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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:27 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 04:46 PM
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Question For WomenCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/20 09:42 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:12 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 04:57 AM
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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:25 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 06:24 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 06:17 PM
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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 03:36 PM
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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:25 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 04:29 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 04:42 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 05:10 PM
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Question for RedPillCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 03:32 PM
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ScienceCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 06:29 PM
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Question for RedPillCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 04:25 PM
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CyJackX/r/askTRP20/07/18 02:26 PM
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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 11:38 PM
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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/18 11:46 PM
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Question For MenCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 08:26 PM
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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:30 PM
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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 02:25 AM
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Question for RedPillCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 03:45 PM
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DiscussionCyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:28 PM
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CyJackX/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:16 PM
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People neglect that this means the quality of men they can get will generally decrease.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:35 PM
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33/M I did that merry-go-round, it was fun, but once you've had your fill with people you don't really connect with, the value of it goes down and you start to appreciate deeper personal connections.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:52 PM
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All the spergs needs to internalize that when people use certain phrases like "unconditional trust," they are being colloquially hyperbolic...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 03:51 PM
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Optimizing for quality is the harder extra dimension. You don't want just anybody who commits. Assume most people get "closer" to their ideals with each person they successively date. But population quality is not linear; assume there are less and less quality people as your standards increase. I.e. diminishing returns. Less gain with every jump upwards. Consider that you are also overestimating transaction costs. Sunk costs are real; a failed relationship can also be very much viewed as wasted …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:11 PM
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can you give us the broad strokes of the math? how much would she have to make to make it worthwhile?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:30 PM
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This is just an extension of the idea that true altruism doesn't exist. Which doesn't change a lot in the grand scheme, imo
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 07:12 PM
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As a guy, I've probably had way more sex than I would have had if I were born only a few decades earlier. Social norms and technology have enabled far more dating than a tradcon past.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 10:18 PM
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Beyond the cursory entertainment value, as a guy who has had a range of struggles and success with dating, I empathize with guys who are struggling and don't want to see them getting too hopeless or blackpilled about everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:31 PM
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I think it's a fine line but a difference between the scale of: Naively idealistic about romance and sex Realistic expectations Jaded/Cynical Even women who are not jaded or cynical know better than to expect the moon from any man who gives them attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 05:46 AM
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As a guy, it just sounds creepy or predatorial for someone to prioritize inexperienced women, because that also falls under the umbrella of young, naive, easier to manipulate, etc. It honestly has never appeared about it being a "purity" test to me with regard to women's history as much as men who decide to go for the "easy marks" or "fish in a barrel" of young women who are easy to seduce because they haven't gotten the experience of being pumped and dumped yet and are easy to convince with som…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 04:17 AM
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What's the dating scene like in Amsterdam, Germany, etc, where it is legal?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:56 PM
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Once it seemed possible to sustain casual sex and the novelty of having a little rotation wore off, I started becoming more aware of the actual connection I was missing. In hindsight it was hard to see how after sex with casual partners there'd be little intimacy, I'd just feel "Well, that's over. I guess I'll hang out for a bit then head out." Eventually I started prioritizing people whose company I really enjoyed independent of sex, and it ultimately feels much more rewarding.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:02 PM
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TBF it was way easier when I was less invested in my primary partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 10:52 PM
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Tried that for a few years Honestly, who's got the time? I always said 1.5 relationships was the most I could tolerate, I couldn't imagine a full 2nd partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 07:37 PM
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My pet theory is that ancient religious / controlling organizations developed monogamy and marriage simply because it was more stable for society than one oligarch taking all the women. Back then, they probably found themselves killed by a mob if they tried that. So it's easier to have people pair off than a powerful handful controlling all the supply. I think there's also some interplay of paternity issues. Without marriage, women couldn't be certain their baby-daddy would provide for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 07:36 PM
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An overreaction to honest communication about your thoughts on the future is not on you. Being able to accept that other people have doubts like all humans do is healthy. People who demand no stray doubts have unreasonable expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 03:23 AM
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I'd say the premise is flawed in a few ways; it's not about what percentage you're at; it's about communicating when there's been a change. Ignoring that in general people can't quantify their surety in this numerical fashion; going from "100%" sure to "less" sure is enough to communicate. And I wouldn't necessarily say it's a amoral unless you're breaking certain terms about how these changes are communicated. If A asked for updates and you withhold them, that's a breach of confidence. If A nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 11:23 PM
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Body as a criteria is not equal to body as sole criteria
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 02:15 PM
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The advice here is what men have tried forever with friendzoned women, to orbit them until they get a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 11:19 PM
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Well, the dating pool for sex workers is typically others in the industry, it's hard to reconcile the work with normies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 08:50 PM
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It's less likely that her ex gave her "positive experiences that raised the bar" so much as "hurt her self-esteem so much that she feels more comfortable being in a constant state of not earning someone's validation" such that decent folks who give her validation don't "excite" her in the same way an unstable relationship might.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:38 PM
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Is it just me or have I never heard a woman personally call a known man a misogynist except in the contexts of bosses and employers
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:33 PM
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I am fairly average but it's surprisingly easy to tap the cervix in certain positions, so I don't think functionally it's as big an issue as people think. Also the stories of dudes who have too big dicks and girls who have been with them; more often I hear how they have to take it too slow to be fun or have to stop completely than people authentically being size queens.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 07:46 PM
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Sex, physical intimacy is well-established by dating and relationship counselors as a valid relationship need. I mean, it's probably one of the main issues they encounter; although oftentimes it's masking deeper relationship issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 02:56 PM
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Because here, you're part of a family, and we're in this together. So if you could please stay late this weekend, it'd really help the team.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 08:50 PM
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Most traits exist a long a bell-curve. Theory and ideology tries to distill it to a probabilistic heuristic. Misguided people turn it into a binary.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 08:50 PM
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No, just implying that people should feel more empowered to pursue better job opportunities as opposed to feeling ensnared by company loyalty.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 02:57 PM
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Any rhetoric emphasizing the feel-goody nature of working a job, being a part of the family, etc... all corporate rhetoric to keep you more satisfied than you should be with your gig. It's a tight labor market out there right now, go get your nut
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 01:39 AM
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The flaw here is thinking that "communication with no action" is the message. "Action without communication" is also dumb; then you do things without others knowing why it could have been avoided. Communication leading specifically into actions and consequences keeps people on the same page, and when you take actions based on communicated consequences, nobody's left in the dark. Also, false binary, somewhat semantically, but communication is action. Telling somebody you'll _______ if they ______…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 05:27 PM
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Even the happiest couples know a thousand things they find annoying about the other person. The pros just outweigh the cons. Accepting that everybody is flawed and there is no such thing as perfection is a part of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:59 PM
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7-8ish? Too attractive and the odds aren't worth the effort except for a laugh. Pretty much the same idea. Hard to say; I made a living as a commercial actor for most of my 20s so I know objectively people have thought my face was good enough for representing their products on camera. Asian, 5'6", rock climber build. So I'd say 8 with points taken off depending on how much the perceiver writes off race/height. n = 51. I don't consider myself unsuccessful, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 02:51 AM
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Another common erroneous frame of reference is the idea that evolution is ever "done." Evolution is always midway from point A to point B.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:19 PM
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Definitely something you learn after dating around casually for a bit; sex is less on a pedestal, and you really start to cherish the ones who are still interesting and compatible after you nut.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 07:14 PM
