TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Custard-Gyal Archive

View 3 posts and 226 comments by Custard-Gyal on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

Then the overwhelming majority of men should not be on dating apps. Women are picky when it comes to looks. We're primally attracted to a very small portion of men. Thankfully things like body language, confidence, kindness, generosity can make up for it. BUT that doesn't show up on a dating app which is very superficial. I'd say meetup groups and shared activities would be a better bet for those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 08:28 PM
0

Yes, and? I would never say anything bad about dating apps because of that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:36 PM
1

I love them. I always get what I want out of them. Maybe those girls are ugly or have bad personalities
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:22 PM
–

I find this topic really amusing since I’ve had what seems to be unusual experiences. I’ve only had one casual sex partner in my life. He was the shortest sex partner I’ve had and the least intellectually compatible. I did it because I had low self esteem and wanted to lose my virginity. The longest relationship I had was with a guy who was better than him in every way. Even now when I go on the apps, it’s the less attractive men who are asking for FWB/casual sex. The more attractive men I match…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:37 AM
1

I’ll see how things go.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:10 PM
-1

Tbh I’d be happy if they left the apps. I don’t like having to sift through garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:12 AM
-1

I literally didn’t. Men I liked didnt like me back and vice versa. I held out till I was 25.Went on a few dates with a coworker who told me he didn’t do monogamy only “open” relationships . A month after I joined an app i met someone I was more attracted to and wanted a monogamous relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:11 AM
0

So they’re bad for a certain population of men so we should get rid of them? Makes no sense. Attractive men and women like the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:36 AM
2

Sweet of you to take the time to respond so in-depth! I’m a little avoidant myself, so I’m much less likely to initiate conversations. I’ve always relied more on talkative partners, so I’m feeling really out of my depth here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:26 AM
1

LMAO. Uhh no, the best I can do is chad-lites
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:23 AM
1

I heard about that too, but in my experience this sporadic kind of texting pattern has caused things to fizzle out. It’s better if we have enough conversational chemistry to carry us from one date to another. I dunno. I guess I’ll just wait it out
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:21 AM
1

Talking to this guy and not sure how to feel about him. He says he’s an introvert. He’s cute enough for me and our values align on a lot of things. We only had one date so far and we have one coming up. Texting seems a bit weird. We seem to get into a groove over text and then he’ll cut the conversation early. Then he’ll take a day or two and then contact me again. My exes wanted to text all day long so this is strange for me. Is he shy?? Or does he not like me? For context he takes the lead on …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:58 AM
0

I wouldn’t say I settle. There are still non negotiables that I have (has to be attractive and educated ). But I am more lax when it comes to values or conversational chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:35 AM
1

You do know choice 3 could be attractive too right?? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:09 AM
-2

Dating apps are great for the reasons you listed. As a female I love them. Hopefully they’re always around. I had trouble dating in high school and college because i wasn’t attracted to anybody. Dating apps gave me the opportunity to talk to guys who were attractive. And wow! Some of them also wanted relationships with me :) it’s a win win for moderately attractive women. Lol I’m not giving it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:07 AM
1

What’s wrong with the dating apps? Without them I never would have had any relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:02 AM
3

Don’t know. I’m 29 going out with a 24 year old. I prefer handsome guys and younger guys tend to be more handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:58 AM
–

If a 53 year old passport bro “wants something real” he should be going for women in their 30s/40s in these countries. The problem is they go for barely legal young women and then gets surprised when she cheats on them or leaves after getting a green card
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:31 PM
–

He keeps changing the story and moving the goal post all over 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:34 PM
–

I mean…yeah? That’s the topic in question? Doesnt mean it’s a good thing, just more preferential for business
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:34 PM
–

He’ll never say
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:31 PM
–

How come no man talks about this. Like the while passport bro situation would be so much better if they didn’t try to cradle rob and went after slightly older women. It would be a win win
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:29 PM
–

Exactly lol. I’m in medicine and it’s rare that any female doctor is trying to find a male doctor or the finance equivalent of that. We’re mostly just trying to find a man who has at least one degree, has a stable job, and is cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:26 PM
5

I would LOVE some genetic engineering to make everyone beautiful
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:01 PM
1

Nah. I’d love to date a guy from my own race. They just don’t like me as much as other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 08:38 PM
2

Doesn’t matter. I’ve been with a good looking man of my race and he treated me like a second option even though most people would say we were looks-matched. They have internalized racism and want what they believe is “better.” I’ve been treated better by white men if I’m being honest. At least they don’t treat me like a second option. Some of them actually like how “exotic” I look
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 08:22 PM
3

Handsome men of my race want to date white women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 05:29 PM
1

Ofc, but all of us can’t be winners. It’s against nature
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 04:11 PM
2

Sounds like these women settled for a whole lot other than just looks
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 04:11 PM
6

Exactly. I wasn’t born a white woman so I’m at a disadvantage already
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:31 PM
1

Yeah maybe Chad should just settle down with Stacy. That way Stacy doesn't become a slut and beckys can pair off with their betas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 05:55 AM
1

I have a high sex drive but I only choose men I’m super attracted to. I can imagine not wanting to have sex with a guy who is unattractive to me. I think a lot of women settle on looks and it kills their sex drive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 05:44 AM
0

I could NEVER. The guys I date are at least 2-3 years younger than me. Men age HORRIBLY. I still look younger than these guys
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 05:42 AM
1

Not sure why dating apps get a bad rap. The in person interactions are there once you get off the app
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 01:39 AM
–

Suggest gym sessions as a couple. Long walks in the park. Maybe order a meal kit service. Don’t threaten to leave or divorce and be nice and loving about it. You can’t hate anyone into being healthier.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 01:36 AM
1

But that’s not always in your hands. You can be very unlucky in love
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 05:27 AM
1

