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| 3 | How Do You Live a Soft Life When You’re Doing EVERYTHING Around The House?I'm... trying to make it work in my own life. And tbh, it is going better than it is going poorly, and I bet I have a skewed view of everything because I am always harder on myself/am expecting a higher bar than I am when judging others (which can be an internalized part of this all!) Part of the solution can be to stop doing some things. Not the most essential, but for example I finally just gave up attempting to keep this house to my standard with two teenage boys (both w/ADHD) and a dog that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/25 01:42 PM |
| 10 | Quick questionconservative That's the core of why this stuff comes to the admin's attention. It is a low-hanging culture war win. But reddit is like a hair's breath away from openly banning conservative ideas at any given time these days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/24 11:37 PM |
| 3 | With so much to remember and plan for, I end up forgetting everything I need to do. Can anyone relate?I can totally relate! Because I have ADHD... and my solution was to get my butt medicated properly. Now I'm only kinda a disaster 😅🤣 For a more realistic suggestion, really whatever works no matter how janky it might be. I used to leave scraps/pads of paper around the house and always carried a pen so I could just quick jot down anything I needed to not forget. Soon enough I'd be back around to that room, see the note, and then do something with it. I always meant to get a big corkboard in my st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/24 12:54 AM |
| 5 | How to let a busy man have hobbies?With compassion, this is a fuzzy line. We can often have trouble with husbands because we approach stuff like "family time" often differently. We often feel like our presence in the family isn't optional, sometimes because our other halves are much more adept at taking time for themselves without that guilt we seem to carry like it or not. I'll admit I'm in a similar place, and my own husband begs me to take time off for myself but I have such an issue with what feels like "slacking off" and I e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/24 04:16 PM |
| 6 | I (f22) am planning on a petty revenge for my cheating ex bf(m29).The evil part of my brain is on fire right now with devious ideas, so I totally get it. But we resist the devil's whisperings for our own sakes, the sakes of our families, our friends, and our communities. A year or two from now you'll be glad you didn't blow things up any worse. Of course, if someone were to hypothetically ask me why I broke up with an ex... I mean... I try not to lie 🤷♀️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/24 10:58 PM |
| 9 | I (f22) am planning on a petty revenge for my cheating ex bf(m29).The very, very, very sweetest revenge is to go forth and thrive. Get your ducks in a row, personally (non-mode, whatever you need) and then go have the life you planned... with someone else. Honestly, considering the details of what happened I sincerely don't blame you for considering this. Hope he eventually is truthful with himself and finds a nice guy to settle down with but that's none of your concern. Go live. Go thrive. Go set yourself up to be the best woman for a different, better man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/24 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.If they brought Lindsay Lohan back to play a grown-up version of Cady I'd just throw money at the screen the whole time. Signed, an xennial mom | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Observing women who married to middle/upper middle class men.The whole SAHM world is full of competition, and ladies who are involved with stuffs like sports, PTA, whatever, get held to a kind of standard by the other moms who will relentlessly talk smack about you behind your back if you fall short. It is what it is, I guess. I'm still showing up in the pickup line in old jeans and a hoodies with my hair in the messiest bun that I may or may not have slept in last night. But yeah, any time I need to get out of the car I really try to follow something alo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/24 04:25 PM |
| 6 | Can someone explain to me what a healthy relationship with your mother in law looks like?Okay. To answer the question, I have a wonderful relationship with my MiL. But unfortunately it was rather natural, so there isn’t some kind of trick or strategy at play. We’re very similar in many ways. My husband married a girl who is like his mother and there’s so little need for her and I to even discuss most things since we’re almost always on the same page already. Our relationship is part friendship, part apprenticeship where she’s teaching me how to be the next matriarch of the family. W… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/23 02:22 PM |
| 16 | Having a Relationship with a Captain who has Autism?When you co-habituate you end up exposed to the stuff they mask when out in the wider world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 09:22 PM |
| 11 | Having a Relationship with a Captain who has Autism?My experience taught me that they are inflexible, prone to anger, tend to be poor communicators, and can get scary when challenged or forced out of their comfort zone. Not saying everyone's experience will mirror mine, but I'm not a person who argues. In almost two years with my husband we have never had a fight. Discussions yes, but raising voices and/or being aggressively inconsolable? No. In the 10+ years I was with my ex we had knock down fights over stupid stuff like him not taking out the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 08:59 PM |
| 11 | Having a Relationship with a Captain who has Autism?My ex was autistic. When I hit the dating world again I said to myself, Never, ever again. I have ADHD and I have more than one amazing friendship with autistic ladies. But dating? Nope. Nope. Nope. It ended up borderline abusive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/23 08:38 PM |
| 23 | Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender rolesAs someone who has been in your shoes and made similar mistakes... this man is not a captain and you need to understand that and make decisions with that in mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/23 03:01 PM |
| 1 | I'm now with a gamer, and I want to find feminine video games I can play solo, or cooperative ones we can play together (non-competitive!)I'd suggest The Longest Journey (and/or the sequels, The Longest Journey: Dreamfall & Dreamfall: Chapters—they can all be played stand-alone moreorless.) The first game was released in 1999 so it might be a little hard to get it to work properly, but Dreamfall and Chapters both should be fine. These are my favorite games after playing games for 30+ years. Strong, multifaceted female protagonists and a gripping science fantasy epic story make these adventure games (which means they're less about … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/23 11:31 PM |
