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One of my biggest mistakes in my last marriage was that I was never very attracted to my wife. We were best friends before I proposed and I just assumed the attraction would build. So you're not the brightest bulb in the batch clearly.....
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 05:56 PM
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It sounds like she doesn't want to be married to you, sir. It's time to move on and don't worry about her sex life any longer. She is your soon to be ex-wife. If you have no children together, take the win and run for the hills.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 04:30 PM
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Wouldn't you have wanted someone to tell you if they knew? This poor woman is being made the fool while he runs around with another person's wife. I think you should find an anonymous way to tell her and get her some proof.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 01:51 PM
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Document everything. I'm guessing she left you because of her affair with this guy anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 03:15 PM
10

Sounds like you dodged the bullet here, OP.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 07:23 PM
1

Don't give definitive statements when you have no idea. She won't even speak to you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:16 PM
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I'm really sorry you're dealing with this, sir. It's time to see a lawyer and start moving on. I'm thinking she is interested in someone else or something new, but you don't deserve to be ghosted like this.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/26 05:15 PM
3

Probably. The wife doesn't realize the other guy is just horny and will be done once he gets what he wants. Hopefully OP is long gone by that time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 12:52 PM
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Sorry you're dealing with this OP. It sounds like she wants the feeling of butterflies in her stomach 24/7 and is bored with your marriage already. There are plenty of women that are mature enough to take the relationship to the next level at this stage, but she is not one of them. I would grant her the divorce and try to be as cool with the situation as you can manage. You did nothing wrong, you just need a partner on the same page. You are young and will rebound from this. Just please, whateve…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 12:51 PM
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I became overwhelmed the other day and had sort of a mild mental break. This has mainly to do with my job and also the fact that I had some car trouble that morning. I just got really stressed and ending up calling in sick to my night job and drinking some beers to try and relax. Sorry to hear this my friend. Life can be rough at times. Taking a mental health day is perfectly reasonable. Since then my wife has been saying I'm mentally weak and that I'm supposed to "man up". Saying she wants a di…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 01:08 PM
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Fight for what? She sounds horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 04:10 PM
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Brother, Please find yourself a good therapist, preferably one that specializes in betrayal trauma. You have been traumatized and are not thinking clearly at all, like so many before you in this situation. If she really regretted the affair, she would come clean about the whole thing, cut off all people involved, get herself into therapy and read all of the books necessary to become a better partner. It sounds as if you rug swept the whole mess and let her off the hook completely. She will 100% …
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 03:04 PM
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"Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in" Come on man.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 11:59 AM
2

So........ You just described your lawyer doing a pretty good job so far and now you want to entertain dumping her?
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 01:54 PM
7

She most likely lied. There was a guy before the separation. He only wanted some free tail and she is crawling back to you after her fun was over.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 01:17 PM
15

Brother, You have made it through the phases of grief, rebuilt yourself and are seriously considering diving right back into the fiery pit? Come on sir! My ex brought up separation earlier this year which I accepted and she moved out shortly after, we ended up filing a few months later but things are not yet finalized. At first things were pretty hard for me but I started to get a handle on it and had been doing a lot better the last few months until recently when she came to me wanting to talk …
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 01:13 PM
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You are a glorified babysitter while she pulls the wool over your eyes again and again. This is why you are uncomfortable. Take your child, get 50/50 with the one that is yours AFTER a paternity test and move on with your life. If not, you shouldn't complain about her and make due with the mess you have.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 08:13 PM
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She is being very stoic but time is coming when the ghost may have to walk to out of respect suggested intro to the ex husband in advance of anything getting back to or kids becoming aware out of respect. Is there any chance you can translate this into English? You had a rough divorce and have decided to take yourself and your kids into another high drama adventure. Are you a glutton for punishment sir?
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 07:01 PM
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Then please elaborate......
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 12:35 PM
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Get a lawyer and get back into the house so she doesn't claim you abandoned it. Hang in there brother!
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 04:11 PM
2

We marry the nice guys because we love them and we see they love us too,but then these nice guys?they switch up on us and i think that switch up damages us so bad...there could be more to the story. Unfortunately most women marry for security and stability and we can't really pretend till we die now can we? Yikes to every bit of this. You marry a nice guy that loves you for security, then blame him for not being what you wanted?
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 02:55 PM
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Op, please don't listen to this agenda laden reply.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 02:50 PM
2