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Meeting casually in the wild serves as almost a date in and of itself; it's probably even better to know whether you have rapport in an unscheduled casual environment as opposed to a planned date. If two people don't get along at the bar they probably aren't going on a date. A person getting a number in person has a significant head start on a person who gets it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 08:05 PM
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Because meeting at a bar is the beginning of the interaction and setting up a facetime is an entirely premeditated, planned context like my point 1. Let alone that in person full body language and behavior is not identical to the facetime experience. Hell, what they even smell like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 06:45 PM
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It's always better to meet them in person first. Low stakes / No expectations vs. online meeting. Online, you know why you're both there and there's always a non-zero element of "success/failure/sunk-costs" to try liking this person more than you would if you'd met them in the wild. In-person chemistry, looks, and banter are all more important than text banter. The only benefit to OLD IMO is sheer numbers/access. I'm only going to meet so many compatible individuals organically in the wild. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 07:54 PM
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It's fun to meet new people and do activities and flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 01:39 PM
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Most OLD led to were casual relationships, although I have a few people I've kept in touch with through the years and remained friends. Nearly all my long-term relationships were thru social circles. Very rarely have had success with cold approach, though did go out for drinks with a girl from my climbing gym once. OLD is a lot of work, but I like that a match at the bare minimum confirms there's mutual interest and opportunity. Everybody's there for the same thing, to get a date. With cold you …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:10 PM
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I do call PPD "visiting the zoo"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:39 PM
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Lack of insecurities generally translates to confidence. But, lacking insecurities is not very human, so for the most part it involves how well one moves past their insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 06:38 PM
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I usually say "I'll get the first round." Establishes expectations for the next round(s).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:54 PM
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Just cause I was curious, why did you spam this on like half a dozen other subreddits?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:40 AM
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Assume a man has those three. How else can they improve their relationship satisfaction beyond that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 01:10 AM
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If by circumstance I was also a single parent, I wouldn't mind. Not without kids of my own, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 04:30 PM
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Once you've had enough sex, you start to want more from companionship. Being able to have an engaging life together is more fulfilling than a quick transaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 04:59 PM
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Not before I had children of my own. If we both have kids, it almost makes it easier; we both get it and know that our relating isn't going to be about building a family but just enjoying each other's company. It'd depend on whether either of us wanted more kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:54 PM
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Lowering your standards doesn't mean compromising long term goals for short term goals. It means adjusting your long term goals for something more accessible.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:50 PM
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A person who is passionate about things besides "being masculine" has a direction and knows what they want out of life, and these are attractive qualities. Anybody, men and women alike, can tell when someone is into something merely for appearances/reputation/how it'll improve their chances with girls. I have to question your perspectives in general, though, when you are surprised that club promoters get laid. It's notoriously a sleazy position that is used to get laid. The position of access an…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:45 PM
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My qualm with dating based on statistics is that you're never dating a statistical sample set; you're dating a person with whom your entire set of interactions is far more likely to influence how the relationship turns out. It ignores all the agency one has. Like "No matter how you treat or engage with this person, a statistical coin flip will determine their fidelity."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 03:24 PM
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If you're going to say there are no benefits, then list a variety of benefits as "intangible", you should define the goalpost, first. What meets the definition of tangibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 04:56 PM
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Has a gf who never got hornier than when I opened up emotionally about how I was feeling, positive or negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:44 PM
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Evolutionary fitness has more variables than spamming offspring, although some species do that. Selecting for all other traits that encourage the evolutionary fitness of your genetic relatives would also be positives for your genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:18 PM
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How insular a microcosm of reality this subreddit is. I call it visiting the zoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:49 PM
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While there are obviously cultural differences, there are certain traits associated with fertility and healthiness that are somewhat universal. Clear skin, symmetry, body shape, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 03:42 PM
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the key is to never take them off
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 11:49 PM
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30s, M. I used to always try to get physical on the first date. It feels sort of hollow now, how often I'd go home with someone only to realize after I'm pretty ambivalent about their company. 30s now, simply don't have time to waste with people whose company I don't enjoy independently of the sex, and its important for my dating recently to separate the two and make sure they're actually fun and I'm not just biding my time hoping for some action.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 03:55 PM
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What you're describing is more just diminishing returns than the laffer curve, which slopes downward on the end. This is just a line that slowly stops increasing as much for every interval.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 02:12 PM
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Hotness is not typically well-correlated with sad boy energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:07 PM
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Sometimes it really is as simple as visual contrast. I think it's just deeply simplistic in some animal way of stimulating visual variety or interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 03:03 PM
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What's your goalpost or standard for thinking otherwise? What IS "otherwise" for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 03:58 PM
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'is fuckin' coach turned into a pumpkin heh heh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/20 12:16 AM
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It's rarely about objectification, it's about reduction to the object. Someone who you know appreciates you beyond objectifying you is different than someone who views you only as the object.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 02:18 PM
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How can you espouse the importance of sex in one breath and downplay it in the next? Doesn't that itself diminish your assertion of its importance?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 05:54 PM
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Case by case? There is only one girl who I've overtly sexted with before meeting, and it happened early. I think it's useful for creating some tension, so long as it's overtly a preamble to in-person meetings, and to build anticipation, not to be an end in and of itself. i.e. "You wanna do more than use our imagination?"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 06:52 PM
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Fun day at the beach is my ringer, rn. But it's really up to you. A night out dancing, rock climbing, guitar with your band...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 08:15 PM
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Candids or photos taken by other people, no selfies. Do fun activities with your friends and ask them to take snapshots of you. You'll capture yourself socializing, enjoying yourself out in the world. Otherwise, obviously maximize attractiveness before pictures: fitness, well-fitting clothes, style. A good physique photo (subtle or not), a good socializing photo, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 08:10 PM
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You're incorrect that it cannot be mathematically correct. Ex: if one man has sex with two women, his n+2, their n+1.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 07:47 PM
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NYC + Dating apps And a can-do attitude
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 07:42 PM
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47 30/M
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 03:03 PM
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Makes it better. You learn what you appreciate and what you don't. You learn your faults as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 01:36 AM
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I see what you think you see, but it is possible to have different sets even with heterosexuals. For example, one man having sex with two women will result in a man with n+2 and two women having n+1. Even for 100 men and 100 women, if 1 man has sex with every woman, that makes the median for men 0 and the median for women 1 (though the mathematical mean will obviously be different.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 02:39 AM
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What do you mean a larger distribution? And inability? Are you arguing that women have the same desire for violence but simply limit their attempts because of ability?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/20 05:22 PM
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What is the dynamic of one with a more-attractive man?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 04:17 PM
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kind of. It should be intuited that one's lifetime number cannot go down,so it can only go up over time, but I think the data is not intuitive in the fact that when the current 18-29 year olds become 30-39, their data may not match the current 30-39 year olds. So when the line increases, it's inconclusive, since sure, older people should have more lifetime cheats, all else equal. So, when the line decreases or flatlines, it shows some other variable must be more significant than the variable of …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 11:06 PM
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It does conclude men cheat more, but since it is also a generational snapshot, it means that women are cheating more than they were before (since the data should move left-to-right over time for the same participants). Interesting to note the flattening of the older men and the hump in the women's chart and what that may imply about the generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 09:31 PM
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Oh, just that I got mild performance anxiety about how I'd compare, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/20 03:03 AM
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I doubt men are approaching less. Even with harassment being a topic in the media, every horny guy thinks they're gonna be the exception that charms her. I say this as a guy who basically understands the difference between flirty energy and "fuck off" energy. I've never worried about approaching because of these other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/20 02:30 AM
