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| 1 | How do you approach dating knowing full well you’re going into it with your judgement impaired.I don't date anymore. Women fucked that up by trying to string me along for free drinks, food and entertainment or tried to get me to play stepdaddy while being bad company or they cheated on me bar two women. At this point, I'll get a hooker if I want pussy and a dog if I want companionship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 06:48 AM |
| -1 | Do you think that being rich helps men in terms of dating and finding relationships etc? If so do you think this is to do with the status that comes along with it or the lifestyle and wealth?At this point, we've already determined that Western women aren't grading men on a normal bell curve in terms of attractiveness with the data we have, so basically, they're looking for the fattest wallets. Honestly, hookers are cheaper if you just want pussy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 06:10 AM |
| – | It feels like many women believe they're better than men in general.At this point, PPD is a joke. Western society coddles them and has them not pay for their shit decision-making skills. I despise how men as a whole let this transpire even more than I despise how women degrade themselves while clamoring for only the finest treatment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/23 04:50 AM |
| 6 | Do women really believe that toxic masculinity is the common factor of sexless lonely men?The problem is the lack of masculinity, not "toxic" masculinity. Women largely do not want to take the lead in a relationship. This is confirmed by higher income and education women initiating divorce more often alongside the more housework a husband does, the more likely the marriage is to end. Also, women are selecting for toxic personality traits (narcissism and sociopathy) or ignoring them because "he's cute" or "he's got money" and then blaming men for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/23 03:15 PM |
| – | Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age?I would be considered RP, but I actually tend to date women of gen X age because, on average, they tended to be more pleasant to deal with than fellow millennials in my experience. However, the reason why RP tends to talk about the wall is because many women, after their dating experience, cannot see a man for being a quality man, but they measure him against an amalgamation of her past lovers and are jaded due to in many cases the consequences of their poor decision-making skills. In terms of R… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/23 02:58 AM |
| 5 | 5.25% of adults aged 40 and above have never been in a relationship: ramifications?I'm more speaking from the perspective of the US, and in terms of women that are of prime dating or marriage age, say 18-35. Women of that age range from what I've encountered, tend to be ungrateful for basic decency like holding doors open, basic pleasantries, and act entitled to being treated exceptionally well due to having the attributes of a woman as if they're God's gift to the world and you should be thrilled to be in their presence. This is in juxtaposition to how men who I'm not sexuall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 12:00 AM |
| 8 | 5.25% of adults aged 40 and above have never been in a relationship: ramifications?No, just more so that Western women, in many circumstances, are very unpleasant to deal with even casually and I mean that in terms of basic decency, not even trying to hit on them or ask them out. In many cases, they act like overgrown children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/23 11:23 PM |
| 5 | 5.25% of adults aged 40 and above have never been in a relationship: ramifications?Women and society are doing a good enough job of not being able to identify with women these days. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/23 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Why do guys here keep making arguments that imply bigger chicks are automatically unattractive?Like there's women who are chubby that I know who I would call in sick to work and spend in bed with them for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Why do guys here keep making arguments that imply bigger chicks are automatically unattractive?Fat has different meanings, plus just because of genetics and lifestyle, fat is distributed differently. A woman who used to be a volleyball or softball player putting on 30lb, and it went to her tits, ass and thighs, and not her stomach is sexy. A woman who has no real definition and looks like a male plumber is disgusting. Billie Eilish is good-looking, yeah, but while I like big boobs, wide hips, and a big butt are my weaknesses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 07:31 PM |
| 3 | Suppose you're a libertarian / conservative / right-of-center dude in a coastal city. How are you supposed to date women?This is where you're wrong. Capital requires the state to crystallize and requires the state to exclude people from the means of production in order to exist as a social relation to this day. Further, because you're not in the period of time where capitalism was revolutionary, you don't see it as political. Capitalism was always political. It posited that the feudal order and absolute monarchy were outdated and the time of the burghers and tradesmen was superior for a society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 04:29 AM |
| 5 | Suppose you're a libertarian / conservative / right-of-center dude in a coastal city. How are you supposed to date women?Capitalism has been around for roughly 400 years. Like we may not be a communist utopia a la Marx or syndicalists like Proudhon theorized, but to suggest that capitalism will last for longer than humans have farmed, let alone any type of -ism is a hot take if I've ever seen one. This is the same capitalism that has had two "once in a lifetime" crashes within 20 years we're talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/23 04:18 AM |
| 2 | Light "creepy behavior" can be flirtatious and playful if she personally finds you attractiveIn the older generations, it was OK to date a coworker as long as you weren't a report to the other because women weren't completely unhinged due to society. You spend 40+ hours with the person and have basically preselected for education, personality, socioeconomics, and temperament to some degree. The thing is that if things didn't work out, you'd be civil to each other and move on to either another person from your social group or move on to another job voluntarily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/23 05:48 PM |
| 6 | Does being an emotional tampon lead to the friendzone? Or only in certain cases?I've learned that women largely don't want solutions to their problems, so I don't listen to their problems. This is a lesson my father tried teaching me, but I had to learn personally from my interactions. I've learned that women don't want an emotionally vulnerable man. They want the rock they can crash their emotions on, and you are there to set them straight with your more stoic nature. I've seen this with every successful heterosexual relationship (i.e. marriages and decade plus basically c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/23 04:41 PM |
| 6 | The narratives pushed in this sub are not representative of the average dating experienceWomen who do that are incorrectly assuming at some baser level that those men who do that will have the capacity to protect and provide for their kids. My father didn't beat my mother, but he clearly treated her as disposable and barely relevant as a fully grown adult. In fact, he treated most women this way and was drowning in pussy until he couldn't get it up anymore. Same with my cousins. Hell, most of the men in my family who are married and have been for decades clearly treat their wives as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/23 02:54 PM |
| 16 | The narratives pushed in this sub are not representative of the average dating experienceI'm the product of a relationship of a man being an asshole to women and that man slaying pussy until he became too old to do so. Literally every man I know that's successful with women is a fucking asshole to them and treats them with indifference at best. I was trying not to be like my father, but given how women who weren't close friends treated me when I was "blue pill," I found the old man and other family members that treated them in a similar fashion were right. I treat them with indiffer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/11/23 12:55 PM |
| 0 | Divorce and child support are at the center of issues like falling birth rates and poor parentingEvery time I've tried to relax my standards on not dating women who are single mothers by choice, I've been burned. Turns out the old man and evolution are right: don't take care of another man's kids. | /r/MensRights | 27/11/23 05:54 AM |
| 12 | Is the average man really an obnoxious sex pest?Careful, observing reality is misogynistic now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/23 03:02 AM |
| 10 | Women don’t hate men being vulnerable. These men claiming so just don’t know how to act like adults or date emotionally unavailable women.I got told to stop sulking and stop being a bitch by a woman I was seeing who then left me all due to me trying to process my mother's murder. Not over like a year, no, two months. Most women friends I had left me during this time. I gained about 100+lb and was invisible to most women. Women left me any time I remotely struggled with a car repair or medical expense. I not only am not able to understand or process emotions well due to my autism, but I cannot even express most emotions as a man wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 03:18 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Most of this subreddit is just pointlessly gendered observations about whatever sex the poster wants to demean.Because I've had quality relationships with women before now when I was fatter, poorer, had less stability in life, and was overall, not as developed a man as I am now. I just wasn't living here. The red pill acknowledges women's nature, where the divergence is between that and blackpill is that to a blackpiller, only looks/height matter and if you're not blessed with that, you're fucked. Red pill is about making yourself the number one in your life, and depending on how you are, you either have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 07:36 AM |
| 4 | Why are men called misogynistic in response to attempting to hold women accountable?Because accountability is fucking kryptonite to a woman. Men have usually immediate consequences for fucking things up. Women usually don't have consequences for bad decisions, at least not immediately. At this point, given where I live, I give up on dating. The apps aren't my thing because I'm average looking with either hookers or insta/OF sex workers or they're bots on there. IRL, I'm working a full-time job and taking care of a family member, and the women in my workplace are well, coworkers… | /r/MensRights | 22/11/23 07:00 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Most of this subreddit is just pointlessly gendered observations about whatever sex the poster wants to demean.Yup. Women aren't going to change. Literally autistic and I've had to adapt. I've given up at least in my metro, but I do have women friends and can socialize with women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 06:47 AM |
| 2 | What exactly does it mean to be a "modern day woman," and what kind of alternative women does the RP community prefer?Modern women want the benefits of a relationship and want an objectively superior man in income, height, physique, and intelligence (they, according to dating apps, want the top quintile of men in income, height and looks). They do this when they're overweight/obese (the average American woman is 5'4", 170 lb), they carry more of the consumer debt, more of the student debt, and have less domestic skills compared to their mother or grandmother, have a higher body count, are combative and don't wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/23 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Women are extremely selective and that's okay.The first time I heard about her, and lmao, already released. Jesus, Mary and Joseph, we are fucked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/23 06:13 AM |
| 3 | Women are extremely selective and that's okay.I've never seen throngs of men be like, "You know, that Jodi Arias/Aileen Wuornos/Lorena Bobbit is a fucking dime piece and I need to get a conjugal visit with her." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/23 04:39 AM |
| 10 | Women are extremely selective and that's okay.Look at real life. Throngs of women were hot for Ted Bundy, Richard Ramirez, Chris Watts, John Dillinger, and Pretty Boy Floyd. Not just profiles, but real women just goo-goo over serial killers, rapists and other piece of shit men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/23 04:28 AM |
| 8 | Women are extremely selective and that's okay.At this point, extend that to most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/23 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Men pursue “fake” women the mostMost of those women are good-looking, yes. Are they my cup of tea because of the "enhancements"? No. A former coworker who's in her 40s is much more attractive to me because she doesn't wear makeup and is naturally pretty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Western Women are the luckiestI'm saying that society has incentivized sociopathy not just in dating but life in general. Sociopathic behavior is rewarded, and C level executives are much more likely to be sociopaths compared to the general population, for example. Humans adapt to their environments and will respond to both incentives and disincentives. So someone who hasn't been winning by playing by the rules and doing what's right for years, if not decades, will seek another path. Does that mean these people have no agenc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:00 PM |
| 5 | Western Women are the luckiestWe're displaying sociopathic tendencies because on aggregate, women are selecting for it and women tend to not like a vulnerable man. Even neurotypical men are much more direct about communicating than the vast majority of women alongside the disconnect of what you on aggregate say you want versus what's actually pursued. Men act in the elusive and terrifying way because society has told men to not be creepy, that women don't want to be approached (by any man but Chad), and that women can get me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:59 AM |