27 years here as well and similar lack of intimacy string for me. I'm working on getting the kids settled into adulthood, then will most likely go on my own for a while.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 07:41 PM
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There's nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. I don't think your son meant what he said to come out how it did. You are his dad and always will be. New guy can try to buy him, but he will never be his dad.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 02:23 PM
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She sounds nice and level headed. Should be a good change for you. Your wife cheated and left, you do what feels right.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 12:19 PM
10

You dodged a second bullet from the same gun. Congrats.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 04:04 PM
3

You're handling this as well as one can. Best of luck moving forward!
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 03:58 PM
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You should let the wife know anonymously. Wouldn't you have wanted a heads up?
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 03:22 PM
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Please be careful with the chat GPT therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 02:20 PM
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I'm not posting this to be mean, just for you to face the reality of the situation. She tells me nothing physical happened between her and her EX. But she said she still loves him and it really hurt her heart to be leaving him. She also said if we didn’t have our son or any thing else stopping her from leaving she probably would have left. Now all I can think about is the fact that she loves him more since she would obviously leave me. Our son also has a terminal illness and is only expected to …
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 12:09 PM
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There's a high possibility that she asked for this separation to try out a romance with the new guy. If he does well and checks enough boxes, you will get the divorce papers. If he doesn't she will decide to come back to you. The thing is OP, if she wants out there is nothing you can do about it. Help her by filing for divorce this week and ripping this band-aid off of the bullet wound. But I found that package she hid. And it’s a bunch of lingerie. And one pair is noticeably worn. And just foun…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 11:22 AM
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Then you have your answer.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 11:38 AM
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She didn't care too much about the kids to not break up the family without giving her reasoning. It seems for her, the importance of the kids comfort level is directly proportional to how feels about a subject.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 11:37 AM
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Because she refused to talk to me about it. She basically walked out. There's a little more to it, but I don't want to draw conclusions on her behalf without having heard her side of it. If she is not going to tell you, which is quite awful on her part, then drawing conclusions based on current facts is the best you are going to do. With this in mind, I would not entertain some weird family Christmas to make her any happier and do not tell her why you are saying no.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 11:34 AM
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Still showing interest in you after that night is a red flag on her part.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 10:54 AM
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I wasnt working when she left and I'm still not working now as I'm in such a state. I wake every morning at 3am and 5am with anxiety and I just feel hopeless, not as though my wife gives a shit about me or the dog for that matter. Well get fucking working ASAP sir! Do not let her defeat you this easily. She doesn't give a shit about you or the dog. She's selfish and immature, move on and enjoy that wonderful pooch.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 06:12 PM
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Sorry OP, Even though many of us had this thought in mind, it sucks to have to be the person dealing with the pain. In the long run you will be better off knowing it happened so you can move on and rebuild without regret. This is ALL on your soon to be ex-wife. Hold your head high and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 05:05 PM
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Then you have your why sir. Best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 03:38 PM
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Sounds like another guy (or girl?) convinced her to pull these moves on you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 02:33 PM
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This is a her problem. Divorce her and send her off to live with the dishwasher, his mommy and daddy. This is the choice she made sir.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 01:50 PM
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Well, start thinking going forward.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 01:49 PM
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I hope you got the girl's information for further questions.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:22 PM
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My level of toughness does not change how mealy-mouthed and defeatist that answer was.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:17 PM
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She is fucking a guy with a job and house, correct? That's where she goes.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:12 PM
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dumbest answer I have ever seen.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:10 PM
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You didn't think the duplicitous shit that cheated on you, left you for another man, and reduced your family to rubble was capable of being a psychotic piece of crap?
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:09 PM
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Leave her alone. You are a wuss and will let your cheating ex control your life.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:07 PM
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Your mistake was leaving the new girl to make sure your ex-wife was ok. That was you prioritizing the ex-wife over the new girl and that’s why she sent that message. Looks like she was ok with a bit of the drama but then through your actions you told her that you and your ex are both not ready to let go….and that’s messy. No one wants to be in the middle of that. Bingo! We have a winner!
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:03 PM
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You're a tool man. Leave her alone.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:03 PM
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BS pussy answer.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:02 PM
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You have no chance. You blew it catering to the desperate whims of a hypocritical, raving lunatic. Leave the new girl alone to live a better life and get into therapy for codependency. JFC man!
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/25 12:01 PM
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Now it’s been two weeks, and she claims she’s no longer texting or seeing him. She says she doesn’t even understand why she did what she did, but when I look back at their messages, it’s obvious she was very interested in him. He didn't want the cow, only the free milk. Now she's scared she won't stick the landing and is sniffing at you again. If you take her back it's temporary until another branch appears and she will leap. She's not for you, OP. Do the right thing for you and the child and se…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 12:11 PM
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Maybe she is seeing her psychiatrist? He seems to have a great deal of sway in her opinion of her husband.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 03:22 PM
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See a lawyer and get this thing going sir. She doesn't want to be married to you, but still wants you paying the bills. Let's go man!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 03:00 PM
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Girl messages me out of the blue didn't tell wife about it. Why do I think there's more to the story here? How did this conversation go and why didn't you let your wife know she reached out?
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 01:50 PM
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Go away.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/25 11:45 AM
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She abandoned you as her husband. You tried your best and it's time to reach for some joy and a better life.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/25 11:44 AM
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She tells me nothing physical happened between her and her EX. But she said she still loves him and it really hurt her heart to be leaving him. She also said if we didn’t have our son or any thing else stopping her from leaving she probably would have left. Fuck. Sorry OP. This is damning and you can't come back from this, but at least she was honest. What an absolute asshole of a spouse to conduct herself in this manner. So selfish and so NOT wife material. Now all I can think about is the fact…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 11:46 AM
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OP needs to do this ASAP!
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 12:37 PM
2

