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5

WTF ARE YOU DOING STILL TALKING TO HER??? WHAT ARE YOU? GIRLFRIENDS?? You need to go no contact with her or at least gray rock her. It sounds like she gets off on humiliating you or something. Why are you subjecting yourself to this? She's got it great, doesn't she? She's got Johnny Thunderbang for getting her back blown out and you for expressing her fee-fees.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 02:48 PM
6

Therapist. Now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 09:35 PM
1

Sounds more like he has a diamond studded flagon that says "pimp juice".
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 07:53 AM
6

You chose...poorly! 😂🤣😅 Nah, sorry dude. Couldn't help it!
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 01:47 AM
7

Just wait until she starts dating. It will be very soon. Mark my words.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 12:09 AM
2

Good luck, sir!
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 03:00 AM
5

Run everything by your lawyer. It'll save money and headaches in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 04:57 PM
6

Stop drinking until those papers are signed, sealed, and delivered. You are at war now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 02:52 AM
5

It's just a negotiating tactic.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 10:16 PM
10

It's good that you vented but dude you got out much better than a lot of guys. She's going to do her thing for a bit and find that she's not happy. She probably won't come back to you but would it even matter if she does? She's disloyal trash. Don't ever take her back. Put yourself first. Block her and all of her news from your life. Cut off all ties that link her to you. Then, just work on whatever purpose you've set out for yourself. Get some hobbies. Hit the gym and get into the best shape of…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 01:15 PM
6

Doesn't sound like she's remorseful at all. That makes it easier to eviscerate her in court I suppose
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 02:42 AM
1

Maybe she'd be willing to work harder if she gets slapped in the chest with divorce papers.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 02:52 PM
3

Congratulations on your vindication. If i were you, I'd gather everyone together and just tell them what happened. Stress that it's all from your point of view and there are two sides to every story. If you yourself cheated (emotionally or physically), you need to come clean. If not, stress that you never cheated. The same goes with abuse. She's going to try to control the narrative by saying you cheated and/or abused her. If there's no evidence for it, then you're golden.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 07:12 PM
5

Go hit the gym. Vigorous exercise is an all natural mood lifter. You'll look better and be able to find a woman who's not roughly spherical.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 07:46 PM
5

165lbs? Jesus! How tall is this piggy?
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 07:41 PM
2

It could be considered slander. Talk to your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 10:26 PM
1

What do we call women who have sex in exchange for material gain? Tip of my tongue... Starts with the letter "W"...
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 09:44 PM
12

"Stop cosplaying as a human being and go screw up the next guy's life"
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 10:26 PM
2

Updateme
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 07:32 PM
4

What I'm saying is after she gets served papers, she'll try to either goad you into violence or try to beat herself up to the point where it looks like you did it. Just trust me. Film all interactions with her after she gets served with your phone at least.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 07:31 PM
4

Mark my words. She's going to try to draw the DV card. In contentious divorces, they always do.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 07:24 PM
3

As long as you have proof you can control the narrative. I would try to get her on recording admitting that you never abused her or cheated on her. secretly record her and ask her "Why did you do this thing? Do you feel that I have ever abused you?" (wait for answer) "Do you feel that I've ever cheated on you??" (wait for answer) You want to do that because the first thing cheaters do to excuse themselves is tell everyone "He abused me and cheated on me!" You've just taken that ammo out of her g…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 06:53 PM
3

IS she at all remorseful? Does she want to reconcile at all? If not you need to get a lawyer and do everything he says to do, no more no less. Take out a HELOC or loan to get the best most expensive attorney you can afford. A good attorney is the difference between being homeless and having a pot to p!ss in.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 06:39 PM
4

Your kid only has 1 dad. Work super hard to be the best dad. The 50% of time the kids are with you, no one else exists but them. You only have a few years of this so make em count.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 04:17 PM
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If talking to her all the time is tearing you up, then for your own sake you should go no contact. "It's very difficult to deal with you being separate from me. It hurts me to speak with you now. I'm going to have to go no contact with you in order to heal myself. I will tell the kids they need to split their time between us. After sending this, I'm going to block you on all platforms. You know where and how to find me if you want to speak in person. If it's not about coming back together, pleas…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 04:32 AM
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You better record all interactions with her. She may try to draw the DV card against you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/24 08:40 PM
4

Lawyer up!
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/24 03:32 PM
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You both need to download a coparenting app such as "Our Family Wizard" and only communicate with that. Everything in it is admissible in court so if her behavior is unhinged, the authorities will know. Get a lawyer and do whatever that lawyer says to do. No more no less.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 06:50 PM
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I know it sucks now. You are going to be crawling through a flaming hellscape until those papers are signed, but it ends, and the sun will shine again. Vigorous exercise is an all natural mood lifter. Use it. Work on yourself mentally, physically, and career wise. Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert A. Glover. DO NOT EVER TAKE HER BACK. If you don't have kids with this creature, go "no contact".
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 06:47 PM
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So she's going to cut him off AND she wants a divorce??? Why??
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 06:36 PM
4

She's still gonna be her. Don't take her back.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 01:17 AM
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A man can start a family at any time. Sp3rm doesn't go bad. I had my first kid at 40. We're all doing great. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 03:20 PM
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Sounds like you did dodge a bullet. Just move on. Get some therapy if you need it. Vigorous exercise is an all natural mood lifter. Keep it up. Don't drink. It's the worst thing for you at this point. Concentrate on yourself and your career. Work hard. Get a promotion. Get a support system. If you can't reconnect with friends and/or family, then look up F3 Nation and Heroes Circle online. Both are non misogynistic men's support groups.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 02:52 PM
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"Hey AP! Enjoy the wrinkly dumpy mom bod I made her get with my 3 kids"
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 12:44 AM
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At least you had her when you could've bounced a quarter off of her ass.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 12:59 PM
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Did she cheat on you?
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 04:54 PM
1

R
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 04:29 PM
5

Get money from family and friends if you can.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 06:17 PM
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Beg borrow and steal to get the absolute best lawyer you can possibly get. Take out a HELOC or loan. Get new credit accounts. Anything. You want a very good lawyer who will fight for you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 05:53 PM
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Send her some black roses! 😅🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 02:20 PM
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I am 56 and my youngest is 11. It's doable. We're all good.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 02:34 PM
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You should probably try some anti depressant medication in the short term. There's no shame in it. If you're already on those meds, talk to a doctor about adjusting the dosage.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 02:48 AM
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SEND THOSE TEXTS TO YOUR LAWYER. THEY WILL HELP YOU WITH CUSTODY.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 01:10 PM
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I don't get it. She's with her preferred man now. Presumably the guy she cheated on you with. Why be petty and make your life hell? Do you have kids with this creature? If not, go no contact with it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 06:12 PM
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Get the best lawyer you can possibly afford. Take out new credit accounts. Get a HELOC. Beg from friends and family. A good lawyer who will fight for you is the difference between no custody and full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 04:56 AM
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Facebook marketplace
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 03:56 AM
9