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I guess I'd just consider what is higher than lifetime median, which across most surveys is under 10 for men and women.In NYC I wouldn't flinch if someone said a dozen or two. More than that I'd consider "high." Not that I have anything against that, it is just objectively high statistically. I was more intimidated by a 70+ person I hooked up with a few times than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/20 11:20 PM
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I don't think I've led anybody on; I think I've actually been pretty good about telling people if our perspectives don't align. Went on 3 or 4 dates with a girl, we slept together but with only so-so chemistry outside the bedroom, and I told her the chemistry wasn't right and we went our separate ways. I will concede once a few years ago when a ONS wanted to meet up again, I said I'd text her next week, but ended up getting more serious with another partner. But, I do regret it, and it ended up …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 11:53 PM
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What's the litmus test for respect? I don't feel like I've treated any of my hookup partners with disrespect.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 09:15 PM
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I think you're taking my wording too seriously. I was just trying to narrow the scope of conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 10:49 PM
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Explain what you mean by "being"?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 08:09 PM
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Feels like a movie plot, precocious child saves marriage. What was the situation? She was telling you she was gonna leave?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 07:18 PM
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What would you say are the major pitfalls with understanding "communication"?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 06:35 PM
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Sure, but that seems to beg the question. What makes the "phenomenon" worth it? Prioritizing a relationship over individual happiness is a balancing act, not one over the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 06:31 PM
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I'm 5'6" and I object because I have a very slim, un-troll-like figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 09:19 PM
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Yes; I'd say both the clit and the penis are similar in the regards that not-too-hard & consistent pacing are both important. Personally, slower is much better. Too fast/too firm and I quickly get desensitized past the point of easy orgasm. It does take a little mental energy from the guy as well; too eager and I may flex my kegels too much in anticipation of coming soon, but if the rhythm skips, then I'll have just tired myself out and be unable to come even with good sensation. Current partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 08:35 PM
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That one is a weirdo, for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 02:33 PM
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Doesn't need to be gripped hard, even gentle is fine so long as you get the basic idea right. There's the looser skin around the fleshy core, and the pleasure comes from that outer layer moving up and down. Important to know where to grip, though, because obviously the skin has a limited range of motion. The best sensation will be maximizing that range without tugging too hard past the high or low end. Too high and your fingers will scrape the bulb, which is too sharp of sensation and unpleasant…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 05:10 AM
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Probably, we know what works and doesn't from direct experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 01:56 AM
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I'm game, most of my partners have been fine with doing it on a towel, but I met one who really didn't like it. She was Russian, idk if there are any cultural stigmas.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 01:53 AM
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This does work surprisingly well both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 05:40 PM
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I think it's a thirst trap, drumming up engagement for her business. Bet she's already got a boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 05:32 PM
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How did they describe their displeasure?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 05:18 PM
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had a gf comment this to me once; when I am asked about my day/how it went, I'd just talk about things that happened. She found it more engaging when I talk about how I felt about those things, and I thought that was a pretty good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 05:16 PM
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How did your autism intersect (if at all) with your drug dealing?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 03:02 AM
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Okay, but what about an autistic drug dealer?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 02:38 AM
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Ok can I get some context explained because this thread both confuses and intrigues me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 02:24 AM
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Yeah, I noticed I saw the post again in the AsianMasculinity subreddit...he's posted it to like 4 subreddits for...validation, I guess. And he celebrates losing his virginity to a girl so drunk she didn't know where she was.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/20 07:05 PM
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All prejudice boils down to a claim about the general qualities of a group, often supported with specific instances or anecdotes. It is usually prejudice if it fails to show causation and is merely correlation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/20 02:54 PM
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To give a rigorously impartial response to the conclusions from the data: "This means that 25,000 women are sharing 10,000 men." This can't be verified without accounting for those representing (1-3) times a week, which sounds like most of the other people. ex: if someone has 3 sexual partners and those sexual partners have less than 3, they would not show up in a comparison of only those with at least 3 sexual partners. "How is it possible that married women are having more sex than married men…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 06:20 PM
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I think there was a phase of my life where I definitely pursued increasing the count for self-confidence reasons, but that sort of wore off and I'm now more ambivalent. Age or w/e, it started feeling more trivial.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 05:58 PM
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as autistic as it is, yes. I have a spreadsheet with just name and where we met, because I was interested in any trends with regards to online dating or IRL. It also includes the same info for any dates/connections that did not end up adding to the n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 05:51 PM
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M 30, n=47 Never been an issue. Certainly makes me feel better about my life experiences. Makes me appreciate things besides sex in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 01:58 PM
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Idk a few of my female friends have gone on zoom dates 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 01:38 AM
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I think it depends on the reason they do chores. Because they've been nagged into it, doing the bare minimum? Or they're clearly just trying to stay in good graces for eventual sex? Or they've taken initiative, shown discipline, motivation, organization, cleanliness, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 02:09 PM
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It's the best! Great penetration angle, both can be lazy, I can reach around and grope, good access to the clit etc
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 03:45 AM
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Wait what are either of you talking about, they're both responsible
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 05:12 AM
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Ah, I see, I had meant that as a "On the other hand" reversal but I see that is unclear.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 11:46 PM
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Idk if I'm not catching sarcasm but I did not say that. Codependency is becoming too fixated on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 03:54 PM
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The simplest advice is to deprioritize female approval, and other people's approval in general. Prioritize personal satisfaction. Do things because you want to, not because you indirectly want to satisfy someone else. He sounds codependent, which is common. Tell him to read No More Mr. Nice Guy, which i was surprised by, because I thought it would be some weird pua/trp stuff but it contained a lot of textbook codependency advice geared towards men. Politely detaching from external approval gener…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 12:52 PM
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Numbers like that for sure are a technical glitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 08:17 PM
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High or low?? That's ~5-6 minutes a day
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/20 03:23 PM
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Am 5'6" Chinese. N40+ 🤷🏻‍♂️ Can't help if you don't believe! Misc details: NYC. Entertainment/Comedy industry. 125lbs, rock climber. Only testament to my looks is most of my income has come from print or commercial work (so not runway capable but like, TOEFL ad XD)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/20 03:21 PM
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I guess to get into the weeds it needs more context. In legal terms, sure, whatever, no contest. Otherwise? Emotions and bad consequences are sort of part and parcel; if I had no emotional reaction to bad consequences, I don't think they could be said to affect my will or consent. On the other hand, take someone who has developed emotional dependency to the point of mental illness; can you say somebody has no power over them?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 10:05 PM
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Sure, legally there has to be a bright red line. You started off the topic with notions of disgust and morality, though, so I assumed we were talking with a grander scope. Even if most people find those topics disgusting, I don't think it's common for them to say it should be illegal. But even constraining the conversation to the world of legality...there are lots of court cases regarding employee/employer relationships where "consent" is less clear-cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 04:11 AM
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Yes, "power" is not the same for everyone, although I suppose you could generalize it as "what you control that the other party needs."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 04:05 AM
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I did not say invalidate, I said corrupt, which is a different position. My philosophical take on consent is that it is not binary, so I have to reject the premise. It's a Sorites Paradox; there are many things we can consider "not consensual enough." There are other things, like your example, that have shades of grey. It is all these shades of grey that result in many of our social issues around "consent." To say whether it IS or ISN'T consensual is difficult, but I would say that the more powe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 03:51 AM
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"Consistently Libertarian" is its own moving target. The thematic critique in your examples is that power dynamics inherently corrupt the notion of "consensual." I don't think that's a hypocritical position.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 03:34 AM
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If it's drinks, I start off with, "How about I get the first round?" Generally nobody says no to that It shares the activity/labor without feeling like we're nickel-and-diming each other. It also sets the expectations early. Feeling like we owe each other at the end of the night would make things awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 03:22 AM
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?? Wait did something actually happen to make you feel the need to drop her or did you just...do it because you felt you had to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 07:45 PM
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Sure, they have to have at least a few demonstrating them accurately, but I meant re: the other pictures that paint a broader scope. After knowing you are attractive enough, it's nice to know they have friends and interesting experiences, because some people really don't. Especially if they manage to escape the cookie cutter pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 03:24 PM
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What would you prefer?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 02:07 PM