This is to your advantage. Your lawyer must work with a private eye that can dig up info on this dude as well, maybe get pics of them cozying up together.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 02:32 PM
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Can OP's lawyer get more info on this mystery man to make sure he is not a threat to the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 02:30 PM
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I am so sorry this is happening to you. Your wife sounds like she has been involved in this affair even longer than you suspected and planned this whole thing out. I'll bet she communicated her plans with someone, maybe you can find them to help prove your innocence? Please lean on your lawyer and your friends for support and stay away from the booze for a while. This may sound ridiculous at this moment, but you are going to come out of this stronger than ever. Just hang in there for the moment,…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 02:28 PM
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I'm so sorry this is happening to you brother. She sounds like her boyfriend literally fucked her brains out. Is there a way you can get her on tape admitting you did not rape her and her lawyer told her to say that? This would a massive advantage to you in the divorce. She is inviting you to places for a few reasons: 1) She's playing nice to your face so you don't protect yourself and go after her hard from a legal standpoint. Clearly this is working well. 2) She's keeping you as a back up plan…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 04:49 PM
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He makes $2 million per year and will have $4 million in the bank AFTER the divorce. He's not a normal every day Joe that's going to starve and he's not going to fuck you for defending him. I'm happy for OP that he has amassed some wealth and has a nest egg. My point is if you make $2 million per year and can afford the best lawyers, why are you on Reddit looking fore advice and sympathy when 3/4 of the globe can't make ends meet? So I'll say it again, read the room in 2025.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 11:34 AM
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You're going to clear this divorce with $4 million dollars and a new lease on life, but I should feel bad for you? Come on man, read the room in 2025.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/25 07:17 PM
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I hope this is a fake post. If not, stop wasting time on someone that no longer wants you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 04:57 PM
1

This is your take?
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 04:29 PM
3

How can you trust her after that non-answer? She has all but told you she is cheating on you and has been,
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 01:30 PM
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Restaurant industry is a haven for infidelity. Her not answering IS your answer. She has a boyfriend, he clearly doesn't earn enough or doesn't want her as a girlfriend, so you are necessary to supplement her income until she finds one with more money or that will take her kids too. Fine for divorce, you are being played like a fiddle.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 12:06 PM
1

