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Let me rephrase that. Medicine is easy money for those who are both highly intelligent and hard working, a combo that was once deadly in the US and is now concentrated to medicine or is otherwise sitting as untapped potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:58 PM
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At this point I’m waiting to see when AI fucks over all the people in medicine, one of the only fields left that’s easy money.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 08:15 PM
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This is probably the next step in the decay of society. Poor people have already been locked out of home ownership, higher education, healthy food, quality anything. At this point locking the poor out of stable family units would be the next step. OP why don’t you just, I dunno, not get married instead of trying to make it more difficult for everyone who wants to get married?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:43 PM
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Exactly! I was looking at job listings in the trades and they were offering $16-$18 which is the standard for most jobs where I live. Not worth it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:27 PM
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The kind of women who would cheat on her guy would also cheat with yours since she has no morals and doesn’t care about how others are impacted by her actions. So yes I’m going to care and actively avoid her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:41 PM
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My antidepressant med sedates me too much to care dude, but it looks like your comment isn’t sitting right with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:29 PM
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This comment doesn’t apply to my post, but I would guess because he likes her. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:13 AM
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It’s true there are things I could be doing better at but I guess there isn’t really that nudge. If I had more hope for the future, I’d probably put more effort into myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 02:52 AM
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I don’t know if it’s true or not but it doesn’t really matter. The fact is if a woman is comfortable financially, she has no reason to display desperate behavior and rush to get in a relationship. Like sure I want to get married one day but I’m not so desperate for it that I’ll chase men and do free favors for them like women had to do in the past since they were in a more precarious position financially. Since I’m not doing bad financially and I’m not in a big hurry to have kids, I can relax an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 12:38 AM
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You couldn’t be more wrong. I don’t give two shits whether anybody else likes my guy. If anything it’s better that nobody else does, but it’s impossible that you’d be attracted to someone that nobody else is into, so that’s more of an ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 07:58 PM
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I think there’s going to be a difference between women who want lifelong relationships and women who want hookups. If you want to spend your life with a guy it makes sense to be more understanding that he might start experiencing less than ideal situations as he starts aging. However if a woman is young and is hooking up, she’s probably going to be less understanding in this regard just like how guys aren’t really going to give a damn if she orgasms. Not much of an incentive to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 07:02 AM
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Elderly people are more of a drain on our healthcare than overweight people and this country has an aging population, so I think overweight women should be the least of your worries. My blood pressure and sugar test at the ideal so I’m not aiding in the healthcare bottleneck.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:40 AM
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Yeah why should I care if it’s considered a fetish for me, he’s attracted to me and that’s what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 05:37 AM
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meanwhile if men draw attention to a woman's weight (which is more controllable) they're seen as revolting cruel assholes. I don’t really care, I just think you shouldn’t bother women who are overweight. Go date women who are at a healthy weight instead of bothering us. I’m not going to be able to drop 80 lbs. overnight so why even bother me? Being rude about their weight is just going to make women mentally blacklist you so just go date women who are a weight you’re attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 05:29 AM
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Tell me about it. I’m one of the 1 in a 100 people who’s had acid reflux before COVID existed (pretty much my whole life actually). Meal planning has always been a pain if you don’t want to suffer and look pregnant the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 05:10 AM
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To be fair the young generations have their own versions of this too. Like how owning a house is considered a rich person thing even when the house is tiny or derelict whereas owning the house you lived in was the norm even if it wasn’t the ideal house.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:35 PM
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True she’ll probably push the baggage she developed from trying to make a shit relationship work onto him too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:07 PM
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Yeah I don’t get why anyone would put that much importance in appearance when most people will age out of it anyway. You only get one life, why choose to make it more difficult for basically no reward?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:01 PM
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It’s pretty sad that so many women debase themselves to keep a guy out of their league around. It’s even more sad when you know he’s cheated on her too and probably still is. That just seems like too much work for a relationship to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 04:38 PM
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The only thing we should talk more, normalize and push men to do is to leave bs behavior. This I can get behind. One of the most useful skills I’ve learned in life is de-escalation. If someone’s pushing your buttons leave if possible or at the very least don’t interact with someone displaying this behavior. It was one of the only good things about being bullied at a young age that it taught me how to spot toxic behavior and make it stop as best I can or at the very least separate yourself from i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 11:22 PM
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All the guys at church are either married or participating in hookup culture like the non religious guys. They think that being Christian means getting a submissive woman who’ll do whatever they want and don’t think it means they should have to make any sacrifices themselves. I wish the older generation would understand this already. I promise you that the majority if not all religious women have tried finding someone at their church. It’s has the same odds of finding a traditional gentlemen who…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:30 PM
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I agree that dating should be fun. The entire point of collectively working together to simplify everything and using modern technology to meet most of our basic needs is to give people more time and headspace to enjoy their time, be more creative and develop more connections with other people. On the other hand, there’s a lot of money put into social engineering people into distancing themselves from everyone around them including their families and not trusting anyone because fractured people …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 08:41 PM
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didn't settle for poor behavior This is always good advice. I’d rather die alone than be with a guy who’s behavior makes my life more difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 08:06 PM
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The world changes so quickly these days that people who’ve been in a relationship or married for a long time give terrible dating advice simply because the dating landscape has changed a lot since they dated. Single people give better advice because they have to actively adapt to the changes on the go. Every person I’ve heard from who’s broken up from a LTR or got a divorce complains about how difficult dating is now. Like yeah that’s why people get into LTRs and get married because having to co…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:58 PM
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However, there is not a single person in my life that I trust to pick a good partner for me Same. I’ve been introduced to someone who I was told is around my age who looked like he was 15-20 years older and couldn’t even look or talk to me. Let’s just say I never again agreed to be introduced to anyone else without meeting them in person first.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 08:02 PM
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You can find any behavior, good or bad, if you search for it enough. There were cults sacrificing babies, entire civilizations where cannibalism is the norm, etc. All that says about human behavior is that it’s very malleable and depends on one’s environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:02 PM
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The interesting thing is that pretty much all apes and monkeys we have similarities to have different relationship dynamics. Bonobos are very different from gorillas, chimps, humans, etc. despite the similarities they all share. We are all built differently so we have different mentalities between species.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:22 PM
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If you’re worried about your wife being too sensitive about it, just get one done in secret. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:17 PM
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I guess my thing is if I like someone a lot and it was a mutual feeling and everything else is perfect; is that really going to be where I draw the line? No not really. I don’t really care; as long as he doesn’t have a problem with me wanting to save myself for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 06:05 PM
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Size and appearance are the important factors rather than muscle mass. Most mammals have males with much more muscle mass than the females of their species. Wolves and foxes are built like that and are known for being lifelong monogamous species. However species where the males are much larger than the females and have standout features that the females don’t have are the species that skew more polygynous.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 11:19 PM
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Would you say it’s ok for a woman to cheat if she’s attractive or a healthy BMI?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 10:44 PM
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Can replace her and will replace her are two different things. If my husband is attractive I know he can get another woman because he’s attractive. If he shows that he will though he’ll find that he’ll have to stick with that decision or become single.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 10:40 PM
