you need from women than just the physical act of sex (such as validation, as a previous commenter has mentioned)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 06:30 PM
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Nope, far better with my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 07:10 AM
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In my 30's, married five years, body count=3, all within long-term relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 12:49 AM
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I dated a musician in my 20's. He wasn't famous by any stretch, more of a small-city local niche celebrity. His music endeavors weren't what attracted me to him ("Noise" and "Chiptunes" were his specialty, which is not really my thing) but rather I met him and some other people at the bar I was working at (they were customers) and I somehow slipped into their friend circle, I really can't remember how. He asked me out one night and we enjoyed each other's company, and we began dating. The relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 11:46 PM
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Honest question: would the opposite of these traits be considered 'masculine'? Because if so, it kind of sounds insulting to men. "Disagreeable" "Loud or rambunctious" "Unfriendly" "Disregards other's emotions" "Physically overbearing" Perhaps I'm oversimplifying it too much, but it sounds like it boils down to Feminine=more self control, Masculine=give in to base urges
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 10:40 PM
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Personally, a high n-count is a major deal breaker. I have specifically decided against dating men after finding out their expansive sexual history, even when I was otherwise attracted to them. In my 20's, when I was still dating, I actually would have preferred to date a virgin. It's not about judging people as 'sluts.' I just can't be sexually attracted to someone unless I really care about them, and they care about me. The odds are that someone who engages in a lot of casual sex doesn't care …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:10 AM
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Right? If the male perspective is that "We can't help but to see you as objects!" That's not going to make me want to get closer to you. I mean, a lion can't help but to think of me as food, but that doesn't mean that I'll just say "oh well, poor thing, it can't help it" and let it eat me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:43 PM
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Rage and anger are emotions. Men have a monopoly on those, if violent crime statistics are anything to go by. Conveniently, however, men tend to discount those when they call someone "emotional." Also, I would argue that men being emotional is much more of an issue, society-wise, than when women are. When women get emotional, the worst that will happen is that she'll scream and cry and maybe throw something. When men get emotional, they shoot up a fucking elementary school or daycare. Yes, I'm b…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:36 PM
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"If we weren't here, how would you defend yourself against the problem we're creating for you?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:25 PM
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Yep, not once, but several times. Throughout junior high and high school, I was awkward, had poor social skills, and didn't have a clue about how to wear my hair, clothing, or makeup attractively (and my desperate attempts at it were cringe-worthy. I still can't crack my high school yearbooks.) It wasn't the "he just never asked me out" form of rejection, either. I asked out my first crush in junior high, and he reluctantly agreed at first, but changed his mind two days later. Another guy I was …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 11:23 PM
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It was several years ago while I was googling "American tourists suck" because I was looking for a description of the "Ugly American" trope (so I could avoid embodying it myself). Google came up with several "related searches" that included "American Women Suck". Being a woman, I was intrigued...and consequently tumbled down the rabbit hole
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/16 10:58 PM
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