She's showing you that carrot to keep you as a back up in case the new guy doesn't work out.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/25 11:36 AM
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She had to justify to herself why she was being such a colossal piece of shit and all she had was to paint you as the colossal piece of shit. She couldn't even face herself within the affair.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 03:50 PM
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I prob need therapy or something Yes you really should see someone. Just to process such a betrayal.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 11:27 AM
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Telling people she cheated is not bad mouthing, it's telling the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 11:26 AM
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Her cheating was about her shortcomings and nothing to do with you as a man. You shouldn't feel embarrassed to tell others what happened. Mutual friends should know who they are hanging around with.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 11:25 AM
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So the MIL lives with you? Oh my man...... When is enough, enough? Now is enough. You can call it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 02:18 PM
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Brother, You were groomed by her and now you have aged out of her preferred age range. Next time she threatens divorce hand her the papers from the lawyer that you go and see first thing tomorrow. Even if she wasn't a POS groomer, nobody needs to hear the D word from their spouse every time they disagree. There is much better out there for you sir.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 04:35 PM
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Do it in silence then lay the hammer down when it's time.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 12:55 PM
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Find a nice 35 year old after the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 12:54 PM
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I think many of these guys are so upset at what happened to them and don't want others repeating it, but instead of stating things in a more supportive tone, choose to lash out in anger.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 12:52 PM
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Sorry you're here, OP. I’m leaving her. No questions asked. But that doesn’t solve what she’s done. I feel like I failed as a man Once this is done, you will start getting back to yourself again. Don't listen to her reasoning, she did it because she is a low-quality partner with shit boundaries and she wanted to. These assaults on your manhood is just her being an infant that can't own what she did due to poor character. Best of luck. you are going to have an opportunity to rewrite your story.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:27 PM
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She sounds awful brother. It seems like you could swing the divorce financially, why not go for it? Do you really want to be begging someone to stay with you? She wants out, show her the door. It sounds like she may have someone already lined up as a replacement and is getting horny thinking about it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 02:18 PM
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Get a lawyer and listen to them. Mediation without lawyers is for the rare couple that plays nice. You are clearly not one of those couples as she is getting advise from somewhere in an effort to fuck you over. Again, get a lawyer and listen to them.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 01:06 PM
1

She just invited you to the crazy party. Do not RSVP or even acknowledge the invitation. That is some horrendous shit to leave on your VM after what she did.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 03:06 PM
1

Some people get separated for space, not to sleep around. If they agreed to not date during the separation then she cheated.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 12:00 PM
2

Don't let these people get to you. Every separation is different.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 11:43 AM
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If she asked for the separation, it was to test drive this dude. Get the money first, then let fly the dogs of war!
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 11:41 AM
2

That's when the "working on themselves" part comes in.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 02:28 PM
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Because if the marriage eventually fails, the guy will be in a good place to move on in life if he's worked on his shit. Maybe if he did this while married, she wouldn't have left.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 11:41 AM
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This is really dumb. Get a lawyer and file. Stop being a fool.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 11:24 AM
5

The 3rd time is in fact, not the charm.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 06:21 PM
1

So now you know. Don't go with the flow anymore. Go take life by the horns.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 11:42 AM
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No kids is good. You do know that you allowed her do this to you, right? 5 years ago, she architected me purchasing our house way above my final offer number by lying. Trusting my other half, I signed on the dotted line. A few days later, I still trusted her to check the house during the final walk through. Despite discussing it and having a clause to cancel the transaction if we saw termites and roaches, she didn’t report anything back to me. I forgave. This was fairly idiotic on your part. Why…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 05:22 PM
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You are letting fear conquer your brain right now. Come on brother. She made a new, single bestie, started losing weight, dressing provocatively, getting new tats. She was living her best single life, except she is married and needs you too. She started to view you as the parent ruining all of her single fun and instead of realizing what she was doing and get herself back focused on the marriage she decided to blame you for everything and run away. You have to wake up brother. I think she is lon…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 11:20 AM
2

I'm sorry you're going through this OP. It sounds like she's kind of terrible and her single friend has put some Thelma & Louise ideas in her head. There is nothing you can really do about this. You should probably see a lawyer and tell them what you have seen in her searches. You should at least protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 11:04 AM
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I think OP may be all relation-shipped out for a little while. Let the man eat!
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 04:57 PM
2

Good for you brother!
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 04:56 PM
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In February, my wife decided that I have had multiple affairs. At least 8, including sex parties with slaves, a S. Korean prostitute, and various casual hookups while I worked overseas in Afghanistan, Iraq, and here at home. All of this is based on tarot cards, "visions", and ChatGPT sessions. Stopped reading right there. You are correct, she is insane.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 02:54 PM
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Yes! There are some fantastic ones. Teahan is so good at early childhood trauma.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 07:05 PM
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You will be fine. Just keep doing the work, there are some great therapists on youtube that can help as well. If you look up Patrick Teahan he may have some good info for you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 06:43 PM
2

