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Basic QuestionCyclopsWarrior/r/askMRP22/07/21 03:33 PM
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What if it's just that at some point they decided that they are the most important things in their own lives? This is a problem I have.and something I need to work on. I still feel guilty putting myself first. More so if it causes someone pain. Need to reread WIFGWISN
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 07:42 PM
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OYS #11 14 weeks Stats Age 44, Ht 6'3", Wt 215, BF 20%(navy) Wife 44 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 8, 9 ,11 No OYS last week. After the numerous kicks to the nuts from my r/AskMRP question I took some time to reflect on my progress and try to figure out where I am failing and what I need to do to correct it. I've been told that I should be trying to get more out of my OYS so in an effort to do that I am going to try something different and really put my shit out there. Below i…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 05:43 PM
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Your care about fixing her feelings - you're being emotionally flooded by her emotions. This is one of my biggest problem right now. Everything else in your post is spot on. Thank you
/r/askMRP24/07/21 04:25 PM
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This is a very valid point. I've always lacked boundries in our marriage.
/r/askMRP24/07/21 04:12 PM
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Continue to make myself attractive and quit being unattractive. Stop caring about how she feels and focus on becoming who I want to be. She might get upset and angry, or possibly leave but that doesn't matter. I need to quit letting her emotions affect my reactions.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 06:17 PM
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Why the hell do you need to validate her incorrect feelings? This is something I really need to focus on.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 05:54 PM
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I didn't feel like dealing with her anymore. Didn't realize until now that that puts me in her frame even more. Man I suck at this.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 05:50 PM
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I quoted a point I missed when researching dread. Her realization of it is DLV and I should of noticed and responded accordingly. Instead my response just solidified my low value. I agree I was in her frame and letting her hold the cards. I still have a very long way to go.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 05:35 PM
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I think your right. I still care too much about her feelings which is why I fail these shit tests.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 05:01 PM
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Dread is a passive phenomenon to note, observe, and account for, but is never to be leveraged or wielded. Intentional, active dread is the ultimate DLV - a cheat code. I missed this point and you are absolutely correct.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 04:54 PM
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Tried fogging, broken record and negative inquiry. She just wouldn't let it go and I let my weak frame crumble. I have alot more work to do.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 04:47 PM
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Almost went there. She tried to through me out and I started DEERing. Caught myself and offered to talk about terms of separation. She stopped talking after that.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 04:41 PM
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Went through it while I was asleep looking for evidence of an affair. Saw my kindle library. Has my passcode because I never had anything to hide. Should of planned better.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 04:39 PM
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I can agree with that but she doesn't see dread that way. She sees it as direct manipulation. It might be a stupid response but I'm at a loss for a better one.
/r/askMRP22/07/21 04:16 PM
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Seeing the stuff here would of been alot worse. Maybe I should hide it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 01:14 PM
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DEERed over her wanting me to leave. Realized what I was doing and stopped. Offered to talk terms of separation and she quit engaging entirely. Turned out to be one big shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 01:10 PM
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Went through it while I was asleep. She has my pass code because I've got nothing to hide.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 08:44 PM
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OYS #10 12 weeks Stats Age 44, Ht 6'3", Wt 215, BF 20%(navy) Wife 44 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 8, 9 ,11 Reflection 3 months in and shit is getting deep. You tell yourself in the beginning the stay plan is the go plan but when you are faced with the actual choice it's difficult to push the launch button. Take a breath, remind yourself why your here, cry Havoc and let slip the dogs of war. Reading Dead Bedroom Fix, NMMNGx1, WIFGWISN, MMSLP, MAP, TRM Working on NMMNGx2, WIFGW…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 02:41 PM
