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| 1 | HB 8 “hired gun” questions and extremely small field report | Field Report | DIme_x | /r/seduction | 27/04/20 12:28 AM |
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| 6 | Guys that can consistently get laid and get it easily, what's the process like and what makes a big difference on something you had to improve on?I mostly use apps but I also get a lot of chicks from club game. If I go out to a club I can get 5 numbers a night if I try and I’m on my game. Having said that, it’s rare that those numbers do anything. Much better to just try and take her home to yours that night. For me what got me better was learning to make logistics easier as well as learning how to seduce women on dates: Logistics: Have my own place that is near to the bar or club scene.. preferably within walking distance. From there you… | /r/seduction | 01/06/26 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Why is it that most guys naturally learn and figure out the whole dating/seduction thing, how to attract and talk to women correctly without ever having gotten help from a dating coach or pick up artist, or is it False? Did most guys have some help along the way?Here’s the way it goes and it’s like this for everything : Normal people learn A then B then C then D and so on. Geniuses learn A… then they skip to D because B and C were obvious to them. Then they go from D to J because everything in between was obvious.. and then they keep going till they get bored or they reach their final potential. People that don’t learn as quick or have a hard time learn A… then struggle like hell to get to B, then struggle again to get to C. By that time they may just g… | /r/seduction | 16/05/26 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Things NOT to Say to a Girl You LikeWhat guys (and some girls) don’t get is that it’s about where the compliment comes from. If it’s early and designed to get the girl to like the guy… it will almost always backfire because to the woman it almost feels like trying to “buy” her affection with a compliment. It also tells the girl that she’s above you so it’s generally poor form to do early with any girl that is on the fence with her attraction. But say it to a girl that has a crush on you and doesn’t think you think the same? They m… | /r/seduction | 16/05/26 10:34 AM |
| 1 | Things NOT to Say to a Girl You LikeNegging is a type of false disqualifier and those still work, but you have to be smart with it. My ex asked me what I rated her. I knew she wanted me to say 8 or above but I said she was a 6 because at her worst when she’s just woken up with no makeup on after a night out drinking… that’s what she looked like to me. She didn’t like that assessment from me (but she didn’t say that).. but it kept her in line, for a time. | /r/seduction | 16/05/26 10:25 AM |
| 2 | Why women don't chase men?The way I see it: They chase but there’s levels to it. Not every girl will go to levels 8-10. Level 0 = they won’t chase you at all because they aren’t at all interested in you. The game here is to make them interested by showing them some attractive qualities they didn’t know you had at first glance. Level 1-3 they will do things to signal interest, but will only do things that keep plausible deniability (laughing at your jokes, giving you proximity, staring at you from across a room, play with… | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 12:49 PM |
| 0 | Why women don't chase men?Maybe you come off gay or effeminate? | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 12:32 PM |
| 2 | If she is "easy" with you, does it mean she is "easy" in general ?Hmm.. this is a weird place to see so many of the real comments getting downvoted. It’s really very simple.. I’ll try to explain concisely based on me banging over a hundred women and what I’ve also seen in my friends that also bang lots of chicks: Yes, if she banged easy, then she is generally easy… HOWEVER.. that comes with a huge grain of salt. It doesn’t by any means, mean that she bangs any and everyone easily. It just means you were her type and she was horny when you met and you didn’t me… | /r/seduction | 19/04/26 10:15 AM |
| 1 | First date kiss miscalibration – thoughts?Go for the kiss, but just make it light… don’t make it half a make out session.. give her some, then give her room to come in for more, or not. If she’s super into it… she’ll sometimes start to kiss you heavily and that’s your que to stop her.. because she’s getting too worked up too early (don’t sexually escalate outside of a place where sex can happen, as a general rule) don’t let her get too hot and bothered in the moment… you want that exact moment to happen when you are in a place where sex… | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 04:41 PM |
| 8 | First date kiss miscalibration – thoughts?Ye this is easy to figure out: You can’t kiss. You may think you can but there’s a lot more that goes into it than just what you are doing with your tongue and lips. How you hold her, how long you kiss, does your breath smell good (to her) was your initial go in awkward, is it in public, is private, do you give enough tongue, do you give too little tongue, do you follow a bit of her lead to see where she goes, then take the lead to take it where you want (she gives 7, you go to 8, she gives 3 yo… | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 12:36 AM |
| 1 | I’m A Dating Coach - Ask Me AnythingThat’s great info and feedback, thanks dude 💪🏾 Currently there’s something going on with a receptionist at work that is giving me some definite vibes… but she’s way younger her than me and she seems hot to trot as she seems to be giving everyone some vibes. Can’t tell if she’s actually interest or will take the first offer she gets or is just after attention or is just an outgoing nice person. When we were talking she begged me about sounding like a gym bro.. then next we talked she asked me wha… | /r/seduction | 02/10/25 11:01 AM |
| 3 | I’m A Dating Coach - Ask Me AnythingI don’t interpret women looking at me or in my general direction as sexual interest. I interpret women looking at me and making eye contact, multiple times, while also catching them glancing at me in mirrors and working out in front of me or near me on the next machine in a gym that has no one in it, as POSSIBLE interest. I asked a straight forward non snarky question but many of your answers here have been very snarky towards the people asking you questions. | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 11:38 AM |