It's only low because I started late though. If I had started at 20, I would have had double the partners if I continued to average one partner a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:16 PM
3

How exactly is one supposed to keep their body count low when dating in modern times is so volatile? I only started dating at 25. I'm now 29 and have had 4 partners. They were all in dating situations, two of them were in relationships. I don't just have sex with anyone. There were guys I dated who I didn't end up having sex with. I feel like I'm very particular about it and I'm still averaging one partner a year. None of those promising relationships lasted though because, well, it's impossible…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:35 PM
2

Yeah ofc. This is like for people who are not in education or training
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:11 AM
1

No job or have a job but can barely pay your bills. Don’t have extra money for leisure
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:51 PM
0

Yeah i mean, no one who’s broke should be dating? Like your priorities should be totally different
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:13 PM
14

Uhh as a fellow woman, I think you’re confused. He means that over time the GUY will realize he likes the girl, even though initially he did just want to be friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:48 AM
2

What's your point? I literally address this here in my post: If you have similar interests to men, I'm not surprised you would befriend them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:18 AM
4

One of my friends is a huge AI and robotics nerd, and she's conventionally attractive. She joined a robotics club in our city a while back, but quit after just one day and because she felt like literally every pair of eyes was on her every movement. I feel bad for her. That's so uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:11 AM
1

I'm saying that opposite gender friendships seem a little more transactional than same gender friends. That's not always the case OF COURSE, but it's fairly common to the point that it warrants a mention. I guess I'm just one of those people who can make opposite sex friendships and maintain them pretty well. Yeah please understand that not everyone is capable of that and that's totally normal. I don't know why everyone acts like it's such a big deal when people prefer same-gender friends or wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:11 AM
2

I suspect you're right. I can't really communicate very well with neurotypical guys. Neurotypical girls are easier for me. In the one relationship I truly felt understood and seen, I suspected he was also ND, but we never really talked about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:04 AM
3

No. I'm not demisexual. I like conventionally attractive guys. And if you add friendship to that, the likelihood of me falling for them is higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:02 AM
5

I'm sorry you had the experience of witnessing other women be shitty to their friend, but that's not typically why people make opposite sex friends. When did I say they were being shitty? I literally never said that lol. Those boys loved the ski trip! And most guys do benefit from female friendship in other ways that are rarely discussed. I'm just saying that girls also seem to get something from it. I don't really have much in common with most men so I don't befriend them. I don't like sports, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:54 AM
1

Im not as comfortable with using people the way others are. I have found it’s something neurotypical people do incessantly, both men and women. The irony is that when I was friendzoned by a guy friend he gave me the whole “so were we even ever friends?” Thought only women used that line.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:39 AM
7

Coming from a woman: maybe it's my neurodivergence, but I don't understand why girls befriend guys platonically, if not to use them. Like a lot of times it seems like they'll go out of their way to collect these guy friends and then ask them to do things that guys are typically better than us at. For instance, I had a female friend insist on inviting her obnoxious guy "friends" to our ski trip so they could drive up the mountain for us with their All wheel drive. They made misogynistic comments …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:21 AM
1

Guys here on purplepilldebate. The sentiment is that if a woman is spending time on her career in her 20s and does not make dating a priority when she is young, she should be expected to settle or even end up alone, as guys don’t “care about career” and only want a young, fun, hot thing. The career is never defined but I thought it meant anything that requires long hours of rigorous training, like medicine, law, etc. which are also “high value” careers. This is the first time (this post) where t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/24 01:13 AM
8

Well we're not really talking about Asian countries. The cultures are so vastly different - honestly virginity is the least of the differences. Similarly in India, it's not uncommon for a 34 year old woman to be a virgin, if she's unmarried. Tbh, even that is changing, just as it is in Japan, in South Korea, in China, etc. Everyone's modernizing in this aspect, just more slowly than Western countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 05:46 AM
2

God this is what freaks me out about dating the most. Like everything can go right and you guys can be super compatible, and then... he just decides that he doesn't want to be together anymore. Granted, women do this too, but it's still such a scary part of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 02:01 AM
13

I just think it's so, so rare nowadays in our modern society, that it's simply not a realistic standard to have, unless the man is religious and the woman is religious too. If you want a virgin woman, you can find her, but she's not going to be as desirable as you think she is. Chronically anxious and depressed possibly, but not this sweet untouched angel you're dreaming about. I myself was a virgin till I was 25. I was vaguely religious but I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't have given it up for…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:24 AM
1

wasn't implying that. i'm well aware you can do cardio at the gym. I will still say that most feminine, sought-after women don't even go to the gym for cardio. If you want a gym bunny that's one thing and there are gym bunny Stacys, but women can be Stacys without stepping foot in a traditional gym. A healthy diet and low impact exercise can do the trick too for a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 06:15 AM
14

I want a trophy husband who stays at home but he has to be younger than me and really hot lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:19 AM
4

Wow you’re more open minded than a lot of people here
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 01:49 AM
22

Wait so what about a high-earning career? Because I've heard the guys don't like women here spending any time on career, even high earning ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 01:06 AM
1

Most Stacys I've met don't go to the gym, lol. At most they'll be doing cardio or yoga/pilates or something. They usually stay thin through their diets. Female heavy lifters typically don't look like a Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:36 PM
1

You're ignoring the fact that there are fat women out there who get back in the gym and they're working their butts off in there. Sure, it'll take a while to see a significant weight loss, but if they keep at it, they'll be thin one day. Now, you absolutely don't have to date them, but to pretend that they don't believe in being healthy or aren't trying to develop healthier habits is inaccurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:34 PM
2

This is frustrating to women who actually know what they’re doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:01 AM
4