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Those anthropologists would be wrong. Women are widely known in every culture to display strong mate guarding behaviors. The only cultures where polygyny is common are ones that take away women’s rights and freedoms and don’t allow them to choose their own path in life and cultures where a large number of men were killed in war. This is a temporary measure though and those cultures quickly revert back to monogamy when there are more men. Paraguay is a great example of this in practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 09:23 PM
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I am an observer and I absolutely would and I’m not normal an optimistic person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 07:58 PM
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No it should not be mandatory. Every man has the option to do a paternity test before putting his name on the birth certificate and that’s more than enough. Yes men should be required to pay for their child. I think child support should be waived if the man produces receipts of paying for important supplies like diapers and nutritious food for the child equal to the child support amount though. But it should be based off a discussion by both parents on what the child needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:37 PM
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The minuscule amount that’s not even enough to pay for a 1 bed and bathroom apartment anymore? You can pocket money before getting into a traditional relationship and you can always get a job if you want to make your own during one too. If the guy makes enough to make a traditional relationship feasible though there’s no point in putting yourself through the stress and bs every job requires of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:23 PM
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Humans are very different from gorillas though. The sexual dimorphism in humans is much smaller than gorillas where the males are much larger than the females and women don’t accept polygyny like female gorillas do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:01 PM
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Is working really more stable? A person could have years of experience in a field and suddenly every company decides to outsource their entire industry to cheaper country or AI replaces 70% of the workers in the industry and you’re back to square one. And hell, I’d trust my future husband more than I trust some company that just sees you as a cost and liability that they’re actively looking to phase out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:32 PM
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Shy is putting it mildly. I’ve suffered from severe anxiety since high school. I was too shy to talk to anyone but the people I already trusted a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:51 PM
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I think loving someone is not about saying I’m ok with you growing into a more unhealthy size but understanding that each person goes through their own trials and loving them means being with them as they overcome them. Not all women gain weight because they decided to let themselves go. Some had to choose between being at a healthy weight and taking a medication for a long standing health issue, some develop PCOS and need to take hormones before they can see progress, etc. These women can reali…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:30 AM
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No, the last thing we need is more money printing. Laws around pay transparency and other similar laws are a good solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:18 PM
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It’s simple: It just never lined up with my personality and the way I fall for a guy so it just doesn’t make sense for me. I want a guy to show that he likes me specifically so it makes sense to him do the approaching and have him tell you that he really likes you first.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:33 PM
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Thats true, if you get along well there’s nothing wrong there. I’m just not a very trusting person. My life experience is not the best. I probably wouldn’t be as strict on that as I make it seem, but it would be odd if they talked and hung out too much while he’s in a relationship, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:30 AM
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I’ve already struggled in dating my entire adult life due to my severe anxiety being untreated for so long so if my life as a man matches my life as a woman then you’re probably right. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:36 AM
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No not a harem, a monogamous relationship. Even if you’re attractive you’re not gonna convince women to share a man. I specifically said attractive men for that reason. It’s not that easy for average and ugly men but for attractive men it is that easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:32 AM
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If a guy is attractive all he has to do is asking women out on dates until you find one who says yes and communicate your intentions directly to them. It’s very easy for attractive guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:40 AM
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Just lift a lot and eat protein. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a guy who has a lot of muscles and still struggles in dating. It seems like the cheat code to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:33 AM
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People will only use you if you let them. Set boundaries and they can’t. People have tried to use me too and countless women in my life but you only help those who’ve shown you kindness in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:22 AM
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Being stronger and faster would be amazing but I don’t really want the sexuality most men seem to struggle from. If I had the same sex drive I do now but just had the biology of a man, that would be great. Being the one who watches the pregnancy happen and no more periods. Plus I know what I’d need to do to make a woman happy so that might help me get ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:08 AM
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Good point, when did Disney princess movies portray women as angels? Cinderella’s mom and sisters treated her like shit for no reason, but I guess characters like them didn’t stick to memory.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:45 PM
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OP was either homeschooled or went to an all boys school. There’s no way he went to school with girls and left thinking they’re angels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:37 PM
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Is that what Zoomers call going outside and taking your eyes off the phone now?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:31 PM
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I don't want FwB or exes around my partner but I am fine with female friends. Yeah this isn’t really a good look for the relationship. He should at least limit contact after getting in a relationship and of course the woman should too in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:47 PM
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I mean it’s true but it defeats the purpose when your website’s model is built upon something as regressive as casual dating and hookups. “All you’re good for is sex” has been used against women since the dawn of time and trying to lure women as the product of your effort to digitize it isn’t appealing to the average woman frankly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 08:16 PM
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Yeah but that’s not why I don’t show interest first. This behavior is something that’s always been natural to me even before I picked up on how it looks in the public eye. I’m very honest once feelings are established by both sides. Playing mind games isn’t really my thing so that’s not it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 07:04 PM
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No, the men who make that much and still struggle in dating are a very minuscule amount and they usually bring their wives here to the US from a culture that shares his morals and traditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 05:44 PM
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Prostitutes exist because it’s an easy way for women with no talents to make money.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 05:06 PM
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If a guy thinks being attractive is enough to sleep with basically any woman, then he’s going fine his ego bruised a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 04:59 PM
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Yes they can have friendships formed from hobbies, school study groups, etc. I don’t really want a relationship with someone who’s friends with someone he had a relationship or hookup with in the past though unless he has a good reason to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:57 AM
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Hm it might be the environment. I don’t know anything about Chicago so I can’t say for sure what women there like. How do you dress? In a big city setting, street fashion might be more popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 08:04 PM
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How attractive are the faces of the women you pursue?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 07:36 PM
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I would also say no to a guy who had his friends do the work for him even if I did like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 07:31 PM
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Well to decide that I’d have to know what kind of women he’s pursuing. In my experience, most guys who complain about this are pursuing women out of their league or more than 5 years younger, so I tend to think it’s less the environment’s problem and more his expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:44 PM
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What guys think are shit tests are usually anxiety, maybe sleep deprivation and an inability to focus as a side effect or it might even be something external that has nothing to do with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 11:34 PM
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boomers included a lot of homes that would be totally unacceptable to modern people in size and/or quality for instance The point is moot when the rich are buying them all up and flipping them and then renting or selling for outrageous prices. Young people would love to buy those homes for cheap and work hard to flip them over time so they would become a more comfortable place for their family to live in, but that’s no longer an option. Americans have been doing this for generations. It’s rare t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:12 PM
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There is a point to be made there. I’ve rarely seen men wear muscle shirts and other attractive clothing items and it was always at my gym when there were enough hot women as regulars. Maybe it’s be easier to bring out the carnal desires of the average women if men put as much effort into pleasing the eyes of the opposite gender as a lot of women do. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:07 PM
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The number of women having kids after 40 is not average but it is rapidly growing In Sweden the average age of first time motherhood was 30 in 2021 and the number of women having kids after 45 outpaced teenaged motherhood by a lot: link