| 3 | I’m A Dating Coach - Ask Me AnythingGirls check me out at the gym all the time, and also in other places like cafes, but generally when I approach them they are too nervous to respond and go quiet, or they act like they aren’t into me. This only really changes at clubs when drink is involved and they are more outgoing. How should I soft approach women that check me out at the gym without making them nervous or creeping them out? I also do very well online which probably means I’m decent looking. | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Why do women ignore me after a one-night standTrue, but the chances of her WANTING to bang you, and you making her come, but her not wanting to see you again, are pretty low. Sluts don’t bang everyone they just bang the guys they think are attractive. But yes, it does sometimes happen that if she’s a superslut, she only does one night stands so she can’t possibly develop feelings but not many women are like this and certainly not with all men and even more certainly not forever, this is usually a hoe phase and personally I don’t attract man… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Why do women ignore me after a one-night standMan you internet sleuths really need to stop with thinking that everything you read is the entire story: I made that post when I was having issues with my ex, I wasn’t taking as good a care of myself as I should have been and was down in the dumps. I was taken but still wanted to feel like I was attractive outside of my relationship with my ex. EVERYONE gets rejected, so me saying that isn’t some big thing. I was with 120 women give or take some here or there before I met my ex. We broke up in m… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Why do women ignore me after a one-night standYe but even if it’s good they may not… I matched with this girl on bumble.. hot.. I wanted to smash badly. Then she asked me… have we met before and I was like “haha naw, I don’t think I’d forget a girl like you” then she was like.. do you still live on x street at x place and I was like “WTF” and she was like ye we hooked a few years back in like 2021-22.. and i was like we banged? And she was like ye.. and i was like then how come we didn’t see each other again.. im not the bang once kind of g… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 11:55 AM |
| 4 | Why do women ignore me after a one-night standYe you said it, the sex was terrible. That’s why. If it was bad for you imagine how much worse it was for her. I’ve had lots of one night lays that dont go anywhere.. I’m decent in bed, but that doesn’t mean I bang the way all women want to be banged. Some are into it and some aren’t. Generally the rule of thumb is if they cum, you’ll be seeing them again, and if they don’t, you won’t. | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 11:38 AM |
| -6 | Why liberals get more casual sexI banged a lot of liberal chicks. It’s easy. I’m still banging one atm. She knows I’m trump die hard, but what can I say, if you have the body and the skills.. liberal women don’t even ask what your politics are, they just have a don’t ask don’t tell policy (most or some, I’ve definitely lost tons of women from my political views) so what’s my point? All those bangs mean absolutely nothing, you feel hollow inside once you get into the triple digits. I deleted all my dating apps.. I’m going full … | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Sexual vs Romantic Attraction is a Game Changer in SeductionIt’s pretty simple tbh: Sexual attraction = based on sex, less on history and emotions. Romantic attraction = based on her and your history, childhood traumas, emotional dumps, spending time together NOT having sex, etc. If you just want to hookup, don’t talk about her problems and childhood, just flirt and build sexual tension, then hookup, then have her go on her way.. then hookup again and try to do it as much as you can but never seeing her more than once or twice a week. If you want the rom… | /r/seduction | 15/08/25 08:15 AM |
| 1 | 5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/TeasingEye contact | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 12:43 PM |
| 1 | 5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/Teasing?? I’m cute? Thanks 😉 | /r/seduction | 01/07/25 08:35 PM |
| 2 | 5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/TeasingSo don’t act, BE. I’m not a seducer in normal circumstances, but put a hot chick in front of me and that shit comes out naturally. It’s like saying your acting if you never wear a suit but put one on for funeral. With chicks you have to play your role. You bored her with your small talk and you’re trying to make her laugh. I don’t bore women because it’s impossible for her to be bored when she’s getting wet listening to the sound of my voice. I could read the back of a bubblegum wrapper and have… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 09:02 AM |
| 4 | 5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/TeasingObviously you aren’t doing it right. For me, besides seducing the reality girl.. what really brought it home for me was I had invited this chick straight to mine.. not even a first date. She accepted but told me over text “by the way just to let you know, I don’t fuck on the first date” so she got to mine and I was plowing her an hour later. When we got finished, I teased her about not banging on the first date and she was like “WELL IF YOU HADNT HAVE BEEN LOOKING AT ME LIKE THAT IT WOULDNT HAVE… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 08:51 AM |
| 1 | Understanding Female Psychology: What Actually Attracts WomenHaving a big dick doesn’t make me confident, if anything I’m unconfident about it because girls are always like no get that away from me or pls go slow… it hurts. Hell the cam girl I’ve been banging is complaining about my dick because it’s been stretching out her puddy so that now she doesn’t think her pussy is as pretty since it’s now gaping.. idk why a big dick would make someone confident unless they don’t know what girls actually like. If I had a decent sized 6” that would make me confident… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 08:44 AM |