Your "marriage" is a zombie sh!tshow. Shoot it in the head and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 01:55 PM
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I can't get into his brain but here's what probably happened. Getting cheated on by a partner of 10+ years is emasculating as hell for a guy. His self confidence was shot because the person he loved most stabbed him in the back like it was nothing. Did he ever really know her? Are all women like that? Can he ever really know another woman who won't do that to him? His time with you helped bring back his sense of self worth. For that alone, you did a really great thing. He left because the mind m…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 12:47 PM
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Just because you're bi doesn't mean the conventions of monogamy don't apply to you. It only means you have twice the number of potential monogamous partners. People don't seem to understand that "bi" isn't synonymous with "cheating" or "polyamory" or "gay/lesbian". It's a thing unto itself.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 04:22 AM
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Get the best lawyer you can afford. Take all the financials to him. Also proof of your involvement with the home and kids.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 07:55 PM
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Is she trying to get back together with you??? What does her ap think of all this?
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 01:38 PM
1

Get a lawyer like yesterday and tell him EVERYTHING that's happened. Leave nothing out.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 01:37 PM
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Ok, then my advice is that you're now at war on two fronts: Controlling the narrative with friends and family. Losing the least amount of assets in the divorce and getting 50/50 custody of your kid. You need to get a lawyer and do everything that lawyer says to do. No more. No less. You need the best lawyer you can afford. Take out a HELOC if you need to and open up some credit accounts. Beg, borrow, and steal. A good lawyer who fights for you is the biggest difference in a divorce. Start record…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 01:16 PM
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My advice is to get couples therapy ASAP. Sacrifice your gaming time a little bit. Do whatever it takes. Divorce is a flaming hellscape that you crawl through alone You want to avoid it all costs. There are good reasons to get a divorce. Video games isn't one of them. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 11:50 AM
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Hahaha what? How do you figure? Infidelity is abuse. You do not sweep abuse under a rug.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 11:34 AM
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She needs it to control the narrative with friends and family.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 11:09 AM
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Gather evidence and report him. Divorce this creature you're married to.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 02:54 AM
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If they aren't yours, it will help you control the narrative with friends and family. If you dump her, she is going to go the "He abused me and he cheated on me" attack. Honestly, for your own protection you should probably record all interactions with her until you get rid of her once and for all. A trumped up DV charge will f@#$k up your record and everyone will turn against you on a dime.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 04:46 PM
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Are you sure those kids are yours? You should DNA test them.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 03:14 PM
5

Prenup is marriage insurance. Do it. Ask your lawyer what an equitable solution would be. Suggestions: If she initiates the divorce, she gets much much less than if you initiate it. If there's infidelity on her part, she pays a fine and gets no spousal support. Have a similar stipulation where you pay high amount of alimony plus a fine if you cheat. Gotta be fair.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 04:10 AM
2

Are they making efforts to contact you? If so, then i suppose you can still be friends.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 01:47 PM
4

All I know about GA is that it's the best state to get a divorce if your wife is cheating on you.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 01:31 PM
2

BTLE AXE
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 11:56 PM
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Yeah start going to the gym as much as you can without hurting yourself. Volunteer for some things at church and fot charitable organizations that help people directly. Look up "the 180" online as it pertains to relationships. If you do the 180 you can possibly get her back, if that's what you really want.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 08:29 PM
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That's what I would do!
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 11:29 PM
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Ask a lawyer about that. First of all, you can record her in public without her consent. Think front yard, parking garage, or driveway. Secondly, it could be that all you have to do is tell her that you're recording her and give her the option of clamming up. Talk to a lawyer about it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 06:48 PM
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A good lawyer is the difference between custody and cooling your heels in jail. Spend some money on one. Take out a HELOC if you have to. Film all interactions with STBXW.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 06:33 PM
0

Come on man be specific! We love a good story about awful women in this sub!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 01:10 PM
3

What happened? It must be bad if you have primary custody.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 12:34 PM
4

Update your social media with videos of you using the books to crack walnuts.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 07:56 PM
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It reminds me of how women in the southern USA say "Bless your heart" in a mock concerned tone. It's like "virtue cosplay". They're clothing themselves in the trappings of concern and charity, but really they're just performing "ego masturbation". Whatever gives her nice fee-fees, I guess...
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:44 PM
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Talk to your lawyer and ask him how to proceed.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 07:36 PM
1

If there's infidelity, Georgia is your best bet
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 03:26 AM
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The coparenting app info is admissible in court if she wants to accuse you of anything and adjust CS. It also does video calls documents, etc. All admissible as evidence in court.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 10:50 PM
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You should insist on the coparenting app.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 10:48 PM
2

Oh man. I have ALL KINDS of devious ideas when it comes to getting ahead in a divorce! You don't even KNOW!!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 10:51 PM
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Order a Voice Activated Recorder off of Amazon. Get a Sony. You want high quality. Get some industrial strength velcro. Put electrical tape over the displays and lights of the VAR. Purchase some cheap corded headphones and plug them into the headphone jack and snip the headphone wire right next to the plug. Use the industrial strength velcro to fasten it underneath her driver's seat of her car. People talk to their affair partners in the car. Women talk to their friends about the plans they've m…
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 08:45 PM
4

Gee, she sounds like a real winner. Please tell me you don't have kids with this crazy h00ker.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 04:49 PM
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Roses are red Violets are blue. You blew a guy. Just tell me what cemetery you're buried in so I can go dance and pi$$ on your grave.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 04:21 AM
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Pawn shop or, if you want to maximize your profits sell them on ebay or fb marketplace. Use the money to pay your alimony/child support that month. If you really want to stick it to her tell her that's where this month's payment came from.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 02:28 PM
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Because there is a paper trail that an attorney can find that you have a safety deposit box. If you just have it hidden, then there is only a record of cash withdrawals. You can say you gambled it away. But you do your own research on the subject. If you want to take the risk, fine. You could alternately do a prepaid card for the withdrawals I suppose but those might have an expiration date.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 11:08 AM
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Amen! Uh...I mean AWOMEN!
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 10:28 PM
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"You're a terrible person!!! When can we get back together???" Mixed messages much? Dude, gray rock this chick and go live your life. If you have children with this creature then use a court approved coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" or something like that.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 06:11 PM
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I suppose you could lie but they might catch you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 04:11 PM
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There's a record of that which would be disclosed in a divorce. They'll want to know where it is and what's in it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 03:50 PM
2

Phucket Thailand. You may fall in love with that place. Otherwise, eastern Europe, like Romania is good. Also look into South America.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 03:41 PM
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Start taking out cash and buying physical gold with it. Don't store it in a safety deposit box. Hide it with someone you trust. This pile of gold will be your nest egg.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 03:35 PM
3

You should probably get into therapy and explore why your marriage failed and your family issues. If you don't, and you get married again, your new marriage will likely fail for the same reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 11:55 AM
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Going forward you need to prioritize your happiness and wellbeing. Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 04:49 AM
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What was the "nonsensical message"?
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 04:21 AM
2

Ok you deserve a 2 Fer. https://youtu.be/E5F-O_19lSI?si=wdD8t7h8UTjp1BYK
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 03:12 AM
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Way to go, cowboy! https://youtu.be/lX8GG3dnsp8?si=zzrS2jzjUyXg602d
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 02:20 AM
2

Thrift store has what you need. And ikea/walmart.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 06:40 PM
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Look, dude. As of now, you are Superman and she is Lex Luthor. She is now your arch enemy until the divorce and child custody agreement is final. Until then, go no contact and get the best, meanest lawyer you can get. Take out a HELOC, get new credit cards, beg borrow and steal to get the sharpest attorney you can possibly get then tell him to go scorched earth on her a$$ and get your kids back.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 03:22 AM
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Write a list of every bad trait of hers: physical and mental. Write a list of all the bad sh!t she did to you. All of the dumb things she said. Put it on your phone. Whenever you start to over romanticize your past with her, whip out that list and read it
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 06:57 PM
1