| 2 | Separate BedsSeparate beds is rarely a good portent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/22 01:49 AM |
| 14 | Has anyone else gone from being raised non-RP to choosing to be a RPW? If yes, did you have trouble at first? Any advice? :)My parents are good people, but my mother is domineering and my father is a doormat. When I came to adulthood and went off to college, I was able to identify what they did wrong and I did... the opposite. Which led me to RP. Rather simple. I wouldn't change who I am now for anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/22 10:40 PM |
| 1 | How does Redpill view people who have had problems in the past but have resolved them?people never really change We change from day-to-day. A person is never exactly the same as they were at any point in the past. But what doesn't change is our own feelings about the person including feelings that are focused on whatever negative(s) the individual may have possessed before. And this is fine, you don't ever have to change to accommodate someone like this if you don't want to. And some people don't actually change but just like to claim they did to get sympathy/attention. All-in-al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/21 02:07 PM |
| 4 | Too conservative for my man?Oh my gosh another voice to say 'this'. I'm more conservative than my husband but 1) we respect each other and don't fight about politics, 2) I don't generally find it that appropriate to engage in political discussions, personally. I am true to myself, I don't need others to affirm me. But my husband is our breadwinner and I don't work outside of the home so we don't generally have power struggles, which is what the OP sounds like they're in the midst of. I respect the decisions my husband make… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/21 03:19 PM |
| 5 | Am I a failure if I take psychiatric medication?A long time ago, a monk told me (paraphrasing) that I would never be able to know God until I was able to truly know my own self. And this isn't a wildly out of sorts idea, just a super practical one. As a woman with ADHD and who also struggled a lot with depression in my earlier life, I know for a fact that I could never have become a truly good wife to my husband before I was able to understand the value in taking care of myself. That included taking meds for the depression and finding alterna… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 05:03 PM |
| 6 | Gender cr*tical subreddits?GC is the public face of some pretty extreme, old-school radical feminist ideas. Everything they believe comes from critical theory and amounts to differing versions of "Men are evil." Regardless of my thoughts on the "gender excesses" (a problem) I find this to be a bridge way too far that explicitly has the goal to destroy my solidly RP-influenced happiness. It feels kinda weird to discuss here on RPW. Doubly because of the huge focus on ('political') lesbians in GC theory. Best of luck, but w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/21 04:32 PM |
| 3 | I’m not sure what I am. What is my value as a womanThese cyclical posts are getting very tiresome. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/21 01:48 PM |
| 4 | Please explain femininity to me in your best understandingHonestly, the answer to most of these questions isn't something someone can just like, sit down and explain. There are lots of resources, like Fascinating Womanhood and everything on the wiki, but ultimately I don't know how you could even be ready for this stuff when you're impatient for an answer. I don't know, you don't really seem to want to be the kind of woman that RP can help. This feels like a whole bunch of personal experiences that you need to work out for yourself, maybe with a therap… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/21 07:22 PM |
| 24 | What is the best way to ease a date into me eating a special/restrictive diet?everything to do with how you deal socially with your dietary restrictions. This is the answer. I have always, myself, had dietary restrictions that are a little wacky. It is never a problem unless I, myself, make it a problem. In my line of sort-of-work there can be a lot of dinners and food-focused events. I quickly became adept at making sure that I was taken care of (having small meals before an event; keeping small snacks in my purse for emergencies, etc.) so that regardless of what happens… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/21 06:38 PM |
| 4 | Mental illness and relationships.I have ADHD and my husband is a (socially apt) aspie. We rely on each other to watch out for our individual blind spots. Sometimes my husband needs me to be all over the place and excitable because he is stuck in a rut from work or life or whatever I keep him reminded of the fun side of life. I need his leadership and far more clear-headed thinking/planning all the time to help offset my wildness and lack of individual discipline. Like any other relationship I am aware of, we come to each other … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/21 03:18 PM |
| 34 | Shower Thought: The sexist joke calling women dishwashers isn’t really an insult to RPW...But that's my husband! He's my garbage disposal. I just heap anything uneaten on his plate and BOOM it is gone 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/21 04:21 PM |
| 25 | My post was deleted from r/offmychest because I post on r/redpillwomen"Freedom of speech" doesn't apply because Reddit is a private company. But practically, this is why most of us have multiple accounts, to duck that nonsense. We're free to make our decisions, and they are free to make their (wrong) decisions. That's it. Fin. Protect yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/21 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Valentine's Ideas for our men?This Valentine's Day is the Daytona 500, so all I really have to do is make wings and cheer for his driver 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/21 02:51 PM |
| 6 | A first step in a return to traditional values — maybe making marriage culture less cringe.This is probably just my good 'ol New England girl upbringing, but it is neither my place nor my responsibility to fix other people's relationships. My job is to maintain a warm, orderly home with everything that entails for my family—including keeping good relations with our community by not needlessly gossiping nor engaging in unnecessary, superficial judgement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/21 07:51 PM |
| 2 | What are your favorites subreddits?r/happycryingdads is the shot of joy that I often find I need! | /r/RedPillWives | 09/01/21 06:35 PM |
| 4 | The Wall, by Barney StinsonYou have to keep in mind, however, that the Prince Charming most women have in their heads isn't 45. He's 25. Absolutely, when the women are 18-25ish, too. A woman in her late 20s will look at an older demo. 30s is even older, and when you get into to uncomfortable but existing "divorcee age" bracket the rules change tremendously. Everyone wants to do it right the first time. But the context is different as you become older, wiser and more mature. My point is more that if you're worrying about "… | /r/RedPillWives | 21/09/20 01:50 PM |