| 8 | 5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/TeasingYes I’ve talked about the weather and brought them back to my place. Also “the weather” is an idiom for basic small talk, obviously. Don’t sperg out on me man. I make eye contact, lower my voice, smirk and act like I know she wants me.. or like I want her. I tease her in small talk ways: “oh you like the beach.. ye you would like the beach 😏” innuendo of that sort.. nothing too serious or on the nose. That scares them off. I try to come off super confident yet low key, like I’ve been there befor… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 08:35 AM |
| 2 | 5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/TeasingI never said fast. Usually it’s about an hour to 90 minutes of fluff then the invite. And like I said.. I do the teasing and bantering as well.. but it’s not what I base my game on. My game is based on my voice and my eye contact. When I seduced a reality show girl with 100k followers just using my voice and EC.. was when I REALLY knew I had my game down. | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 08:25 AM |
| 2 | 6s/7s throwing themselves at me but struggling to pull 9s/10sThis is all true, I know because I’ve done it… but only on occasion. Having said that… it’s easier said than done. Sure you can say do this or do that.. but will it work? I’ve heard lines like what has been said and they fall flat. This doesn’t mean it doesn’t work.. but just knowing he lines or the strategy is like knowing how to do a layup in the NBA… just because you know what to do doesn’t mean that you can just drive the lane on some 7’ center and score at will. It doesn’t work like that. | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 01:26 AM |
| 7 | 5 years in this Sub, 99% of seduction is Flirting/TeasingYou left out actually sexually seducing women. It’s possible, I do it all the time. I literally talk about the weather then invite them to my place. I’ve banged most of the women I’ve banged by doing this. The way you do this is speak in a lower bedroom voice, make strong sexual eye contact.. and think thoughts like “haha ye, you want me” it’s what I do anyway and the shit works great. THEN you add on some teasing, some touching, some banter and it’s basically game over. So easy it becomes hum d… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 01:20 AM |
| 5 | What are the things that can seduced a man?Here’s a real answer, though many of the ones here are good as well: 1. For men, looks are THE most important thing… however they only get you in the door.. and if your looks aren’t TERRIBLE, meaning you are only a point below what the man would usually date… then these things I’m about to list matter much more. 2. Femininity and being nice. This goes a LONG way with men. I won’t explain it, it’s just true. 3. Cook and clean for him. 4. Be funny and/or exciting for him. Did you ever watch memoir… | /r/seduction | 27/06/25 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Understanding Female Psychology: What Actually Attracts WomenBig dick means very little tbh (as long as you aren’t tiny) Most women would consider me to have an above average size Johnson, most comment on it being big. Like they go on and on about how big it is.. but that as far as I know has NEVER gotten me laid, because I can’t just come out and say that I have a big Johnson… and yes I’ve tried! They instantly assume that it’s small if I say that it’s big, or worse, they assume I’m so wacky that having a big D is the only attractive quality I think I ha… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 05:20 PM |
| 1 | how do i get over fumbling 10sThe advice here is good but obvious… because you threw out a reason why you aren’t getting them in your original post, everyone is just basically parroting what you said. So here’s some also obvious advice, that you may not have heard yet. There are only 3 primary ways to bang 8’s 9’s and 10’s that I know of: 1. Pay 2. Be an 8 or above yourself 3. Have a LIFESTYLE that attracts 8’s 9’s and 10’s And that’s pretty much it for things that are useful… there are a handful more ways… like getting them… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 05:02 PM |
| 8 | How to overcome the frame of "I don't have sex in the first date/that early/only in a relationship"Personally: Don’t lie to get poon, but I mostly bang on first dates. I’ve had women say they don’t bang on first date and I was smashing an hour after she got to my place. Remember this: They act like how their feelings are making them act. Don’t worry about what she says outside of the obvious NO. Otherwise just be sexy and confident and move the interaction forward. If it happens then it happens and if it doesn’t… on to the next. Don’t be outcome dependent. About a month ago I drove for to a c… | /r/seduction | 26/06/25 04:37 PM |
| 3 | My Learnings from Dan Bilzerian, StirIing Cooper & Michael Sartain’s ProgramsUnfortunately any time you learn game from someone famous, the only thing you can really take from them is what they did to achieve it in the first place. Dans advice about what he did before he was rich and famous is good advice. Impractical, but not impossible. But once he had fame and other girls… it’s like having 100 million in the bank… you can just live off the interest… in other wars you don’t even have to work for it anymore and it still comes to you. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 12:40 PM |
| 1 | I Slept with 40 Women Last Year From Real Life Approaches - Here are 7 Lessons I learnedNever been there but I did bang a chick from Barcelona once and yep… it was easy (actually it was hard as the convo wasn’t going great…. But then I was just like “so you wanna come to mine” and she was like “hmmmm sure why not” 🤣 we dated for a couple months. Having said that. There’s a black dating coach that I think lives in Barcelona and dude kills it. His game is good but ye Barcelona seems to be easymode. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 04:27 AM |
| 1 | I Slept with 40 Women Last Year From Real Life Approaches - Here are 7 Lessons I learnedWell said, but it looks like it falls on deaf ears. I’ve also coached and that’s why I know what you’re saying is totally true. | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 04:22 AM |