Nothing wrong with that, I just wish guys would be honest about that instead of pretending this is related to health. The way I say it is, “i take pride in my physique and want the same from my partner”. It’s much more palatable and sounds less controlling and more honest than what OP is saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 09:06 PM
2

I’ve always been a smaller person but my fitness was not always great. When I was “skinny fat” I would often tire out on hikes before my bigger friends. Now I’d say things have changed because I make cardio a priority, but it’s just inaccurate to say that all skinny girls are also fit. They’re not. I know, because I’ve been an unfit skinny girl before.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 09:02 PM
5

Nothing wrong with it. Believe me, i’m the most anti-fat person around. I work really hard on my physique and will rather die than date someone overweight. I just think it’s funny the way guys act like it’s not all about aesthetics. I wish they would just say what I say which is “i work hard on my body and want a partner who values the same thing” rather than this weird “healthy lifestyle” BS. Bc we all know that’s not what they care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:57 PM
8

No, I hear you. It's a good point, especially if you want to hike and do sports with your partner. I still think most guys will 100% choose the slim girl with lower cardiovascular fitness than a heavier girl with higher cardiovascular fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:59 PM
10

Exactly. You can eat a completely junk food diet and be underweight if you’re eating a smaller number of calories. In my experience though guys mostly just want a slim girl which is possible without stepping foot in the gym. All this “healthy lifestyle” talk is like a nice way of saying “please don’t be fat” Now I’m not saying that people don’t need to exercise. It’s so imperative to good health. But guys like OP could not care less about health. They’ll take the skinny girl with a chronic disea…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 12:23 PM
9

And what if she takes a deload week? Would that be okay with you? What if she just decides her body needs some rest for a week if she’s sick or just overtrained? I ask because I met guys who will force their gf or wife to go on a run when they’ve been sick or recovering
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:34 AM
1

maybe move to an area without so many fat girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:49 AM
9

Oh boy. FWIW, I said "possibly therapy." I know it doesn't work for everyone and certainly doesn't work for me even as a woman. I've dated men who've gone to therapy and they both had great things to say about it. But it's concerning that you don't think ANY men would benefit from it. You do have to leave your ego at the door, and be open to advice and education. I understand why you would feel like that's emasculating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:48 AM
2

They look fine! Just chill out :/ If that's you in your picture, you look great.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:42 AM
5

okay, yeah maybe some introspection and possibly therapy is what you need then. Journaling is good too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:39 AM
9

I have dated doctors and "high value women" before. Some even bough me clothes and wanted to "lock me down." It has almost always been me who called it off, the few times it was women who dumped me was because they wanted more than just a situationship. Where do you think I came up with my ideal? Okay, you lost me here. So sounds like you have met your ideal but didn't want to commit? That's on you then.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:30 AM
7

I'm in medicine, and I've met so many of these women throughout my training, mainly because #2-#7 are basically required to be a good doctor. Bunch of them are cute too. I think you need to reevaluate why the women you describe are not going for you, because they do exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:23 AM
40

Okay, now I feel like you might be trolling. Let me repeat this anyway: sluts (i.e. women who have casual sex with multiple partners) are not a physical danger to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:13 AM
7

I also agree that's a realistic standard if you have that lifestyle, but personally (as a woman who is currently going to the gym 3x/week), I understand life happens and maybe you'll be killing it in the gym for 3 months, then the next 3 months you're swamped at work, and then you get back in the gym, and then maybe you wanna try exclusively rock climbing or something else for a few months, and then the cycle continues. That's just life and being human. I'm a flexible person when it comes to goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:12 AM
57

Women openly talk about how they don't like predators, misogynistic men, they don't like physically aggressive men who slap or strangle women and other men. Then why as a man women do not want me to talk about sluts. You need to re-read this lmao. The answer is clear. It's because sluts are not a physical danger to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 04:51 AM
1

Man you really don't like women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 12:36 AM
5

Nah it’s BS. Yall are focusing on super hot social girls. The rest of us have small group of close friends
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 11:59 PM
1

I've actually heard this sentiment a lot from men... to the point where I do think it's a legitimate concern of theirs: to be judged for their gendered sexuality. I actually had a guy go cold on me after I had questioned him about his "hoe phase" in college where he had lots of casual sex with women who fell in love with him (he brought it up, it made me uncomfortable so I was asking more about it). I think most guys, just like anybody, just want to feel accepted, warts and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 02:43 AM
-2

yeah i do this. joke's on me though, because last time I was about 20K off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 02:32 AM
1

I started having sex at 25, and it’s been easy to find partners since then. Before, it was harder bc I refused to go online to find people to have sex with. I finally caved at 25, and it’s been an average of one guy per year. Although this year it was 2 guys
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:50 PM
9

Lmao. No. Happened to me once (and I honestly just think it was a personality mismatch, but it was very soon after sex). After that, I RAISED my standards and it never happened again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 10:51 PM
1

I’ve heard from big dick guys that girls can come from penetration alone with them. Size absolutely does matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:33 PM
0

Yeah i thought it was face first but my ex had an even more beautiful face but he was never able to make me come. I think maybe bc he was shorter, thinner, and had a smaller penis. It’s more primal attraction to my current partner I orgasm from his penis alone. 7 inches and girthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:05 PM
1

7 inches and girthy. Not technique bc he was a virgin till 26
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:02 PM
8

My boyfriend makes me cum every time we have sex. These are the reasons why in order of importance. He's committed to me and cares about me He's tall and has a big penis He has a lovely face
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 02:16 AM
1

Usually the values, goals, and overall outlook on life are vastly different, to the point where a relationship would either be impossible or just really unpleasant/frustrating. It's either the above, OR our conversational chemistry is so off it takes an enormous effort to talk to them so it's not someone I can just effortlessly add to my busy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 12:46 AM
2