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:17 PM
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Female sexuality can be carnal and lewd but it takes way more to get to that point than just finding a guy physically attractive. I’ve never just wanted sex with a guy even when he was super hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:59 PM
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From men my age? No I’d say the number that meet the bare minimum physical attraction can range anywhere from 40-60% depending on location. However physical attraction isn’t enough for me to be really attracted to a guy. I’d have to get to know his character. In that sense, then yes it would be very rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:46 PM
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🤷🏻‍♀️ Maybe western countries should create strict home purchasing laws that favor the local population then. There are still laws in many places that require you to live in a house for 1-2 years right after purchase before you’re allowed to rent it for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:10 PM
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Uh yeah I don’t want to compete with other women for a man. I think that should be common sense. I want dating to be easy and hassle free. If you have to complete for a woman she probably doesn’t like you enough. Also forgot to mention x if I wanted dating to be hassle free I’d want society to be mostly men, that seems l
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 01:13 AM
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Men spend all their time here whining about not getting sex quick enough, so the point is we’re all selfish and want the same benefits as our attractive equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 01:10 AM
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Women can still have kids at peak odds up until about 37 and after that they have the option of using IVF. It’s normal for women in many Scandinavian countries to have their first newborn in their early 40s thanks to the advancement in fertility tech. So these people don’t necessarily think you should have 0 kids but it’s more like wait until your thirties at least and only have one or two. But a lot of women like me don’t really have a desire to have kids. I’d only really have kids if my future…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 12:29 AM
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As a blanket statement yes, but I think they mean women would rather be single than in a bad relationship and I fully agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 11:41 PM
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I don’t mean that literally, I just mean the mindset is dying out. Most people I know who were pro natalists have been expressing more understanding of the opposite position much more lately. Even the parents who want grandkids don’t want their kids having them if it’s just going to make her/his life worse. Even the less intelligent people have access to all the articles informing everyone of all the ways we’re getting f*cked over by our government. The cat’s out of the bag and it doesn’t make s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 11:35 PM
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That’s just the human condition. Most people will pair up with someone in their league at one point or another or people of both genders can work to improve their appearance. It’s not like it’s anymore fair when women are on the receiving end of it watching pretty women have random strangers help them and guys wanting to marry her quickly instead of waiting years for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:31 PM
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In that scenario I’d still want it to be 50/50. Women can pretty unbearable when they can’t get into a relationship too and I believe in fairness as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:21 PM
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Ideal is 50% or whatever it ends up being naturally. Anything else is just wishing that millions of people of one gender would die or be aborted before birth. And usually the result of that is too many men because cultures as a whole teach people that sons are worth more than daughters, so the dating situation for men would be even more dire (a top scientist in China proposed at one point to make polyandry legal so men would stop joining gangs and committing crimes)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 08:48 PM
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I’ve done labor intensive jobs that have a danger element to them. Those aren’t exclusive to men. You’re a pretty sad person if you’d prefer a woman to have sex with you out of duty instead of being into you and really wanting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 08:43 PM
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Sex can be painful for women if she’s not in the mood I’ve heard. I think if he’s in the mood and she’s neutral he should try and get her in the mood which if you’re happy together shouldn’t be that difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 08:16 PM
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This is one of those big differences between the average man and woman. One or the motivations for women to work hard is so that we don’t ever have to have sex with men we don’t like or in situations we don’t want to. Being and staying financially comfortable gives women more options in life so that she doesn’t have to marry that snobby asshole doctor her parents are trying to goad her into marrying. Having a lot of disposable cash and owning property would mean she doesn’t have to even consider…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 08:12 PM
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disgusting witches, selfish, evil, etc. Funny because most of the women who fit this description are mothers. They have kids so they can use them against the father and to use as a shield for their shitty actions (and same for men of course). We’d be better off if the pro natalists were actually right. But that’d go against what they’re rallying for anyway. Point is just ignore them, they’re dying out anyway since most people are seeing what the antinatalists have been saying all along with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:59 PM
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I agree that’s the desirable approach, but states have laws around how many people are allowed to live under a roof, so that only works if there’s no enforcement in a location (in my location there’s definitely enforcement on this) Also having a lot of people living under one roof is a risk factor when it comes to wear and tear on the property which is going to be a big expense. A lot of the people that’ll be living under those conditions bring in big families too, meaning children that can’t co…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 02:20 PM
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The U.S. has been on this path for a few decades now. They’ve already managed to phase out most American manufacturing from most industries and this is next step. The difficult part is figuring out how to house all those people and please the real estate investors at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 04:35 AM
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Some women really love a specific man for years and years even when things go terribly wrong and the going gets tough. Marriage makes sense in that scenario because your love has proven to persist.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 03:05 AM
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Can I? Yes. Do I want to? No, relying on someone you love even if just emotionally is much better. I get so happy when my fish swims up to me excitedly when I walk towards him so I think having a human companion would be great for my emotional well being. Like sure I could work hard and buy myself a house and nice things, but having someone to spend time with is more important I think even if I would like to be in a good place financially too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 12:33 AM
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99.9% of the time women who get knocked up by hot guys and start trouble aren’t feminists and don’t care about creating cultural change. They’re pick mes who fucked around and found out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 11:12 PM
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Exactly. I feel like if you’re not a women obsessed with babies or crazy, having kids with a guy is the ultimate sign of trust in him, because the only other situation I’d be comfortable having kids is if I won the lottery or something and in that scenario it’d be too tempting to skip out on the pregnancy part via surrogate. I just don’t have a natural compulsion to have kids even as I near 30 and that’s apparently when you’re supposed to want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 09:32 PM
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It depends on the guy and circumstances behind why. Regardless if he feels that way specifically about me or in general, we’re not going to compatible if he’s not at least a little traditional. I’m only giving myself one shot at a marriage, so he has to have an all or nothing mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 05:15 AM
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That’s true and I’d do the same if my future husband was ok with that, but I don’t think it says anything bad about someone if they put a solo main pic. Some people are a little more private about their lives and that’s ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 01:38 AM
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That’s a good point. Things can’t progress if you don’t present yourself as an option to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 11:01 PM
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Not getting to know women from my experience. If you can get women comfortable with you, you’ll have an easier in dating generally. That’s also why dating apps are so difficult for men because you’re essentially expecting women to get comfortable from a digital approach standpoint and that just not as feasible. And that’s coming from someone who’s dated from OLD in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 11:00 PM
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Negging is going to be a quick way to get more women to hate cold approaches. Thankfully most guys who’ve approached have been normal or even gentlemen so I enjoy cold or warm approaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 10:21 PM
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Yeah this study is interesting. I’m in the obesity range of weight (not severely but still) and not that attractive (don’t wear makeup and I wear normal clothes) and I have guy start chatting at grocery store lines or when I’m looking at stuff. It’s not a common occurrence but it does happen. If someone like me gets approached a couple times in my day to day life, then the rate seems to be a little higher than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:54 PM
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Dude I’ve been approached when I used to go to my local gym and literally no one cares when you’re being respectful about it. You’ll only be kicked out or have people talk behind your back if you’re being inappropriate or very loud about it, but that has more to do with you breaking social conventions than approaching someone you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:36 PM
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Point is to print less money and pay off the national/state debt. I’m not interested in the economy of other countries. My home is on fire (figuratively though there are a lot of literal fires around me too)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 08:14 AM
1