| 5 | The Wall, by Barney StinsonI think you're correct. If you want to worry about the wall, you're making yourself a plate. That doesn't mean you do not take care of yourself, but that you're focused on being the best you can be in the present, contextual moment—not some amorphous concept where the 35 yo is comparing themselves to a 21 yo. Which is a whole other issue insomuch as the concept of "The Wall" inherently means comparing yourself to other women, often in ways that are downright damaging to best selfhood. EDIT: Not … | /r/RedPillWives | 21/09/20 01:40 PM |
| 9 | The Wall, by Barney StinsonEvery wall is relative. What a 45 yo man might consider as the wall he won't cross is extremely different from what a 21 yo kid would consider "post-wall." As a 35 yo woman, I am utterly post-wall for most men younger than me. But, well, give a single 40-something man the chance and he'll think you're perfect. At least, if I weren't married there would be a plethora of men I could choose between who would in no way think I was too old. That's what experience has taught me. "The Wall" is scary fo… | /r/RedPillWives | 21/09/20 12:48 PM |
| 4 | Banned from RedPillWomen for disagreeing with TRPI'm glad to see you here! I had no idea you got banned, but I noticed you weren't participating in the sub much. That answers that lingering Q lol. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/09/20 02:22 PM |
| 11 | Banned from RedPillWomen for disagreeing with TRPConsidering the straw that broke the camel's back was because we had the audacity to stick up for those young girls? Yuck. This place seems nicer. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/09/20 01:58 PM |
| 6 | Banned from RedPillWomen for disagreeing with TRPOh I am so glad you're still around! Seeing your acct deleted was... disheartening. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/09/20 12:49 PM |
| 4 | How do you girls deal with toxic feminists?I usually say something like, "Oh, I could never do that!" with the unspoken part being because it is trashy. But you don't say the trashy part out loud. If anything, you can get away with leaving the encounter and having the offending pusher-of-feminisms think they're somehow better for being willing to look trashy. Zero issues. At the end of the day everyone gets baseline respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/20 11:41 AM |
| 13 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.Agreed. Tho 9/10 men are not captain material, generally, so I am confused why this isn't somewhat expected. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/20 05:08 PM |
| 7 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.Might I suggest that instead of this highly judgmental approach containing some questionable approaches to concepts like "truth," we might instead say that if your advice is to "dump him" it must also come with proper encouragement and assistance in re-aligning toward nun-mode? Because that would solve all of this while being thoroughly redpill. If, for whatever reason and whoever is "at fault", a girl comes in here who shouldn't be in a relationship the advice should be "Nun-mode." That nicely … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/20 04:59 PM |
| 5 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.What someone perceives to be controlling or abusive may just be a projected insecurity. I agree with this. Which is why a breakup and nun-mode is the answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/20 02:02 PM |
| 25 | New Rule: "Leave Him" is never the 1st option.I have to agree with others here that for the older, married/committed folks this is a solid rule of thumb. But many of the younger women here genuinely benefit from dropping poor partners and going nun mode. It isn't "go ride the carousel" but, "Woah girl, you need some time to get this sorted out for yourself." Heck, the dudes I dated when I was younger... well, I just wish, sometimes, that someone just told me to dump him because it just wasn't right and we don't exactly have forever to get i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/20 12:05 PM |
| 10 | Advice: my boyfriend’s friends think I’m too childishIf you want to win over your husband's friends, make them nachos. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/20 09:26 PM |
| 14 | Advice: my boyfriend’s friends think I’m too childishI am 35, and love my stuffed animals. But that isn't something I really show anyone other than my husband who thinks it is cute and buys them for me. And at this point it is more of a decorative, semi-nostalgic collection than anything else. A small window into child-likeness that can help me recharge my batteries or tranquilize the runaway hamster. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/20 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Advice: my boyfriend’s friends think I’m too childishDid your boyfriend stand up for you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/20 03:45 PM |
| 5 | How do you girls deal with it?There are few things less feminine than being judgmental and outspoken about one's own passed judgements. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/20 01:39 PM |
| 14 | Boyfriend wants me to be the dominant one?Walk away. Submissive men are near-impossible to respect as RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/20 12:56 PM |
| 4 | Most men secretly want a homemakerI am just thankful my writing does not take me anywhere close to those folks. It sounds like you could use a new genre 😂 But it always comes down to the dual-income problem. Really, it is a formula about economic comfort. If a dual income is necessary (and many "liberal areas" are high cost of living; raised to assume dual-income families) it is, well, necessary. I think the thought experiment is to take away those X factors and ask, "If there were no economic danger/benefit to a wife working, w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/20 12:54 PM |
| 14 | Is this sub reddit filled with trolls?!Rediculous. This sub routinely helps women get out of abusive or otherwise bad situations. You can't swing a cat without coming across a great discussion of why you should never be a doormat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/20 12:42 PM |
| 2 | Question regarding useful majors for more socially conservative women?I ended up working in non-profit housing assistance with my humanities degree, prior to marriage. Communication-focused majors can often find "helper vocation" work without too much difficulty, and we also can end up being really good at it, too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/20 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Question regarding useful majors for more socially conservative women?I had a double English Lit/Religion major in undergrad. Never ended up doing grad studies, but I am a well-enough known poet. That said, I have never once met an author whose incomes were self-sufficient without a lot of weekly hours & academic backing. I have zero interest in going into academia for so many reasons, but my work is appropriate in that it doesn't largely effect my primary responsibilities to my husband; in fact I have never met an author who didn't rely on spousal income to a deg… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/20 01:59 AM |