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I'm 5'6", Asian, and I'm not having a bad time in nyc; split the bills and casual relationships in-between a few LTR. Guys shorter than me have a girlfriend. I'm not going to be offended by the short-equivalent of dumb blonde jokes on the internet. They're funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 02:06 PM
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There are so many varieties of social events and Meetups for intelligent, intellectual people. I'm sure there's an art/philosophy social club near you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 12:11 PM
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I don't understand how you can make an argument for sexual drive being a biological, evolutionary drive and then dismiss the urge for children as cultural instead of another crucial, evolutionary biological drive. So many lesser creatures exhibit an interest in paternity regarding parental investment. We aren't sea turtles that spam thousands hoping enough make it, children are costly to produce in time and energy, it makes sense that having the energy to make sure children survive would benefit…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 07:17 PM
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No imperative to reproduce? What are the instincts for protecting, raising children, etc? Seems pretty inseparable; we invest a lot in raising children, unlike species that don't invest at all. Even animals understand the connection between sex and offspring, whether it's blocking other males or killing their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 05:09 PM
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I think the problem is establishing any of these as some sort of strict binary. For me it seems clear that we evolved from creatures with MCFC, but that human uniqueness (evolving away from brute force towards social cooperation, male investment) leads us away from that strict paradigm, and we are somewhere in the middle between two modes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 11:33 PM
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My dating life skyrocketed in my mid to late 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 06:47 PM
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No joke though, you should look at the documentary made on these venues in Japan. I forget what they're called, but they're places where men come up and try to woo you and buy you drinks, etc. Except they're being paid to do so. Sometimes you're paying for the drink they're "buying" you. Lonely women go there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 10:45 PM
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At first I was like wow cool Then I was like what's Sharon stone doing on bumble Then I was like she def doesn't need dating help Then maybe it's evidence for TRP about how women need validation no matter what Or maybe she just wanted to be anon and not famous for a bit. Then I realized the most likely scenario is that it's clever viral marketing and Sharon stone doesn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 06:15 PM
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Stay safe and take the no, unless it's on the obvious end of sarcastic, humor, or playful. Not worth debasing yourself for a yes, appearing desperate or needy. If she wanted it to be an option, a maybe, she'd keep things going without saying no.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 05:47 PM
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I don't think it's that odd for one TRPer to ironically make a sub like that and other people to think it's real. Seems like typically magic of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:59 PM
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I still think they're mainly TRPers LARPing, or at least one or two core initial members before people unironically jumped on board.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 11:51 PM
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I think the pendulum can swing too far. Guys taking their shot is great. Guys who start becoming fixated on taking the shot, how many shots they take, their scores, etc...starts to seem like they're seeking validation from something more meta than their immediate gratification. Especially when taking their shot relies on a lot of defensive mantras about how to not let the other person affect their psyche.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 09:14 PM
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Honestly I can't shake the suspicion that FDS is secretly modded by TRP because they feel like a meme caricature of everything TRP rails against.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/19 02:51 PM
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Pal admits to liking the idea of her boyfriend fucking another girl, because it's hot that her boyfriend would have that power and also that she, as the girlfriend, would have status over the other girl. I called her a cuckqueen and she embraced it 😂 Afaik she has only engaged with it via porn with her boyfriend, not irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/19 01:44 AM
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Elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 12:16 PM
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Not sure what user you are referring to; I have seen this phrase used in general. Obviously elaborate if you have a differing perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 06:55 PM
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Take off the tinfoil hat, I ask the questions in earnest and cannot receive all information simultaneously.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 06:43 PM
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Ok, so the framing is that "sexual strategy" is some sort of relatively immutable "rule of nature." and that how one uses it is subject to morality, but not the information itself. Gravity is amoral, how one uses gravity can be moral, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 06:35 PM
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So where does morality enter, if at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 06:29 PM
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Free solo had me sweaty
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 08:15 PM
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No, I know you didn't say anything, I'm pitching that in addendum. The idea of the nuclear family is just restrictive in logistics. I think expanding outside connections in more than "oh, they do us favors sometimes" and making them stronger connections would be helpful. Not like couple A and couple B declare each other "chosen family" or any legal designations, but just some sort of commitment that they can be relied upon to assist each other in childrearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 06:10 PM
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The nuclear family pretty much blew up the idea of "it takes a village." ​ I imagine closeknit communities of parents would be able to more flexibly share responsibilities than each pair fending for themselves. Having family close helps cover babysitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 06:04 PM
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Yeah, if I'm being fully honest, I've already really been thinking about my non-existent kids and what the cheapest course of action is, if homeschooling would completely mess them up, or if there's a way to make them receive social skills at the same time. For one thing, they better be going to state schools and just learning the value of entrepreneurship over a degree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 05:32 PM
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How did you connect increased costs of children to increased female agency? Edit: I see in your other response you basically attribute it to the inflation by education providers who are basically taking the extra money that is on the table? Is that it? I'd assume that outside of education there is relatively firm competition in other child-related goods. But, education is probably the most significant cost...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 05:00 PM
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UMC? Can only find united methodist church.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 04:58 PM
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Subtle flirting feels like an oxymoron; I think if it's not subtle, it's not really flirting anymore! No specific technique (or pill), you know? I do think flirting and sarcasm are tied pretty heavily, because the main thing behind both is subtext and masked messaging. Keeping things light, playful. I think teasing works because it's the same as just joking around, but making it about each other raises the stakes in an artificial way, like playfighting. Something that's always tickled me is the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 05:20 AM
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I guess I'm mostly curious about it because it seems like something that is seldom actualized in force; a violent incident is generally rare. But it is your main concern, so how does this present itself in terms of attraction in a day to day existence? I'd assume that other qualities take precedence outside of the need for a "protector".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 08:21 PM
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Has it always been this way for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 08:18 PM
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Why sort of environment are you in that protection is such a priority?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 08:00 PM
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Okay, I guess the phrase "trickle truthing" to me implied that it was a purposefully slow dissemination of information, but you're saying it's just naturally not come up?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 06:01 PM
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There is obviously a thriving porn piracy community, but it doesn't have everything available. If people like a particular brand, or want the HD/4k version of content, they may have to subscribe if it is too niche. Not to mention a la carte customized content. Or just stuff that in general is too niche to pirate. Some also pay for ethical reasons of wanting to support the creators.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 09:40 PM
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I said usually, so obvi exceptions. But for the sake of argument, what's the price of that stuff? What percentage of the revenue for erotica does it comprise? Thinking on it more, it may even work better as a medium to leave the heavy lifting to the imagination, as explicit detail isn't necessary, unlike film, which is typically photorealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 09:24 PM
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In simply market terms, I think it's a supply side issue. You are a potential porn producer. You've already committed to the social ramifications. Why produce for lower margins when male-targeted porn is more lucrative? There are boutique studios that are "female-friendly," but given their market share, it is hard to determine whether the demand was socially hidden or just has less demand. I think it is a growing market, though, as social views on female sexuality loosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 05:19 PM
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Because most women don't like being put through what they put people thru in porn. Erotica is usually lighter fare. When women i've met do watch porn, it's quite often that they prefer gay porn (where it doesn't feature women being treaten roughly by a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 01:24 PM
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I think it's simpler than most of this. Girls just don't have practice approaching, and thus do it without the right amount of charm. Just like girls don't like being approached without tact, neither do guys. Everybody despises open desperation, and subtlety is a way to mask it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:55 PM
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Weird, I saw a variety of polls but none demographic related. I guess I should have kept scrolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 12:12 AM
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I'm interested in a demographic poll on purple pill. Before I make a post, what are the interesting factors for this community? Obviously pill perspectives, but then things like age, gender, sexuality, n count, relationship count, relationship time averages, marital status, marital perspectives, child perspectives, economic status, political perspective, region of origin, family history, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 11:09 PM
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This is a philosophical point about knowledge that has been gone over before. Some people subscribe to the idea that science can't technically "prove" anything, and philosophically, I can see their point. But I don't think it's a very meaningful point. Science might not be able to " prove " gravity in the philosophical sense, but it can show that in all observed cases the idea that we call gravity does the thing it did before. And if that is the new benchmark for truth and science, it doesn't re…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 11:06 PM
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Have you read Sex at Dusk?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 10:34 PM