The price of everything has skyrocketed for the average American citizen. I’m not interested in how good our currency looks to the rest of the world, I care about how much value I can get out of my paycheck, whether I can pay rent, food, energy bills, insurance, etc. and the cost of everything is out of control because of the endless money printing. Our government needs to stop giving away money to anybody who cries out enough for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 07:43 AM
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Frankly I think the government should reduce spending if anything. The government hands out too much for the decisions people make and it’s causing the value of the dollar to plummet. So no I don’t think men should get more funding and I don’t think women should either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:03 AM
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I don’t think women are unreasonable for complaining about guys saying something way too inappropriate for a public setting embarrassing her, or a guy trying to get money or make a sale. When you live in a place with a lot of people you end up dealing with too many of those guys. That doesn’t mean guys can’t approach asking a woman for her number something like that because he likes her.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:51 AM
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Exactly! I don’t think the average woman is more empathetic than the average man. Even with low empathy individuals women are just conditioned to hide it better than men. Empathy usually applies to people the individual knows well or people who in a very disadvantaged position like children and the elderly. The reason we see women care for them more is primarily gender roles. Men are expected to make the money to contribute to the care of others and women are expected to contribute in labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:15 PM
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Honestly it’s weird that so many guys are complaining about having to get a woman to reach an orgasm and that’s somehow her responsibility. Firstly if I’m responsible for my own pleasure then I’d rather not have sex to begin with. I can do that without any physical contact. Second thing, do guys not enjoy seeing a woman reach orgasm or do they just not like the women they’re with enough and this is own admission of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 08:03 PM
5