| – | What is the worth of a man?Women have always been transactional, callous, and unable to love outside certain contexts. I just love how, with the advent of the modern flavor of feminism and the internet, we have the receipts now. Women largely do not want an average man. They do not find most men attractive. They largely do not date down in income. They are the overwhelming initiators of divorce to get cash and prizes or ride the carousel. They even have higher divorce rates as lesbian couples compared to gay men or hetero… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:02 PM |
| – | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderAnd particularly vile women spawned you alongside your predecessors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 03:43 PM |
| -12 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderLikely wants the attention and free meals out of him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 10:34 AM |
| -10 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderTell that to my dad, my uncle and cousin. In order, 15 years older (she was already in her late 20s), 12 years older (again, in her late 20s), and 20 years (she was 20). All of these men weren't rich or jacked or Fabio looking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 10:33 AM |
| 3 | What is the worth of a man?The internet did for women what journalism did for Nixon, and I love it. It's never "I want to grow with him" or "I think he's cute and interesting." It's transactional, and women are wondering why men are acting the way they do when there's now no pretense otherwise. Takes two to tango. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 07:20 AM |
| 0 | Q4M: Who gives better dating advice for women? Single men or Women with boyfriends?No, no. According to PPD and society, women are perfect angels that never do anything wrong or lie and operate on logic and rational analysis instead of emotions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 02:27 AM |
| 8 | CMV: The ultimate reason dating is very hard for guys here is a lack of personal responsibility.I gave up dating Western women. Hell, I realized my dad was right about women's nature about a couple of years ago. He basically said this generation of Western women are mostly expensive hookers, so just get hookers if you want sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 04:46 PM |
| 12 | Do you think there’s a lack of good men?The issue is accountability. Men must suffer the consequences of poor choices, usually in the immediate term. You are the arbiters of sex. Men are the arbiters of relationships. You chose those men and took no responsibility for choosing poorly. We men are constantly told to do better, be better, or be nothing and to just go away; we're expected to have our job, car, money, grooming, education, physique, etc. on point, just to qualify for the average woman who doesn't find us attractive and larg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 04:20 PM |
| 25 | Do you think there’s a lack of good men?You still married a man in the top quintile of height as the average male height in the states is 5'9". The biggest issue is the disconnect between what women say they want and what they actually want alongside what women are offering versus their demands of men on aggregate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 03:48 PM |
| 21 | Do you think there’s a lack of good men?Here's the thing: straight men generally grade women according to a normal bell curve in attractiveness while straight women grade men very poorly except for the top quintile in looks; straight women tend to look for men in the US that make up 15% or less the pool in height; straight women vocalize that men must be in the top quintile or less of income earners; collectively, women are selecting the Chad or the asshole yet claim the opposite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 03:27 PM |
| – | Beauty standards are not high.I'm OK with skinny to a point up to what would be considered obese depending on body composition. There's a cute girl at the Costco I check out at, yet she's maybe 110lb. She doesn't have my ideal body type, but what makes her adorable is that she's genuinely nice and you can bullshit with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 05:56 AM |
| – | Beauty standards are not high.Depends, really. I don't know you, so idk what you look like. Heavier women may have it easier to a point depending on terms of where the fat/muscle is distributed. If she's 5'4", 170, and basically all of it is in her tits, ass and thighs with little extra belly fat, yeah, she's extremely desirable. If she's 5'4" 170 and has the body of Mike the plumber with a big pot gut, saggy tits and no ass, she's going to have a hard time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 05:49 AM |
| – | Beauty standards are not high.Honestly, I tend to like the "pear" shaped woman with thick yet muscular thighs, big yet muscular butt and wide hips with average breasts. Your issue is that the average American woman is both 2" shorter and 40 lb heavier than you, so your healthy weight isn't seen as such by many men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 05:25 AM |
| – | Beauty standards are not high.Slim in terms of not being overweight? Or slim in terms of not having a curvy figure? Too skinny for me is no tits, ass, hips, or legs. If you're under 100 lbs, probably too skinny for my tastes, personally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 04:22 AM |
| 7 | The real truth about women and nice guysI've had quality relationships before, but with the way media is influencing women and society freeing women's nature while chaining men's nature, at least in the west, I'm OK being single unless I find a decent childless woman. These aren't the women of my cousins, aunts, mother, or grandmother's generations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Is "netflix and chill" / cinema date dead?I hadn't seen many new movies in about 10 years, but yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Is "netflix and chill" / cinema date dead?I walked out of John Wick 4 due to the multiple elements where I couldn't suspend my disbelief, so it cuts both ways for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Is "netflix and chill" / cinema date dead?Unrealistic in terms of not being able to suspend my disbelief. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:58 PM |
| 0 | Is "netflix and chill" / cinema date dead?I legit think T2 had one of the best women leads in it. No unrealistic bullshit, but a woman knowing her strengths and weaknesses and using her God-given gifts to the best of her ability. Sorry, even Rose Namajunas isn't going to be able to take a man on who's an active duty military member, especially one that weighs 2-3x her body weight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:34 PM |
| 9 | CMV: Red Pill Principles Align with the Behaviors of Women with Untreated Borderline Personality DisorderIf that's the case, then most women fit the definition of BPD from those I've encountered. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Does a woman’s sex drive really play a big part in their dating life/success?Used to work in multi-family maintenance. Bachelor pads were usually disorganized but not straight up filthy. Single women's places usually had extremely disheveled bathrooms, clothes strewn everywhere, and dirty dishes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Does a woman’s sex drive really play a big part in their dating life/success?On average from one occupation, I used to find that men were more disorganized, but women tended to be straight-up dirtier neglecting maintenance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Do men realize that the “loose pussy” is the kind that most women have?Tight refers to how it feels during sex, not the appearance of the outer portion or the vulva. The outer portion is dictated by genetics. The inner portion is somewhat dictated by genetics and somewhat based on the woman caring enough to exercise her pelvic floor muscles/kegel exercises. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 10:29 AM |
| 2 | Autism as a weapon against menI had to learn a modicum of tact due to my autism. Otherwise, you got no bullshit from me and in many cases, hurtful things said based on my observations. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/23 03:45 PM |
| 1 | CMV: People who beg/demand for empathy typically don’t have empathy for others.They have, in every single instance, never extended any regard for anything I've struggled with or men's struggles, so I extend the same regard until shown otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 02:11 AM |
| 5 | CMV: People who beg/demand for empathy typically don’t have empathy for others.Then why are women more likely to divorce upon winning an election or promotion to the C level than those of similar status that don't? That's not how it works. The only time benefits cannot be garnished for child support is if they're SSI benefits. Women largely have shown there's no trust to be earned, and the ramifications for a man are much more severe if he marries and gets into a contract that rewards the party for breaking it. No, even if upon finding out a child isn't his, the child is l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 07:40 PM |
| 10 | CMV: People who beg/demand for empathy typically don’t have empathy for others.Your assertions are backed by feeling, not fact. Women largely are not going to support a man. This is borne out by women initiating divorce when she earns more when previously she didn't. Also, you can file for SSDI on behalf of the child, and they will take the money from the father's disability check. If to guarantee paternity, I have to pay tens of thousands of dollars to a woman to bear my child. How is this not showing how women are? Prenups get thrown out all the time. In the vast majorit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 07:22 PM |
| 7 | CMV: People who beg/demand for empathy typically don’t have empathy for others.Men haven't been able to grab asses at work since before I've been alive, metoo is bringing a spotlight to a problem that most don't have. I'd personally rather abortion be legal for those instances and up to 12 weeks even though my religion is against abortion, but I don't make the laws. Catcalling largely isn't a thing like it was when my father was my age. There is no catcalling epidemic as we men largely listened to women. Men are, at this point, unable to even think of association with wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 07:10 PM |
| 10 | CMV: People who beg/demand for empathy typically don’t have empathy for others.Because men largely do not get awarded custody, alimony, or child support or government assistance, these are mostly women. Single fathers largely do not get child support. Therefore, those are mainly safety nets to coddle women's poor decision-making skills. Here's the problem with your analogy: women will always know a child is theirs; men until recently couldn't have that guarantee, and even now, an unfaithful wife who's husband never stepped out can get child support and alimony from a marri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 06:59 PM |
| 7 | CMV: People who beg/demand for empathy typically don’t have empathy for others.So, non engagement with anything I said while yet confirming it. I'm not saying men aren't responsible for their decisions. They are. Women get to select from all men, yet select from a coterie of shit men, get passed around by them, then demand men as a whole via the government in some way either through state assistance or via the government, various men get to support her while decrying the evils of man. Every single time, it's "we're strong independent women" until there are negative consequ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 06:41 PM |
| 15 | CMV: People who beg/demand for empathy typically don’t have empathy for others.Here's my problem with this. Women largely get their emotional needs and wants catered to. We as a society have given women rights without corresponding responsibility. We as a society have made it trivial to exist, as cooking and cleaning have largely been automated. Women don't have to weave textiles from scratch or farm or do any heavy labor like they did 100 years ago. We as a society bail out women's poor decision-making skills with government assistance, alimony, and child support, even af… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 05:56 PM |
| 6 | Autism as a weapon against menThe point I'm trying to make is that communication/interaction with women is a minefield, especially given my situation and shortcomings. There are autistic men who have had the ability to not harass women if they are rejected, same as there are neurotypical guys that will harass women. It seems that there can be no faults in social interactions that can be used as learning experiences these days. Men must be perfect out of the box, seemingly. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/23 03:56 PM |
| 5 | Why modern women complain that men only pursue them for sex when they refuse to provide anything else?The poster is 100% correct, even with his leading questions. Women boldly say that they don't want to cook or clean, that they're the table, that doing anything for a man besides fucking him in the relationship is being his mother. They largely don't have great hobbies or interests and can not hold a conversation in many cases, so they offer their holes with so much bullshit attached, hookers are cheaper. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Men don’t care about loveSo all the novels, poetry, literal wars to get a woman back, and romantic gestures over millenia are trifles. The reason men do that shit is because you collectively have selected for that man, that man is successful in mating because of his ability to lead, protect, and provide. If men didn't love women, we wouldn't do any of that shit. Wu Sangui could've been like, "She was just a piece of ass anyways, I can find a better broad the next town over" as an example. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 03:13 PM |