| 3 | What are the most harmful beliefs feminism promotes? Harmful beliefs in traditional Western gender roles?To my understanding, "radical feminism" is pretty incompatible with RP ideas. At least if we want to look down the Dworkin/Jeffreys/Bindel pathways. Am I missing something? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/20 01:39 PM |
| 7 | What are the most harmful beliefs feminism promotes? Harmful beliefs in traditional Western gender roles?You can dress however you like and no one is allowed to judge you based on that. When in fact, the way we dress is a form of self-expression. This is even more complicated, and also more important, than just expression (which is one-way.) What it is is production. Humans engage in social production, meaning that how we present ourselves, how we act, what we do and so forth are all something we are very much bringing into the world; always creating ourselves in each moment perpetually. Gender is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/20 01:34 PM |
| 4 | What mythology goddess do you like?Calypso. Odyssey book 5 is a hoot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/20 11:31 AM |
| 5 | What are the most harmful beliefs feminism promotes? Harmful beliefs in traditional Western gender roles?That’s hardly what all feminists believe though. That describes a lot of the discussion here lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/20 11:28 AM |
| 15 | What are the most harmful beliefs feminism promotes? Harmful beliefs in traditional Western gender roles?This. This. This. This is the most lasting piece of damage from 70s feminism. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/20 11:20 AM |
| 9 | Does this man exist or am I just looking for a unicorn?This is such a huge misconception! I'd wager to say that the vast majority of people are "traditional" to a degree. At least, as a married woman in my 30s I see varying types of "traditional" relationships everywhere. In fact, those with entirely non-traditional dynamics are rare unless you go looking for them... and then you'll be buried under the amount of traditionalism. Now, it isn't all full-fledged RP tradcon, but many different flavors. You'd be super surprised at the prevalence of both 1… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/20 02:35 PM |
| 5 | Does this man exist or am I just looking for a unicorn?Yes, and there are more of us than you'd initially think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/20 12:49 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on what these studies have to say?it conclusively establishes a link between promiscuity and infidelity as well as how well the former can predict the latter. I'd be hesitant to assume causation when what is being shown is correlation. Of course past behavior is a pretty good indicator of future behavior, but at the same time there are mountains of other factors which can affect someone's approach to something like partner #s. Is someone used to sleeping with many other people have more trouble remaining faithful in a monogamous… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/20 11:54 AM |
| 3 | Feminine music?Absolutely country, which veers rather redpill-y all the time I think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/20 04:44 PM |
| 12 | I paid for the first date - my date became upsetI might be a bit contrary here and suggest that it is kinda a big deal because it is part of the first impression. But really, let's look at what happened: You were having a good time and the server came over w/the check. Your date began the process of paying, but then you hijacked his process and finished it for him. Now, is this awful? Nope. But might this put-off a traditional man? Absolutely. It isn't about "who pays" here as much as that you just stepped in as if you didn't trust him. And t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/20 01:33 PM |
| 2 | Fiction reading recommendationsOh yes! I think it was filmed like during the student riots in France May/June '68! A lot of her novels became films. And she was well-known as a playwright later in her life. She often works with the same themes, of men and women being silly and learning life lessons. I can see a lot of myself in her protagonists, which is probably why I love her work so much lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Fiction reading recommendationsYay! Oh, and in an interview she is semi-famous for saying, “A dress makes no sense unless it inspires men to want to take it off you.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Fiction reading recommendationsA few choice quotes from A CERTAIN SMILE: "It's healthier to attribute qualities to others than to admit own flaws." “... I told myself that, following common sense, you need to let everything go by chance, not to analyze endlessly, but to be calm and courageous. I purred it under my breath, not really believing in my words. " “The questions I would have liked to ask people were: 'Are you in love?' 'What are you reading?'” | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Fiction reading recommendationsI have mentioned before that I am a huge fan of Françoise Sagan's earlier work. In private I call them my romance novels. They provide a good mix of traditional values mashed together with French post-war Existentialism, which is fascinating as a whole topic itself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/20 02:48 PM |
| 20 | Laser hair removalWe had a fantastic discussion on this topic a few months ago! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/20 03:56 PM |
| 13 | It seems like Southern men are more attracted to blondes, even if their faces/bodies are average. Am I imagining things?Believe it or not, it is tied way back to our prehistoric ancestors. Yeah, this unfortunately is not true from an anthropological standpoint. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/20 11:45 AM |
| 2 | According to someone who was active here, You all are extemists😂 Oh My GawdBlech. But I am not surprised. I am tempted to request an advance to see this for myself, tho my weight doesn't throw heavily at Bloomsbury. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/20 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Any women here feel "alone" or that you do not fit in with this society?You are 100% correct. This whole thing is sparked by the OP engaging in a massive-scale comparison to other women and what you have said here is a compassionate version of "Don't compare yourself to others in the first place." The old word for this being "covet." | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/20 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Any women here feel "alone" or that you do not fit in with this society?it's hard to make a comparison Which is actually what this is: A monsterously sized comparison to other women. This rarely has good outcomes, especially when it is at such a huge scale. This is hamster-on-speed producing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/20 03:18 PM |