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Stop, I anticipate these worries. I want to move my mother closer when that time comes, but taking her away from her network/community seems bad as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 09:21 PM
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"Traditional, stable, advanced" are all moving targets. What's that supposed to entail? And how ought these traditions be enforced?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 05:02 PM
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Hey, every little bit helps 😂 At least to dilute against the overly weeby ones
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 01:47 PM
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S/o to all the other azn boys walking into a new girls room and seeing a kpop poster
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 01:38 PM
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If you read Sex at Dawn, also give Sex at Dusk a shot. Basically a page by page rebuttal. Not necessarily promoting monogamy, but hinting at a halfway mark in that we are generally monogamous but have opportunistic situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 11:45 PM
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Same, I went 100 days just to see, granted I had a few casual relationships at the time. I think it definitely has affected my responsiveness to irl visuals. I notice people on the street much more, and when I'm in bed with someone I'm much more keen to soak it up. I'm trying again to just cut down.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 02:35 PM
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I personally hate embellishment. I work in the entertainment industry, it's pretty easy to see bullshit for what it is, so I avoid it. I just try to lead a life worth bragging about straight. I think it's telling that you think everybody embellishes all the time. I haven't needed to tell fibs to be charming enough to get laid. Edit: FWIW, I don't recall lying and embellishment being a part of RP canon.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 09:42 PM
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Reacting negatively i am still reconsidering but lying is definitely manipulation. I think it's sociopathic to consider lying a normal part of social interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 08:09 PM
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Yeah, thinking about the snake oil salesmen versus the abusive codependent type, positive reinforcement can be misused just the same. I think then manipulation comes down to honesty, as most feelings of manipulation come from feelings of being misled.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 05:08 PM
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Nah, I def see people trying to use view "manipulation" as a neutral term for "interaction" the way we would manually "manipulate" a handtool, but in social terms, I would say manipulation is willfully focusing on negative reinforcement to get a person to do what you want them to do, as opposed to positive reinforcement. Edit: Include misinformation as a "manipulative" tactic
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 03:45 PM
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I typically date around, open relationships all that stuff. Met someone recently and the spark is wild. I told her I'd be monogamous with her, if she wanted. It's easier when you are on the same page. Playing aloof games is typically for when you don't know your position or are trying to jockey for position.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 02:57 PM
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I think it bears asking what the metrics for comparison are. Hypothetically, my relative share of first dates il could have become lower, but if my absolute number of first dates increases, should I be worried? Where else can I be encounter sheer volume of people interested in Asian guys without moving?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 07:17 PM
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That's my analysis: average white dudes did have the Lions share, but with the Advent of the internet, racial and gender attitudes, they lost market share. I think the business analogy, crude as always, works. Big caps can shrink and stagnate, small caps and developing markes have room to run.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 07:05 PM
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I think it's gotten easier for me, a photogenic Asian guy. Whereas before the internet I would have been limited to my immediate physical circles, now I can connect with far more people who may be into dating an Asian guy. I'm basically asserting that the scale effect has outweighed any "negative" effects of modern dating, with the caveat that as a demographic typically at the bottom of the dating totem-pole, that may have been just what enabled a growth in activity; nothing to lose. People will…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 07:01 PM
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Describe your "bitchiness"? I'd say most find someone who can pushback with wit, sarcasm, and energy to just be more interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 01:20 AM
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I think it's pretty simple; you don't take the advice seriously until you realize they will actually breakup with you for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 02:42 AM
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But like Am I really going to overthink holding a purse? In what context is this supposed to be a test of any kind? We are in a situation where putting her purse down for whatever reason is undesirable, maybe she has two bags and needs to rifle thru one, or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 07:14 PM
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I can entertain the idea that the willpower required to avoid eating may be quite different to obtain similar quality of mental health. It feels good or normal to eat when you want to, and it probably was a good instinct in our prehistoric conditions. Now that we have hyper nutritious food, caving to that feeling non stop may feel bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/19 07:07 PM
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Kinda of informs me how I feel about the girl. If I really like her, I will want to continue being physical. If it's more casual, I'll just feel like small talk and leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 02:49 PM
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Consequence free casual sex is hand in hand with bodily autonomy. So I'd say you're setting up a false binary, these goals are not mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 10:51 PM
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Okay what is the etymology of bunny boilers?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 05:09 PM
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"dodging questions, bullshitting, and lying" Yeah, that does sound stressful. Why do that? I'm here to have a good time without fooling anybody about my status or other partners. I let people know up front I'm dating around. If they're cool with it, great, if not, it was a pleasure meeting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 03:22 PM
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How have the requirements become more systematic and rigid? I'm a 5'6" 125lbs Chinese guy living in NYC, working in the arts, and nearly all of my latest dates and relationships have been thru the internet. I am none of the "typical" traits usually prescribed by incels for success, possibly short of good facial features, as I've made decent income doing on-camera work. I'd strongly wager I'd have met significantly less people willing to date me without the internet. I'd also wager that it'd be m…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 12:26 AM
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How is it systematic and rigid? If anything it seems vastly more flexible. Communication technology and cultural norms have shifted so you can pursue far more arrangements than you could in the past. The things you point out, being aware of how attractive you are and what you're looking for from other people, seem really basic. Being aware of your odds and wants does not seem rigid and systematic. And even then, you claim they take up too much energy to enjoy life. These are not things that take…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 03:45 PM
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I go out to dinner dates where we split all the time, and it hasn't been an issue. Granted, I date more progressive types. Don't over think it. If anything, I like going by "How about I get the first round?". You end up alternating, and it feels less stiff than each paying separately.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/19 06:17 PM
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I think it was at least a year in, give or take. I can be emotive, just not on cue, ya know? I guess my ideal type would be one that didn't need a lot of validation, and my last relationship she needed validation a lot.
/r/ExRedPill06/03/19 06:30 PM
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I get a similar remark occasionally. Without getting too cheesy or into "love languages"etc, there must be some way you show affection? Just do more of it. Is it affectionate touching? Time spent together?
/r/ExRedPill06/03/19 04:39 PM
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29/M/NYC
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 02:54 AM
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I haven't had much trouble with having to play power dynamics with people I casually see, so the narrative that it will always be a contentious microcosm of psychological warfare is amusing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 02:39 AM
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Sure, a few fwbs, which makes the adversarial perspective of this sub pretty interesting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 02:31 AM
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If you're trying to cite stuff from Sex at Dawn which implied we were similar to freewheeling polyamorous bonobos, Sex at Dusk was written to debunk a lot of its claims and was also pretty enlightening as to how poorly cited Dawn's sources were. Humans "rank" somewhere in-betwen Bonobos and more monogamous apes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 05:41 PM
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Can we identify that it is the sex itself that causes the distress? Or is it that women have been socialized to be distressed by having had more sex? And vice versa for men? There must be outliers both ways for men and women, what are their explanations? Basically, what are the uncontrolled variables in this study that could also be responsible for the conclusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 04:12 PM
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The premise is not about having standards at all, it's about what counts as a standard. Here, it's whether a person's sexual history counts as a negative or a positive; that's where the "standard" is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 05:42 AM
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But that seems to be just cultural grooming styles. A cursory google seems to indicate that hair texture is not tied to gender. https://www.quora.com/Is-human-head-hair-genetically-different-between-boys-and-girls https://www.hairfinder.com/hair5/male-female-hair-difference.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 09:46 PM
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Men didn't always cut their hair short, though. In any case, I'm not sure of the case that short hair is a biologically male trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 08:33 PM
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I think I see what you mean by sexual confidence not having an age demographic, but I think the confidence is different. The sexual confidence of a brash young person is different than the sexual confidence of an experienced person. The difference may be competent confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:46 AM
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You never had a woman make advances? They're not starfishing there; even if they're adopting a pretty typical receptive role, some can be rather...aggressively receptive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 05:23 AM
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Well, title first, there are black women in relationships in all fields and classes, so yes.
/r/askTRP09/01/19 06:59 PM
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Did you mean to post in this subreddit?
/r/askTRP09/01/19 06:22 PM
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Mint.com connects to all your accounts. You can also manually input cash instead if you prefer.
/r/askTRP06/01/19 08:09 PM
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I don't mean work yourself in the crowd like ingratiate yourself, but that people need to be kinda warmed up for that.
/r/askTRP06/01/19 08:02 PM
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The joke you gave in the example is trying too hard. Brevity is the soul of wit. Going straight for black comedy is difficult without working the crowd towards it. Otherwise it's just depressing or disturbing. If guys laughed at that, it's probably more that you said something outrageous, which is entertaining, not because it's clever.