| 13 | Autism as a weapon against menI legit have autism, moved a lot, and communication with women was exhausting even before the metoo movement. Even before puberty, the fellow boys would say what they mean and mean what they say, whereas girls would say one thing and mean another or act passive-aggressive when they didn't get their way. I struggle recognizing emotions, facial expressions, and subtext in conversations, even my own. I've never made any unwanted physical advances, as I've looked for enthusiastic consent every time … | /r/MensRights | 12/11/23 08:37 AM |
| 11 | Men don’t care about loveNo, they legit wanted these women. How many women would start a fucking war over their husband/lover? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Dear Women, Do you think all men care about is sex?My mother's been dead a while now, and I wasn't really raised by her. I've had to cook and take care of myself for a long time. I've been a functioning adult for a long time, I don't need a mother and don't want one. I'd love a woman to share the good and bad times with. However, where I live, the single women have very little to offer and usually want you to bail them out or offer a lifestyle they can't attain themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 07:14 AM |
| 12 | Men don’t care about loveMen legit started fucking wars over women. Wu Sangui let the Manchurians in to get his concubine Chen Yuanyuan back. Richard Lionheart sieged Messina over Joan of England. I can go on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 07:08 AM |
| – | Thought foodie calls weren't common?Is it 100% of women doing this? No. But it's high enough to where most have done it even if they don't want to admit to themselves they did it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 07:01 AM |
| 20 | Men don’t care about loveMen have basically always cared about love. What are you talking about? Half of music wouldn't be written if guys weren't pining over a woman. Literal shelves of novels and poetry from the ancient world to this day were written by men because they loved women or a particular woman with no financial leverage over them. Men barely receive platonic love. Men aren't the ones getting songs and books written over them. They aren't receiving flowers, chocolates, dinners, movies, and cruises to show how… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 06:50 AM |
| 3 | To what extent do you care about your parent’s opinion of your partner?30/supervisor/mixed One's dead, the other? I care about because of his failings and insights. I was resistive to RP teachings because my dad was RP before RP and thought it was outdated the way he viewed women; experience has shown he's mostly right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 06:41 AM |
| – | Thought foodie calls weren't common?This is why I get tired of women on here trying to say that it doesn't happen. This is a third of women who are admitting to it. How many women won't look back on their previous dates that they went out on because "I have nothing else to do tonight and don't want to cook" or "eh, I'm bored" as foodie calls? I don't even bother with going out or trying to go out with women who weren't already established friends beforehand at this point because of this bullshit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 06:36 AM |
| 6 | Men’s loneliness epidemic is not women’s problem.It's not women's problem until these men stop supporting society in violent and non-violent manners. The vast majority of men can survive in shit conditions, as the meme of the guy whose furniture is a lawn chair and a mattress on the floor while eating from a pot isn't far off from reality. Guys will upgrade their lifestyle to try mating, not really because they care to for their own benefit. The vast majority of the critical infrastructural labor is done by men, and if there's no incentive for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 05:44 AM |
| 0 | Dear Women, Do you think all men care about is sex?I've been looking for years. Not even super picky. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 12:54 AM |
| 0 | Dear Women, Do you think all men care about is sex?The problem is that the quality women here are all partnered up. The rest are overgrown children with tits and ass who want a bailout for them and their kids or to string you along where I live. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 08:31 PM |
| -2 | Dear Women, Do you think all men care about is sex?Exactly what I'm looking for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 06:49 PM |
| 6 | Are women jealous of guys dating younger women, or are they perhaps legitimately concerned for the women?My paternal grandparents were informally set up by my great grandparents because they knew how women were, and they stayed together for life. From my own lived life, anytime I remotely struggled, women abandoned me, and this wasn't due to major illness or old age. In my experience, only men are the romantics with their efforts in pleasing a woman and gestures. Women basically just receive the gestures. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Dear Women, Do you think all men care about is sex?I'm not my dad or grandfather, where I expect to come home, have my slippers, meal, pipe, and blowjobs on demand. I do expect her to know how to be an adult, which involves her knowing how to budget, clean her own house, cook basic meals for herself, and have fulfilling interests. I run into so many women who can not function as adults in the most basic capacities where it's a joke. At my place of employment alone, I have multiple single mothers who are always broke but yet always have money for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Dear Women, Do you think all men care about is sex?I'm legit attracted to a woman that looks worse than a woman half her age simply because the first one isn't an insufferable bitch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 06:13 PM |
| -1 | Dear Women, Do you think all men care about is sex?Sex is really important to me as a guy. However, from my experience IRL, I have the choice of basically a whore that wants me to pay more than her previous Johns boyfriends that knocked her up or a woman trying to string me along for free drinks, entertainment and experiences without putting out. The issue men are running into is that all many modern women can offer is sex, so that's all we want. We don't go to McDonald's for lobster because they don't offer it. Same with women: a lot of them ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 05:50 PM |
| 1 | current dating climate in 2023I love the projection. The number of women I know who can't cook themselves basic meals or bother keeping their living quarters somewhat clean is too damn high in proportion for what are supposed to be grown adults. I don't need sex on demand, but I can't condone dead bedrooms, as sex is a part of a healthy relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 12:46 AM |
| 4 | current dating climate in 2023Yes, this is true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 04:53 PM |
| 1 | current dating climate in 2023I don't do this on social media, but it's a trip to see how women act. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Wanting a low-maintenance partner doesn't mean you're controlling or insecure, its just you have limitsYes, it takes two to tango. Until simps stop bailing them out, we shall continue the decline. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 01:38 PM |
| 7 | current dating climate in 2023No, actually. I would like intelligent conversation about a broad variety of subjects, decent companionship where we grow and develop as human beings together, not just a fuck maid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 01:00 PM |
| – | Wanting a low-maintenance partner doesn't mean you're controlling or insecure, its just you have limits"Having reasonable standards that you're looking for in a woman is misogynistic!"- Western women in 2023 "Wanting a man to be in the top 1% of income earners, have a better physique than 80% of the male population, and is also as skilled a lover as John Holmes while I offer debt, having had multiple lovers and kids by them is totally reasonable and not at all unrealistic given how the distribution of these traits works." - Also western women in 2023 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 12:33 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: how do you feel about divorced women?It is, that's my point. If he's screwing other women, goes completely bonkers or is actually abusive, then yes, all valid reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 08:26 AM |
| 0 | Q4M: how do you feel about divorced women?I don't like divorce outside of clear abuse cases since it shows a lack of reasoning/critical thinking skills in many cases. Realistically, I'd have to inquire why the divorce happened (infidelity, spouse went clinically insane for a time, etc.), since marriage is supposed to be for life. If it's because "I lost the tingles for him," she doesn't value marriage where I risk half my assets and pledge my life to her. The other woman I'd still have a leery eye about because of her inability to choos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 07:28 AM |
| 10 | current dating climate in 2023I have FB and other DMs where overweight, tatted, and otherwise, women I'd be compromising on wanted me to not just already make more than the median income, not just be a homeowner (I own my place with a mortgage after years of saving for a down payment), but be in the top 5% of income earning men with a large portfolio and take on her debts and kids. IRL, outside of three wonderful women I've dated living here (one died in a car crash, one became a nun after a magic mushroom trip and one we di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 07:19 AM |
| 9 | current dating climate in 2023Besides having to pay my condo off and my gun collection/sport shooting hobby, I don't need much in life. There's no incentive for me to deal with modern women as they largely haven't been good company, they don't have the domestic skills of their predecessors, and they don't put out like they used to. Honestly, if custom AI sex dolls become a thing that's accessible (not outrageously expensive), I'd get one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 05:28 AM |
| 16 | current dating climate in 2023I want a partner to share what I've built from nothing with, but most women don't want to help me grow in our primes, they want me to already be Chaddeus Moneybags Thundershlong III, Esquire after they've fucked around, had kids with other guys and not taken care of themselves. I honestly have had more fulfilling dates with gen X women and older gen z women than I have my fellow millennial women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 03:44 AM |
| 12 | current dating climate in 2023I know good women exist and am friends with some, but in proportion to women overall, at least here? It's a joke. These sort of women don't employ any critical thought whatsoever since the government or simps will bail them out at some point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 03:35 AM |
| 26 | current dating climate in 2023At least in the US, I think the estimate that 45% of eligible women being childless and unmarried by 2030 is conservative. With how they select men and unrealistic standards they have for a long-term partner, I'd say 60%. I've given up on women in my metro because they don't want a partner. They want to string guys along to pay their bills, feed them, and entertain them, but don't want to put out or they do engage in pay for play and are mad when you don't want to wife them up or take them serio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 03:16 AM |
| 1 | The average American man is much more redpilled than you thinkNo, on average, both genders are worse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 07:44 PM |
| 1 | The average American man is much more redpilled than you thinkI like a woman to have domestic skills, but I like to cook and don't expect her to do all domestic chores. I don't expect a virgin, but a level of modesty from her, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 07:42 PM |
| -1 | The average American man is much more redpilled than you thinkI'm not trying to fuck or marry other men, for one. Also, modern women tend to be unrealistic about standards for men (wanting qualities of not just a traditional man but elite men) while not offering the qualities of a traditional woman (pleasant, height/weight proportional, low body count, domestic skills, etc.), and aren't ashamed about it nor are they reality checked. Men seemingly cannot have any standards of a woman. Otherwise, he's a misogynist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 05:28 AM |
| 2 | The average American man is much more redpilled than you thinkToday's man, on average, is also worse than his predecessors, yes. Men are exhibiting less masculine qualities, less able to fend for themselves, addicted to porn, fast food, video games, etc. while being overgrown children in many cases. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 05:20 AM |
| – | NOT PILLED YET - But this might do it. What do you all think?There you go. She showed you no consideration, show her the same level of respect. Respect yourself as a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 05:08 AM |
| – | NOT PILLED YET - But this might do it. What do you all think?Don't even send a text. She knows why. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 05:00 AM |
| 1 | The average American man is much more redpilled than you thinkYou can say it however you want. In the qualities I want as a somewhat traditional man, today's woman is objectively worse than her predecessors on average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 04:58 AM |
| – | NOT PILLED YET - But this might do it. What do you all think?If she's not on the lease/deed, unceremoniously have her shit packed, out the door, and change the locks. Get STD testing now and follow up testing. I would just chalk things up to hypergamy and move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 04:53 AM |
| 2 | The average American man is much more redpilled than you thinkI agree with much of the red pill and today's woman being of worse quality than her predecessors. The male being the sole breadwinner thing was laughable and only achievable for white Americans, as both my paternal grandparents had to work and bring money home. The difference is that my grandmother had much more domestic skills than a millennial or gen z woman alongside her disagreeing with my grandfather at times, but never being a bitch about things. My grandfather treated her like a queen bec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Many women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.Where I live now? No. This is the worst place to date that I've ever lived in. Hell, this is the worst place to meet decent people, period. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/23 01:52 AM |