And then you inexplicably enjoy a movie that is objectively worse in every way but has a certain stupid charm to it that hooks you? It's kinda like that. How I feel about napoleon dynamite
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 12:42 AM
1

I don’t like oral sex in general, not on others but definitely not on me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 02:47 PM
1

if you're right that's pretty dangerous since I'm a doctor lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:49 AM
–

Oh yeah i mean my ex didn’t care but there was one guy who did and rejected me very soon after our 3rd date
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 02:10 AM
–

That was me being humble lol. If I said I was hot shit yall would downvote me to oblivion
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 11:33 PM
–

I am above average for sure. Don’t usually have a lot of time to date tho since I’m a new doctor
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:44 PM
–

Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:35 PM
1

Yea lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 12:37 AM
2

It was less of a strategy and more of my personality
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:39 PM
1

No, a GOOD boyfriend - like handsome, tall, funny, good job
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:35 PM
4

😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:32 PM
2

Yeah you get it. This is the only reason I even tried the avoidant thing in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 10:31 PM
-11

I'm like that naturally. I have to try to appear nice/warm
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:54 AM
0

I don't like them but I don't like getting eaten out either. just don't like oral sex in general
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:54 AM
1

Absolutely not. I'm very visual. I don't care if we have the best conversational chemistry ever - if you're not physically attractive, you will always be just a friend and nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 05:18 AM
-5

he does, but I come almost every time I have sex so it's not different with him compared to other people. I'm lucky that way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:45 AM
-8

not everything. we switch off. As for talking about himself, yeah... that's why I don't think I'll use this strategy in the future
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:15 AM
1

yeah as long as he's not a pissy bitch about it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:24 AM
3

uhh this is inaccurate. I'm very much into men's bodies. I fantasize about dicks, hairy chests, or a pretty face (some men have pretty faces).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:56 PM
3

I dated a man like this once - he was a regional union organizer for factory and warehouse workers. He put so much of himself into his job, barely had time for him or me or his family because it "had to be done." You're right - it's much rarer for men. He would have ground us both into the dust.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:49 PM
1

Should I be honest with my friend about why she's not successful with online dating? She came to me recently asking why it seemed like I was so much more successful with online dating than she was. I just mumbled something about personality and called it. However, I know exactly why she struggles. She can be entitled and superficial. She's also overweight with bad skin. Lastly, when she finds a guy attractive, she sleeps with him on the first date, then wonders what happened when he ghosts her. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:44 PM
5

Men are so resilient!! Sometimes I feel like they can handle any situation. They're handy, and usually have the confidence to tackle difficult practical problems. they also have a good number of hobbies, and are more active than us females.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:39 PM
0

Disagree. My cousin is an Indian, overweight weeb and gets casual sex pretty regularly. He's also the most ridiculously confident/outgoing person I've met. Guy has no shame. Does he have sex with hot girls? Not really. He probably has sex with girls around his attractiveness level. I've heard sometimes they also want more with him but he denies them. Things are not black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:34 PM
3

even when dating apps weren't popular, I had a LOT of trouble finding someone I was attracted to. It's part of the reason I was a virgin so long. It WAS something like 1/100 at the very least. It's very similar to the ratio when I use dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:51 PM
1

speak for the others... I love getting laid. It's like a treat every time. Maybe I'm just wired differently. Although, I am low N-count technically. Also... I think what you mean, is that if a girl sleeps with guys OUT of her league, then that ruins sex for her, so it's more of a quality vs quantity issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 07:40 AM
1

this is definitely the answer
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 07:32 AM
27

As a woman - I totally agree. I have distanced myself from guy friends who I caught feelings for. One of them did not understand which still annoys me when I think about it. The other guy did understand and backed off/gave me space and we're in a good place now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:58 PM
2

Uh they can?? I've literally heard men say that a lot of single women are not in good enough shape to date. Or that women are too into the party scene Or that women have nothing going on (ambition/career-wise) These are all totally reasonable and I've had discussions like this in mixed gender groups before.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 07:06 AM
1

this is me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 03:03 PM
1

Holy autism
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 04:46 AM
1

Yeah I mean I still think about the sex, that’s how good it was. If she likes you in other ways she will like your penis too (which is average)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:02 PM
4

The last guy I dated had a dick about the same size. I had a lot of fun having sex with him, but I am on the tighter side personally. I didn't even like the oral. I wanted him to put his pencil dick in me lol. Was it ideal? Not exactly. Was it a dealbreaker? Absolutely not. The sex was actually the best part of our relationship. I left because we had terrible conversational chemistry
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:02 AM
1

Your deduction is surprisingly correct for a lot of women, including me. When I date guys that I feel are better than me in some way, it intimidates me. I think because of my career as a doctor, I attract a certain calibre of man, but sometimes I just want to let loose and I feel like I can't be at ease with these men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:45 AM
2

Some women, sure! But most women in general want to settle down with one guy after a few months of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:55 AM
0

As a woman, I don't think there's anything wrong with people seeing what's out there before they settle down with one person. However, guys sometimes take advantage of this and lead on multiple different women at a time in a manipulative way with no intention of choosing one within a few months. That's why we see pages pop up like this. those pages are also a place to talk about abuse which is important
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 10:31 PM
1

thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 06:14 AM
1

So nothing at all I can do?? :( This is what I was afraid of
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 05:05 AM
1

Would you ever take someone back who broke up with you citing incompatibillity? Recently broke up with someone who I felt like was pulling away. Instead of facing it head-on by starting a conversation, my avoidant ass just ended things with him to preserve my ego. I told him we didn't seem compatible in our goals. He seemed to agree, but I wasn't sure if that was his ego talking or if he was truthful. Just a couple days prior he was trying to see me and was going to meet my friends. I really wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 05:02 AM
21