It’s pretty obvious. To have a good, civilized society, you have to incentivize the majority to contribute and behave in a humane way. You usually do this by finding a way to distribute the necessities like food, housing and medicine at a low cost. However even if people have their basic needs met, they still need a motivation to contribute in the long term. In a polygamous society, only a few have this motivation. Most women aren’t going to contribute either because they have to go against thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:36 PM
25

We already have actual present day examples of what happens when polygamy becomes the norm. A once prosperous society falls back a couple thousand years and becomes known for unending blood shed. Most societies that are polygamous are usually that way because of a loss of many people of a certain gender (usually men but there are a couple polyandrous societies) and they revert back to monogamy once the balance is restored.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 07:05 AM
1

Cool. I enjoy learning about polytheistic religions from an anthropological POV.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:01 AM
1

I’m not having premarital sex and I’m not aware of any religions that do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:15 AM
3

It depends on the guy’s preference. If he doesn’t want to or if it’s against his religion, he doesn’t have to, but I think my preference would be both ways. I think it’s more common for women to publicly express that they want to be on the receiving end.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:48 AM
1

Exactly! The promiscuous women I’ve known have been on the entire spectrum of intelligence. People want to attribute it to a woman’s nature when it’s more of the environment she grew up in.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:39 AM
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Ah, thanks for letting us know. It sounded like something conducted by guys who hate intelligent women. Also intelligence being some grade school 10 question vocab test is hilarious. I’ve gotten bad grades on those my whole life and still managed to get into honors classes. Not that it matters that much, but that’s so stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:32 AM
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People have been telling me from a young age that law would be a good field for me since I read fast and am pretty good at retaining knowledge when I get enough sleep, but I just couldn’t assign myself to a profession where it was normal to deal and being pressured to take part in unethical practices and not be able to do anything about it, so even at a young age I wasn’t interested and I still wasn’t aware of how competitive the entry level of field is at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:37 AM
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A wedding ring isn’t a reliable way for an attractive woman to stop guys from hitting on her. They’ll just see it as an obstacle that needs to be overcome. The only way to stop random guys from hitting on you is to become unattractive. So I would say it’s not very true. Though having a guy that appears to be your age is a good way to stop guys from hitting on you, but if they know he’s your relative it won’t stop them (I know this one from experience)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 12:12 AM
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And all it takes is one unethical attorney who doesn’t mind ruining innocent lives for money to ruin the image of the entire profession. Sucks that this was your entry into the field and there was no way to really stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 11:22 PM
2