| 9 | Many women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.I just wanted to remember someone I lost. No insults, nothing untoward said to her, just didn't want to deal with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 08:25 PM |
| 7 | Many women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.This. I'm over 30 and I was at a bar the other day to celebrate what would've been my mother's birthday with a friend of mine (I had all of one beer for her memory) and a moderately attractive woman struck a conversation up with me. I could tell that she wanted me to lead on for more, but given all the negative experiences I've had with women trying to string me along for food, drinks, or entertainment, I didn't want her and extra bullshit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 07:01 PM |
| 9 | Men thinking women have it easy stems from our desire to not hate ourselves for our own sexuality.Chris Rock put it the best: "Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 03:30 PM |
| 4 | Why is there no #TradHusband movement?Depends on your employer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 10:54 AM |
| 2 | Why is there no #TradHusband movement?The thing is that health insurance and medical bills are extremely expensive in the US. You also need a car in most of it alongside maintenance, registration, and you guessed it, insurance. Most Americans are making in the range of ~40k pre-tax according to the social security administration. The average house is 400k or so in the US, yes, that's skewed by the super-expensive markets, but it shows how bad things are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 08:53 AM |
| 4 | The demonization and disrespect of men may be an even bigger issue than dating apps and social mediaThe problem I encountered was that I run this type of woman far too often compared to her more normal peers. I also find that this type of woman is more likely to be partnered up than a decent guy is. (Not even discussing myself in this one). The ones I do find that are normal are already partnered up. Society tells me to do more, be more, and get more, just to get barely feigned interest from low quality women for a moment, just like the one I mentioned. Quality women do exist (pleasant, good c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 07:02 AM |
| 19 | Why is there no #TradHusband movement?Because the guys who want this lifestyle are invisible to women. Average Bob making 50k a year in the States is invisible to his woman coworker, his neighbor, the woman he sees at the bar, at church, at mosque, at synagogue. Also, it's quite literally impossible for the vast majority of men to be sole providers for a multi person household these days given the population distribution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 06:25 AM |
| 1 | What are some dating tricks you use which some may find bad but you feel are necessary?Had this happen, and I'm a mid level manager where I work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 06:18 AM |
| 5 | The demonization and disrespect of men may be an even bigger issue than dating apps and social mediaI'm not going to lie. My experience with women overall IRL has made me sympathetic to that point of view. I'm tired of being told to do more, be more for a woman who offers less and less in comparison to her predecessors. I'm tired of providing and building things for ungrateful people. I could be paid 10x what I make now and be miserable outside my few living friends who like me for me and my hobbies because society wants men including me, to provide while having no expectations of women. Just … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 06:17 AM |
| 2 | The demonization and disrespect of men may be an even bigger issue than dating apps and social mediaFunny thing is that it took most people here's great, great-grandfather (100+ years) to vote for women's suffrage and their grandparents to support federally legal abortion. The men could've just said "fuck you, get back in the kitchen." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 03:40 AM |
| 6 | What are some dating tricks you use which some may find bad but you feel are necessary?I'm going to be honest, I'm also autistic (aspergers), and being upfront, women want nothing to do with me, not even a foodie call. I can get my foot in the door if I reveal it after a while. One thing about this is I recognize patterns very well. A pattern I see is that, plus women largely don't care and, in many cases, belittle a man for his struggles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 03:31 AM |
| – | The worst quality for a good man to have is EmpathyI agree. As soon as I embraced being who I am and not giving a single fuck about others issues until my own house was in order, things started getting better in most aspects. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 03:27 AM |
| 11 | What are some dating tricks you use which some may find bad but you feel are necessary?None of their business until you're more serious. Can't catch autism unlike the clap. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/23 02:20 AM |
| 7 | Wanting men to communicate their needs / open up / be 'vulnerable' OR stop putting women in the position of being 'emotional servants'? Which is it?I got told to "get over it" and "stop sulking" by a woman I had been dating for two years when my mother was murdered and most of my women friends disappeared overnight. The old man was right about women not caring about men struggling and that only women can be vulnerable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 12:12 AM |
| 5 | Men want what they would never allow to womenAt some point, when there is little to no incentive to continue their line, men will check out in some form or another, and women cannot or will not replace them in critical capacities. I'm talking basic infrastructural labor like farming, fishing, mining, construction, basic plumbing, and basic electrical. Women are not finding the average man attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 06:44 PM |
| 5 | Men want what they would never allow to womenThe dating apps data, falling marriage rates, declining birth rates, and increasing age of first pregnancies for women show that the attraction distribution range isn't that varied. At some point, if there's no real incentive for a man in potential propagation, society falls apart as he has nothing really to labor for besides his own existence. With men performing the vast majority of the infrastructural labor, this is a real problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 06:34 PM |
| – | As a man with low confidence and LOw value inspite of high technical achievement, women seem to be ... HedonisticI'm blaming both parties here. We have descended to this level because we allowed this. In my professional role, I am expected to do more than merely show up on time and be there; I also expect more from the people that report to me. The previous manager didn't expect as much and got lower quality work as a result. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 05:37 PM |
| – | As a man with low confidence and LOw value inspite of high technical achievement, women seem to be ... HedonisticWe meaning society in general. If you reward or, at a minimum, don't punish a behavior at a micro or macro level, you get more of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 05:32 PM |
| – | As a man with low confidence and LOw value inspite of high technical achievement, women seem to be ... HedonisticSociety, in general, with the government alongside dumbass men who play as simps at the micro level. Women wouldn't act this way unless at a structural level, we reward this behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 05:27 PM |
| – | As a man with low confidence and LOw value inspite of high technical achievement, women seem to be ... HedonisticWestern women are never told they're worthless if they don't have financial success. This, whereas a man is judged based on his achievements and is a pre-qualification for the capacity to get women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 05:25 PM |
| – | As a man with low confidence and LOw value inspite of high technical achievement, women seem to be ... HedonisticWestern women play life on training mode unless they're abhorrently ugly. We constantly coddle them, give them multiple outs for bad decisions (men only have two real forms of birth control besides abstinence, men are usually not the winners in family court and men don't get the benefits of affirmative action or government assistance), tell them whatever they do is right and just and society has told men to take care of women. Thus, women can afford to be hedonistic because there usually are lit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 05:12 PM |
| 8 | The recent trend of women using "therapeutic language" to insult and stigmatize menI had known and dated this woman for two years at that point. She bounced after a month of me being depressed and told me to stop sulking. My first-hand experience tells me they don't give a shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 05:45 PM |
| 8 | The recent trend of women using "therapeutic language" to insult and stigmatize menMy guy friends were there to help me out of the funk, and women "friends," including romantic interests, mostly disappeared bar three of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 05:41 PM |
| 9 | The recent trend of women using "therapeutic language" to insult and stigmatize menNah, I mean like "my mother just got murdered" or "a family member of mine is sick" or "having some difficulty due to an unforseen medical/car repair expense" when asked why I looked depressed that day. (All true stories of mine and ones where women disappeared faster than houdini.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 05:38 PM |
| 3 | Men are not more v*olent for not getting sex. Most v*olence against women come from men they are partnered with, not from virgins menSaying that was one of his motives is akin to the wine mom saying that the box of Franzia she drinks nightly is for helping her heart due to the phenols in it and not because she wants to get piss drunk. Also weird how we spend trillions of dollars to replace the Taliban with... the Taliban all while a few get richer. Let's also not forget that opium production skyrocketed during the interlude between Taliban control, no coincidence there. I hate both parties, but a cokehead C student who got th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 04:57 PM |
| 5 | Men are not more v*olent for not getting sex. Most v*olence against women come from men they are partnered with, not from virgins menYou do realize that Saddam right before this was propped up by the US? You also realize that the perpetrators of 9/11 came from Saudi Arabia and Pakistan? Osama Bin Laden was from Saudi Arabia. You realize that Wahabbism, which is the most common form of Islamic extremism, is funded and fostered by Saudi Arabia? The destabilization of removing Saddam caused ISIS to take hold. What a fucking brain dead take. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 04:43 PM |
| 9 | The recent trend of women using "therapeutic language" to insult and stigmatize menWomen don't care about men's struggles. If you ever want to see your or a woman's interest in you nosedive unless she's going to manipulate you, start talking about the shit you're going through. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 04:36 PM |
| 0 | What advice would you give your sons to help them have stable healthy families in the West?Lead by example. Show them the consequences of doing bad things in life by taking them to skid row or wherever you think is appropriate in juxtaposition. Be an example of a good man with the ability to fend for himself and avoid porn, booze, drugs, etc. If he wants college, he can help pay for it or get an employer to pay for it. I think the trades as the son of a tradesman are better because it's more practical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 02:58 AM |
| 0 | [Q4All]What are your thoughts on “Foodie Calls”?No, I don't think a woman is supposed to be my mother. To be honest, my mother was not in my life for long, so I don't know how it is to be loved like that anyway. I'm not looking for a woman to take her place, I just take his advice to heart that men are never loved unconditionally by a woman except the one that bore them and that unless a woman is giving you quality treatment as a man (not just sex), she's a liability and inconvenience. I've learned to be cold and indifferent at best to women'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 06:16 PM |
| 0 | [Q4All]What are your thoughts on “Foodie Calls”?The point is that the older generation (my father is actually silent generation, not a boomer) didn't get old for no fucking reason much of the time. His experience with women made him treat them the way he did, and he was successful in reproduction; same with other male relatives that had the same treatment and viewpoint of women. If the vast majority of the time, bad things happen when you encounter x situation, you learn not to get into x situation unless otherwise there are other rewards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 05:31 PM |
| 1 | [Q4All]What are your thoughts on “Foodie Calls”?My father never misled a woman. He just treated most of them, barring my grandmother, great-grandmother, great-aunts, and aunts like shit based on his own lived experience and being burned by them while trying to treat them well. They ate it up from all the women he ran through when I was a kid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 05:19 PM |
| -1 | [Q4All]What are your thoughts on “Foodie Calls”?I tried to be different from my father, who told me to never trust a woman, that they're all trying to use you, and the only woman that truly loves you for you is your mother. But given my experiences with women while living here and in other places, he's right. The way I've been treated by the women who weren't relatives or friends I've known for years has made me view them not as the other half of the species, flawed just as men, but disposable, extraneous and a headache, the vast majority of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Turning 30 and worried about losing desirability from men.People don't understand that men have two questions they ask of a woman in their head. The first is "would I fuck her?," which is a low bar to clear. The other is "Can I see myself in a relationship with her or married to her?," which is a much, much higher bar to clear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/23 04:14 PM |