Also i don’t know how accurate the surveys are that they base this data on because no one ever asked me when I started having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 11:42 PM
3

Huh? The premise was that men can easily find a woman if they have a good social network. The guys I dated had to go online to find women despite having a network, meaning the network did not help them in finding a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:46 AM
12

I disagree to be honest. Most of the men I’ve met online have multiple female friends, some close ones too. Honestly, I don’t even like it, but yeah, I’d say men who have trouble finding a woman do not necessarily not have a good social network. Most of the men I dated actually had more of an extensive network than I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 09:42 PM
2

Go along with it if it comes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 12:00 AM
1

yup, exactly why I commented this. Glad people know why I said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:00 PM
85

Cool. PLEASE send these out in distribution immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:46 AM
6

Speaking as a woman: To be honest, at a certain age, you have to be incredibly active and careful about your diet to avoid gaining weight. Something in your body just changes. I'm 28 and in the gym or doing something active at least 5 days/week, which is why I have the nice body I do. I can't hit the gym for 3-4 weeks? The fat starts gathering around my abdomen. At 20, I could eat whatever I wanted and be stick thin. hell, I didn't even exercise regularly. At 26 is when things started to change …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:08 AM
1

don't feed the trolls
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:07 PM
5

Another aspect I don't see talked about a lot: women have a MUCH higher threshold for true sexual arousal. If there's a guy who's accessible to them, wants to commit to them, and also sexually arouses her, she is going to be more forgiving of other aspects by nature of the rarity of that situation. It's pure psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:05 PM
1

one of my good friends once told me she has not ONCE enjoyed sex with her partner of one year (who's frankly, below her in attractiveness). thats sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 12:58 AM
1

what's interesting is the male portrayal in movies. You never see guys having casual sex or pumping and dumping without an eventual redemption arc or characterization as a "bad guy." I think it's so fascinating since almost every good-looking man has had a history of stringing women along and pumping/dumping and it's never portrayed in film. I guess because men are the ones making the movies so they want themselves to look good?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:08 AM
1

I think you overestimate how many genuinely empathetic, selfless, and respectful men there are out there
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 04:16 AM
13

I can relate. I told a guy I was really into hiking, traveling, eating out, etc. I told him I hate staying at home if I can help it. He literally told me he was a homebody and did not want to do any of that and STILL wanted to keep dating me... like...??
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:43 PM
0

We are nasty and sexual ... just with a smaller amount of people probably. wish more guys would understand this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:19 AM
1

Yeah see my problem?? lol. I'm stuck
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:17 AM
-1

It seriously is so annoying. Like I don't want to talk weeks on end to end up getting no dick... Why do men think women don't enjoy or want sex or even fucking experience attraction like men do...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:16 AM
2

because, get this - we live together lmao Also, I just generally don't wanna come off as an asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:14 AM
0

Things I wish I could tell this guy but can't: "hey I've got a lot of friends. I don't need more. If you wanna fuck, let me know. If not, please leave me alone" "hey I really can't talk every night for hours if we're not fucking"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 06:10 AM
1

forgot I was a woman in the group when he said there are never any attractive women in the hobby we were doing. Ouch wtf. So mean
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 04:36 PM
1

Are you not aware that women have sex drives? Like sex actually feels good to us. Like really good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 06:19 AM
1

I don't know man. I don't care. if there was a safe viable, desirable way for me to get NSA sex, I would do it too since I'm high libido and low desirability. As long as he doesn't talk about it and feels at least a little bit of shame, I'm okay with it. It's don't ask don't tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 02:51 AM
2

Lmao where was my fucking mistake? Yall love blaming women. I’ve been blaming myself my whole damn life okay? I just want to be left alone so I don’t have to anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:22 AM
1

🙄 what do you want me to say? What’s left unsaid is the truth: I’m undesirable in some way. How is not wanting to even engage anymore bc I’m tired of getting hurt a problem? It’s my life and peace at the end of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:10 AM
11

lmao what is this. I get a crush every month or so. Definitely NOT top-tier dudes alll the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 04:32 AM
2

In my late 20s. well i assume it works out for other women? Isn't that how relationships form? One party indicates interest in the other, and they'll see where it goes. For me, the only difference is it's never worked out. I guess i say too many of the wrong things or not enough of the right things... who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:33 AM
1

Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:21 AM
2

Nah women know. I've had countless convos with women about the "guy who's perfect in every way except one" i.e. she's not primally attracted to him even though he provides her security, is kind, and is loyal. It's something women are very open about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:20 AM
3

Yeah.. .that's quite an age gap. I remember being 21 and now 7 years later, I see how dumb I truly was. What I thought was "mature" really was a performance or imitation of other people and nothing deeper. The only thing I would say is that make sure this is a good guy. Not a lot of good-hearted 37 year olds are pursuing barely legal women. That's just the truth of the matter. If you get a whiff of "i only date under 25" energy from this dude, RUN. He's not a good person and just wants you for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:01 AM
4

I wish guys would just leave me alone. They always initiate everything and then end up losing interest down the line. It would save me the heartache if they just didn't pursue me at all and didn't get my hopes up. I'm done entertaining guys. Next guy "friend" who sends me a surprise text gets a one-word response.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:57 AM
55

As a chronically single woman, dating apps were the only way I could date and experience having sex. Never had much IRL luck. Guys avoid me for whatever reason. Maybe I'm unapproachable, am intimidating, or have a weird energy, I'm not sure. I've been told I'm pretty by guys but things just always fizzled out in the early stages. I graduated school and college without ever having been properly asked out or pursued. Pursued a couple of guys myself and was shot down every time, except once where h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:08 AM
2

I get slightly uncomfortable when my male patient is good-looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 02:55 AM
20