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Thank you for this. Tests continued last night and my answers were more direct. "Dont doubt yourself" kept replaying in my mind and I was able to say what I wanted without worrying about her reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 01:04 PM
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OYS #9 11 weeks Stats Age 44, Ht 6'3", Wt 214, BF 21%(navy) Wife 44 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 8, 9 ,11 Reflection I can see why some guys end up throwing the pill back up. An incident with my wife this week had me wanting to go full beta like I have always done in the past. I had to remind myself why I am doing this. It was difficult to stifle my need to sacrifice myself to ease her pain and worry. I held strong but looking back I think I could've been stronger. Reading De…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 07:56 PM
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Why are you here and where do you want to be? What steps are you taking to get there? I want to be better. I dont want to be the weak, fat ass beta that pissed his life away and blamed it on everyone else. I'm going to get there by reading, lifting, maintaining a healthy diet, keeping my emotions in check and getting off my fat ass to get shit done. I'm still following my MAP and working towards my long term goals to be prepared. It's going to be a long road but I'm ready. Going to kill my ego b…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/21 05:02 AM
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OYS #8 10 weeks Stats Age 44, Ht 6'3", Wt 213, BF 21%(navy) Wife 44 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 8, 9 ,11 Reflection My ego has gotten the best of me over the past couple of weeks. I've come to the realization that my 2.5 months of progress don't mean shit. I am still nowhere near where I want to be. The past 40 years of bullshit won't wash away because I finally got off my fat ass and did what I should of been doing all along. Reading Dead Bedroom Fix, NMMNGx1, WIFGWISN, MMS…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 03:36 PM
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Good reads and I agree. Going to start with some accessories this evening and see how that feels. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 02:25 PM
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A lot of lifting is discipline. I agree. I decided on a week because that's what I read on the SL forums. Pain has subsided a good deal and it's only a few movements that seem to aggravate it. Manage to help make 400 lbs of potato salad and scrub the firehouse last night without much issue. Felt it this morning but it wasn't bad enough to keep me from plowing the wife before work. It's a lift day today so I will try some upper body and leg work when I get home.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 12:31 PM
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Yes, yes it is
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 04:09 AM
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You half assed this very weak OYS too. You've been banned twice and I may be wrong but you wrote this to not get banned. Your absolutely correct. First draft was just a bunch of victim puke about how I let others hurt my ego and destroy the minuscule amount of frame I might of had(if any). I took that to the gym with me and hurt myself. Then I broke my diet eating comfort foods and sugar. I did manage to STFU and not make things worse but what was said and done stuck with me and I'm pissed at my…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/21 04:07 AM
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OYS #7 9 weeks Stats Age 44, Ht 6'3", Wt 215, BF 21%(navy) Wife 44 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 7, 9 ,11 Reflection I failed more than I succeded this week. Didn't lose much progress but I need to focus on what I am doing here and quit half assing things. Reading Dead Bedroom Fix, NMMNGx1, WIFGWISN, MMSLP, MAP Currently reading TRM and NMMNGx2. Failed here. Hardly read at all. Need to focus on finishing TRM this week. Lifts SL5x5 SQ-195/BP-110/Row-135/OHP-100/DL-205 Failed he…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 03:34 PM
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This was my biggest fear for a long time. I have a genetic disorder that will probably take my sight by the time I'm 65 if not sooner. I always was afraid she would leave if I lost my ability to earn. Started making preparations for it centered around keeping her. Since I've started my journey here that has changed. My mission is to ensure I am mentally, physically and financially ready for this. I am preparing for it only considering myself. The stay plan has to be the go plan. If she goes, she…
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:02 PM
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OYS #6 8 weeks Stats Age 44, Ht 6'3", Wt 215, BF 22%(navy) Wife 44 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 7, 9 ,11 Reflection Back from a Rule9. Thanks to u/weakandsensitive for the ego check. My lifts are weak(only 5-6% average of guys my age) and I shouldn't get a big head over my noob gains. Reading Dead Bedroom Fix, NMMNGx1, WIFGWISN, MMSLP, MAP Currently reading TRM and NMMNGx2. Need to focus more on this. Slacked off on my reading the past 2 weeks. Lifts SL5x5 SQ-185/BP-105/Row-1…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/21 07:48 AM
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I need to be mentally strong enough so it doesnt break me if it happens. I dont want to drown my sorrows in my addictions like I did in my 20s. I want to be a model for my grandsons because they have a 50% chance of receiving this curse. I want to be physically healthy because even without sight I still can have a long and enjoyable life. Finances are my biggest concern. I have to be ready when I lose my current earning ability. I have been working towards this for the past year but I've changed…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 03:03 AM
