DC_90000 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead?	Living Situations	DC_90000	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/25 12:36 PM
1	Divorcing (England UK) - what could happen to our house?	Dealing with the Ex / STBX	DC_90000	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/25 07:50 PM
1	Update on our shared home, after my solicitor's appointment (England, UK)	Lawyers	DC_90000	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/25 10:39 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	How do you all make ends meet? You managed to get that deal?? Congrats man! Whats the secret?? My STBXW wont agree to me buying her out or selling, but she can’t afford it herself	/r/Divorce_Men	17/04/26 01:56 PM
1	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? Woah ok first time I’ve heard of this happening, and I know a lot of people who have divorced as well as getting my own legal advise! Scary. Appreciate the warnings though, I’ll see what happens when we get to that discussion soon. I just want a clean break man, is it really that much to ask for? Eugh, women.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/26 04:00 PM
1	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? Thanks for replying - I have had a solicitor appointment recently. They advised that spousal maintenance wouldn’t apply to our situation, and child support would be £0 as we would have a 50/50 custody split.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/26 03:50 PM
1	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? Well isn’t it something we can try to agree to and have a consent order in place to enforce? Also my lawyer said that 50/50 equals no child support payments	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/26 03:48 PM
1	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? Is that legally enforced or advised though? Sounds crazy to me. My lawyer said 50/50 custody means no child maintenance, and spousal support payments are pretty much non existent anymore, in the exact same custody split you’ve got there	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/26 03:47 PM
1	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? For sure thanks - I just know she’ll outright refuse my proposal to buy her out, take any furnishings she wants to have a head start in her new place, and I’ll even pay and help her move it all out.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/26 03:46 PM
1	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? Cheers man, really appreciate it	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/26 03:44 PM
2	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? Totally in the same thought pattern, it’s ridiculous, but I’m trying to not let her get her way with this. I’ll do what I can!	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/25 02:34 PM
1	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? At least the house got sold, and you weren’t kept tied to her financially. Not sure how accurate it could apply to me as I’m not in the USA though, but I’m happy for you!	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/25 01:51 PM
2	Divorcing, shared care, but STBXW likely to push to stay in the house – can I keep it instead? I’m with you. She’s just generally been acting like it’s a done deal already, where I move out, have less custody, pay her child maintenance, and my equity comes in the future ‘at some point’.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/25 01:49 PM
1	Update on our shared home, after my solicitor's appointment (England, UK) Sorry yes you’re right there, it’s based on nights mainly but can also involve if either of us are more involved with taking kids to things like hospital appointments. In my case we’d be 50/50 custody nights included and also things like appointments.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/09/25 01:06 PM
1	Getting the house after the divorce when she doesn't make a ton of $$$ Same situation as me currently, but I’m in the UK. Not sure how she can take the house away from me on top of everything else, but I’ve got my first solicitor appointment next week so that’s how I’m going to find out more about options and which way it could go if it went to court. So basically, note down all your known financials and assets etc, then get a lawyer and run through it with them. They’ve seen these situations thousands of times. Good luck tho mate, as men we’re both gonna need it l…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/09/25 06:31 PM
1	Chat got I have a pro GPT licence through work, and have been using it to discuss options for splitting assets and custody etc as I’m gearing up to fight for 50/50 and the house for the sake of the kids. It seems to, after some back and forth prompts and corrections, give some solid advice about available options, what to do, how to do it and what the likely outcomes would be should our case go in front of the courts. I’ve got my first solicitor appointment next week, so will see how the advice from a hu…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/25 03:48 PM
1	Divorcing (England UK) - what could happen to our house? Yep that mesher order is my concern, as she could either use future benefits etc or a sibling to replace me on the mortgage and JUST ABOUT (maybe, doubtful though) that she can afford to keep everything going monthly like mortgage and bills and spending etc. The thing is that I’d walk away with deferred equity for god knows how long. As she’s the primary carer, I worry she’ll argue that there is a way she can keep the house as per the above, but I’d be left financially ruined until the house is …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/25 02:14 PM
2	Divorcing (England UK) - what could happen to our house? Cheers man, definitely in survival mode… mixed in with ‘she’s fucking mental’ mode 😂	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/25 01:38 PM
1	Amicable divorce and finance questions Hey man, kinda similar situation here during my current divorce process that’s ongoing. We have been married for 6 years, have two kids together nearly same age as yours, their school is local and her work is local. She wants to keep our house (50/50 input originally) and I move out, but she can’t pay me any equity and I’d be tied to the mortgage for atleast 4.5 years. She’s been told she cannot keep it as she can’t afford it. However, I can. I can pay her out in full, she can keep whatever she …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/25 01:32 PM
1	Divorcing (England UK) - what could happen to our house? Exactly, and I’m proposing full buy out and stay with the kids in my home, but now on the mortgage and deeds alone which I can financial do and have agreement that my mortgage broker would be happy with that. I’m just concerned that she’s going to refuse, fight me through courts, and I get shafted for my equity and the house and everything. I’m just not confident that the courts will side with her victim card play	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/25 11:50 AM
1	Divorcing (England UK) - what could happen to our house? Thanks man, appreciate your time and opinion. The one card I think she could play is to insist on staying in the house with the kids for continuity and local school and work etc, and I get replaced on the mortgage eventually whilst my equity payout is deferred for god knows how long. I haven’t moved out of the house since we agreed to divorce over a year ago, still very much hands on with kids for everything. I just feel like I have a solid proposal to be best for everyone, yet she could just re…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/08/25 11:32 AM
1	What was the final straw that led you to divorce? 90% happy marriage for us both for the first 4 years - bought a home together, had 2 kids, got a pet. Then we had an unplanned pregnancy… when our second was only 7 months old. I freaked out, wanted an abortion, she didn’t. Couple weeks later she had a miscarriage. We could never get over the hurt and opposing views on what to do, and she ended up giving me an ultimatum: “If the baby is gone, then you’re gone.” “I want a third child within the next 12 months. If you don’t then we’re over really.…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/08/25 08:11 PM