/r/askTRP06/01/19 07:58 PM
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How did you know I was Chinese The statistics scale based on your own timeframes. Even if you take 5 years to get to know each suitor, the maximal odds are after rejecting 37% of your projected suitors, all else consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:31 AM
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Different environments. I've never been in a fight. I punched my cousin when I was a kid, but that was it aside from TKD sparring. Sure, bumped in crowds. But that's not really the same as getting your junk grabbed. That only happened once, when I worked at a haunted house.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:26 AM
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I mean, what else can the counselor tell you if your partner isn't learning?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/19 02:16 AM
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This is assuming there is sufficient time to finish the algorithm, the number of iterations any individual is willing to suffer thru also being a factor. Hypothetically, the entire potential dating pool for any individual is what must be run thru the algorithm, so it's impossible to finish unless you're dating everybody at once and no new individuals appear. There has to be another strategy to maximize results if only partial completion is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 11:09 PM
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After glancing over the Wikipedia page, it does appear that the Gale-Shipley solution not only represents the aforementioned situation, it proves it as suitor-optimal. Very interesting. I'm still rather torn on how this applies to the real-world, where there often is opportunity cost at least to rejection, as well as not having total knowledge of other potential partners along with the passage of time. But it definitely does imply that women would acquire better partners by being more proactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 10:58 PM
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Well, for the men, if desirability and compatibility are correlated as you describe, then the optimal strategy is not to pursue the highest-ranked woman due to competition. If I perceive I have the lowest-odds of being accepted by the highest-ranked woman, then I should also realize I have better odds approaching the #2 woman first while everybody else wastes time with the 1st woman. And same with the 3rd woman if I also perceive slim chances with #2. This strategy, adopted by all the men, would…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 09:09 PM
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I mean, the phrase "If I had gambled, I could have had a different result" isn't really an indictment of probability.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 08:44 PM
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Well, organized marriage kind of forces your number of partners to be 1, so yes, it does have better odds than listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 08:38 PM
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I see. You're saying each person has two conflicting preferential rankings and each are aware of everybody's desirability but unaware of compatability?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 08:34 PM
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You might be! But you took that gamble.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 08:26 PM
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So how are the men certain she is the most desirable mate? If they have an information asymmetry, it's obviously optimal for one side, and I'm trying to convince myself of your position but examining the angles.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 08:24 PM
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Is she aware the 10 exists and could just wait for him, or are you saying she doesn't know who the highest rated man is?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 08:07 PM
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I mean, it's not so much advice as it is just statistics. Obviously your intuition should trump numbers, but it doesn't make the theory wrong, that rejecting the first 37% of your suitors maximizes the odds of finding the best suitor. Certainly no guarantees, and only if you're trying to date like a robot.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 07:56 PM
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No contest on this thread of conversation, but I do want to examine the hypothetical strategy you propose in the stability problem. Why does the #1 woman have to get lucky about the first approach? If all 10 men will approach her, couldn't she reject a few to optimize results? Would she know she is the #1 to be approached?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 07:43 PM
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Sure, it's only as useful as much as you analyze your dating pool from a statistical standpoint. But, it incorporates your perspective. If you know the years are finite and your dating candidates diminish, it's likely you'll have a low total potential set of partners, which means earlier partners have better odds of being the best out of all of them. Even if you could have dated 5 more people, the OP would indicate that partner 3 was the best odds of being ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 07:22 PM
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Okay, I think I'm figuring out what I find different with your example, which is that they all perceive and rate all options from the beginning. In the situation described by OP, you don't know who or what the next person is going to be like. Your situation describes 10 vs 10 people in a room together. OP describes people being placed in a room with 1 other person, and deciding to hit Accept or Reject without knowing the quality of the next people (assuming they know maximum attempts). So I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 07:10 PM
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Uh, what does it come out to, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 07:02 PM
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As an aside, sure, being proactive probably increases the quality of all your matches. But, assuming strategy is consistent per individual, I'm not sure how you get the conclusion from these mathematical models. The Marriage Stability problem exists regardless of gender dynamics, no? It's just about matching elements to their preferences between equal-sized sets, regardless of what the elements are. The OP to me indicates that, statistically, even if both teams were androgynous or hyper-gendered…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 06:54 PM
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Sure, even accepting that definition of frame, it seems the most common use of frame in these contexts is to project those aforementioned "alpha" traits as the perceived reality. But, I suppose if frame is solely concerned with controlling perception, then it's not a conflict; someone may not be any of those traits yet still project them. Re: Passive Aggression: I wasn't yet aware of a distinction between "Active" and "Passive" dread. "Active" dread seems to be more generally concluded as passiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 11:18 PM
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Of course. I try not to go out of my way for someone doing the hard-to-get routine. If I do, I first reflect about whether it's because I actually like them or just because they're throwing ego-challenging curveballs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:56 PM
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I took the teasing inherent in flirting as similar but different than the "push" in push/pull. Teasing/flirting has a more obvious connotation that it's just that, but the "push" is more ambiguously rattling to a person's ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:52 PM
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Manipulation means knowingly exploiting negative reinforcement. Boundaries is just protecting your own interests. They often do overlap. "I need more time to focus on my work" can be a genuine expression of boundaries. It could also be a boldfaced lie just meant to make the other pine for you more. It could be conveniently both.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:49 PM
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I imagine the platonic ideal is someone who is unconsciously doing these things, and that TRP pushes fake-it-til-you-make-it. Whether that leads to the other is up for debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:47 PM
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No, I think they're just used theoretically as platonic ideals of two different archetypes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 07:02 PM
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I'd generalize it to a person's impulse control. Low impulse control is a bad sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 06:59 PM
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What was the context of this? Was she referring to your work publications or your personal dialogue? It's possible if everything is merely factual statements, which would be uninteresting.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 04:01 PM
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Definitely makes sense that most problems would come from outside the industry. How did you two meet?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 04:11 PM
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Curious what the protection protocol was with the pro actress?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:56 PM
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Some people don't like PDA. Some people also don't like confrontation. Put the two together and you have people who won't tell you you're making them uncomfortable. Everybody has some tolerance level between uncomfortable and willing-to-speak-up-about-it. If they don't seem like they're into it, why continue? I'd only continue after a positive response, why would I want to be petting someone like a doll with no response? The touching isn't just for my benefit. It's for us to enjoy each other in …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:44 PM
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That's actually a very meaningful argument; if men hypothetically inflate, their real numbers are lower. And their real numbers should bound the female real numbers, assuming typical hetero pairing.
/r/askTRP25/12/18 04:29 AM
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You say that with surety, but you're going to have to back up that surety with something besides anecdotes. Why not x10 or 20? Are we dividing the men's # by 3? Even if the assumption is that women are lying, what makes x3 the magic number instead of +-1 or 2? ​ If anything, find a study which investigates how much and how often people alter their reported n-counts. ​ And if anything, why a consistent 3? Statistically, it should be a range, with its own average.
/r/askTRP25/12/18 02:31 AM
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As interesting as anecdotes from randos is, the best answer would come from a large statistical sample of randos. https://onlinedoctor.superdrug.com/whats-your-number/ http://www.slate.com/articles/life/moneybox/2015/05/sex_history_calculator_is_your_number_of_sexual_partners_low_average_or.html The answer is, obviously, it depends on regions and cultures. US averages ~7, with variance of ~2 in religious Utah and 14 in Louisiana. Both make mention of the possibility of dishonesty in statistics. …
/r/askTRP25/12/18 02:17 AM
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Everybody's mentioning nofap, but I think I'll chime in and say just slowing down and breathing might be good as well. I've never really had a problem with deathgrip, but I've had plenty of round 2 or 3s where I gave up because I got too desensitized. Either I'm trying too hard or getting winded or I'm going faster, or I'm "flexing" harder. In all cases it just causes momentary desensitization or loss of pressure. Taking a breather and doing it slow and really feeling all the sensations helps. R…
/r/askTRP25/12/18 02:09 AM
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I mean, to say we'll never know is a bit strong. Even if you distrust polling, it's not like it offers zero data. Just data that has to be normalized for honesty. According to this study, at least, it's around 7 in the US, with variances from 2 for conservative Utah and 14 for Louisiana. Data included for other European countries, as well as other data about feelings around n-counts. https://onlinedoctor.superdrug.com/whats-your-number/
/r/askTRP25/12/18 12:48 AM
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Yeah, no need to follow this with hyperbolic rigor. They basically said "in general," if you're not familiar with their body language, ask. It's also not mood breaking to ask most of those questions if you don't ask it like a legal qualifier.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 12:19 AM
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Seems like lots of folks have some anecdote about how some buddy who had consent "revoked," but if it were possible to count this against every instance where it didn't happen, I'd imagine it to be statistically close to nil.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 11:29 PM
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To expand on that, it's misquoted as a misinterpretation of one of her books.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 11:09 PM
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You may not consent to the results, but I think that's moot when you consent to accepting the risk. It's like an EULA or a waiver; if you accept the risk you accept the consequences. To quibble over whether that is "consent" or not is semantics. In the case of responsibility, you can't declare that fate or chance is the culprit in an accident if we assume some degree of agency on your part.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 05:06 PM
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Been the bottom i.e. receiver Top is the penetrator, or the dominant
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/18 05:40 AM
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Yeah everybody here is overreacting. She doesn't give out her number because there are a dozen creeps who will abuse it. Asking you to earn it is just a playful way of saying that without getting into that unfortunate detail.