| 13 | Any women here feel "alone" or that you do not fit in with this society?not all pregnant people being women and we got lectures about referring to people on the sub as 'moms'. This drives me up the wall. Okay, even if someone wants to be "inclusive" can we at least all admit that experiences that are commonalities for 99% of "women and women-adjacent" people are fine to use as the baseline. It is just sealioning, bringing their personal fight where it just isn't helpful nor appropriate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/20 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Any women here feel "alone" or that you do not fit in with this society?Same, same. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/20 02:00 PM |
| 6 | Things to have together before dating for a RP womanLike most of RP, it is a toolbox not a checklist. I'd likely consider someone with like 80%+ of this stuff under control to be going very well. Everyone has their stuff. I know I can be an emotional basketcase sometimes, and I just try to deal with it like a mature adult. And honestly, it would be hard to muster respect for a man who couldn't handle me and point me straight again every once in awhile when I get very overwhelmed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/20 03:40 PM |
| 1 | [CMV] Women are fundamentally boringClearly the answer here is that you should date other men 🤷😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/20 12:46 PM |
| 3 | How do you act?Friction is a phenomena that occurs when there is movement between two materials. By this I mean that you are a part of this whole thing, too. And that is hard to remember sometimes. We tend as RPW toward building up our selves and our values in a way that can frequently rub against other parts of society and cause friction. I can only say that there tend to be two general kinds of options. First is to simply remove the chance for friction—i.e. to some degree stop spending time with folks who ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/20 02:05 PM |
| 3 | question about enforcement mechanisms for gender role transgression by menThis is... not how datasets work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/20 01:21 PM |
| 6 | Redpill or just abusive? need female perspectiveI saw notifications from multiple girls on his phone, he explained to me what they were but refused to show me the messages. Dump him. Like yesterday... He says if I got pregnant he would actually be happy about it, but he 'masters the pull out method' ...like last year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/20 05:13 PM |
| 5 | Irritated by BP friends. Any advice?Gosh, I can relate to this to a degree considering that I tend to be the traditional/comparatively-conservative member of any group. It was difficult when I did my undergrad sometimes simply because I often found myself in certain kinds of clashes with peers and instructors that I really disliked happening. Many years later I think I realize that I started expanding my idea of SHUTTING UP to be more about the mechanics of if my mouth was open or not. I had a lot of difficulty with this kind of t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 04:04 PM |
| 2 | What is considered N-Count? Just intercourse? Or any form of intimacy?Thank you. I resist the urge to post that clip every time this discussion comes around 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 01:57 PM |
| 10 | What kind of music do you listen to?Reading through here now I feel all boring because I basically just listen to like top 40 and country lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/20 03:40 PM |
| 7 | would you still have children if your partner had autism?We do not have children in large part because my partner is an aspie. He knows he can't handle it nor really be the kind of father he would want to be. A good role model? absolutely. Disciplined and hard working, attentive and caring. But he knows well he couldn't do kids, so that was rather clear from when we got serious. We have had some talk about adopting, but neither of us really feel like we could handle it. Actually, a bit ago there was a woman here asking about her husband who worked all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/20 03:38 PM |
| 3 | Feeling attracted to my fiancé's successful best friend and I want it to stopI am exceptionally fond of Françoise Sagan. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 03:46 PM |
| 9 | Feeling attracted to my fiancé's successful best friend and I want it to stopI am an artist, and one of my most solid "rules" was always "Do not date other artists!" Why? Well, first because there is only enough room for so much artist-crazy in the relationship and I have that cornered already. But secondly, someone has to pay the bills. And when the latter isn't cared for, problems arise extremely quickly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Feeling attracted to my fiancé's successful best friend and I want it to stopworth more than an encyclopedic knowledge of Sartre I mean, there are lots of things more valuable than that. Lots. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 12:55 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsMy husband bought me a Roomba last week, and I have never been given a "labor-saving device" that actually saved this much labor. I will admit that it is so helpful I am hesitant to say anything because it feels so much like cheating! But for our mostly-carpeted home with two cats, this thing picks up ALL the pet hair that I seem to always miss with my stand-up machine. This is totally in line with my husband's slight tendency to throw money at problems, but while I worried it would be an expens… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/20 01:37 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with "daddy issues"?Becoming involved gives them both someone to blame other than each other. And for people in unhappy relationships... that is a common trope. Quick edit to add some Tolstoy. “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 05:57 PM |
| 11 | How to deal with "daddy issues"?Good luck! Just remember that the only person you can change is yourself. We all have a past, it is where we are today and where the future brings us that make us into the people we actually want to be! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 05:51 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with "daddy issues"?On the other hand, I assure you that you don't want to get in the middle of this. That is a path to making the effects on you worse. You're not going to change them, and effort put in to that end has the chance of backfiring and having both of them lock ranks against you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 05:48 PM |