No, I don't think so. I'm in medical school which is considered "high status," and there are plenty of beautiful women in my class. Because of the halo effect, they're actually considered MORE competent due to their beauty/grace.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 03:07 AM
19

I'm 28 and man talking to a teenager is TOUGH. Like you gotta explain everything because basic stuff doesn't seem to make sense to them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:40 AM
1

It ignores the fact that older women do get quite a bit of sexual attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 10:44 PM
4

wow could not relate. Y'all can have your fossilized predators. I'm gonna go for the younger hotter guys for as long as I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 12:04 AM
1

NOT pictures, they have to at least be walking around, since a man's walk is part of it all. Walk and mannerisms, confidence helps, but ultimately it is the body I'm most attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:56 PM
1

I am SO visually stimulated. Love seeing shirtless hairy af men in movies or around
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 04:48 PM
23

You're actually like... joking right? This is ridiculous. There are incredible women AND men out there who are late bloomers but have incredible gifts and qualities that would make someone very happy. Some of the most beautiful human beings I've met have been single people. Some of the worst people I've met just happen to be in relationships. One of the worst women I know has basically been in some form of a relationship since she was 16. She's married now and only a few of her close friends kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 02:37 AM
0

Yeahhh i dont consider myself a daddy’s girl simply because I don’t like his character and not too close to him anymore, but yes I was privileged growing up
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 01:30 AM
-2

What do you mean by spoiled exactly? I usually got what I wanted from my dad, but I was careful about only asking for things we could afford and that I felt would enhance my life in some tangible way. He would have bought me anything I wanted though. He all around treated me fairly well and was a very reliable person growing up. I did have trouble dating at first because I expected too much from my partners right off the bat, and that's not how it works. After a few mishaps, I learned my lesson …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:26 AM
3

Yeah also this situation usually ends in him and at least one of his partners getting an STD, which is not fun for anyone. Doubt he uses condoms regularly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:21 AM
1

Yeah, this happened to me. He said he liked me, but was a "slow burner," and needed to entertain other women and HAVE SEX with all of us (this is the bad part) until he was sure about one of us. In my opinion, it's disrespectful both ways when you're dating someone you know wants monogamy (I was very clear about this), but at least with the honesty, he's not wasting my time further, which is really valuable. I usually ask guys, but somehow just didn't ask him. Maybe because I just assumed based …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:19 AM
0

It's simple to me. You're basically telling me that I need to measure up to your standards or I'm out. Do you see how that can be kind of off-putting? I would think you lack people skills. I'm usually very polite to the men I date and would never make them feel as if they're having to compete for me (even if we both know that's the case). That means I never ask them verbally, "what can you offer me?" It's more like a... "Oh, I'm looking for this in a dude..." and keep it kinda vague if they were…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 11:10 PM
1

Their strength and resilience. One of my good male friends would not give up on med school despite numerous (NUMEROUS) failures and retakes. Even administration was telling him to give up, but he was like "nope, I can do this, I WILL become a doctor.". Meanwhile I knew two girls in similar situations who dropped out. I definitely feel like him being male had something to do with his reaction to the situation. I also enjoy how awkward they get when they talk to me (if they're attracted and availa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 10:43 PM
5

God I wish men weren't all manwhores these days. Even the nerdiest most anime obsessed dude has more sexual/romantic experience than me... It would be a BLESSING to find a good-looking guy who is inexperienced or better yet a virgin. But they all lose their V-cards alarmingly fast as soon as they get a chance. I stayed a virgin till 25 because of religious reasons and I'm still very conservative in certain ways. I feel like finding a guy like me is close to impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:26 AM
2

25 probably. Guys didn't give a shit about me in college or even years after. I just remember being invisible until 25. My boobs grew out at around that age so maybe that's the reason. Also, I became much more confident over time. Guys started approaching me in the streets, and not just clubs/events. I do feel like a downtrending in attention since I turned 28, but I've been stressed and my dark circles are terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:22 AM
1

i know a lot of people say this - what does it mean? inability to be available? or disloyal?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:47 PM
1

Nah… the way he looks at me… i’d find it hard to believe he was gay. It’s like he looks into my soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:44 PM
1

yeah this sounds like the guy I'm interested in right now. I can't tell if he's being friendly or likes me... but in any case, I think he would be too slow to do anything about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:59 PM
1

Different women have different standards/preferences though. Also, I can't count the number of times I would ask a friend, "damn, isn't he cute?" and she would say something along the lines of, "are you blind?" There really is a good amount of subjectivity. Also, I like the proportions of a lot of shorter men, while a lot of women like tall lanky dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:51 PM
1

what would you do if there was a girl you were attracted to? how would you treat her differently than your female friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:48 PM
2

Ah gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:45 PM
2

What do y'all think about decent looking guys who have a lot of female friends but are still single and not really dating/pursuing anyone romantically?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 06:40 PM
2

No idea
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 10:38 PM
2

Well we did watch a movie one on one, yeah the next step is complimenting him. He said he likes my hair and shoes 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 09:47 PM
1

Yeah i get you. But there’s a lot of months on the lease left
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 09:43 PM
2

The only reason I even started to like him is that he would text me semi frequently trying to get to know me, like my likes/dislikes, what I do for work, family, etc. He also asks me personal questions like if I want kids or not. I'm just too vulnerable rn. Like I can't deal with the ambiguity, but at the same time, I just can't outright ask him. It would ruin the whole group dynamic in the house and I have to be here at least 8 more months.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 09:42 PM
1

Hey, for those of you who suffer from oneitis, what have you tried that's worked? i've got it bad for a housemate who I'm not sure likes me back. My plan was to start dating once I get my school shit over with, but now I don't even feel like it because of him :/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 09:13 PM
1