/r/askTRP06/12/18 04:57 PM
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How do you justify her making food for you when you want it? It seems pretty tit for tat.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 05:57 PM
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When a person is secure and self-assured, they shouldn't be afraid to be however they want to be, whether that's feminine or masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 03:14 PM
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Clarify what the circumstances are: what is the thing one is testing for and what are the false positives?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 04:32 PM
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I mean, it's equivalent to saying "some people" or "anybody". I don't see how it's an extreme position relative to yours. I probably should have just said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/18 12:16 AM
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I mean, my perspective is proved by merely showing yours isn't concrete. I'm pointing out that the heuristics are inaccurate generalizations. I don't think I'm using heuristics so much as pointing out specific instances where the heuristic fails. Sure, "some do this" is technically a heuristic, but much more provable and the opposite of "all do this". You're implying in the OP a moral assertion that problems between the genders are excusable because of human nature, no? My counterpoint is that c…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 11:21 PM
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The false binary is in your response there. There are people for whom the option is there but they still don't do it. Take your argument to the extreme: there's no reason to take anybody else's needs into consideration, so everything is excusable because we are all creatures trying to make our best in a shitty world. But that's clearly not the case. There are plenty of people who act compassionately despite the option to be inconsiderate. If there are better ways to act and people do, then there…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 10:51 PM
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How can you describe people lumped together in the general? Clearly some people act more fairly than others. It's natural to act in your self-interest. But human nature is arguably predicated on the social instincts of realizing that some degree of cooperation serves both our self-interests. Serving my self-interest at the expense of yours usually degrades future interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/18 10:19 PM
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Matched on Tinder. We both had whacky schedules one week, but live blocks away from each other. One day she was available before noon. So we got brunch, chatted for like 2 hours. I offered to get her coffee. She counter-offered to get my meal. We walked to her destination and she lent me a book. Went over to hers Friday to hang out, she works nights so we just shot the shit for 2 hours and looked at each other's music/film work. Last night we went and saw a comedy show, got burritos, and then sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/18 02:22 AM
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I think it's been easier, for my demographic at least. I'm already not tall and white, so it's not like I'm competing in that pool. So online dating exposes me to larger pool of that narrow non-stereotypical proportion that would be attracted to me in the first place and I am also attracted to. So by sheer numbers game it's been easier. Add in progressives being more willing to date interracially and the proportion of people might have gone up. May also help that I am otherwise pretty photogenic…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 12:35 PM
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Recovery days are an important part of healthy exercising. Depends on her actual routine. Healthy sleeping is also important for healthy exercising, and you've indicated she has trouble with that. Overloading CNS, not getting enough sleep, not giving enough time for muscles to recover is a fast track to injury.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 06:02 PM
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Losing weight is just calories in vs calories out, although building muscle for increased base metabolism is alright. There must be other ways to get to sleep besides exhausting your body. Hope she is doing this healthily.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 04:17 PM
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I mean, we shared a common ancestor with our primate relatives, so there is a meaningful connection, no? We didn't develop our unique fertility cycles in a vacuum.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 05:07 PM
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I agree with everything you said before hand, and admit my word choice is poor. I did not mean communal survival, but individual genetic survival within the community. Would that subtle change make a difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 04:54 PM
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Sure, I don't want to claim 100% concealed, but just noticeably more concealed than relatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 04:52 PM
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I mean, if it's a question of conscious knowledge like us, it depends entirely on how we imagine animal consciousness. But, another example is our cousin bonobos. They have a lot of socio sexual interactions, and prepubescent males are allowed free reign. But as soon as they hit puberty, other males will begin disallowing them from engaging with females genital to genital. So, it depends on how we are defining awareness, but there is instinctual knowledge to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 04:51 PM
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Many animals show awareness of paternity, let alone relatives like apes or gorillas that commit infanticide when they doubt paternity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 02:39 AM
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I mean, I don't think I made up concern over paternity.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 02:38 AM
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Wouldn't marital ties and social hierarchies have developed after these other instincts?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 01:49 AM
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Unclear on what your objection is; they don't seem mutually exclusive to me. Everybody being kin doesn't obviate the need to know whether a child is mine or my brothers, although, it does lessen the potential for infanticide if they were my nephew or my son. Could be supportive of patrilocal human development being an advantage; if all the potential fathers are my relatives we will kill each other's offspring less.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 01:41 AM
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I mean, minus the conclusiveness of a paternity test, they'd have to rely on any other evidence (or lack thereof). Paternity testing didn't come about til the 20th century. Clearly not every father was 100% clueless up until now. Other more infanticidal animals have a keen sense of paternity. Whether this is sense-based like they can actually smell it, or logical (all the baby lions in this pride I just commandeered could not possibly be mine), it is interesting to note that the surety has been …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 01:32 AM
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Why does it follow that she will have a high N? I mean, being bad at hypergamy could also include never trying it, never gaining the motivation to move beyond their dedicated partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 01:17 AM
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I think I'm less concerned with an exact heuristic itself, and moreso the meta around it, like its interpretation/application. Take the example you gave, "Watch what she does, rather than what she says." This itself doesn't really say much about how sensitive a threshold for signal should be. What you have then is people being overly sensitive and mistaking noise for signal, which affects their relationships negatively when they act on those false positives. Is it wrong to think people who are r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 01:15 AM
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Fantastic response, but the loaded gun metaphor still strikes me as overdoing it. You can't tell a loaded gun apart from an unloaded one on sight, and its result is instanteous and catastrophic. A very simple binary. Relationships have many cues and moments to reevaluate, an entire spectrum of time and energy to shift gears to new variables. So I'm not disagreeing that the loaded gun mentality would encourage a maximal mentality for improvement, but that it has a significant diminishing rate of …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:17 PM
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Circling back to the first post, you think there is no reason for dissolving a relationship that is not impulsive? And why?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:14 PM
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Done
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:12 PM
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How does one avoid impulse? Does not every action have its initial motivation in impulse? Even if one were to obey an external responsibility instead, that requires an impulse to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 09:04 PM
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This is a great response, unfortunately the topic is locked for me posting too fast. In any case, the loaded gun metaphor still strikes me as overdoing it. You can't tell a loaded gun apart from an unloaded one on sight, and its result is instanteous and catastrophic. A very simple binary. Relationships have many cues and moments to reevaluate, an entire spectrum of time and energy to shift gears to new variables. So I'm not disagreeing that the loaded gun mentality would encourage a maximal men…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 08:51 PM
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Why is it akin to becoming a chimp?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 08:43 PM
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Can I get some perspective on why such an unforgiving attitude? More specificity instead of the hyperbolic comparison?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 08:38 PM
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I've used online dating for a few years now and I think I've met ~50 people from the internet. I remember my first one being my first date with a stranger, as I'd only dated people I knew at this point. I was so nervous I got an adrenaline kick, had to keep my hands from shaking. Went on 2nd date with her not because I even had chemistry, just thought that was what you were supposed to do if nothing bad happened. Got much more relaxed as the years went by and I realized how low the stakes really…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 08:19 PM
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I didn't say anything about being equals, but about whether a specific principle on population statistics applies to both, and if it does, what the implications are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 04:09 PM
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Women are never satisfied to end a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 03:32 PM
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A hive mind would imply little to no variability in a unified consciousness. You'd have to make that case. Even if you are implying a subconscious commonality, if it doesn't translate to action consistently, it's pretty moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 09:39 PM
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It's easier at the beginning when they seem so worth the little things, but familiarity breeds contempt...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 02:42 AM
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I've always thought that couples that get the bickering out immediately should last longer; doesn't let the small things clog up the big picture. Hard to find that balance without it turning into just nagging though
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/18 02:33 AM
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Get me up to speed, are these copypasta?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 09:01 PM
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It's only funny cuz it's true
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:39 PM
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This is so open ended that a statistical study is probably required with well-defined parameters. How often do you ask for a number or a date, how often or far does it get to fruition?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:25 PM
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Did I imply otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 11:50 PM
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Then enlighten me on what "failure" is in your post-RP perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 11:49 PM
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I mean, if they're a holistic type that's likely to go over their head just the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 11:27 PM
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You tell him gravity was just a theory, too?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 11:03 PM
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I've gone home with girls who were in town for the week, or I was in town for the week, or they don't get back in touch. I'd count that as knowingly doing ONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 09:41 PM
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N-38, none of the above yet. Although, maybe a false alarm or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/18 09:39 PM
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There's some pretty far out assertions here I'd like to explore. Women are hardwired to lie about Ns? Like, nature vs nurture hardwired? What science points to prehistoric, evolutionary humans caring at all about virginity or n-Counts? You're saying no women have conceptions of whether they are or aren't settling? Not everyone has as high self-esteem as that. These all seem like modern social influences more than nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 04:22 PM
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So what are you implying is happening behind the scenes neurologically? Less dopamine release just because she's had better sex before? Seems pseudo-sciency to me. How is it different for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 03:39 PM
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If it stresses you out and is no longer fun, then cut back. After having a lot of fun seeing 3-4 people consistently, I found myself relatively satisfied with cutting back to make more time for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 07:42 PM
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On the 3rd book of the Three Body Problem trilogy. Really fun sci-fi, also fun to see tonal differences in Chinese novels (translated to English)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 04:05 AM
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Don't think there's anything non-intuitive about this; approachability will add to the messages received, so being too hot scares some messages off.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 02:48 PM
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Get better at the language.