| 1 | 3 Texting Techniques That Consistently Get Me Laid From TinderThe point isn’t to get them to say they want a hookup, the point is get them thinking in sexual/romantic way. Something that I’ve used on occasion with great success is “hey x can I ask you a question” her : uh ok Me: what made you decide to swipe right on my profile” At first glance this sucks. It’s asking for validation. But I tend to use it when he convo gets stale or she’s keeping shit super PG. if she bothers to answer it will usually be some form of “well you are very attractive and I like… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 04:16 AM |
| 1 | 3 Texting Techniques That Consistently Get Me Laid From TinderThis is probably one of the greatest posts I’ve read on seduction. And I’m no slouch at this shit by any means and I learned a ton from this. Going use this shit now even though I’ve already got dates setup.. hopefully this helps me get the hot chicks that I match with but only message back with low interest. Btw, the thing that is SO GOOD about this post is it’s generic outer game that can be used again and again. That’s the most powerful game stuff to have and generally you need to pay to lear… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 03:58 AM |
| 3 | Rather than maximizing your looks, do this insteadThe problem I have with confidence builder strategies is 1. I’ve done it and 2… it doesn’t last. Sure I may have the balls to go approach one or two or three girls here and there… but next week I probably won’t. Just because I was able to get some balls a few times doesn’t mean that I’ve reached some mythical confidence levels. So many things affect your confidence wit women: Where you met them How hot they are Who they are with What your looks are at that moment (are you dressed to kill or do y… | /r/seduction | 16/03/25 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Lots of IOIs but no actual interestMore like indicators of interest, not indicators of attraction. In other words, she may be interested but not yet attracted. So if your approach is wrong or doesn’t line up with her interest, you won’t get anywhere. Also in this specific case, just some glances aren’t enough of an ioi to mean you should approach. You generally need 2 separate type of ioi to be fairly confident she’s interested. I like proximity and glances. If I get both of those it’s nearly a guarantee that my approach will be … | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to be a nice guy but not boring?It’s not what “we” are calling them. It’s what girls are calling them. Feel free to try and change girls minds that your terminology is better. Also, why do we not just say we want to F? Why don’t we just say come to my house and bang instead of, hey let’s grab drinks at mine? Why do we use any of these nomenclatures instead of correct logical overt statements? Because we are dealing with women, not men. Women need safety so they are unlikely to be direct about anything since being highly direct… | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 10:04 PM |
| 1 | What's the most incredible club you've ever been to? The one with the most beautiful and coolest women to talk to and flirt withAny club where the ratio of guys to girls is around 50/50 instead of the usual 70/30 or 80/20 50/50 seems best. Anything more than that and the girls start to tap out or want to go somewhere else. 50/50 makes people super happy and excited to be there. But it’s rare as hell. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:51 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?Nope. There’s actually no way to be unauthentic: The way you do an impression of a famous person will be different from the way I do it, even if we are mimicking the same famous person using the same exact lines. Your style of being super confident will be different from mine. Your sexual behavior, your humor etc etc are all like a fingerprint. It’s impossible to not be yourself since at all times, you are being yourself. Now showing a side of yourself you aren’t versed in, or can’t easily keep … | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:49 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?Only if you are unattractive or don’t know how to take decent photos. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:44 PM |
| 1 | What is some of the worst seduction advice you heard on the internet?Just be yourself or Ignore her… are two of the ones that piss me off the most | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:41 PM |
| 2 | Does ethnicity and race matter?Yes, it matters. A lot. More so to some women than others but I would say 80% of women favor certain races, especially their own. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Do you look for eye contact first?It’s not eye contact I’m looking for.. that doesn’t matter. It’s her glancing at you or having proximity to you, that she created. If you see a cute chick that has moved into your immediate field of view or close to you in your vicinity, who then casually glances at you, that’s your queue to go and introduce yourself to her. When she does these things it generally means she’s interested and wants you to shoot your shot so that she can see how interested in you she is. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:34 PM |
| 3 | Very basic question: How you flirt?Flirting is displaying sexual intent in a playful manner… so do that. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to be a nice guy but not boring?No, because as it is used in dating, nice is synonymous with boring. If you were an exciting guy.. who happens to also be nice, you would be called an exciting guy, not a nice one. Guys who are called nice never get the poon, or on the rare occasions they do, they have to pay for it in the extreme via emasculation/money/ some form of simping or letting the woman walk all over them. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:26 PM |
| 7 | A small tip from a girlI don’t use socials for that, is my answer when chicks try to give me their IG. Seems to work | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Why I think getting a girl's Instagram is better than getting her number.There’s a lot to it tbh, but I’m decently attractive (I have an am I ugly post on here if you want to look it up) just be decently attractive in body and face, then have good fashion and you are like 70-80% there. I have game, but it wouldn’t do me any good were I not a decently attractive dude that takes care of himself. | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:18 PM |