| 33 | How to deal with "daddy issues"?You described my home life when I was growing up pretty well here, tbh. It was the passivity of my father in the face of a mother who was out of control that pushed me toward RP in the first place. I am 35 now and married, but at a certain point I think I got my daddy-issues more-or-less under control by refocusing those feelings from my past (immutable) to my present/future (mutable.) It went from something I couldn't really control to something that had a place, time and purpose. I knew I want… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?Of course either way, it also depends on if OP is comfortable with it or not. But to give good input, I think we need more information. I might point out that if you're curious this has been answered elsewhere in a different sub that is far more appropriate to the specifics of this topic! It informs some of my own answers in this thread. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 03:58 PM |
| 7 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?I apologize, I am not suggesting that all subby dudes are psychologically wrong. I am suggesting that subby dudes are rarely a good fit for RP women. I am also working off of the huge amount of anxiety exuding from the OP's words, which echo my own extreme discomfort. Some people can do it, some people cannot. I am the latter. It would utterly destroy my relationship. If this is the case for the OP, then her worry and anxiety is 100% okay. My wordiness likely overshadowed my intent of saying, "I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 03:25 PM |
| 7 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?In order for a switchy relationship to work, both parties need to be switch. I think that is the difference. I know plenty of switchy couples in which both are comfortable taking either role because it is "fun." I have also seen a lot of failed relationships because a switch ends up with someone more binary who doesn't see it as simply "fun." This comes off as "extreme" because it can be utterly important. I think if we were discussing actual acts and not a sanitized concept there would be more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 03:03 PM |
| 6 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?I think this is a kind of specialized knowledge thing because it is not at all uncommon to find that emasculation IS the fetish. Which is just... it can be extremely disruptive to the kind of RP relationships we work so hard to cultivate regardless of how strong one might be otherwise. At the worst, this is like playing with fire—and the op already has discomfort with the concept. Does that make sense? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 02:36 PM |
| 4 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?We've been together a really long time and he doesn't have any 'secret baggage'. In fact he's very forward and honest and generally doesn't strike me as submissive. Which I find confusing because some part of him clearly is.... X I don't want to suggest that he is somehow dishonest. My post was mostly generalized! I come into RP from a BDSM-ish perspective, and everything you wrote in your OP I could see myself saying in a similar position! I just want to make sure you know that others feel simi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 02:24 PM |
| 7 | Pleasing him when he's feeling sexually submissive?This is a huge line in the sand with me, personally. I couldn't do this and I know it. It would so diminish my respect for him that I would straight up refuse, which is not at all my usual answer. I know it would mess me up a lot. And I have known/met way too many submissive men—it is a kind of psychology. I'm sure people could make it work with RP, but you're far from alone in being uncomfortable with this request. It probably depends on the activities being asked for, but even then I would, pe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/20 01:57 PM |
| 11 | Do you read the men's RP subs?TRP can be useful because they lay all the cards on the table. Vetting a dude? Well, all their stuff with spinning plates is basically a huge guidebook of what not to do and what not to accept from a potential suitor. If you have an ironclad sense of self-worth it can be utterly eye-opening. If you don't it can be a bit dangerous. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/20 06:11 PM |
| 10 | Do you read the men's RP subs?angry is NOT how I want to live my life. Oh gosh this so much. Anger is so unhelpful and leads right to unhappiness. Spending too much time over on the male subs is anger-inducing because they're often so angry. Which is why they have their space and we have ours. I like it much better that way. Besides, I doubt many of the ladies here would be at all interested in most of the TRP posters. Not until they got way past the anger stage. Yeesh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/20 06:09 PM |
| 21 | Is it too soon to make food for him?This isn't a "Let me impress upon you my kitchen skills" moment, but it is a specific need based on your previous times together. Simply, y'all need to eat! I would, personally, tell him that you're going to do this and if he is supportive keep it simple. Nothing fancy. No showing off. Be practical about a practical problem. If he'd rather buy you food or approach this differently, that solves the same problem too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/20 04:49 PM |
| 15 | Feel really terrible about not being a virgin, can I still get married?No. No. No. You are not ruined. You are definitely not worthless. People make mistakes, and it isn't the mistake that matters as much as how you deal with the fact that you made a mistake. In fact, for plenty of people (myself included) making mistakes was what led us to becoming better, more joyful people. What this does change a little is the calculation. But that is life, because we cannot change the mistakes we have made or the stuff that we had no control over. Vetting isn't a process to ch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/20 06:03 PM |
| – | Monthly GoalsI have always struggled to keep to a proper routine, instead getting things done but scattershot and disorganized. Fixing this has felt good so far! But I only made a sufficient effort within the last month. I hope to solidify my daily routine and keep to ~90%. I feel I am about 60% currently which is huge up from... not having a proper routine at all really. Specifically, working in folding laundry and mopping which are my least favs and I too often kinda put them off a littttttle too long. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/20 07:15 PM |
