Cufflock Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	How to trust somebody again? It’s good that you remain in a more balanced perspective. What I experienced led me to the conclusion that a woman’s revealing behavior towards her man in a romantic relationship solely depends on the level of temptation she encounters. And the level of temptation is not necessarily decided by the facts but how she feels at her every current moment.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/26 05:24 PM
1	How to trust somebody again? It’s not hard to understand their nature, it is just hard to swallow the truth.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/26 03:33 PM
8	How to trust somebody again? “The belief that one day they’ll just change their minds and leave” is the truth you need to hold on to, that truth is something never changes as long as you are alive. You did not lose the ability to trust somebody, what happened is that you had been trusting somebody too much. And you can share and grow with somebody as long as you do not fully trust her and do not reveal your desire of sharing and growing with her, because no woman wants to have a share of your life and grow with you, what th…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/04/26 02:01 AM
2	How do you forget her? Be strong, all these pain are temporary.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/26 10:00 PM
3	How do you forget her? You do not protect a person who doesn’t what you in her life, you do not protect a person who betrays you and betrays what she had promised.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/26 09:57 PM
4	How do you forget her? You don’t forget and you can not because that’s how a functional brain works. You should write down all hurtful things she has done and said and lied to you and manipulated you in details on your phone and memorize those, do not let your hormone trick you and clouds your memory. Read those notes whenever your hormones try to lure you back into the attachment trap it wants.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/26 09:43 PM
15	Why does she no longer care? The reason “why” is because she feels she deserves a man better than you despite if it is aligned with reality or not, her reality is her feelings.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/26 11:26 PM
11	This BS about how she grieved the marriage for a long time… It’s hard for men to view things as how women do because men are not viewing this world as a reality that everything is revolving around and evolving based on how they feel.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/25 06:41 AM
18	This BS about how she grieved the marriage for a long time… That coach is literally helping women to continue to victimize themselves in order to avoid accountability. Women indeed oftentimes grieved their marriages ahead of their husbands yet they only grieved their own marriages not the marriages of both them and their husbands. They grieve that their own marriage did not turn out as satisfying as they had expected while they start to feel and believe they deserve better, the grieving process is actually the process of growing the feeling and belief of…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/25 05:08 AM
10	Why do so many women refuse to be accountable and/or accept fault? Unfortunately it’s how women are, they will apologize only when they feel the consequences to be unaffordable at that moment and they will be remorseful when they do not get the outcome that benefits them as they expected.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/12/25 11:48 PM
1	Miss my wife I would write down all her flaws in details, write down all the blame shifting and gaslighting she did. And I believe there would be disrespectful things she did if you look hard enough, if she ever portrayed herself with tight yoga pants or any sorts of clothing that showing off her body figure on her social media for example, that’s a disrespectful thing to you.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/25 06:44 PM
12	Miss my wife Write down the nasty and disrespectful things she said and did to you in details on your phone, read it whenever you fall into the illusion created by your brain due to detachment process. It worked for me and I believe it will do the same to you to bring you back to reality.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/25 07:17 AM
8	Wife 29F ask for separation from husband 31M There is no work you can do to make another person to be attracted to you, this is the reality. And she might never be genuinely attracted to you but married to you because you are a good prospect for a family man and a provider and the best one of them she felt she could get at that time, not she thought but she felt. For the best of you and your children, you should prepare yourself for divorce and plan for the worst that she may attack against you and move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/11/25 06:45 AM
3	Stbxw is moving on It’s a good learning opportunity for you, females are capable of moving on much faster than males is a fact, in ancient tribal societies the males already have been replaceable due to huntings and wars, females have no problem moving on to new providers quickly in order to survive and preserve her offsprings and they would even do it happily if the new provider has more resources.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/08/25 11:22 PM