| 5 | Why I think getting a girl's Instagram is better than getting her number.It’s only good in general, if you have a god IG in general. And having a good IG is about lots of followers, doing fun stuff and taking pictures of it, and being good looking at least in photos. This is a lot of work that some dudes simply don’t want to do. My IG is crap and won’t be attracting many women, but I get numbers all the time and makeouts and bangs etc just from being an overall attractive guy, but advertising my attractiveness by showing my car, my fashion, my various women.. wouldn’… | /r/seduction | 24/01/25 09:11 PM |
| 1 | How Many Men Actually Get Hook Ups Consistently?It was about 100 or so. 120 is the number of all time bangs I’ve had… I was at 12-15 before I got married, then I got divorced/ separated in 2019 and I banged about 100 chicks or so from the end of 2019 to the middle of 2023… while being in various relationships for almost of year of that time. While I was single I would consistently bang a new girl every week and sometimes it would be 2-3 new girls a week. This was mostly from online dating. Only about 15-20 bangs were from other avenues like s… | /r/seduction | 26/11/24 11:46 AM |
| 2 | How Many Men Actually Get Hook Ups Consistently?Basically anything that you can communicate with or people can read, in your body language. In other wards anything outside of what you are saying. I listed a few of them in that post such as voice tonality, rate of speech etc. there are too many sub comms to list. But most are seen by everyone, we just don’t really notice that we are seeing them. This is one reason why guys get blown out by women when only one word came out of their mouth… their subcommunications spoke volumes without them even… | /r/seduction | 25/11/24 12:25 PM |
| 1 | I don't understand what flirting isGenerally flirting is saying/doing sexually charged things in a non serious or even sarcastic way. Saying non serious things without the sexual connotation is just playing around. Saying sexual things without the hint of non seriousness is just hitting on someone. It’s when you combine the 2 that it becomes flirting. When done with the act of non seriousness, old school flirts even flirted with old women and people they weren’t at all attracted to. It was all just for fun, but could be used to s… | /r/seduction | 23/11/24 09:35 AM |
| 27 | How Many Men Actually Get Hook Ups Consistently?I banged lots of chicks on the apps… didn’t at first but then I taught myself and learned. Here’s what I did: Ok pics (pretty much all my starting pics were mirror selfies, but I tried to make them as good as possible and to try to look like a male model who just happens to take a mirror selfie. I started to get a decent amount of matches but only about 20% of my first dates were going to bang town… then I had an epiphany after I banged a chick in less than an hour. It was my voice that was mess… | /r/seduction | 23/11/24 09:16 AM |
| 13 | How Many Men Actually Get Hook Ups Consistently?I’ve banged tons of chicks but never found it to be easy mode at bars at any time… what are you saying to these chicks at that time as your go to strategy? | /r/seduction | 23/11/24 08:49 AM |
| 2 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)Haha ok lady, if you think this is flirting you have a screw loose. I have no idea what you look like and looks are 80% what men look for. | /r/seduction | 29/10/24 04:19 AM |
| 3 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)Most men that women care to actually date, yes. Like I said, you’re the exception, not the rule. I’m sure you can find timid losers to date. Have fun with that, you’ve actually discovered one of the keys to life, don’t ask for much and you won’t be disappointed. In your case you just don’t like much. That’s good for you, but don’t think that’s the norm, it’s not. | /r/seduction | 26/10/24 08:13 AM |
| 2 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)Both work when applied right, but in your case, you have a time limit since you’ve issued a pullback… so unpredictable range is exactly what I would shoot for… just make them all DHV your lifestyle. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 05:32 PM |
| 1 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)Just post it, but don’t do it to get her attention. She will know and it will make you look weak that you are trying to use obvious subterfuge. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 05:28 PM |
| 3 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)Toss dat salad 😉 | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 05:16 PM |
| 2 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)Well then to answer your question, if you pull back and don’t be the one to engage.. you gotta show her more of your lifestyle… without engaging her. This can be through IG stories or just chilling with people she knows. As an example. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 05:15 PM |
| 1 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)You have to have something that attracts them to you before you pull back. A random guy pulls back from you that you don’t know = you probably won’t give a crap. A random guy that you know is a millionaire, says he has a job you might like that pays double what you are making. Then he pulls back… this pullback will make you want to reach out to him. It works the same for girls. Pullback when she’s not interested and it won’t work. Pullback after you just made her laugh her ass off for an entire … | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 04:23 PM |
| 2 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)It’s not BS I do the same exact shit op said and it works like a charm. It’s not rocket science. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 04:08 PM |
| 2 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)You don’t. Move on. The only way to pull this back is to become something she really likes, which you don’t have the ability to do. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 04:07 PM |