Yeah I saw this series of videos and I was like "20+ years with the guy and she has almost nothing and her kids are standoffish?" She totally cheated in an at fault state! Either that or her lawyer totally sh!t the bed. Notice that she's not with anyone so the AP dumped her. It's so very satisfying to see how miserable she is.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 04:28 AM
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Since she's found a new fool to cheat on beforehand, I hope you got the "limerence divorce"!!
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 10:57 PM
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Sounds like you got the "limerence divorce". So many men here are so envious of you! Way to go with that!
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 07:43 PM
2

Nah man get the ball rolling. A mid life crisis occurs when you realize that time is the only real wealth a man has....and you've wasted FAR TOO MUCH OF IT ON STUPID BULLSHIT! Stop wasting your time and get busy living the rest of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 10:00 PM
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"Please restrict your topics to the children only. Anything else is not my problem anymore. Thanks." Try to get her to use a coparenting app so any crazy screed she pounds out will be admissible in court.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 04:58 PM
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Write out a list on your phone. Write out all the sh!t she did that annoyed you. Write out the more unattractive aspects of her personality and appearance. Every time you romanticize her or your relationship, pull out that list and read it. You'll see she was just a regular person you were with and not some fairy angel. As for loneliness, volunteer with a charitable organization. If you have time to sit around and be sad, you have time to go help people.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 03:21 PM
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Send those texts to the dream boat she's shacking up with. LOL
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 10:24 PM
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Doesn't really matter does it? She's in the past. If you have kids with her, try to keep it as amicable as possible while maintaining as little contact as possible. Use a coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" to manage conversations about your kids and block her on everything else.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 02:51 PM
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You know how much MONEY was spent on that stupid bullsh!t over the years???
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 02:21 AM
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Separate all your Finances and cancel all credit accounts. Put a freeze on opening new credit on your credit report.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 09:50 PM
2

She might try to come back later. I doubt it but you never know about crazy people. That's why I say block her and go no contact.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 09:48 PM
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This girl sounds insane. I know you think you love her but you need to totally block her on everything.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 09:31 PM
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My only advice is to beg borrow or steal to get a lawyer who will fight for you and not phone it in. Then, do whatever your lawyer says to do. No more. No less. Get together ALL of your financials: debts, paystubs from you and her, assets you own, etc. Get proof of infidelity to control the narrative and it will make a difference in the financials if she spent money on the guy. FYI: adultery is illegal in Florida. Like it's against the law. Just sayin.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 02:09 PM
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Why not do the hard thing and work on yourself? You know, like what a real man would do?
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 02:03 PM
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She's probably being sneaky. Get a lawyer and file first. You can't trust her anymore. You need to consider her as your arch enemy now. You're Superman. She's Lex Luthor.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 01:53 PM
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Don't be concerned about what a used up pile of slunkmeat you used to call "honey" is doing with her chapped and battered p@ssy. Move on, king, and realize you've got a line of forefathers behind you who crossed oceans, climbed mountains, and helped build nations while enduring the death of their families and even entire villages and yes even disloyal wh0res. You are their posterity. Take your time to mourn and then go start kicking ass at the gym, your job, and your hobbies.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 03:48 AM
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Thailand or Philippines. Bali.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 01:25 AM
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Worked for my buddy. They had to cohabitate while the divorce happened. He was relentless, combining this technique with gray rock. This and gray rock are like crystal meth kryptonite to someone with full on diagnosed NPD. He was recording all interactions with her because he knew she'd try to get a bullshit DV call on him. Finally she "broke" and started biting kicking and scratching him while screaming "I HATE YOU!! I HATE YOU!!!" He got her out of the house with a restraining order. Plus vide…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 12:47 AM
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If you want to tack on a dv charge, just acknowledge that she spoke without responding. "You just said words" "Noise is coming out of a hole in the middle of your face" "Noise is hitting my eardrums."
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 08:28 PM
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Do you have friends and relatives who can help you afford a lawyer? Can you take out a new credit card or two? Can you get a loan? Using your house or car as collateral? The difference between coming through this with your kids and getting fucked over is a good lawyer and you need to beg borrow or steal to get one. Meanwhile only communicate with her using a coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard"
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 02:30 PM
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You need to record all interactions with her from now on. You will need that to control the narrative, prove she's crazy for custody purposes, and counter any false DV charges she will inevitably lay upon you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 03:23 AM
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/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 12:21 AM
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Don't be anyone's back up plan, dude. Especially to a used up pile of slunkmeat that you used to call "honey".
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 04:42 AM
5

I counter those songs with "Margo's Waltz" by Lloyd Cole: She said don't worry, baby I'll do my own crying I'm a big girl now Now I'm gonna be okay Yes, I'll find a new way of living You know I will And you lie there without sleeping And you stare at your wall And you realize you're not weeping You don't need her anymore You say don't hate me, baby It won't hurt you if you do You got no reason not to She'll kiss you on the head Says there's no easy road for leaving If it hurts you too And you li…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 01:53 AM
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If you get involved with this creature you'd better have a prenuptial agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 02:59 PM
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Try to keep communication with her to a minimum. Use a court approved coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" to keep the bs to a minimum. "I'm not interested in your love life." "What are we? Girlfriends? I don't care who you go out with." "Bartender, huh? You going to cosplay as a loyal loving wife for him too? Try cosplaying as a good mother first, mmmmkay?" If you want to tag her with a DV charge against her, I got a foolproof way to do it. 😅🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 07:00 AM
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Would you care if your new "friend" was blowing other dudes? If so, move on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 06:14 AM
3

Have her served at work or better yet when she's out on a date or with her friends.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 03:50 AM
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LAWYER UP, MY FRIEND!
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 08:58 PM
2

If you need a support group, you might want to look into heroescircle(dot)club It costs money but they meet twice a week and it's a support group for men without being misogynistic. In fact, one of the groups is led by a woman. You might try it for a month and see if you get anything out of it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 07:02 PM
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Google f3 nation and give them a try.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 06:50 PM
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That's the kind of thing that is just going to take time. Relax, you're not even in your prime yet. A man's prime is his mid 30s but even late bloomers happen in their 40s or even 50s. The last thing you need in your life right now is another woman. If you're feeling emasculated, then hooking up with some dates MIGHT help that? But really the thing to do is work on yourself. You know the standard recommendation drill: Hit the gym. You'll see yourself achieving goals. You'll look better and be he…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 06:34 PM
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That may or may not be the case legally. But you have to look at it PRACTICALLY. For the foreign wife to get ahold of the American man's assets, she's going to have to hire an American attorney. This will need to be an attorney who not only knows family law but international law and treaties between the US and the countries in question. This will probably need to be more than one attorney working together, being paid American Lawyer Prices. Unless this poor girl is independently wealthy, it will…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 06:18 PM
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I don't regret getting married. I've been married 21 years 3 kids. I got married late. I was 35 when I got married and she was 27. It's perfectly OK to not want to get married. What you need to do, though, is have a support group of friends that will help you through your loneliness. If it's a mixed group of men and women, that's the best thing. But usually for a guy, it'll be just fellow men. You construct this group by engaging in hobbies and through volunteering for organizations that help pe…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 10:00 PM
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Keep posting pics of you and your girlfriend. Bonus points if she looks good in a bikini and is younger and hotter than wifey. Give them something to discuss when they get together next time!
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 09:12 PM
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I get it. She probably didn't want to deal with STBXW bullshit. Talk to your lawyer, but I doubt there's anything you can do unless yoga girl wants to file a complaint
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 09:00 PM
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Probably shouldn't "date" until the divorce is final. Did yoga teacher know you were technically still married?
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 07:34 PM
5