| 6 | I [27F] am in a weird situation with a guy [29M] that I have been seeing in the dating phase for a while now - looking for advice.The question I have that determines a lot is is he seeing other women? I am still working on my coffee, but I cannot see any discussion of this topic. "Mike" is being presented here as singularly into your potential. Is that the case? For some reason he seems to be putting off committing. And based on the length of time, etc., I feel uneasy toward the "why." But that is just unease without a discernible concrete source. One thing that strikes me from the description is that "Mike" doesn't seem i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/20 12:37 PM |
| 3 | How do I adjust my dating strategy when I make six figures?I think that hobbies are kinda important! Not in the way that being pretty & pleasant is important, but they're kind of like the directional arrow toward the specific kind of man you want to be into you. And this is not an active process as much as it is the way that we perform "being a whole person," to use a religious studies term. You're pretty & pleasant? Fantastic! But that doesn't keep you from getting bored (or, at least not after the honeymoon phase lol.) Hobbies are what you can talk ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 07:36 PM |
| 3 | How do I adjust my dating strategy when I make six figures?Maybe this is more about "front matter" versus "back matter" by which I mean that your profile is a shopfront and your conversation/engagement are the packed shelves inside. You want your display windows to be pretty and well-designed; you want them to spark interest. But that's just part of it, because once there is interest and he is in the door? What fills the shelves has to be not only pretty, but desired. I think a lot of career/plans stuff is "back matter" that comes up later. That's the "… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 04:46 PM |
| 6 | How do I adjust my dating strategy when I make six figures?"I don't want her to be lazy" or "she needs to have a decent career" or "she'd better be self-sufficient". I think that most of the time, these are not exactly truths being expressed! Sure he might say he wants a "strong, independent woman" but honestly that's often a red herring! It is a social script they think they need to follow; or a script they learned from TV and movies—not actual life. As a little experiment, try taking out ALL the references to your work aside from the parts that are pe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 04:31 PM |
| 6 | How do I adjust my dating strategy when I make six figures?My profile reflects that I'm an engineer, that I'm attractive, that I have a pleasant personality, that my goal is to be the homemaker (potentially even homeschooling), and that I'm trying to start a business so when I do stop working, I can still contribute financially (I was wary to put this on there but felt it showed that I wasn't planning to be lazy). The way people discuss their own persons is often utterly telling—and we rarely understand exactly what we're doing until after the fact when… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodI know I will end up reading the first novel in one sitting again like when I was a kid 😂 I'll have plenty of motivation! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 01:51 PM |
| 2 | My partner wants to be a doctor...But at 25 I feel a bit...old. I left my ex at age 25, and it was one of the best decisions I have ever made because it just wasn't working. Fastforward a decade and here I am 10 years in with my husband pretty damn happy. The relationship I left w/my ex was pretty much what gave me the proper life experience to know what I wanted/desired and the type of man that I was actually looking for, ultimately. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Past experiences and the trap of victimhoodThe shots from the new film! ...oh my is it hot in here? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 01:21 PM |
| 3 | How do I start?Exactly what you're doing is the first step. As others said, read the Wiki! Try reading Fascinating Womanhood! Begin to become aware of yourself and your interactions with others—like learning to be a little more quiet. Or a lot more quiet (like in my own case lol.) Through everything, it is the question of what resonates and what brings you joy. RP is, as we say, a toolbox and part of the process is seeing which tools help accomplish goals and which do not. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 01:07 PM |
| 5 | Female hypergamy: Do I need to shut up and settle?They feel almost nothing for each other. Assuming this is truth, this ends one of two ways: a break-up or divorce. I'd much prefer the former option to the latter, myself. Dear my, I won't pretend that my own relationship is perfect, but the challenges we face we can overcome because we're, still, crazy about each other after a decade. I make him feel like a king, and he makes me feel like a princess. Without that... I might be writing something similar as the OP. Touchy and crummy regardless of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/20 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Balancing supporting husband and getting my needs met - Help!Going through your comment history... are you sure RPW is the right sub for you? This same "compromise means I get what I want because I am an independent lady" thing seems to be a recurring crusade. Sorry for engaging. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 03:04 PM |
| 0 | Balancing supporting husband and getting my needs met - Help!not only "compromising" to his needs With all respect, this comes off as slightly antagonistic. I can only speak for myself, but when hubby is stressed (and the OP here with a husband out of work who is helping his family business) it isn't a "compromise" for me to help relax him. In fact, it is kinda expected most of the time. Why? Because his responsibilities dwarf my own and if he is unhappy/stressed/overworked everyone deals with it. It sounds very much like this is a very stressed husband w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 02:28 PM |
| 4 | So, what if you're into military type men?I have never seen a sub here on reddit quite like RPW. It is a sane, down-to-earth hub for some absolutely fantastic discussion/advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 01:39 PM |
| 9 | Balancing supporting husband and getting my needs met - Help!i really just wanted to have some down-time on the sofa together and chat and go for a walk. Have you expressed this directly? I can absolutely understand this kind of situation. My husband works a LOT. He loves it and loves his job and everything. He was working all yesterday, and was still going at it when I gave up waiting for him and fell asleep at 1am. Sometimes it feels like he is working and then disappearing into his own stuff. I do my best to just express how much I miss him, and how go… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/20 01:15 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, please be careful around men who are not sex positive!This is one of the places where I tend to veer off from the RP toolbox because my own life experience taught me otherwise. Which, I believe, is a matter of context with where I live and the general culture I find myself engaged with. In my own, personal, case I consider both sleeping with and living with a man essential parts of the vetting process. I have been... surprised before in the bedroom in unfun ways. More importantly, I will never, ever shake the experience with my college bf who was p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Men who call their women bro and says that you're one of his best friends, red flag?I am so very sorry but maybe to inject a little humor this sketch is all I can think about. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 01:09 PM |