No I’ve never committed a serious crime against someone and if anyone tried to pressure me to, I’d cut them out of my life immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 11:03 PM
2

By this age you’re at the youngest point where your brain is fully developed, so regardless of whether you find your boyfriend/girlfriend at 25, 30 or 40 it won’t make that big of a difference as far as decision-making skills go. Also that age range is usually when people complete uni and start their long term job so they’re in a bit more of a stable position. It would suck to find someone you’re perfect with and have to break up because there are no jobs in the field you want in a 30 mile range…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:32 PM
1

I’ve dated two men who immediately abandoned all their friends and hobbies and attached themselves to my side like a lantern fish That is a little concerning but I kind of get it because some friends groups are just too much effort. I’ve had to drop some friends because they’d flip flop too much around when we’re going to do something and I’m way too busy for spontaneity. It’s difficult to make good friends as adults so I can understand why someone would do this after getting in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:33 PM
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None of these are really a problem for me since I got used to mixed friend group settings for stuff like school, work and hobbies. However I think 6 would be a bit of a yellow flag. I’d want to know why that is. 1 would be next unless he’s super religious or traditional. The rest are ok as long as his reason for being friends with them isn’t that he hooks up with them sometimes. If I’m going to be in a relationship with someone I’d definitely want him to cut off contact with anyone who’s exclusi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:28 PM
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I don’t care in the slightest. Many people get braces when they become adults. It’s not a big deal and as long as you take care of them it’s temporary anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 10:42 PM
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Of course not but it needs to be understood that without giving something the woman wants, he can’t get what he wants from her. What I am entitled to is to ask that I receive something in return for what I’m giving within reason. Just like you wouldn’t expect someone to work for you for free, why should women sacrifice without expecting anything in return? That wouldn’t make sense and would contradict human nature. As a relevant example, I never trusted Mr. Beast because his behavior never made …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 07:46 PM
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I’ve been given this kind of advice throughout my childhood too. Of course I’ve also been advised to focus on kids, but as a fairly intelligent kid, that didn’t make sense to me since those 2 seemed contradictory. You can’t focus on making a lot of money and spend 2 decades making sure a bunch of children grow up with the right upbringing. There’s not enough time in the day and energy to do both. Anyway growing up the message on self improvement was: don’t do anything that could jeopardize your …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 07:03 PM
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It kind of sounds like you’re saying a man’s self respect can be bought with attractiveness not sex, which isn’t really any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 06:51 PM
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Spending that much money when you’re not actually getting married for another couple years seems wasteful imo. Personally I don’t even care if he spends a lot on the wedding ring, getting married is more important than the gestures towards it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 06:17 PM
1

Mentioning marriage but never actually pulling the trigger on it. He thinks he can get wife benefits without actually getting married by doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 06:13 PM
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You can keep seeing yourself as the victim or you can take charge of your life and stop giving shitty women the opportunity to ruin it and only spend your time and efforts on the good ones. The choice is yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 11:29 PM
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This would be less of a problem if men put more than 2 seconds of thought into who their pair up with. The amount of thinking men put into this amounts to: “Is she hot? Is she easy?” And that’s about it! Guys don’t even bother to ask themselves if she’s a walking red flag or why she’s easy. Their ego tells them it’s because she finds him attractive when the more likely scenario is that she’s trouble and won’t think twice about dragging you into her chaotic world. Instead of blaming all women, tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 11:22 PM
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It’s because our government encourages this behavior. Single moms are first in priority to get stuff like food stamps, section 8 housing, etc. There’s a culture around casual sex, divorce and getting child support among many young people and you can hear it in so much of the pop culture music and see it in movies. I come from a super religious, conservative culture so I’m sure that kind of upbringing helped me resist all that social engineering, but for those with parents who were either too bus…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 10:05 PM
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It’s difficult to say because I barely know anyone that got in a relationship that way. The vast majority of people I know met their boyfriend/spouse through school, work or some other environment where you spend a lot of time around strangers and get to know them. I think women wouldn’t be so adverse to cold approaches if it didn’t become well known as the method creeps use, men with a sales pitch and other annoying people that waste your time when you’re out on a schedule. So if a guy is going…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 09:19 PM
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No I think it’s the most gender-neutral and widely appealing thing anyone can do and I’m no exception in that I’d enjoy both giving and receiving this treatment in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 02:50 AM
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This might be a hot take but I feel like a big unspoken reason why many women don’t approach men is because of the higher risk of encountering a man who may enter into a relationship with you without actually being that into you. This too, but more importantly I want a man who likes me a lot. Men who like you a lot are more likely to be gentlemanly and thoughtful towards you and I like that a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 09:11 PM
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I find it really attractive when a lady cares about my approval and opinion on things and goes out of her way to return the attention and investment I give her. This is a normal part of relationships. As long as it’s not one-sided, I don’t think that’s pick me behavior. a woman putting other women down to make herself look good isn't attractive, and in fact I would see it as a bit of a red flag. If she is that vicious to other women then how is she going to act behind my back, and how will the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 01:06 AM
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Sounds like you’ve already made up your mind about it. I hope you don’t have to take a medication that causes weight gain or have hormonal problems in the future, because you’ll change your mind very quickly once you realize how easy it is to go from a super fit person to obese in a matter of months.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 09:19 PM
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So starve myself. That’s the only answer. My employer could confirm I’m not lying about my activity level at work. It’s all walking and moving 5 days a week. I’m just challenging people here to change their assumptions about weight gain. There’s other things that cause rapid weight gain besides eating a McDonalds combo, big bag of chips, etc each day. If you want to assume I’m lying go ahead. We’re all strangers on the internet at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 07:11 PM
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Yeah, I agree that most men on dating apps wanted hookups but there were enough men that wanted something serious so it was worth it to try. I’m also a virgin and saving myself for marriage and I made that very clear, so there were no serious men I would never have gone on dates. I think there might be something else, maybe it’s location specific (in some locations marriage is looked down upon, so it might be that)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 05:07 PM
1