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These lifts are so great because of the room for growth. But your bench and OHP make no sense to me. It does look funny doesn't it. Going through my journal I started both with just the bar. I also started my routine with OHP first. About 2 weeks in I increased everything 10lbs because I felt I wasn't getting challenged enough. At 75lbs I deloaded OHP by 10lbs because my form went to shit. You made it to number 5. What do you want to accomplish with this journey? Do you have a vision? Your push …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 02:08 AM
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OYS #5 6 weeks Stats Age 44, Ht 6'3", Wt 214, BF 23%(navy) Wife 44 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 7, 9 ,11 Reflection Willpower. I didn't think I had enough to make it this far. I've always had that little voice in my head that makes excuses for justifying my failures. I am finding easier and easier to tell that voice to fuck off. I think lifting was key to building up to this. I lift every other day religiously.(missed 2 because of illness) It takes priority over everything el…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 02:08 PM
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OYS #4 5 weeks Stats Age 43, Ht 6'3", Wt 218, BF 23%(navy) Wife 43 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 7, 9 ,11 Reflection Mission: Be prepared. I know it sounds stupid but I will elaborate. My mission is facing my biggest fear and ensuring I am prepared for it. I suffer from a genetic disease that has already cost me one eye and there is a good chance I will lose my other by the time I am 60. I need to be mentally, physically and Financially prepared for this. My work here will tak…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 04:19 PM
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OYS #3 4 weeks Stats Age 43, Ht 6'3", Wt 213, BF 23%(navy) Wife 43 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y Daughters 3, ages 7, 9 ,11 Reflection Back from a rule9 ban. Didn't understand why at first. Got really angry, fortunately it was a lift day so I went home and took it out on the iron. Reread my post and the rules and it was there plain as day. I came looking for validation in my actions and by doing that I was not my own judge. A mistake I will not make again. It did help me realize how self-destru…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/21 01:05 AM
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OYS #2 Stats Age 43, Ht 6'2", Wt 216, BF 26%(navy) Wife 43 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y 3 daughters ages 7, 9 ,11 Reflection 6 Weeks. I have gone through my records and have never made it longer than 6 weeks on any improvement plan I have tried (lifting/diet). u/sea-tease wasn't far off when he said I wouldn't make it to OYS 5, He called me out on some other bullshit to and I am grateful. Why do I fail? Lack of willpower and dedication. Upon reflection I find one of my biggest faults is that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:08 PM
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Thanks for calling me out on my bullshit yesterday. The more I thought about it the more I realized your right. I may want this to be strictly for me but marriage/sex is more of a factor then I wanted to admit. I will be more direct in my plan. I will quit jerking off this week and instead take it out on the iron. Read NMMNG in one setting and didnt do the exercises. Rereading now and doing the exercises. Goal is at least one chapter a week. I'm about half way through WIFGWISN. I will have it fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/21 02:48 PM
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Thanks man. OYS is for putting your shit on display and saying "This is the clusterfuck I have created". They way I see it, if you're going to lie on here just to save face with strangers you're not going to make it far.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/21 03:58 AM
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Started doing that before RP but from what I've read that's about as beta as you can get.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/21 03:15 AM
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OYS 1 "43 year old dumpster fire." Fair assessment. Proper term is "raging dumpster fire" though. Marriage/Sex Why I'm here right? Not anymore Bullshit. I'm here to improve myself. I see sex as a byproduct. Your point is valid though. I still focus on it too much. love my girls but the oldest has the same issues her mother has Which is pretty much...you Totally agree Even better. Alienate one and favor the others. Not alienating her. Just not making her a priority over the other two anymore. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 08:13 PM
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OYS #1 Stats Age 43, Ht 6'2", Wt 212, BF 24%(navy) Wife 43 SAHM, Married 13y together 17y 3 daughters ages 7, 9 ,11 Intro I read "Dead Bedroom Fix" last Thursday (4-20) in an effort to improve my sexual relationship with my wife. Did some searching on reddit and stumbled across u/2GungetSome's MAP journey. It resonated well with me with me so I started reading Steel's where to begin post and hit the sidebar. Ordered NMMNG and read it on Friday. Hit me like a ton of bricks. Like most men here it …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 11:07 PM
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