I related to her until she got to that part. Like how can people do that I dont get it. So detached
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 07:06 PM
10

Also some girls want to maintain high GPAs for professional or grad schools so they focus on that!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 12:25 AM
7

I want a man who is handsome, empathetic, and has some sort of career. That's a really popular kind of dude. If he has a choice between Person A (Me who is cute, fun and smart, but can't always be there for him and may take "breaks" to study) and Person B (maybe a cute nurse or engineer who's basically ready whenever he is to meet up), who's he going to choose? Person B. It's about how the person fits into his life and guys are okay with "dating down" if she's attractive and puts him first. I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 02:27 AM
3

Hinge mostly is popular in my area, COffee meets bagel is another
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 01:54 AM
10

No it’s true. Most of the guys in med school who started off single are now in long term relationships with girls they met online. Most of the parents in med schools are males. Only one female in my class of 104 had a kid. Going to med school definitely hurts women more than it helps in the dating department Also girls just put up with more, like seeing the guy less frequently etc. or doing more of the emotional labor
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 11:24 PM
9

This is so accurate. I was incredibly shy/passive from like 16-23 maybe and guys were nowhere to be found. Once I found my voice, was more outwardly opinionated and became more confident in myself, I actually found guys interested in me. It's such a weird phenomenon and it seriously doesn't get talked about enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 11:13 PM
10

Yeah it is what it is. People always told me I'd find someone in med school or that it was easier than dating in college, but that was not my experience at all. As soon as I enrolled, it was practically impossible to date. Some people can handle it (smarter? more disciplined?), but unfortunately I was just struggling to pass the exams a lot of the times. Most of my female classmates who started single are still single. I've basically been in high stress mode for the past 4 years and I know I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 11:05 PM
3

what's your specific tastes? I like guys with long hair... like I literally have not dated anyone without it... it's stupid, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:54 PM
29

I'm exhausted and too busy in med school. Also, dating is a lot of work and takes a lot out of you, mentally, physically, and emotionally and unfortunately my career does that too. I'm still pretty sensitive to rejection. I have to be in the right (happy) mindset to be able to date and not have it ruin my life. For now, I'd rather use my free time for some much-needed exercise or me time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:53 PM
1

Here's my theory. These guys don't have access to hot, low N-count women. The only women who engage with them are women who will f*ck anything, i.e. promiscuous women. That's why they think every woman out there is having a ton of casual sex. The only women who give them the time of day are these women. I was a virgin till 25 and now low N-count 3 years later. Guys need MULTIPLE different qualities/characteristics to even be able to go on a date with me, let alone have sex with me. It is very ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:47 PM
2

I personally just want my guy to be taller than me, like 5’6” or above. None of my friends really care beyond that either. I know there’s some talk of women wanting 6 foot+ guys but I find most ordinary women treat this more like a bonus than a hard requirement. Only one of my friend’s boyfriends is over 6 foot. Tbh. After all, there’s a reason there are so many short people around. Clearly they are reproducing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 10:18 PM
5

I don’t think so. I think you might think that way because guys have a real issue of not being self-aware/introspective enough. Like, for instance, balding guys will blame women for being shallow instead of using Rogaine or getting a hair transplant to fix the issue. This is also quite a new phenomenon where women are financially independent and do not need a man to survive. It’s gonna take a bit of time for everyone to adjust and one of those adjustments means men are going to have to try harde…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:11 AM
2

I come from a large family of mostly boys. I grew up playing video games with them. When I was in daily practice, I was fairly good and sometimes I would beat them. However, I definitely did not enjoy it as much as they did. I'm terrible now since I stopped playing so I feel like there's no point. If I could choose between cooking, watching a movie, hanging out with my friends or reading, I'd do any of those over video games. Not sure why. I tend to think it's a brain wiring difference between m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:57 PM
7

Well two things: Not all women are picky, particularly women who are undesirable For "picky" women (who are mostly career-oriented and fit in my experience) our hope is that more men will rise to our standards. That means, we hope that men start taking better care of their health, their bodies, invest time/effort into their careers and ALSO we hope more men will be more emotionally available and empathetic in the future. I'm optimistic that this will be the case in the coming years
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:50 PM
2

Something tells me she's referring to the leftist way of going against the grain. Basically a hippie Lmao you guys. I've explained it above: "going against the grain" means a guy who has empathy, supports women's rights, and is generally supportive and caring towards less fortunate people he encounters. Nowhere does this indicate I was referring to a hippie. Instead of reading my literal explanation you would still make up your own explanation of what I meant. Unbelievable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 06:22 AM
2

Lmao. MOST guys ARE pretty conservative, selfish and anti-feminist, even if they don't say so directly. So, "going against the grain" means a guy who has empathy, supports women's rights, and is generally supportive and caring towards less fortunate people he encounters. It's incredibly rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:21 AM
6

It's looks obviously, but in terms of personality, it's not so clear-cut. Let's say a guy is in a group with friends who are making fun of somebody disabled (not that guys do that, but for the sake of providing an example). Let's say he calls them out publicly for it. That 100% makes him so attractive. Standing up for the little guy is hot, especially if he's... you know... good-looking to begin with. Going against the grain is hot, taking risks is hot... Being the bigger man is the most attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:50 AM
1

Good news. I’m gonna get myself a roster
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:12 AM
1

It's not exactly out of the norm. In fact, one theory for why male homosexuality evolved is because it is closely related to femininity, which helped males reproduce with females. Obviously, it evolved to the point where there are homosexual men and they are not interested in women, but it's an interesting origin story.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 03:33 AM
1

We all know that men hate overweight women, but I've honestly heard a LOT of insults geared towards fit women lifters too, stuff like "she's obsessed with herself" or "how is she gonna have a baby if she's ruining her hormones like that" or "she has too high standards." I just feel like that's unfair. It's like damned if you do damned if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:41 PM
1