I’m meeting that currently. It’s doing nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:43 PM
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Clearly I do because being what I’m doing now isn’t cutting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:39 PM
1

I don’t drink anything but water on most days. I also literally can’t afford to eat an obscene amount of food. Food is very expensive where I live and I don’t any chips or other similar food. I walk, climb and do other calisthenics type activities for 5-7 hours a day, so I’m 5 times more active than your average gym rat. I’m not sure what more I can do here. If I haven’t lost a single pound living my current lifestyle, I’m at a loss on what else I can really do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:31 PM
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Once your body decides it doesn’t want to budge on weight there’s nothing you can do. I’ve dieted, I’ve been working out and just being active in general. My current job forces me to be active for hours on end. By every other metric I’m a healthy person. My weight just will not go down. Starving myself doesn’t do anything but make me miserable. So yes, I’m better off just eating when I need to and not doing something that doesn’t improve on anything just for the chance someone will marry me. I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 06:36 AM
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Being single and eating what you want > Being married and having to starve yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 05:31 AM
3

Most might not get to see it, but a woman can get obsessed with a man’s sexuality or even just the idea of it in the right setting. We’re just good enough at hiding that in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 04:46 AM
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You guys must live in rich neighborhoods. Both in high school and in college it was pretty normal for people to mention getting their first job between 15 and 17. Most young people need money in their pockets that their parents are incapable of providing them with and want to build up their credit score so they can have an easier time when searching for their own apartment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 07:55 PM
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They were typically isolated incidents and usually done by men who weren’t following normal social patterns, so mostly drunk or homeless men. I was walking with my grandma at the age of 11 when my first incident of a group of men in a car being totally inappropriate while passing by me. There was at least 3 incidents of cars passing by me when I was a kid where guys would yell something inappropriate. This wouldn’t happen in the closed off parts of the nice suburbs, but if you were in busy parts…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 07:16 PM
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Because I want a monogamous relationship. I don’t want a guy who “spins plates”, I don’t want a guy who plays games and applies “dread”. I want a nice, peaceful relationship that makes my life better where we both communicate when something is wrong and resolve problems like mature adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 07:15 PM
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I didn’t have abundance and I still had the same mentality. I would go on one, maybe two dates a year. If it doesn’t work between us it’s better for him to move on instead of stringing me along.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:51 PM
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That happened all the time. It just means we were compatible in some way or we just didn’t align in our goals. Maybe he wanted someone more traditional and I wasn’t really the traditional type since I was working hard on getting my degree and didn’t want that to go to waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:49 PM
0