Get a lawyer and blindside her first, preferably at her work or when she's out with friends. It's the closest thing to revenge you're going to get (if that's what you're after). But lawyer up before she does. Sounds like she's planning on doing it after your kid leaves home.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 06:15 PM
5

If you have a remote job, travel.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 02:49 AM
11

Blindside her at work by getting her slapped in the chest with divorce papers in front of her colleagues. That's the closest thing to revenge you're going to get.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 11:46 PM
17

Sorry but it's over. She is monkey branching to your replacement.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 11:15 PM
1

Admitting need is Admitting weakness. It's lizard brain shit that we need to get over TBH.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 07:10 PM
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There is/was a TikTok meme going around with women answering "What would you rather encounter alone in the woods? An unknown man or a bear?" Lots of women chose the bear. A male response to this was to ask men "What would you rather share your feelings to: A woman, or a tree?" Almost all of the men chose "tree".
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 02:28 PM
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Ouch. That'll hurt
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 03:14 AM
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It was your idea to open the marriage. Do you know how I know? You didn't write "He wanted to open the marriage " It was your idea. When a woman wants to open a marriage: She cheated and wants to not feel guilty about it. She is a cheater. She wants to use her husband for his resources and emotional support while getting her back blown out by Johnny Thunderbang, who can offer neither. She is a cake eater. She is actively interviewing her husband's replacement. She is a monkey brancher. Pick one.…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 02:42 AM
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It was over the moment you decided to f@ck other dudes. People who love each other don't do that neglectful, repugnant sh!t. Just do him a favor and end it and go cheat on someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 02:33 AM
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She's going to probably try to frame the narrative that you are abusive. Ask your lawyer about possible defamation protection. Basically if she says you're abusive, call her out publicly and ask her to substantiate that claim or you'll sue her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 04:19 PM
2

Yeah man buy an air mattress and tell her to park her disloyal ass on that until she gets launched out into the cold uncaring world good and proper.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 04:06 PM
2

Contact credit agencies and put a freeze on your credit so she can't open up any more joint credit accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 03:17 PM
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Yes! Are you?? Support doesn't mean forming the "HE MAN WOMAN HATERS CLUB" Didn't you see the mod post earlier? Reddit is two seconds from nuking this subreddit for misogyny. Then NO ONE gets support.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 12:09 AM
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Do not move out. Tell her that since she wants the divorce, she can move to a different bedroom.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 09:58 PM
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You guys need to stop this misogyny shit or reddit will nuke this sub. No more support for divorced men
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 09:54 PM
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Agreed! Every state should have the option for an at fault divorce with consequences.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 08:34 PM
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Go ahead and tell him you have it. If it makes a difference to your divorce, then he'll tell you what to do. Unfortunately, infidelity mostly doesn't make a difference in a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 05:53 PM
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Whether or not I reconcile depends on the nature of the breakup. If she got really blackout drunk and slept with a rando in a one night stand, I might be able to forgive that with some mutual therapy and strict boundaries. If she was physically or verbally abusive, I would only consider it if there's some major therapy going on. If there's a full blown affair, physical or emotional, no matter how long the duration of the affair, I would be completely done. If it was a dead bedroom, I'd consider …
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 07:36 PM
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Vigorous exercise is an all natural mood lifter. You'll FEEL better and LOOK better.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 11:29 PM
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South America Southeast Asia Eastern Europe Stay out of the big cities and go to the smaller size cities
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 08:29 PM
1

Looking at your history... Do you love This woman?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 01:35 PM
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Go get a lawyer. Take out a new credit card and use it if you have to or borrow money from a relative.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 08:26 PM
4

If you get a lot of tax benefits now, you'll lose them in the divorce if you don't prenup.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 07:24 PM
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She's Lex Luthor. You're Superman. Until the divorce is completely over with, you are arch enemies.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 04:03 PM
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ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME??? GET ONE QUICKLY!! NARC ANON NA.ORG
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 01:23 PM
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Call your sponsor. Twice.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 05:24 AM
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Go see an attorney to see what a divorce will look like. Take all of your financial data, assets and debts, to the attorney. They can give you a picture of what divorced life will look like for you and her. When she sees the flaming hellscape her life is about to become, maybe she'll be more open to counseling. She will have to get a job. She won't be able to take the kids out of the city, much less the country, without your permission. When she figures this out, I'm thinking she'll be more reas…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 03:36 PM
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Get all your financials together: assets and debts. Go see a lawyer with it. Make no mistake. From now on, you're Superman, and she's Lex Luthor. Try to get her on recording saying she doesn't love you and that you've never abused her. Use it to control the narrative because she will frame it to make it look like you're abusive. She probably has post partum depression. But if she's not getting help for it, you need to protect yourself and leave.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 03:12 PM
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Go get an attorney. Generally unless you have seriously shit the bed personally and have a criminal record, you'll be able to get 50-50 custody.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 12:14 PM
1