| – | There’s a hypocrisy around spotting red flagsI'm over 30 and leveled up my money, job, and physique, and while I'm not a chef, I cook and bake very well. I have a wide range of hobbies and pleasures, but because I drive my beater car, dress conservatively and cheaply, don't drink and have an average face along with going bald, I'm invisible to women objectively worse than what my mother, grandmothers and great grandmothers were in the aspects a man wants. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 01:27 AM |
| 2 | what is this notion "society" is supposed to magically "create" spaces for you to socialize if youre an abnormal teetotaller who cant just do what everyone has always done socially?I'm working on leaving this uncultured hellhole. I was legit happier when I lived in a place with no real amenities, but it had community and things to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 12:07 AM |
| 2 | what is this notion "society" is supposed to magically "create" spaces for you to socialize if youre an abnormal teetotaller who cant just do what everyone has always done socially?Borders doesn't exist anymore, the Strand is where my hometown is, we don't have Powells here, B&N is in a shopping mall that has very little traffic in a suburb, and local bookstores don't exist here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 11:46 PM |
| 1 | what is this notion "society" is supposed to magically "create" spaces for you to socialize if youre an abnormal teetotaller who cant just do what everyone has always done socially?A metro area west of the Mississippi is all I will say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 11:41 PM |
| – | There’s a hypocrisy around spotting red flagsUnless I find a good single woman for my tastes and values who reciprocates interest where I live by some miracle, I give up. I'm not trying to date the top of the top women either. Either they want to use me as a foodie/entertainment call or stand me up. The women that I find attractive and have decent values are already in relationships or married 95% of the time. Men have to put in much more work in getting sex initially and much of the work in a relationship, keeping her pleased not only in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 11:13 PM |
| 1 | The argument of 'Men having No Standards'.One woman that works for me is an insufferable bitch even though if she weren't, she'd be basically my ideal woman physically. I didn't deal with her even before I became her boss because she was an insufferable bitch. There's a woman old enough to be her mother who's at my level there who has a great figure, less attractive face, and is very pleasant to be around who I find extremely attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 08:31 PM |
| 3 | CMV: If you choose to pursue trashy women over being single, stop expecting sympathy.I'm working on the moving part with my job and house after trying the online route with no results. This city is a disaster. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 08:15 PM |
| 3 | what is this notion "society" is supposed to magically "create" spaces for you to socialize if youre an abnormal teetotaller who cant just do what everyone has always done socially?Bookstores largely don't exist here. Your old cafes don't exist here like my hometown, plus women do not want to be approached at these chain coffee shops like Starbucks or Dutch Bros or Coffee Bean. My home church denomination doesn't exist here. Women explicitly state they don't want men approaching them at the gym or grocery store either. Community centers are far and few in between here. There are exceptions women make if the guy is extremely attractive to them, but for your average schmuck?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 07:46 PM |
| 3 | CMV: If you choose to pursue trashy women over being single, stop expecting sympathy.The problem is when you live in an area where the vast majority of single women are trashy and the good women have moved in from somewhere else already married or in an LTR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 07:36 PM |
| 1 | What is your definition of objectifying?In 2023, men can't have any standards in the Western world. Don't want a land whale when you're not? Misogynistic. Don't want her to have kids because you don't? Misogynistic. Want her to have a low body count? Misogynistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 09:00 AM |
| 1 | "Neurodivergence" has become a trendy excuse for dating strugglesI have legitimately been diagnosed by more than one doctor with autism. I have struggled with dating partly due to it, partly due to my standards in a woman (more traditional than most) and partly due to the nature of where I live. I put myself out there, have hobbies, have interests, and try, but don't succeed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 06:35 AM |
| 2 | You only think women’s standards are unrealistic because you view them as a monolith.This. As a fellow autistic guy, so much this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 01:32 AM |
| 4 | Men do appreciate female friendship, but they often avoid it because it is costlyI've ran into these women, unfortunately. Maybe they're not the majority of women, but I encounter them often enough here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 04:19 PM |
| 6 | Men don’t put in the effort yet they complain about their lack of dating successNot only the crappy second-hand car, but at full sticker plus add ons (single mother, alpha widow, wants higher minimum lifestyle). I'm not my father or my grandfather, expecting her to take care of all household domestic duties while I put on my slippers, smoke a cigarette, and have her blow me basically on demand when I get home, but fuck, I need something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 03:19 PM |
| 15 | Men do appreciate female friendship, but they often avoid it because it is costlyMost women I'm friends with are lesbians and fairly butch lesbians at that. They are good company because they don't just take and take like your average straight woman. One woman I know is married and a former coworker, and I still meet her for lunch with other former coworkers. Another is single, and we take turns paying for lunch. The married coworker is extremely attractive, and if she was single and showed interest, I'd be in a relationship with her. The other former coworker actually used … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 03:07 PM |
| – | Low Body Count Does Nothing for MaryThe vast majority of men are one blowjob away from the plantation. How many men will put up with a shit woman if he gets a crumb of pussy every so often? Women only act this way if they get rewarded for doing so, just like guys who are "players" only do so because they get pussy for acting the way they do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 07:13 AM |
| – | How would you feel if he or she is with you for the money?I've been investing for a while now. I'm really going to start reaping dividends in the next decade or so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 05:32 AM |
| – | How would you feel if he or she is with you for the money?The average Western woman is why I'm investing in pharma, Diageo, and pet toy and food manufacturers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 05:16 AM |
| 3 | Mario Batali was found not guilty and wants to resume his career. He’s getting a lot of backlash. How do you feel about men being found not guilty from sex allegations and still not being allowed to move on from it?Good thing we had jurists with sanity writing the laws regarding criminal trials and double jeopardy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 05:11 AM |
| 14 | Mario Batali was found not guilty and wants to resume his career. He’s getting a lot of backlash. How do you feel about men being found not guilty from sex allegations and still not being allowed to move on from it?This is why I don't "#BelieveAllWomen." He's rich, had celebrity chef status, but fat and average looking. Trevor Bauer, an elite athlete, rich and not ugly, got his career tanked by a lying woman. Women, just like everyone else, lie, but their lies have many graver consequences. Criminals in many cases have to pay restitution to their victims, false accusers should have to spend at a minimum, the same amount of time the falsely accused would've spent in prison, and in a civil case, the accused … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 01:12 AM |
| -2 | On dating apps over the past 5-8 years, why do you see the same exact women on them? Why are they perpetually single?Nah. You see, because they possess a vagina, they are perfect beings who can do no wrong, their standards are extremely realistic, and they're all 10/10 queens who can do no wrong. Meanwhile, since you have a penis, you are a misogynistic idiot by going off your observations, and you aren't allowed to have any standards in a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 10:41 PM |
| 2 | On dating apps over the past 5-8 years, why do you see the same exact women on them? Why are they perpetually single?There are throngs of women that were hot for Ted Bundy and Richard Ramirez even after it was well known what they did because "he's cute" or "he's misunderstood." They overlook fucking anything if they find you hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 07:08 PM |
| 1 | On dating apps over the past 5-8 years, why do you see the same exact women on them? Why are they perpetually single?They're delusional in many cases. They may be girl next door cute or average looking and have average income, but because they got dick from the hot guy or got flown out to get dick from the rich guy, they think they can have a relationship with him. Those guys will fuck them, but outside a literal model or woman of that caliber, they have too many options to entertain them. Modern Western women are also more entitled. They have it easier than 95% of the population, yet want even more. They also… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 07:04 PM |
| -1 | High libido is a curse for unattractive peopleThis is the thinking of the average woman now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 09:42 AM |
| 5 | High libido is a curse for unattractive peopleBasically, the world as it exists, its entire infrastructure is only held together by men, as men are the ones doing the labor of building and maintaining infrastructure. Men, in most cases, are motivated by money, but that's so they can have the minimum requirements to get pussy. If they're not getting pussy, they can live in a hovel while doing the bare minimum and be ok. That doesn't bode well for society's infrastructure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 09:40 AM |
| 2 | How would you feel if he or she is with you for the money?I would prefer being married to an average woman who likes me for all aspects of me, but realistically, I won't find that living here. I refuse to be a woman's bailout or beta bucks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 11:13 PM |
| 0 | How would you feel if he or she is with you for the money?In terms of top-tier men, I'm talking about men with looks, money, and status simultaneously. Women will get dick from the hot broke guy and is attracted to him primally, but for life? She'll marry the average/below average looking rich guy to have access to a life of leisure, probably while getting dick from the hot broke guy. This is the alpha fucks, beta bucks dual mating strategy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 10:48 PM |
| -1 | How would you feel if he or she is with you for the money?It may just be western women or at least women in my western metro, but the vast majority of single women are only in it for money or status and would drop you in a fucking heartbeat if she found a guy with more money or status. I'm just average in most aspects, I'm OK with a mostly average woman. The thing is that I run into utterly delusional women who are average in most regards, but think simply due to possessing tits, ass and a vagina, they deserve top tier men because a top tier man will d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 10:32 PM |
| 7 | I've never understood why famous male celebrities chose to date/marry other female celebritiesThe thing is, most people in general date within or near their socioeconomic circles. Monkeybranching is real, but realistically, instead of a woman from a trailer park marrying a CEO, she married the guy who managed the trailer park or a guy that had a decent job for the area instead of the guy selling stolen copper to feed his meth habit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 09:36 PM |
| – | Who has more unrealistic dating expectations, men or women, why?These women are overpriced hookers that don't even put out. I'm never going to be a simp for these women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 12:14 PM |
| – | Who has more unrealistic dating expectations, men or women, why?Let's paint a scenario I see often. A guy with x number of baby mamas that was part of her larger social circle (friend of a friend, coworker, etc.) starts talking to a woman and gets in her panties telling her that she's special, that she's his world, or that he never met a woman like her. She becomes baby mama number x+1 even though the information that he had x number of baby mamas before was trivially easy to figure out from basic research or observation. Both parties are at fault here, her … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 02:53 AM |
| 3 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)Legit, one of the sexiest women I know, is overweight. She's all of around 5'1", 150 (28.3 BMI), and has some stomach, the vast majority of where she carries it is in her thighs and butt, with some in her boobs. Things that make her a fucking dime piece is she is pleasant to be around, has a personality and is interested in more than vapid bullshit. Just like dudes are told not to be ugly, broke, or fat, that's not too far off for women if they want a relationship unless they can compensate some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 02:33 AM |