| 3 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)You are probably coming off boring or uninterested or like a time waster. You’ll know you’re a time waster if you don’t want to meet more than a week after first messaging someone, and also if your opening texts are some form of “hey what are you doing/what are you up to/how was your day” it’s a text that is easy for guys to mess up replying to, so having to reply to it multiple times can be grounds to just not reply anymore. Also if you are trying to have deep and meaningfuls over text before m… | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 04:06 PM |
| 2 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)You’re the exception not the rule, and being the exception means you aren’t someone that we would be looking for, in general. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 04:03 PM |
| 1 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)“You’re not so bad yourself 😏” we should meetup sometime…” would be my go to. There’s a small flirt and you get right down to business. It’s 50/50 if she agrees to meet right then and there. If she doesn’t then just throw in some banter till she’s seeming keen and re invite her out. Or better yet, straight to yours if you know how to do that. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 04:01 PM |
| 1 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)Pulling back alone won’t spark curiosity. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 03:59 PM |
| 2 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)My girl said the same thing to me… that studying to get girls was a turn off. But I have game, so I was completely unfazed and shrugged my shoulders… then had her eat my ass later. Don’t worry about what chicks say. It’s what they do that matters. | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 03:59 PM |
| 12 | How girls actually want you to text them.. (+3 examples that got me laid)It’s obvious what the problem is then. You aren’t good looking or your photos seem to posed and tryhard. I’ve always said that for online dating to truly be a good option, you should be atleast a 6/10 in looks. I’m a 7.0 and did ok right off the bat but the quality wasn’t good and I had tons of flakes. Then I learned how to take better photos (just have to take alot and choose the best ones out of the 50-100 that you take) learned how to text (basically the exact same thing as the OP… it was lik… | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 01:52 PM |
| 3 | A guy asked to do night game with me and I wish I didn’t agree.Man.. jeez. I’ve been with hundreds of women and gotten my fair share of chicks from bars. Ye when you’re in the zone things just come easy. But for beginners it just doesn’t work that way and you shouldn’t expect a beginner to just be able to do things you tell them. It would be like me telling you when you haven’t learned to drive yet, to get on the freeway and navigate it during rush hour. Incredibly imbecilic of someone so socially calibrated to not understand the plight of the incel. They d… | /r/seduction | 21/10/24 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else feel they never get Indicators of Interest (IOIs) from women?Good comment! | /r/seduction | 08/10/22 05:57 AM |
| 2 | I can get numbers but not a date.Ye nope. I do t really like it when women give advice on dating because you guys really don’t and can’t ever know what it’s like for a MAN, to get a date with a woman. I don’t know why so many women think they have game just because they can sleep with other women. Sleeping with the same sex is easy for multitudes of reasons I won’t get into. And while most of what you say is true…. It isn’t at all helpful because it’s super obvious. Yes, maybe they aren’t interested. But now where does one go f… | /r/seduction | 08/10/22 05:21 AM |
| 7 | As a man you can't seduce women with just basic hyigeneI bang alot of chicks off of tinder. The basic hygiene listed here is just that... basic. Meaning you HAVE to be doing this to get girls that are on your level or above. But going off another conversation, a line i dropped first date on the chick ive been seeing fir about a month now “so have you decided whether you want to sleep with me yet” It was a big risk and when I said it I wasnt sure if I had made a mistake... but she responded with a huge grin and a non answer... which I took to mean I … | /r/seduction | 01/02/22 03:28 PM |
| 1 | i need to escalate but can't figure out how.Lots of comments here... I wont read them all but I will say that im very good at this. My stats are basically banged around 75 chicks in the last couple years. About 60 of those have been from tinder. I have a girl on second date coming aroubd here tomorrow for a wine on my romantic balcony, and he day after that ive got one that ive also not banged yet that has invited me over to hers for drinks... experience tells me these will be lays number 76 and 77 and I have more on the burner. So anyway… | /r/seduction | 09/01/22 12:47 PM |
| 2 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?No. Its not his concern if someone else feels threatened by his nonviolent non hostile approach. If the woman is that afraid of her own shadown then she shouldnt be out in society making life and death decisions like when to cross the street. If however she is a normal functioning human being, then deal with it. I get hit on all the time and stared at and have ugly chicks making comments on the size if my biceps and the size of my “other stuff” take it in stride, take it as a compliment. Its not… | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 02:35 AM |
| 2 | To me, it feels like I can only approach a girl if we meet in a place where that's "socially acceptable", be it at a bar, work or school. How do you approach a girl who's just trying to mind her own business that you met at some random coffee shop?Listening to “your wife” and other women is absolutely pointless for pickup. Im a personal trainer and women tell me all kinds of stuff. That creepy guy that hit on them, versus the guy that she banged... the difference? One they considered hot and the other they didnt. And since you cant know what any woman is going to consider hot, may as well approach who you are interested in. But pls stop with the “my wife said” 🤦🏾♂️ ye my son said this as well... pointless.. | /r/seduction | 02/06/21 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Can someone help me out here? Need some adviceThere is no perfect answer to this as it will affect different women in different ways. Best is to read the woman and go from there. Ive used and still do use emojis and gotten laid a ton of times. Ive also used them and had the convo fizzle out quickly. Best overall bet is to use them as sparingly as possible. Off the top of the head i use them about every other or ever 3rd text and usually only one per text. I use ;) a bit more. But thats just me. You can do fine with or without emojis. | /r/seduction | 26/05/21 03:34 AM |