She dump you because you're uggo all of a sudden? Or vice versa?
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 08:22 PM
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Look in the mirror. That's the guy you're competing with. Take a selfie and look at it the same time tomorrow and ask yourself what you've done in the past 24 hours to be better than that guy. If you've done anything, anything at all,, that's a "W". It's a battle of inches that adds up to miles over time.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 04:58 PM
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If you have kids, storage. If not, pack em up and send them to the ex if she seems remorseful. If she's belligerent, ask her parents if they want them. If they don't, dumpster.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 12:25 PM
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Man, while I was reading this, I could swear I heard a rattlesnake rattle just rattling away. "No, thank you, I'm busy right now. I would appreciate it if you limited your communication to the children only." Then I'd get your lawyer to tell her lawyer to only communicate with you using a court approved communication app like "Our Family Wizard".
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 03:28 AM
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You think she's fundamentally different now? What work has she done on herself or her personality or psyche. Tell her you'll attempt reconciliation when she's addressed the issues that destroyed your marriage in the first place. Tell her after she does the work, you'll have a long talk with her therapist about reconciliation. I suspect she's too lazy and not serious enough to try. If she is, then you might want to consider it. If she fixes what was broken in her, then maybe reconciliation has a …
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 07:21 PM
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Have you tried marriage therapy and individual counseling? Divorce is a flaming hellscape. I would try to avoid it if you possibly can. Have you ever heard the phrase " The grass is greener where you water it?" You have what a lot of guys want: a family and a HOME...not just a house. Get some professional help for you and ypur marriage before you pull the trigger on it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 02:47 PM
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Wow, your ex is a real winner, isn't she? If they're older then maybe you can get them matched with older owners looking for dogs. There are organizations that do that service.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 08:48 PM
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Really you can't get it if you kiss with open sores?
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 08:45 PM
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Sounds like you tried your best. Talk to a lawyer before confronting her. Do whatever the lawyer says. No more. No less. Get all your Financials together before your first visit. Lists of assets, retirement savings, debts and ownership.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 08:07 PM
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This is the kind of thing you need to double-check for all involved. Do more tests with a different lab if possible and DNA test those kids while you're at it. If it's still the case then you need to ask her if she got a transfusion, if she was accidentally jabbed by a needle, kissed a guy with an open sore, etc. If she won't come clean then ask her to do a polygraph test. I don't think that's unreasonable given the context. If you stampede directly to divorce you could be painted as abandoning …
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 07:42 PM
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No I would want to explore couples therapy and individual therapy so as to not destroy my family unless I absolutely had to in order to be happy. There's a reason why he married her in the first place and I would want to try to explore that reason before going thru a divorce, which can be hell on earth.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 03:15 AM
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I would encourage you to exhaust EVERY POSSIBLE AVENUE before pulling the trigger on your marriage. Divorce is a flaming hellscape and you have no idea how awful it is until you're journeying through it. She is gonna turn into Lex Luthor and you're Superman. You have no idea what depths of malice she is capable of, believe me. Try everything else first.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 03:04 AM
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Philippines, Thailand, Colombia, or Romania. Trust me, bro.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/24 05:43 AM
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My buddy was done with his ex. Whenever she'd talk, he would respond by affirming only that she said something. "Words are coming out of your face" "You just said a thing" "Sounds are bouncing off my eardrums" "You're making noises with a hole in your face" He finally got her on a DV charge. Playing the long game.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 08:26 PM
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You really need to talk to a lawyer. My gut says that the house is not going to be considered your property so you won't get anything for it. It might be factored into alimony if it's obvious that it's set up to be a rental property.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/24 03:52 PM
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She will try to paint you as abusive in order to justify her affair. It's a face saving tactic. That's why you should try to bring it up and record her answer. See if you can do a date timestamp on the recording so she can't claim that it's old. "Hey honey. I have a serious question. I'm trying to be a better person and atone for any shortcomings in my life. In our marriage, have you ever felt abused in any way by me?"
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 10:45 PM
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She knows she's screwed. Talk to a lawyer. Bring ALL the financials with you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 08:41 PM
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Tell that guy "Thanks for taking this old battleaxe off my hands!" And then laugh and laugh!
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 06:21 PM
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Some questions for her if she wants reconciliation: "Why should I take you back? What do I get out of it?" "If a woman really loves a man, does she get her back blown out by other guys?" If she says that she loves you, say "That is demonstrably false." Tell her to stop telling you she loves you because that's an insult to people who don't cheat on their partners. "You really don't love me, do you? You just don't want your life to change, isn't that right? You want to have babies with and grow ol…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 06:06 PM
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Congratulations on getting the "affair fog" divorce! There are men here who are jealous AF of you! 😂🤣😅 Sounds like you've got your priorities straight. I'm a paranoid MF, so I would try to talk to my lawyer about any possible way she could try to screw me after the divorce. Record ALL interactions with her. She probably isn't above filing a false DV charge against you. Put cameras in your home.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 12:46 PM
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Nah man getting cheated on is emasculating and brutal. Imagine getting kicked out of your home with her moving the dude in the next day. He's sleeping in your bed, sitting in your chair, watching your TV, and fucking your wife. And YOU'RE funding the whole thing with spousal support and child support payments Nah man, I'm sure there are guys here that envy your situation.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 03:31 PM
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She thought you were her fallback plan. Ooops. Maybe you can let this European girl kick start your "mojo". Go work out and work on your stamina. Make a good showing with her for America!
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 03:00 PM
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Your attorney can probably advise you on an emergency decree.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 01:16 PM
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Therapy, dude!
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/24 12:25 PM
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Sounds reasonable to me, but talk to your attorney about it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 04:00 PM
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What state?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 04:06 PM
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I looked at your post history. She cheated on you. How is it that this divorce is "amicable"?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 04:07 AM
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Don't get involved with a new girl quickly. You're going to find that you might have a lot more disposable income. Guys don't spend money on decorations or cosmetics or stuff that women generally spend money on. You will feel lonely and gutted and like a failure. The reason that 2nd and 3rd marriages don't work out is because: FIRST, you have to work on yourself in therapy and find out where your deficiencies lie in relationships. You might want to do a post mortem on your marriage with your wif…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/24 08:16 PM
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I would exhaust all other avenues including marriage therapy and sex therapy before pulling the trigger on my marriage. But if you think you've done all you could, and communicated with your wife about how serious your concerns are and the consequences ( divorce). She might be willing to work with you. Divorce is a blasted hellscape that you want to avoid, if possible.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 11:08 PM
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Did she ever try to come back to you?
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 02:16 PM
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You got the limerence divorce?? Lucky!!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 02:06 PM
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Most of the guys here were divorced by their wives. If you look up the stats, you'll find that the overwhelming majority of divorces are initiated by women. As far as your husband's behavior is concerned and going by the information given, it sounds like: He's a card-carrying psychopath and you are well rid of him. You crossed some kind of hard boundary that he has that you may or may not know about. Again, psychopath. I've seen Nightmare stories on here where a person photoshops the spouse into…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 05:18 AM
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Not your problem anymore, buddy! 🫡👍🤙
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 11:12 PM
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Gray Rock Use a communication app like "Our Family Wizard". It's admissible in court.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 11:07 PM
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You can't trust her. When the going gets tough, she runs like hell. Who wants to live like that?
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 10:33 PM
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It happens over months. Maybe even a couple of years. Those are the key videos. Her TikTok will be interspersed with videos of her vaguely talking shit about you, talking about how tough divorce is for the kids (if applicable), talking about dating as a single mom, moaning about having to work and pay for everything, moaning about how no one is there to do car maintenance or open up jars. After she gets pumped and dumped a few times, she'll talk about how she "doesn't need no man." Videos of her…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 09:04 PM
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Haha!! I guess I just willed her into existence! 😂🤣😅
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 08:50 PM