/r/askTRP14/09/18 01:23 AM
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Wat Context?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 03:00 PM
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I'd say it's about positive versus negative reinforcement. Manipulation is centered around purposefully using negative reinforcement to get what you want. I also don't think you can just write off lying. Lots of people do care. I'm sure you'd care being on the receiving end.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/18 02:55 PM
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I'm in a few open arrangements so it's really a non-issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 08:03 PM
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This seems like a false equivalence to me; handedness and sexuality are personal traits, not social interactions. Social behavior is different than naturally being attracted to "a nice rack." What is the wrong-think you speak of?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 05:30 PM
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I don't think it's a false understanding; it may be a sectarian issue. It's not new that strands of feminism disagree with each other, so not sure they can be described so homogenously. I'd say that I've seen the most consistent feminism I've seen does address the pressures or negative effects of traditional male roles on men's mental and physical health. i.e. a patriarchal framework has negative effects on individual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 04:54 PM
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It was my understanding that modern feminism is opposed to demanding men live up to traditional gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 03:48 PM
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There is a bit of tension and relaxation that comes with unlearning tense breathing. I meditate, so I'm fairly used to it. Hard to diagnose from here, though. Most noticeable when I transition from realizing I'm breathing rather tensely to deep breathing. Mostly from "email apnea"
/r/askTRP28/08/18 03:40 PM
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But, Iike you said, this is speaking in general; the average amongst a sample. With variance, it would not be uncommon at all for an average person to feel more self-worth than an attractive one. This obviously begs the question of how we even compare or measure. If it is based on individual self-assessment, let's say on a 10 scale, is an attractive person's 5 the same as an ugly one's? It could be possible to come up with metrics for self-worth; are those more reliable? Spitballing on some self…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 07:51 PM
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I agree, but can you contextualize this more with what TRP supposedly teaches on the relationship of women to self-worth?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 07:44 PM
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I could concede that self-esteem rises more easily when socially-liked (be it by attractiveness or otherwise), but what would you say is the situation with high-attractiveness individuals having low self-esteem?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 05:47 PM
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To what degree do you think physical attractiveness is responsible for such things? 100%? 50%? And to what degree of variability can other factors influence self-worth? It is not uncommon for incredibly attractive people to express low self-esteem. Are they lying? Or is it more likely that self-esteem does not have a fixed frame of reference and is quite relative?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 05:10 PM
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For the first point, what is the ironic part? Unclear if I did see such advice but it is misinterpreted due to context, or if I never saw such advice at all. For all its women-related rhetoric, a lot of TRP has more neutral self-help vibes, no? Cultivating your own goals, hobbies. Unless all that is meant to be an indirect path to more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/18 04:47 PM
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Where would you get such a specific number to apply to all girls? They're all different. On the easiest end one girl I knew didn't need much clitoral stimulation at all to orgasm multiple times. On the other end, some need clitoral stimulation so firm I thought I was gonna break it off. Most are in between. As for the OP, kegels, reverse kegels, edging during sex. Also try positions that have less friction for you; I find that girl on top usually stimulates me less.
/r/askTRP25/08/18 05:20 PM
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Art specifically pursues subjectivity, though. TRP at least implies some measure of falsifiable objectivity regarding human nature. It's supposedly a systemized response to objective phenomena, so I don't think it gets the benefit of being vague.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/18 03:51 PM
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I don't disagree, I'm just hinting at TRP's lack of objective uniformity on certain definitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 05:51 PM
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Subjective perspectives are fine, so long as they are measurable. In this case, I'd just be spitballing that your definition lies along the lines of length of relationships. Or, time between partners. In any case, while these are interesting statistics, I wonder if anyone from TRP would deign to simplify the definitions in such a way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 05:18 PM
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The question I always end up asking is whether these definitions are measurable, quantifiable, falsifiable, etc. Where is the objectivity in the definition of either? Everytime I see a new definition, it's far too anecdotal, subjective, arbitrary...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 04:25 PM
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Even if there is an established preference around a mean, variability makes it pretty moot. I'm usually making one person cum, not a statistically-significant sample size.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 04:03 PM
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But we're not talking about what we can do to prepare, we're talking about who we blame after an incident. Ought it be dependent on how many preventative measures were taken?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 03:46 PM
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The "some" that you acknowledge is really the crux of the conversation. We can name any number of hypotheticals where the victim could have done something "safer.". I got mugged once walking home along a dark path. I could have done differently. Is it mildly my fault? Mostly my fault? The answer speaks a lot to what we view as inherently "natural" or expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/18 03:43 AM
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Boredom is one of the first things to notice and work on. What is boredom? Nothing, just neurons in your monkey brain getting antsy. Observe and eventually you'll move past it.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 04:41 PM
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Doesn't this run counter to the stereotype of lesbian bed-death, serial monogamy, etc? The cliched joke of lesbians bringing a Uhaul to their second date? Isn't the point of hypergamy about offspring?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 05:05 PM
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Fair, but I'd point out the jury is still out on some of these topics. To imply that gays are a genetic engineering defect is presumptuous (let alone lumping them in with inheritable disease). The evolutionary benefits of genes favoring homosexuality are on the table, at least, such as whether having gay siblings reduces competition for other family members while still able to assist resource gathering, reduces breeding to balance resource consumption, or whether the same gene expresses itself a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 04:57 PM
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But doesn't TRP base itself on certain evolutionary theory? What if that evolutionary theory was inconsistent?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 04:51 PM
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Spot opened in Brooklyn, is it that one?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 04:30 PM
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It feels like this argument is pretty semantic. If you admit that certain behavior is partially social and partially biological, isn't it as simple as redefining gender as that which is social and sex as that which is biological? If a new word was made up for it instead of redefining gender, wouldn't there be no issue? It seems to me that it's an argument of wordchoice with a social implication but not an indictment of the idea itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 04:08 PM
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Doesn't lesbianism conflict with the idea of ubiquitous hypergamy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 03:58 PM
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This question seems to be a different point than what we were talking about; are you conceding that point? But, to answer this new line of questioning, it is sexist. The phrase used for this type of sexism is usually toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 03:48 PM
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But aren't you hitting the nail on the head here? Where it derives from is irrelevant, so long as we agree that such a thing as "Men are encouraged to be stoic, sometimes beyond healthiness" exists. Isn't there a perception that being sick, or going to the doctor often, implies weakness? Isn't there a social pressure not to be weak?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 03:25 PM
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I'm a bit late for the game, but you're essentially applying the "guns don't kill, bad people kill" argument to masculinity, yes? Masculinity being neutral, attributing the actions to individuals and not a social phenomenon. You explain that people can misuse their masculinity, I suppose I would consider toxic masculinity to be the social pressures or encouragements to do so. It's not an individual trait, but a social phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/18 03:09 PM
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They already sounded off pretty handily when I asked them this a few weeks ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/91ivyo/whats_the_consensus_on_polyamory_swinging_kink/?utm_source=reddit-android
/r/askTRP07/08/18 02:57 PM
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Well, forget sufficient. Why not just "better"? Nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/18 07:52 PM
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Cracking me up over here
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/18 03:33 PM
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Isn't the whole point that the SMP already serves the female? How does a poly arrangement change this? Isn't RP theory premised on abundance despite the feeling that women have more options? Why couldn't game equally be applied in a poly context?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 09:10 PM
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No, that's appropriately deep in the weeds. How do the different dynamics intersect, or not, with RP?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 08:13 PM
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Where you do it, how you do it, and the semantics of what you call it wasn't really the question, the question is more about its intersection with RP theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 05:25 PM
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For clarity, what is your positioning on BP/RP in this context?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 05:23 PM
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What does it matter what the female imperative is if the man is having the multiple partners he wants? Isn't a major premise to embrace abundance and not care how your partners behave?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 05:22 PM
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I thought RP considered men naturally polygamous?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/18 04:56 PM
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Yeah, everybody here not realizing the clear playful come on really surprised me.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 09:11 PM
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How were you fucking with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/18 04:35 PM
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Typically a guy who thinks being nice to a woman in and of itself should cause them to eventually be attracted to them and desire them. Also typically a person who gets toxic after being disappointed by this strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/18 04:30 PM
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