4	How did you press on; when they rewrote truth and turned everyone against you? This is a hard truth to learn, people who blindly believe her without breaking a sweat to verify are people going to stab you in the back whenever you are on a downfall. They don’t actually blindly believe her but they chose her over you. So this can be a blessing in disguise once you realize that you should not put trust in anyone before anyone earns it.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/25 02:21 AM
3	Is there another word or phrase for cheating? Do not tell her yourself, do send your evidence to your friends and families and her friends and families right after the divorce, let them tell her. Usually women strive and endeavor so hard to be victims by defaming and slandering the true victim, it shouldn’t be a surprise that all whom she knows had been inputted the image fabricated by her that you are the one at fault right now.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/06/25 12:55 AM
19	Do women really love differently? A man loves a woman for what she is, a woman loves how she feels about a man and how she feels doesn’t require any realistic or logical reason to change. It is a fact that women love differently from men. I recommend you to read “The manipulated man” by Esther Vilar.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/06/25 07:02 PM
4	Wife left me after 6 years of marriage Be strong brother. It hurts like hell but it’s better that she left, she doesn’t deserve you.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/24 08:44 AM
7	Wife left me after 6 years of marriage It’s usually a precise floor plan that is all too similar, a line had been drawn by her and you are involuntarily made an obstacle she fervently wants to remove from her life without your noticing. Step by step, starts from removing emotionally and then physically while maintaining the most beneficial position to receive financial source from you and at the same time defaming you to fabricate a victim role she can put on in order to justify her wrong doing and to protect her own reputation.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/24 04:50 AM
17	Wife left me after 6 years of marriage When a woman started to avoid physical intimacy, most of the time is because she does not want to cheat on whom she fell in love with. That means most likely, you as a husband of her at that time is a person who violates her loyalty she devoted to another man.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/24 12:21 AM
4	Am I wrong for feeling this way? Your marriage already ended an year ago, the only thing that can help you move on quicker is the solid evidence that he is banging her, contacting him or not itself does not make a beneficial difference to you.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/08/24 07:38 AM
3	Did it feel like your S.O. "flipped a switch"? And they use every bit of it to justify their wrong doings	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/24 09:20 AM
3	Did it feel like your S.O. "flipped a switch"? Exactly what had happened to me too	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/24 08:32 AM
4	Did it feel like your S.O. "flipped a switch"? I feel you brother, the brains function in totally different ways even though we are all human beings.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/24 06:02 AM
17	Did it feel like your S.O. "flipped a switch"? In my own experience, It feels like switch flipping because their actions are determined by how they feel not facts. For example when I see a person we know punching the wall, I would not label this person as a violent person without concerning how this person behaved in the past until this incident happened, however she would directly label this person as a violent person as long as she felt violence at that moment when this person punching the wall. So how you behave in the past doesn’t create…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/24 05:37 AM
1	How do you keep yourself busy and stay positive? You’re welcome	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/24 09:21 PM
1	How do you keep yourself busy and stay positive? I am glad that you ask sincerely and no Christian would be offended by a question asked in such a respectful way. The reason a non believer can not partake the Holy communion, it’s also called Eucharist, is because one has to be a believer to take it or that person might be sick or even die due to the nature of it being the resemblance of the body and blood of Jesus Christ and they represent as the blood and sacrifice of the New Covenant God the Son had established for His people, almighty God J…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/24 04:42 PM
1	How do you keep yourself busy and stay positive? I can relate to what you feel and yes weekends and holidays are brutal. Yet I am a Christian and go to my church every Sunday, I would like to suggest you to do the same even if you are not a believer, as long as you don’t eat the broken bread and drinking wine of the communion you will be fine.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/07/24 06:02 AM
13	Friend insults my ex-wife Your friend is doing a good job of telling you the truth. And the reason why it bothers you so much and also why it’s tempting you to say yes to hang out with her is because you are still in the phase of detaching, the attachment you have towards to the image and impression prior to her betrayal is still in effect.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/07/24 10:19 PM