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This is her future. She decides to document her "freedom journey" on TikTok. First video is the day after the divorce. She's pretending to be sad with sad piano music. She talks about how tragic losing love is. She'll either paint you as the "nice guy", say you were abusive in some vague way and she'll cry. Second video is her making herself up for a big date with a 24 year old she matched with on tinder. She's excited and happy. Third video is her talking about her new boyfriend and smiling. Fo…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 06:54 PM
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No if you're on a public street you can film as long as the person you're filming is also in a public area. There is no expectation of privacy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 06:04 PM
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AMEN! 😅🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 01:56 AM
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Sucks but I would consider it a "do over." Be sure and get a prenup if there's a next time
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 01:54 AM
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Did you use a rusty tuna can lid or what?😅🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 01:53 AM
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You gave yourself a vasectomy?
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 12:25 AM
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Inertia is your enemy. Keep occupied. If you can't do something to improve your career or your body, then volunteer with an organization that helps people directly.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 01:16 PM
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Lawyer up! If you don't have kids, then congratulations. You don't have to see or hear from her after this is over.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 10:22 PM
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Georgia has at fault divorce so if you prove cheating she gets NO ALIMONY
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 06:39 PM
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You will get through this. Someone like her, who would do that to another person, is not a happy person themselves. They are exceedingly pathetic. All you need to do is get busy carving out happiness in life apart from someone like that it will actually cause them physical pain. They'll be too proud to admit that, though, and they won't show it. They'll post fake happiness and profound quotes and wisdom on social media that they have no true understanding of because they have no depth of charact…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 05:35 PM
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The best revenge is for you to do great without her. Don't worry about her getting her just reward. From the sound of it, she has a black belt in screwing up her own life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 03:39 PM
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"I don't want to talk about mommy. Let's not talk about her. What's your favorite Pokémon?" You got the limerance divorce, you lucky guy! Second and third marriages fail miserably since the people in the first marriage don't fix what caused it to go wrong in the first place. You need to figure out how to be a better partner for the next woman if that's what you want. Meanwhile build up your wealth and your body.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/24 12:47 PM
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If you have a court document, tell her to kick rocks.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 09:50 PM
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You will absolutely screw yourself if you DON'T talk to a lawyer. They will probably get her to pay for it, maybe. They should tell you what to bring beforehand. I should think that the lawyer will want all of the financial information. Including debts like student loans, mortgage and car payments, and credit cards/amazon.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 01:05 PM
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She's not doing great and wants to make herself feel better by seeing you struggling. She feels guilty about being a shit person She's not doing great and wants to get back with you. Those are your options. But my question is... Does it fucking matter? You're not taking her back. You're not friends. The only reason you tolerate her is for the sake of your kid and that has a limited shelf life. Why must you chat with her? Just give her the facts. Ask if she understands. Then hang up on her if she…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 02:36 AM
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Women, if they divorce in their 20s and haven't had kids yet, can marry a quality guy if they're very attractive. Their looks are what will get them in. If she has kids and an ex who is alive and active in her life, her value to a quality guy goes way down. At this point, she better look like a model. She could get a mid looking guy she settles for because he's a good provider and treats her nice. But she's settling, and the guy quite frankly is a simp and under her thumb, so she's not happy. Al…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 08:28 PM
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Generally speaking, unless there's a very large amount of money involved, a lawyer won't go after a prenup. Especially one that has been written by another lawyer and is signed months before the wedding. POST nuptial agreements are much more problematic as it can be proven to have been signed "under duress".
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 07:13 PM
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Do you think a prenup would help?
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 02:17 PM
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Sounds like you already made up your mind Why the hell are you asking for advice? Absolution? FWIW, te absolvo. I'm the pope of Reddit. Go ye forth and murder ye marriage with impunity.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 08:47 PM
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Divorce will screw up your kid, but so will staying in a loveless marriage. Personally, I think you should try every avenue before pulling the trigger. Did she change physically after marriage? Maybe you need to talk to her about both of you hitting the gym. The way to induce intimacy is physically touch. My recommendations: Kiss like teenagers for 5 minutes. Like really necking like you're doing it in her bedroom at her parents' house. Learn how to give a back rub and foot massage on YouTube. G…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 05:09 PM
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Take it slow. Get some therapy. Work on yourself. If you don't have kids with your ex, cut her out of your life completely. Otherwise go as minimal contact as you can.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 12:55 PM
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I guess Jesus didn't see her coming first?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 07:12 PM
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What's the situation with your kids? From your previous posts, she's a drug addict, drunk, and suicidal. Did you leverage this to get custody? How is she paying for the house? Do you have to pay alimony?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 06:55 PM
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That's great! She gets all of your resources and emotional support without any of that dirty nasty sex! Sounds like a great deal! Is she going to start dating too? 😅🤣😂
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 04:53 AM
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What horse hockey is this???
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 07:04 PM
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The apps are all dusty hellscapes infested with gold diggers and robots. Good luck finding a match! It's possible. So is winning the lottery, though.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 06:50 PM
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She's settling, dude. If she wants to come back, she's going to have to work on it. First, secretly record her and ask her if you've ever abused her. She'll say no. Be sure and get that recording. It's not for court. It's to control the narrative. Second, she needs to publicly admit to your parents, her parents, and on social media what she did. Going out on dates while married and having her dates play with your kids. Also, state on social media that she has joined dating apps behind your back.…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 05:59 AM
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Not really. I mean of course it depends on the judge and the state you're divorcing in. But prenups are valid if they contain accurate info about assets and they aren't signed under duress. The judge will grant it. However, anyone with a lawyer can fight anything. It's just a matter of is it worth it to fight it. Most of the time, it's not A prenup is basically marriage insurance.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 02:46 PM
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Tell her that you two can put your own kids through college or put your LAWYERS' KIDS through college. It all depends on how amicable you two can be.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 02:42 PM
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I like to imagine that she got played by a hustler dude who was very good looking and lost it all. Maybe someone hired by one of her ex husbands.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 11:30 PM
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Should probably get a prenup. She's also getting a little long in the tooth to keep doing it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 11:09 PM
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Gonna take time, buddy. You gotta work on yourself. For the time being you need to be a machine. A machine doesn't feel pain. A machine only needs fuel to keep going. Your machine gets bigger and more powerful when you lift heavy objects. Your machine is designed to adapt to adversity. You are a MAN. You're allowed to mourn. But you eventually have to step up and fight for your future. FIGHT!! You will NOT validate a cheating woman's shitty choices by being a shitty person yourself. You will be …
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 07:18 PM
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Tell her "You are no longer a wife or a woman to me. All I see in front of me is a pile of used up slunkmeat oozing manipulative bullshit out of a dank hole in the middle of its dumb fucking face. If you have a shred of God damn decency in your degenerate body, you will give me the easiest most generous divorce a cheating scumbag has ever given her husband. Then, you won't darken my eyesight any more."
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 05:53 AM
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I don't take pills. Unless you're talking about ibuprofen. I do take those. And they are red. Otherwise I don't know what you're talking about. If you look at the post, the overwhelming majority of people are criticizing the man. I hardly need to add anything that hasn't already been said
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 11:42 PM
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Dear Diary, Today I murdered a baby AND my marriage. Thank you, goddess, that I'm such an empowered woman. Awomyn.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 01:09 PM
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In this day and age, unless one of you seriously shits the bed as parental material, you'll get 50-50. Just record all interactions with her with your phone and through a court approved coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" so she can't falsely file against you. If you're afraid she might pull some bullshit then get a mutual friend or family member to at least temporarily transport the kids between you two.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 03:32 PM
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I would try counseling before totally pulling the trigger on your marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 01:06 PM
2