Good for you. It's worth a shot to try and get rid of the resentment.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 05:51 PM
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I was talking about yours. I did marriage counseling a few years ago. My wife must have thought the therapist was going to tell me I'm a sex-crazed psycho and stop bothering her, but she actually was fair and held us both to account. My wife quit after 3 sessions and I kept the therapist as my IC.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 05:46 PM
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Maybe marriage counseling or divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:54 PM
0

Is there an adult at home with them? If not, that in fact constitutes endangering the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/25 11:05 AM
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Document and sue for full custody. She is endangering her children for dick.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 11:21 AM
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Stop interacting with her in any way, shape, or form that doesn't directly involve the kids. Stop paying attention to her life and start living yours. It's not a competition. Get a parenting app to coordinate child exchanges and activities, but no more friendship with her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 12:47 PM
1

Keep the Yikes coming brother. Scary.....
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 03:41 PM
1

So if I have lived in the same town for my whole life and have been going to those same places I should stop because I'm 40? Yes. Do you still go to the playground to ride the swings? There is nothing wrong with going to live shows or concerts and certainly nothing wrong with your musical tastes. Do you not have kids? Sleeping with young people that are barely adults after you have 40 years of experience on the planet is essentially rigging the game and taking advantage. I never said a thing abo…
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:43 AM
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When I go out I'm probably the oldest dude in the bar/club. There's a reason for this. You are being THAT guy.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:05 AM
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Gross dude. She could be your child. This is not the brag you thought it was. What are you doing hanging at clubs with college kids in them?
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/25 12:55 PM
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They're just using data to back up their preconceived notions.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 05:15 PM
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next week is the 4th of July, where we’re supposed to attend a family gathering at her parents’ house. I’m debating whether I should just fake it through the holiday and keep the peace before ending it, or say something before then and deal with the fallout. Once your mom leaves let her have it. No need to take one for the team on July 4th, let her eat shit and have a miserable holiday.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 05:31 PM
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You don't owe her anything. She is divorcing you and the fact that she still thinks you should put her 1st sounds crazy as all hell, OP. She sounds entitled and on some personal journey that includes a massive amount of selfishness. Let her continue on her journey, but don't let her turn you into her personal mule while doing it. I think you had things right with the stoic approach. Save the emotions for your therapist and move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 02:42 PM
1

She abandoned you. File for full custody due to it and you never have to worry about her coming back once she has sewn her oats.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 02:14 PM
1

A more important title is father. You are not alone, you have the most important part of you right beside you. Focus on that. Fast forward to now and my son and I living our life's and he has mentioned never been happier but I am still torn You're doing better than you realize. You got this OP!
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 02:13 PM
1

Better served spending the money on therapy and moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 11:12 AM
1

If it helps you financially, maybe hire a PI? If not, it's best to just get the divorce done quickly then start to live your best life. Hang in there my friend!
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 02:33 PM
5

Well said OP. Well said.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/25 05:11 PM
6

I think it depends upon the circumstances of these divorces. Did she cheat? Was it a dead bedroom? These things are important.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 05:47 PM
3

Stop contacting her immediately man. It's over. She doesn't have to tell you why. Just stop.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 02:43 PM
8

You're being a good dad and your STBXW sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 06:01 PM
7

OP, So sorry to hear what you're going through. You need to get up off of the mat now, your son needs you. You are letting your wayward wife dictate your life. It's time to fight for your son. Get a lawyer and get your act together. therapy should help. Do not let her defeat you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/25 11:59 AM
2

Get the lawyer going on the divorce while she lives it up in NYC. When she returns, drop the papers and move on. There is no need to take the $$ now, just let your family know to give it to you AFTER the divorce. You can use that to rebuild your life in a way that suits you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 02:35 PM
1

Brother, she;s already gone. She left because she doesn't want to be with you. Sorry man.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 02:29 PM
1

There's a massive chance she has someone already lined up. That's why the "separation" ahead of the solo birthday trip. She doesn't want OP, he just can't see clearly.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 02:28 PM
1

Are they even married?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 02:27 PM
2

Wait, isn't she threatening you with a good time here? Why in the world do you want to be married to a woman that physically abuses you?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/25 08:26 PM
1

Good for you. Blaze your own path going forward.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 12:45 PM
5