| 1 | How to approach girl at workIts tough. There are 3 general strategies: 1. Dont do it. lots of times, especially if shes very innocently flirting (only eye contact and not much smiling or just some slight smiles and suggestive questions like are you taken or do you have a GF) this could simply be bait or her having fun with a cute guy that she has no intention of doing anything with. 2. Just approach her directly and ask her if she would like to go grab a coffee one day or something similar to that. 3. Get to know her, slow… | /r/seduction | 21/05/21 02:07 AM |
| 3 | It’s not about youThen dont concentrate on women. Concentrate on the other things i said. Also, its hard to belive that you are a 1. That would be almost completely disfigured or have like downs syndrome (ugly version of downs syndrome at that) if you send me a face pic or preferably a body pic, ill tell you what i think your real score might be. But either way if you are truly a 1 and you look like elephant man. Then concentrate on other things. Like the stock market and making money and real estate and boxing a… | /r/seduction | 17/05/21 02:30 AM |
| 1 | It’s not about youIm good looking i think. But i had to work for it to make myself better looking (was probably a 6 before i started to lift weights, probably closer to an 8 now and once i get my teeth fixed... who knows) this world is fing brutal man. I remember my first real rejection scarred me for a long time. In middle school i had a crush on this one girl. It was pretty obvious to most people, but i was an unpopular loser. Didnt shower often and had terrible shit clothes growing up on welfare. My hair was s… | /r/seduction | 17/05/21 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Arranged a coffee “date” with this girl “sometime”, what do I text her to enforce this?Wth..: this isnt rocket science: You: hey you wanna grab a coffee sometime Her: ye sure! You: ok how about the middle of the week/weekend/tuesday around lunchtime... Her: ok great! Or well im busy at such and such time but i could probabky make it at such and such time... You: sweet see you at bla bla time! | /r/seduction | 15/05/21 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Do women enjoy giving head ?It depends on what way she likes you. If shes super duper physically attracted to you... shes almost certainly going to go down on you. If however shes MORE attracted to your personality/BF/ husband traits she will be less likely to do it unless she just likes it. There are outliers of course... women that dont like it no matter what and women that like it with everyone... but ive generally found its about 50/50 her preference plus in what way she likes you. My FB as an example gave the best hea… | /r/seduction | 24/04/21 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Don’t be a “Justin Case”Actually orbiter os originally used as the person that orbits a high value persons or groups general physical proximity. Your definition takes it further to include those that “orbit” via non physical means. Ive always called these guys simps or losers or dudes in the friend zone. “Justin case” is a very good name for these kinds of people. Because the girl has them around “just in case” they ever need someone to talk to or if they get horny and cant find a chad to f them or they are all chadded… | /r/seduction | 24/04/21 03:36 AM |
| 1 | "Pick up artist" David Bond is a fraudIts always “you” that works for the girl so thats a crazy thing to think. I of course know what you are getting at, but seriously its rarely the lines that get the girl, its who you are when you say them as well as how you say the lines. But having said that, I like to use oldschool stuff because what was once played out, can now work again on newer people that never were introduced to pua tactics from 15 years ago. So mysteries kiss close ive used on several occasions. I also use palm reading d… | /r/seduction | 31/03/21 09:18 PM |
| 3 | Stuck with seductionThere are certain negs (actually insults) that you need to avoid at all costs. The biggest ones being her being old, her being overweight and to a slightly lesser extent, her being a slut. Instead bust on her saying dumb stuff but without actually insulting her intelligence. Theres a difference between negging and insulting. I know it when i see it but it isnt something that i can do well myself so i generally try and stay away from it. If i neg its more of a disqualifier or DHV where i talk abo… | /r/seduction | 27/03/21 04:26 AM |
| 2 | No need crazy seduction techniquesNormal conversation wont get you girls that are out of your league, generally speaking. It will get you girls below your looks or personality caliber though. And thats really all that needs to be said. | /r/seduction | 27/03/21 04:19 AM |
| 2 | "Pick up artist" David Bond is a fraudNaw, pua works, but it isnt some magic pill that will allow you to be bad with women and still pick them up. It will teach you to be good with women, if its good. As an example todd from rsd while knowledgeable, seems like a clown... why? Because he dresses like shit. Now... can you get HOT chicks while dressed like shit? YEP! But you have to be funny and have a cheeky personality or alpha presence. Me i dont got those as much so i HAVE TO dress well. Watching todds game he doesnt really have it… | /r/seduction | 27/03/21 04:16 AM |
| 1 | How to tell if eye contact is meaningless?The general rules are: if she looks down when you make eye contact, she thinks you are attractive or intimidating. If she looks ip or to the side then shes not interested. If you maje eye contact a second time, it means that sge thinks you are creepy, or attractive. Approach either way and find out. If you continually make eye contact but dont approach the same thing applies, only now, If she was attracted before, now she thinks you are a weak coward so when you approach her, shes going to give … | /r/seduction | 26/03/21 04:59 PM |