| 6 | JDBF (Just Don’t Be Fat)What standard of fat are we talking about? The media portrayed anything other than being anorexic or shredded as fat. If you're 5'4", 160, have it mostly on your boobs, butt, thighs, and some slight softness to the stomach, that's sexy, even though you're overweight. Lizzo or the girl from Willy Wonka after eating the blueberry? No. If you're 5'4", 200, and look like Mike the plumber with a huge gut, no hourglass definition, then that's not sexy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 02:25 AM |
| – | Who has more unrealistic dating expectations, men or women, why?So, a couple of things here: you, as the woman, are the party that decides to have sex; you are the party that has agency in choosing men, this isn't 15th century Europe where your dad chooses suitors and you have to marry from the 3 guys of similar age in your town; you are responsible for your sexual past outside of sexual assault. I find a common theme with shit tier women: there's no accountability, and simultaneously, women are strong and empowered but the moment there are any negative cons… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 01:39 AM |
| 3 | Men who refuse to raise a child that isn’t biologically yours but want kids, why do you want kids?I legit have ancestors who were part of the conquistador parties and explorers that I know of. My paternal grandfather served in WWII, and my maternal grandfather helped build and maintain structures that are used to this day. I hope to pass along the stories of my family, including my dumbass exploits along to my children if I'm lucky enough to have them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 01:26 AM |
| 1 | If a man and a woman are friends, then the man is (most likely) sexually attracted to the woman?I have women friends (mostly lesbians) that I don't find attractive, even if they were straight and presented in a more "feminine" manner. I have women friends from former jobs that I grab lunch with sometimes that I'm not attracted to. I do also have women friends that I would fuck the living shit out of if they were single and showed interest in me that way. So, it's a mixed bag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 01:12 AM |
| – | Who has more unrealistic dating expectations, men or women, why?That was for the steak. She's going to want drinks and dessert as well. Then she's going to want to catch a movie or go mini golfing or bowling. None of that shit is free. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 12:53 AM |
| – | Who has more unrealistic dating expectations, men or women, why?At this point, hookers are cheaper if I want only sex. I made a sous vide reverse seared steak with roast potatoes two weeks ago that was better than 95% of the steakhouses I've been to and cheaper, too. Cooking is about the easiest fucking thing on the planet. One, you have to eat to survive. Two, if you clean as you cook, mostly stick to one pot or pan meals and clean or at least soak the pot/pan you used after, it's not that fucking hard to clean up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 12:48 AM |
| – | Who has more unrealistic dating expectations, men or women, why?Not on a first date. I'm not cheap by any means, but I'm not spending $250+ (dinner, drinks, and entertainment for her, not my tab) for every swing at the plate, even if I made double what I make now. That's just dumb. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 12:38 AM |
| – | Who has more unrealistic dating expectations, men or women, why?Not even a debate. Women. Legit had one over the weekend who wanted me to take her to a $80 a plate steakhouse for a first date, acted like I was broke when I balked at that proposal. The best part was that I was compromising on not dating single mothers and other things and knew that, whereas she was shocked that I wasn't basically Henry Cavill, Jeff Bezos, and John Holmes simultaneously. Said fuck that, called up a buddy and went to see Killers of the Flower Moon, got the 2 for 20 and had a fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 12:26 AM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsThis is from dating apps, social circle, church of a different denomination than my normal one and cold approaches. The demographics of this metro and my luck suck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 07:23 PM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsI don't chase party girls. That's the overwhelming majority of the women I encounter in the age range of women I tend to date in this metro area, though. The women I tend to encounter that aren't party girls are either already married, some are good friends of mine, too young (I have very little in common with an 18-20 year old), want a bailout because they're a single mother or made other terrible decisions in general or want me to be gigachad and loaded. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 07:15 PM |
| 15 | People forget that being a nice guy in general can be a recipe for disaster in general social situations, not just relationships/dating, which is another contributing to the manosphere rabbitholeEvery time I've been considerate of others besides my few living family members or close friends I've known for years first, I get burned, so I've learned to put myself first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:32 AM |
| – | General rise in mens resentment towards women?When you have throngs of women hot for Ted fucking Bundy and other actual serial killers, it shows you what they overlook if they find you attractive. Jodi Arias to guys after they know what she did? Their response is, "Nah, I'm good." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 09:51 AM |
| – | So, what is the solution, in your humble opinion? Date someone you are not attracted to?This is correct. Honestly, this is why western society is in the state it's in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 02:24 PM |
| 1 | That video of the clerk being hit on by clueless guyLike I'm somewhat oblivious (see previous comment about having aspergers), but tbh, the best and most obvious flirts are middle-aged to older black women, in my experience. No vulgarity, just nice harmless flirting and bullshitting with no strings attached. They can give as good as they get. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 12:25 AM |
| 2 | That video of the clerk being hit on by clueless guyThis is after bullshitting and bantering about with them. I don't just walk up to them with this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 10:41 PM |
| 2 | That video of the clerk being hit on by clueless guyI flirt and tease women playfully (no comments about their bodies, stupid things like "where's your bracers and lasso, Wonder Woman" or "they're looking for another angel that got lost, I see") that I see in all capacities daily to help with my stunted social skills from aspergers. At work, I tease in a non sexual way just to bullshit and pass the time. I have an excuse to be socially stunted, but fuck, I see adults and people have less social skills than I do while being neurotypical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 09:02 PM |
| 0 | So, what is the solution, in your humble opinion? Date someone you are not attracted to?Chubby as long as it's in the right places (boobs, butt, thighs, slight softness in the stomach), I actually like. Lizzo or the girl from Willy Wonka that blew up into a blueberry? No. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 05:11 PM |
| 11 | So, what is the solution, in your humble opinion? Date someone you are not attracted to?I'm not a multi billionaire with Chris Bumstead's physique that cured aids or cancer, so the hyperbolic fictional woman wouldn't be attracted to me. I am a guy who is fairly well rounded in skills and interests, makes above median income for a guy, bought my house by myself, I'm in shape and groom well. I don't necessarily present in that way because I drive an older car that's paid for, dress conservatively, and am somewhat stunted due to being on the autism spectrum alongside having an average… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 06:40 AM |
| 1 | So, what is the solution, in your humble opinion? Date someone you are not attracted to?The frustrating thing is that when I was much less attractive in grooming myself, in my career, financially and fitness but lived in a different metro, I had much more success in dating women who met my minimum criteria. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 06:09 AM |
| – | I believe men struggle so much in dating because they no longer bring anything to the table.I've cooked better than the vast majority of women I've dated, ranging from Greek to Indian and I bake everything from bread to cakes. As a single guy raised by a single father, I've had to cook and clean for myself since childhood. I'm a homeowner, have a decent job, am skilled with my hands, have hobbies and interests, got fit, and read a lot. However, I'm average looking, somewhat awkward, and I am on the autism spectrum, so Chad, I am not. I'm an average guy. However, the vast majority of wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 06:01 AM |
| 26 | So, what is the solution, in your humble opinion? Date someone you are not attracted to?This. Do I deserve and will only date women who are 19 year old virgins with 160 iq with Michelin star level cooking that are also fit and feminine? No. One, that combination can hypothetically exist, but in reality, it doesn't. Two, I'm realistic. I have certain minimum standards like be pleasant, don't be a land whale, don't be on drugs, know how to be an adult, and don't be a single mother. Not really asking the world here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 04:38 AM |
| 4 | Women create "red pilled" men regularly.Honestly, what made me sympathetic towards the red pill was seeing the disconnect between what women say they want in a man and what they actually choose in a man. The excuses women make for shit men that they find attractive alongside seeing women of all stripes chasing after the same few guys and assholes getting more opportunities to date. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/23 01:50 PM |
| 11 | What Men Think of as a Nice Guy/Asshole is Very Different From WomenI'm quite frankly the latter (not showing confidence) IRL due to my upbringing and asperger's. Do women see that I'm funny, knowledgeable about multiple subjects, can cook, bake, that I'm good with my hands alongside being stable? No. I'm the average looking and, to be honest, somewhat boring guy because I don't drink, don't use any drug, including marijuana, don't go clubbing and don't dress in a flashy manner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/23 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Women don’t want men to have success in datingI have quality relationships and friendships with women (mostly lesbians) and have had relative romantic success with women when I was less fit, making less money, had less in general but was in a different metro. However, I did notice a trend that assholes got more opportunities to date women and women can and would excuse all sorts of behavior from a man that gets them excited. Not having my mother around for most of my life kinda makes me less able to understand and relate to women. Life in g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Asking modern women to treat all the men they date equally is illogical.Didn't have a mother's love most of my life, so I don't get it. I only got the latter version. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 06:13 PM |
| – | Why is it okay for women to mention preferring certain stereotypically masculine traits but if a man mentions preferring certain stereotypically feminine traits, that's SEXIST!?My parents were dysfunctional, and my father had not just RP views on women, but like he wouldn't be out of place in like 15th century Saudi Arabia views. The thing is that from getting older and seeing how the actual dating or sexual marketplace works between him and other people who operate like him having more success, he's right about how women operate. Maybe not necessarily treating them like shit, but not caring about them nearly as much, not making them a priority and realizing that women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 10:30 AM |
| 13 | Asking modern women to treat all the men they date equally is illogical.This is why I try dating women of my religion when available (before I lived in this metro), but also, I don't take shit from women or anyone. On your phone constantly during a date? I find a way to excuse myself discreetly and then see a movie or something. Bring your friend or friends to a supposed date that wasn't a double date? I leave. Take too long to show up at a restaurant? (I allow 10-15 minutes grace without communication that you're going to be late because of life emergencies happeni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 03:04 AM |
| -1 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesThat's this metro being a party town. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Why do people choose their spouses based on physical attraction rather than love?Physical attractiveness is a factor for both parties because sex is a part of a healthy relationship for most until old age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 08:04 PM |
| 0 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesI'd like to get some reciprocal effort, not just in sex, but in conversation instead of staring at their phones or inviting their friends (walked out the last time that happened) or putting effort into their appearance (messy bun, unwashed jeans and a band shirt are not what I accept when I shower, trim my beard, shave my head, put lotion and cologne on besides my slacks, polo and loafers). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 05:17 PM |
| 5 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesWomen in my metro tell on themselves all the time. Every time they bring up the "toxic ex" (I've had many terrible first dates), they say how he only took them to shit chains or didn't care for them, didn't have any romance, but they got with him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 05:13 PM |
| 21 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesThat was the most extreme disparity I could conjure to put it in stark terms, but the point is that I don't appreciate being used for what I can provide and being made to wait when a woman requires little to no preconditions for the guys they find hot. Just like women don't like finding out the guy they're dating is fucking another woman, especially if they're better looking, guys don't like finding out that the woman they're dating has higher preconditions for them versus other men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 02:35 PM |