Yes it is. Just because society decided the adult age is young doesn’t mean that’s correct. They have the body and mind of a child. If you date someone with the body of a child just because they’re legal, that implies the only thing stopping you from dating a 10 year old is the law and frankly you should avoided. The law isn’t correct about everything. In some places children can get married but can’t file for divorce. The law gets things wrong all the time because we have some very sick people …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:42 PM
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They are wrongly considered adult imo. Teenagers shouldn’t be considered adults. But being an adult isn’t necessary to get a job, so they should still be allowed to vote. But again those things have nothing to do with each other and using those to justify having a relationship with a teen is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:47 PM
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That comment was made in a less serious tone than others. It’s not meant to be taken literally. The comment I was replying to sounded like the sentiment of “Hate being poor? Just start a successful company!” But yes men can get into relationships by doing both or something a little different and being immoral while having a lot to offer is sometimes enough to get crappy women. Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:55 AM
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Are there really women who aren’t aware of this? There’s no way she’s attractive enough to be approached about this and not have enough experience to be aware of it. Seems like she was looking to drum up attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:05 AM
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I outright avoided dating wealthy men that I didn’t get to know well enough because I know that they’ll behave shitty since a lot of women let them get away with it. I don’t want it to be true, but I can’t control the actions of the few women who behave this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:58 PM
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Your options are: A) Learn how to respect women, how to make one woman comfortable with you and be a good relationship partner B) Figure out how you’re going to acquire an obscene amount of money, respect and admiration from millions of people Is that better?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:42 PM
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If your goal at the end of the day is to have a bunch of shitty women many of which won’t hesitate to commit crimes against you to get what they want or will make your life difficult and more chaotic in legal ways, then yes you’re going to have to be super rich, super famous and at least somewhat good looking to pull that off. You’re not getting to that point by being an average guy because most of those women have some sort of agenda like getting child support or clout. They don’t care about th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:37 PM
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The thread isn’t specifically for women who have had sex. It’s a discussion about the societal impact of it and whether sex can truly be considered a privilege for women. I’d think the contribution of many types of women would be important in a discussion like this. After all, I’m deciding outright not to partake in something some men would claim is a privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:11 PM
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Because I’m a woman and I’d prefer to speak for myself than have a man tell me that I’m supposed to enjoy sex with strangers just because he’s given a good time to a handful of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:05 PM
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The age to drink is 21 in many places. Regardless those have nothing to do with each other. Drinking in your teens doesn’t carry the same risk as possibly getting pregnant in your teens. I don’t know how I feel about teens being able to join the military but at the same time society considers them adults responsible for themselves and military is one of the few ways to get good pay, benefits and a home loan without a university degree. As for voting, anybody who is capable of paying taxes should…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 09:02 PM
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No I’m saving myself for marriage and most of what I said factors into that decision. I trust the average guy to at least care enough in the short term in most scenarios but not the long term, and the long term is more important to me. I’ve considered that I might be wrong, but the only way to find out is by putting myself at risk and I just don't have a good reason to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 08:44 PM
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Cool but many of us just can’t enjoy sex in the scenario you mentioned. I’m not saying its impossible for a man to give a woman he doesn’t know a good time, but for me and many women I know the mental state we’re in is just as important as the physical and I’m not stupid or naive enough to think a random stranger cares about my enjoyment, well-being or is honest enough with me to know where I stand with him. I want to get married one day so that last one is very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 08:28 PM
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See the problem is that men believe that their experience with sex matches women’s. The reality is that on average we just don’t have the spontaneous sex drive that the average man has. Women experience a high sex drive when they’re happy with a guy typically, the idea of having sex with strangers just bring feelings of anxiety for many reasons. Also women have an easier time controlling their drive. Stuff like porn and erotic stories are just a search away and they often do the trick. When they…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 07:59 PM
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I’d rather he be himself but hold his cards close since he’s getting to know a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:00 PM
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I’d rather he be himself but hold his cards close since he’s getting to know a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 04:59 PM
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I’d rather he be himself but hold his cards close since he’s getting to know a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 04:59 PM
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Neither. He’s the business partner in the joint venture.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:46 AM
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That’s fair, but personally if I made a lot of money, I’d understand that it’s going to hold me back to expect a guy to make as much or more. I’d be ok with a guy just making enough to not expect me to pay his bills. I have a low income though so I don’t know how much my input on that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:02 AM
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Well from what I’ve seen, most can’t keep a woman around because of their bad attitude and the few who can end up with women who are just as shitty as they are, reaffirming their beliefs. If they learned to be a little more grounded in their worldview, they’d realize that the average women wants to be in a loving relationship that doesn’t feel like a job and want to have a peace of mind. Most women don’t have chaotic personalities that just attract trouble wherever they go. That’s why they avoid…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 11:59 PM
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If a woman has those kinds of options, her life is probably already pretty good. It’s not common for different kinds of men to pursue a woman to the point where she can choose between the man who makes the same income and a man that would allow her to retire or quit the job permanently to be a SAHM. Usually the guys trying to impress you with money are doing much less. One example from when I was in college was guys trying to buy me games on Steam. Knowing I’d get my degree soon and would be abl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:37 PM
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The world has changed a lot since then though. Women have their own lives with their own jobs and homes, and even for the majority who haven’t been able to achieve much, they can choose to have a bunch of women as roommates instead of moving in with a guy. Money doesn’t help as much as it used to. That’s not to say it doesn’t help at all, obviously if a guy takes a woman on expensive dates and buys her nice things she’s more likely to date him. But I think for those of us who are able to purchas…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 10:01 PM
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And failing massively at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:33 PM
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Damn I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve noticed that boys tend to be more vulnerable to this sort of thinking when they lose their father early in life and especially when they grew up in a traditional household where they’re expected to step into the role of being the man of the house. That’s a lot of pressure to put on a teenager who still hasn’t grown into his body and mind. It’s tough to watch as a semi close friend (used to be closer but time and busy work schedules changed a lot)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:12 PM
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