| 5 | How the hell do you go from conversation at the bar or party to a hookup/fwb?One of the main ways to get girls to hookup is to ask about logistics “what are you doing later on” “who are you here with” “are you working tomorrow” etc if shes not doing much later on, isnt working tomorrow and is with the girl that is hooking up with her boyfriend in the corner... your logistics are awesome. Shes bored with nothing to do. If however shes planning on staying out late or going to another club, or has to work early in the morning or has a female friend that she would have to le… | /r/seduction | 26/03/21 04:37 PM |
| 1 | A Fix for conversations “drying up”Yeah its tough out there for sure. Even for the females it can be really rough. Guys only want to hookup and then kick chicks to the curb. As a long time purveyor of the curb, i dont like it, but its in me and i cant help it. But i know that the grass aint greener on either side unless you are top 10/20% | /r/seduction | 28/04/20 05:17 AM |
| 3 | A Fix for conversations “drying up”2 and 3 no... just no. We are guys, our goal isnt conversation as that just leads to wasted time and the friendzone with chicks that are time wasters. If the chick ISNT a time waster then 2 and 3 will cause her to lose interest quickly as the convo will become boring for her since it isnt matching up to what she wants. As guys our goal isnt to see how long we can conversate with you for. And even if by chance a lot of conversation will eventually get us in, the question always becomes “is the ju… | /r/seduction | 28/04/20 12:18 AM |
| 60 | A Fix for conversations “drying up”Good solid advice here. As someone that has met his fair share of tinder matches, yeah, get them off tinder as fast as possible. I usually just text 4-5 times then im like lets meet up for coffee/meet sometime. They then say yes or something and i then put up a date and place to meet. DO NOT do long texts. 3 sentence texts at the max but most should be 2 sentences and some should be 1 sentence. You dont wanna seem to keen but also not boring. Never text back too fast either if she takes an hour … | /r/seduction | 27/04/20 02:57 PM |
| 1 | HB 8 “hired gun” questions and extremely small field reportYeah this is what im talkin about! It isnt about age... lol. I had a 25 year old instagram model from my gym sexting me nudes and all kinds of other stuff. What would you have done to give plausible deniability and what kind of logistics would have been needed? I have my own place with no roomates so thats fine.... buuuuuut im not really sure how i could have gone for plausible deniability in the first place, much less how i could have put moves on her afterword if the deniability worked. Seems … | /r/seduction | 27/04/20 02:43 PM |
| 5 | Flirting isn't getting someone to like you, it's finding out if someone likes you.Its not. If you think it is then you dont know what flirting is. You are flirting correctly when you can tell a person they are beautiful or sexy and hey dont know if you are actually attracted to them. Flirting is light hearted and playfully and generally not to be taken seriously. Its meant to put a smile on peoples faces and make their boring day a bit less crappy. Its the opposite end of the spectrum as far as “douchey behavior” is concerned. | /r/seduction | 26/04/20 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Have my first date since my break up any advice?I went on my first date after an LTR and slipped myself into the friendzone. Didn’t mean to and she didn’t say “let’s just be friends” but when she politely said no to the second date... but kept texting me... I knew. It’s tough especially when dealing with a very attractive yet very confident woman. How to make a move? I realized my mistakes and have set myself to not make them again, but losing out on hot puss that was obviously attracted to you, because you didn’t make the perfect sequence of… | /r/seduction | 03/10/19 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Is it even possible to hook up through tinder anymore?I’ve just jumped on tinder for the first time in my life after a long LTR. I’ve noticed basically the same thing. Get ghosted after them telling me they want to go for coffee. Also text threads take forever. I’m averaging 2 weeks for a meet. I have hooked up though and basically I’m going to smash some 5 later tonight... even though I’m an easy 6 or above. People are right, tinder is where people, especially women are seriously trying to punch above their weight because rejection means nothing s… | /r/seduction | 03/10/19 10:15 PM |
| 13 | Going to a bar on your own?I went to bars and clubs for years in my 20’s and 30’s. Even now when I go out with people I’m all over the place and leave them. Can’t stay still for too long... people get boring with their convo if it isn’t going anywhere or no one is taking conversational risks. Anyways... what I generally do: The drinks bar. It’s your best bet if you want to be able to “approach” women without having to actually approach them. I actually do this 2 ways. I sit at the crowded ass bar and wait for some female … | /r/seduction | 03/10/19 08:09 AM |
| 1 | Full transcript of a conversation i had with a 9/10 at a bar and how i managed to get her number in less then 5 minutesGod job. But I do echo the sentiment that it was basically on from the get go. But still... one of the biggest players I ever knew, who was a player years before “the game” came out, once told me “Dime, the truth is most niggas talk theyselves OUT of pussy” I kinda knew what he was on about but mostly didn’t. In this thread there is the supposition that game is more about not losing the chicks that are interested in you and while I think that’s a bit simplistic, it’s very much real. So kudos to … | /r/seduction | 24/09/19 03:50 AM |
| 1 | How can I pursue a girl without showing direct interest?You have to show value before your pullaway/show of non interest can work. If she doesn’t care about you, then she won’t care when you pullaway. If however she’s already attracted to you in some form or another, then yes, pulling away can help or work... but going direct in a smooth way will usually tend to also work in that situation if it’s congruent with the situation. If you want a bit of help. Practice flirting with the mirror. Say hi to the mirror in an overly sexual way. Practice saying b… | /r/seduction | 24/09/19 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Does being persistent ever work?No | /r/seduction | 20/09/19 01:34 PM |
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