Brother, This post could be titled "how I ruined my own life by letting a psychopath run it for me"
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 05:40 PM
1

Trump Derangement Syndrome is real and affects both shitty parties.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 05:49 PM
4

There are plenty of political threads where you can find your bubble. OP is posting in a divorce thread trying to avoid breaking up his family. Trump sucks, but trying to pretend that the Democrats didn't hand him the country on a silver platter twice because of their need to please their big-money donors (the same donors that own the GOP) is as far from reality as possible. Go to your bubble and bark at the moon.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 05:47 PM
-5

He was arguably better than Kamala, but that does not make him good in any way, shape or form. The hate for the man is legitimate. Breaking up families over a billionaire and a millionaire that don't care at all about any of us is the issue of this thread.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 05:42 PM
2

Your wife is horrible my friend. Both major parties are as corrupt as they come. Trump sucks for sure, but you agree. Why does she feel the need to give your family shit over their decisions when there were no good decisions to begin with?
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 05:40 PM
5

Win her back? You should be counting your blessings that some other sucker found her and is blinded enough by lust to want to keep her. Don't walk......sprint to the lawyer's office and get the ball rolling sir. You don't want to be tied to her when she starts pulling this shit on the other guy. Future you will be very thankful you did.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 11:52 AM
9

Tell your lawyer and get out of that alimony ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 11:34 AM
2

Brother, Don't do it. Your idea of living together for a few years before marriage is a very good one. She doesn't like it because she doesn't think she can fake it that long. My gut feeling is just telling me to run away. Trust your gut. Run for the hills. She sounds awful and is only going to get worse.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 05:01 PM
1

Definitely get rid of the couch. Gross as hell!
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 06:01 PM
1

Report her to discord for abusing her status as a mod.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 05:41 PM
1

Good man. Take your life back. Please post after you sleep with a woman that wants you for you. It will be a glorious day!
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 05:40 PM
18

Sorry OP, What the hell am I supposed to do? Be done my man. That is all. She was denying her husband sex so she could sneak upstairs and get off with her loser gaming friend. You don't come back from that while maintaining your self-esteem. For the sake of your children, divorce this terrible person.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 05:38 PM
3

Is this OP's soon to be ex chiming in?
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 05:00 PM
4

Sorry you're dealing with this shit-show my friend! I would personally take that news as gold and run for the hills. Our marriage hasn’t been good for years and I’m really feeling like this is the final nail in the coffin. We have already discussed the idea of 50/50 custody (physical and legal) in the past, and it was brought up again as an option. Marriage hasn't been good, she tried to monkey-branch to another man and got rejected, now she's begging to stay? I have a funny feeling that the oth…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 04:57 PM
1

No!
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 04:52 PM
2

That's creepy as fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 06:33 PM
2

Because she cheated on you, filed for divorce, and is currently doing her best to get out of your life forever. Stop trying to keep someone that doesn't want to be around you anymore?
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 12:20 PM
1

1) Your friend is a POS 2) Your friend wants to start a relationship with an even bigger POS, one that cheats on his SO 3) What are you thinking about keeping a friend like this? Your husbands/SO's will eventually be targeted. You should run for the hills.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 12:08 PM
5

When she's older and you tell her the truth, she is going to have a whole new opinion of the sacrifice you made as well as the shit sandwich your ex-ww served up. Both mom and the AP may have to really face the music then.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 05:55 PM
1

She asked me to move back up and I said not till the drinking stops. Then she was like “guess it’s over” and I agreed. I don't know how you come back from this.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 11:41 AM
1

Unless you can use the information to get a better divorce settlement, let it fly to everyone. Don't allow a soft landing after she monkey-branched to this other dude. Now, if you can get better terms because she doesn't want to be embarrassed, do that and let the info leak anonymously once the divorce is official!
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 11:33 AM
1

You were confident she wouldn't hit you either.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:50 PM
1

Please stop making excuses for what she did.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:47 PM
1

Was there any discussion of what happened after she calmed down?
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:46 PM
1

You can't let her abuse you in front of the kids. You should at least have a text conversation about it and see if you can get her to admit to it via text. Were there witnesses? It may be time to fly and file for full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:34 PM
1

I was being selfish and looking out for my own and my kids best interests and didn't want to lose time together when young It seems you're trying to change things up, so do yourself a favor and don't say shit like the above. Having an affair is not in the best interest of your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 07:41 PM
1