| 7 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesMy standards are be physically attractive to me, be physically attracted to me, be able to cook basic meals (I have run into too many women that couldn't cook themselves a basic meal to save their life), don't have fucked every guy in town and don't treat me with an extreme disparity versus previous guys. Not exactly 20 year old Salma Hayek who's also a trained chef and loves giving enthusiastic blowjobs to me as a hobby. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 02:12 PM |
| 10 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesI'm in my 30s. I have a background in the trades, good with my hands in general, I cook well (the "boy dinner" thing is only when I'm super depressed or extremely pressed for time), am bilingual, make decent money, am in decent shape, am a homeowner, dress well, groom well. In my father's time, I would've been married to a woman roughly of my background with similar characteristics. Nowadays, women who offer less than that want me to make more and more money and have more and more status symbols… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 02:04 PM |
| 11 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesAnd what does she bring to the table? What skills and contributions does she bring? What skills in the bedroom does she bring to the table? How has she grown in anything other than age and expense? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 01:53 PM |
| 9 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesMy coworker at the time, who was their roommate and the one who introduced us, let me know, and I saw the guy leaving on his bike one day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 01:49 PM |
| 29 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesThe point is that I don't like being played for a fool. If you're not attracted to me, don't string me along while busting it open for some bum while proclaiming you want good men who treat you right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 01:47 PM |
| 19 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesThe most extreme disparity I've personally encountered was a woman who wanted me to wait for sex when she hooked up with a guy she found to be hot who had no real job, no car and the "date" was him bringing a little Caesars hot and ready and a blunt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 01:39 PM |
| 3 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesI'm not saying the bar is her panties come off for a little Caesars hot and ready, but there can't be a huge disparity of what she wants me to bring to the table, physical resources and skill wise versus previous lovers and her upbringing and what she brings to the table. I'm from a working-class background, and while I make decent money and have markers now that are of higher value, I don't expect the world. I want her to go out with me because she's attracted to me, not just trying to extract … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 01:36 PM |
| 12 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesBasically, she wants me to go far and above in comparison to previous lovers. Instead of being satisfied going to Dennys and driving a clapped out Civic like she did with her ex and then back to the crib for sex, she wants a Michelin star restaurant and for me to drive a G wagon to entertain the thought of going out with me, let alone sex. That and stringing me along for more than 3-5 dates without escalation into sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesWith the quality of women now and what a man is expected to be for women objectively far worse in domestic skills, obesity rates, and promiscuity than their mothers, grandmother's and great grandmother's generations, why the fuck is it always on the man to do better? Why are we not holding these women accountable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 12:42 PM |
| 55 | Men are so afraid to be settled for because they know they are settling themselvesI'm not looking for the 20 year old version of Salma Hayek or Sofia Vergara, although they're extremely attractive women physically. Hell, they don't need to be virgins or have the domestic skills of my grandmothers or mother (I would like them to know how to make an edible and healthy meal because I know how to cook and dining out and takeout is expensive), just don't have fucked every guy they found hot for nothing and then expect me to jump through hoops for sex and contribute to the relation… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:53 AM |
| 5 | Do you split costs in a relationship 50/50?My paternal grandmother still worked on things she could do from home, like sewing, mending, and laundry services as a traditional woman or taking things she made to the market to sell. The few times she worked outside the home was to cook and wash for the military. Unlike white folks who could live the American dream on one income, that was almost never the case for minority families. The difference from today is that she was a woman devoted to my grandfather and let him lead the household, was… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:39 AM |
| 1 | Red pills need to replace anger with acceptance of their diminished placeOverweight and obese alone covers 75% of the US population, given that women tend to have less lean body mass and higher body fat (biology literally requires them to have higher body fat) and lower resting metabolic rate, half is being very generous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 11:33 PM |
| 6 | For redpill men, What was the moment that made you go redpillShit, are you me? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 10:07 AM |
| 2 | I think having a generous personality as a man is more important than being good lookingYou're an oddity from mine and most guys' experience, then. However, you do admit that the resources are attractive to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 09:56 AM |
| 10 | I think having a generous personality as a man is more important than being good lookingAlpha fucks, beta bucks. Ask yourself if you'd be as attracted to the guy if he was of average income and getting by. You'd likely disappear like Houdini. Most women don't realize how expensive it is to date you. The average cost of a date is $160 in the US. A date a week is over $8k a year. When the average guy makes per SSA wage data, less than $40k a year. That's 20% of his income for the prospect of sex or a relationship where she's likely to be overweight, have many previous lovers, and is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Serious question. What will you do with your lives if you don't find anyone?Take care of my other parent as i have been doing, and then I have no clue. Most of my family has been gone for a while now, and I'm an only child. I'm lonely even with male friends, as they have their own lives and kids, and have honestly been treated pretty poorly overall in life by women, including my own mother when she was alive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Women are actively repelled by genuinely kind men no matter how attractive they are, and rather consistently go for toxic men who mistreat them. This entire issue has been hijacked and obfuscated by them fabricating this bullshit “nice guy” narrative.I've seen this every single day. Be kind and courteous to everyone regardless of race, sex, religion, etc.? Invisible to women. Be an arrogant asshole that treats people shitty, especially women? Irresistible to women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 12:10 AM |
| 3 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.Some of these people are family members of mine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 08:38 PM |
| 5 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.People defend themselves with guns, yes. The issue is that growing up in chaos and a broken home with two broken parents, I have no desire for the continuation of that, so I use my parents, extended family, and people I know for examples of how not to conduct myself and act accordingly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.My metro seems to attract people who are maladjusted, then. I'm from a broken home and want to change that, should I have a wife and kids in the future. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 07:14 PM |
| 3 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.That's been my experience as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 07:00 PM |
| 5 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.I legit have no need to attack a woman, nor do I make more forward advances because I have a harder time "reading" people due to the autism, so I don't conduct myself in a manner to get shot, thanks for wishing that on me, btw. I'm going from actually lived life and the men I see who are successful in the dating world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 06:59 PM |
| 2 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.Funny thing is I train in boxing and judo multiple times a week for self discipline. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 06:27 PM |
| 6 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.Statistically, zero percent of them would say they're attracted to these men. Women like the "dangerous and spontaneous" guy who cares less about her who she thinks she can fix than she does him from my personal observations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 06:01 PM |
| 15 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.I'm just extremely frustrated that guys who are meth fiends, alcoholics, serial DV abusers, ill-tempered, etc., and treat women like shit while being open misogynists are like magnets to women, even when they say they want a good man that treats them well. Every guy I know that's a magnet to women fits that profile, even if they're average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 05:33 PM |
| 19 | Men shouldn’t complain about not having a partner when they don’t put effort into themselves or others.Lost over 100lb and have an average face, have muscles now, have a decent job after being promoted multiple times, take care of grooming, hygiene, skincare, dress OK (maybe need to size smaller due to lingering dysmorphia), wear good cologne, have hobbies and am well-read. However, I don't drink, do drugs, or go clubbing, so I'm invisible and boring to women in my metro. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days?Shit, I'm attracted to women IRL that are considered overweight because they carry it in the right places (wide hips compared to waist, big defined butt, thick thighs, not Jabba the Hutt or shaped like the girl in Willy Wonka after she eats the wrong candy) and are pleasant to be around alongside petite and normal weight women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 08:06 AM |
| 1 | Are straight women really qualified to give advice on how to date straight women?Every woman except one happily married one has given me the worst fucking advice on dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/23 02:38 AM |
| 1 | People REALLY underestimate Party Culture!Do you mean that crack hoes aren't the pinnacle of sexiness to a man? Quelle surprise! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/23 12:10 PM |
| – | It seems like men fail to understand that the attention that women get is not the compliment or even a privilegeSex is on a man's mind more than a woman's mind more often than not. It's very important for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 04:11 PM |
| 7 | How would you design an online dating app to make it a good experience for both men and women?The biggest problem is the ratio of men to women on these apps. Just shows the dynamics of intersexual relationships. It's a lot easier for a straight woman of most physical attractiveness levels to get someone in bed versus straight men. It's not a coincidence that recent studies show more unpartnered men than women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 11:15 AM |
| 23 | People here are too quick to dismiss men's lived experience when they tell you many average men peak later in life.I've gotten much better in my 30s vs 20s in most spheres. I own a home now, been promoted multiple times, and have a much better physique and make better money. Romantically, this metro sucks majorly versus the one I lived in in my 20s because it's mainly a party town with delusional party or ex party girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 08:20 AM |
| 1 | Do men's options really go up with age and women's options drop ? I don't know if that's true.Microplastics and the endocrine disruptors in the water tables don't help either, but yes, you're right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 08:15 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women trauma dump more often than menWe're talking past each other at this point, then. It's harder for me as a neurodivergent man to discern emotions even in myself, but feeling the emotions in and of itself isn't the issue with men seeing women, NT or not, it's how you deal with the emotions. Is it bad that your emotions were invalidated based on how you expressed them? Yes, however, that's the reality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 01:25 AM |
| 10 | CMV: Women trauma dump more often than menIt's much more socially acceptable for women to display emotion publicly across a wider range and intensity. Men are supposed to be stoic regardless of what's going on in their lives. I don't know the extent of the emotion displayed, but it may have been an extreme, and I don't disclose extreme trauma that happened to me irl but with my closest friends and family. When I've opened up to women, they've lost all attraction to me or used my experiences against me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 01:12 AM |
| 13 | CMV: Women trauma dump more often than menMen get chastised for anger and being upset, men get chastised and ridiculed for being sad, the only acceptable emotion men can show is happiness but not to an extreme unless it's a super rare event for him. Society tells us to repress our emotions. Is it a wonder why such displays of emotion displease us? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 12:45 AM |