Can you talk to the pastor about it? Maybe schedule a meeting?
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 06:08 PM
3

It's kind of a cool jazzy morose tune
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 11:55 PM
4

"Margo's Waltz" by Lloyd Cole helped a lot at the time.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 08:08 PM
7

There's forgiveness and there's reconciliation. Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself. You're releasing all the hate and pain and embracing peace. This is ALWAYS the right thing to do for yourself. Reconciliation is starting up a relationship with someone you had to forgive. I'm not talking about remarrying your wife. I'm talking about being in her life AT ALL. Reconciliation is a gift you give someone else. You don't HAVE to give them this gift just like you don't have to give them ANY g…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 09:38 PM
5

Use a coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" to communicate with her about the kids only and block her on everything else.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 07:03 PM
4

It'll BLOW YOUR MIND, MAN!!!
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/24 06:31 PM
9

Prenup is basically marriage insurance. It's possible that it could be nullified by a judge but it won't be if it's written by a good board certified family law attorney. Any prenup can be fought against but that generally doesn't happen in the average cases. It only happens in cases where there's a LOT of money involved. Probably the nightmare scenario would be that your woman monkey branches to a really rich dude that has the time and resources to fight the prenup. Even THEN, though the chick …
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 07:44 PM
7

Excellent sir. I would hold off on relationships, personally, and build up wealth and, when you're not working, focus on personal development: Gym, professional certifications (if applicable), and volunteering with a charity that helps people directly. As far as women goes, you need to get your girl picker recalibrated through some therapy and self help reading.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 06:17 PM
3

Nah man move on.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 04:31 PM
3

No. Because there's no kids, there's no baby momma drama. All else being equal, I think a divorce might be a negative, but not by much. Girls want a guy that other girls want. Concentrate on getting fit, dressing nicely, having good hygiene, and being successful in your career. You have to talk to them using the same energy as with talking to your bros. If you're nervous with high energy, that comes off as desperation. Meeting girls is easier if you have a girl as a wingman. A divorced friend of…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 04:19 PM
6

You don't have kids, so that's a big bonus.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 12:15 PM
11

Jesus, was she over 3 bills when you married her??? Lol!
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 02:35 AM
1

Solicitor. You need a paper trail, and you don't want her making shit up.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 11:54 PM
3

Are you getting therapy? It helps.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 11:19 PM
2

INERTIA IS YOUR ENEMY, BUDDY!! Just try new things. Go to places you've never gone to. Take a beginner yoga class. Work on a professional certification. Volunteer with a charity that helps people directly.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 10:01 PM
2

This is stampeding towards a regular divorce. Probably should go ahead and lawyer up if your spidey sense is tingling.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 03:09 AM
1

Of course she wiil!! That's when he says "whatever, stupid." And walks away.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 02:55 PM
8

OF COURSE you don't take her back!!🤣😂 Tell her: "What exactly do I get out of taking you back?" "What do I get out of this besides a moody disloyal pile of used up slunkmeat that vomits lie after lie out of a dank hole in the middle of its dumb fucking face?" "Sell me on the idea, honey. What does a typical day in our 'new and improved' marriage look like?" If she tells you she loves you say: "You just told me a few months ago you DIDN'T love me. Were you lying then or lying now? Either way, you…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 02:29 PM
3

The thing to say is nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/24 03:47 PM
2

Block her on everything. Download a coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" to minimize the bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/24 08:23 PM
2

A prenup is good if it comes from a good lawyer and is signed before any wedding plans are concrete. Plus I think it has to be kept up as new marital assets are acquired. If you slap them in the chest with a prenup the day before the wedding then it's "under duress". A good prenup from a good lawyer is pretty ironclad for the average Joe. If you're super wealthy then of course you can hire a super expensive attorney to weasel out of it. But that typically doesn't happen.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 05:03 PM
1

Yeah but right now she's controlling the narrative right? Your silence indicates to those around you that you are guilty of what she's saying. Unfortunately in our culture, the woman is believed no matter what crazy shit she talks about.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 04:54 PM
1

You can always call her out and ask her for actual proof of her assertions rather than just running her mouth. If you want to get serious, you can get your lawyer to threaten her with a defamation suit if she doesn't retract her statements publicly.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 04:47 PM
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Assuming you are in the USA. If you must get married, get a prenup. You can't finance a home purchase without home insurance. You can't drive a car without insurance. You probably have some kind of Health insurance. A prenup is marriage insurance. You don't ever want to make a claim on any insurance, but sometimes you're forced to, so you do. A prenup ensures you'll divide your assets equitably and not have to pay thousands of dollars to lawyers and then rely on a judge, who likely got elected f…
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 03:51 PM
3

Talking to a lawyer about this will yield the best advice. Abandonment differs from state to state, so a state board certified family law attorney will be your best bet here.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 02:42 AM
2

Talk about it to your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 06:06 PM
13

What, in your estimation, is the best thing for your kids ultimately? It sounds to me that she wants all of the "benefits" of being a mom and none of the "challenges". You know who thinks like that? A fucking child! What's best for the kids is to limit their exposure to this crazy person. Talk to your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 05:40 PM
4

There is an app called "Our Family Wizard" and other coparenting apps you can use to filter out the gaslighting and emotional manipulation. Dude... She is Lex Luthor and you are Superman. She's your arch enemy, at least until the divorce process is through.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 09:28 PM
3

HAH! Tell her: Welcome to the working week! I know it don't thrill ya! I hope it don't kill ya!
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 05:20 PM
5

Encircle yourself with the people that really matter to you. That's what's really important. Don't waste your time on bullshit empty sexual trysts if you know they won't bring you happiness. Time is the only real wealth a man has. Use yours to the fullest.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 01:39 AM
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Nah man work on yourself. Work out, get fit, and develop your career and new hobbies.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 01:01 AM
0

Ask your lawyer. Do whatever your lawyer says to do.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 03:18 PM
7

She's hoping that you're doing terrible without her. She's looking to see if you have a new girl and if she's "better" than her. God forbid she's younger and prettier.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 02:55 PM
11

ALWAYS DO WHAT YOUR LAWYER SAYS TO DO!
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 03:40 PM
1

Can you work remotely? If so, get your passport, man, and go to eastern europe or southeast asia! Become a passport bro!
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 05:18 AM
2

If you are in a public place, I think you can record without consent because there's no reasonable expectation of privacy. Other than that you need to still record it and tell her that you're recording her when you do. It may put her in the mind to be more reserved in her interactions with you. Finally, download a coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" and use that to converse about your kid. Other than your kid, you really have nothing to talk about. I would also look into having a third part…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 03:41 PM
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Sounds to me like you might need to move again. I mean, it sucks but, to me, peace of mind is worth everything. Hell I would move to the other side of the planet if I had to. You can't make her not live near you. She apparently has no problem being near you. Is she a vindictive psychopath?
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/24 05:05 AM
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FIRST They should just add infidelity divorces to states in addition to no fault. No alimony no division of retirement savings plus majority custody. Plus if you move in with another person of the opposite sex who you are not related to within a year of the finalization then you can sue for alienation of affection. Honestly I wish infidelity were illegal with heavy fines. SECOND Mandatory DNA testing of kids (against both parents just in case of accidental baby swapping) with heavy fines against…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 10:49 PM
1

If you do vigorous exercise, like HIIT, you'll get that endorphin boost, which is an all natural mood lifter. But don't overdo it, or you'll hurt yourself and have to sit on the sidelines.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 09:30 PM
2

That's probably the tight attitude to have. Hopefully she'll have some other kids soon and fade away.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 06:38 PM
1

If you pin her with child support, you can tell her she doesn't have to pay the payments if she goes away and leaves you alone. So if she's a bad mom to your kids, you can kind of get rid of her that way.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 06:29 PM
1

How is she with the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 06:20 PM
1

So is she paying you child support or are you paying her?
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 06:15 PM
2

Man, they'll regret that when they're older, unless they're psychopaths or something.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 11:04 PM
3

How the hell did you get custody? Your wife or her attorney must have seriously shit the bed. Seriously, way to go!
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 09:58 PM
5

The key is to expedite the process while she's still stupid in love with her boyfriend. Keep offering terms that are super favorable to you and tell her basically that the quicker she signs those divorce terms, the quicker she can go and be with her "true love twin flame." Hell, you might even be able to get majority custody. "You don't need a bunch of kids getting in the way of your storybook romance! Let me take them off your hands so you can be free to make love wherever and whenever you want…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 02:37 PM
2

It is better to be FROM a broken home than IN a broken home, dude!
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 11:16 PM
9