20 years of child support?
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 02:42 PM
4

This answers everything. She made her bed, let her lie in it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 02:41 PM
1

She sounded guilty and was using DARVO on you when she was clearly up to no good that night.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 12:44 PM
1

Did she meet a player on this "girl's" night out? Let her leave and be the best dad you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 12:43 PM
1

Wait for the divorce to be finalized and do it anonymously. Also, after the divorce and the outing of the cheaters, leave her Facebook alone, you will be done.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/22 11:31 AM
1

How about Snoop Doggy Dog getting a jobby job before she breaks in her new place?
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/22 07:09 PM
2

She is very entitled and very negative about anything in my life. She hates that I enjoy any successes. I feel that she is very competitive with me. She is controlling and jealous but she hates if I do it to her. Seriously man? I think you have your answer here. If it's exclusive and you like this other girl, just end it cleanly. Don't marry someone and have kids if you don't like them. That's kind of silly.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 03:45 PM
2

You'll get 50/50 custody at worst and your child can have a safe, happy place with you when you have them. It's better than one miserable household.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 10:41 AM
2

Hopefully the Casanova that needs to operate at a bar with married women will still be whispering sweet nothings into her ear and she will give you an amicable divorce before the toad shows his true colors. If this is the case, you can get out clean. Nice her to death just to get the equal division of assets and run for the hills.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/22 10:39 AM
2

Make changes for you and your child. She can regret the new-improved you later when she's stuck with the bar dude.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/22 10:29 AM
2

Don't have sex with her man. You don't know what sleazy bar-crawler she's sleeping with and it's most likely gross and unprotected.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/22 10:26 AM
2

Sorry OP, It sounds like the wife found another guy and while he enjoys the free sex, he may not be so keen on a full-time relationship with a cheater that abuses her husband. It's time to slap yourself in the face and wake up. No more favors, she has to do her half of the parenting duties and pay her share as well. Why don't you find a lawyer and get this divorce rolling? Get on offense and protect yourself and your child.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/22 10:21 AM
1

I feel like my lawyer wants this drama. But maybe she is right. Your lawyer wants this drama? Listen to yourself sir! Pull your head out of your ass and start using your brain!!
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 07:29 PM
2

She was the one that decided to put energy into getting a boyfriend instead of healing the marriage. She is the one that has to leave the marital home. Sorry OP, best of luck!
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 12:17 PM
1

OP, sorry about your wife. I would highly suggest individual therapy regardless of your marital situation. It will help you get the tools you feel you need to live a better existence.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 02:30 PM
19

She's clearly not cooperating OP. File now.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/22 02:46 PM
1

There's only one common denominator to all of her tribulations........
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 07:47 PM
2

Only 1 child is mine, the other 2 I just help watching since I had been raising them. Brother why? You're now divorced. Those other 2 kids are her responsibility. Cleaning her house is her responsibility. You're still coddling her and have to stop. She has a boyfriend and two other baby daddies. Let them do some work so you can get on with your own life. Please only take on the things that you are responsible for. Ending relationships comes with consequences and life adjustments.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 07:46 PM
3

The methadone in your other posts is for wax?
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 04:07 PM
4

So she has a drinking problem and you have a heroin problem. You're coming off as incredibly judgemental and hypocritical in this situation. If you don't love her and don't want to be with her then so be it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/22 01:49 PM
3

You said it OP: love is weird Sorry you're down, block her on all social media going forward. No more pain shopping!
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/22 03:21 PM
1

$3700 mortgage? Maybe it's time to move?
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 03:26 PM
1

Not an air rifle, they don't kick back like that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/21 01:00 PM
3

You can. You are way stronger than you're giving yourself credit for. You've been fighting upstream against a resistance level that would make salmon say "fuck it, I tried" which is only a testament to your dedication to your family. She quit on you, hold your head up high, learn the things you can from this to help you lead a healthier life with more trustworthy companions and move along. The toxicity of the relationship is definitely affecting the kids and you will all be better off in the lon…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/19 03:01 PM
2

You're not a chump man. You trusted your WIFE, exactly like you're supposed to until you find out she's a lying cheater. Now you know, if you stay........then you're a chump. You tried man, and reading your posts it was one hell of a valiant effort. You can't change her, but you can be happy without her. Go get life now!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/19 02:42 PM
1

/winner
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/19 05:34 PM
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