| 3 | Do men's options really go up with age and women's options drop ? I don't know if that's true.If they don't take care of themselves with diet, exercise, and minimal skincare, this is true. It also doesn't help that average male test levels have been falling for decades, which helps slow aging. Men largely do not utilize makeup, so a guy at 50 is what you're getting, there's little chance of a "surprise" where he looks like an ogre when he was super handsome in a recent picture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy is never ending and there’s no way to winMy metro is basically the description I posted. The US is around 74% overweight or obese. I actually don't mind the former as long as she carries it well. I don't party a lot, but this being a party town, that's who I tend to run into. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy is never ending and there’s no way to winAverage women I know in the US (average meaning overweight and not super hot) want the average guy that they aren't attracted to to jump through hoops after they got their backs blown out by the guys they find hot. She wants you to court her and provide for her and her 3 kids where she didn't with the guy offering her coke and dick in the club in her 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 07:49 AM |
| 8 | Hypergamy is never ending and there’s no way to winDepends. Are you a drug addict or dope dealer in the US who's in and out of jail constantly? If yes, swimming in pussy. If no, marry your hand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 07:39 AM |
| – | “good girls” still slow me downI got tired of being a fat fuck and decided that it was time to change it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 09:56 PM |
| 1 | If women can stay single for as long as they desire (as many women claim) then why don't single mothers abstain from dating men until their kids turn 18?https://www.ipums.org/projects/ipums-usa/d010.v8.0 US Census ACS surveys consistently show that men work more hours than women. https://drive.google.com/file/d/1oiVHM23qBQLEOX4NPmxF9AEYNus3oUvz/view?pli=1 Affirmative action benefited white women the most in employment abs education with multiple studies, not just this one showing this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 09:20 PM |
| – | “good girls” still slow me downThe thing is, she has to be basically bonus material in your life. You still have to find the time to work out or time to remain in caloric maintenance or deficit. You have to find the time to hang out with the bros. You have to find the time to, at a minimum, maintain what you have. Women will try changing you, and then when that's achieved, lose attraction and then leave you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 08:08 PM |
| 1 | If women can stay single for as long as they desire (as many women claim) then why don't single mothers abstain from dating men until their kids turn 18?Based on what? Women do work fewer hours than men. Women are in fields that pay less. If women are outperforming men, is it based on apples to apples effort and work or due to one getting an advantage? It's really easy for Mark McGwire to be an all-pro when he's juiced to the gills versus Mike Trout on a shit team and not juicing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 05:26 PM |
| – | CMV Status will beat looks, money and Social skills easily, and it aint even a sweat.Well, even for financial gain. You have to be the biggest moron on the planet to really believe a man is inviting you to his place at midnight or whatever for a script reading or casting call; no he wants pussy. At some point, you are responsible for your actions. It's legally permissible for me to leave my car running with the doors open at a gas station in the hood at two in the morning. If I do that, and it gets stolen, the guy stealing it is wrong for doing it, but I fucked up and I'm respon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 04:09 PM |
| 1 | If women can stay single for as long as they desire (as many women claim) then why don't single mothers abstain from dating men until their kids turn 18?With how much help from society, though? They still make less money in large part due to working fewer hours than men with these college degrees in fields that don't pay as much, so that they owe two thirds the outstanding student debt while being 50% of the baccalaureate holders despite the grants and breaks women get for that. They may get special homebuyer tax breaks and grants compared to men. I have met very few women who worked, want to work, or are capable of working in fields I've been i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 07:34 AM |
| 3 | Men, why do you want a girlfriend?Companionship, love, someone to grow with, and yes, sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 02:43 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Hypergamy doesn't make senseThat's the polar extremes, but it does happen in gradients as well. One former workplace had a woman dating a guy one position above her but was receptive to the guy two positions above her, and monkey branched to him after batting her eyes at him. It gets better, though, then she starts casting her net for a guy three positions above her and monkey branches to him after getting a promotion (totally a coincidence). I see it happen all the time where a guy is relatively successful and a woman wan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 04:39 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Hypergamy doesn't make senseIf you're looking at society as it actually stands, this is the case. Most people date and marry within their socioeconomic circles, men being more amenable to dating lower than women. The reason this is the case is that most rich guys aren't slumming it at dive bars or blue collar workplaces, same as the broke guy isn't attending Harvard alumni parties or going boating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | The only reason you hear so many women say that men overrate their appearance is because they are projecting, as any balanced individual can clearly see women do this infinitely more than men.Just dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 06:00 AM |
| 0 | The only reason you hear so many women say that men overrate their appearance is because they are projecting, as any balanced individual can clearly see women do this infinitely more than men.I don't, but I have no other data to go by. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 09:55 PM |
| 0 | The only reason you hear so many women say that men overrate their appearance is because they are projecting, as any balanced individual can clearly see women do this infinitely more than men.I have been told that I'm average looks wise by women and that I'm broke by their standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 08:59 PM |
| 0 | The only reason you hear so many women say that men overrate their appearance is because they are projecting, as any balanced individual can clearly see women do this infinitely more than men.At 5'10", 170, I weigh the same as the average woman who's 6" shorter than I. I have a better physique than almost 3 out of 4 Americans by not being overweight or obese and am actively working to improve my physique. I even like curvy (height and weight proportional with an hourglass or even slightly pear-shaped) women alongside having a decent job with above median income and being a homeowner, but an average face and women think I'm below average. I have intellectually and physically stimulati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 08:20 PM |
| -2 | Not receiving sexual attention causes lot of issues and society doesn't acknowledge itThe point of a prostitute is that you pay her to leave because many, if not most, men get tired of dealing with women outside of sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Not receiving sexual attention causes lot of issues and society doesn't acknowledge itI agree, but the problem isn't at the intellectual level. Fundamentally, if you have a bunch of disaffected men in a society with less opportunity economically and sexually real or perceived than their parents like today, bad things tend to happen. A corollary is Europe, especially Germany, Italy, and Hungary during the 20s and 30s. The problem is that men intellectually see women as rational human beings, but at some level think of them in that manner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 11:35 PM |
| 0 | Not receiving sexual attention causes lot of issues and society doesn't acknowledge itThe problem is there's a long period of time between 13-35 which are peak male sex drive years where our testosterone is telling us "must fuck woman" and usually guys need some outlet for that. Another problem is that we've basically taken the male spaces for bonding and tension relief outside of sex away. That usually doesn't bode well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 11:03 PM |
| -2 | Not receiving sexual attention causes lot of issues and society doesn't acknowledge itThe problem is that after about 40, unmarried or never married men see an increase in happiness, while the opposite is the case for unmarried or never married women. Women overall work fewer hours in fields that pay less, and while they get higher degrees more than men, many times they have unrealistic standards of education, income, and looks, which will hit them hard. The reason I bring this up is whether they like it or not, they need a bailout. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 10:48 PM |
| -2 | Not receiving sexual attention causes lot of issues and society doesn't acknowledge itHonestly, making prostitution legal, regulated, widely available, and affordable would make straight men chill and straight women start having realistic standards where I live. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 10:33 PM |
| 1 | A few of my observations in the medical field as a guy with the male/female ratio being 1:10Warehousing, not retail trade, still north of a quarter mill a year. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 09:28 PM |
| 6 | A few of my observations in the medical field as a guy with the male/female ratio being 1:10By and large, people do date within their socioeconomic circles, but men, say like my uncle and a few of my friends are more open to dating women of a lower status whereas the reverse isn't true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:07 PM |
| 12 | A few of my observations in the medical field as a guy with the male/female ratio being 1:10My uncle and his wife, funnily enough. He was a district manager and she was part of the outside service counting inventory. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:01 PM |
| 62 | A few of my observations in the medical field as a guy with the male/female ratio being 1:10Successful men will date a McDonald's cashier provided we find her attractive and pleasant to be around (aka not a pain in the ass and can carry a conversation, maybe not to the same level, but carry a intellectually stimulating conversation nonetheless). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Beggars can’t be choosersShe's a good-looking woman, and any guy who says she's unattractive is either blind, insane, or not heterosexual. However, I have a preference for curvier (not obese) women alongside natural hair color physically, and her looks are one facet of her. Yes, me finding a woman physically attractive is a non-negotiable for the pursuit, but she has to be pleasant to be around for a continued relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 10:57 AM |
| 2 | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?I like the application of the Hegelian absolute in my personal life alongside being stoic, as figuring both how I should think about how I relate to a situation and then how to react to it has helped me grow as a person. When I start going into nuances and terminology, people's eyes glaze over and I may as well talk to a wall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 08:20 AM |
| 1 | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?I can make most people's eyes glaze over with the difference between the Socratic dialog, the Platonic dialectic, and the Hegelian dialectic alongside arguing Nietzsche was not a pessimist. I try not to let my love of philosophy, history, or my other hobbies make me too stunted, but it seems like all the media today is superhero movie 27, Disney bullshit, remakes or other dreck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 08:11 AM |
| 3 | What would happen if all Men abstained from sex for a entire year?Shit, I'm the son of a single father, I've been doing that my whole life. I cook better than most when I care any. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 02:04 AM |
| 7 | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?Yes, I do. I despise pop culture and don't consume much media that's not enriching my knowledge base. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 03:40 PM |
| 5 | Have you given up before properly starting dating? And why?Fellow aspie here. At this point, I'm considering just getting hookers whenever I want sex that bad. More because while I can pass, I'm just tired of hoeflation and women wanting so much from me while offering so little. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 11:58 AM |
| 0 | CMV: These are the only genetic filters you need to pass to be dateable as a manAm autistic. Point two outside of this metro area really didn't apply to me. However, I have a milder form of it and have had therapy to blend in more easily, so take that for what you will. Point two also doesn't apply, as I am mid level where I'm at and have been working at the same place while getting promotions for years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 10:46 AM |
| 3 | Dude ghosts girl after first date what can we learn from this?Yeah. Tbh, women played themselves. They're competing for the same small strata of men, then complaining why those men won't wife them up when a new supply of sexually eligible women come of age daily. Men largely do not want women with a high body count or that are single mothers by choice (widows are a force majeure situation). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 11:23 PM |
| 5 | Dude ghosts girl after first date what can we learn from this?My mother who was a boomer before she passed and my dad who's silent gen said this was coming to pass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 11:10 PM |
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