I figured that if I have time to think about her, i have time to improve myself. I hit the gym hard. I went on long vigorous walks because i didn't want to injure myself. I volunteered with a pet shelter, habitat for humanity, and a soup kitchen. I met a lot of cool people. I studied and got some certifications. By the time my head hit the pillow, i would sleep like a toddler. INERTIA IS YOUR ENEMY
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 11:59 PM
2

What does your lawyer say?
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 06:26 PM
12

She is not your problem anymore. Go give your compassion to someone who deserves it. Volunteer with a charity.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 04:18 AM
1

If all you lose is half a car, you got off light.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 12:49 AM
1

Having no baby daddy drama is definitely a bonus.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:49 PM
2

A lot of the girls you talk to are AI bots. If you're actually having success meeting ladies, then congratulations! Just don't send anyone any money and guard your heart.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 12:55 PM
13

Whatever you do, stay off of dating apps. The apps are dusty hellscapes populated by mercenaries and robots.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 12:15 PM
8

She's not your mom. She's your kids' mom. Take them out to get her something nice or make them draw pictures for her and then let them give them to her. She's their mom.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 02:30 AM
1

Get your passport. Get a remote job. Move to eastern Europe, Russia, Philippines, or SE Asia (not Singapore).. Look up passport bros on the internet There's even a subreddit. Don't go on the apps. The apps are dusty hellscapes populated by mercenaries and robots.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 11:16 PM
1

Can Batman be "friends" with the Joker?
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 11:58 PM
3

Sorry but if you don't get board certified lawyers (one for you and one for her) to get this done, any divorce lawyer worth a damn will get it thrown out easily.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 01:06 PM
1

I don't know how long it's been since your divorce, but dating casually is a good thing. A full blown LTR is not the best thing for you right now. You should book at least 2-3 therapy sessions and tell the therapist about what's going on.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 05:45 PM
1

Absolutely!
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 03:03 PM
31

Don't try to understand women. Women understand women... ...and they hate each other!
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 05:18 AM
10

A little over 2 years afterward, I woke up one day and thought about her again. BUT then I realized I had not thought about her once the day before! It made me so happy, and the healing sort of accelerated after that.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 03:48 AM
5

Use a coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" to handle the kids with your ex. Block her on everything else. If you don't have family that can pick them up and drop them off, then I suggest a mutual friend if possible. Otherwise, spend as little time as possible when picking up and dropping off. Do not look at her or engage her in conversation. Keep answers as concise as possible. One word answers if possible.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 06:34 PM
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You need to not tell her anything and go and tell your lawyer everything. When you go to war, you don't pull out a bull horn and announce your battle plans to the enemy. Divorce is war. Your lawyer is your general.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 03:06 PM
5

Are you cool with seeing her go on dates with other dudes?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 06:04 PM
1

If you can get her to sign one then go for it. Get her to agree on some high level tenets before going to the lawyers. It ain't cheap.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:45 PM
7

Download a coparenting app like "Our Family Wizard" to handle the kids without abuse or gaslighting
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 03:17 AM
3

Have you gone to therapy?
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/24 08:29 PM
6

I thought you were addressing Disney.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 10:47 AM
2

Some people need insecurity in order to stay loyal.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 06:57 PM
7

Shit, take the entire 30k.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 09:47 AM
10

Stop dating. Work on yourself and your self image. First of all only communicate with her via a coparenting app like "our family wizard". Then, stop the dating bullshit until your head is in a better place. Find new hobbies. Hit the gym hard...not to look better, but because vigorous exercise is a natural mood lifter. VOLUNTEER. Habitat for Humanity, Big Brothers/Big Sisters.,children's ward at hospital, elderly care, soup kitchen, etc. Volunteering makes you feel good about yourself for helping…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 04:35 AM
5

Do whatever your lawyer says. If you want kids, find a gal and make some of your own. DO WHAT YOUR LAWYER SAYS TO DO!!
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 04:22 AM
6

"Honey, we can put OUR kids through college, or we can put OUR LAWYERS' kids through college. What'll it be?"
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 03:25 AM
3

Excellent post, sir.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 12:18 PM
5

If you are fit and you're not a total jerk you can find other girls. The main dating apps are all money pit hellscapes, though. Stay off of them. Just stay away from women for a while. You're not in a good head space right now. If you must bust a nut, scrape together some money for a high class escort.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 11:17 AM
5

Talk to a lawyer and get your options.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 11:14 AM
1

Show them evidence of her cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 08:35 PM
6

Yeah right?? How about "I have a ground of single guy friends who get together on holidays and laugh at each others' exes trying to get back with us all the time"
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 11:35 AM
8

You should message her and mess with her. Invite her on a date and then ghost her! LOL!
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 04:02 AM
4

DMF Dumb Mother Fucker CWWSDIAF Cheating Whore Who Should Die In A Fire DPWFMW Dumb Prick Who Fucked My Wife Just tryin' to help! You're Welcome.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 03:20 AM
2

What does your lawyer say? Do that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 03:28 PM
4

This is probably something you should ask a board certified family law attorney in Texas rather than a bunch of yahoos on Reddit. Just sayin'. Even if it costs some money, that consultation could be the best money you ever spent.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 02:57 PM
9

Stop signing bad business contracts!
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 12:37 PM
18

Repeat after me: "Go fuck yourself, you disloyal cunt!"
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 04:07 AM
6

Sounds like you're sitting pretty as far as the divorce is concerned. Thank your lucky stars you were able to give her the old heave whore before you'd get assraped in a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 03:33 AM
3

Yeah but did he blindside her ass by slapping her in the chest with divorce papers
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/24 12:41 AM
1

What did he do??
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 09:57 PM
27

Open marriage request means: She has cheated and feels guilty and wants to wipe that away. She wants to get her back blown out by Johnny Thunderbang while utilizing you for your resources and support (cake eater). She is actively interviewing your replacement (monkey branching). At any rate, She already has cheated or knows who she wants to bang...maybe she even has a list! It's over. End it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:00 PM
2

If I could turn back time I would have a big time infidelity clause in a prenup before going forward.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:16 PM
1

It's definitely no guarantee. It just increases the probability of success IMHO. The reason I said 35 was for the sake of the man. If you're 35 you're more mature, you've maybe dealt with some BS in your life and can wade through better than you could in your early 20s. Notice number 2 and 3. You want to marry a girl who is herself mature and definitely GET A PRENUP or NO MARRIAGE. I suspect you did NOT get a prenup, correct? You and I know that's a big regret. So I'm telling this young fellow t…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 08:11 PM
4

You need to be in a position where she's unable to call you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 05:10 PM
6

You're divorced from her and don't have kids. All she wants out of you at this point is money and/or a shoulder to cry on. Don't be her emotional tampon. If you want to stay classy, just inform her that you feel you should go no contact in order to heal. Then block her on everything then purge your phone of all pictures and texts of her. Clean your place out of all of the stuff that reminds you of her, even if you gut your place. Completely purging her from your life is the only way to get over …
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 03:51 PM
3

I feel for you, son. Been there, done that. No vag is worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 03:29 PM
24

I think that Do not get married until you're 35. Before that, work on yourself. If a chick wants to come alongside of you, make sure she is at your side and not on a pedestal. If you marry a girl make sure she's 26 or older. Under 26 and she's too immature to get married. Human brains don't fully develop until age 25. Get a prenuptial agreement. Do not get married without one. Make sure it has a draconian infidelity clause. If she doesn't sign it, she's a gold digging bitch and you shouldn't mar…
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 06:01 AM
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