| 2 | Red flags from Mr Perfect?Sometimes I get a little miffed that on surveys, etc., when they ask how you met your spouse and they do not, anymore, have an option for "through mutual friends." And by this I mean that people, now, meet over the internet with huge frequency compared to more "old school" methods like... trusting friends or family. And by that I mean to say that there are so many extremely valid and no-big-deal reasons for the distance that the real measure here would be a preponderance of red flags in the same… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 02:49 PM |
| 13 | Red flags from Mr Perfect?Like others pointed out, it is unlikely that he will be unguarded. But that, itself, is something that can (and should) be used as a point of reference. He will come to stay with your family, so what you have is a great opportunity to see how he interacts with your family and get their opinions, too. Everything will be about respect and boundaries. Does he respect your family? Does graciousness come easily for him? How does he comport himself in situations where he is both your perspective Capta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 01:29 PM |
| 4 | What inspires you?I often ask myself, "What would Audrey Hepburn do?" Or a piece deep into Anne Carson's Beauty of the Husband, Well life has some risks. Love is one. Terrible risks. Ray would have said Fate's my bait and bait's my fate. On a July evening. Here's my advice, hold. Hold beauty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 09:48 PM |
| – | Own Your StuffAt the moment I am specifically working on my own restraint, especially as it gets stomped all-over by my impulsive need to worry about problems that are not even problems (yet.) Again, for me this is hamster-related like everything seems to be. I am learning to trust that he has a handle on everything, because he has a handle on everything. So it has been back to basics insomuch as I am working most to just simply do what I am told instead of trying to do what I am told++++. It is a process, bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Married RedPill Ladies, where should I begin?I think the actual trick I use to break this cycle of reaction is to shift the frame of the comparison. It isn't, say, me comparing my body to my much younger new neighbor who seems to love being naked in her backyard—I shift that and ask, "What does my husband want/think/believe?" ...and suddenly I was hitting every stupid little mark that comparing myself to my neighbor made me feel inadequate about. For me it is so huge. When I stop comparing I stop being unhappy. And when I am happy everythi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/20 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Married RedPill Ladies, where should I begin?My own largest pitfall is letting my hamster run wild. Because my hamster is always running a little wild but especially right now in this moment. Part of this is "self-care"—by which I mean just not letting normal routines fall entirely to the wayside. But the other side of that is my reactions. I have trouble with them and they can get my brain into a mess quickly and no one wins, then. I suspect a lot of this all comes down to just stepping back and not jumping to bad places. It was eye-openi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/20 12:52 PM |
| 4 | New Here! What was your "ah ha" moment of becoming "Red Pilled"?For all intent, I have been redpilled twice in my life. But it all refers back to my experience childhood and specifically to my own parents relationship. When I was a kid my mother was kinda a nightmare. And my father let her walk all over him. I come from a different background than a lot of the ladies here because I was never modeled good, traditional anything really. I was raised in the liberal north and still maintain a lot of that liberalism. I consider myself to be more "TradMod(erate)" t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/20 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Clothes that lastLOTS of prayer! 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:48 PM |
| 2 | Clothes that lastI think how you wash these things can make a big difference. This is so important! I wash almost everything (even things that say "Dry Clean Only" when I can get away with it 😏) and the most important thing is to be gentle with garments. Washing them is tough on them! I always use the lightest/shortest cycle and only machine dry what can either take it or what is kinda heavy duty to air dry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Laser hair removalI resigned myself to doing both, but it has been fantastic so far! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 08:26 PM |
| 15 | Laser hair removalLHR is great for some things, but awful for others. I have had a bit done, and results are a little mixed. It hurts like someone snapping a rubber-band against your skin—that is, for me, not an issue I can hurt a little. But ultimately, I am looking at doing more permanent electrolysis because the LHR certainly doesn't get everything you want to remove. Basically, if it is dark hair against light skin, LHR will work decently. But it won't zap those blonde buggers in any circumstance. Electrolysi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:26 PM |
| 43 | Husband is against botox, but I really want to try it. Thoughts?My husband is vehemently against unnecessery cosmetic procedures of any kind, including botox. He also says he'd prefer if I had lines on my face than get botox. I think you have your answer already. Sorry. This is not muddied. EDIT: I keep reading this back and it feels like, nasty? I don't want it to come off that way. But it sounds like you got a very specific answer to that question where there is little room for negotiation of any kind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 08:20 PM |
| 3 | what are Easy hobbies that impress men and are not basic?This is my first post, so I do hope it is useful. I am a poet, so I think I understand some of this. First things first you just have to work on the basics: Be pleasant and cultivate kindness, etc.. That said, I know that I use poetry as a vehicle of larger self-improvement. Patience and humility are two things I have bettered in myself since I started to publish and write professionally at my husband's encouragement. Whatever I am doing, it is an opportunity to cultivate good mindsets and good … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 03:50 PM |
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