That... doesn't really seem like cheating to me? More like being practical and knowing that men sometimes are unreliable so you gotta be ready. It's not ideal and I'd say it's probably borderline cheating depending on how close they are with one another, but it pales in comparison to how men cheat - which is chronically and physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:27 AM
5

Here's the thing though - it's more about the situation that sex was had in. For example, a shy 32 year old woman who had sex only 6 times in her life with six different men is probably a very different person than a healthy, social 26 year old who has had sex 1000s of times but with only 6 men. Their number is both 6, but it's 6 for different reasons. You can't really judge someone based on simply a number. As a woman, I do prefer a guy with a lower N-count, but I acknowledge that life happens …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 05:01 AM
6

news flash for them: virtuous queens usually have a lot of religious baggage or are socially awkward making it nearly impossible to actually date them and I feel like that's not talked about enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:42 AM
1

I haven't seen this ever, but maybe you know more female cheaters than I do
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:39 AM
2

Not me. I want to be treated as delicately as possible. I hate feeling like someone is trying to dominate me. I want to feel loved and cherished. Maybe because I had a good childhood? I dunno lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:36 AM
0

I don't know what that means tbh like they have a guy friend they talk to a lot?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:01 AM
7

Wow this is such an insightful post, and reflects a lot of what I have both experienced and observed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:00 AM
10

I see what you're trying to say, but I disagree. Hot women do tend to still want monogamy despite their options. Hot men seem to tell a different story
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:46 AM
7

I think something psychologically happens in the brains of attractive women too. They actually BELIEVE they are worth more because of how society treats them - which means they are less likely to "give it away" when it comes to sex and companionship. While unattractive women go for more sex with more guys because they crave that validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:24 AM
52

Going beyond that - this is why I think attractive women get cheated on more - they tend to pair up with a certain type of guy (attractive and confident enough to approach a beautiful woman) and these guys have more options and opportunities to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:22 AM
2

yeah hookup culture can be traumatizing. Most women really can't have sex without an emotional connection. Anecdotally, I've seen that the women who can handle FWB-type relationships the best are the ones who've always been pretty successful with dating and just can enjoy being young and single. They don't have baggage like not feeling accepted/loved by guys. The girls who struggle with it the most are girls who are not successful in a dating context to begin with. and it doesn't always have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:49 AM
5

Agree with most of this, but with one disagreement: women would love to have a relationship with these hot men, it just doesn't work out that way. They take what they can get when it comes to a relationship. It's not that they don't have physical standards - they do, but they're being realistic and making a sacrifice for what they want: companionship, security, love etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:42 AM
4

Don't like the ideology. I really think dating can be quite simple. We don't need all the theories and ideologies behind things. All you need is this: Make yourself as attractive as possible Focus on your mental health and building up your self-worth Only date people who will add a net positive to your life. If someone is damaging your health, whether it be physical or mental, you need to be strong enough to leave and have the self-esteem to know it's better for you to be on your own if you have…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:32 AM
1

It's more ethical in my eyes. Nobody gets harmed in even the more intense erotica stories. However, porn industry is really quite predatory and takes advantage of the more vulnerable women in our population (poverty-stricken, broken homes, etc). I used to watch it when I was younger and hornier, but as I've gotten older it's easier to choose erotica over porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:27 AM
1

I think guys still approach, but they do it in a smarter way. If you like a girl in your college or program or work, you find a way to get closer to her, maybe sitting by her or like asking her to get lunch in a platonic way or asking her to study (if yall are students). Obviously don't catcall/harrass her. I get chatted up frequently in places where it's more "acceptable," like clubs/bars, etc. I'd say every time I go out. Very rarely I'll get approached in coffee shops while I study, but the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 02:20 AM
2

Agreed. I think incels have very little sympathy for any woman, but their rage is definitely targeted towards beautiful women ("instahotties," "tiktok thots")
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:36 PM
3

it doesn't lol. It's pretty run-of-the-mill misogynistic stuff. Nothing new to a seasoned feminist
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:10 AM
1

It's not way off? You seem to be agreeing with it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:39 PM
–

yes! sometimes the guy who's brave and confident enough to pursue the hottest girl in the room is also... maybe not the best boyfriend material 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:16 AM
2

here's a wild thought - I think it's stupid for ANYONE to be in a relationship when they're young (like below 22/23 at LEAST). It's actually probably worse for girls, since they will typically sacrifice academic and career dreams for guys who don't end up marrying them or seeing long-term potential with them. I don't think I was suitable to date anyone until 25 and I'm a woman. Yeah, guys will go on and on about "girls expire at 25" blah blah and but not only was I more confident at 25 and more …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:36 AM
–

I've noticed that too! I have a theory on this. I think average and below average gals find guys who ACTUALLY want to be with them for their personalities, what they provide for them, etc... I think they find it much easier to be with their looksmatch than hotter women. Whereas beautiful women tend to be targeted by a LOT of men due to their looks and may have difficulty parsing through the men to see which ones actually like them for THEM and are going to stick around. They also may try to go f…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:21 AM
1

It's... complicated. I've met hot guys and gals who literally were NOT able to have a proper conversation. They were either dumb as rocks OR they just never had to put effort into a conversation and never learned how to have one. On the other hand, some of the sweetest people I've known have been attractive. It comes down to how they were raised or maybe they had ugly duckling syndrome, but also I feel like being attractive makes you more likely to LIKE being around other people - because people…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:15 AM
–

late to the party, but who cares. It's this: A beautiful woman can have a terrible, miserable life. It's entirely possible, whether it's due to abuse, poverty, health/genetic issues, brain chemical imbalances (mental illnesses) or something else entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:07 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter